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From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too.

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How to RSVP to a Wedding

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If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.

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How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples

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Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.

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Wedding Invitation Wording: A Complete How-To Guide

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Learn the how-to's of wedding invitation wording, plus formal and casual wedding invitation examples from the experts.

How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One

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We’ll help you navigate one of the trickier wedding etiquette issues, and teach you how to word wedding invitations with no plus one, or with one, as well as how to decide who’s getting one in the first place.

How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation

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Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.

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How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation

Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.

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The Difference Between Ms, Mrs and Miss

Understand the difference between Ms, Mrs and Miss. Learn when to use each title appropriately with our comprehensive guide to proper etiquette.

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An Expert Guide to Wedding RSVP Cards & Complete Stationery Packages

Master wedding RSVP etiquette and discover complete wedding stationery packages with perfectly coordinated RSVP cards, free addressing, quality paper, and matching designs.

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Complete Guide to Standard Wedding Invitations: Sizes, Formats, Orientation, & Etiquette

Learn more about options for wedding invitation sizes and orientations with traditional and alternative selections.

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What Information Should Be Included on Wedding Invitations & Invitation Suites?

Wondering how to convey all the information needed for your wedding in a stylish and elegant way? The wedding invitation suite is the perfect option.

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Rush Wedding Invitations: The Complete Guide to Getting Invites in Under Two Weeks

Need wedding invitations ASAP? Learn how to get quality rush wedding invitations in less than two weeks with Zola's expedited printing and shipping options.

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Short on Time? How to Combine Digital Save-the-Dates with Traditional Wedding Invitations

Blending digital communication with mailed stationery is paramount, whether you have a week or a few months until the big day.

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How to Fix Wedding Invitation Mistakes After They've Been Printed

Misspelled your partner’s middle name? No worries—Zola has a guide on how to fix common wedding invitation mistakes from typos to ordering errors.

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How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One

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Best Companies to Send Wedding Invites to for Free Gifts

Got a few spare wedding invites and want to jump on the TikTok trend? We've rounded up all of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free wedding gifts.

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How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples

Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.

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15 Best Online Wedding Invitations

Deciding between digital wedding invitations and traditional invites? Read on to see if you should go the digital route.

