Invites & paper

From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.

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The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and PaperHere’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.

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Addressing Save the Dates: A Guide

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Getting ready to send out wedding save the dates? Here’s a guide on addressing save the dates, etiquette to remember, and more.

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When To Send Save The Dates

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Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.

A Guide to Save The Dates

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Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.

Vow Renewal Save the Date Etiquette

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You're saying "I do"—again! When renewing your vows, what's the deal with the vow renewal Save the Date? Zola, your wedding expert, has the answers!

A Beginner's Guide to Wedding Announcements

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If sending wedding announcement cards is in your future, check out our beginner’s guide full of tips, tricks, and etiquette.

What to Expect After Sending Save the Dates

What to Do After Sending Save the Dates—Guest Questions, Travel Plans, and More

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Once you send your save the dates, what’s next? Learn everything you need to know in this save the date etiquette guide.

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The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation

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Everything you need to know about Muslim wedding invitations.

How to RSVP to a Wedding

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If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.

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How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples

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Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.

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Wedding Invitation Wording: A Complete How-To Guide

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Learn the how-to's of wedding invitation wording, plus formal and casual wedding invitation examples from the experts.

How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One

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We’ll help you navigate one of the trickier wedding etiquette issues, and teach you how to word wedding invitations with no plus one, or with one, as well as how to decide who’s getting one in the first place.

How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation

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Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.

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What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas

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Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.

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Wedding Thank You Card Wording: Tips & Examples

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Craft heartfelt wedding thank you cards with our expert guide. From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.

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A Guide to Wedding Menu Cards

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Discover everything there is to know about wedding menu cards in our guide.

What to Write on Wedding Place Cards

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Everything you need to know about writing wedding place cards so that you and your guests can celebrate stress-free!

How to Write a Memorable Guest Book Entry

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Make a thoughtful addition to a wedding guest book with our tips to writing a meaningful and memorable entry for the newlyweds.

How to Make Place Cards for Your Wedding

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Your guide to making wedding place cards that perfectly match your wedding style.

