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From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too.

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\n \n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","subtopicPage":{"articles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"a-guide-to-enclosure-cards","title":"A Guide to Enclosure Cards","excerpt":"Starting to create enclosure cards for your wedding? Follow along as we break down everything you need to know.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-05-25T16:09:57.444Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3mH2driJFiuWY9dnfueq4z/b33720494103fc50d02ca860441730eb/Hero_Zola__9_.jpg","altText":"A Guide to Enclosure Cards"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n- Enclosure cards can help answer important questions your guests may have about your wedding. \n- Choosing a style for your enclosure cards amplify you and your soon-to-be spouse’s personality and play up your wedding themes. \n- You should provide pertinent details that your guests will need to know about your day such as the destination, accommodation options, dress code, RSVP instructions, and itinerary.\n- If you need support creating enclosure cards that suit your wedding style, trust Zola to help you create the perfect fit.","body":"When the engagement pic is posted, you and your soon-to-be spouse may get bombarded with excited texts, calls, and messages across every platform. \n\nAnd mixed in with the loving messages of congratulations? The questions.\n\n- What’s the dress code?\n- Where’s the venue?\n- What hotel should we stay at?\n- Uncle Samir wants to bring his parrot as his plus one...thoughts? \n\nYou love your guests’ enthusiasm for your big day. But are you a two-person FAQ page for your wedding? Of course not!\n\nThat’s why enclosure cards are one of the more ingenious inventions of wedding stationary. They help provide vital information to guests about the in’s and out’s of your special day. \n\nIn this comprehensive guide, we’ll break down everything you need to know about them: \n\n- Enclosure Cards 101\n- Enclosure Cards Aesthetics: Choosing the Right Design for You and Your Partner\n- Types of Enclosure Cards and What Information to Include\n\n## Enclosure Cards 101 \n\nYou’ve already picked out your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper), clueing in guests on the basics: the date, time, and the location. Equally essential messages pertaining to dress code, accommodations, and transportation must be relayed to your guests without overcrowding your invitations. \n\nThe answer? [Enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop). \n\nNot to be confused with [escort cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards), these paper inserts are vital to protecting your time and can help your guests prepare for your wedding day. Enclosure cards can help answer some of your guests’ most important questions about your wedding with information about:\n\n- The wedding destination\n- Dress code and attire detail\n- Accommodation offerings\n- Transportation\n- Specifics about the reception\n- The wedding itinerary\n- Back-up plans if the weather impacts your venue\n- Wedding website information\n- Response and RSVP\n- And any other details guests might ask about\n\nEnclosure cards are efficient, tasteful ways to ensure your guests are well-informed about the big day.\n\nBonus? You and your partner get to spend more time enjoying the more fun aspects of your wedding to-do lists (like cake tasting) and less time answering questions about the day from your excited guests.\n\n## Enclosure Cards Aesthetics: Choosing the Right Design For You and Your Partner \n\nYour wedding is unique to you and your partner. Every decision you make creates a time and a place that celebrates your love. Even the enclosure cards can help contribute to your wedding’s theme or express you and your partner’s personalities. \n\nHere’s what to consider as you’re choosing an enclosure card design for your wedding:\n\n### #1 Style\nEvery design starts with a vision, an overall aesthetic of your event. If your wedding has a clear-cut theme then the style of your enclosure cards is practically already decided. \n\nWhether you have a decisive theme or more of a loose idea about the “vibe” of your wedding, you’ll be able to find paper products that match that to a tee. \n\nAt Zola, we can help simplify your search for the perfect enclosure card style. We’ve organized our premium paper suite collections into a few eye-catching categories to help you narrow down your selections. \n\nOur style categories include:\n\n- __Elegant & Classic:__ Winter weddings, black-tie formal, and opulent grand ballrooms all call for elegant enclosure cards, which will likely match your elegant invites. Classic cards have simpler designs and often monochromatic palettes, making them the perfect complementary piece for brighter, more elaborate invitations.\n- __Floral & Botanical:__ Perfect for garden, golf course, and gazebo weddings, floral and botanical enclosure cards capture the spirit of outdoor weddings, as well as the spring and summer seasons. If you’ve decided on simple, minimalist, or even rustic invitations, you’ll love the juxtaposition of more colorful and intricate enclosure cards. \n- __Rustic & Vintage:__ Conversely, the natural quality and simplicity of rustic enclosure cards fit perfectly with floral, botanical, whimsical, and minimalist invitations. Pairing the earthy browns of rustic charm with the subdued jewel tones of botanical greenery is a match made in heaven—just like you and your spouse-to-be. \n- __Beach & Destination:__ An obvious choice for a destination wedding, these light, tropical enclosure cards are also a lovely addition to floral invitations or summer weddings with a beachy vibe (even if they don’t have a beachy setting). \n- __Bohemian:__ How do you communicate the laid-back, intimate feeling of your wedding? With boho-inspired enclosure cards that add levity and a little whimsy to your invitation designs.\n- __Modern or Minimalist:__ If you’ve already picked out stunning invitations that you adore, the best course of action is to pair those with enclosure cards that are more reserved and streamlined, while still being visually appealing. Too many varying colors and patterns could overwhelm your guests and overshadow the essential details. With two-tone cards, clean lines, and very few embellishments, minimalist enclosure cards might be your safest choice.\n\n### #2 Color\nIf your invitation designs are a done deal and you’re looking for a seamless companion card, then searching by color might be the easiest way to find what you want.\n\nTry choosing one of the accent colors on your wedding invites and looking for enclosure cards that use this same shade as the base. This is an effortless way to coordinate your cards while adding some visual variety. \n\n### #3 Additional Embellishments\nOf all the aspects of wedding planning, the enclosure cards aren’t usually seen as the ideal opportunity to go all out. They’re simple, direct, and informative—but, they can be over-the-top, too!