Invitations

From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too.

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8 of The Best Engagement Party Invitation Ideas + Tips

If you’re planning an engagement party, your guests need to know the details of the celebration. Check out these engagement party invite ideas.

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What Size Wedding Invitations Should I Buy?

Wondering how to add elegant touches to your wedding invitations? Zola has ideas that will wow your guests. Read on for elegant wedding invitation ideas.

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Does Wedding Stationery Have to Match?

Not sure if your save the dates and thank you notes should match? Read our guide on matching wedding stationery, from paper material to color palettes.

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Wedding Details Card: Everything To Know

What is a wedding details card? Do you need to include it in your wedding invitation? Here's everything you need to know about detail cards.

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Most Popular Wedding Invitation Themes

Can't decide on how you want your wedding invites to look? Check out the most popular wedding invitation themes at Zola today.

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Funny Wedding Invitation Ideas to Make Your Guests LOL

Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? Here are our top ideas.

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Wedding Invitation Paper Options

With so many options to choose from, it can be difficult to know which wedding invitation paper is best. Learn about the differences from our experts today.

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5 Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas

With our unique and stylish winter wedding invitation ideas, your guests will be counting the days to your seasonal celebration.

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What's Included In a Wedding Invitation Suite?

Wondering how to convey all the information needed for your wedding in a stylish and elegant way? The wedding invitation suite is the perfect option.

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12 Best Bachelorette Party Invitation Ideas & Wording

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LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101

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How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations

