Getting engaged

Your guide to getting engaged. Find resources and expert advice on your journey to engagement from choosing the perfect ring to popping to question to photographing and announcing the proposal. We guide you step-by-step though the beginning of your forever!

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Just Engaged? Here’s What To Do Next!Just engaged and wondering what’s next? A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.

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The Best Diamond Shape & Size For Your Finger

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Different diamonds look different on different fingers. The diamond experts at The Clear Cut share which diamond shapes look best on which finger sizes.

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So, You Don't Like Your Engagement Ring—Here's What to Do

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If you don't like your engagement ring, don't panic. Here are nine tips for how to deal without hurting your partner's feelings.

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Where You Can (and Can't) Wear Your Engagement Ring

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Diamond experts share all the places you can wear your engagement ring and where you shouldn't wear your ring. Plus, tips for keeping your engagement ring like new.

How Much to Spend on a Wedding Ring

How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Ring? Considerations & Tips

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How much you spend on a wedding ring will vary based on factors like diamond quality, material, and design complexity.

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How to Find an Affordable Wedding Ring? and 5 Affordable Wedding Sets

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Looking for ways to save and spend smarter on your wedding rings? Look no further than our complete guide on finding affordable wedding rings.

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A Guide to Wedding Rings

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From how much you should expect to spend on a wedding ring to tips for how to choose the right one for you, check out this guide on wedding ring styles, types, and materials.

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25 Simple Proposal Ideas for the Low Maintenance Couple

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Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. Discover heartfelt ways to celebrate your love with minimal fuss.

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Tips for Proposing Without A Ring + 10 Alternatives

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Don’t know if it’s okay to propose without a ring? Find out what our experts say by checking out our latest guide.

Guide to Proposing to a Man

A Woman's Guide to Proposing to a Man

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A man proposing to a woman might be the norm, but it doesn’t have to be. Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.

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Most Popular Months to Get Engaged and Married in 2023

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In 2023, the most popular months to get engaged and married will look a bit familiar. It’s official: Everyone’s opting for these months—and here’s why.

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Just Engaged? Here’s What To Do Next!

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Just engaged and wondering what’s next? A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.