\n\nConsider adding touches of glitz and glamour, or style and sophistication with two of our favorite embellishment options:\n\n- __Foil:__ For enclosure cards that are as flashy as the disco ball in your dream venue, consider adding gold, silver, or rose gold foil to your enclosure cards. This added element can be a fun, yet classy way to jazz up your elegant, classic, simple, and even bohemian cards. Do you have a specific vision for the [foil elements](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop?features=foil) in your enclosure? Zola can help create a custom foil design just for you so you and your partner’s wedding vision can literally shine from the stationary.\n- __Letterpress:__ Embossed paper is now officially synonymous with elegant sophistication. [Letterpress](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop?is_letterpress=is_letterpress) is a simple detail that adds texture and style no matter what your wedding theme. \n\n### #4 Silhouette\nWhen it comes to wedding cards, you can mix and match more than just colors, styles, and patterns—you can even mix and match the shapes for added visual appeal. \n\nWhat may seem like a simple and even negligible add-on is actually an easy way to both differentiate the cards and add some individuality to the contents of the envelope. If you’re looking to change up the shape of your enclosure cards, Zola’s enclosure cards can be printed with either square or rounded corners. \n\nAesthetically, rounded corners embody a softer essence, perfect for: \n\n- The intertwining leaves of botanical prints.\n- The warmth and whimsy of boho-chic designs.\n- Adding visual interest to extremely minimal cards.\n- The swirling waves of watercolor and beachy styles.\n\n### #5 Paper Type\nAs if that wasn’t enough to contemplate, there’s one final consideration to make regarding your enclosure cards: paper type.\n\nPaper type adds an extra layer of detail to your enclosure cards, helping to create not only a useful source of info for your guests but a beautiful keepsake of your day. \n\nOur customization options for enclosure cards include a selection of paper types to choose from. Depending on your theme and card design, one of these is sure to fit the bill:\n\n- __Smooth or Pearlescent:__ Both of these thin paper options have some sheen and shimmer to them. The smooth paper has a glossy finish, while the pearlescent has more of a metallic shine to it.\n- __Natural or Recycled:__ These two sturdy postcard options are perfect for botanical designs, whimsical and rustic styles, and the eco-conscious green thumb in all of us. The recycled paper has a subtler texture, while the natural paper has a noticeably rugged look and feel to it.\n- __Eggshell:__ This thin, off-white option comes to life with soft watercolor and artistic designs, rather than the harsh lines and bold fonts of modern or classic prints. It’s slightly thicker than construction paper with added texture and a sleek, matte finish.\n- __Linen:__ As lightweight as linen and as delicate as a falling petal, this textured paper option is classy, while maintaining its uniqueness. It has an easy airiness to it, perfect for beach weddings and effortless bohemian themes.\n- __Double Thick or Triple Thick:__ Do you want thick cardstock? Or perhaps very thick cardstock? Both of these ultra-sturdy enclosure card options are more like hardcover books than paper at all. Whether you want something twice as thick as a credit card or virtually unbendable, you can find enclosure cards that really pack a punch. As an inadvertent bonus, your guests will feel guilty tossing something that sturdy, meaning that there’s no excuse for showing up at the wrong time or in the wrong attire.\n\nWhether you’re exploring the array of possibilities for enclosure cards, [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas), or [escort card paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-write-on-wedding-place-cards), we have you covered.\n\n## Types of Enclosure Cards and What to Include \n\nOnce you’ve decided what you want your enclosure cards to look and feel like, it’s time to decide what to include on this vital piece of your wedding stationary. \n\nTo start, take a glance at the list of possibilities below, and make a mental note of which ones sound most relevant to your event. Here we’ll dive into the details on [what to write on a wedding enclosure card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-enclosure-card-ideas).\n\n- Direction cards\n- Attire cards\n- Accommodations cards\n- Transportation cards\n- Reception cards\n- Itinerary cards\n- Inclement weather cards\n- Details cards\n- Wedding website cards\n- RSVP cards\n\n### Destination Cards\nMake finding your wedding as easy as a slice of red velvet cake for your guests by putting direction and destination information in a place where everyone can see it: the directions card. \n\n__What to include:__\n- Venue name \n- Venue address\n- Driving directions from the north and south\n\n### Attire Cards\nFor any dress code dos or don’ts, the attire card provides the perfect place to give your guests a little help in the “What to wear” dilemma.\n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Important notes on attire as it relates to:\n - Religion\n - Cultural customs\n - Degree of formality \n - Weather\n\n### Accommodations Cards\nYou’ve blocked off a number of rooms at the hotel where you and your significant other are staying, but you know there won’t be enough space to accommodate all of the attendees. To avoid becoming an on-call travel agent for your family and friends, you’ll want to include this enclosure card to specify the locations of the main lodging, as well as other area accommodations. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Name, address, phone number, and website of the hotel at which you have a room block\n- Two to three alternative accommodations \n\n*Pro tip:* Consider including a mix of arrangements at different price points to suit your guests’ budgetary needs.\n\n### Transportation Cards\n If your ceremony and reception venues are in a region where taxis and rideshares are scarce, you’ll have to consider booking some sort of transportation to shuttle your guests from the reception to their respective sleeping arrangements. Your transportation card can provide helpful information about what kind of transportation support your wedding will provide. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Transportation services available\n- Pick-up and/or drop-off times and locations\n\n### Reception Cards\n It’s common for couples to say their “I do’s” in one location and have their first dance at a different venue. If that’s the case for you, use this enclosure card to let people know how to get from point A to point B and where to park. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Reception name and address\n- Directions from the venue to the reception\n- Any specific parking notes at the reception location\n\n### Itinerary Cards\n For some couples, their wedding is just one day. For others, it’s a week-long affair of shared meals, ceremonies, and time spent with loved ones. An itinerary card can help inform your guests the schedule of events so they can prepare accordingly. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Dates, times, and locations of all scheduled events\n- Recommended dress\n- Whether or not an RSVP is necessary\n\n### Inclement Weather Cards\n If you’ve booked an outdoor venue for your wedding day, your guests will thank you for giving them a head’s up about what to expect in terms of climate and proper attire.\n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Suggested attire for change in weather\n- Attire that will be provided in case of inclement weather\n- Details regarding possible venue changes\n\n### Details Cards\nThis might be the enclosure card option for you if you’d rather provide your guests with the CliffsNotes of wedding specifics. For a quick rundown on directions, accommodations, or attire, slip a details card in with the invitation in anticipation of common guest inquiries. \n\nWhat to include:\n\n- Recommended dress code\n- Reception location\n- Primary accommodation location\n- A link to your wedding website\n\n### Wedding Website Cards\nYou don’t want to overstuff your invitation envelopes, so you keep things simple with a wedding website enclosure card. This insert should provide a link to—you guessed it!—your wedding website, as well as the information your guests can expect to find there. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Wedding website URL\n- List of FAQs to be answered on the website\n\n### RSVP Cards\nDo yourselves a giant favor, and include a RSVP card. Last minute RSVP’s happen, but RSVP cards can help cut down on late responses and help you keep track of the guest count. \n\n__What to include:__\n\n- Options to accept or decline\n- A space to specify the number of guests in their party\n- A date by which to RSVP\n- Entree choices and specific food requests/allergies\n\n## Sign, Seal, and Deliver Gorgeous Enclosure Cards with Zola \n\nNow that you have above-average knowledge of all things enclosure cards, you can go confidently in the direction of your wedding dreams. \n\nSave this article and come back to it whenever you decide which ones will be must-haves for your event. \n\nReady to start your enclosure cards? Zola makes enclosure cards as simple as saying “I do.”\n\nBy offering exceptional paper suite collections, the wedding experts at Zola take the design guesswork out of the equation. We help you pair fonts, colors, and graphics and put them together into one bundle that’s jam-packed with information and is easy on the eyes.\n\nTo those of you who prefer a more hands-on approach: No need to worry. From silhouettes to color shades, the world of customization is at your fingertips. Whether you start with a base design and add your own personal touches, or opt for an entirely DIY situation, you’ll end up with an enclosure card that is totally you (without having to spend your weekends learning Photoshop through YouTube tutorials—who has time for that level of DIY?).\n\nCheck out our [Wedding Invitation Wording and Etiquette Guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), first, or shop Zola’s collection of [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop).\n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. 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Check out these fun post-wedding brunch invite ideas.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2021-07-19T15:55:11.809Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/a9X2KrEJFWlWgytww3wr2/eb244062021bb97fd1feeea57eaa6a8e/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Fun Post Wedding Brunch Invitation Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are a few different elements that you’ll need to keep in mind when designing your post-wedding brunch invitations—including paper options, color, and the overall style and aesthetic of your brunch invitation design.\n- Include the time, date, and location of your post-wedding brunch, how guests can RSVP, and how to let you (or the brunch host) know about any dietary restrictions.\n- You can have more fun with your brunch invitation design—for example by sending invitations in fun brunch-themed shapes and designs or including a photo of you and your partner enjoying your favorite brunch foods.","body":"Your wedding day is one of the biggest celebrations of your life. And these days, many couples like to keep the wedding party going by hosting a brunch the day after the big day.\n\nIf you’re planning a post-wedding brunch, you’ll need to let your guests know—and that means sending invitations. \n\nLet’s take a look at everything you need to know about post-wedding brunch invitations—including what to consider during the design process, what to include on your invitations, and fun ideas to inspire your invitation design:\n\n## What Are the Key Elements to Keep in Mind When Choosing Your Post-Wedding Brunch Invitations? \n\nThere are a huge variety of invitation options out there, so when you’re narrowing down the choices for your post-wedding brunch invites, there are a few key things that you’ll want to consider, including:\n\n### Invitation Materials\n\nWhen it comes to invitations, you might think, “paper is paper,” but nothing could be further from the truth. When choosing materials for your post-wedding brunch invitations, there are so many [invitation paper options](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-paper-options) to choose from.\n\nSo, what are some of the most popular options?\n\n- __Smooth.__ Smooth paper is (as you might have guessed) smooth, lightweight, and has just a hint of shine. If you’re thinking about featuring a photo on your brunch invite (either of you and your partner, or of the epic brunch foods you plan to serve!), smooth paper is a great option.\n- __Eggshell.__ If you prefer a more matte finish, eggshell paper is a similarly lightweight paper option—just minus the shine of smooth paper. Eggshell also makes colors look more vibrant and saturated, so if you want color to take center stage on your post-wedding brunch invitations, eggshell is definitely a paper option that you’ll want to consider.\n- __Recycled.__ Using recycled paper is a great way to keep your invites as green and environmentally friendly as possible, without sacrificing quality.\n- __Pearlescent.__ If you’re a fan of all things glam, pearlescent paper—which has an iridescent finish—is a great option. \n- __Double thick.__ If you want your invites to feel more substantial, double thick paper—which, as the name implies, is twice as thick as typical card stock—could be the right paper for you.\n\nOnce you’ve chosen your paper, another material that you may want to consider including on your post-wedding brunch invitations is foil.\n\nWith foil stamping, you can permanently transfer metallic and/or pigmented foil (either in a design or text) directly onto your invites, which can add a touch of shine and sparkle and make your invites feel that much more special.\n\n### Orientation/Layout\n\nThe materials of your post-wedding brunch invitations are important. But, just as (if not more) important is the design—and the design process starts with choosing an orientation or layout for your invitations.\n\nYour wedding invite can either have a landscape orientation (which is wider than it is long, like a landscape painting) or a portrait orientation (which is longer than it is wide, like a portrait). Either orientation works great for wedding invitation design; you just need to choose which orientation feels like the best design choice for your invitations.