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\n \n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","subtopicPage":{"articles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"engagement-party-invite-ideas","title":"8 of The Best Engagement Party Invitation Ideas + Tips","excerpt":"If you’re planning an engagement party, your guests need to know the details of the celebration. Check out these engagement party invite ideas.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2021-07-20T17:53:10.304Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EbZcrYZjSUPI8IQnuqgSQ/3c9f9f72737802f77e9e1e6f0ffcb69a/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Engagement Party Invite Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are a variety of elements that go into an engagement invitation—like the material you print the invites on, whether to include a photo, the invitation wording, and the overall design style.\n- Make sure to include all the relevant party details directly on your engagement party invite, including the time, date, location, and how guests can RSVP. It's also important to make sure the party invitation wording is clear and concise. \n- Send your engagement party invites out at least one month in advance—although six weeks will give your guests more time to get the party on their calendar.","body":"Your engagement is an incredibly exciting time. That said, before getting too deep into the wedding planning process, many couples choose to seize the opportunity to celebrate pre-wedding by throwing an engagement party. Consider it the kickoff to the countdown toward your big day.\n\nIf you’re [planning an engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party), you’ll need to let people know all of the need-to-know details: Primarily, how, where, and when they can join you for the celebration. That means sending out engagement party invitations.\n\nBut if you’ve never thrown an engagement party, chances are, you don’t know what the engagement invitation process looks like. With that in mind, let’s dive into all things engagement party invitations (including a few engagement party invite ideas to inspire your invitation design).\n\nRemember: Your own engagement party need not be an all-out, fanciful affair to require an invitation card. Your celebration can be a backyard bbq, intimate brunch, dinner party, or any style of get-together between you, your friend, and close friends. In any case, your [guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) will be in need of all the details—and there’s a design for every type of occasion.\n\n## Different Elements to Keep in Mind \n\n \n\nThere are various elements you’ll need to consider when narrowing down your engagement party invite options, including:\n\n### Materials\n\nWhen it comes to engagement party invites, not all invitations are created equal. And we mean that literally. Depending on the look and feel you’re going for, your invites can be made on a variety of different [invitation paper options](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-paper-options).\n\nSo, what card stock options can you choose from? Some of the most popular include:\n\n- __Smooth:__ As the name implies, this type of paper is smooth to the touch. Smooth paper is also lightweight with just a hint of shine—making it an excellent choice for invites that feature photos.\n- __Eggshell:__ Not a fan of the shine? Eggshell has a similarly lightweight feel, but with more of a matte finish. This type of paper also makes colors pop, so if you’re going with a bold engagement design full of vibrant hues, eggshell is a paper option to consider.\n- __Recycled:__ If you want your invites to be as environmentally friendly as possible (aside from going paperless and digital), there are plenty of recycled paper options that allow you to create the perfect invite for your engagement party while doing your part in regards to the environment.\n- __Pearlescent:__ If you want to up the fancy factor, pearlescent paper—which is a sophisticated iridescent option with just a pop of sparkle—might be the paper for you.\n- __Double thick:__ If you want your invitations to have some extra weight, try double-thick—which, as you might have guessed, is twice as thick as typical card stock.\n\nIn addition to choosing the paper for your invites, you’ll also want to decide whether you want to include foil on your engagement party invitations. Foil stamping is a method that permanently transfers pigmented or metallic foil directly onto your invites. With foil stamping, you can incorporate foil designs, text, or both into your engagement invite. If you want your invites to feel glamorous, sparkly, and attention-grabbing, foil is a great way to capture the look. Many online vendors will supply the option to add it—or you can DIY by adding some gold or silver flake yourself.\n\n### Orientation\nChoosing the materials for your invites is one part of the equation. The other part of the equation? Design—starting with the orientation of your invites.\n\nYou can design your engagement party invitation to have a landscape orientation (a larger width vs. length) or a portrait orientation ( a longer length vs. width). There’s no right or wrong orientation for engagement party invitations; both orientations work for any kind of design. It’s about looking at examples of both—and then choosing the orientation that feels like the right look and style for your invites.\n\n### Color Palette\n\nNext up? Choosing the color palette for your engagement party invites.\n\nWhen it comes to choosing colors for your invites, the sky’s the limit. If you already have your [wedding colors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-colors) locked in, you can incorporate that color palette into your invite design. You could incorporate your and your partner’s favorite colors. Or, as another option, you can use color to set the mood for the engagement party to come.\n\nFor example, are you hosting an upscale cocktail party to celebrate your engagement? Try a sophisticated black, silver, and gold color palette. Throwing a kid-friendly barbecue in your backyard? A brighter color palette could be a good fit.\n\nLike most design elements, the colors you choose are totally up to you—so select whatever color palette feels true to you, your partner, your style, and your engagement party.\n\n### Photo vs. No Photo\nMany engagement party invitations feature an engagement photo of the couple—and many don’t. As you’re likely the one designing your invites, you’ll need to decide whether you want to include a photo of you and your partner in the design (and, if so, which photo you want to feature). Note that this photo doesn’t need to be of you as an engaged couple—it can be from any point in your relationship. This allows for countless fun and sentimental options.\n\n### Design Style\nWhile it’s important to consider each of these individual design elements, you’ll also want to consider how all these elements come together on the final invitation—or, in other words, the overall style you want to capture in your engagement party design.\n\nFor example, do you want your invites to feel chic and sophisticated? Classic and traditional? Casual and fun? Knowing the ultimate style or vibe you want to create with your engagement party invites will help guide the design process—and ensure that each element you choose fits with your overall design vision.\n\n## What Should You Include on Your Engagement Party Invites? \n\nThe design elements you choose for your engagement party invitations will create the look, feel, and aesthetic of your invites. But at the core, the purpose of your invitations is to share information with your friends, family, and loved ones about your engagement party.\n\nSo, what information do you need your invitations to share? And how should you go about engagement party [invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations)?\n\nYour engagement party invitations should include:\n\n- __An Engagement Announcement:__ The whole reason you’re throwing a party is that you and your partner recently got engaged—and it [should say](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording) that somewhere on your invitation. No need to go into details; a simple line that says “we’re engaged!” or something similar will do the trick. Though, feel free to add in ‘From, the Future Mr. and Mrs./Mr. and Mr./Mrs. and Mrs.’ if you’re feeling sentimental.\n- __Details About the Party:__ Think of your invitation like a save the date. Your guests need to know when and where to celebrate the happy couple, so make sure to include details about the time, date, location (including an exact address), and dress code of your event.\n- __Who’s Throwing the Party:__ If you plan on hosting the party yourself, there’s no need to call that out on your invite. However, if someone else (for example, the bride’s parents) is hosting the party in your honor, you’ll want to include that information on your invitation.\n- __RSVP Information:__ You’re going to need to know who is coming to your engagement party, so make sure you include clear instructions for [how to RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-politely-remind-guests-to-rsvp). While you could include RSVP cards (similar to a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations)), it’s not necessary. Keep things more casual (and easier!) by including a contact name, phone number, and/or email directly on the invitation. And don’t forget to include an “RSVP by” date, so you’re not fielding last-minute RSVPs. \n\n## How Do You Design Engagement Party Invites?\nWhen it comes to designing engagement party invitations, you have two main options: getting a custom design or using a pre-existing engagement party invitation templates to design your invites yourself.\n\nIf you have a very specific vision for your engagement party invites—and it’s different from an invitation you’ve seen before—you could hire a designer to create a custom invitation. That said, hiring a designer is both expensive and time-consuming.\n\nIf you want to get a gorgeous engagement party invitation, without the added cost or time of hiring a private designer, going with a pre-existing invitation template is a great option. All you have to do is choose your style and add in event details. Many [websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) even have their templates available as printables, meaning you can either print them straight from home or take them to a printer.\n\nIf you’re in the camp that’d like to use a template to design your invitations, with [hundreds of optins](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), we at Zola have you covered.\n\n## When Do You Need to Send Your Engagement Party Invites? \n\nOnce your engagement party invitations are designed and ready to go, the next thing you’ll need to tackle? When to put those invites in the mail.\n\nThe more notice you can give your guests about your engagement party, the higher the likelihood they’ll be able to attend—so the sooner, the better. Aim for six weeks, but at a minimum, make sure to send out your invites at least one month before the event. This allows each guest enough time to check their schedules, RSVP, make travel plans if necessary, and perhaps even order a gift. Any shorter notice and some people may not be able to make time or adequately prepare.\n\nKeep in mind that all of your loved ones want to celebrate with you! Be considerate of their schedules and respectful of their time, even if sending invitations out several weeks in advance feels like a lot. \n\n## 8 of The Best Engagement Party Invite Ideas for Your Engagement Celebration\n\nStill, need some inspiration for your invites? Let’s take a look at a few engagement parties invite ideas to get your creative juices flowing:\n\n### 1. Traditional Engagement Party Invites\nIf you want to keep things classic with your engagement party invitations, a traditional style with simple, straightforward lettering and a neutral color palette is a great option.\n\n__Traditional Invitation Examples:__\n![Traditional-Engagement-Invites](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/6SHSXOcxKyrfp51k5egaqV/b6ae553cf63cdcc30218cf8dbbba2ef4/Traditional-Engagement-Invites.jpg) *Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n[Abbey](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/9685860d-5cfd-4c83-a065-6da82969a228), [Malta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/409a2ec2-cfc9-42d3-9613-71b1b6ed7783), [Stauffer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/cef57866-a202-4706-9433-d36a090b7185), [Kalispell](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/72f14b95-00a2-436f-8f82-383d29c84381)\n\n### 2. Modern Engagement Party Invites\nIf classic doesn’t feel like your style, opt for a modern invite design with bold colors, graphics, and other design elements.\n\n__Modern Invitation Examples:__\n![Modern-Engagement-Invites](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/3ZkUOOeipnkOjP4qzAO7Rd/37ba964c119c11ed4e5ec01881768e31/Modern-Engagement-Invites.jpg) *Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n[Cabo 1](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ab0cbaa3-8e5a-407e-aa88-35cc3fec5e8c), [Cabo 2](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/aa3bec62-feac-40b2-b050-641bc00da81e), [Bryce](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/90d91315-ed9e-4790-964a-edf4dd4bee9f), [Franklin](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/eab03cf2-3165-4bd9-b993-f6dfb9c28b0b) \n\n### 3. Minimalist Engagement Party Invites\nSometimes, less is more. It’s true in life and it’s true in engagement party to invite design. Minimalist designs that focus on a single design element (like one pop of color or beautiful typography) are a great way to capture a simple, elegant look on your invites.\n\n__Minimalist Invitation Examples:__\n![Minimalist-Engagement-Invites](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/7HwyugXmTFf7GNGTW2BVs/9391003e6411c3660da8a8c0841c1d8e/Minimalist-Engagement-Invites.jpg) *Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n[Powell](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/76edc091-c9c1-4224-b1e2-e209fbcb389b), [Morrison](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/2788a15a-6c54-42f9-a45d-5de62f94b503), [Florence](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7c47c595-00b1-4703-ac46-e020c8214360), [Stowe](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ce820a36-54eb-4a7a-906e-1c28033aad21)\n\n### 4. Botanical Engagement Party Invites\nThere are plenty of different designs you can incorporate into your engagement party invites, but botanicals are among the most popular. Flowers, plants, and other greenery have a pretty universal appeal and can add both color and visual interest to the invitation.\n\n__Botanical Invitation Examples:__\n![Botanical-Engagement-Invites](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1ooG9dtr754COsBn3Zz1Tr/134a6eec04a7cfd3fe3fccab6b973388/Botanical-Engagement-Invites.jpg)*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n[Octavia](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/22b13c6e-1a13-4a78-96c8-f5d9d5cde78c), [Cricket](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dc4c94dd-ce39-4434-a47e-fc02450c6d8e), [Eastwick](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f276de10-0fb8-45f1-9902-5fcbe41fd19d), [Escape](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d9ed95e5-9eba-4266-aa0c-d613eeb6eef6)\n\n### 5. Photo Engagement Party Invites\nWant to add a more personal touch to your engagement party invites? Include a photo of you and your soon-to-be spouse.\n\n__Photo Invitation Examples:__\n![Photo-Engagement-Invites](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/2Ce37uxnOoI6qadS7e20Df/82954515640b0473559864aaaba06ce6/Photo-Engagement-Invites.jpg)\n\n[Galata Vow Renewal](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c4930e4a-dfe9-446d-b800-96eb8bf98981), [Terian Elopement](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a680f9f6-6fed-4328-8027-0803d34e6e22), [Geneva](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/3d3143fc-a1fc-4e51-9a44-e2d67df8a27c)\n\n### 6. Rustic Engagement Party Invitation\nRustic celebrations tend to incorporate elements from the rural countryside—and so do invitations in this style. Whether its wooden textures, plant life, or gorgeous mountain-filled landscapes, these invitations give a feeling warmth and style.\n\n[Saranac](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7cb2c469-7403-4ea4-b099-b0fc375b851d), [Deepcreek](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de), [Sylvan](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d7329591-0017-45f3-9f0e-df24a87022fd)\n\n### 7. Floral Engagement Party Invitation\nWhile botanical invitations tend to lean toward greenery, floral designs focus more on—you guessed it—flowers. Engagement parties that are held during spring, amidst gardens, or even have notable floral decor are ideal for these blooming invitation designs.\n\n[Maywood](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f0c980ff-83c4-4422-aef2-be71795ec442), [Kalispell](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/adc0d7db-b960-4083-b299-0bb96adba163), [Birkenfeld](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c6ae1ad0-91a5-4355-bc51-d357f64463df)\n\n### 8. Fall Engagement Party Invitation\nThe season you’re holding your engagement party in can also serve as a theme. This is especially the case when you’re working with a season as inspiring as fall. Fall-themed invitations tend to incorporate clean neutrals, deep colors (think oranges and greens), and/or in-season plant life. They’re moody and eye-catching, making them ideal for an intimate get-together.\n\n[Brockway](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/545d3793-af76-492f-9a7a-5cb661e32f12), [Dubuque](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/23a092c4-2486-4f64-8e78-b4d046d2d188), [Cadiz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/faa337d1-3722-4ae9-9a0f-1a56709c02bf)\n\n## Use These Engagement Party Invite Ideas to Design Your Perfect Engagement Party Invitation\nFrom an ‘I Do BBQ’ to an elaborate brunch, there’s a lot to consider when crafting invitations for your engagement soiree. Now that you know everything there is to know about engagement party invites (and have some ideas for inspiration), all there’s left to do is get out there and design them.\n\nIf you don’t have a clue where to start, let us give you a helping hand. We at Zola have plenty of options—not only when it comes to engagement party invitations, but all of your wedding stationary. From save the dates to wedding invitations, and rehearsal dinner cards to bachelorette party and bridal shower invitations, [browse our invitations shop](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) for easy customizing and ordering.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. ","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Looking to create customized wedding invitations? Our experts at Zola can help. 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Read on for elegant wedding invitation ideas.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-12-08T20:25:41.437Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation sizes"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When you start to think about your wedding, you may realize that size matters. How many guests you invite determines how big your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) needs to be, and how many centerpieces you incorporate determines how big your [flower budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-floral-budget) is. Everything about a wedding is size oriented.\n\nWhether you’re keeping things small or shooting for a “bigger is better” type of event, Zola has the perfect fit. Our selection of wedding essentials is both size and budget-conscious, so your wedding, no matter the size, is just right. \n\nAs you plan your wedding, the counting will ebb and flow. From the number of flowers to the number of people who attend, the final count is never truly final, especially regarding the guest list.\n\nThere is an adage about [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) that goes something like, “Expect that 10 percent of your guests will RSVP yes and then no-show.” Whether you’re willing to take that risk is completely up to you, but one thing is for sure, no one will come if you don’t send invitations.\n\nUnlike rolling the dice with extra guests attending or not, you can’t expect your guests to simply hear about your wedding from a friend. Invitations are an absolute must, and Zola is here to ensure that yours are signed, sealed, and delivered—literally!\n\nOne of the perks of ordering your invitations at Zola is that we will address your envelopes using our guest list feature. At Zola, we believe sending your wedding invitations should be an exciting endeavor, instead of a chore, which is why we do the laborious addressing on your behalf.\n\nFair warning, you’ll still need to stuff your invitations, but we recommend inviting some friends over and making a day of it. A day of licking and stamping can easily become a day of laughter and memories, especially when you’re surrounded by friends and loved ones.\n\n## Sizing Things Up\nWhen it comes to your invitations, style, font, paper quality, and finish all play a part in creating the perfect wedding stationery for your wedding. With so many stylistic options, you may be wondering if there is any sort of standardized size for invites. The truth of the matter is that there is a gold standard size for wedding invitations. There are many reasons why the wedding industry gravitates toward a standardized size for wedding invitations, but for now, let’s look at what that size is.\n\n### The Dimensions\nWhen you order your wedding invitations at Zola, you’ll notice that we offer all of our wedding stationery in a five-by-seven inch format. While other sites may play around with the size of the invitation, Zola thinks that there is something to be said for keeping things traditional. A five-by-seven inch invite card is the classic size for wedding invitations, and we think that there are plenty of ways to customize your card without messing with the size. After all, don’t fix what isn’t broken, right!?\n\n![Wedding Invitation Size Guide](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/cp1ecwDy9YCCBF8UO2AMb/add9da191a42232869d855a70c5994e3/Inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### The Science Behind the Size\nThe tradition of a five-by-seven inch invitation is Zola’s preferred size for wedding invites for three major reasons. First, the five-by-seven inch is the easiest to fit into a standardized envelope. Keeping your invites at the standard five-by-seven inch is both convenient and cost-effective because your envelope choices are far more diverse as a result. \n\nSecond, a five-by-seven inch wedding invitation is small enough to put on the fridge or mantle without being a burden to your guest. Any smaller than five-by-seven inch and your invitations run the risk of being lost amidst the shuffle of daily life. In contrast, a bigger invitation can become cumbersome and annoying to the guest who receives it. \n\nFinally, a five-by-seven inch invitation is the easiest to mail. The reality is that you are going to be sending your invitations out via the USPS. There are many reasons why the USPS is and has been, the preferred method of sending out wedding invitations for decades. \n\n### Made for Mailing\nFor starters, the USPS is dependable and reliable. Letters being lost in the mail is not as common an occurrence as you might believe. The old excuse of “it got lost in the mail” is just that, an excuse. For the most part, mail sent through the USPS is delivered safely and on time without any issue.\n\nSecondly, sending a letter or card (eg. a wedding invitation) through the USPS is extremely economical. The average cost of sending a wedding invitation is forty-nine cents, or, in other words, the cost of a single stamp. If your invitations are on the heavier side and you want to be extra cautious, then you’re looking at just under one dollar per invitation. The USPS is the best bet for sending invites on a budget.\n\nFinally, the USPS is easy to deal with. To send your invites via the USPS, all you need to do is buy some stamps, place the postage on the envelope, and drop your invites in any mailbox where mail is picked up. If you have extra time on your hands, you can walk them into your local post office, but dropping your invites in any curbside mail receptacle will do.\n\nSending your invites with a specialty delivery service such as UPS or FedEx can get complicated and pricey. With a standard five-by-seven inch invitation, you know that your invites are USPS approved and perfectly acceptable to send via the mail. At Zola, we know that while it would be fun to have all sorts of shapes and sizes, keeping the dimensions of your stationery in a five-by-seven inch template ensures the safe delivery of your wedding invitations.\n\n### All the Right Details\nThere is a very specific formula for wedding invitations. The invitation itself must have all of the following requirements: \n\n- Names of the parents (both sets)\n- Request to attend\n- Name of the couple\n- Date and time of the ceremony\n- Location of the ceremony\n- Location of the reception (if different than ceremony site)\n\nWhen worded correctly, your wedding invite says exactly what it needs to in the perfect amount of space. It may seem like a lot of information, but your wedding invite is only a small portion of the information that you will want to communicate to your guests. Fortunately, the invitation itself is only required to provide the aforementioned details.\n\nThe intricacies of your wedding invitation will vary depending on how flowery you want the language to be, but your guests need to be notified about who, what, when, and where. \nYou don’t want your invite to be overwhelming, so stick to the basic information. \nHere is one example of how your wedding invitation could be written:\n\n Mr. Steven Brown & Mrs. Patricia Brown\n Together with\n Mr. Donald Martinez and Mrs. Kathleen Martinez\n Cordially request your presence to celebrate the marriage of their children\n Anna Brown and David Martinez\n On September the Third at Three O'Clock in the afternoon at St. Michael's\n Catholic Church in Poway, California\n Dinner and Dancing to follow at The Rancho Bernardo Inn \n\nIt is very common for couples to include an [enclosure card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) with additional pertinent details, so don’t feel like you have to cram everything into the invitation itself. Plus, when you purchase your wedding invitations at Zola, your wedding website is free. \n\nYour fully customizable Zola wedding website is made to be user friendly and easy-to-navigate so that your guests can answer all their questions. Your Zola wedding website is the digital extension of your invitation that gives your guests all the info they need, all in one place. \n\n### Choosing a Font\nYour wedding is a special event. Whether it’s a small wedding at city hall or a big “to-do” where your parents invite everyone they know, your wedding is a day of celebration. The celebration of your impending nuptials should carry with it an air of reverence and sophistication that can easily be reflected in the font of your choosing. \n\nWhen you order at Zola, you can choose the wedding invitation font[1] that best suits your stylistic preferences. At Zola, you can rest assured that all of our fonts, no matter how flowery or fancy, are always legible and elegant.