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Time to celebrate your engagement and offically kick-off things off with the people you love most! From who to invite to how to decorate your space, find all the advice and inspiration you need to plan your engagement party.

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The Complete Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette

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Who hosts an engagement party? Is it the couple or the parents of the bride or groom? Read our guide to hosting.

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The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party

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Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success.

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The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party

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What is an Engagement Party?

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\n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","subtopicPage":{"articles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"pre-wedding-events-guide","title":"Guide to All Wedding Parties & Events","excerpt":"We created a guide to all the different pre-wedding, post-wedding, and wedding-related events so you can decide what you’ll include as part of your wedding.","author":"Jennifer Prince, Erin Celletti, and McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2022-04-13T18:06:06.745Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uuVJB4T2Ib4wDoicjCgbZ/9b21dc45e3155dd604137c1bf2a53c2a/Hero_1.jpg","altText":"Circular image of friends toasting with champagne glasses and sparkling lights"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Years ago, once couples got engaged, they had two celebrations to look forward to—the bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner. Although those traditions remain, as time has moved on, couples have become more creative with the addition of other events. No matter your reasoning for including extra celebrations in your wedding festivities schedule, seize the opportunity to gather with family and friends. Here’s our ultimate guide to all the different kinds of [parties and events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events) you can include in your [wedding timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## Engagement party\n\nThe question gets popped, a ring is placed on your finger, and it’s time to celebrate with loved ones. Ideally, an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) takes place within the first month of the proposal, but if your schedule prevents that timeline, do it whenever is most convenient.\n\nSince this is generally a more intimate celebration, hosting anything from a casual backyard barbecue with lawn games and a [small guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-do-you-invite-to-an-engagement-party) to a more upscale dinner gathering is appropriate. \n\nIf your interest is piqued, there are more [engagement party ideas here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas).\n\nWho hosts the engagement party depends on your take on the event. If you and your future spouse want to have family and friends gather to [meet each other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement), feel free to host. However, if you’re going to be hands-off, have someone close, such as a sibling or parent, orchestrate the event.\n\n__Expert advice:__ Unless your wedding will be very small or a destination wedding, only invite people who will also be guests on your wedding day. \n\nSee all of our [engagement party articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/engagement-party) for more expert tips.\n\n![Craig Adderley - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5GFhw3on6e3FyKap4ONlH7/1b4acace342fc222441fc06c9f64c8a4/Inline_1.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Craig Adderley\n\n## Wedding showers\n\nOnce referred to as a bridal shower, today’s [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-bridal-shower-and-what-is-its-purpose) is more inclusive than its formerly women-only predecessor ([read more about the difference here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one)). While you can keep it to just the ladies if you’d like, the main focus of this event is to shower the happy couple with gifts, which can take on several forms. Guests can bring items off the [couple’s registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), or the event can be [themed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridal-shower-themes). Think of giving articles related to experiences or stocking the couple’s bar.\n\nIt’s probably best to let someone else handle the hosting and inviting for your [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-shower-guide). But that doesn’t mean you need to be hands-off. Talk to your sibling, best man, maid of honor, or parent—all appropriate choices for hosting a shower—about a theme and what type of gifts you’d like. Invite close friends and family members, and hold the event two to three months before the wedding. Do it at someone’s home or somewhere else that gives off intimate, celebratory vibes.\n\n### So, then, what is a bridal shower?\n\nA traditional [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) celebrates the bride and is a gathering of her closest friends and family, typically all female. It’s often thrown by the bride’s side of the family and her bridal party, but it has evolved into an “anything goes” event for cost responsibility. The key difference here is that the focus is on the bride.\n\n### What is a Jack and Jill party?\n\nA Jack and Jill party is a modern, inclusive way to celebrate both sides of the couple at once before the big day. It mixes sides and genders and is usually more laid back in a way more and more couples are choosing. It’s a chance to celebrate the couple together with everyone they love. If your coed curious, read more about the [pros and cons of having a coed wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower).\n\n__Expert advice:__ Find [wedding or bridal shower invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) of all styles on Zola. You can even match them to your [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)! \n\nFor more expert tips, explore all of our [wedding shower articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/wedding-shower).\n\n## Bach parties\n\nToday’s couples have reframed the bachelor or bachelorette party to be more classy while still partying and making memories with people they are close to. Think about inviting your bridal party, siblings, and close friends—as long as they don’t feel stilted by not being asked to be an attendant.\n\nIt’s perfectly appropriate for you to host this event yourself. Your wedding party can also take the reins. Often, bachelor and bachelorette parties have everyone pay their own way, especially if you jet-set out of town for a long weekend. That said, this pre-wedding celebration is more about getting together and being festive than major expenses. So, feel free to be flexible so everyone involved can celebrate leading up to your wedding day.\n\n### Bachelorette parties\n[Bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties) celebrate the bride-to-be and can be anything from an elevated brunch, a night on the town, or weekend away somewhere festive. Most importantly, they should reflect the bachelorette’s personality and wishes and be a gathering of her nearest and dearest. \n\nRead our full [guide to planning a bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelorette-party) for more deets. \n\n### Bachelor parties\n\n[Bachelor parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelor-party) honor, you’ve guessed it — the bachelor. It’s basically just a gathering of the groom’s best friends and family spending time together. Normally, they do what the groom enjoys most whether it be sports, hiking, the casino — anything goes. \n\nCheck out [47 bachelor party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas) to find something for every groom.\n\n### Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette parties\n\nBrides, grooms, and same-sex couples looking for ways to celebrate together might opt for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. ‘Bachelorx’ as some call it, is much more than a coed party – it's a fun and inclusive way to focus pre-wedding festivities on the couple as a whole. \n\nCheck out [how to throw a joint bach party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party-games) for the step-by-step. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Get answers to all of your bach party questions, from theme ideas to planning guides to gift inspiration. Find everything [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelorette-party) or [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelor-party) in our expert advice sectionon. \n\n![Melike Benli - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5z3OG5MnN3cpIavaOqAcrX/0b0cc0586ce31c6d2b89c163a6a6ef16/Inline_2.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Melike Benli\n\n## Aufruf\n\nJewish culture has many celebrations, such as Hanukkah and Yom Kippur, but a wedding-centric event that many look forward to is the Aufruf. Yiddish for “calling up,” the Aufruf is traditionally only meant for the groom, although in more modern synagogues, both partners can participate. The entire congregation takes part in this pre-wedding tradition, which happens at the temple the Saturday before the wedding.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the groom will give a blessing over the Torah. Inviting friends and family to the service is appropriate since this is a public display. However, dash all thoughts of the Aufruf being solemn. Sometimes, the rabbi will give the couple candy, signifying a sweet union and fruitfulness throughout the marriage. Some folks will also schedule a post-Aufruf meal to continue the festivities, depending on the circumstances. Additionally, the Aufruf is not to be confused with Shabbat Chatan, which is also for the groom but takes place after the big day.\n\n## Mehndi party\n\nBorrowing beautiful influences from Hindu and [Muslim traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/muslim-wedding-checklist), the mehndi party is a unique way to celebrate while focusing on self and practicing ancient rituals. Also known as a henna party, this event is generally held by the bride’s parents and involves placing beautiful, intricate designs on the bride’s hands and feet using henna dye.\n\nToday’s celebrations often include other close family members and friends of the bride. Because these events can take hours—depending on how many henna artists are available and the intricacy of the designs—hosting at a spa, home, or Airbnb can be a nice touch. Henna also darkens over time, so if you’d like to have these designs on your hands and feet for your wedding day, it’s best to have henna applied three days beforehand to allow the natural ink to darken.\n\n## Welcome party \n\nIf you’re having a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist) (or a [wedding weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/plan-wedding-weekend) people are traveling in for), it’s customary to have some form of welcome reception when your guests arrive at the wedding location. \n\nThis differs from the rehearsal dinner—which typically happens the night before the wedding and only hosts the bridal party and your closest family. \n\nA wedding welcome party can be as casual as welcome drinks or a barbecue once everyone arrives and settles in. It can also be as extravagant as your budget and style preferences allow. Just remember that it’s optional. \n\n## Sangeet \n\nOften celebrated in India, sangeet is all about merriment with many family and friends. As a result, the number of folks invited to sangeet will often outnumber the wedding reception. Folks get together to party — sing, dance, eat, drink — before the big day to showcase their support for the couple and gather with those they haven’t seen in a while. Because this is a large celebration, hosts can often vary and may depend on the number of guests invited.\n\nBecause of the higher guest count, hosting should happen at a [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) or another location that can hold many people. Although, sometimes, the sangeet will include a smaller number of guests. When it comes to pre-wedding events, sangeets are one of the most flexible, meaning that the location, who hosts, and its proximity to the wedding day can all vary. However, one thing sangeets have in common is the presence of music, which is no wonder since the word means “music” in Sanskrit.\n\n## Rehearsal dinner \n\nThe [rehearsal dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas) follows your wedding rehearsal, in which your officiant or wedding planner guides you and everyone involved through your wedding ceremony. Along with these people, it’s nice to [invite any close family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-to-invite-to-a-rehearsal-dinner) who are wedding guests, as well as those traveling in. \n\nAs expected, the rehearsal dinner is usually the evening before your wedding. As such, it’s best to host it somewhere close to the wedding venue. Choose a restaurant close by or see if your ceremony venue has a space that is not already dedicated to your wedding reception.\n\n## Wedding party/bridal luncheon \n\nIt’s always great to get together with your wedding party. Plus, if you’re a groom who wants to hold a groomsmen’s brunch, go for it! Traditionally, a bridesmaids or wedding party luncheon or brunch is a meal for bridesmaids and/or groomsmen focused on socializing the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party). Breaking the ice before the big day is a fantastic way to set the tone. \n\nThe bridesmaids’ brunch usually takes place at a restaurant, café, or loved one’s home. If you’d like to host this event, feel free to take the reins. As for when it takes place, that comes down to your personal preference and everyone’s schedules. If everyone is local, picking a date should be simple, but if a few are long-distance, the event may have to take place closer to your [wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101/wedding-day).\n\n## After party \n\nJust because the DJ has played the last song and the lights have come up doesn’t mean the party has to be over. It’s becoming more and more common for couples to host an after party that is, quite literally, after the party. \n\nThis after-hours event usually involves extra cocktails and snacks, is in a different location than the reception itself, and can help to keep the party going. And going, and going. Find the best DJs and live bands for your after party on [Zola’s Vendor Marketplace](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-bands-djs).\n\n## Farewell brunch \n\nThe final culminating event of a wedding celebration is the [farewell brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fun-post-wedding-brunch-invitation-ideas). It can be hosted by the couple, the families, a close relative, or anyone else who offers. It’s typically reserved for guests who’ve spent the night in a designated hotel or resort.\n\nThe farewell brunch gives your guests a chance to regroup, enjoying breakfast and coffee before heading on their merry way. It’s not a mandatory event, but it’s definitely nice to have for both the couple and their guests. As a result, it’s a relatively easy way to put the cherry on top of a great wedding. \n\n## Final thoughts on extra wedding events\n\nAs you can see, weddings can be as simple as the ceremony and reception itself. Or can be a true series of parties and events that lead up to and even continue after the wedding itself. There are no obligations or limits to the amount of wedding fun you can have.\n\nOthers want to honor and celebrate you—both on and before your big day. Incorporating one or more of these wedding festivities gives you more opportunities to spend time and celebrate with everyone you love. The best part? You don’t have to get overwhelmed with planning everything when you’ve got Zola on your team. Get instant access to our full suite of free wedding planning tools when you [sign up](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Need to know what delectable delights are right for you and your guests? Here are our tips for planning your bridal shower menu.","title":"Top 20 Bridal Shower Food Ideas","slug":"what-food-to-serve-at-your-bridal-shower","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1BOn3idAlUsoOONoa9Hrnm/5cdf2e6d3ed2fe2a5ec6913261d1ba8a/Hero_Unsplash_MaddiBazzocco.jpg","altText":"Food to Serve at Your Bridal Shower"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success. 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","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-02-02T03:36:20.747Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"If you’re throwing an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-engagement-party) for a newly engaged couple, you might feel a tad overwhelmed by the pressure to pull off a perfect soirée. After all, this might be the very first event that the pair has attended as an engaged couple, and the first in a series of celebrations leading up to their actual wedding. And since this party is being held in their honor, the couple might have high expectations as they ride the giddy high of being newly engaged. \n\nBut if you’ve hosted other parties in the past, then never fear: putting together an engagement party is a lot like planning a typical luncheon or mixer. If you need help with themes or inspiration, check out these [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas). Follow these step-by-step instructions on engagement party planning to achieve guaranteed hosting success. \n\n## What is an Engagement Party?\nBefore jumping into planning, let’s cover the basics. Namely, what an engagement party is and the purpose it serves. Just as the name implies, an engagement party is a party thrown to celebrate and congratulate a couple on getting engaged. It usually takes place soon after an engagement and can also serve to introduce loved ones that may be seeing a lot more of each-other between now and the wedding (say, at a bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and on the big day). Think workplace friends and family members that haven’t met before.\n\nEngagement parties are traditionally thrown by the bride’s family, but modern couples can choose to host theirs themselves, as well as a variety of loved ones.\n\nIf you happen to be hosting, follow the below steps to ensure the engagement party runs smoothly and is an all-around success. \n\n![engagement-party-cheers](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2NcBqknXzNb74xgrcfF7FI/e5144796ec84fab5228489d88e2dcd7c/engagement-party-cheers.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 1. Decide Who Should Host The Engagement Party \nYour first step is to decide who will host. Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party, but nowadays anyone who feels compelled may throw this pre-wedding kickoff event. The couple themselves can even host their own engagement party, if they so choose. \n\nIf someone other than the bride’s parents plan to host, it’s a good idea to check in with them at the outset to make sure there are no stepped-on toes, and to confirm they are not also planning an engagement party. \n\nThat being said, having more than one engagement party is perfectly acceptable so long as the guest lists do not overlap beyond immediate family. Members of the wedding party can also be invited to both parties.\n\n### 2. Talk With The Couple About What Kind of Party They Want\nAs the party host, you are doing an act of kindness by throwing the pair an engagement party, and as such you have control over what kind of event you’d like to plan. However, getting the input of the couple ahead of time is always a good idea to make sure they will have a good time at the celebration in their honor. Do they want a daytime or an evening affair? Would they prefer something very casual, like a backyard BBQ, or something a tad fancier like a cocktail party? How large or small a party would they prefer? Ask them about their preferred engagement party themes, locations, and times before setting anything in stone. \n\n### 3. Set The Date and Location for The Engagement Party\nConsult with the bride/groom to nail down a date that works for everyone’s schedules, including any VIP guests that the couple would like to attend (such as parents and siblings). An ideal engagement party date should be anywhere from a few weeks to a month or two after the proposal. Engagement parties should occur before any other pre-wedding celebrations, however. \n\nThe location of an engagement party can really vary based upon preference. Decide if you would like the party to be at a private home or in a public space: the house or yard of the couple, one of their families, or a standalone host are all good options, as are private rooms or sections of local restaurants and bars. \n\n### 4. Assign a Rough Engagement Party Budget\nHaving a financial total in mind will help inform the rest of your decisions and keep expectations in line. If you have more money to spend, you could consider hosting an intimate group at a sit-down restaurant or splurging on catering services that include servers and bartenders. If your budget is tight, everyone will still have a blast toasting the happy couple in a backyard or living room over burgers and beers. \n\n### 5. Make an Engagement Party Guest List\nYour next step is to create an engagement party guest list. Have the couple give you a list of people they’d like to invite—or, if you’re hosting your own party, sit down with your fiancé(e) and make this list together. Include names, emails, phone numbers, and mailing addresses for all guests, as this will make sending out engagement party invitations much easier. \n\nRemember that everyone invited to the engagement party should also be invited to the wedding. If you’re not yet sure who will make the cut for your wedding guest list, err on the side of safety and invite only those people you’re absolutely sure will receive a wedding invitation, such as: \n\n- The bride/groom’s parents\n- The bride/groom’s siblings\n- Members of the wedding party \n- Very close friends of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n- Close relatives of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n\n### 6. Order Invitations (or Create Digital Invites)\nIf the engagement party will be smaller and/or on the formal side, [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are a classy way to share the news about the party with invited guests. To be safe, order custom paper invitations at least six weeks before the party date so you’ll have plenty of time to receive them and mail them out. For less formal engagement parties, or those with larger guest lists, digital invitations work perfectly fine. \n\nSend invitations through the post or by email at least three weeks from the party date. Be sure to include the following information on the invitation: \n\n- The occasion, including the names of the bride(s)/groom(s)\n- The date, time, and location of the party\n- Suggested attire and/or an indication of formality\n- An RSVP method (either phone, email, or digitally for online invitations)\n- An RSVP deadline\n\n### 7. Register for Gifts \nBe sure the couple has set up a [Zola Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) by the time the invitations are sent out. Although not required, it’s customary for guests to bring a gift for the happy pair. Registering early—before the engagement party–will ensure that guests can shop for, and the couple will receive, gifts that they truly want. \n\n![How Many Gifts to Register for Your Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1E1cy3nyuGNZUdTe31hinD/afbc1b096a4467d02b36e839dab7019a/inline_zola_lecreuset_lecreuset_16pc_dinnerware_set_carribean_01.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n### 8. Create The Menu and Order Catering, if Necessary \nCome up with a plan for what type of food will be served. If you’re throwing the engagement party at a restaurant, work with the event staff to create a menu that fits your budget. If you’re partying at a home, decide whether you are up to the challenge of cooking the party food yourself or whether you’ll need to hire a caterer, based upon the extravagance and size of the menu. \n\nIf you opt to have the party catered, research and hire a local caterer that can execute your menu ideas within your budget. Be sure to get a price quote and confirm delivery, setup, and service details so there are no surprises.\n\nIf the hosts are handling the food themselves, map out a timeline for when to shop for ingredients and supplies, when to prep, when to cook, and when to plate and serve the food. \n\n### 9. Choose a List of Beverages and/or Specialty Drinks to Serve\nThe kind of drinks you serve at an engagement party vary depending on the party’s location, theme, mood, and menu. It’s a great idea to find out what kinds of beverages the couple enjoys so you can be sure to choose a bar menu that reflects their tastes. Here are a few tips when it comes to drinks for an engagement party: \n\n- Be sure to stock up on plenty of bubbly! Engagement parties are prime occasions for lots of toasting and champagne-sipping. \n- Decide on one or two specialty cocktails that can be prepared in bulk in advance. This will cut down on the amount of time you or another host will need to spend making drinks for guests throughout the night. It’s a cute touch to include the couple’s favorite drink(s), either individually or together.\n- Buy bottles of wine, liquor, beer, mixers, sparkling water, mineral water, and/or juice at bulk retailers for better discounts. \n- Don’t forget bar accessories like festive straws, cocktail napkins, bottle openers, and cut lemons and limes.\n\n### 10. Decide Upon The Party Décor, and Shop for Any Needed Supplies\nAs we’ve said before, pretty much anything goes when it comes to the theme and formality of engagement parties. Come up with a few, key decorative elements to match the party vibe you’re going for, and shop for them now. This may include fresh flowers in pretty vessels, candles, garlands, balloons, framed photos of the couple, or anything else that coordinates with the look and mood you’ve got in mind. \n\n### 11. Stock Up on Partyware Essentials, such as: \n- Disposable plates, cups, and utensils\n- Napkins and table linens\n- Trash bags\n- Paper towels and stain remover, in case of spills \n- Ice & ice cooler\n\nOf course, if the engagement party is located at an event space, restaurant, or bar, some or all of these items might be covered by the venue. \n\n### 12. One Day Before, Set up as much as Possible (Based on the Location), Including: \n- Décor\n- The bar table/area\n- The gifts table/area\n- Make-ahead food & drink items \n\n### 13. On The Day of The Party: \n- Prep all the final details\n- Get dressed in your finest party clothes\n- Get to the party location a few hours early to finish setting everything up\n- Raise a glass to the happy couple and enjoy a wonderful engagement party! \n\n![Bachelor Party Decoration Must-Haves](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DYhO5jGlyykOqqLbxDlJr/6be910a8d8b23887782859575b587b1d/inline_shutterstock2.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## Engagement Party Etiquette\nWith the steps of planning an engagement party covered, let’s walk through some [etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party). While putting the event together is one thing, there are a few courtesies worthy of reminders. Whether you’re unsure of who pays for what or who all gets invited, read on.\n\n### When should an engagement party be thrown?\nTypically, engagement parties take place fairly soon after an engagement, allowing everyone to celebrate in a timely matter. That being said, if you’re having a longer engagement or can’t gather everyone that soon, a small push back usually isn’t a problem.\n\n### Who’s invited to an engagement party?\nAs mentioned previously, anyone who’s invited to your engagement party should also be someone you plan on inviting to your wedding. This goes for all pre-wedding events, such as bach bashes, bridal brunches, and showers. If you aren’t sure of your full guest list yet, keep it to your family and closest friends.\n\n### Can a couple have more than one engagement party?\nIn short, yes. In fact, this is fairly common for couples with different hometowns and/or groups of friends who might also want to throw you something a bit more informal (e.g. after-work drinks or a smaller weekend get-together).\n\n### How should you go about a gift registry?\nWhile it’s a good idea to have a registry with a decent amount of items prepared, it isn’t in good etiquette to suggest that a gift is require (e.g. putting the link on the party invitations). Rather, if you’ve already created your wedding website, connect it to that. Otherwise, rely on word of mouth.\n\n### Who should meet before the engagement party?\nOne good reason to throw an engagement party is to allow people who will be seeing more of each other leading up to the wedding to meet. That being said, this isn’t the time or place for everyone to meet for the first time. Both sets of parents—as well as any close siblings—should meet prior, in a more intimate setting that allows them to comfortably talk at length.\n\nWedding planning often consists of putting together several celebratory events leading up to the big day. Keep this to-do list top-of-mind to ensure you pull of a fun and successful engagement party. And if you find yourself in need of some help in other stags of wedding planning, [we’ve got you covered](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Plan a bachelorette party that will delight your bride-to-be with this this step-by-step planning timeline that covers everything you need to think about, plan for, and arrange in advance for a great bachelorette weekend. 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","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:18:34.928Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hHh4BzTMrcEMTF8JcGLD5/60cff28dd9c218fde75dba6d26c5f90c/Inline_stocksy.png","altText":"Wedding engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Stocksy","body":"Planning the engagement party is the first in a series of social events that are centered around the biggest one of them all––the wedding. The party itself is a way to celebrate the couple and their engagement. It's a chance for both friends and loved ones of the soon-to-be-married couple to come together and make a toast for the bride and groom’s new life together.\n\nWhen you've finally said “Yes” and people find out the great news, you’ll be flooded with good wishes. Having an engagement party is a great way to both celebrate this happy occasion, but is also a chance for members of the family from both sides, as well as close friends and members of the wedding party, to meet one another. \n\nThis might even mean that family members, such as your parents, are meeting for the first time. With the upcoming wedding, having a party to celebrate the engagement is a great way to set the tone and also get the ball rolling with some of the larger planning details that come with a wedding. It can also help ease the tension of everyone meeting extended family and friends in an intimate setting.\n\n## Do You Need One?\n\nThe larger intention behind the party is to have everyone come together to celebrate the engagement and to get to know one another from the couple's lives in a casual way. When you’re planning the party, it’s customary to host the gathering within two to three months of the engagement. This is also the period when getting engaged is still new and exciting. \n\n## How to Host an Engagement Party\n\nTimes have changed, and what was once a very stuffy and formal affair, has since morphed into a very individualistic event. The great thing about the party, and the wedding itself, is that it can be as formal or informal as you like. There are no hard or fast rules as to how to throw an engagement party, and it's really about doing what makes the most sense for you. \n\nWhether you're a relaxed kind of couple and prefer a BBQ in the backyard, or you want to spring for a seated dinner with formal attire, or head to your favorite restaurant or banquet hall, these are all great options depending on the kind of engagement party that you want to throw. It's really about coming together to celebrate you and your partner and the next chapter of your life.\n\nTraditionally, the bride's parents host the first official celebration, and sometimes the groom's parents host their part (and let’s be honest two parties are way more fun than one). Although this is what people have done in the past, it doesn't mean that you have to do it this way. In some cases, both sets of parents will throw a combined party, sometimes it's a close relative or even friends of the couple that takes on the honor. And, sometimes, even the engaged couple will host their party.\n\nThe party is really about bringing together everyone in your life that you care about and having them share in the excitement with you. One additional note about the party is that whoever is hosting is generally fitting the bill as well, so keep that in mind when you’re moving forward with your engagement party planning. \n\n## Keep the Event Slightly Understated\n\n![What Is an Engagement Party? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Yriwjjtr6mEpMFBCtHXkV/21cf4efb2fcb6a6729fa084fde622bc1/Inline_stocksy__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Stocksy\n\nYou also don't want your engagement party to be the biggest event of all. Think about it as a prelude to the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) and the wedding, which is the most important event of them all. When coming up with the guestlist for the party, it helps to keep things on the smaller end, plus it makes it more manageable in the long run. Remember, not everyone you invite to a wedding needs to come to an engagement party. The larger point of the party is to have guests become acquainted with one another and to take part in this special moment with the happy couple. \n\nYou'll also want to give guests at least a month's notice so that they can plan accordingly. Remember to send out your [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (either through snail mail or digital) at least a month before. If you’re having guests from out-of-state, give them a six-week window so that they can plan their travel arrangements accordingly. \n\nAt the actual engagement party, everyone will meet and socialize over delicious food, drinks, and, sometimes, even engagement party games and dancing. It's a time for people to congratulate you, and typically you'll be given customized gifts echoing these sentiments. As the host of the party, you'll want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and that there’s enough food and beverages, seating, and all of the other elements that make a successful party. It’s also customary for whoever is hosting the event to give a toast to the soon-to-be bride and groom.\n\nThe party is meant to be fun and all about celebrating the new life that the bride and groom will have together. However, you choose to plan it, remember it’s about you and your partner at the end of the day. This is about your wedding journey, and the engagement party is just the kickoff of the next chapter in your life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Throwing an engagement party and wondering who to invite? 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Read our guide to hosting.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:43:26.762Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3cIRZa2bmTKPTmsVClWiAO/05f9f7ce61cc50b997657ac6af37c51f/inline_unsplash__25_.jpg","altText":"who hosts the engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Congratulations, you just got engaged! There’s much to be excited about at this time—including your engagement celebration. Having an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is by no means required of you, but it is a fun way for you, your partner, and your loved ones to get together and celebrate this joyous news. Typically, this the first of many pre-wedding party celebrations, with possible bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, a rehearsal dinner, and, of course, your nuptials coming further down the line.