Invitations

From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too.

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Funny Wedding Invitation Ideas to Make Your Guests LOL

Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? Here are our top ideas.

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Wedding Invitation Paper Options

With so many options to choose from, it can be difficult to know which wedding invitation paper is best. Learn about the differences from our experts today.

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5 Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas

With our unique and stylish winter wedding invitation ideas, your guests will be counting the days to your seasonal celebration.

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12 Best Bachelorette Party Invitation Ideas & Wording

Find fun and flirty ideas to add to your bachelorette party invitations. Use these as is or simply as inspiration to perfect the bachelorette party invite wording.

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LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101

From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.

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How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations

Not sure how to word your bridal shower invitations? Follow our guide for what to include, template ideas, wording examples, and more.

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Top 11 Wedding Invitation Etiquette Mistakes to Avoid

Find out everything you need to know about the wedding invitation etiquette mistakes you’ll want to avoid.

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How Much Do Wedding Invitations Cost on Average?

Find average wedding invitation costs with our pricing breakdown guide. Explore pricing factors to consider including paper types, printing methods, and more.

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How to Stuff Wedding Invitations: A Complete Guide

Zola cordially invites you to the ultimate tutorial on how to stuff your wedding invitations! The perfect formula for fantastic invitations.

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Pros and Cons of Printing Your Own Wedding Invitations

Thinking of printing your own wedding invitations? Zola breaks down the pros and cons of being your own printer.

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Wedding Invitations: A Guide to Envelopes

A wedding invitation envelope really deserves some attention. So without further ado, let’s celebrate this paper enclosure with everything you ever wanted to know about wedding invitation envelopes.

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What to Do About a Typo On Your Wedding Invitations

OK—it's not great, but a typo on your wedding invitations doesn't have to mean the end of the world. Here's how to solve the problem.