\n\n![Wedding Invitation Size Guide](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7lhDCVPLTGUjHJNP72hnMn/8f535d33267f43d6345427e1a094a13b/inline_Zola.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n### Customization Is Key\nWe're known for our diverse selection of customizable paper products, and our wedding invitations are no exception. You can choose one of our templates, start completely from scratch, upload your design, or tweak a template to your liking. \n\nEven after you choose the basic design of your wedding invitation, details such as paper choice, matte or gloss finish, and even foiling are all customizations that you are free to take full advantage of. \n\n### Sending Our Love\nSending out a wedding invitation is more than just an inclusionary gesture. A wedding invitation is a request for full participation in what will be the most important day of your life. Your wedding is a celebration of the love between you and your spouse-to-be, and Zola’s invitations reflect that joyful expectation. When you order your wedding invitations at Zola, the details are all taken care of for you. \n\nWe believe that wedding planning should be less about the tedious hand cramps from addressing envelopes and more about making your Pinterest board come to life. Zola’s standard five-by-seven inch wedding invitations with free addressing is just one of the many ways that we're here to ensure that your wedding planning process is easy and fun.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. ","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"One of the best parts of creating your dream wedding invitation is choosing the perfect wedding invitation font. Read on for the top 25 fonts!\n","title":"25 Gorgeous Wedding Invitation Fonts You’ll Want To Use","slug":"wedding-invitation-fonts","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4sDzUU7RWj4mpkoMayRJmm/e49b52516dbd527bd5b2619d19299678/Hero_1_Wedding_Invite_unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation fonts"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between wedding invitations and reception invitations? And when do you send one, the other, or both? Here's everything you need to know.","title":"A Complete Guide to Wedding Reception Invitation Wording","slug":"wedding-reception-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59M7uIwrTn634jZVUTtGcm/78cebaf260226c964b9ac50587cffdf1/Hero_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation suite"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:48.210Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match","title":"Does Wedding Stationery Have to Match?","excerpt":"Not sure if your save the dates and thank you notes should match? Read our guide on matching wedding stationery, from paper material to color palettes.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T09:01:03.180Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4hQ4QXU0YNRQBipi3QeSHM/4d94d7474331b62a68e643e027b58d6e/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"Does Wedding Stationery Have to Match?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- In our modern world, there are no more wedding “have-tos.” If matching stationery suits your taste, then try it. And if not, there’s no pressure to match every single detail.\n- A typical wedding stationery suite includes every paper item that you will provide for guests or the celebration—everything from engagement party invites, to wedding invitations, to thank you notes. \n- Matching stationery pros: lower price point, saved time, and a simplified planning process.\n- Matching stationery cons: limited creativity, less vendor options, and a locked-in decision for a cohesive design theme.","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nThe white dress, the gold rings, the countless flowers…weddings are filled with long-held traditions. But over time, certain wedding etiquettes change—and that includes stationery design.\n\nDo all of your wedding stationery pieces have to match? According to your grandmother, probably. But in today’s world, weddings encompass a huge range of formalities and styles. There’s no one size fits all in weddings, from dresses to design rules.\n\nSimply put: It’s less a question of should you have matching wedding stationery (hint hint: only if you want). Instead, ask yourself: Does matching stationery match your needs? To answer that question, let’s break down the components of wedding stationery and why matching them might work for you.\n\n## What Does Wedding Stationery Include? \nIt’s more than just invitations. Wedding stationery encompasses every piece of stylized paper material that you design for your celebration. \n\nJust think: How many times will cards, signs, and pamphlets come up between your engagement and honeymoon? This assortment of paper goods is known as your wedding invitation suite, typically following a thematic design. And odds are your suite will have more than a single invitation and thank you note.\n\nFrom popping the question to saying “I do,” let’s review the common pieces in most wedding stationery suites.\n\n### #1 Engagement Party Invitations\nEngagement parties are like a smaller, joyous pregame to your wedding day. They’re completely optional, but still a fun way to kick off your upcoming nuptials. \n\nHowever, like all formal events, engagement parties require guest invitations. Similar to a wedding invitation, these soiree invites should include crucial information, like the:\n\n- Engagement announcement (“We’re engaged!” “They proposed!”, etc.)\n- Party location and time\n- Host names\n- RSVP information\n\nSince most engagement parties are thrown long before the actual wedding day, don’t feel pressured to define a signature stationery style for these invitations. Unless you’re absolutely certain of your future theme, just go with what feels appropriate.\n\n### #2 Save the Date Cards\nMost couples know they’re getting married for months (or even years) before their wedding. But once that calendar date is set, it’s time to send out save the dates.\n\nSave the date cards are like a pre-invitation—they are not official wedding invitations. They keep guests informed, excited, and, most importantly, available for your future celebration. Since save the dates are typically sent six to twelve months prior, they usually include minimal information, such as:\n\n- You and your partner’s names\n- Wedding location\n- Wedding date\n\nWhile you can direct guests to RSVP on save the dates, that’s not a requirement—do what fits your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process. Destination weddings might need an RSVP well beforehand, while smaller affairs can wait.\n\nHowever, by this planning stage, you should have a wedding stationery style (colors, fonts, and overall themes) picked out. Down the line, this will help guests immediately recognize and group all materials for your wedding. \n\n### #3 Change the Date Cards\nHopefully, you won’t need this card in your wedding stationery suite. But sometimes, life delivers some calendar-shifting surprises (coronavirus, anyone?). \n\nIf your wedding date changes after sending save the dates, you must inform all guests with a change the date card. Essentially, they are just like save the dates but with all necessary updated info. \n\n### #4 Bridal Party Materials\nWhat’s a wedding without best friends? Wedding parties bring the fun and close support that everyone deserves before their big celebration. \n\nWant every bridesmaid or groomsman to know their special place in your heart? Send out themed bridal shower stationery. You can include all or one of these cards throughout your celebrations:\n\n- __Bridesmaid Proposals:__ Stoke the camaraderie early with a sweet “Be My Bridesmaid” proposal. These bridal cards are often personalized with empty space inside for a hand-written note.\n\n- __Bridal Shower Invitations:__ Since brides typically host the bridal shower, it’s on the engaged couple to welcome guests. Do it in style with themed invitations. Try to send out shower invites a few months beforehand—and don’t forget any bridal registry information that your bridesmaids might need.\n\n- __Bridal Shower Thank Yous:__ Often, bridal showers are gift-heavy celebrations—which means thank you notes are in store. Whether holding a bridal registry or simply accepting gifts at the shower, a stylized thank you card goes a long way to show your appreciation.\n\n### #5 Wedding Invitations\nThe date is set, the location is reserved, the dress is picked out—now, it’s officially time to call guests to the party.\n\nOut of the entire stationery suite, your wedding invitations are the most important pieces. Not only do they share vital information with guests, but their design also sets the tone and formality level of the ceremony—it’s a window to the future celebration.\n\nCompared to save the dates, wedding invitations share slightly more information with guests, including:\n\n- Names of the marrying couple\n- Names of the hosts (typically the couple’s parents)\n- Wedding date and time\n- Venue name and location\n- RSVP notice (optional)\n\nTypically, all other guest information (especially RSVP response forms) goes on separate enclosure cards. But if your modern stationery design has the space, then mix up tradition and include more info on the invitation.\n\n### #6 RSVP Cards\nNo wedding invitation is complete without RSVPs—how else would you know which guests plan to attend? If your invitation does not include a note to RSVP digitally, then you’ll need to include a separate response card.\n\nSo nothing falls through the cracks, make sure to request a reply-by date and all necessary information on your RSVP form, such as:\n\n- Guest names\n- Response options (attending vs. absent)\n- Total expected guests or plus-ones\n- Allergies or meal requests (optional)\n\nAnd of course, it’s courtesy to pre-stamp your response cards. No guest should have to pay for postage to RSVP.\n\n### #7 Enclosure Cards\nWhere can out-of-towners stay for your wedding? Is there a dress code? And what about the rehearsal dinner?! \n\nEnter a stylish solution to all guest questions: enclosure cards. \n\nOften part of a “wedding invitation suite”, enclosure cards are added inserts that hold all necessary guest information not on the invitation. Common enclosure card categories include:\n\n- __Accommodation Cards:__ For destination weddings or parties with many out-of-towners, it’s courtesy to inform guests of nearby housing options. Add an accommodation card with local hotels, inns, or other vacancies. Just ensure all options are within reach of the ceremony venue.\n\n- __Transportation and Direction Cards:__ If your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) is particularly out of the way (ski lodges, beaches, rural estates, etc.), then a card with transportation or direction information is helpful. \n\n- __Itinerary Cards:__ Planning a three-day fanfare for your nuptials? Keep guests in the loop with an itinerary card. A clear schedule of every meal and party will help loved ones prepare for your magnificent celebration.\n\n- __Attire Cards:__ Almost all weddings have a dress code, from beachy semi-casual to white tie. But if you have a strong vision for your wedding photos (like specific clothing colors), then your guests will need more details. If necessary, include an attire card with your invitation suite.\n\n- __Wedding Website and Contact Cards:__ At Zola, we firmly believe in the power of a wedding website (just check out our gorgeous [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) templates). Direct guests to all the details that can’t fit on your invitation with a wedding website card. No need to mess up your invitation design with a URL.\n\n- __Rehearsal Dinner Invitations:__ If other family members aren’t taking the reins, add a rehearsal dinner invitation for your close loved ones. Typically, these include all the same information as your wedding invitation. \n\n- __Reception Invitations:__ A reception invitation can apply to a few situations. First, for couples who elope or hold an intimate ceremony, you don’t have to give up celebrating in style. Invite all loved ones to the after-party with a reception invitation. Second, for couples with different ceremony and reception venues, a separate reception invitation will clarify all party locations and transportation details.\n\n### #8 Ceremony Programs\nOn the big day, welcome your guests in style with a ceremony program. These beautiful cards (like our [Gardner program template](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/8d0cd98c-54c8-4e54-aea5-d413bb3fc203)) are a lovely way for invitees to learn more about the wedding families, parties, and other notable players. While not necessary, they do give an official air to the celebration.\n\n### #9 Venue Signs\nBanners, posters, easel art—large welcome signs are an eye-catching addition to your wedding stationery suite. Not to mention, venue signs help guests know they’re in the right place. For a grand welcome, add one to each primary location for your wedding.\n\n### #10 Table and Seating Materials\nDon’t leave your guests stranded on the dance floor. When it’s time to eat and celebrate, every wedding reception needs an organized way to provide seating—and stationery plays a large role in the process.\n\nInside your reception venue, place these styled table materials for guests to find a seat:\n\n- __[Escort Cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards) or Boards:__ Like the keycard to a map, escort boards and escort cards carry all table numbers and the names at each table. Place these front and center near the entrance of your reception venue, so guests can easily find their seats.\n\n- __Table Numbers:__ You can’t list table numbers without...well, actual table numbers. Typically placed on tall holders in the center of the table, number cards should be visible and clear for all to see. \n\n- __[Place Cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop):__ To avoid any games of musical chairs, most couples add a small name plaque or card at every seat. Once guests find their name, they’ll know they have a parking spot for the night.\n\n- __Menus:__ Whether buffet-style or served a la carte, all reception food requires a clear and detailed menu (preferably one with a [stunning design, like this one from Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop)). You can place small individual menus at every seat or larger menus at every table. \n\n### #11 Welcome Bag or Gift Bag Tags\nHave lots of traveling guests? A little gift goes a long way. Send or leave a collection of tagged welcome bags (or simple cards) at the accommodation spots for your guests. The touch of personalized stationery lets loved ones know that you appreciate their attendance. \n\n### #12 Thank You Notes\nYour mom was right—always send a thank you note. From shower gift-givers to reception attendees, weddings have plenty of opportunities to show your gratitude. \n\nHere are some common groups that warrant a specialized thank you note:\n\n- Engagement party guests\n- Bridal shower guests\n- Groomsmen and bridesmaids\n- Rehearsal dinner hosts\n- Wedding ceremony attendees\n- Reception attendees\n- Hired [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) or services (stylists, caterers, etc)\n\n## Design Elements of Matching Wedding Stationery \nNow that we know the pieces of a wedding stationery suite, it’s time to dive into their actual matching factor: design elements.\n\nA consistent stationery design isn’t just for beauty’s sake. It’s also functional. Stylistic themes set the formality and tone of your celebration. Even more, the recurring visuals help guests instantly recognize all stationery as uniquely yours. It’s one of the many ways you can make your big day feel special.\n\nWhether matching all pieces or not, consider these stylistic factors when designing your wedding stationery.\n\n### Color Palette \nMost weddings typically have three or four colors that imbue all visual elements, known as a color palette. These shades imbue all visual aspects of the celebration: decor, wedding outfits, florals, and yes, stationery. \n\nWhether you’re a neutral-tone minimalist or rainbow lover, your wedding stationery will need a consistent palette. Monochrome or single-tone designs are a striking modern option. But most couples choose a combination of shades for their weddings, such as:\n\n- Cream and gold\n- Black and white\n- Blush pink and baby blue\n- Navy and gold\n- Reds and pinks\n- White and any jewel tone\n\nIf matching your stationery pieces, simply use the same colors across the board. If not, feel free to mix it up. Use a singular color from your save the date palette, and then use three shades for your invitations.\n\n### Fonts or Typography\n*“We’re getting married!”*\n*“We formally invite you...”*\n*“Thank you so much!”*\n\nNo matter the piece, all wedding stationery includes some writing. Keep your suite on-theme by exclusively using the same fonts for typography. Most couples opt for a primary font (for overheads and titles) and a secondary font (for description). And if you decide to use handwritten calligraphy, make sure to use the same artist.\n\n### Paper Type or Material \nWedding cards are lovely physical keepsakes, not disposable emails—so picking the right stationery material is important. It’s a visual and tactile element that adds personality.\n\nWith so many beautiful and innovative designs, modern couples have countless material options. Here are just a few common types:\n\n- __Cardstock:__ This category of paper material is popular for a reason—cardstock’s thickness and weight add gravitas to any stationery. Cardstock comes in different materials that change its style, from elegant cotton to rustic linen. \n\n- __Iridescent:__ Want a little sparkle in your wedding stationery? Go for iridescent papers like mylar or pearlescent. Pearlescent includes shimmery flecks for effortless glamour, while mylar adds a sleek gloss on top.\n\n- __Recycled (or Kraft) Paper:__ For the eco-friendly or boho couple, recycled paper is a surefire hit. Its pulpy design adds an earthy texture, and the price point is often budget-friendly.\n\n- __Parchment:__ Like an instant time machine, parchment just conveys a vintage, rustic feel. This soft, thinner, and tan-colored material is perfect for indoor or intimate ceremonies.\n\n- __Non-Paper Materials:__ For a wedding invitation that’ll stick out from the crowd, choose a unique non-paper material. Clear acrylic cards or engraved wood boards will definitely catch your guest’s attention. However, this option is best for couples who don’t want a matching stationery suite—a fully non-paper stationery set is a large expense.\n\n### Patterns, Illustrations, and Motifs\nTo pull together a wedding stationery suite, you need more than similar colors and paper—recurring motifs and ornaments are your best friends.\n\nThrowing a garden wedding? Then watercolor florals are more than appropriate. Saying “I do” on the beach? Sunrays, blue skies, and sandy textures are all up for grabs. These artistic elements convey the setting and theme of your celebration to guests. \n\nNeed some inspiration? Here are some wedding stationery ideas for different stylistic details:\n\n- Florals and botanicals\n- Patterns (stripes, polka dots, lace, etc)\n- Color-blocking\n- Cutouts and overlays\n- Metallics and foil details\n- Bows and string-ties\n- Decorative edges\n- Venue-related artwork (beach, garden, vineyard, etc)\n\n## Matching Wedding Stationery: Pros and Cons\nSo you’ve picked out your colors, papers, motifs, and ornaments. Now, here comes the big question: Should you match your wedding stationery?\n\nA matching wedding stationery suite is a big decision, one that requires commitment and forethought. For decades, it was the norm. But today, digital designers and vendors offer tons of stencils, templates, and customizable flourishes. How to choose? \n\nNo worries—we can help smooth out the decision. If just starting your design process, here’s a pros and cons list for matching your wedding stationery:\n\n### Pros \nPros of having matching wedding stationery include:\n\n- __Saved Time:__ The more similar your stationery, the less time you spend fretting over designs (and the more time you have to plan the rest of your wedding). Simply adjust the same colors, patterns, and decor to each stationery piece—a premium vendor like Zola can help you there.\n\n- __Easy Recognition:__ By sticking with one template, guests will have an easier time recognizing stationery pieces like yours. Over the months leading up to the ceremony, this can help guests understand the thematic elements and formality of your wedding.\n\n- __Lower Cost:__ Typically, separate designs mean higher costs. One simple theme will keep your wedding stationery on budget. Also, many wedding invitation makers (like Zola) offer package deals for matching designs across the board.\n\n### Cons \nOn the other hand, matching wedding stationery does have its downsides:\n\n- __Less Creativity:__ Matching wedding stationery may be the simple choice, but it does slightly stifle the inner artist. If you love variation and creative spirit, a matching suite might be too cookie-cutter for you.\n\n- __No Wiggle Room:__ The space between your engagement and your honeymoon can last years. During that time, you might change your mind about the overall wedding theme and decor. A matching stationery suite requires committing to one design early on—there’s no room for changes down the road.\n\n- __No Price Haggling:__ Choosing different designs for separate stationery pieces opens you up to using different vendors—and snagging the best deals. For instance, a reception venue might offer free table numbers, saving you money over buying a matching stationery set. Similarly, if you plan on reducing your stationery to only a few items, package deals for matching stationery might not be such a great option.\n\n## Coordinated Stationery: An Alternative\nNot sold on matching stationery? No worries. There’s a solution that still cohesively (but more creatively) ties your suite together: coordinated stationery.\n\nLike matching suites, coordinated stationery uses similar colors, patterns, and decor for all pieces. But how you incorporate those design elements can change. For example, you might use pink and orange across your entire stationery suite. But perhaps you color-bock your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) and substitute a decorative border for your official [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). It’s more detailed and time-consuming, but also more personalized.\n\n## Create Your Dream Wedding Stationery With Zola\nAt the end of the day, weddings are a celebration of you and your partner’s love—not the perfection of your stationery. If simple planning and cohesive themes feel important to you, then go for matching wedding stationery. Otherwise, choose what feels right. After all, it’s your wedding, so it’s up to you. \n\n[Zola’s paper shop](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) has every wedding stationery piece you’ll ever need. Whether shopping for a matching suite or a la carte, our customizable and exclusive templates make stationery a breeze. Kick-off your designing today with a [free paper sample](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop?multi_sample_tutorial=1). ","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:47.449Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card","title":"Wedding Details Card: Everything To Know","excerpt":"What is a wedding details card? Do you need to include it in your wedding invitation? Here's everything you need to know about detail cards.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T13:31:24.502Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ADkkK3qJ3x2WS7mCFeCoR/d12df96aab2ec0b44fc3980754f81bb8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Graphic image of wedding details called with text calling out reception location, dress code and website"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- What are wedding details cards?\n- The anatomy of wedding details cards in wedding invitations\n- Get the perfect wedding enclosure cards with Zola","body":"[Wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) includes a lot of details. Between your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues), directions to the reception, dress codes, and any arranged transportation, there's no shortage of items to consider. Naturally, it's important to communicate those details to your guests clearly, cue wedding details cards.\n\nWhat is a wedding details card? Think of it as the document that includes the info that doesn't fit on your actual invite. Others call wedding details cards enclosure cards or wedding invitation inserts. However you refer to them, these cards are the CliffsNotes of wedding specifics for your guests. \n\n## What are wedding details cards? \n\n[Wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) are more than an elegant design and the date of your nuptials. Wedding details cards, sometimes called wedding enclosure cards, include the information that doesn't fit on the invite or [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). They give guests a high-level overview of the wedding and the most important pieces of wedding information—aside from the wedding date, of course!\n\nWedding details cards give guests a fuller picture of your special day and keep them informed of what they should know, such as dress code and directions. Wedding details cards match the style and aesthetic of each couple's [wedding invitation suites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), which typically include your save the dates, RSVP cards, return envelopes, and postage.\n\nSome couples have plenty of details for wedding invitations—more common with multi-day events or destination weddings—so they need additional pieces of stationery to get the appropriate details across. When it comes time to [stuff your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), you may include reception cards, weekend events cards, and accommodation cards. If you have important info to share but don't need to send out several items, a wedding details card may be perfect for you. Just make sure you don't cram everything on one piece of wedding stationery—that's what a wedding website is for.