\n\nBetween all of the wedding planning and aforementioned wedding celebrations, it can be hard to keep track of good etiquette. Each event seems to have its own recommended tips, which can get confusing. With that in mind, we’ve put together the following guide. Not only will we answer any engagement party etiquette questions you may have, but help you have the best engagement party for you. Read on for all of the need-to-knows.\n\n## Who Throws the Engagement Party?\nTraditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the bride’s parents. This tradition started centuries ago; given today’s larger views about gender, this can be viewed as a little dated. Back then, many people thought they were attending a regular party. Then, at the end, the father of the bride would make the big [engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).\n\nToday, a lot of things have shifted in terms of how people view the traditions associated with weddings and the [engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) around it. Namely, hosting has become more relaxed. Nowadays, when trying to determine who’s supposed to host the engagement party, it's not uncommon for close friends of the engaged couple, or even the couple, to host the engagement party themselves. And, in some instances, there may even be multiple engagement parties thrown by multiple people (the parents of the bride, the groom’s parents, close friends, siblings, etc.).\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UIWv3U2gB0NakR7z2bpSX/3dc856d0f4b94986fcbe8b495f6e65a6/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nThat said, usually both friends and family attend the party, since it’s a great way for everyone to meet one another. The main takeaway is that there is no one right way to decide who hosts an engagement party. Every couple has to decide what works for them, whether that be the bride’s parents, friends of the couple, or the couple themselves choosing to host.\n\n## Who Pays for the Party?\nOne major factor to keep in mind is that, whoever ends up hosting the event—whether it be the engaged couple, their friends, or [family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)—is generally expected to pick up the bill for it. This is part of being a good host/hostess. However, there are a variety of ways to handle this.\n\nPerhaps the event is hosted by a few of your close friends and they choose to divvy up the tasks. For example, one person could have the event held at their house, while another close friend could provide the beverages, and someone else could offer to cover the cost of food. Or, another option might be to have the party at an event space, then divide the cost by all individuals who offered to have it. The same process could be applied to family or groups of any kind.\n\n## How Long After Engagement Do You Have Engagement Party?\nA key logistic—and one of the first—that needs to be decided is the date of your engagement party. This will largely effect your venue options and time available planning, as well as guests’ availability. Most often, a couple’s engagement party will take place within the first few months of engagement, while everyone is still caught up in the excitement and newness of it all. We recommend anything between a week and three months after the proposal. If most of your loved ones are local (or, perhaps you want to announce your engagement at the party), one to four weeks is ideal. On the other hand, if you’d like to plan something a bit more involved, you can definitely take a few more weeks to plan or gather everyone.\n\n## How Formal Should the Dress Code Be?\nLike every other detail of your celebration, the dress code is entirely decided on by you. Meaning, it definitely varies, depending on a couple’s personal taste and choice of engagement party. For example, if you’re hosting a backyard BBQ, you can encourage casual, comfortable attire. If, instead, you’re throwing a cocktail party, you may want to ask your guests to dress appropriately in cocktail attire. A helpful tip in deciding on your dress code is to consider your venue. What someone assumes they should wear to a country club is going to differ from what they think they should wear to a night-out bash.\n\nIn any case, be sure to include this piece of information on your engagement party invitation. Depending on what you think is best, your description can be general (‘casual,’ ‘cocktail attire’) or a little more descriptive.\n\n## Who to Invite to the Engagement Party\nNow to tackle what might be the most challenging aspect of your party: The guest list. No fear—while this can initially come off as an intimidating task, there are a few pieces of etiquette that can make the process smooth sailing.\n\nTo start, engagement party etiquette generally says that every person you invite—from relatives to close friends—should also be a wedding guest of yours down the line. Keeping your engagement celebration to these people helps avoid any uncomfortable situations once wedding invitations go out. You want to avoid confusion and blind-sidedness from those close to you who expected an invitation, but didn’t get one.\n\nHowever, there are a couple exceptions to this rule. For example, if you’re planning a destination wedding not many people will be able to attend. Similarly, times have changed and it’s no longer seen as bad etiquette to host a small, intimate wedding and a larger, more inclusive engagement party. Just remember to be honest and tactful with guests.\n\n## When (and How) to Send the Invitations\nWith the details and guests list all set, all there’s left for you to do is create and send out [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas). (Note that these differ from [engagement announcements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).) Since engagement parties typically take place rather quickly, it’s ideal that you get them sent out as soon as possible. This will allow your guests to adequately prepare, from taking off work, to travel logistics, to purchasing an engagement party gift. If you’re planning something fairly impromptu, you can speed up the process by sending out evites to your guest list. Just make sure you have an RSVP system in place (like text confirmations or [Zola’s wedding website RSVP tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests)). Otherwise, if your celebration isn’t for a few weeks, you can mail out or hand-deliver paper invitations.\n\n## Time for a Toast\nA final aspect to consider is the toast. Usually, the party might start off with a toast by the hosts of the event, followed by the parents of the engaged couple, family members, and close friends. Perhaps some co-workers or acquaintances might add a few words as well. If you choose to go the more traditional route, the couple will toast one another. Also, the couple will conclude the event by thanking their hosts and company for coming to celebrate with them as well.\n\nThere are no hard-and-fast rules as to who should host and how to go about having an engagement party. For couples who decide to host it themselves, this can free you up to plan things as you see fit and to scale the party up or down as you choose. In some instances where the engaged couple hosts the party, they can even use it as a chance to announce their big news to their family, loved ones, or friends.\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Mcbjra8w2CoUTt9xUd0VP/a19c799c2fcd58b7845c7fa0853815b9/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nHaving an engagement party is entirely optional and should be a no-stress event. At the end of the day, you have to decide what works for you. However you choose to have your engagement party, the focus of it should be on the couple’s impending big day and how they are building a new life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t know what an engagement party is or if you should host one? Find out now. 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","author":"Jane Chertoff","publishedAt":"2021-02-11T15:41:33.535Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ukk7KJGJMQJS49Rcto1ua/18fb36870f3765e9dc1d9b9e7539e90c/Hero_Zola__46_.jpg","altText":"Zoom Engagement Party"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Planning a Zoom engagement party starts the same as if you were planning a party IRL: Create a guest list, send out an evite, and assign a “host” or MC for the event. \n- Be sure to stick to a schedule throughout the event for introductions, toasts, games, activities, and goodbyes. \n- Make the Zoom session more festive with a custom background, making guests wear a certain color, or sending out party favors ahead of time.","body":"Getting engaged is reason enough for celebration—no matter what’s going on in the world around you. Of course, celebrating your engagement in the middle of a global pandemic does present its challenges. For obvious reasons, the epic party at a bar with 100 of your closest friends and family is certainly out. (Safety first.) You could wait until next year to celebrate, but why hold out? You can go online and do it up right on Zoom anytime. \n\nWe know, we know. Having a virtual engagement party over Zoom is probably far from what you had in mind, but it can still be a lovely way to come together during these challenging times—and rest assured, it’ll still be great. “You can still make your engagement party feel fun and festive, even when everyone is on Zoom,” assures Kourtney Perry, founder of [7 Centerpieces](https://www.7centerpieces.com/) in Houston, Texas. \n\n![How to Plan a Zoom Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/41Su3agdFUhhT46TS4Aqjx/10cc321afd61dcf9183967c7e290623b/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\n## Make a Guest List \nYour first step is to think about the guest list, just as if you were party planning for having an engagement party in person. You can choose to invite all of your family and friends at once, or break it up and have separate parties, one for close family and another for friends. You could also have a separate Zoom session for just the wedding party. \n\nThe nice thing about going online is that there aren't extra costs for inviting more people, so it’s possible to include your co-workers, neighbors, or anyone you want. Just make sure that you have everyone’s emails handy when you create the guest list.\n\n## Set the Tone With the Invitation \nThe invite sets the tone for the party, explains Keith Willard, president of [Keith Willard Events](https://www.instagram.com/keithwillard/) in Florida. That’s why you’ll want to be as specific as possible. “There is nothing worse than receiving an invite that is ambiguous,” he says. “Have clear instructions. Having a really specific date and time that also defines a time zone is a must.” Don’t forget to include an end time (so guests know exactly how long they’ll be with you.) \n\nEvites are best for a Zoom party because you can include the Zoom link and login instructions directly in the email. (If some of your attendees aren’t big on email, you could also send a text message.) You can also build and create a [Virtual Event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-host-your-virtual-event-on-zola) at Zola that helps host everything in one place.\n\n## Assign a Host\n\n![How to Plan a Zoom Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6JgGh0DR8mb2Dn0wkedHpv/0e7199047c86012c35768282809e8346/inline_shutterstock2.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nIf the party doesn’t already have a designated host (or multiple hosts or hostesses), consider assigning someone, such as a close friend, who can take on the task. The engaged couple could also host themselves.\n\nThink of the host as your MC for the afternoon or evening. They may start by thanking everyone for joining, introduce the future happy couple, unmute those who are going to be giving toasts (or anyone who wants to speak when it's time) and kick off the games or activities portion of the party. \n\n## Make It Festive \nNow that you’ve got the guest list nailed down and the invite sent, think about how you can make the party a bit more festive for guests. That might mean emailing something to guests ahead of time or picking a theme or color. “The goal with Zoom parties right now is to be as inclusive as possible,” says Jessica Dalka, owner of Chicago Planner Magazine. “One fun way to do this is to send attendees a care package. Create a fun little box of party favors, and include some celebratory items. Depending on how spread out everyone is and the budget, you can also send food or desserts to everyone to enjoy during the party.” \n\nOther festive ideas include: \n\n- __Custom background:__ “Zoom has an option for a virtual background without the need for a green screen,” Willard says. Creating a unique background for each of your guests is an expensive way to create inclusion and have some fun. And, if you have a particularly crafty group, give them some website options to build their background and see what people come up with. This will give everyone some conversation starters.” You could even turn it into a contest and give a prize to the most creative background. \n- __Champagne and flowers:__ Bubbly, anyone? “Recently I sent guests a box that included a small bottle of bubbly, a couple of champagne glasses, and dried flowers that participants could set up given the camera,” Willard says. “When it came time to toast the couple, everyone was pouring the same Champagne into matching glasses with a small arrangement of similar flowers within view.”\n- __Color theme:__ “Choose a specific color and request everyone wear it for the engagement party. You might even request specific attire (eg., semi-formal, casual chic, etc.) in conjunction with the requested attire color,” recommends Perry. “This way, guests feel involved even before they log on to the Zoom party and it creates anticipation and expectancy for the event.”\n- __Have a signature drink:__ “Send out a signature drink recipe before the event and request that guests make it and join you for a celebratory drink to commemorate your new engagement,” Perry suggests. Just like if you were partying at a bar IRL. \n\n## Include Games or Activities \nGames or activities are a must—include them in a schedule and choose something that everyone can participate in. Some ideas include trivia about the couple (“Who knows the couple best?”) or have the couple participate in games “Newlywed” style to find out just how well they know each other. \n\nIf you aren’t into games, you could also have a special guest appearance appear, recommends Willard. “Having a guest appearance by your favorite chef who will walk everyone through building a meal out of the charcuterie board, or a florist that helps everyone build a centerpiece out of flowers that were sent ahead of time, will help pull everyone into the moment,” he says.\n\n## Raise a Glass \nDesignating specific guests to give toasts at a certain point in the party is another wonderful way to celebrate your engagement, but it’s entirely optional. If you do want guests to give toasts, make sure that they know ahead of time, so that they’re prepared. Be sure to give them a specific time limit to avoid them going on and on (one to five minutes is plenty.) You could also open up the mic at the end of the party and give anyone who is interested a chance to offer their congratulations. \n\n*Looking for more virtual event planning into? Zola’s [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) has you covered.* ","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? 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Read our guide to decide who makes the cut.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:47:19.387Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25SBopO9NY1WkTuKP5Y9q0/f2e532633c374115ed1bc2a53480aca6/inline_unsplsh.jpg","altText":"Engagement party guests"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"With wedding planning, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is the first thing on many couples' lists as they look forward to the big day. Often this party can serve as a way to celebrate your newly engaged status, and for some couples, this may even be where you make the big __[engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101)__.\n\nHowever you choose to organize your party, the guest list is one of the biggest elements to tackle. Who do you invite to the engagement party now that you're engaged?\n\nThere are a few different scenarios you may find yourself in. When you're putting together your engagement party guest list, one big factor to consider is who __[hosts the engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party)__. Ultimately, the host will get the final say on headcount—with the happy couple's input, of course.\n\nUnlike other pre-wedding celebrations, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) tends to be more open-ended in terms of how people approach it. And nowadays, many couples even host their own party. Sometimes, a friend or even the bride or groom’s parents host instead. You may have many wedding etiquette questions about your engagement celebration guest list, and Zola has the answers.\n\n## Who Should I invite?\nLots of folks probably come to mind, from your close loved ones to family members you only see once every few years. Although you shouldn’t feel pressured to invite everyone on your wedding guest list, here’s who should come to your celebration for the newly engaged couple. \n\n- Bride’s Parents and Groom’s Parents — Essentially, it’s important to invite each set of parents. You must consider your family dynamics and current relationships with those folks if you have divorced families. In this case, discuss this with your partner, and do what you’re comfortable with.\n\n- Immediate Family Members — Invite siblings and any family members you’re especially close to, such as an aunt or your grandparents. Even if some of these family members are out of town, you should invite them out of honor and respect.\n\n- Wedding Party — Bridesmaids and groomsmen are close enough to you to be in the wedding, so they should certainly make the engagement party guest list.\n\n- Closest Friends — Again, don’t feel obligated to invite each and every one of the bride-to-be’s friends but limit the event to those closest to you. A lot of this depends on how many folks you want in attendance at your celebration.\n\n### Should I Limit the Guest List?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4iXslAgW7yyhKHQ7vo1aiv/71dc9f2dca8497cb5fba07a948fba41c/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nWhen you're deciding who should come, there are a few things to consider. As a rule of thumb, if you invite someone to the engagement celebration, they should also get a wedding invitation. That doesn't mean you must invite everyone to the engagement party. Instead of a huge bash, many couples decide to have a more intimate celebration, which means a smaller engagement party that’s more manageable to plan. Limiting the guest list can also help keep the cost of the event in check. \n\nGenerally speaking, both sets of parents of the engaged couple should be invited, as well as step-parents and grandparents, siblings, close aunts, uncles, and cousins, as well as members of your bridal party (if you're organized and know who they are), and of course, close friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. That said, some couples decide to make it a small get-together and may invite only family or friends to a small brunch. \n\n### Do I Need to Invite Everyone?\nIn some instances, whether it be due to family obligations or a couple's background, they may invite all wedding guests to the engagement party. If you can invite everyone to the engagement party, remember that this is still the first pre-wedding party leading up to the actual wedding. The tone of the engagement party should be different from the wedding. While it's still celebratory, remember it's still not a wedding.\n\n### Can I Have Two Parties?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/610DuvVYhcIWiOTMmqwYb9/5cfff899156238dcea1b4bcb2f868002/inline_unsplsh.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nSometimes an engaged couple may decide to have two different parties. If both people getting married have large extended families, having a party for just the two sides is a great option. In this case, having a second party just for your friends could also be a good decision. \n\nOne thing to keep in mind regarding __[engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ is that if you do decide to have two parties, don't invite the same people to both. It will defeat the purpose and could get confusing for the guests. Another option is to have a more traditional event with family and then party with friends during a different type of celebration. The choice is yours!\n\n### Who Not to Invite?\nWhen you're looking to make some cuts to your list, there are some folks you can consider not inviting. Generally speaking, inviting an ex to an engagement party probably isn't the best idea. While you may have maintained a friendship after the relationship ended, inviting them to the engagement party might be awkward for your significant other—unless you’ve already discussed it.\n\nDepending on the kind of party you throw, think backyard barbecue with __[engagement party games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas)__ versus a cocktail party, inviting children might not be the best idea. While you may have kids in the wedding party (think ring bearer and flower girl), if you are planning on a sit-down dinner for your engagement party, it might be easier to ask guests not to bring kids. If the event is more casual, having kids attend is perfectly acceptable.\n\nSometimes you may have mutual acquaintances and co-workers you might feel obligated to invite, but if you are not very close to them, then there’s no need to invite them. The engagement party is meant to be special and intimate. You'll want to be surrounded by the people who love and support you and know you best in the world.\n\nAlso, consider who you’ll need to invite for other events surrounding the nuptials. In addition to the wedding day, you’ll also have to curate guest lists for the rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party, and bridal shower. For example, out-of-town family members may not want the pressure of traveling in for your engagement party, so invite them to the rehearsal dinner instead.\n\n## What to Include in Engagement Party Invitations?\nWhether you decide to do paper invitations or use your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) as a way to inform everyone, there is engagement party etiquette when it comes to your invitations. Add the elements below to have everything you need to inform guests about your event using [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas).\n\n- Include the __date__ and __time__ of your event, and make this very clear on your invitation.\n\n- Name the __venue__. Be sure to include the __address__ and __parking instructions__.\n\n- Your first and last __names__. Feel free to skip last names if everyone knows both of you.\n\n- The __host names__ if they would like to be included on the invitation.\n\n- State the __dress code__ to help field questions on the [formality of the event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-an-engagement-party).\n\n- Add your __wedding registry__ information if you feel comfortable having folks bring engagement party gifts.\n\n- Include how to __RSVP__ and a final __date__ for folks to let you know whether they’ll be attending or not.\n\n## Zola, Your Go-To Wedding Guide\nAt the end of the day, you have to make the best decision for you and your significant other. Land on a guest count that feels most comfortable for both of you, your host, and any budget constraints. 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","title":"How to Announce Your Engagement","slug":"how-to-announce-your-engagement","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hk4Xt2gcurIwwAACqfcxh/52d16b9f41ed4c4e63d6f316dcb0379d/How-to-Announce-your-Engagement.jpg","altText":"Couple makes engagement announcement"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:59.569Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"engagement-party-ideas","title":"50 Best Engagement Party Ideas of 2024","excerpt":"Unlock 50 unique engagement party ideas. You'll find ideas you've never thought of and something for every couple. Happy planning!","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2023-12-21T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Nv4GtlUw4LfNJVkpcFmSi/32aa338cea95b2f766f3f616efcc3985/50_Best_Engagement_Party_Ideas_hero__1_.png","altText":"People smiling and clinking wine glasses at a party"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas\n - Outdoor engagement party ideas\n - Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam\n - Morning engagement party ideas\n - Creative engagement party themes\n- How to plan an engagement party\n- Engagement party FAQs","body":"Planning an engagement party is one of the first steps you and your partner will take to celebrate your love and commitment to each other. It's the perfect opportunity to gather your closest friends and family, toast to your future, and, of course, have a whole lot of fun.\n\nWith so many engagement party ideas out there, it can be overwhelming to decide on the perfect theme for your celebration. Whether you're into rustic charm, elegant soirées, or something unique, we've got you covered. We've rounded up a list of engagement party ideas to help you set the stage for a night to remember. Grab your partner, start scrolling, and be inspired!\n\n## Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas \n\n### Outdoor engagement party ideas \nWhether you are having a [long or short engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-should-an-engagement-last), there’s nothing like a beautiful outdoor engagement celebration with your closest family and friends. Take your party to the beach, or opt for one of our backyard engagement party ideas. Soak up the sun and celebrate with your loved ones with the help of any theme below.\n\n__1. Incorporate elegant roses:__\nRoses aren’t just for Valentine’s Day. A rose-themed engagement party is a fantastic idea for couples who want to infuse their celebration with romance and elegance. Throw a rose-themed party with your favorite-colored roses and incorporate touches of rose gold to complete this elegant feel. Consider rose-inspired cocktails and rose petal decor, or maybe even encourage guests to wear rose colors.\n\n![Incorporate Elegant Roses](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1drdUZVq7B27mStLSV8G5z/6b31536cce039a5b588ab957f7823091/Incorporate_Elegant_Roses.jpeg)\n\n__2. Get Competitive With Beach Games:__\nFor couples who love the laid-back, sun-soaked vibes of the shore, have a casual engagement party with a beach cookout. Toss volleyballs, feast on your favorite hamburgers, and laugh about all of your favorite memories as a couple. For decorations, think seashell centerpieces, beach blankets, and tiki torches.\n\n__3. Create your own Japanese garden:__\nCreating a Japanese garden is an excellent idea for couples who appreciate the serenity and beauty of Japanese culture. Begin with tea and then transition to your sushi main dish at your brightly colored garden party. For decor, add paper lanterns, cherry blossoms, or shades of jade.\n\n__4. Let the leaves fall:__\nThis is the perfect choice for nature-loving couples who want to celebrate their engagement in the breathtaking beauty of autumn. Recreate a heartwarming fall engagement party with rustic reds, greens, and yellows, plus golden silverware and simply decorated centerpieces. These natural engagement party decoration ideas will make for a unique and memorable occasion.\n\n![Let the Leaves Fall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/22AADZEnEVhavdtfOHEUOi/f6f7674d4d9eb31c9ebc5c4ee2d20aa3/Let_the_Leaves_Fall.jpeg)\n\n__5. Re-create a tropical summer:__\nThis one’s for the couples dreaming of a tropical wedding destination! Decorate the venue with palm leaves, white minimalist chairs, and simple tables, then hang light pink streamers for a luscious tropical summer party. If you’ll be spending your wedding day in a tropical destination, this is a great way to get your engagement party guests excited. Make sure to capture the memory with summer [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!\n\n__6. Have a backyard bonfire:__\nIt’s perfect for outdoorsy couples who adore the cozy ambiance of a crackling fire! Light some matches and snuggle up in blankets to celebrate your love over s’mores, backyard games, and traditional bonfire tunes. \n\n![Celebrate in a Winter Wonderland](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/33MV7IjOwBRTNjSofyjWze/2dc5064e68bf03bcdec3ab79cfabd43e/Celebrate_in_a_Winter_Wonderland.jpeg) \n\n__7. Celebrate in a winter wonderland:__\nIf you got engaged during the winter months, enjoy sipping a hot cocoa cocktail with warm blankets up in the mountains for a heartwarming holiday party. Cover your venue in snowy white decorations and twinkling fairy lights to create a whimsical atmosphere. Add fabrics with plaid and gingham for a mountain cabin vibe. \n\n__8. Throw a luau:__\nBring the spirit of the tropics for a fun and laid-back celebration. Serve traditional Hawaiian egg rolls, pineapple pastries, and kabobs while wearing Hawaiian attire and flowers in your hair. Decorate with bright, fresh flowers and tropical elements to make your party feel like you’re on the beaches of Hawaii.\n\n__9. Have a classic picnic:__\nHost a traditional plaid picnic party in your backyard or local park. Pack your favorite pastries, popsicles, or sandwiches in celebration of this new milestone. Prepare a selection of lawn engagement party game ideas like bocce or frisbee to create that classic picnic atmosphere. \n\n__10. Make your own secret garden:__\nDecorate your backyard garden for a celebratory cocktail party complete with light green streamers, white balloons, and even mini gold vases for a whimsical engagement get-together. Your menu can feature botanical-inspired cocktails and elegant finger foods that capture the enchantment of your love story.\n\n![Make Your Own Secret Garden](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Gfg9GHvGieTB2b54gYvVO/fc15474a4a9da163b86d42bae19e6fb4/Make_Your_Own_Secret_Garden.jpeg) \n\n__11. Add a rustic appeal:__\nDo you and your partner share a love of the countryside? Deck your venue out with wooden engagement decorations, mason jar centerpieces, and a down-to-earth ambiance. Get a wheelbarrow and picnic table, then crack open some beers to celebrate the next big step in your relationship with your loved ones. \n\n__12. Host a farm to table feast:__\nThis one is for food-loving couples who appreciate fresh, locally sourced ingredients, rustic decor, long wooden communal tables, and a menu that savors the flavors of the season. Pick out all of your favorite local food products for your engagement party and create your own farm-to-table celebration. Serve food on wooden crates in your backyard with festive product labels pointing out both your favorite picks. Pack a dessert table with your favorite sweet treats. If you and your fiancé share an affinity for vino, incorporate an informal wine tasting into the festivities.\n\n__13. Enjoy a BBQ__\nIf you adore the idea of a relaxed, sun-soaked celebration spent mingling with loved ones, keep reading. Decorate with picnic-style tables, gingham tablecloths, and mason jar centerpieces filled with wildflowers, and serve up a delectable spread of barbecue classics like smoky ribs and grilled veggies. \n\n__14. Cool Off at a Pool Party__\nMake a splash with your cool, refreshing engagement party. Ideal for those who love a refreshing dip, you can decorate the poolside with colorful inflatables, tropical plants, and lounge chairs. Serve fresh fruit platters, pastries, and cocktails to energize and entertain your guests.\n\n[![Download Take the Party Outside](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4YGTT22KBc9kOev1nkJn86/d2d65640b94f5a9e088ed1aaae54f31d/Download_Take_the_Party_Outside.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6SHKUeyuttpP62ht3LkTb3/7ffd7acc27efd8c6f25d428a3ac33b31/Take_the_Party_Outside.png)\n\n## Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam \n\nMake your party personal and unique with all your favorite things—whether that includes bright watercolor fun or rooftop rosé with your closest friends and family. \n\n__15. Ring In the New Year__\nCan you think of a better theme for couples who love a touch of glamour and want to celebrate their love in style? Celebrate your engagement at a formal party while watching fireworks and munching on appetizers with your loved ones surrounding you. Toast to the New Year and your new engagement. Gold and silver accents will complement the fizzy beverages.\n\n![Ring in the New Year](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24rgiOmwSbkn992L6aF7WN/27e7dad7515ce35b71e7fef83a79eecf/Ring_in_the_New_Year.jpeg)\n\n__16. Track Back to the 1920s__\nObsessed with the glamour and nostalgia of the Roaring Twenties? Throw a Gatsby-themed party with suits, jazz blaring on the stereo, and layered pearl necklaces on your tables for decoration. Fill the event space with art deco decorations, offer vintage cocktails, and design a menu with classic dishes of the era.\n\n__17. Host a White Party__\nCalling all couples looking for a chic, sophisticated engagement party theme! Craft a menu with a range of dishes in white hues, add white lace touches to your decorations, and have all your guests wear white to your event to show their love for the newly engaged couple.\n\n__18. Create your own Broadway bliss:__\nInfuse your celebration with the magic of the stage! Coordinate karaoke or impromptu performances to set the stage for a night of entertainment and drama. Compile your favorite tunes and add touches of velvet in a dimly lit venue for an intimate theater engagement party experience. \n\n![Create Your Own Broadway Bliss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Ie8SF78XNMw3PUUuftivC/ae3cf79eb4a314a058213cb7eadef6c4/Create_Your_Own_Broadway_Bliss.jpeg)\n\n__19. Be Parisian__\nBring the irresistible romance and chic vibes straight from Paris, the City of Love, to your party. This is the towering peak (get it?) of all romantic engagement party ideas! Choose French-inspired decor, a menu of delectable pastries, cheeses, and wine, and charming cafe background music. Have guests sign locks to hang on a wall and toast to love with macarons and champagne.\n\n__20. Become famous with a costume party__ \nThis entertaining and creative engagement party theme is perfect for fun-loving couples who enjoy dressing up and want to create a memorable, lively atmosphere. If you have a favorite movie, genre, or book, throw your own costume party! Pick out your favorite celebrities and have fun getting into character with your guests. \n\n__21. Have a pink flamingo party__\nEmbrace your playful side with tropical-inspired treats and fruity cocktails! Brighten your party up with pink accents and decorative paper flowers for your flamingo-themed celebration. Blow up a giant flamingo floaty for the perfect backdrop to take Polaroid pictures. Take it one step further and prepare pink party favors!\n\n![Have a Flamingo Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7baC3eWRK9eOEGZ6io4QpF/b7a5589013ccf7b2f3dc367c25f60cf2/Have_a_Flamingo_Party_.jpg)\n\n__22. Roll out the red carpet__\nWant to feel like A-list celebrities on your special day? Make your guests feel like stars by hosting a party full of Old Hollywood glamour with this glitzy party theme. Have a red carpet, flashing lights, and music blasting while guests make their way down the aisle.\n\n__23. Provide a glamorous menu__\nIf you and your significant other appreciate the finer things in life, shine the spotlight on a decadent meal. Curate a sophisticated menu of gourmet dishes, fine wines, and artisanal cocktails, offering an elegant dining experience and exceptional cuisine.\n\n__24. Have an enchanting party__\nShowcase your fairy-tale-like romance with personal touches, dreamy decorations, whimsical charcuterie boards, and delicate desserts. Decorate your engagement party with deep blues and purples with gold accents and a tiered cake. To top off your engagement party attire, wear gold headpieces to walk around like royalty.