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\n \n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","subtopicPage":{"articles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"funny-wedding-invitation-ideas-to-make-your-guests-lol","title":"Funny Wedding Invitation Ideas to Make Your Guests LOL","excerpt":"Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? Here are our top ideas.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-12-08T19:00:20.296Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vq435VOvdRM2C45D42ESH/955c904cbab95857c74a9c113459d163/hero_Stocksy.jpg","altText":"funny wedding invitations"},"heroCredit":"Stocksy","body":"We’re all for elegant, sophisticated, and timeless wedding invitations. There’s something so special when a guest opens up a foil-lined envelope and beholds a beautiful wedding card in their hands.\n\nBut, what about funny wedding invitations? Today, couples are getting bolder with their wedding invitations. What used to be unheard of in terms of “[wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests/gift-etiquette)” is being turned on its head (and to tell you the truth, it’s really fun).\n\nWe gathered up some of the silliest wedding invites that we could find. Whether it’s a post-elopement party or a backyard boogie that you’re hosting, pair it with one of these funny wedding invitations to give your guests a chortle.\n\n## Love Truly, Drink Slowly, and Dance Badly\nFor those searching for funny wedding invitations that start slow then pack a punch, take a peek at [this wedding invite](https://www.canva.com/templates/EADaoWuGagE-dark-blue-and-pale-pink-funny-wedding-invitation/?irgwc=1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=Skimbit%20Ltd.&clickId=Ry0yjhS:nxyOUYgwUx0Mo36AUkiSTa0NyX5P1I0). Love truly, drink slowly, and dance badly sounds slightly like a wedding saying you’ve heard before. But, upon closer examination, you find that the sentiment is actually silly. Ideal for those couples who are ready for a raucous good time on their wedding, this funny save the date and [wedding invitation style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pretty-wedding-invitation-styles) is sure to sneak a smile from even the most discerning of wedding guests. \n\n### Free Cake, Open Bar \nIf you’re a culinary and beverage-minded bride or groom, this [Free Cake, Open Bar](https://www.minted.com/product/save-the-date-postcards/MIN-ZYU-SPC/the-perks?color=A&custom_foil=unselected&form_factor=postcard&format=flat+card&paper=Signature&quantity=25&shape=default&pid=319264&utm_source=shareasale&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_sub=319264&sscid=91k4_of1uw) invite will be the frosting on top of the cake (or shall we say, the olive on top of the martini). Keep things simple and fun with free cake, open bar invites. Because truly—need you say more? As it turns out, many of the best wedding stories do involve an open bar and, of course, endless amounts of deliciously good cake.\n\n### The Love Story\nOne of the best parts of a wedding is the love story. It’s the coffee shop where you first saw one another, the college literature class that you shared, or the coworker who introduced you at a company function. So, why not share your love story—however silly it may be—with your guests? In [this fun card](https://www.onewed.com/photos/funny-wedding-invitations-love-story-infographic-1-91421/), Jill and Matt told their story through their wedding invitation. They met at work, got along okay, had lunch, an after-work beer, and then eventually became friends. \n\nOne thing led to the next, the office cut their jobs, then she asked him out (and so on). If you want to set the tone for your casually fun wedding, funny wedding invitations such as this one, allow you to do just that. \n\n### You Can’t Come to Our Wedding\nFor those of you who plan to elope or already have, congrats. An elopement shared between two people is a special and ceremonious occasion. Thankfully, after you’ve shared your “I dos” you can still have a big celebratory bash with your loved ones. If you’re looking for a silly card to announce your elopement—and the celebration that’s about to ensue, one option is to go for a card that reads, “[You Can’t Come to Our Wedding](https://www.etsy.com/listing/242987729/printable-elopement-reception-invitation?).” Although the joke may at first raise some curiosity among your invitees, the details that follow will inform your party guests of the upcoming post-wedding gathering.\n\n### For Richer or Poorer\nFor couples with a good sense of humor, this [For Richer or Poorer wedding invite](https://www.etsy.com/nz/listing/496093610/for-richer-or-poorer-funny-wedding-card) is perfect. If you’re going to share the promise in your vows, why not first do it in card-form? Funny [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) can take on all sorts of personalities. We love the hand-drawn illustration on this card, and can totally see it transformed into a wedding invite with just a few simple details. \n\n![Funny Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1A2bctlLwcZPXaMM7B5niL/d1c88542a483fd22d51fbdc6c56f7ce4/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Free Beer and a Wedding\nIf you’ll be cracking a few cold ones on the wedding day, nothing sets the tone like this [Free Beer and a Wedding](https://www.etsy.com/listing/676816170/free-beer-funny-save-the-date-card?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=free+beer+invitation&ref=sr_gallery-1-5) card. Lots of funny wedding invitations feature food and drink jokes (along with dancing jokes), as those tend to be three of the main components of a wedding. We like how this invitation wording is fun, yet it still maintains a romantic component with the hearts and swirly font. The simplicity of the icons is cute, and if you go with this instant invite, you can download your files as soon as the payment is confirmed.\n\n### Nothing Fancy Just Love\nNot every funny wedding invitation has to be laugh-out-loud humorous. You can go for a charming-meets-funny invite, too, such as [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/526027457/elopement-reception-party-invitations) that reads “Nothing Fancy Just Love”. We love the casual invitation wording that the artist created, and appreciate the simple design of greenery and black font. As a bonus, you can personalize the back of the card by adding a picture or additional paragraph. \n\n### Personalized Caricature\nTypically, when a caricature is created, it exaggerates the features of its subject. It’s one of the best ideas for funny wedding invitations because a caricature, by nature, is meant to be comical. Plus, your guests will love seeing you and your spouse-to-be in cartoons. This [caricature wedding invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/202136187/custom-personalized-wedding-cartoon?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cartoon+wedding+invitation&ref=sc_gallery-1-5&plkey=ef23c055ee94f538a1dbe669ea5404d19ef923e5:202136187) is highly detailed and represents some fun characteristics of the bride, groom, and their relationship. This particular artist also does [save-the-dates](https://www.etsy.com/listing/202136187/custom-personalized-wedding-cartoon?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cartoon+wedding+invitation&ref=sc_gallery-1-5&plkey=ef23c055ee94f538a1dbe669ea5404d19ef923e5:202136187), which is another fun route to go.\n\n### Game Over\nFor any gamers in the crowd, this Game Over card is sure to steal your heart when it comes to funny wedding invitations. Of course, we know the game of love isn’t anywhere near over for you and your partner, but this unique card is a humorous way of announcing the big day. This graphic design element shows a bride and groom, but you can also find the same theme with customizable spouses, such as [this groom and groom version](https://www.zazzle.com/game_over_marriage_homosexual-161874101186712980).\n\n### We’re Having an Open Bar\nFor the open bar parties—with a side of a wedding—this [We’re Having an Open Bar](https://www.etsy.com/listing/776424759/were-having-an-open-bar-funny-save-the?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=funny+wedding+invites&ref=sr_gallery-1-25&organic_search_click=1&pro=1&frs=1) wedding save-the-date is ideal. You can use this same idea, but add more details if you’re looking for a full and funny wedding invitation. Better yet, enlist the help of an artistic family member or friend to jazz up the black front with some cute, original doodles. One thing is for sure, along with a funny invite, you’ll have an invite that’s entirely your own.\n\n### Old School Invites\nOne of the best ideas for funny wedding invitations is to throw it back to yesteryear. Give your guests a good giggle with an [old school invite](https://www.etsy.com/listing/203326417/throwback-save-the-date-handmade-save?) that features photos of the two of you as kids. These particular cards are handmade using cardstock and baker’s twice, which gives them an instant vintage flair. Pair this wedding invitation with some vintage stamps to complete the theme, then send, sit back, and relax as guests' compliments start pouring in. \n\n![Funny Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OfSoDttvn7QodoUQ26lke/0c337a96b8e8cdfc5bad7e14e6c8c885/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## Other Ways to Add Humor to Your Wedding\nFunny wedding invitations aren’t the only way to add humor to your wedding. Here are some other ways to give your guests a good belly laugh on your wedding day.\n\n### Interactive Trivia\nHow would your guests react to a silly game of interactive trivia? Perhaps someone in the crowd knows which partner got the chickenpox first. Another guest may know the exact spot that the two of you shared your first kiss. Get the crowd roaring with an easy-to-put-together game, complete with prizes for the winning answers.\n\n### Throw in a Joke During the Vows\nWe know that there’s a fine line between a joke going right and wrong. If you’re going to add a joke, make sure that it’s something guests will understand or, at least, something they’ll get a laugh out of. This is a fun way to break the ice after people have been on the road and are settling into the fun of the celebration.\n\n### A Silly Dance\nA couple’s dance—or a family dance—is a great way to get your wedding guests chuckling. Sure, the scene from “Dirty Dancing” has been done a few times, but is there anyone who can pull it off better than you and your future husband or wife? We think not.\n\n### Flower Girl Grandmas\nA little bit quirky, and a whole lot charming, one of the best ideas for a wedding might just be flower girl grandmas. Enlist the help of both sides' grandmas and watch the guests instantly swoon over the fun.\n\n### Childhood Photos \nScattering childhood photos throughout your venue is not only hilarious, but it’s a fantastic ice breaker. Guests will love seeing photos of you together as a couple, but start from way back when, and give them an assortment of childhood photos, too. Put them up in the bar, the bathroom, or at the tables—the choice is yours.\n\nFrom busting out some dance moves to sending out funny wedding invitations, adding humor to your wedding can be a whole lot of fun. And, the good news is, however you do it, it will get your guests laughing and (most importantly) keep them happy.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"One of the best parts of creating your dream wedding invitation is choosing the perfect wedding invitation font. Read on for the top 25 fonts!\n","title":"25 Gorgeous Wedding Invitation Fonts You’ll Want To Use","slug":"wedding-invitation-fonts","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4sDzUU7RWj4mpkoMayRJmm/e49b52516dbd527bd5b2619d19299678/Hero_1_Wedding_Invite_unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation fonts"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between wedding invitations and reception invitations? And when do you send one, the other, or both? Here's everything you need to know.","title":"A Complete Guide to Wedding Reception Invitation Wording","slug":"wedding-reception-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59M7uIwrTn634jZVUTtGcm/78cebaf260226c964b9ac50587cffdf1/Hero_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation suite"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"If you want to DIY your wedding invitations, that's great. There are just a few things you want to consider. Here are tips and tricks for DIY-ing your invites.","title":"How to Make DIY Wedding Invitations","slug":"should-you-try-diy-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Y4gSo5KUs54PQRmPVI1FR/854ead723f06406c3814cde1fe58ce70/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"diy wedding invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding invitation templates are gorgeous ways to go about designing your wedding paper suite. Here's how to select and customize a wedding invitation template.","title":"Should We Use a Wedding Invitation Template?","slug":"should-we-use-a-wedding-invitation-template","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3vfzVCkzz5XtARvSqYgnSu/d38c1fa88ea2ef6a313fcefaae28c5ae/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"zola invitation suite"},"type":"articlePage"}],"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:45.139Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitation-paper-options","title":"Wedding Invitation Paper Options","excerpt":"With so many options to choose from, it can be difficult to know which wedding invitation paper is best. Learn about the differences from our experts today.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-10-27T15:42:02.288Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ERLxIWbH4p8GhS87Hi6B9/1afacb0e21692c5923578bd742670206/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"different types of wedding invitation paper"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nUnless you’re particularly crafty, you probably aren’t aware of the different wedding invitation paper options available to you. Like the design of your paper suite, the actual paper stationery it’s printed on can add to the look and feel of your wedding. When going through your [wedding invitation checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist), one of the first decisions that you’ll have to make is the type of paper you’ll use. Make a lasting impression with wedding stationery that elevates what you’re mailing out—from [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) to invitations and [enclosures](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-invitation-enclosure-cards). Read on for eight types of [wedding invitation paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist) and how they can be best used. Then, [order right here at Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Elevate your invitations with the perfect paper style.\n\n### Smooth\nAs one of the most common types of paper for a wedding invitation, this wedding stationery has a smooth, clean finish, hence its name. It's thin and modern, with a hint of sheen, making it ideal for designs that feature photos (giving you an excuse to share more stunning shots from your engagement session). Even if you decide not to spotlight a photo, the same subtle luster lends itself to graphic designs and bold, beautiful fonts.\n\n### Eggshell\nBoth delicate and durable, eggshell paper is reminiscent of watercolor paper. On the thin side, it possesses subtle texture and a matte finish. Read: No shimmer. However, that doesn't mean that it doesn't contribute to a gorgeous presentation. Eggshell paper shines when it comes to making colors appear more rich and intense, adding dimension overall. If your ideal design includes touches of vibrant or deep color, this paper type is one to consider.\n\n### Recycled\n\n![Wedding Invitation Paper Options](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43w0nxDBbsfikyVwXV1YrZ/13b6bce43f4284a3e381296204ca8a16/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nWe’re big fans of [eco-friendly wedding ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/eco-friendly-registry-picks). This easily lends itself to stationary with recycled paper. Zola's recycled card stock, specifically, is a carbon-neutral paper 100 percent made with wind power. It has visible fibers and a subtle fabric-like texture, making it soft to the touch. Although it's slightly thicker than our smooth paper, it's surprisingly lightweight. Appearance-wise, this paper type is great for the ever-popular [rustic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) theme. Really, though, it's just as suitable for any style of wedding looking to be a bit more eco-conscious.\n\n### Pearlescent\nOn the other hand, we have pearlescent paper. Unlike eggshell or recycled, this card stock is smooth to touch. Its glossy surface appears iridescent, lending a shimmering affect to both sides. With just a touch of sparkle, it's eye-catching and glamorous—perfect for a sophisticated paper wedding suite. Note that, like all glossy card stock, it isn't highly absorbent. This isn't important though, so long as you don't plan on painting or adding illustrations on top.\n\n### Linen\n\n![Wedding Invitation Paper Options](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7doWvnQK0WGES3xK8Q5VC8/76bb2d1aeaee380010b135c25cd1c75e/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nLinen paper is meant to give the appearance of—you guessed it—linen fabric. This [wedding invitation trend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) elevates the traditional wedding suite. The paper has a similar crosshatch (or basket weave) pattern, closely resembling the woven material. This gives it a nice texture, while also providing some more visual interest to your wedding stationery. Despite its name, don't expect linen card stock to be overly soft or flimsy. Slightly thicker than eggshell, it's on the thinner side, while still being durable. Intricate designs, such as illustrations, florals, and elaborate framing, look beautiful on linen, but ultimately it can elevate any classic or rustic design.\n\n### Felt\nIf a high-texture experience is what you're after, look into felt. This isn't the wool-like textile you crafted with as a kid, rather, it's a thick card stock reminiscent of watercolor paper. Texture-wise, it's somewhere between canvas and cotton, course and smooth. This middle ground gives it a velvety feel, similar to that of felt fabric. Since felt paper is comparable to watercolor paper, it's ideal for wedding suites with watercolor details or similar painterly designs.\n\n### Double Thick\nAs implied by the name, double thick card stock is twice as thick as standard card stock. Think the same weight and feel as a sturdy postcard, with the same smooth texture. This is done by printing your design on a single thick card stock, then mounting it to another piece. The result is a premium invitation with the weight of letterpress or thermography, while still being able to be designed digitally.\n\nThat being said, it's your best option for invitations or cards that don't require an envelope (like save the dates, which often aren't sent with anything else). It's also ideal if you do plan on letterpressing or using embellishments. The deep impressions you can make in this paper create a classic appearance that every guest will notice. Moreover, it's durable without being too cumbersome or heavy.\n\n### Triple Thick\nSensing a trend? Triple thick card stock has the same smooth surface and premium feel as the above, only it's extra thick. To get an idea, imagine (or reach for) the cover of a classic hardcover notebook. Cards printed on triple thick are the most durable and long lasting, meant to be proudly displayed for years to come.\n\nPro tip: If you’re looking to [save money on your wedding stationery](https://www.loveandlavender.com/tips-save-money-wedding-stationery/), purchase different paper weights. Your invitation, for example, can be triple thick. It's arguably the most important element and the one you’ll hold onto the longest. Meanwhile, the rest of your enclosure cards can be printed on a thinner paper. You'll make a great impression, save money, and still be able to fit everything into a single envelope.\n\nWhile cardstock may seem like a small detail, it largely adds to the experience—and, in some cases, longevity—of your wedding invitations. Consider your [wedding style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style) and paper suite designs when it comes down to deciding.\n\nNeed a quick sheet to reference when ordering invites? [Right this way.](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038232032 \"What paper types does Zola offer?\") \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:44.434Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"winter-wedding-invitation-ideas","title":"5 Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas","excerpt":"With our unique and stylish winter wedding invitation ideas, your guests will be counting the days to your seasonal celebration.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T05:59:13.938Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/iG1Y3o0OsmFhoIXKs6StD/4e761ec68dc2485ed98f992c08f8a781/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Winter weddings don’t mean just one style—from minimal elegance to lush romance, there’s a seasonal invitation design to reflect your taste. \n- For such a unique wedding season so close to the new year, try out-of-the-box ideas. Creative cutouts, side panels, and non-paper materials all enhance an invitation.\n- Bring winter’s color palette to your invitations; deep reds and greenery, metallics, whites, and earthy tones all reflect the season’s natural beauty and traditions.\n- Elevate your winter wedding invitations suite with letterpress printing, gold foil, and gift-wrapping elements all fit this cheery time of year.","body":"If hosting a wedding during the colder months, give your guests a seasonal preview with a fitting invitation design. From gold embellishments to evergreen borders, Zola can help you create your perfect winter wedding invitation as well as thank you cards.\n\n## Pick a Seasonally Unique Layout \n\n### Cutouts and Beveling \nTime to get creative with the scissors. Paper cutouts and shaping add dimension and modern flair to elegant [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/wedding-invitations). Start with these options for an invitation that’s a cut above the rest:\n\n- __Single Layer:__ One-layer cutouts simply carve out designs right onto the invitation (anything from snowflake wedding invitations to leaf patterns). The card material should be sturdy enough.\n\n- __Overlays:__ Like two sheets stacked, overlay cutout designs have a (usually thinner) top paper layer that’s cut in patterns to reveal the bottom paper layer.\n\n- __Side panels:__ Add patterned cutout side panels to your card. Guests will love opening the panels like double doors as they unwrap your invitation. \n\n- __Decorative edges:__ Deckled (or purposefully torn) edges give a rustic feel. On the opposite end, a detailed lace cutout edge would match any romantic or classic setting.\n\n### Folds and Construction\nFor a wedding invitation that truly stands out, step away from the traditional rectangle. If you want to shake things up, pick from these winter wedding invitation constructions:\n\n- __Gate-fold:__ Like French doors opening to a balcony, a gate-fold instantly adds elegance and luxury to your invitation. The side panels on this design also provide room for extra writing or folder pockets that hold RSVP cards.\n\n- __Tri-folds:__ With its pamphlet-like design, tri-fold invitations best fit casual celebrations or hosts who need to share a large amount of information. Sometimes couples will make one-fold a tearaway section, so that guests can easily return an RSVP or other response.\n\n- __Non-rectangle shapes:__ Love a single-surface card, but don’t care for parallelograms? Get creative and pick a different cookie cutter. Circles, triangles, and even petals are all uniquely fun shapes for __[wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__.\n\n### Card Materials\nFor many guests, holding and feeling a physical card adds to the experience. If standard cardstock sounds like a bore, upgrade your invitation with these unique materials:\n\n- __Velvet:__ The second your guests feel this luxurious fabric, they’ll be transported to a cozy winter paradise. Stick with minimalist fonts and decor for the rest of your invitation.\n\n- __Wood:__ For __[wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)__ like ski lodges, log cabins, or heated farmhouses, carved wood invitations could fit the outdoorsy, rustic setting.\n\n- __Parchment:__ With their homey yet elegant feel, parchment [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) have a warm quality to them and are a subtle elevation from cardstock.\n\n- __Transparent:__ Give guests a taste of the chic celebration in their futures. Typically made with acrylic material, the sleek design of these clear cards reflects icicles.\n\n- __Plant-seed paper:__ Give your guests the gift of life with invitations on seed paper. Just plant the paper in fertile soil (after RSVPing, of course), and they’ll have a new sprout that will remind them of your upcoming celebration.\n\n## Know Your Winter Color Palette \nGive your invitation the rich palette of winter. Here are some seasonally appropriate duos for your winter-themed wedding invitation, that can also be used for your bridal shower invitations:\n\n- Emerald and dark navy blue\n- White and cloudy grey\n- Green and berry red\n- Cream and sparkly gold\n- Muted pink and red\n- All white\n- Maroon and deep gold\n- Dove grey and dusty blue\n- Red and ivory\n\n## Incorporate Winter’s Natural Beauty \n\n### Snow\nFresh and sparkling white, there’s just something magical about winter snow. Sprinkle a few snowflake designs (or even snowflake-shaped confetti) on your invitations, and guests will sense the wedding magic to come.\n\n### Botanicals\nWhether through watercolor, print, or painting, incorporate these wintery plants in your wedding details for a natural beauty boost:\n\n- __Evergreen trees:__ To keep evergreen touches from feeling too Christmas-like (unless that’s the goal), stick with simple illustrations of full trees rather than a Christmas wedding card feel. \n\n- __Holly berries:__ That distinctive pop of red will immediately catch your guests’ attention. Set holly branches along the corners or borders of your invitation to frame your writing in festive style.