\n\nWhoever is invited to your big day should get a wedding details card. After you send out your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), your formal wedding invitations should be mailed to your guest list about [three to six months before your wedding date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations). If you're having a destination event, send out your wedding invites earlier so guests can make travel plans, and aim for six to nine months out.\n\n## The anatomy of wedding details cards in wedding invitations \n\nDon't let the little things slip through the cracks! Dive into the critical details for your guests on carefully thought-out wedding details cards. Include information that provides the \"where,\" \"when,\" \"how,\" and \"what\" for your big day. For example, make sure to include cards for:\n\n- Accommodation details\n- Transportation information (Is a party bus driving guests to and from venues?)\n- Directions and/or a map\n- Dress code information and details to keep in mind\n- Wedding website URL\n\nIf you're having a destination wedding or a multi-day affair, wedding details cards might be the place to share those extra details. Think of them as a simplified weekend itinerary document that gives guests an overview. For example, Friday night is the cocktail reception, Saturday is the wedding, and Sunday morning is brunch. There are fun and creative ways to convey this information—including small graphics—to guests.\n\nIf you're having multiple events that entail more details than a simple date, time, and location, you might opt for multiple wedding invitation enclosures with your custom wedding invitations. As a reminder, enclosure cards contain various pieces of wedding information, including itinerary or special accommodation information. For instance, if you're having a specific event that has its own set of details and a different location, you might find it easier to include a card just for that event. A week-long wedding trip with [special cultural considerations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-enclosure-card-ideas#why) or a multicultural wedding that entails two ceremonies should have all this information on wedding details cards.\n\nOf course, some couples decide to do [digital wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-digital-wedding-invitations). If you choose to go this route, you don't need to worry about sending out wedding details cards in the mail. However, you should still include all the key information you would have on a physical wedding invite. No matter the medium, the message has to land. Check out our guide on [wedding invitation etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola) for more help!\n\n### Accommodations details card\nEnsuring your guests are well taken care of is a top priority when planning your big day. As such, the accommodation details on your wedding information card should be precise. Offer multiple lodging options, from cozy inns to convenient hotels, to cater to different preferences and budgets. Be sure to provide clear contact information for each accommodation choice and any booking codes or special arrangements you've made for your guests. Adding these thoughtful touches to your wedding details card helps guests navigate their stay and contributes to seamless and enjoyable wedding celebrations for everyone involved.\n\n### Directions details card\nHelp your guests make the physical journey to your wedding celebration by adding a friendly directions section to the details card. Include clear instructions between relevant locations, like the ceremony venue or shuttle pick-up points, and consider adding visual aids to the card design, like simple maps or landmarks, to make it foolproof. Remember to mention any parking information or alternative transportation options! Your goal is to make transportation as smooth as possible so your loved ones arrive to celebrate your special moment stress-free.\n\n### Reception insert card\nGet your guests ready to party with a dedicated reception details card. Share the venue address, start time, and any specific instructions for parking or entrance. Remember to include a gentle reminder on your details card wedding invitation to RSVP and submit meal preferences, if needed, so you can plan accordingly.\n\n### Itinerary details card\nStart by outlining the key events, from the \"I dos\" and dance floor shenanigans to dinner service and bidding the happy couple farewell. Include timings, locations, and special notes to keep the party flowing smoothly. Give your guests a foolproof roadmap to your carefully curated celebration.\n\n### Wedding details card wording and etiquette\nUnsure [how to word wedding details cards?](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-enclosure-card-wording) Start with the basics: clearly state each event's date, time, and location. Make it personal by infusing your unique style, whether it's a classic and formal event or a laid-back and rustic wedding. Remember, brevity is your best friend—keep it concise while ensuring all the essential information is there. Lastly, don't forget to proofread; you want your cards to be as flawless as your love story. \n\n### Wedding details card vs. wedding websites\nThese days, it's common for guests to have access to a handy [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) in addition to a physical wedding details card. Wedding websites are a great way to keep guests informed of the latest info and keep all the wedding invite details in one secure spot. [Wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) also allow guests to access essential information from anywhere, meaning that if they don't have their physical invite handy, they will still know the address of the reception.\n\nThe main difference between wedding details cards and a wedding website is that a website is virtual and can include much more information, such as the story of how you and your partner met, activities to do near your wedding venue, and links to your wedding registry. The decision boils down to personal preference and the vibe you want for your big day. Whether you go traditional or tech-forward, make sure it reflects the unique character of your love story!\n\n## Get the perfect wedding enclosure cards with Zola \n\nLet your wedding details cards give your guests a sneak peek of the incredible festivities you have planned, tying together the love and special moments that will make your wedding day unforgettable.\n\nPerfecting your cards is a breeze with Zola by your side. Whether you call them detail cards or [wedding invitation enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop), they're one and the same—vital pieces of the wedding puzzle. With Zola's user-friendly tools and wedding details card examples, you can effortlessly __craft beautiful, informative wedding details cards__ to help you and your guests get the most out of this special day. Let's dive in and create those wedding details cards that will have everyone saying, \"They've got it all figured out!\"","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. ","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Escort cards take the place of a well-heeled usher and guide your guests to their tables. 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Check out the most popular wedding invitation themes at Zola today.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-10-12T04:09:20.972Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1KZJcco4sxjyc3ykwqhwHl/9f6aac5305260a00c5cd2323bcf8445f/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"invite on table"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Invitations are a wonderful and beautiful tool that every couple can utilize for their wedding day. In addition to the [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) cards, wedding invitations give your wedding guests a brief insight into the ceremony and celebration to come (and we don’t just mean the logistics). Particularly, the invitation design can speak to wedding details, such as location, venue, colors, and even your wedding flowers. \n\nLooking for new wedding invitation card ideas? Our Zola experts can help. At Zola, we offer a number of unique wedding invitation templates so that you can create your perfect invitation suite with ease. Whether you have a themed wedding or are looking for the perfect invite that highlights a fall color palette, our selection of stationery offers something for everyone. Below are some of our favorite wedding invitation styles for any special occasion.\n\n## 1. Beach\n\n![Most Popular Wedding Invitation Themes ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6lUnUUqx30WDUvFhxzHIed/df30dee95e21ec5648078d99fd0b6d6a/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nIf you’re having a destination wedding, getting married at sea, or tying the knot at a local beach, there’s something calming and symbolic about taking beachy elements and incorporating them into your invitations. Whether you feature [iconic anchor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/da5a4b8a-b443-4865-8d14-ab7514a1f0d8) imagery or use [fanned palm tree leaves](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d9ed95e5-9eba-4266-aa0c-d613eeb6eef6), guests will immediately drift their minds into a state of paradise upon opening your [destination wedding save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/destination) and invite.\n\n## 2. Bohemian \nBetween beloved plant parents or die-hard Wes Anderson fans, boho-chic and bohemian vibes have made their way into the wedding scene—including [boho wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/bohemian)—over the last several years. Inspire guests to add elements of quirk into their party ensemble by alluding to a bohemian occasion, whether through [boho save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/bohemian) designed with [paint strokes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/99730f57-b8f3-4e7b-a19f-d0efa6938fb0), or invitations layered with [succulents](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c1d2a5f0-ba1d-4d47-ac26-abc795a59fd8)—it will surely be an iconic piece of stationery that stands apart. \n\n## 3. Botanical\nSpeaking of proud plant parents, if you and your partner can be found patio planting on the weekends, an invitation fitting a botanical theme is perfect for you. Many couples choose to decorate their ceremony or reception venues by incorporating many elements of greenery, making it both cost effective and charming. Thankfully, wedding invitation designs took note. Between traditional [leaf prints](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/9832f38c-63f8-4aae-b5c4-e05b82a42ff8) or [eucalyptus branches](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/5d17b42c-508f-480e-948d-30689b9cf460), there are many fun and whimsical designs to choose from when crafting your [greenery save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/greenery) and invitation suite. \n\n## 4. Classic\nFor those couples who have dreamt about a classical wedding day, it’s only fitting to have invitations to match. From [script lettering and monograms](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/73661ad1-7785-4eeb-a788-a882300ccf1b), to [clean lines and crisp font](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a773c7b2-13cc-477a-b112-bc5e179dd38a), there’s no shortage of lovely, [classic save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/classic) and invitation designs to choose from for your wedding day.\n\n## 5. Cultural\nElements of a couple’s particular family history or culture are huge components when it comes to wedding planning, and the invitation themes are no different. Whether you’re embracing Mexican culture with a nod to [Dia de los Muertos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/65429267-29dd-443e-bfb0-67c8b88f902f), or having a multi-day iconic [Indian wedding](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/13b26069-5554-4a94-92f3-aaf6ac03a016), creating a wedding invitation with familiar themes will inform guests of the cultural celebration beforehand. \n\n## 6. Destination\nWith family and friends scattered all throughout the country (and the world), it seems like a large percentage of couples are opting for a destination wedding. Helping to set the stage for the fantastic, location-themed event ahead, embrace a destination-inspired invitation. From a particular [city skyline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/5a272878-0710-43d7-9878-8472ab595e78), to a romantic beach setting with [palm tree fronds](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/76ea90df-0a73-4534-8aa8-bb7687d543c0), there’s a matching invitation that will reflect your destination perfectly. \n\n## 7. Elegant\nJust like classic, but with elements of pizzaz, embracing a timeless theme for an [elegant save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/elegant) and wedding invitation will inform guests of the wedding celebration’s fancy ambiance. Whether showcasing [light strings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7f2f23df-7fe9-4496-b07e-b0a92fde4ec4) or signature [cursive font](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/80caad96-3ed7-446a-b0c7-a4f95580efce), the theme of black-tie optional will not be forgotten. \n\n## 8. Floral\nWhether they’re lining the aisle, stationed as beautiful table centerpieces, or held in the bride’s arms in the form of a gorgeous bouquet, flowers play a very important part in most wedding celebrations. Whether the couple prefers [roses](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/16206eb0-4ee0-4eaa-8d03-04ae85c7230c), [sunflowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/459d45ad-81b5-4546-bebf-849c42308804), or a field of [wildflowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ecda0876-392c-4f82-a312-8724116d48f3), there’s a matching invitation for every floral fan. \n\n## 9. Illustrated\nElements of graphic design have sparked creativity when it comes to wedding invitation themes and designs. Incorporating illustrations into your stationery can create nods to many different outlets. Whether you’re looking to incorporate earthy elements, such as [ivy wreaths](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/2ed3d7b2-7336-4f0a-8c2c-7d7a7872c5fc) or [drawn landscapes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de), to personalized touches, such as your wedding venue or house pet, utilizing illustrations can broaden your wish list when crafting your invitation. \n\n## 10. Minimalist \nThe minimalist movement has not only made its way into our homes, but our weddings, too. Incorporating the theme of ‘less is more’ speaks wonders on wedding invitations, as it allows elements like [typography](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8653415a-8661-4643-922b-ab46479d8519) or [geometry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/b014300b-0fbf-4f86-972c-fd4d75b44d35) to do all the talking. Well, those design elements and the logistics, of course.\n\n## 11. Modern\nModern movement is a strong theme on the wedding front. Incorporating styling from areas such as [modern art](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/23e419b3-2e67-44d9-aee7-9af45c6e6e36), design, and architecture, this particular wedding theme has been popular throughout the last decade. Details such as [gold foil](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/643bcef2-e497-4759-aaeb-4e8f56a35f1f) and paint splatter give an artistic twist to [modern save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/modern) and wedding invitations. \n\n## 12. Romantic\nWhat could be more romantic than a wedding day? (Well, maybe the honeymoon!) Remind guests of your undying love by adding romantic notions to your wedding day invitation. Designs such as [a perfect night sky](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/68743414-a3e9-4878-a04d-d72dfb90959e) or an [old Hollywood](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/1404945a-5ee6-4b13-9adf-9d8afcc9ed93) backdrop are just two examples of using romantic displays to set the stage for your wonderful evening. \n\n## 13. Rustic\nOutdoor and iconic barnyard weddings have become a traditional staple in the selection of wedding themes. As venues such as national parks and vineyards are rising in popularity for wedding bookings, the theme has escalated. It’s only fitting that when you’re having such a specialized niche wedding, that a perfecting invitation follows suits. [Rustic save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/rustic) and invitation designs such as [forests](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/5074f429-4c9b-47a1-ae96-6acc23d4dfb5) or [detailed tree prints](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f536b4da-baee-44ba-9a33-f45d493187fd) are wonderful ways to stay on theme. \n\n## 14. Seasonal\nHaving a springtime wedding? Or, maybe you’re exchanging ‘I dos’ during the winter holidays? Either way, these moments and memories are signature times of year that can be capitalized on in the best way. As your save the dates may have given guests the date to block off their calendars, invitations speaking to this particular time of year will help bring the celebration alive for each and every one of your guests. Whether [fall foliage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/1c57c3d4-d721-4108-a01c-fd4c14f33114) or [spring wreaths](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ca427170-b9a8-4198-a611-36b26f171ce5) are featured, you can’t go wrong by pairing your wedding day with it’s particular season. \n\n## 15. Vintage\n\n![Most Popular Wedding Invitation Themes ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ECnBs5hTP7ttRf14W7SNY/1c8526d237b97b5d4c2a65ffb976b8a8/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nAs opposed to incorporating a small token of ‘something borrowed’ into your wedding day, make it the entire event. Like the bohemian theme, vintage themes are a hit in the modern wedding world. Saving on elements of costs, and incorporating unique creativity, this theme has so many invitation designs to help bring the idea of vintage to life, between [vintage looking posters](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/735a5234-edfb-4ca3-bad6-993a8cbc5fee) and nods to days at [summer camp](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/2c69e92a-707d-4b27-93ed-e951683f0453), couples have so much fun deciding on which direction to go when choosing their [vintage wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/vintage) and stationery. \n\n## 16. Watercolor\nFrom tattoos to branding, and now weddings, the watercolor theme has made quite the splash (a colorful splash). Couples can embrace [watercolor wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/watercolor) designs through [patterns](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c074efc5-b21d-47e8-971e-78f1f4360442) or individualized [strokes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d0be3a52-ce83-4181-8a4a-b5dd0470dd6d). Colors can also add unique elements to the overall themes, as personalized wedding colors can create an invitation unique to you and your partner. \n\n## 17. Whimsical\nIf there’s ever a time to have fun, it’s your wedding day. Send guests [gold foil polka](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a2f6d9d1-5bb5-425c-a6ed-ffe7a5e5eeab) dot invitations, because why not?! If you and your partner are the life of the party, embrace the whimsy in your wedding invitation theme by opting for fun stationery pieces.\n\nWhile wedding themes and invitations are extremely personal, it’s important to incorporate your own elements into the mix. While popular themes can inspire and help you and your partner navigate the stationery world, it’s important to shop around and pick a theme or invitation design that is meaningful and special to you. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:45.871Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"funny-wedding-invitation-ideas-to-make-your-guests-lol","title":"Funny Wedding Invitation Ideas to Make Your Guests LOL","excerpt":"Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? Here are our top ideas.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-12-08T19:00:20.296Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vq435VOvdRM2C45D42ESH/955c904cbab95857c74a9c113459d163/hero_Stocksy.jpg","altText":"funny wedding invitations"},"heroCredit":"Stocksy","body":"We’re all for elegant, sophisticated, and timeless wedding invitations. There’s something so special when a guest opens up a foil-lined envelope and beholds a beautiful wedding card in their hands.\n\nBut, what about funny wedding invitations? Today, couples are getting bolder with their wedding invitations. What used to be unheard of in terms of “[wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests/gift-etiquette)” is being turned on its head (and to tell you the truth, it’s really fun).\n\nWe gathered up some of the silliest wedding invites that we could find. Whether it’s a post-elopement party or a backyard boogie that you’re hosting, pair it with one of these funny wedding invitations to give your guests a chortle.\n\n## Love Truly, Drink Slowly, and Dance Badly\nFor those searching for funny wedding invitations that start slow then pack a punch, take a peek at [this wedding invite](https://www.canva.com/templates/EADaoWuGagE-dark-blue-and-pale-pink-funny-wedding-invitation/?irgwc=1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=Skimbit%20Ltd.&clickId=Ry0yjhS:nxyOUYgwUx0Mo36AUkiSTa0NyX5P1I0). Love truly, drink slowly, and dance badly sounds slightly like a wedding saying you’ve heard before. But, upon closer examination, you find that the sentiment is actually silly. Ideal for those couples who are ready for a raucous good time on their wedding, this funny save the date and [wedding invitation style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pretty-wedding-invitation-styles) is sure to sneak a smile from even the most discerning of wedding guests. \n\n### Free Cake, Open Bar \nIf you’re a culinary and beverage-minded bride or groom, this [Free Cake, Open Bar](https://www.minted.com/product/save-the-date-postcards/MIN-ZYU-SPC/the-perks?color=A&custom_foil=unselected&form_factor=postcard&format=flat+card&paper=Signature&quantity=25&shape=default&pid=319264&utm_source=shareasale&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_sub=319264&sscid=91k4_of1uw) invite will be the frosting on top of the cake (or shall we say, the olive on top of the martini). Keep things simple and fun with free cake, open bar invites. Because truly—need you say more? As it turns out, many of the best wedding stories do involve an open bar and, of course, endless amounts of deliciously good cake.\n\n### The Love Story\nOne of the best parts of a wedding is the love story. It’s the coffee shop where you first saw one another, the college literature class that you shared, or the coworker who introduced you at a company function. So, why not share your love story—however silly it may be—with your guests? In [this fun card](https://www.onewed.com/photos/funny-wedding-invitations-love-story-infographic-1-91421/), Jill and Matt told their story through their wedding invitation. They met at work, got along okay, had lunch, an after-work beer, and then eventually became friends. \n\nOne thing led to the next, the office cut their jobs, then she asked him out (and so on). If you want to set the tone for your casually fun wedding, funny wedding invitations such as this one, allow you to do just that. \n\n### You Can’t Come to Our Wedding\nFor those of you who plan to elope or already have, congrats. An elopement shared between two people is a special and ceremonious occasion. Thankfully, after you’ve shared your “I dos” you can still have a big celebratory bash with your loved ones. If you’re looking for a silly card to announce your elopement—and the celebration that’s about to ensue, one option is to go for a card that reads, “[You Can’t Come to Our Wedding](https://www.etsy.com/listing/242987729/printable-elopement-reception-invitation?).” Although the joke may at first raise some curiosity among your invitees, the details that follow will inform your party guests of the upcoming post-wedding gathering.\n\n### For Richer or Poorer\nFor couples with a good sense of humor, this [For Richer or Poorer wedding invite](https://www.etsy.com/nz/listing/496093610/for-richer-or-poorer-funny-wedding-card) is perfect. If you’re going to share the promise in your vows, why not first do it in card-form? Funny [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) can take on all sorts of personalities. We love the hand-drawn illustration on this card, and can totally see it transformed into a wedding invite with just a few simple details. \n\n![Funny Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1A2bctlLwcZPXaMM7B5niL/d1c88542a483fd22d51fbdc6c56f7ce4/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Free Beer and a Wedding\nIf you’ll be cracking a few cold ones on the wedding day, nothing sets the tone like this [Free Beer and a Wedding](https://www.etsy.com/listing/676816170/free-beer-funny-save-the-date-card?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=free+beer+invitation&ref=sr_gallery-1-5) card. Lots of funny wedding invitations feature food and drink jokes (along with dancing jokes), as those tend to be three of the main components of a wedding. We like how this invitation wording is fun, yet it still maintains a romantic component with the hearts and swirly font. The simplicity of the icons is cute, and if you go with this instant invite, you can download your files as soon as the payment is confirmed.\n\n### Nothing Fancy Just Love\nNot every funny wedding invitation has to be laugh-out-loud humorous. You can go for a charming-meets-funny invite, too, such as [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/526027457/elopement-reception-party-invitations) that reads “Nothing Fancy Just Love”. We love the casual invitation wording that the artist created, and appreciate the simple design of greenery and black font. As a bonus, you can personalize the back of the card by adding a picture or additional paragraph. \n\n### Personalized Caricature\nTypically, when a caricature is created, it exaggerates the features of its subject. It’s one of the best ideas for funny wedding invitations because a caricature, by nature, is meant to be comical. Plus, your guests will love seeing you and your spouse-to-be in cartoons. This [caricature wedding invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/202136187/custom-personalized-wedding-cartoon?