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The diamond experts at The Clear Cut share which diamond shapes look best on which finger sizes.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-12-26T15:52:16.629Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ECvXhLPmPgOpov3xDS8WX/6546f0108bf3a0ca312f65037cce0c8b/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"best diamond shape for your finger type"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- A round brilliant cut will flatter most every finger shape, while long, thin fingers are better suited to elongated cuts.\n\n- People with chubby fingers find that oval and pear cuts suit them best.\n\n- Finally, if you have small fingers or hands, stick with a more delicate style that’s proportional to your anatomy.\n","body":"When it comes to shapes and styles, not all diamonds are created equal—and not all diamonds work equally well with every finger. You might be in love with your [best friend’s engagement](https://zola.app.link/01BPrmyN71) ring, but that same shape and style may not look the same when you try it on your own finger. It’s true: Different diamonds look different on different fingers. To help you find your perfect fit, we asked the diamond experts at [The Clear Cut](https://theclearcut.co/) to share how to find a diamond shape and style that works best with your ring finger. \n\n![INLINE ClearCut 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ae4s50gqVHT9Vci2PuM2z/5dd9b34685d0dbae4639c773aa925f32/INLINE_ClearCut_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // The Clear Cut\n\n## What To Consider Before Choosing A Diamond Ring\nFirst things first—before we jump into the best diamond shapes and style for each finger type, let’s quickly go over some of the most important factors that go into choosing the right diamond ring for you.\n\nSome of the main criteria you’re going to want to consider when choosing the perfect diamond shape and style for your engagement ring include:\n\n### The Width and Length of Your Finger\nWhen choosing a diamond shape and style, you want to create a sense of balance and proportion on your finger—so the length, width, and overall size of your finger is going to dictate which diamonds are going to look balanced and proportionate.\n\n### The Size of the Stone\nThe size of a diamond is also going to play into how flattering a certain shape or style is going to look on your finger. As a rule of thumb, the larger the stone, the more noticeable any issues with balance, proportion, or unflattering shapes will be.\n\n### Your Personal Style\nIt doesn’t matter if a diamond shape or style “works” on your finger shape—if it doesn’t match your [personal style](https://zola.app.link/XXGCpJyN71), it’s not going to make you happy in the long run. Make sure you choose a diamond shape and style that feels like a reflection of your own personal taste—and that you’ll be happy rocking on your finger from now until forever.\n\n### Band Width\nNot only do the stones on your ring have a high impact, but the band. While material—silver, gold, white gold, rose gold, etc.—is important to consider, even more important is the width of the band. For example, if you have thinner fingers, a thicker band might overwhelm them. At the same time, if you prefer a ring with a lot of stones, a thin band might not be able to accommodate that. Also consider the style of wedding band you’d like to go with your engagement ring and how the widths of each band might look together.\n\n### Accent Gemstones\nPerhaps you’d like more than a singular diamond. Whether that means a ring design with a couple accent stones around the center stone or a band covered in pavé diamonds is up to your preference. Accent gemstones, too, can add a variety of shapes, styles, and uniqueness to a diamond ring. If that sounds like what you’re looking for, consider those that add color to a ring that’s diamond color is more classic. Also try those that add to the overall ring style.\n\n### Budget\nWe couldn’t talk about important deciding factors without discussing budget. While this isn’t the most exciting aspect of ring shopping, it’s paramount to think over before setting your heart on something. Set a realistic budget range for yourself and be transparent about it with any jewelers and/or sellers. If a proposal isn’t a total surprise, consider having an open conversation about budget and expectations with your partner.\n\n## Best Diamond Shape For Each Finger Type\nAs we said, different diamonds look different on different fingers and hands. Here’s how to figure out what diamond will best suit your finger.\n\n### A Universally Flattering Diamond That Looks Good On Every Finger\nA round brilliant is one of the most classic diamond shapes on the market. And it’s a classic for a reason. This diamond holds a lot of its weight at the top, which takes up a lot of real estate on your ring finger. Plus, because of the round diamond shape, you get a balanced look that will work on a variety of finger shapes and [sizes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-ring-size-guide).\n\nWhile there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to choosing the right diamond shape/style, if you want a diamond that’s going to be [universally flattering](https://zola.app.link/vi2RlmyN71), the round brilliant is a solid choice.\n\n### For Long And Thin Fingers\nIf you have long, thin fingers, you’re going to want to choose a diamond shape that compliments your finger length. So, elongated diamonds are a fantastic choice.\n\nLuckily, there are a ton of different styles out there to choose from. A naturally elongated diamond shape, like an oval, pear, or marquise cut, will look gorgeous on your finger, as will an elongated radiant or an emerald cut. Just remember, if you have long fingers, you want your diamond to have a more elongated appearance to match. Moreover, solitaire rings (those with a single diamond on a band) can also look beautiful, as they won’t overwhelm your finger.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Anything too square-shaped or princess cut. More square-shaped diamonds like a standard (not elongated) emerald or radiant cut aren’t always the most flattering on long, thin fingers. The shape can actually make your fingers look longer (and your ring can look disproportionate on your finger).\n\n### For Stout Fingers\nIf your fingers are on the thicker side, going with a more delicate diamond shape or style can actually make them look wider. Instead, look for a stone that’s going to really make a statement and take up a lot of real estate on your finger—like an oval or pear-shaped diamond.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Narrow diamonds. You want a stone that’s going to fill out the width of your finger. If you have your heart set on a [narrower cut](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-different-diamond-cut-options), you can add side stones to create width and add a sense of balance.\n\n### For Small Fingers\nIf you have small hands, you have a serious benefit when shopping for engagement rings; everything is going to look bigger on your small fingers.\n\nOn the flip side, going with a diamond shape or style that’s overly big or bold can have the opposite effect, looking too over-the-top on your tiny finger. If your hands are noticeably small, make sure to stick to a more delicate style (such as a round cut, oval cut, or pear cut) that looks proportionate on your finger. On the other hand, opposing styles—such as elongated radiant cuts and emerald cuts—can look too harsh or overwhelming.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Huge diamonds. As mentioned, any diamond you put on a small finger is going to look larger than it would on a bigger finger. So, oversized diamonds can look almost cartoonishly disproportionate on someone with extremely small hands.\n\n## Choosing The Perfect Diamond Carat Size\nFor those who don’t know, a carat is a unit of measurement in regards to a diamond’s (or gemstone’s) physical weight. Note that carat weight is just that—a stone’s weight, not the size of the diamond. Jewelers, gemologists, and similar ring and stone sellers will use diamond carat size in the description of diamond engagement rings in order to describe how heavy one’s cut diamond is. This weight will be the same across natural diamonds and lab grown diamonds, as their physical and chemical makeup is the same.\n\nFor reference, a half carat diamond weighs .1 grams, a 1 carat diamond weights .2 grams, a 2 carat diamond weights .4 grams, and so on and so forth. Pro tip: Diamond rings that don’t have a neat carat weight (such as a half carat, one carat, two carat, etc.) can sometimes cost less than those that do, despite being unnoticeable to the naked eye. When discussing stones, ring sizes, and the like with a jeweler, feel free to ask about carat sizes and to see those of similar weights.\n\nThese are some suggestions on which diamond cuts, shapes, and styles tend to work best with different finger types. Take the above information into consideration when figuring out how to choose a diamond shape, size, and style for your [engagement ring](https://zola.app.link/6iNeuzyN71).\n\nRemember, though, these are just suggestions. You’re the one (or your partner’s the one) who’s going to be wearing your ring every day, so ultimately, it’s up to you to get out there and find the diamond that feels perfect for you.\n\nFor more information regarding carat size (because we know it can be tricky), check out our [Ultimate Diamond Carat Size Guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide).","body2":"### If you have long, thin fingers, try an elongated diamond.\nIf you have long, thin fingers, you’re going to want to choose a diamond shape that compliments your finger length. So, elongated diamonds are a fantastic choice.\n\nLuckily, there are a ton of different styles out there to choose from. A naturally elongated diamond shape, like an oval or pear cut, will look gorgeous on your finger, as will an elongated radiant or an emerald cut. Just remember, if you have long fingers, you want your diamond to have a more elongated appearance to match. \n\n__What to Avoid:__ Anything too square-shaped. More square-shaped diamonds like a standard (not elongated) emerald or radiant cut aren’t always the most flattering on long, thin fingers. The shape can actually make your fingers look longer (and your ring can look disproportionate on your finger).\n\n### If you have stout fingers, try an oval or pear shape.\nIf your fingers are on the thicker side, going with a more delicate diamond shape or style can actually make them look wider. Instead, look for a stone that’s going to really make a statement and take up a lot of real estate on your finger—like an oval or pear-shaped diamond.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Narrow diamonds. You want a stone that’s going to fill out the width of your finger. If you have your heart set on a narrower cut, you can add side stones to create width and add a sense of balance.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720 (10)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6HVbmW4UNMQkSp3HC0m9kz/d300c0aead944ea5c6ce4f95cec62db5/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720__10_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### If you have small fingers, try to stick to a more delicate style\nIf you have small hands, you have a serious benefit when shopping for engagement rings; everything is going to look bigger on your small fingers.\n\nOn the flip side, going with a diamond shape or style that’s overly big or bold can have the opposite effect, looking too over-the-top on your tiny finger. If your hands are noticeably small, make sure to stick to a more delicate style that looks proportionate on your finger.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Huge diamonds. As mentioned, any diamond you put on a small finger is going to look larger than it would on a bigger finger. So, oversized diamonds can look almost cartoonishly disproportionate on someone with extremely small hands.\n\nThese are some suggestions on which diamond cuts, shapes, and styles tend to work best with different finger types. Take these into consideration when figuring out how to choose a diamond shape for your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring). \n\nRemember, though, these are just suggestions. You’re the one who’s going to be wearing your ring every day, so ultimately, it’s up to you to get out there and find the diamond that feels perfect for you. ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Unlock 50 unique engagement party ideas. You'll find ideas you've never thought of and something for every couple. 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Here are nine tips for how to deal without hurting your partner's feelings.\n","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2019-09-12T14:48:09.060Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/MS3dyElvqDAW4HZGjlULM/4cd4f592a1faaf3f23b1a68d2f74a294/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"woman hugs partner after engagement "},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"You probably thought a bit about how someone might propose to you before it ever happened. It’s exciting to imagine where and how it might happen—and what the ring might look like. We’re human! So what happens when your partner proposes, pulls out a ring, and… record scratch… you don’t love this unconditional gift? Don’t panic. Before you allow this to ruin your excitement, know that you still have options. Here’s what to do if you don’t like your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring).\n\n## Give it some time.\nSo, it wasn’t love at first sight between you and the ring. That doesn’t mean it won’t grow on you. As unlikely as it sounds, when given some time, many begin to love their rings. First impressions can be deceiving with conditional gifts, so allow the shock to subside and sleep on it. Then wear it around for a few days. Pair it with your other __[jewelry](https://zola.app.link/oF4C3jyN71)__, ask your spouse why they chose it, and just live with it for a moment. You may find—especially if you don’t wear jewelry often—that you start to fall for it.\n\n![INLINE SteveCowellPhoto 1080x720 Jeff&Lauren](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7qynD26ddyPPULUAkOUEmD/66f1cd8a2f3edd829eb12c720e957db5/INLINE_SteveCowellPhoto_1080x720_Jeff_Lauren.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Steve Cowell Photo\n\n## Talk to your partner.\nAt the same time, don’t allow any negative feelings to linger. Avoid any possible brewing resentment by being honest with your partner. Open communication is a cornerstone of any marriage, even in the face of a difficult conversation. Simply be truthful and kind. Gently and tactfully let them know how you feel and say you’re open to discussing affordable options or compromises. In case you’re stuck, start with something like:\n\n*“[Name], I’m so excited to be marrying you, and I want to be honest with you about something that’s been on my mind. An engagement ring is something I’ve been excited about for a long time and I want to be happy with it forever.”*\n\nAlso, try not to feel guilty. We know, easier said than done. But at the same time: Yes, you dislike your engagement ring. No, you’re not an awful person. When all is said and done, both you and your partner just want to be excited about being together. A small hurdle in the process won’t change that.\n\n## Modify or personalize your engagement ring.\nWith some thought, some modifications might be all you need. Tweaking some details without trading out the entire ring is a creative, cost-effective solution. Examine what you like and dislike about it currently (such as the band, shape, or center stone). Then ask your jeweler if certain changes can be made. That way, you can maintain the parts you and your spouse love and update any you aren’t crazy about. Turn it into a creative project between the two of you.\n\nThis is also a potential solution for family heirlooms. If you’re inheriting a ring and would like for it to feel more you, broach the subject of adding some personalizations. This could mean resetting the stone, adding or removing side stones, or similar. Although, if you and your spouse plan on doing this, discuss it with the person who gave it to you, if possible. This keeps appreciation and respect at the forefront of the conversation and makes it less likely to feel offensive. \n\n## Don’t make size the issue.\nIf you don’t like your ring because you truthfully wish the stone was bigger, tread lightly. Telling your partner that the ring isn’t big enough could come across as ‘this isn’t expensive enough.’ Don’t make your partner feel like they couldn’t afford what you wanted or expected—especially considering they likely purchased the best they could for you. \n\nAsk yourself if it’s something else you don’t like, such as the material, type of stone, shape, or overall style. If it’s really about the stone size, though, keep your distaste quiet. You can always save up once you’re both more established and potentially get a bigger stone for an anniversary. This isn’t something to upset or concern your partner with.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash)1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6C7TBdMaFUTzHhoGO78zHj/bd0cb888a005203f933f7f151457523e/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Be considerate of budget.\nIf you do plan to modify or get a new ring, be considerate of your partner’s __[budget](https://zola.app.link/8WoDoDyN71)__. Perhaps they can’t afford to get you your dream ring at the moment. That doesn’t mean they love you any less—or that you’re doomed to wear a ring you don’t adore. Be honest with yourself about whether or not this is a big deal and if you’re willing to compromise. Remember, this may feel paramount at the moment, but it’s far from the most important aspect of getting married. When suggesting alternatives to your spouse, ask that you’re both transparent about the expense and expectations.\n\n## Turn your attention to your wedding band.\nWhether you’ve chosen to keep your ring or just can’t bear to bring it up, all hope isn’t lost. You still have a chance to embellish it with the wedding band of your dreams. Adding your band may even change the way you feel about your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring) entirely. For example, if you feel it’s lacking in a certain stylistic element (sparkle? gemstones?), make it present in your band. The addition just might turn the combination into a duo you adore.\n\n## Know the legalities of the ring for broken engagements.\nOne pressing question many couples have is what are the legal ramifications and rules about giving a carat engagement ring back. Can you get a full refund? Does the date of purchase matter? Is it ok to offer the ring up for resale or take it to a pawn shop? The reality is that each state has its own rules on what you can do with an engagement ring, so check with your state law. \n\nHowever, the first place you should start is by checking the return policy of the retailer’s store where the wedding ring was originally purchased. Even if you can’t return the ring — especially if you’ve gone beyond their days of purchase — they may have an exchange policy. That way, you can get another piece with the same value of the ring. If you purchased your diamond engagement ring on sale, the piece of jewelry may be more difficult to return, or you may be unable to exchange the original ring. \n\n## Can you return engagement ring?\nIn the end, you may decide to trade in your current ring for something different. That’s OK! After all, it’s an expensive item you’ll rarely remove. If your significant other purchased the ring from a jewelry store, you should be able to return or exchange it within a given time frame. That is, it’s in its original condition—so be mindful of it while contemplating. Also keep in mind that policies differ from store to store. Some require a restocking fee, while others only allow exchanges. Ask your jeweler about your options.\n\nIf neither is possible—say, your ring was custom-made—you can still try and sell it. We recommend that all custom rings get approval before they’re purchased, but realize that that’s not always the case. You should be able to set a reasonable price if it’s in mint condition. Just be sure to handle the situation delicately and be aware that it could be difficult to resell. Then, once you’ve been able to return, exchange, or sell, make an afternoon of trying on rings together with your partner. Turn the situation positive and learn more about each other’s style.\n\n## Are pawn shops an option?\nAlthough you won’t get the original purchase price for your piece, you can take your ring to a pawn shop. You’ll need to have your ring in-store so that the shop can place a value on your ring and offer you a price. Ebay and other resale sites are also an option. However, be sure to have the GIA paperwork to validate the piece.\n\nFast forward: You’ve discussed things and taken the steps you need to. Now do your best to swiftly move on. Don’t dwell—your engagement is to be enjoyed. 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Plus, tips for keeping your engagement ring like new.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-12-26T16:54:49.731Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1EkyCSqm040daFYaobOyaH/00c105e08f44c0785713e860c896e31e/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"where you can wear your engagment rings"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"After you get engaged, chances are, you’re going to want to rock that [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring) anywhere and everywhere you go. While there are plenty of places you can (and should) wear your bling, there are also some places where wearing your ring is a no-no if you want to keep it clean, safe, and sparkly. Let’s make this easy. The diamond experts at [The Clear Cut](https://theclearcut.co/) helped us outline where you can wear your engagement ring and where you can’t wear your engagement ring.\n\n\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring during your normal day-to-day activities.\nYour engagement ring is a symbol of your commitment and upcoming marriage to your partner, so it makes total sense that you’re going to want to wear it as often as possible.\n\nAnd the good news? For most of your normal, day-to-day activities, you can absolutely rock your bling. Going to work? Wear your engagement ring. Swinging by the grocery store? Wear your engagement ring. Meeting friends for dinner? Wear your engagement ring.\n\n## You CAN’T wear your engagement ring to bed.\nThere is, however, one place you go every day that you shouldn’t wear your wedding ring—and that’s to bed. \n\nSome people experience slight swelling in the hands overnight—and if your fingers swell while you sleep, it can not only feel uncomfortable, but it can make it harder to get your ring off in the morning. Plus, your ring can get snagged on your sheets, your blanket, your pajamas. It’s just not fun. \n\nWearing your engagement ring to bed could also put you at risk for injury. Diamonds can be sharp—and you don’t want to wake up in the middle of the night after scratching your face with your engagement ring.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7s96MB8mHAFphDMS9SC5oz/fb8ccde13dbf105e316715aa5372f11a/INLINE_Unsplash__1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring while tidying up—as long as you avoid harsh cleaning products. \nThere’s no need to take off your wedding ring for household chores like sweeping, laundry, or making the bed. There is, however, one exception to that rule—and that’s if you’re tackling any deep cleaning where you’ll be using harsh cleaning products that could damage your ring. \n\nIf you’re cleaning includes bleach, ammonia, or any other harsh chemicals, do yourself (and your diamond) a favor and take your engagement ring off beforehand.\n\n## You CAN’T wear your engagement ring in the shower.\nA shower is great for keeping you clean—but your ring? Not so much. All the products you use to clean your face, hair, and body can latch onto your diamond, creating a film that makes it look cloudy, dull, and all-around dirty. \n\nNot to mention that you don’t want your ring to slip off your finger and down the drain. Anyone who’s seen Apollo 13 knows that. So, don’t wear your ring in the shower and wait to put it back on until all your after-shower grooming activities (like slathering on lotion) are complete.\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring when you travel…\nIf you want to keep your ring on your finger during your travels (whether that’s on [your honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-we-go-honeymoon), your [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pack-for-a-bachelorette-party), or any other upcoming trips), there’s no reason you can’t. \n\nJust make sure to take the proper steps to keep your ring safe, like bringing along a ring stand to securely hold your ring while you sleep and never, ever leaving your ring unattended in a hotel room or vacation rental property.