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From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too.

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Wedding Invite Postage
Invites & paper

Wedding Invitation Postage: How to Mail Your Invites

Your wedding invitations are ready to ship! Here's how to mail your wedding invites and save the dates with the right postage.

What Are Wedding Envelope Liners?
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What Are Wedding Envelope Liners?

Wedding stationery can be tricky. Here’s what you need to know about wedding envelope liners.

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The Difference Between Ms, Mrs and Miss

Understand the difference between Ms, Mrs and Miss. Learn when to use each title appropriately with our comprehensive guide to proper etiquette.

Unique Enclosure Card Ideas
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Unique Enclosure Card Ideas

Are you finding yourself wondering what to write on wedding enclosure cards? Zola, your wedding guide, is here to help.

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10 Creative Wedding Shower Invite Ideas

We’ve rounded up some of the most creative wedding shower invite ideas to give you the inspiration you need to start planning the perfect celebration.

Wedding Enclosure Card Wording
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Wedding Enclosure Card Wording

Enclosure cards are the secret to a well-organized wedding. Here’s what you need to know about wording yours.

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The Best Ways to Collect Wedding RSVPs

There are a few ways to collect your wedding RSVPs. Here, we'll tell you how to do it right, plus other wedding RSVP etiquette.

Traditional Christian Wedding Invitations
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Traditional Christian Wedding Invitations

Everything to consider for Christian wedding invitations.

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9 Wedding Invitation Styles for Every Type of Couple

From bohemian and botanical to minimalist and modern, there are pretty wedding invitations of all styles on Zola. Here are some of our gorgeous favorites.

Unique Wedding Invitation Wording
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Unique Wedding Invitation Wording

Your wedding invitation should speak to your personality. Here are some ideas for unique wedding invitation wording from Zola.

The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation
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The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation

Everything you need to know about Muslim wedding invitations.

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12 Rustic Wedding Invitations Ideas to Inspire You

Rustic weddings make the natural feel new again. Whether you’re opting for hand-drawn florals or festival prints, here are some ideas for rustic wedding invitations.