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The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. 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Read on to learn how to talk to \nfriends who aren't invited to your wedding, tactfully.","title":"How to Talk to Friends Who Weren't Invited to Your Wedding","slug":"how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ShpgpD8f4LDnIkGSIbmLl/bc3ebf05efe4de156cf9ae2b8f25db91/How-to-Talk-to-Friends-Who-Werent-Invited-to-Your-Wedding.jpg","altText":"friends talking about wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It's not always black and white—sometimes you should invite someone who invited you to their wedding, other times you don't have to. Let's break down the etiquette around this tricky guest list question.","title":"We Were Invited to a Friend's Wedding—Do We Have to Invite Them to Ours?","slug":"invited-to-friends-wedding-invite-them-to-ours","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2xtfTAHk7tje2xXp7wlrrA/38004e2747b99f39ecf37f52f4f11c97/HERO_GlasserImages_1080x720_Rachel_Jake.jpg","altText":"couples dance at wedding reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-06-13T12:44:52.879Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"ms-vs-mrs","title":"The Difference Between Ms, Mrs and Miss ","excerpt":"Understand the difference between Ms, Mrs and Miss. Learn when to use each title appropriately with our comprehensive guide to proper etiquette.","publishedAt":"2022-04-22T17:02:43.851Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3P2U4gg4WTJrb29ivuqmso/f6738ec26f901ef6c0399cb6b19cad7a/mrs-vs-ms.jpg","altText":"woman-opening-a-letter"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Whether you’re [addressing wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), [writing a letter](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card), or greeting someone in person, addressing others with their preferred title is an important practice and symbol of respect. If you’re not clear on when to use “Miss,” “Ms.,” or “Mrs.,” don’t worry—learning how to properly use each title is straightforward and follows a set of clear etiquette rules.\n\nWhile it’s helpful to understand the traditional use of these titles as outlined below, it’s always best to ask someone what their preferred title is if you’re unsure. Just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it’s correct for everyone’s situation! \n\nKeep reading for everything you need to know about proper title etiquette, including how to address your wedding invitations! \n\n![A graphic titled \"The Difference Between Miss, Ms., & Mrs.\" with illustrations of three women](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12k3rnfbDHr4lIiehuDb7n/f17f1275b7d0fa4c2311467ffaa84cc5/the-difference-miss-ms-mrs__1_.png)\n\n- __Miss:__ “Miss” is used to address those who identify as women under the age of 30 who are unmarried. \n- __Ms.:__ “Ms.” can be used to address anyone who identifies as a woman, regardless of marital status. It can also be used when you’re unsure of someone’s marital status. \n- __Mrs.:__ “Mrs.” is used to address those who identify as women who are married. \n\n## Miss Definition \n\nThe title “Miss” is an English honorific used to address anyone identifying as a woman who is unmarried or who retains their maiden name. While any unmarried woman can be referred to as “Miss,” the title can feel slightly juvenile for women of a certain age. In these cases, it’s best to opt for the title “Ms.,” particularly in formal settings. \n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mis]\n__Plural:__ Misses\n__Example sentence:__ Miss Mary Steinman won the debate tournament. \n\n## Ms. Definition\nThe title “Ms.” is an English honorific and neutral catch-all term that became popularized during the feminist wave of the 1950s, when women sought to diminish the importance of marital status in relation to their social identity. Today, it’s considered the default form of address for adult women, regardless of marital status. \n\n![A smiling woman at a formal event. Text explains \"Ms.\" is the default title for women, regardless of marital status.](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2m8qwcyACsuRPKPImdqRNW/0510d64ce6eb9ea24501c876b0c655a7/ms-default-form-of-address.png)\n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mizz]\n__Plural:__ Mss. or Mses\n__Example sentence:__ __Ms.__ Rodriguez will present our team awards this evening. \n\n## Mrs. Definition \nThe title “Mrs.” is an English honorific used before a surname to address married women. Traditionally considered as the equivalent of “Mr.,” it may also be used to address widowers, depending on their preference. \n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mis-iz, miz-iz]\n__Plural:__ Mmes. or Mesdames\n__Example sentence:__ __Mrs.__ Langard taught me how to play piano. \n\n## Ms. vs. Mrs. vs. Miss: How to Properly Address Wedding Invitations \n\nHow you address your wedding invitations is just as important as the invitation itself. Using the proper etiquette when writing each recipient’s title isn’t just common courtesy—it’s a sign of respect for the loved ones you’re inviting to [take part in your special day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding). \n\n![Two smiling brides in a joyful embrace. The text explains the importance of using proper etiquette when addressing wedding invitations.](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5xiu3mkaizuZ3gxPtUydIv/06bd77790e59ae102b73bb18e306028e/using-proper-etiquette-wedding-invitations__1_.png)\n\nRemembering what we’ve covered about the differences between Miss, Ms., and Mrs., use these tips to address the outer envelopes with the correct title: \n\n- Use “Ms.” to address female-identifying people over the age of 18, regardless of marital status.\n- Use “Mrs.” to address married female-identifying people.\n- Use “Miss” for those under the age of 18, with their name following the name of their parents if they’re also invited (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Miss Jane). \n\nIf you’re unsure about someone’s preferred title, simply ask their preference before addressing their invitation to avoid a social faux pas. \n\n## Including Everyone: More Titles to Know\nAlong with knowing the difference between “Miss,” “Ms.,” and “Mrs.,” familiarize yourself with some additional titles you may need to use depending on who you’re addressing. \n\n- __Madame:__ Madame is the French equivalent of “Mrs.,” and is used in highly formal circumstances to address a female-identifying person who is married, or as a sign of respect for an elder. \n- __Dr.:__ Use this title to address a doctor, unless instructed otherwise. \n- __Mr.:__ “Mr.” is used to address male-identifying people, regardless of marital status. \n- __Rev.:__ “Rev.” is used to address a pastor or priest as a sign of respect. \n- __Mx.:__ “Mx.” is a gender-neutral title used to address nonbinary guests, guests who use they/them pronouns, or for anyone who prefers to be addressed by a nongendered title. \n\n![A person holds a green, wax-sealed envelope. Text advises using \"Mx.\" as a non-gendered title for nonbinary guests.](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2E5HcnXiF1wxtXDMTpqDNu/5a8773423e5c2f015b8c7b9af56515e8/mx-to-address-nonbinary-guests.png)\n\nAddressing others with the appropriate title is a simple sign of respect and a key element of proper etiquette. Most importantly, remember that not everyone will wish to be addressed by these traditional titles, even if they present as women. If you’re ever unsure of what someone's preferred title is, it’s perfectly polite to ask! \n\nWhether addressing your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) or sharing a greeting in person, most people will appreciate your thoughtfulness when inquiring about their preferences. \n","tag":"Invitation Wording","updatedAt":"2025-06-13T01:49:49.344Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps","title":"An Expert Guide to Wedding RSVP Cards & Complete Stationery Packages","excerpt":"Master wedding RSVP etiquette and discover complete wedding stationery packages with perfectly coordinated RSVP cards, free addressing, quality paper, and matching designs.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2025-06-09T07:30-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K9NSYFpDymkYEYYI4gioE/4572664406974aaec1c6b93b91448422/RSVP.jpg","altText":"how to address wedding rsvp cards and envelopes"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Wedding RSVP cards are a critical piece of your wedding stationary suite that provide ann easy way for you and your guests to manage your invitations.\n- Order your RSVP cards when you order your wedding invitations to and ensure you’re ready to mail them together.\n- RSVP wording templates vary from formal to whimsical, but they typically the RSVP deadline, your guests’ names, a “Yes” or “No” attendance line, and entree selection.\n","body":"You probably wouldn’t consider RSVP cards the most important piece of your wedding invitation suite, but the experts here at Zola say they're likely more crucial than you may think. These enclosure cards ensure that your wedding guests can adhere to wedding RSVP etiquette and, well, actually respond. \n\nAlternatively, your RSVP enclosure cards can direct wedding guests to your wedding website to accept or decline your wedding invites. Whether you're considering a paper response card for guests to mail back or digital RSVP alternatives, Zola has you covered with options. \n\n## What Is A Wedding RSVP Card?\n\nAn RSVP card, also known as a response card, is an important piece of your wedding invitation suite. Although it might not get a lot of spotlight, this small card plays a critical role in facilitating guests’ responses to your invitation. \n\nRSVP cards are included in the same envelope as your wedding invitations, typically placed on top. They’re accompanied by postmarked, addressed return envelopes so that guests can fill out the required info and send back the completed card to you (or the event hosts/planners) with minimal effort. \n\nRSVP cards and envelopes are necessary unless you choose to include RSVP contact information on your invitation or to gather wedding RSVPs online. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Card Goals\n \nA well-crafted RSVP card should accomplish the following: \n1. Provide a quick and easy way for guests to reply to your wedding invitations. \n2. Communicate to you (or the hosts) exactly who will be attending the wedding.\n3. Give guests a clear deadline by which they need to send a reply.\n4. Allow guests to pre-select their entree of choice, if you are serving a meal option.\n5. Gather other helpful information from guests, such as whether they plan on using provided transportation.\n6. Coordinate with your wedding invitation for a seamless, well-designed look. \n\n## Basic Template for Wedding RSVP Card Wording\n \nWriting an RSVP card is not rocket science, but there is a standard format—including a few odd formalities—that is helpful to understand. Below we’ve outlined a basic RSVP card template, followed by an explanation of each of the standard components.\n\n> \\[RSVP deadline\\]
\n> \n\n> \\[Name of guests\\]
\n > – M\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_ \n>\n> -OR-\n>\n> – Name(s) \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n\n> \\[Attendance line\\]
\n > \\_\\_\\_ accept(s)\n > \\_\\_\\_ regret(s) \n> \n > -OPTIONAL-\n> \n > \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_ of \\[total number of household members] will attend\n>\n\n> \\[Entree selection instructions]
\n> \n> \\[Entree choices]\n\n1. __RSVP deadline:__ Include an RSVP deadline no less than [one month from your wedding date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) (or according to any vendors’ requirements), and prominently place the deadline on the card. If dates are spelled out in the invitation, the RSVP deadline should follow suit.\n2. __Name of guests:__ Here, guests fill in their names on the blank line. See below for why more formal RSVP cards include the letter “M” at the beginning of this line. \n3. __Attendance line:__ Guests mark the appropriate “yes” or “no” response here. While the name(s) on the envelope should make it clear who is included in this invitation, if you’re inviting many whole families, consider wording that accommodates multiple people per household to eliminate any confusion.\n4. __Entree selection instruction line:__ If you’re serving a plated meal and you’re averse to utter chaos, it’s helpful to allow guests to select their entrées on their response cards. Whether you reveal each specific entrée or simply outline the proteins or meal types, include instructions for how to make a selection followed by a list of the options.\n\n![Wedding RSVP](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FzM0ewJvExp6rTd1dKixi/1a35d8c9fd81fc2e91f3ff6b8f765d74/Hero_Zola.jpg)\n\n## How to Word Wedding RSVP Cards\nAlthough they don’t involve nearly as much information as the invitation itself, you should think carefully about your RSVP card wording to make the process as clear and simple as possible for (potentially unobservant) guests. Since the attendance line is perhaps the easiest place to personalize your RSVP card language, here are some name and attendance line wording examples based on formality.\n\n### Formal\n\n> M\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ accept(s) with pleasure\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ declines with regret\n\n### Traditional\n\n> M\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ will attend\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ will not attend\n> \nM\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n>\n>\n> \\_\\_\\_ accept(s)\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ regret(s)\n\n### Casual\n\n> Name(s): \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ will celebrate in person\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ will celebrate in spirit
\n> \n\n> Name(s): \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Can’t wait!\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Sorry, wish I could be there
\n> \n\n> Name(s): \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Looking forward to it!\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Sorry, can’t make it
\n\n### Whimsical\n\n> Name(s): \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Let the good times roll!\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Sad to miss all the fun
\n> \n\n> Name(s): \\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Free booze? Count me in!\n> \n> \\_\\_\\_ Sitting this one out
\n\n![Zola RSVP Response Card Design](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2kt3JE9jebV1inCyDj0IhV/cf8c4661afe11e87f5e3516cbba761e9/Zola_RSVP_Response_Card_Design.jpg)\n\n## How to Address Wedding RSVP Envelopes\n\nSpeaking of addressing, now that you’ve nailed your RSVP card wording, you might be wondering how to handle your RSVP card envelopes. Generally speaking, be sure to include the name and address of the recipient on the response card envelope. \n\nIt’s traditional to address guests using the proper courtesy title before his or her name(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., or Miss. When addressing the married couple-to-be, only use the couple’s first names. \n\nHere are three basic tips to remember when it comes to addressing and preparing your wedding RSVP envelopes: \n\n### 1. Print the address on the envelope.\nDon’t make your invitees do more work than they have to—you want to make it super-easy for them to write their name, check a box, and mail the reply back to you. Therefore be sure to print the address to which you want the RSVP cards to be mailed on the front of the envelope. Most companies will offer RSVP envelope addressing as part of their services to you ([Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) offers both RSVP envelopes and their addressing, for free!). \n\n### 2. Send them to the right person. \nWhile you do have to address your response card envelopes, you don’t necessarily have to address them to yourself and your partner. If you’ve hired a wedding planner or coordinator, s/he may prefer to receive the response cards. Or perhaps your parents are helping with the planning or actually hosting the wedding. Identify the person (or couple) that will be responsible for collecting, tracking, and generally organizing your invitation RSVPs, and address the response card envelopes to that person’s preferred mailing address.\n\n### 3. Include postage. \nIf you want your guests to actually put your RSVP card in the mail, then offer them the courtesy of a pre-stamped envelope. Make sure you include the proper amount of postage (usually just a standard letter-rate stamp) per envelope. Beyond simple convenience, it’s rude to make your guests dig up their own stamp. \n\n## What to Look for in Complete Wedding Stationery Packages\n- __Head to the right place.__ If you're looking for a complete wedding invitation package, you came to the right place! Zola is an all-in-one wedding stationery solution offering wedding stationery suites that include matching wedding invitation designs and all of the enclosure cards (like RSVPs!) you need.\n- __Order your stationery suite at the same time as the RSVPs.__ With Zola's complete wedding stationery packages, you'll save time, have consistency, and save on postage by ordering everything all at once. Plus, you'll be able to proofread to ensure they're [mistake-free](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-fix-wedding-invitation-mistakes-after-theyve-been-printed) and be able to mail it all at once.\n- __Opt for free envelope addressing.__ Writing addresses is half the battle and takes a lot of time, but Zola has your back. Both your return address and guest addresses can be printed with our free envelope addressing service.\n- __Make sure everything coordinates.__ With Zola, you can also select a wedding invitation suite with a website to match. That way, there is cohesion if your guests RSVP online.\n- __Order a proof for certainty.__ There's just something about holding your invitation and seeing it in person before ordering 100 of them. With Zola, you can [order a printed proof](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009389912-can-i-get-a-proof-of-my-invitation-or-save-the-date-) to ensure everything's just right.\n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\n## Using Digital RSVP Management with Paper Invitations\nWondering if it's ok to combine online RSVP options with your custom response card design? The answer is yes! How do digital RSVPs work with paper invitations? Here is what you need to know to enhance the process:\n- __Choose a matching wedding website.__ To ensure your guests know they're in the right place, choose a site that matches your custom RSVP designs. The wedding website integration is also seamless with Zola.\n- __Add your site address to your response card design.__ Direct your guests to your site (you can personalize yours at Zola!) so they can respond. You can also better keep pace with your response deadline management.\n- __Put other specifics on your RSVP card.__ Putting a guest meal selection or accessibility requests on your response card? Don't forget to add those to your wedding RSVP management system so that guests can reply.\n- __Use RSVP response tracking.__ Once a guest responds, it's tracked immediately, and they can receive follow-ups, instructions, and reminders. That means no lost cards in the mail—plus, it's more environmentally-friendly and less expensive in the long run.\n\n## RSVP Card Design Options\nWhen selecting your response card, you have lots of printing and paper options. Here are a few general standards:\n### Paper Types\n- __Cotton__ - Generally composed of 100% cotton fibers, which may incorporate recycled materials.\n- __Linen__ - Commonly crafted from paper that resembles the appearance and texture of linen, frequently featuring a basket weave or crosshatch design.\n- __Cardstock__ - Made from medium to heavy-weight paper, typically derived from tree pulp, and has a smooth, matte surface. It can also be available in double or triple thickness.\n\n### Printing Methods\n- __Thermography__ - Produces a raised, textured, and shiny finish on printed images or text by applying heat to melt powdered resin.\n- __Letterpress__ - A form of relief printing where raised surfaces, typically made of metal type, are inked and pressed onto paper to leave an impression.\n- __Digital__ - An image printed directly from a digital file onto materials such as paper or fabric using ink or toner.\n- __Engraving__ - Made by carving lines into a metal plate and transferring the ink from those lines onto paper to create a print.\n\n### Shape and Orientation\nYour RSVPs can either be horizontal or vertical, and feel free to go off-script from the orientation of your wedding invite.\n\n![Vertical RSVP Card by Zola Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gWn7gGjkKzyr5jDCM5PT9/5c25de5fbf0a5c73b6281840eddcda1b/Vertical_RSVP_Card_by_Zola_Invitation_Suite.jpg)\n\n## FAQ About Coordinating RSVP Cards & Wedding Stationery Sets\n### When should I order my wedding RSVP cards?\nOrder response cards when you order your invitations to keep things coordinated and make sure all the invitation components are ready to mail together. [Every wedding invitation design on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) has matching RSVP cards that you can easily customize and add onto your order. Depending on your wedding planning timeline, you should order these six-to-eight months before the big day.\n\n### When should guests RSVP to a wedding?\nIt’s standard etiquette to ask guests to RSVP to your wedding around one month before your wedding date. Anything less than four weeks, and you run the risk of not getting an accurate headcount in time for your wedding vendors (such as your caterer, transportation, or venue) to properly prepare for your event. You *will* have guests who don’t RSVP by your deadline, so four weeks prior to the big day allows you some extra time to hunt down those stragglers that have not yet replied. Read more about your [wedding invitation etiquette timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### What's included in a complete wedding stationery package?\nA typical wedding invitation suite includes the invitation, inner envelope, and outer envelope. From there, you can order a details card, other enclosure cards, and extras, such as a vellum jacket. Because these sets are customizeable, it's up to you what parts and pieces you order for your special day.\n\n### What does the “M” mean on a wedding RSVP?\nYou’ve probably seen wedding RSVP cards that include an uppercase letter “M” at the beginning of the guest name line and wondered, “why is this M here?” Since only a fraction of the world has a name that begins with M, it’s universal inclusion might be puzzling. But in fact, this piece of wedding invitation etiquette seems much more complex and mysterious than it really is. For formal invitations, the line where guests are expected to write their names begins with an “M” to indicate that the guest(s) should include the proper courtesy title before his or her name(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., or Miss. Think of it like a little jumpstart in formal addressing.\n\n### Does my response card have to match my invitation suite?\nDesign-wise, your RSVP card should match your wedding invitation set. However, the invitation is the star of the show, so feel fee to upgrade your invitations with letterpress and foil and skip those elements or reduce the paper quality slightly (say moving from triple-thick paper weight to cardstock).\n\n### How long does it take to assemble an invitation suite?\nDepending on the detail of your wedding invitations—say, the number of enclosure cards and whether you have vellum sheets, belly bands, or stickers—it can take two to three minutes per suite. Allow yourself a bit of time to get into a flow, and also enlist the help of others to form an assembly line, especially if you have a lot of invites to mail.\n\n### When should I follow up with my guests if they didn't RSVP?\nTalk to your caterer and venue about when they'll need a final guest count. Because of the setup of tables and chairs and food ordering, this headcount is typically due two to four weeks beforehand. Feel free to send a reminder to guests a week or two before the final date, and if the RSVP tracking still shows they haven't responded, send one last query the day after your RSVPs are due.\n\n### How far in advance should I order my wedding stationery?\nThe recommended timeframe is six to eight weeks or 10 to 12 weeks for a destination event.\n\n## Zola: Your Destination for Wedding RSVP Cards and Invitation Suites\nLooking for more inspiration? The experts at Zola have compiled some of their favorite looks within our own collection of wedding invitation suites. \n\nCheck out 10 different designs below!\n\n### 1. Josette\nIf you're searching for an element of fun, the timeline-centric Josette is the ideal choice, especially for a [wedding weekend event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-weekend-events-what-to-include-in-your-main-invitation-vs-enclosure).\n\n[Josette Wedding Invitation Suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/9e738a2d-cf71-4a7e-8553-d5f2b1ff6227), from $1.99 each\n\n![Zola Josette Wedding Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5WpePjRGLKlAhN4sE0tKry/f2ac13b2eb7d8af8068e727fb114bcf6/Zola_Josette_Wedding_Invitation_Suite.jpg)\n\n### 2. Caleania\nWhether hosting a seaside event or love the appeal of classic blue, the Caleania is a stunner.\n\n[\nCaleania Wedding Invite Set](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/4d467adc-dba4-41b5-8d8b-d68bbb7e74f7), from $1.99 each\n\n![Caleania Wedding Invitation Package](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Wp0Of4UWK9xSLvujnrnsN/8e69fa4d2415b143d527ffb9c80d564b/Caleania_Wedding_Invitation_Package.jpg)\n\n### 3. Reagan\nHandmade lovers will love the artsy, yet classy vibe of the watercolor design of the Reagan invites.\n\n[Reagan Wedding Invitation Package](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/659c623e-9232-4bbc-984c-9d6e40bc75cf), from $1.99 each\n\n![Zola Reagan Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2cy49UcofTUqV4eFqDUT07/36a3fcf4c143493f0bb2028d2d0c1222/Zola_Reagan_Invitation_Suite.jpg)\n\n### 4. Asher\nIf you're obsessing over your engagement photos or eloped and are saying your vows in front of family and friends, the picture-centric Asher is a great fit.\n\n[Asher Wedding Invitation Set](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/e90337e4-3562-4f63-b958-2183520dff5d), from $1.99 each\n\n![Asher Wedding Invitation Suite Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3qeRo85LTrFuW0F85QvBNz/63e3f9fca4f740ac8a850418c606dd06/Asher_Wedding_Invitation_Suite_Zola.jpg)\n\n### 5. Hartington \nYou—and your names—can take center stage in this casual Hartington invitation set. No one will forget whose big day it is.\n\n[Hartington Invitation Suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/717d343a-8d2b-4fcb-b79c-0f363e191ff9), from $1.99 each\n\n![Zola Hartington Name Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Hf9LxcIBs8wUlM8eUyt3U/f2907e578aa45e4d6ab1db1df5071487/Zola_Hartington_Name_Invitations.jpg)\n\n### 6. Allegra\nIt's hip to be square—especially with your wedding stationery! The Allegra has a lovely greenery feel all contained within a square.