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\n \n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","slug":"invites-paper","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper","description":"From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide","title":"Addressing Save the Dates: A Guide ","excerpt":"Getting ready to send out wedding save the dates? Here’s a guide on addressing save the dates, etiquette to remember, and more.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2021-08-31T16:31:42.821Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2wX4cIQXKGYQ4riHwvpwMc/aba430770486b1bbfdac240773fefc54/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Addressing Save the Dates"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nOnce you book your venue and settle on your wedding guest list, it’s time to [send out save the dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates). Save the dates are an important part of wedding planning as they give guests the heads-up that your big day is coming up, and they let them know that you’d love for them to be part of the fun.\n\nThere are so many creative and gorgeous save the date designs, so deciding on one option may be hard. But, once you do, it’s important that you know how to address wedding [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), and understand all the wedding etiquette behind them.\n\n__This guide includes: __\n\n- Part 1: Save the Dates Etiquette: Everything You Need to Know\n- Part 2: How to Address Save the Dates\n- Part 3: Your Wedding Website: The Complement to Your Save the Dates\n- Part 4: Wedding Save the Date Ideas\n\n### Is There Really Save the Dates Etiquette? \n\nThere’s plenty of proper etiquette around wedding invitations, and save the dates are no exception. While couples often take traditions or customs and make them their own, there are still important pieces of information and etiquette to consider. Save the dates serve a purpose, which is why you really should ensure that the messaging you send is as useful and practical as possible. The purpose of save the dates is to inform guests that a destination wedding is being planned—and that they will be invited—so you want them to literally save the date in their calendar. While you don’t have to send a save the date if you don’t want to, it is best practice to do so. \n\nNow, let’s get into it! \n\n \n## Part 1: Save the Dates Etiquette: Everything You Need to Know \n\nBefore you jump to creative and cute wedding save the dates ideas, it’s important to understand the basics first. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates etiquette. \n\n### What’s the Point of Wedding Save the Dates?\n\nPeople’s calendars get busy quickly, especially during the high wedding season. Between family members, close friends, and co-workers, it’s not uncommon for weekends to get booked up with weddings pretty fast. That’s why it’s so important for couples to send out wedding save the dates so that they “reserve” a date in everyone’s calendar and give them a heads-up that a formal wedding invite is coming their way. In other words, the point of wedding save the dates is to kindly tell guests not to make other plans. \n\n### What Information Should You Include?\n\nWhile the save the dates are sent out to guests before a formal wedding invite, they still need to have key pieces of information. Don’t assume that just because a proper wedding invitation will come to your guests that they don’t need to know the wedding day date and location. \n\nHere is all the relevant information that is needed on a wedding save the date:\n\n- Your name and your partner’s name\n- The name/ guests’ names that you are inviting, and whether or not they get a plus one\n- The date of the wedding \n- The wedding location \n- Your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) (see below for more information about what to include on your wedding website!)\n- When to expect the formal invitation \n\n### When to Send Out Wedding Save the Dates\n\nIt’s important to give guests ample time to prepare for your big day—especially since wedding season can bring back-to-back events. While it’s not always possible to give guests months and months of notice, you should try to send out your save the dates at least four to six months ahead of your wedding date.\n\nWhen it comes to [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), the earlier you can alert guests of your nuptials, the better. For any weddings that involve travel, aim to [send out wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations#save) around eight to 12 months before you say “I do.” Even though this timeline can seem far in advance, loved ones need to book flights, accommodations, time off work and often save up money to enjoy your big day. Keep guests posted on your plans via your wedding website. \n\n### How Early Should You Order Your Save the Dates?\n\nIf you’re in the midst of wedding planning, you know how hectic things can be—and you likely also know the importance of being organized. That’s why it’s helpful to get your wedding invitation suites organized sooner than later, and plan ahead to order your save the dates.\n\nSave the dates can be ordered as soon as [you’ve booked your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secured a wedding date. Because the process of deciding on a design, ordering the save the dates and having them printed and/or shipped takes time, the sooner you start, the better. \n\n### Who Gets a Save the Date?\n\nBefore you send your save the dates you want to make sure that you have a working guest list. Because save the dates are sent out months in advance of your wedding, you want to carefully think about who you are inviting to your wedding and your relationship with them. While you may be very excited over a new friendship, remember that you want whoever you send a save the date to to still be in your life when your wedding comes around. (It can be hard talking to close friends who aren’t invited to your wedding, [but we got you covered on that front, too](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding).)\n\nOf course, it’s perfectly fine to send out invitations to more people later on, so don’t worry if you decide you want to add to your guest list after you send your first round of save the dates. (Our [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) helps you keep track of guests’ RSVPs, meal choices, and more.)\n\n### Should You Let Guests Bring a Plus One?\n\nThis is a personal choice that only couples can make. Some couples are happy to have their single guests bring along a date, whereas others prefer to keep the event more intimate. Whatever you decide, it’s important to make it clear to guests whether or not they are flying solo. \n\nYou can let guests know on your wedding save the date or wedding stationery if they’re able to bring a date by clearly stating their name plus their boyfriend/girlfriend’s name, or writing “Plus Guest.” If you’re a wedding guest, it’s often poor form to ask to bring a plus one, [but there are exceptions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding). \n\n \n## Part 2: How to Address Save the Dates \n\nNow that you have wedding save the dates etiquette down, it’s time to talk about how to address save the dates. The way in which you address your guests will depend on who they are, their relationship status, and whether or not you’re addressing a group of people, a couple or a single person. \n\nRead on to learn the basics of addressing save the dates for all your lovely guests. \n\n### For Single Guests \n\nIf you’re into formality, prefixes are used on wedding save the dates. For female guests who are over the age of 18, \"Ms.\" is the go-to, whereas under 18 is typically “Miss.” For single men, “Mr.” is the standard. If prefixes aren’t your thing, or you’re having a more casual wedding, just use the guests full name on the wedding save the dates. \n\nIf you’re giving single guests a plus one, make that clear on the save the date. If you know the name of their date, feel free to write it. If not, it’s perfectly fine to simply write “guest.” Here are some examples of how to write out a wedding save the wedding date card for a single guest, and single guests and their plus one:\n\n- Ms. Sarah Lee\n- Ms. Sarah Lee and Guest\n- John Parker\n- John Parker + Guest\n- Mr. Terry Brown + Ms. Vanessa Smith \n\n### For Married/Long-Term Couples\n\nIf you’re inviting a married couple or long-term partners, you only need to send one save the date. The prefix route is a personal choice, so if you do want to use “Mrs.” and “Mr.” keep it consistent across all save the dates. If you’re not using prefixes, don’t feel obligated to include them just on the save the dates for married couples, unless, of course, you want to. Some couples like to show a sign of respect by using prefixes on the save the dates sent to older family members and/or close family friends. Again, this comes down to personal choice and the level of formality that you want to convey. \n\nIf a couple has different last names, include both. Here are some examples of how to address wedding save the dates to couples:\n\n- Mr. John Chan and Mrs. Lucy Chan\n- John and Lucy Chan\n- Mrs. Veronica Greene and Mrs. Helen Bloom\n- Mrs. Monica Turner and Mr. Tim Barker\n- Monica Turner and Tim Barker \n\n### For Families \n\nThere are a few different ways to address wedding save the dates when it comes to families. First of all, you can include all the family members’ names, names plus prefixes, or you can simply write the last name of the family. (Note: boys under 18 don’t often have a “Mr.” title, whereas girls under 18 do get “Miss.” That being said, you can do whatever you please.)\n\nHere are some examples of how to address families on wedding save the dates:\n\n- The Marquis Family\n- Mr. Rob Marquis, Mrs. Erin Marquis, Mr. John Marquis, and Miss Rosa Marquis \n- Rob, Erin, John and Rosa Marquis \n- Marquis Family\n\n \n## Part 3: Your Wedding Website: The Complement to Your Wedding Save the Dates \n\nThese days, wedding websites have become important parts of weddings. Not only are they the spot to share all relevant information with guests, but they also allow couples to post updates in a timely fashion. \n\nLuckily, getting a wedding website online no longer requires you knowing how to code in HTML. You can have a beautiful website ready in a few easy steps—grab some cute photos of you two, write some stories, and add key information about your wedding. The good news is that Zola can help guide you through all of this; check out our [site building page](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) for more information about creating a beautiful wedding website. \n\nWith the hard part out of the way, let’s look at some of the things you might want to consider adding to your wedding site to make it helpful for your guests. \n\n#### The Itinerary\nThis one’s important. What’s going to happen on the day of your wedding? What are the times that guests need to absolutely be aware of? Take the guesswork out of the day by providing a straightforward itinerary of the day’s events. (But don’t feel like you have to reveal everything; surprises can be fun!). \n\n#### Accommodation Information\nWhere can guests stay? What are the room rates? How far in advance do your guests have to book? Make sure that you spell out everything needed for guests that will be coming from out of town or staying overnight to celebrate your nuptials. \n\n#### Any Wedding Transportation Information\nAre you planning to rent a party bus? Is there a way to get to your wedding by public transit? What are some cab companies that you can list in your city? Offer up as many ways to get to your wedding as possible. Don’t forget accessibility, too: Are there certain entrances or accessible-friendly modes of transportation for your guests that require accessibility? \n\n#### Link to Your Wedding Registry\nOnce upon a time, wedding registries could only be created at stores, requiring your guests to walk in, speak with a clerk, and figure out what hadn’t been bought yet. Today, however, wedding registries can live online, and adding a link to your registry on your site is a convenient way to help your guests buy you the things that you want. \n\n#### Some Activity Ideas for Down Time\nAre you planning your ceremony and reception at two different [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)? Will there be downtime between the two? Make sure that you give your guests an idea of how they can pass the time if they’re going to be a few hours between your events. You can list nearby attractions, restaurants, parks, galleries, or even malls where they can spend their time. \n\n#### FAQs\nCreating an FAQ on your site is a great way to get the basic questions answered quickly for your guests. The section should be succinct and have key questions listed so that if someone is strapped for time and wants to quickly find the knowledge they need (e.g. when does the ceremony start?), they can. \n\n#### Who to Contact for Information\nThis one is self-explanatory. Put the key contacts here and list multiple ways to get a hold of them (e.g. by phone or email). \n\n#### The Story of How You Two Met\nThis is something that can infuse your site with the sort of personality that your friends and family love to see. Recounting the story of how you two met is a great way to add some fun and color. Of course, a meeting story isn’t the only way to liven up your site. You can also recount some of your favorite memories together, list some mutual passions, or even highlight some fun facts about yourselves. \n\n \n## Part 4: Wedding Save the Date Ideas\n\nNow that you have the info on wedding save the dates proper etiquette, how to address save the dates, and what to include on the wedding websites, it’s time to talk [wedding save the dates ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/save-the-date-design-ideas). Here at Zola we have plenty of creative ideas to suit every couple and their personal style. Let’s get started. \n\n### Modern and Simplistic \n\nFor couples who like modern and simplistic designs, send a clean, crisp wedding save the date. Think [graphic elements](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/961e2473-a78b-456e-bd55-fe922bdfb882), such as [floral motifs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/c0302163-baa2-4309-b81d-b5b4376e46b1), and [sans serif fonts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/c7ed0d4d-14e4-4dcb-b691-d079ea0023a5). Keep the focus on the details with an uncluttered design. The use of color and fonts can do wonders; you don’t need lots of fuss happening on the page.\n\n### Magnet Save the Dates\n\nSome couples like to get creative and really remind guests of their upcoming nuptials. What better way to stay top of mind than by sending guests [a magnetized save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?features=magnet)? Many save the dates have the [option to be magnets](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ad40c7a9-e856-4ee6-8e46-a878284603ea), which not only make for cute fridge decor, but also act as a keepsake for guests. [Add a photo of you and your partner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) for an extra special touch. \n\n### Virtual Wedding Save the Dates\n\nNot everyone wants to mail out physical wedding save the dates. Virtual cards are a great option. If you go this route, make sure that you have everyone’s updated emails; you don’t want an important piece of mail getting lost in cyberspace. \n\n### Featured Couple Photo Save the Dates\n\nPut your adorable [engagement photos to use](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1f7428c6-41fd-4f19-b22d-245df93b682a). Feature a [cute picture of you and your spouse-to-be](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/8aa16a80-73ef-4e87-9e6f-ea18c701bc32) on your wedding save the dates. There are plenty of different ways to feature a photo—[or a few](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1cbf59d7-7d57-4080-9f92-9e264d99489c)—on the cards. \n\n### Foil Save the Dates\n\n[Foil save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?features=foil) use a process of foil stamping to create a metallic or pigmented look. You can use gold, rose gold, or silver foil on the text to create a sophisticated contrast on the paper. Foil text next to a beautiful photo of you and your partner makes the perfect combination for a memorable wedding save the date. \n\n### Destination Save the Dates\n\nGet guests excited for your destination wedding with a themed save the date. Having a Hawaiian event? Use flowers and [beach designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/55f221d4-fe2b-4c24-b97f-82a02c470263) to get folks in the mood. Are you getting married in Las Vegas? Save the dates that [incorporate playing cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7ca2896a-5f9a-493e-a51d-874e81a0b490) make for a playful touch.\n\n### Postcard Save the Dates\n\nA wedding postcard is one of the most practical pieces of mail—it doesn’t require wedding envelopes. What’s more, the save the date postcard is usually a standard size, so it doesn’t require any special postage. If you’re looking for a more informal option, consider a postcard save the date. \n\n### Letterpress Save the Dates\n\nFor guests who want a lux look, [letterpress save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?is_letterpress=is_letterpress) are a classic choice. [This premium printing method](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?is_letterpress=is_letterpress) uses raised, inked surfaces to press designs onto paper. This method creates really sharp and classy looking designs. While letterpress save the dates are more pricey than other options, they make for a strong first impression. \n\n## Zola: The Destination for All Your Destination Wedding Needs \n\nWedding save the dates are one of the first pieces of communication that you’ll send out to your guests, so it’s important you start the process early. Once you book your wedding venue and draft your guest list, it’s time to get going on your save the dates. Addressing save the dates depends on your personal style and preference, but as long as you include your guests' name, your wedding location and date, and your wedding website, you’re all set. \n\nSending out wedding save the dates can seem like an overwhelming process, but no matter what your wedding paper needs are, [Zola has everything in one place](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Whether you need save the dates, [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), or thank-you cards, our wedding paper services make it super easy to customize designs just the way you like. For every step of your wedding planning journey, we are here to support you.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Here are some cute bridal shower brunch invitation ideas to inspire you and welcome guests.","title":"Cute Bridal Shower Brunch Invitations","slug":"cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4JF820Mm76ao3JXIQzNUQi/a825db400ee36a3175bbffb6f73a400b/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Cute Bridal Shower Brunch Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:18.192Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"when-to-send-save-the-dates","title":"When To Send Save The Dates","excerpt":"Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. To simplify the wedding planning process, send your save the date card or magnet no earlier than 8 and no later than 4 months out and you’ll be perfectly fine.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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Zola, your wedding expert, has the answers!","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-05-26T16:10:02.161Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7sr340cK1nZOn3DhIoHUh/a76784d697f7f5c30846d50c6f253e3a/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Vow Renewal Save the Date Etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- If you’re planning to send out Save the Dates for a vow renewal, keep in mind vow renewal etiquette, crafting unique Save the Date cards, celebration ideas, and writing the vows themselves. \n- Be sure to include vital information like the time and place of the vow renewal, a link to your vow renewal website, and any other important details. Send your Save the Dates at least six months before the ceremony.\n- Make your Save the Date uniquely yours by choosing formal, traditional, or casual language. You can also add fun design elements to match your vow renewal theme. \n- Whatever reason you’ve chosen to renew your wedding vows, trust Zola to send out those Save the Dates with love and care. ","body":"Whether you're honoring your growth as a married couple, reawakening romantic feelings, or reaffirming promises you made to each other on your wedding day, vow renewals are a beautiful way to celebrate your commitment to your partner. \n\nThough vow renewal ceremonies are absent of the pesky first-time jitters of your original wedding, they still require plenty of planning. This includes the vow renewal Save the Date. \n\nReading this guide will help you create charming announcements and master the art of vow renewal Save the Dates. In this guide, you'll learn:\n\n- The Etiquette of the Vow Renewal Save the Date\n- How to Craft Your One-of-a-Kind Save the Dates\n- Vow Renewal Celebration Ideas\n- How to Rewrite your Vows\n- Reasons to Renew your Vows\n\nSo, straighten your diamond ring and iron your attire; it's time to walk down that aisle once again.\n\n## Proper Etiquette: Vow Renewal Save the Date \n\nSave the dates are a necessary courtesy for your guests of honor, especially in the age of destination celebrations and days-long festivities. It's a way to inform your favorite people of your special day as well as show them that their presence at the ceremony would mean a lot to you and your partner. \n\nYour wedding vow renewal Save the Dates will serve the following purpose:\n\n- Alert your guests of honor of the upcoming celebration so they can, quite literally, Save the Date.\n\n- Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about the nuptials and find your gift registry.\n\n- Grant your guests enough time to book plane tickets, reserve hotels, and arrange for a pet or house sitter, if necessary. \n\n- Present a special keepsake for guests, as well as for you and your SO.\n\n### When to Send the Save the Date \n\nAfter creating your guest list, it's important to follow vow renewal Save the Date etiquette and send them roughly __six months__ before the ceremony to ensure your guests have enough time to prepare for the celebration. That will provide plenty of time to book travel arrangements, request days off work, or find that perfect outfit for your celebration. \n\n### The Smaller Details\nWhen it comes to Save the Date etiquette, be sure to consider the following elements to ensure your guests have everything they need to start preparing for your celebration: \n\n- __Names__ – Make sure you address each of your welcomed loved ones by name. This will help avoid confusion and mitigate the risk of any assumed plus-ones. Doing so also provides families with children the opportunity to arrange for childcare if you choose to host a more intimate and scaled-down renewal ceremony.