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cartoon+wedding+invitation&ref=sc_gallery-1-5&plkey=ef23c055ee94f538a1dbe669ea5404d19ef923e5:202136187) is highly detailed and represents some fun characteristics of the bride, groom, and their relationship. This particular artist also does [save-the-dates](https://www.etsy.com/listing/202136187/custom-personalized-wedding-cartoon?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=cartoon+wedding+invitation&ref=sc_gallery-1-5&plkey=ef23c055ee94f538a1dbe669ea5404d19ef923e5:202136187), which is another fun route to go.\n\n### Game Over\nFor any gamers in the crowd, this Game Over card is sure to steal your heart when it comes to funny wedding invitations. Of course, we know the game of love isn’t anywhere near over for you and your partner, but this unique card is a humorous way of announcing the big day. This graphic design element shows a bride and groom, but you can also find the same theme with customizable spouses, such as [this groom and groom version](https://www.zazzle.com/game_over_marriage_homosexual-161874101186712980).\n\n### We’re Having an Open Bar\nFor the open bar parties—with a side of a wedding—this [We’re Having an Open Bar](https://www.etsy.com/listing/776424759/were-having-an-open-bar-funny-save-the?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=funny+wedding+invites&ref=sr_gallery-1-25&organic_search_click=1&pro=1&frs=1) wedding save-the-date is ideal. You can use this same idea, but add more details if you’re looking for a full and funny wedding invitation. Better yet, enlist the help of an artistic family member or friend to jazz up the black front with some cute, original doodles. One thing is for sure, along with a funny invite, you’ll have an invite that’s entirely your own.\n\n### Old School Invites\nOne of the best ideas for funny wedding invitations is to throw it back to yesteryear. Give your guests a good giggle with an [old school invite](https://www.etsy.com/listing/203326417/throwback-save-the-date-handmade-save?) that features photos of the two of you as kids. These particular cards are handmade using cardstock and baker’s twice, which gives them an instant vintage flair. Pair this wedding invitation with some vintage stamps to complete the theme, then send, sit back, and relax as guests' compliments start pouring in. \n\n![Funny Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OfSoDttvn7QodoUQ26lke/0c337a96b8e8cdfc5bad7e14e6c8c885/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## Other Ways to Add Humor to Your Wedding\nFunny wedding invitations aren’t the only way to add humor to your wedding. Here are some other ways to give your guests a good belly laugh on your wedding day.\n\n### Interactive Trivia\nHow would your guests react to a silly game of interactive trivia? Perhaps someone in the crowd knows which partner got the chickenpox first. Another guest may know the exact spot that the two of you shared your first kiss. Get the crowd roaring with an easy-to-put-together game, complete with prizes for the winning answers.\n\n### Throw in a Joke During the Vows\nWe know that there’s a fine line between a joke going right and wrong. If you’re going to add a joke, make sure that it’s something guests will understand or, at least, something they’ll get a laugh out of. This is a fun way to break the ice after people have been on the road and are settling into the fun of the celebration.\n\n### A Silly Dance\nA couple’s dance—or a family dance—is a great way to get your wedding guests chuckling. Sure, the scene from “Dirty Dancing” has been done a few times, but is there anyone who can pull it off better than you and your future husband or wife? We think not.\n\n### Flower Girl Grandmas\nA little bit quirky, and a whole lot charming, one of the best ideas for a wedding might just be flower girl grandmas. Enlist the help of both sides' grandmas and watch the guests instantly swoon over the fun.\n\n### Childhood Photos \nScattering childhood photos throughout your venue is not only hilarious, but it’s a fantastic ice breaker. Guests will love seeing photos of you together as a couple, but start from way back when, and give them an assortment of childhood photos, too. Put them up in the bar, the bathroom, or at the tables—the choice is yours.\n\nFrom busting out some dance moves to sending out funny wedding invitations, adding humor to your wedding can be a whole lot of fun. And, the good news is, however you do it, it will get your guests laughing and (most importantly) keep them happy.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"One of the best parts of creating your dream wedding invitation is choosing the perfect wedding invitation font. Read on for the top 25 fonts!\n","title":"25 Gorgeous Wedding Invitation Fonts You’ll Want To Use","slug":"wedding-invitation-fonts","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4sDzUU7RWj4mpkoMayRJmm/e49b52516dbd527bd5b2619d19299678/Hero_1_Wedding_Invite_unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation fonts"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between wedding invitations and reception invitations? And when do you send one, the other, or both? Here's everything you need to know.","title":"A Complete Guide to Wedding Reception Invitation Wording","slug":"wedding-reception-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59M7uIwrTn634jZVUTtGcm/78cebaf260226c964b9ac50587cffdf1/Hero_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation suite"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"If you want to DIY your wedding invitations, that's great. There are just a few things you want to consider. Here are tips and tricks for DIY-ing your invites.","title":"How to Make DIY Wedding Invitations","slug":"should-you-try-diy-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Y4gSo5KUs54PQRmPVI1FR/854ead723f06406c3814cde1fe58ce70/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"diy wedding invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding invitation templates are gorgeous ways to go about designing your wedding paper suite. Here's how to select and customize a wedding invitation template.","title":"Should We Use a Wedding Invitation Template?","slug":"should-we-use-a-wedding-invitation-template","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3vfzVCkzz5XtARvSqYgnSu/d38c1fa88ea2ef6a313fcefaae28c5ae/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"zola invitation suite"},"type":"articlePage"}],"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:45.139Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitation-paper-options","title":"Wedding Invitation Paper Options","excerpt":"With so many options to choose from, it can be difficult to know which wedding invitation paper is best. Learn about the differences from our experts today.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-10-27T15:42:02.288Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ERLxIWbH4p8GhS87Hi6B9/1afacb0e21692c5923578bd742670206/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"different types of wedding invitation paper"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nUnless you’re particularly crafty, you probably aren’t aware of the different wedding invitation paper options available to you. Like the design of your paper suite, the actual paper stationery it’s printed on can add to the look and feel of your wedding. When going through your [wedding invitation checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist), one of the first decisions that you’ll have to make is the type of paper you’ll use. Make a lasting impression with wedding stationery that elevates what you’re mailing out—from [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) to invitations and [enclosures](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-invitation-enclosure-cards). Read on for eight types of [wedding invitation paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-checklist) and how they can be best used. Then, [order right here at Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Elevate your invitations with the perfect paper style.\n\n### Smooth\nAs one of the most common types of paper for a wedding invitation, this wedding stationery has a smooth, clean finish, hence its name. It's thin and modern, with a hint of sheen, making it ideal for designs that feature photos (giving you an excuse to share more stunning shots from your engagement session). Even if you decide not to spotlight a photo, the same subtle luster lends itself to graphic designs and bold, beautiful fonts.\n\n### Eggshell\nBoth delicate and durable, eggshell paper is reminiscent of watercolor paper. On the thin side, it possesses subtle texture and a matte finish. Read: No shimmer. However, that doesn't mean that it doesn't contribute to a gorgeous presentation. Eggshell paper shines when it comes to making colors appear more rich and intense, adding dimension overall. If your ideal design includes touches of vibrant or deep color, this paper type is one to consider.\n\n### Recycled\n\n![Wedding Invitation Paper Options](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43w0nxDBbsfikyVwXV1YrZ/13b6bce43f4284a3e381296204ca8a16/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nWe’re big fans of [eco-friendly wedding ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/eco-friendly-registry-picks). This easily lends itself to stationary with recycled paper. Zola's recycled card stock, specifically, is a carbon-neutral paper 100 percent made with wind power. It has visible fibers and a subtle fabric-like texture, making it soft to the touch. Although it's slightly thicker than our smooth paper, it's surprisingly lightweight. Appearance-wise, this paper type is great for the ever-popular [rustic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) theme. Really, though, it's just as suitable for any style of wedding looking to be a bit more eco-conscious.\n\n### Pearlescent\nOn the other hand, we have pearlescent paper. Unlike eggshell or recycled, this card stock is smooth to touch. Its glossy surface appears iridescent, lending a shimmering affect to both sides. With just a touch of sparkle, it's eye-catching and glamorous—perfect for a sophisticated paper wedding suite. Note that, like all glossy card stock, it isn't highly absorbent. This isn't important though, so long as you don't plan on painting or adding illustrations on top.\n\n### Linen\n\n![Wedding Invitation Paper Options](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7doWvnQK0WGES3xK8Q5VC8/76bb2d1aeaee380010b135c25cd1c75e/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nLinen paper is meant to give the appearance of—you guessed it—linen fabric. This [wedding invitation trend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) elevates the traditional wedding suite. The paper has a similar crosshatch (or basket weave) pattern, closely resembling the woven material. This gives it a nice texture, while also providing some more visual interest to your wedding stationery. Despite its name, don't expect linen card stock to be overly soft or flimsy. Slightly thicker than eggshell, it's on the thinner side, while still being durable. Intricate designs, such as illustrations, florals, and elaborate framing, look beautiful on linen, but ultimately it can elevate any classic or rustic design.\n\n### Felt\nIf a high-texture experience is what you're after, look into felt. This isn't the wool-like textile you crafted with as a kid, rather, it's a thick card stock reminiscent of watercolor paper. Texture-wise, it's somewhere between canvas and cotton, course and smooth. This middle ground gives it a velvety feel, similar to that of felt fabric. Since felt paper is comparable to watercolor paper, it's ideal for wedding suites with watercolor details or similar painterly designs.\n\n### Double Thick\nAs implied by the name, double thick card stock is twice as thick as standard card stock. Think the same weight and feel as a sturdy postcard, with the same smooth texture. This is done by printing your design on a single thick card stock, then mounting it to another piece. The result is a premium invitation with the weight of letterpress or thermography, while still being able to be designed digitally.\n\nThat being said, it's your best option for invitations or cards that don't require an envelope (like save the dates, which often aren't sent with anything else). It's also ideal if you do plan on letterpressing or using embellishments. The deep impressions you can make in this paper create a classic appearance that every guest will notice. Moreover, it's durable without being too cumbersome or heavy.\n\n### Triple Thick\nSensing a trend? Triple thick card stock has the same smooth surface and premium feel as the above, only it's extra thick. To get an idea, imagine (or reach for) the cover of a classic hardcover notebook. Cards printed on triple thick are the most durable and long lasting, meant to be proudly displayed for years to come.\n\nPro tip: If you’re looking to [save money on your wedding stationery](https://www.loveandlavender.com/tips-save-money-wedding-stationery/), purchase different paper weights. Your invitation, for example, can be triple thick. It's arguably the most important element and the one you’ll hold onto the longest. Meanwhile, the rest of your enclosure cards can be printed on a thinner paper. You'll make a great impression, save money, and still be able to fit everything into a single envelope.\n\nWhile cardstock may seem like a small detail, it largely adds to the experience—and, in some cases, longevity—of your wedding invitations. Consider your [wedding style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style) and paper suite designs when it comes down to deciding.\n\nNeed a quick sheet to reference when ordering invites? [Right this way.](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/360038232032 \"What paper types does Zola offer?\") \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:44.434Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"winter-wedding-invitation-ideas","title":"5 Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas","excerpt":"With our unique and stylish winter wedding invitation ideas, your guests will be counting the days to your seasonal celebration.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T05:59:13.938Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/iG1Y3o0OsmFhoIXKs6StD/4e761ec68dc2485ed98f992c08f8a781/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Winter Wedding Invitation Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Winter weddings don’t mean just one style—from minimal elegance to lush romance, there’s a seasonal invitation design to reflect your taste. \n- For such a unique wedding season so close to the new year, try out-of-the-box ideas. Creative cutouts, side panels, and non-paper materials all enhance an invitation.\n- Bring winter’s color palette to your invitations; deep reds and greenery, metallics, whites, and earthy tones all reflect the season’s natural beauty and traditions.\n- Elevate your winter wedding invitations suite with letterpress printing, gold foil, and gift-wrapping elements all fit this cheery time of year.","body":"If hosting a wedding during the colder months, give your guests a seasonal preview with a fitting invitation design. From gold embellishments to evergreen borders, Zola can help you create your perfect winter wedding invitation as well as thank you cards.\n\n## Pick a Seasonally Unique Layout \n\n### Cutouts and Beveling \nTime to get creative with the scissors. Paper cutouts and shaping add dimension and modern flair to elegant [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/wedding-invitations). Start with these options for an invitation that’s a cut above the rest:\n\n- __Single Layer:__ One-layer cutouts simply carve out designs right onto the invitation (anything from snowflake wedding invitations to leaf patterns). The card material should be sturdy enough.\n\n- __Overlays:__ Like two sheets stacked, overlay cutout designs have a (usually thinner) top paper layer that’s cut in patterns to reveal the bottom paper layer.\n\n- __Side panels:__ Add patterned cutout side panels to your card. Guests will love opening the panels like double doors as they unwrap your invitation. \n\n- __Decorative edges:__ Deckled (or purposefully torn) edges give a rustic feel. On the opposite end, a detailed lace cutout edge would match any romantic or classic setting.\n\n### Folds and Construction\nFor a wedding invitation that truly stands out, step away from the traditional rectangle. If you want to shake things up, pick from these winter wedding invitation constructions:\n\n- __Gate-fold:__ Like French doors opening to a balcony, a gate-fold instantly adds elegance and luxury to your invitation. The side panels on this design also provide room for extra writing or folder pockets that hold RSVP cards.\n\n- __Tri-folds:__ With its pamphlet-like design, tri-fold invitations best fit casual celebrations or hosts who need to share a large amount of information. Sometimes couples will make one-fold a tearaway section, so that guests can easily return an RSVP or other response.\n\n- __Non-rectangle shapes:__ Love a single-surface card, but don’t care for parallelograms? Get creative and pick a different cookie cutter. Circles, triangles, and even petals are all uniquely fun shapes for __[wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__.\n\n### Card Materials\nFor many guests, holding and feeling a physical card adds to the experience. If standard cardstock sounds like a bore, upgrade your invitation with these unique materials:\n\n- __Velvet:__ The second your guests feel this luxurious fabric, they’ll be transported to a cozy winter paradise. Stick with minimalist fonts and decor for the rest of your invitation.\n\n- __Wood:__ For __[wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)__ like ski lodges, log cabins, or heated farmhouses, carved wood invitations could fit the outdoorsy, rustic setting.\n\n- __Parchment:__ With their homey yet elegant feel, parchment [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) have a warm quality to them and are a subtle elevation from cardstock.\n\n- __Transparent:__ Give guests a taste of the chic celebration in their futures. Typically made with acrylic material, the sleek design of these clear cards reflects icicles.\n\n- __Plant-seed paper:__ Give your guests the gift of life with invitations on seed paper. Just plant the paper in fertile soil (after RSVPing, of course), and they’ll have a new sprout that will remind them of your upcoming celebration.\n\n## Know Your Winter Color Palette \nGive your invitation the rich palette of winter. Here are some seasonally appropriate duos for your winter-themed wedding invitation, that can also be used for your bridal shower invitations:\n\n- Emerald and dark navy blue\n- White and cloudy grey\n- Green and berry red\n- Cream and sparkly gold\n- Muted pink and red\n- All white\n- Maroon and deep gold\n- Dove grey and dusty blue\n- Red and ivory\n\n## Incorporate Winter’s Natural Beauty \n\n### Snow\nFresh and sparkling white, there’s just something magical about winter snow. Sprinkle a few snowflake designs (or even snowflake-shaped confetti) on your invitations, and guests will sense the wedding magic to come.\n\n### Botanicals\nWhether through watercolor, print, or painting, incorporate these wintery plants in your wedding details for a natural beauty boost:\n\n- __Evergreen trees:__ To keep evergreen touches from feeling too Christmas-like (unless that’s the goal), stick with simple illustrations of full trees rather than a Christmas wedding card feel. \n\n- __Holly berries:__ That distinctive pop of red will immediately catch your guests’ attention. Set holly branches along the corners or borders of your invitation to frame your writing in festive style.\n\n- __Branches:__ For a subtle taste of nature, muted leafless branches create an elegant backdrop on any winter invite. And to underline headlines or provide a lush border, evergreen branches or wreaths will do the trick.\n\n- __Florals:__ Winter has its own unique flowers—poinsettias, snowdrops, pieris, winterberry, and mahonia all thrive in the season. No matter the time of year, florals always add a romantic and fresh touch so consider floral wedding invitations.\n\n### Seasonal Photographs \nIs your __[wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning)__ well ahead of schedule? Consider taking advantage of winter’s beauty for a different event—invitation photos. A romantic and on-theme couples photo can give your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pretty-wedding-invitation-styles) the ultimate personal touch. \n\n### Lights\nTwinkling lights add sparkle to winter’s darkest nights. Guests will feel lit from within after seeing these glowing design elements:\n\nFor a spark of warmth, channel this seasonal staple into your winter wedding invitations. Guests will feel lit from within after seeing these glowing design elements:\n\n- __Fairy Lights Border:__ Frame a portrait layout in style with an illustrated border of fairy lights. Bonus points for designs with metallic foil that catch the light.\n\n- __Swooping Strands:__ Artful sketches of swooping light strands provide an inviting glow, as if the card were set under a beautiful banquet hall ceiling. \n\n- __Lantern Illustrations:__ Use muted hanging lanterns as a subtle backdrop or place an eye-catching watercolor lantern in the bottom corner.\n\n## Embellishments \nA wedding invitation is more than a time, a date, and a request to RSVP. It’s a beautiful and personalized welcome to celebrate your love—that’s why the details and decor matter. For a seasonal preview of your style, consider these flairs for your winter wedding invites.\n\n### Foil\nLike tinsel on the tree, foil lends an eye-catching sparkle to winter wedding invites. With foil, there’s one long-standing rule: less is more. Stick with one or two metallic elements, such as:\n\n- Typography/Calligraphy\n- Decorative patterns\n- Borders\n- Stencil designs (snowflakes, trees, etc.)\n\n### Letterpress Printing\nCalling those with a taste for the classic, the academic, the elegant—letterpress printing might be your ultimate winter invitation design. Need an example? Check out our __[Kalispell Framed Letterpress](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/72f14b95-00a2-436f-8f82-383d29c84381)__ invitation for minimalist botanicals and muted blue typography.\n\n### Gift Wrapping Touches\nFor a brush of wintery magic, packaging and gift-wrapping elements add unmistakable charm. Your guests will feel like they’re receiving a present with these under-the-tree-worthy touches:\n\n- __Enhanced Envelopes:__ Match your envelope and card colors or patterns. For a luxurious upgrade, personal wax seals add vintage fun to the mix.\n\n- __Pockets or Folders:__ Sneak in an actual gift (or RSVP response card) by adding pockets to your invitations. It’s a double-duty feature, adding exciting surprise and functionality.\n\n- __Bows:__ Whether rustic string or elegant silk, a bow can transform an invitation. This decoration especially works for gate-fold invitations where the card opens like a present.\n\n- __Boxes:__ Ditch the envelope and send your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/rustic-wedding-invitations) in an actual gift box. Just make sure to account for shipping costs in your budget.\n\n## 5 Winter Wedding Invitation Styles\n\n### 1. Minimalist and Elegant\nLuckily for minimalists, simple designs or something DIY are perfect for winter. With some tasteful twists, your minimalist card will captivate guests as much as any ornate invitation. Photo credit: [Greenvelope](https://www.greenvelope.com/blog/winter-wedding-invitations)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Keep things unfussy with a solid, non-patterned background (white is the “cleanest” looking). Without watermarks or photos, your invitation will feel like a snow-covered mountain in the early morning—peaceful, gorgeous, and serene.\n\n- __Typography:__ With minimalist designs, it’s less about the words and more about the space between the words. Stick with thinner, unadorned fonts that leave plenty of room—simple script or unadorned typewriter styles work best. \n\n- __Colors:__ On simple winter invitations, your best friends are whites and creams. For an eye-catching twist, try a solid colored background with white typography (Zola’s __[Hopewell Frame Invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/fc04d211-c0a8-40d9-90bc-be4763ffe8bd)__ is a beautiful option).\n\n- __Decor:__ Even simple invitations can have a little flair—in fact, the eye-popping details are what minimalism is all about. Small illustrations, metallic touches, or light border patterns can bring personality to a bare-bones design. \n\n### 2. Rustic and Bohemian\nIf holding your winter celebration amidst nature’s beauty, give a preview with your wedding invitations. These design elements will put guests in the mood for a natural winter wonderland:\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Set the winter rustic wedding mood with a scenic winter background (like the one from our __[Deep Creek Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de)__ invitation). Even better: If you and your partner have time for a winter wedding theme photoshoot, use your favorite pic as the main attraction.\n\n- __Typography:__ For a bohemian invitation, keep typography casual and reminiscent of real handwriting. This can include loose scripts, sans serif fonts, or other natural designs.\n\n- __Colors:__ Embrace the gorgeous palette of winter in your wedding invitations. Rich greens, snowy whites, lush reds, stark greys, and light blues all reflect the season’s natural beauty.\n\n- __Decor:__ If your backdrop doesn’t already provide some winter flair, then you’ll need some natural touches. Drawings of snowflakes, fir trees, pine cones and pine trees, and bare branches all give a taste of nature’s best.\n\n### 3. Romantic and Classic\nNo matter the time of year, romance is always in style. To kick off a winter wedding as romantic as a red rose bouquet, consider these invitation ideas:\n\nPhoto credit: [Elegant Wedding Invites](https://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/wedding-blog/popular-winter-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Classic romance blends the simple, structured, and warm. Bring this elegance to your invitations with a solid or color-blocked background. If you prefer patterns, stick with soft floral designs (poinsettias add a seasonal touch).\n\n- __Typography:__ Bring effortless elegance to your invitations with classic, formal typography. Keep the type size small and consider serif or tightly formed script fonts.