\n\n- __Branches:__ For a subtle taste of nature, muted leafless branches create an elegant backdrop on any winter invite. And to underline headlines or provide a lush border, evergreen branches or wreaths will do the trick.\n\n- __Florals:__ Winter has its own unique flowers—poinsettias, snowdrops, pieris, winterberry, and mahonia all thrive in the season. No matter the time of year, florals always add a romantic and fresh touch so consider floral wedding invitations.\n\n### Seasonal Photographs \nIs your __[wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning)__ well ahead of schedule? Consider taking advantage of winter’s beauty for a different event—invitation photos. A romantic and on-theme couples photo can give your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pretty-wedding-invitation-styles) the ultimate personal touch. \n\n### Lights\nTwinkling lights add sparkle to winter’s darkest nights. Guests will feel lit from within after seeing these glowing design elements:\n\nFor a spark of warmth, channel this seasonal staple into your winter wedding invitations. Guests will feel lit from within after seeing these glowing design elements:\n\n- __Fairy Lights Border:__ Frame a portrait layout in style with an illustrated border of fairy lights. Bonus points for designs with metallic foil that catch the light.\n\n- __Swooping Strands:__ Artful sketches of swooping light strands provide an inviting glow, as if the card were set under a beautiful banquet hall ceiling. \n\n- __Lantern Illustrations:__ Use muted hanging lanterns as a subtle backdrop or place an eye-catching watercolor lantern in the bottom corner.\n\n## Embellishments \nA wedding invitation is more than a time, a date, and a request to RSVP. It’s a beautiful and personalized welcome to celebrate your love—that’s why the details and decor matter. For a seasonal preview of your style, consider these flairs for your winter wedding invites.\n\n### Foil\nLike tinsel on the tree, foil lends an eye-catching sparkle to winter wedding invites. With foil, there’s one long-standing rule: less is more. Stick with one or two metallic elements, such as:\n\n- Typography/Calligraphy\n- Decorative patterns\n- Borders\n- Stencil designs (snowflakes, trees, etc.)\n\n### Letterpress Printing\nCalling those with a taste for the classic, the academic, the elegant—letterpress printing might be your ultimate winter invitation design. Need an example? Check out our __[Kalispell Framed Letterpress](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/72f14b95-00a2-436f-8f82-383d29c84381)__ invitation for minimalist botanicals and muted blue typography.\n\n### Gift Wrapping Touches\nFor a brush of wintery magic, packaging and gift-wrapping elements add unmistakable charm. Your guests will feel like they’re receiving a present with these under-the-tree-worthy touches:\n\n- __Enhanced Envelopes:__ Match your envelope and card colors or patterns. For a luxurious upgrade, personal wax seals add vintage fun to the mix.\n\n- __Pockets or Folders:__ Sneak in an actual gift (or RSVP response card) by adding pockets to your invitations. It’s a double-duty feature, adding exciting surprise and functionality.\n\n- __Bows:__ Whether rustic string or elegant silk, a bow can transform an invitation. This decoration especially works for gate-fold invitations where the card opens like a present.\n\n- __Boxes:__ Ditch the envelope and send your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/rustic-wedding-invitations) in an actual gift box. Just make sure to account for shipping costs in your budget.\n\n## 5 Winter Wedding Invitation Styles\n\n### 1. Minimalist and Elegant\nLuckily for minimalists, simple designs or something DIY are perfect for winter. With some tasteful twists, your minimalist card will captivate guests as much as any ornate invitation. Photo credit: [Greenvelope](https://www.greenvelope.com/blog/winter-wedding-invitations)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Keep things unfussy with a solid, non-patterned background (white is the “cleanest” looking). Without watermarks or photos, your invitation will feel like a snow-covered mountain in the early morning—peaceful, gorgeous, and serene.\n\n- __Typography:__ With minimalist designs, it’s less about the words and more about the space between the words. Stick with thinner, unadorned fonts that leave plenty of room—simple script or unadorned typewriter styles work best. \n\n- __Colors:__ On simple winter invitations, your best friends are whites and creams. For an eye-catching twist, try a solid colored background with white typography (Zola’s __[Hopewell Frame Invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/fc04d211-c0a8-40d9-90bc-be4763ffe8bd)__ is a beautiful option).\n\n- __Decor:__ Even simple invitations can have a little flair—in fact, the eye-popping details are what minimalism is all about. Small illustrations, metallic touches, or light border patterns can bring personality to a bare-bones design. \n\n### 2. Rustic and Bohemian\nIf holding your winter celebration amidst nature’s beauty, give a preview with your wedding invitations. These design elements will put guests in the mood for a natural winter wonderland:\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Set the winter rustic wedding mood with a scenic winter background (like the one from our __[Deep Creek Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de)__ invitation). Even better: If you and your partner have time for a winter wedding theme photoshoot, use your favorite pic as the main attraction.\n\n- __Typography:__ For a bohemian invitation, keep typography casual and reminiscent of real handwriting. This can include loose scripts, sans serif fonts, or other natural designs.\n\n- __Colors:__ Embrace the gorgeous palette of winter in your wedding invitations. Rich greens, snowy whites, lush reds, stark greys, and light blues all reflect the season’s natural beauty.\n\n- __Decor:__ If your backdrop doesn’t already provide some winter flair, then you’ll need some natural touches. Drawings of snowflakes, fir trees, pine cones and pine trees, and bare branches all give a taste of nature’s best.\n\n### 3. Romantic and Classic\nNo matter the time of year, romance is always in style. To kick off a winter wedding as romantic as a red rose bouquet, consider these invitation ideas:\n\nPhoto credit: [Elegant Wedding Invites](https://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/wedding-blog/popular-winter-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Classic romance blends the simple, structured, and warm. Bring this elegance to your invitations with a solid or color-blocked background. If you prefer patterns, stick with soft floral designs (poinsettias add a seasonal touch).\n\n- __Typography:__ Bring effortless elegance to your invitations with classic, formal typography. Keep the type size small and consider serif or tightly formed script fonts.\n\n- __Colors:__ For romantic invitations, everything warm-colored is welcome—reds, pinks, yellows, even creams. During winter, dip your toes into the lusher tones of these wedding colors, such as deep reds and muted golds.\n\n- __Decor:__ With the right details, you can transform your invitation from basic to frameable. Metallic lettering and botanical borders, like the wreaths on our __[Oxley Lush](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/64294e96-3c36-4052-958a-b7d76179edd9)__ template, give a stately feel to classic designs.\n\n### 4. Fun and Festive\nWith so much holiday cheer, winter is a time for celebration. Embrace the season’s natural festivity with an invitation to match such as a Christmas themed wedding invitation. With these festive invitation ideas, your guests will be ready to party:\n\nPhoto credit: [Hitched](https://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/invite-wording-and-etiquette/winter-and-christmas-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Ornate, colorful, and bold backdrops set a festive tone for your big day, such as lush solid colors or rich patterns. And for the highest of glamour, a little glitter in the background goes a long way.\n\n- __Typography:__ Invite eyes to dance across the page with striking typography. With a festive theme, fonts can be larger and ornamental—anything from swoopy scripts, to elegant typewriter, to curly-cued letters.\n\n- __Colors:__ Get ready to color outside of the white box (or invitation). Golds, deep reds and greens, rich creams, and royal blues all fit the festive theme. \n\n- __Decor:__ What’s more fun than a flash of gold in your Christmas wedding invitation? Metallic foil touches, like the gorgeous stencil pattern on our __[Baker Fan Design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7ad52837-e2fd-4f8d-ab65-298a1b4963d0)__, will make your invitations shimmer and pop. Similarly, accents like a border wreath or velvet ribbon add to the seasonal fun.\n\n### Luxurious and Modern\nNo season embraces sleek and sharp designs like winter. If your reception vision and wedding colors is filled with crystal chandeliers, then consider these contemporary-chic elements:\n\nPhoto credit: [Clarity Wedding](https://www.claritynco.com/wedding-blog/top-winter-wedding-colors-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Solid or minimally patterned backdrops work best. Like minimalist styles, modern designs love plenty of negative space. As an alternative, a stunning photograph of the glamorous venue or you and your partner could instantly draw guests.\n\n- __Typography:__ If leaning more into the luxurious, tight cursive scripts (possibly in gold foil) will elevate your invitation. If leaning more modern, go for long and thin sans serif fonts and play with type sizes.\n\n- __Colors:__ Pull up the dramatics with winter’s richest and deepest color contrasts—deep reds, metallics, Kelly greens, and stark whites. To make every detail pop, go against the traditional white setting and choose a velvety black background.\n\n- __Decor:__ Here’s where you can have a little fun. Channel wintery glamour with metallic touches, icicle borders, and extra features like lacy side panels. Want to amp up the chic factor? Tie a velvet bow around the whole card.\n\n## Embrace the Season with Zola’s Wedding Guidance\nWhether boldly festive or sleekly minimal, every style has a spot in the winter wedding world. And with our invitation idea guide (and Zola’s premium templates), you can build a design that reflects both your style and the winter season.\n\nNeed some help with the million other items on your __[wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist)__? No problem. Stick to your seasonal theme with Zola’s other planning tools, like our __[wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ or gifts and favors shop. With customizable designs and easy-to-use formats, Zola has all the resources you need to stay as cool as ice for your winter wedding.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:43.706Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-nail-down-bachelorette-party-invite-wording","title":"12 Best Bachelorette Party Invitation Ideas & Wording","excerpt":"Find fun and flirty ideas to add to your bachelorette party invitations. Use these as is or simply as inspiration to perfect the bachelorette party invite wording.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-08T03:30:21.113Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/nOv81cW5VNug2jLwSVUsQ/08be7268bac0ddca468f87276e88fcbd/Hero_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Levi-stolove-photography.jpg","altText":"Pair with confetti cannons"},"heroCredit":"Stolove Photography","body":"In terms of pre-wedding events, the __[bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties)__ is the least formal affair and meant to be the most fun, so it should start off that way. Kick off your bach by sending invitation cards that suit the occasion and theme. There are details to include, of course, but most of the invites can be fun and flirty, and reflect the bride’s style and personality (which should also be reflected in the other wedding-related correspondence, like the bridal shower invitations).\n\nOnce you’ve picked the right stationery, the hardest part is deciding how to word your bachelorette invitations. But don’t stress: We’ve got you covered. Here, we gathered a variety of party invitation wording options for you to choose from. Let’s take a look at some bachelorette party invite wording ideas—along with a few invitation templates—as inspiration to help you get started: \n\n## Who Plans The Bachelorette Party?\nAccording to traditional __[bachelorette party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-etiquette-101)__, the maid of honor(s) plans the bachelorette weekend—but it’s also not uncommon for a bride to assign another friend or member of her wedding party to plan the shindig. The MOH has a lot on her plate, especially if she’s planning a bridal shower as well, so whether someone else takes over completely or someone steps in to handle the bachelorette party details, it's a good idea to provide her with some help.\n\nIf you’re the designated bachelorette party planner, the burden of planning and expense doesn’t fall all on you. Ask for help from other members of the bridal party and split all costs between everyone. Ok, let’s get to the fun stuff…\n\n## Who Is Invited To The Bachelorette Party?\nThe bride-to-be is in charge of bachelorette party invitations, and no, the guest list isn’t limited to the bridal party. She can also choose to include any or all of the following:\n\n- Bridesmaids\n- Sisters & Sisters-in-law\n- Close Friends\n- Extended Family Members\n- Mom and Mother-in-law\n\nBefore sending out those white envelopes, be sure to double-check who’s getting one, as it could be a longer list than you think. And make sure you don’t book anything else, like accommodations or activities, before you hear back from everyone.\n\n## Bachelorette Party Invitation Wording Ideas\nThere are plenty of fun ways to word the bachelorette party invite that put a simple “You’re Invited” to shame. And remember, bachelorette party invitations don’t have to be as formal as a __[wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__, so don’t be afraid to mix things up! Here are a few fun (and funny) bachelorette party invitation template ideas to get your creative juices flowing.\n\n### Make It Rhyme\nInvitations are the stomping grounds of a good rhyme—and always have been. When you send out invites to your bride tribe, stick to rhyming phrases like these—some classic (read: tried and true) and some fun and fresh—and you can’t go wrong:\n\n- Last fling before the ring\n- Kiss the miss goodbye\n- Nashbash (for nashville bachelorette parties or [Nashville wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/nashville-tn--wedding-venues))\n- Margaritas and señoritas\n- Before she says “i do” let’s have a drink or two\n- Let’s toast on the coast\n- A weekend of fun and sun\n- Buy her a shot, she’s tying the knot\n- Last night before mr. right\n- Champagne campaign\n\n### Play With Puns \nFrom the destination to the bride’s first, maiden, or new last name, you can use a variety of wedding-related elements to create clever puns that will liven up your bachelorette invite. Here are a few wording ideas:\n\n- Roped in forever (for a country bash)\n- Wine flies when you’re having fun\n- Let’s get wild\n- Where my beaches at? \n- Nacho average bachelorette party\n- Taco bout a party\n- Wife of the party\n- One last syrah\n- Wed, white, and boozed\n\n![Nail Down the Bachelorette Party Invite Wording](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6cuCsFydiL5SefUQcpHyaj/307bd919664354cc9ca16a4ea0dcde08/Inline_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Ginger-ray_VPI.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Ginger Ray\n\n### Tie in the Bachelorette Party Theme\nNow is the time to set the tone. Are you headed to Texas for a Western-themed fete or to a lake for fireside festivities? Then, incorporate country or campfire phrasing. Maybe you’re covering the place in palm fronds or modeling it after her favorite food—whatever the party theme is, nod to it in your invite to clue the girls in. Here’s some inspiration: \n\n- Final flamingle\n- Too hot to handle\n- The bride’s final fiesta\n- The bride’s last rodeo\n- Aloha beaches\n- She said “yes!” We said “(location)!”\n- One last olé before the big day\n- Bonfires and booze\n- Manis and mimosas\n- Glamping with the girls\n- Vegas before vows\n- Last sail before the veil\n\n### Get Everyone Excited\nWhen all else fails (or you don't have a party idea yet), pick a big, bold font and a catchy phrase that will get everyone excited for what’s to come. Here are a few foolproof options:\n\n- Bachelorette bash\n- Bachelorette bonanza\n- Ready to party? \n- Let’s party!\n- Put the party in bridal party\n- Girls just want to have fun\n- Girls weekend\n- Bachelorette getaway\n- She’s getting married\n\n![Nail Down the Bachelorette Party Invite Wording](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2kexDW0RCPRc0bsfEVhm9L/56ca59ca714b245afc753d5125b82bdd/Inline_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Wild-scout-photo-co.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Wild Scout Photo\n\n### Make It All About the Bride \nThis should go without saying, but you should mention the bride on the bachelorette party invitation. She’s the honoree, the kit and caboodle, the star of the show. Using a form or a template will make this process a lot easier! Here are a few examples—just fill in the bride’s name: \n\nFormally\n- In honor of bride-to-be —— \n- Honoring ——\n- Celebrating the bride-to-be ——\n- In celebration of ——\n\nInformally\n- ——’s last bash \n- Camp —— (works best with C names)\n- ——’s Nashelorette\n- A bachelorette party for ——\n\n### Don’t Forget the Details\nWhile the kitschy phrases are cute and all, you do actually have to relay some important information on the bachelorette party invitation. Don’t forget to include:\n\n- __When:__ The date (or dates) the celebration is taking place. You can include exact times in an email or on an itinerary at a future date. \n- __Where:__ Include both the city and state. You don’t need to include an address on the actual invite, but should follow up with it the day or week before the bachelorette party begins. You should also communicate any necessary travel or transportation details via text or email.\n- __Other Details:__ __Include information about the [dress code](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-bachelorette-party) (including any special costumes or themed outfits), the host’s contact information, and any other necessary details to ensure everyone’s ready to celebrate the coming wedding day!__\n- __RSVP Details:__ Give guests a method (and deadline!) for confirming attendance. \n\nIf you’re sending a party invitation by mail, you can also include a details card that provides more in-depth information.\n\n## 12 Bachelorette Invitation Ideas + Templates\nYour choice of bachelorette party invitation helps set the theme and get the bridal party hyped for the big day. Use these invitation ideas and templates to spice up your invites in the lead-up to the bride’s big send-off.\n\n### 1. Watercolor\nMake sure your bach party invites pop with a touch of whimsical watercolor! This [watercolor bachelorette invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1086049939/bridal-shower-boho-invitation-card) blends soft colors with a beautiful floral arrangement for an attractive and formal invitation that celebrates the bride’s pending nuptials. Customize the text to include relevant party details—and consider combining the purchase with similarly styled thank you notes to send out after the party.\n\n### 2. Pool Party Bachelorette\nPlanning some fun in the sun for the bride’s final hurrah? This __[pool party bachelorette invitation](https://www.shutterfly.com/cards-stationery/bachelorette-party-invitations/pool-party-bash-bachelorette-party-invitation)__ combines soft blue with colorful depictions of poolside staples to hype up any poolside party. Customize the card’s trim to add a bit of flair and style.\n\n### 3. Rose Gold Theme\nAdd a touch of elegance to your invitations with this __[sleek and enticing bach party invite](https://www.annsbridalbargains.com/shop/bach-bash-bachelorette-party-invitation/)__. Rose gold ink helps your wording pop on your choice of colored background and font, lending a touch of formality and sophistication to the bride’s last fling before the ring.\n\n### 4. Spa Day Invitations\nPlanning for a wedding is stressful—and not just for the bride-to-be. Help the bachelorette and her guests prepare for some manis and mimosas with this [spa day bachelorette party invitation](https://bellabug.com/product/lets-party-personalized-bachelorette-party-invitations/), printed on high-quality cardstock and with matching envelopes.\n\n### 5. Wild Night\nPlanning a wild girls’ night or lingerie shower to celebrate the bride’s final days as a bachelorette? This __[lingerie string invitation card](https://www.impressinprint.com/FILE-itemdetails_PID-23101.aspx)__ hints at a fun and playful theme to celebrate the bride’s bach bash, with the ability for you to customize the wording, font, and font color.\n\n### 6. Cocktail Party\nPrep your guests for a night of free-flowing drinks with this __[cocktail party invite](https://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/product/pink-and-black-cocktail-themed-bachelorette-party-invitations-ewbi013/)__. Choose from suggested wording samples or take the DIY route by writing your own, then opt to change the font or coloring for a card that’s uniquely fitting to your booze-filled bach party plans.\n\n### 7. Girls Night Out\nWhat better way to send off the bride than with a girls night out? This customizable __[girls nite out bachelorette party invitation](https://cordialpunchpress.com/shop-wedding-invitations/girls-nite-out-bachelorette-party-invitations)__ promises a night to remember—and is printed double-sided on shimmer stock for some added pop and pizzazz that mimics the glitter and glitz of a night on the town.\n\n### 8. Brunch\nCombine brunch and bubbly for a perfect send-off for the bride-to-be with this playful and celebratory __[brunch bachelorette party invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/770865399/bachelorette-weekend-party-invitation)__. Customize the template by tweaking the background color, font style, and font color for an invite that’s as unique as the bride (and the brunch dishes!).\n\n### 9. Destination Bachelorette\nGet the guests ready to jet off for a weekend with this celebratory __[destination bachelorette invite](https://mimoprints.com/product/destination-beach-wedding-bachelorette-party-invitation_256912211602943907)__. Choose from six card shapes—including the shape of a luggage tag—and 12 paper types for a personalized twist that invites guests for a chance to get away and celebrate what’s sure to be a trip to remember!\n\n### 10. Wine Tasting Bachelorette\nInvite guests for a delicious and relaxing wine tasting bachelorette party with this elegant and formal __[wine tasting bachelorette weekend invite](https://www.etsy.com/listing/700686249/wine-tasting-bachelorette-weekend)__. Customize and edit the wording to make this invite (and the included itinerary) uniquely yours, then print the cards at home for a DIY solution—or find a local print shop to print on the card stock of your choosing.\n\n### 11. Combined Bachelor/Bachelorette Party\nA combined bachelor/bachelorette party means sending invitations that appeal to a much more diverse guest list. Fortunately, this __[joint bach party invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1448501075/bachelor-or-bachelorette-party)__ is perfect for a mixed guest list, with the opportunity for you to edit the font and text—or even add an image of your own!\n\n### 12. Surprise Bachelorette\nTrying to throw a bachelorette party under the radar? This classy and fun [surprise bachelorette invitation](https://www.zazzle.com/surprise_bachelorette_girls_party_invitation-256704821246360369) comes in six playful shapes and 12 different paper types, hinting at an elegant soirée that’s sure to send the bachelorette off right.\n\n## Other Bachelorette Party Paper Goods\nOnce you have settled on a bachelorette invitation and the proper wording to go with it, you can carry the theme throughout the rest of the party. Stick to similar phrasing, design, color schemes, and motifs to keep the rest of the paper goods consistent and get the point across. Here are a few fun additions to include with your order:\n\n### An Itinerary\nOutline the weekend’s festivities with an itinerary set to the tune of your invite. Use similar, or even the same, wording at the top and add a timeline of events, so that everyone knows where to be and when. \n\n### Custom Games\nCustom games are another great way to incorporate your chosen wording and theme. Think paper games like “Who Knows the Bride Best,” or a bride-themed Scattergories. There are a number of __[fun bachelorette party games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-games)__ that can be created and printed ahead of time and mimic the style and wording of your invites. \n\n### T-Shirts\nOk, so these may not be paper goods per se, but they do feature fun and creative wording that should be in step with your invite. Go with the same phrase, or just stick to the theme. If you went with the wording “Champagne Campaign” on your invite, you can pick out T-shirts that also say “Champagne Campaign.” Or, if you chose “Last Sail Before the Veil,” go with wording along the same nautical lines like “I Do Crew.”\n\nAll the thought you put into the bachelorette party invite wording—and the complementary goods—is well worth the effort. There’s no doubt it sets the tone for a fun weekend ahead.\n\n### Stickers\nWhat better way to stick to your party theme than stickers? Print out or order some fun and quirky stickers to include on your invitations and throughout the venue. And if you’re the artistic and DIY type? Add your own flair to the stickers’ designs to really let your creativity shine through in the last days before your wedding.