\n\n- __Additional details about the celebration__ – It's okay if you don't have every detail of your vow renewal celebration figured out. Your vow renewal Save the Date should simply share your celebration's general gist: the date and location of your vow renewal, as well as you and your partner's names. But, you can always add more details, of course. That's the uniqueness of vow renewals—you can make it your own.\n\n- __Website__ – These days, wedding guests have come to expect websites for a couple’s special day—the same goes for vow renewal celebrations. While you may not have had a website for your wedding, you should definitely consider building a vow renewal website and include the website address on your Save the Date. Zola offers free [custom websites for your vow renewal](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) celebration. With easy-to-use tools and gorgeous website templates (and with Save the Dates to match), your guests will be well informed and your vow renewal style will be undeniable.\n\n- __RSVPs__ – If you're wondering whether to include a way for guests to RSVP on your vow renewal Save the Date, the answer is—maybe. While it may take a bit off your plate, this strategy also has the potential to backfire if guests stumble upon other commitments within the six-month interval.\n\n### A Change in Time, A Change of Card: Change the Date Cards\nOn the off chance that you need to postpone your vow renewal ceremony due to weather, travel, or unseen circumstance, there's a handy tool called the Change the Date—a helpful and expeditious version of the Save the Date.\n\nIn these unforeseeable moments, it's essential to immediately inform your guests of any changes. And Zola can help.\n\n- __Guest List Manager__ – Instead of relying on a mass-text to alert your vow renewal guests of a change of date, keep things simple with [Zola’s Guest List Manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Not only does this handy tool allow you to keep track of RSVPs, food choices, and addresses for thank you notes, but it also allows you to reach out to your guests all at once through its messaging platform. \n\n- __Change the Date Cards__ – Our selection of tasteful [Change the Date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/change-the-date/shop) allows couples to keep to vow renewal etiquette while still expressing their own unique style. \n\n## Create Your Vow Renewal Save the Date \n\nNow that you've determined your guest list and general outline, it's time to craft your vow renewal Save the Date. \n\n### Wording\nYour vow renewal Save the Date should be short and sweet, but don't be afraid to be bold, too. Craft a Save the Date that speaks to you and your partner’s style of you and your partner. But be sure to keep the wording simple and informative: let your guests know when, where, and who. In terms of style and tone, there are a few different themes to adopt:\n\n- __Formal__ – Begin your announcement with a broad declaration of your vow renewal: Sangeet and Chuppah are renewing their vows at Paris' beloved Love Lock Bridge on\n- February 14, 2025\n\n- __Traditional__ – Go with a classic: Please Save the Date to celebrate the persisting love of Dr. and Mr. Johnson at their vow renewal on February 14, 2025, at the Empire State Building.\n\n- __Casual__ – Imbue an essence of casual coolness: Come celebrate! Kristy and Diana are saying, \"I do\"—again! Swing by the Golden Stables Country Club on February 14, 2025.\n\n- __Inventive__ – Send a Save the Date that's truly out of the box: Roses are red, violets are blue, Will and Jada are in love, come celebrate anew! Join us next V-Day at the local skate rink. \n\nNo matter your tone or style, make these Save the Dates your own!\n\n### Styling and Design\n\nWhen it comes to the style and design of your vow renewal Save the Date, the options are limitless. Think carefully about what you want to share with your guests and what patterns, designs, and other aesthetic elements you want to incorporate. \n\nHere are a few Save the Date design ideas from to get you started:\n\n- __Floral and botanical designs__ – A flowered Save the Date is a whimsical reprisal of romance and the optimal choice for vow renewals seeped in the summer- or spring-time sun.\n\n- __Rustic and vintage designs__ – The simplicity of these designs apprise casual elegance, notifying your guests that they're bound to have a bit of down-to-earth fun.\n\n- __Romantic__ – Stick with the classics with an enchanting and dreamy design that showcases your deep devotion.\n\n- __Modern Minimalist__ – Keep it simple and sweet. Typically embellished with bold typeface, modern minimalist designs are straight to the point and aesthetically pleasing. \n\n- __Bohemian__ – Show your guests that you're one of the cool couples with intricate designs and illustrations that say, \"We're in love!\" in an artsy way.\n\n### Sourcing\nZola offers a wide selection of [Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) in a variety of styles from botanical and bohemian to classic and modern. You and your partner can craft customized prints that truly represent the love and life you’ve built together.\n\n## Vow Renewal Celebration Ideas \n\nBefore sending out your vow renewal Save the Date to family and friends, it may be important for you to establish a theme for your upcoming vow renewal ceremony to create a cohesive and well-developed concept that weaves throughout your celebration.\n\nWhen planning your vow renewal ceremony, consider:\n\n- Anniversary traditions\n- Wedding traditions\n- A fun or meaningful location\n- A family or cultural tradition\n- The size and desired level of intimacy\n- A significant loved one to officiate\n\n### Anniversary Celebration\nIf you and your SO love the simple beauty of tradition, consider renewing your vows on a special wedding anniversary. You can use traditional anniversary celebration elements to inform your Save the Date design and decor. For example, the flower of the tenth anniversary is the daffodil!\n\nYou can also incorporate elements of your wedding day throughout the ceremony—whether it's a particular arrangement of flowers or a first-dance song. If your original \"I do\" is the focus, consider including a photo from your wedding day into your Save the Day. \n\n### Bringing Back Wedding Favorites\nYou've certainly heard the phrase, \"Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.\" Consider reviving this favorite wedding tradition in your vow renewal and your Save the Date. Decorate your vow renewal ceremony with the old, new, borrowed, and blue of you and your partner's own enduring marriage, and offer a sneak preview on these elements on your vow renewal Save the Date, too.\n\n### Location\nMaybe your vow renewal is an opportunity for a vacation with family and friends, or maybe it's situated in your hometown. Either way, where you choose to celebrate your vow renewal can provide inspiration for your Save the Date. \n\nIf you’re looking forward to a vow renewal right on the shores of Greek Isle, you should take a look at beach-themed Save the Dates. If you’re celebrating in an antique farmhouse, a rustic Save the Date will say it all. \n\nNot sure of what location to choose yet? Here are some ideas to spark your imagination:\n\n- __Spiritual Sites__ – Consider incorporating a certain principle or ritual into your own celebration if spirituality is particularly important to you and your partner. This could be as simple as hosting your vow renewals at a spiritual center of your choice or incorporating a spiritual ritual that’s meaningful to you both.\n\n- __The Monte-Carlo__ – There are few places as romantic as Monte-Carlo, a principality bustling with color, in every sense of the word. The Hotel Metropole Monte-Carlo offers a unique vow renewal experience, in which couples dive underwater to conduct their ceremonies. While vows may have to be shared on dry land, it's an aquatic experience of a lifetime.\n\n- __Nature-Filled Resort__ – Consider a mountain resort that hosts a unique vow renewal celebration in which personalized malas are crafted and cleansed creek-side. The ritual provides a space for couples to deepen their connection and uncover each other's love-based intentions. \n\nWherever you choose to say “I do” (again), you can find themed Save the Dates perfect for a destination celebration with Zola’s selection of [Beach and Destination Save the Dates.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?styles=beach_destination)\n\n## Rewriting Your Vows \n\nOnce you've identified your date, location, and Save the Date, it's finally time to put the pen to paper and express why you love your SO so very much. As your drafting your vows, be sure to include the following elements in your speech:\n\n- Reinstating past promises\n- Adding a personal touch\n- Remembering a meaningful memory\n- Committing to future promises\n- Confirming your love\n\n### Reinstate Past Promises\nTake a look back through your old vows (or maybe rewatch the video version of it). What did you promise to your partner back then? Acknowledge and reiterate those promises, their importance in your life today, and how they shaped your marriage. \n\n### A Personal Touch\nWas there a particularly funny joke you included in your original wedding vows? Did it become an inside joke that’s persisted throughout the years? Or, was there a particularly memorable moment from your wedding day that you and your partner still giggle about? Include it! Sprinkle your modernized vows with particularly intimate or special elements that hold significant meaning for you, your SO, and your marriage.\n\n### A Meaningful Memory\nTake a moment to think about the memories you’ve shared with your partner that have helped define your partnership—the good, the bad, and the in-between. You can touch briefly on the defining moments of your marriage and how they’ve brought you closer. As always, speak about the moments with authenticity.\n\n### Future Promises\nDevelop a list of two or three promises you plan to make to your partner in the years moving forward. This, again, should be personal to you and your journey as a couple. \n\nBut also, don't be afraid to get silly with it. Promise to always brush your teeth immediately after you wake up to avoid your infamous morning breath, or tease your partner with a promise to always order an extra side of fries so you’ll always have enough to share.\n\n### Loud in Love\nLastly, tell your partner that you love them. While your vow renewal in and of itself is an act of love, be sure to say the words and seal the deal. \n\n__Vow Renewal Pro Tip:__ Don't wait until the last minute to write your vows. Take the time you need to share your true feelings. Also, embrace sentimentality, but don't stress if you can't include everything.\n\n## Reasons to Renew Your Vows \n\nVow renewals are becoming more and more popular as couples reach milestone anniversaries. There are many reasons why couples embark on a second vow:\n\n- To commemorate the length of a marriage\n- To add more romance to a marriage and rekindle romantic feelings\n- To embark on a fresh marital start \n- To celebrate their love amongst family and friends\n\nNo matter the reason, it can be argued vow renewals are often more personal than the first promises. The two of you have already been through sickness and health, through thick and thin, and you still want to be there for each other for the rest of your lives. That’s always something to celebrate. \n\n \n\nCustomize your vow renewal [Save the Date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) today with specialized designs, fonts, colors, and personalized photos at Zola. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_SaveTheDates"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Feeling stuck when it comes to how to write your renewal vows? We can help. 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Engagement, wedding, and elopement announcements are three types used by engaged and married couples.\n- Wedding announcements are usually mailed out immediately after the wedding for colleagues, business associates, distant relatives, and loved ones unable to attend your wedding.\n- Wedding announcements can come in many forms, including a printed card, a phone call, a social media post, and more. \n- There are certain rules and etiquette for wedding stationery. Following these will ensure that your wedding planning process and big day go off without a hitch.","body":"If you have love on the brain and wedding bells still ringing in your ears, it might be time to send your wedding announcements. These are a wonderful way to proclaim your love and share the news of your new union. \n\nTo guide couples through all things wedding announcements, we’ll give you a wedding stationery crash course, then teach you everything you need to know about wedding and engagement announcements, including proper etiquette and available options.\n\n## Everything You Need to Know About Wedding Stationery \nYour wedding stationery will usher you through your engagement and all the way down the aisle. Through carefully picked papers and graceful calligraphy, you can proclaim your love while keeping your guests informed about the big day to come.\n\nIf you’re not yet savvy in all things stationery, the sheer quantity of cards to send out can be daunting. To help you learn the differences between your wedding announcement, your wedding invitation, and everything in between, we’ll look more closely at the three main wedding stationery categories:\n\n- Announcements\n- [Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n- Cards and Notes\n\nOnce you feel confident about the definition of each, as well as the unwritten rules surrounding your written cards, you’ll be a [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) pro, ready to send out your announcements and everything that comes after.\n\n### Announcements\nThere are multiple types of wedding announcement cards that you might send out in anticipation of your marriage, including:\n\n- __Engagement Announcements –__ Printed engagement announcement cards have fallen out of style in the digital era, but they’re still a lovely touch if couples want to formally announce their upcoming nuptials.\n\n- __Wedding Announcements –__ Wedding announcements share the news of either a recent or upcoming marriage.\n\n- __Elopement Announcements –__ Elopement announcements share that you’re getting married—sans the flashy, formal wedding celebration. These are typically sent out within 30 days of your marriage.\n\n### Invitations\nAnnouncing your wedding is the first step, but invitations are how you actually fill your venue with loved ones. \n\nBeyond just the wedding day itself, you might send out a number of event invitations, including:\n\n- __Engagement Party Invitations –__ If you’re hosting an engagement party, you’ll send out invitations to your guests, either two to three months in advance for a formal engagement party, or six to eight weeks before a more casual party. These invitations will list the dress code, location, and date and time.\n\n- __Wedding Shower Invitations –__ For wedding showers, you’ll want to send out invitations two to three months in advance, if possible. The card will mention the theme, location, and date and time of the party. Couples also usually note where they’re registered.\n\n- __Bachelor/Bachelorette Party Invitations –__ If you choose to send out formal invitations for bachelor or bachelorette parties, then you should send the invitations two to three months in advance with all the pertinent details.\n\n- __Rehearsal Dinner Invitations –__ Rehearsal dinner invitations can be included in the wedding invitation suite, or can be sent separately. They’ll include the location and RSVP card information.\n\n- __Wedding Invitations –__ The wedding invitation suite refers to all of the elements that can be included along with your wedding invitation. This can include components such as an outer envelope, inner envelope, belly band, invitation card, reception card, directions card, hotel accommodations card, response card, and/or return envelope. The invitation itself should mention the names of the couple, the date and time, the name of the venue, and the city and state.\n\n### Cards and Notes\nWedding planning is all in the details—and what better way to communicate those details than with stunning stationery? \n\nThere are few more types of cards and notes that you might consider mailing, including:\n\n- __Save-the-Date Cards –__ Many couples choose to send save-the-date cards six to eight months before their wedding. Couples planning destination weddings should send these out even sooner, up to a year before the wedding date. In addition to the date, these cards should include the city and state where your wedding will take place, plus your wedding website, if you have one.\n- \n- __Change-the-Date Cards –__ Change-the-date cards notify guests that you’ll be rescheduling your wedding. These cards should be sent out as soon as possible to allow your guests to make new arrangements.\n\n- __Thank You Notes –__ Within two weeks of receiving a wedding gift, you should send a thank-you note. These can be sent later if you want to include photos. The note should include what the gift was and the giver’s name alongside your words of thanks.\n\nIf [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) is what you need, Zola has it in store. Order everything you need in one easy place, including:\n\n- Save-the-Dates\n- Change-the-Dates\n- Invitations\n- Enclosure Cards\n- Menus\n- Programs\n- Thank You Cards\n- Holiday Cards\n\nChoose from hundreds of our designs! You can even match your stationery to your free [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n## Wedding Announcements 101 \nNow that you’re acquainted with the wonderful world of wedding stationery, let’s look more closely at wedding announcements. \n\nTypically, you’d send them out the day after the wedding, but you can also wait up to a few months. Usually, couples already have them ready to go before the big day. That way, all you have to do is drop them in the nearest mailbox. This means that before you walk down the aisle, your announcement cards should already be:\n\n- Printed\n- Addressed\n- Stamped\n\nBut wedding announcement cards aren’t the only form of wedding announcements. There’s an important distinction to make between the event you’re announcing—engagement, wedding, or elopement—but also how you’re announcing your news to the world.\n\nWedding announcements take on two primary forms:\n\n- Mailed wedding announcements for your friends, family, and beyond\n- Newspaper wedding announcements for the general public\n\nTo help you send out your mailed wedding announcements quickly and easily, let’s discuss the who, what, where, and why of it all.\n\n### Whom Should We Mail Our Wedding Announcements To?\nYour wedding announcements should go out to anyone who you’d like to inform of your big news—that’s a personal list that only you can write. However, most people send out announcement cards to their: \n\n1. Colleagues and business associates\n2. Distant relatives\n3. Loved ones unable to attend the wedding\n\nIf you had a small wedding, you may also send them to friends and family who weren’t invited. Some couples will choose to send them to their wedding guests too. There are no real rules around who can or can’t receive a wedding announcement—if you care to let them know, then go ahead and tell them.\n\n### Do We Have to Mail Our Wedding Announcements? \nYou certainly don’t have to mail out traditional wedding announcement cards; this is the twenty-first century, after all! \n\nWe encourage couples to embrace their creativity and find a format that works best for them. Some options include:\n\n- A printed card that includes photos from the wedding or honeymoon\n- An email announcement, with or without photos from the wedding or honeymoon\n- A social media post of photos from the wedding or honeymoon\n- A phone call to loved ones and others not present at your wedding\n\nEven though we’re living in the age of digital communication, a physical wedding announcement card in the mail is still a lovely gesture that many loved ones will appreciate. Couples that do mail out standard wedding announcements often utilize their wedding colors and theme to design them.\n\n### What Information Should Our Wedding Announcements Include?\nWedding announcements are a blank canvas—you can fill them with anything and everything that seems important to you. \n\nIf you’re looking for a little guidance, couples usually mention the following details:\n\n- Who hosted the wedding\n- Who got married\n- Your new address\n- Any changes to your names\n\n### How to Write Wedding Announcements\nTo help you find some inspiration, here are a few examples to help you write your wedding announcements.\n\n#### Handwritten Wedding Announcements\nHandwritten wedding announcements are more personalized and can be either formal or informal. They’re usually in letter format. Examples include:\n\n1. *Dear Rebecca,*\n\n*Josh and I are so happy to announce that we are finally married! Our wedding took place on February 14th in a lovely, Valentine’s Day-themed wedding at a gorgeous banquet hall in Ranchos Palos Verdes. We look forward to seeing you at Thanksgiving! We can’t wait to tell you more about the wedding. We’re leaving soon for our honeymoon in Tahiti. We’ll be sure to send wedding and honeymoon pictures when we have them. Wishing you all the best.*\n\n*Love, Samantha and Josh*\n\n2. Dear Grandmother,\n\n*Juan and I are so happy to announce that we got married this past weekend! Our ceremony and reception took place at a spectacular beachside venue on Amelia Island on June 21st. The weather was absolutely perfect—blue skies and sunshine. We had a bonfire on the beach afterward and danced all night with friends and family. We’re so sorry you were unable to make the trip down south for the wedding, but we can’t wait to share our wedding and honeymoon pictures. Thank you so much for your lovely card and wedding gift. We’re getting ready to leave for our honeymoon in Germany. We can’t wait to see you at Christmas!