\n\n- __Colors:__ For romantic invitations, everything warm-colored is welcome—reds, pinks, yellows, even creams. During winter, dip your toes into the lusher tones of these wedding colors, such as deep reds and muted golds.\n\n- __Decor:__ With the right details, you can transform your invitation from basic to frameable. Metallic lettering and botanical borders, like the wreaths on our __[Oxley Lush](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/64294e96-3c36-4052-958a-b7d76179edd9)__ template, give a stately feel to classic designs.\n\n### 4. Fun and Festive\nWith so much holiday cheer, winter is a time for celebration. Embrace the season’s natural festivity with an invitation to match such as a Christmas themed wedding invitation. With these festive invitation ideas, your guests will be ready to party:\n\nPhoto credit: [Hitched](https://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/invite-wording-and-etiquette/winter-and-christmas-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Ornate, colorful, and bold backdrops set a festive tone for your big day, such as lush solid colors or rich patterns. And for the highest of glamour, a little glitter in the background goes a long way.\n\n- __Typography:__ Invite eyes to dance across the page with striking typography. With a festive theme, fonts can be larger and ornamental—anything from swoopy scripts, to elegant typewriter, to curly-cued letters.\n\n- __Colors:__ Get ready to color outside of the white box (or invitation). Golds, deep reds and greens, rich creams, and royal blues all fit the festive theme. \n\n- __Decor:__ What’s more fun than a flash of gold in your Christmas wedding invitation? Metallic foil touches, like the gorgeous stencil pattern on our __[Baker Fan Design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7ad52837-e2fd-4f8d-ab65-298a1b4963d0)__, will make your invitations shimmer and pop. Similarly, accents like a border wreath or velvet ribbon add to the seasonal fun.\n\n### Luxurious and Modern\nNo season embraces sleek and sharp designs like winter. If your reception vision and wedding colors is filled with crystal chandeliers, then consider these contemporary-chic elements:\n\nPhoto credit: [Clarity Wedding](https://www.claritynco.com/wedding-blog/top-winter-wedding-colors-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- __Backdrop:__ Solid or minimally patterned backdrops work best. Like minimalist styles, modern designs love plenty of negative space. As an alternative, a stunning photograph of the glamorous venue or you and your partner could instantly draw guests.\n\n- __Typography:__ If leaning more into the luxurious, tight cursive scripts (possibly in gold foil) will elevate your invitation. If leaning more modern, go for long and thin sans serif fonts and play with type sizes.\n\n- __Colors:__ Pull up the dramatics with winter’s richest and deepest color contrasts—deep reds, metallics, Kelly greens, and stark whites. To make every detail pop, go against the traditional white setting and choose a velvety black background.\n\n- __Decor:__ Here’s where you can have a little fun. Channel wintery glamour with metallic touches, icicle borders, and extra features like lacy side panels. Want to amp up the chic factor? Tie a velvet bow around the whole card.\n\n## Embrace the Season with Zola’s Wedding Guidance\nWhether boldly festive or sleekly minimal, every style has a spot in the winter wedding world. And with our invitation idea guide (and Zola’s premium templates), you can build a design that reflects both your style and the winter season.\n\nNeed some help with the million other items on your __[wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist)__? No problem. Stick to your seasonal theme with Zola’s other planning tools, like our __[wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ or gifts and favors shop. With customizable designs and easy-to-use formats, Zola has all the resources you need to stay as cool as ice for your winter wedding.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:43.706Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"whats-included-in-a-wedding-invitation-suite","title":"What's Included In a Wedding Invitation Suite?","excerpt":"Wondering how to convey all the information needed for your wedding in a stylish and elegant way? The wedding invitation suite is the perfect option.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-27T17:20:45.770Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"What's Included In a Wedding Invitation Suite?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your wedding invitation suite is a set of matching cards with all the necessary information that guests should know about your big day. \n- Some of the most common enclosure cards found in wedding invitation suites are: reception card, attire card, transportation information, directions insert, wedding itinerary, response/RSVP card, wedding website card, and accommodations card.\n- There are certain pieces of information that must be included: The location, date, and time of the ceremony and reception, and the RSVP information. \n- Putting together a stunning invitation suite is easy at Zola. Our selection of gorgeous invitations and enclosure cards can be customized to fit the style of your suite.","body":"Wedding invitations are the beautiful pieces of paper that you get in the mail when a loved one is getting married. This essential stationery is typically pretty straightforward—it tells you the date, time, and location of the ceremony. But, most weddings have a lot more going on than just the ceremony itself. \n\nFrom the reception dinner to the farewell brunch, a wedding weekend is often packed with activities in various places. So, how does one convey all this extra information in an equally stylish and elegant way? With a wedding invitation suite, of course.\n\nIn this article, we’ll be discussing the ins and outs of putting together the perfect wedding invitation suite.\n\n## What Is a Wedding Invitation Suite? \n\nGetting down to the specifics—a wedding invitation suite is essentially a set of matching enclosure cards with extra decor. Enclosure cards contain additional information that doesn’t fit on your invitations alone.\n\nSince most couples prefer to keep their invitations neat and simple, at least one enclosure card is almost always included inside the main envelope. A smaller envelope inside will separate the two cards, and the invitation is typically in front. While a basic enclosure card may list vital details about the reception, a wedding invitation suite is designed to go above and beyond the basics and truly prepare guests for the events to come.\n\n### What Does a Wedding Invitation Suite Look Like?\nYour wedding invitation suite will look more like a package, rather than a small envelope. This is because most invitation suites are made up of several matching cards, various envelopes, and any other decorative elements that you choose to include.\n\nYour invitation suite is also a chance to get creative. Couples can make a variety of decisions when putting this together, such as:\n\n- Choosing a color scheme\n- Adding ribbons \n- Including colorful envelopes \n- Using a wax seal\n- Incorporating lace details\n\nThese are just a few of the things that make invitation suites so much fun. If you’re a couple who takes pride in the stylistic elements of your big day, then putting together a wedding invitation suite may be the way to go. \n\nFinding the perfect stationery for your invitation suite is easy when you use Zola. Couples can choose from hundreds of stylish wedding invitations, along with matching enclosure cards to fit all the necessary information.\n\n## What’s Included in a Wedding Invitation Suite? \n\nIt’s important to note that every couple’s invitation suite may look a little different. Not only does personal style have an effect on the invitation suite, but the events related to your actual wedding will determine what’s included, too.\n\nThat being said, there are a few key elements that most people traditionally include in their wedding invitation suite. Let’s take a look at the basic enclosure cards you can choose from (along with a few unique options that might pique your interest).\n\n### #1 Direction Card\nA direction card—or direction insert—is another popular addition to wedding invitation suites. While many people may scoff at the idea of physical directions (given the blessing of modern GPS technology) there are several reasons why a direction insert can still be helpful for guests:\n\n- __Rural weddings__ – For ceremonies taking place off the beaten path, physical directions can be extremely useful in helping guests arrive on time. From lost cell service to unmarked roads, you never know what a rural, beachside, or mountain top wedding venue may throw at you. \n\n- __Traffic__ – If you’re planning a wedding in a more urban location, directions can be just as practical—but for slightly different reasons. Couples can list alternative routes, rush hour times, and streets to avoid in order to help their guests beat the local traffic and get to the ceremony like a true local. \n\n- __Different directions__ – Some guests may be coming from all over the place, particularly if you have multiple neighboring cities. In this case, it may be courteous to write out separate directions for guests depending on which neck of the woods they’re coming from. \n\nCombining written directions with a visual map will make your directions insert easier to understand, especially when guests are on the move. \n\n### #2 Reception Card\nA reception card is one of the most important elements found in a wedding invitation suite. Why is that? \n\nMany couples opt for a separate location to host their reception in. This is particularly common for ceremonies that take place at religious or outdoor spaces, with little-to-no accommodations for the dinner, dancing, and other festivities that take place during the reception. \n\nYour main wedding invitation will typically list the time and location of the ceremony, with no information regarding the reception, other than maybe a line that says “reception to follow.” So, what do you do if there’s another location that guests need to know about? Include a reception card.\n\nYour reception card should have the following information listed on the front, in simple, straightforward language:\n\n- The date of the reception\n- The time the reception starts\n- The time when dinner will be served (if applicable)\n- The location of the reception venue\n- What will be occurring at the reception (dinner, drinks, appetizers, dancing, etc.)\n\nIf you’re looking for a venue that can host both your ceremony and reception, try utilizing Zola’s list of pre-screened wedding vendors. Our venue list can be narrowed down using a filter for ceremonies, receptions, or both. \n\n### #3 Transportation Card\nSimilar to the reception card, couples who have booked multiple venues for their wedding will need to keep guests informed on transportation details. To put it simply, you probably don’t want guests transporting themselves from the ceremony to the reception if you can avoid it. By keeping everyone together, you’ll ensure a more seamless transition from one portion of the night to the other. \n\nFurthermore, guests may also need help getting from the reception venue to their hotel accommodations—especially if they’ve had one too many champagne toasts during dinner. For all these reasons, we recommend including a transportation card in your wedding invitation suite. Whether you’re providing limo services, a shuttle, or ride-sharing options—the details and timeline of any and all transportation should be listed on this card.\n\n### #4 Attire Card\nIt never hurts for guests to be on the same page about the dress code—which is why some couples choose to add an attire card to their wedding invitation suite.\n\nAn attire card is going to help friends and family avoid any wardrobe embarrassment. While many weddings encourage formal attire, figuring out the exact level of formality isn’t always easy when you’re a guest. Your attire information may be added to another enclosure card, or included on its own as a small business card. On it you’ll specify which of the following dress codes are required for the ceremony and reception:\n\n- __Black tie__ – Formal gowns and tuxedos are typically expected for a black-tie wedding. \n\n- __Cocktail__ – Cocktail attire signifies that dresses may be shorter in length, while still maintaining a fairly formal look overall. \n\n- __Semi-formal__ – A semi-formal dress code typically includes long, but simple dresses paired with suits (but not tuxedos). \n\n- __Casual__ – Casual wedding attire is often welcome for outdoor ceremonies, particularly those near the beach. For a semi-formal dress code, guests may opt for lightweight maxi dresses, button-up shirts, and slacks. \n\n### #5 Response/RSVP Card\nOne of the most important parts of your wedding invitation suite will be the response card. On the response card, your guests will fill out the main sections:\n\n- Whether they will or will not be attending the wedding\n- Which entree choice they would prefer for the rehearsal dinner\n\nSome couples may also include a line for plus ones or children who will be accompanying the invited guest, but this part is optional. \n\nIncorporating a response card in your invitation suite is vital because it allows guests to RSVP for the event. Without RSVPs, couples may be ill-prepared for the amount of guests who are actually attending the wedding. \n\nThat being said, while RSVPs are important, physical response cards are quickly becoming an outdated practice. Rather than relying on postage to slowly build a final wedding guest list, many couples opt for a digital guest manager—like Zola’s online RSVP tracker—instead. With an online RSVP, you can add names to your guest list as soon as they respond, rather than waiting for physical cards to arrive in the mail. This also makes the organization process much easier, since you won’t be dealing with dozens (or even hundreds) of paper response cards. \n\n### #6 Wedding Website Card\nAnother small (but important) element of your invitation suite is your wedding website card. If you’ve put the time and effort into crafting a beautiful wedding website, you’ll want to make sure that guests know how to access it. This is especially important for websites that are locked with a password.\n\nSimply add your URL and any passwords necessary to a small business card, and include this among the other stationery in your invitation suite. This is a great place to put additional information that won’t fit in the envelope, such as your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) details.\n\n### #7 Accommodation Card\nIt’s crucial that out-of-town and destination wedding guests have all the information they need for their accommodations. Whether you’re paying for a hotel room, blocking out rooms for guests to book, or simply recommending nearby facilities—this is something you’ll want to include along with your invitation. Accommodations can play an influential role in your guests’ ability to attend the wedding, so try to be as detailed and specific here as possible.\n\nInformation regarding accommodations can also be listed on your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Clickable links may make booking a room easier on guests, especially if you’ve booked up a hotel block in your name. Make sure to give guests all the information needed in order to utilize the room block—since many hotels will require a name and password to reserve these rooms. \n\n### #8 Itinerary Card\nWhether you’re hosting a destination wedding or a ceremony in your hometown, most couples tend to throw a few additional events during their nuptial weekend. For this reason, you may want to incorporate an itinerary card in your invitation suite. An itinerary card will help encourage guests to attend all the festivities surrounding the big day. \n\nExamples of items that may be listed on an itinerary card include:\n\n- The rehearsal dinner\n- The welcome celebration for out-of-town guests\n- The ceremony\n- The cocktail hour\n- The reception\n- The farewell lunch, brunch, or dinner\n\nTimes, dates, and locations should all be listed for each event on your wedding itinerary. Consider this card an invitation for the entire weekend, and format it similarly to your main wedding invitation. \n\n## Designing Your Wedding Invitation Suite\nNow that we’ve covered the basics, we can get to the fun part of invitation suites: designing them. After all, nobody creates a wedding invitation suite if they’re not interested in adding a little flair. \n\nPutting together the wedding invitation suite is one of the most creative parts of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning). Couples can take this opportunity to incorporate their own unique wedding style into the decor of the invitation suite. While your decorative options are practically unlimited, some of the most common ways couples personalize their invitation suite include:\n\n### Matching It to Their Wedding Color Palette\nIf you’ve chosen a color palette for your wedding decor, then this is the perfect way to tie your invitation suite into the big day. By sticking with the same color palette and design elements, you’ll be able to give guests a sneak peek of what’s to come on the wedding day. Below are some of the ways color can be incorporated into your invitation suite:\n\n- The outer or inner envelope\n- The stamp\n- The ribbon\n- A wax seal\n- Any dried flowers or botanical elements\n\n### Other Decorative Elements\nIf you’re looking to play with more than just color, there are a few other ways that couples can personalize their wedding invitation suite. Try out these fun, stylish ideas for wedding invitations that truly stand out from the crowd:\n\n- __Return envelope and postage –__ If you’ve included a physical response card in your invitation suite, it’s important to insert a return envelope and postage, too. Not only will this make the process easier for your guests, but it's also another opportunity to get creative with your design. Embossed lettering, interesting paper, and stylish font for the return address are a few ways to customize your envelopes. Some couples take this a step further and order custom stamps with their names, their photo, or simply some cute wedding art. \n\n- __A custom photo –__ If you’ve had any engagement or wedding portraits taken recently, now is the perfect time to show them off. Couples can either add a photo as the backdrop for one of their enclosure cards, or simply include a separate photo as an additional element to the package. \n\n- __Belly band –__ A belly band is another popular element that couples tend to include in their wedding invitation suites. Instead of a simple ribbon tying the cards together, a belly band is a thicker strip of fabric that keeps everything in line. A belly band will typically be adorned with small artwork or the initials of the marrying couple. Lace, wax, or parchment paper may be incorporated into a belly band design, too.\n\n- __Foil –__ Metallic foil is a simple way to boost the elegance of your wedding invitation suite. Gold, silver, or rose gold outlines add just the right amount of shimmer to typography and borders. Foil is also a wonderful way to match your invitations to the cutlery, jewelry, and centerpieces that you’ve chosen for the reception. \n\n## When Should I Send Out My Wedding Invitation Suite?\nAnother important piece of information you’ll need when crafting your invitation suite is a proper timeline. Similar to individual invitations, you’ll want to send out your wedding invitation suite around six to eight weeks before the wedding date.\n\nThis will give guests plenty of time to send in their response cards and make travel arrangements. Six to eight weeks is also enough time for the couple to finalize a guest list based on RSVPs, as well as put together their seating chart.\n\nAs for destination weddings, you may want to send out your invitation suite a bit earlier. Invitation etiquette for destination weddings states that suites should be sent out approximately 12 weeks before the wedding date. Most couples planning destination weddings tend to keep their guest list small, therefore their loved ones are most likely aware of the plan before the invitations are even sent out.\n\nWe recommend ordering your wedding invitations and enclosure cards well in advance, in order to avoid any delays or shipping issues. Six months before the wedding is typically the ideal time to place your order for any stationary included in the invitation suite. \n\n## Craft Your Dream Invitation Suite at Zola \n\nNo matter what nuptial necessity you’re in the market for, Zola is here to help. We’re a one-stop shop for all things wedding—from eye-catching [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to matching enclosure cards, and even stunning [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) with customizable features.\n\nThe perks of using Zola don’t stop at the stationary, either. Couples can also utilize our pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to find [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues), DJs, caterers, and more. Additionally, we also offer [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) to help you plan your perfect day every step of the way.\n\nPutting together a wedding takes work, but it doesn’t have to be stressful. 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Use these as is or simply as inspiration to perfect the bachelorette party invite wording.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-08T03:30:21.113Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/nOv81cW5VNug2jLwSVUsQ/08be7268bac0ddca468f87276e88fcbd/Hero_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Levi-stolove-photography.jpg","altText":"Pair with confetti cannons"},"heroCredit":"Stolove Photography","body":"In terms of pre-wedding events, the __[bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties)__ is the least formal affair and meant to be the most fun, so it should start off that way. Kick off your bach by sending invitation cards that suit the occasion and theme. There are details to include, of course, but most of the invites can be fun and flirty, and reflect the bride’s style and personality (which should also be reflected in the other wedding-related correspondence, like the bridal shower invitations).\n\nOnce you’ve picked the right stationery, the hardest part is deciding how to word your bachelorette invitations. But don’t stress: We’ve got you covered. Here, we gathered a variety of party invitation wording options for you to choose from. Let’s take a look at some bachelorette party invite wording ideas—along with a few invitation templates—as inspiration to help you get started: \n\n## Who Plans The Bachelorette Party?\nAccording to traditional __[bachelorette party etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-etiquette-101)__, the maid of honor(s) plans the bachelorette weekend—but it’s also not uncommon for a bride to assign another friend or member of her wedding party to plan the shindig. The MOH has a lot on her plate, especially if she’s planning a bridal shower as well, so whether someone else takes over completely or someone steps in to handle the bachelorette party details, it's a good idea to provide her with some help.\n\nIf you’re the designated bachelorette party planner, the burden of planning and expense doesn’t fall all on you. Ask for help from other members of the bridal party and split all costs between everyone. Ok, let’s get to the fun stuff…\n\n## Who Is Invited To The Bachelorette Party?\nThe bride-to-be is in charge of bachelorette party invitations, and no, the guest list isn’t limited to the bridal party. She can also choose to include any or all of the following:\n\n- Bridesmaids\n- Sisters & Sisters-in-law\n- Close Friends\n- Extended Family Members\n- Mom and Mother-in-law\n\nBefore sending out those white envelopes, be sure to double-check who’s getting one, as it could be a longer list than you think. And make sure you don’t book anything else, like accommodations or activities, before you hear back from everyone.\n\n## Bachelorette Party Invitation Wording Ideas\nThere are plenty of fun ways to word the bachelorette party invite that put a simple “You’re Invited” to shame. And remember, bachelorette party invitations don’t have to be as formal as a __[wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__, so don’t be afraid to mix things up! Here are a few fun (and funny) bachelorette party invitation template ideas to get your creative juices flowing.\n\n### Make It Rhyme\nInvitations are the stomping grounds of a good rhyme—and always have been. When you send out invites to your bride tribe, stick to rhyming phrases like these—some classic (read: tried and true) and some fun and fresh—and you can’t go wrong:\n\n- Last fling before the ring\n- Kiss the miss goodbye\n- Nashbash (for nashville bachelorette parties or [Nashville wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/nashville-tn--wedding-venues))\n- Margaritas and señoritas\n- Before she says “i do” let’s have a drink or two\n- Let’s toast on the coast\n- A weekend of fun and sun\n- Buy her a shot, she’s tying the knot\n- Last night before mr. right\n- Champagne campaign\n\n### Play With Puns \nFrom the destination to the bride’s first, maiden, or new last name, you can use a variety of wedding-related elements to create clever puns that will liven up your bachelorette invite. Here are a few wording ideas:\n\n- Roped in forever (for a country bash)\n- Wine flies when you’re having fun\n- Let’s get wild\n- Where my beaches at? \n- Nacho average bachelorette party\n- Taco bout a party\n- Wife of the party\n- One last syrah\n- Wed, white, and boozed\n\n![Nail Down the Bachelorette Party Invite Wording](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6cuCsFydiL5SefUQcpHyaj/307bd919664354cc9ca16a4ea0dcde08/Inline_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Ginger-ray_VPI.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Ginger Ray\n\n### Tie in the Bachelorette Party Theme\nNow is the time to set the tone. Are you headed to Texas for a Western-themed fete or to a lake for fireside festivities? Then, incorporate country or campfire phrasing. Maybe you’re covering the place in palm fronds or modeling it after her favorite food—whatever the party theme is, nod to it in your invite to clue the girls in. Here’s some inspiration: \n\n- Final flamingle\n- Too hot to handle\n- The bride’s final fiesta\n- The bride’s last rodeo\n- Aloha beaches\n- She said “yes!” We said “(location)!”\n- One last olé before the big day\n- Bonfires and booze\n- Manis and mimosas\n- Glamping with the girls\n- Vegas before vows\n- Last sail before the veil\n\n### Get Everyone Excited\nWhen all else fails (or you don't have a party idea yet), pick a big, bold font and a catchy phrase that will get everyone excited for what’s to come. Here are a few foolproof options:\n\n- Bachelorette bash\n- Bachelorette bonanza\n- Ready to party? \n- Let’s party!