\n\nAll the thought you put into the bachelorette party invite wording—and the complementary goods—is well worth the effort. There’s no doubt it sets the tone for a fun weekend ahead. ","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:42.085Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"lgbt-wedding-invitations-101","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101","excerpt":"From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-07-12T16:47:02.617Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23DI7PxNMPASe1xfEZjUjx/f7b1b8bc53e8f7d264283790004e0524/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- LGBT+ couples may need to adjust invitation wording in order to accurately reflect their love. Doing so only takes some minor adjustments.\n- Gender-neutral language can be utilized for non-binary couples, as well as they/them pronouns, Mx., and other inclusive titles. \n- Every wedding invitation should include: the names of the couple, the date and time of the wedding, and the location of the ceremony and reception venues.","body":"When it comes to writing your wedding invitations, figuring out what to say can be tricky. This problem may be elevated for LGBTQ+ couples, particularly due to gendered language, heteronormative [traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones), and outdated wedding etiquette.\n\nHere at Zola, it’s our mission to make [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-queer-wedding-shower) easy for every couple. That’s why we’ve created this guide to help LGBT+ couples create the perfect invitations for their special day.\n\n- LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitation Wording\n- Non-Binary Wording and Gender Neutral Language\n- Wedding Invitation Information\n- LGBTQ+ Invitation Ideas\n\n## LGBT+ Wedding Invitation Wording \n\nWording is the first crucial step when crafting your wedding invitations. While there are no real rules for this, most couples prefer to take a formal approach with their invitation wording. This will lend to the overall tone of the event and prepare guests for your celebration.\n\nWith this in mind, it’s also important to recognize some of the outdated practices used in wedding invitation wording, especially those that are heteronormative and non-inclusive.\n\nLet’s take a look at some simple adjustments that couples can make for more LGBTQ+-friendly wedding invitations.\n\n### The Host(s)\nAlthough guests don’t need to know who is paying for the wedding, including this on your invitations is often done as a sign of respect. Some couples choose to pay for their weddings themselves, while others may have one set of parents paying. In some instances, couples will actually split the bill with their parents or accept some form of contribution toward the grand total. These differences can affect the wording of your invitation.\n\nOf course, couples are also welcome to skip this invitation wording etiquette altogether. Fortunately, adding your own message is easy when you use one of [Zola’s customizable wedding invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). \n\n### Name Order\nAnother heteronormative wedding invitation tradition is listing the bride’s name first. For many LGBT+ couples, this guideline is one that’s best forgotten, and that’s totally fine.\n\nThere are plenty of other ways to determine whose name goes first on wedding invitations. For example, if one person’s parents are footing the bill, their name can be listed first. For couples financing their own wedding, the order of the names is entirely up to you. You can go in alphabetical order, or read the names aloud and choose the order that sounds best.\n\nIn any case, don’t stress. At the end of the day, a wedding is about the love that the couple has for one another—not the minor details. \n\n## Non-Binary Wording and Gender-Neutral Language \n\nFor couples that include one or more non-binary individuals, the gendered language of wedding invitations might need to be modified. The most common way to use gender-neutral language is by incorporating they/them pronouns into your message. Many wedding invitations already do this, anyway.\n\nAnother element to consider are titles. With formal invitations, prefixes are often put before a person’s first or last name. Gendered prefixes typically include Mr., Ms., and Mrs., but many non-binary individuals aren’t comfortable with the use of these terms.\n\nRather than forgoing prefixes all together, there are various gender-neutral options to choose from. Some of the most common titles non-binary people prefer to use include:\n\n- __Mx.__ – Gender-neutral alternative to Mr. and Mrs., typically pronounced em-ex.\n\n- __Ind.__ – Short for individual.\n\n- __Pr.__ – Short for person.\n\n- __Misc.__ – Short for miscellus, the latin word for “mixed”. Pronounced like misk.\n\nOther gender-neutral terms that may be used in the context of a wedding include marrier and celebrant, in place of bride or groom.\n\n## Same-Sex Wedding Invitation Wording Samples\nSame sex wedding invitations may, too, see some minor changes in wording. Luckily, this is easy to navigate. Below we’ve gathered some examples of same-sex and non-binary invitation wording:\n\n- “*Taylor and Ash invite you to share in a celebration of their love*.”\n\n- “*Anne, child of Ted and Marie, and Alex, child of Jen and Nick, request the honor of your presence on their wedding day*.”\n\n- “*Dillon would like to formally invite you to share in a celebration of love with their partner, Rami*.”\n\n- “*Mr. Jonathan Rhodes and Mr. Alex Garcia request the pleasure of your company at their wedding ceremony*.”\n\n- “*Because you’ve shared in our lives and love, we, Alison and Jane, invite you to share in the beginning of our new life together*.”\n\n- “*We, Nathan and James, invite you to witness our love as we exchange vows*.”\n\n## Wedding Invitation Information \n\nNo matter what wording you choose, all wedding invitations need to have certain pieces of information. Including:\n\n- __Names –__ The couple’s names should be included, typically in large font. Both first and last names are almost always included, but middle names and titles are optional. Hosts’ names may also be included. \n\n- __Date and time –__ This should be the second most prominent line on the invitations and is typically placed below the names. After the date, you’ll need to specify the time at which the ceremony starts.\n\n- __Reception information –__ Simpler weddings will have a note at the bottom that says reception follows. However, including a separate card is a good idea if you’re planning on using a different venue, or if this portion of the wedding takes place at a later time. Include names, dates, and locations on this card, too.\n\n- __Dress code –__ Most couples include a line regarding dress code towards the bottom of the invitation. This helps guests fully prepare for the tone of the event.\n\n- __RSVP card –__ Include a separate RSVP card for guests to fill out and mail back. Or, streamline everything through your wedding website. Zola offers free [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that link to our guest list services, which [track RSVPs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), meal orders, and more, all in one place.\n\n## At Zola, We Love Love\nCouples should be proud of their love, and the right [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can help empower their message to all of their friends and family. While many aspects of the wedding planning process are heteronormative, there are [creative ways to change the messaging](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony) to match your unique love. \n\nWith you invitation wording sorted, your sights are probably now set on vendors. For help in finding your ideal LGBTQ+ wedding vendors, click [here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist).","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Tips for helping you get organized for your big day, keeping your needs as an LGBTQ+ couple in focus.","title":"The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQ+ Wedding Planning","slug":"a-lgbtq-guide-for-wedding-planning","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4v8zyiicWdRBRCPv2uZiX5/e8fc4329a9e795c123bef7643c023a70/Hero_SummerWeddingatMidtownLoftandTerrace_KathiLittwinPhotography.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Guide for Wedding Ceremonies and Receptions"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"One of the best parts of modern marriages is being able to pick and choose what wedding traditions you want to keep, change, or forgo. Here’s everything LGBTQ+ couples need to know about selecting traditions when wedding planning.","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Traditions—How to Reinvent Old Ones","slug":"lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3iU4vcwcP6woL1lClZxxf0/196a5123ab7f2c418a94cf1fccf893a2/Hero_ElegantFallWeddingatEarlyMountainVineyards_MollyHaganPhotography.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Traditions & How to Reinvent Old Ones"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":" The vendors you choose can make or break your dream wedding. Want to know what to include on your wedding vendor checklist? 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Here's a list of gender-neutral options to consider for your wedding.","title":"10 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony","slug":"8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4DALunVOjM0m4xpK5uXRsT/8ae8818813cadd215fda10fe76bdd250/Hero_Zola__27_.jpg","altText":"Gender-Neutral Readings for Your Wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"If you’re a guest at an upcoming LGBTQ+ wedding, there are a few things you can do ahead of time to help educate yourself.","title":"A Wedding Guest Guide for LGBTQ+ Couples","slug":"a-wedding-guest-guide-for-lgbtqia-couples","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/77V0rmFeO8pcVhmlaaWNux/c61480f723bfe16986a1a7dcf5521a2c/Hero_Zola__26_.jpg","altText":"A Wedding Guest Guide for LGBTQ+ Couples"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":" Trying to plan a queer wedding shower? We can help. Read on for all of our top tips and advice.","title":"How to Plan a Queer Wedding Shower","slug":"how-to-plan-a-queer-wedding-shower","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KhJIf08NcDJ8JlWUvNzFg/57602b4c5c1fc51687a8d659a695053f/Hero_SummerElopementatKingsCountyCourthouse_DAGIMAGES.jpg","altText":"How to Plan a Queer Wedding Shower"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:41.315Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"bridal-shower-invitation-wording","title":"How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations","excerpt":"Not sure how to word your bridal shower invitations? Follow our guide for what to include, template ideas, wording examples, and more. ","author":"Jane Chertoff","publishedAt":"2019-09-17T16:02:35.997Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CQScX6pAG7bqZAlCqwS5D/27fa5822e275efc6e1f277b29c5e927c/howToWord_BridalShower-28-28-28.jpg","altText":"Zola bridal shower invitation wording"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Your bridal shower invitations should include: all the critical information about the shower, its tone and formality, and an indication of how guests should RSVP.\n- The shower invitation is the perfect chance to let your guests know how to find and shop your wedding registry.\n- Aim to keep your bridal shower invitation message simple. Don’t be afraid to use templates or examples for inspiration. \n","body":"The bridal shower kicks off the wedding festivities and gives friends and family the chance to “shower” the bride-to-be with love. (And lovely gifts!) So whether you are throwing the bride a formal brunch or having a fun themed party, the invitation needs to convey the right message. \n\nNot sure how to word your bridal shower invites, or feeling confused about what they need to include? Follow the comprehensive guide below to understand the ins and outs of bridal shower invitation etiquette. \n\n## Bridal Shower Invite Wording Goals\nNo matter what type of shower you are throwing, the wording of your bridal or wedding shower invitation should accomplish the following goals:\n- __Tell the critical information.__ The bride and groom’s names, the date, time, and location of the event. If there’s a dress code, it’s best to let your guests know ahead of time.\n- __Set the tone for the shower.__ The invitation should convey if it’s a formal affair, casual gathering, or theme party.\n- __Include a link to an online registry.__ Or if it’s a theme shower, what type of gift the bride is wishing for. \n- __The host’s or hosts’ names.__ \n- __Include RSVP information (email or phone number).__ Plus, the date guests should RSVP to the shower by. For a virtual bridal shower, make sure to include the meeting links, or if it’s a surprise bridal shower, include the logistics of how the event will run.\n\n## Basic Template for Bridal Shower Invitation Wording\n \nIf you are writing out your own shower invitations, be sure to include all the information below. Once you’ve included all the basics, you can customize it to feel more authentic and use language tailored to the bride-to-be. \n\n### The Bride’s Name \nThe bride’s name should be front and center. Her name may appear high, low, or center, depending on the design—but it should be clearly legible. You can write out the bride’s first name only, or first and last name. (If it’s a formal affair, you may want to write Ms. Zoe Kavits, for example.) But that’s optional. As for the groom, only include his name if it’s a co-ed wedding shower. \n\n### Essential Information\nThis is the section where you’ll include all the logistical information the guests need to know. Include the date of the shower, the venue name, venue address, and the start time. To make it very clear, write out the day of the week, followed by the date, also written out. (For example, Saturday, September 10, 2019, from 12:00 p.m. to 3: 00 p.m.)\n\n### RSVP Section\nThe RSVP section is crucial for the host to get a proper headcount before the big day. Include the date guests should RSVP by and how exactly to RSVP. You can include a phone number, but email may be easier to track. Ask guests to text you for a more informal RSVP. \n\nAlternatively, if you have a good idea of how many guests to expect, you can write “regrets only” to your phone number or email address instead. \n\n### Registry Information \n \nLet guests know where they can purchase a gift off the registry. You can write out a link to her Zola [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n\n### Theme Information \nIf your bridal shower party has a theme to it, pick a shower invitation that represents the theme (baking supplies for a cooking shower, or maracas for a fiesta, for example). Then make guests aware of any special requests (“Please include a recipe to give to the bride to be.”) \n\n### Host’s name \nWho is hosting the shower? If there are multiple hosts, you can write out their first and last names, or first names only, depending on how much space you have.","body2":"## What to Write On Your Bridal Shower Invites\n \nNow that you know the basic components of what to include, you can get started writing out your bridal shower invite. Below are some examples of what a simple, formal, fun, themed, or co-ed couple’s shower invitation wording might look like.\n\n### Keeping It Simple \n*Please join us for a pre-wedding party in honor \nof Meghan Markle* \n\n*The Mark Hotel \n25 E. 77th Street, New York, NY \nMonday, February 18, 2019\n12:30 p.m. to 3:30 p.m.* \n\n*Hosted by Serena Williams and Amal Clooney\nRSVP to serenatennis@gmail.com by February 1 \nMeghan is registered at Harrods* \n\n### Formal Bridal Shower\n*Please join us for a bridal shower in honor of Ms. Ellie Goulding* \n\n*Saturday, July 1 \nat 1 o’clock \nCastle Howard\nYork* \n\n*Hosted by the bridesmaids* \n\n*Regrets only \n+44.666.8888*\n\n*Ellie is registered at Crate and Barrel and Bloomingdales*\n\n### Informal/Fun Bridal Shower\n*Brunch and bubbly!\nJoin us for a bridal shower celebrating \nZoe Kravits* \n\nor \n\n*Here comes the bride!\nJoin us for a shower celebrating \nKatie* \n\n*Saturday, September 10 at 11 a.m. \nGjelina Restaurant | Back patio* \n\n*Text 310.880.9974 to RSVP* \n\n*zola.com/wedding/katieandtom2006/registry* \n\n### Theme Bridal Shower \n*Stock the kitchen! \nJoin us for a recipe & kitchen shower \nhonoring Giada De Laurentis*\n\n*Saturday, September 16, 2020 \n12 p.m. to 3 p.m. \nThe Drummond Ranch \n95 Farm Drive, Pawhuska, Oklahoma* \n\n*Hosted by Ree Drummond \nRSVP to ree@drummondranch.com by September 1* \n\n*Please bring your favorite recipe for Giada on the enclosed recipe card*\n\n### Co-ed Shower \n*Please join us for a couple’s shower\nhonoring \nMeghan and Harry*\n\nor \n\n*Please join us for a wedding shower \ncelebrating the lovely couple \nHarry and Meghan* \n\n*Monday, February 18, 2018 \nat 6 o’clock in the evening* \n\n*The Mark Hotel \n25 E. 77th Street, New York, NY* \n\n*Hosted by Kate and William \nRSVP to Kate by February 1 \nText 949.657.8888 or email kate@palace.com* \n\n*Meghan and Harry are registered on Zola \nzola.com/wedding/meghandharry2018/registry*\n\n*Browse [Zola’s Invites + Paper Designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) for more ideas* ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Explore pricing factors to consider including paper types, printing methods, and more.","title":"How Much Do Wedding Invitations Cost on Average?","slug":"how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24ocOZwSAGm8YyD2CXIiay/e62e447c02805410c36490fb121568a4/How-Much-Do-Wedding-Invitations-Cost.jpg","altText":"average cost of wedding invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","title":"How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples ","slug":"how-to-address-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"Create a beautiful, shareable free wedding website that will keep all your information in one place and make you and your SO's life easier.","title":"How to Build a Wedding Website: Guide + Tips","slug":"make-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ivfWCLfICZzRAlSL2XROu/d275878391dec1bf789fae38c8c5d62b/7-Reasons-to-Make-a-Wedding-Website.jpg","altText":"free wedding websites on zola.com"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Learn the how-to's of wedding invitation wording, plus formal and casual wedding invitation examples from the experts.","title":"Wedding Invitation Wording: A Complete How-To Guide","slug":"how-to-word-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rENN5B7RPAn14pYP75HgH/d457816cdf42b12cc74b3e7d88b73513/Wedding_Invitaion_Wording_Etiquette.jpg","altText":"green and white wedding invitation on green background"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering how to share your wedding website with guests? Explore etiquette tips for how to share your wedding website on an invitation.","title":"How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation","slug":"how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26CncJFSKWLqU3QCUNbXDz/adef7cbc39110ffd3962b155c77cb77a/HERO_Zola_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding website on invitation etiquette"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"If you’re planning an engagement party, your guests need to know the details of the celebration. 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But while it may seem simple, the truth is, there’s far more to wedding invitations than dropping cards off at the post office. \n\nIn fact, there are a slew of etiquette rules that need to be considered when sending invitations to your guests. From when they should be sent out to how best to deliver certain information, it can all get a bit complicated. To avoid any confusion or unintentional offenses, let’s take a look at the wedding invitation etiquette mistakes you’ll definitely want to avoid as you plan your wedding and get ready to start your life as a married couple:\n\n## 1. Putting an Incorrect Start Time\nYou need your guests to show up to your wedding ceremony on time. But they can only do that if you put the correct time on your wedding invitation.\n\nMake sure that you put your ceremony’s exactly start time (for example, 4 o’clock) on your invitation. Specify whether that time is AM or PM. \n\nIf your reception immediately follows your reception, it’s fine to just include the verbiage “reception to follow.” If there’s a gap between your ceremony and reception (for example, if your wedding ceremony is in the morning and your wedding reception doesn’t start until 5pm), you’ll want to include both times on your invite.\n\n## 2. Not Including All the Necessary Information\nAnother major wedding invitation etiquette mistake? Not including all of the necessary information on your invitation.\n\nWhat counts as “necessary information” will depend on your wedding. All wedding invitations should include the bride’s name and/or groom’s name (both partners’ names should be on the invite!); the date, time, and location of the wedding; RSVP information, including an RSVP date and RSVP date cards; and invitation envelopes with a return address for people to RSVP. (If you’re doing an online RSVP through your wedding website, these envelopes are unnecessary.)\n\nFor a more traditional wedding or formal wedding, there may be additional wedding invitation information you want to include (for example, the couple’s middle names or a host line—like “the bride’s parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter” or, if both sets of parents are hosting, “the parents request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children.”) For certain wedding guests, you may want to include an insert with additional information (for example, rehearsal dinner details for the wedding party and close family members). \n\nThe point is, there is information you need to include on your wedding invitation—and leaving that information off would be a mistake.\n\n## 3. Not Sending an Invite to Someone You Know Can't Come\nIf you have someone in your life that you know for a fact can’t attend your wedding, you might think that you don’t need to send them an invitation.\n\nBut you would be wrong.\n\nIf someone doesn’t receive an invitation to your wedding, chances are, they’re going to assume you didn’t want to invite them—even if the reason you didn’t send the invitation is that you know they couldn’t attend.\n\nTo be safe, send an invitation to every single person on your wedding guest list—even if they’ve already said they can’t come. The extra invites might marginally increase the cost of your wedding invitation suite—but that small cost is more than worth it when you consider it will help you protect your relationships and avoid any potentially hurt feelings.\n\n## 4. Not Having Someone Else Proofread the Invitation\nA major wedding invitation etiquette no-no? Sending invites with mistakes—whether that’s spelling mistakes, grammar mistakes, invitation design mistakes, or informational mistakes.\n\nLuckily, there is a quick and easy way to avoid sending out mistake-riddled invitations—and that’s having someone proofread your invites before you print and send them.\n\nAsk someone that you know has impeccable attention to detail to give your invitations a once over before you print. That way, they can clue you in to any mistakes on the invitation—and you can correct those mistakes before you send the invitations to your guests.\n\n## 5. Sending Them Too Late\nOne of the biggest wedding invitation mistakes is not letting your wedding guests know with enough advance as to when your big day will be. As a courtesy to your guests (and whoever’s a part of making your wedding happen), invitations should be sent out six to eight weeks beforehand, at the latest. This will give your guests enough time to double check their calendars and set up accommodations, if need be. If you’re having a destination wedding, send invitations out further in advance—we suggest twelve weeks. Also, if you have guests coming in from far and wide, consider sending them out earlier than the standard six to eight weeks prior. You can never give guests too much notice.\n\n## 6. Not Including RSVP Instructions\nEach of your invitation suites should include either an RSVP insert or RVSP information directly on the invitation. Included in this information is your RSVP deadline. Setting a realistic deadline is paramount when it comes to finalizing your wedding day details. Depending on the size and style of your wedding, the day you absolutely need a final headcount will vary. That being said, you’ll want to make it at least three to four weeks before your wedding date. Doing so gives you and your vendors (caterers, florists, and the like) enough leeway to get an accurate count and prepare any last-minute details accordingly.\n\nAlong with your deadline, let guests know how to RSVP. Include a pre-addressed and stamped envelope in your invitation suite so that they can mail back a reply, or direct them to a phone number, email address, or wedding website (if online RSVPing is an option) where they can respond.\n\n## 7. Not Reminding Guests About the RSVP Deadline\n\n![Wedding Invitation Etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3yfTw20LMderu4uyh9rWYF/5cd42106a018991512444f8b4041c16c/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nIf your deadline is approaching (or has passed) and you haven’t heard back from a few people, it’s completely appropriate to __[remind them](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-politely-remind-guests-to-rsvp)__. Before panicking, remember that everyone gets busy—and it’s nothing personal. Sometimes people just need a gentle reminder—and it’s perfect in line with wedding RSVP etiquette for you to send that reminder. Depending on how much time you have until your wedding, wait one to two weeks after your deadline to start nudging guests. At that point, you can go line by line down your guest list and start personally seeking out responses.\n\nHow you go about this depends on your relationship with each person. If someone’s a close friend or family member that you see often, simply ask them in person. For more distant relatives or friends that you don’t see as much, inquiring through a quick phone call, text, or email should do the trick. As for parents’ friends, or those with a similar connection, ask mom or dad (or whomever your mutual connection is) to reach out, as necessary.\n\nSocial media is even an option. For example, if you see someone who hasn’t responded yet posting on their Instagram stories, shoot them a DM. Just be sure to avoid any public pages or group messages that could reach friends (or followers) that weren’t invited.