*\n\n*Love, Brad and Juan*\n\n#### Printed Wedding Announcements\nFormal printed announcements are a great choice if you’re sending out large batches, if you’re pressed for time, or if your handwriting is not the neatest. \n\nHere are some examples of what you can type up:\n\n1. *Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Valentino are pleased to announce the wedding of their son* \n*Mr. John Valentino and Mr. Omar Abdallah* \n*Friday, the third of January two thousand and twenty-one* \n*Chicago, Illinois* \n\n2. *Mrs. and Mrs. Smith are honored to announce the wedding of their daughter* \n*Mrs. Annalise Sallee and Mr. Andy Nguyen* \n*Saturday, November 3, 2021* \n*Sedona, Arizona* \n\n## Wedding Announcements in Newspapers\nNow that we’ve covered the personal, let’s move onto the public aspect of wedding announcements: the who, what, where, and why of newspaper wedding announcements. \n\nThese public declarations of your nuptials ensure that anyone and everyone you know can find out about the marriage. Plus, they’re a perfect keepsake.\n\nIf you want to make sure that your engagement and wedding news is easily accessible for all of your loved ones, consider making a wedding website. You can share photos and updates with friends and family using one of Zola’s 250 free, easy-to-use, customizable website templates.\n\n### What Do We Need to Include in Our Newspaper Wedding Announcement?\nUsually, you’ll have to fill out a form from the newspaper when you submit your wedding announcements. Typically, you’ll include the following information about both partners:\n\n- Full names\n- Ages\n- Occupations\n- Hometown\n- School\n- College\n- Degrees\n- Parents’ names\n- Parents’ towns of residence\n- Parents’ occupations\n- Grandparents’ names\n\n You might also include information about your wedding, such as:\n\n- Location\n- Date and time\n- Officiant’s name\n- Names of bridesmaids and groomsmen\n- Description of the wedding dress\n- Description of the wedding bouquet\n- Honeymoon destination\n- The couple’s future home\n\n### Where Should We Publish Our Wedding Announcement?\nYou can submit your wedding announcements to multiple newspapers including:\n\n- The local newspaper in your families’ hometowns\n- The local newspaper where the couple currently lives\n- The local newspaper where either of you went to college\n\nSome couples will also submit to the New York Times’ Vows section, but not every announcement is published. Other couples might only choose to publish their wedding announcement in one newspaper because of the cost.\n\n### When Should We Publish Our Wedding Announcement?\nYour wedding announcements should be published a few days after your wedding, but you’ll have to submit them in advance. The lead time depends on the newspaper. A major publication like the New York Times asks couples to submit at least six weeks in advance. On the other hand, a local publication such as The Oklahoman only requires that couples submit eight days before they want the announcement to be published.\n\nYou can find all the information you need about deadlines on the website for each newspaper you want to submit to. Generally, three to six weeks before the wedding is a good lead time.\n\n### How Do We Publish Our Wedding Announcements?\nEach newspaper will have its own submission details. Couples can usually submit their announcements by:\n\n- Mail\n- Email\n- Online form\n\nYou might write the announcement yourself or simply submit the details about your wedding and marriage for the newspaper to write the announcement themselves. Each newspaper will detail its own requirements including:\n\n- Word count\n- Format\n- Image specifications\n\n### Newspaper Wedding Announcements FAQs\nHopefully, you’re beginning to feel confident in your wedding announcement expertise. Here are a few frequently asked questions to ensure that getting hitched goes off without a hitch:\n\n- __Should newspaper wedding announcements include prior marriages?__ It’s not necessary to include any previous marriages in the newspaper announcement, but some couples choose to do so. \n\n- __How much does it cost to submit a wedding announcement?__ While some newspapers print wedding announcements for free, others charge a fee of about $100. The exact cost can depend on the length of the announcement and whether it includes a photo.\n\n## Engagement Announcements\nIn case you're not ready for wedding announcements just yet, let’s look more closely at the details for other types of announcements, starting with engagement announcements. \n\nIf you’re still at the engagement announcement phase, you might be on the hunt for your wedding venue and [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors). Zola offers a free, pre-screened inventory of [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and vendors. Customize your search to find the perfect service providers for your big day, so that by the time you are sending out wedding announcements, you’ll have already enjoyed the perfect event.\n\n### How to Share Engagement Announcements\nThere are many methods to share the news of your engagement, including:\n\n- __Handwritten Notes from the Mother of the Bride –__ Traditionally, the mother of the bride sends out handwritten notes to friends and family. Nowadays, couples typically announce their engagement in other less formal ways. However, this can still be a lovely touch for friends and family.\n\n- __Save-the-Date Cards –__ Save-the-Date Cards notify wedding guests of the intended wedding date before the couple sends their invitations out. Many couples now use these cards as informal engagement announcements.\n\n- __Phone Call, Email, or Social Media –__ Some couples will choose to inform family and friends more casually with a simple phone call. They might also notify family and friends through email or a social media post.\n\n- __Engagement Party –__ Recently, couples have used engagement party invitations in lieu of announcements. Traditionally, the family of the bride throws this party, but those traditional protocols are no longer necessary. If you’re throwing a surprise engagement party, then the party itself serves as the announcement. Couples usually invite guests to another themed party and then surprise them with news of the engagement.\n\n- __Newspaper Announcements –__ Couples can also publish their engagement announcement in the newspaper. Not every newspaper accepts and prints them, but for those that do, the protocol is similar to wedding announcements.\n\n### How to Write Engagement Announcements\nThe format for an engagement announcement is similar to that of wedding announcements, but the content is slightly different. Here are some examples to guide you:\n\n1. *Mr. and Mrs. Vineet Patel announce the engagement of their daughter* *Lisa Patel to Mr. Edward Rice*\n2. *Ms. Sophia Raleigh and Mr. Mateo Lopez are thrilled to announce their engagement.*\n3. *Ms. Rachel Cortez and Ms. Xiao Lee are pleased to announce their engagement*\n*Ms. Cortez asked Ms. Lee for her hand in marriage on Tuesday, October 12, 2021*\nIn Yosemite National Park, California\n\n### How to Publish Engagement Announcements in the Newspaper\nMany newspapers publish engagement announcements in their lifestyle section. Some newspapers will require that you submit the announcement up to four months in advance, and it can take up to a month to print it, though they may not specify on exactly what date that’ll be. \n\nNewspapers usually require the following information about the couple:\n\n- Their names\n- Their hometowns\n- Their parents’ names\n- The date of the wedding\n\nYou can submit engagement announcements to multiple newspapers, especially if you and your partner or your parents are from different cities, but many newspapers require an additional fee, such as:\n\n- The Miami Herald\n- The Los Angeles Times\n\nOther newspapers do not charge a fee, including:\n\n- The Palm Beach Daily News\n- The Times-Picayune\n- The Boston Globe\n\nPublishing your engagement announcement in the newspaper can be a lovely keepsake to add to your wedding album.\n\n## Wedding Stationery Tips \nNow that you know the ins and outs of wedding announcements, let’s look at some best practices for all of your wedding stationery. Keep these tips and tricks in mind as you design, address, and send out your suite of cards:\n\n- __Learn the Etiquette –__ Wedding planning involves a lot of etiquette and tradition. Learning the “rules,” from how to write wedding announcement cards to whom to send them to, will help your wedding planning go smoothly. You, of course, don’t need to follow etiquette or tradition, but learning the standard practices gives you a foundation to work from or to work away from.\n\n- __Give Advanced Notice –__ We’ve already covered all of the various types of wedding stationery and their accompanying timeframes. But, when in doubt, sending them out sooner rather than later is always best. Give your guests as much notice as possible, so they can make it to your engagement party, bachelor party, or wedding day.\n\n- __Write Clearly –__ To avoid countless calls from confused guests, make sure that your wedding stationery is always clear and concise. You want the most important information to be the largest and most prominent, and you don’t want too many unnecessary details muddling your main message.\n\n- __Get Creative –__ Although there are traditions and best practices to follow, couples shouldn’t be afraid to get creative when it comes to their wedding stationery; this is your special moment, after all. Embrace your style and personality.\n\n- __Spell Out Everything –__ There are certain spelling rules for wedding stationery. Mr. and Mrs. are usually abbreviated, but most other words are written in full, including city names, state names, house numbers smaller than 20, and words such as “apartment,” “post office box,” and “street.”\n\n- __Include All Relevant Names –__ There’s no shortage of names to include in the various types of wedding announcements and invitations. Write recipients’ full names on the outside of the envelope and include the full names of both partners on the card itself.\n\n## Nail Your Nuptials at Zola\nSoon you’ll be marching down the aisle or slipping away to your dream honeymoon. For now, you’re still in the thick of the wedding planning jungle. Find your way out with help from Zola. We offer hundreds of wedding stationery designs and perks such as:\n\n- Free guest list addressing\n- Free matching wedding websites\n\nZola’s here for all your wedding needs, from helping you find your vendors and mailing your invitations to sharing your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Find wedding bliss at Zola.","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:16.938Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"what-to-expect-after-sending-save-the-dates","title":"What to Do After Sending Save the Dates—Guest Questions, Travel Plans, and More ","excerpt":"Once you send your save the dates, what’s next? Learn everything you need to know in this save the date etiquette guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-05-27T19:34:37.379Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4ZWlOnxtwnqW0tstMorE33/9ed3c2bf96c8d9fff1f331fcd08b003d/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What to Expect After Sending Save the Dates"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Once you’ve sent out your Save the Dates, you should expect to receive plenty of questions (and celebratory cheers) from guests.\n- Figure out answers to common guest questions—such as where the nearby hotels are and what the dress code is. These details can be placed on your wedding website (hint hint: you can make a gorgeous free wedding website with Zola!). \n- This is also the time to start working on booking deals with transportation companies or accommodations near your venue so guests can start making travel plans. \n- Once the Save the Dates are out, it’s time to start looking for your wedding attire. You should also load up your registry and prepare your invitations.","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are often the first concrete way couples announce that they’re getting married. Sending these announcements is a fun and exciting step that makes your upcoming wedding feel locked in place, while offering advantages for prospective guests as well.\n\nBut once you’ve mailed the save the dates, what’s the next step? In this guide, we’ll cover: \n\n- __Part 1:__ How to Handle Questions From Guests\n- __Part 2:__ Using Save the Dates to Get a Head Start on Logistics \n- __Part 3:__ The Next Steps in Your Journey \n\n## How to Handle Questions From Guests \n\nYour guests will be (almost) as excited as the two of you about the big day. They’ll be eager to make plans to join you, and that means they’ll have questions. The first thing you can expect after save the dates arrive in guests’ hands is for them to contact you for more information, so be prepared for your phone to ring off the hook.\n\nBeing able to direct them to a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or information source will free up your time for the other things on your wedding to-do list. Good news: you don’t have to be a professional web developer to create a stunning and informative wedding website. You just need Zola. \n\nZola’s [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) builder is intuitive, customizable, and can even complement your wedding stationary. Thanks to simple drag-and-drop tools and a wide selection of gorgeous templates, you can create the perfect wedding website unique to you. You can easily fill your wedding website with everything your guests need to know about your big day, from directions to the venue to attire information. That means you and your partner spend less time answering questions from excited guests and more time getting ready for the day!\n\n### Answering Common Guest Questions \n\nThis early in the wedding planning process, you won’t be able to go into detail about everything, but it helps to predict guests’ questions and be prepared to point them in the right direction. Your guests might ask things like:\n\n- How formal will the wedding day be? What should I wear?\n- Is there a theme?\n- Where is the venue? What is it like? \n- Where will the reception be held? \n- Will the wedding and reception take place indoors or outdoors?\n- What is the weather or temperature like when the wedding will take place?\n- When should we arrive?\n- Will we be included in other wedding-related events?\n- What happens after the wedding ceremony? \n- Can I bring a date?\n- Are kids welcome? \n- What will be served at the reception? \n- Will your venue be wheelchair accessible?\n- Will service animals be welcome?\n- Can I take pictures during the ceremony or reception and post them to social media?\n\nIn addition, you can expect a deluge of travel-related inquiries. Unless you and everyone you’re inviting lives in the same city or town, your guests will probably need to make arrangements. They’ll likely wonder things like:\n\n- Where is the closest airport?\n- Do you have a block of hotel rooms reserved?\n- Are there other hotel options close by?\n- Is there transportation from the airport to the hotel?\n- Is there transportation from the hotel to the venue? To the reception?\n- Is there parking at the venue?\n\nWork with your partner to answer these questions ahead of time and fill your wedding website with the relevant information your guests will need. If you’ve sent save the dates out early and don’t have a whole lot of details yet, start with the most important information—date, time, place, and venue. You may not have an answer yet to every question, and that’s okay. Acknowledge it on the website and let guests know about when they can expect an update. \n\nFor example, if you’re negotiating with a few different hotels for a discount on a block of rooms, your accommodation section can look like this:\n\n*__Accommodations__*\n*We’re working with a few different hotels to find the best value for our wonderful guests. Check back here by the end of May for up-to-date accommodation options!*\n\nThe more transparency you have for your guests, the better. And if there’s ever an important update you need to make sure everyone knows about, try using a wedding guest tool like [Zola’s Wedding Guest List Manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). A bit like a digital wedding guest assistant, Zola’s Wedding Guest List Manager allows you to send emails to everyone on the guest list to ensure everyone gets the message. This tool also allows you to keep track of RSVPs, meal choices, and guest addresses (a lifesaver when thank you note time comes around!). \n\n### Telling People They’re Not Invited\nThis an awkward (and oftentimes uncomfortable) aspect of the post save the date period. With people constantly sharing on social media platforms, word about your save the dates is likely going to spread, so you might find yourself fielding a question like “I saw on Facebook that Sam got their save the date. Where’s mine?”\n\nYou and your partner have your reasons for choosing the guests you did—venue, budget, or just personal preference. It’s paramount that you build a wedding guest list that makes you happy, and if that means leaving some people out, you might be asked to explain. Doing so doesn’t have to be (excessively) painful or awkward if you take the following steps:\n\n#### #1 Be Honest\nPeople are wise to excuses, so you’re better off just telling the truth. When you say something like “I’m sorry, Jamie, but we’ve decided on a small ceremony. I appreciate you getting in touch, and hopefully we can talk again soon,” a real friend will understand. \n\n#### #2 Cite the Budget or Venue\nEvery wedding day operates within a certain budget. Additionally, every venue has a capacity. If either of these two components are why you can’t invite everyone, it pays to be honest. Your guests should understand the mechanics involved. \n\n#### #3 Remember the Question Comes From Love\nWhile dealing with these questions can be uncomfortable, it’s important to keep in mind that they stem from someone’s desire to be with you and your partner on your big day. \n\nThey might be disappointed at the lack of a wedding invitation, but in the end, you and your future spouse are the ones who matter, and all you can do is be as kind as possible and continue with your wedding plans. People who care about your wellbeing will be content to celebrate your love on a different occasion. \n\n## Using Save the Dates to Get a Head Start on Logistics \n\nA major benefit of sending save the dates is that they allow you to start forming a picture of who will be joining your celebration. With your first round of RSVPs, you’ll already have a few details in place. \n\n### Updating Your Guest List\nIn your wedding planning journey, you may have heard the terms “A list” and “B list” when it comes to creating your wedding guest list. \n\nIf you’re not familiar with the terminology, “A-listers” are “must-haves,” like you or your partner’s parents, siblings, and closest friends. “B-listers” are “would be nice” additions, like distant cousins, casual friends, or friendly coworkers. \n\nAfter guests start receiving save the dates, some of them will decline. If potential guests begin to confirm they will not be attending, you have a few options. One of them is to pull guests from your B list to take the place of A-listers (who declined your invite, of course). Additionally, you can leave the spaces open for spontaneous invites, or reduce the size of your guest list. \n\n### Preliminary Travel Plans\nNow that you’ve sent out your save the dates and you’re starting to hear back from guests, you can take steps to make their journey to your wedding a pleasant one. Of course, what you’ll need to do varies wildly between a local wedding and a destination wedding. \n\n#### Destination Weddings\nIf you’re planning a destination wedding, you probably already have a long to-do list. While you can’t finalize everything after sending save the dates, you might be able to cross off a few items, like:\n\n- __Research:__ It’s never too soon to start reaching out to local [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), especially if you’re communicating over long distances (and possibly in different languages). After you send your save the dates, you can start Googling, reading reviews, and compiling lists of local vendors (hint: Zola has hundreds of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) you can compare and contrast to find your perfect fit). \n\nAdditionally, if you’ll have the pleasure of your group’s company for an extended time, look into places to eat and activities to do. Consider posting links on your wedding website to drum up excitement. \n\n- __Book a block of hotel rooms:__ Until RSVPs come back, you might not know the minimum number of guests you can expect, but you have a general picture. Typically, even if you don’t have the exact number, hotels will be willing to work with you. \n\n- __Browse flights or speak to a travel agent:__ If you’re helping relatives and loved ones who are less travel-savvy find flights (or if you have the budget to cover some of those flights), you can start looking now. Not only can you score discounts by booking flights far in advance, you can avoid splitting up a party hoping to travel together. For parties of ten or more, travel agents can be a huge “value add” to your planning process. \n\n#### Local Weddings\nMaking local arrangements may not seem as daunting as planning for a faraway locale, but laying groundwork now will mean fewer loose ends later. Flights will likely be cheaper, and if you’re a tight-knit bunch, you might be able to make arrangements for out-of-town guests to stay with family or friends.\n\n## The Next Steps in Your Journey \n\nSending out your save the dates is a huge milestone. It’s a signal that the real wedding fun is about to begin. We know you’re excited, However, the journey doesn’t end there. Here are a few things to keep in mind as you prepare for your big day: \n\n### Gift Registry\nOne of the most exciting parts of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) is sitting down with your future spouse and picking out the things that will make your new life together that much sweeter. And bonus points: Your guests are likely chomping at the bit to start shopping. \n\nEstablishing your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) is a fantastic next step after sending save the dates. People will be asking where you’re registered. The best way to check needed or wanted items off your list is to point them to us at Zola, where you can compile a registry from tons of different places. \n\nYou won’t be limited to registering with a single merchant or store, so if one of you is an avid at-home brewer, the other is a gardener and staunch football fan, and you both need silverware for your new condo, it’s a one-stop shopping list for guests hoping to give you presents. \n\n### Wedding Party Attire\nThe best way to avoid wedding day stress is to be as prepared as possible. You and your spouse don’t want to leave your appearance to chance, and neither will your wedding party. Now it’s time to choose the wedding date attire.