\n- Put the party in bridal party\n- Girls just want to have fun\n- Girls weekend\n- Bachelorette getaway\n- She’s getting married\n\n![Nail Down the Bachelorette Party Invite Wording](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2kexDW0RCPRc0bsfEVhm9L/56ca59ca714b245afc753d5125b82bdd/Inline_Nail-down-the-bachelorette-party-invite_Wild-scout-photo-co.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Wild Scout Photo\n\n### Make It All About the Bride \nThis should go without saying, but you should mention the bride on the bachelorette party invitation. She’s the honoree, the kit and caboodle, the star of the show. Using a form or a template will make this process a lot easier! Here are a few examples—just fill in the bride’s name: \n\nFormally\n- In honor of bride-to-be —— \n- Honoring ——\n- Celebrating the bride-to-be ——\n- In celebration of ——\n\nInformally\n- ——’s last bash \n- Camp —— (works best with C names)\n- ——’s Nashelorette\n- A bachelorette party for ——\n\n### Don’t Forget the Details\nWhile the kitschy phrases are cute and all, you do actually have to relay some important information on the bachelorette party invitation. Don’t forget to include:\n\n- __When:__ The date (or dates) the celebration is taking place. You can include exact times in an email or on an itinerary at a future date. \n- __Where:__ Include both the city and state. You don’t need to include an address on the actual invite, but should follow up with it the day or week before the bachelorette party begins. You should also communicate any necessary travel or transportation details via text or email.\n- __Other Details:__ __Include information about the [dress code](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-bachelorette-party) (including any special costumes or themed outfits), the host’s contact information, and any other necessary details to ensure everyone’s ready to celebrate the coming wedding day!__\n- __RSVP Details:__ Give guests a method (and deadline!) for confirming attendance. \n\nIf you’re sending a party invitation by mail, you can also include a details card that provides more in-depth information.\n\n## 12 Bachelorette Invitation Ideas + Templates\nYour choice of bachelorette party invitation helps set the theme and get the bridal party hyped for the big day. Use these invitation ideas and templates to spice up your invites in the lead-up to the bride’s big send-off.\n\n### 1. Watercolor\nMake sure your bach party invites pop with a touch of whimsical watercolor! This [watercolor bachelorette invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1086049939/bridal-shower-boho-invitation-card) blends soft colors with a beautiful floral arrangement for an attractive and formal invitation that celebrates the bride’s pending nuptials. Customize the text to include relevant party details—and consider combining the purchase with similarly styled thank you notes to send out after the party.\n\n### 2. Pool Party Bachelorette\nPlanning some fun in the sun for the bride’s final hurrah? This __[pool party bachelorette invitation](https://www.shutterfly.com/cards-stationery/bachelorette-party-invitations/pool-party-bash-bachelorette-party-invitation)__ combines soft blue with colorful depictions of poolside staples to hype up any poolside party. Customize the card’s trim to add a bit of flair and style.\n\n### 3. Rose Gold Theme\nAdd a touch of elegance to your invitations with this __[sleek and enticing bach party invite](https://www.annsbridalbargains.com/shop/bach-bash-bachelorette-party-invitation/)__. Rose gold ink helps your wording pop on your choice of colored background and font, lending a touch of formality and sophistication to the bride’s last fling before the ring.\n\n### 4. Spa Day Invitations\nPlanning for a wedding is stressful—and not just for the bride-to-be. Help the bachelorette and her guests prepare for some manis and mimosas with this [spa day bachelorette party invitation](https://bellabug.com/product/lets-party-personalized-bachelorette-party-invitations/), printed on high-quality cardstock and with matching envelopes.\n\n### 5. Wild Night\nPlanning a wild girls’ night or lingerie shower to celebrate the bride’s final days as a bachelorette? This __[lingerie string invitation card](https://www.impressinprint.com/FILE-itemdetails_PID-23101.aspx)__ hints at a fun and playful theme to celebrate the bride’s bach bash, with the ability for you to customize the wording, font, and font color.\n\n### 6. Cocktail Party\nPrep your guests for a night of free-flowing drinks with this __[cocktail party invite](https://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/product/pink-and-black-cocktail-themed-bachelorette-party-invitations-ewbi013/)__. Choose from suggested wording samples or take the DIY route by writing your own, then opt to change the font or coloring for a card that’s uniquely fitting to your booze-filled bach party plans.\n\n### 7. Girls Night Out\nWhat better way to send off the bride than with a girls night out? This customizable __[girls nite out bachelorette party invitation](https://cordialpunchpress.com/shop-wedding-invitations/girls-nite-out-bachelorette-party-invitations)__ promises a night to remember—and is printed double-sided on shimmer stock for some added pop and pizzazz that mimics the glitter and glitz of a night on the town.\n\n### 8. Brunch\nCombine brunch and bubbly for a perfect send-off for the bride-to-be with this playful and celebratory __[brunch bachelorette party invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/770865399/bachelorette-weekend-party-invitation)__. Customize the template by tweaking the background color, font style, and font color for an invite that’s as unique as the bride (and the brunch dishes!).\n\n### 9. Destination Bachelorette\nGet the guests ready to jet off for a weekend with this celebratory __[destination bachelorette invite](https://mimoprints.com/product/destination-beach-wedding-bachelorette-party-invitation_256912211602943907)__. Choose from six card shapes—including the shape of a luggage tag—and 12 paper types for a personalized twist that invites guests for a chance to get away and celebrate what’s sure to be a trip to remember!\n\n### 10. Wine Tasting Bachelorette\nInvite guests for a delicious and relaxing wine tasting bachelorette party with this elegant and formal __[wine tasting bachelorette weekend invite](https://www.etsy.com/listing/700686249/wine-tasting-bachelorette-weekend)__. Customize and edit the wording to make this invite (and the included itinerary) uniquely yours, then print the cards at home for a DIY solution—or find a local print shop to print on the card stock of your choosing.\n\n### 11. Combined Bachelor/Bachelorette Party\nA combined bachelor/bachelorette party means sending invitations that appeal to a much more diverse guest list. Fortunately, this __[joint bach party invitation](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1448501075/bachelor-or-bachelorette-party)__ is perfect for a mixed guest list, with the opportunity for you to edit the font and text—or even add an image of your own!\n\n### 12. Surprise Bachelorette\nTrying to throw a bachelorette party under the radar? This classy and fun [surprise bachelorette invitation](https://www.zazzle.com/surprise_bachelorette_girls_party_invitation-256704821246360369) comes in six playful shapes and 12 different paper types, hinting at an elegant soirée that’s sure to send the bachelorette off right.\n\n## Other Bachelorette Party Paper Goods\nOnce you have settled on a bachelorette invitation and the proper wording to go with it, you can carry the theme throughout the rest of the party. Stick to similar phrasing, design, color schemes, and motifs to keep the rest of the paper goods consistent and get the point across. Here are a few fun additions to include with your order:\n\n### An Itinerary\nOutline the weekend’s festivities with an itinerary set to the tune of your invite. Use similar, or even the same, wording at the top and add a timeline of events, so that everyone knows where to be and when. \n\n### Custom Games\nCustom games are another great way to incorporate your chosen wording and theme. Think paper games like “Who Knows the Bride Best,” or a bride-themed Scattergories. There are a number of __[fun bachelorette party games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-games)__ that can be created and printed ahead of time and mimic the style and wording of your invites. \n\n### T-Shirts\nOk, so these may not be paper goods per se, but they do feature fun and creative wording that should be in step with your invite. Go with the same phrase, or just stick to the theme. If you went with the wording “Champagne Campaign” on your invite, you can pick out T-shirts that also say “Champagne Campaign.” Or, if you chose “Last Sail Before the Veil,” go with wording along the same nautical lines like “I Do Crew.”\n\nAll the thought you put into the bachelorette party invite wording—and the complementary goods—is well worth the effort. There’s no doubt it sets the tone for a fun weekend ahead.\n\n### Stickers\nWhat better way to stick to your party theme than stickers? Print out or order some fun and quirky stickers to include on your invitations and throughout the venue. And if you’re the artistic and DIY type? Add your own flair to the stickers’ designs to really let your creativity shine through in the last days before your wedding.\n\nAll the thought you put into the bachelorette party invite wording—and the complementary goods—is well worth the effort. There’s no doubt it sets the tone for a fun weekend ahead. ","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:42.085Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"lgbt-wedding-invitations-101","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101","excerpt":"From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-07-12T16:47:02.617Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23DI7PxNMPASe1xfEZjUjx/f7b1b8bc53e8f7d264283790004e0524/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- LGBT+ couples may need to adjust invitation wording in order to accurately reflect their love. Doing so only takes some minor adjustments.\n- Gender-neutral language can be utilized for non-binary couples, as well as they/them pronouns, Mx., and other inclusive titles. \n- Every wedding invitation should include: the names of the couple, the date and time of the wedding, and the location of the ceremony and reception venues.","body":"When it comes to writing your wedding invitations, figuring out what to say can be tricky. This problem may be elevated for LGBTQ+ couples, particularly due to gendered language, heteronormative [traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones), and outdated wedding etiquette.\n\nHere at Zola, it’s our mission to make [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-queer-wedding-shower) easy for every couple. That’s why we’ve created this guide to help LGBT+ couples create the perfect invitations for their special day.\n\n- LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitation Wording\n- Non-Binary Wording and Gender Neutral Language\n- Wedding Invitation Information\n- LGBTQ+ Invitation Ideas\n\n## LGBT+ Wedding Invitation Wording \n\nWording is the first crucial step when crafting your wedding invitations. While there are no real rules for this, most couples prefer to take a formal approach with their invitation wording. This will lend to the overall tone of the event and prepare guests for your celebration.\n\nWith this in mind, it’s also important to recognize some of the outdated practices used in wedding invitation wording, especially those that are heteronormative and non-inclusive.\n\nLet’s take a look at some simple adjustments that couples can make for more LGBTQ+-friendly wedding invitations.\n\n### The Host(s)\nAlthough guests don’t need to know who is paying for the wedding, including this on your invitations is often done as a sign of respect. Some couples choose to pay for their weddings themselves, while others may have one set of parents paying. In some instances, couples will actually split the bill with their parents or accept some form of contribution toward the grand total. These differences can affect the wording of your invitation.\n\nOf course, couples are also welcome to skip this invitation wording etiquette altogether. Fortunately, adding your own message is easy when you use one of [Zola’s customizable wedding invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). \n\n### Name Order\nAnother heteronormative wedding invitation tradition is listing the bride’s name first. For many LGBT+ couples, this guideline is one that’s best forgotten, and that’s totally fine.\n\nThere are plenty of other ways to determine whose name goes first on wedding invitations. For example, if one person’s parents are footing the bill, their name can be listed first. For couples financing their own wedding, the order of the names is entirely up to you. You can go in alphabetical order, or read the names aloud and choose the order that sounds best.\n\nIn any case, don’t stress. At the end of the day, a wedding is about the love that the couple has for one another—not the minor details. \n\n## Non-Binary Wording and Gender-Neutral Language \n\nFor couples that include one or more non-binary individuals, the gendered language of wedding invitations might need to be modified. The most common way to use gender-neutral language is by incorporating they/them pronouns into your message. Many wedding invitations already do this, anyway.\n\nAnother element to consider are titles. With formal invitations, prefixes are often put before a person’s first or last name. Gendered prefixes typically include Mr., Ms., and Mrs., but many non-binary individuals aren’t comfortable with the use of these terms.\n\nRather than forgoing prefixes all together, there are various gender-neutral options to choose from. Some of the most common titles non-binary people prefer to use include:\n\n- __Mx.__ – Gender-neutral alternative to Mr. and Mrs., typically pronounced em-ex.\n\n- __Ind.__ – Short for individual.\n\n- __Pr.__ – Short for person.\n\n- __Misc.__ – Short for miscellus, the latin word for “mixed”. Pronounced like misk.\n\nOther gender-neutral terms that may be used in the context of a wedding include marrier and celebrant, in place of bride or groom.\n\n## Same-Sex Wedding Invitation Wording Samples\nSame sex wedding invitations may, too, see some minor changes in wording. Luckily, this is easy to navigate. Below we’ve gathered some examples of same-sex and non-binary invitation wording:\n\n- “*Taylor and Ash invite you to share in a celebration of their love*.”\n\n- “*Anne, child of Ted and Marie, and Alex, child of Jen and Nick, request the honor of your presence on their wedding day*.”\n\n- “*Dillon would like to formally invite you to share in a celebration of love with their partner, Rami*.”\n\n- “*Mr. Jonathan Rhodes and Mr. Alex Garcia request the pleasure of your company at their wedding ceremony*.”\n\n- “*Because you’ve shared in our lives and love, we, Alison and Jane, invite you to share in the beginning of our new life together*.”\n\n- “*We, Nathan and James, invite you to witness our love as we exchange vows*.”\n\n## Wedding Invitation Information \n\nNo matter what wording you choose, all wedding invitations need to have certain pieces of information. Including:\n\n- __Names –__ The couple’s names should be included, typically in large font. Both first and last names are almost always included, but middle names and titles are optional. Hosts’ names may also be included. \n\n- __Date and time –__ This should be the second most prominent line on the invitations and is typically placed below the names. After the date, you’ll need to specify the time at which the ceremony starts.\n\n- __Reception information –__ Simpler weddings will have a note at the bottom that says reception follows. However, including a separate card is a good idea if you’re planning on using a different venue, or if this portion of the wedding takes place at a later time. Include names, dates, and locations on this card, too.\n\n- __Dress code –__ Most couples include a line regarding dress code towards the bottom of the invitation. This helps guests fully prepare for the tone of the event.\n\n- __RSVP card –__ Include a separate RSVP card for guests to fill out and mail back. Or, streamline everything through your wedding website. Zola offers free [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that link to our guest list services, which [track RSVPs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), meal orders, and more, all in one place.\n\n## At Zola, We Love Love\nCouples should be proud of their love, and the right [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can help empower their message to all of their friends and family. While many aspects of the wedding planning process are heteronormative, there are [creative ways to change the messaging](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony) to match your unique love. \n\nWith you invitation wording sorted, your sights are probably now set on vendors. 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We can help. Read on for all of our top tips and advice.","title":"How to Plan a Queer Wedding Shower","slug":"how-to-plan-a-queer-wedding-shower","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KhJIf08NcDJ8JlWUvNzFg/57602b4c5c1fc51687a8d659a695053f/Hero_SummerElopementatKingsCountyCourthouse_DAGIMAGES.jpg","altText":"How to Plan a Queer Wedding Shower"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:41.315Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"bridal-shower-invitation-wording","title":"How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations","excerpt":"Not sure how to word your bridal shower invitations? Follow our guide for what to include, template ideas, wording examples, and more. ","author":"Jane Chertoff","publishedAt":"2019-09-17T16:02:35.997Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CQScX6pAG7bqZAlCqwS5D/27fa5822e275efc6e1f277b29c5e927c/howToWord_BridalShower-28-28-28.jpg","altText":"Zola bridal shower invitation wording"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Your bridal shower invitations should include: all the critical information about the shower, its tone and formality, and an indication of how guests should RSVP.\n- The shower invitation is the perfect chance to let your guests know how to find and shop your wedding registry.\n- Aim to keep your bridal shower invitation message simple. Don’t be afraid to use templates or examples for inspiration. \n","body":"The bridal shower kicks off the wedding festivities and gives friends and family the chance to “shower” the bride-to-be with love. (And lovely gifts!) So whether you are throwing the bride a formal brunch or having a fun themed party, the invitation needs to convey the right message. \n\nNot sure how to word your bridal shower invites, or feeling confused about what they need to include? Follow the comprehensive guide below to understand the ins and outs of bridal shower invitation etiquette. \n\n## Bridal Shower Invite Wording Goals\nNo matter what type of shower you are throwing, the wording of your bridal or wedding shower invitation should accomplish the following goals:\n- __Tell the critical information.__ The bride and groom’s names, the date, time, and location of the event. If there’s a dress code, it’s best to let your guests know ahead of time.\n- __Set the tone for the shower.__ The invitation should convey if it’s a formal affair, casual gathering, or theme party.\n- __Include a link to an online registry.__ Or if it’s a theme shower, what type of gift the bride is wishing for. \n- __The host’s or hosts’ names.__ \n- __Include RSVP information (email or phone number).__ Plus, the date guests should RSVP to the shower by. For a virtual bridal shower, make sure to include the meeting links, or if it’s a surprise bridal shower, include the logistics of how the event will run.\n\n## Basic Template for Bridal Shower Invitation Wording\n \nIf you are writing out your own shower invitations, be sure to include all the information below. Once you’ve included all the basics, you can customize it to feel more authentic and use language tailored to the bride-to-be. \n\n### The Bride’s Name \nThe bride’s name should be front and center. Her name may appear high, low, or center, depending on the design—but it should be clearly legible. You can write out the bride’s first name only, or first and last name. (If it’s a formal affair, you may want to write Ms. Zoe Kavits, for example.) But that’s optional. As for the groom, only include his name if it’s a co-ed wedding shower. \n\n### Essential Information\nThis is the section where you’ll include all the logistical information the guests need to know. Include the date of the shower, the venue name, venue address, and the start time. To make it very clear, write out the day of the week, followed by the date, also written out. (For example, Saturday, September 10, 2019, from 12:00 p.m. to 3: 00 p.m.)\n\n### RSVP Section\nThe RSVP section is crucial for the host to get a proper headcount before the big day. Include the date guests should RSVP by and how exactly to RSVP. You can include a phone number, but email may be easier to track. Ask guests to text you for a more informal RSVP. \n\nAlternatively, if you have a good idea of how many guests to expect, you can write “regrets only” to your phone number or email address instead. \n\n### Registry Information \n \nLet guests know where they can purchase a gift off the registry. You can write out a link to her Zola [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n\n### Theme Information \nIf your bridal shower party has a theme to it, pick a shower invitation that represents the theme (baking supplies for a cooking shower, or maracas for a fiesta, for example). Then make guests aware of any special requests (“Please include a recipe to give to the bride to be.”) \n\n### Host’s name \nWho is hosting the shower? If there are multiple hosts, you can write out their first and last names, or first names only, depending on how much space you have.","body2":"## What to Write On Your Bridal Shower Invites\n \nNow that you know the basic components of what to include, you can get started writing out your bridal shower invite. Below are some examples of what a simple, formal, fun, themed, or co-ed couple’s shower invitation wording might look like.\n\n### Keeping It Simple \n*Please join us for a pre-wedding party in honor \nof Meghan Markle* \n\n*The Mark Hotel \n25 E. 77th Street, New York, NY \nMonday, February 18, 2019\n12:30 p.m. to 3:30 p.m.* \n\n*Hosted by Serena Williams and Amal Clooney\nRSVP to serenatennis@gmail.com by February 1 \nMeghan is registered at Harrods* \n\n### Formal Bridal Shower\n*Please join us for a bridal shower in honor of Ms. Ellie Goulding* \n\n*Saturday, July 1 \nat 1 o’clock \nCastle Howard\nYork* \n\n*Hosted by the bridesmaids* \n\n*Regrets only \n+44.666.8888*\n\n*Ellie is registered at Crate and Barrel and Bloomingdales*\n\n### Informal/Fun Bridal Shower\n*Brunch and bubbly!\nJoin us for a bridal shower celebrating \nZoe Kravits* \n\nor \n\n*Here comes the bride!\nJoin us for a shower celebrating \nKatie* \n\n*Saturday, September 10 at 11 a.m. \nGjelina Restaurant | Back patio* \n\n*Text 310.880.9974 to RSVP* \n\n*zola.com/wedding/katieandtom2006/registry* \n\n### Theme Bridal Shower \n*Stock the kitchen! \nJoin us for a recipe & kitchen shower \nhonoring Giada De Laurentis*\n\n*Saturday, September 16, 2020 \n12 p.m. to 3 p.m. \nThe Drummond Ranch \n95 Farm Drive, Pawhuska, Oklahoma* \n\n*Hosted by Ree Drummond \nRSVP to ree@drummondranch.com by September 1* \n\n*Please bring your favorite recipe for Giada on the enclosed recipe card*\n\n### Co-ed Shower \n*Please join us for a couple’s shower\nhonoring \nMeghan and Harry*\n\nor \n\n*Please join us for a wedding shower \ncelebrating the lovely couple \nHarry and Meghan* \n\n*Monday, February 18, 2018 \nat 6 o’clock in the evening* \n\n*The Mark Hotel \n25 E. 77th Street, New York, NY* \n\n*Hosted by Kate and William \nRSVP to Kate by February 1 \nText 949.657.8888 or email kate@palace.com* \n\n*Meghan and Harry are registered on Zola \nzola.com/wedding/meghandharry2018/registry*\n\n*Browse [Zola’s Invites + Paper Designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) for more ideas* ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:01.680Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. RSVP to each event individually (again, using whatever RSVP method they’ve requested). Don’t assume that a “yes” to one is a “yes” to all, or that you can just send blanket “regrets.” Also, an invitation to the wedding doesn’t mean that you’re automatically included on the guest list for all pre-nuptial celebrations—use your invitations as guides! ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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","title":"How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations","slug":"bridal-shower-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CQScX6pAG7bqZAlCqwS5D/27fa5822e275efc6e1f277b29c5e927c/howToWord_BridalShower-28-28-28.jpg","altText":"Zola bridal shower invitation wording"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-08-03T01:02:30.697Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-politely-decline-a-wedding-invitation","title":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- *“Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.” *\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”*\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”*\n\n- *“Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. *\n\n- *I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”*\n\n- *“Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”*\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? Here’s everything you need to know about guests, weddings, and vaccines.","title":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know","slug":"guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ReUuubL41mTVam3Mcwdep/6a81d8e3da664a815c3a1afe920e6487/Hero_Zola__15_.jpg","altText":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:39.759Z"}],"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations","description":"From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},"topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper","description":"From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"when-to-send-save-the-dates","title":"When To Send Save The Dates","excerpt":"Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. To simplify the wedding planning process, send your save the date card or magnet no earlier than 8 and no later than 4 months out and you’ll be perfectly fine.