\n\n![Have An Enchanting Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4tOYTUJstR4wcFHFgQ5Dg8/8e077c8a2b22fcf3898de8e982452557/Have_An_Enchanting_Party_.jpeg)\n\n__25. Host a dessert party__\nIf you have a sweet tooth, create your own dessert decor with your favorite guilty pleasures all on one table. Serve wine, coffee, or tea for everyone to indulge in. Offer recipes as party favors or ask guests to bring their favorite dessert recipes to share with the love birds.\n\n__26. Celebrate with rosé all day__\nAre you partial to rosé wine? Decorate in pink and white decorations and serve a menu with light, wine-paired dishes like charcuterie and seafood. Rent out your favorite rooftop bar to celebrate with a view. Toast to your engagement over rosé and city lights.\n\n[![Download Add Glitz and Glam](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2U0cFzVNVxU1TAGlZTEcj2/5fff0a92fc6db7a4dfdcbae0d366c920/Download_Add_Glitz_and_Glam.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2XPf8NKAtdLoP5jKd5GfPS/1e4fbf895ae3b46d6987e4e4caf6e695/Glitz_and_Glam.png)\n\n### Morning engagement party ideas to toast to your new life \n\nHave you thought about toasting to your new adventures over an engagement party brunch? After all, breakfast may just take the top spot as everyone’s favorite meal. Consider celebrating your love with a donut party or a mimosa bar.\n\n__27. Make a mimosa bar__\nLooking for a bubbly and interactive engagement party idea? Buy your favorite fruit, juice, and champagne to toast your journey as a newly engaged couple. Set up a full bar for your guests to create their ideal mimosa. Provide a few suggested combinations as inspiration for your mixology guests. \n\n![Make a Mimosa Bar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2TU6VRSIH9zRnIsj0vShxa/7f6b39e67a7a0fa936660505971b06c3/Make_a_Mimosa_Bar.jpeg) \n\n__28. Jazz brunch__\nDo you and your partner love the timeless allure of jazz music? Eat your classic go-to breakfast dishes at your own French Quarter Courtyard. From scrambled eggs to French toast and egg casserole, cheers to your new journey together over morning champagne and fresh beignets.\n\n__29. Have a morning fiesta__\nEmbody your lively, spirited relationship with an energetic, Mexican-inspired party. Enjoy breakfast burritos with guacamole and a tall glass of orange juice on tables decorated with cacti and bright pink for a proper morning fiesta celebration.\n\n![Have a Morning Fiesta](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3XJ1BVAdcGCNvXy5GhJ5ee/9cd22e048e7edeb075ea98f862e33889/Have_a_Morning_Fiesta.jpeg)\n\n__30. Bring out the sunshine__\nThis cheerful and radiant engagement party theme was made for couples who adore warm, sunny things. Add lemons to clear vases for your table centerpieces, and create your own full coffee bar for the perfect wake-up call. Incorporate bright yellows throughout your venue for a morning sunshine feel.\n\n__31. Show your love for blooms__\nShow your love for the natural beauty of flowers with a romantic and fragrant atmosphere. Have a sunrise breakfast celebration by decorating your venue with flower petals scattered on each table, bright-colored peony centerpieces, and mini breakfast sandwiches and pastries.\n\n__32. Create a donut wall__\nGot a serious sweet tooth? Set up a sweet surprise with a donut wall and glasses of milk to dip them in. Make your own pegboard wall filled with your favorite donut flavors for all your guests to test out. This is a good option for a drop-in party because it allows guests to come and go and serve themselves a sweet treat.\n\n![Create a Donut Wall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ARXCuK0kDKa54nSWwZs01/372330870d000a8962f01829d207f7be/Create_a_Donut_Wall.jpeg)\n\n__33. Join the breakfast club__\nIs 80s pop culture a huge part of your personality? Celebrate your love with a retro-themed party, complete with boomboxes and Polaroid cameras. Have your guests dress as they would in the ‘80s in remembrance of the classic 1985 “Breakfast Club.” Share breakfast appetizers like egg bites, coffee, and bagels.\n\n__34. Host a spring tea party__\nDemonstrate your grace and refinement with a classic tea gathering! Fill vases with brightly colored flowers, fill plates with light snacks, and serve pots of tea. Have various morning pastries like banana bread and muffins to pair with your tea. Ask guests to wear a \"fancy hat\" for an extra touch of fun.\n\n__35. Have your own bake-off__\nLet your competitive side shine through! Create an interactive and sweet experience by having your guests bring their favorite baked items to compete for the best-baked masterpiece at your engagement party. Have a prize table of gift cards and wedding ring cookies for the winners.\n\n![Have Your Own Bake-Off](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yg2glEifO3RdUM4zs00kR/d10d60619087baa7c10add7f40dd4e4c/Have_Your_Own_Bake-Off.jpeg) \n\n__36. Throw a pancake pajama party__\nMake room for your lighthearted personalities to shine with a relaxed celebration. Have your guests show up in their favorite PJs to get the pancake party started. Have a variety of pancake toppers from fruit, granola, syrup, and edible roses to eat while enjoying the morning. Decorate with the comics and crossword sections of the newspaper to cultivate a \"Sunday breakfast around the table\" sort of feel.\n\n[![Download Have a Morning Toast](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1S5maqrGpKhtAwXGGHm9mk/66cbc35ed8fcdaff48fb0cfb8eb93686/Download_Have_a_Morning_Toast.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4VDl4w88NFXt2pVdtM0ZPi/b15dc12fc018bf1754b7f569ac3382cd/Have_a_Morning_Toast.png)\n\n### Get creative with these engagement party themes \n\nGet creative and let your playful spirit out to celebrate. Whether you’re a superhero geek, wannabe detective, or art lover, these creative engagement party ideas are just for you! Incorporate all of your favorite things into your engagement party for a night you’ll never forget. \n\n__37. Have a movie night__\nThis one is for film buffs: rent or buy a projector to have a movie night with all your loved ones. Stockpile all your favorite rom-coms or love stories to bring out the laughter. Lots of throw pillows, blankets, and popcorn will set the mood.\n\n![Have a Movie Night](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/UBEw3KjAWrhcAs4Km7xEy/776f4c5123691da6b2f318cc5d5d00e4/Have_a_Movie_Night.jpeg)\n\n__38. Design a scavenger hunt__\nWhat better way to start your biggest adventure than with an exciting, interactive engagement party? Think of all your relationship milestones and put your loved ones to the test with clues. Break up into groups and send them on a scavenger hunt to see who knows you best. Reward your guests with nostalgic childhood treats like sno-cones or cotton candy when they're done hunting.\n\n__39. Go modern gothic__ \nShowcase your moody and edgy aesthetics with a gothic-inspired event. Incorporate dark tones into your engagement party with taper candles, black roses, and even a couple of skulls for spooky touches. The engagement party outfit ideas for this theme are limitless! Carry the theme into your cocktails and food options, like offering blood red Campari-filled beverages and dark chocolate truffles.\n\n__40. Be the superhero__\nBring out your inner superheroes and celebrate your powerful love! Come to the rescue by incorporating your favorite desserts, photo booth superhero props, and capes to mimic your playful spirits as a newly engaged couple.\n\n![Be the Superhero](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4SWCjcMyexiuUhgj3ttT7b/d406b59e98a3a87c7a6dac5b1557d2d3/Be_the_Superhero.jpeg) \n\n__41. Become the Mad Hatter__\nWould you like to transport your guests to a world of enchantment and wonder? Play up your tea party with Wonderland essentials. Wear the classic Mad Hatter hat, sip tea, and brighten your party up with paper flowers. This is a great theme for a photo booth, complete with a white rabbit, bottles that say \"Drink me,\" and croquet mallets.\n\n__42. Create your own taco bar__\nThis yummy theme is perfect for couples that want a vibrant social atmosphere paired with delicious food. Display a variety of salsas, guacamole, beans, meats, and tortilla shells for your guests to make their own tacos. Have a full margarita and paloma table to quench your thirst. Don't feel like handling the food? Hire a taco truck to do the catering and enjoy the casual street taco vibes.\n\n__43. Gamble the night away__\nYou may have already hit the jackpot, but your guests will want to win big at your party! Have your loved ones gamble with play money to see who will win a prize by the end of the night. Be prepared with poker, roulette, and blackjack tables to guarantee an electrifying and entertaining atmosphere. Decorate with bright Vegas colors, playing cards, and poker chips.\n\n![Gamble the Night Away](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rzFe6w5jdabik98VeLRg7/3de1ea801cbc07f7fb4c7735546e8c96/Gamble_the_Night_Away.jpeg) \n\n__44. Have fun with laser tag__\nBring out your competitive side and play laser tag. You’ll get to see which one of your friends is the most competitive and the best shot. The party will be complete with futuristic decorations, glow sticks, and snack bar foods like soft pretzels, nachos, and pizza.\n\n__45. A touch of history__\nPassionate about art, culture, and history? Rent out a local museum and hire guides to give your guests a tour of your favorite exhibits. Have appetizers and cocktails and a designated seating area for guests to relax. \n\n__46. Host a murder mystery__\nIf Halloween and scary movies are a couple of your favorite things, consider hosting a murder mystery party. Break out the extravagant characters and storylines and assign roles in your engagement party invitations—may the best man win! This event requires a bit of forethought and planning, but you'll also need an emcee to keep the party moving. Consider asking a friend to emcee so you and your partner in crime can enjoy the evening! \n\n![Host a Murder Mystery](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Ue1rsIr7RKjLlJcLC4raq/927d0957d2e37dab2f718aeb393d9409/Host_a_Murder_Mystery.jpeg) \n\n__47. Go to an arcade__\nTake a break and act like a kid again. This one’s for couples who are into retro games and want to create a lighthearted and playful atmosphere! Rent out an arcade or bring the arcade to you by incorporating games you loved as a kid. Fire up the old Nintendo or start a Ms. Pac-man tournament. Whoever wins may just get a ring (cookie).\n\n__48. Host a homecoming party__\nPerfect for couples who want to relive their school days! Rent out a school gym, serve your favorite foods inspired by the cafeteria, and recreate your high school dream of being homecoming king or queen as you dance the night away. The music playlist is the key to setting the atmosphere. Choose your favorite hits from senior year to blast through the speakers.\n\n__49. Have a cocktail tasting__\nDo you and your partner share a love of mixology? Skip the bars and high-end restaurants (and their price tags) by hosting an at-home cocktail tasting. Buy the essentials, prepare the essentials for a few good drink recipes, and encourage guests to bring their own. You can even hire a mixologist to come make top-shelf drinks. For decor, consider using empty liquor bottles as flower vases. Unused cocktail glasses make great floating candle holders, too.\n\n__50. Host a mini-Olympics__\nBig sports fans? Schedule a day full of fun competitions for your guests. These can be anything from real sports—such as basketball, football, soccer, etc.—to board games or games entirely made up just for the occasion. Divide guests into teams and see who comes out on top. Bonus points if you award (fake) gold metals, hold opening and closing ceremonies, and offer energizing snacks!\n\n[![Download Get Creative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/138AtYYObDmrH1lwkQ2gPa/9b096b57a9a0c2a788b826efd332d34a/Download_Get_Creative.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12elwZqfNKDGLCLVhLdsMN/f339fc766e8a1febb32d157908c94728/Get_Creative.png)\n\n## How to plan an engagement party \nLet’s talk planning. While selecting an engagement celebration theme can be crucial, there are [plenty of other steps](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) that also require your time, attention, and effort. In short, the steps include:\n\n- __Deciding on a host.__ This individual or couple typically plans and pays for the party.\n- __Deciding on a date.__ If the engaged couple isn’t hosting, consult with them and other important guests on which date will work best.\n- __Compile a guest list.__ Likewise, work with the engaged couple to create this if they, themselves, aren’t planning and hosting.\n- __Decide on a theme.__ Your theme will aid you in choosing a venue, building a menu, and creating a schedule, if need be. If you’d like one, choose it now to ease the rest of the planning process.\n- __Research and book a venue.__ Make sure this aligns with the kind of celebration the couple wants to have. Also, ensure that potential engagement party venues can accommodate your entire guest list. Consider a simple engagement party at home if a venue isn’t in the budget. \n- __Create an online registry.__ While [engagement party gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-appropriate-gift-for-an-engagement-party) aren’t typically expected, many guests may want to give one. Use Zola to [create a gift registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and take the guesswork out of gifting.\n- __Send out invitations.__ For larger groups, formal paper [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are typically recommended. However, smaller groups can be invited via email, Facebook event, text message, etc.\n- __Decide on a menu.__ Consult with your venue (if it’s a restaurant or similar) or [caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) to create a food and drink menu.\n- __Purchase engagement décor and stock up on partyware.__ Some themes and venues won’t require much embellishing. If yours does, DIY or gather any preferred [decor and party supplies](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor). Now’s also the time to compile any playlists you’ll want to have on.\n\n## Engagement party FAQs \nWith the planning process and themes down, you might still find yourself with a few lingering questions. Luckily, we’re here to provide you with answers.\n\n__Who throws the engagement party?__ Traditionally, the parents of the bride will plan, throw and pay for the engagement party. However, it can be done by any loved one—or, as more modern couples are deciding, the couple themselves. Check out our [Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party) for more details.\n\n__Who do you invite to an engagement party?__ It’s engagement party etiquette that everyone who’s invited to the engagement party is also invited to the wedding. This includes close family members and best friends of the couple. That being said, some couples may choose to celebrate with different groups at different times, thus having multiple engagement parties (e.g. after-work drinks with work friends and dinner with family). This is completely fine, too.\n\n__What do you do at an engagement party?__ Engagement parties are meant to celebrate an engaged couple. How you do that should reflect something they enjoy, be it party games, trivia, or an all-out soirée. Ensure guests will have a good time by providing food and perhaps something entertaining, like games, live music, or a movie viewing.\n\nGetting engaged is a milestone worth celebrating! Your close friends and family are able to come together for this special occasion, and you get to kick off this new adventure of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning).\n\n## Ready to start planning the main event? \nStart your wedding planning journey by mapping out your [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), finding a [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), and sending [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). Check out Zola’s [free suite of wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) that help make the entire planning process a breeze. We’re with you all the days along the way!","tag":"Inspiration","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:58.765Z"}],"pagination":{"currentPage":1,"total":7},"subtopic":{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"pre-wedding-events-guide","title":"Guide to All Wedding Parties & Events","excerpt":"We created a guide to all the different pre-wedding, post-wedding, and wedding-related events so you can decide what you’ll include as part of your wedding.","author":"Jennifer Prince, Erin Celletti, and McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2022-04-13T18:06:06.745Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uuVJB4T2Ib4wDoicjCgbZ/9b21dc45e3155dd604137c1bf2a53c2a/Hero_1.jpg","altText":"Circular image of friends toasting with champagne glasses and sparkling lights"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Years ago, once couples got engaged, they had two celebrations to look forward to—the bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner. Although those traditions remain, as time has moved on, couples have become more creative with the addition of other events. No matter your reasoning for including extra celebrations in your wedding festivities schedule, seize the opportunity to gather with family and friends. Here’s our ultimate guide to all the different kinds of [parties and events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events) you can include in your [wedding timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## Engagement party\n\nThe question gets popped, a ring is placed on your finger, and it’s time to celebrate with loved ones. Ideally, an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) takes place within the first month of the proposal, but if your schedule prevents that timeline, do it whenever is most convenient.\n\nSince this is generally a more intimate celebration, hosting anything from a casual backyard barbecue with lawn games and a [small guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-do-you-invite-to-an-engagement-party) to a more upscale dinner gathering is appropriate. \n\nIf your interest is piqued, there are more [engagement party ideas here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas).\n\nWho hosts the engagement party depends on your take on the event. If you and your future spouse want to have family and friends gather to [meet each other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement), feel free to host. However, if you’re going to be hands-off, have someone close, such as a sibling or parent, orchestrate the event.\n\n__Expert advice:__ Unless your wedding will be very small or a destination wedding, only invite people who will also be guests on your wedding day. \n\nSee all of our [engagement party articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/engagement-party) for more expert tips.\n\n![Craig Adderley - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5GFhw3on6e3FyKap4ONlH7/1b4acace342fc222441fc06c9f64c8a4/Inline_1.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Craig Adderley\n\n## Wedding showers\n\nOnce referred to as a bridal shower, today’s [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-bridal-shower-and-what-is-its-purpose) is more inclusive than its formerly women-only predecessor ([read more about the difference here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one)). While you can keep it to just the ladies if you’d like, the main focus of this event is to shower the happy couple with gifts, which can take on several forms. Guests can bring items off the [couple’s registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), or the event can be [themed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridal-shower-themes). Think of giving articles related to experiences or stocking the couple’s bar.\n\nIt’s probably best to let someone else handle the hosting and inviting for your [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-shower-guide). But that doesn’t mean you need to be hands-off. Talk to your sibling, best man, maid of honor, or parent—all appropriate choices for hosting a shower—about a theme and what type of gifts you’d like. Invite close friends and family members, and hold the event two to three months before the wedding. Do it at someone’s home or somewhere else that gives off intimate, celebratory vibes.\n\n### So, then, what is a bridal shower?\n\nA traditional [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) celebrates the bride and is a gathering of her closest friends and family, typically all female. It’s often thrown by the bride’s side of the family and her bridal party, but it has evolved into an “anything goes” event for cost responsibility. The key difference here is that the focus is on the bride.\n\n### What is a Jack and Jill party?\n\nA Jack and Jill party is a modern, inclusive way to celebrate both sides of the couple at once before the big day. It mixes sides and genders and is usually more laid back in a way more and more couples are choosing. It’s a chance to celebrate the couple together with everyone they love. If your coed curious, read more about the [pros and cons of having a coed wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower).\n\n__Expert advice:__ Find [wedding or bridal shower invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) of all styles on Zola. You can even match them to your [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)! \n\nFor more expert tips, explore all of our [wedding shower articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/wedding-shower).\n\n## Bach parties\n\nToday’s couples have reframed the bachelor or bachelorette party to be more classy while still partying and making memories with people they are close to. Think about inviting your bridal party, siblings, and close friends—as long as they don’t feel stilted by not being asked to be an attendant.\n\nIt’s perfectly appropriate for you to host this event yourself. Your wedding party can also take the reins. Often, bachelor and bachelorette parties have everyone pay their own way, especially if you jet-set out of town for a long weekend. That said, this pre-wedding celebration is more about getting together and being festive than major expenses. So, feel free to be flexible so everyone involved can celebrate leading up to your wedding day.\n\n### Bachelorette parties\n[Bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties) celebrate the bride-to-be and can be anything from an elevated brunch, a night on the town, or weekend away somewhere festive. Most importantly, they should reflect the bachelorette’s personality and wishes and be a gathering of her nearest and dearest. \n\nRead our full [guide to planning a bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelorette-party) for more deets. \n\n### Bachelor parties\n\n[Bachelor parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelor-party) honor, you’ve guessed it — the bachelor. It’s basically just a gathering of the groom’s best friends and family spending time together. Normally, they do what the groom enjoys most whether it be sports, hiking, the casino — anything goes. \n\nCheck out [47 bachelor party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas) to find something for every groom.\n\n### Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette parties\n\nBrides, grooms, and same-sex couples looking for ways to celebrate together might opt for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. ‘Bachelorx’ as some call it, is much more than a coed party – it's a fun and inclusive way to focus pre-wedding festivities on the couple as a whole. \n\nCheck out [how to throw a joint bach party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party-games) for the step-by-step. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Get answers to all of your bach party questions, from theme ideas to planning guides to gift inspiration. Find everything [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelorette-party) or [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelor-party) in our expert advice sectionon. \n\n![Melike Benli - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5z3OG5MnN3cpIavaOqAcrX/0b0cc0586ce31c6d2b89c163a6a6ef16/Inline_2.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Melike Benli\n\n## Aufruf\n\nJewish culture has many celebrations, such as Hanukkah and Yom Kippur, but a wedding-centric event that many look forward to is the Aufruf. Yiddish for “calling up,” the Aufruf is traditionally only meant for the groom, although in more modern synagogues, both partners can participate. The entire congregation takes part in this pre-wedding tradition, which happens at the temple the Saturday before the wedding.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the groom will give a blessing over the Torah. Inviting friends and family to the service is appropriate since this is a public display. However, dash all thoughts of the Aufruf being solemn. Sometimes, the rabbi will give the couple candy, signifying a sweet union and fruitfulness throughout the marriage. Some folks will also schedule a post-Aufruf meal to continue the festivities, depending on the circumstances. Additionally, the Aufruf is not to be confused with Shabbat Chatan, which is also for the groom but takes place after the big day.\n\n## Mehndi party\n\nBorrowing beautiful influences from Hindu and [Muslim traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/muslim-wedding-checklist), the mehndi party is a unique way to celebrate while focusing on self and practicing ancient rituals. Also known as a henna party, this event is generally held by the bride’s parents and involves placing beautiful, intricate designs on the bride’s hands and feet using henna dye.\n\nToday’s celebrations often include other close family members and friends of the bride. Because these events can take hours—depending on how many henna artists are available and the intricacy of the designs—hosting at a spa, home, or Airbnb can be a nice touch. Henna also darkens over time, so if you’d like to have these designs on your hands and feet for your wedding day, it’s best to have henna applied three days beforehand to allow the natural ink to darken.\n\n## Welcome party \n\nIf you’re having a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist) (or a [wedding weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/plan-wedding-weekend) people are traveling in for), it’s customary to have some form of welcome reception when your guests arrive at the wedding location. \n\nThis differs from the rehearsal dinner—which typically happens the night before the wedding and only hosts the bridal party and your closest family. \n\nA wedding welcome party can be as casual as welcome drinks or a barbecue once everyone arrives and settles in. It can also be as extravagant as your budget and style preferences allow. Just remember that it’s optional. \n\n## Sangeet \n\nOften celebrated in India, sangeet is all about merriment with many family and friends. As a result, the number of folks invited to sangeet will often outnumber the wedding reception. Folks get together to party — sing, dance, eat, drink — before the big day to showcase their support for the couple and gather with those they haven’t seen in a while. Because this is a large celebration, hosts can often vary and may depend on the number of guests invited.\n\nBecause of the higher guest count, hosting should happen at a [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) or another location that can hold many people. Although, sometimes, the sangeet will include a smaller number of guests. When it comes to pre-wedding events, sangeets are one of the most flexible, meaning that the location, who hosts, and its proximity to the wedding day can all vary. However, one thing sangeets have in common is the presence of music, which is no wonder since the word means “music” in Sanskrit.\n\n## Rehearsal dinner \n\nThe [rehearsal dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas) follows your wedding rehearsal, in which your officiant or wedding planner guides you and everyone involved through your wedding ceremony. Along with these people, it’s nice to [invite any close family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-to-invite-to-a-rehearsal-dinner) who are wedding guests, as well as those traveling in. \n\nAs expected, the rehearsal dinner is usually the evening before your wedding. As such, it’s best to host it somewhere close to the wedding venue. Choose a restaurant close by or see if your ceremony venue has a space that is not already dedicated to your wedding reception.\n\n## Wedding party/bridal luncheon \n\nIt’s always great to get together with your wedding party. Plus, if you’re a groom who wants to hold a groomsmen’s brunch, go for it! Traditionally, a bridesmaids or wedding party luncheon or brunch is a meal for bridesmaids and/or groomsmen focused on socializing the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party). Breaking the ice before the big day is a fantastic way to set the tone. \n\nThe bridesmaids’ brunch usually takes place at a restaurant, café, or loved one’s home. If you’d like to host this event, feel free to take the reins. As for when it takes place, that comes down to your personal preference and everyone’s schedules. If everyone is local, picking a date should be simple, but if a few are long-distance, the event may have to take place closer to your [wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101/wedding-day).\n\n## After party \n\nJust because the DJ has played the last song and the lights have come up doesn’t mean the party has to be over. It’s becoming more and more common for couples to host an after party that is, quite literally, after the party. \n\nThis after-hours event usually involves extra cocktails and snacks, is in a different location than the reception itself, and can help to keep the party going. And going, and going. Find the best DJs and live bands for your after party on [Zola’s Vendor Marketplace](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-bands-djs).\n\n## Farewell brunch \n\nThe final culminating event of a wedding celebration is the [farewell brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fun-post-wedding-brunch-invitation-ideas). It can be hosted by the couple, the families, a close relative, or anyone else who offers. It’s typically reserved for guests who’ve spent the night in a designated hotel or resort.\n\nThe farewell brunch gives your guests a chance to regroup, enjoying breakfast and coffee before heading on their merry way. It’s not a mandatory event, but it’s definitely nice to have for both the couple and their guests. As a result, it’s a relatively easy way to put the cherry on top of a great wedding. \n\n## Final thoughts on extra wedding events\n\nAs you can see, weddings can be as simple as the ceremony and reception itself. Or can be a true series of parties and events that lead up to and even continue after the wedding itself. There are no obligations or limits to the amount of wedding fun you can have.\n\nOthers want to honor and celebrate you—both on and before your big day. Incorporating one or more of these wedding festivities gives you more opportunities to spend time and celebrate with everyone you love. The best part? You don’t have to get overwhelmed with planning everything when you’ve got Zola on your team. Get instant access to our full suite of free wedding planning tools when you [sign up](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Need to know what delectable delights are right for you and your guests? Here are our tips for planning your bridal shower menu.","title":"Top 20 Bridal Shower Food Ideas","slug":"what-food-to-serve-at-your-bridal-shower","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1BOn3idAlUsoOONoa9Hrnm/5cdf2e6d3ed2fe2a5ec6913261d1ba8a/Hero_Unsplash_MaddiBazzocco.jpg","altText":"Food to Serve at Your Bridal Shower"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success. 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Read our guide to decide who makes the cut.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:47:19.387Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25SBopO9NY1WkTuKP5Y9q0/f2e532633c374115ed1bc2a53480aca6/inline_unsplsh.jpg","altText":"Engagement party guests"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"With wedding planning, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is the first thing on many couples' lists as they look forward to the big day. Often this party can serve as a way to celebrate your newly engaged status, and for some couples, this may even be where you make the big __[engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101)__.\n\nHowever you choose to organize your party, the guest list is one of the biggest elements to tackle. Who do you invite to the engagement party now that you're engaged?\n\nThere are a few different scenarios you may find yourself in. When you're putting together your engagement party guest list, one big factor to consider is who __[hosts the engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party)__. Ultimately, the host will get the final say on headcount—with the happy couple's input, of course.\n\nUnlike other pre-wedding celebrations, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) tends to be more open-ended in terms of how people approach it. And nowadays, many couples even host their own party. Sometimes, a friend or even the bride or groom’s parents host instead. You may have many wedding etiquette questions about your engagement celebration guest list, and Zola has the answers.\n\n## Who Should I invite?\nLots of folks probably come to mind, from your close loved ones to family members you only see once every few years. Although you shouldn’t feel pressured to invite everyone on your wedding guest list, here’s who should come to your celebration for the newly engaged couple. \n\n- Bride’s Parents and Groom’s Parents — Essentially, it’s important to invite each set of parents. You must consider your family dynamics and current relationships with those folks if you have divorced families. In this case, discuss this with your partner, and do what you’re comfortable with.\n\n- Immediate Family Members — Invite siblings and any family members you’re especially close to, such as an aunt or your grandparents. Even if some of these family members are out of town, you should invite them out of honor and respect.\n\n- Wedding Party — Bridesmaids and groomsmen are close enough to you to be in the wedding, so they should certainly make the engagement party guest list.\n\n- Closest Friends — Again, don’t feel obligated to invite each and every one of the bride-to-be’s friends but limit the event to those closest to you. A lot of this depends on how many folks you want in attendance at your celebration.\n\n### Should I Limit the Guest List?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4iXslAgW7yyhKHQ7vo1aiv/71dc9f2dca8497cb5fba07a948fba41c/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nWhen you're deciding who should come, there are a few things to consider. As a rule of thumb, if you invite someone to the engagement celebration, they should also get a wedding invitation. That doesn't mean you must invite everyone to the engagement party. Instead of a huge bash, many couples decide to have a more intimate celebration, which means a smaller engagement party that’s more manageable to plan. Limiting the guest list can also help keep the cost of the event in check. \n\nGenerally speaking, both sets of parents of the engaged couple should be invited, as well as step-parents and grandparents, siblings, close aunts, uncles, and cousins, as well as members of your bridal party (if you're organized and know who they are), and of course, close friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. That said, some couples decide to make it a small get-together and may invite only family or friends to a small brunch. \n\n### Do I Need to Invite Everyone?\nIn some instances, whether it be due to family obligations or a couple's background, they may invite all wedding guests to the engagement party. If you can invite everyone to the engagement party, remember that this is still the first pre-wedding party leading up to the actual wedding. The tone of the engagement party should be different from the wedding. While it's still celebratory, remember it's still not a wedding.