\n\n[Allegra Square Wedding Invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a90f5e3c-c5ea-4a97-9bd4-c007f38caca6), from $2.49 each\n\n![Allegra Square Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jp8q9brjMTPLfFXdSTFds/d2e4ccc0b868c9e500bb8f34c02ad56a/Allegra_Square_Wedding_Invitations.jpg)\n\n### 7. Edera\nGive your guests a trifecta of uniqueness with the bold darkness, vivid foil accents, and landscape orientation of the Edera. Classic with a twist.\n\n[Edera Landscape Wedding Invitations with Foil](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/17036307-6255-460c-9b39-a7d07b4218f6), from $2.49 each\n\n![Edera Foil Wedding Invitations Landscape](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/50Itkgcy1QC4jrupdpbHpl/f76a381a0a2e66da2034f166d8121787/Edera_Foil_Wedding_Invitations_Landscape.jpg)\n\n### 8. Davies\nGive the luxe experience of giving a letterpress invitation to your guests. The artsy vibe of the Art Deco design of the Davies will set the tone of your event.\n\n[Davies Frame Letterpress Invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/da20d174-1bad-45ed-b76b-03900b84b230), from $4.49 each\n\n![Davies Frame Letterpress Wedding Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/tjoKcaWP8Nzg5EN5zd2SL/427218985b1ffc6fc4e2c8957ebedc06/Davies_Frame_Letterpress_Wedding_Invitation_Suite.jpg)\n\n### 9. Tropea\nOrange you glad you're getting married? Ok, excuse the pun, but with the bright, sunny uniqueness of the Tropea's citrus invitations, we couldn't resist. \n\n[Tropea Wedding Invitation Set](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/36b4bcff-7dc1-4d49-bc46-f15ae0692f29), from $1.99 each\n\n![Tropea Orange Wedding Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Oy2efcu7nPX3IEUETyAW1/e9486edf57876c2c71ace80e7e6a34a2/Tropea_Orange_Wedding_Invitation_Suite.jpg)\n\n### 10. Key West\nWant to add whimsy to a toned-down event? The laid-back vibe of the Key West is absolutely charming.\n\n[Key West Landscape Wedding Stationery Set](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8c5b7feb-5d8a-4d12-8cf2-5535fbf8386a), from $1.99 each\n\n![Key West Landscape Wedding Stationery Set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2S4UC8jIsRMdC6EaMpuM1s/b2aa5fc6255e8bd262a7c96564ccac0a/Key_West_Landscape_Wedding_Stationery_Set.jpg)\n\nIf you're craving more inspiration, head to the [invitations and paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) section of Zola. 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Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2025-06-10T20:42:21.242Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-invite-sizes","title":"Complete Guide to Standard Wedding Invitations: Sizes, Formats, Orientation, & Etiquette","excerpt":"Learn more about options for wedding invitation sizes and orientations with traditional and alternative selections.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2025-06-04T10:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vSxhJwIdEWETcYkJociEf/a6494982318495a089b697dce84e8cea/A-guide-to-Wedding-Invite-Sizes.jpg","altText":"Pink and blue wedding invitation suite set"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"To answer the first question that popped into your head, yes, there are different [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) sizes. In fact, there is a whole world of possibilities concerning how you invite your guests to your wedding and what the invite looks like in terms of shape, size, format, and color. \n\nThere are standard wedding invitation dimensions—typically a 5\" x 7\" rectangular card printed on high-quality cardstock. However, there are other options if you want a different size or shape (that go beyond a square or rectangle). You'll also have to consider whether vertical or horizontal orientation is appropriate. \n\nInvitations feature formal wording that includes names of both the hosts and the couple along with important details, such as the wedding date, time, and location. While this traditional format remains the most popular choice, today's couples have numerous options for personalizing their invitations while maintaining proper invitation etiquette. \n\nThe team at Zola has all the info you need so you can say \"yes\" to your perfect wedding invitation. Here's what you need to know.\n\n## 8 Wedding Invitation Sizes\nNow that you have your budget, style, and what’s going on the invitation top of mind, you can settle on the right invite size. Here are your options: \n\n#### 1. Standard\nThe standard invitation size is a 5 x 7 inch rectangular card. Why? It's mainly because that's a standard size for envelopes. You can also mail 5\" by 7\" cards with standard postage—as long as it weighs under an ounce. However, most wedding invitation suites are heavier than that, so you'll need extra postage.\n\nTraditionally, standard invitations are vertical rectangular-shaped cards. However, nowadays, you will see almost as many horizontal options, too. And don't think that [classic wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) are dull. You can incorporate your aesthetic with fun fonts, colors, and even fancy edges.\n\nWith a standard size, you’ll have the most options to choose from when it comes to your [wedding invitation style](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-planning/whats-your-wedding-invitation-style/). A standard size invitation should fit all the information you need and be able to include standard size detail and RSVP cards, too.\n\nWhen addressing your invitation, hold the envelope horizontally. Write the address in the middle front, and affix your stamp in the upper right. A return address can go in the upper left corner or on the back of the envelope.\n\n![Zola Standard Size Wedding Invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2TN0EbuOUXAzSCYdp22EdJ/fd462407024f98a2bece1015d83ad8f4/Zola_Standard_Size_Wedding_Invitation.jpg)\n\n#### 2. Tall\nFor a unique invite that can feature a lot of information, consider a four-by-nine inch invite. These are also known as thin or skim invites. They can portray a contemporary vibe and hold plenty of information. A tall card is useful if you don’t want to include a details card or if you’re having a destination wedding that requires more logistics.\n\n#### 3. Folded\nWith all the necessary info to be included on wedding cards, it’s not surprising that stationers have begun to offer folded invitation options. These can appear similar in style to that of a greeting card, with traditional invite wording on the front, and more details and sometimes photos on the inside. \n\nOr, they can appear similar to a pamphlet with multiple panels. Although this type includes more info than a standard five-by-seven invite, it can be more cost-effective, since you won’t have to pay for additional details cards. \n\n#### 4. Booklets\nAnother way to get all the information in one concise format is with a booklet invitation. Booklets feature multiple pages that include the standard information, in addition to details, and maybe even portraits. Plus, they can be nicely tied up with ribbons and bows, clasped with modern grommets, or sewn together with string to match your style. It's not the standard invitation format, but a mini book can make an impression.\n\n#### 5. Square\n[Square wedding cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop?orientations=square) can be large or small, but consider five-by-five inches to be standard. This size and shape sends a contemporary vibe to your wedding guests. It can also feature chic borders, cool edges, and symmetric phrasing. If you like things to look clean and cool, this could be the right kind of invite for you. \n\n![Zola Square Invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3QpxqQzMX7qXqXgKnEUui4/02889c7cf921ccfaf377a485aeb5126b/Zola_Square_Invitation.jpg)\n\n#### 6. Petite Invites\nYou can also opt for a smaller invitation. Petite invites are cute, modern, and take up less space on the fridge. They’re a great option for couples who want a pocket-size invite that conveys just the necessary details. You can use the small space to direct guests to your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) for further information.\n\n#### 7. Large Invites\nIf there are petite invites, you can bet there are invites on the other end of the spectrum, too. Large invites are typically six-by-eight inches and can handle large fonts and loads of information. If your personality is big and bold, your [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) might as well be, too. \n\n#### 8. Special Shapes\nCircle, oval, diamond—oh my. Now, you can print your invite on paper of all shapes and sizes. An invitation in a cool shape can help communicate your theme. For instance, round invites can say casual or celestial, and oval invites can say elegant or feminine. Meanwhile, a totally out-there shape, such as an octagon can foreshadow geometric decor. Pick the shape that suits your wedding style, and include details cards that match. \n\n![Zola Oval Wedding Invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1cWdvIX13PLk8f1Jg9w1Nd/edd33c0ef68a0d998e6d21a8242d8ae8/Zola_Oval_Wedding_Invitation.jpg)\n\n## Horizontal vs. Vertical Wedding Invitations\nWondering whether to choose landscape vs. portrait invitations? Both are available, and here are a few points to help you decide in our wedding invitation comparison:\n\n### Considerations for Vertical Invitations\n- Follows traditional invitation design.\n- Fits standard envelope sizes more easily.\n- Creates an elegant, formal aesthetic.\n- Works well with portrait-oriented photos.\n- May feel more timeless and classic.\n\n![Portrait Format Wedding Invitations Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1cbOMTXtQta0lvZ5t7cZDO/8e76f4f937a7c8edf5a58a90ff7b4ff7/Portrait_Format_Wedding_Invitations_Zola.jpg)\n\n### Considerations for Horizontal Invitations\n- Provides more horizontal space for longer names or lengthy text.\n- Creates a contemporary feel with a modern invitation layout.\n- Works well for landscape-oriented photos or wide design elements.\n- Can accommodate more text on fewer lines.\n- May require special envelopes or folding techniques.\n\n![Landscape Orientation Zola Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1AOnXw9iZ2a0cCx9xS8sgt/6e61e4562ae208b1688e17bea986598b/Landscape_Orientation_Zola_Invitations.jpg)\n\n### Should My Wedding Invitations Be Horizontal or Vertical?\n1. Depending on the size of your invitation, you could pay more in postage. However, a 5\" x 7\" will cost the same to mail, no matter whether the text is arranged horizontally or vertically. \n2. While a portrait orientation is more formal, a landscapt format can add a classy, modern element.\n3. Consider how you'd like to display your rectangular wedding invitations in a frame or on the fridge.\n4. Think about the other pieces within your wedding invitation suite. Blending portrait format invitations with landscape orientation enclosure cards adds an element of interest.\n\n## All-in-One Wedding Invitations vs. Traditional Multi-Piece Suites\nWhether it's due to wedding budget concerns or ease of mailing, according to the wedding stationery experts at Zola, all-in-one invitations are continuing to grow in popularity. Here's what you need to know.\n\n### What Is an All-in-one Invitation Suite?\n\nSo, what are they? All-in-one wedding invitations (often referred to as pocket invites) are fold-out invitations that have more information—such as the wedding website details, wedding registry, response instructions, and accommodation information—all on one piece of cardstock. \n\nA traditional wedding invitation suite includes an invitation with several wedding invitation inserts, like an RSVP card and transportation detail cards. We'll help you decide which is better for your wedding planning timeline, style, and budget.\n\n### Pros and Cons of Multi-piece Wedding Invitations vs. Pocket Invitations\n#### Pro: A suite with wedding invitation inserts is more formal.\nLooking to stick with tradition? An invitation suite with information cards is more formal for your big day.\n\n#### Con: Wedding invitation packages can cost more.\nConsolidated wedding invitations can help your keep within budget. After all, the more information and direction cards you add, the higher your wedding invitation costs will be.\n\n#### Pro: A Zola invitation suite collection easily separates into essential parts\nFor guests who like to keep things organized, hanging your invitation on the fridge and taking the reception map with them will help. \n\n#### Con: Multi-piece wedding suites aren't as planet-friendly.\nCraving eco-friendly wedding invitations? Minimizing the parts and pieces will help keep waste at bay.\n\n#### Pro: Receiving multiple pieces creates a great first impression.\nYes, you'll have to put more time into your invitation assembly. However, your guests will be impressed with enclosures wrapped in belly band invitations.\n\n#### Con: The postage requirements may cost more.\nPostage considerations are often on the mind of a couple. Therefore, having separate parts and pieces will weigh more than mailing an all-in-one invite.\n\n## The Complete Wedding Invitation Suite\n\nWhile the “when” and “where” are the most important details of your wedding day, there is more information to include with your wedding invitations, which means, more paper parts. You can get just as creative with these invitation inserts as you did with your main invite. \n\nWedding enclosures can be included in a booklet or fold-out format, or have their own special card floating within (or on top of) the actual invitation.\n\n### Main Wedding Invitation\nInvitation protocol says that the star of the show—your wedding invitation—should include the information necessary for folks to attend your big day.\n\nWhen selecting your wedding invite size, what goes on the invitation plays an important role and can narrow down your choices. After all, you need enough space to display the essentials. \n\nWhat information belongs on the main invitation vs. enclosure cards? Wedding stationery etiquette dictates that these non-negotiable pieces of information go on your invitations:\n\n- __Details__ Be sure to add the wedding date and time.\n- __Location__ This can be the name of the venue or property, plus the city and state. If it’s a private residence, list the address, but otherwise include this detail on the wedding website.\n- __Hosts’ names__ This can be the names of both sets of parents, one set of parents, or just the couple. The more names you need to list, the more space required. \n\nIf you want to include photos or more information, such as the reception location and time, you can choose a bigger invite size or a booklet invitation to ensure that everything fits and is legible.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n### Detail Enclosure Cards\n\nDetail cards are the place for all the extra information you want to provide your guests. Depending on how extravagant your special day is, you may want one details card or several invitation inserts. \n\nHere are a few things you may want on a separate card or cards: \n- Wedding [registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)\n- Wedding [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)\n- Driving directions\n- Hotel blocks or accommodation recommendations\n\nLike the invite, [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-weekend-events-what-to-include-in-your-main-invitation-vs-enclosure) can vary in shape or size. Stick to the same general shape as your invite so that it’s consistent, but make sure it’s smaller so guests aren’t confused. Your wedding invitation set should be mailed with both inner and outer envelopes—inner for the separate inserts and outer to hold everything.\n\n### Map\nA custom illustrated map or travel card is both unique and personal. Especially popular for destination weddings, they give guests a better picture of where everything is taking place, from the ceremony spot to the reception venue and the pre-wedding games or post-wedding brunch. Plus, it adds an artistic touch to your invitation suite as a whole.\n\n### RSVP Card \nLast, but not least, don’t forget the RSVP card—also known as response cards. This is how you will determine who’s coming and who can’t make it. A response card will not only provide answers to the “who” and “how many” questions, but also the “what they want to eat” question. These important details need to get to you, your planner, your caterer, and the venue.\n\n![Guide to Wedding Invite Sizes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hGTzImS7Vj7sDdMu4K4J4/06059cb5b6c1e77a27bea7aef4bf84d8/INLINE2_AGuidetoWeddingInviteSizes___.jpg)*Photo Credits //* Zola\n\n## Standard Wedding Invitation Materials and Printing Methods\nWhether you're considering digital vs. printed invitations or are ready to splurge on luxury multi-piece wedding invitation suites by Zola, here are a few details to know.\n### Traditional Paper Types\nWant to make an impression? Think about the type of paper for your inviations. Zola's premium paper options for both styles include:\n- __Cotton__ - Typically made of 100% cotton fibers, which can include recycled materials.\n- __Linen__ - Usually made from paper that mimics the look and feel of linen, often with a basket weave or crosshatch pattern.\n- __Cardstock__ - Constructed from medium to heavy-weight paper, often tree pulp, with a smooth, matte finish. Can also be double or triple thick.\n\n### Standard Printing Methods\nAgain, the look you want will determine the type of printing techniques you choose. Here are some options:\n- __Thermography__ - Creates a raised, textured, glossy finish on printed images or text by using heat to melt powdered resin. \n- __Letterpress__ - Relief printing, where raised surfaces, often made of metal type, are inked and pressed on paper to create an impression.\n- __Digital__ - Image directly from a digital file printed onto materials like paper or fabric using ink or toner.\n- __Engraving__ - Created by incising lines into a metal plate and transferring the ink from those lines on paper to create a print. \n\n### Inner and Outer Envelopes and Liners\nWedding invitations typically use both outer and inner envelopes, with liners often added to the inner envelope an elegant touch. Here's the breakdown:\n- __Outer envelope__ - Holds the guest's address, postage, and return address. \n- __Inner envelope__ - Lists the specific invitees within that household.\n- __Liners__ - Provide a decorative touch to the wedding invitation suite.\n- __Vellum overlays__ - Similar to a liner, but more transparent.\n- __Belly bands__ Gathers everything together so it doesn't slide around during transit.\n\n### Standard Colors and Finishes\nChoose these based on preference, theme, and formality. Here are some standards:\n- __Common colors__ - Classic white, ivory, and light shades of pink or blue.\n- __Bolder colors__ - Jewel tones, or metallic gold and silver. \n- __Finishes__ - Range from matte and gloss to uncoated or textured.\n\n![Wedding Stationery Set Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2xISO76LHKvVYkr1NWFZ5n/a7e24ccba645605e993ed0e9fa3703b4/Wedding_Stationery_Set_Zola.jpg)\n\n## FAQ About Standard Wedding Invitations\n### \n\n## Questions About Your Wedding Invitation Suite\n\n### How much should I budget for wedding invitations? \nBefore committing to an invitation card size, consider your overall budget for invitations. Account for the number of invites and additional invitation inserts, in addition to postage (this can add up). Enclosure cards and heavy-weight paper can add extra postage. Unique wedding invitation sizes may also require special envelopes that could cost extra.\n\nKeep in mind, your guest count dictates the cost of your invitation stationery the most. An additional 100 or even 50 guests can make it swing a couple of hundred dollars easily. \n\n### How do I pick the wedding motifs? \nHave you nailed down the mood you’re going for on your wedding day? Whether you choose a specific color scheme or theme, land on a [wedding style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style) before you pick on an invitation size. Whether you're considering wedding monograms or a minimalistic card, the invitation should reflect your big day.\n\n### What's the difference between landsape and portrait wedding invitations?\nPortrait format is the same as vertical wedding invites, and landscape orientation is the same as horizontal wedding cards.\n\n### When should I order my wedding invitations?\nTypically, you should order your invitation suite six-to-eight months before the wedding. \n\n### Do I need a save-the-date and invitation?\nSave-the-date cards are nice, but not necessary. You can send a printed or digital [save-the-date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-combine-digital-save-the-dates-with-traditional-wedding-invitations), which is nice so that folks can mark their calendars early.\n\n### What are the differences between digital and print invitations?\nDigital is sent over the web, whereas printed are mailed. Both should contain the same information, and wedding stationery etiquette typically requires a printing on formal wedding invitations.\n\n### How to choose between horizontal and vertical wedding invitations?\nConsider your text, preferences, and what speaks to you. Vertical wedding cards are traditional and classic, while horizontal wedding invites can have a more modern feel.\n\n### Does the type of invitation I choose impact my website or registry?\nLooking to get the most out of Zola? All-in-one invitations, horizontal, or digital—all of them seamless integrates with your Zola wedding website. RSVP management also works the same, as long as you direct your guests to respond on your site.\n\n### How do I word invitations for different scenarios? \nZola has both a complete guide on traditional [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) and [formal invitation phrasing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations).\n\n### Are there cultural variations in standard wedding invitations?\nYes. These variations can manifest in design, language, and formality. For example, some cultures may prefer specific colors, symbols, or hand-delivered invitations, while others might include elements like calligraphy or multiple languages.\n\n![Guide to Wedding Invite Sizes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7uuwLczbWjV3sMsbSAMduf/b75aefbb31bf7aae1de161e8c9df58ae/INLINE_AGuidetoWeddingInviteSizes___.jpg)*Photo Credits //* Zola\n\n## Zola: Your Place for Cohesive Wedding Stationery\nAn [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop) is essential to provide your guests with the right information, but it can be much more than that. It’s the very first thing your guests will lay eyes on, so it should reflect you and your fiancé. The invite size can help show off your style and embody the overall aesthetic of your wedding day.\n\nAt Zola, you can find all you need for your stationery suite. From stunning invitations and enclosure cards to details like [belly bands](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop?card_type=belly-bands), [wax seals](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop?card_type=wax-seals), and [vellum overlays](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/82263fd2-2ee4-4f9f-abcb-cf5ce19afbbf), you can trust Zola with your wedding's first impression to your guests.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Registry"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Build Your Zola Registry","url":"https://www.zola.com/onboard/new"},"updatedAt":"2025-06-10T19:36:57.492Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"whats-included-in-a-wedding-invitation-suite","title":"What Information Should Be Included on Wedding Invitations & Invitation Suites?","excerpt":"Wondering how to convey all the information needed for your wedding in a stylish and elegant way? The wedding invitation suite is the perfect option.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2025-05-29T10:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"Blue and beige wedding invitation suite flatlay with yellow flower"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n\n- Essential Information for Wedding Invitations \n- Complete Guide to Wedding Invitation Suites \n- How to Design Your Wedding Invitation Suite \n- 5 Tips: What Zola Experts Recommend \n- FAQ About Invitation Wording","body":"Wedding [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) are the beautiful pieces of paper that you get in the mail when a loved one is getting married. This essential stationery is typically pretty straightforward—it tells you the date, time, and location of the ceremony. But, most weddings have a lot more going on than just the ceremony itself. \n\nFrom the reception dinner to the farewell brunch, a [wedding weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/plan-wedding-weekend) is often packed with activities in various places. So, how does one convey all this extra information in an equally stylish and elegant way? With a wedding invitation suite, of course.\n\nYour [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is your guests' first glimpse into your special day. At Zola, we understand the importance of making this first impression count. Our comprehensive guide helps you navigate everything from essential information to design elements, ensuring your invitations perfectly represent your celebration.\n\nHere's what you need to know about wedding invitation essentials and how a Zola invitation suite can help you start off with a bang. P.S. We even included tips for including accessible wedding information so all of your guests can be in the know.\n\n## Essential Information for Wedding Invitations \nYour invitation will set the tone for your wedding while telling your guests all of the essentials. But what are your must-haves? Here's the scoop on [invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations):\n\n### Required Information for Wedding Invitations\nIf you're short on space, it's ok to communicate just a few things to your guests. Here are things to always put on a wedding invite:\n- Host names\n- Names of the couple\n- Wedding date and time\n- Location, including address\n\n### Optional Information for Wedding Invitations\nWhile the following isn't 100% necessary, adding these bits to your invitation will help field a lot of questions:\n- Dress code\n- Wedding registry information\n- Wedding website address\n\n### Wording Etiquette and Guidelines\nDetermining the formality of your wedding will help you decide whether your event needs a formal invitation vs. a casual invitation. Also, keep in mind any religious considerations or traditions that you, your partner, or your families wish to uphold.\n\n### Wedding Invitation Wording Samples\nIn addition to etiquette guidelines, the expert team at Zola has curated a list of wedding invitation [wording samples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording) to inspire your special day.\n\n#### Traditional\nTraditional wording borders on formal wording conventions and having abbreviations to avoid, for example:\nMr. & Mrs. Allen Argyle request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Summer Leigh Argyle to Aiden Jack Winter, Friday, the Seventeenth of June, two thousand and twenty seven at half past six in the evening at Loveland Chapel, 400 S Marry Way, Jonestown, Alabama. Reception to follow.\n\n#### Modern\nModern wording has freedom to be more casual, such as: With joy, Hailey Mueller and David Wu invite you to celebrate their marriage Saturday, September 14, 2028 at 4 o'clock in the afternoon, The Willow Creek Barn, Napa, California. Reception to follow. Please RSVP by August 15, 2028.\n\n#### Funny\nAdd cheekiness with a fun, [casual invitation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/casual-wedding-attire-guide), like this: After years of swiping right (and a few lefts we’d rather forget), we’ve finally decided to make it official. Join us for a day of love, laughter, and maybe a little bit of chaos, as we embark on this grand adventure of marriage! Thursday, October 31, 2029 at 8:30 p.m. until the party's over. Don't forget to RSVP on our website so we can save you a drink.