\n\nIf you’ve decided this is one of your next steps, involving your wedding party at their earliest convenience is a fantastic way to drive the excitement. They’ve received their save the dates, now it’s time they get fitted. \n\n### Invitations\nIf you’ve sent your save the dates out seven to eight months before the wedding, there’s no need to send [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) immediately after. We suggest taking this step at around the two-month mark (with RSVPs due no later than one month before the wedding). However, it’s never too early for you and your partner to start shopping for invitations.\n\n__Tip__: *While your invitations should match the wedding theme, level of formality, and express who you are as a couple, don’t worry if your invitations don’t match the save the date. Save the dates are less formal than invitations, and there’s nothing wrong with being a little quirkier.*\n\n## Take the Next Step in Planning Your Wedding With Zola \n\nAt Zola, we pride ourselves on being your one-stop-shop for all things wedding. We offer beautiful, free website templates in hundreds of different designs. They’re the perfect way to express your style and celebrate your love, while providing your guests with the information they need about your upcoming wedding. We also offer an extended wedding registry, wedding stationary, a wedding boutique, pre-screened vendor lists, and so much more!\n\nTrust Zola to lead you through every step of this amazing journey—after all, we’re the wedding experts!\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Need some Save the Date design ideas to get the imagination flowing? 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","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Your invitations set a first impression. In this guide, our experts lay out everything you need to know about wedding invitation wording and etiquette.","title":"Guide to Wedding Invitation Wording","slug":"wedding-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CjXzcoa77shJ1irgITI9M/296da868ad1baccd71025a3dbd404da6/wedding-invitation-hero.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation wording"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From guest lists to choosing the perfect stationery, we've got all the tips with our wedding invitation checklist! Click here for more information.","title":"Wedding Invitation Checklist","slug":"wedding-invitation-checklist","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3rUwjl5v7qhARC8WE472o7/9f4d9c99b80e74e086660a697329cb98/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitations"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:14.921Z"}],"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates","description":"Save the dates are how you let your guests know the initial details of your wedding, like the date and venue location. Whether you're wondering when to send saves the dates, what to include on them, or which design to choose, find everything you need to know about wedding save the dates."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"the-traditional-muslim-wedding-invitation","title":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Everything you need to know about Muslim wedding invitations. ","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking to plan a Muslim wedding? 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Expert wedding planners share their tips for planning a fun, memorable, alcohol-free wedding.","title":"How to Plan a Dry Wedding + Tips","slug":"how-to-plan-a-sober-wedding","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58NoIZGEJQBAZOV3gUkZpq/8af786295350ad1bd2051e8a7de4cea6/Groom_Holding_Sparkling_Cider_by_Jason_Briscoe.jpg","altText":"Groom holding two glasses of sparkling cider with bride in background for a dry wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. ","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- *“Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.” *\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”*\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”*\n\n- *“Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. *\n\n- *I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”*\n\n- *“Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”*\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. 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Save your money—and your sanity—with our best advice on how to save money as a wedding guest.","title":"How to Save Money as a Wedding Guest","slug":"save-money-as-a-wedding-guest","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/22Au5AEoRGlLVhfraPuIS6/a36b672743797c66ed645610113d11e9/How-to-Save-Money-as-a-Wedding-Guest.jpg","altText":"indian groom celebrates with wedding guests"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"You can't invite everyone to your wedding—for a number of reasons. Read on to learn how to talk to \nfriends who aren't invited to your wedding, tactfully.","title":"How to Talk to Friends Who Weren't Invited to Your Wedding","slug":"how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ShpgpD8f4LDnIkGSIbmLl/bc3ebf05efe4de156cf9ae2b8f25db91/How-to-Talk-to-Friends-Who-Werent-Invited-to-Your-Wedding.jpg","altText":"friends talking about wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It's not always black and white—sometimes you should invite someone who invited you to their wedding, other times you don't have to. Let's break down the etiquette around this tricky guest list question.","title":"We Were Invited to a Friend's Wedding—Do We Have to Invite Them to Ours?","slug":"invited-to-friends-wedding-invite-them-to-ours","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2xtfTAHk7tje2xXp7wlrrA/38004e2747b99f39ecf37f52f4f11c97/HERO_GlasserImages_1080x720_Rachel_Jake.jpg","altText":"couples dance at wedding reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:39.759Z"}],"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations","description":"From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T16:07:10.864Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"heroCredit":"MeewMeew Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/meewmeew-studios","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Consider your relationship with the couple and their personalities before writing your wedding card.\n- Include an address, congratulations, well wishes, shared memories/advice, thanks, and a sign-off.\n- Be genuine, unified, and well-prepared, but try not to write too much, scratch out mistakes, or get too personal.\n","body":"Sharing your wedding wishes with a newlywed couple is a thoughtful way to celebrate their new life together and [show your appreciation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/gift-etiquette/wedding-gifts-from-around-the-world) for being a part of their wedding day. But knowing what to write in a wedding card can be intimidating, especially if you don’t consider yourself to be great with words. \n\nTo help you get started, we’ve put together a collection of tips and examples for what to write in a wedding card. Use them as inspiration for your own wedding wishes, and remember that a genuine, from-the-heart message from you is all that really matters.\n\n- Formal Wedding Wishes\n- Casual Wedding Card Wishes\n- Funny Wedding Card Wishes\n- Religious Wedding Card Wishes\n- Wedding Wishes for Family\n- Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n- Wedding Wishes for a Friend\n- Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\n- What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n- Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\nWedding cards are traditionally gifted to the couple at the wedding [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline). If you [can’t make it to the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding), be sure to mail your wedding card as close to the wedding date as possible. The most important rule of thumb when it comes to wedding card etiquette is to write a warm, genuine message unique to the newlyweds. \n\n## How to Structure Your Wedding Card Message\nDepending on the nature of your relationship with the newlyweds, you might not feel the need to follow a specific message structure when you write your wedding card. However, the standard format of a wedding card message typically follows the format below: \n\n1. Note of congratulations\n2. Warm wishes for their new marriage \n3. Personal message, memory, joke or marriage advice (this will vary depending on your relationship to the newlyweds) \n4. Loving sign off \n\nIf you’re stuck on [how to word your wedding card message](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), the format above is a great place to start. For more inspiration, keep reading for a variety of wedding message examples.\n\n## Examples for What to Write in a Wedding Card\n\nTo get your pen moving, here’s some wedding card inspiration at different levels of formality and for various types of couples:\n\n### Formal Wedding Wishes\n\nExamples: \n\n- “Sending you wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.” \n- “I/We wish you all the best as you begin your lives together.” \n- “May the years ahead strengthen the love that you share.”\n- “Best wishes for a beautiful marriage filled with wonderful memories.”\n- “Warm wishes for a beautiful wedding day and a happy union.”\n- \"May your joining together bring you more joy than you can imagine.\"\n- \"May today be the beginning of a long, happy life together.\"\n- \"Thank you for letting us/me share in this joyful day. We/I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.\"\n- \"Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together.\"\n- \"May the love and happiness you feel today shine through the years.\"\n\n### Casual Wedding Wishes\n\nIf the newlyweds you’re writing to are close friends or family members, a formal message might not feel as genuine. Or perhaps a formal note just doesn’t fit your personality—that’s okay too! Opting for a more casual message allows you to be more personal, and works well when combined with a specific detail or memory you have of the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Best wishes!”\n- “Congratulations on your wedding!”\n- “Here’s a little something to start your life together.” (if you’re including a gift) \n- “Here’s to a long and happy marriage!” \n- \"I'm seeing a fun-filled life in your future. Congratulations!\"\n- “I/We wish you guys lots of love now and always.”\n- “Here’s to many years of love and happiness!”\n- “Best wishes for an amazing future together.”\n- “Hope the days ahead are filled with lots of hugs and kisses.”\n- “Wishing you guys fun-filled adventures in married life!”\n\n### Funny Wedding Wishes\n\nIf you want to make the happy couple laugh, consider writing a funny wedding card message if it will put a smile on their faces! Don’t be afraid to include something laugh-worthy in your note—after all, you know them best, so you can be the judge of what to include based on their sense of humor. \n\nExamples: \n\n- \"Thanks for inviting us/me to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!\"\n- \"I haven't been this happy for anybody since [insert team name here] won the World Series/other championship!\"\n- Being married is like any other job; it helps if you like your boss. Congratulations!\n- \"Congratulations—your wedding successfully made me sob like a baby!\"\n- “Hope you guys have more belly laughs than fights overloading the dishwasher!”\n- “Best wishes as you annoy each other for the rest of your lives.”\n- “Here’s to endless sleepovers with your favorite weirdo.”\n- \"Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage!\"\n- “May Facebook notifications always save you from forgetting your anniversary.”\n- “Good luck and remember that dating apps are only getting creepier.” \n\n### Religious Wedding Wishes\n\n\nIf the newlywed couple is religious, this could be the perfect way to tailor your wedding card message. A religious wedding card may include mentions of your prayers over their marriage, quotes from scripture, and mentions of God. Be sure to think about the couple’s religious beliefs before you opt for this type of wedding card, and use their practices to frame your note. \n\nVersatile Examples: \n\n- “May God bless your marriage.”\n- “May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.”\n- “May your union be filled with God’s blessings, now and every day forward.”\n- “We/I pray that God will cover you both as you enter this new life together.” \n- “Sending you prayers for a marriage filled with love and joy.”\n- \"God bless you both on this day with a lifetime of shared love and joy.\"\n- “Praying that your marriage will prosper and be strengthened by the love of God each step of the way.” \n\nChristian Examples: \n\n- \"Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.\" –Ephesians 4:32\n- \"No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\" –1 John 4:12\n- \"'Love is patient. Love is kind… Love never fails.' – 1 Corinthians 13:4-13\"\n\nJewish Examples: \n\n- “Mazel Tov! May joy fill all the days of your life together.\"\n- \"'I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\" Or \" 'Ani L'Dodi, v'Dodi Li.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\"\n- \"Mazel Tov on your wedding!\" or \"Mazel Tov on your marriage!”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Family\n\nThere’s something special about celebrating the wedding of a close family member. A wedding card message to someone in your own family is a great chance to get personal, and you don’t have to be afraid of being too over the top—in fact, it’s probably expected! \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Today, we add one more member to our family and we couldn’t be happier.”\n- “I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.”\n- I love you both and couldn’t be happier for our family!\n- What a beautiful day for our family, we’re finally complete.\n- Thanks for letting us share in your celebration.\n- “So excited to add a new member to our family! Here’s to a lifetime of love and growing old together.”\n- “Today is a wonderful day for our family. Congrats and warm wishes!”\n- “Congratulations and welcome to the family! Hope today and every day after is amazing.”\n- “We’re so happy to call you both family. Here’s to lots of love and future family drama!”\n- “Cheers to family and love! Congrats on getting married you guys.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Siblings\n\nYour sibling is someone you’ve grown up with and shared some of life’s defining memories with, and watching them get married is one of the greatest milestones you’ll share. When writing a wedding card to one of your own siblings, a good rule of thumb is to just write what feels natural to you. \n\nExamples:\n\n- “I’m so happy to add a brother/sister to our family. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy life together.”\n- “Congrats to the best brother/sister in the world and my new brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Lots of love to you both.”\n- “So thankful that my brother/sister has found the one whom his/her soul loves. Welcome to the family and congratulations on finding love in each other.”\n- “Yay! So excited to gain a sibling today. All my love to you guys!”\n- “Best wishes to you guys as you begin your lives together. Let’s celebrate!”\n- “For my brother/sister who’s found love. May your wedding be the first day of many years of happiness to come!”\n- For my brother/sister who deserves only the best, may your wedding day be everything you’ve dreamt of.”\n- To my brother/sister who has always meant so much to me, I am so happy for the wonderful love you’ve found. I’m wishing you all the best on your wedding day.”\n- \"It seems like yesterday we were playing 'house' in the backyard, and now you get to do it in real life. I couldn't be happier for you both. Congratulations!\"\n- I couldn’t be happier as a brother/sister than I am to see the joy you’ve found in marriage. Can’t wait to watch you two grow old together.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n\nFor many parents, watching their son or daughter get married is a huge milestone. If you’re the mother or father of a bride or groom, you might feel overwhelmed with emotion that can feel tough to put into words. What’s most important is that you express your joy and wish the couple well. From there, feel free to get as personal as you’d like. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “So happy to welcome a new son/daughter to our family. Thank you for the joy you bring my son/daughter. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime!”\n- “Today we add a new member to our family and we couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you both!”\n- “Lots of love and happiness to you both on this joyful day for our family.”\n- Son/Daughter, I’m so happy to see you marry someone who brings you so much joy. Here’s to a beautiful marriage that grows through the years.”\n- “Best wishes to my son/daughter and my new son-in-law/daughter-in-law on this wonderful occasion!”\n- \"We/I know we're/I'm not losing a son/daughter. We're/I'm gaining a son/daughter. Much happiness to you.\"\n- \"Son/daughter, I/we feel many emotions on this day. Most of all, I'm/we're happy you've found someone wonderful to share your life with. Best wishes to you both.\"\n- “Seeing you go from a young girl/boy to the grown man/woman you are today is such a special sight to see. May you both be blessed in your future together, and know how much I love you!”\n- “Watching you reach this milestone is a proud moment for a parent, and I’m filled with joy to know you’ve found love.” \n- “It’s a privilege to watch you get married and to give you away to [spouse]. I have no doubt that your marriage will be an adventure, and don’t forget I’ll always be here to support you as your mother/father.” ","body2":"### Wedding Wishes for a Parent\n\nFinding the right thing to say to a parent who’s getting married or remarried can be tough, so when in doubt, keep it simple! Any parent will likely be grateful for any type of message they receive from their child, whether you want to get deep and personal or keep it short and light. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Welcome to the family. Love you both so much!”\n- “I’m so thrilled that you have found each other. Congrats and best wishes!”\n- “Mom/Dad, I’m so happy for the love that you have found. Congrats to you both, and welcome to the family [Name of Stepparent]!”\n- “[Name of Stepparent], thank you for the joy you bring my Mom/Dad. Cheers to a bigger, better family!”\n- “So excited to see our family grow today. Congratulations on your big day!”\n- “Mom/Dad, thank you for all the advice you’ve given me over the years. Now here’s mine: [Fill in your own advice].”\n- “I’m overjoyed to see you so happy. Lots of love.”\n- “Mom/Dad, seeing how happy [Name of Stepparent] makes you is such a gift. So happy for you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Friend\nHow you craft your wedding card message to a friend will depend on how close you are to them. The message might be short, sweet and classic, or you may choose to get specific and personal. Consider your relationship and how personal, sentimental, serious or funny you want to get with your wedding wishes. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “May you bring each other as much happiness and friendship as you’ve brought me. Congrats!”\n- “Here’s to love, friendship, and double-dates! Best wishes for an awesome marriage.”\n- “So thrilled to celebrate this day with two amazing friends! Happy wedding day, guys!”\n- “Can’t wait to get down on the dance floor and celebrate with you. Congratulations on getting married!”\n- “Thanks for inviting me to eat cake and drink champagne. You should get married all the time!” \n- \"Of all the big life events we've celebrated over the years, today tops the list. Congrats!\"\n- \"We've had so many laughs together! May you always make each other laugh!\"\n- \"Here's to love and friendship!\"\n- \"Congratulations to a wonderful friend and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- “We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\nIf you’re writing to congratulate a coworker on their marriage, it’s unlikely you’ll be including deeply heartfelt sentiments. Instead, it’s best to be more general with your wording. You might choose to use one of the more formal or casual examples above depending on your relationship, or opt for one of some of the work-inspired wedding quotes below. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Thank you for inviting me to share this day with you. Best wishes!”\n- “I’m so happy to have bonded with you at work. Congrats to you and your love!”\n- “Cheers! I’m looking forward to seeing your new title on your email signature.”\n- “Wishing you guys the very best and a happy honeymoon!”\n- “Congrats on finding each other! Here’s to many happy years.”\n- \"Best wishes to a very cool coworker and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- \"Wishing you success—and most of all happiness—in your marriage.\"\n- \"You've got a new title: husband/wife! Wishing you and your spouse the best.\"\n- \"What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker and his/her spouse. All the best to you both in your marriage.\"\n- What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker. All of the best to both of you in marriage.\n\n### What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n\nSometimes life gets in the way and you can’t make it to the wedding. This type of wedding card presents the perfect opportunity to express your apologies for not being able to attend and share warm wedding wishes to the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “With you in spirit as you celebrate your love. Congratulations!”\n- “So sad to miss your special day, sending all our love and best wishes to the happy couple!”\n- “So sorry we can’t be there to celebrate your special day, but please know we are toasting you from afar!”\n- “We are glad we have the rest of your lives to congratulate you on your new marriage. Best of wishes!”\n- “Your wedding is important to us, don’t let our absence tell you otherwise! We would’ve loved to be a part of your special day and wish you all the best on your union.” \n- “While we hate to have missed your special day, we’re celebrating from afar. Congratulations!”\n- “Just because we missed your wedding doesn’t mean we aren’t still celebrating! We’re so thrilled for you two and wish you all the best.”\n- “I’m sure the wedding was beautiful—we’re so sorry we missed it! We wish you all the best as you start your next chapter as newlyweds.”\n- “Congratulations to the happy couple, I wish I could have been there to watch you say ‘I do’!”