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Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nYou dedicate a lot of time and energy to designing and customizing and [perfecting](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/typo-on-wedding-invitations) your wedding invitations and/or paper suite. So, you’re probably eager to get them sent out. One mailing mishap, though, and the process can get really tricky (read: frustrating). To avoid any mistakes, we’re laying out all you need to know about how to mail wedding invitations, including information on wedding invite postage. Read on to ensure your save the dates and invitations don’t end up back at your door.\n\n#### How Much Postage You Will Need to Send Out Wedding Invitations\nBecause [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) require a few different mail correspondences, we estimate that couples will need 3-4 stamps per household they are mailing invitations to.\n- __Save the Dates__ usually require only one postage stamp as they will usually weigh under the standard amount of postage limits\n- __Wedding Invitations__ often include more materials, which can impact the cost of postage. Because of the added weight of additional materials, wedding invitation suites typically require 1-2 stamps each. There are also a handful of stamps available that allow for parcels of up to 2 oz. each, which can be perfect for mailing wedding invitations\n- __RSVP cards__ should include postage when they get to your guests to prevent any roadblocks in their responses. These typically weigh under the standard amount of postage and will only require 1 stamp\n\n## Save the Dates\nBefore you even assemble your wedding invitations, you need to create and mail out your save the dates. Breath easy, because this is the simplest part of wedding postage. In most cases, your [save the date postcards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) will only include one piece, meaning it’ll weigh at or under the standard amount (1 ounce) and only require one stamp. To avoid any being sent back, send them from your local post office, especially if they’re a custom shape.\n\n## Invitation Suite\nYour invitation suite (or paper suite) is where things get more complicated. To start, the number of stamps you’ll need—and the cost of mailing each invitation—largely depends on the number of materials you include. As you add additional [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-invitation-enclosure-cards), the weight of each invitation envelope will increase, therefore you’ll need extra postage. A standard weight stamp, or “Forever Stamp,” costs 55 cents and each additional ounce costs 15 cents. With maps, directions cards, itinerary cards, and much more, the overall cost of stamps for your wedding invitations can add up. We advise including the essentials in your invitation suite and making all other information available on a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\nOnce you’ve assembled your wedding invitation suite, we recommend taking one to your local post office and weighing it. Then, you can figure out exactly how much postage each invitation will need. \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4pqMIHEfLoZXlHvVQimC/9eb67f69b012b7b0a30dc66f34391f38/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n## RSVP Response Cards\nTechnically, these are included in your wedding invitation suite, but they bear specific mentioning. Having your [response cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps) prepped and ready to use is vital, since giving your guests extra work might delay their replies. To avoid any mishaps, tuck the card under a RSVP envelope addressed to the host’s residence and include a postage stamp (or pre-stamp the envelope). Not only does this make the process easy on your guests, but it prevents anyone from dropping their RSVP cards in the mail without postage. Not to mention, it’s not great etiquette to make someone pay postage to RSVP to your event. Make the mailing process on both ends painless by having your response cards ready to go.\n\n## Things to Consider\n\nAside from total weight, there are additional factors that might affect the process and cost of mailing wedding sending out your invitations. Some things to consider when creating your suites are:\n\n- __Card stock:__ In case you’re unfamiliar, card stock is a paper stock that’s thicker and more durable than typical printer or writing paper. This is likely what you’re using for all of your wedding send-outs. Card stocks come in different weights (or thickness); the higher the weight, the thicker the paper. While this makes your invites look and feel professional, it also adds weight to your suite, which means you’ll need to pay for extra postage.\n- __Decorative pieces:__ Gold foil, ribbon, twine, flowers—each of these add a beautiful, unique touch to your [envelopes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-guide-to-envelopes). But considering how delicate these pieces are, you’ll want them to be hand-processed (more on that below). This costs an additional 21 cents per invitation.\n- __Calligraphy:__ Invitations that are [addressed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) in calligraphy have a higher chance of being returned or undeliverable, compared to clearly printed addresses. In fact, many calligraphers state in their contracts that up to 20% may be sent back to you. It’s possible that the postal worker won’t consider it legible or that the ink will become smudged and unreadable. This doesn’t mean you should ditch calligraphy altogether, just be aware that you might have to re-send some invitations.\n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Z8np22f99kVLVj9xbTmJ5/4fa9e5ef19c686c94dd5e874b245974c/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n### Hand-Processing and Hand-Canceling\nAfter all of the time (and money) you’ve spent creating your invitation suites, make sure they’re sent out in good hands. Literally. Hand-processing and hand-canceling are two ways in which you can prevent them from being bent or soiled via machine.\n\nSimply put, hand-processing means that your postmaster sorts your invitations by hand, rather than by a machine. As we said, this costs an additional 21 cents but also reassures you that your wedding invite envelopes won’t be damaged in delivery.\n\nLikewise, you can have your invitations [hand-canceled](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wise-tips-hand-canceling-wedding-invitations). Have you ever seen those squiggly lines that are stamped over a mail stamp when you receive a letter? That means the stamp has been “canceled” (or spent) and can’t be used anymore. This is typically done by machine, but you can request to have your wedding invitations canceled by hand. In this case, either the postmaster will cancel each individual stamp or will hand it to you to do yourself (usually for free!). You may have to spend a chunk of time in the post office, but it’s worth the knowledge that your invites were handled well.\n\n### Non-machinable Elements\nThere are some decorative inner envelope elements that are considered “non-machinable.” This means that they’re unable to be processed or canceled through a machine. You’ll need to pay the additional 21 cents to have them hand-processed and canceled no matter what. The following are popular customizations that are considered non-machinable:\n\n- Envelopes with wax seals\n- Envelopes that are more than ¾ of an inch thick\n- Envelopes that are square or custom sizes\n\nNow that you’ve prepared your invitations, stamps and all, learn the right time to [send them out](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Here’s what you need to know about wedding envelope liners.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T07:07:10.765Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4QTjdN5I7nl6Mgj8WepONb/6725ebeeac78da1ddeb63110a2e87ef9/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Are Wedding Envelope Liners?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Wedding envelope liners are inserts that go into your invitation envelopes. They can be made of paper or another flexible material.\n- Envelope liners protect your invitations from shipping damage and give you an extra opportunity to add a touch of style.\n- A typical wedding invitation can include many things, including an envelope, liner, invite, reception card, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, maps, and accommodation information.\n- There are some other things typically overlooked in wedding planning. Zola can help with every step of the wedding planning process.","body":"If you’re like many of us, saying yes to your soon-to-be spouse has opened the door to all kinds of new terminology and products you never knew existed. The world of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) and invitation design is full of exciting new things for you to explore and ways to flex your creative muscles.