\n\n#### Couple-hosted\nHosting your own affair? Feel free to put your names front and center as such: Chance Carter and Derek Chaus invite you to celebrate their marriage on Saturday, June 12, 2027 at Opal Christian Church, Swethville, Colorado. Dinner and dancing to follow.\n\n#### Religious\nWith hearts full of joy and gratitude for God's blessings, Mr. and Mrs. Charles Dykstra request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Kaila June Dykstra to Brendan Forrest Lewis, son of Mr. and Mrs. Matthew Lewis, Sunday, the Eighth of July, two thousand and twenty six at five in the evening at Contemporary Museum of Art, 1702 Canvas Way, Schweizville, Texas. Reception to follow.\n\n![Wedding invitation suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6mz8fKAjUVvIjM9Xo9JxPU/47593b763c581b1813f01c6db9e0dc23/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg)\n\n## A Complete Guide to Wedding Invitation Suites \n### What Is a Wedding Invitation Suite?\n\nIn short, a wedding invitation suite is a set of matching enclosure cards with the purpose of communicating extra information that may not fit on (or be proper to add to) the invitation itself. These cards may also come with a separate envelope and decorative elements, such as a sticker or ribbon.\n\nAn invitation ensemble is designed to go above and beyond the basics and truly prepare guests for the events to come.\n\n### What Does a Wedding Invitation Suite Look Like?\nMost invitation suites are made up of several matching cards, various envelopes, and any other decorative elements you choose to include.\n\nYour main invitation and your invitation suite components are also a chance to get creative. Couples can make a variety of decisions when putting this together, such as:\n\n- Choosing a color scheme\n- Adding ribbons \n- Including colorful envelopes \n- Using a wax seal\n- Incorporating lace details\n\nIf you’re a couple who takes pride in the stylistic elements of your big day, then putting together a wedding invitation suite may be the way to go. Finding the perfect one is easy when you use Zola. Choose from hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pretty-wedding-invitation-styles), along with matching enclosure cards to fit all the necessary information.\n\n### What’s Included in a Wedding Invitation Suite?\n\nEvery couple’s invitation suite will look a little different. Not only does personal style have an effect on the [invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations), but the events related to your actual wedding will also determine what’s included.\n\nThere are key elements people traditionally include. Let’s take a look wedding suite components along with a few unique options that might pique your interest.\n\n*NOTE: Please don't feel as though you need to have separate cards for all of the following, as these are just the general types.*\n\n#### Direction Card\nWhile many people may scoff at the idea of physical directions (given the blessing of modern GPS technology) there are several reasons why a direction card or insert is helpful for guests: (hint: you can even include a custom map)\n\n- __Rural weddings__ – From lost cell service to unmarked roads, you never know what a rural, beachside, or [mountain top wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-formal-wedding-in-the-mountains) venue may throw at you. \n\n- __Traffic__ – Couples can list alternative routes, rush hour times, and streets to avoid in order to help their guests beat the local traffic and get to the ceremony like a true local. \n\n- __Different directions__ – It may be courteous to write out separate directions for guests depending on which neck of the woods they’re coming from.\n\n#### Reception Card\nMany couples opt for a separate reception location, which is particularly common for ceremonies at religious, small, or outdoor spaces. A wedding invitation typically lists the ceremony time and location, with no reception information, other than maybe a line that says “reception to follow.” \n\nA reception card can help clarify and should have the following information listed on the front, in simple, straightforward language:\n\n- Date\n- Timeline information (reception start, dinner time)\n- Venue name and address\n- Activities, such as dinner, drinks, appetizers, dancing, etc.\n\n#### Transportation Card\nYou probably don’t want guests transporting themselves from the ceremony to the reception, if you can avoid it. By keeping everyone together, you’ll ensure a more seamless transition from one portion of the night to the other. \n\nGuests may also need help getting from the reception venue to their hotel accommodations—especially with an open bar. Whether you’re providing limo services, a shuttle, or ride-sharing options, list the details and timeline of any and all [transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/transportation-ideas-to-match-your-wedding-theme) on this card.\n\n#### Attire Card\nOne of the most frequently asked questions is, \"What do I wear?\" And that's where an attire card can provide direction. On it you’ll specify which of the following [dress codes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding) are required for the ceremony and reception:\n\n- __Black tie__ – Formal gowns and tuxedos are expected.\n\n- __Cocktail__ – Dresses may be shorter in length, while maintaining a fairly formal look. \n\n- __Semi-formal__ – Typically includes long, but simple dresses paired with suits. \n\n- __Casual__ – Opt for lightweight maxi dresses, button-up shirts, and slacks. \n\n#### Response/RSVP Card\nOne of the most important parts of your wedding invitation suite will be the response card. On the response card, your guests will fill out the main sections:\n\n- Whether they will or will not be attending the wedding\n- Which entree choice they would prefer\n\nYou can also include a line for plus ones or invited children. Another option is to still have a card, but direct guests to your wedding website to RSVP.\n\n![Wedding RSVP](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FzM0ewJvExp6rTd1dKixi/1a35d8c9fd81fc2e91f3ff6b8f765d74/Hero_Zola.jpg)\n\n#### Wedding Website Card\nIf you’ve put the time and effort into crafting a beautiful wedding website, you’ll want to make sure that guests can access it. Simply add your URL and any passwords necessary to a card, and include this among the other stationery in your invitation suite. Free free to put additional information, such as your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) details.\n\n#### Accommodation Card\nWhether you’re paying for a hotel room, reserving a room block, or recommending nearby facilities—add an accommodation card. You can also list accommodation information on your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and have clickable links. \n\n#### Itinerary Card\nIf you're hosting other events, incorporate an itinerary card in your invitation suite. Examples of items that may be listed on an itinerary card include:\n\n- Rehearsal dinner\n- Welcome celebration\n- Ceremony\n- Cocktail hour\n- Reception\n- Farewell lunch, brunch, or dinner\n\nAlso list the time, date, and location of event event along with expected attire for cohesive wedding stationery.\n\n### Accessibility Card\nHave guests that have mobility, hearing, or sensitivity issues? Add a card in your wedding stationery suite letting guests know what (if any) accommodations you will be making. Whether you have an ADA-compliant venue, are hiring an ASL interpreter, or are having fireworks, letting sensitive guests know ahead of time via a card is extremely thoughtful.\n\n### When Should I Send Out My Wedding Invitation Suite?\nSimilar to individual invitations, send out your invitation package around six to eight weeks before the wedding date. For destination weddings, mail invitations a bit earlier (Zola recommends 10-12 weeks or more).\n\nOrder wedding invitations and enclosure cards well in advance, in order to avoid delays or shipping issues. Six months before the wedding is typically the ideal time to place your stationery order.\n\n## How to Design Your Wedding Invitation Suite \nPutting together the packet of information for your guests is one of the most creative parts of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning). Couples can incorporate their unique wedding style into the decor of their suite. Here are a few ideas and points of wedding invitation etiquette.\n\n### Match your wedding color palette.\nBy sticking with the same color palette and design, you can give guests a sneak peek of what’s to come on the wedding day. Select invitations that coordinate with your overall wedding theme. Below are some of the ways color can be incorporated into your invitation suite:\n\n- Outer and inner envelopes\n- Stamp\n- Ribbon\n- Wax seal\n- Dried flowers or botanical elements\n\n### Add creative decorative elements.\nTry out these fun, stylish ideas for wedding invitations that truly stand out from the crowd:\n\n- __Return envelope and postage –__ If you’ve included a physical response card in your invitation suite, it’s important to insert a return envelope and postage, too. Some couples take this a step further and order custom stamps with their names, photos, or wedding art. \n\n- __Custom photo –__ If you’ve had any engagement or wedding portraits taken recently, now is the perfect time to show them off.\n\n- __Belly band –__ Instead of a simple ribbon tying the cards together, a belly band (often printed with a monogram or names) is a thicker strip of fabric that keeps everything in line.\n\n- __Foil –__ Gold, silver, or rose gold foil outlines add just the right amount of shimmer to typography and borders.\n\n![Getting Remarried Invitation Wording](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6PQ4uwmD7oxKRff66wW4hT/bbb3c993e4661c03be506190096631b5/Inline_Limelight_Photography.png)\n\n### Include assessibility information on your invitation suite.\nAlthough many couples don't think about it, being conscious of disabled guests is very thoughtful. In fact, [one in four Americans](https://www.census.gov/newsroom/facts-for-features/2024/disabilities-act.html) has some sort of disability. Adding information to your invitation suite (or at the very least, your website), can help you have a disability-friendly wedding. Here are a few types to consider for accessible wedding invitations:\n- __Mobility considerations__ - Folks who have terrain issues or need wheelchair access will need to know they'll be able to get around easily. Looking at ADA-compliant venues is also helpful.\n- __Sensory considerations__ - Some are sensitive to various noise levels, bright or strobe lighting, or overpowering scents.\n- __Dietary considerations__ - Food can cause all sorts of allergic reactions for some. Therefore talk to your caterer about having dairy-free, gluten-free, nut-free, vegetarian, and vegan options on [your menu](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-menu-cards).\n- __Communication considerations__ - If some of your guests are deaf or hard of hearing, consider hiring an ASL interpreter or having assisted listening devices.\n\nSo, where should you put this accessible venue information? Placement will depend on the type of need. However, you should always put accessibility information on your wedding website. Here are a few examples for your inclusive wedding planning invitation wording:\n- __For mobility accommodations:__ - This information can be put on separate detail cards, but you can also put it on your wedding invitation. Example: *Our venue is wheelchair-accessible with ramps at each entrance.*\n- __For sensory considerations__ - Sensory issues can also be addressed with a card or line on your invitation. Examples: *Please be advised that our reception has dim lighting, but we will provide extra illumination for low-light-sensitive guests.* or *We are committed to having a fragrance-free event for our scent-sensitive attendees.*\n- __For dietary restrictions__ - The RSVP card is an ideal place for you to add meal information. In addition to traditional chicken and beef selections (or whatever you choose), add options for vegan, gluten-free, and other considerations. You can also allow guests to write in any ultra-specific dietary restrictions, such as an allergy to peppers.\n- __For communication issues__ - Alert hearing-impaired or hard-of-hearing guests that you'll have a special section for them on a separate card or invitation. Example: *Hearing impaired guests are invited to sit up front in our special section with an ASL interpreter and listening devices so they don't miss a moment of our vows.*\n- __If you're uncertain if there are issues__ - Put an ask on detail cards or the wedding invitation, stating that you'd like to made accommodations for disabled guests. Example: *For any accessibility needs or questions, please contact us via (add either email or phone). Also, visit our wedding website at (insert web address) for complete accessibility details.*\n\n## 5 Tips: What Zola Experts Recommend \n### 1. Use digital integration.\nThe traditional wedding invitation format involves mailing a paper invitation and having the guest mail back an RSVP card—you can still totally do that! However, there are modern invitation alternatives, such as digital [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-combine-digital-save-the-dates-with-traditional-wedding-invitations) and online RSVPs. As a couple, you can use your Zola wedding website for RSVP management and track dietary restrictions, seating preferences, and lists for separate wedding-related events.\n\n### 2. Plan an invitation budget.\nOne easy way to save on invitations is to order them early enough so that you don't have to pay for [rush shipping](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-short-notice-wedding-invitations-without-seeming-rushed), which can cause extra stress. Wedding invitation wording is simple with Zola templates, where you just fill in the blank. Additionally, extras like letterpress, foil, and triple-thick cards come at an extra cost (but can be totally worth it!).\n\n### 3. Track your timeline.\nThe recommended timeframe for ordering your Zola invitations is 6-8 months prior to your wedding (which is really helpful if you've [made a mistake](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-fix-wedding-invitation-mistakes-after-theyve-been-printed) or need to make a change). However, there are rush options if you find yourself needing them [two weeks beforehand](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/rush-wedding-invitations-guide-to-getting-invites-in-under-two-weeks). You should mail out your invitations 6-8 weeks (10-12 weeks for a destination event) ahead of time and request RSVPs 3-4 weeks before your caterer needs a head count.\n\n### 4. Choose sustainable options.\nHaving an [eco-friendly wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/eco-friendly-wedding) can turn a potentially wasteful day into one that has the environment top of mind. The same goes for your wedding stationery suite. While many will save your invitation as a keepsake, you could also go digital where you can, such as save-the-dates and RSVPs.\n\n### 5. Nod to your background.\nSome cultures and religions have their own traditions. [Christian weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-christian-wedding-invitations) tend to utilize Bible verses. [Indian invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-an-indian-wedding) typically focuses on family and multiple events, rather than the brief, couple-centric invitations most are used to. Channel your family background and religious beliefs to further personalize your wedding invitations.\n\n![Blue Wedding Invitation Suite](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2odel1LpIEkELKbgwxb46O/d9b73433aa1cd1dd8444f8798d64ad9a/Invitations_Editorial_56.jpg)\n\n## FAQ About Invitation Wording \n### Do I need to include both parents' names?\nIf your parents are both paying for the wedding, it's appropriate to add their names to the host line of your invitation. If you and/or your partner are paying for the wedding, you can still choose to add your parents' names to the invitation as a courtesy, but it's not a must if they're not the true host.\n\n### How should I word the invitation if my parents are divorced?\nWhen your parents are not together anymore, list them separately on the invitation. Whether or not you include their partners, is up to you, your relationship with them, and if they're involved in paying for your special day.\n\n### Should I spell out dates and names or use numerals?\nIf you are planning a formal event, spell out any numbers in your wedding invitations. For a more casual event, it's acceptable to use numbers.\n\n### How should I indicate plus-ones on the invitation?\nBecause your invitations will be mass-printed and go out to everyone, handle plus-ones on the RSVP card and the [addressing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) of the invitation. If your invitation wording includes a plus-one, you'll open the door for everyone to bring one. \n\n### What's the proper way to request an RSVP?\nWhen folks are RSVPing on your website, you can put the RSVP information on your wedding invitation. However, traditionally, wedding invitations include a separate RSVP card to be mailed back (therefore, including a pre-stamped, addressed envelope). You can add one of the phrases below along with your RSVP deadline.\n- Kindly reply by (date)\n- Your response is requested by (date)\n- Please respond by (date)\n\n### What's the difference between a host line, request line, and ceremony line on invitations?\nThe host line lists who is hosting the wedding, which is often followed by the request line—verbiage about requesting the honor of the guest's presence. The ceremony line can often be more than one actual line, but it's purpose is to list the details of the ceremony, such as date, time, name of venue, and address. Ceremony details are typically listed separately from reception details in the sequence of events on invitations.\n\n## Craft Your Dream Invitation Suite at Zola\n\nZola is here to help, no matter the nuptial necessity. We’re a one-stop shop for all things wedding—from eye-catching [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to matching enclosure cards, and even stunning [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) with customizable features.\n\nThe perks of using Zola don’t stop at the custom invitation suite, either. Couples can also utilize our pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to find [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues), DJs, caterers, and more. Additionally, we also offer [expert wedding advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) to help you plan your perfect day every step of the way.\n\nPutting together a wedding takes work, but it doesn’t have to be stressful. Shorten your to-do list and start planning your big day the modern way at Zola.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Learn how to get quality rush wedding invitations in less than two weeks with Zola's expedited printing and shipping options.\n","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2025-05-28T09:30-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg","altText":"Flat lay of pink blush and peach wedding stationery suite"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n\n- Rush Wedding Invitation Timeline Breakdown \n- Zola’s Rush Wedding Invitation Options \n- Factors That Affect Rush Wedding Invitation Turnaround \n- Alternatives When Physical Invitations Can't Arrive in Times \n- FAQ About Last-Minute Wedding Invites","body":"You—or your partner—finally [popped the question](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) (huge congrats, by the way!), and you just can’t wait any longer to start your life together. Although your wedding timeline may be short, your first thought is to let loved ones know about the big day. Sure, you can start by sending digital [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-combine-digital-save-the-dates-with-traditional-wedding-invitations), but if you crave a mailed invitation, it’s possible to get them printed and in your hands quickly.\n\nOr perhaps you have a major project coming up at work in a few weeks and want to use your downtime to order, address, and stamp your invitations so they’re ready to go once your busy season hits. No matter your reason for quick turnaround invitations, today’s digital printing technology and shipping options can relieve your mind.\n\nBy utilizing services like beautiful design templates, wedding stationery suites, and [expedited shipping](https://www.zola.com/faq/360050381272-can-i-request-rush-printing-on-my-paper-order-) (all of which Zola has), you’ll be on your way to formally inviting friends and family to celebrate your big day. So, the short answer is yes. With Zola's rush services, you can get beautiful wedding invitations in less than two weeks. \n\nWhile traditional invitation timelines recommend 6-8 weeks for production and delivery, our expedited options ensure you won't have to compromise on quality assurance when time is tight. Here’s what you need to know about Zola emergency wedding solutions leading up to your special day.\n\n![Pretty Wedding Invitation Styles](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3PqS4O30Jqu8e3BNn0Lb5n/7667ab679ddd4d5b8c464b976fec0708/hero_offbeetproductions.jpg)\n\n## Rush Wedding Invitation Timeline Breakdown \n### If you need invitations in two weeks\n- __Days 1-2:__ __Select, customize, and order your design.__ Perhaps you’ve already perused Zola’s [design templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper), so you’re ahead of the game. Even if you haven’t peeked yet, each template offers quick customization so that you can input your information and change simple things, such as font and color, in a snap. Don’t forget to look at digital proofs for accelerated proof approval if necessary.\n- __Days 3-5:__ __Priority production and printing occur.__ For these three days, you can only sit and wait (and trust Zola!). Although you’ll have priority printing, the standard production time still takes a few days to ready and process before shipping.\n- __Days 6-10:__ __Expedited shipping and delivery are available.__ You do have rush shipping options, whether you want your order in 5-10 business days (standard shipping), within five business days (two-day shipping), or within three business days (expedited shipping).\n- __Days 11-14:__ __Check, address, and mail your invitations.__ When your wedding is near, use these final days to send your [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) to your potential guests.\n\n### If you need invitations in one week\n- __Day 1:__ __Select, customize, and order your design.__ There’s no time to waste if you need fast wedding invitations, so sit down with your partner and check your invitations off your list.\n- __Days 2-4:__ __Priority production and printing happen.__ Again, there is no skipping the production timeline, even if you need same-week wedding invitations.\n- __Days 5-7:__ __Shipping and delivery occur.__ When you have last-minute wedding invites, it’s best to go with expedited shipping, which takes three business days.\n- __Day 8:__ __Check, address, and mail the invitations.__ If your wedding is soon, track your order and plan to finish these steps as soon as they arrive.\n\n![Invitations for Your Minimalist Wedding ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/413dYEQQI7nTqY9jxrHFAP/e321d918f32318c1a037b9f8db2eaadd/inline_achong_photography2.jpg)\n\n## Zola’s Rush Wedding Invitation Options \nLooking for emergency wedding stationery and expedited invitations? Here are the Zola express design services we offer:\n- __Choose one of our easy-to-use design templates.__ Whether you’re just perusing or need a rush order process, Zola’s [templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) are simple to navigate. Just plug in your relevant information, change colors and fonts (or don’t!), add a photo if you choose, and feel secure by proofreading—and have your partner take a peek, too.\n- __Add 3-5 business days for printing.__ Unfortunately, there’s no way to rush the printing methods with Zola priority production, so this timeframe applies to every order, and there is no expedited production timeline.\n- __Choose speedy shipping to get your order quickly.__ Currently, Zola’s shipping options include the following (remember to add the 3-5 day turnaround time for printing):\n - __Standard shipping__ - $5.99 + 5-10 business days\n - __Two-day shipping__ - $11.95 + 3-5 business days\n - __Rush shipping__ - $15.95 + up to 3 business days\n\n## Factors That Affect Rush Wedding Invitation Turnaround \nLooking for a streamlined production process? Here are several design considerations for rush invitations that can hold up the process: \n### Printing Methods\nDigital alternatives offer the fastest turnaround, while letterpress, foil stamping, and other premium techniques require additional time. Additionally, those upgraded features—in addition to magnets and double or triple-thick cards—are not eligible for rush orders.\n\n### Design Complexity\nPre-designed templates can be processed quickly and put in a priority design queue, while fully custom designs require additional time for design work. By choosing Zola’s quick customization templates, you’ll save time.\n\n### Quantity Needed\nNeed 1000 expedited invitations? Even with rush fees, that amount is hard to produce on a short wedding timeline. Smaller orders can generally be created more quickly than large quantities.\n\n### Shipping Method\nZola offers various expedited shipping options to ensure your [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist) arrive when needed. Again, here’s a quick peek at your timed options: \n- __Standard__ - 5-10 business days\n- __Two-day__ - 3-5 business days\n- __Rush__ - up to 3 business days\n\n![What's Included In a Wedding Invitation Suite?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg)\n\n## Alternatives When Physical Invitations Can't Arrive in Time \nOrdering too late, even for the Zola rush guarantee? That’s still ok—you have options for your last-minute wedding invites. Before you panic (we’ve got you!), here are some ideas:\n\n### Opt for digital invitations.\nSure, it’s not ideal, but chances are you’d rather have your friends and family save the date ASAP than wait for a paper invitation to arrive in the mail. Sending a digital wedding invitation can ease your mind and let everyone know you’re getting married and when. You can even briefly explain or acknowledge your tight wedding timeline.\n\n### Take a hybrid approach.\nNo time for a Zola rush wedding suite? Send digital invitations now and a paper one as soon as your order arrives. If your guests still won’t receive their mailed stationery in time, consider sending a wedding announcement instead. A “we’re married” announcement card waiting in the mail can help bring back fond memories of your big day. You can even wait and include a few wedding photos.\n\n### Text your guests.\nYes, we know this is against wedding etiquette, but it's ok to bend the rules when working on such a short timeline that you can’t receive rush wedding invitations. For smaller affairs, send a text invitation to your guests so that they can save the date. Follow up later with something in the mail, such as an announcement or a graciously written thank you note.\n\n### Utilize your wedding website to the fullest.