\n\nYou might feel guilty if you have to miss a friend’s wedding, but you can still share your love from afar and let them know you care with a thoughtful wedding gift. With all the [wedding gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-gift-ideas) they’ll probably be receiving, give yours a special touch with these printable gift tags with sweet messages. \n\n### Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\n![gift-tag-mockup-1](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1YSxxFUV0HoCMVDQ0PWfPF/4cb1348a2bb1bd0e1eddf895ae93345d/gift-tag-mockup-1.jpg)\n\n[![download-gift-tags](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/J0f9yxZ4rnHV9r0EdYbl4/a320342aa5519dda542669ad1f9b2f20/download-gift-tags.png)](//assets.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5ImtAZV4XdSDrYm7vD8NeA/b933d79d65dcea2818ec399d36c817e2/wedding-gift-tags.pdf)\n\nWeddings are one of the most joyous occasions to take part in, and your wedding wishes are an opportunity to make the newlyweds feel special, loved and supported as they embark on their new life together. If you’re looking for the perfect wedding card to send, there are hundreds of [beautiful and affordable designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to choose from that can add that special touch to your message. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift? Learn the etiquette of wedding gifting, including how much to give for a cash wedding gift. 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From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-11-22T00:00-08:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2bmjLPUEJbV1Ka3AMoKglO/8c48c198f18c343e95278addd508e49f/thank-you-card-wording-hero.jpeg","altText":"A pair of newlyweds are captured holding the words “thank you” while sharing a kiss, perhaps before practicing their wedding thank you card wording skills."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nBasking in the post-wedding glow with your significant other is much more enjoyable when all of the [wedding to-dos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist?_branch_match_id=1112793252738758355&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXr8rPSdRLLCjQy8nMy9bP8sjMCMvKKjE1AgBLvb9XIAAAAA%3D%3D) are officially checked off—like thanking your guests for celebrating this new chapter with you both.\n\nThanking every guest in an original and genuine way can take time and preparation. And it all comes down to how you approach your wedding thank you card wording, which is why we’ve pared down the dos and don’ts of writing a thank you card. \n\nFor safe measure, we also compiled 15 wedding thank you card wording examples to help you navigate every type of guest and gift. Keep reading to learn about the dos and don’ts of writing a wedding thank you card.\n\n## How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards: 10 Dos and Don’ts\n![how-to-write-a-thank-you-card](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AYbSbjBaeZZm67pCd8tNW/c17dbca3cd6962c25e75edea6e0afc18/how-to-write-a-thank-you-card.png)\n\nCrafting sincere [wedding thank you card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) messages is much easier when you understand the basics of what a wedding thank you card should or shouldn’t mention. \n\n### Do Prioritize the Structure\n\n__1. Greeting__: Begin with a greeting that identifies to whom the card is written.\n\n__2. Thank them for coming__: Immediately thank them for attending your wedding in the first place.\n\n__3. Thank them for the gift__: Get right to the heart of your message by thanking them for their wedding gift.\n\n__4. Say why the gift brings you joy__: Write a line or two about why their gift fits your needs, how it will be used, or why you’re so grateful to have it.\n\n__5. Show gratitude for the big picture__: Don’t forget to acknowledge the love and support given by your loved ones as you made this major life decision.\n\n__6. Closing__: Wrap it up with an expression of your warmth, love, or friendship for the recipient, and sign your name.\n\n### Don’t Try to Write Them All at Once\n\nWriting wedding thank you cards all at once might sound like a good idea in theory, but this method can quickly lead to fatigue.\n\nDepending on the size of your [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), plan to set aside some time every weekend or so to write your wedding thank you cards in small batches.\n\nThe last thing you and your significant other want is to make your guests feel unappreciated by your rushed wedding thank you card wording. \n\n### Do Opt for Handwritten Cards (If Possible)\n\nHandwritten notes signify that a lot of time and effort went into crafting your message. If possible, try to create handwritten wedding thank you cards.\n\nSourcing stationery that matches your [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) is another way to add a considerate touch of style to your handwritten notes.\n\n### Don’t Forget to Thank the Vendors\n\nIf time allows, consider writing thank you notes for the vendors, caterers, and any support staff that took part in making your big day special!\n\n### Do Write Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Send Gifts\n\nShow everyone who took the time to celebrate you and your partner’s ceremony just how special their presence was, even if they didn’t send a present.\n\nDepending on the accessibility of your wedding venue, some guests may have had to spend more resources to attend than others. A wedding thank you card for their attendance lets them know that their efforts were appreciated.\n\n### Don’t Write the Same Note for Every Guest\n\nReceiving a beautifully written thank you card is like a present all its own, but realizing that your thank you card is completely unoriginal can leave a guest feeling unimportant.\n\nAttempt to write a personalized thank you card for every guest who attended your wedding ceremony. Mentioning the specific gift you received from them is a great way to add a personal touch.\n\n### Do Send Thank You Cards as Soon as Possible\n\nSending your thank you cards ASAP allows you to check off one of the final tasks on your post-wedding checklist—even if you run into shipping delays and other factors outside of your control.\n\nAlthough it's common practice to send wedding thank you cards within three months of the wedding, sooner is always better, so that no guest feels forgotten.\n\n### Don’t Send Multiple Thank You Cards to One Household\n\nStationary prices and stamps can add up, especially if you had a long guest list. There is no need to send multiple thank you cards to one household.\n\nIf multiple gifts were sent by different guests living under the same roof, make sure to address them individually in your wedding thank you card wording so that everyone feels appreciated.\n\n### Do Mention the Specific Gift You Received\n\nMentioning the specific gift you received is the best way to tailor each wedding thank you card to the sender. \n\nIf you’re able to do so, include a brief sentence on how that gift is now bettering your marriage with your significant other. These small details can help the sender understand the impact their gift is making on your new life together.\n\n### Don’t Mention Exact Monetary Amounts\n\nFor security reasons, it’s typically a good idea to avoid mentioning the exact monetary amount of cash gifts. \n\nIn case your thank you card is lost or given to a stranger, you want to protect the gift-giver by not mentioning the cash amounts they were able to give away.\n\n## Wedding Thank You Card Wording Examples\n\nWhether you’re writing a thank you note to a guest who didn’t come to your wedding (but still sent a gift) or someone who gave you an off-registry present that you immediately returned, these wedding thank you card examples will help you navigate wording for every kind of message.\n\n### For When the Gift Was from Your Registry\n\n*Dear Jacqueline,\n\nWe’re so grateful you could come to our wedding a few weeks ago. And thank you so much for the chef’s knife and honing steel you gave us! We’ve both been learning some basic cooking skills, and can’t wait to show them off when you visit us this summer.\n\nOur wedding was a day we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. Words really can’t express how thankful we are that you could be part of it.\n\nLove,\nJanine and Kai*\n\n### For When the Gift Was a Monetary Gift\n\n*Dear Ellen and Sam,\n\nIt was wonderful to see you at our wedding! Thank you for making the trip—and for your incredibly generous gift. We’re planning to take a long camping trip this summer, and we were able to pick up some crucial gear thanks to you. We’ll send pictures!\n\nAgain, we’re so grateful for your friendship. Thank you for being part of our special day.\n\nWith love,\nMillie and Beau*\n\n### For When You Didn’t like or Exchanged the Gift\n\n*Dear Uncle Jeff,\n\nIt was a true delight to see you at our wedding. Thank you for the fondue set you gave us! It was incredibly thoughtful of you, and we’re both touched by your generosity.\n\nOur wedding was all we could have hoped for, and it wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you again for helping us get our marriage off to such a wonderful start.\n\nGratefully yours,\nCher and Kiera*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Didn’t Attend the Wedding\n\n*Dear Henrietta,\n\nThank you for the stunning serving bowl! It’s the perfect accent for the open shelves in our kitchen. Thanks to you, our newlywed home is looking beautiful so far.\n\nWhile we missed you at the wedding, we know you were there in spirit. We hope to see you when we’re back from our honeymoon! Again, our deepest thanks for your generosity.\n\nSincerely,\nMargaret and Kate*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Very Close Friend\n\n*Dear Jake,\n\nWe loved having you at our wedding! Thank you so much for the beer brewing kit. We’re going to fire it up in the next few weeks, and hope to be sipping backyard IPAs with you in no time.\n\nYou can’t imagine how moving it was for us to see you in the crowd with everyone else we love. These memories will last a lifetime and then some. Thank you for being part of our lives.\n\nMuch love,\nZach and Tracy*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Formal Acquaintance\n\n*Dear Dr. Milford,\n\nPlease accept our deepest gratitude for the crystal vase you gave us. It’s a stunning centerpiece for our coffee table, and we can’t wait to fill it with the first flowers of spring.\n\nWe were both touched that you could attend the wedding. Your kindness and support means everything as we set off on a new life together.\n\nGratefully yours,\nLogan and Mackenzie*\n\n### For When Guests Sent a Group Gift\n\n*Dear Chia, Hector, Phoebe, and Tonya,\n\nWe are so grateful that you all pitched in to gift us our new grill! We already cooked our first meal on it and cannot wait to grill for everyone whenever you’re all back in town.\n\nWe have profound gratitude for your gift and it touched our heart that you worked together to make this happen. We miss you all so much already!\n\nOur love to all of you,\nSebastian and Terry*\n\n### For When Guests Traveled Far to Attend\n\n*Dear Aunt June,\n\nWe are eternally grateful that you traveled all the way from the other side of the country to be part of our big day! The memories we all made are cherished more than you can imagine.\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift and we both look forward to spending more time with you this summer!\n\nLove,\nHaru and Aki*\n\n### For When the Sender Was in Your Wedding Party\n\n*Dear Esmerelda,\n\nWe cannot thank you enough for being in our wedding party. Your help with the decor and rehearsals made this big day such a breeze for us both!\n\nWe love our new dishware as well! We’re so lucky to have your artistic touch in our home now, and we hope to celebrate our new life with you over dinner very soon.\n\nTalk soon,\nDiaz and Iris*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Your Parents\n\n*Dear Dad and Papa,\n\nWe are beyond grateful to have shared our special day with you both by our sides. You both were a tremendous help in making this wedding come to life and the new bookcase you sent was an incredibly thoughtful gesture.\n\nThank you for sharing your wisdom with us throughout the process and being our shoulder to cry on during the stressful moments—it was all worth it to dance with you like we did.\n\nWe love you always,\nCassie and Clarke*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Wedding Vendors\n\n*Dear Wedding Supplies & Co.,\n\nThank you for all the thoughtful touches you added to our big day. Your help made everything run smoothly and we deeply appreciate the wine and charcuterie board you gifted us.\n\nWe will be able to host lots of dinners at our new home thanks to your generosity.\n\nSincerely, \nLupita and Louise*\n\n### For When the Gift Is a Charity Donation\n\n*Dear Fletcher and Fiona,\n\nWe cannot begin to thank you enough for your generous contribution to our charity of choice, The Nippon Foundation Ocean Innovation Consortium.\n\nYour thoughtful gift will help fund ocean cleanup events across East Asia! Our dream is to one day live in a world free of plastic ocean waste, and you have just helped us get one step closer to that goal.\n\nWe are forever grateful,\nJessie and Matt*\n\n### For When a Guest Didn’t Send a Gift\n\n*Dear Leonard and Nancy,\n\nThank you for taking the time to celebrate our special day with us. We were so excited to see you hitting the dance floor during the reception!\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift, and we cannot wait to dance the night away with you again soon!\n\nLove,\nTaylor and Elizabeth*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Someone You Don’t Know\n\n*Dear Ms. Ramirez,\n\nWe received the gorgeous vegan cookbook you sent us, and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful gift honoring our new life together.\n\nWe appreciate your generosity and kindness, and we hope to cook a delicious meal for you sometime soon. Please give our thanks to your wife and family as well!\n\nOur sincerest gratitude, \nYasmine and Maxwell *\n\n### For When the Gift Is from a Shared Household\n\n*Dear Shibuya family, \n\nThank you all so much for helping us celebrate our big day! Little Vanessa’s paintings were the perfect gift, and they’re now hanging up in our study.\n\nWe know her artwork will help spark creativity while we both begin new careers during this new chapter of our lives. We can’t thank your family enough for taking time to dance the night away with us!\n\nTake care,\nAntonio and Alex*\n\n## Helpful Synonyms for Wedding Thank You Notes\n\nWhen you’re writing card after card (after card), it can get pretty tiresome to say the same thing over and over. Here is a list of synonyms for common expressions that will help you keep your thank you card language fresh.\n\n__Ways to Say “Thank You for Your Gift”__\n- We deeply appreciate your gift.\n- We have profound gratitude for your gift.\n- We’re offering the deepest thanks for your gift.\n- We’re truly thankful for your gift.\n- We’re so grateful for your gift.\n- We can’t thank you enough for your gift.\n- We love your gift; thank you so much!\n- Your gift is very much appreciated.\n- Thank you for your generosity.\n- Thank you for your thoughtfulness.\n\n__Ways to Say “Our Wedding”__\n- Our ceremony\n- Our special day\n- The big day\n- Our union\n- The beginning of our life together\n- Our celebration\n- Our big event\n\n__Ways to Say “We’re Happy You Could Come”__\n- It was a joy to have you at our wedding.\n- We were delighted you could come.\n- We’re honored that you made the trip.\n- It was wonderful to see you at our wedding.\n- We were so grateful to have you as a guest. \n- We really appreciate your presence. \n- We loved having you there. \n- We’re so thankful you could join us. \n- You made our celebration complete. \n\n__Ways to Say “With Love”__\n- Many thanks,\n- Gratefully yours,\n- With love and gratitude,\n- Warmly yours,\n- With deepest thanks,\n- All our love,\n- Best wishes, \n- Together with love,\n- Fondly, \n- Cheers,\n- Sincerely,\n\n![how-to-say-thank-you](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Mo3WiDrPLVN3sEcVhDbbB/08a338683d1d71cab499690697e735d9/how-to-say-thank-you.png)\n\nHopefully these phrases help you best express the warm fuzzies you got from your wedding gifts. Crafting a heartfelt thank you card is all about the little details, like which adjectives you use and how personal your thank you card wording comes across.\n\n[Beautiful wedding card designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can also heighten the wow factor guests will feel upon opening their custom thank you card. Test out these tips while writing your next thank you card batch and you’ll be amazed by how tender your words can be.\n\n## FAQs About Wedding Thank You Card Wording\n\nHave more questions about wedding thank you card wording? We have answers.\n\n### What Do You Say in a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nThe core elements of wedding thank you card wording include a personalized greeting, thanking the guest for attending, showing gratitude for their specific gift, and a heartfelt closing.\n\n### Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nAnyone who sent you and your significant other a gift should be sent a wedding thank you card, and some couples also choose to send a thank you card to every guest who attended the wedding.\n\n### Do I Send a Thank You Card to Someone Who Didn’t Attend the Wedding?\n\nThis is a personal decision between you and your spouse. Depending on the length of your guest list, this can also be a major time commitment. \n\nIf you have the budget to invest in stationary and stamps, then consider taking the time to thank guests who made their presence your present.\n\n### How Do You Say Thank You for Wedding Money?\n\nInstead of mentioning the specific monetary amount the guest gifted you, tell the sender what you plan on doing with their investment in your future. \n\nFor example, mention that their gift will help make your honeymoon adventures possible or will go to a diaper fund for the next chapter of your life.\n\n### When Should Thank You Cards Be Sent Out After a Wedding?\n\nIn general, wedding thank you cards should be sent out between one to three months of the wedding. Any earlier is always appreciated by the guests, but later than this might leave guests wondering if you truly enjoyed their gifts or not.\n\n\n","body2":"## We'll do the work.\n \nNow that you know *what* to write in your wedding thank you cards, let us do the hard part. If you aren't into handwriting—or you tried and your hands can't handle it—we'll do that part for you. Now with Zola, you can type messages for any of your guests or customize our suggested notes. Yes, you can write individual messages to individual guests or families—it's still super personal. Then, we'll print whatever you write in a beautiful font.\n\nFind this feature when you select any thank you card style on Zola. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-11T15:46:29.719Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/61hYhBsuFxG4P1dyCiV5XB/563a14f4629b73a3a383c1d0329291d0/hero_A_Guide_to_Wedding_Menu_Cards.jpg","altText":"wedding reception place setting with cream colored plates, sage green accents, and a wedding menu card"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nYou chose a dining style, hired a great local [wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and selected the delicious food that will be served at your wedding reception. Now, the next menu consideration you need to tackle is the [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop). If you’re like most couples, you probably have a few questions about wedding reception menu cards: Are they necessary? What should you include on them? What are the display options? Discover the answers and more in our guide below. \n\n## Are Wedding Reception Menu Cards Necessary? \nWedding reception menu cards are not a requirement, but they are great for communicating the details of the meal to your guests. If you’re serving a plated meal with multiple main course options, it’s common to ask your guests to choose the main course they would prefer on the [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). However, in some cases, you may prefer that guests make their choice at the event—therefore it’s important to have a printed dinner menu on hand for them to refer to when making their decision. \n\nIf you opt for buffet or family-style service, menu cards are a quick and easy way to share the food options and give guests the courtesy of knowing what to expect. Guests with dietary restrictions and food allergies will appreciate the heads up about what’s on the menu so they can plan ahead and enjoy the meal without stress. \n\n## What to Include on Wedding Menu Cards? \nWhat you include on your [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas) is up to your preference and the style and tone of your event. Feel free to get creative and have fun with your wording, but your menu template should include the following: \n\n### 1. Description of Courses (or List of Dishes Served)\n- __Plated Meal:__ Outline the courses or meal options in the order they will be served. \n- __Family Style Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served to each table.\n- __Buffet Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served at the buffet.\n\n### 2. Main Ingredients in Each Dish\nWhile it’s not required to list every ingredient used in a dish, it is customary to provide a shortlist of the main ingredients, including foods that are common food allergies, such as nuts, shellfish, gluten, and dairy. \n\n### 3. A Welcome and Thank You (Optional)\nMany couples also use their wedding menu cards as an opportunity to welcome and thank their guests. This text is typically very short and is often found at the top or bottom of the card. \n\n### 4. Your Names and Wedding Date (Optional)\nTo turn your wedding menu card into a scrapbook-worthy memento, include your names and your wedding date on the card. \n\n## Wedding Menu Card Wording Samples\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Plated\n\n__APPETIZER
__\n\n*Assorted Empanadas*
\n*and*
\n*Gazpacho with Fried Almonds*
\n\n__SALAD
__\n\n*Kale Salad with Spicy Quinoa*
\n*and*
\n*Jicama and Mango Slaw*
\n\n__MAIN COURSE
__\n\n*Skirt Steak with Chimichurri*
\n*or*
\n*Snapper with Avocado Salsa*
\n*or*
\n*Charred Street Corn Risotto*
\n\n__DESSERT__\n\n*Gelato Sundae Bar*
\n*and*
\n*Local Pie and Tart Bar*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Buffet\n\nThank you so much for celebrating this special occasion with us! \nPlease eat, drink, and be merry. \n\n*Braised Pork Shoulder*
\n*Bacon, Apple, Sausage, Cheddar Stuffing*
\n*Brandied Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Hot Smoked Salmon*
\n*Dijon Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Whipped Russet Potatoes*
\n*Garlic & Chives*
\n\n*Roasted Local Vegetables*
\n*Fig Tapenade*
\n\n*Seasonal Green Salad*