\n\nYou also shouldn’t travel with your engagement ring unless it’s insured. Read more about [engagement ring insurance here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4POaDqNGbqYuOSQZDlNnUS/982c2bfdee2974ee70efc02f4e3838bb/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## ...but you CAN’T wear it to the beach.\nOne travel destination that’s not the best fit for your engagement ring? The beach. Taking care of your skin at the beach means a lot of sunscreen. All that sunscreen will leave your diamond looking cloudy and dirty (and it’s also a pain in the neck to clean!). \n\nPlus, the ocean can spell disaster for your ring. Not only will the sand and saltwater quickly dirty up your ring, but your fingers actually get slightly smaller when you swim, and it goes without saying that losing your engagement ring in the ocean? Not exactly a day at the beach.\n\n## Engagement Ring Care Tips: How to Clean Your Ring at Home\n\n\n\nNo matter where you do or don’t wear your engagement ring, you always want to keep your bling as safe and sparkly as possible. Here are a few tips to keep it that way:\n\n- __Get your engagement ring insured.__ It doesn’t matter how careful you are or where you do/don’t wear your ring. Things happen, and you want to [make sure you’re insured](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring) and covered should your ring gets lost, stolen, or damaged. \n- __Diamond looking dull? Clean up your ring at home.__ Wearing your ring certain places (like in the shower) can leave it looking dull. Get it back to sparkling with a [simple at-home engagement ring cleaning](https://theclearcut.co/blogs/clear-cut-classroom/cleaning-and-caring-for-your-engagement-ring). Fill a bowl with warm water and a few drops of Dawn dish soap and let your ring soak for a few minutes. Remove the engagement ring from the bowl, scrub with a soft-bristled toothbrush, and rinse off the excess soap with warm water (just make sure your sink drain is covered). Dry with a soft cloth or paper towel, and your ring will shine like new.\n- __When in doubt, wear a stand-in ring.__ If you’re going somewhere that makes you feel uneasy about wearing your wedding ring, it’s always better to be safe than sorry. When in doubt, leave your ring in a safe, secure place at home and wear a stand-in ring. You can get a cute silicone version for less than $10.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Unlock 50 unique engagement party ideas. You'll find ideas you've never thought of and something for every couple. 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Here’s What To Do Next!","slug":"to-dos-after-you-get-engaged","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Different diamonds look different on different fingers. The diamond experts at The Clear Cut share which diamond shapes look best on which finger sizes.","title":"The Best Diamond Shape & Size For Your Finger","slug":"best-diamond-shape-for-your-finger","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ECvXhLPmPgOpov3xDS8WX/6546f0108bf3a0ca312f65037cce0c8b/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"best diamond shape for your finger type"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"You're engaged! Now it's time to tell people. 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Considerations & Tips","excerpt":"How much you spend on a wedding ring will vary based on factors like diamond quality, material, and design complexity.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-02-02T18:56:58.042Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7pErKRfOhRjuIBXrvUlyJo/0af59a23955abd6a5e2e9c17e462d689/Hero_Zola__22_.jpg","altText":"How Much to Spend on a Wedding Ring"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\nJump right into the wedding ring content here:\n- How Much To Spend On Wedding Rings: What To Consider\n- Determine Your Budget\n- What Style Of Wedding Ring Do You Want?\n- Consider Your Lifestyle, and Style of Your Engagement Ring\n- To Match or Not to Match\n- How To Save Money Buying Wedding Rings?","body":"Getting married is one of the biggest moments of your and your partner’s lives. You want the moment to be special and memorable for the both of you. But before saying “I do,” you’ll need to buy a wedding ring. So, how much should you spend?\n\n## How Much To Spend On Wedding Rings: What To Consider\n\nWhen it comes to how much to spend on a wedding ring, there's no one-size-fits-all solution (pun intended!). How much you spend will depend on a variety of factors, including:\n\n- __Your current financial situation.__ Your current financial situation will, in large part, dictate how much you should spend on wedding rings. Are you swimming in student loans and credit card debt? If so, going into further debt for an expensive ring probably isn't the best financial decision. As a good rule of thumb, if a ring's price tag would make it challenging to cover your current bills, it's too expensive—and you should look for something more affordable.\n- __How much you're willing to spend.__ As mentioned, there's no \"right\" amount to spend on a wedding ring—so how much you spend will depend on how much you're willing to spend. Some people default to the \"three month salary rule\"—while others wouldn't dream of dropping a few month's salary on a wedding ring. Ultimately, you have to decide what kind of ring budget you're comfortable with—and spend accordingly.\n- __Where you're shopping.__ Some retailers are more expensive than others—and if you want to go to a higher end retailer to shop for your wedding ring, you should expect to pay more than if you went to a local jeweler or shopped at more affordable jewelry stores or online retailers. \n- __What kind of ring you're shopping for.__ The kind of ring you're shopping for will play a major role in how much you end up spending. For example, more intricate rings (complete with diamonds and gemstones, like emeralds or rubies) will be more expensive than a simple band.\n- __The 4 C's.__ If you do go for a diamond ring, the 4 C's of diamonds—cut, color, clarity, and carat—will determine how much you ultimately pay. (For example, a 2 carat diamond is going to cost more than a 1 carat diamond—and a yellow diamond will typically cost more than a non-colored stone). \nNow that you know the different factors that come into play, let's jump into the actual steps to take when determining how much you should spend on a wedding ring for your soon-to-be spouse:\n\n## Determine Your Budget\n\nHow much money you should spend on your wedding ring depends on a lot of factors, including your style and budget.\n\nBefore you go shopping for a wedding ring, have an honest conversation with your partner about how much you’re both comfortable spending. If your significant other is planning to spend $500 on a simple band, but you’re looking at $1,500 rings, it's best to get on the same page before you go ring shopping.\n\nA budget will also help you understand what you can afford, and what [style of wedding ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/popular-wedding-ring-styles-for-2021) you should look for. Plain wedding bands can cost anywhere between [$250](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_classic_thin_knifeedge_wedding_ring_18krosegold) to $1,500 for women, depending on the metal. Bands that are larger, more intricate, or have diamonds (or other stones), can jump to anywhere between $1,000 to $6,000. This puts the average woman’s wedding ring cost at around $1,400 (which, while definitely less than average engagement ring prices, is still on the pricey side).\n\n[Men’s wedding bands](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pair-wedding-band-with-engagement-ring) can start at [$140](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/manlybands_the_grizzly_wedding_ring) for a tungsten band, hit well over $2,000 for a platinum band, or fall somewhere in the middle (like this [Men's Meteorite & Cobalt Chrome Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_meteorite_cobalt_chrome_wedding_band)). The average cost for a man’s wedding band is around $560.\n\n## What Style of Wedding Ring Do You Want?\n\n![How Much to Spend on a Wedding Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lptiUIcRzE6faf9Fs5jhf/1c6f8aad16d50ec65ff5478530c36ce3/inline_Laura_Segall_Photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Laura Segall Photography\n\nOnce you've locked in your budget, it's time to figure out how you want to spend that budget—and what type of wedding ring you actually want.\n\nMaterial and the wedding band’s weight will largely determine its cost. Yellow gold, white gold, and rose gold are less expensive than rings made of platinum, which is the most expensive metal.\n\nThe cost of white, yellow, or rose gold rings will depend on how many karats they are; the more karats, the more expensive it will be. However, it’s important to keep in mind that white gold needs to be rhodium-plated every few years, as it will eventually yellow.\n\nFor budget-conscious couples, tungsten is a more affordable option and is a very strong and scratch-resistant metal. Wood, ceramic, and silicone are also popular for their unique style, and they are [typically less expensive](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pair-wedding-band-with-engagement-ring)—especially silicone, which only costs around [$30](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/qalo_mens_classic_forged_silicone_ring?_branch_match_id=660637628017867376) per ring. \n\nYour wedding ring’s width will also play a factor in how much it costs. A thin band is one to three millimeters, a medium band is four to six millimeters, and a thick band ranges from seven to 10 millimeters. The thicker the band, the more material is needed, thus increasing the cost. \n\nIf you’re going to get a wedding ring that has some bling, expect to open your checkbook a bit more. Again, for wedding rings with diamonds (like this [Women's Baguette Diamond Eternity Band](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/edelweissjewelry_womens_baguette_diamond_eternity_band_18krosegold)), prices are based on the “[four Cs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide)” of the diamonds: cut, carat, color, and clarity. The four Cs apply to both natural and lab-grown diamonds and are used collectively to rate the overall diamond quality.\n\nWedding rings with diamonds that are highly rated (think clear diamonds, expensive cuts, etc.) are going to cost more than a ring with lower-quality stones. You may also prefer pre-owned or vintage wedding rings—and the prices of these unique pieces can greatly vary.\n\n## Consider Your Lifestyle, and Style of Your Engagement Ring\n\nHow much you should spend on a wedding ring will also depend on your lifestyle and the type of work you do. If you’re a personal trainer, for example, and you’re used to lifting heavy weights, you’ll want a flatter wedding ring, as opposed to a raised one that could easily get scratched or dented. Your lifestyle will help you determine what type of material you need, too: Gold is more malleable, whereas platinum is more durable.\n\nFor people who also wear engagement rings, you want your wedding ring to match, or at least compliment its style. Some people opt to have their wedding ring made by the same jeweler who designed their engagement ring so that they are the same material and aesthetic. This is also a popular option for people who have uniquely shaped diamond engagement rings, and who want their wedding band to fit within its curves—also known as “enhancers.”\n\n### To Match or Not to Match\n\nDo you and your partner want your wedding rings to match? Some couples want their wedding bands to match one another, while others are OK with having different designs. If you’re going the matching route, you may be able to score a better price from a jeweler if they offer discounts for purchasing more than one wedding band—it never hurts to ask.\n\nIf you don’t want your wedding ring to match your partner’s, you’ll still need to consider how much both rings will cost in total. Because both people will exchange rings at your ceremony, you should factor in that cost when determining your total wedding budget. Wedding rings are an expense that couples often overlook when it comes to wedding planning [budgeting](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting). \n\n![How Much to Spend on a Wedding Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/crUesLMcsImL7wpu5rxV5/48cbf1bad9029eeadcdd2ddd80008416/inline_Viera_Photographics.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Viera Photography\n\n## How To Save Money Buying Wedding Rings?\n\nWant to find the perfect ring—without breaking the bank? Here are some tips on how to [save money on wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-find-an-affordable-wedding-ring):\n\n- __Go smaller.__ If you want a wedding ring with that comes decked out in precious stones, consider going with a smaller gemstone or diamond size. The smaller the stone, the more affordable the ring will be—and the more money you'll save.\n- __Buy at the right time.__ Jewelry retailers are just like any other type of store; at some point, they're going to have a sale—and if you wait to buy your ring until that sale hits, you can seriously save on your purchase. If you know where you want to shop for your ring, get on their mailing list—and be ready to shop when you get word of an upcoming sale.\n- __Look for family heirlooms.__ Often, wedding rings are passed down from family member to family member. And if someone in you or your partner's family has a wedding ring they'd like to pass down, not only does it eliminate the cost of the ring, but it also adds a special family sentiment to the ring—and that's priceless.\n- __Go thrifting.__ Buying a brand new ring can be pricey. But there are plenty of high-quality, pre-owned rings out there with a much lower price tag; all you have to do is find them. During the ring shopping process, make sure to hit up thrift stores, vintage shops, and online reselling platforms. While you'll probably have to do some more digging to find what you're looking for, you could stumble upon a unique ring that you couldn't find in any regular store—at a much more affordable price point. It's a win-win!\n\n### So, what's the verdict? How much money should you spend on your wedding rings?\n\nSo, bottom line: when it comes to shopping for wedding rings, just how much should you spend?\n\nAnd the answer is—it completely depends.\n\nAt the end of the day, there is no right or wrong amount of money to spend on your dream ring. It’s a largely personal choice that will depend on many factors, including your budget, lifestyle, and personal style preferences. Whether you spend a reasonable amount or a lot, you and your partner need to be on the same page when it comes to wedding ring costs. You want your wedding ring to last you your entire life—not break the bank before you even put it on. So budget accordingly!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Diamond experts share all the places you can wear your engagement ring and where you shouldn't wear your ring. Plus, tips for keeping your engagement ring like new.","title":"Where You Can (and Can't) Wear Your Engagement Ring","slug":"where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1EkyCSqm040daFYaobOyaH/00c105e08f44c0785713e860c896e31e/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"where you can wear your engagment rings"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Engagement ring insurance is an easy way to achieve peace of mind and keep your jewelry safe. How much does it cost? Do you need it? And, if so, where can you find the best policy? We've got the answers.","title":"Is Engagement Ring Insurance Worth It?","slug":"reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5lyFfo152e8WTcYhXSnlSs/71acdab1d21c284a4ad4246fbdebded5/daria-kopylova-PFORcnF1JqY-unsplash.jpg","altText":"Close up of female hand with engagement ring holding male hand across her chest"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Want to know the difference between a protection plan and jewelry insurance? Learn what coverage is right for you to keep your wedding rings and other jewelry safe and secure. ","title":"Specialty Jewelry Insurance Vs. Protection Plans: What Do I Need?","slug":"specialty-jewelry-insurance-vs-protection-plans","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/AuBNwQenNb5IOCOzbGJTV/36112de80617cfa447a7e47fdbf08e0d/Specialty-Jewelry-Insurance-Vs-Protection-Plans-What-Do-I-Need.jpg","altText":"wedding ring insurance "},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"New to the world of wedding ring shopping? Find out everything you need to know with our diamond carat size guide from Zola. ","title":"The Ultimate Diamond Carat Size Guide","slug":"the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6ZHcBgTX0FDzoM78hum6te/0bdb61d69aa75660e339dbc6d9831a99/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"ruler to measure rings"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Don’t know if it’s okay to propose without a ring? Find out what our experts say by checking out our latest guide. ","title":"Tips for Proposing Without A Ring + 10 Alternatives","slug":"can-you-propose-without-a-ring","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58Was5Fgz8kxScfS0XaaCE/0069bf3d28ceb04517d39c06a9c172fc/Hero_EtherealCoastalRomanceStyledShoot_ArleneJacobsPhotography.jpg","altText":"Propose Without a Ring"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:54:15.338Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Rings","slug":"rings"},"slug":"how-to-find-an-affordable-wedding-ring","title":"How to Find an Affordable Wedding Ring? and 5 Affordable Wedding Sets","excerpt":"Looking for ways to save and spend smarter on your wedding rings? Look no further than our complete guide on finding affordable wedding rings.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2020-11-04T17:39:43.698Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mB01yUbJRNJr9VdEgjkGu/9530215ea1e16c721bc04d1812dd6dc8/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"black and white photo of wedding ring on hand"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Whoever came up with “first comes love, then comes marriage” missed a few steps along the way. Between those initial butterflies and a lifetime together are a lot of things, especially expensive things, one of which being the engagement ring. For most couples, finding a proposal-worthy piece tops the list, and there are __[affordable wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings?sort=PRICE_ASCENDING)__ out there. With a bit of knowledge and creative thinking, you should be able to get your wedding jewelry for a song. Consider some of the below factors when planning to buy rings and also a few cheaper options for rings further down before you commit to buying what is possibly the most important jewelry commitment you’ll be making at that time.\n\n### How to Find an Affordable Wedding Ring? \n\n## 1. Save Up for a Sale\n\nBargain hunters unite! With a bit of planning, you can scope out jewelry stores for the timing of their annual clearance sales. Often, __[wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-rings)__ are overstocked or have been there a while. You may get a stunner wedding band or ring for a steal. Another option is to limit yourself to searching the store’s markdown section to find a quality diamond ring at a bargain price. You will probably find a good sale as one wedding season closes and turns to the next and some styles become less fashionable. You might also find a good sale during the holidays and can benefit from that steal, holding on to the ring until the actual big day.\n\n![How to Find an Affordable Wedding Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68KBz6X4CZp6Jqw2hOYO0V/93fe292973dcb0a9be0afbcc6e1ca99b/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## 2. Look for Used Jewelry \nLocal, reputable pawn shops often have a plethora of discarded engagement rings. Make someone else’s loss your gain and scour cases for the perfect fit. Another option when shopping for an affordable engagement ring is to head to the estate section of your local jewelry store. There are often one-of-a-kind and vintage rings that you can get for a fraction of the cost of a new piece. Hunt for a cushion cut, marquise, or 925 sterling silver options too. \n\nYou can also find an affordable wedding ring at antique shops and via seller sites, such as Craigslist and Facebook Marketplace, but be wary. Ensure that the seller has the receipt or paperwork for the ring to ensure that you’re getting what you pay for. Also, see if your family has any remaining pieces in their jewelry stash. Using an heirloom can make proposing that much more special. You can also make a custom piece if you feel the heirloom design is outdated – just make sure you give the jewelry designer enough material to work with and a reference image for the look and feel you are going for as well as the right ring circumference for comfort fit.\n\n## 3. Consider Custom Engagement Rings\n\nNowadays, the word “custom” can come with a hefty price tag. However, that may not always be the case when hiring a jewelry designer. An artist can work __[within your price range](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__ and offer a variety of options to fit within your budget and __[engagement ring style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-rings)__. Plus, it’s a huge bonus to be able to get an affordable, one-of-a-kind piece. \n\nSuppose you have an heirloom diamond, or a discarded ring made of precious metal, that’s even better! Alloys can be melted, and gemstones added to create custom engagement rings. Using what you already have can reduce the cost and help you create the perfect ring.\n\n## 4. Switch to Alternative Metals\nDiamonds are valuable and are best set in metal that’s worthy of them. However, if you have your heart set on an expensive metal, such as platinum, you may want to opt for a different type. Alloys such as tungsten, __[steel](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_damascus_steel_wedding_band)__, and titanium will lighten the cost of your ring. A big bonus is that some of the lesser-priced alternative metals are incredibly durable. So, what you lack in value, you gain in longevity. \n\n## 5. Tweak Your Gemstone\n\nA simple swap is to forgo the diamond and go with a look alike. Cubic zirconia has come a long way, and only the two of you will know it’s a dupe. Just be upfront with your fiance, as some have been caught trying to pass off a fake. Yikes! You could go with a different gem altogether, use a birthstone, or opt for a colored rock, such as sapphire or emerald. \n\nIf you must have a diamond ring, then there are ways to sacrifice in some areas to gain in others. For example, if the size is essential, look at stones that are lesser in quality. Lower-rated diamonds may have slight inclusions or a bit of a yellowish cast. If the diamond’s grade is crucial, then choose a slightly lower __[diamond carat size](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide)__ to put quality over quantity. Another option is to go for less expensive, __[lab-grown diamond](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide)__ engagement rings. \n\n![How to Find an Affordable Wedding Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7m9P4BpMOcR5TNV6rTclmg/b42b152b8d4c61aac6a6feb4138541a4/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## 6. Rethink a Solitaire\n\nOften, solitaire engagement rings are costly. There is also a significant difference between a one-carat diamond and a ring with a total diamond weight of one carat. Choosing a piece with several smaller stones, instead of one large rock can make your bling more affordable. \n\nIf your heart is set on a solitaire, go a bit under the weight you want. A .96 carat diamond is often less expensive than a one-carat ring. Even though the difference is only .04 carats, there are weight increments in the jewelry industry that serve as price markers.