\nWhile you may not have time for a formal, printed wedding invitation, your guests will have fun perusing [your website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Beef it up by including lots of details, such as your love story, why you’re getting married on short notice (if you so choose), and information about your bridal party. Additionally, include information about your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and hotel room blocks so guests know what to give and where to stay.\n\n![Best Wedding Websites](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5joXZlVLJ9iwivRu8BF5ve/5316b7fafc36f1136914a7f73834021b/Brand-Laptop_0992_edit.jpg)\n\n## FAQ About Last-Minute Wedding Invites \n### Will rush wedding invitations cost more? \nAlthough the physical invitations won’t cost more, rushed shipping options will. At Zola, our rush service fee starts at $11.95 for orders needed within two weeks.\n\n### Can I get address printing with rush orders? \nYes! Zola offers address printing even with rush orders, saving valuable time addressing envelopes (although you must input the information). You can also get your return address printed.\n\n### What's the absolute fastest I can get wedding invitations?\nWith our rushed services, Zola can deliver digital proofs within 24 hours and physical invitations in as little as 5-7 business days for the most urgent situations.\n\n### Will rush invitations be lower quality?\nZola prides itself on producing top-notch invitations, so your stationery suite will be of the same quality as non-rushed orders. \n\n### What if my rush invitations have a mistake?\nUnfortunately, if your invitations arrive and [show a mistake](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-fix-wedding-invitation-mistakes-after-theyve-been-printed), your timeline will start all over again. That’s why we stress the importance of having several sets of eyes on your digital proof. In cases where you have more time, you can even order a sample of your invitation to proofread.\n\n## Need Wedding Invitations Fast?\nDon't compromise on quality when time is tight. Zola's rush wedding invitation service delivers beautiful, customized invitations in less than two weeks. Whether you send them immediately or just need to check your invitations off your to-do list, trust Zola with all of your [wedding stationery suite](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) (and [planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101)!) needs.\n","tag":"Wedding Invitations","updatedAt":"2025-05-29T02:12:51.640Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-combine-digital-save-the-dates-with-traditional-wedding-invitations","title":"Short on Time? How to Combine Digital Save-the-Dates with Traditional Wedding Invitations ","excerpt":"Blending digital communication with mailed stationery is paramount, whether you have a week or a few months until the big day.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2025-05-27T10:30-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/49UwV1NoXYrcKjT0SlN3x1/baaa616f75c8b1bf8425d4e0521a2282/Inline_How-to-stuff-wedding-invites_Inessa-nichols-designs.jpg","altText":"Flatlay of a colorful invitation suite"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n\n- Understanding Short-Notice Wedding Planning Communication \n- What Are Considered Last-minute Wedding Invitations? \n- Perks of Combining Digital and Physical Invitations \n- Digital Save-the-Date Best Practices \n- Planning with Zola Expedited Wedding Invitations \n- FAQs About Short-Notice Wedding Planning","body":"You’ve found the love of your life (congrats!), and before you know it, the [question has been popped](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal), and you’re deciding to get married in a month. While things are moving at lightning speed, you and your partner have never been happier and are excited to celebrate with loved ones. Having things go at a quick pace may leave you wondering whether or not it’s ok to send digital [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates) and rush wedding invitations at the same time. \n\nShort-notice wedding planning can leave you in a blissful whirlwind, and our expert team at Zola is here to say—that’s ok! Modern wedding communication offers many solutions for letting guests know about your big day when you’re wedding planning under pressure. Sure, things may not follow tradition, but your [grandparents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-keep-family-involved-in-wedding-traditions-during-the-ceremony) can adjust and get into the celebratory spirit.\n\nNo matter the reason for a time-sensitive wedding—whether you’re moving away or simply can’t wait to start your life together, our team has expert advice and smart solutions to help you every step of the way. The seamless transition from digital to physical with Zola is a breeze. We promise! Here’s all you need to know about invitations and save-the-dates for stress-free wedding planning on [short notice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-short-notice-wedding-invitations-without-seeming-rushed). \n\n![Save The Date Cards](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ssuvHa5dmAyOCs4WsuswS/6a9a67ec5388be036665d239f1b63397/invitations_editorial_blog_12.jpg)\n\n## Understanding Short-Notice Wedding Planning Communication \nSome couples take months, even years, to plan their big day, but sometimes that’s impossible. Although it’s perfectly acceptable to [elope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-an-elopement), celebrating without family and friends isn’t for everyone. If you have a short timeline, here are a few things to consider for time-saving wedding planning. \n\n### What is a short-notice wedding timeframe?\nTraditionally, couples send out save-the-dates six to eight months before getting married, with invitations arriving six to eight weeks before the special day. Getting married in less than four months generally puts wedding planning into hyperdrive. That means letting folks know your wedding date is of the utmost importance.\n\nHere are a few timeframe terms to be familiar with:\n- __Express__ - getting married within 1-4 weeks\n- __Rushed__ - having a wedding within 1-2 months\n- __Expedited__ - planning your big day within 2-4 months\n\n### Can I combine digital and physical invitations?\nCombining digital and physical invitations is the ace in your pocket when setting up your guest list for success. You’ll certainly want to call some relatives, such as grandparents who aren’t tech-savvy, and let them know the news. However, combining [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) with expedited wedding stationery (hint: Zola can do both!) is the perfect way to do double duty by giving guests a heads-up that a paper invitation is on its way. So, the short answer is—yes, you can use both digital and mailed communication.\n\n### What to include on expedited wedding stationery?\nLike traditional wedding invitations, you’ll need to add all relevant information. Include details, such as the date, time, and location, along with your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) address. Of course, your names should be prominently displayed, but you may also want to add a few words about your quick timeline. Saying, “We know it’s quick, but we’re getting married,” or giving a nod to the timing adds fun to more casual invitations.\n\n![Wedding invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3vel5Z2seD6TH6LO2jOI1B/0cc907c00a4305e11dc73b590a6841b0/Foil_0445.jpg)\n\n## What Are Considered Last-minute Wedding Invitations? \nFor serious planners, the timeline of sending save-the-dates six to eight months before the big day seems late. We get it. However, here’s what is typically acceptable for weddings under specific time constraints. \n\n### If you’re getting married in eight months or more:\nYou’re in luck, as you can stick with a traditional timeline. Send Zola digital save-the-dates six to eight months beforehand, followed by a paper invitation six to ten weeks prior to the big day. \n\n### If you’re getting married in six to eight months:\nYou may still need to consider some time-saving [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101) methods, but six to eight months is enough to have breathing room. Order your physical save-the-dates and wedding invitations at the same time. Send paper save-the-dates immediately, and mail your invitations six to eight weeks before your wedding date.\n\n### If you’re getting married in four to six months:\nWhen getting married in less than six months, you still have some wiggle room, but it’s best to get things moving to maximize your guest count. Send digital save-the-dates right away. You can still send paper ones for a keepsake if you’d like, but order and send them immediately if you choose to go that route. Designing and ordering [expedited wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/shipping) should also be a top priority to allow time for addressing and mailing out to your guests. \n\n### If you’re getting married in two to four months:\nWedding planning under pressure may have your head spinning with dreams of floral arrangements, gown fittings, and finalizing menus, so don’t let your stationery fall by the wayside. Your wedding invitation timeline is short. Therefore, combining digital save-the-dates with quick-turnaround wedding stationery is paramount.\n\n### If you’re getting married in less than two months:\nFast wedding invitations are your new BFF (although don’t let your [maid of honor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/first-time-maid-of-honor) know that!). Send out digital wedding announcements right after you nail down a date, time, and location. You’ll also need to order rush wedding invitations, which means selecting a template, proofing, and ordering on a tight timeline. All of that is followed by receiving, addressing, and mailing, so block time in your schedule to prioritize the above.\n\n### If you’re getting married next week (or in two weeks):\nYou crazy thing, you—and Zola’s team is here for it! If the adrenaline of deciding to get married and doing it big next week makes your heart sing, go for it. Zola short-notice wedding solutions are ready, although it’s best to skip the save–the–dates and send a digital wedding invitation. You can always print a few paper invitations as keepsakes or send a post-wedding announcement card instead.\n\n![Bride and Groom Wedding Entrance via MikeMusic in NYC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ya7BxPqzal6TV6XwGYRMi/034568bded5daca57df3ffc03d9d6f70/Bride_and_Groom_Wedding_Entrance_via_MikeMusic_in_NYC.jpg)\n\n## Perks of Combining Digital and Physical Invitations \nThey’re time-effective. When you want your loved ones to know of your plans and be able to save the date before making other plans, a digital save-the-date saves the day.\n- __You can save money__. Wedding budgets often get stressed. So sending Zola digital save-the-dates helps offset printing costs.\n- __Going digital is sustainable.__ Many couples decide to forego paper save-the-dates and go digital instead to reduce paper waste.\n- __Blend formal with casual.__ The immediate need to send digital data-saving communication is offset by the formality of a traditional paper invitation.\n- __Communicate more with less.__ Digital correspondence doesn’t have as many space constraints. Plus, you can automatically direct folks to your website, where they can find more information.\n\n## Digital Save-the-Date Best Practices \n\n### Design Tips to Keep It Cohesive\nWhen choosing your suite, it’s best to keep your overall wedding tone and theme in mind. Although you may be tempted to (or need to) rush, there are still a few ideas to factor in. Here’s what to keep in mind:\n- Choose pieces that coordinate with your wedding colors.\n- Select designs within a stationery set, meaning your digital save-the-dates, wedding invitations, menus, and post-wedding thank you cards can all match. Yes, Zola can do that!\n- Keep the tone the same throughout. If you’re having a [formal wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-formal-wedding-in-the-mountains), keep the voice and wording formal in all communication.\n\n![Zola Digital Save the Dates](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/19ChqNhhbTa5RUDRGxlxGQ/71748ca8f737c5660d095464421c8cbc/Zola_Digital_Save_the_Dates.jpg)\n\n### Adhere to Digital Save-the-Date Etiquette\nHurriedly short-notice wedding planning? Don’t make a faux pas and toss sensibility out the window. Here’s how to do it right:\n- __Be sensitive to older generations.__ While you’re making wedding planning shortcuts, don’t leave grandparents and older relatives in the dark. Most aren’t used to digital communication, let alone trying to navigate your [online wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Give them a call expressing your excitement over getting married while giving them details so they can be there to celebrate.\n- __Say that a paper invitation is on its way.__ Although there are a lot of wedding invitation alternatives around, brief your guests that they will receive their last-minute [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-fix-wedding-invitation-mistakes-after-theyve-been-printed) in the mail soon. If you only have time for digital, let them know to check their email for their online invite.\n- __Be clear about who is invited.__ Because you’re having them hold the date, let families know whether or not children, spouses, or plus-ones are included with your initial communication. Ambiguity can confuse, and there’s no time for that.\n- __Word your save-the-dates properly.__ Typical date savers include the couple’s names and that they’re getting married (the “who” and “what”), but also add the date/time/location and your wedding website information. Acknowledging the timeline is also appropriate.\n\n### How to Word Your Communication\nNeed ideas on how to address your short timeline? Here are tips from Zola’s team of experts:\n- Our timeline is short, but our love will last long. Save the date for our celebration (add details). Keep an eye on your mailbox—a paper invitation will come in a few weeks.\n- We decided to get married! We’re as shocked and excited about the quickness as you are, but we hope you can join us on (insert details) as we say our vows. Paper invitation to follow.\n- We’d love for you to join us on our wedding day in two months. We know the date is approaching quickly, but we hope you can still join us. Your paper invitation will arrive soon.\n- (Name) and (Name) are getting married in two weeks. Yes, you read that right! Because of our expedited timeline, consider this the save-the-date and invitation all-in-one. Please join us at the beginning of the reception for a group photo so we can include it in our paper post-wedding announcement. We can’t wait to celebrate with you!\n\n### Create with Zola Digital Save-the-Dates\nIf you’re looking for an economical, beautiful way to send your modern wedding communication quickly, Zola has options. Plus, it’s all free! What’s better than free save-the-dates? Here’s all you need to do:\n- Head to the Zola [digital save-the-date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop/spring) section to find and customize your favorite design. You’ll find ones coordinating with our rush wedding invitations, making things even easier. \n- Zola will create a unique link to access your digital date-saver.\n- Then, copy and paste your link into a message to your invitees via text, email, or DM.\n- Zola also has optional features that direct your guests to visit your wedding website and places to put their addresses, making sending paper invitations a breeze.\n\n![Zola Digital Save the Date Help](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7luY7G3FMCmPP501JfGrwD/72f244df1a6c8c32c29fc442ab62287e/Zola_Digital_Save_the_Date_Help.jpg)\n\n## Planning with Zola Expedited Wedding Invitations \nNeed a suite of quick-turnaround [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-invitations-for-a-delayed-reception-after-a-small-wedding)? Look no further. The seamless transition from digital to physical with Zola has never been easier. \n\nOur team has mastered stress-free wedding planning on short notice, so here are dos and don’ts about rush wedding invitations: \n\n### Don’t: Forget to use Zola’s integrated RSVP tracking.\nZola’s integrated systems allow you to keep track of everything in one place—including RSVPs. Whether you’re having a wedding shower, rehearsal dinner, or bridesmaids’ brunch in addition to your wedding reception, Zola can help you seamlessly track who is coming to which events. You can even input your guest list and their contact information so they can receive a nudge if they’ve neglected to RSVP online.\n\n### Do: Weigh your shipping options.\nWith Zola, orders take 3-5 business days to process and print before they can ship. So be sure to factor that in along with the [shipping time](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-). \n\nHere are your options when ordering (again, add the processing time):\n- __Standard orders__ arrive within five-10 business days.\n- __Two-day shipping__ comes within five business days.\n- __Rush orders__ for select cards are delivered within three business days.\n\n### Don’t: Expect upgraded features on a short timeline.\nLooking for letterpress with foil and your photo prominently displayed? Chances are you won’t get it in time. Letterpress, magnets, foil, and double/triple-thick cards are not eligible for rush shipping through Zola. However, there are so many stunning designs available that you won’t miss the upgraded features that take more time to produce.\n\n### Do: Customize a preset wedding invitation suite.\nLooking for time-saving wedding planning options? Select one of our [predesigned suites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) over a custom invitation. Of course, you can change existing elements, such as font, photos, and color. However, uploading a completely custom design (plus the time it will take to have someone do the custom work) will add to the timeline.\n\n![Customize Zola Invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57a3xQo7Dg9wPCu1KsjC0c/0cd352b808a98de45d40505b65b59af8/Customize_Zola_Invitation.jpg)\n\n## FAQs About Short-Notice Wedding Planning \n\n### Is it tacky to send digital save-the-dates?\nGiven a rushed situation, skipping paper and opting for digital is perfect. Save-the-dates are an optional paper product, so it’s not as much of an issue.\n\n### How much time can I save with digital save-the-dates?\nHow much time do you want to save? Once you have your wedding info settled, you can fill in the blanks and send your save-the-dates immediately. While they can still take the same amount of time to design as paper stationery, you don’t have to wait on the time it takes to print, receive, address, and mail invitations. \n\n### What if some guests don’t have email?\nIf you have older invitees who don’t have email, you could send a text or DM. However, it’s safe to assume they may not have any of those. In that case, give them a call and tell them the details while assuring them that a paper invitation is on its way (or will be soon).\n\n### Will guests take my wedding less seriously with digital communications?\nGiven your timeline, they shouldn’t discount your wedding simply because you’ve gone digital, especially if you give them a reason. Tell them you’re on a tight timeline, strict budget, or eco-friendly kick. \n\n## Zola: For Rush Wedding Invitations and Beyond\nWhen you’re in a pinch, Zola is here with expert advice 24/7 (and yes, 365!). Research what to put on your wedding registry, how to [propose to your bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridesmaid-proposal), and where to [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/honeymoon-planning-mistakes). Zola is also the place to curate your wedding website, plan your wedding registry, and find vendors in your area. \n\nNo matter what, you can trust Zola’s team of experts and their decades of experience. Want to get started now? Check out our extensive [save-the-date section](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), where you’ll also find the perfect wedding invitation suite, too. \n","tag":"Wedding Invitations","updatedAt":"2025-05-28T01:51:53.992Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-fix-wedding-invitation-mistakes-after-theyve-been-printed","title":"How to Fix Wedding Invitation Mistakes After They've Been Printed","excerpt":"Misspelled your partner’s middle name? No worries—Zola has a guide on how to fix common wedding invitation mistakes from typos to ordering errors.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2025-05-23T03:30-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2p2IfR911UdsbkaNTKpW7n/32570655decb3d77f014f1e1e8b86e51/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Fix Wedding Invitation Mistakes After They've Been Printed"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n\n- Correction Cards: When, Why, and How to Send Them \n- Ways to Fix a Mistake Post-Print \n- Points to Note About Your Correction \n- Avoiding Common Mistakes With Wedding Invitations \n- Tips to Avoid Wedding Invitation Mistakes \n- FAQ About Sending Correction Cards \n- Get Your Free Invitation Sample Today at Zola ","body":"Noticed a “Septmeber” where there should be a “September”? Did that adorable photograph from your [couple’s photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) come out blurry? Or worse—have you misspelled the names of your future in-laws?\n\nErrors on printed [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) are more common than people think. After all, humans (and machines) make mistakes—from a wedding invitation typo to missing information to botched formatting. But if your beautiful design came out less than perfect, don’t panic. No matter your situation, there’s a solution.\n\nFrom planning tips to savvy remedies, here is Zola’s comprehensive guide on how to fix wedding invitation mistakes.\n\n## Correction Cards: When, Why, and How to Send Them \nYou’ve licked the seals, placed the stamps, and dropped all the [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide) into the mailbox. Everything is set. That is, until your mother calls asking why your first name is spelled wrong. Uh-oh. Certain wedding details demand a quick correction notice.\n\nIf you have the time, there’s an elegant solution to remedying your mistake: follow-up cards. However, before sending them, you’ll need to ask yourself a few questions.\n\nUse this framework to help you decide if sending out a follow-up correction card is necessary:\n- __What type of error is it?__ Forgot to include the reception venue name with the address? An easy website update or venue correction email can take care of that. But, if your photograph accidentally shrunk to thumbnail size, reprints or new digital invitations are in store. The more a mistake interferes with guest information or overall appeal, the larger step you’ll need to remedy the situation. For example, an RSVP correction could impact guest response.\n- __How close to the wedding date is it?__ Depending on your [wedding timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist), you may have to scurry to send a correction notification. You’ll be designing, submitting, approving, and sending stationery again. Couples should take this path only if they have at least 10 weeks before the wedding. Wedding guests should have all the necessary information at least six weeks before the big day. Consider more immediate options if you can’t deliver a wedding invitation addendum by that deadline.\n- __How formal is the wedding?__ Let’s face it, an email will always feel less fancy than a paper invitation. For upscale celebrators, digital messages might feel inappropriate, even in the case of an emergency. But for more casual celebrations, go for an easy website update or e-card. It all depends on your formality level.\n- __Do you have room in your budget?__ While some retailers may offer discounts for reprints, an invitation error card is an entirely new product, and you probably won’t get a discount. Check if your budget has the wiggle room for this extra step. Wedding [stationery](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match) is no cheap venture. Paper invitations can cost hundreds or even thousands of dollars for large celebrations. If you want a full round of reprints, check if that extra price fits your budget. Otherwise, digital options (emails, website updates, etc.) are cheaper. \n\nAdditionally, review these examples to see if a follow-up card is necessary:\n- __Key details, such as date, time, or location, were misprinted.__ Sending a follow-up is essential to avoid confusion, especially in the case of a wedding date correction.\n- __Important, but not misdirecting details, such as misspellings or wrong RSVP details, are incorrect.__ In these cases, a correction card is recommended, but it’s also optional.\n- __Annoying, but non-essential things, such as punctuation or designs, are misprinted or offset.__ These issues are disappointing to discover, but they don’t require a mailed correction.\n\nAt the end of the day, who cares if “July” was spelled “Jluy”? What matters most on your wedding day is celebrating with your loved ones by your side—not perfect spelling. Take one more thing off your to-do list and save yourself the energy when there’s an invitation erratum.\n\n![What's Included In a Wedding Invitation Suite?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg)\n\n## Ways to Fix a Mistake Post-Print \nIf a faulty wedding invitation was signed, sealed, and delivered, don’t panic. No matter the mistake, there is almost always a way to fix it. All slip-ups can be fixed with enough time, from email updates to entirely new stationery or a correction card.\n\nHere are some of the top methods, tips, and tricks for solving any wedding invitation mishap.\n\n### Full Reprints\nFinally, your approved wedding invitations have arrived in the mail. But, when you open the box, you find a name typo, smack-dab in the center. Never fear, as there are elegant solutions to counteracting an invitation typo. \n\nLuckily, you caught the mistake before sending out your invitations to guests (phew). But, unluckily, you are probably pressed for time. On top of that, most retailers do not offer free reprints for wedding information updates, no matter the mistake. Now what? Etiquette [protocol](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) suggests fixing the printing mistake before sending.\n\nConsider requesting an error correction reprint if these conditions apply to you:\n- __Retailer error__ – Even with a contract stating no liability, most retailers will usually own up to their own mistakes. Ask about discounts or exclusive prices for reprints. If the final product didn’t match your approved sample, odds are that you’ll receive some compensation.\n- __Enclosure cards__ – If your mistake was confined to an enclosure card or insert, you’ve got a simpler fix at hand. Some retailers offer exclusive deals to reprint that sole part of your invitation suite. It could save you hundreds on materials and postage costs.\n- __Enough time__ – Wedding plans are a marathon, not a sprint—the sooner you start, the better. Typically, it takes more than a day for you to edit, approve, and receive fixed invitations, so call your retailer as soon as possible. To really speed things up, try to contact the actual printer (not just the designer or middleman) for efficient reprints.\n\n### Online Retailers\nEvery good plan has a solid backup in store. One quick and dependable safety net for your wedding invitations is online retailers.