\n\nHowever, it can also feel a little overwhelming, especially when you’re inundated with tasks and to-do lists. Chances are, you’ve likely never had to think about wedding envelope liners before and now you need to decide if you need them—and, if so, what kind. \n\nThat’s why we’ve put together this guide—to teach you about wedding envelope liners. Read on to learn more about:\n\n- What are Wedding Envelope Liners\n- Why You Need Envelope Liners\n- How You Use Envelope Liners\n- Ordering Wedding Envelope Liners\n\nDid you know that you can [find beautiful envelope liners right here at Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)? Once you pick the invites and paper designs that are right for you, add one of our many liner designs to your envelope drafts. It's the ultimate add-on for deluxe wedding envelopes. \n\n## Wedding Envelope Liner 101 \nSo what are wedding envelope liners? They’re paper or some other type of bendable material that you include in your wedding invitation envelope. They can either be glued to the envelope itself or can be a separate item that’s inserted into the inner envelope before you stuff them with your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and other paper items.\n\nIf you’re a creative type who wants to make a statement with your invitations, envelope liners are a fabulous way to do so. They’re also relatively inexpensive, so they won’t break your budget. Along with being glamorous, they’re also functional.\n\n## Why Do You Need Wedding Envelope Liners? \nHow many times have you received mail that’s been bent, folded, or otherwise damaged in the shipping process? We’ve all been there and most of the time it’s just a circular or some junk mail you were going to recycle anyway. However, when you get something important in the mail, you want it to be in pristine condition. \n\nThe same is true when you mail something. You want assurance that it’s going to get to the final destination in one piece. This is one of the benefits of wedding envelope liners. Your invitations are special. You’ve invested time and money into their production and shipping. Those hours you spent designing the perfect look shouldn’t go to waste. This is where liners can help. They serve several purposes, including:\n\n- Protecting your invitations and other materials from damage during shipping.\n- Adding another opportunity to incorporate creative design into your invites.\n- Providing a simple and affordable touch of luxury.\n- Making a fun surprise for your guests when they open your invitation.\n\n## How Do You Use Envelope Liners? \nThere are two ways to purchase envelopes and liners. The type you buy will determine how you use them. Some people like the convenience of a lined envelope, as they offer protection and a touch of style without extra work on your part. Others prefer an insert-style liner because of the flexibility it offers for design and style.\n\n- __Lined envelopes:__ You can’t beat pre-lined envelopes for simplicity and a touch of style. One of the most common types of lined envelopes used for invitations are foil-lined envelopes. These are an attractive way to protect your invitations while adding some sparkle. At [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), we make invitation ordering easy. Standard envelopes are included but you can also upgrade to our lovely foil-lined versions.\n\n- __Envelope liner:__ Another option is to get standard envelopes and add a separate liner. This gives you more flexibility in design choices but requires more work on your end. You’ll have to add the liner to your assembly line when you put your invitation pieces together for mailing. If you do have the time and want to add envelope liners, we’ve come up with some ordering tips and design ideas to inspire you.\n\n## Things to Consider When Ordering Envelope Liners\nThere are a few things you should consider when you order envelope liners to ensure proper fit and style. These include:\n\n- __Size:__ You’ll need to have the style of the envelope along with the measurements before ordering envelope liners. The general rule is to make the liner about three-quarters of an inch smaller than the envelope at the bottom and an eighth of an inch smaller on the sides, including the top flap. This will make it easy for you to slide the liner into the envelope. \n\n- __Colors:__ If you’re using a dark-colored envelope but your invitations are white or another pale color, a liner can protect them. Without a liner, the dark dye from the envelopes can rub off on your invitations, creating ugly smudges where you don’t want them. \n\n- __Quantity:__ If you’re stuffing your own envelopes and the liner is a part of your process, make sure you order a few extra just in case of mistakes or accidental tearing. It’s also nice to have a few to keep in your wedding album or keepsake box.\n\n## 14 Special Wedding Envelope Liner Ideas \nNow let’s talk about some ways to make your liners unique, fun, and practical. While the possibilities are endless, these are some of our absolute favorite ideas.\n\n### #1 Foil\nSimple, classy, shiny, and gorgeous—you can’t go wrong with a foil-lined envelope for your invites. Foil paper is available in many colors. It also doesn’t tend to bleed or smudge, so it's safe to use with your pristine white invitations. Since you can order envelopes that are pre-lined with foil, you’ll also save time when you stuff and mail your envelopes.\n\n### #2 Maps\nMaps are a surprising and practical way to delight your guests when they open the invitations. Some of the best ways to use maps on your liners include:\n\n- Vintage maps for a colorful, artsy touch\n- Artistic rendering of the wedding location \n- Map of the city or state where the wedding will be held\n- Map showing the couples’ hometowns with a line connecting them\n- Map of places of significance to the couple\n\nAs you can see, maps are a wonderful source of design inspiration. \n\n### #3 Skyline\nIf a map isn’t your style but you’re getting married in a city with a recognizable or stunning skyline, you can craft an envelope liner featuring a digital or artistic representation of the skyline. It will be a beautiful sight for your guests when they open the envelope, plus gives them a sneak preview of the wedding’s location.\n\n### #4 Date and Location\nYou can keep it simple by listing the date and address of the ceremony in a lovely script on your envelope liner. This is practical, but still adds a special touch and protects your invites.\n\n### #5 Repetitive Patterns\nAnother easy design we love for envelope liners is a repetitive pattern. There are many exquisite papers out there that can be used for envelope liners. Some wedding favorites include:\n\n- Roses\n- Mixed bouquets\n- Ferns\n- Fleur-de-Lis\n- Stripes\n- Polka-dots\n- Paisley\n- Geometric patterns\n- Hearts\n- Birds\n- Printed lace\n\nThe nice thing about patterned papers is you don’t run the risk of your guest tearing open the envelope and spoiling the design. Even if they do rip the liner, they’ll still be able to see the pattern.\n\n### #6 Sketch of the Couple\nAn artist’s sketch or cartoon of the couple is another fun way to brighten the insides of your envelopes. Your guests will delight at the sight of your smiling faces and will be eager to see you in person at the ceremony.\n\n### #7 Venue\nIf you love the sketch idea but aren’t thrilled about having your face on your envelopes, you can have a sketch of the [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) printed on your liners. This is a fun way to give your guests a preview of where the wedding will be held. It’s also a nice memory for you as a couple, since you’ll definitely want to hang on to a few envelope liners as keepsakes.\n\n### #8 Special Quote\nThere are many overused quotes about love out there. Instead of recycling one you’ve heard a million times before, find a unique quote that’s meaningful and special to you as a couple. Then, print this special quip on your liners. \n\n### #9 Wedding Flowers\nIf you’ve already selected the flowers you’ll be using for your wedding, set the tone early by also incorporating them into your invitation and liners. Single blossoms or wider sprays of flowers add eye-catching beauty to your envelopes. Some of our favorite vividly colored flowers that sparkle on invitation liners include:\n\n- Roses\n- Tulips\n- Peonies\n- Lilies\n- Lilacs\n- Ranunculuses\n- Dahlias\n- Sweet peas\n- Hellebores\n- Bluebells\n\n### #10 Watercolors\nWatercolor scenes are a romantic addition to your wedding envelope liners. The toned-down colors and abstraction of details are calming and set the mood for a charming wedding. Watercolor scenes we love include:\n\n- Green meadows with soft flowers sprinkled throughout\n- Seaside sunsets, especially for beach weddings\n- Bouquets of your favorite flowers\n- Countryside scenes for rustic weddings\n- Woody branches with brightly colored birds\n- Snowy winter scapes for winter weddings\n\n### #11 Calligraphy\nCalligraphy is a simple, yet alluring way to add a personal touch to your envelope liners. You can include your initials or your full names. For color, you can use ink that matches your wedding colors or stick to classic black and white.\n\n### #12 Single Bold Color\nWedding liners can also be very simple. You can use a single bold color to make a statement with your liners. Some couples like to use their wedding color palette in this fashion. White envelopes look delightful with a bright liner in: \n\n- Teal\n- Red\n- Royal blue\n- Violet\n- Yellow\n- Forest green\n- Burgundy\n- Fuschia\n- Navy blue\n\nThis style is particularly popular for more modern weddings. The overarching palette of black and white with a dazzling splash of color really set the tone.