\n\n## 8. Not Being Clear About Plus-Ones\n\n![Wedding Invitation Etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7oQTar8ISzoNVRaIjeAZ9K/be2dd24d60ac9a2fdca7b927e54ddc50/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nAvoid awkward calls and emails asking about plus-ones by making it clear on your formal invitation as to whether or not someone gets the option of a guest. Do this by addressing invitations to exactly who’s invited. For example, if a sibling’s significant other is invited and you know his or her name (or you can ask for it), write it out alongside your sibling’s name. If you’re allowing certain guests a plus-one of their choosing, address the invitation to his or her name “and Guest.”\n\nAnother way that you can make plus-ones clear is by including, “___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor” on your RSVP card. Write one if no plus-one is given, two if one plus-one is given, and so on. If you’re worried about people getting confused about the [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) or bringing someone without asking, make it crystal clear. Have, “We can only accommodate the individual(s) named on the envelope. No plus-ones, unless clearly designated,” or similar printed on your RSVP card or an informational insert. Be as specific as possible when it comes to the invitation wording.\n\nTo recap:\n\n- “*John Doe and Jim Dear*,” is appropriate if you’re inviting someone and a specific plus-one (ie. a significant other).\n- “*John Doe and Guest,*” is appropriate if you’re giving someone a plus-one.\n- “*Two seats have been reserved in your honor,*`” is appropriate on a RSVP insert if you’re giving someone a plus-one.\n\n## 9. Not Properly Addressing Invitations for a Kid-Free Wedding and Reception\n- wedding invitation wording\n\n- inner envelope\n\n- outer envelope\n\nIf you’re planning a kid-free wedding, you need to be super clear with your guests. Leaving anything ambiguous is a major invitation mistake—and could lead to guests bringing their little ones to your wedding.\n\nIf you’re having a kid-free wedding reception, [how you address your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) and [the wording you use is super important](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording). Be sure to properly and carefully address invitations. Avoid addressing envelopes to “The Doe Family” and, instead, address the parent or parents’ full names on both the inner envelope and outer envelope. You can also make this clear by writing or printing the exact names of the invited guests on the response card. What we discourage you from doing is putting “Adults Only” or “No Children” on your invitations. You shouldn’t feel guilty for planning a kid-free affair, but it isn’t tactful to state that outright. Instead, if you feel compelled to, clearly express this detail on your wedding website.\n\nAs a thoughtful gesture, consider hiring a babysitter where your guests are staying for the duration of your wedding.\n\n## 10. Not Being Clear About the Dress Code\n\nEveryone’s personal style is different, so it’s important that you’re clear about the level of formality you want at your wedding. There are two ways you can spread the word—on an insert within your invitation suite, or on your wedding website (if not both). Simply dedicate a space to detailing how you’d prefer your guests to dress. Remember to take the projected weather and your venue’s terrain into account.\n\nHere’s a list of dress categories, from formal to least formal:\n\n- White tie\n- Black tie\n- Formal\n- Semi-formal\n- Cocktail attire\n- Destination (think beach or garden)\n- Casual\n\n## 11. Including Your Registry Information\n\nIncluding your wedding registry on your formal invitation is a bit of a faux pas; however, [including your wedding website URL](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) is more widely accepted. This is because your website isn’t just a go-to for gifts, but rather a hub for everything that your guests should know leading up to your wedding. It can also link to your registry, so don’t worry—it’s a roundabout way of getting it out there. Just have an easy to locate registry tab or link on your website.\n\nAs for your website URL, there are a few places where you can share it. The most popular option is [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), but you can also place it on a details card, wedding website card, or RSVP card. Only opt for the latter if you’re making online RSVPing an option. A general rule of thumb: Before including your website link in your invitation suite, ask if it’s serving more of a purpose than broadcasting where guests can purchase gifts.\n\nIf you’re asking for cash, like your registry, don’t include this information directly on your wedding stationery. Instead, create one or several __[cash funds](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/register-cash-in-tasteful-way)__ within your Zola registry. Since your registry is linked to your wedding website, guests will easily be able to locate them there. As a courtesy, be clear as to how you plan on spending the gifted money. For example, have cash funds dedicated to something broad, such as your honeymoon, or more specific, such as a certain excursion or activity. Guests will feel more comfortable (and excited) knowing what they’re contributing to.\n\nDon’t be hesitant to use word of mouth, either. Tell your friends and family (either in person or over the phone) that you’re registering for cash funds and offer details about what it’ll go towards. Your guests want to gift you what you want—especially if they hear it straight from the source.\n\nNow that you know all things invitation etiquette, it’s time to get to work on your invitations. Don’t worry, we have all of your __[do’s and don’ts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording)__ already laid out.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:38.781Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost","title":"How Much Do Wedding Invitations Cost on Average?","excerpt":"Find average wedding invitation costs with our pricing breakdown guide. Explore pricing factors to consider including paper types, printing methods, and more.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-28T21:58:58.657Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24ocOZwSAGm8YyD2CXIiay/e62e447c02805410c36490fb121568a4/How-Much-Do-Wedding-Invitations-Cost.jpg","altText":"average cost of wedding invitations"},"heroCredit":"Zola.com","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nYou’ve [set a date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month), [chosen a venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue), and [set up your wedding website]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). Now it’s time to consider more formal methods for announcing your wedding’s date and location to your intended guests—enter [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)! From custom-designed letterpress cards to simple DIY postcards, wedding invitations run the gamut when it comes to style, formality, and price. Since now’s the time in your planning when setting your wedding budget is critical, you’re probably wondering how much you should plan to spend on your wedding invitations. Read on to have all your questions answered about wedding invitations costs and how to find beautiful, affordable invitations that match your style. \n\n## What is the Average Cost of Wedding Invitations? \n\nOn average, a couple spends between $300 and $700 for 100 wedding invitations and response cards, according to the [Wedding Report](https://www.theweddingreport.com/). Trying to pinpoint the average cost of wedding invitations is like trying to determine how much it costs to go out to dinner: there are tons of factors that can influence the price. From where you’re buying your invitations, to the materials and designs you’ve chosen, to how many invitations you need to order, many small decisions can add up to a big difference in total costs. The amount that one couple spends on their invitation suite can double or even triple when compared to another couple’s spending.\n\nCurious to know how that wide range of pricing breaks down across different invitation shopping options? Check out these approximate starting-point costs for a set of 100 invitations, envelopes, and response cards at the following types of sellers: \n\n#### Graphic Design Studio: $1,000+\n For totally custom wedding invitations created by a design studio, expect to pay a premium price tag. Invitations designed just for you might include a custom logo, monogram, illustration, hand- calligraphy, or other graphic element, and will generally come with a design consultation followed by a series of proofs for you to approve (so you’re guaranteed to get exactly what you want). \n\n#### Stationery Shop: $700+\n Slightly less pricey but still a considerable expense, working with a local stationery shop to design your invitations can allow you to see a number of different invitation suites from various designers all under one roof. As with all invitation purchases, the greater the embellishments and the more enclosures you add to your order, the higher the total cost will be. \n\n#### Online Shop: $350+\n There are many incredible [online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) options these days for high-end wedding invitation designs at affordable prices. Buying a full invitation suite online has become popular with couples due to the range of choices and degree of customization they can find while still sticking to their budgets—not to mention the convenience of being able to order your invites from your couch. \n\n#### DIY/Print At Home: $150+\n For artistic types or those on very tight budgets, designing your own wedding invitations is possible (with the help of an easy template, a few proofreading helpers, a good printer and an even better paper cutter). Just be sure you have the time, patience, and skills to tackle DIY invitations before you commit to such a large project such a large project or consider outsourcing the printing and cutting tasks to a local print shop.\n\n## Factors in Wedding Invitations Costs \n\nIf you’re trying to stick to your wedding invitation budget (or even set one in the first place), you should understand which factors will affect your overall invitation costs. While the average cost of wedding invitations is between $300 and $700, consider these things that affect the bottom line when making your invitation selections. \n\n### 1. Invitation Quantity\n\nWhile perhaps obvious, it bears stating outright that the larger your guest count, the more invitations you’ll need to send—and since invitations are priced per card, your costs will increase with the quantity you order. All the more reason for trimming down that guest list if you’re looking to cut costs! \n\n### 2. Degree of Customization\n\nAs you learned above, the more custom your invitations are, the more money you’ll pay for them. Bespoke custom wedding invitations that are designed just for your wedding, while completely lovely and one-of-a-kind, will cost you considerably more due to the degree of time, labor, and consultation they require (before you even add in upgraded printing and materials).\n\n### 3. Printing Method\n\nWhile some wedding invitation printing methods are pretty basic (such as downloading an image and hitting the “print” button), some are centuries-old art forms that require special training, machinery, and expensive materials. The more time- and labor-intensive the printing method, the more your invitations will cost. \n\n### 4. Decorative Elements\n\nFoil printing, an embossed monogram, rounded corners, recycled paper…there are tons of decorative elements you can use to personalize your invitations. Since these pieces of paper really set the tone for your wedding’s style, many couples want them to make a distinctive statement. But like most things, the more bells and whistles you add to your elegant wedding invitation design, the higher the price will climb. \n\n### 5. Shipping Costs\n\nMany couples forget to factor in the cost of actually mailing their wedding invitations. Postage per envelope is determined by its weight, so the heavier your invitation suite, the more you’ll have to spend on stamps. The current postage rate for a first-class letter weighing one ounce or under is $.55, meaning you’ll need to budget at least $55 for 100 envelopes. If your invitations are an unusual size (larger than 5x7 or square, for example) or heavier than one ounce, expect to pay more. \n\n### 6. Envelopes\n\nWhile many companies will include envelopes with your wedding invitation order, if you are DIYing your invites or gathering components from different sources, you might have to factor in the cost of buying envelopes. You’ll need envelopes large enough to hold your invitation plus any other inserts, including the [response card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps) and its (stamped) envelope. Envelopes can also be a site for extra decoration—envelope liners, a collection of beautiful stamps, wax seals, or calligraphed addresses can all add pizzazz to your envelope, as well as extra dollars to your total bill. \n\n### 7. Calligraphy\n\nOn the topic of envelopes, be sure to think about how you want to address your wedding invitations. If you love the look of beautiful, hand-lettered calligraphy and want to make sure your guests’ envelopes arrive with their names artfully presented, then be sure to earmark money in your budget for this extra cost, which can run anywhere from $2 to $5 per envelope.\n\n## Wedding Invitation Printing Methods\n\nWe’ve ordered these printing methods from least to most expensive, so you can both understand and immediately recognize which terms you want to shop for when choosing your invitations. \n\n### Digital Printing\n\nThe most basic and inexpensive printing method, a digital file is printed from a printer. Digital printing is the most practical choice if your invitation design contains a lot of colors, since other methods require manually mixing inks. \n\n### Offset Printing\n\nOffset (a.k.a. “flat”) printing results in a similar look to digital printing, but the process is more intensive. First the inks are mixed, and then the design is transferred from a metal plate to a rubber surface and run through a press. Since the paper doesn’t have direct contact with the metal plate, there are no impressions on the front or back of the paper (hence “flat” printing). Offset printing allows you to incorporate lots of colors that can be precisely adjusted.\n\n### Thermography\n\nSimilar in pricing to offset printing, thermography uses a special powder that, when treated with heat, fuses with wet ink to create textured, glossy lettering and images. The raised impression on the card looks like engraving (at a fraction of the cost), but the back of the card is not dented. \n\n### Letterpress\n\nThis technique literally “presses” an image onto paper using a raised, inked surface that leaves a reverse impression. Since your invitation lettering and graphics have to be arranged by hand in the mirror-image of the finished product, this technique is recognized as a more artistic (and hence pricier) kind of printing. \n\n### Embossing \n\nEmbossing is similar to letterpress in that the design is imprinted into the paper. Here, impressions are formed by pressing paper between etched metal plates (called “dies”) or molds, which creates a design that’s raised against the background. This printing technique is often done without ink to create textured accents, but colored ink or foils can also be used. \n\n### Engraving\n\nEngraved invitations are the most expensive type of paper printing, this multi-step process involves first reverse-etching your invitation wording onto a metal engraving plate, then pressing the plate into the back of the your paper so that the message becomes raised on the front. Ink is then applied to the raised lettering. You can tell an invitation has been engraved because the back of the card will look dented (or “bruised”) where the plate was pressed.\n\n## Wedding Invitation Paper Types\n\n### Cotton Fiber\n\nThe most common and traditional type of paper for wedding invitations, often made from 100% cotton. The softness of cotton paper makes it excellent for letterpress, embossing, or engraving. Cotton paper is more expensive than most other types of paper, however. \n\n### Linen\n\nLess expensive than cotton paper, linen paper still provides a very attractive finish and is available in heavyweight stocks. It’s slightly textured to mimic the surface of linen fabric, with finely textured lines that run horizontally and vertically across the page.\n\n### Felt Cardstock \n\nThis is a thicker style of paper that costs a bit more than standard paper due to its weight and its plush, velvety soft texture. \n\n### Handmade Paper\nThese specialty papers are made from plant fibers like hemp or cotton, and have a rough, textured finish. They have an “imperfectly perfect” look to them, and an environmentally-friendly choice. \n\n### Recycled Paper\nSimilar to handmade paper, recycled paper is made from recycled materials and plants, and is perfect for couples dedicated to having a low-impact, green wedding. Beware that recycled paper can be more costly than standard paper, however.\n\n### Matte\nA type of paper finish, matte paper is coated to have a flat, non-reflective surface. It’s the opposite of glossy paper, and makes a great choice for thick, sturdy invitations that look crisp and clean. \n\n### Glossy\nThe opposite of a matte finish, glossy paper is reflective with an elegant sheen. It works great for making photographs pop, particularly when there are many colors, as it shows contrast better. \n\n### Bamboo\nSoftly textured, sustainable, and eco-friendly, bamboo paper is ideal for certain printing processes—such as letterpress, embossing, or foil printing—where you want images and words to stand out against the page. \n\n### Parchment \nCloudy, subtly translucent paper that is reminiscent of papyrus scrolls from ancient times, parchment paper gives your invitations an aged, antique look with its sepia tones and faded edges. \n\n### Rice Paper\nWhile not actually made from rice, this type of natural paper is thin, soft, and delicate. It’s usually made with hemp or other natural fibers. It works best with letterpress printing, as it is too delicate to run through regular printers or other printing machines.\n\n### Vellum\nVellum is a fine, smooth, translucent paper with a frosted finish. It’s made from wood fiber and is sturdy enough to be printed on directly. \n\n### Glassine\nThinner than vellum, glassine is also translucent but with a slightly waxier finish. It’s very delicate and best used for overlays or envelope liners. \n\n### Laid \nLaid paper is also made from wood fiber, but unlike vellum has a finely ribbed appearance and a textured, bumpy finish. It’s best used for decorative accents rather than for actual invitation printing. \n\n### Marbled\nMade to mimic the veining of natural marble, marbled paper contains swirled colors and patterns. It can be used for invitations or envelope liners to dramatic effect. \n\n### Variegated\nSubtly patterned, variegated paper contains hints of different colors placed irregularly throughout the page.\n\n*__Pro Tip:__* you might see the terms “stock” and “tooth” when reading about paper types. __Stock__ refers to a paper’s weight, specifically how much 500 sheets of a particular paper weighs—the higher the number, the thicker the paper. __Tooth__ refers to a paper type’s texture; the more tooth a paper has, the rougher it is. \n\n## Wedding Invitation Accents\n### Blind Embossing\nUsing the printing technique of embossing without any ink or foil, blind embossing creates textured image or design that’s raised from (and the same color as) the paper. \n\n### Debossing\nThe same as blind embossing, but instead of creating a raised image, debossing creates an image or design that is recessed or sunken into the surface of the paper. \n\n### Foil Stamping\nUsing a heated die, metallic or pigmented foil is applied to the paper so it permanently adheres to it and adds a touch of glamour and sparkle. \n\n### Bevel Edge\nUsed to draw attention to a card’s thickness, the edges of an invitation card are slanted at 45-degree angle and often painted. \n\n### Deckle Edge\nPopular with handmade papers, a deckle edge looks “torn” or rough, giving your invitation a touch of organic-chic elegance while also showing off the beautiful fiber of your specialty paper. \n\n### Rounded Corners\nFor an extra decorative touch, you can have the edges of your invitation (and even other enclosure cards, like your response card) rounded for a more modern or casual look. Usually this extra cutting step comes with a slight upcharge. \n\n### Die-Cutting\nA process by which a pattern of cuts are made in the paper with a very precise blade. Die-cutting is often done around the border of an invitation or envelope edge to give it a lacey, scalloped, or other textured look. \n\n### Laser-Cutting\nUsing a laser instead of a knife, extremely intricate, fine cuts are made in the paper to create specific shapes, borders, or lettering. Laser-cutting leaves almost imperceptible burn marks on the back of the paper. \n\n### Backer\nA backer is a thick piece of cardstock that is adhered to the back of the invitation, serving as a decorative background or frame for the card itself. \n\n### Belly Band\nTrue to how it sounds, this is a literal band of paper, fabric, or ribbon that wraps around the invitation suite—the invitation, the response card and envelope, and any additional enclosure cards—to keep everything neatly contained. \n\n### Wax Seal\nThe traditional method of wax-sealing an envelope involves melting sealing wax (which comes in a variety of colors), applying melted wax to the envelope closure, and sealing it shut by pressing it with an engraved metal stamp. Nowadays you can also buy adhesive wax seals, which are essentially stickers that look a lot like the real thing. \n\n### Enclosure Cards\n[Enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) are extra cards beyond the invitation itself. They can either invite guests to additional weekend events (such as the rehearsal dinner, welcome drinks, or a farewell brunch) or inform guests of useful information, such as reception details, maps and directions, or transportation and accommodations info. Enclosure cards are generally designed and printed in the same style as the invitation itself. \n\n### Envelope Liner\nA decorative piece of paper used to line the inside of your envelopes, so that when guests open the flap, they are greeted with a colorful or printed interior surface that coordinates with your invitation design.\n\n## Tips for Budget-Friendly Wedding Invitations\n\n### 1. Buy a Total Wedding Invitation Package\n\nShopping for all your affordable wedding invitations in one place can end up saving you money, not to mention give your total paper suite—from [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) to invitations to [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop)—a cohesive and beautifully matched look. By ordering everything from one place (like you can do on [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper)), you can save time, stress, and cut down costs on shipping and processing fees.\n\n### 2. Keep it Simple\nAs we’ve stated, the more intricate and complex your invitation design is, the more money you will spend. If you have your heart set on a certain design element, such as a shimmery metallic cardstock or a custom-embossed monogram, splurge for it but then go for a simple [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/simple) for the rest of your design. Or consider adding one fun embellishment—think gold foil, a colorful grouping of designer stamps, or a pretty ribbon belly band—to get that “wow” factor without having to verge into more costly territory, like letterpress printing or extra-heavy paper. \n\n### 3. Order Extra at The Outset\n[Guest lists](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list) are chimerical things. Sometimes they shrink, but often they grow… and nothing is worse than having to order a whole new batch of invitations, envelopes, response cards, and response card envelopes for just a handful of add-on guests. Besides being time-consuming and tedious, this can cost you additional processing and shipping fees—plus some companies require orders in minimum quantities of 50 or 100 cards, so you might have to buy extra invitations you don’t need. Order 25 extra invitation sets with your initial order to avoid this extra money and hassle. \n\n### 4. Lower Postage Costs\nWhile it might not seem like much in the grand scheme of your wedding invitation budget, shipping costs can really add up—especially if your invitations require you to purchase extra postage beyond the standard first-class letter rate. You can lower your postage costs in two ways: \nkeeping your invitations light and sticking to standard letter sizes.\n\nThe heavier your envelope, the more postage you’ll need to mail it, so opt for lighter- weight paper stock. Reducing the number of [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) and embellishments (such as a heavy cardstock backing) can also help reduce your total envelope weight. \n\n - __If you're trying to reduce your wedding invitation budget, stick to standard letter sizes to avoid an increase in postage fees__\n\n 5x7 cards (called A7 in stationery terms) are a great option for wedding invitations that feel large and substantial, but can still be mailed with a single stamp. Irregular shapes, square envelopes, and anything larger than 5x7 will require extra postage.\n\n### 5. Shop at Zola! \n\nYes, we know we are biased, but buying your wedding stationery at an online retailer like Zola is kind of a no-brainer. Not only are our invitations truly affordable, they come in tons of different styles from rustic wedding invitations to modern and vintage. We’re certain you’ll find a design you love, otherwise explore a variety of customization options that allow you to craft a message that’s unique to you. With add-on details like rounded corners, photo-uploading, free recipient and return addressing, and matching RSVP cards, enclosure cards, thank you cards, [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), AND [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), you can seriously check off so many items on your invitation list in one fell swoop. 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The perfect formula for fantastic invitations.