\n\nYes, you might have to switch designs from your local or boutique print shop, but many small businesses have long turnarounds and limited hours—and in a pinch, you can’t risk that wait. Luckily, online stationery retailers are 24/7. And, with their quick deliveries and affordable prices (Zola’s [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-paper-options) start at just $1.99 each), they will likely save you a lot of sweat and worry.\n\n### Digital Options\nSometimes, there’s just not enough time for the postal service. If the wedding ceremony is merely weeks away, you’ll probably need to update guests digitally.\n\nWe know—pairing digital communication with paper invitations can feel informal, but if you’re pressed for time or money, then it’s a completely understandable solution. Consider these online options for a quick and easy fix:\n- __Digital invitations__ – Don’t have time for a paper reprint? Or perhaps your invitations had a major mistake (poor photo quality, blurry artwork, etc.)? Then digital invitations might be your best bet. Ask your printer for a digital copy of your invitation design (most will have them on file). Even if it’s not your original vision, digital invitations provide guests with important facts in style—and that’s what really matters.\n- __Email updates__ – To correct any small typos or other minuscule errors, you don’t need to start over from scratch. If you have contact information for all guests, you can send out a formal (and hopefully stylized) e-card or email message that notifies guests of the correction. However, only choose this option for tight deadlines and tiny errors.\n- __Wedding website announcements__ – With a personal website, your guests have an accessible information hub for all things related to your wedding—and that includes invitations. At Zola, you can easily build a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) to update guests on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), dress code, and even invitation typo corrections.\n\n![Elegant Wedding Invitation Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oItwTAUV4BVJ5Vq4ddZ7y/a47d963fd1c20fb8976f88190d1ea401/hero_unsplash.jpg)\n\n## Points to Note About Your Correction \n\n### Sample Wording Templates for Various Corrections\nThere’s rarely one solution for a problem. Before you sprint to the nearest office supplies store, take a step back. Rushing into fix-mode is a sure-fire way to cause more mistakes.\n\nHere are a few wording examples to use if you decide to send out correction cards:\n- Correction: Our wedding ceremony address is 1658 Schuyler Lane, not 158 Schuyler Lane, as originally printed.\n- Oops! In all of our excitement, we got ahead of ourselves. The correct time of our ceremony is 5 pm. We look forward to celebrating with you on time!\n- We apologize for any confusion: Our wedding date is June 18, not the 81st as originally printed (of course!).\n- James and Ross (not Rosa!) are excited to have you at their wedding. Sorry to cause a bit of confusion with an unexpected typo.\n- Please RSVP to our correct wedding website at www.zola.com/wedding/lailaandjohn (our site address was misprinted on our original invitations).\n- We’re throwing a party in style, so please wear semi-formal attire on our big day. Our apologies for omitting this information from our original invitation.\n\n### Etiquette Guidelines for Wedding Correction Cards\nIn the rush of wedding plans, getting caught up in every little mistake is easy. Instead, step back and see the big picture. You’ll be surprised how few people notice typos (let alone design mistakes) on your invitations. So be gracious with yourselves, and don’t overdo an apology. \n\nHere are a few points of wedding etiquette to consider with correction cards: \n- __Send out a timely correction.__ For a significant faux pas, make the change as quickly as possible. That means sitting down to design and order a correction, have it rush shipped, and mail them out as soon as possible. \n- __Word your invitation correction appropriately.__ Don’t overapologize and keep the information short and concise to avoid further confusion. \n- __Address the envelope only to the impacted parties.__ If you invited the entire family, it’s ok to just address the envelope to the parents or head of household.\n- __Keep it formal—or not—depending on the style of your wedding.__ The more luxe your wedding is, the more your invitation error will require a formal solution.\n\n### How to Customize Wedding Correction Cards\n- __Match your existing stationery.__ Your updated card should be recognizable as part of your wedding, even as a separate piece. Pick a matching correction insert for cohesion if you select a Zola invitation suite. That way, guests can easily associate it with the first invitation.\n- __Select an appropriate size.__ Choose a standard size that won’t get lost in the mail but isn’t bulky. An invitation insert and error notification are typically the same size.\n- __Consider your budget.__ Did you spring for thick cardstock with a pearl finish for the original invitation? Don’t feel you have to do the same for a correction card.\n- __Only DIY if necessary.__ Unless your wedding is informal, have the corrections professionally printed.\n- __Analyze different options.__ If you have it in your budget to do a full reprint of your invitation, it would make a wonderful (and correct!) keepsake for family and friends. However, feel free to only send a card with the correction if that’s all time and finances allow. \n\n![Kate Spade New York Crown Point Double Invitation Frame](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/45SQWYuJcVAnumSODBh0qz/b3e1b1c784f780023a2c770b5b0e0b65/Kate_Spade_New_York_Crown_Point_Double_Invitation_Frame.jpg)\n\n## Avoiding Common Mistakes With Wedding Invitations \nWedding planning is like juggling fifty plates at once. Between [cake testing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-cake-traditions-and-their-significance) and floral choices, it’s a lot for two people to handle. Odds are that a few things will slip through the cracks—and that’s ok.\n\nBut with some detailed preparation, you can avoid those common wedding invitation mistakes.\nIf you’re in the happy position of reading this blog post before error strikes, read on to review the common planning and designing mishaps that couples make with wedding invitations.\n\n### #1: Leaving Too Little Time\nNothing spurs human error quite like a time crunch. If you’re scrambling to design, approve, and send out wedding invitations, the likelihood of making a mistake skyrockets.\n\nMany couples underestimate just how much work goes into a wedding, let alone wedding invitations. If you start designing just three months out, you’re guaranteed to hit a speed bump. \n\nTo avoid the last-minute panic attack, here are some tips for creating a smooth wedding invitation timeline:\n- __Start designing now__ – The more time you have on your side, the better chance of avoiding (or easily fixing) mistakes. Our experts at Zola recommend starting your invitation designs at least six months in advance, which gives you plenty of room to approve a sample, release your invitations, and possibly fix any mistakes.\n- __Consult experts__ – Don’t be caught hot-gluing crystals or handwriting every word on your invitations. Unless you’re holding a very small ceremony, you’re going to need a professional service to help create and send out invitations. Start shopping around early for expert vendors, and take a huge weight off your to-do list (Zola’s paper shop is a great place to start).\n- __Send on the early side__ – Even if you sent Save the Dates months before, wedding invitations are not a last-minute deal. According to common etiquette, you should send invitations six to 10 weeks prior to the big day. But to avoid any mistakes, we recommend leaning towards 10 weeks, if not a little earlier. And remember—factor in shipping time for your farthest guest.\n\n### #2: Adding Too Many Details\nSo, you want ivy bordering… and gold-foil font… and a velvet bow… and a photograph? It’s time to take a step back.\n\nWe understand if you’re married (pardon the pun) to a vision for your stationery. After all, customization is what makes it your wedding, but the more complicated a recipe, the more likely a mistake. For the sake of successful printing, it’s best to simplify your design.\n\nTo go from over-the-top to just-right, start with these tips:\n- __Colors__ – Unless your theme is strictly rainbow, you should probably shrink your design color palette. Most couples choose three to four shades for all visual wedding elements, from florals to banners to invitations. We suggest choosing one neutral—white, cream, beige, or grey—as your “backdrop” color so that printers have an easier time.\n- __Construction__ – Tri-folds, gate-folds, and pockets all give flair to a wedding invitation, but unique or add-on shapes equal more room for printing mistakes. Unless you’re really set on a certain fold, stick to single-surface designs for ease.\n- __Photographs__ – Photograph invitations require some forethought since most couples schedule a professional shoot long before sending out invitations. Just remember—the key to photo invitations is formatting and high-quality printing. Consult a professional service so that you and your partner look as beautiful as you both deserve.\n- __Details and ornaments__ – Bows, letterpressing, foil, patterns—all of these touches give a design its personality. But, if you add too many, you’re looking at a cluttered and mistake-prone print. Stick with a few recurring motifs that match your wedding venue, like red floral watercolors for a garden wedding.\n\n### #3: Pre-Buying Postage\nPress pause before buying that 100-pack of stamps. Until you know the exact weight and size of your invitations, it’s best to save [postage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-postage) for after printing.\n\nMany couples add enclosure cards—anything from RSVP cards to accommodation options—with their official wedding invitations. This means that invitation suites (aka, every stationery piece with your invitation) often weigh more than your typical card.\n\nIf you buy postage before knowing the exact weight, you might waste dollars on the wrong stamps. Stay patient and wait until you have a final postage price.\n\n![ Addressing Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Hwdt76Xhfm6wkLFHVadbJ/378bc1375559e95f28dad1106afd368a/hero_unsplash.jpg)\n\n### #4: No Proofreading\nMost invitation mistakes are simply human errors. Whether rushed, stressed, or forgetful, submitting your design without proofreading is a recipe for typos. Failing to double-check can lead to:\n- __Misspelling__ – While not as important as your marriage license, the spelling on your wedding invitations should be correct. Make sure that you confirm all names with other parties before submitting.\n- __Incorrect information__ – Copy and pasted the wrong address for your RSVP venue? Faulty information can mislead guests, even causing inaccurate bookings. Cross-check all locations, times, wedding date, and other information beforehand.\n- __Missing information__ – Maybe it slipped your mind, or maybe it’s a printing mistake. Either way, missing information can leave guests confused or out of the loop. Luckily, these mistakes are the easiest to fix without sending a new round of invitations.\n\n### #5: Over-Ordering or Under-Ordering\nWe love when couples get excited about their invitation design—but don’t put the cart before the horse. Jumping ahead of your guest list usually leads to inappropriate invitation orders.\n\nToo few invitations, and you’ll be scrambling for new prints at the last minute. Too many, and you’re sitting on wasted money and paper. Try to finalize your guest list before placing your full invitation order.\n\nAnother general safety rule? Order 10-15 more invitations than your final guest count. That way, you have a little wiggle room for any pop-up guests (and can keep one as a memento).\n\n## Tips to Avoid Wedding Invitation Mistakes \nYou know the saying—hindsight is 20-20. But to avoid regret, you should test that foresight. With the right care, attention to detail, and external help, you can avoid all slipups with your wedding invitations.\n\nTake your time to implement these mistake-buffering tips when designing your wedding invitations:\n- __Use proofreaders__ – When we’re stressed or rushed, it’s all too easy to miss our own mistakes. That’s why you need another pair of eyes. Ask two or more people to proofread your invitation—whether friends, family members, or professional printers. It’s preferable if one has grammar expertise or editing experience.\n- __Review your contract__ – When you order from a stationery designer or printer, you usually have to sign a contract. In those agreements, most wedding vendors add a liability clause—a statement saying they’re not responsible for any reprints, even if they made an error. Before signing on the dotted line, make sure that your plans and budget fit all contract terms with your vendor.\n- __Confirm information__ – Addresses, dates, the last names of in-laws—all of these tidbits can easily get lost in the wedding planning chaos. Always triple-check all critical information before submitting your design. An accidental “thier” can be excused, but the wrong ceremony time cannot.\n- __Order a sample card__ – No couple should send out invitations without first approving the end product. One way to put your final stamp on invitations is ordering a sample—aka, a physical (preferred) or digital copy of your invitation. This gives you one last chance to edit any mistakes with your printers before mailing. For a full trial, Zola offers up to five sample cards of different customized designs—for free.\n- __Shake up your reading__ – Sometimes, it just takes a fresh perspective to catch that misspelled “Wednesday”. To reset your comprehension, try reading your invitation out loud or right to left. This unusual action will help your brain pick up on individual words and possible mistakes.\n- __Over-order (slightly)__ – You don’t want to sit on a hundred unused invitations. But having a few extra cards is a much smaller problem than scrambling for new prints. After finalizing your guest count, order about a dozen more sets of your invitation suite. That way, lost cards, damaged invitations, or last-minute guests won’t tank your supply.\n\n![how to address invitations ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6iReX3bR4WOeYYYuue04ew/cf5f1169b4a4185ec26c5ebb957251b3/hero_How_To_Address_Wedding_Invitations.jpg)\n\n## FAQ About Sending Correction Cards \nHow do I word a correction card without sounding apologetic?\nBeing short and concise will convey your information quickly. You can also use a bit of humor in your correction. Just remember the primary purpose is to issue a correction and not be wordy or overly apologetic about it.\n\n### Do I need to send correction cards to everyone or just the affected guests?\nIf someone isn’t impacted by a mistake on a wedding invitation, you don’t need to send them a notice to correct the error. \n\n### What’s the difference between a correction card and an information update?\nUpdating information can easily be conveyed on a website or another route, but a correction card is typically for major mistakes on a mailed, printed invitation. \n\n### How much should I budget for correction cards?\nYour correction card budget depends on the formality of your wedding, the number of guests impacted, and whether you do a complete reprint or just send a card with updated information. \n\n### Can I handwrite correction cards for a small wedding?\nDepending on the formality of your wedding, a handwritten card can be appropriate. A formal wedding calls for a printed correction, but a note may be seen as more personal if your event is small with family and friends.\n\n### Should I include a correction card in the same envelope as another wedding item?\nIf the correction is major—say a date, time, or location issue—it’s best to send a card solo so it doesn’t get lost among other things.\n\n### How long before my wedding should I mail out correction cards?\nEtiquette says guests should be alerted no less than six weeks before the big day, especially if the date was misprinted. \n\n### What if we are concerned with being sustainable and saving paper?\nBeing conscious about the environment is admirable and comes into play if you’re considering reprinting your invitations. If sustainability is important, send a digital change (and update your wedding website!) and let your guests know your waste concerns.\n\n![spinning-around](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6MLtsQNTVB7NoRnq2R7JbL/708cea343b80b0687f7996c5a8544e95/spinning-around.jpg)\n\n## Get Your Free Invitation Sample Today at Zola \nIf your wedding invitations come out less than perfect, take a deep breath—everything will be ok. From minuscule typos to huge blunders, there’s always a workable solution. The key to avoiding or fixing invitation mistakes is to devise a plan and not rush. The good news is that you can provide instant digital invitation updates with a Zola [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs), and Zola correction cards are a simple, elegant solution. \n\nStuck on a vintage letterpress design? Or need a quick 50-plus invitations for some unexpected cousins? Zola can help with all your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) needs. Our paper shop has hundreds of customizable styles for all wedding stationery, from save-the-dates to reception menus. Even better? You can receive five invitation samples—all for free. With our premium selection, you’re guaranteed to find an invitation that matches your personality. No matter where you are in your wedding planning timeline, Zola has expert advice to guide you every step of the way.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2025-05-27T19:03:12.956Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one","title":"How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One","excerpt":"We’ll help you navigate one of the trickier wedding etiquette issues, and teach you how to word wedding invitations with no plus one, or with one, as well as how to decide who’s getting one in the first place.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2024-08-02T02:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4JxmLiKMZdAdv3IcURkvd7/ca64066359bf619352dd2fdef2199f41/Hero_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_Inessa-Nichols-design_zola-invite.jpg","altText":"Wedding invitation on flowers"},"heroCredit":"Inessa Nichols","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- How to say no plus ones on your wedding website\n- Who gets a plus one?\n- Plus-one invitation wording\n- What to do when someone asks for a plus-one","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Your wedding invitation should include all the critical information about the wedding day, convey tone and formality, and indicate how guests should RSVP.\n- Invitation wording etiquette includes everything from following general grammar rules to giving extra attention to the wording you use for names and titles. \n- Use similar examples for inspiration when writing your invitations to model your wording after.\n\n## Basics of no plus one wedding invitation wording\n\nThere are some parts of wedding planning that are just, well, awkward. And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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We've rounded up all of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free wedding gifts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3vel5Z2seD6TH6LO2jOI1B/0cc907c00a4305e11dc73b590a6841b0/Foil_0445.jpg","altText":"Hands holding a wedding invitation, with several other wedding invitations spread out on a table below."},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- List of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff\n- How to find other company addresses to send wedding invites to\n- What should the wedding invitation say?\n","body":"They say the best things in life are free. And while that usually means joy or the feeling of sunshine on your skin, we think it can also apply to free gifts. Namely, the ones from your favorite companies congratulating you on your upcoming nuptials. \n\n“How,” you ask? By inviting them to your wedding! \n\nDon’t worry: you won’t have to pay for extra plates or worry about exceeding your headcount. You’re just sending those extra invites to your favorite brands in the hopes that they’ll reply back with a gift, or at least some fun swag!\n\nMaybe you’re ahead of the trend and you’ve tried out these [viral Tiktok methods](https://www.tiktok.com/discover/companies-to-send-wedding-invitations-to?lang=en) already. Or you might be ready to start sending out those accidental-extra-invites, and you want a little guidance on getting the best response rate. \n\nWe’ve got you covered. Read on for everything you need to know when it comes to the best companies to send [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide) to for free stuff. \n\n## List of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff \n\nYou’ll probably want to focus your efforts on your favorite brands. But it can’t hurt to do a little market research, right? \n\nWe’ve rounded up all of the best companies to send [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to for free stuff (including company addresses to send wedding invites to), based on our research of who actually responds, and what they send out to real couples. \n\n### Chick-fil-A\n\nIf you spend a lot of time on TikTok, you've probably seen [this couple's viral video](https://www.tiktok.com/@megiipierson/video/7248674153383922950?lang=en), opening a box of pre-wedding goodies from Chick-fil-A. This fast food brand is one of the best companies that send [wedding gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-registry-ideas). They’ve already sent back coupons for free meals, gift cards, and other treats. You can send your wedding invite to their corporate address: Chick-fil-A, Inc., Attn: CARES, P.O. Box 725489, Atlanta, GA 31139-9923, USA.\n\n### Lucasfilm\n\n[This couple](https://www.tiktok.com/@thatbridejenna/video/7272813321731067178?lang=en) bonded over Star Wars early in their relationship, and sent an invite to the company. They received a themed cookbook complete with stickers as a wedding gift. Want to try something similar? You can send your wedding invite to: Lucasfilm Ltd., 1110 Gorgas Ave, San Francisco, CA 94129, USA.\n\n### Ben & Jerry's\n\nWhat's more delicious than a cookbook? Vouchers for ice cream, of course. Ben & Jerry’s isn’t just tasty ice cream — it’s also one of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff.\n\n[One couple](https://www.tiktok.com/@kv.kamilly/video/7282851851811163435?lang=en) sent a wedding invitation to the ice cream giants and received a cute note in return, complete with discount coupons for free ice cream. Send your wedding invite to Ben & Jerry’s, Attn: Customer Service, 530 Community Drive, Suite 1, South Burlington, VT 05403, USA.\n\n### Dallas Mavericks\n\nIf you and your partner are big basketball fans, why not send an invite to your favorite team to score some free merchandise? [This couple](https://www.tiktok.com/@arricandcarissa/video/7258858723773533486?lang=en) sent an invite to the Dallas Mavericks, who responded with some branded goods and a sweet letter to celebrate the big day. Send your invite to: Dallas Mavericks 1333 N Stemmons Fwy Ste 105 Dallas, TX 75207 USA to try something similar!\n\n### Crumbl\n\nGot a sweet tooth? [One couple](https://www.tiktok.com/@thatbridejenna/video/7275795059428134187?lang=en) sent a wedding invite to Crumbl Cookies at 2570 W 600 N, Lindon, UT 84042 and got a sweet, hand-written response as well as some delicious cookies. \n\n### The Mets\n\nThe bride also shared that she got gifts and responses from The Mets (Citi Field, 41 Seaver Way, Queens, NY 11368, USA).\n\n### Playstation\n\nAnd, if that wasn’t enough, the very same bride also received a reply (complete with gifts) from Playstation. If you and your significant other are big into gaming, reach out to Playstation at Foster City, 2207 Bridgepointe Pkwy, CA, USA).\n\n### The Body Shop\n\nOne bride did things a little differently. Instead of sending an invite to The Body Shop, she [wrote a thank you letter](https://www.tiktok.com/@amylotti/video/7301505050818415914?lang=en) saying the brand's vitamin C Moisturizer was her holy grail, before and after her wedding. The brand responded with a huge box of skincare. Try something similar by writing your letter to: The Body Shop 5036 One World Way Wake Forest, NC 27587 USA.\n\n### Two Roads Brewing Co.\n\nThis bride shared that her partner loves beer from Two Roads Brewing Co., so [she invited the brand](https://www.tiktok.com/@cailynmethermattch/video/7253830719540038958?lang=en) to her big day. Not only did they send a seriously sweet reply, but they also sent some branded glasses. Love Two Roads Brewing Co. as much as they do? Send them an invite to your wedding at: Two Roads Brewing Co. 1700 Stratford Ave Stratford, CT 06615 USA.\n\n### LaCroix\n\nOne bride-to-be sent a wedding invite to LaCroix and received an entire box of freebies, which she [opened on TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zanahnaji/video/7269885140199902507?lang=en). The sparkling water brand sent the happy couple a range of presents including (unsurprisingly) sparkling waters as well as stickers, coupons, and a sweet note. She sent her invite to: 8100 SW 10th St, Fort Lauderdale, FL, 33324 USA.\n\n## Other fun companies to send wedding invites to \n\nThose are some of the tried-and-tested companies to send wedding invitations to that we’ve seen recently. But there are lots of other companies that are known for their generosity when it comes to invitations. \n\n### Kate Spade\n\nThis chic fashion brand is known for sending lovely gifts like personalized cards, tote bags, wallets, or even champagne glasses. That means it might just be the best company to send wedding invites to if you’re big into fashion. You can send your wedding invite to Kate Spade New York, Attn: Customer Service, 2 Park Avenue, New York, NY 10016, USA.\n\n### In-N-Out Burger\n\nArguably one of the most delicious places to remember when you’re sending wedding invitations to companies, this burger brand has sent back stickers, hats, t-shirts, and gift cards. Send your wedding invite to their corporate address: In-N-Out Burgers, Attn: Customer Service, 4199 Campus Drive, 9th Floor, Irvine, CA 92612, USA .\n\n### Nintendo\n\nSure, Nintendo receives [a lot of fan mail](https://talesfromthecollection.com/2021/08/20/nintendo-fan-letter-responses/). But your wedding invitation might just stick out as one that deserves a response. And Nintendo is widely considered one of the best companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff.\n\nIn the past, Nintendo has responded to fans with mini posters. If you love video games, you’ll treasure it as a cute memory from your wedding prep. Send that invite to: Nintendo of America c/o Public Relations 4820 150th Ave, Northeast Redmond, WA 98052, USA.\n\n### Disney\n\nThis one should be a given if you're having a Disney-themed wedding. Even if you've already got Mickey and friends involved in your wedding somehow, you might want to send the head office an invite to your wedding. \n\nSome TikTok users have received personalized cards, stickers, pins, and other swag from Disney. If you're hoping for something similar, send your wedding invite to:\n\nThe Walt Disney Company Attn: Fan Mail Department 500 South Buena Vista Street Burbank, CA 91521, USA.\n\nAnd you can also pump up your wedding with a Disney theme, by buying Disney wedding invites (and other [Disney wedding paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney)).