\n\n### #13 Craft Paper\nFor the rustic wedding striving for a natural look, craft paper envelope liners add a nice touch. They protect your invitations and show your guests your laid-back, low-maintenance style. These would be the perfect addition for invites that incorporate a lot of barn wood and simple, pretty floral detail.\n\n### #14 Lace Doily\nIf you want something completely different, yet still elegant and timeless, a lace doily liner might be an option for you. These can still protect your invites while adding a layer of glamour to your envelopes.\n\n## Tips for Ordering Wedding Envelope Liners\nNow that your mind is swimming with ideas, we want to give you a few tips about ordering wedding envelope liners. \n\n- __Be design-savvy:__ Your guests are going to be excited to open your invitation. They might not anticipate a work of art inside the envelope. If your liners are a full-page design, they may get torn when the envelope is opened. \n\nIf you don’t like the idea of a rip through the center of your design, you can use a patterned liner with a repeating pattern. This way your guests can still enjoy the extra touch without it getting ruined when the envelope is opened.\n\n- __Consider the envelope flap:__ Your envelope liner will extend to an eighth of an inch of the flap. A pointed flap will showcase designs differently than a square flap. Make sure you're accommodating for the flap style when planning your design.\n\n- __Be mindful of space:__ Most standard invitation envelopes can handle the material typically included with an invitation. However, everything you add takes up a little more space. You don’t want your envelopes to be so stuffed that they tear before you can even get them in the mail. The heavier your invitations are, the more they will cost per piece to mail too.\n\n## What Goes Into the Invitation Envelope? \nThe typical wedding invitation includes up to seven pieces. Keep in mind, you may or may not have all of these. It depends on your style and how you’ve designed your invitations and other materials. \n\n### Envelope Liner\nAs you now know, envelope liners are a classy way to protect your invitations from shipping damage. They also give you an opportunity to showcase your style or continue a theme from your invitations. \n\n### The Invitation\nThis is the most important piece in the envelope. Your invitation should have all of the necessary details included such as:\n\n- Who’s getting married\n- The date/s of events\n- The location\n- The tone and level of formality of the wedding\n- How to RSVP\n- Names of the couples’ parents\n\n### A Reception Card\nA reception card contains details about the reception, such as:\n\n- Where it’s going to be held\n- The time\n- Details about the menu\n- Additional information about activities during the reception\n\nIf your reception is going to be held in the same location as the ceremony, you don’t have to have a reception card. However, it’s a nice way to make sure your guests are prepared and informed. Separate reception cards can also prevent your invitation cards from becoming too crowded with details.\n\n### RSVP Card\nThe RSVP card should give your guests space for their name, whether or not they’ll be attending, how many from their party will be attending, and their food selection.\n\nWedding menus should include more than one option as many guests may have dietary restrictions. A good rule is one standard option, a vegan or vegetarian option, and perhaps a gluten-free option. You don’t want anyone to go home from your wedding hungry.\n\n### RSVP Envelope\nEven if you give guests an option to RSVP on your website, you should still send envelopes for those traditional folks who prefer to mail things. You should include an envelope that is addressed to you and has a stamp on it for the guest’s convenience.\n\n### Map\nMaps are another thing you can include if needed. Some couples choose to put the map of the surrounding area on the reception card which is perfectly fine—as long as it’s readable. Most guests will use GPS to get to your ceremony, but it might be helpful to include a venue map if the ceremony is being held at a large venue.\n\n### Accommodation Details\nIf you’ve reserved a block of rooms at a local hotel for your guests, you can add a card with these details. Many hotels will offer special rates for wedding parties, and they’ll likely give you a code your guests can use to reserve the room at that rate. If there’s space, you can also include these details in the invitation.\n\nAs you can see, there are a lot of details to manage. Zola’s [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) builder can help you craft the perfect wedding website to make keeping track of all of your RSVPs, your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), and more a breeze. You can also design your website so it matches your wedding stationery. For the couple who adores design and details, there’s no better tool.\n\n## Let Zola Help You With Your Wedding Stationery Needs \nWe know that wedding planning is fun and exciting, but also stressful. There are things you need that you’ve never considered before you began planning your event. That’s where Zola comes in. We’re your trusted friend who has all the answers. \n\nOur goal is to help you plan the perfect wedding with as little stress as possible. We want to make your life easier and your wedding an enjoyable and memorable experience.\n\nDon’t get overwhelmed by the details. Take advantage of our free wedding planning resources and let us help you today.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:09.506Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"ms-vs-mrs","title":"The Difference Between Ms, Mrs and Miss ","excerpt":"Understand the difference between Ms, Mrs and Miss. Learn when to use each title appropriately with our comprehensive guide to proper etiquette.","publishedAt":"2022-04-22T17:02:43.851Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3P2U4gg4WTJrb29ivuqmso/f6738ec26f901ef6c0399cb6b19cad7a/mrs-vs-ms.jpg","altText":"woman-opening-a-letter"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Whether you’re [addressing wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), [writing a letter](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card), or greeting someone in person, addressing others with their preferred title is an important practice and symbol of respect. If you’re not clear on when to use “Miss,” “Ms.,” or “Mrs.,” don’t worry—learning how to properly use each title is straightforward and follows a set of clear etiquette rules.\n\nWhile it’s helpful to understand the traditional use of these titles as outlined below, it’s always best to ask someone what their preferred title is if you’re unsure. Just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it’s correct for everyone’s situation! \n\nKeep reading for everything you need to know about proper title etiquette, including how to address your wedding invitations! \n\n![the-difference-miss-ms-mrs (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12k3rnfbDHr4lIiehuDb7n/f17f1275b7d0fa4c2311467ffaa84cc5/the-difference-miss-ms-mrs__1_.png)\n\n- __Miss:__ “Miss” is used to address those who identify as women under the age of 30 who are unmarried. \n- __Ms.:__ “Ms.” can be used to address anyone who identifies as a woman, regardless of marital status. It can also be used when you’re unsure of someone’s marital status. \n- __Mrs.:__ “Mrs.” is used to address those who identify as women who are married. \n\n## Miss Definition \n\nThe title “Miss” is an English honorific used to address anyone identifying as a woman who is unmarried or who retains their maiden name. While any unmarried woman can be referred to as “Miss,” the title can feel slightly juvenile for women of a certain age. In these cases, it’s best to opt for the title “Ms.,” particularly in formal settings. \n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mis]\n__Plural:__ Misses\n__Example sentence:__ Miss Mary Steinman won the debate tournament. \n\n## Ms. Definition\nThe title “Ms.” is an English honorific and neutral catch-all term that became popularized during the feminist wave of the 1950s, when women sought to diminish the importance of marital status in relation to their social identity. Today, it’s considered the default form of address for adult women, regardless of marital status. \n\n![ms-default-form-of-address](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2m8qwcyACsuRPKPImdqRNW/0510d64ce6eb9ea24501c876b0c655a7/ms-default-form-of-address.png)\n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mizz]\n__Plural:__ Mss. or Mses\n__Example sentence:__ __Ms.__ Rodriguez will present our team awards this evening. \n\n## Mrs. Definition \nThe title “Mrs.” is an English honorific used before a surname to address married women. Traditionally considered as the equivalent of “Mr.,” it may also be used to address widowers, depending on their preference. \n\n__Pronunciation:__ [mis-iz, miz-iz]\n__Plural:__ Mmes. or Mesdames\n__Example sentence:__ __Mrs.