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-08T03:32:49.477Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4L8TvtYzYM3qUb3zJnMDPY/21837e7045d3208322324f83a9551043/How-to-Stuff-Wedding-Invitations-A-Complete-Guide.jpg","altText":"Invitation envelopes"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Gather your gal pals, bribe your bride tribe, grab the groomsmen, and get to work—it’s time to start stuffing [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). And the more help you get, the easier the whole process will be. Save the dates may have been a piece of (wedding) cake, but assembling invitation suites require a bit more knowledge. Read on for your need-to-knows when it comes to stuffing your wedding invitations.\n\n## Make It a Party!\nTo entice friends to help, make stuffing wedding invitations a fun-fill day, complete with drinks and snacks. There’s never a bad time to hang out and have fun with friends, so turn this wedding project into a chance to bond. \n\nYou don’t have to limit the event to just the wedding party or close friends, either. Stuffing wedding invitations is something your family members or parents’ friends might want to help with, too. Stuffing wedding invites is also a great time to call in a favor to anyone who has ever said: “let me know if you ever need help with wedding stuff!” \n\n## Create an Assembly Line\nMany hands make for less work, and a wedding invitation assembly line is a tried-and-true method of churning out a flawless finished DIY product. Once you’ve gathered a good-sized crew, divide them up and give them individual tasks.\n\nIf you have more people than you need, try breaking people up into teams to work in shifts. You can even turn the process into a party game where the fastest team gets a prize at the end. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box and get creative with how you encourage people to get the job done.\n\nJust don’t be bossy—these people are giving their time to help you send mail. Try to give direction rather than orders; nobody wants to help someone who seems ungrateful. Direction comes in the form of encouragement and gratitude, with plenty of compliments sprinkled on top. This subtle difference will determine whether your friends and family walk away from the day thinking “that was fun” versus “that was a nightmare.” Even if something goes wrong, try and remain calm—there’s almost always a solution. \n\n![How to Stuff Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/49UwV1NoXYrcKjT0SlN3x1/baaa616f75c8b1bf8425d4e0521a2282/Inline_How-to-stuff-wedding-invites_Inessa-nichols-designs.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Inessa Nichols\n\n## Know the Perfect Wedding Invitation Order\nA custom wedding invitation is never just one piece of paper. Usually, a wedding invitation will have anywhere between three and five cards or other documents included with the invitation card itself—and the order in which they’re packaged matters. \n\nHere’s what goes inside the inner envelope, according to order:\n\n1. __Invitation:__ [The invitation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) is the star of the show, with crucial information like the wedding date and location. It is also the largest card in this packet of information. As a result, the wedding invitation should be the bottom layer of the invitation packet as a whole. Place your custom wedding invitation face up on the table so you can read the wording on the front.\n2. __Reception card:__ Place the reception card on top of the invitation, again with the wording facing you. Do your best to center the reception card on top of your wedding invitation. \n3. __RSVP envelope:__ Place the RSVP envelope, so it lays vertically on top of the reception card with the flap of the envelope opening out to the right.\n4. __RSVP response card:__ Place the RSVP reply card card onto the response envelope with the wording upright and visible. Fold the flap of the reply envelope over the RSVP card so that it’s tucked into place without being inside the envelope.\n5. __Map:__ Place the map card centered on top of the RSVP card, wording facing up. \n6. __Accommodation and/or enclosure card:__ Finally, place the your details card, accommodation card, and/or remaining enclosure cards on the very top to complete your stack. \n\nBefore placing the final package inside your inner and then outer envelope, make sure all of the stationery is facing the same direction, with the wording up. If some of your stationery is landscape and some is portrait, turn the landscape cards 90 degrees clockwise, so that they are vertical and centered on top of the other cards. \n\n## Assembling Your Invitations\nOnce you place all of your wedding stationery in the correct order, it’s time to insert the whole collection of materials into the envelope. Here’s the proper way:\n\n1. Start with the envelope laying flat in front of you with the flap open, so the interior is showing. The area where you would write the address should be face down on the table.\n\n2. Turn the envelope 90 degrees clockwise, so that the opening of the envelope is on the right, allowing you to slide the invitation packet or inner enveloped into the outer envelope from right to left. From this position, the top edge of the invitation, and subsequent inserts, should align with the left edge of the envelope.\n\n3. With the invitation package facing printed side up, slide the entire packet into the opening of the envelope (from right to left) with the front/wording of the invitation being the only visible piece of the invitation packet. This method ensures that when your guests open the wedding envelope, all they have to do is open the envelope flap, pull out the invitation, and twist 90 degrees clockwise (if your invitation has a vertical design) to easily read the most important details. The reason for this is that most people are right-handed (sorry lefties), and this method is the most natural way to open and read something that is in an envelope.\n\n4. To ensure you have inserted the packet correctly, check and make sure you can still see some of [the wording of the invitation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording) documents before closing the flap. Even with everything stuffed into the invitation envelope, you should still be able to see a visible portion of the front of the documents.\n\n5. Lick the envelope and press the flap down over the open interior, using your index and middle fingers to make a firm seal.\n\nNow, only a few (hundred) more and a trip to the post office, and you’re all done.\n\n## Tips to Use While Assembling\nWhile assembling may seem as simple as ordering, stacking, and stuffing, a few key tips can take the task from difficult to worry-free.\n\n1. __Try to do it in a single day__. It might initially seem like an insurmountable task, but trust us: Getting the invites stuffed, sealed, and stamped in one day is the way to go. Doing so ensures that you don’t lose your place, misplace certain items, or get off track with wedding planning.\n\n2. __Don’t have food or drinks near the invites__. The last thing you want is for something to spill on a pile of invitations. Work in a space that is clean and clear of anything that could tip over and stain.\n\n3. __Put each piece in its own separate stack__. Have one stack for the invitations, another stack for the rsvp card, etc. That way, you can move seamlessly across the table you are working at, building each invitation one piece at a time. This strategy will make it much easier for you to stuff the entire invitation packet into an envelope as a group. If you try to put each individual piece of the invitation packet into the envelope instead of the aforementioned stacking method, it could lead to a much longer process, with more room for error.\n\n4. __Do the stamps last__. This only applies if you aren’t using an assembly line method with friends. If you have an assembly line, you can put someone on stamp duty, but if you and your SO are stuffing envelopes by yourself, doing the stamps last is a big time-saver. Also, do yourself a favor and use self-adhesive stamps—no one wants to lick that much postage. If you want to learn [how to send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-postage), Zola can help you.\n\n![How to Stuff Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aoAGKFgx5nIWD2MMkoWip/82cd079fe67eb742d3ba4501db9a1a3e/Inline_How-to-stuff-wedding-invites_Sippakorn-Yamkasikorn-unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sippakorn Yamkasikron Unsplash\n\n## Wedding Invitations FAQ\nDespite covering all of the how-tos, we anticipate you still have a few questions regarding the invitation assembly process. No worries—we’ve compiled a few helpful questions and answers below.\n\n- __If I order through Zola, will by wedding invitation suites arrive assembled__? In short, no. Each element of your paper suite (invitations, detail cards, RSVP cards, etc.) will be sent to you in stacks so that you can assemble them however you desire.\n\n- __What’s the difference between an inner and outer envelope__? Invitations to formal events—or those that are embellished or include delicate materials, like vellum or tissue paper—are typically packaged in both an inner and outer envelope. The outer envelope is your standard mailing envelope which contains your guests’ mailing address. The inner envelope, which is usually more decorative (e.g. delicate materials or calligraphy), states who is being addressed and invited to your wedding.\n\n- __How else can I package my invitations__? Aside from an inner envelope, you can secure your stack of stationary with a tied ribbon or belly band (a narrow strip of paper made to wrap around your invitation suite and keep it together). Most often, couples will choose either in one of their wedding colors or in a color that compliments their invitation suite.\n\n## Signed, Sealed, Delivered!\nWhen it comes to checking off tasks for your big day, you never want to let tasks build up. Stuffing wedding envelopes is a relatively easy task that simply requires a little stamina. Stream a movie, listen to music—whatever you need to do to help pass the time.\n\nAnd although you may have to do the work of stuffing wedding envelopes yourself, you’ll be glad to know that Zola addresses your envelopes for free. With this service, there’s no need to hire a calligrapher to write out each of your guests’ names, no double-checking mailing addresses, and, most importantly, no hand cramps. We pull guest information straight from your Zola registry, so you don’t even have to worry about plugging in any additional addresses.\n\nOur goal is to make this process as easy as possible, so that you can enjoy all the fun that comes with wedding planning. We’ll ship the invites, inserts, envelopes, and whatever else you include straight to your door, and we’re always here to answer any questions, so you can get the job done and [send our your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) lickity-split.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:37.124Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"pros-and-cons-of-printing-your-own-wedding-invitations","title":"Pros and Cons of Printing Your Own Wedding Invitations","excerpt":"Thinking of printing your own wedding invitations? Zola breaks down the pros and cons of being your own printer.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T18:15:07.842Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1x47cYoCfWxrILsTNkZiTP/203e47ce2b914cbc0cd457584b995f11/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Pros and Cons of Printing Your Own Wedding Invitations"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are plenty of low-cost ways to print your wedding invitations online. However, you may find that the DIY constraints of printing invite yourself outweigh the benefits of this option. \n- Professional printing costs are contingent on the type of materials used, the style of your invitation, how they are printed, and how many you need printed.\n- Zola’s wedding papers can help you strike a balance between a custom design and professional finish. Zola is an excellent way to shave off extra expenses while ending up with a beautiful paper product to commemorate your wedding.","body":"While printing wedding invitations yourself can be a budget-friendly route, there are a host of other considerations to account for before diving headfirst into the highly complex task of designing, printing, and coordinating your own wedding invitations with success—and style.\n\nIn this article, we’ll break down the pros and cons of taking on the task of crafting your own wedding invitations, so that you can decide whether the DIY route or the old-fashioned way is right for you.\n\n## Pros and Cons of Printing Your Own Wedding Invitations \nThe best way to stack up the advantages and disadvantages of printing your own wedding invitations is by looking at each pro and con side by side. \n\n### Pro #1: Printing Your Own Can Save You Money\nThe most common reason why couples may choose to print their own invitations themselves is the cost.\n\nProfessionally printed wedding invitations can get expensive, sometimes shouldering up to four to six percent of a couple’s wedding budget. The bill for wedding stationery—from Save the Dates to wedding invitations to thank you cards—can quickly climb into the range of thousands of dollars.\n\nIf you and your partner know that wedding stationery is one of the last things that you want to shell out for your wedding, then printing your own invitations might be the right choice for you.\n\n### Con #1: You’ll Still Have to Spend Money on DIY Tools\nThe fact is that even if you skip professional wedding invitations, you’ll still have to foot the bill for the expenses associated with doing it yourself.\n\nPrinter ink, for instance, is notoriously expensive—often more expensive than printers themselves. You should also expect to spend money on:\n\n- Cardstock or paper\n- Envelope size, colors, and texture\n- Any custom inserts or accents (eg. twine, confetti, dry flowers, etc.)\n- Invitation templates\n- Design software\n- Postage cost\n\nTo save money on materials, it’s best to buy in bulk, but be sure to sample and run a print on your selected material before you buy in large quantities. Personal printers tend to be temperamental, and if you’re feeding it thicker cardstock in higher volumes, you’ll want to know that your printer can handle it before putting money down on the materials.\n\n### Pro #2: Design Your Invitation Your Way\nA selling point of print-your-own wedding invitations is the unmatched level of personalization that you and your fiancé can give to your cards. Maybe it’s been a challenge to communicate what you’re looking for to a designer, or perhaps you and your partner aren’t wowed by the invitation designs that you’ve browsed thus far.\n\nIf getting your invitations exactly as you envision them is important to you, and you want to minimize any outside interference in that vision, then forging ahead and printing your own invitations may be right for you.\n\nEven so, it’s best to get an idea of what DIY designs are out there and to have some templates in the mix to brainstorm your own take. Here are a few tips for coming up with a plausible plan for your custom invitation design:\n\n- __Do your research –__ Before diving into your DIY project headfirst, take some time to tool around the internet and get inspired by the wide variety of designs available online. To keep it organized, create a folder of invite inspo on Instagram, a Pinterest board with invitations, and/or a cloud-shared photo album so that you and your spouse can browse together.\n\n- __Know what to look for –__ If you’ll be printing on your own, bear in mind that home printers are better suited to airy designs with a light color palette—not to mention the expense on ink you’d rack up if you opted for a dark color palette. If, in the course of your research, you find that the elegance of noir-ish wedding invitations appeals most to you, you may want to reconsider making your own and have your invitations printed by a pro.\n\n- __Consider visiting your local print shop –__ Even if you’re designing solo, you may still want to consider taking your invitation to your local print shop to consult with an associate. They’ll inevitably have some valuable feedback on getting the best possible print, and you may even decide to save yourself the trouble of a possible printer jam at home and let them take your invitations from the computer to print.\n\nPrinting your wedding invitations yourself gives you full creative license to put pen to paper (or cursor to design software) and conjure your dream invitations. If getting crafty and being in full control of your vision sounds up your alley, printing your own invitations may actually be a welcome way to decompress from other [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) stresses and tap into your creative side.\n\n### Con #2: Executing Your Vision Is No Easy Feat\nYou’ve done your research, you have a vision, and you’ve even rustled up some templates online to get started. Now, it’s time to execute.\n\nTo mock-up your wedding invitations, you’ll need, at minimum, a computer, a printer, and a good pair of scissors. However, unless you’re going for an ultra-deconstructed DIY wedding look, those three utilities probably won’t translate to a very handsome wedding invitation.\n\nCouples who want to DIY their invitations with a polished result usually have the following at their disposal:\n\n- Computer \n- Design software (and experience using it)\n- Printer\n- Paper cutter\n- Scoring board\n- Adhesive (clear glue or double-stick tape)\n\nIf you or your spouse-to-be is proficient in graphic design softwares such as Adobe InDesign or Photoshop, they can be excellent resources to use to design your invitations. These programs can be expensive, so there are also open-source programs available online for amateur designers that you can use to house your design.\n\nWhat’s more, there is a whole bazaar of free wedding invitation templates to be found online, so there is no need to build your own invitation from scratch. Zola’s wedding stationery portal lets you browse hundreds of invitation designs, as well as options to upload a template with your own original design and customize the material, size, foil lining, and more.\n\nYou may find that even if you have a crystal clear idea of what you want, translating that to paper can be unmanageable—which is why tools like Zola’s wedding paper portal are there to simplify the process of execution.\n\n### Pro #3: Printing Your Invites May Be a Fun Couple’s Activity\nIf you and your partner have creative spirits, there’s no doubt that making your invitations together can be loads of fun. So much of wedding planning can be stress-inducing or unnecessarily divisive, and having a way to get your hands dirty together can be a wonderful way of collaborating closely on a wedding project, rather than dividing and conquering.\n\nFurthermore, spending time together investing your time, energy, and creativity into something that’s special to the both of you will always result in cherished memories. DIY-ing your wedding invitations may just be the date night you’ve been waiting for.\n\n### Con #3: The DIY Route Can Be Extremely Time-Consuming\nAs a kid, you may have spent hours immersed in a crafty activity when suddenly your mother entered the room to tell you that it was dinner time. Sadly, it’s not always a cinch to enter that kind of flow state as an adult. \n\nWhether or not you notice the time going by, know that making your own wedding invitations is very time-intensive. What’s more, if you’re prone to frustration or tend to stress about misusing time, getting embroiled in the project of designing, printing, and mailing your own invitations can be tedious work that could take much longer than you bargained for.\n\nBefore deciding to DIY, ask yourself which you’d rather: Is it more important to save time or money?\n\nIf the answer is the latter, be sure to manage your time strategically, according to the following recommended timeline:\n\n- __When to order your materials –__ Place an order for your materials two weeks before you start the design process.\n\n- __When to undertake the design process –__ To make room for any bumps in the process, try to begin designing four to six weeks before you send your invitations. Start by putting in a few hours of work each week on writing, designing, proofing, and printing your invitations.\n\n- __When to send your invitations –__ Wedding invitations should be sent to guests six to eight weeks before the wedding date.\n\nIn general, the earlier you start, the more stress you’ll avoid later down the road.\n\n### Pro #4: You Won’t Have to Resolve Someone Else’s Mistake\nNo matter the enterprise, human error is always a factor in any creative endeavor.\n\nIn general, the more complex the details of your wedding, the more information will likely be on your invitation. For instance, couples who hold their ceremony and reception on different days, or in different locations, will have more invitation wording to print on their cards. Alternatively, you may like the idea of using multiple invitation designs or insert cards to convey the different tenors of wedding-related events.\n\nIn either case, the complexity of your wedding invitations or invitation suites will inevitably raise the likelihood that a printing error may ensue.\n\nIf you’re concerned about the possibility of reconciling someone else’s mistakes when it comes to wording, designs, printing styles, and special add-ons—as well as any extra expenses those mistakes might incur on your time and finances—you may simply feel more confident taking your invitations into your own hands.\n\n### Con #4: Printing Your Own Invitations May Mean That You’ll Make a Mistake\nMistakes, technical difficulties, and unforeseen obstacles are just par for the course, and you’ll probably run into at least some of them when printing your own invitations.\n\nHere are a few tips for avoiding some all-too-common pitfalls for printing solo:\n\n- __Buy more than you need –__ To save yourself some trouble in advance, always be sure to buy extra materials to cushion for any hiccups along your journey of DIY wedding invitations. Depending on how many invitations you need to make and what design you have in mind, you may find in the end that it may actually be more cost-effective for you to have your paper printed professionally.\n\n- __Find a reader –__ Before hitting “print,” always run your designs by your partner or a friend to check for typos, errors with dates, or any missing key information. After staring at the same design for too long, your eyes (and your brain) will inevitably become used to any inaccuracies. You’ll need another pair of (well-rested) eyes to ensure that any mistakes are caught. \n\n- __Work in small batches –__ Printing in large volumes can lead to paper jams, which can lead to misused materials, which can lead to major delays and unnecessary expenses. Before sending all of your invitations to print, print a few blank copies, then a few test copies, and work in groups of 10-15 pages to give your printer a break between batches.\n\nNo matter what printing shenanigans may come up in the process, above all, remember to keep your perspective. You entered into this project for the fun and creativity of the process, so don’t let the technical snafus get you down.\n\n#### What’s the Word on Digital Wedding Invitations?\nThere is a third option when it comes to deciding the mode and medium for your wedding invitations: going electronic.\n\nDigital invitations may be better suited to you because of their:\n\n- Affordability\n- Simplicity\n- Timeliness\n- Low-waste impact\n\nIf you’re planning a wedding on short notice, you may simply find e-invitations to be the quickest way to get the word out. Designing, printing, and sending paper invitations via snail mail may take too long for your purposes, in which case issuing your invites with a click or a tap may sound great to you.\n\nFor extremely casual affairs, the electronic invitation may convey to guests the tenor of your event; however, if formality, tradition, or the specialness of paper mementos are important to you, e-invites may be better left to a less momentous event.\n\n## The Ins and Outs of Professional Printing \nIf you’re still on the fence about whether to print invitations yourself or go with the pros, it’s critical to learn about the options available to you when it comes to soliciting the expertise of a stationer.\n\nFour key factors will determine the cost of having wedding invitations professionally printed:\n\n- Kind of stock and materials used\n- Style of the invitation\n- Printing methods used\n- Number of invitations\n\nFurthermore, most wedding invitations are actually the centerpiece of a wedding invitation suite—a mailed parcel featuring the wedding invitation, supplemented by any (or all) of the following inserts:\n\n- RSVP cards and envelopes\n- Itinerary of the event\n- Directions to the [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)\n- Details relating to guest accommodations\n\nA popular way of avoiding the added costs of these inclusions is for you and your partner to create a wedding website. Wedding websites are a convenient way of notifying guests about any information that typically supplements a formal invitation, and for making updates as plans evolve. Zola offers hundreds of easy-to-use and [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) templates where you can publish event details, receive RSVPs from your guests, and even house your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)—at no extra cost.\n\n### The Four Different Types of Professional Printing Methods\nAn explanation of the four main types of professional printing methods can give us an idea of why this element of your wedding can be so hard on the wallet.\n\n- __Digital printing –__ The advent of digital printing, while still costly, is the most budget-friendly option for couples who are looking to save, while enjoying the expertise of the professionals. Cards and inserts are designed on digital software and printed with printer ink. Digital printing typically begins at a minimum of $700 for 100 invitations. \n\n- __Thermography and offset printing –__ Rather than using standard printer ink, offset printing uses manually mixed ink to get the exact color that you want on your invitations. When thermography is used, a fine powder is transferred to the ink which gives a textured feel to the print of your invitation. This kind of printing costs a minimum of $1,200.