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Save the dates add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? 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This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- *“Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.” *\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”*\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”*\n\n- *“Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. *\n\n- *I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”*\n\n- *“Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”*\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? 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Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"wedding-thank-you-card-wording","title":"Wedding Thank You Card Wording: Tips & Examples ","excerpt":"Craft heartfelt wedding thank you cards with our expert guide. From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-11-22T00:00-08:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2bmjLPUEJbV1Ka3AMoKglO/8c48c198f18c343e95278addd508e49f/thank-you-card-wording-hero.jpeg","altText":"A pair of newlyweds are captured holding the words “thank you” while sharing a kiss, perhaps before practicing their wedding thank you card wording skills."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nBasking in the post-wedding glow with your significant other is much more enjoyable when all of the [wedding to-dos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist?_branch_match_id=1112793252738758355&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXr8rPSdRLLCjQy8nMy9bP8sjMCMvKKjE1AgBLvb9XIAAAAA%3D%3D) are officially checked off—like thanking your guests for celebrating this new chapter with you both.\n\nThanking every guest in an original and genuine way can take time and preparation. And it all comes down to how you approach your wedding thank you card wording, which is why we’ve pared down the dos and don’ts of writing a thank you card. \n\nFor safe measure, we also compiled 15 wedding thank you card wording examples to help you navigate every type of guest and gift. Keep reading to learn about the dos and don’ts of writing a wedding thank you card.\n\n## How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards: 10 Dos and Don’ts\n![how-to-write-a-thank-you-card](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AYbSbjBaeZZm67pCd8tNW/c17dbca3cd6962c25e75edea6e0afc18/how-to-write-a-thank-you-card.png)\n\nCrafting sincere [wedding thank you card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) messages is much easier when you understand the basics of what a wedding thank you card should or shouldn’t mention. \n\n### Do Prioritize the Structure\n\n__1. Greeting__: Begin with a greeting that identifies to whom the card is written.\n\n__2. Thank them for coming__: Immediately thank them for attending your wedding in the first place.\n\n__3. Thank them for the gift__: Get right to the heart of your message by thanking them for their wedding gift.\n\n__4. Say why the gift brings you joy__: Write a line or two about why their gift fits your needs, how it will be used, or why you’re so grateful to have it.\n\n__5. Show gratitude for the big picture__: Don’t forget to acknowledge the love and support given by your loved ones as you made this major life decision.\n\n__6. Closing__: Wrap it up with an expression of your warmth, love, or friendship for the recipient, and sign your name.\n\n### Don’t Try to Write Them All at Once\n\nWriting wedding thank you cards all at once might sound like a good idea in theory, but this method can quickly lead to fatigue.\n\nDepending on the size of your [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), plan to set aside some time every weekend or so to write your wedding thank you cards in small batches.\n\nThe last thing you and your significant other want is to make your guests feel unappreciated by your rushed wedding thank you card wording. \n\n### Do Opt for Handwritten Cards (If Possible)\n\nHandwritten notes signify that a lot of time and effort went into crafting your message. If possible, try to create handwritten wedding thank you cards.\n\nSourcing stationery that matches your [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) is another way to add a considerate touch of style to your handwritten notes.\n\n### Don’t Forget to Thank the Vendors\n\nIf time allows, consider writing thank you notes for the vendors, caterers, and any support staff that took part in making your big day special!\n\n### Do Write Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Send Gifts\n\nShow everyone who took the time to celebrate you and your partner’s ceremony just how special their presence was, even if they didn’t send a present.\n\nDepending on the accessibility of your wedding venue, some guests may have had to spend more resources to attend than others. A wedding thank you card for their attendance lets them know that their efforts were appreciated.\n\n### Don’t Write the Same Note for Every Guest\n\nReceiving a beautifully written thank you card is like a present all its own, but realizing that your thank you card is completely unoriginal can leave a guest feeling unimportant.\n\nAttempt to write a personalized thank you card for every guest who attended your wedding ceremony. Mentioning the specific gift you received from them is a great way to add a personal touch.\n\n### Do Send Thank You Cards as Soon as Possible\n\nSending your thank you cards ASAP allows you to check off one of the final tasks on your post-wedding checklist—even if you run into shipping delays and other factors outside of your control.\n\nAlthough it's common practice to send wedding thank you cards within three months of the wedding, sooner is always better, so that no guest feels forgotten.\n\n### Don’t Send Multiple Thank You Cards to One Household\n\nStationary prices and stamps can add up, especially if you had a long guest list. There is no need to send multiple thank you cards to one household.\n\nIf multiple gifts were sent by different guests living under the same roof, make sure to address them individually in your wedding thank you card wording so that everyone feels appreciated.\n\n### Do Mention the Specific Gift You Received\n\nMentioning the specific gift you received is the best way to tailor each wedding thank you card to the sender. \n\nIf you’re able to do so, include a brief sentence on how that gift is now bettering your marriage with your significant other. These small details can help the sender understand the impact their gift is making on your new life together.\n\n### Don’t Mention Exact Monetary Amounts\n\nFor security reasons, it’s typically a good idea to avoid mentioning the exact monetary amount of cash gifts. \n\nIn case your thank you card is lost or given to a stranger, you want to protect the gift-giver by not mentioning the cash amounts they were able to give away.\n\n## Wedding Thank You Card Wording Examples\n\nWhether you’re writing a thank you note to a guest who didn’t come to your wedding (but still sent a gift) or someone who gave you an off-registry present that you immediately returned, these wedding thank you card examples will help you navigate wording for every kind of message.\n\n### For When the Gift Was from Your Registry\n\n*Dear Jacqueline,\n\nWe’re so grateful you could come to our wedding a few weeks ago. And thank you so much for the chef’s knife and honing steel you gave us! We’ve both been learning some basic cooking skills, and can’t wait to show them off when you visit us this summer.\n\nOur wedding was a day we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. Words really can’t express how thankful we are that you could be part of it.\n\nLove,\nJanine and Kai*\n\n### For When the Gift Was a Monetary Gift\n\n*Dear Ellen and Sam,\n\nIt was wonderful to see you at our wedding! Thank you for making the trip—and for your incredibly generous gift. We’re planning to take a long camping trip this summer, and we were able to pick up some crucial gear thanks to you. We’ll send pictures!\n\nAgain, we’re so grateful for your friendship. Thank you for being part of our special day.\n\nWith love,\nMillie and Beau*\n\n### For When You Didn’t like or Exchanged the Gift\n\n*Dear Uncle Jeff,\n\nIt was a true delight to see you at our wedding. Thank you for the fondue set you gave us! It was incredibly thoughtful of you, and we’re both touched by your generosity.\n\nOur wedding was all we could have hoped for, and it wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you again for helping us get our marriage off to such a wonderful start.\n\nGratefully yours,\nCher and Kiera*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Didn’t Attend the Wedding\n\n*Dear Henrietta,\n\nThank you for the stunning serving bowl! It’s the perfect accent for the open shelves in our kitchen. Thanks to you, our newlywed home is looking beautiful so far.\n\nWhile we missed you at the wedding, we know you were there in spirit. We hope to see you when we’re back from our honeymoon! Again, our deepest thanks for your generosity.\n\nSincerely,\nMargaret and Kate*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Very Close Friend\n\n*Dear Jake,\n\nWe loved having you at our wedding! Thank you so much for the beer brewing kit. We’re going to fire it up in the next few weeks, and hope to be sipping backyard IPAs with you in no time.\n\nYou can’t imagine how moving it was for us to see you in the crowd with everyone else we love. These memories will last a lifetime and then some. Thank you for being part of our lives.\n\nMuch love,\nZach and Tracy*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Formal Acquaintance\n\n*Dear Dr. Milford,\n\nPlease accept our deepest gratitude for the crystal vase you gave us. It’s a stunning centerpiece for our coffee table, and we can’t wait to fill it with the first flowers of spring.\n\nWe were both touched that you could attend the wedding. Your kindness and support means everything as we set off on a new life together.\n\nGratefully yours,\nLogan and Mackenzie*\n\n### For When Guests Sent a Group Gift\n\n*Dear Chia, Hector, Phoebe, and Tonya,\n\nWe are so grateful that you all pitched in to gift us our new grill! We already cooked our first meal on it and cannot wait to grill for everyone whenever you’re all back in town.\n\nWe have profound gratitude for your gift and it touched our heart that you worked together to make this happen. We miss you all so much already!\n\nOur love to all of you,\nSebastian and Terry*\n\n### For When Guests Traveled Far to Attend\n\n*Dear Aunt June,\n\nWe are eternally grateful that you traveled all the way from the other side of the country to be part of our big day! The memories we all made are cherished more than you can imagine.\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift and we both look forward to spending more time with you this summer!\n\nLove,\nHaru and Aki*\n\n### For When the Sender Was in Your Wedding Party\n\n*Dear Esmerelda,\n\nWe cannot thank you enough for being in our wedding party. Your help with the decor and rehearsals made this big day such a breeze for us both!\n\nWe love our new dishware as well! We’re so lucky to have your artistic touch in our home now, and we hope to celebrate our new life with you over dinner very soon.\n\nTalk soon,\nDiaz and Iris*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Your Parents\n\n*Dear Dad and Papa,\n\nWe are beyond grateful to have shared our special day with you both by our sides. You both were a tremendous help in making this wedding come to life and the new bookcase you sent was an incredibly thoughtful gesture.\n\nThank you for sharing your wisdom with us throughout the process and being our shoulder to cry on during the stressful moments—it was all worth it to dance with you like we did.\n\nWe love you always,\nCassie and Clarke*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Wedding Vendors\n\n*Dear Wedding Supplies & Co.,\n\nThank you for all the thoughtful touches you added to our big day. Your help made everything run smoothly and we deeply appreciate the wine and charcuterie board you gifted us.\n\nWe will be able to host lots of dinners at our new home thanks to your generosity.\n\nSincerely, \nLupita and Louise*\n\n### For When the Gift Is a Charity Donation\n\n*Dear Fletcher and Fiona,\n\nWe cannot begin to thank you enough for your generous contribution to our charity of choice, The Nippon Foundation Ocean Innovation Consortium.\n\nYour thoughtful gift will help fund ocean cleanup events across East Asia! Our dream is to one day live in a world free of plastic ocean waste, and you have just helped us get one step closer to that goal.\n\nWe are forever grateful,\nJessie and Matt*\n\n### For When a Guest Didn’t Send a Gift\n\n*Dear Leonard and Nancy,\n\nThank you for taking the time to celebrate our special day with us. We were so excited to see you hitting the dance floor during the reception!\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift, and we cannot wait to dance the night away with you again soon!\n\nLove,\nTaylor and Elizabeth*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Someone You Don’t Know\n\n*Dear Ms. Ramirez,\n\nWe received the gorgeous vegan cookbook you sent us, and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful gift honoring our new life together.\n\nWe appreciate your generosity and kindness, and we hope to cook a delicious meal for you sometime soon. Please give our thanks to your wife and family as well!\n\nOur sincerest gratitude, \nYasmine and Maxwell *\n\n### For When the Gift Is from a Shared Household\n\n*Dear Shibuya family, \n\nThank you all so much for helping us celebrate our big day! Little Vanessa’s paintings were the perfect gift, and they’re now hanging up in our study.\n\nWe know her artwork will help spark creativity while we both begin new careers during this new chapter of our lives. We can’t thank your family enough for taking time to dance the night away with us!\n\nTake care,\nAntonio and Alex*\n\n## Helpful Synonyms for Wedding Thank You Notes\n\nWhen you’re writing card after card (after card), it can get pretty tiresome to say the same thing over and over. Here is a list of synonyms for common expressions that will help you keep your thank you card language fresh.\n\n__Ways to Say “Thank You for Your Gift”__\n- We deeply appreciate your gift.\n- We have profound gratitude for your gift.\n- We’re offering the deepest thanks for your gift.\n- We’re truly thankful for your gift.\n- We’re so grateful for your gift.\n- We can’t thank you enough for your gift.\n- We love your gift; thank you so much!\n- Your gift is very much appreciated.\n- Thank you for your generosity.\n- Thank you for your thoughtfulness.\n\n__Ways to Say “Our Wedding”__\n- Our ceremony\n- Our special day\n- The big day\n- Our union\n- The beginning of our life together\n- Our celebration\n- Our big event\n\n__Ways to Say “We’re Happy You Could Come”__\n- It was a joy to have you at our wedding.\n- We were delighted you could come.\n- We’re honored that you made the trip.\n- It was wonderful to see you at our wedding.\n- We were so grateful to have you as a guest. \n- We really appreciate your presence. \n- We loved having you there. \n- We’re so thankful you could join us. \n- You made our celebration complete. \n\n__Ways to Say “With Love”__\n- Many thanks,\n- Gratefully yours,\n- With love and gratitude,\n- Warmly yours,\n- With deepest thanks,\n- All our love,\n- Best wishes, \n- Together with love,\n- Fondly, \n- Cheers,\n- Sincerely,\n\n![how-to-say-thank-you](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Mo3WiDrPLVN3sEcVhDbbB/08a338683d1d71cab499690697e735d9/how-to-say-thank-you.png)\n\nHopefully these phrases help you best express the warm fuzzies you got from your wedding gifts. Crafting a heartfelt thank you card is all about the little details, like which adjectives you use and how personal your thank you card wording comes across.\n\n[Beautiful wedding card designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can also heighten the wow factor guests will feel upon opening their custom thank you card. Test out these tips while writing your next thank you card batch and you’ll be amazed by how tender your words can be.\n\n## FAQs About Wedding Thank You Card Wording\n\nHave more questions about wedding thank you card wording? We have answers.\n\n### What Do You Say in a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nThe core elements of wedding thank you card wording include a personalized greeting, thanking the guest for attending, showing gratitude for their specific gift, and a heartfelt closing.\n\n### Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nAnyone who sent you and your significant other a gift should be sent a wedding thank you card, and some couples also choose to send a thank you card to every guest who attended the wedding.\n\n### Do I Send a Thank You Card to Someone Who Didn’t Attend the Wedding?\n\nThis is a personal decision between you and your spouse. Depending on the length of your guest list, this can also be a major time commitment. \n\nIf you have the budget to invest in stationary and stamps, then consider taking the time to thank guests who made their presence your present.\n\n### How Do You Say Thank You for Wedding Money?\n\nInstead of mentioning the specific monetary amount the guest gifted you, tell the sender what you plan on doing with their investment in your future. \n\nFor example, mention that their gift will help make your honeymoon adventures possible or will go to a diaper fund for the next chapter of your life.\n\n### When Should Thank You Cards Be Sent Out After a Wedding?\n\nIn general, wedding thank you cards should be sent out between one to three months of the wedding. Any earlier is always appreciated by the guests, but later than this might leave guests wondering if you truly enjoyed their gifts or not.\n\n\n","body2":"## We'll do the work.\n \nNow that you know *what* to write in your wedding thank you cards, let us do the hard part. If you aren't into handwriting—or you tried and your hands can't handle it—we'll do that part for you. Now with Zola, you can type messages for any of your guests or customize our suggested notes. Yes, you can write individual messages to individual guests or families—it's still super personal. Then, we'll print whatever you write in a beautiful font.\n\nFind this feature when you select any thank you card style on Zola. 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","title":"How to Plan a Wedding on a Budget","slug":"how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12xT1Cmwna6F8ZH5lfSaZG/9ad57fff315f5f3634f00c3f162db28a/How-to-Plan-a-Wedding-on-a-Budget.jpg","altText":"Couple holding bouquets exiting outdoor wedding ceremony"},"type":"articlePage"}],"cta":{"copy":"Shop Thank You Cards","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:44.423Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-menu-cards","title":"A Guide to Wedding Menu Cards","excerpt":"Discover everything there is to know about wedding menu cards in our guide. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-11T15:46:29.719Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/61hYhBsuFxG4P1dyCiV5XB/563a14f4629b73a3a383c1d0329291d0/hero_A_Guide_to_Wedding_Menu_Cards.jpg","altText":"wedding reception place setting with cream colored plates, sage green accents, and a wedding menu card"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nYou chose a dining style, hired a great local [wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and selected the delicious food that will be served at your wedding reception. Now, the next menu consideration you need to tackle is the [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop). If you’re like most couples, you probably have a few questions about wedding reception menu cards: Are they necessary? What should you include on them? What are the display options? Discover the answers and more in our guide below. \n\n## Are Wedding Reception Menu Cards Necessary? \nWedding reception menu cards are not a requirement, but they are great for communicating the details of the meal to your guests. If you’re serving a plated meal with multiple main course options, it’s common to ask your guests to choose the main course they would prefer on the [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). However, in some cases, you may prefer that guests make their choice at the event—therefore it’s important to have a printed dinner menu on hand for them to refer to when making their decision. \n\nIf you opt for buffet or family-style service, menu cards are a quick and easy way to share the food options and give guests the courtesy of knowing what to expect. Guests with dietary restrictions and food allergies will appreciate the heads up about what’s on the menu so they can plan ahead and enjoy the meal without stress. \n\n## What to Include on Wedding Menu Cards? \nWhat you include on your [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas) is up to your preference and the style and tone of your event. Feel free to get creative and have fun with your wording, but your menu template should include the following: \n\n### 1. Description of Courses (or List of Dishes Served)\n- __Plated Meal:__ Outline the courses or meal options in the order they will be served. \n- __Family Style Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served to each table.\n- __Buffet Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served at the buffet.\n\n### 2. Main Ingredients in Each Dish\nWhile it’s not required to list every ingredient used in a dish, it is customary to provide a shortlist of the main ingredients, including foods that are common food allergies, such as nuts, shellfish, gluten, and dairy. \n\n### 3. A Welcome and Thank You (Optional)\nMany couples also use their wedding menu cards as an opportunity to welcome and thank their guests. This text is typically very short and is often found at the top or bottom of the card. \n\n### 4. Your Names and Wedding Date (Optional)\nTo turn your wedding menu card into a scrapbook-worthy memento, include your names and your wedding date on the card. \n\n## Wedding Menu Card Wording Samples\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Plated\n\n__APPETIZER
__\n\n*Assorted Empanadas*
\n*and*
\n*Gazpacho with Fried Almonds*
\n\n__SALAD
__\n\n*Kale Salad with Spicy Quinoa*
\n*and*
\n*Jicama and Mango Slaw*
\n\n__MAIN COURSE
__\n\n*Skirt Steak with Chimichurri*
\n*or*
\n*Snapper with Avocado Salsa*
\n*or*
\n*Charred Street Corn Risotto*
\n\n__DESSERT__\n\n*Gelato Sundae Bar*
\n*and*
\n*Local Pie and Tart Bar*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Buffet\n\nThank you so much for celebrating this special occasion with us! \nPlease eat, drink, and be merry. \n\n*Braised Pork Shoulder*
\n*Bacon, Apple, Sausage, Cheddar Stuffing*
\n*Brandied Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Hot Smoked Salmon*
\n*Dijon Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Whipped Russet Potatoes*
\n*Garlic & Chives*
\n\n*Roasted Local Vegetables*
\n*Fig Tapenade*
\n\n*Seasonal Green Salad*
\n*Balsamic Vinaigrette*
\n\n*Whole Grain Baguette*
\n*Honey Butter*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Family Style\n\nWelcome to Our Wedding Reception. Please enjoy this family-style menu as you get to know everyone at your table, and thank you for being part of our special day.\n\n__First__\n\n*Local Cheese & Charcuterie Platter*
\n*Olives, Crostini, Apples, Bread & Seasonal Garniture*
\n\n__Second__\n\n*Mixed Green Salad*
\n*Port Wine Poached Pears, Stilton Cheese, Walnuts*
\n*Aged Sherry Vinaigrette*
\n\n__Third__\n\n*Pan Seared Duck Breast*
\n*Blood Orange Gastrique*
\n\n*Sweet Potato Gnocchi*
\n*Mushrooms, Peas, Parmesan, Carrot Sauce*
\n\n*Rice Pilaf*\n\n*Seasonal Roasted Vegetables*\n\n__Fourth__\n\n*Passed Local Sweets*\n\n## Wedding Menu Card Display Options\nThere are many different ways to display your catering menu at your wedding, but here is a look at the main styles you’re likely to encounter: \n\n- __Individual Menu Cards —__ For formal or elegant weddings with plated dinner service, it is typical for small [menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop) to be placed at each place setting. This option adds a nice finishing touch to your design and individually welcomes each guest. In some cases, couples might have the menu card do double duty as a place card by including the guest’s name as well. That way, guests can find their seat, read your welcome message, and peruse the menu in one go. \n- __Large Display or Signage —__ If you prefer not to invest in individual menu cards for each place setting, a great option is to display a large sign at the reception. From chalkboard signage to calligraphy on gilded mirrors, there are limitless ways to get creative and elevate your decor at the same time. \n- __Small Buffet Sign —__ For a sign that gets the job done but is more inconspicuous, many couples opt to place a small menu sign beside the buffet or at each food station. \n- __Table Sign —__ To retain the intimate feel of individual menu cards without straining your budget, we recommend posting a menu sign on each round table, or a displaying a menu per every 4 chairs if you’re using rectangular tables. \n\nYour wedding stationery isn’t really complete with wedding reception menu cards. Follow our menu template above to create stunning and informative paper products that let your guests know exactly what they can or will eat for dinner at your wedding.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"cta":{"copy":"Shop Wedding Menu Cards","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:40.784Z"}],"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper","description":"Day-of wedding paper or stationary includes wedding day menus, wedding table number cards, place cards, ceremony programs, and wedding guest books. Find guides, advice and ideas for all wedding stationary here."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-paper-guide","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper","excerpt":"Here’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pdjGxliJ09cJurPvdVnex/3795bb9532ada8a69aa5545e5b8dd372/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg","altText":"Floral wedding invitation suite laid out on a green table"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations\n- Save the dates\n- Wedding invitations\n- Wedding event and party invitations\n- Day-of paper\n- Thank you notes\n- Wedding invitation suite\n- Frequently asked questions about wedding invites\n","body":"There’s nothing quite like getting wedding invitations or save the dates in the mail. We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). 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