\n\n### Colors\n\nNext on the invitation design to-do list is choosing the colors to feature in your post-wedding brunch invitations.\n\nIf you want your post-wedding brunch invitations to feel on-theme with your wedding, using your [wedding colors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-colors) is a great way to accomplish that goal. But, you certainly don’t have to use your wedding color palette; feel free to incorporate whatever colors you like! If you want to have fun with it, you might use the foods you plan to serve at the brunch as inspiration for your invitation color palette (for example, incorporating colors of different fruits—such as reds, blues, yellows, and oranges.)\n\n### Style/Aesthetic\n\nWhen designing your post-wedding brunch invitations, it’s essential to consider each individual design element. But, it’s also important to consider the overall style or aesthetic that you’re going for and make sure ensure that each component you're choosing fits in with that style or aesthetic.\n\nFor example, do you want your invites to have a breezy, boho feel? Funky and modern? Or, do you want to keep your design simple and classic? Knowing the style or aesthetic that you want to capture on your invitations will help you during the design process and make sure that the design elements you choose (for example, color palette or paper type) help you achieve the look you’re going for.\n\n## What Information Should You Include on Your Post-Wedding Brunch Invitations? \n\nYou’re designing your invitations because you want your [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests) to join you for an epic post-wedding brunch. In order to accomplish that goal, you need to include some key information on your invitations, including:\n\n- __Details about the brunch.__ Your guests need to know when and where the brunch is happening, so make sure to include details about the time, date, and location of your brunch (including an exact address).\n- __Parking information.__ Depending on where you’re hosting your brunch, you may also want to include information about parking (for example, if you’re hosting your brunch at a restaurant and parking is valet only, inform your guests so that they can be prepared). \n- __The hosts.__ If you and your soon-to-be spouse are hosting the brunch, there’s no need to include that information on your invitation. But if someone else is hosting the brunch for you (for example, if your partner’s parents are hosting the brunch at their home), you’ll want to share that information on your invite.\n- __RSVP information.__ In order to properly plan for your post-wedding brunch, you need to know who is planning on attending (otherwise, how will you know how much french toast and mimosas you need?!). So, make sure to include information about how to RSVP on your invitation—including who to RSVP to, their contact information, and when guests need to RSVP by. \n- __Dietary restriction requests.__ Chances are that there’s going to be at least one or two people on your guest list that have dietary restrictions. If you plan to accommodate those restrictions, you’ll also want to include a note about that on your invitation. (For example, something like “If you have any special requests or dietary restrictions, please let us know by [X date] and we’ll do our best to accommodate.”)\n\n## What’s the Process for Designing Post-Wedding Brunch Invitations?\n\nWhen you’re designing your post-wedding brunch invitations, you’ve got two options: you can either hire a designer to create a custom design, or you can use an invitation template and design the invite yourself.\n\nIf you want to hire a designer to come up with a custom design, that’s certainly your prerogative. But, keep in mind, working with a designer can be time-consuming and pricey (and that [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) could be put towards other things, such as upgrading your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) or hiring an amazing [wedding photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer)).\n\nSo, if you want to get your post-wedding brunch invitations designed quickly and affordably— without sacrificing style or quality—using a template is a great option. With a pre-designed template, all you have to do is find the template that matches your style and vision, customize it with your brunch details, and voila—invites done. (Zola has [hundreds of invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to choose from, so whatever your invitation style is, we’ve got you covered!)\n\n## When Do You Need to Send Your Post-Wedding Brunch Invites?\n\nWhen you send your post-wedding brunch invites will depend on a few factors.\n\nIf planning your post-wedding brunch is part of your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) process and you have all the details for your brunch in time—you could send them out either with or shortly after your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist). That way, guests know about all your wedding events from the get-go and can plan to stick around after your [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) and [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) to enjoy your brunch.\n\nIf you’re planning the brunch closer to your wedding date, not to worry! As long as you send invitations out about a month in advance, that gives your guests plenty of time to fill out that RSVP card. (Just keep in mind that if you’re hosting your brunch at a restaurant, they may need a headcount a few weeks before the event, in which case, you would want to get your post-wedding brunch invitations out sooner to give your guests time to RSVP before you have to let the restaurant know how many people are planning to attend.)\n\n## Fun Post-Wedding Brunch Ideas \n\nNeed a little inspiration for your post-wedding brunch invitations? Here are a few fun ideas to get your creative juices flowing:\n\n### Illustrated/Graphic Invitations\n\nA post-wedding brunch (typically) isn’t as formal as a wedding, which gives you some room to have fun. So, why not feature a fun illustration or graphic on your post-wedding brunch invitations?\n\nFor example, you can make the background of our invite an illustration of a brunch buffet—or incorporate cute cartoonish characters in the shape of your favorite brunch foods on the perimeter of your invitation design.\n\n### Photo Invitations\n\nPhoto invitations are hugely popular for wedding events (including [engagement parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) and [bachelor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties) or [bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties))—so why not incorporate a photo into your post-wedding brunch invitations?\n\nWhile any photo of you and your soon-to-be-spouse is great, if you want to stay on theme, consider adding a photo of the two of you enjoying some of your favorite brunch foods. (Nothing says “come hang out with us at a post-wedding brunch!” quite like a photo of you and your partner enjoying a huge stack of pancakes.)