\n\n## 7. Talk to Your Salesperson\n\nA salesperson can often be your ally in choosing a bridal ring, engagement ring set, or diamond wedding bands, and the smaller the chain store, the better. If you head to a pawn shop or local jewelry boutique, sometimes you can ask for a percentage off the price. You may score a better deal, especially if you’re talking to the owner. Politely asking if they could extend a discount can go a long way. \n\nWhen dealing with a large chain, pick your clerk’s brain about __[affordable wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__. Ask them if any specials are coming up or if any rings may be marked down soon. It’s a win for everyone, as you help them clear out their stock. \n\n## 8. Look Online for Affordable Rings\n\nMany couples enjoy shopping online so that they can compare prices and styles without being put on the spot. The added pressure of a salesperson can clutter the mind. Of course, the caveat with [purchasing online](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring) is that you aren’t seeing the rings in person. Each natural diamond will vary in color and imperfections, so be aware of industry standards. Also, do your homework about the return policy, warranty, and payment options that a site offers. \n\n## 9. Purchase Your Engagement and Wedding Ring Set at the Same Time\n\nA car salesperson would probably faint if you told them you wanted to buy three cars at once, but don’t expect the same reaction from your jeweler. There may be added benefits to [purchasing three-piece wedding ring sets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pair-wedding-band-with-engagement-ring), as buying pieces for both partners at once can help obtain a discount. __[Some bands](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pair-wedding-band-with-engagement-ring)__ are explicitly sold as an engagement and wedding ring set, which is often more economical.\n\n## 10. Weigh Your Financing Options\n\n“Cash is king” reigns true. Many stores offer a discount for using banknotes, and you will avoid interest and fees by doing so. Although, if you need to [finance your wedding ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-to-spend-on-a-wedding-ring), be aware of your options. Don’t just pop out a high-interest credit card and hope for the best. \n\nJewelry shops often offer to finance, but another option is to get a new credit card with a low introductory rate or zero-APR. Although neither of these will make your engagement ring more affordable, it will reduce your total cost. \n\n## 11. Buy Now, Upgrade Later\n\nIf you met the perfect person while going through grad school, opt for a modest or __[simple wedding ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-rings)__ now or even promise rings or eternity band, and then upgrade later to some fine jewelry. Chances are that you’ll be able to splurge once you are making money, instead of while you’re __[racking up student loans](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged)__.\n\nCheckout a placeholder gold ring, gold wedding band, or sterling silver rings to wear on a different finger eventually. It could also be passed down to future generations as a keepsake after it’s replaced. Another option is to sell the original ring, if it’s not sentimental, to help you afford another piece down the road.\n\nNo matter your stage in life, affordable wedding rings are within reach. Getting more for your money not only feels good, but it can make the time between love and marriage a bit easier on your pocketbook.\n\n### Top 5 Affordable Wedding Ring Options\n\nUnderstandably, not everyone has a grand budget to work with when it comes to rings so we’ve listed a few styles here that can broadly address that issue. Consider these options first before jumping for a ring that might be too expensive to afford at this time. There is always the opportunity to upgrade, exchange, or resell at a later day for a new ring. Check with your jewelry maker as well so you know what future options are available to you via the same store. \n\n### 1. Vintage rings\n\nSince vintage rings are used and don’t carry the same markup as newer jewelry does, this is one of the cheap wedding rings options to consider when budgeting for jewelry costs. That said, you can possibly find plenty of designs that align with the look and feel you are going for toward your big day. These will possibly cost you much lesser than a brand new designed or custom piece and you could come away from shopping for a ring benefitting from a pretty good deal. \n\n### 2. Cluster rings\n\nAs cluster rings don’t have one large centerpiece diamond or gemstone but rather several stones that are smaller and less expensive, this is also a reason why they are among favored cheap wedding ring options. Wearing ring clusters is quite fashionable and could give the illusion of one broad and fancy ring or clearly denote a set of rings worn individually. Depending on your style, you can choose a few different types of gold bands as well.\n\n### 3. Solitaires\n\nThese are classic, elegant, and budget-friendly choices. As there are no diamonds or gemstones taking pride of place in a solitaire band, this is a great cheap wedding ring option as well for those on a very rigid budget and not much leeway to spend on rings. Consider this a first stop when looking for rings before exploring other options. They never go out of style and can be a versatile piece that is worn with other outfits as well.\n\n### 4. Gemstone rings\n\nIf you are not very specific about going for the expensive mainstream gemstones that are always in demand and therefore sold at a premium price, you can still have a beautiful gemstone dotted ring at a much lesser price point. Research ahead to see which types and colors would best suit not just your outfit but also your skin tone and can be worn for long periods of time. That way you’ll have a few options in mind when you go shopping.\n\n### 5. Smaller accents\n\nInstead of one large attention-seeking diamond, consider several smaller diamond accents for a cheaper ring overall. This will also give you some leeway to play with the type of gold used – choose from rose gold, white gold, and yellow gold or even opt for a sterling silver bridal set. A princess cut might also be a good option to consider when on budget as the irregular shape makes them look larger to the naked eye than a regular round shape which is the most common and favored but also quite expensive. \n\nWhile this compilation is in no way exhaustive, it does provide a broad summary of the ring options you can consider for wedding rings if you are working on a lean budget. You may want to begin shopping around for designs ahead of time so you can truly review all the choices you have before finalizing on that one special ring.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:54:12.918Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Rings","slug":"rings"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-rings","title":"A Guide to Wedding Rings","excerpt":"From how much you should expect to spend on a wedding ring to tips for how to choose the right one for you, check out this guide on wedding ring styles, types, and materials.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-02-22T19:10:38.243Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5P3fQN4IfleT7GqBYDmSs/8149be86e6f0b1e35a8e477b1a792fe8/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"gold wedding band and three diamond eternity wedding bands on a white sequined fabric"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/sean-money-elizabeth-fay","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are many factors to consider such as cost, band width, band finish, and if you want matching rings or not with your partner.\n- Although there is a lot of thoughtful planning when it comes to pick out your wedding ring, this is a place for customization and for you and your partner to pick the perfect set that suits you!\n","body":"The big day is coming up but you still have to find the perfect wedding ring - don’t fret! Zola's put this guide together just for you.\n\n## Tips for Choosing a Wedding Ring \n\n### 1. Start Looking Early \n\nAllow yourself plenty of time to shop for and select a wedding ring. If you’re going to buy a ring from a [brick-and-mortar or online jeweler](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), two to three months before your wedding date should allow you enough time to shop around, compare prices, order, and receive your rings in time. If you’re going for a totally custom ring, however, allow yourself even more time (at least six months). Engraving your wedding ring(s) will also add an additional month to your timeline. \n\n### 2. Set a Budget\n\nBefore you set foot into a jewelry shop or begin looking online, set a wedding ring budget. Much like shopping for a wedding dress, having a dollar amount in mind before you begin your search will help you avoid the heartache of falling in love with something that’s way out of your price range. See the below section (How Much Should You Spend On A Wedding Ring?) for the average cost of wedding rings for both men and women, and determine with your partner what you’re both comfortable spending—in the grand scheme of all your wedding expenses—on wedding rings.\n\n### 3. Think About Your Engagement Ring\n\nIf you’ll be wearing an engagement ring on the same finger as your wedding ring, you should consider how these two pieces of jewelry will interact. You want both rings to complement each other physically, and to fit comfortably together on your finger. There’s no rule that says your engagement ring and wedding band need to match exactly, but perhaps you want them made out of the same material (which also helps reduce potential reactions between metals), or perhaps you want one ring to be more simple and the other to be the standout piece with more stones and decoration. \n\nIf you do want your engagement and wedding rings to be a set, make this wish known to your partner when he or she is choosing an engagement ring—some rings and bands are contoured to fit together perfectly, and you could even score a better deal when buying both rings at the same time. \n\n### 4. Consider Your Lifestyle\n\nDo you exercise frequently, spend time outside gardening or swimming, or work with your hands daily? If you have an active lifestyle, you should think about which wedding ring design and material will be the most practical choice. A wedding ring with many diamonds or other small stones will require more frequent cleaning and maintenance, and should be protected from harsh chemicals or lots of banging and jostling. More simple bands in metals that are super-strong and scratch-resistant, like palladium, titanium, tungsten, or even silicone, are good choices for those who want to wear a wedding band daily without worrying about its upkeep. \n\n### 5. Decide If Your Rings Will Match\n\nThe coordination decisions don’t stop at your engagement ring. It’s a good idea to decide with your partner whether you’d like matching wedding bands before you begin shopping. For some couples, sharing every aspect of this symbol of eternal love—down to the color, look, and shape—adds an extra layer of romance. For others, matching bands don’t hold any additional significance, so each partner might prefer to express his or her individuality when it comes to wedding rings. \n\n### 6. Narrow Down Your Ring Style\n\nAfter thinking about your budget, what will work best with your engagement ring and your lifestyle, and yay or nay to matching bands, research different styles of wedding rings to home in on your preferences. Do you want a simple metal band, or a ring set with diamonds or other gemstones? Do you want a thin or thick band, something very traditional, or something more trendy and eye-catching? Look around at examples so you can begin your wedding ring shopping well-informed with a sense of your preferred styles.\n\n## How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Ring?\n\nWhile the cost of a wedding ring can vary wildly based upon the ring’s material, style, and decorative elements, it can be helpful to have a ballpark range for what most couples are spending on their wedding rings. These averages can help you set realistic expectations and allocate an appropriate amount towards wedding rings in your overall wedding budget. \n\n- For women’s wedding bands, a plain band can cost anywhere from $300 to $1,500 depending on the metal. Prices increase to between $1,000 to $6,000 for a band that’s larger, more intricate, or set with diamonds or other stones. The average price of a woman’s wedding ring is around __$1,400__. \n\n- A men’s wedding band can start as low as $100 for a plain titanium band, to over $2,000 for a platinum band, with the average price being around __$560__.\n\nIn general, rings made of platinum will always cost more due to the more expensive nature of the metal—but platinum rings will last forever without any required maintenance. White or yellow gold are less expensive options, with prices decreasing by the carat number (lower carat golds are less expensive than higher carat golds). However white gold will need to be rhodium-plated every few years as the metal wears down and turns yellow. Palladium is another great, low-cost alternative to white gold and platinum that is largely maintenance-free.\n\n## Elements of a Wedding Ring\nAfter reading these helpful descriptions about the different elements that go into the design of a wedding ring, you’ll be a ring connoisseur. \n\n### Wedding Band Width\nRing bands come in varying widths from thin to thick. Besides affecting the overall aesthetic of the ring, a band’s width may also affect its comfort level, since it determines the amount of space being covered on your finger. Try on rings in different widths to be sure you’re choosing the right width for your finger (and for your engagement ring, if you’ll be wearing the two together. Here is the breakdown for a band’s size based on width:\n- __Thin:__ 1-3mm\n- __Medium:__ 4-6mm\n- __Thick:__ 7-10mm\n\n### Wedding Band Profile\nThe profile of a wedding band describes the shape of both the inside and outside of the ring. While there are several profile options, some are more popular than others. All ring profiles will affect the comfort of the ring, as it directly affects how the ring will rest on your finger.\n\n- __Court:__ this profile is the most traditional shape, with rounded corners both on the inside and outside of the ring that produce a comfortable fit. \n- __D-Shape:__ a D-shape ring is flat on the inside and rounded on the outside. It’s also very comfortable where the ring sits on the finger, and is a second traditional option. \n- __Flat:__ exactly how it sounds, a flat profile is flat on all sides. A flat ring looks chunky and substantial, but can require some getting used to fit-wise. \n- __Flat Court:__ a edgy profile with a more comfortable fit, a flat court ring looks flat from the outside but has a rounded inner edge. \n- __Flat-Sided Court:__ a flat-sided court ring is exactly like it sounds: a court ring (rounded inside and out) with flat sides. The flat sides give the ring a less domed profile, and also make it a good choice to rest alongside an engagement ring.\n- __Halo:__ a halo profile creates a band that is perfectly spherical all the way around. It’s one of the older and more classical shapes, as it was the easiest to design and make back in the day.\n- __Concave:__ another aesthetic choice, a concave ring has a rounded interior and a concave exterior for a unique band appearance. \n\n### Wedding Band Finish\nFrom shiny to matte, a ring’s finish has less to do with comfort and more to do with looks. Here are some popular types of wedding band finishes: \n\n- __Mirror:__ a polished finish with a shiny, reflective surface\n- __Fine Matte:__ a non-reflective, misty finish that doesn’t show any texture; created by tiny scratches in the surface.\n- __Coarse Matte:__ a non-reflective finish with visible texture; created by deeper scratches and embellishment on the surface.\n- __Hammered:__ a textured finish where the metal has been “hammered” to look dented all over.\n- __Sandblast:__ a textured finish caused by high-pressure sandblasting, resulting in a grainy appearance.\n- __Stardust:__ a more subtly textured finish with mixed areas of partial polish and partial sandblasting for a sparkling effect.\n\n## Wedding Ring Styles\n\nIt’s impossible to put together an exhaustive list of wedding ring styles, because the options out there are practically limitless. From simple, unadorned bands to complex designs featuring diamonds, etching, and mixed metals, you can most likely find any wedding ring you can dream up in your imagination. Here are some general wedding ring style categories that might help you understand, and then narrow down, the possible choices to find the look that’s right for you. \n\n### Minimalist Wedding Ring\nMinimalist wedding rings are simple, often just plain bands with little to no adornment. More embellished minimalist rings might include a row of small diamonds, a twisted rope or a flat-edge design, or an interesting textural finish. Minimalist wedding bands are great as subtle accents to more statement-making engagement rings. \n\n### Diamond Wedding Ring\n[Diamond wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_micropave_diamond_wedding_ring_14kwhitegold) include one or multiple diamonds in their design. See below for an explanation of different types of stone settings—each of these settings shapes the final look of the ring. From rows of tiny pavé diamonds to larger stones set within channels or bars, a diamond wedding band adds a touch of sparkle and luxury to your ring set. \n\n### Eternity Wedding Ring\nAn eternity band is a type of diamond wedding ring, but is distinctive in that the [diamonds encircle the entire band](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/edelweissjewelry_womens_diamond_eternity_band_18krosegold) instead of just being placed in the front half. Eternity bands can be expensive due to the number of stones required, but are beautiful statements of elegant symmetry. They are great choices for those who want to just wear a statement wedding band, rather than an engagement ring-band combo. \n\n### Enhancers Wedding Ring\nEnhancers are two separate (top and bottom) rings designed to curve around and, well, enhance an engagement ring. Enhancers can come in a variety of metals and colors, and frequently include additional diamonds or stones. Some brides choose to solder together their enhancers and engagement ring for one large, unified ring. \n\n### Matching Wedding Ring\nAs we’ve discussed, matching wedding rings are his-and-hers sets of bands that either complement or exactly mimic each other. You can match your partner’s band by metal, by color, or by stone—the style possibilities are as endless as the love commitment they represent.\n\n### Engraved Wedding Ring\nEngraved wedding rings include a touch of extra personalization in the form of your names, wedding date, and/or a short message engraved on the interior of the band. If having an engraved wedding ring is important to you and your partner, be sure you choose a ring style that can accommodate engraving, both in width and in material. \n\n## Types of Wedding Band Stone Settings\n\n### Channel Setting \nIn this setting, [gemstones sit side-by-side in a “channel”](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/nagijewelers_14k_gold_light_scoop_prong_diamond_wedding_band_.25_ctw_yellow) formed by a top and a bottom track of precious metal. The stones are flush with the ring’s exterior, rather than protruding out from it. \n\n### Pavé Setting\nPavé means “paved” in French, and this setting aims to “pave” the ring with tiny diamonds by setting them very closely together. The stones are secured with small beads or mini-prongs that are minimally visible. Pave settings [create abundant sparkle factor](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_tapered_pave_wedding_ring_rosegold). \n\n### Micro-Pavé Setting\nThe same concept as pavé, but with even smaller stones. [Micro-pavé settings](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_doublemicropave_wedding_ring_platinum) include stones that are smaller than 0.1 - 0.2 carats, which is the size usually used in pavé-set rings.\n\n### Bar Setting\nGemstones are separated by metal bars in this setting, which is most often seen in diamond wedding bands or other rings where the stones form a continuous circle around a large portion of the ring. \n\n### Shared Prong Setting\nDiamonds or other [gems placed side-by-side other share prongs](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/nagijewelers_14k_gold_deep_scoop_prong_diamond_wedding_band_1.00_ctw_yellow) in this setting. Shared prongs make sense for rings that contain a long row of adjacent stones, as less metal means room for more stones. \n\n### Flush Setting\nAlso known as a “gypsy” setting, the stone here is inset into a hole in the band so that it’s flush with the metal. A flush setting can look very modern, or more antique, depending on the metal and style, but either way this setting is great for protecting the stone.\n\n## Types of Wedding Band Materials\nChoosing the metal for your wedding ring is one of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make when it comes to buying wedding bands. The metal will affect not only how the ring looks, but how it wears, what kind of maintenance is required, and the price of the ring. Get a leg up on your wedding ring metal research with these helpful descriptions. \n\n### The Precious Metals\n- #### Yellow Gold\n [Yellow gold](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/markenewyork_mens_classic_matte_14k_gold_wedding_band_slim) is the warm-hued metal that’s associated with traditional wedding rings. Gold comes in different karat weights, which indicate its purity: the higher the karat weight, the more pure gold is present in comparison to other alloys, and the harder and more expensive it is. Gold is easy to repair and polish, but is also the most malleable precious metal. \n\n- #### White Gold\n White gold is yellow gold that’s been alloyed with palladium and silver to achieve a polished shine, and then plated with rhodium to provide a layer of protection and a bright, white appearance. Rhodium plating does wear after time, so if you want to keep a silvery sheen to your white gold ring, you’ll need to replate it every so often. \n\n- #### Platinum\n Platinum is the premier choice of precious metals for wedding rings. It’s the most rare, most lasting, and most durable—and also therefore the most expensive. It’s naturally white, bright color will never fade, and platinum is also hypoallergenic. \n\n- #### Palladium\n A member of the platinum family, [palladium has bright white sheen](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/christianbauer_palladium_18k_white_gold_brushed_wedding_band) that won’t fade and doesn’t scratch easily. It’s less dense than platinum (but still a pure alloy), meaning it’s a lightweight, durable option that’s much less expensive than platinum. \n\n- #### Silver\n Like yellow gold, silver is a long-standing precious metal used for making jewelry. It is less expensive than other precious metals, largely because it is softer and less durable. To improve its durability, pure silver is often rhodium-plated and/or mixed with sterling silver. Silver will also scratch and tarnish over time, so prepare to schedule regular maintenance. \n\n- #### Vermeil\n If you want the look of gold but the durability of sterling silver, vermeil is a great option. A vermeil ring is made of sterling silver that’s been plated with a thick layer of gold (anywhere from 10k to 18k in weight). Vermeil will hold up well for many years with proper care. \n\n### The Alternative Metals \n- #### Titanium\n Titanium has grown in popularity for wedding bands, especially for men, as it’s incredibly strong, durable, and lightweight. It has a slightly darker gray appearance rather than a bright-white sheen, and is also naturally hypoallergenic. While titanium can withstand many elements, including chlorine and salt water, it can scratch. \n\n- #### Cobalt Chrome\n Cobalt chrome is an alloy of [cobalt and chromium](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_meteorite_cobalt_chrome_wedding_band), and its bright white color most closely resembles platinum or white gold. It’s a popular choice for those who work with their hands for a living, as it is more scratch-resistance than titanium and nearly as lightweight. \n\n- #### Tungsten Carbide\n Tungsten Carbide is one of the most popular alternative metals due to its scratch-resistance and affordability. It comes in a variety of shades, from white to gray to black, and is much heavier than other alternative metals. Yet as it’s exceptionally hard, tungsten rings can actually shatter if they are dropped or suffers a blow. \n\n- #### Zirconium\n Another durable, anti-corrosive option, zirconium is similar to titanium is strength, weight, and hypoallergenic qualities. It naturally has a grey/white luster, however when treated with heat, it forms a black, scratch-resistance coating. Known as black zirconium, [this distinctive black look](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_zirconium_cross_satin_finish_wedding_band) (it can polished or left matte) has recently become very popular.