\n\n- __Letterpress –__ Letterpress takes a high degree of physical labor to produce: Printers manually arrange your wording on the chosen stock to create a custom pressed invitation. The end result yields a subtly unique invitation for each guest, the same way looking closely at a snowflake will reveal distinctions between structures. In letterpress, a set of 100 cards typically costs $1,600.\n\n- __Engraving –__ Without question, engraving is the most formal (and pricey) way to have your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) made. The wording of your invitation is embossed into a copper plate, which is then inked and applied to the card stock (or other material). The effect is undeniably elegant, giving a raised effect to the lettering, and typically starts around $2,200 for 100 cards.\n\nAside from actual printing costs, most wedding invitations or invitation suites are gussied up with other trimmings. A few popular add-ons are:\n\n- Blind debossing or embossing (imprinting the stock or envelope with lettering or a design sans ink)\n- Envelope lining\n- Foil stamping\n- Insert cards (eg. reception cards)\n- Wax seals\n\nOf course, the flip side of the scaled expense of professionally printed invitations is their impeccable craftsmanship and look. If you really want to honor the specialness of the occasion, and give your guests something to hold onto as a keepsake, it may be best to skip the DIY project.\n\n## Wedding Invitation Tips\nWhether you’ve elected to work with a printer or have successfully made your wedding invitations solo (if so, way to go!), you’ll want to make sure that all the work and heart you’ve poured into them doesn’t go to waste.\n\nHere are few tips for sending your creations through the post successfully:\n\n- __Plan ahead –__ Because wedding invitation suites are heavier, it’s always a good idea to take a sample suite to the post office to weigh it before applying postage to the envelope. If you’re concerned about cost, it’s always advisable to add as much information as you can to your wedding website, rather than overstuffing your paper enclosures.\n\n- __Make things easier for your guests –__ If you can afford the extra postage, it’s always good etiquette to provide postage for your guests’ RSVP cards. Not only will it save them a stamp, it can also make the response time quicker, which keeps RSVP tracking more organized.\n\n- __Consider hand-processing –__ At the post office, mail can be handled in one of two ways: by man or by machine. To ensure your invitations are treated delicately, you may want to request that the postmaster sorts them by hand. This will cost extra, but it can mean the difference between your invitation arriving in one piece, or a bit worse for wear.\n\nIf you have any concerns about your invitations making it to your guests, your best bet is to use a guest list manager to keep a record of your recipients, track their responses, and follow up with any guests who haven’t gotten back to you yet.\n\n[Zola’s Wedding Guest List Manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) can give you the reinforcement you need if any issues arise with the post office, plus double as a portal for RSVPs, menu selections, and interface for sending wedding updates to guests.\n\n## A Perfect Wedding Signed, Sealed, and Delivered by Zola \nTo DIY or not? If you’re still weighing your options on that particular question, know that there’s a way to strike a pitch-perfect balance between shaping your wedding invitation designs to your liking, and achieving a professional-quality end result.\n\nZola has a diverse range of wedding papers, including:\n\n- [Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n- [Wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop)\n- [Programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), [Menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop)\n- [Thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop)\n\nIf you have your heart set on a DIY design, you and your partner can easily upload, fill out the details, and send it off to the Zola printers for the same professional look at a fairer price.\n\nWhat’s more, with free envelopes and free guest addressing services, there’s no need to worry about your budget taking a hit. For more on beautiful, affordable options for executing your wedding plans with sophistication, visit Zola’s website and discover all the tools that you’ll need to plan your celebration.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:36.404Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-guide-to-envelopes","title":"Wedding Invitations: A Guide to Envelopes","excerpt":"A wedding invitation envelope really deserves some attention. So without further ado, let’s celebrate this paper enclosure with everything you ever wanted to know about wedding invitation envelopes.","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T03:58-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1R3W9QAq5n5FlKDs9mJTXH/b76672ca9d63f6f6f6e2977324ad3d6a/hero_A_Guide_to_Envelopes.jpg","altText":"Wedding Invitations: A Guide to Envelopes"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","body":"While it may seem like an afterthought amidst wedding planning, your wedding stationery really deserves some attention. In particular, your wedding invitation envelope. It delivers the first impression of your wedding’s (or [wedding renewal's](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-renewal-invitations)) style and personality to your guests. Whether subdued or statement-making, it’s a prelude to the invitation and the event itself. So without further ado, let’s celebrate this paper enclosure with everything you ever wanted to know about wedding invitation envelopes.\n\n## Envelope Size\n\nIf you’re designing custom wedding invitations, it all starts with the envelope! Wedding invitations should be designed from the outside in. Mailing envelopes come in standard sizes, and these sizes can even vary by manufacturer. So it’s best to select your wedding invitation envelope first, choose a coordinating paper, then move on to design, ink colors, and other fun stuff.\n\n![Sera-Petras-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3DbMMw53NkAUMqk32zmyyM/916918d50313e94ba6c712b07ac8ac55/Sera-Petras-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/sera-petras-photography)\n\n## To Outer Envelope, or Not to Outer Envelope?\n\nIn olden times and Jane Austen novels, invitations were handwritten and delivered by a messenger on foot or horseback. The outer envelope would protect the contents from the elements. Upon delivery, the outer envelope was removed and the inner envelope was hand delivered on a silver tray (or something fancy like that) to the recipient. In modern times, you can use inner and outer envelopes to address the invitation to specific people. But you can also use a band of paper with the guests’ names written on it, or write their names directly on the single outer envelope. Double envelopes are becoming less popular because they’re not always necessary and are an additional expense.\n\nWhether you have one or multiple envelopes, keep yourself sane and your guest list completely organized by utilizing [Zola’s free Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests)—you can upload your own spreadsheet, email guests directly so they can add their own addresses, even import the contact info from your phone to get your entire guest list loaded quickly and easily into the super handy, totally mobile-friendly tool. Then manage those RSVPs as they roll in in real time! Extra bonus: if you used a [free wedding website from Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), the RSVP feature on your site will sync up automatically with your guest list’s RSVP tracker.\n\n![Brandi-McComb-Photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uUVOptZMHUteNy1XoREld/8eb30c2bafce5394bb0b5bdc9cff2a85/Brandi-McComb-Photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Brandi McComb Photography](https://www.brandimccombphotography.com/)\n\n## Return Address\n\nYour return address (or the address of whomever is doing the inviting) typically goes on the back flap of the wedding invitation envelope. Have it printed on your envelopes when you print your invitations, or invest in a custom rubber stamp. This way, if any invitations go astray they’ll hopefully come back to you.\n\n![Erika-Follansbee-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/38nAEq6NB0CkaSQSwtkfsV/d0ae01d06ba7910911fb883238410476/Erika-Follansbee-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Erika Follansbee Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/erika-follansbee-photography)\n\n## Addressing Wedding Invitations\nEnvelope addressing etiquette is just as important as your invitation wording, with just as many rules. When it comes to guest addressing, there are a handful of different categories to abide by, each with their own do's and don'ts. To make writing these out easier on you, we suggest sectioning off your guest list into the following categories, then going one-by-one with each's etiquette in mind. Doing so will ensure that you address everyone correctly and make recipient addressing an overall easier task.\n\n### Married Couples\nWhen addressing married couples with the same last name, use the standard \"Mr.\" and \"Mrs.\" titles. Traditionally, addressing different-sex couples would mean spelling out the man's first and last name (e.g. \"Mr. and Mrs. Sanchez\"). However, more modern etiquette suggests using the first and last name of both guests (e.g. \"Mr. Gabriel Sanchez and Mrs. Sofia Sanchez\"). For a less formal approach that's more often seen on inner envelopes, you can also address married couples by last name only (e.g. \"Mr. and Mrs. Sanchez\" or \"Mr. Sanchez and Mrs. Sanchez\"). Avoid using first names only unless it's on inner envelopes and you've already addressed the couple fully on the outer envelope.\n\n### Married Couples With Different Last Names\nInvitation suite etiquette suggests that, in the case of a married couple with different last names, you first address the person you're closest with. Use both first and last names for each individual addressed to display good etiquette and avoid any confusion as to who's invited (e.g. \"Mrs. Emma Mackenzie and Mrs. Amelia Davis\"). That being said, if you're equally close to both people, address them in alphabetical order by last name (e.g. \"Mrs. Amelia Davis and Mrs. Emma Mackenzie\"). Avoid using first or last names only (e.g. \"Mrs. Mackenzie and Mrs. Davis\" or \"Emma and Amelia\") unless it's on the inner envelope and you've already addressed the couple fully on the outer envelope.\n\n### Unmarried Couples\nIn the same way that both names are addressed for married couples, both names should be listed for unmarried couples. The difference being, each name is placed on its own line. Also like married couples, the first person addressed should be the one you're closest with. Unless you're equally acquainted, in which case names should be listed in alphabetical order by last name. Use both first and last names for each individual addressed to display good etiquette and avoid any confusion as to who's invited (e.g. \"Mr. Alex Garcia, line break, Mr. Thomas Miller\").\n\n### Families\nWhen inviting a family—both parents and children—only the parents should be addressed on the outer envelope (e.g. \"Mr. and Mrs. Smith\" or \"Mr. Jonathan Smith and Mrs. Amanda Smith\"). However, for a less formal tone, you can address the entire family by last name (e.g. \"The Smith Family\"). In either case, both the parents' names and children's names should be listed on the inner envelope, as to specify who's all invited. Children's names should be listed on the line below their parents', with names listed in order of oldest to youngest (e.g. \"Mr. and Mrs. Smith—line break—Piper and Bellamy\").\n\n### Doctors and People With Distinguished Titles\nDepending on the level of formality, doctors can be addressed by \"Dr.,\" which is more casual, or \"Doctor\" which is more formal. When addressing an invitation to a doctor, the spouse with the professional title is listed first (e.g. \"Dr. Rebecca Jones and Mr. Allen Jones\"). That being said, if both spouses are doctors, follow the etiquette for married and unmarried couples with the same or different last names, addressing both individuals as \"Dr./Doctor.\" If their last name is the same, you can also address them by their surname (e.g. \"The Doctors Jones\"). If not, list by acquaintanceship or alphabetically by last name (e.g. \"Doctor Alison Hart and Doctor Drew Richardson\").\n\nThe same etiquette applies to those with other distinguished titles, such as military personnel, reverends, etc. However, if both people have distinguished titles, it's seen as best to first address the person with the higher rank.\n\n## Envelope Liners\n\nLike the choice between colored envelopes and white envelopes, envelope liners are completely decorative, but completely awesome if you can splurge for them. They’re a great way to tie the design of your paper suite together, or to add a pop of color to a simplistic design.\n![kristen-wynn-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/V5e2jZspf0Y9SxHwtM1WD/512f9bd3e86913950ba87d3e66c5bd75/kristen-wynn-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Kristen Wynn Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/kristen-wynn-photography--2)\n\nDid you know that you can [find beautiful envelope liners right here at Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)? Once you pick the invites and paper designs that are right for you, add one of our many liner designs to your envelope drafts. It's the ultimate add-on for deluxe wedding envelopes.\n\n![Zola Envelope liners](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7y7pbB0LnCodgV0CihF8AE/2a1887e89ef0b326c8c5a4c65d300bb7/Hero_Zola__30_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n## Calligraphy Vs. Printed Addresses\n\nIf you love the look of fancy hand-lettering and have room in your budget, definitely get in touch with a calligrapher. The most formal approach is to hand-letter your envelopes because it adds a personal, special touch to the invitation. If you are printing addresses on self-adhesive labels or on the envelope itself, however, pick a font that coordinates with your invitation’s typography or blends well with your outer envelope. If you are the DIY type and want to try your hand at, well, handwriting your envelopes, make yourself a template and grab a light table.\n\n![J.-Ellis-Photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2D11bQxoxkWVBHi57ZsgNr/a7260434d79190d7f9e6518027edc300/J.-Ellis-Photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [J. Ellis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photos/924042)\n\n## Double Check Everything\n\nMeasure twice, cut once. Make sure you have the correct spellings of your guests’ names and addresses before you begin addressing.\n\n## Postage\n\nDon’t forget about postage when calculating your budget for invitations. You’ll need postage not only for your invitations, but for the RSVP response envelopes, should you chose to include paper RSVP cards (rather than have guests reply RSVP online).\n\nKeep in mind that heavier and non-traditional sizes require more postage. Before you buy the stamps and begin sticking, prepare an wedding invitation envelope exactly how you’d like it sent and bring it to the post office to determine necessary postage.\n\nA non-traditional postage stamp is a fun detail and is especially doable when sending out a smaller number of invites. Go traditional by exploring USPS’s collection of [love-themed stamps](https://store.usps.com/store/results/stamps/_/N-9y93lv?_requestid=1646116), or why not tell a bit about the couple’s story by having the stamps reflect their personalities?\n\nAnother resource: [Zazzle](https://www.zazzle.com/wedding+stamps) has a wide collection of stamps, including those specifically for RSVP or save the dates, but you can also make your own. [Ebay](https://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_nkw=unused+US+stamps) has tons of options available as well, but you might have to do a bunch of digging to find ones that work well for your invites. Although it’s a tad obvious, let’s state it anyway: make sure they’re unused!\n\n![Elizabeth-Friske-Photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1SFB8EEWU6R4py0nK27B7c/47e66c5286c75115eb7ba1a6e7a2e6ca/Elizabeth-Friske-Photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Elizabeth Friske Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/elizabeth-friske-photography)\n\n## Hand-Canceling\n\nAfter you mail something, the postal service puts the envelope through a machine where it sorts out the post and cancels the postage so it can’t be used again—that’s the city, date, and squiggly lines you’ve probably noticed appearing on top of the stamp in the left corner. Going through this machine, however, can tear, bend, and even mark up envelopes a little. It seems just silly to spend so much time and money on beautiful wedding invitations to have them arrive looking banged up. A way to alleviate this problem: ask the post office to hand-cancel your wedding invitations. They’ll cancel the envelopes with a round stamp over the postage, and your precious parcels will go through one less machine. This is great for those thick invites that have the most potential to get damaged in the mailing process.\n\nFor everyone who has horror stories about post office wait times (i.e., your classic first-world problem), be smart (and kind to your fellow mailers) and come in to get your invitations hand-canceled when the post office is slow.\n\n![Jessie-Wyman-Photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2dsM9gc9Yzb7jkZtdfZFnE/f289371b6179863e9185c33b6694a261/Jessie-Wyman-Photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit //* [Jessie Wyman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/jessie-wyman-photography)\n\n## Don’t Stress\n\nAt the risk of sounding like a broken record, check out the [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) on Zola Wedding (or, if you’re old-school, get your Google docs on) to get organized. See if you can get your envelopes in hand before the rest of your invitation order so you can start on the addressing. And don’t freak out about addressing etiquette: our Guest List tool will formally lay out all of your envelope information per guest, which you can then export in the exact format you need. Then either hand that list over to your calligrapher, or set aside some time to do the task—put on an old favorite movie and get to work!","tag":"Wedding Invitations","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Create a beautiful, shareable free wedding website that will keep all your information in one place and make you and your SO's life easier.","title":"How to Build a Wedding Website: Guide + Tips","slug":"make-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ivfWCLfICZzRAlSL2XROu/d275878391dec1bf789fae38c8c5d62b/7-Reasons-to-Make-a-Wedding-Website.jpg","altText":"free wedding websites on zola.com"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore our guide to learn everything you need to know about enclosure cards. 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Here's how to solve the problem.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-09-11T15:54:43.921Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/69vzaLLyH4hI3hK3O7Kk9C/210d61bd1dcb2ccac6e0e560d1701c2a/What-to-Do-About-a-Typo-On-Your-Wedding-Invitations.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation from zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","body":"If you’re reading this, chances are a typo made its way onto your wedding invitations. Perhaps you were overwhelmed with [planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist), or you were so taken with the design that you didn’t proofread. Mistakes happen—even the obvious ones. While it sucks (you’ve been awaiting the boxes since you clicked order, after all), you may not be entirely out of luck. From easy fixes to other options, here’s what you should—and shouldn’t—do about a typo on your wedding invites.\n\n## How To Avoid Typos On Your Wedding Invitations\nOf course, it’s ideal to prevent typos from happening in the first place. Hindsight is 20-20, but if you’ve yet to order your invitations, read closely. As overwhelming as wedding planning may be, you need to take your time when it comes to your [paper suite](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas). Ensure zero mess-ups by doing the following:\n\n- __Have 2+ people proofread.__ Asking more than one person to proofread might seem excessive, but some misspellings are so small that they go undetected. Before ordering, show your invitation to a couple of trusted confidants. Ideally, one is grammar-savvy or has editing experience. One (or two) extra set of eyes means it’s less likely that a typo will go unseen.\n- __Read your contract.__ Most stationary designers and printers include a clause in their contract that states they aren’t liable for reprints if a mistake is made (even if it was theirs). Carefully read through your entire contract before signing on the dotted line. This allows you to create a solid backup plan in case of a mistake.\n- __Triple-check critical information.__ It isn’t a huge deal if their is misspelled thier. Names, dates, addresses, phone numbers, and URLs? Well, that’s a different story. Before approving a proof or mock-up, be absolutely sure that all the important information is spelled correctly. A small misspelling is likely inconsequential, but a mistake in the venue name or wedding date can be a problem.\n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7noXAIxVvKKAqAOZm28IuS/7dbbb81bf46f35c98b2f0758f065dec2/INLINE_Zola__1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n## How To Fix A Typo On Your Wedding Invitation\nThat being said, if you’ve already ordered or received mistyped invites, you have options.\n\n### Order a proof.\nProofs are a crucial part of the invitation process. This is a physical or digital copy of what your invitation will look like once printed. Ordering one—or getting a mock-up, if your retailer only sends digitals—is highly recommended. You can still edit at that point. Sometimes it takes holding your invitation in your hands to notice something’s off. Better to have a typo on your proof than every invitation. __Pro tip: Read the invitation out loud from right to left. Reading left to right, you may gloss over some mistakes. Doing the opposite has you focus on each individual word.__\n\nZola makes ordering proofs simple. When you’re finished designing, just go to the review page and click “Order A Proof.” Here’s a [screenshot](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/360009389912-Can-I-get-a-proof-of-my-invitation-or-save-the-date-).\n\n### Request a fix from your retailer.\nAs mentioned, most retailers state in their contract that they’re not liable for mistakes. Even so, errors are worth bringing up to your stationer. Some may be willing to offer you a discount on the second round of prints. Ask for a quote on reprints—and keep in mind that you may only need one piece of your paper suite redone. Review your contract (that you read thoroughly beforehand, of course) and talk to your vendor about your options.\n\n### Have a backup plan.\nAs with most things wedding, it’s good to have a backup plan. If your invitations show up with a typo and your retailer won’t budge, a plan B can save you time, stress, and money. Online retailers are ideal here thanks to [affordable cost](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/360009389912-Can-I-get-a-proof-of-my-invitation-or-save-the-date-) and quick turnaround times. [Zola invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) are a great digital option to keep in your back pocket (or bookmarks). We can get new invitations to you without delaying your wedding timeline too much.\n\nMistakes happen, though, so you can also cancel your Zola order up to two hours after purchase. That way, if you excitedly rushed to the finish without proofreading, you can go back and prevent any permanent mistakes. Just remember that this is a temporary safety net. You should always check your text at least once—and order a proof first, just in case.\n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3FZ4Q4cCwRM0vFExwaaxT4/e1db30e2c23d9e23efddb03ab8a1ca7c/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n### Send them out as is.\nIf there are no other options, you can always mail your wedding invitations out as is. Yes, with the typo. As mentioned, small typos such as thier and Sepetember aren’t a big deal if you’re in a time crunch. It’s not ideal, but it’s passable so long as the important information is correct. Send out your invites as planned—you’ll probably be shocked at how few people even notice the mishap. And those that do will understand.\n\n### Avoid self-correcting.\nYou may feel inclined to correct the invitations yourself. We recommend avoiding that. Doing so—by writing over it, for example—will only draw more attention to the typo. It may be tempting to try and cover it up or explain yourself but it isn’t worth it. Especially when you might be the only one who notices. At most, make a joke about it at your reception and move on. No wedding is 100% flawless, but if you can move past the little things it can still be perfect for you.\n\nThe main point is: Don't panic. It happens and it can potentially be fixed. Don't let a literal blip stress you out more as you plan your wedding. Plus, you can always correct any information on your wedding website.\n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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","title":"How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations","slug":"bridal-shower-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CQScX6pAG7bqZAlCqwS5D/27fa5822e275efc6e1f277b29c5e927c/howToWord_BridalShower-28-28-28.jpg","altText":"Zola bridal shower invitation wording"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-08-03T01:02:30.697Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-politely-decline-a-wedding-invitation","title":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? Here’s everything you need to know about guests, weddings, and vaccines.","title":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know","slug":"guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ReUuubL41mTVam3Mcwdep/6a81d8e3da664a815c3a1afe920e6487/Hero_Zola__15_.jpg","altText":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-06-13T12:44:52.879Z"}],"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations","description":"From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},"topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper","description":"From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"when-to-send-save-the-dates","title":"When To Send Save The Dates","excerpt":"Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. To simplify the wedding planning process, send your save the date card or magnet no earlier than 8 and no later than 4 months out and you’ll be perfectly fine.