__ Langard taught me how to play piano. \n\n## Ms. vs. Mrs. vs. Miss: How to Properly Address Wedding Invitations \n\nHow you address your wedding invitations is just as important as the invitation itself. Using the proper etiquette when writing each recipient’s title isn’t just common courtesy—it’s a sign of respect for the loved ones you’re inviting to [take part in your special day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding). \n\n![using-proper-etiquette-wedding-invitations (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5xiu3mkaizuZ3gxPtUydIv/06bd77790e59ae102b73bb18e306028e/using-proper-etiquette-wedding-invitations__1_.png)\n\nRemembering what we’ve covered about the differences between Miss, Ms., and Mrs., use these tips to address the outer envelopes with the correct title: \n\n- Use “Ms.” to address female-identifying people over the age of 18, regardless of marital status.\n- Use “Mrs.” to address married female-identifying people.\n- Use “Miss” for those under the age of 18, with their name following the name of their parents if they’re also invited (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Miss Jane). \n\nIf you’re unsure about someone’s preferred title, simply ask their preference before addressing their invitation to avoid a social faux pas. \n\n## Including Everyone: More Titles to Know\nAlong with knowing the difference between “Miss,” “Ms.,” and “Mrs.,” familiarize yourself with some additional titles you may need to use depending on who you’re addressing. \n\n- __Madame:__ Madame is the French equivalent of “Mrs.,” and is used in highly formal circumstances to address a female-identifying person who is married, or as a sign of respect for an elder. \n- __Dr.:__ Use this title to address a doctor, unless instructed otherwise. \n- __Mr.:__ “Mr.” is used to address male-identifying people, regardless of marital status. \n- __Rev.:__ “Rev.” is used to address a pastor or priest as a sign of respect. \n- __Mx.:__ “Mx.” is a gender-neutral title used to address nonbinary guests, guests who use they/them pronouns, or for anyone who prefers to be addressed by a nongendered title. \n\n![mx-to-address-nonbinary-guests](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2E5HcnXiF1wxtXDMTpqDNu/5a8773423e5c2f015b8c7b9af56515e8/mx-to-address-nonbinary-guests.png)\n\nAddressing others with the appropriate title is a simple sign of respect and a key element of proper etiquette. Most importantly, remember that not everyone will wish to be addressed by these traditional titles, even if they present as women. If you’re ever unsure of what someone's preferred title is, it’s perfectly polite to ask! \n\nWhether addressing your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) or sharing a greeting in person, most people will appreciate your thoughtfulness when inquiring about their preferences. \n","tag":"Invitation Wording","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:08.765Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"unique-enclosure-card-ideas","title":"Unique Enclosure Card Ideas","excerpt":"Are you finding yourself wondering what to write on wedding enclosure cards? Zola, your wedding guide, is here to help.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-05-25T16:14:53.036Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57xXpWNdcLXmxCmpMVm0OB/b0f61ee94c387b509cddbaca5dfe1187/Hero_Zola__10_.jpg","altText":"Unique Enclosure Card Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Enclosure cards provide additional information about the ceremony and reception. This includes expected attire, directions, culture-specific ceremony details, accommodation options, and more.\n- Personalize your enclosure cards with colors in line with your wedding palette, fun additions like magnets, gifts, or pressed flowers, or even design details that show off your love story. \n- Enclosure cards are meant to avoid potential stress and confusion on your wedding day. Zola can help you make the rest of your wedding to-do list as easy as (wedding) cake! \n","body":"You’ve been a busy bee, buzzing around, planning your dream wedding. You have all the details settled, you’re finalizing the invite list, the caterers are set, and it’s going to be absolutely perfect.\n\nNow you just have to send out your invitations.\n\nThat’s why this guide is here, to help you with everything you need to know about enclosure cards:\n\n- What Is an Enclosure Card and Why Do You Need One?\n- What to Write on Wedding Enclosure Cards\n- Personalizing Your Enclosure Card\n\n## What Is an Enclosure Card and Why Do You Need One? \n\nAn enclosure card is the meat and potatoes of your main invitation. \n\nThe invitation itself is usually a sleek, streamlined rundown of your wedding, including the who (you), what (getting married), where (at your amazing venue), and when (the date).\n\nWedding invitations are dedicated to your ceremony, but they leave a lot to the imagination, like what to wear, what’s on the menu, and how to get to the venue in one piece. Enclosure cards are your safety net. They contain all the other juicy info you need to tell your guests to prepare for the special day.\n\nSo, why not include all that information on the invite itself? \n\n### Enclosure Cards Help You Keep Your Invitation Neat and Clean \n\nAs per our wedding invitation “Dos and Don’ts” guide, *don’t* overcrowd your invitation. A separate enclosure card helps you communicate all the info you need, while keeping the formal invitation aesthetically pleasing and easy to read.\n\nAny extra details will fit perfectly on their card, so there’s no need to try to stuff it all into one place. Give your invite and your [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-enclosure-cards) their own space to shine.\n\n### Enclosure Cards Include Important Cultural Information\n\nIf you’re having a wedding with a cultural ceremony, a details card is the perfect place to include information about what to expect, or bring to, the ceremony.\n\nFor example, some traditional cultural weddings, such as Indian weddings, take place over multiple days. Often, at traditional Chinese weddings, red envelopes containing money will be given instead of using a gift registry.\n\nAs you may be wondering what to write on wedding enclosure card(s), be sure to communicate any specific instructions that your guests should know about your special day.\n\n### Enclosure Cards Show Off Your Personality\n\nYour invite is just that, an *invitation*. You only have to communicate the most important information on the invite properly—the stuff no one can forget.\n\nEnclosure cards, however, give you and your partner the chance to sparkle (literally, if you like glitter).\n\nHere are some fun ways to add that personal touch:\n\n- You and yours have a great sense of humor, so why not include some punny writing?\n- Do you fancy yourself an artist? Add a personal touch by including your artwork on the enclosure cards.\n- If you have a themed wedding, enclosure cards are the perfect place to establish your theme and get everyone excited to participate.\n\n### Who Gets an Enclosure Card?\n\nAnyone who receives a wedding invite can (and probably should) get an enclosure card with it. It’s that simple. Odds are that your guests want to know what’s going on. With enclosure cards, you can provide that information stylishly and effectively.\n\nPlus, who doesn’t love the excitement of opening up a fancy letter?\n\n## Here’s the Lowdown: What to Write on Wedding Enclosure Cards \n\nAs we mentioned, enclosure cards are for including all the extra information that doesn’t quite fit on the invitation. While it’s important to include the basics on your enclosure cards, there’s a lot of wiggle room to make your card unique to your ceremony.\n\nWhether your wedding day is intricately complex or laid back, odds are that you’re going to need to lay out some of the details in the fine print.\n\nHere are a few different types of enclosure cards.\n\n#### Reception\n\nIf you have a reception planned in a different location than the wedding venue itself, a reception card will preemptively clear up any confusion. \n\nNow you have ample space to stylishly write out the venue, address, and time of your reception.\n\n#### Response (RSVP)\n\nDon’t forget this one. A response card lets you know who can and can’t attend the wedding ceremony and reception. \n\nThis little number dictates everything from how many seats you’ll need, to how much food to prepare, to *what* food everyone will be eating. You’re going to want people to pay attention to this response card.\n\nMost RSVP cards include a response date, a space to accept or decline the invite, space for guests to write their name (and the name of their plus-one), and entrée options.\n\n*Note:* If you’re expecting a written response back, make sure to include a stamped envelope as a courtesy to your guests. That said, digital responses are a little more efficient and easy to track.\n\n#### Accommodation\n\nWe love destination weddings. Beautiful new vistas and familiar faces are a winning combination, but if people are coming from out-of-town, it’s a courtesy to help them find accommodations.\n\nOr, if you’re staying at home, lend a helping hand to visitors and direct them to affordable and comfortable places to stay. They’ll appreciate the guidance and you’ll appreciate their presence on your wedding day.\n\n#### Attire\n\nIf your dream wedding ceremony includes an elegant, color-coordinated celebration, this is the way to let everyone know. \n\nAttire cards help specify the dress code (be it black-tie, formal, or as laid-back as casual Fridays).\n\nHere’s an example of an attire card:\n\n*Our wedding will feature a fusion Indian ceremony, so we invite you to come in bright colors (no black please).