\n\n- #### Steel\n Stainless steel is great for small budgets, as it offers durability and strength at a lower price point. It has a brighter sheen than titanium or zirconium, but isn’t quite as bright as palladium or platinum. Like many other alternative metals, it’s hypo-allergenic. \n\n- #### Silicone\n Silicone rings are gaining in popularity, as those with active lifestyles or hands-on work don’t want to risk damaging a traditional metal ring. Silicone is affordable, durable, comfortable, and can even be made to mimic the look of metal if you want to have a more classic wedding ring look. \n\n- #### Wood\n Whether inlaid in metal or made entirely out of wood, wooden wedding rings have a distinct appeal for their unique look, eco-friendliness, and affordability. They are good choices for those with metal allergies or those who work around heat or electricity. Since they’re easy to find in matching sets, some couples like the idea of exchanging wooden rings due to the symbolic strength, protection, and regeneration associated with trees. Of course, wood is much less durable than metal, so wooden rings will need to be kept dry and removed before activities that could cause damage or scratching. \n\n## What Hand Does The Wedding Ring Go On? \nWhile it might seem like a simple question with a simple answer, which hand the wedding ring goes on is actually a more complicated investigation than you might think. Like many good questions, the answer depends upon context and will change based upon when and where you’re putting on a wedding ring. \n\n### General American Custom\nIn the US, most women and men wear their wedding rings on the fourth finger of their left hand (aka the “ring finger”), due to a false but charming belief passed down from ancient Romans that there’s a vein running directly from the heart to this finger. Dubbed the vena amoris (“vein of love”), it only made sense that the wedding ring be placed on this lifeline as a symbol of enduring love and lifelong commitment. Modern medicine now tells us that this love vein doesn’t really exist, but the tradition has persisted. \n\nHowever in other European and South American countries such as Russia, Greece, Germany, and Colombia, men and women wear wedding rings on their right hand. Some same-sex couples also prefer to wear their rings on the right hand to set themselves slightly apart from heteronormative tradition. So really, whichever hand you prefer is fine! \n\n### What About The Engagement Ring? \nIn most Western countries, the engagement ring is also worn on the ring finger of the left hand. 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It doesn’t matter if you’re walking in the park hand in hand or grabbing a late-night milkshake—your proposal process can be as easy as you'd like it to be.\n\nPomp and circumstance have little place in your relationship. If this sounds like you—and it’s time to pop the question—don’t worry about doing something over the top. Just focus on your love and use one of our no-fuss marriage __[proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__.\n\n## Easy and Creative Proposal Ideas \n\n### 1. Include Your Outdoor Activities\nCouples who enjoy biking, hiking, horseback riding, or something more competitive like golf, beach volleyball, or another sport have ample opportunity to turn their beloved outdoor activity into a perfect proposal. In fact, proposing during any of these can end up making the activity all the more meaningful to you both (and if you __[plan on proposing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__ in the water, we recommend proposing with a __[silicone ring](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=silicone%20ring)__ and saving the __[precious metal one](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_diamond_milgrain_wedding_ring_18ktwhitegold)__ for when you’re on land).\n\n### 2. Head Out on a Hike\nInvite your loved one to join you on your favorite or most treasured trails for a romantic trek with a stunning backdrop, then wait for just the right moment on your journey to pop the question. Being alone with a view can make for a truly romantic atmosphere. A mountain, lake, or walk along the beach can easily suffice. Skip the professional photographer and set your phone up for a video pre-proposal. Tell your partner you're capturing the view, then capture the entire moment on camera!\n\n### 3. Make the Most of a Small Moment\nIf you’re the spontaneous type, keep the ring with you and wait for the right moment. How fun it would be to surprise your partner—and yourself!—when you decide to pop the question. Xiaoqi Li of __[Xiaoqi Li Photography](https://xiaoqili.com/)__ suggests, “Instead of a grand gesture, start the conversation during one of your favorite little moments you share daily or weekly.” Think shared morning coffee or breakfast, the ways you relax together after a long day (watching your favorite show? reading together?), or taking your beloved pet on a walk.\n\n### 4. Order in for the Night\nAt-home proposal ideas don’t need to be complex. Ordering pizza, Chinese, or just about any type of takeout food online can still serve as a creative proposal idea or romantic dinner—all in the comfort of your own home. When the food arrives, be sure you’re the one to answer the door, then securely slip the ring into the delivery box, onto a drinking straw, in with the fortune cookies, or into a bundle of cutlery. Let your significant other happen upon the bling and be ready to pop the question once he or she finds it. \n\nWant more inspiration for proposing at home? Check out our article for [29 more unique and romantic at home proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/at-home-proposal-ideas)!\n\n### 5. Watch a Movie With a Proposal Scene\nPlenty of proposal scenes throughout film history are endearing—some to the point of being emotional and moving. Embrace this living room proposal idea by __[hiding the ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_fivestone_diamond_wedding_ring_platinum)__ in a couch cushion or somewhere nearby and cueing up a movie like The Notebook, Pride and Prejudice, and more humorous options like The Wedding Singer\n\nAs the movie’s big moment gets closer, and when it does—pop the question. You can either use the words from the movie or wait until after the romantic scene has finished to ask, “Will you marry me?” For some shock or added humor, begin saying the proposal lines along with the film (seriously or humorously) before pulling out the engagement ring.\n\n### 6. Utilize Ribbon and Love Notes\n__[Unique and creative proposals](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ can often sound intimidating—especially if they bring forth thoughts of extensive ones from film and television. Don't fret. Oftentimes, all you need is a bit of thought and a few craft supplies. For example, all this __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal)__ requires is a long string of ribbon (or two, or three, depending on the size of your home) and some handwritten notes.\n\nSimply secure one end of a pretty ribbon at one end of your home—be it by tape, pin, or tying it off—and the other end on the opposite side. You can choose to get creative with the path, leading your partner in various directions, but don't have to. Then attach handwritten love notes along the ribbon with tape or a stapler. These notes can be a written out timeline of milestones in your relationship, different things you love about your partner, or some of your favorite memories together.\n\nAt the end of the ribbon, be there waiting with the ring box in hand. Share a few more heartfelt words with your partner, then pop the big question! Not only is this a thoughtful and surprising proposal, but it can also play off of the East Asian belief of The Red Thread of Fate—also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage. Or, if you're more familiar, Taylor Swift's \"Invisible String\" idea. Bonus points for playing the song.\n\n### 7. Fill a Room With Photographs\nPlenty of proposals include a verbal look back on your relationship history. Talking about your love story can be lovely and especially powerful during such an emotional moment. Play on that idea by incorporating special photographs from all throughout your relationship into your proposal plan.\n\nA few weeks before you plan to ask your partner to marry you, start collecting photos that have been taken from the time you started dating. Remember to look through your phone, social media accounts (including Instagram and Facebook), and computer. Once you start collecting, we suggest saving them into one folder.\n\nThen, simply have the photos printed. If you have a photo printer, you can do this right at home. If you don't mind the photos being printed on regular paper, you can also do this on a normal printer. And, of course, you can choose to have them printed at a local store. In any case, when you have all of the physical photos, place them all around the room you'll proposal in, like a relationship montage. They can be taped to the walls, framed, or displayed in any way you like. Lead your SO into the room, reveal the surprise, and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 8. Pop the Question at Your Favorite Spot\nIt's likely that by now you and your significant other have a few favorite spots you like to frequent. Or, perhaps there's a place you both love to go together that you don't get to go to very often. In either case, having your proposal at one of these places can be extremely special.\n\nThink about your most favorite restaurant, cafes, cocktail bars, movie theaters, and the like. Is there one that really stands out to you as both of your favorite spot to go together? If so, start making plans to go! If not, casually ask your partner if there's a place you both love that they'd like to go to again soon. Make it seem like a normal date idea.\n\nOnce you arrive at the spot, try to make the experience special—without giving anything away, of course. Because you've both been here before and enjoy the place, you can relax and focus on enjoying yourselves before proposing. When the timing seems right, bring out the ring box and propose.\n\n### 9. Pop the Question While Camping\nYes, __[camping](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=camping)__ can be a romantic proposal idea. It may seem a bit specific, but it can be as low-key as you can get. Send your SO out to grab firewood. When he or she gets back, be __[down on one knee](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/which-knee-should-you-propose-on)__, ready to pop the question. Just hope that he or she doesn’t take too much time finding kindling.\n\n### 10. Incorporate the Family\nChildren are adorable, and if you have any, they would love being involved. Have them make cute “Will you marry me?” signs, and designate one child as the __[smartphone photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos)__. Laughter and giggles will ensue, which is one reason that proposal ideas with kids are such a huge success.\n\n### 11. Steal a Moment Out in the Country\nIf you adore farm life or have access to a tractor or ATV, ask your partner to take a ride on a lovely day. While you’re out exploring, stop and pop the question. Other country proposal ideas include asking while you’re picnicking in a field or while relaxing after a long day of chores.\n\n### 12. Take a Sunset Walk on the Beach\n__[Vacations](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/raffles_100_gift_card)__ can be a perfect time to ask, “Will you marry me?” Beach proposal ideas are relatively plentiful. However, for the low maintenance couple, take a walk by the ocean at sunset. Doing so can be one of the most romantic ways to secure that “Yes!”\n\n### 13. Take Advantage of a Holiday\nIf your partner loves any particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's bending down on one knee in the middle of a Christmas tree farm, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 14. Plan a Game Night\nFor the couple that has a blast playing board games together, craft your at-home proposal into a game night. You can do this just between the two of you or invite your closest friends and family over to join in on the fun. Not sure how to work a proposal into a game? We think Scrabble is an easy and exciting way to go about it. If you have people over, suggest you all play the game. Then, have someone distract your SO while you spell out \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Finally, bring them back to the game table for the special moment.\n\n### 15. Set Up a Picnic\nPicnics with your partner are inherently romantic. Putting effort into an outdoor snack or meal together, especially with the right view, is sure to strike the right mood. You can go simple with a blanket and picnic basket of food or include some extra flourishes, like candles, champagne, fresh flowers, and chocolate covered strawberries.\n\n### 16. Say it With Music\nIf you're musically talented, an endearing proposal is likely right at your fingertips. Write or compose a special song that reflects on your relationship, talks about your hopes for the future, or dotes on your partner. Then, once you've played it, finish it off with your proposal. You can even write your proposal into the song, if you prefer.\n\n### 17. Involve Your Partner's Favorite Things\nIf your partner has a lot of love for any particular thing—a book, a film, a type of art, a place—do your best to incorporate it (or them) into your proposal. This can make asking them to marry you especially fun and special, since you're including something you know they care about. Some quick ideas include placing the engagement ring in their favorite book, recreating their favorite movie scene, and planning to make some art together and working in the big question.\n\n### 18. Have Your Pet Ask For You\nThere are a handful of adorable ideas when it comes to involving your pet in your proposal. For collared pets, consider getting a new tag that has \"Will you marry me\"? engraved in it. Similarly, you can purchase a bandana with the same phrase and tie it around your fury friend's neck. Some pets may be a bit more difficult to work around (birds, reptiles, fish), but with some creativity, any house animal can get it on the big moment.\n\n### 19. Have a Photo Shoot\nIf you're into photography, plan an outdoor or at-home photo shoot between you and your SO. This can start off with you taking photos of just them, or all along be self-timed shots of the two of you together. Just be sure you have the camera on both of you and ready to shoot when you surprisingly propose.\n\n### 20. Surprise Your Them With Fresh Flowers\nIt's one thing to surprise your significant other with some gorgeous flowers, but it's another entirely to turn that into a proposal. Get a hold of a beautiful bouquet either at a local grocery store or florist, or get them delivered right to your door. Then place the ring box or engagement ring among the blooms and (carefully!) gift them to your partner. Once they notice, start your proposal speech or pop the question.\n\n## First Comes Love, Then Comes Zola!\nRelationships take time and effort, yet there is no reason to stress out over the marriage ask. You and your partner know how to show love to each other. If that means a low-maintenance proposal, then so be it! No matter what you decide to do, the start of your life together will reflect you perfectly. In short, don’t be afraid to keep it simple. Some of the best proposal ideas are the simplest. So long as you've got yourself, your partner, and some heartfelt words, you've got everything you need. And when you need some help planning your wedding, Zola's got all the advice and tools you'll need, right here.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? 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","title":"Proposal Etiquette: How to Ask for a Father's Permission to Marry His Daughter?","slug":"proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1CrIRnIrgR2agUQxhfJpO1/c8b2a42c550da4bdc8ee4049a30801bb/Hero_BohoSummerWeddingatCampMontShenandoah_SabrinaSteelePhotography.jpg","altText":"Proposal Etiquette"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:55:00.947Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Proposals","slug":"proposals"},"slug":"can-you-propose-without-a-ring","title":"Tips for Proposing Without A Ring + 10 Alternatives","excerpt":"Don’t know if it’s okay to propose without a ring? Find out what our experts say by checking out our latest guide. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T18:32:15.371Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58Was5Fgz8kxScfS0XaaCE/0069bf3d28ceb04517d39c06a9c172fc/Hero_EtherealCoastalRomanceStyledShoot_ArleneJacobsPhotography.jpg","altText":"Propose Without a Ring"},"heroCredit":"Arlene Jacobs Photography","body":"Engagement rings — some people love them, some people hate them, but not every couple expects them. You can propose without a ring. Getting engaged is about deciding that you and your partner (AKA your soon-to-be fiance!) want to spend the rest of your lives together. That decision does not need to come with a piece of jewelry in a ring box—or anything else, for that matter. Any proposal that ends in a decision to get married is great. \n\nNonetheless, the [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings) has become the symbolic object of impending marriages everywhere. So what should you do if you’re planning to propose, but don’t want an engagement ring to be part of the moment—whether because you want a [low maintenance proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple), you want to propose with another piece of jewelry, or rings simply aren’t your partners style? The Zola team is here to walk you through the process. \n\n### Make Sure You’re Both on the Same Page\n\nEngagement rings are a big social signifier of being engaged, and some people don’t feel properly engaged unless they have a ring to show for it. You want to make sure your partner is on board with the idea of a marriage proposal without a wedding ring. You don’t want the absence of the ring to be the focus of your proposal. Even if the two of you generally forgo conventional [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions), people can be surprisingly attached to engagement rings. Before you plan your proposal, check-in with your partner to gauge their general feelings about rings. \n\nIf you’re more concerned that you won’t buy the right ring, then read on for suggestions on proposing before making your purchase. \n\n### Propose Now, Buy the Ring Later\n\nBuying an engagement ring is a big deal. Engagement rings are expensive, wildly different from one another, and something that your partner might wear for his or her entire life. A lot of people are hesitant to jump into such a big decision without the direct input of their partner. \n\nIf you’re planning to propose now and buy the ring later, you have a few options. You can propose with a heartfelt gift instead of a ring, such as a photo album with pictures that span your relationship or a particularly meaningful poem. If you propose without a ring—but want to show your partner that a ring is on the way—you can buy a temporary ring that’s a placeholder, such as a large candy rock ring or a paper mache ring. Or, you can make a certificate good for one ring-shopping experience together, and present this along with your proposal. \n\nThe idea is to convey that the ring will be part of your engagement period, but not part of your marriage proposal. \n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57BcxK1mE95lk4Lm73u7s6/2b0a8dfb2ff3b27e0dc68b7d9d44a2ee/Inline_Pixabay.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### The Decision to Ditch the Ring Entirely \n\nIncreasingly, many couples are foregoing engagement rings entirely. Some feel the tradition is antiquated, overly gendered, or simply an unneeded expense. When both partners agree, the decision to go without a ring is an easy one. \n\nThe more difficult part of this decision can be dealing with the negative feedback of family and friends. We’ve all heard the routine: When a woman gets engaged to be married, she’s often asked to show off her ring. (This is way less of an issue with men, who often don’t wear engagement rings.) Social media photos of engagement announcements often feature at least one, if not multiple, close-ups of the ringed finger. \n\nIf you decide to propose without a ring, you might want to prepare for the people in your life who will be upset by this decision. Not because you need to pander to them, but because you want to get ahead of those critiques. Plan out your one sentence, the calm and collected explanation that says that you don’t need a diamond ring to decide to get married, and move on. \n\n### Alternatives to Engagement Rings\n\nFor many people, the engagement ring is about the symbolism of the investment. The ring, for all its expense, implies permanence. In other words, the person is putting down some serious investment in the person by investing so seriously in a diamond ring. \n\nLots of other gifts can achieve these same goals when planning out a romantic proposal, though. When considering alternatives to the engagement ring, you want to consider gifts that come with some symbolic backstory and demonstrate a significant amount of investment, either emotional or financial. The goal is to convey that you are “all in” on this proposal and willing to back that up with some thought and personal investment. \n\n### 1. Buy a Watch \nIn recent years, it’s become more commonplace for women to propose to men to present them with a watch. This can be a beautiful way for a couple to take charge of the too-often gendered reality of proposals and guide the process themselves. Make sure the watch matches the style of your partner. \n\n### 2. Book a Vacation\nIn place of a ring, present your loved one with a planned vacation to a spot you both want to visit. The trip can be a way to spend time together and celebrate your decision to get married. This trip should be a truly exciting and adventurous proposal. \n\n### 3. Take An Adventure\nHas there been an adventure you and your partner have been wanting to experience together—like skydiving, rock climbing, or whitewater rafting? If so, plan an excursion for the two of you—and then cap off the adrenaline-filled day with a proposal they’re sure to remember for the rest of their life!\n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2BgqWB13HjPfxm0Y4EIkq1/cbd507a23bc64d94983561403ae90de6/Inline_Pixabay__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 4. Shop for Jewelry\nWho says you need a ring? If you want a gift that will last forever, but your partner isn’t interested in a ring, try another type of jewelry. Diamond earrings, pendant necklaces, or anything that you know your partner will love and adore can be a really beautiful gift for a proposal.\n\n### 5. Offer a Family Heirloom\nIf you want to give your significant other jewelry to signify your engagement, it doesn’t need to come from the jewelry store. An heirloom from your family (like your mothers’s necklace or a bracelet your grandfather gifted your grandmother when they got engaged) is a meaningful symbol of love—and a great way to propose.\n\n### 6. Plan The Perfect Surprise Proposal\nNot all engagement gifts need to be physical items. If your partner is the kind of person that watches proposal videos on YouTube, planning an over-the-top surprise proposal (like a flash mob!) is the perfect way to begin the rest of your lives together. \n\n### 7. Buy a House\nThis is a rather dramatic option, but for the right couple, a stunning gesture can be to present your loved one with the home you want to live in, with them, forever.\n\n### 8. Go Romantic\nLet’s just say again that no proposal needs a big, expensive gift. Sometimes the best proposal is one that comes straight from the heart. A romantic gift, which might be anything from tracking down some beloved childhood toy to putting together a recipe book of her favorite family dishes, can be the absolute right choice. The point is to show that you care and that you’re putting your love on full display. Think of a gift that will make your partner feel overwhelmed with love, and you’ll be on the right track.\n\n### 9. Write It In The Sky\nIf you want to propose in a way your partner will never forget, using a skywriting service to write your proposal in the sky is a fun, memorable way to ask for their hand in marriage.\n\n### 10. Create Something From Scratch\nYou don’t have to buy something to propose. If you’re the crafty type, building or creating something handmade (for example, building a table or creating a painting) can be a personal way to commemorate such a special day. \n\n## Tips to Propose Without A Ring\nNeed some more tips popping the question—but without the bling? Here are some things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Be clear__. When someone sees an engagement ring, it’s clear what’s happening—and, as such [what you say during your proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple) isn’t as critical; they’ll get the idea. But if you’re going to propose without a ring, it’s super important that you’re clear—and make sure to distinctly ask “will you marry me?” Otherwise, your partner might not know you’re proposing!