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- “Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.”\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- “Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- “Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”\n\n- “Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”\n\n- “Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? 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Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T16:07:10.864Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"heroCredit":"MeewMeew Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/meewmeew-studios","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Consider your relationship with the couple and their personalities before writing your wedding card.\n- Include an address, congratulations, well wishes, shared memories/advice, thanks, and a sign-off.\n- Be genuine, unified, and well-prepared, but try not to write too much, scratch out mistakes, or get too personal.\n","body":"Sharing your wedding wishes with a newlywed couple is a thoughtful way to celebrate their new life together and [show your appreciation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/gift-etiquette/wedding-gifts-from-around-the-world) for being a part of their wedding day. But knowing what to write in a wedding card can be intimidating, especially if you don’t consider yourself to be great with words. \n\nTo help you get started, we’ve put together a collection of tips and examples for what to write in a wedding card. Use them as inspiration for your own wedding wishes, and remember that a genuine, from-the-heart message from you is all that really matters.\n\n- Formal Wedding Wishes\n- Casual Wedding Card Wishes\n- Funny Wedding Card Wishes\n- Religious Wedding Card Wishes\n- Wedding Wishes for Family\n- Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n- Wedding Wishes for a Friend\n- Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\n- What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n- Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\nWedding cards are traditionally gifted to the couple at the wedding [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline). If you [can’t make it to the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding), be sure to mail your wedding card as close to the wedding date as possible. The most important rule of thumb when it comes to wedding card etiquette is to write a warm, genuine message unique to the newlyweds. \n\n## How to Structure Your Wedding Card Message\nDepending on the nature of your relationship with the newlyweds, you might not feel the need to follow a specific message structure when you write your wedding card. However, the standard format of a wedding card message typically follows the format below: \n\n1. Note of congratulations\n2. Warm wishes for their new marriage \n3. Personal message, memory, joke or marriage advice (this will vary depending on your relationship to the newlyweds) \n4. Loving sign off \n\nIf you’re stuck on [how to word your wedding card message](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), the format above is a great place to start. For more inspiration, keep reading for a variety of wedding message examples.\n\n## Examples for What to Write in a Wedding Card\n\nTo get your pen moving, here’s some wedding card inspiration at different levels of formality and for various types of couples:\n\n### Formal Wedding Wishes\n\nExamples: \n\n- “Sending you wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.” \n- “I/We wish you all the best as you begin your lives together.” \n- “May the years ahead strengthen the love that you share.”\n- “Best wishes for a beautiful marriage filled with wonderful memories.”\n- “Warm wishes for a beautiful wedding day and a happy union.”\n- \"May your joining together bring you more joy than you can imagine.\"\n- \"May today be the beginning of a long, happy life together.\"\n- \"Thank you for letting us/me share in this joyful day. We/I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.\"\n- \"Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together.\"\n- \"May the love and happiness you feel today shine through the years.\"\n\n### Casual Wedding Wishes\n\nIf the newlyweds you’re writing to are close friends or family members, a formal message might not feel as genuine. Or perhaps a formal note just doesn’t fit your personality—that’s okay too! Opting for a more casual message allows you to be more personal, and works well when combined with a specific detail or memory you have of the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Best wishes!”\n- “Congratulations on your wedding!”\n- “Here’s a little something to start your life together.” (if you’re including a gift) \n- “Here’s to a long and happy marriage!” \n- \"I'm seeing a fun-filled life in your future. Congratulations!\"\n- “I/We wish you guys lots of love now and always.”\n- “Here’s to many years of love and happiness!”\n- “Best wishes for an amazing future together.”\n- “Hope the days ahead are filled with lots of hugs and kisses.”\n- “Wishing you guys fun-filled adventures in married life!”\n\n### Funny Wedding Wishes\n\nIf you want to make the happy couple laugh, consider writing a funny wedding card message if it will put a smile on their faces! Don’t be afraid to include something laugh-worthy in your note—after all, you know them best, so you can be the judge of what to include based on their sense of humor. \n\nExamples: \n\n- \"Thanks for inviting us/me to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!\"\n- \"I haven't been this happy for anybody since [insert team name here] won the World Series/other championship!\"\n- Being married is like any other job; it helps if you like your boss. Congratulations!\n- \"Congratulations—your wedding successfully made me sob like a baby!\"\n- “Hope you guys have more belly laughs than fights overloading the dishwasher!”\n- “Best wishes as you annoy each other for the rest of your lives.”\n- “Here’s to endless sleepovers with your favorite weirdo.”\n- \"Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage!\"\n- “May Facebook notifications always save you from forgetting your anniversary.”\n- “Good luck and remember that dating apps are only getting creepier.” \n\n### Religious Wedding Wishes\n\n\nIf the newlywed couple is religious, this could be the perfect way to tailor your wedding card message. A religious wedding card may include mentions of your prayers over their marriage, quotes from scripture, and mentions of God. Be sure to think about the couple’s religious beliefs before you opt for this type of wedding card, and use their practices to frame your note. \n\nVersatile Examples: \n\n- “May God bless your marriage.”\n- “May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.”\n- “May your union be filled with God’s blessings, now and every day forward.”\n- “We/I pray that God will cover you both as you enter this new life together.” \n- “Sending you prayers for a marriage filled with love and joy.”\n- \"God bless you both on this day with a lifetime of shared love and joy.\"\n- “Praying that your marriage will prosper and be strengthened by the love of God each step of the way.” \n\nChristian Examples: \n\n- \"Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.\" –Ephesians 4:32\n- \"No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\" –1 John 4:12\n- \"'Love is patient. Love is kind… Love never fails.' – 1 Corinthians 13:4-13\"\n\nJewish Examples: \n\n- “Mazel Tov! May joy fill all the days of your life together.\"\n- \"'I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\" Or \" 'Ani L'Dodi, v'Dodi Li.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\"\n- \"Mazel Tov on your wedding!\" or \"Mazel Tov on your marriage!”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Family\n\nThere’s something special about celebrating the wedding of a close family member. A wedding card message to someone in your own family is a great chance to get personal, and you don’t have to be afraid of being too over the top—in fact, it’s probably expected! \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Today, we add one more member to our family and we couldn’t be happier.”\n- “I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.”\n- I love you both and couldn’t be happier for our family!\n- What a beautiful day for our family, we’re finally complete.\n- Thanks for letting us share in your celebration.\n- “So excited to add a new member to our family! Here’s to a lifetime of love and growing old together.”\n- “Today is a wonderful day for our family. Congrats and warm wishes!”\n- “Congratulations and welcome to the family! Hope today and every day after is amazing.”\n- “We’re so happy to call you both family. Here’s to lots of love and future family drama!”\n- “Cheers to family and love! Congrats on getting married you guys.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Siblings\n\nYour sibling is someone you’ve grown up with and shared some of life’s defining memories with, and watching them get married is one of the greatest milestones you’ll share. When writing a wedding card to one of your own siblings, a good rule of thumb is to just write what feels natural to you. \n\nExamples:\n\n- “I’m so happy to add a brother/sister to our family. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy life together.”\n- “Congrats to the best brother/sister in the world and my new brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Lots of love to you both.”\n- “So thankful that my brother/sister has found the one whom his/her soul loves. Welcome to the family and congratulations on finding love in each other.”\n- “Yay! So excited to gain a sibling today. All my love to you guys!”\n- “Best wishes to you guys as you begin your lives together. Let’s celebrate!”\n- “For my brother/sister who’s found love. May your wedding be the first day of many years of happiness to come!”\n- For my brother/sister who deserves only the best, may your wedding day be everything you’ve dreamt of.”\n- To my brother/sister who has always meant so much to me, I am so happy for the wonderful love you’ve found. I’m wishing you all the best on your wedding day.”\n- \"It seems like yesterday we were playing 'house' in the backyard, and now you get to do it in real life. I couldn't be happier for you both. Congratulations!\"\n- I couldn’t be happier as a brother/sister than I am to see the joy you’ve found in marriage. Can’t wait to watch you two grow old together.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n\nFor many parents, watching their son or daughter get married is a huge milestone. If you’re the mother or father of a bride or groom, you might feel overwhelmed with emotion that can feel tough to put into words. What’s most important is that you express your joy and wish the couple well. From there, feel free to get as personal as you’d like. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “So happy to welcome a new son/daughter to our family. Thank you for the joy you bring my son/daughter. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime!”\n- “Today we add a new member to our family and we couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you both!”\n- “Lots of love and happiness to you both on this joyful day for our family.”\n- Son/Daughter, I’m so happy to see you marry someone who brings you so much joy. Here’s to a beautiful marriage that grows through the years.”\n- “Best wishes to my son/daughter and my new son-in-law/daughter-in-law on this wonderful occasion!”\n- \"We/I know we're/I'm not losing a son/daughter. We're/I'm gaining a son/daughter. Much happiness to you.\"\n- \"Son/daughter, I/we feel many emotions on this day. Most of all, I'm/we're happy you've found someone wonderful to share your life with. Best wishes to you both.\"\n- “Seeing you go from a young girl/boy to the grown man/woman you are today is such a special sight to see. May you both be blessed in your future together, and know how much I love you!”\n- “Watching you reach this milestone is a proud moment for a parent, and I’m filled with joy to know you’ve found love.” \n- “It’s a privilege to watch you get married and to give you away to [spouse]. I have no doubt that your marriage will be an adventure, and don’t forget I’ll always be here to support you as your mother/father.” ","body2":"### Wedding Wishes for a Parent\n\nFinding the right thing to say to a parent who’s getting married or remarried can be tough, so when in doubt, keep it simple! Any parent will likely be grateful for any type of message they receive from their child, whether you want to get deep and personal or keep it short and light. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Welcome to the family. Love you both so much!”\n- “I’m so thrilled that you have found each other. Congrats and best wishes!”\n- “Mom/Dad, I’m so happy for the love that you have found. Congrats to you both, and welcome to the family [Name of Stepparent]!”\n- “[Name of Stepparent], thank you for the joy you bring my Mom/Dad. Cheers to a bigger, better family!”\n- “So excited to see our family grow today. Congratulations on your big day!”\n- “Mom/Dad, thank you for all the advice you’ve given me over the years. Now here’s mine: [Fill in your own advice].”\n- “I’m overjoyed to see you so happy. Lots of love.”\n- “Mom/Dad, seeing how happy [Name of Stepparent] makes you is such a gift. So happy for you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Friend\nHow you craft your wedding card message to a friend will depend on how close you are to them. The message might be short, sweet and classic, or you may choose to get specific and personal. Consider your relationship and how personal, sentimental, serious or funny you want to get with your wedding wishes. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “May you bring each other as much happiness and friendship as you’ve brought me. Congrats!”\n- “Here’s to love, friendship, and double-dates! Best wishes for an awesome marriage.”\n- “So thrilled to celebrate this day with two amazing friends! Happy wedding day, guys!”\n- “Can’t wait to get down on the dance floor and celebrate with you. Congratulations on getting married!”\n- “Thanks for inviting me to eat cake and drink champagne. You should get married all the time!” \n- \"Of all the big life events we've celebrated over the years, today tops the list. Congrats!\"\n- \"We've had so many laughs together! May you always make each other laugh!\"\n- \"Here's to love and friendship!\"\n- \"Congratulations to a wonderful friend and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- “We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\nIf you’re writing to congratulate a coworker on their marriage, it’s unlikely you’ll be including deeply heartfelt sentiments. Instead, it’s best to be more general with your wording. You might choose to use one of the more formal or casual examples above depending on your relationship, or opt for one of some of the work-inspired wedding quotes below. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Thank you for inviting me to share this day with you. Best wishes!”\n- “I’m so happy to have bonded with you at work. Congrats to you and your love!”\n- “Cheers! I’m looking forward to seeing your new title on your email signature.”\n- “Wishing you guys the very best and a happy honeymoon!”\n- “Congrats on finding each other! Here’s to many happy years.”\n- \"Best wishes to a very cool coworker and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- \"Wishing you success—and most of all happiness—in your marriage.\"\n- \"You've got a new title: husband/wife! Wishing you and your spouse the best.\"\n- \"What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker and his/her spouse. All the best to you both in your marriage.\"\n- What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker. All of the best to both of you in marriage.\n\n### What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n\nSometimes life gets in the way and you can’t make it to the wedding. This type of wedding card presents the perfect opportunity to express your apologies for not being able to attend and share warm wedding wishes to the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “With you in spirit as you celebrate your love. Congratulations!”\n- “So sad to miss your special day, sending all our love and best wishes to the happy couple!”\n- “So sorry we can’t be there to celebrate your special day, but please know we are toasting you from afar!”\n- “We are glad we have the rest of your lives to congratulate you on your new marriage. Best of wishes!”\n- “Your wedding is important to us, don’t let our absence tell you otherwise! We would’ve loved to be a part of your special day and wish you all the best on your union.” \n- “While we hate to have missed your special day, we’re celebrating from afar. Congratulations!”\n- “Just because we missed your wedding doesn’t mean we aren’t still celebrating! We’re so thrilled for you two and wish you all the best.”\n- “I’m sure the wedding was beautiful—we’re so sorry we missed it! We wish you all the best as you start your next chapter as newlyweds.”\n- “Congratulations to the happy couple, I wish I could have been there to watch you say ‘I do’!”\n\nYou might feel guilty if you have to miss a friend’s wedding, but you can still share your love from afar and let them know you care with a thoughtful wedding gift. With all the [wedding gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-gift-ideas) they’ll probably be receiving, give yours a special touch with these printable gift tags with sweet messages. \n\n### Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\n![gift-tag-mockup-1](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1YSxxFUV0HoCMVDQ0PWfPF/4cb1348a2bb1bd0e1eddf895ae93345d/gift-tag-mockup-1.jpg)\n\n[![download-gift-tags](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/J0f9yxZ4rnHV9r0EdYbl4/a320342aa5519dda542669ad1f9b2f20/download-gift-tags.png)](//assets.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5ImtAZV4XdSDrYm7vD8NeA/b933d79d65dcea2818ec399d36c817e2/wedding-gift-tags.pdf)\n\nWeddings are one of the most joyous occasions to take part in, and your wedding wishes are an opportunity to make the newlyweds feel special, loved and supported as they embark on their new life together. If you’re looking for the perfect wedding card to send, there are hundreds of [beautiful and affordable designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to choose from that can add that special touch to your message. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift? Learn the etiquette of wedding gifting, including how much to give for a cash wedding gift. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-11T15:46:29.719Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/61hYhBsuFxG4P1dyCiV5XB/563a14f4629b73a3a383c1d0329291d0/hero_A_Guide_to_Wedding_Menu_Cards.jpg","altText":"wedding reception place setting with cream colored plates, sage green accents, and a wedding menu card"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nYou chose a dining style, hired a great local [wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and selected the delicious food that will be served at your wedding reception. Now, the next menu consideration you need to tackle is the [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop). If you’re like most couples, you probably have a few questions about wedding reception menu cards: Are they necessary? What should you include on them? What are the display options? Discover the answers and more in our guide below. \n\n## Are Wedding Reception Menu Cards Necessary? \nWedding reception menu cards are not a requirement, but they are great for communicating the details of the meal to your guests. If you’re serving a plated meal with multiple main course options, it’s common to ask your guests to choose the main course they would prefer on the [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). However, in some cases, you may prefer that guests make their choice at the event—therefore it’s important to have a printed dinner menu on hand for them to refer to when making their decision. \n\nIf you opt for buffet or family-style service, menu cards are a quick and easy way to share the food options and give guests the courtesy of knowing what to expect. Guests with dietary restrictions and food allergies will appreciate the heads up about what’s on the menu so they can plan ahead and enjoy the meal without stress. \n\n## What to Include on Wedding Menu Cards? \nWhat you include on your [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas) is up to your preference and the style and tone of your event. Feel free to get creative and have fun with your wording, but your menu template should include the following: \n\n### 1. Description of Courses (or List of Dishes Served)\n- __Plated Meal:__ Outline the courses or meal options in the order they will be served. \n- __Family Style Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served to each table.\n- __Buffet Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served at the buffet.\n\n### 2. Main Ingredients in Each Dish\nWhile it’s not required to list every ingredient used in a dish, it is customary to provide a shortlist of the main ingredients, including foods that are common food allergies, such as nuts, shellfish, gluten, and dairy. \n\n### 3. A Welcome and Thank You (Optional)\nMany couples also use their wedding menu cards as an opportunity to welcome and thank their guests. This text is typically very short and is often found at the top or bottom of the card. \n\n### 4. Your Names and Wedding Date (Optional)\nTo turn your wedding menu card into a scrapbook-worthy memento, include your names and your wedding date on the card. \n\n## Wedding Menu Card Wording Samples\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Plated\n\n__APPETIZER
__\n\n*Assorted Empanadas*
\n*and*
\n*Gazpacho with Fried Almonds*
\n\n__SALAD
__\n\n*Kale Salad with Spicy Quinoa*
\n*and*
\n*Jicama and Mango Slaw*
\n\n__MAIN COURSE
__\n\n*Skirt Steak with Chimichurri*
\n*or*
\n*Snapper with Avocado Salsa*
\n*or*
\n*Charred Street Corn Risotto*
\n\n__DESSERT__\n\n*Gelato Sundae Bar*
\n*and*
\n*Local Pie and Tart Bar*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Buffet\n\nThank you so much for celebrating this special occasion with us! \nPlease eat, drink, and be merry. \n\n*Braised Pork Shoulder*
\n*Bacon, Apple, Sausage, Cheddar Stuffing*
\n*Brandied Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Hot Smoked Salmon*
\n*Dijon Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Whipped Russet Potatoes*
\n*Garlic & Chives*
\n\n*Roasted Local Vegetables*
\n*Fig Tapenade*
\n\n*Seasonal Green Salad*
\n*Balsamic Vinaigrette*
\n\n*Whole Grain Baguette*
\n*Honey Butter*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Family Style\n\nWelcome to Our Wedding Reception. Please enjoy this family-style menu as you get to know everyone at your table, and thank you for being part of our special day.\n\n__First__\n\n*Local Cheese & Charcuterie Platter*
\n*Olives, Crostini, Apples, Bread & Seasonal Garniture*
\n\n__Second__\n\n*Mixed Green Salad*
\n*Port Wine Poached Pears, Stilton Cheese, Walnuts*
\n*Aged Sherry Vinaigrette*
\n\n__Third__\n\n*Pan Seared Duck Breast*
\n*Blood Orange Gastrique*
\n\n*Sweet Potato Gnocchi*
\n*Mushrooms, Peas, Parmesan, Carrot Sauce*
\n\n*Rice Pilaf*\n\n*Seasonal Roasted Vegetables*\n\n__Fourth__\n\n*Passed Local Sweets*\n\n## Wedding Menu Card Display Options\nThere are many different ways to display your catering menu at your wedding, but here is a look at the main styles you’re likely to encounter: \n\n- __Individual Menu Cards —__ For formal or elegant weddings with plated dinner service, it is typical for small [menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop) to be placed at each place setting. This option adds a nice finishing touch to your design and individually welcomes each guest. In some cases, couples might have the menu card do double duty as a place card by including the guest’s name as well. That way, guests can find their seat, read your welcome message, and peruse the menu in one go. \n- __Large Display or Signage —__ If you prefer not to invest in individual menu cards for each place setting, a great option is to display a large sign at the reception. From chalkboard signage to calligraphy on gilded mirrors, there are limitless ways to get creative and elevate your decor at the same time. \n- __Small Buffet Sign —__ For a sign that gets the job done but is more inconspicuous, many couples opt to place a small menu sign beside the buffet or at each food station. \n- __Table Sign —__ To retain the intimate feel of individual menu cards without straining your budget, we recommend posting a menu sign on each round table, or a displaying a menu per every 4 chairs if you’re using rectangular tables. \n\nYour wedding stationery isn’t really complete with wedding reception menu cards. 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Find guides, advice and ideas for all wedding stationary here."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-paper-guide","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper","excerpt":"Here’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pdjGxliJ09cJurPvdVnex/3795bb9532ada8a69aa5545e5b8dd372/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg","altText":"Floral wedding invitation suite laid out on a green table"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations\n- Save the dates\n- Wedding invitations\n- Wedding event and party invitations\n- Day-of paper\n- Thank you notes\n- Wedding invitation suite\n- Frequently asked questions about wedding invites\n","body":"There’s nothing quite like getting wedding invitations or save the dates in the mail. We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). 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