\n\n### Coca-Cola\n\nYou never know. Play your cards right when you send a wedding invite to Coca-Cola, and they might just cover the soft drinks tab for your wedding. Even if that’s a lofty goal, Coca-Cola has sent out coupons for free products, personalized bottles, and even mini fridges to people who've sent them fan mail. Send your invite to: The Coca-Cola Company Consumer Information Center P.O. Box 1734 Atlanta, GA 30301, USA.\n\n### Southwest Airlines\n\nGently remind the airline giant of your upcoming honeymoon, and maybe Southwest Airlines will send their congratulations complete with vouchers for your romantic trip. Try your luck by sending an invite to: Southwest Airlines P.O. Box 36647-1CR Dallas, TX 75235, USA.\n\n### Starbucks\n\nStarbucks is known for being pretty generous when you tell them it's your birthday, so there's no reason why they can't congratulate you on your upcoming wedding. In the past, they've sent out everything from gift cards to mugs and coffee blends. Send your invitation to: Starbucks Coffee Company Customer Relations PO Box 3717 Seattle, WA 98124-3717, USA.\n\n## What should the wedding invitation say? \n\nIt’s all up to you when it comes to how much you want to personalize things when you mail off wedding invites to companies for free stuff. You could just send them the standard invite that you’ll mail to the rest of your guests. Or you could step things up a notch with some extra attention to detail.\n\nTikTok users who’ve jumped on the trend and heard back from their favorite companies list a few key steps when it comes to writing out the invites.\n\n- If you’re a big fan of the brand, send a photo with the invitation. In the pic, show you and your future spouse using their products or services. That could look like wearing their clothes, sitting on one of their planes, or smiling in front of one of their stores.\n- Mention why you love the brand. If you’ve got a favorite cookie flavor, for example, it’s worth including. It might work to your advantage when they’re deciding what to send you! \n- Consider including your social handles if you’ve got a number of followers. This is a sneaky way of showing the brand that a wedding gift could work to their advantage. For instance, if they send you a box of goodies and you share a video of it on TikTok, that can be an easy brand promotion win for them.\n\nOf course, you probably don’t want to spend hours writing out wedding invitations to companies. There’s a fair-to-reasonable chance that many won’t reply. And we’re pretty sure the list of things you need to do for your wedding day is only getting longer. \n\nBut, if you’ve got spare invitations and you want to hedge your bets on some fun freebies, sending them to companies could be a great way to use them up. \n\nGot your list of companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff? If you still need to order invites, we’ve got hundreds of [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to suit every couple. We’ll wait for ours to come in the mail! ;)\n\nCheck out our other wedding paper products crafted by Zola artists: from [Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) to [Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) to [Thank You Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) Zola is your one-stop-shop for wedding stationary. \n\n## How to find other company addresses to send wedding invites to\n\nIf you remember the golden age of sending fan mail to your favorite celebrities, you're probably familiar with some of the methods below. And the same tips apply to your favorite brands. You can contact these companies to send wedding invites to for free stuff in multiple ways, including all the ways below. \n\n### Check their website\n\nMost companies have a \"contact us\" page on their website, which usually has their mailing address, phone number, email, or social media accounts. \n\n### Check their social media\n\nSmaller businesses may list their physical address on their social media profiles, like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or LinkedIn. Can't find them? You can also message them directly and ask for their address.\n\n### Check their packaging\n\nIf you've bought a product from the company before (and we're guessing you have, if they're invited to your wedding!), you can check the packaging for their address. Sometimes you'll find a returns address or a customer service address printed on the box, the label, or the receipt.\n\n### Check online directories\n\nStill no luck? Check online directories like Google Maps or Yelp to search for the company’s name and location. You should be able to find their address, phone number, or website.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"updatedAt":"2024-05-15T18:48:55.808Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-address-wedding-invitations","title":"How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples ","excerpt":"Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Read on to see if you should go the digital route.\n","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2024-03-16T00:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vL6IMDLJW9ID16SVBaadz/37cb00fc30ca9c191039d16fad718e85/pexels-george-milton-7014337.jpg","altText":"Woman working retouching photo on laptop at convenient workplace"},"heroCredit":"George Milton","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-working-retouching-photo-on-laptop-at-convenient-workplace-7014337/","body":"In the midst of wedding planning, many couples come to a standstill at an important question—”Should we go with a digital wedding invitation or a traditional wedding invitation?”\n\nOf course, there are pros and cons to both. You might decide to do a mix of physical and digital invites. If you’re leaning towards the latter, we’ve rounded up the best companies that send online wedding invitations and made some recommendations for our favorite designs. \n\n## Pros and cons of online wedding invitations\n\nFrom the environmental impact of electronic invitations to their budget-friendliness, here are a few of the top reasons why couples opt for wedding evites. However, from the keepsake aspect to offline guests, there are also some reasons why couples choose to avoid digital invites.\n\n### Pro: They’re an eco-friendly alternative.\n\nIt’s no surprise that wedding invitations typically require the envelope, the invite, and, often, the wedding RSVP card, plus an insert with wedding weekend details. \n\nThat’s a lot of paper, and even though there are greener alternatives (such as invites made with recycled paper), wedding evites are the most eco-friendly.\n\n### Con: They’re nontraditional.\n\nWhile online wedding invitations have come a long way over the years, some guests may not consider them quite as special as a traditional, mailed invite. If you’re concerned that online wedding invitations are tacky, take a look at the huge selection below of classy invites, and you’ll soon change your mind. \n\n### Pro: They can be more budget-friendly.\n\nPlanning a wedding on a tight budget? The best affordable wedding invitations are often online. Wedding evites are typically more cost-effective than printed invitations (both because of the paper and the stamps).\n\nBased on a study of over 27,000 newlyweds, The Knot found that the average cost of wedding invitations was about $590 in total. Brides found that the average cost was a whopping $5,000 to $8,000, with paperless invitations costing no more than $100.\n\nHowever you look at it, remember that these costs can vary greatly. But, generally speaking, your wedding evites will cost much less than a traditional wedding invitation. Design some affordable wedding invitations online, and you’ll have more money to spend on the rest of the wedding.\n\n### Con: They aren’t a keepsake invitation.\n\nHaving your invitation as a keepsake is one of the best parts of a wedding scrapbook or a framed collage. Of course, you can print out your wedding evite, too, but the keepsake aspect of a traditional wedding invitation is a bit different. Often, couples will frame the envelope and the rest of the contents alongside the invite—such as the RSVP card or a special stamp they used.\n\n### Pro: You can avoid printing delays.\n\nIn some cases, printing delays can lead to frustration and a delay in getting out important information about your celebration. Head this off at the pass by foregoing printed invites and having the immediate gratification of a paperless one.\n\n![Digital Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46masJvYxnXO4iQqW6Pe9h/d7d603bc776bc47d7d30bece00273afd/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Con: Some guests are offline.\n\nIf your grandma or a great-great-uncle doesn’t have an email address, it can be tough to nail down exactly how to send them your wedding evite. This isn’t a deal-breaker, but it’s something to remember if you plan on moving forward with digital wedding invitations.\n\n### Pro: Guests can RSVP in a click.\n\nThe sometimes necessary follow-up isn’t eliminated with digital wedding invitations, but it typically does make it a bit easier on your guests.\n\n### Con: Paper invites may get lost or damaged in the mail.\n\nThere’s no way to know for sure if your wedding invite might end up getting lost or damaged in the mail. \n\nWhen you opt for an electronic invitation instead, you do eliminate the risk of receiving your beautiful invite straight back into your mailbox.\n\nStill undecided? Remember you don’t have to lean 100% one way or the other. For example, you could send online wedding invitations to most guests but print physical ones for older family members. \n\n## 15 Best online wedding invitations\n\nIf you’ve chosen to send online wedding invitations, you’re in luck. Today, some incredible companies are producing beautiful wedding evites. Here are some of the most popular choices among couples:\n\n### 1. Evite\n\n[Evite](https://www.evite.com) is a social planning website that’s used for everything from weddings to birthday parties. They offer an affordable option with nice wedding invitation template designs where you can select your envelope and “stamp.” \n\n### 2. Greenvelope\n\n[Greenvelope](https://www.greenvelope.com) has a good selection of the best digital invitations. They make RSVP tracking easy and independent artists craft their designs. Based on the season, color, or theme that you’re going for, you can fine-tune these wedding evites to give them your own unique style.\n\n### 3. Paperless Post\n\n[Paperless Post](https://www.paperlesspost.com) lets you customize card invitations, flyers, and wedding invitations. You know that your wedding evites will be stylish, as they partner with fashion icons such as Kate Spade New York, Kelly Wearstler, and Oscar de la Renta. For the eco-friendly couple, check out their lineup of stunning digital wedding invitations. We’re swooning over the digital greenery arrangement in the Herrgarde invitation.\n\n### 4. Bliss & Bone\n\n[Bliss & Bone](https://blissandbone.com) creates immersive and interactive affordable custom wedding invitations that match all kinds of wedding themes and styles. As well as their digital offerings, you can also order physical stationery, including save the dates, menus, and thank you cards, to complement your online invites.\n\n### 5. Etsy\n\nOnline marketplace [Etsy](http://Etsy.com) is a haven for all kinds of personalized wedding goods, including some of the best digital wedding invitations. You can browse through thousands of designs from various sellers, or buy a template and customize it yourself. Etsy’s digital invitations are usually sent as PDF or JPG files, which you can email or text to your guests.\n\n### 6. Punchbowl\n\n[Punchbowl](https://www.punchbowl.com/) is an online invitation service that specializes in digital invitations and cards. Choose from hundreds of beautiful and modern designs, or upload your own if you're looking for something unique. Punchbowl’s digital invitations are interactive and mobile-friendly, which means you can invite guests by email or text message, track RSVPs, chat with guests, and send reminders. \n\n### 7. Canva\n\nGot an artist in the wedding party? While [Canva](https://www.canva.com) might be more design-focused rather than helping you with the entire process, it’s arguably the best app for digital invitations if you want to be fully in control. \n\nCanva offers a wide range of designs that allow complete personalization. Save your design in your chosen format and email it out accordingly. If you’re hoping to save money on this part of the process, using the best digital invitation app means you could actually do your online wedding invitations for free. \n\n### 8. Greetings Island \n\n[Greetings Island](https://www.greetingsisland.com) is an online invitation service that lets you create and send free digital invitations and cards for all kinds of occasions, including weddings. You can also create an event page to collect RSVPs and manage your guest list. Got a specific online wedding invitation style in mind? Greetings Island offers a range of styles and themes for your wedding invitations, like floral, rustic, modern, vintage, and simplistic. \n\n![Wedding-Registry-Checklist-hero](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7KAUDXeYLP0sd4LIJsyrnT/13c56020974614dd9164f6159edb9717/wedding-registry-checklist-hero.jpeg)\n\n### 9. Blackbird\n\n[Blackbird](https://www.blackbirdrsvp.com) was designed for all kinds of digital invitations and also helps you collect and organize RSVPs (or track down missing ones!). Customize your invitations with your own photos, colors, fonts, and layout, and share them through any channel you prefer, like email, social media, or text. Once you've signed up, Blackbird’s design lab lets you start every online wedding invitation from scratch.\n\n### 10. Smilebox\n\n[Smilebox](https://www.smilebox.com/maker/invitation-maker/wedding/) has thousands of designs for free online wedding invites to suit all couples' styles. Send custom RSVPs online in minutes with Smilebox's wedding invitation creator. Better yet? If you need to update any details on the invite, Smilebox updates them automatically and sends a new update to your guests.\n\n### 11. Vistaprint\n\nAs well as a huge range of beautiful physical wedding invites, [Vistaprint](https://www.vistaprint.com/stationery/wedding-invitations) has a big range of stylish, classic online wedding invitations that can be personalized to your tastes. It's also one of the most budget-friendly options around: perfect if you've got a smaller wedding budget to play with.\n\n### 12. Minted\n\n[Minted](https://www.minted.com) specializes in wedding stationery, both of the digital and printed variety. Perfect if you're looking for something unique, it's home to curated collections from independent artists and comes with benefits like a free wedding website. Minted’s digital invitations are interactive and mobile-friendly, which means you can invite guests by email or text message, track RSVPs, chat with guests, and send reminders, too. \n\n### 13. Riley Grey\n\n[Riley Grey](https://www.rileygrey.com) is a top choice for a more curated experience when it comes to wedding stationery, both physical and digital. On the digital side, they have many online wedding invitations. On the physical side, they offer free samples and free shipping across the US. They also have plenty of other resources for seamless wedding planning, particularly on the RSVPs side.\n\n### 14. Say I Do\n\nComplement or replace traditional Invites or Save the Dates with [Say I Do's](https://sayi.do/wedding-planning-app/features/online-wedding-invitations/) easy-to-navigate process. You'll be walked through the steps of adding your guest list, personalizing your online wedding invitations and adding all of the important details before Say I Do sends them off for you. They also pride themselves on \"stylish reminders\" for guests who might need a prompt for that RSVP.\n\n### 15. White Clover\n\n[White Clover](https://whiteclover.io/) isn’t specifically a website for online wedding invitations, but when you host your wedding website there, you can throw in online invitations to simplify the process. Their best feature? Real-time availability, where guests can update their RSVP whenever necessary (although hopefully not too often) rather than having to message you themselves.\n\n## Online invitations at Zola\n\nLooking for an alternative to evites? If you do go the route of [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), there are many ways to stay conscious of the environment while also creating that physical invitation you’ve always dreamed of.\n\nFor starters, you can print your invitation on our recycled paper. This thick, carbon-neutral paper has a subtle but visual texture. It’s soft and 100 percent made of post-consumer waste. You can also opt for a mix of digital and traditional. Try doing your [save-the-date postcards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) and thank-you cards online while sticking to the traditional route for wedding invitations.\n\nChoosing whether you want to use wedding evites or traditional invites is a matter of preference. In the end, you’ll weigh the options of budget, style, and sentimentality, and you’ll make the perfect decision.\n\nIf you need any help along the way, feel free to contact us so that we can discuss the options. We love working with our couples to help them find the ideal blend of whatever they’re searching for.\n\nFrom the Zola team to you, we’re wishing you the best of luck as you move forward with wedding invite preparations. We’re certain that whatever you create, in the end, will be just beautiful.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? 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","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. 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Learn the specifics and more in this article.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. To simplify the wedding planning process, send your save the date card or magnet no earlier than 8 and no later than 4 months out and you’ll be perfectly fine.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. 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Read on to learn how to talk to \nfriends who aren't invited to your wedding, tactfully.","title":"How to Talk to Friends Who Weren't Invited to Your Wedding","slug":"how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ShpgpD8f4LDnIkGSIbmLl/bc3ebf05efe4de156cf9ae2b8f25db91/How-to-Talk-to-Friends-Who-Werent-Invited-to-Your-Wedding.jpg","altText":"friends talking about wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It's not always black and white—sometimes you should invite someone who invited you to their wedding, other times you don't have to. 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Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T16:07:10.864Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"heroCredit":"MeewMeew Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/meewmeew-studios","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Consider your relationship with the couple and their personalities before writing your wedding card.\n- Include an address, congratulations, well wishes, shared memories/advice, thanks, and a sign-off.\n- Be genuine, unified, and well-prepared, but try not to write too much, scratch out mistakes, or get too personal.\n","body":"Sharing your wedding wishes with a newlywed couple is a thoughtful way to celebrate their new life together and [show your appreciation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/gift-etiquette/wedding-gifts-from-around-the-world) for being a part of their wedding day. But knowing what to write in a wedding card can be intimidating, especially if you don’t consider yourself to be great with words. \n\nTo help you get started, we’ve put together a collection of tips and examples for what to write in a wedding card. Use them as inspiration for your own wedding wishes, and remember that a genuine, from-the-heart message from you is all that really matters.\n\n- Formal Wedding Wishes\n- Casual Wedding Card Wishes\n- Funny Wedding Card Wishes\n- Religious Wedding Card Wishes\n- Wedding Wishes for Family\n- Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n- Wedding Wishes for a Friend\n- Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\n- What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n- Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\nWedding cards are traditionally gifted to the couple at the wedding [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline). If you [can’t make it to the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding), be sure to mail your wedding card as close to the wedding date as possible. The most important rule of thumb when it comes to wedding card etiquette is to write a warm, genuine message unique to the newlyweds. \n\n## How to Structure Your Wedding Card Message\nDepending on the nature of your relationship with the newlyweds, you might not feel the need to follow a specific message structure when you write your wedding card. However, the standard format of a wedding card message typically follows the format below: \n\n1. Note of congratulations\n2. Warm wishes for their new marriage \n3. Personal message, memory, joke or marriage advice (this will vary depending on your relationship to the newlyweds) \n4. Loving sign off \n\nIf you’re stuck on [how to word your wedding card message](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), the format above is a great place to start. For more inspiration, keep reading for a variety of wedding message examples.\n\n## Examples for What to Write in a Wedding Card\n\nTo get your pen moving, here’s some wedding card inspiration at different levels of formality and for various types of couples:\n\n### Formal Wedding Wishes\n\nExamples: \n\n- “Sending you wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.” \n- “I/We wish you all the best as you begin your lives together.” \n- “May the years ahead strengthen the love that you share.”\n- “Best wishes for a beautiful marriage filled with wonderful memories.”\n- “Warm wishes for a beautiful wedding day and a happy union.”\n- \"May your joining together bring you more joy than you can imagine.\"\n- \"May today be the beginning of a long, happy life together.\"\n- \"Thank you for letting us/me share in this joyful day. We/I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.\"\n- \"Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together.\"\n- \"May the love and happiness you feel today shine through the years.\"\n\n### Casual Wedding Wishes\n\nIf the newlyweds you’re writing to are close friends or family members, a formal message might not feel as genuine. Or perhaps a formal note just doesn’t fit your personality—that’s okay too! Opting for a more casual message allows you to be more personal, and works well when combined with a specific detail or memory you have of the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Best wishes!”\n- “Congratulations on your wedding!”\n- “Here’s a little something to start your life together.” (if you’re including a gift) \n- “Here’s to a long and happy marriage!” \n- \"I'm seeing a fun-filled life in your future. Congratulations!\"\n- “I/We wish you guys lots of love now and always.”\n- “Here’s to many years of love and happiness!”\n- “Best wishes for an amazing future together.”\n- “Hope the days ahead are filled with lots of hugs and kisses.”\n- “Wishing you guys fun-filled adventures in married life!”\n\n### Funny Wedding Wishes\n\nIf you want to make the happy couple laugh, consider writing a funny wedding card message if it will put a smile on their faces! Don’t be afraid to include something laugh-worthy in your note—after all, you know them best, so you can be the judge of what to include based on their sense of humor. \n\nExamples: \n\n- \"Thanks for inviting us/me to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!\"\n- \"I haven't been this happy for anybody since [insert team name here] won the World Series/other championship!\"\n- Being married is like any other job; it helps if you like your boss. Congratulations!\n- \"Congratulations—your wedding successfully made me sob like a baby!\"\n- “Hope you guys have more belly laughs than fights overloading the dishwasher!”\n- “Best wishes as you annoy each other for the rest of your lives.”\n- “Here’s to endless sleepovers with your favorite weirdo.”\n- \"Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage!\"\n- “May Facebook notifications always save you from forgetting your anniversary.”\n- “Good luck and remember that dating apps are only getting creepier.” \n\n### Religious Wedding Wishes\n\n\nIf the newlywed couple is religious, this could be the perfect way to tailor your wedding card message. A religious wedding card may include mentions of your prayers over their marriage, quotes from scripture, and mentions of God. Be sure to think about the couple’s religious beliefs before you opt for this type of wedding card, and use their practices to frame your note. \n\nVersatile Examples: \n\n- “May God bless your marriage.”\n- “May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.”\n- “May your union be filled with God’s blessings, now and every day forward.”\n- “We/I pray that God will cover you both as you enter this new life together.” \n- “Sending you prayers for a marriage filled with love and joy.”\n- \"God bless you both on this day with a lifetime of shared love and joy.\"\n- “Praying that your marriage will prosper and be strengthened by the love of God each step of the way.” \n\nChristian Examples: \n\n- \"Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.\" –Ephesians 4:32\n- \"No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\" –1 John 4:12\n- \"'Love is patient. Love is kind… Love never fails.' – 1 Corinthians 13:4-13\"\n\nJewish Examples: \n\n- “Mazel Tov! May joy fill all the days of your life together.\"\n- \"'I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\" Or \" 'Ani L'Dodi, v'Dodi Li.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\"\n- \"Mazel Tov on your wedding!\" or \"Mazel Tov on your marriage!”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Family\n\nThere’s something special about celebrating the wedding of a close family member. A wedding card message to someone in your own family is a great chance to get personal, and you don’t have to be afraid of being too over the top—in fact, it’s probably expected! \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Today, we add one more member to our family and we couldn’t be happier.”\n- “I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.”\n- I love you both and couldn’t be happier for our family!\n- What a beautiful day for our family, we’re finally complete.\n- Thanks for letting us share in your celebration.\n- “So excited to add a new member to our family! Here’s to a lifetime of love and growing old together.”\n- “Today is a wonderful day for our family. Congrats and warm wishes!”\n- “Congratulations and welcome to the family! Hope today and every day after is amazing.”\n- “We’re so happy to call you both family. Here’s to lots of love and future family drama!”\n- “Cheers to family and love! Congrats on getting married you guys.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Siblings\n\nYour sibling is someone you’ve grown up with and shared some of life’s defining memories with, and watching them get married is one of the greatest milestones you’ll share. When writing a wedding card to one of your own siblings, a good rule of thumb is to just write what feels natural to you. \n\nExamples:\n\n- “I’m so happy to add a brother/sister to our family. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy life together.”\n- “Congrats to the best brother/sister in the world and my new brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Lots of love to you both.”