\n\n### Shaped Invitations\n\nTraditionally, invitations are square or rectangular. But, if you want to do something different and fun for your post-wedding brunch invitations, why not experiment with different shapes? For example, you might send invitations cut out into the shape of a champagne glass (mimosas!), an egg, or another breakfast/brunch food (such as a strawberry). \n\n### Menu Invitations\n\nWhen you go out to brunch, you typically order from a menu. So, why not incorporate that menu idea right into your post-wedding brunch invitations?\n\nWith this idea, you can just design your invitations to look like a menu—or, if you want to take it a step further, you can turn your invitation into an actual menu with the items that guests will be able to enjoy at your post-wedding brunch.\n\n## Design the Perfect Invitations for Your Post-Wedding Brunch\n\nThere’s no right or wrong way to design post-wedding brunch invitations. But now that you know the ins and outs of the design process (and have some fun ideas for inspiration), all that’s left to do is get out there and design the perfect post-wedding brunch invitations for your event.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Learn more about options for wedding invitation sizes and orientations with traditional and alternative selections.","title":"Complete Guide to Standard Wedding Invitations: Sizes, Formats, Orientation, & Etiquette","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-invite-sizes","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vSxhJwIdEWETcYkJociEf/a6494982318495a089b697dce84e8cea/A-guide-to-Wedding-Invite-Sizes.jpg","altText":"Pink and blue wedding invitation suite set"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Discover everything there is to know about wedding menu cards in our guide. 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","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2025-07-01T16:31:57.816Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? 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Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},"topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper","description":"From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"when-to-send-save-the-dates","title":"When To Send Save The Dates","excerpt":"Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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Whether you're wondering when to send saves the dates, what to include on them, or which design to choose, find everything you need to know about wedding save the dates."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"the-traditional-muslim-wedding-invitation","title":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Everything you need to know about Muslim wedding invitations. ","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2025-07-01T16:31:57.816Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? 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Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"wedding-thank-you-card-wording","title":"Wedding Thank You Card Wording: Tips & Examples ","excerpt":"Craft heartfelt wedding thank you cards with our expert guide. From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-11-22T00:00-08:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2bmjLPUEJbV1Ka3AMoKglO/8c48c198f18c343e95278addd508e49f/thank-you-card-wording-hero.jpeg","altText":"A pair of newlyweds are captured holding the words “thank you” while sharing a kiss, perhaps before practicing their wedding thank you card wording skills."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nBasking in the post-wedding glow with your significant other is much more enjoyable when all of the [wedding to-dos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist?_branch_match_id=1112793252738758355&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXr8rPSdRLLCjQy8nMy9bP8sjMCMvKKjE1AgBLvb9XIAAAAA%3D%3D) are officially checked off—like thanking your guests for celebrating this new chapter with you both.\n\nThanking every guest in an original and genuine way can take time and preparation. And it all comes down to how you approach your wedding thank you card wording, which is why we’ve pared down the dos and don’ts of writing a thank you card. \n\nFor safe measure, we also compiled 15 wedding thank you card wording examples to help you navigate every type of guest and gift. Keep reading to learn about the dos and don’ts of writing a wedding thank you card.\n\n## How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards: 10 Dos and Don’ts\n![how-to-write-a-thank-you-card](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AYbSbjBaeZZm67pCd8tNW/c17dbca3cd6962c25e75edea6e0afc18/how-to-write-a-thank-you-card.png)\n\nCrafting sincere [wedding thank you card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) messages is much easier when you understand the basics of what a wedding thank you card should or shouldn’t mention. \n\n### Do Prioritize the Structure\n\n__1. Greeting__: Begin with a greeting that identifies to whom the card is written.\n\n__2. Thank them for coming__: Immediately thank them for attending your wedding in the first place.\n\n__3. Thank them for the gift__: Get right to the heart of your message by thanking them for their wedding gift.\n\n__4. Say why the gift brings you joy__: Write a line or two about why their gift fits your needs, how it will be used, or why you’re so grateful to have it.\n\n__5. Show gratitude for the big picture__: Don’t forget to acknowledge the love and support given by your loved ones as you made this major life decision.\n\n__6. Closing__: Wrap it up with an expression of your warmth, love, or friendship for the recipient, and sign your name.\n\n### Don’t Try to Write Them All at Once\n\nWriting wedding thank you cards all at once might sound like a good idea in theory, but this method can quickly lead to fatigue.\n\nDepending on the size of your [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), plan to set aside some time every weekend or so to write your wedding thank you cards in small batches.\n\nThe last thing you and your significant other want is to make your guests feel unappreciated by your rushed wedding thank you card wording. \n\n### Do Opt for Handwritten Cards (If Possible)\n\nHandwritten notes signify that a lot of time and effort went into crafting your message. If possible, try to create handwritten wedding thank you cards.\n\nSourcing stationery that matches your [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) is another way to add a considerate touch of style to your handwritten notes.\n\n### Don’t Forget to Thank the Vendors\n\nIf time allows, consider writing thank you notes for the vendors, caterers, and any support staff that took part in making your big day special!\n\n### Do Write Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Send Gifts\n\nShow everyone who took the time to celebrate you and your partner’s ceremony just how special their presence was, even if they didn’t send a present.\n\nDepending on the accessibility of your wedding venue, some guests may have had to spend more resources to attend than others. A wedding thank you card for their attendance lets them know that their efforts were appreciated.