\n*Balsamic Vinaigrette*
\n\n*Whole Grain Baguette*
\n*Honey Butter*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Family Style\n\nWelcome to Our Wedding Reception. Please enjoy this family-style menu as you get to know everyone at your table, and thank you for being part of our special day.\n\n__First__\n\n*Local Cheese & Charcuterie Platter*
\n*Olives, Crostini, Apples, Bread & Seasonal Garniture*
\n\n__Second__\n\n*Mixed Green Salad*
\n*Port Wine Poached Pears, Stilton Cheese, Walnuts*
\n*Aged Sherry Vinaigrette*
\n\n__Third__\n\n*Pan Seared Duck Breast*
\n*Blood Orange Gastrique*
\n\n*Sweet Potato Gnocchi*
\n*Mushrooms, Peas, Parmesan, Carrot Sauce*
\n\n*Rice Pilaf*\n\n*Seasonal Roasted Vegetables*\n\n__Fourth__\n\n*Passed Local Sweets*\n\n## Wedding Menu Card Display Options\nThere are many different ways to display your catering menu at your wedding, but here is a look at the main styles you’re likely to encounter: \n\n- __Individual Menu Cards —__ For formal or elegant weddings with plated dinner service, it is typical for small [menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop) to be placed at each place setting. This option adds a nice finishing touch to your design and individually welcomes each guest. In some cases, couples might have the menu card do double duty as a place card by including the guest’s name as well. That way, guests can find their seat, read your welcome message, and peruse the menu in one go. \n- __Large Display or Signage —__ If you prefer not to invest in individual menu cards for each place setting, a great option is to display a large sign at the reception. From chalkboard signage to calligraphy on gilded mirrors, there are limitless ways to get creative and elevate your decor at the same time. \n- __Small Buffet Sign —__ For a sign that gets the job done but is more inconspicuous, many couples opt to place a small menu sign beside the buffet or at each food station. \n- __Table Sign —__ To retain the intimate feel of individual menu cards without straining your budget, we recommend posting a menu sign on each round table, or a displaying a menu per every 4 chairs if you’re using rectangular tables. \n\nYour wedding stationery isn’t really complete with wedding reception menu cards. Follow our menu template above to create stunning and informative paper products that let your guests know exactly what they can or will eat for dinner at your wedding.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"cta":{"copy":"Shop Wedding Menu Cards","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:40.784Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"what-to-write-on-wedding-place-cards","title":"What to Write on Wedding Place Cards","excerpt":"Everything you need to know about writing wedding place cards so that you and your guests can celebrate stress-free!","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2021-10-13T20:46:23.334Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23AmAE6dDgkSdMSHNH3MEd/04317953b272c2e40ec7768c3b564c27/Hero_Zola__8_.jpg","altText":"How to Write Place Cards for Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding place card is a piece of stationery that goes on the reception tables with guests’ names on them to let people know where they're sitting.\n- Wait until your seating chart is set before diving into writing your place cards. Typically place cards are ordered a month or two before the wedding.\n- Here’s a rundown of the best way to address your guests on their place cards.","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\n[Wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) are an incredibly important part of a wedding reception, not only for decor purposes, but also for organizational purposes. Not only can place cards serve a double purpose as favors, but they act as crowd control and a home base for your guests during the after-ceremony festivities. If you’re looking for information about writing your place cards—from how to address them to what font to use—you’re in the right place! We’re breaking down every single thing you need to know about wedding place cards so that you and your guests can celebrate stress-free.\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Wedding Place Cards 101 \nPart 2: Tips for Writing Your Wedding Place Cards \nPart 3: Wedding Place Card Ideas \n\n## Part 1: Wedding Place Cards 101 \nWhether you’re here to learn the basics of [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) or you just need a refresher, we’re outlining all the wedding place card details possible. No matter the size, formality, or venue, we’re here to help you make the best wedding place card decisions possible. \n\n### What Is a Wedding Place Card?\nTraditionally, a wedding place card is a piece of stationery that goes on the reception tables with guests’ names on them to let people know where they're sitting. Typically, there's one place card at every reception seat. This card serves as a way to direct guests to their seats, plus it lets them know where they can expect dinner to be served and which seat they can relax in between busting some moves on the dance floor. \n\n### What’s the Purpose of a Wedding Place Card?\nPlace cards serve as a way to tell guests where to sit. While you might think just providing chairs is all you need, place cards can cut down on confusion and costs. They help ensure that you have the right number of seats so that you don’t pay for extra chairs, and they give your attendees a place to sit back and relax. Place cards can also help facilitate traffic for buffets, and separate any family or friends that need to keep their distance from each other. \n\n### Do I Need Wedding Place Cards?\n[Wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) are always a good idea, no matter how elegant or casual your celebration is. Place cards can literally help you plan, as they help your guests feel at ease knowing where to sit and whom to sit by, plus they can even help your vendors when it comes to delivering food/beverages and directing traffic. In general, wedding place cards might be small in size, but they serve a big purpose that can help your celebration run smoothly. \n\nSo, why can’t you just allow your guests to choose their seats? People naturally spread out when doing so, which means that you’ll have random chairs in between groups that will cost more, and it might make it so that some people don’t have chairs. This could result in more open seats or lost meals, which can increase your final cost and create frustration. The only instance where you might really be able to skip place cards and seating charts is if you’re having a small celebration, such as in your backyard. Typically, if you’re having over 20 people—especially if you’re mixing groups or renting tables/chairs—a seating chart will come in handy.\n\nThat being said, as with everything wedding-related, it’s your day to make your own! While place cards are recommended to make your guests comfortable, help you plan, and manage the crowd, there’s no rule that says you have to have them.\n\n## Part 2: Tips for Writing Your Wedding Place Cards \nAs you’re getting ready to create your place cards, you might be at a loss for what goes on them, how to make them, and how to address your guests. Here’s everything you need to know about actually writing your place cards:\n\n### What Should I Write on My Wedding Place Card?\nBefore placing your order for your wedding place cards, it’s a good idea to not only have your seating chart organized and set, but also check with your vendors to see what information they need to be included on each place card. Sometimes vendors prefer you to include an indication of your guests’ meal choice (such as chicken, beef, or veggie) or any dietary restrictions, while other vendors will adapt with your creative vision. Here’s what you should consider including on your place cards:\n\n- Guest’s name\n- A title (if you use titles, ensure that you use them for each guest above the age of 18)\n- A symbol or color indicating the guest’s meal preference\n- The table number\n\n### When Should I Make My Wedding Place Cards?\nCreating wedding place cards can be a time-consuming process, but you want to wait until your seating chart is set and you’ve received your RSVPs before diving into the process. This is so you can plan for table numbers, as well as not spend extra cash on cards for guests who RSVP their regrets. Ideally, you want to have your place cards completed about a month before your wedding date, so there’s a little wiggle room for any edits, additions, or replacements needed. \n\n### How Should I Address My Wedding Place Cards? \nYou now know place cards have your guests’ names on them, but you might be wondering how to address everyone. Here’s a rundown of the best way to address your guests on their place cards:\n\n#### For Married Couples:\nWhen addressing married couples, their last name with \"Mr. and Mr.,\" \"Mr. and Mrs.,\" or \"Mrs. and Mrs.,\" preceding the surname is correct. If more than one couple shares the same last name, include the first name of the spouse whose surname they share, or include each person’s full name. You could also use each person’s full name without a title, especially for less formal celebrations. For married couples with different last names, feel free to either omit the title completely or write out each of their names in full with their respective titles. \n\n#### For Unmarried Couples or Single Guests With Plus-Ones:\nFor unmarried couples, you’ll generally follow the same format as married couples with different last names, but instead of “Mrs.,” your female guests will be either Miss. or Ms. While you’ll want to follow the above rules for your invited guests, you might be wondering how to handle their plus-one’s place cards. \n\nWhile you could address them as “Mr. X’s Guest,” consider asking for full names of guests with your RSVPs, or have a member of the wedding party reach out and get the name of plus-ones ahead of making your place cards, as it’s much more polite.\n\n#### For Single Guests Without Plus-Ones:\nThe key with all of your place cards is to be consistent. If you’re titling any group, you must title them all, which is why many guests simply stick to full names when creating wedding place cards. For your friends flying solo, you can either opt for titling each guest or omitting the titles for single guests. Whatever you choose, be consistent (so don’t just address all the men by their names while the single women get Miss. in front of theirs). \n\n#### For Children:\nAll single women can be addressed as “Miss,” but especially those under the age of 13. Additionally, boys under the age of 13 can be addressed as “Master.” That being said, even if you have titles for the rest of your guests, it’s always okay to omit titles for all children under the age of 18.\n\n#### A Note About Pronouns:\nBefore deciding to use titles on your wedding place cards, it’s important to ensure that you’re 100 percent confident in all of your guests’ preferred pronouns. You could ask for them when collecting RSVPs, just as you would ask for meal preferences or dietary requests, or have friends reach out. Regardless, if you’re unsure of anyone’s pronouns, it’s best to omit titles for all of your guests. Don’t ever assume someone’s pronouns for the sake of a title. ","body2":"## Part 3: Wedding Place Card Ideas \nAs you’re narrowing down your place card options, [Zola has options ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop)for every wedding preference, whether it’s formal, casual, vintage, or classic. The best part is, whatever option you choose can easily be matched to the rest of your paper suite. Check out some of our favorite options below:\n\n### Modern-Themed Place Cards\nThink clean lines, marble backing, clean fonts, and textured paper when selecting place cards for your modern wedding. Here are a few modern options we adore:\n\n![Bow Bridge](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/6uhBfc3SO3reJMZy6rdEvo/e5d73765d9df9a8f0c84b2184c9feabf/2e470b2a-1361-4536-8f51-389be0125fea.jpeg) \n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Bow Bridge Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/789eaffb-f145-4297-a74a-8ac1dbf84cbb)\n\n![Powell](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5U8IhRIvTdsh2BKQKfClH9/ccd2bdf708ae7111baecf24068e7e7c5/a8b4aebc-8e13-4209-bfe9-f6a6830d1062.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Powell Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/51961910-51b3-4668-a911-e02aaaaa588d)\n\n### Formal-Themed Place Cards\nA formal wedding provides the chance to lean into the drama, so don’t be afraid of fancy calligraphy, jewel tones, sparkles, and glamour when choosing your formal or vintage-themed cards. \n\n![Griffin](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5nNh2Ma3vX4a84YRXMNcb7/e9d0bfd3f620b242333250231d8995a7/35091983-f063-40ef-ad33-9290adb7d2a8.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Griffin Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/7dc9d594-b038-4a5a-b635-2d7e76caa7b8)\n\n![Weyers](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1N0Aodzfn8pkqIw5FIOzIm/e364468bd26472abcd462d2249f9fbc3/7732ba6b-edae-4665-a8e4-9c6184c84095.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Weyers Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/de8d1153-af8e-4e21-b081-4618343b8465)\n\n### Place Cards for Outdoor Venues\nFeel free to lean into the vibe of your outdoor venue for your place cards, but just make sure that they are sturdy enough so that they don’t blow away! It’s a good idea to consider using something other than paper for outdoor wedding place cards.\n\n![Terian](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/2eTElqyubAT2VqtLLR8QWk/9a7f73c8209794522bdf1496d2344042/29e7efbe-db8f-405f-bca5-b79c7215d884.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Terian Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/c6f8a73e-f6a1-4c93-8e35-14500fbe11c9)\n\n![Camden](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/2pZdjHYXBO89J9aRN8nkHy/25f4942becd28a0b5807ec52c1f4f1eb/7d594ff0-706f-46a3-a6e5-f69462dc4c56.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Camden Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/c0c6f994-5dac-46b7-81d5-0b180129f245)\n\n## More About Making Wedding Place Cards\n\n### What’s the Difference Between Wedding Place Cards, Escort Cards, and a Seating Chart?\nYou might not have realized that there’s a difference between wedding place cards, escort cards, and a seating chart, but knowing how they differ is essential to know what tool(s) are best for your celebration. \n\nWedding place cards are placed on the table in front of each place setting so that guests know which seat is theirs. [Escort cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards), however, help guests know which table to go to when entering the reception venue. Wedding place cards simply feature the guest’s name (and sometimes food options) and they are already placed at the tables; whereas escort cards usually include the table number and are arranged on a table or display at the entrance of the reception. \n\n[A seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), as the name suggests, is a chart that outlines where everyone at your wedding will sit and be served dinner. This is a very important planning tool as it will determine the number of tables and chairs you need, as well as help the caterer serve meals and help you pair (or separate) different groups of people. A seating chart is like the overall seating map, while the place card is like a marker for a person. The escort card is a reflection of the seating chart, but is person-specific as opposed to an overview of the entire reception floor. \n\n### Do I Need a Wedding Seating Chart?\nMost venues and celebrations use seating charts to stay organized. Unless you have a very small and casual event, [a seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) will both save you money and relax your guests. Additionally, some venues and caterers require a seating chart, so check with your pros before omitting the project. If you do plan to omit the chart, make sure that you have extra seating available and a plan in place so that all of your guests get served. \n\n### When to Order Your Place Cards\nWhile you’ll want to ensure that you have plenty of time to receive your place card order, plus some wiggle room in case you need to reorder any, this isn’t a task that you can accomplish way in advance. However, it’s a good idea to order the cards as soon as your RSVPs and seating chart are confirmed, so that you have time to adjust, if needed. Typically, this happens about a month or two before the wedding, but you’ll want to hire your calligrapher, if you’re using one, at least four to six months before your big day, since they’ll need time to create all of the place cards and you’ll want to pad in some time to give any feedback or view corrections. \n\n### Where to Order Your Place Cards\nLuckily, depending on your preferred style and budget, there are so many options when it comes to ordering place cards, and [Zola is here to help](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) no matter your vision or budget. Zola’s place card settings are not only of the highest quality and come with fast shipping, but they’re also easy to match and incorporate with the rest of Zola’s paper goods. As part of the “Day Of” suite, Zola’s place settings can be ordered to match your menus, invitations, thank you notes, and additional paper details. \n\nWith five different paper options—including smooth, eggshell, linen, pearlescent, and felt—as well as a huge variety of fonts and styles, there’s something for everyone. Additionally, with Zola’s one-time export, you can easily check everyone off of your guest list for printing place cards without stressing about missing anyone or spelling a name incorrectly. \n\n### Can I DIY My Wedding Place Cards?\nWhile you can absolutely DIY your place cards, writing them by hand is not only tricky—even if you have artistic talent—but time-consuming too. If you’re considering making your own, do a few trials to see how much time and resources they take before committing to creating them all yourself. There are lots of resources out there that can teach you how to create stunning lettering, as well as offer lessons that you can take either online or in person. \n\n### What to Do After Receiving Your Place Cards\nAfter placing and receiving—or finishing your DIYing—your place cards, keeping them clean and safe until it’s wedding time is vital. Store your wedding place cards in a cool, dry place where there’s no risk of them getting spilled on or messed up. Additionally, you’ll want to have a plan for how the place cards will get to the venue for the wedding, who will place them on the tables, and when they’ll be placed on the tables to avoid any confusion or in-the-moment scrambling. Chat with your planner or coordinator to make sure that you have a plan for not only creating the place cards but utilizing them too. \n\n### Where Should I Put My Wedding Place Cards and Wedding Escort Cards?\n[Wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) go at the place setting where you’d like each guest to sit. Sometimes the cards are placed in holders and sometimes they’re placed on the actual setting. Either way, make sure that it’s clear which card goes to which seat to cut down on confusion. \n\nIf you’re assigned your guests’ specific seats at specific tables (or just specific tables where they can choose their own seats) escort cards are a must. These help get your guests from the entrance of the reception area to their seats. Place the escort cards in alphabetic order in an obvious place at the entrance of the reception area, such as a table in front of the reception hall. You’ll also want to ensure that your table numbers (which are usually on the center of each table) are visible so that your friends and family can easily find the table(s) they’re looking for. \n\nFinally, if you decide to just have place cards (which are already placed at each setting) instead of escort cards, make sure to have a large diagram of some sort so that your guests can figure out which table to go toward. This can either be done by listing each table number and the names of the guests assigned to that table below, or by listing all the guests’ names in alphabetical order with each person’s table number written next to their names. \n\n## Zola: The One-Stop-Shop for All Your Wedding Place Card Needs\nWhether you opt for simple place cards or options that double as decor, finding cohesive and cost-effective options for your paper goods is a game-changer, and that’s where Zola comes in. Not only can you simply select your favorite [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) from our site, but you can also coordinate all your other paper goods so that everything complements each other seamlessly. Plus, you can get everything printed at once to cut down on coordinating with multiple vendors and potential errors in spelling or consistency. \n\nFrom creating the design to printing your place cards, let Zola do the work so that you can spend less time stressing and more time celebrating.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Discover everything there is to know about wedding menu cards in our guide. 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Zola has ideas that will wow your guests. Read on for elegant wedding invitation ideas.","title":"What Size Wedding Invitations Should I Buy?","slug":"wedding-invitations-size-guide","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation sizes"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Your invitations set a first impression. In this guide, our experts lay out everything you need to know about wedding invitation wording and etiquette.","title":"Guide to Wedding Invitation Wording","slug":"wedding-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CjXzcoa77shJ1irgITI9M/296da868ad1baccd71025a3dbd404da6/wedding-invitation-hero.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation wording"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Master the art of addressing wedding invitations with proper etiquette. 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As a wedding guest, you probably want to [write something more creative](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card) than the standard “Congratulations on your special day!” However, if you don’t want to be predictable and pre-written, you’ll need to work on crafting a heartfelt, personal note. Here’s exactly how to write a meaningful and memorable wedding guest book message.\n\n## Break it down.\nWhile every guest book entry is different (and there are no set rules for writing one), many of them are made up of similar elements: a congratulations, a thank you for being invited to the wedding, and a well wish for the couple’s newlywed life. The congratulations and thanks are pretty straight-forward. It’s the third part that may trip you up. \n\n- Well wishes can range from short and sweet to more personal and sentimental. A few examples include:\n- Wishing you a long and happy marriage.