\n\n### Can I Have Two Parties?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/610DuvVYhcIWiOTMmqwYb9/5cfff899156238dcea1b4bcb2f868002/inline_unsplsh.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nSometimes an engaged couple may decide to have two different parties. If both people getting married have large extended families, having a party for just the two sides is a great option. In this case, having a second party just for your friends could also be a good decision. \n\nOne thing to keep in mind regarding __[engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ is that if you do decide to have two parties, don't invite the same people to both. It will defeat the purpose and could get confusing for the guests. Another option is to have a more traditional event with family and then party with friends during a different type of celebration. The choice is yours!\n\n### Who Not to Invite?\nWhen you're looking to make some cuts to your list, there are some folks you can consider not inviting. Generally speaking, inviting an ex to an engagement party probably isn't the best idea. While you may have maintained a friendship after the relationship ended, inviting them to the engagement party might be awkward for your significant other—unless you’ve already discussed it.\n\nDepending on the kind of party you throw, think backyard barbecue with __[engagement party games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas)__ versus a cocktail party, inviting children might not be the best idea. While you may have kids in the wedding party (think ring bearer and flower girl), if you are planning on a sit-down dinner for your engagement party, it might be easier to ask guests not to bring kids. If the event is more casual, having kids attend is perfectly acceptable.\n\nSometimes you may have mutual acquaintances and co-workers you might feel obligated to invite, but if you are not very close to them, then there’s no need to invite them. The engagement party is meant to be special and intimate. You'll want to be surrounded by the people who love and support you and know you best in the world.\n\nAlso, consider who you’ll need to invite for other events surrounding the nuptials. In addition to the wedding day, you’ll also have to curate guest lists for the rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party, and bridal shower. For example, out-of-town family members may not want the pressure of traveling in for your engagement party, so invite them to the rehearsal dinner instead.\n\n## What to Include in Engagement Party Invitations?\nWhether you decide to do paper invitations or use your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) as a way to inform everyone, there is engagement party etiquette when it comes to your invitations. Add the elements below to have everything you need to inform guests about your event using [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas).\n\n- Include the __date__ and __time__ of your event, and make this very clear on your invitation.\n\n- Name the __venue__. Be sure to include the __address__ and __parking instructions__.\n\n- Your first and last __names__. Feel free to skip last names if everyone knows both of you.\n\n- The __host names__ if they would like to be included on the invitation.\n\n- State the __dress code__ to help field questions on the [formality of the event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-an-engagement-party).\n\n- Add your __wedding registry__ information if you feel comfortable having folks bring engagement party gifts.\n\n- Include how to __RSVP__ and a final __date__ for folks to let you know whether they’ll be attending or not.\n\n## Zola, Your Go-To Wedding Guide\nAt the end of the day, you have to make the best decision for you and your significant other. Land on a guest count that feels most comfortable for both of you, your host, and any budget constraints. And remember: Having a party that celebrates you and the new life you are embarking on is what’s most important. \n\nAnd once you’ve gone through all of Zola’s engagement party ideas, be sure to use the expert advice section as your personal wedding planner. Whether you’re hosting a destination wedding or an event at a nearby country club, Zola is here to help with traditional and trending topics for your special day. ","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Who hosts an engagement party? Is it the couple or the parents of the bride or groom? 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","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party","slug":"how-to-plan-an-engagement-party","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It’s not uncommon for a wedding photographer to include an engagement photo session in their packages. 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","title":"How to Announce Your Engagement","slug":"how-to-announce-your-engagement","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hk4Xt2gcurIwwAACqfcxh/52d16b9f41ed4c4e63d6f316dcb0379d/How-to-Announce-your-Engagement.jpg","altText":"Couple makes engagement announcement"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:59.569Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"who-hosts-an-engagement-party","title":"The Complete Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette","excerpt":"Who hosts an engagement party? Is it the couple or the parents of the bride or groom? Read our guide to hosting.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:43:26.762Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3cIRZa2bmTKPTmsVClWiAO/05f9f7ce61cc50b997657ac6af37c51f/inline_unsplash__25_.jpg","altText":"who hosts the engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Congratulations, you just got engaged! There’s much to be excited about at this time—including your engagement celebration. Having an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is by no means required of you, but it is a fun way for you, your partner, and your loved ones to get together and celebrate this joyous news. Typically, this the first of many pre-wedding party celebrations, with possible bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, a rehearsal dinner, and, of course, your nuptials coming further down the line.\n\nBetween all of the wedding planning and aforementioned wedding celebrations, it can be hard to keep track of good etiquette. Each event seems to have its own recommended tips, which can get confusing. With that in mind, we’ve put together the following guide. Not only will we answer any engagement party etiquette questions you may have, but help you have the best engagement party for you. Read on for all of the need-to-knows.\n\n## Who Throws the Engagement Party?\nTraditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the bride’s parents. This tradition started centuries ago; given today’s larger views about gender, this can be viewed as a little dated. Back then, many people thought they were attending a regular party. Then, at the end, the father of the bride would make the big [engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).\n\nToday, a lot of things have shifted in terms of how people view the traditions associated with weddings and the [engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) around it. Namely, hosting has become more relaxed. Nowadays, when trying to determine who’s supposed to host the engagement party, it's not uncommon for close friends of the engaged couple, or even the couple, to host the engagement party themselves. And, in some instances, there may even be multiple engagement parties thrown by multiple people (the parents of the bride, the groom’s parents, close friends, siblings, etc.).\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UIWv3U2gB0NakR7z2bpSX/3dc856d0f4b94986fcbe8b495f6e65a6/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nThat said, usually both friends and family attend the party, since it’s a great way for everyone to meet one another. The main takeaway is that there is no one right way to decide who hosts an engagement party. Every couple has to decide what works for them, whether that be the bride’s parents, friends of the couple, or the couple themselves choosing to host.\n\n## Who Pays for the Party?\nOne major factor to keep in mind is that, whoever ends up hosting the event—whether it be the engaged couple, their friends, or [family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)—is generally expected to pick up the bill for it. This is part of being a good host/hostess. However, there are a variety of ways to handle this.\n\nPerhaps the event is hosted by a few of your close friends and they choose to divvy up the tasks. For example, one person could have the event held at their house, while another close friend could provide the beverages, and someone else could offer to cover the cost of food. Or, another option might be to have the party at an event space, then divide the cost by all individuals who offered to have it. The same process could be applied to family or groups of any kind.\n\n## How Long After Engagement Do You Have Engagement Party?\nA key logistic—and one of the first—that needs to be decided is the date of your engagement party. This will largely effect your venue options and time available planning, as well as guests’ availability. Most often, a couple’s engagement party will take place within the first few months of engagement, while everyone is still caught up in the excitement and newness of it all. We recommend anything between a week and three months after the proposal. If most of your loved ones are local (or, perhaps you want to announce your engagement at the party), one to four weeks is ideal. On the other hand, if you’d like to plan something a bit more involved, you can definitely take a few more weeks to plan or gather everyone.\n\n## How Formal Should the Dress Code Be?\nLike every other detail of your celebration, the dress code is entirely decided on by you. Meaning, it definitely varies, depending on a couple’s personal taste and choice of engagement party. For example, if you’re hosting a backyard BBQ, you can encourage casual, comfortable attire. If, instead, you’re throwing a cocktail party, you may want to ask your guests to dress appropriately in cocktail attire. A helpful tip in deciding on your dress code is to consider your venue. What someone assumes they should wear to a country club is going to differ from what they think they should wear to a night-out bash.\n\nIn any case, be sure to include this piece of information on your engagement party invitation. Depending on what you think is best, your description can be general (‘casual,’ ‘cocktail attire’) or a little more descriptive.\n\n## Who to Invite to the Engagement Party\nNow to tackle what might be the most challenging aspect of your party: The guest list. No fear—while this can initially come off as an intimidating task, there are a few pieces of etiquette that can make the process smooth sailing.\n\nTo start, engagement party etiquette generally says that every person you invite—from relatives to close friends—should also be a wedding guest of yours down the line. Keeping your engagement celebration to these people helps avoid any uncomfortable situations once wedding invitations go out. You want to avoid confusion and blind-sidedness from those close to you who expected an invitation, but didn’t get one.\n\nHowever, there are a couple exceptions to this rule. For example, if you’re planning a destination wedding not many people will be able to attend. Similarly, times have changed and it’s no longer seen as bad etiquette to host a small, intimate wedding and a larger, more inclusive engagement party. Just remember to be honest and tactful with guests.\n\n## When (and How) to Send the Invitations\nWith the details and guests list all set, all there’s left for you to do is create and send out [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas). (Note that these differ from [engagement announcements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).) Since engagement parties typically take place rather quickly, it’s ideal that you get them sent out as soon as possible. This will allow your guests to adequately prepare, from taking off work, to travel logistics, to purchasing an engagement party gift. If you’re planning something fairly impromptu, you can speed up the process by sending out evites to your guest list. Just make sure you have an RSVP system in place (like text confirmations or [Zola’s wedding website RSVP tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests)). Otherwise, if your celebration isn’t for a few weeks, you can mail out or hand-deliver paper invitations.\n\n## Time for a Toast\nA final aspect to consider is the toast. Usually, the party might start off with a toast by the hosts of the event, followed by the parents of the engaged couple, family members, and close friends. Perhaps some co-workers or acquaintances might add a few words as well. If you choose to go the more traditional route, the couple will toast one another. Also, the couple will conclude the event by thanking their hosts and company for coming to celebrate with them as well.\n\nThere are no hard-and-fast rules as to who should host and how to go about having an engagement party. For couples who decide to host it themselves, this can free you up to plan things as you see fit and to scale the party up or down as you choose. In some instances where the engaged couple hosts the party, they can even use it as a chance to announce their big news to their family, loved ones, or friends.\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Mcbjra8w2CoUTt9xUd0VP/a19c799c2fcd58b7845c7fa0853815b9/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nHaving an engagement party is entirely optional and should be a no-stress event. At the end of the day, you have to decide what works for you. However you choose to have your engagement party, the focus of it should be on the couple’s impending big day and how they are building a new life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t know what an engagement party is or if you should host one? Find out now. 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Happy planning!","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2023-12-21T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Nv4GtlUw4LfNJVkpcFmSi/32aa338cea95b2f766f3f616efcc3985/50_Best_Engagement_Party_Ideas_hero__1_.png","altText":"People smiling and clinking wine glasses at a party"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas\n - Outdoor engagement party ideas\n - Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam\n - Morning engagement party ideas\n - Creative engagement party themes\n- How to plan an engagement party\n- Engagement party FAQs","body":"Planning an engagement party is one of the first steps you and your partner will take to celebrate your love and commitment to each other. It's the perfect opportunity to gather your closest friends and family, toast to your future, and, of course, have a whole lot of fun.\n\nWith so many engagement party ideas out there, it can be overwhelming to decide on the perfect theme for your celebration. Whether you're into rustic charm, elegant soirées, or something unique, we've got you covered. We've rounded up a list of engagement party ideas to help you set the stage for a night to remember. Grab your partner, start scrolling, and be inspired!\n\n## Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas \n\n### Outdoor engagement party ideas \nWhether you are having a [long or short engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-should-an-engagement-last), there’s nothing like a beautiful outdoor engagement celebration with your closest family and friends. Take your party to the beach, or opt for one of our backyard engagement party ideas. Soak up the sun and celebrate with your loved ones with the help of any theme below.\n\n__1. Incorporate elegant roses:__\nRoses aren’t just for Valentine’s Day. A rose-themed engagement party is a fantastic idea for couples who want to infuse their celebration with romance and elegance. Throw a rose-themed party with your favorite-colored roses and incorporate touches of rose gold to complete this elegant feel. Consider rose-inspired cocktails and rose petal decor, or maybe even encourage guests to wear rose colors.\n\n![Incorporate Elegant Roses](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1drdUZVq7B27mStLSV8G5z/6b31536cce039a5b588ab957f7823091/Incorporate_Elegant_Roses.jpeg)\n\n__2. Get Competitive With Beach Games:__\nFor couples who love the laid-back, sun-soaked vibes of the shore, have a casual engagement party with a beach cookout. Toss volleyballs, feast on your favorite hamburgers, and laugh about all of your favorite memories as a couple. For decorations, think seashell centerpieces, beach blankets, and tiki torches.\n\n__3. Create your own Japanese garden:__\nCreating a Japanese garden is an excellent idea for couples who appreciate the serenity and beauty of Japanese culture. Begin with tea and then transition to your sushi main dish at your brightly colored garden party. For decor, add paper lanterns, cherry blossoms, or shades of jade.\n\n__4. Let the leaves fall:__\nThis is the perfect choice for nature-loving couples who want to celebrate their engagement in the breathtaking beauty of autumn. Recreate a heartwarming fall engagement party with rustic reds, greens, and yellows, plus golden silverware and simply decorated centerpieces. These natural engagement party decoration ideas will make for a unique and memorable occasion.\n\n![Let the Leaves Fall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/22AADZEnEVhavdtfOHEUOi/f6f7674d4d9eb31c9ebc5c4ee2d20aa3/Let_the_Leaves_Fall.jpeg)\n\n__5. Re-create a tropical summer:__\nThis one’s for the couples dreaming of a tropical wedding destination! Decorate the venue with palm leaves, white minimalist chairs, and simple tables, then hang light pink streamers for a luscious tropical summer party. If you’ll be spending your wedding day in a tropical destination, this is a great way to get your engagement party guests excited. Make sure to capture the memory with summer [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!\n\n__6. Have a backyard bonfire:__\nIt’s perfect for outdoorsy couples who adore the cozy ambiance of a crackling fire! Light some matches and snuggle up in blankets to celebrate your love over s’mores, backyard games, and traditional bonfire tunes. \n\n![Celebrate in a Winter Wonderland](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/33MV7IjOwBRTNjSofyjWze/2dc5064e68bf03bcdec3ab79cfabd43e/Celebrate_in_a_Winter_Wonderland.jpeg) \n\n__7. Celebrate in a winter wonderland:__\nIf you got engaged during the winter months, enjoy sipping a hot cocoa cocktail with warm blankets up in the mountains for a heartwarming holiday party. Cover your venue in snowy white decorations and twinkling fairy lights to create a whimsical atmosphere. Add fabrics with plaid and gingham for a mountain cabin vibe. \n\n__8. Throw a luau:__\nBring the spirit of the tropics for a fun and laid-back celebration. Serve traditional Hawaiian egg rolls, pineapple pastries, and kabobs while wearing Hawaiian attire and flowers in your hair. Decorate with bright, fresh flowers and tropical elements to make your party feel like you’re on the beaches of Hawaii.\n\n__9. Have a classic picnic:__\nHost a traditional plaid picnic party in your backyard or local park. Pack your favorite pastries, popsicles, or sandwiches in celebration of this new milestone. Prepare a selection of lawn engagement party game ideas like bocce or frisbee to create that classic picnic atmosphere. \n\n__10. Make your own secret garden:__\nDecorate your backyard garden for a celebratory cocktail party complete with light green streamers, white balloons, and even mini gold vases for a whimsical engagement get-together. Your menu can feature botanical-inspired cocktails and elegant finger foods that capture the enchantment of your love story.\n\n![Make Your Own Secret Garden](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Gfg9GHvGieTB2b54gYvVO/fc15474a4a9da163b86d42bae19e6fb4/Make_Your_Own_Secret_Garden.jpeg) \n\n__11. Add a rustic appeal:__\nDo you and your partner share a love of the countryside? Deck your venue out with wooden engagement decorations, mason jar centerpieces, and a down-to-earth ambiance. Get a wheelbarrow and picnic table, then crack open some beers to celebrate the next big step in your relationship with your loved ones. \n\n__12. Host a farm to table feast:__\nThis one is for food-loving couples who appreciate fresh, locally sourced ingredients, rustic decor, long wooden communal tables, and a menu that savors the flavors of the season. Pick out all of your favorite local food products for your engagement party and create your own farm-to-table celebration. Serve food on wooden crates in your backyard with festive product labels pointing out both your favorite picks. Pack a dessert table with your favorite sweet treats. If you and your fiancé share an affinity for vino, incorporate an informal wine tasting into the festivities.\n\n__13. Enjoy a BBQ__\nIf you adore the idea of a relaxed, sun-soaked celebration spent mingling with loved ones, keep reading. Decorate with picnic-style tables, gingham tablecloths, and mason jar centerpieces filled with wildflowers, and serve up a delectable spread of barbecue classics like smoky ribs and grilled veggies. \n\n__14. Cool Off at a Pool Party__\nMake a splash with your cool, refreshing engagement party. Ideal for those who love a refreshing dip, you can decorate the poolside with colorful inflatables, tropical plants, and lounge chairs. Serve fresh fruit platters, pastries, and cocktails to energize and entertain your guests.\n\n[![Download Take the Party Outside](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4YGTT22KBc9kOev1nkJn86/d2d65640b94f5a9e088ed1aaae54f31d/Download_Take_the_Party_Outside.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6SHKUeyuttpP62ht3LkTb3/7ffd7acc27efd8c6f25d428a3ac33b31/Take_the_Party_Outside.png)\n\n## Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam \n\nMake your party personal and unique with all your favorite things—whether that includes bright watercolor fun or rooftop rosé with your closest friends and family. \n\n__15. Ring In the New Year__\nCan you think of a better theme for couples who love a touch of glamour and want to celebrate their love in style? Celebrate your engagement at a formal party while watching fireworks and munching on appetizers with your loved ones surrounding you. Toast to the New Year and your new engagement. Gold and silver accents will complement the fizzy beverages.\n\n![Ring in the New Year](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24rgiOmwSbkn992L6aF7WN/27e7dad7515ce35b71e7fef83a79eecf/Ring_in_the_New_Year.jpeg)\n\n__16. Track Back to the 1920s__\nObsessed with the glamour and nostalgia of the Roaring Twenties? Throw a Gatsby-themed party with suits, jazz blaring on the stereo, and layered pearl necklaces on your tables for decoration. Fill the event space with art deco decorations, offer vintage cocktails, and design a menu with classic dishes of the era.\n\n__17. Host a White Party__\nCalling all couples looking for a chic, sophisticated engagement party theme! Craft a menu with a range of dishes in white hues, add white lace touches to your decorations, and have all your guests wear white to your event to show their love for the newly engaged couple.\n\n__18. Create your own Broadway bliss:__\nInfuse your celebration with the magic of the stage! Coordinate karaoke or impromptu performances to set the stage for a night of entertainment and drama. Compile your favorite tunes and add touches of velvet in a dimly lit venue for an intimate theater engagement party experience. \n\n![Create Your Own Broadway Bliss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Ie8SF78XNMw3PUUuftivC/ae3cf79eb4a314a058213cb7eadef6c4/Create_Your_Own_Broadway_Bliss.jpeg)\n\n__19. Be Parisian__\nBring the irresistible romance and chic vibes straight from Paris, the City of Love, to your party. This is the towering peak (get it?) of all romantic engagement party ideas! Choose French-inspired decor, a menu of delectable pastries, cheeses, and wine, and charming cafe background music. Have guests sign locks to hang on a wall and toast to love with macarons and champagne.\n\n__20. Become famous with a costume party__ \nThis entertaining and creative engagement party theme is perfect for fun-loving couples who enjoy dressing up and want to create a memorable, lively atmosphere. If you have a favorite movie, genre, or book, throw your own costume party! Pick out your favorite celebrities and have fun getting into character with your guests. \n\n__21. Have a pink flamingo party__\nEmbrace your playful side with tropical-inspired treats and fruity cocktails! Brighten your party up with pink accents and decorative paper flowers for your flamingo-themed celebration. Blow up a giant flamingo floaty for the perfect backdrop to take Polaroid pictures. Take it one step further and prepare pink party favors!\n\n![Have a Flamingo Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7baC3eWRK9eOEGZ6io4QpF/b7a5589013ccf7b2f3dc367c25f60cf2/Have_a_Flamingo_Party_.jpg)\n\n__22. Roll out the red carpet__\nWant to feel like A-list celebrities on your special day? Make your guests feel like stars by hosting a party full of Old Hollywood glamour with this glitzy party theme. Have a red carpet, flashing lights, and music blasting while guests make their way down the aisle.\n\n__23. Provide a glamorous menu__\nIf you and your significant other appreciate the finer things in life, shine the spotlight on a decadent meal. Curate a sophisticated menu of gourmet dishes, fine wines, and artisanal cocktails, offering an elegant dining experience and exceptional cuisine.\n\n__24. Have an enchanting party__\nShowcase your fairy-tale-like romance with personal touches, dreamy decorations, whimsical charcuterie boards, and delicate desserts. Decorate your engagement party with deep blues and purples with gold accents and a tiered cake. To top off your engagement party attire, wear gold headpieces to walk around like royalty.\n\n![Have An Enchanting Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4tOYTUJstR4wcFHFgQ5Dg8/8e077c8a2b22fcf3898de8e982452557/Have_An_Enchanting_Party_.jpeg)\n\n__25. Host a dessert party__\nIf you have a sweet tooth, create your own dessert decor with your favorite guilty pleasures all on one table. Serve wine, coffee, or tea for everyone to indulge in. Offer recipes as party favors or ask guests to bring their favorite dessert recipes to share with the love birds.\n\n__26. Celebrate with rosé all day__\nAre you partial to rosé wine? Decorate in pink and white decorations and serve a menu with light, wine-paired dishes like charcuterie and seafood. Rent out your favorite rooftop bar to celebrate with a view. Toast to your engagement over rosé and city lights.\n\n[![Download Add Glitz and Glam](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2U0cFzVNVxU1TAGlZTEcj2/5fff0a92fc6db7a4dfdcbae0d366c920/Download_Add_Glitz_and_Glam.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2XPf8NKAtdLoP5jKd5GfPS/1e4fbf895ae3b46d6987e4e4caf6e695/Glitz_and_Glam.png)\n\n### Morning engagement party ideas to toast to your new life \n\nHave you thought about toasting to your new adventures over an engagement party brunch? After all, breakfast may just take the top spot as everyone’s favorite meal. Consider celebrating your love with a donut party or a mimosa bar.\n\n__27. Make a mimosa bar__\nLooking for a bubbly and interactive engagement party idea? Buy your favorite fruit, juice, and champagne to toast your journey as a newly engaged couple. Set up a full bar for your guests to create their ideal mimosa. Provide a few suggested combinations as inspiration for your mixology guests. \n\n![Make a Mimosa Bar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2TU6VRSIH9zRnIsj0vShxa/7f6b39e67a7a0fa936660505971b06c3/Make_a_Mimosa_Bar.jpeg) \n\n__28. Jazz brunch__\nDo you and your partner love the timeless allure of jazz music? Eat your classic go-to breakfast dishes at your own French Quarter Courtyard. From scrambled eggs to French toast and egg casserole, cheers to your new journey together over morning champagne and fresh beignets.\n\n__29. Have a morning fiesta__\nEmbody your lively, spirited relationship with an energetic, Mexican-inspired party. Enjoy breakfast burritos with guacamole and a tall glass of orange juice on tables decorated with cacti and bright pink for a proper morning fiesta celebration.\n\n![Have a Morning Fiesta](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3XJ1BVAdcGCNvXy5GhJ5ee/9cd22e048e7edeb075ea98f862e33889/Have_a_Morning_Fiesta.jpeg)\n\n__30. Bring out the sunshine__\nThis cheerful and radiant engagement party theme was made for couples who adore warm, sunny things. Add lemons to clear vases for your table centerpieces, and create your own full coffee bar for the perfect wake-up call. Incorporate bright yellows throughout your venue for a morning sunshine feel.\n\n__31. Show your love for blooms__\nShow your love for the natural beauty of flowers with a romantic and fragrant atmosphere. Have a sunrise breakfast celebration by decorating your venue with flower petals scattered on each table, bright-colored peony centerpieces, and mini breakfast sandwiches and pastries.\n\n__32. Create a donut wall__\nGot a serious sweet tooth? Set up a sweet surprise with a donut wall and glasses of milk to dip them in. Make your own pegboard wall filled with your favorite donut flavors for all your guests to test out. This is a good option for a drop-in party because it allows guests to come and go and serve themselves a sweet treat.\n\n![Create a Donut Wall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ARXCuK0kDKa54nSWwZs01/372330870d000a8962f01829d207f7be/Create_a_Donut_Wall.jpeg)\n\n__33. Join the breakfast club__\nIs 80s pop culture a huge part of your personality? Celebrate your love with a retro-themed party, complete with boomboxes and Polaroid cameras. Have your guests dress as they would in the ‘80s in remembrance of the classic 1985 “Breakfast Club.” Share breakfast appetizers like egg bites, coffee, and bagels.\n\n__34. Host a spring tea party__\nDemonstrate your grace and refinement with a classic tea gathering! Fill vases with brightly colored flowers, fill plates with light snacks, and serve pots of tea. Have various morning pastries like banana bread and muffins to pair with your tea. Ask guests to wear a \"fancy hat\" for an extra touch of fun.\n\n__35. Have your own bake-off__\nLet your competitive side shine through! Create an interactive and sweet experience by having your guests bring their favorite baked items to compete for the best-baked masterpiece at your engagement party. Have a prize table of gift cards and wedding ring cookies for the winners.\n\n![Have Your Own Bake-Off](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yg2glEifO3RdUM4zs00kR/d10d60619087baa7c10add7f40dd4e4c/Have_Your_Own_Bake-Off.jpeg) \n\n__36. Throw a pancake pajama party__\nMake room for your lighthearted personalities to shine with a relaxed celebration. Have your guests show up in their favorite PJs to get the pancake party started. Have a variety of pancake toppers from fruit, granola, syrup, and edible roses to eat while enjoying the morning. Decorate with the comics and crossword sections of the newspaper to cultivate a \"Sunday breakfast around the table\" sort of feel.\n\n[![Download Have a Morning Toast](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1S5maqrGpKhtAwXGGHm9mk/66cbc35ed8fcdaff48fb0cfb8eb93686/Download_Have_a_Morning_Toast.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4VDl4w88NFXt2pVdtM0ZPi/b15dc12fc018bf1754b7f569ac3382cd/Have_a_Morning_Toast.png)\n\n### Get creative with these engagement party themes \n\nGet creative and let your playful spirit out to celebrate. Whether you’re a superhero geek, wannabe detective, or art lover, these creative engagement party ideas are just for you! Incorporate all of your favorite things into your engagement party for a night you’ll never forget. \n\n__37. Have a movie night__\nThis one is for film buffs: rent or buy a projector to have a movie night with all your loved ones. Stockpile all your favorite rom-coms or love stories to bring out the laughter. Lots of throw pillows, blankets, and popcorn will set the mood.\n\n![Have a Movie Night](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/UBEw3KjAWrhcAs4Km7xEy/776f4c5123691da6b2f318cc5d5d00e4/Have_a_Movie_Night.jpeg)\n\n__38. Design a scavenger hunt__\nWhat better way to start your biggest adventure than with an exciting, interactive engagement party? Think of all your relationship milestones and put your loved ones to the test with clues. Break up into groups and send them on a scavenger hunt to see who knows you best. Reward your guests with nostalgic childhood treats like sno-cones or cotton candy when they're done hunting.\n\n__39. Go modern gothic__ \nShowcase your moody and edgy aesthetics with a gothic-inspired event. Incorporate dark tones into your engagement party with taper candles, black roses, and even a couple of skulls for spooky touches. The engagement party outfit ideas for this theme are limitless! Carry the theme into your cocktails and food options, like offering blood red Campari-filled beverages and dark chocolate truffles.\n\n__40. Be the superhero__\nBring out your inner superheroes and celebrate your powerful love! Come to the rescue by incorporating your favorite desserts, photo booth superhero props, and capes to mimic your playful spirits as a newly engaged couple.\n\n![Be the Superhero](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4SWCjcMyexiuUhgj3ttT7b/d406b59e98a3a87c7a6dac5b1557d2d3/Be_the_Superhero.jpeg) \n\n__41. Become the Mad Hatter__\nWould you like to transport your guests to a world of enchantment and wonder? Play up your tea party with Wonderland essentials. Wear the classic Mad Hatter hat, sip tea, and brighten your party up with paper flowers. This is a great theme for a photo booth, complete with a white rabbit, bottles that say \"Drink me,\" and croquet mallets.\n\n__42. Create your own taco bar__\nThis yummy theme is perfect for couples that want a vibrant social atmosphere paired with delicious food. Display a variety of salsas, guacamole, beans, meats, and tortilla shells for your guests to make their own tacos. Have a full margarita and paloma table to quench your thirst. Don't feel like handling the food? Hire a taco truck to do the catering and enjoy the casual street taco vibes.\n\n__43. Gamble the night away__\nYou may have already hit the jackpot, but your guests will want to win big at your party! Have your loved ones gamble with play money to see who will win a prize by the end of the night. Be prepared with poker, roulette, and blackjack tables to guarantee an electrifying and entertaining atmosphere. Decorate with bright Vegas colors, playing cards, and poker chips.\n\n![Gamble the Night Away](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rzFe6w5jdabik98VeLRg7/3de1ea801cbc07f7fb4c7735546e8c96/Gamble_the_Night_Away.jpeg) \n\n__44. Have fun with laser tag__\nBring out your competitive side and play laser tag. You’ll get to see which one of your friends is the most competitive and the best shot. The party will be complete with futuristic decorations, glow sticks, and snack bar foods like soft pretzels, nachos, and pizza.\n\n__45. A touch of history__\nPassionate about art, culture, and history? Rent out a local museum and hire guides to give your guests a tour of your favorite exhibits. Have appetizers and cocktails and a designated seating area for guests to relax. \n\n__46. Host a murder mystery__\nIf Halloween and scary movies are a couple of your favorite things, consider hosting a murder mystery party. Break out the extravagant characters and storylines and assign roles in your engagement party invitations—may the best man win! This event requires a bit of forethought and planning, but you'll also need an emcee to keep the party moving. Consider asking a friend to emcee so you and your partner in crime can enjoy the evening! \n\n![Host a Murder Mystery](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Ue1rsIr7RKjLlJcLC4raq/927d0957d2e37dab2f718aeb393d9409/Host_a_Murder_Mystery.jpeg) \n\n__47. Go to an arcade__\nTake a break and act like a kid again. This one’s for couples who are into retro games and want to create a lighthearted and playful atmosphere! Rent out an arcade or bring the arcade to you by incorporating games you loved as a kid. Fire up the old Nintendo or start a Ms. Pac-man tournament. Whoever wins may just get a ring (cookie).