\n\n- __Set the mood__. Ring or no ring, you want your proposal to be special—so make sure to set the mood and create a memorable backdrop for your engagement (for example, by choosing the perfect song, filling the space with flowers, or lighting candles). \n\n- __Consider involving friends and family__. If you really want your proposal to be a celebration, consider inviting friends and family to witness the big moment and/or celebrate with you immediately afterwards. Who needs an engagement ring when you’re surrounded by the people you love most?\n\nEven if your proposal idea doesn’t include a diamond ring to match, that doesn't mean you have to wait until you have one. Sometimes people don't want fancy jewelry. No matter how you choose to propose, just be sure that both individuals are on the same page.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Planning a wedding proposal is no joke. Make sure you’re prepared by following this wedding proposal checklist. ","title":"Wedding Proposal Checklist","slug":"wedding-proposal-checklist","topic":"Getting engaged","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yu05UOJ3vPezTnlJkOJFR/0a404fe21dbe265fcda15418ce693871/Hero_ClassicKeyWestOceanfrontAffair_LivingWaterImages.jpg","altText":"Wedding Proposal Checklist"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. 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Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T17:03:43.838Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7c3zU7NCSq4IdpOmArMWZM/a37b0e47c1323e761830de9dc0b9e0a3/Hero_IntimateMountaintopElopementStyledShoot_RaynaMcginnisPhotography.jpg","altText":"Guide to Proposing to a Man"},"heroCredit":"Rayna Mcginnis Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- If *you* want to be the one to pop the question, know you're not alone! 2% of women today propose to their male partners, a trend that's bound to grow as more couples challenge gender norms.\n- You don’t need a ring to propose to your man. You can present a card, a watch, a gift, or nothing at all. \n- If you decide to kneel when you propose, make sure your outfit allows for the task. \n- Have a strategy for when—and how—to announce the engagement to family and friends. \n","body":"We all know how popular culture portrays the classic marriage proposal: the man on one knee, the proffered ring box, the woman overcome with emotion. It’s an image that needs no explanation. Even in a modern world, the kneeling man with a perfect ring remains the visual reference point for a wedding proposal. \n\nAccording to a [recent Zola survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men), __only 2% of women today propose to their male partners.__ The #1 thing holding most women back from feeling like they can propose is the idea of the \"perfect proposal\" that society-at-large, the media, and the wedding industry has shaped for them. \n\nBut the truth is that there's no right way, or right person, to propose. __Zola is setting out to celebrate couples who embrace the endless possibilities with all aspects of their weddings, and that includes reimagining what proposals should look like.__ The water can still be tricky to navigate, as there’s a real lack of guidance on the subject. Luckily, the Zola team is here to help with the woman’s guide to proposing to a man. \n\n\n\n## Deciding to Propose \n\nThe best time to propose is after you and your partner know that you want to get married. For many couples, the formal proposal is the last step in a much longer series of conversations about marriage. You don’t want your moment of proposal to be the first time you and your partner have ever discussed marriage. While the proposal itself might be a surprise—the day, the time, the method of asking—the question itself shouldn’t shock your partner, especially if you have friends or family present for the big moment.\n\n- __If you’ve never discussed marriage, first open up the conversation.__ How do each of you envision the next step of your relationship? If you sense your partner is reluctant to commit, do not propose as a way to force their hand.\n- __There is also the big question of when you hope to plan your wedding.__ Some couples don’t like to have an extended engagement, and so one partner might propose only when they’ve decided on an ideal wedding date.\n-__You should also consider work schedules and other big family announcements.__ Proposing right before a two-week work trip or having your engagement announcement conflict with his sister’s wedding is not ideal.\n\nOf course, some couples get engaged during an informal, spontaneous conversation in which one partner asks the other to marry them. This organic moment can be very intimate and beautiful. Some couples might choose to follow up with a more elaborate proposal idea, and some will consider the question asked and answered.\n\nFor a woman, deciding to be the one who proposes can also mean making waves in traditional marriage protocol. This might matter to some brides, and it might be no big deal to others. But the proposal remains one of the few gendered marriage rituals, even among otherwise egalitarian social groups. You might be surprised by the reaction of family and friends to your decision to ask the big question. \n\nIf you haven’t discussed it at all with your partner, you might be surprised by his reaction, too. [Zola's recent survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men) revealed that __though more than half (58%) of women believe that their male partner would not be okay with them proposing, but most men (93%) would have said \"Yes\" if they were poposed to.__ Though we hope this is reassuring, checking in with your partner first is one of the most important things in [how to plan a proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question). For all you know, he was planning an elaborate proposal of his own. If your partner is a pretty traditional guy, check in with him about his general feelings around proposals. Proposals should be delightful surprises, not come with unexpected reactions. \n\n![How to Propose to a Man | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5teyNUVOJguI4VGtDpRyQL/bb2eb87835ca683b6f56654e4d74ed66/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### What to Do About the Ring \n\nThe proposal is about asking someone to marry you, and finding out if the answer is yes—that’s it. There certainly doesn’t need to be a [ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/womens-wedding-rings) involved to make that happen. As such, many women decide to propose and then discuss the question of buying rings separately from the decision to get married. \n\nIn recent years, an alternative tradition has emerged for women to buy the man a watch when they propose, symbolizing the time they will spend together. If you go this route, then make sure to pay close attention to your partner’s style and taste in watches. This should be a substantial purchase that he will wear for years to come, and you want to make sure he likes it. You could even go watch shopping together.\n\nSome women want to have something on hand for the moment they propose, but a ring or a watch doesn’t quite fit their vision. You can get creative with your proposal idea. Maybe present him with a heartfelt card about why you want to get married or a gift that will be particularly meaningful to him. This might be something of sentimental value, tickets to his absolute favorite band, or plans for a once-in-a-lifetime trip together. Again, the most important thing is to mark the moment as meaningful for you as a couple.\n\nIf you do want a ring to be a part of the proposal, you have a few options. You can give him a wedding band that he can choose to wear after the wedding, you can present him a ring that he will choose to wear as an engagement ring, or you can buy him a ring he might wear on his right hand until the wedding.\n\n### To Kneel or Not to Kneel \n\nThe tradition of kneeling in order to ask someone to marry you is very old. In many traditional contexts, kneeling is a sign of respect that demonstrates loyalty and allegiance. Knights, for example, knelt before their king and queen, and in many religions the faithful will kneel in front of an altar, respected clergy, or sacred image as a way to pay homage and respect. Similarly, the man knelt before the woman to symbolize the honor it was to ask for her hand.\n\nFor a lot of people, the gesture of kneeling feels symbolic and meaningful for a wedding proposal. Women who want to kneel when they ask the question should definitely do so. If you have a gift to offer, make sure it’s in easy reach before you go down on that one knee. If you’re not offering a gift, then kneel down and take your partner’s hand when you ask the question, or keep your hands on your knee.\n\nYou should also be dressed for the occasion. Don’t wear a tight pencil skirt or high stilettos, as it will make the kneeling position more difficult. You want some stretch in your clothes. You should also be mindful of short, flowy skirts that might blow in the wind or prove too revealing in the position. Some people find trousers the easiest option. Whatever you wear, practice kneeling in your outfit beforehand, so you’re not caught off guard during the moment.\n\nFor women who don’t want to kneel, but want to physically mark the moment, there are gestures of intimacy you can adopt. You can take your partner’s hands and look into his eyes as you ask him to marry you, for example. \n\n![A Woman’s Guide to Proposing to a Man](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bx7x4OgpR86pHSmiaCidz/c465dae3d736b459f6f4f298dd9dd243/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Proposal Tips\nAs with any proposal, those planning to propose to their man could benefit from a few quick tips. Before diving head-first into things, read the following. Keep them top-of-mind as you plan what's sure to be a day (or evening, or night) to remember.\n\n- __Be completely sure you're ready.__ Check in with yourself and make sure you aren't feeling any sort of uncertainty. Know that you're proposing, because you and your partner are ready to make things official and step into married life together.\n- __Consider your partner's feelings.__ Equally as important is where your partner is at with your relationship. Before proposing, have a conversation and make sure you're on the same page. At this point, it shouldn't be about if, but when.\n- __Tailor your proposal to your partner.__ Remember: You aren't planning your dream proposal, but his (or the both of yours, if your tastes here align). Shape your proposal to your SO's personality and/or passions.\n- __Be sensitive to several reactions.__ Gender roles typically have a man proposing to his partner. If you haven't floated the idea of you proposing to them, be prepared for an sensitive to a variety of reactions. There's a chance he may be disappointed he didn't get to ask you first. In that case, suggest that he ask you in return at another time of his choosing. Having asked each other is a lovely thought and will make for wonderful proposal stories.\n- __Prepare.__ You know the saying, *failing to prepare*... Well, the same can be said for any and all proposals. Have a backup plan or two in mind in case the weather shifts, you can't make it to your planned location, people can't show, or any other array of things goes wrong. In any case, always roll with the punches and remember what matters: That you're asking your partner to spend the rest of your lives together. Your partner won't know your new plan from the actual proposal plan.\n\n## Special Proposal Ideas\nEquipped with your newfound information, it's time to brainstorm some proposal plans. At the heart of things, your proposal should be genuine and heartfelt. That being said, a few [fun and creative ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) never hurt. Read on for some of our favorite ideas.\n\n### 1. A Beach or Hike Proposal. \n\nFor the couple that loves to be outdoors together, plan a proposal that takes place on the beach or at the end of your beau's favorite hike. A major pro, here, is that you can have family members and best friends waiting nearby to surprise your SO post-proposal. This proposal is also fairly easy to put together, depending on any extra details you might include, and can be very cost-efficient.\n### 2. Involve your pets. \n\nIf you and/or your SO have a beloved pet, get them involved in asking the big question. For example, purchase (or make) a bandana that says, \"Will you marry me?\" and tie it around your pet's neck while out on a walk. This surprise proposal makes for a lovely moment you're both sure to remember for the rest of your lives.\n\n### 3. A Holiday Proposal. \n\nAnother proposal idea for those who want loved ones nearby is to pop the question during a favored holiday. Plan a special moment in advance (e.g. Christmas tree shopping, the countdown during New Year's Eve) or keep the ring on you and let spontaneity decide. Either approach is sure to get a sentimental SO's \"I do.\"\n\n## Announcing the Engagement \n\nWomen and men will often announce their engagement in gendered language, for example proclaiming “she said yes!” or “I said yes!” to share the good news. Similarly, social media is full of engagement pictures that are nothing but a woman’s hand with a perfect ring, announcing the engagement without any words.\n\nFor women who propose to their partners, it can be tricky to find the right language. Some couples want to celebrate the fact that the woman popped the question. This can be a great way to flip any stereotypes on their head and normalize women proposing to men. You can take some fun pictures captioned “he said yes!” or “I can’t believe I convinced this guy to marry me” to share with family and friends. This is a time to have fun.\n\nOther couples may opt to put the focus on the upcoming marriage and not the proposal. Social media captions such as “we’re getting married!” is a more forward-focused way to let people know about the engagement.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? Arrange the perfect proposal for your partner with these creative ideas. From romantic to adventurous, there's one for you!","title":"50 Unique Marriage Proposal Ideas [+ Printables]","slug":"proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6dR1PxiYWKzfOfBhHANhYv/cd70212d7dfbc320706b4488eed2dd13/proposal-ideas-2.jpg","altText":"proposal idea hero image of person holding engagement ring box"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. 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Check out our latest article for all our top tips and tricks.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T21:35:40.650Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZSvx7fS927GXT72ZS6XYW/3278ca8712f9f8e9edeac2ca35019fa1/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography.jpg","altText":"Surprise Proposal"},"heroCredit":"Creatrix Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Surprise proposals can be exciting, but be sure that it’s the right type of proposal for your partner. \n- Be careful who you tell, and don’t leave clues, such as the ring or receipt, where your SO can find them. \n- Do things to distract your partner, such as using a different credit card and throwing them off the proposal trail.\n","body":"Life affords many surprises. While there’s the wrong kind—cracking your iPhone screen or a flat tire—many unexpected circumstances are oh-so-right. Popping the question is one of those, but coming up with romantic ways to keep your big moment a secret can be difficult.\n\nIf you’re trying to pull off a __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__, there are creative ways to fly under the radar. Below, our experts share a number of __[best wedding proposal ideas/best proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__ on how to inspire the perfect proposal story, so you'll have no issues in planning that special moment without your partner knowing, helping you continue to shape your love story—and the rest of your life together. Let’s look at some unique marriage proposal ideas/unique proposal ideas.\n\n## How to Pull Off the Best Surprise Proposals \n\n### 1. Be careful who you tell about your epic proposal\nYour __[friends and family](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)__ could have the best intentions, but some have loose lips. Others get so nervous about keeping a secret that they act awkwardly and arouse suspicion. If you need to rely on others to pull off your surprise proposal, use caution. Remind them that it’s essential to keep their eye on the prize and not let one word—or glance—slip. \n\n### 2. Ensure that your marriage proposal is well planned.\nChances are your SO will be clued in if you’re acting nervous or distracted. Don’t leave the planning of your __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/classic-marriage-proposal-ideas)__ to the last minute. Have everything in place, such as a beautiful setup and a proposal photographer. If others are involved, be sure that they are clear on their role and know exactly what to do when. A well-organized plan will help you relax and act naturally until it’s time to pop the question. \n\n### 3. Guard your devices before you pop the question.\nThe last thing you want your partner to do is to read a stray text that pops in. Put conversations with everyone involved on mute. Turn off notifications if you have to do so. Your faraway mom may send you a “good luck popping the question” text. Yikes! How do you explain that to your partner? It’s best to keep track of your smartphone, but don’t let that spark suspicion, either. Just make sure there are no accidental slips, so it can remain a total surprise.\n\n### 4. Distract them to throw them off the trail. \nIf you’re afraid that they’ll sense something is coming, throw them off course. Have your SO anticipate a marriage proposal at a different time or location than you planned. When they assume that you’ll be popping the question next month, imagine their shock when you propose this week. Distraction can be one of the best ways to divert their attention from what’s going on. \n\n### 5. Hide the engagement ring and anything that has to do with it.\nIn the words of __[Antoine Dodson](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzNhaLUT520&list=FLBk90eKSRwxjUUZMbUkmVag&index=20)__, “Hide yo ring, hide yo box, hide yo bag.” Oh, wait—that’s not what he said? Well, it’s what he would have said if someone was asking him about the best surprise proposal ideas. That said, don’t leave anything—__[ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring)__, box, receipt, and for heaven’s sake, the jewelry store bag—where your partner can find it.\n\n### 6. Stick to the routine.\nUnless you’re an ultra-spontaneous couple, changing plans can be a big red flag. Your partner may already know a __[ring is coming](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_fivestone_wedding_ring_14ktwhitegold)__, and senses can heighten at anything out of the norm. When planning surprise wedding proposals, it’s best to develop a plan that includes your everyday routine. Ask while at your favorite restaurant on a Tuesday night. Pop the question at your favorite team’s next home game. Keep it simple and undetectable. \n\n### 7. Don’t use a joint credit card or account to purchase the ring.\nWhen your charge card bill is double what it typically is, your SO will be looking at line items. Another big surprise-spoiler is a __[high-dollar charge](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__—or possibly any charge—from XYZ jewelry store. Do your best to pay cash, use store credit, or get a new card to pay.\n\nReady for some covert operations? No matter what attempts you make, your partner may be alerted if they’re naturally suspicious or a super sleuth. If they figure it out, change course and start with a new plot. No matter the method, doing your best to plan the ultimate surprise proposal will __[pay off in the long run](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement)__.\n\n## Pros and Cons\n### Pros\n- __Fond memories.__ When many people look back at getting engaged, the surprise is what's greatly admired and remembered.\n\n- __Creativity and dedication.__ Your partner may deeply appreciate the creativity, time, and work put into a special surprise proposal.\n\n- __Tradition.__ Many significant others consider the surprise aspect of a proposal necessary and, thus, __[part of the whole tradition](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__.\n\n### Cons\n- __Uncertainty.__ If you're uncertain whether or not your partner is ready to get engaged, don't spring a surprise proposal—especially not in front of other people.\n\n- __Keeping the secret.__ Proposal planning can be difficult to pull off in secret. If you're worried you'll give it away or that any suspicious behavior will come off badly, skip the secrecy.\n\n- __Not into surprises.__ Surprise engagements don't excite everybody. If your partner isn't typically a fan of surprises (or you aren't a fan of pulling them), don't try to force it.\n\n## 21 Surprise Proposal Ideas\n\n![How to Pull Off a Surprise Proposal | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5mvq6UvIYPZo3H3Nc7gtjl/10c5acb04946d100d45dc10b4bee2bbf/Inline_Pixabay__2_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 1. Recreate a movie scene\nIf you and your partner are big film fans—or fans of one film, in particular—base your surprise proposal on a certain scene. This will be easier if the scene itself is a proposal (à la Pride and Prejudice, Love Actually, and Crazy Rich Asians), but don't be discouraged if it isn't. Even Star Wars and Lord of the Rings moments can have a proposal built into them. You can take this as far as you'd like, with a special setting, costumes, or the movie playing in the background. Surprise your SO with the set up and performance, followed by asking them to marry you.\n\n### 2. Take advantage of a holiday\nIf your partner loves a particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's doing a Christmas proposal in the middle of gift-giving, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt that ends with a ring, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 3. Recreate your first date\nIf your first date was memorable or extra special, consider recreating it. Café, restaurant, park, or otherwise, plan a day or night out at your first date spot, ring in tow. Once there, settle in and have a good time. When you're ready to propose, start reminiscing about your first date. Not only what happened, but how you felt about your partner. Then, when you feel the time is right, bring out the ring and propose.\n\n### 4. Hold a game night\nFor the couple that loves a night in with loved ones, prepare for the perfect surprise. Invite close family and best friends over for a game night, in which you've crafted your proposal into one of the games. Not sure how to do this? We think Scrabble is an easy way to go. Ask someone to distract your partner in another room as you pull the game out and place \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Then, bring them back in to play. When they notice the big question, get down on one knee and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 5. Have a photo shoot\nIf you're a frequent photographer, consider planning a photoshoot. You can ask to take photos of your significant other or suggest a couple's shoot. The latter works especially well if a holiday is coming up, like Valentine's Day or Christmas. Start snapping away, then, at the end of the shoot, get in front of the camera, get down on one knee, and propose! Just make sure you're getting photos as it happens. Bonus: You'll immediately have engagement photos you can share with family and across social media.\n\n### 6. Gift them flowers\nSurprise proposals don't need to be big productions, nor do they need to be very public. For the __[low-key couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__, consider slipping the engagement ring or ring box into a bouquet of flowers. Bring a bouquet home from a local grocery store or florists (or have the flowers delivered), carefully place the ring amidst the blooms, and give them to your partner. They'll be in for not one, but two sweet and intimate surprises.\n\n### 7. Take a walk along the beach\nWhether you're on vacation or live near the coast, a beach proposal is extremely romantic. What's more, it's very easy to pull off. Slip the ring box in your pocket and take a walk along the shoreline with your partner, perhaps during sunrise or sunset. When the time feels right, surprise your SO by getting down on one knee. You can also have friends and family standing by, waiting to jump out and celebrate.\n\n### 8. Plan a boat ride\nIf you live near the water and have access to a boat (don't forget rentals!), plan a day or evening out at sea. Gather friends or family to join you for extra fun—and to not tip your partner off to the surprise. Then, when the sun is setting or you feel the time is right, propose to your partner. Tell a friend or family member when you're just about to do it so they can get the whole gorgeous scene on video from nearby.