\n\n### Don’t Write the Same Note for Every Guest\n\nReceiving a beautifully written thank you card is like a present all its own, but realizing that your thank you card is completely unoriginal can leave a guest feeling unimportant.\n\nAttempt to write a personalized thank you card for every guest who attended your wedding ceremony. Mentioning the specific gift you received from them is a great way to add a personal touch.\n\n### Do Send Thank You Cards as Soon as Possible\n\nSending your thank you cards ASAP allows you to check off one of the final tasks on your post-wedding checklist—even if you run into shipping delays and other factors outside of your control.\n\nAlthough it's common practice to send wedding thank you cards within three months of the wedding, sooner is always better, so that no guest feels forgotten.\n\n### Don’t Send Multiple Thank You Cards to One Household\n\nStationary prices and stamps can add up, especially if you had a long guest list. There is no need to send multiple thank you cards to one household.\n\nIf multiple gifts were sent by different guests living under the same roof, make sure to address them individually in your wedding thank you card wording so that everyone feels appreciated.\n\n### Do Mention the Specific Gift You Received\n\nMentioning the specific gift you received is the best way to tailor each wedding thank you card to the sender. \n\nIf you’re able to do so, include a brief sentence on how that gift is now bettering your marriage with your significant other. These small details can help the sender understand the impact their gift is making on your new life together.\n\n### Don’t Mention Exact Monetary Amounts\n\nFor security reasons, it’s typically a good idea to avoid mentioning the exact monetary amount of cash gifts. \n\nIn case your thank you card is lost or given to a stranger, you want to protect the gift-giver by not mentioning the cash amounts they were able to give away.\n\n## Wedding Thank You Card Wording Examples\n\nWhether you’re writing a thank you note to a guest who didn’t come to your wedding (but still sent a gift) or someone who gave you an off-registry present that you immediately returned, these wedding thank you card examples will help you navigate wording for every kind of message.\n\n### For When the Gift Was from Your Registry\n\n*Dear Jacqueline,\n\nWe’re so grateful you could come to our wedding a few weeks ago. And thank you so much for the chef’s knife and honing steel you gave us! We’ve both been learning some basic cooking skills, and can’t wait to show them off when you visit us this summer.\n\nOur wedding was a day we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. Words really can’t express how thankful we are that you could be part of it.\n\nLove,\nJanine and Kai*\n\n### For When the Gift Was a Monetary Gift\n\n*Dear Ellen and Sam,\n\nIt was wonderful to see you at our wedding! Thank you for making the trip—and for your incredibly generous gift. We’re planning to take a long camping trip this summer, and we were able to pick up some crucial gear thanks to you. We’ll send pictures!\n\nAgain, we’re so grateful for your friendship. Thank you for being part of our special day.\n\nWith love,\nMillie and Beau*\n\n### For When You Didn’t like or Exchanged the Gift\n\n*Dear Uncle Jeff,\n\nIt was a true delight to see you at our wedding. Thank you for the fondue set you gave us! It was incredibly thoughtful of you, and we’re both touched by your generosity.\n\nOur wedding was all we could have hoped for, and it wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you again for helping us get our marriage off to such a wonderful start.\n\nGratefully yours,\nCher and Kiera*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Didn’t Attend the Wedding\n\n*Dear Henrietta,\n\nThank you for the stunning serving bowl! It’s the perfect accent for the open shelves in our kitchen. Thanks to you, our newlywed home is looking beautiful so far.\n\nWhile we missed you at the wedding, we know you were there in spirit. We hope to see you when we’re back from our honeymoon! Again, our deepest thanks for your generosity.\n\nSincerely,\nMargaret and Kate*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Very Close Friend\n\n*Dear Jake,\n\nWe loved having you at our wedding! Thank you so much for the beer brewing kit. We’re going to fire it up in the next few weeks, and hope to be sipping backyard IPAs with you in no time.\n\nYou can’t imagine how moving it was for us to see you in the crowd with everyone else we love. These memories will last a lifetime and then some. Thank you for being part of our lives.\n\nMuch love,\nZach and Tracy*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Formal Acquaintance\n\n*Dear Dr. Milford,\n\nPlease accept our deepest gratitude for the crystal vase you gave us. It’s a stunning centerpiece for our coffee table, and we can’t wait to fill it with the first flowers of spring.\n\nWe were both touched that you could attend the wedding. Your kindness and support means everything as we set off on a new life together.\n\nGratefully yours,\nLogan and Mackenzie*\n\n### For When Guests Sent a Group Gift\n\n*Dear Chia, Hector, Phoebe, and Tonya,\n\nWe are so grateful that you all pitched in to gift us our new grill! We already cooked our first meal on it and cannot wait to grill for everyone whenever you’re all back in town.\n\nWe have profound gratitude for your gift and it touched our heart that you worked together to make this happen. We miss you all so much already!\n\nOur love to all of you,\nSebastian and Terry*\n\n### For When Guests Traveled Far to Attend\n\n*Dear Aunt June,\n\nWe are eternally grateful that you traveled all the way from the other side of the country to be part of our big day! The memories we all made are cherished more than you can imagine.\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift and we both look forward to spending more time with you this summer!\n\nLove,\nHaru and Aki*\n\n### For When the Sender Was in Your Wedding Party\n\n*Dear Esmerelda,\n\nWe cannot thank you enough for being in our wedding party. Your help with the decor and rehearsals made this big day such a breeze for us both!\n\nWe love our new dishware as well! We’re so lucky to have your artistic touch in our home now, and we hope to celebrate our new life with you over dinner very soon.\n\nTalk soon,\nDiaz and Iris*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Your Parents\n\n*Dear Dad and Papa,\n\nWe are beyond grateful to have shared our special day with you both by our sides. You both were a tremendous help in making this wedding come to life and the new bookcase you sent was an incredibly thoughtful gesture.\n\nThank you for sharing your wisdom with us throughout the process and being our shoulder to cry on during the stressful moments—it was all worth it to dance with you like we did.\n\nWe love you always,\nCassie and Clarke*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Wedding Vendors\n\n*Dear Wedding Supplies & Co.,\n\nThank you for all the thoughtful touches you added to our big day. Your help made everything run smoothly and we deeply appreciate the wine and charcuterie board you gifted us.\n\nWe will be able to host lots of dinners at our new home thanks to your generosity.