\n\n__48. Host a homecoming party__\nPerfect for couples who want to relive their school days! Rent out a school gym, serve your favorite foods inspired by the cafeteria, and recreate your high school dream of being homecoming king or queen as you dance the night away. The music playlist is the key to setting the atmosphere. Choose your favorite hits from senior year to blast through the speakers.\n\n__49. Have a cocktail tasting__\nDo you and your partner share a love of mixology? Skip the bars and high-end restaurants (and their price tags) by hosting an at-home cocktail tasting. Buy the essentials, prepare the essentials for a few good drink recipes, and encourage guests to bring their own. You can even hire a mixologist to come make top-shelf drinks. For decor, consider using empty liquor bottles as flower vases. Unused cocktail glasses make great floating candle holders, too.\n\n__50. Host a mini-Olympics__\nBig sports fans? Schedule a day full of fun competitions for your guests. These can be anything from real sports—such as basketball, football, soccer, etc.—to board games or games entirely made up just for the occasion. Divide guests into teams and see who comes out on top. Bonus points if you award (fake) gold metals, hold opening and closing ceremonies, and offer energizing snacks!\n\n[![Download Get Creative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/138AtYYObDmrH1lwkQ2gPa/9b096b57a9a0c2a788b826efd332d34a/Download_Get_Creative.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12elwZqfNKDGLCLVhLdsMN/f339fc766e8a1febb32d157908c94728/Get_Creative.png)\n\n## How to plan an engagement party \nLet’s talk planning. While selecting an engagement celebration theme can be crucial, there are [plenty of other steps](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) that also require your time, attention, and effort. In short, the steps include:\n\n- __Deciding on a host.__ This individual or couple typically plans and pays for the party.\n- __Deciding on a date.__ If the engaged couple isn’t hosting, consult with them and other important guests on which date will work best.\n- __Compile a guest list.__ Likewise, work with the engaged couple to create this if they, themselves, aren’t planning and hosting.\n- __Decide on a theme.__ Your theme will aid you in choosing a venue, building a menu, and creating a schedule, if need be. If you’d like one, choose it now to ease the rest of the planning process.\n- __Research and book a venue.__ Make sure this aligns with the kind of celebration the couple wants to have. Also, ensure that potential engagement party venues can accommodate your entire guest list. Consider a simple engagement party at home if a venue isn’t in the budget. \n- __Create an online registry.__ While [engagement party gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-appropriate-gift-for-an-engagement-party) aren’t typically expected, many guests may want to give one. Use Zola to [create a gift registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and take the guesswork out of gifting.\n- __Send out invitations.__ For larger groups, formal paper [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are typically recommended. However, smaller groups can be invited via email, Facebook event, text message, etc.\n- __Decide on a menu.__ Consult with your venue (if it’s a restaurant or similar) or [caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) to create a food and drink menu.\n- __Purchase engagement décor and stock up on partyware.__ Some themes and venues won’t require much embellishing. If yours does, DIY or gather any preferred [decor and party supplies](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor). Now’s also the time to compile any playlists you’ll want to have on.\n\n## Engagement party FAQs \nWith the planning process and themes down, you might still find yourself with a few lingering questions. Luckily, we’re here to provide you with answers.\n\n__Who throws the engagement party?__ Traditionally, the parents of the bride will plan, throw and pay for the engagement party. However, it can be done by any loved one—or, as more modern couples are deciding, the couple themselves. Check out our [Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party) for more details.\n\n__Who do you invite to an engagement party?__ It’s engagement party etiquette that everyone who’s invited to the engagement party is also invited to the wedding. This includes close family members and best friends of the couple. That being said, some couples may choose to celebrate with different groups at different times, thus having multiple engagement parties (e.g. after-work drinks with work friends and dinner with family). This is completely fine, too.\n\n__What do you do at an engagement party?__ Engagement parties are meant to celebrate an engaged couple. How you do that should reflect something they enjoy, be it party games, trivia, or an all-out soirée. Ensure guests will have a good time by providing food and perhaps something entertaining, like games, live music, or a movie viewing.\n\nGetting engaged is a milestone worth celebrating! Your close friends and family are able to come together for this special occasion, and you get to kick off this new adventure of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning).\n\n## Ready to start planning the main event? \nStart your wedding planning journey by mapping out your [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), finding a [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), and sending [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). Check out Zola’s [free suite of wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) that help make the entire planning process a breeze. We’re with you all the days along the way!","tag":"Inspiration","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:58.765Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"how-to-plan-an-engagement-party","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party","excerpt":"Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-02-02T03:36:20.747Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"If you’re throwing an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-engagement-party) for a newly engaged couple, you might feel a tad overwhelmed by the pressure to pull off a perfect soirée. After all, this might be the very first event that the pair has attended as an engaged couple, and the first in a series of celebrations leading up to their actual wedding. And since this party is being held in their honor, the couple might have high expectations as they ride the giddy high of being newly engaged. \n\nBut if you’ve hosted other parties in the past, then never fear: putting together an engagement party is a lot like planning a typical luncheon or mixer. If you need help with themes or inspiration, check out these [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas). Follow these step-by-step instructions on engagement party planning to achieve guaranteed hosting success. \n\n## What is an Engagement Party?\nBefore jumping into planning, let’s cover the basics. Namely, what an engagement party is and the purpose it serves. Just as the name implies, an engagement party is a party thrown to celebrate and congratulate a couple on getting engaged. It usually takes place soon after an engagement and can also serve to introduce loved ones that may be seeing a lot more of each-other between now and the wedding (say, at a bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and on the big day). Think workplace friends and family members that haven’t met before.\n\nEngagement parties are traditionally thrown by the bride’s family, but modern couples can choose to host theirs themselves, as well as a variety of loved ones.\n\nIf you happen to be hosting, follow the below steps to ensure the engagement party runs smoothly and is an all-around success. \n\n![engagement-party-cheers](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2NcBqknXzNb74xgrcfF7FI/e5144796ec84fab5228489d88e2dcd7c/engagement-party-cheers.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 1. Decide Who Should Host The Engagement Party \nYour first step is to decide who will host. Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party, but nowadays anyone who feels compelled may throw this pre-wedding kickoff event. The couple themselves can even host their own engagement party, if they so choose. \n\nIf someone other than the bride’s parents plan to host, it’s a good idea to check in with them at the outset to make sure there are no stepped-on toes, and to confirm they are not also planning an engagement party. \n\nThat being said, having more than one engagement party is perfectly acceptable so long as the guest lists do not overlap beyond immediate family. Members of the wedding party can also be invited to both parties.\n\n### 2. Talk With The Couple About What Kind of Party They Want\nAs the party host, you are doing an act of kindness by throwing the pair an engagement party, and as such you have control over what kind of event you’d like to plan. However, getting the input of the couple ahead of time is always a good idea to make sure they will have a good time at the celebration in their honor. Do they want a daytime or an evening affair? Would they prefer something very casual, like a backyard BBQ, or something a tad fancier like a cocktail party? How large or small a party would they prefer? Ask them about their preferred engagement party themes, locations, and times before setting anything in stone. \n\n### 3. Set The Date and Location for The Engagement Party\nConsult with the bride/groom to nail down a date that works for everyone’s schedules, including any VIP guests that the couple would like to attend (such as parents and siblings). An ideal engagement party date should be anywhere from a few weeks to a month or two after the proposal. Engagement parties should occur before any other pre-wedding celebrations, however. \n\nThe location of an engagement party can really vary based upon preference. Decide if you would like the party to be at a private home or in a public space: the house or yard of the couple, one of their families, or a standalone host are all good options, as are private rooms or sections of local restaurants and bars. \n\n### 4. Assign a Rough Engagement Party Budget\nHaving a financial total in mind will help inform the rest of your decisions and keep expectations in line. If you have more money to spend, you could consider hosting an intimate group at a sit-down restaurant or splurging on catering services that include servers and bartenders. If your budget is tight, everyone will still have a blast toasting the happy couple in a backyard or living room over burgers and beers. \n\n### 5. Make an Engagement Party Guest List\nYour next step is to create an engagement party guest list. Have the couple give you a list of people they’d like to invite—or, if you’re hosting your own party, sit down with your fiancé(e) and make this list together. Include names, emails, phone numbers, and mailing addresses for all guests, as this will make sending out engagement party invitations much easier. \n\nRemember that everyone invited to the engagement party should also be invited to the wedding. If you’re not yet sure who will make the cut for your wedding guest list, err on the side of safety and invite only those people you’re absolutely sure will receive a wedding invitation, such as: \n\n- The bride/groom’s parents\n- The bride/groom’s siblings\n- Members of the wedding party \n- Very close friends of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n- Close relatives of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n\n### 6. Order Invitations (or Create Digital Invites)\nIf the engagement party will be smaller and/or on the formal side, [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are a classy way to share the news about the party with invited guests. To be safe, order custom paper invitations at least six weeks before the party date so you’ll have plenty of time to receive them and mail them out. For less formal engagement parties, or those with larger guest lists, digital invitations work perfectly fine. \n\nSend invitations through the post or by email at least three weeks from the party date. Be sure to include the following information on the invitation: \n\n- The occasion, including the names of the bride(s)/groom(s)\n- The date, time, and location of the party\n- Suggested attire and/or an indication of formality\n- An RSVP method (either phone, email, or digitally for online invitations)\n- An RSVP deadline\n\n### 7. Register for Gifts \nBe sure the couple has set up a [Zola Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) by the time the invitations are sent out. Although not required, it’s customary for guests to bring a gift for the happy pair. Registering early—before the engagement party–will ensure that guests can shop for, and the couple will receive, gifts that they truly want. \n\n![How Many Gifts to Register for Your Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1E1cy3nyuGNZUdTe31hinD/afbc1b096a4467d02b36e839dab7019a/inline_zola_lecreuset_lecreuset_16pc_dinnerware_set_carribean_01.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n### 8. Create The Menu and Order Catering, if Necessary \nCome up with a plan for what type of food will be served. If you’re throwing the engagement party at a restaurant, work with the event staff to create a menu that fits your budget. If you’re partying at a home, decide whether you are up to the challenge of cooking the party food yourself or whether you’ll need to hire a caterer, based upon the extravagance and size of the menu. \n\nIf you opt to have the party catered, research and hire a local caterer that can execute your menu ideas within your budget. Be sure to get a price quote and confirm delivery, setup, and service details so there are no surprises.\n\nIf the hosts are handling the food themselves, map out a timeline for when to shop for ingredients and supplies, when to prep, when to cook, and when to plate and serve the food. \n\n### 9. Choose a List of Beverages and/or Specialty Drinks to Serve\nThe kind of drinks you serve at an engagement party vary depending on the party’s location, theme, mood, and menu. It’s a great idea to find out what kinds of beverages the couple enjoys so you can be sure to choose a bar menu that reflects their tastes. Here are a few tips when it comes to drinks for an engagement party: \n\n- Be sure to stock up on plenty of bubbly! Engagement parties are prime occasions for lots of toasting and champagne-sipping. \n- Decide on one or two specialty cocktails that can be prepared in bulk in advance. This will cut down on the amount of time you or another host will need to spend making drinks for guests throughout the night. It’s a cute touch to include the couple’s favorite drink(s), either individually or together.\n- Buy bottles of wine, liquor, beer, mixers, sparkling water, mineral water, and/or juice at bulk retailers for better discounts. \n- Don’t forget bar accessories like festive straws, cocktail napkins, bottle openers, and cut lemons and limes.\n\n### 10. Decide Upon The Party Décor, and Shop for Any Needed Supplies\nAs we’ve said before, pretty much anything goes when it comes to the theme and formality of engagement parties. Come up with a few, key decorative elements to match the party vibe you’re going for, and shop for them now. This may include fresh flowers in pretty vessels, candles, garlands, balloons, framed photos of the couple, or anything else that coordinates with the look and mood you’ve got in mind. \n\n### 11. Stock Up on Partyware Essentials, such as: \n- Disposable plates, cups, and utensils\n- Napkins and table linens\n- Trash bags\n- Paper towels and stain remover, in case of spills \n- Ice & ice cooler\n\nOf course, if the engagement party is located at an event space, restaurant, or bar, some or all of these items might be covered by the venue. \n\n### 12. One Day Before, Set up as much as Possible (Based on the Location), Including: \n- Décor\n- The bar table/area\n- The gifts table/area\n- Make-ahead food & drink items \n\n### 13. On The Day of The Party: \n- Prep all the final details\n- Get dressed in your finest party clothes\n- Get to the party location a few hours early to finish setting everything up\n- Raise a glass to the happy couple and enjoy a wonderful engagement party! \n\n![Bachelor Party Decoration Must-Haves](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DYhO5jGlyykOqqLbxDlJr/6be910a8d8b23887782859575b587b1d/inline_shutterstock2.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## Engagement Party Etiquette\nWith the steps of planning an engagement party covered, let’s walk through some [etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party). While putting the event together is one thing, there are a few courtesies worthy of reminders. Whether you’re unsure of who pays for what or who all gets invited, read on.\n\n### When should an engagement party be thrown?\nTypically, engagement parties take place fairly soon after an engagement, allowing everyone to celebrate in a timely matter. That being said, if you’re having a longer engagement or can’t gather everyone that soon, a small push back usually isn’t a problem.\n\n### Who’s invited to an engagement party?\nAs mentioned previously, anyone who’s invited to your engagement party should also be someone you plan on inviting to your wedding. This goes for all pre-wedding events, such as bach bashes, bridal brunches, and showers. If you aren’t sure of your full guest list yet, keep it to your family and closest friends.\n\n### Can a couple have more than one engagement party?\nIn short, yes. In fact, this is fairly common for couples with different hometowns and/or groups of friends who might also want to throw you something a bit more informal (e.g. after-work drinks or a smaller weekend get-together).\n\n### How should you go about a gift registry?\nWhile it’s a good idea to have a registry with a decent amount of items prepared, it isn’t in good etiquette to suggest that a gift is require (e.g. putting the link on the party invitations). Rather, if you’ve already created your wedding website, connect it to that. Otherwise, rely on word of mouth.\n\n### Who should meet before the engagement party?\nOne good reason to throw an engagement party is to allow people who will be seeing more of each other leading up to the wedding to meet. That being said, this isn’t the time or place for everyone to meet for the first time. Both sets of parents—as well as any close siblings—should meet prior, in a more intimate setting that allows them to comfortably talk at length.\n\nWedding planning often consists of putting together several celebratory events leading up to the big day. Keep this to-do list top-of-mind to ensure you pull of a fun and successful engagement party. And if you find yourself in need of some help in other stags of wedding planning, [we’ve got you covered](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Plan a bachelorette party that will delight your bride-to-be with this this step-by-step planning timeline that covers everything you need to think about, plan for, and arrange in advance for a great bachelorette weekend. 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","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:18:34.928Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hHh4BzTMrcEMTF8JcGLD5/60cff28dd9c218fde75dba6d26c5f90c/Inline_stocksy.png","altText":"Wedding engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Stocksy","body":"Planning the engagement party is the first in a series of social events that are centered around the biggest one of them all––the wedding. The party itself is a way to celebrate the couple and their engagement. It's a chance for both friends and loved ones of the soon-to-be-married couple to come together and make a toast for the bride and groom’s new life together.\n\nWhen you've finally said “Yes” and people find out the great news, you’ll be flooded with good wishes. Having an engagement party is a great way to both celebrate this happy occasion, but is also a chance for members of the family from both sides, as well as close friends and members of the wedding party, to meet one another. \n\nThis might even mean that family members, such as your parents, are meeting for the first time. With the upcoming wedding, having a party to celebrate the engagement is a great way to set the tone and also get the ball rolling with some of the larger planning details that come with a wedding. It can also help ease the tension of everyone meeting extended family and friends in an intimate setting.\n\n## Do You Need One?\n\nThe larger intention behind the party is to have everyone come together to celebrate the engagement and to get to know one another from the couple's lives in a casual way. When you’re planning the party, it’s customary to host the gathering within two to three months of the engagement. This is also the period when getting engaged is still new and exciting. \n\n## How to Host an Engagement Party\n\nTimes have changed, and what was once a very stuffy and formal affair, has since morphed into a very individualistic event. The great thing about the party, and the wedding itself, is that it can be as formal or informal as you like. There are no hard or fast rules as to how to throw an engagement party, and it's really about doing what makes the most sense for you. \n\nWhether you're a relaxed kind of couple and prefer a BBQ in the backyard, or you want to spring for a seated dinner with formal attire, or head to your favorite restaurant or banquet hall, these are all great options depending on the kind of engagement party that you want to throw. It's really about coming together to celebrate you and your partner and the next chapter of your life.\n\nTraditionally, the bride's parents host the first official celebration, and sometimes the groom's parents host their part (and let’s be honest two parties are way more fun than one). Although this is what people have done in the past, it doesn't mean that you have to do it this way. In some cases, both sets of parents will throw a combined party, sometimes it's a close relative or even friends of the couple that takes on the honor. And, sometimes, even the engaged couple will host their party.\n\nThe party is really about bringing together everyone in your life that you care about and having them share in the excitement with you. One additional note about the party is that whoever is hosting is generally fitting the bill as well, so keep that in mind when you’re moving forward with your engagement party planning. \n\n## Keep the Event Slightly Understated\n\n![What Is an Engagement Party? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Yriwjjtr6mEpMFBCtHXkV/21cf4efb2fcb6a6729fa084fde622bc1/Inline_stocksy__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Stocksy\n\nYou also don't want your engagement party to be the biggest event of all. Think about it as a prelude to the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) and the wedding, which is the most important event of them all. When coming up with the guestlist for the party, it helps to keep things on the smaller end, plus it makes it more manageable in the long run. Remember, not everyone you invite to a wedding needs to come to an engagement party. The larger point of the party is to have guests become acquainted with one another and to take part in this special moment with the happy couple. \n\nYou'll also want to give guests at least a month's notice so that they can plan accordingly. Remember to send out your [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (either through snail mail or digital) at least a month before. If you’re having guests from out-of-state, give them a six-week window so that they can plan their travel arrangements accordingly. \n\nAt the actual engagement party, everyone will meet and socialize over delicious food, drinks, and, sometimes, even engagement party games and dancing. It's a time for people to congratulate you, and typically you'll be given customized gifts echoing these sentiments. As the host of the party, you'll want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and that there’s enough food and beverages, seating, and all of the other elements that make a successful party. It’s also customary for whoever is hosting the event to give a toast to the soon-to-be bride and groom.\n\nThe party is meant to be fun and all about celebrating the new life that the bride and groom will have together. However, you choose to plan it, remember it’s about you and your partner at the end of the day. This is about your wedding journey, and the engagement party is just the kickoff of the next chapter in your life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Throwing an engagement party and wondering who to invite? 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From who to invite to how to decorate your space, find all the advice and inspiration you need to plan your engagement party."},"topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events","description":"Leading up to a wedding, there are many different parties and events couples can choose to throw. The list of wedding events includes (but isn't limited to) engagement party, bridal or wedding shower, bachelor and bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinner, and sometimes a farewell brunch. Of course, it's up to you which parties you'll include in your wedding celebrations. Our articles and guides help you decide which parties are right for you and help you plan the perfect events!","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"pre-wedding-events-guide","title":"Guide to All Wedding Parties & Events","excerpt":"We created a guide to all the different pre-wedding, post-wedding, and wedding-related events so you can decide what you’ll include as part of your wedding.","author":"Jennifer Prince, Erin Celletti, and McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2022-04-13T18:06:06.745Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uuVJB4T2Ib4wDoicjCgbZ/9b21dc45e3155dd604137c1bf2a53c2a/Hero_1.jpg","altText":"Circular image of friends toasting with champagne glasses and sparkling lights"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Years ago, once couples got engaged, they had two celebrations to look forward to—the bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner. Although those traditions remain, as time has moved on, couples have become more creative with the addition of other events. No matter your reasoning for including extra celebrations in your wedding festivities schedule, seize the opportunity to gather with family and friends. Here’s our ultimate guide to all the different kinds of [parties and events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events) you can include in your [wedding timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## Engagement party\n\nThe question gets popped, a ring is placed on your finger, and it’s time to celebrate with loved ones. Ideally, an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) takes place within the first month of the proposal, but if your schedule prevents that timeline, do it whenever is most convenient.\n\nSince this is generally a more intimate celebration, hosting anything from a casual backyard barbecue with lawn games and a [small guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-do-you-invite-to-an-engagement-party) to a more upscale dinner gathering is appropriate. \n\nIf your interest is piqued, there are more [engagement party ideas here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas).\n\nWho hosts the engagement party depends on your take on the event. If you and your future spouse want to have family and friends gather to [meet each other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement), feel free to host. However, if you’re going to be hands-off, have someone close, such as a sibling or parent, orchestrate the event.\n\n__Expert advice:__ Unless your wedding will be very small or a destination wedding, only invite people who will also be guests on your wedding day. \n\nSee all of our [engagement party articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/engagement-party) for more expert tips.\n\n![Craig Adderley - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5GFhw3on6e3FyKap4ONlH7/1b4acace342fc222441fc06c9f64c8a4/Inline_1.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Craig Adderley\n\n## Wedding showers\n\nOnce referred to as a bridal shower, today’s [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-bridal-shower-and-what-is-its-purpose) is more inclusive than its formerly women-only predecessor ([read more about the difference here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one)). While you can keep it to just the ladies if you’d like, the main focus of this event is to shower the happy couple with gifts, which can take on several forms. Guests can bring items off the [couple’s registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), or the event can be [themed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridal-shower-themes). Think of giving articles related to experiences or stocking the couple’s bar.\n\nIt’s probably best to let someone else handle the hosting and inviting for your [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-shower-guide). But that doesn’t mean you need to be hands-off. Talk to your sibling, best man, maid of honor, or parent—all appropriate choices for hosting a shower—about a theme and what type of gifts you’d like. Invite close friends and family members, and hold the event two to three months before the wedding. Do it at someone’s home or somewhere else that gives off intimate, celebratory vibes.\n\n### So, then, what is a bridal shower?\n\nA traditional [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) celebrates the bride and is a gathering of her closest friends and family, typically all female. It’s often thrown by the bride’s side of the family and her bridal party, but it has evolved into an “anything goes” event for cost responsibility. The key difference here is that the focus is on the bride.\n\n### What is a Jack and Jill party?\n\nA Jack and Jill party is a modern, inclusive way to celebrate both sides of the couple at once before the big day. It mixes sides and genders and is usually more laid back in a way more and more couples are choosing. It’s a chance to celebrate the couple together with everyone they love. If your coed curious, read more about the [pros and cons of having a coed wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower).\n\n__Expert advice:__ Find [wedding or bridal shower invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) of all styles on Zola. You can even match them to your [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)! \n\nFor more expert tips, explore all of our [wedding shower articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/wedding-shower).\n\n## Bach parties\n\nToday’s couples have reframed the bachelor or bachelorette party to be more classy while still partying and making memories with people they are close to. Think about inviting your bridal party, siblings, and close friends—as long as they don’t feel stilted by not being asked to be an attendant.\n\nIt’s perfectly appropriate for you to host this event yourself. Your wedding party can also take the reins. Often, bachelor and bachelorette parties have everyone pay their own way, especially if you jet-set out of town for a long weekend. That said, this pre-wedding celebration is more about getting together and being festive than major expenses. So, feel free to be flexible so everyone involved can celebrate leading up to your wedding day.\n\n### Bachelorette parties\n[Bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties) celebrate the bride-to-be and can be anything from an elevated brunch, a night on the town, or weekend away somewhere festive. Most importantly, they should reflect the bachelorette’s personality and wishes and be a gathering of her nearest and dearest. \n\nRead our full [guide to planning a bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelorette-party) for more deets. \n\n### Bachelor parties\n\n[Bachelor parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelor-party) honor, you’ve guessed it — the bachelor. It’s basically just a gathering of the groom’s best friends and family spending time together. Normally, they do what the groom enjoys most whether it be sports, hiking, the casino — anything goes. \n\nCheck out [47 bachelor party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas) to find something for every groom.\n\n### Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette parties\n\nBrides, grooms, and same-sex couples looking for ways to celebrate together might opt for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. ‘Bachelorx’ as some call it, is much more than a coed party – it's a fun and inclusive way to focus pre-wedding festivities on the couple as a whole. \n\nCheck out [how to throw a joint bach party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party-games) for the step-by-step. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Get answers to all of your bach party questions, from theme ideas to planning guides to gift inspiration. Find everything [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelorette-party) or [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelor-party) in our expert advice sectionon. \n\n![Melike Benli - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5z3OG5MnN3cpIavaOqAcrX/0b0cc0586ce31c6d2b89c163a6a6ef16/Inline_2.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Melike Benli\n\n## Aufruf\n\nJewish culture has many celebrations, such as Hanukkah and Yom Kippur, but a wedding-centric event that many look forward to is the Aufruf. Yiddish for “calling up,” the Aufruf is traditionally only meant for the groom, although in more modern synagogues, both partners can participate. The entire congregation takes part in this pre-wedding tradition, which happens at the temple the Saturday before the wedding.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the groom will give a blessing over the Torah. Inviting friends and family to the service is appropriate since this is a public display. However, dash all thoughts of the Aufruf being solemn. Sometimes, the rabbi will give the couple candy, signifying a sweet union and fruitfulness throughout the marriage. Some folks will also schedule a post-Aufruf meal to continue the festivities, depending on the circumstances. Additionally, the Aufruf is not to be confused with Shabbat Chatan, which is also for the groom but takes place after the big day.\n\n## Mehndi party\n\nBorrowing beautiful influences from Hindu and [Muslim traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/muslim-wedding-checklist), the mehndi party is a unique way to celebrate while focusing on self and practicing ancient rituals. Also known as a henna party, this event is generally held by the bride’s parents and involves placing beautiful, intricate designs on the bride’s hands and feet using henna dye.\n\nToday’s celebrations often include other close family members and friends of the bride. Because these events can take hours—depending on how many henna artists are available and the intricacy of the designs—hosting at a spa, home, or Airbnb can be a nice touch. Henna also darkens over time, so if you’d like to have these designs on your hands and feet for your wedding day, it’s best to have henna applied three days beforehand to allow the natural ink to darken.\n\n## Welcome party \n\nIf you’re having a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist) (or a [wedding weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/plan-wedding-weekend) people are traveling in for), it’s customary to have some form of welcome reception when your guests arrive at the wedding location. \n\nThis differs from the rehearsal dinner—which typically happens the night before the wedding and only hosts the bridal party and your closest family. \n\nA wedding welcome party can be as casual as welcome drinks or a barbecue once everyone arrives and settles in. It can also be as extravagant as your budget and style preferences allow. Just remember that it’s optional. \n\n## Sangeet \n\nOften celebrated in India, sangeet is all about merriment with many family and friends. As a result, the number of folks invited to sangeet will often outnumber the wedding reception. Folks get together to party — sing, dance, eat, drink — before the big day to showcase their support for the couple and gather with those they haven’t seen in a while. Because this is a large celebration, hosts can often vary and may depend on the number of guests invited.