\n- “So thankful that my brother/sister has found the one whom his/her soul loves. Welcome to the family and congratulations on finding love in each other.”\n- “Yay! So excited to gain a sibling today. All my love to you guys!”\n- “Best wishes to you guys as you begin your lives together. Let’s celebrate!”\n- “For my brother/sister who’s found love. May your wedding be the first day of many years of happiness to come!”\n- For my brother/sister who deserves only the best, may your wedding day be everything you’ve dreamt of.”\n- To my brother/sister who has always meant so much to me, I am so happy for the wonderful love you’ve found. I’m wishing you all the best on your wedding day.”\n- \"It seems like yesterday we were playing 'house' in the backyard, and now you get to do it in real life. I couldn't be happier for you both. Congratulations!\"\n- I couldn’t be happier as a brother/sister than I am to see the joy you’ve found in marriage. Can’t wait to watch you two grow old together.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n\nFor many parents, watching their son or daughter get married is a huge milestone. If you’re the mother or father of a bride or groom, you might feel overwhelmed with emotion that can feel tough to put into words. What’s most important is that you express your joy and wish the couple well. From there, feel free to get as personal as you’d like. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “So happy to welcome a new son/daughter to our family. Thank you for the joy you bring my son/daughter. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime!”\n- “Today we add a new member to our family and we couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you both!”\n- “Lots of love and happiness to you both on this joyful day for our family.”\n- Son/Daughter, I’m so happy to see you marry someone who brings you so much joy. Here’s to a beautiful marriage that grows through the years.”\n- “Best wishes to my son/daughter and my new son-in-law/daughter-in-law on this wonderful occasion!”\n- \"We/I know we're/I'm not losing a son/daughter. We're/I'm gaining a son/daughter. Much happiness to you.\"\n- \"Son/daughter, I/we feel many emotions on this day. Most of all, I'm/we're happy you've found someone wonderful to share your life with. Best wishes to you both.\"\n- “Seeing you go from a young girl/boy to the grown man/woman you are today is such a special sight to see. May you both be blessed in your future together, and know how much I love you!”\n- “Watching you reach this milestone is a proud moment for a parent, and I’m filled with joy to know you’ve found love.” \n- “It’s a privilege to watch you get married and to give you away to [spouse]. I have no doubt that your marriage will be an adventure, and don’t forget I’ll always be here to support you as your mother/father.” ","body2":"### Wedding Wishes for a Parent\n\nFinding the right thing to say to a parent who’s getting married or remarried can be tough, so when in doubt, keep it simple! Any parent will likely be grateful for any type of message they receive from their child, whether you want to get deep and personal or keep it short and light. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Welcome to the family. Love you both so much!”\n- “I’m so thrilled that you have found each other. Congrats and best wishes!”\n- “Mom/Dad, I’m so happy for the love that you have found. Congrats to you both, and welcome to the family [Name of Stepparent]!”\n- “[Name of Stepparent], thank you for the joy you bring my Mom/Dad. Cheers to a bigger, better family!”\n- “So excited to see our family grow today. Congratulations on your big day!”\n- “Mom/Dad, thank you for all the advice you’ve given me over the years. Now here’s mine: [Fill in your own advice].”\n- “I’m overjoyed to see you so happy. Lots of love.”\n- “Mom/Dad, seeing how happy [Name of Stepparent] makes you is such a gift. So happy for you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Friend\nHow you craft your wedding card message to a friend will depend on how close you are to them. The message might be short, sweet and classic, or you may choose to get specific and personal. Consider your relationship and how personal, sentimental, serious or funny you want to get with your wedding wishes. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “May you bring each other as much happiness and friendship as you’ve brought me. Congrats!”\n- “Here’s to love, friendship, and double-dates! Best wishes for an awesome marriage.”\n- “So thrilled to celebrate this day with two amazing friends! Happy wedding day, guys!”\n- “Can’t wait to get down on the dance floor and celebrate with you. Congratulations on getting married!”\n- “Thanks for inviting me to eat cake and drink champagne. You should get married all the time!” \n- \"Of all the big life events we've celebrated over the years, today tops the list. Congrats!\"\n- \"We've had so many laughs together! May you always make each other laugh!\"\n- \"Here's to love and friendship!\"\n- \"Congratulations to a wonderful friend and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- “We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\nIf you’re writing to congratulate a coworker on their marriage, it’s unlikely you’ll be including deeply heartfelt sentiments. Instead, it’s best to be more general with your wording. You might choose to use one of the more formal or casual examples above depending on your relationship, or opt for one of some of the work-inspired wedding quotes below. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Thank you for inviting me to share this day with you. Best wishes!”\n- “I’m so happy to have bonded with you at work. Congrats to you and your love!”\n- “Cheers! I’m looking forward to seeing your new title on your email signature.”\n- “Wishing you guys the very best and a happy honeymoon!”\n- “Congrats on finding each other! Here’s to many happy years.”\n- \"Best wishes to a very cool coworker and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- \"Wishing you success—and most of all happiness—in your marriage.\"\n- \"You've got a new title: husband/wife! Wishing you and your spouse the best.\"\n- \"What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker and his/her spouse. All the best to you both in your marriage.\"\n- What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker. All of the best to both of you in marriage.\n\n### What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n\nSometimes life gets in the way and you can’t make it to the wedding. This type of wedding card presents the perfect opportunity to express your apologies for not being able to attend and share warm wedding wishes to the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “With you in spirit as you celebrate your love. Congratulations!”\n- “So sad to miss your special day, sending all our love and best wishes to the happy couple!”\n- “So sorry we can’t be there to celebrate your special day, but please know we are toasting you from afar!”\n- “We are glad we have the rest of your lives to congratulate you on your new marriage. Best of wishes!”\n- “Your wedding is important to us, don’t let our absence tell you otherwise! We would’ve loved to be a part of your special day and wish you all the best on your union.” \n- “While we hate to have missed your special day, we’re celebrating from afar. Congratulations!”\n- “Just because we missed your wedding doesn’t mean we aren’t still celebrating! We’re so thrilled for you two and wish you all the best.”\n- “I’m sure the wedding was beautiful—we’re so sorry we missed it! We wish you all the best as you start your next chapter as newlyweds.”\n- “Congratulations to the happy couple, I wish I could have been there to watch you say ‘I do’!”\n\nYou might feel guilty if you have to miss a friend’s wedding, but you can still share your love from afar and let them know you care with a thoughtful wedding gift. With all the [wedding gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-gift-ideas) they’ll probably be receiving, give yours a special touch with these printable gift tags with sweet messages. \n\n### Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\n![gift-tag-mockup-1](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1YSxxFUV0HoCMVDQ0PWfPF/4cb1348a2bb1bd0e1eddf895ae93345d/gift-tag-mockup-1.jpg)\n\n[![download-gift-tags](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/J0f9yxZ4rnHV9r0EdYbl4/a320342aa5519dda542669ad1f9b2f20/download-gift-tags.png)](//assets.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5ImtAZV4XdSDrYm7vD8NeA/b933d79d65dcea2818ec399d36c817e2/wedding-gift-tags.pdf)\n\nWeddings are one of the most joyous occasions to take part in, and your wedding wishes are an opportunity to make the newlyweds feel special, loved and supported as they embark on their new life together. If you’re looking for the perfect wedding card to send, there are hundreds of [beautiful and affordable designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to choose from that can add that special touch to your message. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift? Learn the etiquette of wedding gifting, including how much to give for a cash wedding gift. 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From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-11-22T00:00-08:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2bmjLPUEJbV1Ka3AMoKglO/8c48c198f18c343e95278addd508e49f/thank-you-card-wording-hero.jpeg","altText":"A pair of newlyweds are captured holding the words “thank you” while sharing a kiss, perhaps before practicing their wedding thank you card wording skills."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nBasking in the post-wedding glow with your significant other is much more enjoyable when all of the [wedding to-dos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist?_branch_match_id=1112793252738758355&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXr8rPSdRLLCjQy8nMy9bP8sjMCMvKKjE1AgBLvb9XIAAAAA%3D%3D) are officially checked off—like thanking your guests for celebrating this new chapter with you both.\n\nThanking every guest in an original and genuine way can take time and preparation. And it all comes down to how you approach your wedding thank you card wording, which is why we’ve pared down the dos and don’ts of writing a thank you card. \n\nFor safe measure, we also compiled 15 wedding thank you card wording examples to help you navigate every type of guest and gift. Keep reading to learn about the dos and don’ts of writing a wedding thank you card.\n\n## How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards: 10 Dos and Don’ts\n![how-to-write-a-thank-you-card](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AYbSbjBaeZZm67pCd8tNW/c17dbca3cd6962c25e75edea6e0afc18/how-to-write-a-thank-you-card.png)\n\nCrafting sincere [wedding thank you card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) messages is much easier when you understand the basics of what a wedding thank you card should or shouldn’t mention. \n\n### Do Prioritize the Structure\n\n__1. Greeting__: Begin with a greeting that identifies to whom the card is written.\n\n__2. Thank them for coming__: Immediately thank them for attending your wedding in the first place.\n\n__3. Thank them for the gift__: Get right to the heart of your message by thanking them for their wedding gift.\n\n__4. Say why the gift brings you joy__: Write a line or two about why their gift fits your needs, how it will be used, or why you’re so grateful to have it.\n\n__5. Show gratitude for the big picture__: Don’t forget to acknowledge the love and support given by your loved ones as you made this major life decision.\n\n__6. Closing__: Wrap it up with an expression of your warmth, love, or friendship for the recipient, and sign your name.\n\n### Don’t Try to Write Them All at Once\n\nWriting wedding thank you cards all at once might sound like a good idea in theory, but this method can quickly lead to fatigue.\n\nDepending on the size of your [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), plan to set aside some time every weekend or so to write your wedding thank you cards in small batches.\n\nThe last thing you and your significant other want is to make your guests feel unappreciated by your rushed wedding thank you card wording. \n\n### Do Opt for Handwritten Cards (If Possible)\n\nHandwritten notes signify that a lot of time and effort went into crafting your message. If possible, try to create handwritten wedding thank you cards.\n\nSourcing stationery that matches your [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) is another way to add a considerate touch of style to your handwritten notes.\n\n### Don’t Forget to Thank the Vendors\n\nIf time allows, consider writing thank you notes for the vendors, caterers, and any support staff that took part in making your big day special!\n\n### Do Write Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Send Gifts\n\nShow everyone who took the time to celebrate you and your partner’s ceremony just how special their presence was, even if they didn’t send a present.\n\nDepending on the accessibility of your wedding venue, some guests may have had to spend more resources to attend than others. A wedding thank you card for their attendance lets them know that their efforts were appreciated.\n\n### Don’t Write the Same Note for Every Guest\n\nReceiving a beautifully written thank you card is like a present all its own, but realizing that your thank you card is completely unoriginal can leave a guest feeling unimportant.\n\nAttempt to write a personalized thank you card for every guest who attended your wedding ceremony. Mentioning the specific gift you received from them is a great way to add a personal touch.\n\n### Do Send Thank You Cards as Soon as Possible\n\nSending your thank you cards ASAP allows you to check off one of the final tasks on your post-wedding checklist—even if you run into shipping delays and other factors outside of your control.\n\nAlthough it's common practice to send wedding thank you cards within three months of the wedding, sooner is always better, so that no guest feels forgotten.\n\n### Don’t Send Multiple Thank You Cards to One Household\n\nStationary prices and stamps can add up, especially if you had a long guest list. There is no need to send multiple thank you cards to one household.\n\nIf multiple gifts were sent by different guests living under the same roof, make sure to address them individually in your wedding thank you card wording so that everyone feels appreciated.\n\n### Do Mention the Specific Gift You Received\n\nMentioning the specific gift you received is the best way to tailor each wedding thank you card to the sender. \n\nIf you’re able to do so, include a brief sentence on how that gift is now bettering your marriage with your significant other. These small details can help the sender understand the impact their gift is making on your new life together.\n\n### Don’t Mention Exact Monetary Amounts\n\nFor security reasons, it’s typically a good idea to avoid mentioning the exact monetary amount of cash gifts. \n\nIn case your thank you card is lost or given to a stranger, you want to protect the gift-giver by not mentioning the cash amounts they were able to give away.\n\n## Wedding Thank You Card Wording Examples\n\nWhether you’re writing a thank you note to a guest who didn’t come to your wedding (but still sent a gift) or someone who gave you an off-registry present that you immediately returned, these wedding thank you card examples will help you navigate wording for every kind of message.\n\n### For When the Gift Was from Your Registry\n\n*Dear Jacqueline,\n\nWe’re so grateful you could come to our wedding a few weeks ago. And thank you so much for the chef’s knife and honing steel you gave us! We’ve both been learning some basic cooking skills, and can’t wait to show them off when you visit us this summer.\n\nOur wedding was a day we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. Words really can’t express how thankful we are that you could be part of it.\n\nLove,\nJanine and Kai*\n\n### For When the Gift Was a Monetary Gift\n\n*Dear Ellen and Sam,\n\nIt was wonderful to see you at our wedding! Thank you for making the trip—and for your incredibly generous gift. We’re planning to take a long camping trip this summer, and we were able to pick up some crucial gear thanks to you. We’ll send pictures!\n\nAgain, we’re so grateful for your friendship. Thank you for being part of our special day.\n\nWith love,\nMillie and Beau*\n\n### For When You Didn’t like or Exchanged the Gift\n\n*Dear Uncle Jeff,\n\nIt was a true delight to see you at our wedding. Thank you for the fondue set you gave us! It was incredibly thoughtful of you, and we’re both touched by your generosity.\n\nOur wedding was all we could have hoped for, and it wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you again for helping us get our marriage off to such a wonderful start.\n\nGratefully yours,\nCher and Kiera*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Didn’t Attend the Wedding\n\n*Dear Henrietta,\n\nThank you for the stunning serving bowl! It’s the perfect accent for the open shelves in our kitchen. Thanks to you, our newlywed home is looking beautiful so far.\n\nWhile we missed you at the wedding, we know you were there in spirit. We hope to see you when we’re back from our honeymoon! Again, our deepest thanks for your generosity.\n\nSincerely,\nMargaret and Kate*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Very Close Friend\n\n*Dear Jake,\n\nWe loved having you at our wedding! Thank you so much for the beer brewing kit. We’re going to fire it up in the next few weeks, and hope to be sipping backyard IPAs with you in no time.\n\nYou can’t imagine how moving it was for us to see you in the crowd with everyone else we love. These memories will last a lifetime and then some. Thank you for being part of our lives.\n\nMuch love,\nZach and Tracy*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Formal Acquaintance\n\n*Dear Dr. Milford,\n\nPlease accept our deepest gratitude for the crystal vase you gave us. It’s a stunning centerpiece for our coffee table, and we can’t wait to fill it with the first flowers of spring.\n\nWe were both touched that you could attend the wedding. Your kindness and support means everything as we set off on a new life together.\n\nGratefully yours,\nLogan and Mackenzie*\n\n### For When Guests Sent a Group Gift\n\n*Dear Chia, Hector, Phoebe, and Tonya,\n\nWe are so grateful that you all pitched in to gift us our new grill! We already cooked our first meal on it and cannot wait to grill for everyone whenever you’re all back in town.\n\nWe have profound gratitude for your gift and it touched our heart that you worked together to make this happen. We miss you all so much already!\n\nOur love to all of you,\nSebastian and Terry*\n\n### For When Guests Traveled Far to Attend\n\n*Dear Aunt June,\n\nWe are eternally grateful that you traveled all the way from the other side of the country to be part of our big day! The memories we all made are cherished more than you can imagine.\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift and we both look forward to spending more time with you this summer!\n\nLove,\nHaru and Aki*\n\n### For When the Sender Was in Your Wedding Party\n\n*Dear Esmerelda,\n\nWe cannot thank you enough for being in our wedding party. Your help with the decor and rehearsals made this big day such a breeze for us both!\n\nWe love our new dishware as well! We’re so lucky to have your artistic touch in our home now, and we hope to celebrate our new life with you over dinner very soon.\n\nTalk soon,\nDiaz and Iris*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Your Parents\n\n*Dear Dad and Papa,\n\nWe are beyond grateful to have shared our special day with you both by our sides. You both were a tremendous help in making this wedding come to life and the new bookcase you sent was an incredibly thoughtful gesture.\n\nThank you for sharing your wisdom with us throughout the process and being our shoulder to cry on during the stressful moments—it was all worth it to dance with you like we did.\n\nWe love you always,\nCassie and Clarke*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Wedding Vendors\n\n*Dear Wedding Supplies & Co.,\n\nThank you for all the thoughtful touches you added to our big day. Your help made everything run smoothly and we deeply appreciate the wine and charcuterie board you gifted us.\n\nWe will be able to host lots of dinners at our new home thanks to your generosity.\n\nSincerely, \nLupita and Louise*\n\n### For When the Gift Is a Charity Donation\n\n*Dear Fletcher and Fiona,\n\nWe cannot begin to thank you enough for your generous contribution to our charity of choice, The Nippon Foundation Ocean Innovation Consortium.\n\nYour thoughtful gift will help fund ocean cleanup events across East Asia! Our dream is to one day live in a world free of plastic ocean waste, and you have just helped us get one step closer to that goal.\n\nWe are forever grateful,\nJessie and Matt*\n\n### For When a Guest Didn’t Send a Gift\n\n*Dear Leonard and Nancy,\n\nThank you for taking the time to celebrate our special day with us. We were so excited to see you hitting the dance floor during the reception!\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift, and we cannot wait to dance the night away with you again soon!\n\nLove,\nTaylor and Elizabeth*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Someone You Don’t Know\n\n*Dear Ms. Ramirez,\n\nWe received the gorgeous vegan cookbook you sent us, and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful gift honoring our new life together.\n\nWe appreciate your generosity and kindness, and we hope to cook a delicious meal for you sometime soon. Please give our thanks to your wife and family as well!\n\nOur sincerest gratitude, \nYasmine and Maxwell *\n\n### For When the Gift Is from a Shared Household\n\n*Dear Shibuya family, \n\nThank you all so much for helping us celebrate our big day! Little Vanessa’s paintings were the perfect gift, and they’re now hanging up in our study.\n\nWe know her artwork will help spark creativity while we both begin new careers during this new chapter of our lives. We can’t thank your family enough for taking time to dance the night away with us!\n\nTake care,\nAntonio and Alex*\n\n## Helpful Synonyms for Wedding Thank You Notes\n\nWhen you’re writing card after card (after card), it can get pretty tiresome to say the same thing over and over. Here is a list of synonyms for common expressions that will help you keep your thank you card language fresh.\n\n__Ways to Say “Thank You for Your Gift”__\n- We deeply appreciate your gift.\n- We have profound gratitude for your gift.\n- We’re offering the deepest thanks for your gift.\n- We’re truly thankful for your gift.\n- We’re so grateful for your gift.\n- We can’t thank you enough for your gift.\n- We love your gift; thank you so much!\n- Your gift is very much appreciated.\n- Thank you for your generosity.\n- Thank you for your thoughtfulness.\n\n__Ways to Say “Our Wedding”__\n- Our ceremony\n- Our special day\n- The big day\n- Our union\n- The beginning of our life together\n- Our celebration\n- Our big event\n\n__Ways to Say “We’re Happy You Could Come”__\n- It was a joy to have you at our wedding.\n- We were delighted you could come.\n- We’re honored that you made the trip.\n- It was wonderful to see you at our wedding.\n- We were so grateful to have you as a guest. \n- We really appreciate your presence. \n- We loved having you there. \n- We’re so thankful you could join us. \n- You made our celebration complete. \n\n__Ways to Say “With Love”__\n- Many thanks,\n- Gratefully yours,\n- With love and gratitude,\n- Warmly yours,\n- With deepest thanks,\n- All our love,\n- Best wishes, \n- Together with love,\n- Fondly, \n- Cheers,\n- Sincerely,\n\n![how-to-say-thank-you](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Mo3WiDrPLVN3sEcVhDbbB/08a338683d1d71cab499690697e735d9/how-to-say-thank-you.png)\n\nHopefully these phrases help you best express the warm fuzzies you got from your wedding gifts. Crafting a heartfelt thank you card is all about the little details, like which adjectives you use and how personal your thank you card wording comes across.\n\n[Beautiful wedding card designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can also heighten the wow factor guests will feel upon opening their custom thank you card. Test out these tips while writing your next thank you card batch and you’ll be amazed by how tender your words can be.\n\n## FAQs About Wedding Thank You Card Wording\n\nHave more questions about wedding thank you card wording? We have answers.\n\n### What Do You Say in a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nThe core elements of wedding thank you card wording include a personalized greeting, thanking the guest for attending, showing gratitude for their specific gift, and a heartfelt closing.\n\n### Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nAnyone who sent you and your significant other a gift should be sent a wedding thank you card, and some couples also choose to send a thank you card to every guest who attended the wedding.\n\n### Do I Send a Thank You Card to Someone Who Didn’t Attend the Wedding?\n\nThis is a personal decision between you and your spouse. Depending on the length of your guest list, this can also be a major time commitment. \n\nIf you have the budget to invest in stationary and stamps, then consider taking the time to thank guests who made their presence your present.\n\n### How Do You Say Thank You for Wedding Money?\n\nInstead of mentioning the specific monetary amount the guest gifted you, tell the sender what you plan on doing with their investment in your future. \n\nFor example, mention that their gift will help make your honeymoon adventures possible or will go to a diaper fund for the next chapter of your life.\n\n### When Should Thank You Cards Be Sent Out After a Wedding?\n\nIn general, wedding thank you cards should be sent out between one to three months of the wedding. 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Find guides, advice and ideas for all wedding stationary here."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-paper-guide","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper","excerpt":"Here’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pdjGxliJ09cJurPvdVnex/3795bb9532ada8a69aa5545e5b8dd372/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg","altText":"Floral wedding invitation suite laid out on a green table"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations\n- Save the dates\n- Wedding invitations\n- Wedding event and party invitations\n- Day-of paper\n- Thank you notes\n- Wedding invitation suite\n- Frequently asked questions about wedding invites\n","body":"There’s nothing quite like getting wedding invitations or save the dates in the mail. We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). 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The Difference Between Ms, Mrs and Miss

An Expert Guide to Wedding RSVP Cards & Complete Stationery Packages

Complete Guide to Standard Wedding Invitations: Sizes, Formats, Orientation, & Etiquette

What Information Should Be Included on Wedding Invitations & Invitation Suites?

Rush Wedding Invitations: The Complete Guide to Getting Invites in Under Two Weeks

Short on Time? How to Combine Digital Save-the-Dates with Traditional Wedding Invitations

How to Fix Wedding Invitation Mistakes After They've Been Printed

How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One

Best Companies to Send Wedding Invites to for Free Gifts

How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples

15 Best Online Wedding Invitations

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