*\n\n*Traditional Indian attire includes lehenga (an ankle skirt) and sarees (a draped garment) for women, as well as sherwani (a coat-like garment) for men.*\n\n#### Direction\n\nA direction card is like a mini-GPS you send your guests. You want to help your guests attend your wedding. Make sure to include the full street address of your venue and step-by-step directions so that no one gets lost.\n\nHere’s an example of a direction card:\n\nJoin our celebration at 1234 Nuptial Rd. WeddingLand, USA.\nDirections from the north: Drive over the river and through the woods.\nDirections from the south: Turn right at the Starbucks and follow the balloons.\n\nOkay, maybe you’ll need a little more detail than this, but you get the picture.\n\n#### Map\n\nIncluding a map of the venue can add a fun, rustic touch to your invitation. \n\nA paper map will help your guests get acquainted with the area and your venue. This is particularly helpful for guests who are traveling for the ceremony, but it’s also a nice, personal way to get all your guests on the same page.\n\n#### Wedding Site\n\nA wedding website is a great way to consolidate information about your wedding—think of it as an encyclopedia for the ceremony. \n\nLinking to your website on an enclosure card is a simple way to make sure that everyone has access to all the ceremonial goodies you’ve prepared. Besides, you worked hard on it, why not show it off?\n\nAt Zola, you can match your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) for free. We make it easy to upload ceremony details, photos, and even your registry.\n\n#### And More \n\nOther types of enclosure cards include itinerary cards, which can include a schedule of events and locations, and transportation cards, which can help your guests get from point A to point B.\n\nThere’s no hard and fast rule for enclosure cards; if it’s an important detail to your celebration, it’s worth creating an enclosure card for it.\n\n## Personalizing Your Enclosure Card \n\nNow that you’ve decided on what information to include on your enclosure cards, you can take them to the next level by personalizing them to match your ceremony and union.\n\nYour wedding, as cliché as it might sound, is about you, superstar. And personalization is the name of the game. So, when it comes to enclosure cards, [escort cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-escort-cards), wedding programs, and so on, let your style shine through. This is an opportunity to share with your family and friends what your union means to *you*.\n\n### Establish a Theme or Mood for Your Wedding\n\nAre you a fan of elegant, white weddings? How about something nautical? Vintage or Art Deco? Maybe you and your SO are Marvel superfans and want to share a subtle (or not so subtle) wave to your passions. \n\nAll of that can be woven into the look of your enclosure card.\n\n*Note:* Your enclosure card is another way to get people excited about your wedding—it’s not every day that you get to dress up and celebrate with your favorite people. The tone of the writing on your enclosure card can also set the mood. If your wedding is traditional and formal, stick to the script… but if you have your heart set on a Victorian gothic ceremony, feel free to break out some Poe and quote “The Raven.”\n\n### Unique Additions to Your Enclosure Card\n\nFeel like you need to add a little extra pizzazz? Here are some unique additions to consider:\n\n- __Magnets:__ Include a magnet or sticker to help your guests save the date on their calendar. \n\n- __QR:__ Include a card with a QR code that saves the date in your guests’ phones or directs them to your wedding site.\n\n- __Prizes:__ Add an enclosure card detailing a door prize, where everyone who RSVPs is entered to win an extra-special wedding favor.\n\n- __Flowers:__ Include a pressed or laminated flower. If you’ve already settled on wedding flowers, give your guests a little taste of what’s to come. It’s a memorable, sweet-smelling, and whimsical addition to your card that shows off the aesthetic of your ceremony.\n\n- __Poetry:__ Include a poem or meaningful quote. Are you the artsy type or a big fan of Shakespeare? Why not include a meaningful poem, quote, or song lyric on one of your cards? This gives you the opportunity to share something of personal significance with all of your guests before the ceremony even starts.\n\n- __Craft:__ Craft with your significant other. Are you good with your hands? Consider adding a literal personal touch to your enclosure cards by hand-customizing them.\n\n## How Zola Can Help \n\nIf you’re feeling overwhelmed by the sheer possibilities of writing and assembling your enclosure cards, we’re here to help. Here are some ways that you can hit the ground running with Zola’s help.\n\n### Take a Look Through Our Library\n\nWe might be a little biased, but we know we’ve got what it takes.\n\nWe have hundreds of templates for enclosure cards (and any of your other stationery needs). We’re here to support your vision with dozens of ways to customize our templates to make your uniquely perfect invite.\n\nOur available themes include:\n\n- Elegant & Classic\n- Floral & Botanical\n- Rustic & Vintage\n- Beach & Destination\n- Bohemian\n- Romantic\n- Minimalist\n- Modern\n\nNo matter what, we have the perfect starting point and finishing touches for your cards.\n\n### Upload Your Design\n\nAre you a talented artist, or is there a photo of you and your SO that you adore? At Zola, we also have a template where you can upload your card design to make your enclosure cards even more unique.\n\nSimply upload your custom design and let us help you make it a reality.\n\n### Ways to Customize at Zola\n\nBy customizing your enclosure cards, you can ensure that they’ll be both useful and memorable additions to your wedding invite. Here are some of the customization options we offer.\n\n- __Foil:__ Zola offers multiple colors of foil to give your enclosure cards a unique, luxurious feel. Whether you choose silver, gold, or rose gold foil, your cards will be sure to catch the eye of your guests.\n\n- __Color:__ Your enclosure card can be as colorful or as minimalist as you want it to be. Most of our card templates feature multiple color options, so go ahead and try out all the colors of the rainbow.\n\n- __Paper texture and thickness:__ Believe it or not, texture can change the vibe of your enclosure cards. Depending on the texture, you can show off your rustic roots with thick, natural paper, or give your guests a taste of the high life with a lustrous glossy finish.\n\n- __Corners:__ The difference between square and rounded corners seems small, but it can accurately showcase the style of your wedding.\n\n- If you’re into soft, flowy gowns and a beachside ceremony, rounded corners might be a good fit for your breezy style.\n\n- Love the vintage look of “The Great Gatsby”? Sharp edges are the way to go.\n\n### Look Over Your Wedding Themes and Aesthetics\n\nThemes, colors, and flowers are great guides for your stationery. The bonus here is that you’ve already figured them out, so use these aesthetic guides to your advantage. If green is your color, try using it in your enclosure cards.\n\n### Need Some More Direction?\n\nYou can always visit our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section for more tips and tricks. Whatever you’re doing to make your invitations the stuff that dreams are made of, we have your back.\n\n## History of the Wedding Invitation\n\nNow that you’ve learned all about what to include in your wedding invitations and how to make your enclosure cards unique, aren’t you just a little curious about how these invitations came to be?\n\nIt might be hard to believe, but many of our present-day traditions are rooted in the history of wedding invites.\n\n### The Middle Ages\n\nIn the Middle Ages, the duty of sending out wedding invitations fell to the town crier, who would announce news of the marriage in the town square. At this time, most people couldn’t read. Naturally, *anyone and everyone* within earshot were invited. If someone heard about your wedding, they were automatically on the guest list. These days, we have the luxury of being a little more selective.\n\n### The Renaissance\n\nOnce newspapers started circulating in the 1600s, and as more and more people learned how to read, wedding announcements would be made in the paper. Like with the town crier, reading about the ceremony in the paper was essentially an open invitation.\n\n### Metal Plate Engravings\n\nIn 1642, the invention of metal plate engravings allowed for customizable, highly personalized wedding invites. Calligraphers would hand-carve plates *backwards* to get the look just right for their clients. Phew, it’s hard enough writing forwards.\n\n### The 1800s\n\nThe 1800s introduced the lithograph, which got rid of the need for pesky metal engraving plates. It was way less expensive to make prints this way, so the middle class was able to start sending invites through the mail. Horse-drawn carriages would *hand-deliver* the invitation to wedding guests. How romantic.\n\n### Modern Invitations\n\nThermography, a new form of printing, was invented after World War II. It’s cheaper and uses raised type to print. Because it was less expensive *and* there was more money floating around post-war, stationary became a commercial good that was sold practically everywhere. Finally, wedding invitations truly reached the masses.