\n\nBecause of the higher guest count, hosting should happen at a [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) or another location that can hold many people. Although, sometimes, the sangeet will include a smaller number of guests. When it comes to pre-wedding events, sangeets are one of the most flexible, meaning that the location, who hosts, and its proximity to the wedding day can all vary. However, one thing sangeets have in common is the presence of music, which is no wonder since the word means “music” in Sanskrit.\n\n## Rehearsal dinner \n\nThe [rehearsal dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas) follows your wedding rehearsal, in which your officiant or wedding planner guides you and everyone involved through your wedding ceremony. Along with these people, it’s nice to [invite any close family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-to-invite-to-a-rehearsal-dinner) who are wedding guests, as well as those traveling in. \n\nAs expected, the rehearsal dinner is usually the evening before your wedding. As such, it’s best to host it somewhere close to the wedding venue. Choose a restaurant close by or see if your ceremony venue has a space that is not already dedicated to your wedding reception.\n\n## Wedding party/bridal luncheon \n\nIt’s always great to get together with your wedding party. Plus, if you’re a groom who wants to hold a groomsmen’s brunch, go for it! Traditionally, a bridesmaids or wedding party luncheon or brunch is a meal for bridesmaids and/or groomsmen focused on socializing the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party). Breaking the ice before the big day is a fantastic way to set the tone. \n\nThe bridesmaids’ brunch usually takes place at a restaurant, café, or loved one’s home. If you’d like to host this event, feel free to take the reins. As for when it takes place, that comes down to your personal preference and everyone’s schedules. If everyone is local, picking a date should be simple, but if a few are long-distance, the event may have to take place closer to your [wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101/wedding-day).\n\n## After party \n\nJust because the DJ has played the last song and the lights have come up doesn’t mean the party has to be over. It’s becoming more and more common for couples to host an after party that is, quite literally, after the party. \n\nThis after-hours event usually involves extra cocktails and snacks, is in a different location than the reception itself, and can help to keep the party going. And going, and going. Find the best DJs and live bands for your after party on [Zola’s Vendor Marketplace](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-bands-djs).\n\n## Farewell brunch \n\nThe final culminating event of a wedding celebration is the [farewell brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fun-post-wedding-brunch-invitation-ideas). It can be hosted by the couple, the families, a close relative, or anyone else who offers. It’s typically reserved for guests who’ve spent the night in a designated hotel or resort.\n\nThe farewell brunch gives your guests a chance to regroup, enjoying breakfast and coffee before heading on their merry way. It’s not a mandatory event, but it’s definitely nice to have for both the couple and their guests. As a result, it’s a relatively easy way to put the cherry on top of a great wedding. \n\n## Final thoughts on extra wedding events\n\nAs you can see, weddings can be as simple as the ceremony and reception itself. Or can be a true series of parties and events that lead up to and even continue after the wedding itself. There are no obligations or limits to the amount of wedding fun you can have.\n\nOthers want to honor and celebrate you—both on and before your big day. Incorporating one or more of these wedding festivities gives you more opportunities to spend time and celebrate with everyone you love. The best part? You don’t have to get overwhelmed with planning everything when you’ve got Zola on your team. 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Read our guide to decide who makes the cut.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:47:19.387Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25SBopO9NY1WkTuKP5Y9q0/f2e532633c374115ed1bc2a53480aca6/inline_unsplsh.jpg","altText":"Engagement party guests"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"With wedding planning, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is the first thing on many couples' lists as they look forward to the big day. Often this party can serve as a way to celebrate your newly engaged status, and for some couples, this may even be where you make the big __[engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101)__.\n\nHowever you choose to organize your party, the guest list is one of the biggest elements to tackle. Who do you invite to the engagement party now that you're engaged?\n\nThere are a few different scenarios you may find yourself in. When you're putting together your engagement party guest list, one big factor to consider is who __[hosts the engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party)__. Ultimately, the host will get the final say on headcount—with the happy couple's input, of course.\n\nUnlike other pre-wedding celebrations, the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) tends to be more open-ended in terms of how people approach it. And nowadays, many couples even host their own party. Sometimes, a friend or even the bride or groom’s parents host instead. You may have many wedding etiquette questions about your engagement celebration guest list, and Zola has the answers.\n\n## Who Should I invite?\nLots of folks probably come to mind, from your close loved ones to family members you only see once every few years. Although you shouldn’t feel pressured to invite everyone on your wedding guest list, here’s who should come to your celebration for the newly engaged couple. \n\n- Bride’s Parents and Groom’s Parents — Essentially, it’s important to invite each set of parents. You must consider your family dynamics and current relationships with those folks if you have divorced families. In this case, discuss this with your partner, and do what you’re comfortable with.\n\n- Immediate Family Members — Invite siblings and any family members you’re especially close to, such as an aunt or your grandparents. Even if some of these family members are out of town, you should invite them out of honor and respect.\n\n- Wedding Party — Bridesmaids and groomsmen are close enough to you to be in the wedding, so they should certainly make the engagement party guest list.\n\n- Closest Friends — Again, don’t feel obligated to invite each and every one of the bride-to-be’s friends but limit the event to those closest to you. A lot of this depends on how many folks you want in attendance at your celebration.\n\n### Should I Limit the Guest List?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4iXslAgW7yyhKHQ7vo1aiv/71dc9f2dca8497cb5fba07a948fba41c/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nWhen you're deciding who should come, there are a few things to consider. As a rule of thumb, if you invite someone to the engagement celebration, they should also get a wedding invitation. That doesn't mean you must invite everyone to the engagement party. Instead of a huge bash, many couples decide to have a more intimate celebration, which means a smaller engagement party that’s more manageable to plan. Limiting the guest list can also help keep the cost of the event in check. \n\nGenerally speaking, both sets of parents of the engaged couple should be invited, as well as step-parents and grandparents, siblings, close aunts, uncles, and cousins, as well as members of your bridal party (if you're organized and know who they are), and of course, close friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. That said, some couples decide to make it a small get-together and may invite only family or friends to a small brunch. \n\n### Do I Need to Invite Everyone?\nIn some instances, whether it be due to family obligations or a couple's background, they may invite all wedding guests to the engagement party. If you can invite everyone to the engagement party, remember that this is still the first pre-wedding party leading up to the actual wedding. The tone of the engagement party should be different from the wedding. While it's still celebratory, remember it's still not a wedding.\n\n### Can I Have Two Parties?\n\n![Who Do You Invite to an Engagement Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/610DuvVYhcIWiOTMmqwYb9/5cfff899156238dcea1b4bcb2f868002/inline_unsplsh.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nSometimes an engaged couple may decide to have two different parties. If both people getting married have large extended families, having a party for just the two sides is a great option. In this case, having a second party just for your friends could also be a good decision. \n\nOne thing to keep in mind regarding __[engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ is that if you do decide to have two parties, don't invite the same people to both. It will defeat the purpose and could get confusing for the guests. Another option is to have a more traditional event with family and then party with friends during a different type of celebration. The choice is yours!\n\n### Who Not to Invite?\nWhen you're looking to make some cuts to your list, there are some folks you can consider not inviting. Generally speaking, inviting an ex to an engagement party probably isn't the best idea. While you may have maintained a friendship after the relationship ended, inviting them to the engagement party might be awkward for your significant other—unless you’ve already discussed it.\n\nDepending on the kind of party you throw, think backyard barbecue with __[engagement party games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas)__ versus a cocktail party, inviting children might not be the best idea. While you may have kids in the wedding party (think ring bearer and flower girl), if you are planning on a sit-down dinner for your engagement party, it might be easier to ask guests not to bring kids. If the event is more casual, having kids attend is perfectly acceptable.\n\nSometimes you may have mutual acquaintances and co-workers you might feel obligated to invite, but if you are not very close to them, then there’s no need to invite them. The engagement party is meant to be special and intimate. You'll want to be surrounded by the people who love and support you and know you best in the world.\n\nAlso, consider who you’ll need to invite for other events surrounding the nuptials. In addition to the wedding day, you’ll also have to curate guest lists for the rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party, and bridal shower. For example, out-of-town family members may not want the pressure of traveling in for your engagement party, so invite them to the rehearsal dinner instead.\n\n## What to Include in Engagement Party Invitations?\nWhether you decide to do paper invitations or use your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) as a way to inform everyone, there is engagement party etiquette when it comes to your invitations. Add the elements below to have everything you need to inform guests about your event using [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas).\n\n- Include the __date__ and __time__ of your event, and make this very clear on your invitation.\n\n- Name the __venue__. Be sure to include the __address__ and __parking instructions__.\n\n- Your first and last __names__. Feel free to skip last names if everyone knows both of you.\n\n- The __host names__ if they would like to be included on the invitation.\n\n- State the __dress code__ to help field questions on the [formality of the event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-an-engagement-party).\n\n- Add your __wedding registry__ information if you feel comfortable having folks bring engagement party gifts.\n\n- Include how to __RSVP__ and a final __date__ for folks to let you know whether they’ll be attending or not.\n\n## Zola, Your Go-To Wedding Guide\nAt the end of the day, you have to make the best decision for you and your significant other. Land on a guest count that feels most comfortable for both of you, your host, and any budget constraints. And remember: Having a party that celebrates you and the new life you are embarking on is what’s most important. \n\nAnd once you’ve gone through all of Zola’s engagement party ideas, be sure to use the expert advice section as your personal wedding planner. Whether you’re hosting a destination wedding or an event at a nearby country club, Zola is here to help with traditional and trending topics for your special day. ","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Who hosts an engagement party? Is it the couple or the parents of the bride or groom? 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","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party","slug":"how-to-plan-an-engagement-party","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It’s not uncommon for a wedding photographer to include an engagement photo session in their packages. 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","title":"How to Announce Your Engagement","slug":"how-to-announce-your-engagement","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hk4Xt2gcurIwwAACqfcxh/52d16b9f41ed4c4e63d6f316dcb0379d/How-to-Announce-your-Engagement.jpg","altText":"Couple makes engagement announcement"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:59.569Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"who-hosts-an-engagement-party","title":"The Complete Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette","excerpt":"Who hosts an engagement party? Is it the couple or the parents of the bride or groom? Read our guide to hosting.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:43:26.762Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3cIRZa2bmTKPTmsVClWiAO/05f9f7ce61cc50b997657ac6af37c51f/inline_unsplash__25_.jpg","altText":"who hosts the engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Congratulations, you just got engaged! There’s much to be excited about at this time—including your engagement celebration. Having an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) is by no means required of you, but it is a fun way for you, your partner, and your loved ones to get together and celebrate this joyous news. Typically, this the first of many pre-wedding party celebrations, with possible bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, a rehearsal dinner, and, of course, your nuptials coming further down the line.\n\nBetween all of the wedding planning and aforementioned wedding celebrations, it can be hard to keep track of good etiquette. Each event seems to have its own recommended tips, which can get confusing. With that in mind, we’ve put together the following guide. Not only will we answer any engagement party etiquette questions you may have, but help you have the best engagement party for you. Read on for all of the need-to-knows.\n\n## Who Throws the Engagement Party?\nTraditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the bride’s parents. This tradition started centuries ago; given today’s larger views about gender, this can be viewed as a little dated. Back then, many people thought they were attending a regular party. Then, at the end, the father of the bride would make the big [engagement announcement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).\n\nToday, a lot of things have shifted in terms of how people view the traditions associated with weddings and the [engagement party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) around it. Namely, hosting has become more relaxed. Nowadays, when trying to determine who’s supposed to host the engagement party, it's not uncommon for close friends of the engaged couple, or even the couple, to host the engagement party themselves. And, in some instances, there may even be multiple engagement parties thrown by multiple people (the parents of the bride, the groom’s parents, close friends, siblings, etc.).\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UIWv3U2gB0NakR7z2bpSX/3dc856d0f4b94986fcbe8b495f6e65a6/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nThat said, usually both friends and family attend the party, since it’s a great way for everyone to meet one another. The main takeaway is that there is no one right way to decide who hosts an engagement party. Every couple has to decide what works for them, whether that be the bride’s parents, friends of the couple, or the couple themselves choosing to host.\n\n## Who Pays for the Party?\nOne major factor to keep in mind is that, whoever ends up hosting the event—whether it be the engaged couple, their friends, or [family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)—is generally expected to pick up the bill for it. This is part of being a good host/hostess. However, there are a variety of ways to handle this.\n\nPerhaps the event is hosted by a few of your close friends and they choose to divvy up the tasks. For example, one person could have the event held at their house, while another close friend could provide the beverages, and someone else could offer to cover the cost of food. Or, another option might be to have the party at an event space, then divide the cost by all individuals who offered to have it. The same process could be applied to family or groups of any kind.\n\n## How Long After Engagement Do You Have Engagement Party?\nA key logistic—and one of the first—that needs to be decided is the date of your engagement party. This will largely effect your venue options and time available planning, as well as guests’ availability. Most often, a couple’s engagement party will take place within the first few months of engagement, while everyone is still caught up in the excitement and newness of it all. We recommend anything between a week and three months after the proposal. If most of your loved ones are local (or, perhaps you want to announce your engagement at the party), one to four weeks is ideal. On the other hand, if you’d like to plan something a bit more involved, you can definitely take a few more weeks to plan or gather everyone.\n\n## How Formal Should the Dress Code Be?\nLike every other detail of your celebration, the dress code is entirely decided on by you. Meaning, it definitely varies, depending on a couple’s personal taste and choice of engagement party. For example, if you’re hosting a backyard BBQ, you can encourage casual, comfortable attire. If, instead, you’re throwing a cocktail party, you may want to ask your guests to dress appropriately in cocktail attire. A helpful tip in deciding on your dress code is to consider your venue. What someone assumes they should wear to a country club is going to differ from what they think they should wear to a night-out bash.\n\nIn any case, be sure to include this piece of information on your engagement party invitation. Depending on what you think is best, your description can be general (‘casual,’ ‘cocktail attire’) or a little more descriptive.\n\n## Who to Invite to the Engagement Party\nNow to tackle what might be the most challenging aspect of your party: The guest list. No fear—while this can initially come off as an intimidating task, there are a few pieces of etiquette that can make the process smooth sailing.\n\nTo start, engagement party etiquette generally says that every person you invite—from relatives to close friends—should also be a wedding guest of yours down the line. Keeping your engagement celebration to these people helps avoid any uncomfortable situations once wedding invitations go out. You want to avoid confusion and blind-sidedness from those close to you who expected an invitation, but didn’t get one.\n\nHowever, there are a couple exceptions to this rule. For example, if you’re planning a destination wedding not many people will be able to attend. Similarly, times have changed and it’s no longer seen as bad etiquette to host a small, intimate wedding and a larger, more inclusive engagement party. Just remember to be honest and tactful with guests.\n\n## When (and How) to Send the Invitations\nWith the details and guests list all set, all there’s left for you to do is create and send out [invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas). (Note that these differ from [engagement announcements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101).) Since engagement parties typically take place rather quickly, it’s ideal that you get them sent out as soon as possible. This will allow your guests to adequately prepare, from taking off work, to travel logistics, to purchasing an engagement party gift. If you’re planning something fairly impromptu, you can speed up the process by sending out evites to your guest list. Just make sure you have an RSVP system in place (like text confirmations or [Zola’s wedding website RSVP tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests)). Otherwise, if your celebration isn’t for a few weeks, you can mail out or hand-deliver paper invitations.\n\n## Time for a Toast\nA final aspect to consider is the toast. Usually, the party might start off with a toast by the hosts of the event, followed by the parents of the engaged couple, family members, and close friends. Perhaps some co-workers or acquaintances might add a few words as well. If you choose to go the more traditional route, the couple will toast one another. Also, the couple will conclude the event by thanking their hosts and company for coming to celebrate with them as well.\n\nThere are no hard-and-fast rules as to who should host and how to go about having an engagement party. For couples who decide to host it themselves, this can free you up to plan things as you see fit and to scale the party up or down as you choose. In some instances where the engaged couple hosts the party, they can even use it as a chance to announce their big news to their family, loved ones, or friends.\n\n![Who Hosts an Engagement Party?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Mcbjra8w2CoUTt9xUd0VP/a19c799c2fcd58b7845c7fa0853815b9/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nHaving an engagement party is entirely optional and should be a no-stress event. At the end of the day, you have to decide what works for you. However you choose to have your engagement party, the focus of it should be on the couple’s impending big day and how they are building a new life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t know what an engagement party is or if you should host one? Find out now. 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Happy planning!","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2023-12-21T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Nv4GtlUw4LfNJVkpcFmSi/32aa338cea95b2f766f3f616efcc3985/50_Best_Engagement_Party_Ideas_hero__1_.png","altText":"People smiling and clinking wine glasses at a party"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas\n - Outdoor engagement party ideas\n - Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam\n - Morning engagement party ideas\n - Creative engagement party themes\n- How to plan an engagement party\n- Engagement party FAQs","body":"Planning an engagement party is one of the first steps you and your partner will take to celebrate your love and commitment to each other. It's the perfect opportunity to gather your closest friends and family, toast to your future, and, of course, have a whole lot of fun.\n\nWith so many engagement party ideas out there, it can be overwhelming to decide on the perfect theme for your celebration. Whether you're into rustic charm, elegant soirées, or something unique, we've got you covered. We've rounded up a list of engagement party ideas to help you set the stage for a night to remember. Grab your partner, start scrolling, and be inspired!\n\n## Top 50 unforgettable engagement party ideas \n\n### Outdoor engagement party ideas \nWhether you are having a [long or short engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-should-an-engagement-last), there’s nothing like a beautiful outdoor engagement celebration with your closest family and friends. Take your party to the beach, or opt for one of our backyard engagement party ideas. Soak up the sun and celebrate with your loved ones with the help of any theme below.\n\n__1. Incorporate elegant roses:__\nRoses aren’t just for Valentine’s Day. A rose-themed engagement party is a fantastic idea for couples who want to infuse their celebration with romance and elegance. Throw a rose-themed party with your favorite-colored roses and incorporate touches of rose gold to complete this elegant feel. Consider rose-inspired cocktails and rose petal decor, or maybe even encourage guests to wear rose colors.\n\n![Incorporate Elegant Roses](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1drdUZVq7B27mStLSV8G5z/6b31536cce039a5b588ab957f7823091/Incorporate_Elegant_Roses.jpeg)\n\n__2. Get Competitive With Beach Games:__\nFor couples who love the laid-back, sun-soaked vibes of the shore, have a casual engagement party with a beach cookout. Toss volleyballs, feast on your favorite hamburgers, and laugh about all of your favorite memories as a couple. For decorations, think seashell centerpieces, beach blankets, and tiki torches.\n\n__3. Create your own Japanese garden:__\nCreating a Japanese garden is an excellent idea for couples who appreciate the serenity and beauty of Japanese culture. Begin with tea and then transition to your sushi main dish at your brightly colored garden party. For decor, add paper lanterns, cherry blossoms, or shades of jade.\n\n__4. Let the leaves fall:__\nThis is the perfect choice for nature-loving couples who want to celebrate their engagement in the breathtaking beauty of autumn. Recreate a heartwarming fall engagement party with rustic reds, greens, and yellows, plus golden silverware and simply decorated centerpieces. These natural engagement party decoration ideas will make for a unique and memorable occasion.\n\n![Let the Leaves Fall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/22AADZEnEVhavdtfOHEUOi/f6f7674d4d9eb31c9ebc5c4ee2d20aa3/Let_the_Leaves_Fall.jpeg)\n\n__5. Re-create a tropical summer:__\nThis one’s for the couples dreaming of a tropical wedding destination! Decorate the venue with palm leaves, white minimalist chairs, and simple tables, then hang light pink streamers for a luscious tropical summer party. If you’ll be spending your wedding day in a tropical destination, this is a great way to get your engagement party guests excited. Make sure to capture the memory with summer [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!\n\n__6. Have a backyard bonfire:__\nIt’s perfect for outdoorsy couples who adore the cozy ambiance of a crackling fire! Light some matches and snuggle up in blankets to celebrate your love over s’mores, backyard games, and traditional bonfire tunes. \n\n![Celebrate in a Winter Wonderland](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/33MV7IjOwBRTNjSofyjWze/2dc5064e68bf03bcdec3ab79cfabd43e/Celebrate_in_a_Winter_Wonderland.jpeg) \n\n__7. Celebrate in a winter wonderland:__\nIf you got engaged during the winter months, enjoy sipping a hot cocoa cocktail with warm blankets up in the mountains for a heartwarming holiday party. Cover your venue in snowy white decorations and twinkling fairy lights to create a whimsical atmosphere. Add fabrics with plaid and gingham for a mountain cabin vibe. \n\n__8. Throw a luau:__\nBring the spirit of the tropics for a fun and laid-back celebration. Serve traditional Hawaiian egg rolls, pineapple pastries, and kabobs while wearing Hawaiian attire and flowers in your hair. Decorate with bright, fresh flowers and tropical elements to make your party feel like you’re on the beaches of Hawaii.\n\n__9. Have a classic picnic:__\nHost a traditional plaid picnic party in your backyard or local park. Pack your favorite pastries, popsicles, or sandwiches in celebration of this new milestone. Prepare a selection of lawn engagement party game ideas like bocce or frisbee to create that classic picnic atmosphere. \n\n__10. Make your own secret garden:__\nDecorate your backyard garden for a celebratory cocktail party complete with light green streamers, white balloons, and even mini gold vases for a whimsical engagement get-together. Your menu can feature botanical-inspired cocktails and elegant finger foods that capture the enchantment of your love story.\n\n![Make Your Own Secret Garden](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Gfg9GHvGieTB2b54gYvVO/fc15474a4a9da163b86d42bae19e6fb4/Make_Your_Own_Secret_Garden.jpeg) \n\n__11. Add a rustic appeal:__\nDo you and your partner share a love of the countryside? Deck your venue out with wooden engagement decorations, mason jar centerpieces, and a down-to-earth ambiance. Get a wheelbarrow and picnic table, then crack open some beers to celebrate the next big step in your relationship with your loved ones. \n\n__12. Host a farm to table feast:__\nThis one is for food-loving couples who appreciate fresh, locally sourced ingredients, rustic decor, long wooden communal tables, and a menu that savors the flavors of the season. Pick out all of your favorite local food products for your engagement party and create your own farm-to-table celebration. Serve food on wooden crates in your backyard with festive product labels pointing out both your favorite picks. Pack a dessert table with your favorite sweet treats. If you and your fiancé share an affinity for vino, incorporate an informal wine tasting into the festivities.\n\n__13. Enjoy a BBQ__\nIf you adore the idea of a relaxed, sun-soaked celebration spent mingling with loved ones, keep reading. Decorate with picnic-style tables, gingham tablecloths, and mason jar centerpieces filled with wildflowers, and serve up a delectable spread of barbecue classics like smoky ribs and grilled veggies. \n\n__14. Cool Off at a Pool Party__\nMake a splash with your cool, refreshing engagement party. Ideal for those who love a refreshing dip, you can decorate the poolside with colorful inflatables, tropical plants, and lounge chairs. Serve fresh fruit platters, pastries, and cocktails to energize and entertain your guests.\n\n[![Download Take the Party Outside](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4YGTT22KBc9kOev1nkJn86/d2d65640b94f5a9e088ed1aaae54f31d/Download_Take_the_Party_Outside.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6SHKUeyuttpP62ht3LkTb3/7ffd7acc27efd8c6f25d428a3ac33b31/Take_the_Party_Outside.png)\n\n## Engagement party ideas full of glitz and glam \n\nMake your party personal and unique with all your favorite things—whether that includes bright watercolor fun or rooftop rosé with your closest friends and family. \n\n__15. Ring In the New Year__\nCan you think of a better theme for couples who love a touch of glamour and want to celebrate their love in style? Celebrate your engagement at a formal party while watching fireworks and munching on appetizers with your loved ones surrounding you. Toast to the New Year and your new engagement. Gold and silver accents will complement the fizzy beverages.\n\n![Ring in the New Year](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24rgiOmwSbkn992L6aF7WN/27e7dad7515ce35b71e7fef83a79eecf/Ring_in_the_New_Year.jpeg)\n\n__16. Track Back to the 1920s__\nObsessed with the glamour and nostalgia of the Roaring Twenties? Throw a Gatsby-themed party with suits, jazz blaring on the stereo, and layered pearl necklaces on your tables for decoration. Fill the event space with art deco decorations, offer vintage cocktails, and design a menu with classic dishes of the era.\n\n__17. Host a White Party__\nCalling all couples looking for a chic, sophisticated engagement party theme! Craft a menu with a range of dishes in white hues, add white lace touches to your decorations, and have all your guests wear white to your event to show their love for the newly engaged couple.\n\n__18. Create your own Broadway bliss:__\nInfuse your celebration with the magic of the stage! Coordinate karaoke or impromptu performances to set the stage for a night of entertainment and drama. Compile your favorite tunes and add touches of velvet in a dimly lit venue for an intimate theater engagement party experience. \n\n![Create Your Own Broadway Bliss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Ie8SF78XNMw3PUUuftivC/ae3cf79eb4a314a058213cb7eadef6c4/Create_Your_Own_Broadway_Bliss.jpeg)\n\n__19. Be Parisian__\nBring the irresistible romance and chic vibes straight from Paris, the City of Love, to your party. This is the towering peak (get it?) of all romantic engagement party ideas! Choose French-inspired decor, a menu of delectable pastries, cheeses, and wine, and charming cafe background music. Have guests sign locks to hang on a wall and toast to love with macarons and champagne.\n\n__20. Become famous with a costume party__ \nThis entertaining and creative engagement party theme is perfect for fun-loving couples who enjoy dressing up and want to create a memorable, lively atmosphere. If you have a favorite movie, genre, or book, throw your own costume party! Pick out your favorite celebrities and have fun getting into character with your guests. \n\n__21. Have a pink flamingo party__\nEmbrace your playful side with tropical-inspired treats and fruity cocktails! Brighten your party up with pink accents and decorative paper flowers for your flamingo-themed celebration. Blow up a giant flamingo floaty for the perfect backdrop to take Polaroid pictures. Take it one step further and prepare pink party favors!\n\n![Have a Flamingo Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7baC3eWRK9eOEGZ6io4QpF/b7a5589013ccf7b2f3dc367c25f60cf2/Have_a_Flamingo_Party_.jpg)\n\n__22. Roll out the red carpet__\nWant to feel like A-list celebrities on your special day? Make your guests feel like stars by hosting a party full of Old Hollywood glamour with this glitzy party theme. Have a red carpet, flashing lights, and music blasting while guests make their way down the aisle.\n\n__23. Provide a glamorous menu__\nIf you and your significant other appreciate the finer things in life, shine the spotlight on a decadent meal. Curate a sophisticated menu of gourmet dishes, fine wines, and artisanal cocktails, offering an elegant dining experience and exceptional cuisine.\n\n__24. Have an enchanting party__\nShowcase your fairy-tale-like romance with personal touches, dreamy decorations, whimsical charcuterie boards, and delicate desserts. Decorate your engagement party with deep blues and purples with gold accents and a tiered cake. To top off your engagement party attire, wear gold headpieces to walk around like royalty.\n\n![Have An Enchanting Party](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4tOYTUJstR4wcFHFgQ5Dg8/8e077c8a2b22fcf3898de8e982452557/Have_An_Enchanting_Party_.jpeg)\n\n__25. Host a dessert party__\nIf you have a sweet tooth, create your own dessert decor with your favorite guilty pleasures all on one table. Serve wine, coffee, or tea for everyone to indulge in. Offer recipes as party favors or ask guests to bring their favorite dessert recipes to share with the love birds.\n\n__26. Celebrate with rosé all day__\nAre you partial to rosé wine? Decorate in pink and white decorations and serve a menu with light, wine-paired dishes like charcuterie and seafood. Rent out your favorite rooftop bar to celebrate with a view. Toast to your engagement over rosé and city lights.\n\n[![Download Add Glitz and Glam](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2U0cFzVNVxU1TAGlZTEcj2/5fff0a92fc6db7a4dfdcbae0d366c920/Download_Add_Glitz_and_Glam.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2XPf8NKAtdLoP5jKd5GfPS/1e4fbf895ae3b46d6987e4e4caf6e695/Glitz_and_Glam.png)\n\n### Morning engagement party ideas to toast to your new life \n\nHave you thought about toasting to your new adventures over an engagement party brunch? After all, breakfast may just take the top spot as everyone’s favorite meal. Consider celebrating your love with a donut party or a mimosa bar.