\n- Best wishes for a fun-filled future together!\n- As you grow and change, I hope your love and commitment remain unwavering.\n- Seeing you two together helped show me what true love really is. Best wishes for a future filled with happiness!\n\nThough none of these are deeply personal or particularly unique, they can serve as a great starting point if you have writer’s block (or if you’re attending the wedding of someone you don’t know all that well).\n\n![INLINE LisaKayCreativePhotography 1080x720 Chrisi&Chris](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4t4rZHjfx1QXNIuSruWUAx/28b9850fd7f11b91a8923debcbc8eab6/INLINE_LisaKayCreativePhotography_1080x720_Chrisi_Chris.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Lisa Kay Creative Photography\n\n## Let your personality shine.\nHistorically, guest book entries are often [formal and somewhat rehearsed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests), like some of the examples listed above. While it’s not an absolute necessity to let your personality come out in your note, if you have the room for it, then go for it. \n\nThose with a humorous streak may choose to write something like “don’t mess this one up” or “can’t wait to toss rice at you!” If you’re more of a sentimental type, consider reflecting on past memories and think of what may trigger tears of happiness. These types of notes not only feel better to write but will immediately make the couple think of you as they read them.\n\n## Keep the couple in mind.\nIf you’re a comedian at heart, but the couple getting married is reserved or religious, then something like “thanks for the free booze” may be a little off-putting for them to read. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if the couple is known for having a wild side, then something too formal may seem bland or predictable.\n\nYou want your personality and writing style to come through while not letting yourself forget about the purpose of the assignment altogether: demonstrating your heartfelt congratulations to the newlyweds. Always remember that many people are likely going to read what you write, which leads to our next point…\n\n## Consider the type of guest book.\nCouples are getting more and more creative, which means [guest books aren’t always just books](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) anymore. Are your friends world travelers who are repurposing an old globe? Then a short, sweet note or signature might do. Do they have a full photo album to fill with polaroids and thoughtful messages from their guests? Then a longer personal memo may be more fitting.\n\nYou want to be especially careful (and respectful) with funnier entries if the guest book is something that’s going to be on display in their home, like a quilt or canvas print. It’s always good to have fun with it, as long as you keep certain parameters in mind. \n\n![INLINE Kivus&Camera 1080x720 Sarah&Monty](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/RTBIOXSfx4rBRl50JPnLq/41275340730a8ffdc933fd296add2964/INLINE_Kivus_Camera_1080x720_Sarah_Monty.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Kivus & Camera\n\n## Think about the message you want to convey.\nDo you want the couple to cry? Laugh? Think about the time they first met? These are all things to consider when writing your message. Some guests even choose to leave a [small piece of wisdom](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card) for the couple to keep in mind. If you think this is something they’d appreciate, then a simple piece of advice may have a significant impact.\n\t\n## Still having trouble? Time to brainstorm.\nSo how do you come up with something uniquely personal? Here are some useful starting points to brainstorm what you want to say:\n- Think back to the first time you met your friend (or their significant other) and reflect on what has changed since then.\n- What’s your favorite poem? Religious verse? Book passage? Think of ways to include a piece of that.\n- What advice did you most appreciate in your relationship?\n- How has each individual made each other better? Make note of that.\n- What is something sweet about the couple that they might not notice, but you do?\n- Think back to an embarrassing memory that will make them laugh, then tie it back to their relationship (or a witty piece of advice).\n- Ask a married couple you respect for their most prized piece of marriage advice.\n\nWhether you choose to keep it simple or more involved, as long as you consider the couple, your relationship with them, and the wedding guest book format, your guest book entry will be well received and appreciated.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"It's a common question and the answer isn't always straightforward. 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Check out [Zola for place cards ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop)that can match your menus, your signage, your invitations, and beyond.","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nNo wedding planning is complete without figuring out the seating, and the best way to stick to the seating arrangement is with [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop). Wedding place cards, while physically pretty small, are an incredibly important part of a wedding reception. Not only do place cards serve as sentimental decor and sometimes even double as favors, but they act as crowd control and a home base for your guests during the after-ceremony festivities. \n\nIf you’re wondering how to make [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), what your place cards need to include, and the best way to go about selecting your wedding place cards, you’re in the right place! We’re breaking down every single thing you need to know about place cards so that you—and your guests—can celebrate stress-free on the special day. \n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Wedding Place Card Etiquette \nPart 2: How to Create Your Wedding Place Cards \n Part 3: Making Your Wedding Seating Chart \nPart 4: Wedding Place Card Ideas \n\n### Is There Really Wedding Place Card Etiquette? \nWhen you think of wedding etiquette, you probably know not to wear a white dress to the event, and that it’s customary to bring a gift, but you might not have considered place card etiquette too. From how to address names on your cards, to where to place them, to whether or not you should even have them, here’s all the wedding place card etiquette you could ever need to know. \n\n## Part 1: Wedding Place Card Etiquette: Everything You Need to Know \nNeed a refresher or you’re here to learn the basics of wedding place cards? Below, we’re outlining all the wedding place card details possible so that you can make the best—and most beautiful—seating choices for your special day. \n\n### What Is a Wedding Place Card?\nA [wedding place card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) is essentially a name tag for a seat. Traditionally, it’s a piece of stationery that goes on reception tables to let guests know where they're sitting. Typically, there's one place card at every reception seat with a guest's name. This card serves as a way to direct guests to their seats and let them know where they can drop their purses and coats, and where to expect dinner to be served. \n\n### What’s the Purpose of a Wedding Place Card?\nEssentially place cards serve as a way to tell guests where to sit. This helps ensure that you have the right number of seats (and you don’t pay for extra chairs or, worse, don’t have enough seats and force some of your guests to stand), plus it gives your attendees a place to sit back and relax. Place cards can also help facilitate traffic for buffets and separate any family or friends that need to keep their distance from each other. \n\n### Do I Need Wedding Place Cards?\nNo matter how formal or casual your wedding celebration is, wedding place cards are always a good idea. They help you plan, they help your guests feel at ease knowing where to sit and whom to sit by, and they can even help your vendors when it comes to delivering food/beverages and directing traffic. In general, wedding place cards might be small, but they serve a big purpose that can help your celebration run much more smoothly. \n\nAllowing guests to seat themselves can be tricky since people naturally spread out. This might mean more open seats or lost meals, which can not only add up the cost and but create frustration as well. \n\n## Part 2: How to Create Your Wedding Place Cards \n\nNow that you know all about wedding place cards, it’s time to learn how to create them! Here, we’re breaking down everything to consider when choosing and designing your cards. \n\n### Consider Your Venue\nThe more formal the venue, the more formal you’ll typically want your cards to be—think rich stock paper, fancy script, and elegant cardholders. Regardless, you’ll want to make sure that the cards are not only well-placed so that the guests can find them, but that they are easy to read and are sturdy, so they don’t blow away from a gust of wind or AC. \n\n### Consider Your Theme\nWe love when guests lean into their theme for their place cards since these can double as part of your tablescape decor. Think of including designs with gold or glitter for flashy events, pressed flowers for garden celebrations, or even the pages of old books for literature lovers. Don’t be afraid to get creative!\n\n### Choose Your Material\nWhile [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop) are traditionally done on paper or cardstock, there are many options out there to consider. Items such as shells, tiles, rocks, potted plants, candles, and even mirrors can all serve as place cards, so have fun with it! As long as your guests’ names can be attached to the item, it’s safe, and it’s easy to read, it’s fair game!\n\n### Consider Your Colors\nPlace cards are a great chance to add a pop of your wedding colors, so experiment with different color backgrounds, fonts, and embellishments. Your vendors might prefer that you opt for different colored ink or borders for different food options to make catering serve the meals seamlessly. \n\n### Select Your Font\nIn general, fonts with serifs are more formal than those without, as are cursive letters. Whatever font you choose, make sure that it’s legible enough so that your guests can read their names, even in low lighting. \n\n### When to Order Your Place Cards\nWhile you’ll want to make sure that you have plenty of time to get your place cards, you don’t want to order them too soon and risk ordering too many or having to make changes. It’s a good idea to order the cards as soon as your RSVPs arrive and your seating chart is confirmed, so that you have time to adjust, if needed. Typically, this happens about a month or two before the wedding, but you’ll want to hire your calligrapher, if you’re using one, at least four to six months before your big day. \n\n### Where to Order Your Place Cards\nThere are so many options when it comes to ordering place cards, depending on your preferred style and budget. From DIY options that you can print yourself to Etsy sellers and even [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), your options are endless, so take your time perusing and comparing so that you find an option you love. \n\nIf you do choose Zola, you’re in luck because [our paper suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) can be matched across the board, so that your place cards can match your menus, your signage, your invitations, and beyond. Additionally, with our one-time export option from your Zola guest list, all personalization paper goods can be completed efficiently and in one fell swoop to save you time and stress. \n\nFinally, with five different paper types including smooth, eggshell, linen, pearlescent, and felt—all of which come either printed or unprinted—there’s something for every style, setting, and budget so that you can check off your paper goods easily and expertly. \n\n### Can I DIY My Wedding Place Cards?\nWhile you can absolutely DIY your place cards, writing them by hand is not only tricky—even if you have artistic talent—but time-consuming too. Do a few trials if you’re considering making your own to see how much time and resources they take before committing to creating them all yourself. \n\n### What to Do After Receiving Your Place Cards\nAfter receiving your place card order or finishing creating them all, store them in a cool, dry place where there’s no risk of them getting spilled on or messed up. Have a plan for how the place cards will get to the venue for the wedding, who will place them on the tables, and when they’ll be placed on the tables to avoid any confusion or in-the-moment scrambling. \n","body2":"## Part 3: Your Wedding Seating Chart: The Complement to Your Wedding Place Cards \nBefore you can make wedding place cards or escort cards, you need to create a seating chart. Below, we’re outlining all the seating chart basics that’ll help you get ready to make your wedding place cards. \n\n### What Is a Wedding Seating Chart?\n[A seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), as the name suggests, is a chart that outlines where everyone at your wedding will sit. This is a very important planning tool, as it will determine the number of tables and chairs that you need, plus help the caterer serve meals and help you pair (or separate) different groups of people. \n\n### What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Seating Chart, a Place Card, and an Escort Card?\nA seating chart is like the overall seating map, while the place card is like a marker for a person. The escort card reflects the seating chart but is person-specific, as opposed to an overview of the entire reception floor. \n\n### Do I Need a Wedding Seating Chart?\nMost venues and celebrations run much more smoothly with seating charts. Unless you have a very small and casual event, a seating chart will save you money and relax your guests. Additionally, some venues and caterers require a seating chart, so check with your pros before omitting the project. \n\n### How Do I Make a Wedding Seating Chart?\nThere are many great resources to help you [make a seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), from websites to apps to printables. Additionally, if you have a planner or coordinator, they’re pros at figuring out where to place people to ensure that the celebration runs smoothly and that your guests feel cared for. \n\n### How Should I Display My Wedding Seating Chart?\nSome couples choose to display their seating chart by turning it into a giant map, while others would rather list guests’ names with their table numbers next to them. If you choose not to showcase your seating chart, make sure that your table numbers are easy to see so that your guests don’t have to do extensive searching to find where they’re supposed to sit. \n\n## Part 4: Wedding Place Card Ideas \nNow that you know what place cards are and how to make them, you’re probably looking for a little bit of inspiration. Luckily, Zola has options for every wedding preference, whether formal and fabulous, or casual and chic. Check out some of our favorite options below:\n\n### Modern-Themed Place Cards\nThink clean lines, marble backing, and clean fonts when selecting place cards for your modern wedding. \n\n![Cabo](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/7ByLn4FgchViLVeqBYILnm/7147ee9cbc653983a1767a5987eabaab/9910e8a0-9925-4a8c-9ac5-d2342a4dcff5.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Cabo Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/42cee477-6079-4857-8efd-7df334608c9d)\n\n![Violin](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/72rIVnXvai3s0U6iZfcZn2/653a3859a52cdd208d83048e56df84c7/1a3a84f1-6db1-4089-b5d9-5dd127456a2c.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Violin Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/b2ef622c-0671-469f-9099-60ed82a18241)\n\n### Formal-Themed Place Cards\nA formal wedding is a fun chance to really lean into the drama, so don’t be afraid of fancy calligraphy, jewel tones, and glamour when choosing your formal-themed cards.\n\n![Ames Place Cards](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/28coMKNY1HSdT6owt72jnp/5c0d4a2e886134692187598ec48d453b/4d024b76-f241-4c5b-8c90-f469904cff6e.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Ames Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/0bf92490-5ad9-45de-83cb-65609bfcb1a9)\n\n![Dubuque](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/3onGwRjyapyXmUbjSR3tFk/ae0d50f7a92aa9bbf9872396ded3226d/62e9ebcc-3791-4a23-9673-705b53af6563.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Dubuque Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/c3d5e881-030d-4e87-8075-b0f4599a7056)\n\n### Place Cards for Outdoor Venues\nFeel free to lean into the vibe of your outdoor venue for your place cards, but just make sure that they are sturdy enough, so that they don’t blow away. \n\n![Waterfront](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/4Uitq71bDiQvjUJVsNJZco/8874a0dca0688948c22fc1bb160f6f82/aa32613f-24da-4bef-b04c-96f5cb9ff921.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Waterfront Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/12a4aa2e-56c7-47cc-8063-05925669adae)\n\n![Sparrow](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/6q7DCW77rsFiYMSHIm0oer/ef593924ca84c8e057a829c97784726b/9d105f70-653a-4c61-be5e-2e22db161538.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Sparrow Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/1d302087-1c29-471f-a8b4-d603a193020e)\n\n### Place Cards for Destination Venues\nWe love when couples really showcase their destination wedding theme with fun, environmental touches. \n\n![Tamarine](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/4ABs2GMUQ0E4hrdMT5Q5qE/ba960fa8d932e6799098a7582a2ef471/1bb803e0-3b94-4749-bc0d-bc010c839d64.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Tamarine Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/125ffe61-7741-4c2e-a6fa-fee8652bad63)\n\n![Deepcreek](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/42DbyerXEQLYyF0MMTGUnR/f17f753ac0af5e07c057d242f9c3c288/82f7254c-1736-449a-a144-173a3156d18e.jpeg)*Photo Credit* // Zola - [Deepcreek Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/8b8b7a3e-8f98-4717-a75a-4b9c768d3232)\n\nYou could also consider writing your guests’ names on sand dollars, starfish, or even large tropical leaves for a fun decor option that’s both appealing to the eye and sturdy enough to withstand the weather. \n\n## More About Wedding Place Cards\n\n### I Don’t Want to Use Place Cards. Is That Okay?\nAs with everything wedding-related, it’s your day to make your own! While place cards are recommended to make your guests comfortable, help you plan, and manage the crowd, there’s no rule that that says you have to have them. If you’re having a tiny very small celebration (such as a casual backyard event), you might not need to assign seating, in which case, place cards aren’t entirely necessary.\n\n### What’s the Difference Between Wedding Place Cards and Escort Cards?\nEssentially, [escort cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards) assign your guests to a table, while place cards get them to their actual, specific seat. Wedding place cards are placed on the table in front of each place setting so guests know which seat is theirs. Escort hards, however, help guests know which table to go to when entering the reception venue. Wedding place cards simply feature the guest’s name and sometimes food option, whereas escort cards usually include the table number and serve as a well to help your guests find their assigned table. \n\n### Where Should I Put My Wedding Place Cards?\nWedding place cards go at the place setting where you’d like each guest to sit. Sometimes the cards are placed in holders just above the place setting, and sometimes they’re placed on the actual setting. Either way, to cut down on confusion, make sure that it’s clear which card goes to which seat. \n\n### Where Should I Put My Wedding Escort Cards?\nIf you’ve assigned your guests’ specific seats at specific tables (or just specific tables where they can choose their own seats), [escort cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards) are a must. This helps get your guests from the entrance of the reception area to their seats. Place the escort cards in an obvious place at the entrance of the reception area. It helps to have the escort cards listed in alphabetical order to make it easier for your guests to find. You’ll also want to ensure that your table numbers are visible so that your friends and family can easily find the table(s) they’re looking for. \n\nFinally, if you decide to just have place cards (which are already placed at each setting) instead of escort cards, make sure to have a large diagram of some sort so that your guests can figure out which table to go toward. These can either be done by listing each table number and the names of the guests assigned to that table below, or by listing all the guests’ names in alphabetical order with each person’s table number written next to their names. \n\n## Zola: The One-Stop-Shop for All Your Wedding Place Card Needs\n\nWhether you opt for an elaborate seating cheat, elegant escort cards, simple [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), or a mixture of all three, finding a cohesive, cost-effective, and stress-free solution for your paper goods is where Zola comes in. Not only can you simply select your favorite place cards from our site, but you can also coordinate all your other paper goods so that everything complements each other. You can also order favor tags, thank you notes, and table numbers that appear cohesive with your place cards for one seamless aesthetic. \n\nLet Zola do the work, from creating the design to printing the products to shipping them to your door so that you can do what’s really important: celebrate this next exciting milestone of your life surrounded by the people you love! 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We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). But of course, this is a highly unique number dependent on the couple's specific needs and wants. \n\n### Can I order sample paper products?\n\nFinding your perfect wedding invitation suite or stationery for your big day can be overwhelming. It’s so important that you love what you pick out. That’s why Zola offers up to five [free customizable samples](https://www.zola.com/faq/360052512531-do-you-offer-samples-of-your-paper-products-), including shipping. Just head to the Invites & Paper page on our website and “*select your designs*” on the left-hand side of the screen. 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