\n\n### Present-Day\n\nWhen it comes to wedding invitations, the world is your oyster. Whether you’re taking the traditional route complete with tissue paper and a double-envelope, or you’re sending out an email blast to 500 of your closest friends, you have the freedom to make your wedding invitations truly *yours*.\n\n## Final Reminders from the Experts\n\nWhew—it’s safe to say we’ve covered all the bases when it comes to enclosure cards. Here’s a quick checklist to keep you on track.\n\n- Make sure that you send your wedding invites out between six to eight months in advance. And request an RSVP two to three months ahead of your big day.\n- All the information that you include on your enclosure cards can also be featured on your website.\n- If your celebration takes place at multiple locations, wedding enclosure cards are particularly useful.\n- Proofread, proofread, proofread. You want your enclosure cards looking and reading sharp, right?\n\nOnce you have your stationery all sorted (we knew you could do it), give yourself a big pat on the back—and get ready to enter the final stages of preparation for your wedding. Congratulations!\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"As most venues charge by the hour, having insight into a wedding reception's length is critical to your plans and budget. Find out what to expect. 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","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Learn the how-to's of wedding invitation wording, plus formal and casual wedding invitation examples from the experts.","title":"Wedding Invitation Wording: A Complete How-To Guide","slug":"how-to-word-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rENN5B7RPAn14pYP75HgH/d457816cdf42b12cc74b3e7d88b73513/Wedding_Invitaion_Wording_Etiquette.jpg","altText":"green and white wedding invitation on green background"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering how to add elegant touches to your wedding invitations? Zola has ideas that will wow your guests. Read on for elegant wedding invitation ideas.","title":"What Size Wedding Invitations Should I Buy?","slug":"wedding-invitations-size-guide","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bAGPpsBK6Nn9fWGZ7EMKU/eb084469d9b5266d101060ef7d65199c/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"wedding invitation sizes"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:08.011Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"10-creative-wedding-shower-invite-ideas","title":"10 Creative Wedding Shower Invite Ideas","excerpt":"We’ve rounded up some of the most creative wedding shower invite ideas to give you the inspiration you need to start planning the perfect celebration.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-08T01:51:04.198Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2M3j9Ni6gEQnraqrXwPob6/3f2dc76fa9dc0a17a67f0dde342f1801/HERO_CreativeWeddingShowerInviteIdeas___.jpg","altText":"Modeled drink and wine bottle"},"heroCredit":"Zola Inc","body":"A wedding shower is usually one of the first events to celebrate a couple’s upcoming nuptials, so it’s not only something that they look forward to, but also something that guests do, too. Whether they open it via email or in person, guests will be elated to see a wedding shower invite in their inbox or mailbox. Who doesn’t love getting a [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) invitation, after all? But, how do you pick one from all of the pretty options out there? \n\nStart off by considering the bride’s style, or, if you’re hosting a couple’s shower, the couple’s style. The shower should be a reflection of her and them as a couple, in addition to the things they love. Then, come up with a theme or concept that aligns with it. Once you’ve settled on a direction, you can start paging through invitations, but if you do so before, you could quickly become overwhelmed. \n\nWe’ve rounded up some of the most creative wedding shower invite ideas to give you a jumping-off point. Keeping the bride in mind, and your chosen theme, scroll through this list to get some inspiration so you can pick the perfect [wedding shower invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper). \n\n## 10 Creative Wedding Shower Invite Ideas\n### 1. Acrylic\nAcrylic stationery is popular for wedding invitations and signage, and one of the chicest ways to invite guests to a bridal shower, too. Acrylic stationery can suit any style, but should be reserved for the more trendy or modern bride. Acrylic can be engraved or hand-painted, so you can pick a minimalist typeface font or a loopy script. Add even more flair with metallic hues, such as rose gold or silver. Keep in mind that acrylic is much heavier than paper, so you’ll pay more for postage. \n\n### 2. Farmer’s Market Inspired\nFarm fresh to you isn’t just for your fruits and veggies. For the organic bride who loves to visit her local farmer’s market, cook, or garden, a farmer’s market themed shower is just the thing. The invite can feature illustrations of fruits and veggies, while the shower can be decorated with the real thing. \n\n### 3. Honeymoon Inspired \nIf your theme revolves around the couple’s love for travel or their honeymoon destination, incorporate it into the invite, too. Think palm prints and tropical flowers for a Hawaiian honeymoon, or maps and airplanes for the world travelers. You can also use the invite to encourage guests to bring gifts to help the bride pack for the honeymoon—think bathing suits, beauty products, cover-ups, and lingerie. \n\n### 4. Minimalist\nMinimalist invites are one of the chicest wedding stationery trends happening right now. Modern calligraphy combines with simple typeface fonts beautifully on plain and simple backgrounds. Let the words do the talking and suit a classy bride with a minimalist invite. \n\n![Creative Wedding Shower Invite Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7DJaXQGkEAWut3ULZuAMg4/21cc96d1efcf860f3f40df1ec7969d69/INLINE_CreativeWeddingShowerInviteIdeas____copy.jpg)*Photo Credits //* Zola Inc\n\n### 5. Cheers to the Bride-to-Be\nWill you be wine-tasting at the shower, or is wine just one of the bride’s favorite things? A cute invite featuring wine glasses or wine glass stains (yes, they make them look good) can be just right to toast the bride. Consider incorporating fun [wording ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bridal-shower-invitation-wording), such as “Raise a Glass” or “Cheers to the Bride-to-Be” to bring the theme home. \n\n### 6. Nautical Notes\nNautical is another popular theme when it comes to wedding shower ideas, so there are plenty of cute and creative invites out there to choose from if you’re going down this channel. Many are graced with fun phrases, such as “tie-the-knot” and fitting design elements, such as stripes and rope. There are plenty of seaside symbols to choose from, too, including: anchors, seashells, compasses, and sailboats.\n\n### 7. Play on “Shower”\nIf you and the bride both love a good pun, let the invite do the talking. You can play on other forms of “shower” by incorporating images or illustrations of raindrops and umbrellas, or bathtubs and bubbles on the invite to clue everyone in. \n\n### 8. Holiday Focused\nDoes the shower fall on, or around, a popular holiday? Don’t be afraid to incorporate aspects of the celebration into the shower invitation. For example, the invitation for a shower near Valentine’s Day could feature hearts and shades of pink and red, while one around Thanksgiving could have a rustic vibe featuring pumpkins and pies. Or, embrace puns in another way by throwing an Independence Day-inspired fete with the featured phrase “Wed, Bride, and Blue.” Cute, right? Whatever the holiday, let it inspire your color scheme, menu, and decorations. \n\n### 9. Florals \nFloral invitations never go out of style, especially when there are so many modern takes on the popular trend. Antique rose illustrations and tiny all-over prints, dubbed “conversational florals,” are the latest and greatest of floral trends. These fun and fresh prints can grace the wedding shower invitation, the envelope liner, or both. If you’re having a tea party, try out the antique varietal, or, if you’re having a garden party, opt for the conversational kind. Either one will stand out in ways you didn’t think floral invites could.\n\n![Creative Wedding Shower Invite Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uwrWi9RcicSafmivDnAF3/2615a012fe6e66bc16954189d51980a7/INLINE_CreativeWeddingShowerInviteIdeas___.jpg)*Photo Credits //* Zola Inc\n\n### 10. Cheers With Beers\nWe couldn’t complete the list without a good option for a coed wedding shower. For a celebration with both guys and gals, pick a more gender-neutral wedding shower theme, such as “Cheers with Beers.” The invite can showcase golden pints that will get everyone’s mouths watering. Now, that’s an invite that will get everyone excited to attend.