\n\n__27. Make a mimosa bar__\nLooking for a bubbly and interactive engagement party idea? Buy your favorite fruit, juice, and champagne to toast your journey as a newly engaged couple. Set up a full bar for your guests to create their ideal mimosa. Provide a few suggested combinations as inspiration for your mixology guests. \n\n![Make a Mimosa Bar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2TU6VRSIH9zRnIsj0vShxa/7f6b39e67a7a0fa936660505971b06c3/Make_a_Mimosa_Bar.jpeg) \n\n__28. Jazz brunch__\nDo you and your partner love the timeless allure of jazz music? Eat your classic go-to breakfast dishes at your own French Quarter Courtyard. From scrambled eggs to French toast and egg casserole, cheers to your new journey together over morning champagne and fresh beignets.\n\n__29. Have a morning fiesta__\nEmbody your lively, spirited relationship with an energetic, Mexican-inspired party. Enjoy breakfast burritos with guacamole and a tall glass of orange juice on tables decorated with cacti and bright pink for a proper morning fiesta celebration.\n\n![Have a Morning Fiesta](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3XJ1BVAdcGCNvXy5GhJ5ee/9cd22e048e7edeb075ea98f862e33889/Have_a_Morning_Fiesta.jpeg)\n\n__30. Bring out the sunshine__\nThis cheerful and radiant engagement party theme was made for couples who adore warm, sunny things. Add lemons to clear vases for your table centerpieces, and create your own full coffee bar for the perfect wake-up call. Incorporate bright yellows throughout your venue for a morning sunshine feel.\n\n__31. Show your love for blooms__\nShow your love for the natural beauty of flowers with a romantic and fragrant atmosphere. Have a sunrise breakfast celebration by decorating your venue with flower petals scattered on each table, bright-colored peony centerpieces, and mini breakfast sandwiches and pastries.\n\n__32. Create a donut wall__\nGot a serious sweet tooth? Set up a sweet surprise with a donut wall and glasses of milk to dip them in. Make your own pegboard wall filled with your favorite donut flavors for all your guests to test out. This is a good option for a drop-in party because it allows guests to come and go and serve themselves a sweet treat.\n\n![Create a Donut Wall](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ARXCuK0kDKa54nSWwZs01/372330870d000a8962f01829d207f7be/Create_a_Donut_Wall.jpeg)\n\n__33. Join the breakfast club__\nIs 80s pop culture a huge part of your personality? Celebrate your love with a retro-themed party, complete with boomboxes and Polaroid cameras. Have your guests dress as they would in the ‘80s in remembrance of the classic 1985 “Breakfast Club.” Share breakfast appetizers like egg bites, coffee, and bagels.\n\n__34. Host a spring tea party__\nDemonstrate your grace and refinement with a classic tea gathering! Fill vases with brightly colored flowers, fill plates with light snacks, and serve pots of tea. Have various morning pastries like banana bread and muffins to pair with your tea. Ask guests to wear a \"fancy hat\" for an extra touch of fun.\n\n__35. Have your own bake-off__\nLet your competitive side shine through! Create an interactive and sweet experience by having your guests bring their favorite baked items to compete for the best-baked masterpiece at your engagement party. Have a prize table of gift cards and wedding ring cookies for the winners.\n\n![Have Your Own Bake-Off](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yg2glEifO3RdUM4zs00kR/d10d60619087baa7c10add7f40dd4e4c/Have_Your_Own_Bake-Off.jpeg) \n\n__36. Throw a pancake pajama party__\nMake room for your lighthearted personalities to shine with a relaxed celebration. Have your guests show up in their favorite PJs to get the pancake party started. Have a variety of pancake toppers from fruit, granola, syrup, and edible roses to eat while enjoying the morning. Decorate with the comics and crossword sections of the newspaper to cultivate a \"Sunday breakfast around the table\" sort of feel.\n\n[![Download Have a Morning Toast](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1S5maqrGpKhtAwXGGHm9mk/66cbc35ed8fcdaff48fb0cfb8eb93686/Download_Have_a_Morning_Toast.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4VDl4w88NFXt2pVdtM0ZPi/b15dc12fc018bf1754b7f569ac3382cd/Have_a_Morning_Toast.png)\n\n### Get creative with these engagement party themes \n\nGet creative and let your playful spirit out to celebrate. Whether you’re a superhero geek, wannabe detective, or art lover, these creative engagement party ideas are just for you! Incorporate all of your favorite things into your engagement party for a night you’ll never forget. \n\n__37. Have a movie night__\nThis one is for film buffs: rent or buy a projector to have a movie night with all your loved ones. Stockpile all your favorite rom-coms or love stories to bring out the laughter. Lots of throw pillows, blankets, and popcorn will set the mood.\n\n![Have a Movie Night](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/UBEw3KjAWrhcAs4Km7xEy/776f4c5123691da6b2f318cc5d5d00e4/Have_a_Movie_Night.jpeg)\n\n__38. Design a scavenger hunt__\nWhat better way to start your biggest adventure than with an exciting, interactive engagement party? Think of all your relationship milestones and put your loved ones to the test with clues. Break up into groups and send them on a scavenger hunt to see who knows you best. Reward your guests with nostalgic childhood treats like sno-cones or cotton candy when they're done hunting.\n\n__39. Go modern gothic__ \nShowcase your moody and edgy aesthetics with a gothic-inspired event. Incorporate dark tones into your engagement party with taper candles, black roses, and even a couple of skulls for spooky touches. The engagement party outfit ideas for this theme are limitless! Carry the theme into your cocktails and food options, like offering blood red Campari-filled beverages and dark chocolate truffles.\n\n__40. Be the superhero__\nBring out your inner superheroes and celebrate your powerful love! Come to the rescue by incorporating your favorite desserts, photo booth superhero props, and capes to mimic your playful spirits as a newly engaged couple.\n\n![Be the Superhero](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4SWCjcMyexiuUhgj3ttT7b/d406b59e98a3a87c7a6dac5b1557d2d3/Be_the_Superhero.jpeg) \n\n__41. Become the Mad Hatter__\nWould you like to transport your guests to a world of enchantment and wonder? Play up your tea party with Wonderland essentials. Wear the classic Mad Hatter hat, sip tea, and brighten your party up with paper flowers. This is a great theme for a photo booth, complete with a white rabbit, bottles that say \"Drink me,\" and croquet mallets.\n\n__42. Create your own taco bar__\nThis yummy theme is perfect for couples that want a vibrant social atmosphere paired with delicious food. Display a variety of salsas, guacamole, beans, meats, and tortilla shells for your guests to make their own tacos. Have a full margarita and paloma table to quench your thirst. Don't feel like handling the food? Hire a taco truck to do the catering and enjoy the casual street taco vibes.\n\n__43. Gamble the night away__\nYou may have already hit the jackpot, but your guests will want to win big at your party! Have your loved ones gamble with play money to see who will win a prize by the end of the night. Be prepared with poker, roulette, and blackjack tables to guarantee an electrifying and entertaining atmosphere. Decorate with bright Vegas colors, playing cards, and poker chips.\n\n![Gamble the Night Away](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rzFe6w5jdabik98VeLRg7/3de1ea801cbc07f7fb4c7735546e8c96/Gamble_the_Night_Away.jpeg) \n\n__44. Have fun with laser tag__\nBring out your competitive side and play laser tag. You’ll get to see which one of your friends is the most competitive and the best shot. The party will be complete with futuristic decorations, glow sticks, and snack bar foods like soft pretzels, nachos, and pizza.\n\n__45. A touch of history__\nPassionate about art, culture, and history? Rent out a local museum and hire guides to give your guests a tour of your favorite exhibits. Have appetizers and cocktails and a designated seating area for guests to relax. \n\n__46. Host a murder mystery__\nIf Halloween and scary movies are a couple of your favorite things, consider hosting a murder mystery party. Break out the extravagant characters and storylines and assign roles in your engagement party invitations—may the best man win! This event requires a bit of forethought and planning, but you'll also need an emcee to keep the party moving. Consider asking a friend to emcee so you and your partner in crime can enjoy the evening! \n\n![Host a Murder Mystery](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Ue1rsIr7RKjLlJcLC4raq/927d0957d2e37dab2f718aeb393d9409/Host_a_Murder_Mystery.jpeg) \n\n__47. Go to an arcade__\nTake a break and act like a kid again. This one’s for couples who are into retro games and want to create a lighthearted and playful atmosphere! Rent out an arcade or bring the arcade to you by incorporating games you loved as a kid. Fire up the old Nintendo or start a Ms. Pac-man tournament. Whoever wins may just get a ring (cookie).\n\n__48. Host a homecoming party__\nPerfect for couples who want to relive their school days! Rent out a school gym, serve your favorite foods inspired by the cafeteria, and recreate your high school dream of being homecoming king or queen as you dance the night away. The music playlist is the key to setting the atmosphere. Choose your favorite hits from senior year to blast through the speakers.\n\n__49. Have a cocktail tasting__\nDo you and your partner share a love of mixology? Skip the bars and high-end restaurants (and their price tags) by hosting an at-home cocktail tasting. Buy the essentials, prepare the essentials for a few good drink recipes, and encourage guests to bring their own. You can even hire a mixologist to come make top-shelf drinks. For decor, consider using empty liquor bottles as flower vases. Unused cocktail glasses make great floating candle holders, too.\n\n__50. Host a mini-Olympics__\nBig sports fans? Schedule a day full of fun competitions for your guests. These can be anything from real sports—such as basketball, football, soccer, etc.—to board games or games entirely made up just for the occasion. Divide guests into teams and see who comes out on top. Bonus points if you award (fake) gold metals, hold opening and closing ceremonies, and offer energizing snacks!\n\n[![Download Get Creative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/138AtYYObDmrH1lwkQ2gPa/9b096b57a9a0c2a788b826efd332d34a/Download_Get_Creative.jpeg)\n](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12elwZqfNKDGLCLVhLdsMN/f339fc766e8a1febb32d157908c94728/Get_Creative.png)\n\n## How to plan an engagement party \nLet’s talk planning. While selecting an engagement celebration theme can be crucial, there are [plenty of other steps](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) that also require your time, attention, and effort. In short, the steps include:\n\n- __Deciding on a host.__ This individual or couple typically plans and pays for the party.\n- __Deciding on a date.__ If the engaged couple isn’t hosting, consult with them and other important guests on which date will work best.\n- __Compile a guest list.__ Likewise, work with the engaged couple to create this if they, themselves, aren’t planning and hosting.\n- __Decide on a theme.__ Your theme will aid you in choosing a venue, building a menu, and creating a schedule, if need be. If you’d like one, choose it now to ease the rest of the planning process.\n- __Research and book a venue.__ Make sure this aligns with the kind of celebration the couple wants to have. Also, ensure that potential engagement party venues can accommodate your entire guest list. Consider a simple engagement party at home if a venue isn’t in the budget. \n- __Create an online registry.__ While [engagement party gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-appropriate-gift-for-an-engagement-party) aren’t typically expected, many guests may want to give one. Use Zola to [create a gift registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and take the guesswork out of gifting.\n- __Send out invitations.__ For larger groups, formal paper [engagement party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are typically recommended. However, smaller groups can be invited via email, Facebook event, text message, etc.\n- __Decide on a menu.__ Consult with your venue (if it’s a restaurant or similar) or [caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) to create a food and drink menu.\n- __Purchase engagement décor and stock up on partyware.__ Some themes and venues won’t require much embellishing. If yours does, DIY or gather any preferred [decor and party supplies](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor). Now’s also the time to compile any playlists you’ll want to have on.\n\n## Engagement party FAQs \nWith the planning process and themes down, you might still find yourself with a few lingering questions. Luckily, we’re here to provide you with answers.\n\n__Who throws the engagement party?__ Traditionally, the parents of the bride will plan, throw and pay for the engagement party. However, it can be done by any loved one—or, as more modern couples are deciding, the couple themselves. Check out our [Guide to Engagement Party Etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-hosts-an-engagement-party) for more details.\n\n__Who do you invite to an engagement party?__ It’s engagement party etiquette that everyone who’s invited to the engagement party is also invited to the wedding. This includes close family members and best friends of the couple. That being said, some couples may choose to celebrate with different groups at different times, thus having multiple engagement parties (e.g. after-work drinks with work friends and dinner with family). This is completely fine, too.\n\n__What do you do at an engagement party?__ Engagement parties are meant to celebrate an engaged couple. How you do that should reflect something they enjoy, be it party games, trivia, or an all-out soirée. Ensure guests will have a good time by providing food and perhaps something entertaining, like games, live music, or a movie viewing.\n\nGetting engaged is a milestone worth celebrating! Your close friends and family are able to come together for this special occasion, and you get to kick off this new adventure of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning).\n\n## Ready to start planning the main event? \nStart your wedding planning journey by mapping out your [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), finding a [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), and sending [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). Check out Zola’s [free suite of wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) that help make the entire planning process a breeze. We’re with you all the days along the way!","tag":"Inspiration","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:40:58.765Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"how-to-plan-an-engagement-party","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party","excerpt":"Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-02-02T03:36:20.747Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"If you’re throwing an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-an-engagement-party) for a newly engaged couple, you might feel a tad overwhelmed by the pressure to pull off a perfect soirée. After all, this might be the very first event that the pair has attended as an engaged couple, and the first in a series of celebrations leading up to their actual wedding. And since this party is being held in their honor, the couple might have high expectations as they ride the giddy high of being newly engaged. \n\nBut if you’ve hosted other parties in the past, then never fear: putting together an engagement party is a lot like planning a typical luncheon or mixer. If you need help with themes or inspiration, check out these [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas). Follow these step-by-step instructions on engagement party planning to achieve guaranteed hosting success. \n\n## What is an Engagement Party?\nBefore jumping into planning, let’s cover the basics. Namely, what an engagement party is and the purpose it serves. Just as the name implies, an engagement party is a party thrown to celebrate and congratulate a couple on getting engaged. It usually takes place soon after an engagement and can also serve to introduce loved ones that may be seeing a lot more of each-other between now and the wedding (say, at a bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and on the big day). Think workplace friends and family members that haven’t met before.\n\nEngagement parties are traditionally thrown by the bride’s family, but modern couples can choose to host theirs themselves, as well as a variety of loved ones.\n\nIf you happen to be hosting, follow the below steps to ensure the engagement party runs smoothly and is an all-around success. \n\n![engagement-party-cheers](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2NcBqknXzNb74xgrcfF7FI/e5144796ec84fab5228489d88e2dcd7c/engagement-party-cheers.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 1. Decide Who Should Host The Engagement Party \nYour first step is to decide who will host. Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party, but nowadays anyone who feels compelled may throw this pre-wedding kickoff event. The couple themselves can even host their own engagement party, if they so choose. \n\nIf someone other than the bride’s parents plan to host, it’s a good idea to check in with them at the outset to make sure there are no stepped-on toes, and to confirm they are not also planning an engagement party. \n\nThat being said, having more than one engagement party is perfectly acceptable so long as the guest lists do not overlap beyond immediate family. Members of the wedding party can also be invited to both parties.\n\n### 2. Talk With The Couple About What Kind of Party They Want\nAs the party host, you are doing an act of kindness by throwing the pair an engagement party, and as such you have control over what kind of event you’d like to plan. However, getting the input of the couple ahead of time is always a good idea to make sure they will have a good time at the celebration in their honor. Do they want a daytime or an evening affair? Would they prefer something very casual, like a backyard BBQ, or something a tad fancier like a cocktail party? How large or small a party would they prefer? Ask them about their preferred engagement party themes, locations, and times before setting anything in stone. \n\n### 3. Set The Date and Location for The Engagement Party\nConsult with the bride/groom to nail down a date that works for everyone’s schedules, including any VIP guests that the couple would like to attend (such as parents and siblings). An ideal engagement party date should be anywhere from a few weeks to a month or two after the proposal. Engagement parties should occur before any other pre-wedding celebrations, however. \n\nThe location of an engagement party can really vary based upon preference. Decide if you would like the party to be at a private home or in a public space: the house or yard of the couple, one of their families, or a standalone host are all good options, as are private rooms or sections of local restaurants and bars. \n\n### 4. Assign a Rough Engagement Party Budget\nHaving a financial total in mind will help inform the rest of your decisions and keep expectations in line. If you have more money to spend, you could consider hosting an intimate group at a sit-down restaurant or splurging on catering services that include servers and bartenders. If your budget is tight, everyone will still have a blast toasting the happy couple in a backyard or living room over burgers and beers. \n\n### 5. Make an Engagement Party Guest List\nYour next step is to create an engagement party guest list. Have the couple give you a list of people they’d like to invite—or, if you’re hosting your own party, sit down with your fiancé(e) and make this list together. Include names, emails, phone numbers, and mailing addresses for all guests, as this will make sending out engagement party invitations much easier. \n\nRemember that everyone invited to the engagement party should also be invited to the wedding. If you’re not yet sure who will make the cut for your wedding guest list, err on the side of safety and invite only those people you’re absolutely sure will receive a wedding invitation, such as: \n\n- The bride/groom’s parents\n- The bride/groom’s siblings\n- Members of the wedding party \n- Very close friends of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n- Close relatives of the bride/groom who live in proximity to the party location\n\n### 6. Order Invitations (or Create Digital Invites)\nIf the engagement party will be smaller and/or on the formal side, [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas) are a classy way to share the news about the party with invited guests. To be safe, order custom paper invitations at least six weeks before the party date so you’ll have plenty of time to receive them and mail them out. For less formal engagement parties, or those with larger guest lists, digital invitations work perfectly fine. \n\nSend invitations through the post or by email at least three weeks from the party date. Be sure to include the following information on the invitation: \n\n- The occasion, including the names of the bride(s)/groom(s)\n- The date, time, and location of the party\n- Suggested attire and/or an indication of formality\n- An RSVP method (either phone, email, or digitally for online invitations)\n- An RSVP deadline\n\n### 7. Register for Gifts \nBe sure the couple has set up a [Zola Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) by the time the invitations are sent out. Although not required, it’s customary for guests to bring a gift for the happy pair. Registering early—before the engagement party–will ensure that guests can shop for, and the couple will receive, gifts that they truly want. \n\n![How Many Gifts to Register for Your Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1E1cy3nyuGNZUdTe31hinD/afbc1b096a4467d02b36e839dab7019a/inline_zola_lecreuset_lecreuset_16pc_dinnerware_set_carribean_01.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n### 8. Create The Menu and Order Catering, if Necessary \nCome up with a plan for what type of food will be served. If you’re throwing the engagement party at a restaurant, work with the event staff to create a menu that fits your budget. If you’re partying at a home, decide whether you are up to the challenge of cooking the party food yourself or whether you’ll need to hire a caterer, based upon the extravagance and size of the menu. \n\nIf you opt to have the party catered, research and hire a local caterer that can execute your menu ideas within your budget. Be sure to get a price quote and confirm delivery, setup, and service details so there are no surprises.\n\nIf the hosts are handling the food themselves, map out a timeline for when to shop for ingredients and supplies, when to prep, when to cook, and when to plate and serve the food. \n\n### 9. Choose a List of Beverages and/or Specialty Drinks to Serve\nThe kind of drinks you serve at an engagement party vary depending on the party’s location, theme, mood, and menu. It’s a great idea to find out what kinds of beverages the couple enjoys so you can be sure to choose a bar menu that reflects their tastes. Here are a few tips when it comes to drinks for an engagement party: \n\n- Be sure to stock up on plenty of bubbly! Engagement parties are prime occasions for lots of toasting and champagne-sipping. \n- Decide on one or two specialty cocktails that can be prepared in bulk in advance. This will cut down on the amount of time you or another host will need to spend making drinks for guests throughout the night. It’s a cute touch to include the couple’s favorite drink(s), either individually or together.\n- Buy bottles of wine, liquor, beer, mixers, sparkling water, mineral water, and/or juice at bulk retailers for better discounts. \n- Don’t forget bar accessories like festive straws, cocktail napkins, bottle openers, and cut lemons and limes.\n\n### 10. Decide Upon The Party Décor, and Shop for Any Needed Supplies\nAs we’ve said before, pretty much anything goes when it comes to the theme and formality of engagement parties. Come up with a few, key decorative elements to match the party vibe you’re going for, and shop for them now. This may include fresh flowers in pretty vessels, candles, garlands, balloons, framed photos of the couple, or anything else that coordinates with the look and mood you’ve got in mind. \n\n### 11. Stock Up on Partyware Essentials, such as: \n- Disposable plates, cups, and utensils\n- Napkins and table linens\n- Trash bags\n- Paper towels and stain remover, in case of spills \n- Ice & ice cooler\n\nOf course, if the engagement party is located at an event space, restaurant, or bar, some or all of these items might be covered by the venue. \n\n### 12. One Day Before, Set up as much as Possible (Based on the Location), Including: \n- Décor\n- The bar table/area\n- The gifts table/area\n- Make-ahead food & drink items \n\n### 13. On The Day of The Party: \n- Prep all the final details\n- Get dressed in your finest party clothes\n- Get to the party location a few hours early to finish setting everything up\n- Raise a glass to the happy couple and enjoy a wonderful engagement party! \n\n![Bachelor Party Decoration Must-Haves](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DYhO5jGlyykOqqLbxDlJr/6be910a8d8b23887782859575b587b1d/inline_shutterstock2.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## Engagement Party Etiquette\nWith the steps of planning an engagement party covered, let’s walk through some [etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party). While putting the event together is one thing, there are a few courtesies worthy of reminders. Whether you’re unsure of who pays for what or who all gets invited, read on.\n\n### When should an engagement party be thrown?\nTypically, engagement parties take place fairly soon after an engagement, allowing everyone to celebrate in a timely matter. That being said, if you’re having a longer engagement or can’t gather everyone that soon, a small push back usually isn’t a problem.\n\n### Who’s invited to an engagement party?\nAs mentioned previously, anyone who’s invited to your engagement party should also be someone you plan on inviting to your wedding. This goes for all pre-wedding events, such as bach bashes, bridal brunches, and showers. If you aren’t sure of your full guest list yet, keep it to your family and closest friends.\n\n### Can a couple have more than one engagement party?\nIn short, yes. In fact, this is fairly common for couples with different hometowns and/or groups of friends who might also want to throw you something a bit more informal (e.g. after-work drinks or a smaller weekend get-together).\n\n### How should you go about a gift registry?\nWhile it’s a good idea to have a registry with a decent amount of items prepared, it isn’t in good etiquette to suggest that a gift is require (e.g. putting the link on the party invitations). Rather, if you’ve already created your wedding website, connect it to that. Otherwise, rely on word of mouth.\n\n### Who should meet before the engagement party?\nOne good reason to throw an engagement party is to allow people who will be seeing more of each other leading up to the wedding to meet. That being said, this isn’t the time or place for everyone to meet for the first time. Both sets of parents—as well as any close siblings—should meet prior, in a more intimate setting that allows them to comfortably talk at length.\n\nWedding planning often consists of putting together several celebratory events leading up to the big day. Keep this to-do list top-of-mind to ensure you pull of a fun and successful engagement party. And if you find yourself in need of some help in other stags of wedding planning, [we’ve got you covered](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Plan a bachelorette party that will delight your bride-to-be with this this step-by-step planning timeline that covers everything you need to think about, plan for, and arrange in advance for a great bachelorette weekend. 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","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T02:18:34.928Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hHh4BzTMrcEMTF8JcGLD5/60cff28dd9c218fde75dba6d26c5f90c/Inline_stocksy.png","altText":"Wedding engagement party"},"heroCredit":"Stocksy","body":"Planning the engagement party is the first in a series of social events that are centered around the biggest one of them all––the wedding. The party itself is a way to celebrate the couple and their engagement. It's a chance for both friends and loved ones of the soon-to-be-married couple to come together and make a toast for the bride and groom’s new life together.\n\nWhen you've finally said “Yes” and people find out the great news, you’ll be flooded with good wishes. Having an engagement party is a great way to both celebrate this happy occasion, but is also a chance for members of the family from both sides, as well as close friends and members of the wedding party, to meet one another. \n\nThis might even mean that family members, such as your parents, are meeting for the first time. With the upcoming wedding, having a party to celebrate the engagement is a great way to set the tone and also get the ball rolling with some of the larger planning details that come with a wedding. It can also help ease the tension of everyone meeting extended family and friends in an intimate setting.\n\n## Do You Need One?\n\nThe larger intention behind the party is to have everyone come together to celebrate the engagement and to get to know one another from the couple's lives in a casual way. When you’re planning the party, it’s customary to host the gathering within two to three months of the engagement. This is also the period when getting engaged is still new and exciting. \n\n## How to Host an Engagement Party\n\nTimes have changed, and what was once a very stuffy and formal affair, has since morphed into a very individualistic event. The great thing about the party, and the wedding itself, is that it can be as formal or informal as you like. There are no hard or fast rules as to how to throw an engagement party, and it's really about doing what makes the most sense for you. \n\nWhether you're a relaxed kind of couple and prefer a BBQ in the backyard, or you want to spring for a seated dinner with formal attire, or head to your favorite restaurant or banquet hall, these are all great options depending on the kind of engagement party that you want to throw. It's really about coming together to celebrate you and your partner and the next chapter of your life.\n\nTraditionally, the bride's parents host the first official celebration, and sometimes the groom's parents host their part (and let’s be honest two parties are way more fun than one). Although this is what people have done in the past, it doesn't mean that you have to do it this way. In some cases, both sets of parents will throw a combined party, sometimes it's a close relative or even friends of the couple that takes on the honor. And, sometimes, even the engaged couple will host their party.\n\nThe party is really about bringing together everyone in your life that you care about and having them share in the excitement with you. One additional note about the party is that whoever is hosting is generally fitting the bill as well, so keep that in mind when you’re moving forward with your engagement party planning. \n\n## Keep the Event Slightly Understated\n\n![What Is an Engagement Party? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Yriwjjtr6mEpMFBCtHXkV/21cf4efb2fcb6a6729fa084fde622bc1/Inline_stocksy__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Stocksy\n\nYou also don't want your engagement party to be the biggest event of all. Think about it as a prelude to the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) and the wedding, which is the most important event of them all. When coming up with the guestlist for the party, it helps to keep things on the smaller end, plus it makes it more manageable in the long run. Remember, not everyone you invite to a wedding needs to come to an engagement party. The larger point of the party is to have guests become acquainted with one another and to take part in this special moment with the happy couple. \n\nYou'll also want to give guests at least a month's notice so that they can plan accordingly. Remember to send out your [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (either through snail mail or digital) at least a month before. If you’re having guests from out-of-state, give them a six-week window so that they can plan their travel arrangements accordingly. \n\nAt the actual engagement party, everyone will meet and socialize over delicious food, drinks, and, sometimes, even engagement party games and dancing. It's a time for people to congratulate you, and typically you'll be given customized gifts echoing these sentiments. As the host of the party, you'll want to make sure that everyone is comfortable and that there’s enough food and beverages, seating, and all of the other elements that make a successful party. It’s also customary for whoever is hosting the event to give a toast to the soon-to-be bride and groom.\n\nThe party is meant to be fun and all about celebrating the new life that the bride and groom will have together. However, you choose to plan it, remember it’s about you and your partner at the end of the day. This is about your wedding journey, and the engagement party is just the kickoff of the next chapter in your life together.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Throwing an engagement party and wondering who to invite? 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Explore outfit ideas, styles, and tips to shine as you celebrate the bride-to-be's special day","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-14T15:19:13.906Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3jyBNag7G8oqQco0QaI2om/840a6c239ab9c319db87cd86af04841b/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"What to wear to a bridal shower"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/marni-rothschild-pictures/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Pastels, neutrals, florals, and bright celebratory colors are the way to go. And if there’s going to be games opt to wear something comfortable.\n- Avoid wearing white, black, or anything that may detract from the wedding festivities.\n- Bridal showers can range from formality, location, and season, so be sure to dress to fit the occasion.\n","body":"Choosing an outfit for a bridal shower is really no different than choosing what to wear to any other party. You’ll want to match the formality and season, be comfortable, look great, and photograph well in whatever you choose to wear. \n\n## Basic Rules for Bridal Shower Fashion\n \nWhile bridal showers can vary in terms or formality & theme, there are some bridal shower looks that will always fit the vibe:\n- Dress to impress, even if the theme is casual\n- Wear pastels, neutrals and bright colors to match the celebratory tone of the occasion\n- Floral prints are a great go-to\n- Wear something comfortable in case there are bridal shower games\n- Accentuate a neutral dress or top with bold shoes or accessories\n\n### What NOT to Wear to a Bridal Shower\n \n1. Don’t wear white. This wedding guest rule of etiquette applies to bridal showers as well. Since the bride-to-be often wears white to her shower, you don’t want to seem like you’re competing for her spotlight.