\n\nSincerely, \nLupita and Louise*\n\n### For When the Gift Is a Charity Donation\n\n*Dear Fletcher and Fiona,\n\nWe cannot begin to thank you enough for your generous contribution to our charity of choice, The Nippon Foundation Ocean Innovation Consortium.\n\nYour thoughtful gift will help fund ocean cleanup events across East Asia! Our dream is to one day live in a world free of plastic ocean waste, and you have just helped us get one step closer to that goal.\n\nWe are forever grateful,\nJessie and Matt*\n\n### For When a Guest Didn’t Send a Gift\n\n*Dear Leonard and Nancy,\n\nThank you for taking the time to celebrate our special day with us. We were so excited to see you hitting the dance floor during the reception!\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift, and we cannot wait to dance the night away with you again soon!\n\nLove,\nTaylor and Elizabeth*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Someone You Don’t Know\n\n*Dear Ms. Ramirez,\n\nWe received the gorgeous vegan cookbook you sent us, and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful gift honoring our new life together.\n\nWe appreciate your generosity and kindness, and we hope to cook a delicious meal for you sometime soon. Please give our thanks to your wife and family as well!\n\nOur sincerest gratitude, \nYasmine and Maxwell *\n\n### For When the Gift Is from a Shared Household\n\n*Dear Shibuya family, \n\nThank you all so much for helping us celebrate our big day! Little Vanessa’s paintings were the perfect gift, and they’re now hanging up in our study.\n\nWe know her artwork will help spark creativity while we both begin new careers during this new chapter of our lives. We can’t thank your family enough for taking time to dance the night away with us!\n\nTake care,\nAntonio and Alex*\n\n## Helpful Synonyms for Wedding Thank You Notes\n\nWhen you’re writing card after card (after card), it can get pretty tiresome to say the same thing over and over. Here is a list of synonyms for common expressions that will help you keep your thank you card language fresh.\n\n__Ways to Say “Thank You for Your Gift”__\n- We deeply appreciate your gift.\n- We have profound gratitude for your gift.\n- We’re offering the deepest thanks for your gift.\n- We’re truly thankful for your gift.\n- We’re so grateful for your gift.\n- We can’t thank you enough for your gift.\n- We love your gift; thank you so much!\n- Your gift is very much appreciated.\n- Thank you for your generosity.\n- Thank you for your thoughtfulness.\n\n__Ways to Say “Our Wedding”__\n- Our ceremony\n- Our special day\n- The big day\n- Our union\n- The beginning of our life together\n- Our celebration\n- Our big event\n\n__Ways to Say “We’re Happy You Could Come”__\n- It was a joy to have you at our wedding.\n- We were delighted you could come.\n- We’re honored that you made the trip.\n- It was wonderful to see you at our wedding.\n- We were so grateful to have you as a guest. \n- We really appreciate your presence. \n- We loved having you there. \n- We’re so thankful you could join us. \n- You made our celebration complete. \n\n__Ways to Say “With Love”__\n- Many thanks,\n- Gratefully yours,\n- With love and gratitude,\n- Warmly yours,\n- With deepest thanks,\n- All our love,\n- Best wishes, \n- Together with love,\n- Fondly, \n- Cheers,\n- Sincerely,\n\n![how-to-say-thank-you](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Mo3WiDrPLVN3sEcVhDbbB/08a338683d1d71cab499690697e735d9/how-to-say-thank-you.png)\n\nHopefully these phrases help you best express the warm fuzzies you got from your wedding gifts. Crafting a heartfelt thank you card is all about the little details, like which adjectives you use and how personal your thank you card wording comes across.\n\n[Beautiful wedding card designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can also heighten the wow factor guests will feel upon opening their custom thank you card. Test out these tips while writing your next thank you card batch and you’ll be amazed by how tender your words can be.\n\n## FAQs About Wedding Thank You Card Wording\n\nHave more questions about wedding thank you card wording? We have answers.\n\n### What Do You Say in a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nThe core elements of wedding thank you card wording include a personalized greeting, thanking the guest for attending, showing gratitude for their specific gift, and a heartfelt closing.\n\n### Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nAnyone who sent you and your significant other a gift should be sent a wedding thank you card, and some couples also choose to send a thank you card to every guest who attended the wedding.\n\n### Do I Send a Thank You Card to Someone Who Didn’t Attend the Wedding?\n\nThis is a personal decision between you and your spouse. Depending on the length of your guest list, this can also be a major time commitment. \n\nIf you have the budget to invest in stationary and stamps, then consider taking the time to thank guests who made their presence your present.\n\n### How Do You Say Thank You for Wedding Money?\n\nInstead of mentioning the specific monetary amount the guest gifted you, tell the sender what you plan on doing with their investment in your future. \n\nFor example, mention that their gift will help make your honeymoon adventures possible or will go to a diaper fund for the next chapter of your life.\n\n### When Should Thank You Cards Be Sent Out After a Wedding?\n\nIn general, wedding thank you cards should be sent out between one to three months of the wedding. Any earlier is always appreciated by the guests, but later than this might leave guests wondering if you truly enjoyed their gifts or not.\n\n\n","body2":"## We'll do the work.\n \nNow that you know *what* to write in your wedding thank you cards, let us do the hard part. If you aren't into handwriting—or you tried and your hands can't handle it—we'll do that part for you. Now with Zola, you can type messages for any of your guests or customize our suggested notes. Yes, you can write individual messages to individual guests or families—it's still super personal. Then, we'll print whatever you write in a beautiful font.\n\nFind this feature when you select any thank you card style on Zola. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-11T15:46:29.719Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/61hYhBsuFxG4P1dyCiV5XB/563a14f4629b73a3a383c1d0329291d0/hero_A_Guide_to_Wedding_Menu_Cards.jpg","altText":"wedding reception place setting with cream colored plates, sage green accents, and a wedding menu card"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nYou chose a dining style, hired a great local [wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and selected the delicious food that will be served at your wedding reception. Now, the next menu consideration you need to tackle is the [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop). If you’re like most couples, you probably have a few questions about wedding reception menu cards: Are they necessary? What should you include on them? What are the display options? Discover the answers and more in our guide below. \n\n## Are Wedding Reception Menu Cards Necessary? \nWedding reception menu cards are not a requirement, but they are great for communicating the details of the meal to your guests. If you’re serving a plated meal with multiple main course options, it’s common to ask your guests to choose the main course they would prefer on the [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). However, in some cases, you may prefer that guests make their choice at the event—therefore it’s important to have a printed dinner menu on hand for them to refer to when making their decision. \n\nIf you opt for buffet or family-style service, menu cards are a quick and easy way to share the food options and give guests the courtesy of knowing what to expect. Guests with dietary restrictions and food allergies will appreciate the heads up about what’s on the menu so they can plan ahead and enjoy the meal without stress. \n\n## What to Include on Wedding Menu Cards? \nWhat you include on your [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas) is up to your preference and the style and tone of your event. Feel free to get creative and have fun with your wording, but your menu template should include the following: \n\n### 1. Description of Courses (or List of Dishes Served)\n- __Plated Meal:__ Outline the courses or meal options in the order they will be served. \n- __Family Style Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served to each table.\n- __Buffet Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served at the buffet.\n\n### 2. Main Ingredients in Each Dish\nWhile it’s not required to list every ingredient used in a dish, it is customary to provide a shortlist of the main ingredients, including foods that are common food allergies, such as nuts, shellfish, gluten, and dairy. \n\n### 3. A Welcome and Thank You (Optional)\nMany couples also use their wedding menu cards as an opportunity to welcome and thank their guests. This text is typically very short and is often found at the top or bottom of the card. \n\n### 4. Your Names and Wedding Date (Optional)\nTo turn your wedding menu card into a scrapbook-worthy memento, include your names and your wedding date on the card. \n\n## Wedding Menu Card Wording Samples\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Plated\n\n__APPETIZER
__\n\n*Assorted Empanadas*
\n*and*
\n*Gazpacho with Fried Almonds*
\n\n__SALAD
__\n\n*Kale Salad with Spicy Quinoa*
\n*and*
\n*Jicama and Mango Slaw*
\n\n__MAIN COURSE
__\n\n*Skirt Steak with Chimichurri*
\n*or*
\n*Snapper with Avocado Salsa*
\n*or*
\n*Charred Street Corn Risotto*
\n\n__DESSERT__\n\n*Gelato Sundae Bar*
\n*and*
\n*Local Pie and Tart Bar*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Buffet\n\nThank you so much for celebrating this special occasion with us! \nPlease eat, drink, and be merry. \n\n*Braised Pork Shoulder*
\n*Bacon, Apple, Sausage, Cheddar Stuffing*
\n*Brandied Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Hot Smoked Salmon*
\n*Dijon Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Whipped Russet Potatoes*
\n*Garlic & Chives*
\n\n*Roasted Local Vegetables*
\n*Fig Tapenade*
\n\n*Seasonal Green Salad*
\n*Balsamic Vinaigrette*
\n\n*Whole Grain Baguette*
\n*Honey Butter*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Family Style\n\nWelcome to Our Wedding Reception. Please enjoy this family-style menu as you get to know everyone at your table, and thank you for being part of our special day.\n\n__First__\n\n*Local Cheese & Charcuterie Platter*
\n*Olives, Crostini, Apples, Bread & Seasonal Garniture*
\n\n__Second__\n\n*Mixed Green Salad*
\n*Port Wine Poached Pears, Stilton Cheese, Walnuts*
\n*Aged Sherry Vinaigrette*
\n\n__Third__\n\n*Pan Seared Duck Breast*
\n*Blood Orange Gastrique*
\n\n*Sweet Potato Gnocchi*
\n*Mushrooms, Peas, Parmesan, Carrot Sauce*
\n\n*Rice Pilaf*\n\n*Seasonal Roasted Vegetables*\n\n__Fourth__\n\n*Passed Local Sweets*\n\n## Wedding Menu Card Display Options\nThere are many different ways to display your catering menu at your wedding, but here is a look at the main styles you’re likely to encounter: \n\n- __Individual Menu Cards —__ For formal or elegant weddings with plated dinner service, it is typical for small [menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop) to be placed at each place setting. This option adds a nice finishing touch to your design and individually welcomes each guest. In some cases, couples might have the menu card do double duty as a place card by including the guest’s name as well. That way, guests can find their seat, read your welcome message, and peruse the menu in one go. \n- __Large Display or Signage —__ If you prefer not to invest in individual menu cards for each place setting, a great option is to display a large sign at the reception. From chalkboard signage to calligraphy on gilded mirrors, there are limitless ways to get creative and elevate your decor at the same time. \n- __Small Buffet Sign —__ For a sign that gets the job done but is more inconspicuous, many couples opt to place a small menu sign beside the buffet or at each food station. \n- __Table Sign —__ To retain the intimate feel of individual menu cards without straining your budget, we recommend posting a menu sign on each round table, or a displaying a menu per every 4 chairs if you’re using rectangular tables. \n\nYour wedding stationery isn’t really complete with wedding reception menu cards. Follow our menu template above to create stunning and informative paper products that let your guests know exactly what they can or will eat for dinner at your wedding.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"cta":{"copy":"Shop Wedding Menu Cards","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-07-01T16:36:42.703Z"}],"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper","description":"Day-of wedding paper or stationary includes wedding day menus, wedding table number cards, place cards, ceremony programs, and wedding guest books. Find guides, advice and ideas for all wedding stationary here."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-paper-guide","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper","excerpt":"Here’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pdjGxliJ09cJurPvdVnex/3795bb9532ada8a69aa5545e5b8dd372/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg","altText":"Floral wedding invitation suite laid out on a green table"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations\n- Save the dates\n- Wedding invitations\n- Wedding event and party invitations\n- Day-of paper\n- Thank you notes\n- Wedding invitation suite\n- Frequently asked questions about wedding invites\n","body":"There’s nothing quite like getting wedding invitations or save the dates in the mail. We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). But of course, this is a highly unique number dependent on the couple's specific needs and wants. \n\n### Can I order sample paper products?\n\nFinding your perfect wedding invitation suite or stationery for your big day can be overwhelming. It’s so important that you love what you pick out. That’s why Zola offers up to five [free customizable samples](https://www.zola.com/faq/360052512531-do-you-offer-samples-of-your-paper-products-), including shipping. Just head to the Invites & Paper page on our website and “*select your designs*” on the left-hand side of the screen. 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