\n\n### 9. Take a special trip\nNot everyone can jet off at a moment's notice, but you can plan a special trip ahead of time. Jet-setting to a different country, taking a road trip to a nearby destination, and everything in-between can work wonderfully for a surprise proposal. Even stay-cations can be very romantic. Wherever you end up, once you've settled, pick a beautiful location and ask your partner the big question. You'll both love the ability to celebrate after, be it by relaxing or adventuring.\n\n### 10. Host an engagement party\nNothing says \"surprise\" like a party. Plan your proposal at a location where you can also host an engagement party afterwards. Consider restaurants, nice bars, hotels, and even your home. You don't have to go all out with your budget, but can definitely splurge on a big celebration if you want to. Simply plan a \"date night\" with your partner, get them to dress for the occasion, and bring them to the spot. Once there, surprise them with a romantic proposal and the arrival of your loved ones.\n\nSurprise proposals can be tough to pull off. Even the simplest of ideas run the chance of being spilled. That being said, try not to put too much pressure on yourself. So long as the moment is meaningful and your words come from the heart, your partner is sure to love whatever efforts you put in.\n\n### 11. Organize a flash mob\nGet together with loved ones—or hire professional dancers—to coordinate and organize a flash mob proposal. Then, take your partner somewhere public—like a park, mall, or beach—where the waiting flash mob will spring into action to help you pop the big question. (A flash mob works especially well for outdoor proposals!)\n\n### 12. Hide the ring in your Christmas tree\nThe holidays make for an especially romantic and magical time of year, so why not use them to come up with the perfect proposal? Before you go to bed on Christmas Eve, hide the ring box in the Christmas tree. On Christmas morning, call special attention to “one more gift” before your partner pulls the box out of the branches.\n\n### 13. Visit Disney for a fairytale proposal\nIt’s called the Magic Kingdom for a reason. What’s more magical than proposing in front of Disney’s Cinderella Castle? Enchant your partner and have them feel like they’re living a fairytale by popping the question while surrounded by the magic and classical beauty of some of their favorite characters and stories.\n\n### 14. Ride a ferris wheel\nWith the stars above and city lights flickering in the distance, a ferris wheel proposal is a surefire way to surprise your partner. For the best effect, wait until the ferris wheel is at its apex, with a vast and stunning view to serve as the backdrop when you pull out the ring and have your big moment.\n\n### 15. Hide the ring inside a fortune cookie\nCracking open a fortune cookie and reading your fortune is always fun. But what if, instead of a fortune, that cookie hid an engagement ring instead? Next time you order Chinese takeout, slip away with one of the cookies and heat it in the microwave quickly to help it open up before secreting the ring inside of it. When it’s time for your partner to read their fortune, dazzle them with a beautiful engagement ring! (It’ll definitely be the most memorable cookie they’ve ever had!)\n\n### 16. Go for a hot air balloon ride\nCruising through the sky on a hot air balloon is a great way to enjoy a little bit of excitement and romance with your loved one. As you drift over and past the natural beauty below, pull out the ring and ask for your partner’s hand in marriage for a truly surprising—and breathtaking—proposal. (Just make sure to share your plan with the pilot and staff first).\n\n### 17. Put together a jigsaw puzzle\nPuzzles are always more fun when you’re not sure what the final result should look like. Purchase or create a jigsaw puzzle for the perfect surprise proposal by encouraging your partner to gradually piece it together until it’s all but obvious that you’re asking “will you marry me?”\n\n### 18. Climb a mountain in a ski lift\nIf you and your partner enjoy hitting the slopes, a ski lift is the perfect surprise proposal idea. As the lift caresses over the gentle snow-covered slopes of your favorite resort with the promise of a warm hot chocolate in each of your near-futures, get down onto your knee and ask to share the rest of your lives together.\n\n### 19. Hire a skywriter\nFor a grandiose and surprising proposal, invite your partner to join you somewhere with a great and unobstructed view of the sky—ideally on a day with clear weather and little cloud cover. When you hear the whirring engine of a low-flying plane above, direct your partner’s attention to it and pull out the ring just in time for the pilot to finish writing out the big question against the clear blue sky.\n\n### 20. Spend a night stargazing\nStars shine brilliantly for millions of years with the same amount of energy with which you love your partner. For this surprise proposal idea, head out somewhere with a clear view of the night sky and little light pollution, roll out a blanket onto the ground (or enjoy the soft grass against your backs), and stare up at the sky overhead. Point out your favorite constellations and, when the time is right, pull out the ring and share your speech beneath the night sky.\n\n### 21. Create a treasure hunt\nFor another perfect proposal idea, think of all the places you and your partner consider special or important, like the place you had your first date and your favorite restaurant. Hide clues in or at each of these places to create a trail of breadcrumbs your partner can follow until the end, where the final treasure awaits: a beautiful proposal ring and a heart-warming speech in which you ask to spend the rest of your lives together.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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It’s official: Everyone’s opting for these months—and here’s why.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2022-01-06T22:41:32.982Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1RBNfTEOwI6UdlwKrEQqw0/8bddc5094111a16de83743ba5ec39212/1116_EA_FLR-Months_Everyones_Getting_Engaged.jpg","altText":"top months to get engaged and married"},"heroCredit":"Katie Dawn Photo","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- This year the __most popular months to get engaged and married__ look a little familiar. Below we cover all of the ‘whens’ and ‘whys.’\n- Due to extended engagements and brewing excitement, 2023 will see an __earlier wedding season than usual__.\n- The __top months to get engaged__ haven’t seen too much change, being influenced mostly by the holidays, time spent with loved ones, and the weather.\n- However, the __top months to get married__ have shifted from April and May, to October, September and June.\n","body":" \nWhen a couple gets engaged or married is typically based on a number of factors. Holidays, breaks from work and school, and—perhaps most notable—weather, all play into the month that someone proposes or says I do. In fact, __[wedding season](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-season-should-you-get-married-in)__ exists for these exact reasons.\n\nThis coming year, things are looking a bit familiar to popular wedding months of the past. While some of the most popular times to get engaged and married remain mainstays, we’re seeing new months on couples’ radars and an overall shift in 2023’s projected wedding season. It’s official: Everyone’s getting engaged and married in these months. Here’s why.\n\n## Top Months to Get Married \nWith 2023 coming off the heels of one of the busiest wedding seasons ever, it's no surprise to see the most popular wedding months pre-pandemic rising back to the top. \n\nAfter last year's shift due to postponed weddings, [September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) returns to the #1 most popular wedding month for 2023. Summertime and early fall typically host the most weddings, next year’s couples have set the most dates between May and September.\n\n### September\nMany people’s calendars are marked up with wedding dates and summer vacations during the summer months. __[September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__, however, sees a decrease in packed plans, making it ideal for couples with longer guest lists. Guests have more time and availability for early [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/november-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) and are more likely to attend your celebration. September also embodies that desired fall feeling many engaged couples are after, while still offering the warm weather present at the end of summer. Add in the three-day Labor Day weekend, and many are sold on this being the best time of year.\n\n### June\n__[June weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/june-wedding-everything-you-need-to-know)__ are well-liked for many of the reasons that we’ve already covered. However, the month is also steeped in history and tradition. For one, June is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage and childbirth, and thus long considered a favorable month to get married. Nowadays, June weddings are often sought after for more practical reasons. The beginning of summer has great weather, school break offers flexibility, and you can choose an outdoor wedding venue.\n\n### May\nMay weddings enjoy many of the benefits that June weddings do, such as nice weather and the accompanying flexibility. May is one of the months of the year that’s less likely to clash with plans, such as summer vacations and weddings. On that note, guests won’t suffer from wedding fatigue, which is possible during the busy summer wedding season. For many venues and vendors, a May spring wedding falls outside peak summer pricing. For couples that prioritize sticking to a budget, this month provides all of the perks of a summer wedding without the extra cost.\n\n### October\nThe reasons why October sees so many weddings are similar to why it sees so many engagements. In many places, it’s the perfect post-summer temperature, and vibrant fall colors have started to paint mountains, trees, and landscapes. You can also use deeper, moodier, or cozier decor than is usually seen in the spring or summer. An autumn wedding also opens the door to fun and seasonal food and cocktail options. __[Halloween](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-put-together-a-spooky-halloween-wedding)__ also gives couples the chance to throw the ultimate themed ceremony and reception in potentially cold weather, especially on the east coast.\n\n### April\nAlthough April showers can occur, this seems to be the only downside to having a wedding this month. When it isn’t raining, couples and their guests can enjoy comfortable weather, with temperatures anywhere from the fifties to the eighties throughout the US. [April](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/april-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) also has a popular and traditional context, making it a favorable month. After all, William and Kate chose April 29th, and the Romans considered April the Sacred Month of Venus, the Goddess of love and fertility.\n\n### July\nOne of the first things that come to mind with a mid-summer wedding is the high likelihood of fantastic weather. In many parts of the US, there is a very low risk of showers or strong winds, which is a great relief for those who want an outdoor ceremony or destination wedding. The days are longer, an abundance of flowers and fresh fruits are in season, and people are more willing to spend time traveling and socializing.\n\n## Top Months to Get Engaged \nWith that in mind, let’s start by looking at the months when people get engaged. This data hasn’t been seen as big of a change, likely due to proposals being a more intimate experience. That is to say, not many couples plan on having all of their loved ones present for it.\n\nMore often, proposals involve the couple, if not a handful of close friends and family members. This has made getting engaged throughout the last year easier to manage, with the usual factors such as weather, time off from work and school, and holidays having the largest influence. \n\n### December\nThe holiday season has long reigned supreme when it comes to the most popular months to get engaged—and we can’t say that we’re surprised. December brings with it feelings of thankfulness and love in the winter months. It’s the time that we’re most likely to be surrounded by loved ones, many of whom couples want to share these special moments with, which is one reason winter weddings are popular. With loved ones near, holiday cheer, and many towns decked out in festive decor, it is no surprise it is such a beloved time of the year to get engaged.\n\n### May\n[May](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/may-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) is one of the best months and lands in that nice place between late spring and early summer, with sunnier weather making an appearance in many places. Warmer days and the long Memorial Day weekend begin to coax people outside, making outdoor proposals much easier to pull off. Another plus to getting engaged in May is that it leads seamlessly into summer; a time when __[celebrating your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ and beginning wedding planning becomes more manageable due to summer break and people’s availability opening up.\n\n### October\nWith fall kicking off just a few weeks earlier, __[October](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/october-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__ is a prime time to take advantage of the best weather. Come mid-October, most of the US sees the arrival of fall foliage, a great excuse to drive into the mountains or take a surprise trip upstate. A vibrant, gorgeous autumn backdrop makes quite the backdrop for a proposal. Of course, we can’t go without mentioning Halloween, as spirited couples who go all out find it an especially special day to get engaged.\n\n### March\nLate March marks the beginning of springtime peak season, a time representative of renewal, rebirth, and fresh new beginnings. It’s a wonderful time to celebrate the start of something new, especially with the return of warmer weather and new blooms. Spring break starts around mid-March, allowing couples with children to make a sunny escape full of adventure and relaxation. This month also has two holidays that provide the perfect time: St. Patrick’s Day (especially if you or your partner are Irish) and National Proposal Day.\n\n### June\nSummer is finally in full swing, and with it comes sunny skies, large family gatherings, and the chance to go on trips with your significant other. Many couples take advantage of the typically warm weather by spending time together at their favorite outdoor spots near or far from home. Moreover, school’s out for summer, which means that couples or significant others with children can more easily involve them in the proposal. All of this provides ample opportunity for exciting engagements in all parts of the country.\n\n### February\nThough Valentine’s only lasts a single day (February 14th), the feeling of love permeates the entire month. Whether due to the anticipation leading up to the holiday, the giddiness thereafter, or both, it isn’t shocking that a lot of couples get engaged throughout. __[Valentine’s Day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ alone is an apt time for big surprises and grand expressions of love. It’s romantic and traditional, as well as pretty unforgettable.\n\n## Dates to Avoid and Consider for Your Wedding\nNot only is the time of year important to consider when planning your wedding day, but there are some dates you need to consider avoiding. Although, some holidays can be helpful. If you’re considering having your big day near a holiday, poll essential wedding guests to see if they’ll be able to attend.\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Avoid\n- __Super Bowl Sunday__ (or other major sporting events, depending on your guest list and country)\n\n- __Thanksgiving Day__\n\n- __Christmas Day__\n\n- __Easter Sunday__\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Consider\n- __Long Weekends,__ such as Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas weekends\n\n- __Weekday Weddings,__ getting married in the off-season or weekday can help avoid peak wedding season pricing\n\n- __New Year’s Eve__ and __New Year’s Day__\n\n- __Halloween__\n\n- __Valentine’s Day__\n\n- __Interestingly Numbered Dates,__ for example, 4/24/24 or 2/5/25\n\n## Setting a Schedule at Zola\nOnce you’re engaged and your date’s been picked, much of your wedding planning can begin. Great! Although, admittedly, this can be an intimidating thing to approach. Not sure where to start? Zola’s got you covered. By __[creating an account](https://www.zola.com/onboard/select-product)__, you gain access to a number of helpful tools, like a customized monthly wedding checklist. Just sign up, tell us your wedding date and any special traditions that you’ll be following, and allow us to compile the rest. Come for the checklist and stay for the __[Wedding Website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ builder, online RSVPs, and more __[Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice)__.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-11-15T21:25:37.344Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n- Just got engaged, now what?\n- 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n- Engagement rings and wedding bands\n- FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos","body":"\nYou’re engaged! Whether you asked or answered, you just took the first step toward one of the happiest days (and chapters) of your life. You’ve probably heard that now the work begins—and, if you’re hoping to wed in a year or less, that’s true. Wait, wait, wait… don’t get overwhelmed. Yes, there’s wedding planning to do, but it doesn’t all need to happen at once.\n\n## Just got engaged, now what?\n \n\nWith the help of Zola, you’ll be off planning in a jiffy, but your list of to-do’s after engagement doesn’t have to be stressful. However, there are certain things you and your partner should accomplish in the first month (or so) after your engagement. Plus, you’ll discover the things you shouldn’t do right away, so you’ll know what to look forward to doing.\n\nSo, now that you’ve officially ticked “[getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged)” off the list, it’s time to begin. First, congrats! Second, here’s your checklist of what’s coming up next as you begin to plan your wedding day. \n\n## 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n \n\n### 1. Celebrate\n\nIt might feel tough, but refrain from reaching for your phone right away. Instead, take some time to celebrate your engagement with your new fiancé. Make your way over to your favorite bar or restaurant and enjoy each other’s company. Take a walk on the beach or through your favorite part of the city.\n\nRegardless of the setting, enjoy the moment one-on-one (unless, of course, your loved ones were in on the [proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/proposals) and are waiting in the wings). Before you know it, you’ll be up to your neck in wedding planning, so savor this time for all it’s worth. Bask in that newly engaged glow.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TinaZh7eVfqET7ez5FgmP/527c65acd1e95d3ecf50b5852795015a/INLINE___Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Share the news.\nWhen you’re ready to tell others, start with those closest to you. This is likely your immediate family (parents and siblings), other close relatives, and best friends. Ring them personally or pay a visit, if possible, but steer clear of text messages. While it might seem like the most efficient way to tell your people, it can feel a bit impersonal. Save text announcements for people you aren’t as close with.\n\nTypically, there’s a hierarchy that states you should tell family first. However, we realize that not all dynamics are the same. [Share the news of your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) with those you love in the order you deem most appropriate.\n\n### 3. Alert the (social) media\n\nThat is if you’re on social media, of course. Once you tell your close family and friends, now it’s time to tell the world. Share a status update on Facebook to say that you’re just engaged, or post a photo or story on Instagram. Take a selfie with your partner, show off [your ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dont-like-engagement-ring), or upload a photo someone snapped of the actual engagement moment.\n\nYou’re engaged—you should absolutely share the story. However, we do caution against spamming your various timelines with [engagement news](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). There will be plenty of opportunities to share wedding planning highlights as you work out details. Maybe don’t exhaust your followers with too much upfront.\n\n### 4. Tell your loved ones first\n\nIt's normal to be extremely thrilled and excited about the proposal. Of course, you want to let everyone within earshot—or everyone with access to a smartphone—know of the good news. We get it, it’s convenient to make a couple of posts online.\n\nAnd while it’s completely up to you who you tell and how you do it, you probably don’t want the friend you lost touch with after college to find out via Facebook that you’re engaged—before your own parents or best friends. \n\nHold off on making any social media posts until you’ve delivered the news to your important people in person, if not via a phone call.\n\n### 5. Start thinking about dates\nDue to desirable venues and [certain months](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) getting booked well in advance, it’s wise to start thinking about dates quite early. This is especially the case if you’re looking to have your wedding within a year or two of getting engaged. \n\nStart by discussing the ideal time of year or month with your significant other. Then, check for any holidays, birthdays, or other conflicts that you’d like to avoid double-booking. \n\nAlso, reach out to important loved ones, such as close friends and family members, to check for conflicts before settling on anything. Find out what works for you and those closest to you, and settle on a few days or weekends that you can ask potential [venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) about.\n\n### 6. Start talking logistics\nYou and your partner have brainstormed locations, dates, and your wedding style—now’s the time to start setting things in stone. Be pragmatic in your discussions and decisions. Start by sitting down together and drawing out a personalized budget and timeline. Or, let Zola do the manual work for you – create a personalized wedding checklist, timeline and budget in just a few minutes. [Sign up and access our free wedding planning tools here](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard).\n\nThere’s no official timeline you need to stick to but your own, by the way. If you want to be engaged for a couple of years, do that. Circle back to planning in a few months or years. If that’s not you, however, start with a location and date. Once you have both of those, reach out to venues. Figure out what they have for availability around your desired date and book it. From there, you can begin looking into and [securing other vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors#:~:text=Explore%20wedding%20vendors%20by%20category), such as a wedding planner, catering, and entertainment.\n\n### 7. Say your thank yous\n\nThroughout the first few weeks of being engaged, you might receive celebratory cards and even gifts from friends and family. This is even more likely if you have an engagement party. Maintain a list of everyone who sends or brings you a card and/or gift, so that you can send out proper [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop).\n\n### 8. Spend some time researching before booking\n\nRemember how important it is to think about the big picture? You’ll want to put considerable time into that before booking a venue or any vendors for your big day. You’re just engaged, after all. \n\nWe know that locking down a space or [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) you love ASAP can be stressful, but trust us, you want to take the time to be really clear about what you both want before making anything official. \n\nTry not to rush. Allow yourselves the time to dream, find inspiration, and bounce ideas and desires off of one another.\n\n### 9. Hold off on sorting the wedding party\n\nMaid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and every bridal party and wedding party member in between… there’s potential for a lot of loved ones to be involved in your wedding day! While this is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding, we highly recommend you hold off a few weeks before asking anyone to officially take on a role. There are many details that can shape not only who you’ll want by your side but how many people you’ll be able to include. \n\nWait to ask your helpers until you’ve figured out your wedding’s basics—your budget, venue, and the type of wedding you want, to start.