\n\n2. Don’t wear black. Your bridal shower look should be celebratory, festive, and happy—black is a bit too somber and/or “date night out” to wear to a bridal shower. If you’re set on dark colors, opt for a softer gray or navy. \n\n3. Don’t wear anything too tight, sexy, or revealing. A bridal shower is not the time to flaunt your, um, assets. Since the guest list is usually all women, and since this event is technically part of the wedding festivities, keep things buttoned up. \n\nBut since bridal showers can come in all shapes and sizes—no two are the same—deciphering the dress code can be tricky. To help you choose a perfectly appropriate and flattering ensemble, we’ve outlined suggestions below for what to wear to a variety of different types of bridal showers based on their location, season, and formality. \n\n \n## What to Wear to a Fancy Bridal Shower\nLook for clues on your invitation to tell if a bridal shower will be on the fancier side. Invitation wording is generally a good indicator of formality: if numbers and abbreviations are spelled out, or if phrases like “request the pleasure of your company” are used, this is probably going to be a more formal bridal shower. Also look to see if the invitation provides words about the dress code, such as “festive” or “cocktail attire.” \nFor fancier bridal showers at upscale venues like country clubs, hotels, or restaurants, opt for cocktail attire, such as: \n- A cocktail (i.e. knee-length) dress\n- A pair of flowy, silk pants, a blouse, and a jacket\n- A sparkly pencil skirt, dark tights, and a cashmere sweater\n- A pair of satin ankle-length pants, a velvet blazer, and heels \n- Include accessories such as: \n - More formal, glitzy jewelry (real or costume)\n - A clutch or small purse\n\n## What to Wear to a Casual Bridal Shower\n\nIf the bridal shower is more casual, keep your outfit polished and festive but tone down on the level of formality. For example, swap out heels for ballet flats, if you’ll be more comfortable, or go for daytime fabrics like cotton, wool, and denim. Here are some ideas: \n\n- A gingham wrap dress\n- A pair of nice jeans, a floral top, and a faux fur vest\n- A denim shirt dress with knee-high boots\n- A summery jumpsuit \n- Include accessories such as: \n - Delicate jewelry\n - A crossbody purse or leather satchel ","body2":"## What to Wear to a Backyard Bridal Shower\n\nBackyard bridal showers are by nature less formal, although it’s never safe to assume that a bridal shower at a private home is casual. It’s a good idea to check in with the host(s)—if you’re attending an elegant garden party for high tea, showing up in jeans and Pumas would be embarrassing. Here are a few ideas for put-together looks suitable for a variety of seasons: \n\n- A flowing sundress \n- A pair of colored chinos and a structured top\n- A pair of dark jeans, a boho blouse, and ankle booties\n- A pleated midi skirt, a nice tank, and a linen jacket \n- Include accessories such as: \n - A wide-brimmed sun hat\n - Sunglasses\n - Sandals or wedges\n\n## What to Wear to a Restaurant Shower\n\nWhat you should wear to a bridal shower that’s held in a restaurant is really determined by the type and formality of the restaurant. If it’s a casual barbecue joint with outdoor picnic tables, opt for similar ideas to the casual or backyard showers above. If it’s a white tablecloth kind of restaurant, match the ambiance with an outfit that’s classy and chic, such as: \n\n- A lace sheath dress \n- An off-the-shoulder maxi dress\n- Matching separates, like a satin jacket and pajama-style pants\n- High-waisted trousers with a tie-neck blouse\n- Include accessories such as: \n - Block heels\n - Bright lipstick \n\n## What to Wear to a Fall or Winter Bridal Shower\n\nStick to rich, warm, or dark colors for bridal showers in the fall and winter months. Think burgundy, rust, navy, gray, brown, taupe, and forest green. Most showers during these months will be indoors, so don’t worry too much about outerwear, but reflect the season with long sleeves and hemlines and heavier fabrics. Check out these ideas: \n\n- A turtleneck sweater dress, opaque tights, and over-the-knee boots \n- A long-sleeve wrap dress\n- Wide-leg wool pants and an embroidered sweater\n- A crisp button-down tucked into a full skirt \n- Include accessories such as: \n - Dressy boots\n - Long, layered necklaces\n\n## What to Wear to a Spring or Summer Bridal Shower\n\nBright, light colors—pastels and hot hues all the way—rule when it comes to what to wear to spring or summer bridal showers, as do florals and other summery prints like gingham, madras plaid, and seersucker. Lightweight cotton, silk, and linen feel cool and crisp. 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Find guides, practical advice, and inspiration for the different types of shower celebrations."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Bachelorette party","slug":"bachelorette-party"},"slug":"joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party-games","title":"How to Throw a Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette Party","excerpt":"Thinking of hosting a joint bachelor/bachelorette party? Check out these unique party ideas for an unforgettable event. ","publishedAt":"2021-08-16T17:05:52.204Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/uZOhp33IRTbkGTF79OWGe/fd748182a0e974f8d4a1ded0cf3ff1b1/group-of-friends-clinking-wine-glasses__1_.jpg","altText":"group-of-friends-clinking-wine-glasses"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Brides, grooms and same-sex couples are increasingly searching for unique ways to celebrate their wedding day, and ideas on how to throw a [more inclusive wedding](https://www.modernrebelco.com/) gathering is at the top of the list for many. Now more than ever, modern-day wedding goers want to celebrate in a way that includes all ages, genders and backgrounds.\n\nIf you have a flair for the non-traditional or are looking to host a more inclusive party, why not consider a joint bachelor/bachelorette bash? It gives you and your soon-to-be-betrothed a chance to gather all your closest friends before the big day, and doesn’t box you into any typical wedding traditions that don’t ring true to you. For an unforgettable event, here are 15 joint bachelor/bachelorette party games and ideas to get you started. \n\n- Icebreaker Bingo Printables \n- Couple's Trivia Printables\n\n## What Is a Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette Party? \n![what-is-a-joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/1ihzre63F2qajWB27YrYgy/7a4c6a714fe11cd29c1c1c1d9d8e169f/what-is-a-joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party.jpg)\nA joint bachelor/bachelorette event is much more than a coed party—it’s a party that celebrates both halves of the soon-to-be-wed. Instead of focusing the festivities on just one person, a joint bachelor/bachelorette event brings both parties together for the ultimate celebration inspired by the couple as a whole. \n\nEnter a bachelorx: the pre-wedding party that lets you decide who you’ll include in your celebration, without the need to ascribe to inherently gendered traditions that limit your ability to freely celebrate in a way that feels right for you. This modern day wedding trend breaks down the traditional barriers of a bachelor or bachelorette party, and offers the chance for a more gender inclusive event. \n\n## Why Combine Your Parties?\n![why-combine-your-parties](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/18BV35ZcB5MnQq9GAuOJHG/b0c48a699ce7b489656824ad437c3112/why-combine-your-parties.jpg)\nA couple may choose to throw a joint bachelor/bachelorette party for different reasons, but there are a few distinct advantages to combining the event. Whether your preferred party style is an over-the-top destination trip or something more low-key at home, many couples are opting for a joint event as they look beyond traditional wedding festivities and find more out-of-the-box ways to celebrate in a way that makes sense to them. \n\nAside from being a less traditional way to celebrate, a joint event makes sense for couples who have many of the same friends and want to create a more inclusive celebration with all of them at once. And if you and your partner don’t share the same friends, a combined party is an opportunity to give both friend groups a chance to get to know each other before the wedding and bring groups closer before the big day.\n\n## 15 Joint Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Games\n![joint-bachelor-and-bachelorette-party-games](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/11WZ3eLgNUF0ZJPET9jg3m/9ab782f8527ededa36b550328229af89/joint-bachelor-and-bachelorette-party-games.jpg)\n\n### 1. Race Down the Aisle\nStart your party off the right way with a fun activity that gets your guests moving! This classic three-legged race is perfect for setting a lighthearted mood to carry you throughout your event. To play, have guests break into partners and use a wedding garter or scarf to bind their legs together. Try not to laugh as you all compete to race down the “aisle” the fastest!\n\n### 2. Friendly Competition \nA bit of friendly competition never hurt anybody, and adding some competitive play to your festivities is the perfect way to help bond your wedding parties before the big day. Whether you want to scope out a local field space or use your own backyard, you can spin this activity any way you like it, but we recommend an Olympic-style relay tournament to keep people on their toes. Drinks that night are on the losing team!\n\n### 3. Scavenger Hunt\nFor an exciting, interactive activity that brings your wedding parties together, go all out with a scavenger hunt. The personalization options are endless, whether you choose a specific theme or focus it around the group’s knowledge of the bride and groom. Go old school and have people collect items or photos, and decide whether you want to stick to a limited area or spread across your whole city for an all day affair. At the end of the hunt, have the teams come together at a central location for dinner and drinks. \n\n### 4. Ring Hunt\nFor a more active activity, take a cue from this scavenger hunt-inspired Ring Hunt game—all you need is some toy rings or Ring Pops! Before guests arrive, hide the rings throughout the home (or wherever you’re hosting your party) and challenge guests to find them by a certain time. Whoever finds the most rings wins! To make it more festive, create a fun DIY sign with the game instructions to display at the event. \n\n### 5. Wedding Shoe Game\nThis tried and true wedding game is sure to make guests giggle as they see how well the happy couple really know each other—and the only props required are the shoes on their feet! To play, put two chairs back-to-back and have the couple take a seat so they’re facing away from each other. Have both take off their shoes and swap one of them, so that each person is holding one of their own shoes and one of their partner’s. \n\nTo begin, have the host read out questions about the couple. (For example, “Who made the first move?” and “Who’s the messy one?”). After each question, the couple raises the shoe of the person they think the question describes. Since they can’t see each other, it’s a hilarious way to gauge how the couple’s opinions might differ!\n\n### 6. Adult Summer Camp\nIf you’re looking for a joint event with plenty of adventure, consider escaping to an adult summer camp. These camps recreate the authentic summer camp experience you might’ve experienced as a kid, but with adult-only perks like no curfew and boozy social events. From outdoor activities and campfires to foam parties and talent shows, there’s something for every wedding group. You’ll find these camps scattered across the U.S.—Camp No Counselors features a variety of group camp activities during the day, and open bars and themed parties fill the evenings for a unique experience. \n\n### 7. Clothespin Game\nThis activity makes for a perfect icebreaker, and is a great way to kick off your bash with a little friendly competition. To prepare, gather clothespins (at least one per guest) and pick a “forbidden” wedding-themed word (like honeymoon, dress, or ring). Have guests attach their pin to their clothing once they arrive and announce the forbidden word. If another guest catches someone saying the word, the offender must give them their pin. Whoever ends up with the most pins wins! \n\n### 8. Host a Backyard Barbecue\n![host-a-backyard-bbq](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/5bxnja3bDSthhPbiIxqgxh/6827feee153caedb7e4c6c9382e042bf/host-a-backyard-bbq.jpg)\nIf your party style is more low-key or you’re looking for a more affordable joint event, a backyard barbecue might be what you’re looking for. It requires minimal planning and coordinating and is far cheaper than an all-out [destination event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist \"Destination Wedding Checklist\")—something your wedding party’s wallets will appreciate. Make it special by creating a theme, finding fun decorations, and customizing the menu for a memorable bash. \n\n### 9. How Old Were They? Photo Game\nThis party game is a fun way to bring guests together while also giving a nod to the happy couple. Before your event, grab a series of old photos of you and your partner at different ages. You can either print them out, or compile them in a slideshow that you play at the party. Have each guest write down how old they think each partner was in each photo, then reveal the correct answers at the end to see who wins! \n\n### 10. Two Truths and a Lie\nThis icebreaker game is a longtime favorite, and it works well for both close-knit groups or groups who are still getting to know each other! To play, each guest comes up with two truths and a lie about themselves. Take turns sharing your answers while the group tries to guess which one is the lie. You might be surprised by what you learn about the group! \n\n### 11. Pizza Box Toss\nWhether you’re ending a wild night out with pizza or made pizza your feast of choice for the evening, all that’s required for this game is an empty pizza box. To play, toss a coin in the box and draw a circle around it. Choose a task to be written inside the circle, for example, “truth or dare” or “make eye contact with someone for 1 minute”. Have guests toss their coins and add a new task and circle each time. If your coin lands inside a circle at any point, you have to perform the corresponding task! \n\n### 12. Wedding Charades\nThis interactive game is perfect for large groups and is a great way to bring your guests together. First, you’ll need to write down wedding-themed songs, movies and other items on slips of paper. This could be anything from romantic movies like The Notebook to common wedding phrases like “cut the cake” or “first dance”. \n\nPlace the slips of paper in a bowl and divide guests into two teams. One player from the first team pulls a card and has to act out whatever is written on it. They get two minutes to act it out while their team tries to guess what it is. If someone guesses correctly, the team gets a point and it’s now that person’s turn. If no one guesses the phrase, it’s the next team’s turn. \n\n### 13. Classic game night \n![classic-game-night](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/54YDtLYC7naObiw0Jk2T8N/aaeb6bca9d1612c2c2a4a988ad490142/classic-game-night.jpg)\nContrary to popular belief, your bachelor/bachelorette party doesn’t have to be an all-night rager at a club. For a simpler affair that doesn’t require a huge budget, consider hosting a game night with you and your crew. Stick with classics like Clue, Monopoly or Catan, or in the spirit of weddings, add a raunchy twist with something like Cards Against Humanity. To uplevel the evening, you might even rent out a hotel suite for an upgraded sleepover vibe (complete with drinks and snacks, of course.) \n\n\n\n### 14. Ice Breaker Bingo\nIf you don’t have many shared friends between your two wedding parties, this icebreaker bingo game gives guests a chance to mingle and learn more about each other. For this party game, the group must find people at the party who admit to the characteristics on the bingo card. Once you find a match, write that person’s name in the corresponding box. The first person to complete a row across, down or diagonally wins! \n\n![icebreaker-bingo-mockup ](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/48HucpnyhpEuguz1onQPnO/b58e472b6ec6ab87d10dcc2a009eaf90/icebreaker-bingo-mockup__1_.jpg)\n\n[![button-icebreaker-bingo](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/1IB5tFDkrS8AttnUGmNja2/8bef6ffe40cc3d7856dffe2a60326241/download-icebreaker-bingo.png)](//assets.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/5zkROPOZGDrxnJ4F492k4i/cfc87de4822e75974b6bf8092ee2e7fd/icebreaker-bingo.pdf)\n\n\n\n### 15. Trivia Test\nFor a party game that invites a bit of friendly competition, [put your groups’ knowledge of the happy couple to the test.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/newlywed-game-questions) This activity is a fun way to see how well your crew knows the bride and groom. Start a timer and have each guest answer as many questions as they can on the questionnaire. Then, have the couple read the correct answers aloud so guests can score themselves. You might be surprised how well your guests really know you!\n\n![who-knows-the-couple-best-mockup](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/4ybdhWWUzHYa2CJ3A1KlpY/d1b55f87804acd4fbf5806df2847ea78/who-knows-the-couple-best-mockup.jpg)\n\n[![download-couple-trivia](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/4YjiZkDvVGRHvyOX0cIDob/d7de5a605abfbb29bd6f3cefe1e26802/download-couple-trivia.png)](//assets.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/4It5Qf4zkf49ClXJSke7ZF/1eb0d184854b020028d17ed7c8d375cc/who-knows-the-couple-best.pdf)\n\n## Joint Bachelor and Bachelorette Party Planning Tips\n![joint-bachelor-and-bachelorette-party-planning-tips](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/1rLsVouniseAXQLukAiAnE/f166b040130fb846fa8d3600ab963137/joint-bachelor-and-bachelorette-party-planning-tips.jpg)\nIf you’ve decided to rally both wedding parties together for a combined pre-wedding romp, there are a few things to keep in mind that can make the planning process smoother. \n\n### Consider Your Guest List as A Couple\nThe guest list for your event is arguably the most important part of the planning process, so take some time to craft it thoughtfully. Unlike pre-wedding events like showers and engagement parties (or even the wedding itself), there’s no must-invite list for a bachelor or bachelorette party. Instead, think about the type of event you want to throw and what that might look like as a combined group. \n\nTake some time to think about your ideal guest list as a couple. If both of your friend groups already know each other, it won’t be too difficult to plan a party that you know everyone will enjoy. However, if your friend groups don’t know each other well, think about how both groups might get along and craft your guest list from there. In the end, your final guest list should be one that both you and your partner feel good about. \n\nIt’s also important to manage guest expectations—make sure they know that a coed party doesn’t mean “bring a date.” Feel free to pick whoever you want to join in on the fun, and consider how the number of guests will impact your party budget. \n\n### Pick a Theme \nThe options for great party ideas are endless, but choosing an overarching theme can help focus your plans and activities. It helps to make your decision based on the collective tastes of the group (although ultimately, it should be whatever you and your sweetheart want it to be.) \n\nDo your friends enjoy some physical activity and the outdoors? Or do you think a bustling social scene is more their style? Do you want to get wild or do something more low-key? Answering these questions beforehand can make it easier to decide on the focus of your party. From there, you can explore games and activities that fall under the overarching theme. \n\n### Consider Your Budget\n![consider-your-budget](//images.contentful.com/ut7rzv8yehpf/4dvL54Q7Z25ADyMzyQ0tpy/a56b0fc51cd8a678fe2b673bbc4e61a3/consider-your-budget.jpg)\nNailing down a budget can be the trickiest part of the planning process, and throwing a combined party means you have twice as many guests to account for. To help smooth out the process, use a tool like [SurveyMonke](https://www.surveymonkey.com/)y to send a poll to your guests to get a feel for the ideal party budget. Choose budget range categories and ask guests to select how much they can plan to spend at the event. Their answers can give you a better idea of what you can and can’t afford for your party. \n\nPlanning a joint bachelor/bachelorette party might seem overwhelming, but once you nail the most important details down like your guest list and budget, all that’s left is deciding how you want to celebrate! If you're looking for more tips on how to plan an untraditional wedding, sites like Modern Rebel has tons of inspiration helping couples rewrite the rules of weddings. What matters most is that you’re surrounded by your closest friends as you prepare for your wedding day. For more planning tips, check out our [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice?_branch_match_id=907675406038907225) for answers to all your wedding questions. \n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:55:48.237Z"}],"name":"Bachelorette party","slug":"bachelorette-party","description":"Discover ideas and advice for the bachelorette party! From trendy themes, party games, and unique location ideas to who to invite and what to wear here's everything you need to plan an unforgettable bachelorette party!"},{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Bachelor party","slug":"bachelor-party","description":"Discover ideas and tips for the bachelor party. Find advice on who to invite, where to go and what activities to do! We help you plan a party for each kind of bachelor."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Parties & events","slug":"parties-events"},"subtopic":{"name":"Engagement party","slug":"engagement-party"},"slug":"pre-wedding-events-guide","title":"Guide to All Wedding Parties & Events","excerpt":"We created a guide to all the different pre-wedding, post-wedding, and wedding-related events so you can decide what you’ll include as part of your wedding.","author":"Jennifer Prince, Erin Celletti, and McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2022-04-13T18:06:06.745Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uuVJB4T2Ib4wDoicjCgbZ/9b21dc45e3155dd604137c1bf2a53c2a/Hero_1.jpg","altText":"Circular image of friends toasting with champagne glasses and sparkling lights"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Years ago, once couples got engaged, they had two celebrations to look forward to—the bridal shower and the rehearsal dinner. Although those traditions remain, as time has moved on, couples have become more creative with the addition of other events. No matter your reasoning for including extra celebrations in your wedding festivities schedule, seize the opportunity to gather with family and friends. Here’s our ultimate guide to all the different kinds of [parties and events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events) you can include in your [wedding timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## Engagement party\n\nThe question gets popped, a ring is placed on your finger, and it’s time to celebrate with loved ones. Ideally, an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) takes place within the first month of the proposal, but if your schedule prevents that timeline, do it whenever is most convenient.\n\nSince this is generally a more intimate celebration, hosting anything from a casual backyard barbecue with lawn games and a [small guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-do-you-invite-to-an-engagement-party) to a more upscale dinner gathering is appropriate. \n\nIf your interest is piqued, there are more [engagement party ideas here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas).\n\nWho hosts the engagement party depends on your take on the event. If you and your future spouse want to have family and friends gather to [meet each other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement), feel free to host. However, if you’re going to be hands-off, have someone close, such as a sibling or parent, orchestrate the event.\n\n__Expert advice:__ Unless your wedding will be very small or a destination wedding, only invite people who will also be guests on your wedding day. \n\nSee all of our [engagement party articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/engagement-party) for more expert tips.\n\n![Craig Adderley - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5GFhw3on6e3FyKap4ONlH7/1b4acace342fc222441fc06c9f64c8a4/Inline_1.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Craig Adderley\n\n## Wedding showers\n\nOnce referred to as a bridal shower, today’s [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-bridal-shower-and-what-is-its-purpose) is more inclusive than its formerly women-only predecessor ([read more about the difference here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one)). While you can keep it to just the ladies if you’d like, the main focus of this event is to shower the happy couple with gifts, which can take on several forms. Guests can bring items off the [couple’s registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), or the event can be [themed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridal-shower-themes). Think of giving articles related to experiences or stocking the couple’s bar.\n\nIt’s probably best to let someone else handle the hosting and inviting for your [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-shower-guide). But that doesn’t mean you need to be hands-off. Talk to your sibling, best man, maid of honor, or parent—all appropriate choices for hosting a shower—about a theme and what type of gifts you’d like. Invite close friends and family members, and hold the event two to three months before the wedding. Do it at someone’s home or somewhere else that gives off intimate, celebratory vibes.\n\n### So, then, what is a bridal shower?\n\nA traditional [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) celebrates the bride and is a gathering of her closest friends and family, typically all female. It’s often thrown by the bride’s side of the family and her bridal party, but it has evolved into an “anything goes” event for cost responsibility. The key difference here is that the focus is on the bride.\n\n### What is a Jack and Jill party?\n\nA Jack and Jill party is a modern, inclusive way to celebrate both sides of the couple at once before the big day. It mixes sides and genders and is usually more laid back in a way more and more couples are choosing. It’s a chance to celebrate the couple together with everyone they love. If your coed curious, read more about the [pros and cons of having a coed wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower).\n\n__Expert advice:__ Find [wedding or bridal shower invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) of all styles on Zola. You can even match them to your [wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)! \n\nFor more expert tips, explore all of our [wedding shower articles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/wedding-shower).\n\n## Bach parties\n\nToday’s couples have reframed the bachelor or bachelorette party to be more classy while still partying and making memories with people they are close to. Think about inviting your bridal party, siblings, and close friends—as long as they don’t feel stilted by not being asked to be an attendant.\n\nIt’s perfectly appropriate for you to host this event yourself. Your wedding party can also take the reins. Often, bachelor and bachelorette parties have everyone pay their own way, especially if you jet-set out of town for a long weekend. That said, this pre-wedding celebration is more about getting together and being festive than major expenses. So, feel free to be flexible so everyone involved can celebrate leading up to your wedding day.\n\n### Bachelorette parties\n[Bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties) celebrate the bride-to-be and can be anything from an elevated brunch, a night on the town, or weekend away somewhere festive. Most importantly, they should reflect the bachelorette’s personality and wishes and be a gathering of her nearest and dearest. \n\nRead our full [guide to planning a bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelorette-party) for more deets. \n\n### Bachelor parties\n\n[Bachelor parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelor-party) honor, you’ve guessed it — the bachelor. It’s basically just a gathering of the groom’s best friends and family spending time together. Normally, they do what the groom enjoys most whether it be sports, hiking, the casino — anything goes. \n\nCheck out [47 bachelor party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas) to find something for every groom.\n\n### Joint Bachelor/Bachelorette parties\n\nBrides, grooms, and same-sex couples looking for ways to celebrate together might opt for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. ‘Bachelorx’ as some call it, is much more than a coed party – it's a fun and inclusive way to focus pre-wedding festivities on the couple as a whole. \n\nCheck out [how to throw a joint bach party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/joint-bachelor-bachelorette-party-games) for the step-by-step. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Get answers to all of your bach party questions, from theme ideas to planning guides to gift inspiration. Find everything [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelorette-party) or [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/parties-events/bachelor-party) in our expert advice sectionon. \n\n![Melike Benli - Pre-wedding events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5z3OG5MnN3cpIavaOqAcrX/0b0cc0586ce31c6d2b89c163a6a6ef16/Inline_2.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Melike Benli\n\n## Aufruf\n\nJewish culture has many celebrations, such as Hanukkah and Yom Kippur, but a wedding-centric event that many look forward to is the Aufruf. Yiddish for “calling up,” the Aufruf is traditionally only meant for the groom, although in more modern synagogues, both partners can participate. The entire congregation takes part in this pre-wedding tradition, which happens at the temple the Saturday before the wedding.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the groom will give a blessing over the Torah. Inviting friends and family to the service is appropriate since this is a public display. However, dash all thoughts of the Aufruf being solemn. Sometimes, the rabbi will give the couple candy, signifying a sweet union and fruitfulness throughout the marriage. Some folks will also schedule a post-Aufruf meal to continue the festivities, depending on the circumstances. Additionally, the Aufruf is not to be confused with Shabbat Chatan, which is also for the groom but takes place after the big day.\n\n## Mehndi party\n\nBorrowing beautiful influences from Hindu and [Muslim traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/muslim-wedding-checklist), the mehndi party is a unique way to celebrate while focusing on self and practicing ancient rituals. Also known as a henna party, this event is generally held by the bride’s parents and involves placing beautiful, intricate designs on the bride’s hands and feet using henna dye.\n\nToday’s celebrations often include other close family members and friends of the bride. Because these events can take hours—depending on how many henna artists are available and the intricacy of the designs—hosting at a spa, home, or Airbnb can be a nice touch. Henna also darkens over time, so if you’d like to have these designs on your hands and feet for your wedding day, it’s best to have henna applied three days beforehand to allow the natural ink to darken.\n\n## Welcome party \n\nIf you’re having a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist) (or a [wedding weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/plan-wedding-weekend) people are traveling in for), it’s customary to have some form of welcome reception when your guests arrive at the wedding location. \n\nThis differs from the rehearsal dinner—which typically happens the night before the wedding and only hosts the bridal party and your closest family. \n\nA wedding welcome party can be as casual as welcome drinks or a barbecue once everyone arrives and settles in. It can also be as extravagant as your budget and style preferences allow. Just remember that it’s optional. \n\n## Sangeet \n\nOften celebrated in India, sangeet is all about merriment with many family and friends. As a result, the number of folks invited to sangeet will often outnumber the wedding reception. Folks get together to party — sing, dance, eat, drink — before the big day to showcase their support for the couple and gather with those they haven’t seen in a while. Because this is a large celebration, hosts can often vary and may depend on the number of guests invited.\n\nBecause of the higher guest count, hosting should happen at a [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) or another location that can hold many people. Although, sometimes, the sangeet will include a smaller number of guests. When it comes to pre-wedding events, sangeets are one of the most flexible, meaning that the location, who hosts, and its proximity to the wedding day can all vary. However, one thing sangeets have in common is the presence of music, which is no wonder since the word means “music” in Sanskrit.\n\n## Rehearsal dinner \n\nThe [rehearsal dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas) follows your wedding rehearsal, in which your officiant or wedding planner guides you and everyone involved through your wedding ceremony. Along with these people, it’s nice to [invite any close family members](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-to-invite-to-a-rehearsal-dinner) who are wedding guests, as well as those traveling in. \n\nAs expected, the rehearsal dinner is usually the evening before your wedding. As such, it’s best to host it somewhere close to the wedding venue. Choose a restaurant close by or see if your ceremony venue has a space that is not already dedicated to your wedding reception.\n\n## Wedding party/bridal luncheon \n\nIt’s always great to get together with your wedding party. Plus, if you’re a groom who wants to hold a groomsmen’s brunch, go for it! Traditionally, a bridesmaids or wedding party luncheon or brunch is a meal for bridesmaids and/or groomsmen focused on socializing the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party). Breaking the ice before the big day is a fantastic way to set the tone. \n\nThe bridesmaids’ brunch usually takes place at a restaurant, café, or loved one’s home. If you’d like to host this event, feel free to take the reins. As for when it takes place, that comes down to your personal preference and everyone’s schedules. If everyone is local, picking a date should be simple, but if a few are long-distance, the event may have to take place closer to your [wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-planning-101/wedding-day).\n\n## After party \n\nJust because the DJ has played the last song and the lights have come up doesn’t mean the party has to be over. It’s becoming more and more common for couples to host an after party that is, quite literally, after the party. \n\nThis after-hours event usually involves extra cocktails and snacks, is in a different location than the reception itself, and can help to keep the party going. And going, and going. Find the best DJs and live bands for your after party on [Zola’s Vendor Marketplace](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-bands-djs).\n\n## Farewell brunch \n\nThe final culminating event of a wedding celebration is the [farewell brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fun-post-wedding-brunch-invitation-ideas). It can be hosted by the couple, the families, a close relative, or anyone else who offers. It’s typically reserved for guests who’ve spent the night in a designated hotel or resort.\n\nThe farewell brunch gives your guests a chance to regroup, enjoying breakfast and coffee before heading on their merry way. It’s not a mandatory event, but it’s definitely nice to have for both the couple and their guests. As a result, it’s a relatively easy way to put the cherry on top of a great wedding. \n\n## Final thoughts on extra wedding events\n\nAs you can see, weddings can be as simple as the ceremony and reception itself. Or can be a true series of parties and events that lead up to and even continue after the wedding itself. There are no obligations or limits to the amount of wedding fun you can have.\n\nOthers want to honor and celebrate you—both on and before your big day. Incorporating one or more of these wedding festivities gives you more opportunities to spend time and celebrate with everyone you love. The best part? You don’t have to get overwhelmed with planning everything when you’ve got Zola on your team. 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