\n\n### 10. Keep things vague with guests for now\n\nAs with requests and potential wedding party members, hold off on inviting anyone to your wedding until you have planning underway. The excitement of being newly engaged, added to the love and well-wishes from all around, can have you wanting to share the excitement and invite everyone. Refrain. Better to keep things polite and vague now than to be put in an awkward position when someone doesn’t make the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) later on.\n\n### 11. Wait to purchase your wedding attire\n\nIt’s incredibly tempting to start trying on [wedding dresses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/tips-wedding-dress-shopping), suits, and other [wedding day attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-attire) soon after getting engaged. However, it’s crucial that you don’t jump in too soon. At this point, odds are you haven't yet decided on your budget or what you really want. \n\nRushing this process and making a purchase too soon out of excitement can lead to regret and financial issues down the line. Wait until you’re sure of what you’re looking for and can afford before making any try-on appointments.\n\n### 12. Relax\n\nOne more time: you just got engaged, so slow down. Wedding planning has the potential to be pretty stressful right off the bat. With guest list creation, wedding venue touring, budget making, and every other aspect of the wedding planning process right around the corner, don’t forget to make time to enjoy being engaged. \n\nSet some time aside for a relaxing date night, just the two of you. Put the beginning stages of planning on pause and focus on each other and how happy you are to be where you are right now.\n\n### 13. Expect some unsolicited advice\n\nUpon telling loved ones of your engagement, chances are you’re going to be hearing a lot of advice from those who have had a wedding. Take any and all unsolicited advice with grace, but don’t be quick to take it to heart. \n\nWhile you may come to agree with and appreciate some advice here and there, you definitely don’t need to take or even consider it all. Offer a “thank you,” pocket what gems you can, and move forward.\n\n### 14. Host an engagement party\n\nAfter saying yes, it’s time to celebrate! Depending on how you want to announce your engagement, this should take place before or after you post to social media. If you like the idea of telling your friends and family all at once, plan a surprise [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) before making a public announcement. That way, the news is completely unexpected. Many couples also prefer to host a more formal engagement party (with invitations and maybe even scheduled activities) a few weeks after the engagement.\n\nIf your loved ones are already in the know, one or some of them may come forward and offer to host your party for you. Whatever you decide works—engagement parties aren’t necessary, so if you choose to have one, get creative with [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) and celebrate however you want. Be aware, though: You shouldn’t invite anyone to the engagement party that you won’t invite to the wedding. Plan accordingly.\n\n### 15. Book an engagement shoot\n\nThis is another optional to-do. If an engagement photoshoot doesn’t sound like your style, stay with us for just a second. Engagement shoots are popular for a few reasons. Mainly, they’re usually free and come as an additional component of your wedding photography package. If you haven’t yet [booked a photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) (totally normal at this stage, by the way!), you can either wait until you do or you can hire another local photographer for this shoot.\n\nCouples also often see an [engagement shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) as an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera together. Again, if you have a photographer booked, this is a great time to get to know more about his or her style. This way, you’ll hopefully feel more natural when your photo is being taken from all angles come wedding day. Use your engagement photos on your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), wedding website, and/or wedding invitations.\n\n### 16. Think big picture\n\nNow that you’re no longer just engaged, your engagement celebrations have probably slowed. Now it feels like time to really start thinking about your big day. Don’t stress yourself out by immediately looking into every single detail, though. Start off by discussing big-picture ideas with your partner. Now is the time to figure out if you’re both on the same page with your dream wedding style and guest count.\n\nTalk about everything from wedding location and wedding size to a potential color palette and wedding date options. And, of course, always be open to your partner’s ideas. Stay organized off the bat by gathering inspiration in a place that’s easy to access and edit. Pinterest board, Google Doc, computer folder, binder—whatever works for you.\n\n### 17. Make time to soak it all in\n\nWe’re aware that we’re reiterating here, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t get so immediately wrapped up in wedding planning that you forget to enjoy being just engaged. Skipping over this part can lead to considerable stress later on. Pop some bubbly, spend quality time with your fiancé(e), and bask in the excitement from all of those closest to you.\n\n## Engagement rings and wedding bands\n \n\nIf you were over the moon to put your new [ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/rings) on… only to find it didn’t quite fit, you’ll want to get it sized ASAP. This won’t be the most exciting part of getting engaged, but it’s necessary if you want to avoid losing your special stone.\n\nSpeaking of losing your ring, enter ring insurance! When it comes to what to do after getting engaged, sorting out insurance definitely isn’t the most exciting task. While it's not super sexy, it's highly recommended. Most jewelry experts suggest taking out a policy with a jewelry insurance provider (and not extending your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to cover it). Head to a jeweler or another certified professional and get an appraisal. Here’s more on [engagement ring insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n## FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos\n \n\n### What does it mean to be engaged?\nJust engaged? That means you and your partner have decided to get married and are planning your future together. Being engaged is more than just wearing a ring. It's an exciting and romantic phase of your relationship. However, it also comes with some responsibilities and challenges as you grow together.\n\n### What to do after getting engaged?\nFirst of all, remember to celebrate! Next on the list comes telling your family and friends. Then, start thinking about wedding dates, share your good news on social media (optional), and arrange an engagement party and/or photo shoot. For now, don't worry about the guest list or wedding attire.\n\n### How do we announce our engagement?\nHow you announce your engagement is completely up to you and your partner. Most couples like to tell their immediate family and friends face to face before announcing their good news on social media. Others will share the news through phone calls, TikTok, or traditional paper announcements.\n\n### How to start planning a wedding?\nThe first thing you'll need for wedding planning is a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and a budget. You may want to create a wedding Google Drive and email to keep everything organized. Or you can use free budgeting and checklist tools from wedding planning sites like Zola. Then you can start on the finer details: where, when, what you'll wear, and who will take part.\n\n## Final Thoughts\n\nOnce you’ve checked these boxes, you’ll be ready to go all in on wedding planning. Buckle up because it can (read: probably will) get hectic. Just remember to take a pause every now and then to enjoy being engaged.\n\nHere at Zola, we have everything you need to make wedding planning as seamless (but exciting) as possible. Even if you don’t publish it yet, you can start working on your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and making your wishlist on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) right away. Zola can help you every step along the way from proposal to your new life together as a married couple. 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Whether you asked or answered, you just took the first step toward one of the happiest days (and chapters) of your life. You’ve probably heard that now the work begins—and, if you’re hoping to wed in a year or less, that’s true. Wait, wait, wait… don’t get overwhelmed. Yes, there’s wedding planning to do, but it doesn’t all need to happen at once.\n\n## Just got engaged, now what?\n \n\nWith the help of Zola, you’ll be off planning in a jiffy, but your list of to-do’s after engagement doesn’t have to be stressful. However, there are certain things you and your partner should accomplish in the first month (or so) after your engagement. Plus, you’ll discover the things you shouldn’t do right away, so you’ll know what to look forward to doing.\n\nSo, now that you’ve officially ticked “[getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged)” off the list, it’s time to begin. First, congrats! Second, here’s your checklist of what’s coming up next as you begin to plan your wedding day. \n\n## 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n \n\n### 1. Celebrate\n\nIt might feel tough, but refrain from reaching for your phone right away. Instead, take some time to celebrate your engagement with your new fiancé. Make your way over to your favorite bar or restaurant and enjoy each other’s company. Take a walk on the beach or through your favorite part of the city.\n\nRegardless of the setting, enjoy the moment one-on-one (unless, of course, your loved ones were in on the [proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/proposals) and are waiting in the wings). Before you know it, you’ll be up to your neck in wedding planning, so savor this time for all it’s worth. Bask in that newly engaged glow.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TinaZh7eVfqET7ez5FgmP/527c65acd1e95d3ecf50b5852795015a/INLINE___Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Share the news.\nWhen you’re ready to tell others, start with those closest to you. This is likely your immediate family (parents and siblings), other close relatives, and best friends. Ring them personally or pay a visit, if possible, but steer clear of text messages. While it might seem like the most efficient way to tell your people, it can feel a bit impersonal. Save text announcements for people you aren’t as close with.\n\nTypically, there’s a hierarchy that states you should tell family first. However, we realize that not all dynamics are the same. [Share the news of your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) with those you love in the order you deem most appropriate.\n\n### 3. Alert the (social) media\n\nThat is if you’re on social media, of course. Once you tell your close family and friends, now it’s time to tell the world. Share a status update on Facebook to say that you’re just engaged, or post a photo or story on Instagram. Take a selfie with your partner, show off [your ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dont-like-engagement-ring), or upload a photo someone snapped of the actual engagement moment.\n\nYou’re engaged—you should absolutely share the story. However, we do caution against spamming your various timelines with [engagement news](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). There will be plenty of opportunities to share wedding planning highlights as you work out details. Maybe don’t exhaust your followers with too much upfront.\n\n### 4. Tell your loved ones first\n\nIt's normal to be extremely thrilled and excited about the proposal. Of course, you want to let everyone within earshot—or everyone with access to a smartphone—know of the good news. We get it, it’s convenient to make a couple of posts online.\n\nAnd while it’s completely up to you who you tell and how you do it, you probably don’t want the friend you lost touch with after college to find out via Facebook that you’re engaged—before your own parents or best friends. \n\nHold off on making any social media posts until you’ve delivered the news to your important people in person, if not via a phone call.\n\n### 5. Start thinking about dates\nDue to desirable venues and [certain months](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) getting booked well in advance, it’s wise to start thinking about dates quite early. This is especially the case if you’re looking to have your wedding within a year or two of getting engaged. \n\nStart by discussing the ideal time of year or month with your significant other. Then, check for any holidays, birthdays, or other conflicts that you’d like to avoid double-booking. \n\nAlso, reach out to important loved ones, such as close friends and family members, to check for conflicts before settling on anything. Find out what works for you and those closest to you, and settle on a few days or weekends that you can ask potential [venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) about.\n\n### 6. Start talking logistics\nYou and your partner have brainstormed locations, dates, and your wedding style—now’s the time to start setting things in stone. Be pragmatic in your discussions and decisions. Start by sitting down together and drawing out a personalized budget and timeline. Or, let Zola do the manual work for you – create a personalized wedding checklist, timeline and budget in just a few minutes. [Sign up and access our free wedding planning tools here](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard).\n\nThere’s no official timeline you need to stick to but your own, by the way. If you want to be engaged for a couple of years, do that. Circle back to planning in a few months or years. If that’s not you, however, start with a location and date. Once you have both of those, reach out to venues. Figure out what they have for availability around your desired date and book it. From there, you can begin looking into and [securing other vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors#:~:text=Explore%20wedding%20vendors%20by%20category), such as a wedding planner, catering, and entertainment.\n\n### 7. Say your thank yous\n\nThroughout the first few weeks of being engaged, you might receive celebratory cards and even gifts from friends and family. This is even more likely if you have an engagement party. Maintain a list of everyone who sends or brings you a card and/or gift, so that you can send out proper [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop).\n\n### 8. Spend some time researching before booking\n\nRemember how important it is to think about the big picture? You’ll want to put considerable time into that before booking a venue or any vendors for your big day. You’re just engaged, after all. \n\nWe know that locking down a space or [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) you love ASAP can be stressful, but trust us, you want to take the time to be really clear about what you both want before making anything official. \n\nTry not to rush. Allow yourselves the time to dream, find inspiration, and bounce ideas and desires off of one another.\n\n### 9. Hold off on sorting the wedding party\n\nMaid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and every bridal party and wedding party member in between… there’s potential for a lot of loved ones to be involved in your wedding day! While this is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding, we highly recommend you hold off a few weeks before asking anyone to officially take on a role. There are many details that can shape not only who you’ll want by your side but how many people you’ll be able to include. \n\nWait to ask your helpers until you’ve figured out your wedding’s basics—your budget, venue, and the type of wedding you want, to start.\n\n### 10. Keep things vague with guests for now\n\nAs with requests and potential wedding party members, hold off on inviting anyone to your wedding until you have planning underway. The excitement of being newly engaged, added to the love and well-wishes from all around, can have you wanting to share the excitement and invite everyone. Refrain. Better to keep things polite and vague now than to be put in an awkward position when someone doesn’t make the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) later on.\n\n### 11. Wait to purchase your wedding attire\n\nIt’s incredibly tempting to start trying on [wedding dresses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/tips-wedding-dress-shopping), suits, and other [wedding day attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-attire) soon after getting engaged. However, it’s crucial that you don’t jump in too soon. At this point, odds are you haven't yet decided on your budget or what you really want. \n\nRushing this process and making a purchase too soon out of excitement can lead to regret and financial issues down the line. Wait until you’re sure of what you’re looking for and can afford before making any try-on appointments.\n\n### 12. Relax\n\nOne more time: you just got engaged, so slow down. Wedding planning has the potential to be pretty stressful right off the bat. With guest list creation, wedding venue touring, budget making, and every other aspect of the wedding planning process right around the corner, don’t forget to make time to enjoy being engaged. \n\nSet some time aside for a relaxing date night, just the two of you. Put the beginning stages of planning on pause and focus on each other and how happy you are to be where you are right now.\n\n### 13. Expect some unsolicited advice\n\nUpon telling loved ones of your engagement, chances are you’re going to be hearing a lot of advice from those who have had a wedding. Take any and all unsolicited advice with grace, but don’t be quick to take it to heart. \n\nWhile you may come to agree with and appreciate some advice here and there, you definitely don’t need to take or even consider it all. Offer a “thank you,” pocket what gems you can, and move forward.\n\n### 14. Host an engagement party\n\nAfter saying yes, it’s time to celebrate! Depending on how you want to announce your engagement, this should take place before or after you post to social media. If you like the idea of telling your friends and family all at once, plan a surprise [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) before making a public announcement. That way, the news is completely unexpected. Many couples also prefer to host a more formal engagement party (with invitations and maybe even scheduled activities) a few weeks after the engagement.\n\nIf your loved ones are already in the know, one or some of them may come forward and offer to host your party for you. Whatever you decide works—engagement parties aren’t necessary, so if you choose to have one, get creative with [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) and celebrate however you want. Be aware, though: You shouldn’t invite anyone to the engagement party that you won’t invite to the wedding. Plan accordingly.\n\n### 15. Book an engagement shoot\n\nThis is another optional to-do. If an engagement photoshoot doesn’t sound like your style, stay with us for just a second. Engagement shoots are popular for a few reasons. Mainly, they’re usually free and come as an additional component of your wedding photography package. If you haven’t yet [booked a photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) (totally normal at this stage, by the way!), you can either wait until you do or you can hire another local photographer for this shoot.\n\nCouples also often see an [engagement shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) as an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera together. Again, if you have a photographer booked, this is a great time to get to know more about his or her style. This way, you’ll hopefully feel more natural when your photo is being taken from all angles come wedding day. Use your engagement photos on your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), wedding website, and/or wedding invitations.\n\n### 16. Think big picture\n\nNow that you’re no longer just engaged, your engagement celebrations have probably slowed. Now it feels like time to really start thinking about your big day. Don’t stress yourself out by immediately looking into every single detail, though. Start off by discussing big-picture ideas with your partner. Now is the time to figure out if you’re both on the same page with your dream wedding style and guest count.\n\nTalk about everything from wedding location and wedding size to a potential color palette and wedding date options. And, of course, always be open to your partner’s ideas. Stay organized off the bat by gathering inspiration in a place that’s easy to access and edit. Pinterest board, Google Doc, computer folder, binder—whatever works for you.\n\n### 17. Make time to soak it all in\n\nWe’re aware that we’re reiterating here, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t get so immediately wrapped up in wedding planning that you forget to enjoy being just engaged. Skipping over this part can lead to considerable stress later on. Pop some bubbly, spend quality time with your fiancé(e), and bask in the excitement from all of those closest to you.\n\n## Engagement rings and wedding bands\n \n\nIf you were over the moon to put your new [ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/rings) on… only to find it didn’t quite fit, you’ll want to get it sized ASAP. This won’t be the most exciting part of getting engaged, but it’s necessary if you want to avoid losing your special stone.\n\nSpeaking of losing your ring, enter ring insurance! When it comes to what to do after getting engaged, sorting out insurance definitely isn’t the most exciting task. While it's not super sexy, it's highly recommended. Most jewelry experts suggest taking out a policy with a jewelry insurance provider (and not extending your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to cover it). Head to a jeweler or another certified professional and get an appraisal. Here’s more on [engagement ring insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n## FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos\n \n\n### What does it mean to be engaged?\nJust engaged? That means you and your partner have decided to get married and are planning your future together. Being engaged is more than just wearing a ring. It's an exciting and romantic phase of your relationship. However, it also comes with some responsibilities and challenges as you grow together.\n\n### What to do after getting engaged?\nFirst of all, remember to celebrate! Next on the list comes telling your family and friends. Then, start thinking about wedding dates, share your good news on social media (optional), and arrange an engagement party and/or photo shoot. For now, don't worry about the guest list or wedding attire.\n\n### How do we announce our engagement?\nHow you announce your engagement is completely up to you and your partner. Most couples like to tell their immediate family and friends face to face before announcing their good news on social media. Others will share the news through phone calls, TikTok, or traditional paper announcements.\n\n### How to start planning a wedding?\nThe first thing you'll need for wedding planning is a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and a budget. You may want to create a wedding Google Drive and email to keep everything organized. Or you can use free budgeting and checklist tools from wedding planning sites like Zola. Then you can start on the finer details: where, when, what you'll wear, and who will take part.\n\n## Final Thoughts\n\nOnce you’ve checked these boxes, you’ll be ready to go all in on wedding planning. Buckle up because it can (read: probably will) get hectic. Just remember to take a pause every now and then to enjoy being engaged.\n\nHere at Zola, we have everything you need to make wedding planning as seamless (but exciting) as possible. Even if you don’t publish it yet, you can start working on your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and making your wishlist on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) right away. Zola can help you every step along the way from proposal to your new life together as a married couple. 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