\n\n## What Else to Send With the Invite\n\nNow that you’ve come up with a super cute concept and the perfect wedding shower invitation to go with it, you can consider adding a little extra fun into the mix. Here are a few ideas of things you can send with your wedding shower invite to get the party started:\n\n### Games That Guests Should Fill Out \nAre you planning any games or activities that require everyone to fill something out? Pop it in the envelope with your invitation and have guests bring it with them to save time and increase participation. \n\n### Recipe Cards\nDid you decide on the “farmer’s market” theme or just know that the bride and groom love to cook? Include a recipe card with the invite that the guests can use to share a favorite meal or family recipe. It’s fun for them to pass it on, and fun for the couple to be able to expand their recipe book. \n\n### Words of Advice \nSend the honoree(s) home from the shower with words of advice from more seasoned husbands and wives, or with fun date ideas that they can add to their routine by including a card for guests to fill out ahead of time. They’ll appreciate the extra time you allot them since these things require a bit of thought. \n\nAnd, if you’re wondering [when to send out wedding shower invites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-out-bridal-shower-invites), go with your gut. Give guests enough time to look at their schedule and RSVP in advance. \n\n## Other Creative Wedding Shower Ideas \nThe fun doesn’t end once you’ve sent out the invites. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to incorporate the theme or style you selected for the shower invite into the actual shower. Put your creative energy toward these facets of the fete, next: \n### The Paper Goods\nKeep the paper goods at the shower consistent with the invite. If you sent out chic, rose gold printed acrylic invitations, don’t stop there. Create a menu in a similar fashion, either by having it printed once on a large acrylic sign, or printed on individual acrylic pieces to be put at each place setting. If you chose antique floral print envelope liners, incorporate that same print on paper napkins and plates, or place cards and thank-you notes. \n\n### Decorations\nThis is your chance to take the wedding shower theme and run with it. If you decided on a shower inspired by the couple’s Hawaiian honeymoon, decorate with palm fronds, pineapples, and leis. If you went for a totally floral fete, decorate with flowers on the table, hang flowers on the chairs, and drape flowers from the ceiling. If nautical was the winning theme, decorate with sand, seashells, and hues of blue. \n\n### The Menu\nLet the food add fuel to the fire. Cater it to the theme, and serve up a fresh salad bar for a farmer’s market shower, or brats and burgers at a brewery inspired coed bash. From appetizers, through mains, and into desserts, there are plenty of ways to highlight the theme with food. And don’t forget about the drinks. Serve piña coladas at a tropical party, floral-infused cocktails at a garden soiree, and red, white, and rosé (of course) at a wine-themed shower.\n\n### Favors\nSend guests home with a piece of the shower to not only remember the sweet celebration, but also to remind them of the wedding to come. Bath bombs are cute favors for a “shower” themed party, while seed packets are fitting for the farmer’s market theme.\n\nA creative bridal shower invite may be just the thing you need to get your wheels turning, but there are so many fun and thoughtful elements that go into a great shower. If you focus on celebrating the bride and groom and stay true to their style, the wedding shower will be a huge hit. So, grab your guest list and let the festivities begin. ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Find Vendors in Your Area","url":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard?question=intro"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:06.557Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-enclosure-card-wording","title":"Wedding Enclosure Card Wording","excerpt":"Enclosure cards are the secret to a well-organized wedding. Here’s what you need to know about wording yours.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T07:22:51.129Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/tnZxBKT9znsjUjYx8DQaP/bd341bdbd71262b10c56a01f6b5f966d/Hero_Zola__4_.jpg","altText":"Wedding Enclosure Card Wording"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Information that may be included in your wedding enclosure cards include: the reception time and location, directions to the venue, transportation schedules, hotel accommodations, and more. \n- Other types of enclosure card items include an attire card, a rain card, a wedding website card, an itinerary for the wedding day, or a response card for RSVP purposes.\n- Your wedding enclosure card wording should be straightforward, easy to read, and include all the little details your guests will need on the big day. ","body":"So your big day is finally approaching. With only a few months left until the wedding, it’s time to start thinking about invitations.\n\nInvitations are a crucial part of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning), especially if your guest list is on the longer side. It’s important to make sure everyone receives not only an invitation, but also the information inside the enclosure card. While enclosure cards may not get the same recognition that the main invitation does, they often play a more important role in assisting guests and keeping them informed. \n\nRead on for everything you need to know about wedding enclosure card wording and crafting your own. \n\n## What is a Wedding Enclosure Card?\nWedding enclosure cards contain additional information that cannot fit on your invitations alone. In order to keep invitations sleek and straightforward, couples will forgo putting these details on them and write this information on separate [details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card). Think RSVP cards, reception cards, and other information cards.\n\n## What’s Included in a Wedding Enclosure Card? \nWhile everyone’s wedding invitations, enclosure cards, and suites are going to look a little different, there are a few staple pieces of information that each should include. They are:\n\n- __Reception details:__ If you’re planning to use the same venue, you may simply write “reception to follow” on the bottom of your invitations. Now, if your reception is going to take place in a different location (or at a later time) you’ll want to include these details on an enclosure card.\n\n- __Directions:__ While everyone may have a GPS in their phone, adding this information can still be helpful to ensure guests arrive on time. This is especially true for venues off the beaten path. \n\n- __Transportation schedules:__ If you’re planning on transporting guests from one venue to another, this information should be included, as well. Both the schedule and method of any transportation provided should be included here. \n\n- __Attire:__ While attire details aren’t required, they’re certainly encouraged. Including a dress code—whether it be black tie, cocktail, or casual—ensures that every guest knows exactly what to wear. Save loved ones the frustration of guessing and include a brief description of expected attire. \n\n- __Response card:__ One of the biggest elements you’ll want to include in your wedding enclosure cards is a way for wedding guests to RSVP. Traditionally, a [reply card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps) with its own return envelope and postage is provided for guests to fill out. However, physical response cards have become a touch outdated. Now, couples can utilize [Zola’s online RSVP tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Simply add the link to your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) on the enclosure card and encourage guests to RSVP there. Of course, a physical response card can be included as an option for guests who struggle with technology—but digital RSVPs are typically easier to organize. \n\n__*Zola Tip:*__ Any information you can’t fit in your invitation suite can be added to your wedding website. Simply add a business card with the URL alongside your invitations, and invite guests to visit the website for more details about the big day. \n\n## Wording Examples for Wedding Enclosure Cards \nNow that you understand what should be included in your wedding enclosure cards, it’s time to tackle the real topic of this article: how to write them.\n\n[Wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording) wording and etiquette can be tricky to figure out when navigating the world of wedding stationery. Fortunately, the experts at Zola are here to help you every step of the way. \n\nBelow are just a few examples of proper wedding enclosure wording:\n\n### Keep it Simple\nFor a simple enclosure card, try writing something like this:\n\n*“Reception information:* *Bluxome Street Winery* *101 Bluxome Street* *San Francisco, California*\n\n*Attire:* *Cocktail*\n\n*For more details, see: [Zola link]*\n*Password: [Optional]”*\n\n*__Zola Tip:__* Notice how this wedding enclosure card wording gets right to the point. Some couples prefer to save the artful language for their invitations and keep the important information in their enclosure cards much more straightforward. Ultimately, this will be a matter of personal preference. Just know that you always have the option of keeping things simple.\n\n### Get Creative\nIf you want to keep your enclosure card wording in line with your invitations, then you may need to get a little creative with your language. For a more formal approach, try something like this:\n\n*“It’s Time to Celebrate:*\n*Please join us after the ceremony for a night of dinner and dancing* *at Bluxome Street Winery* *101 Bluxome Street* *San Francisco, California*\n\n*Dress Your Best:* *Dress code will be cocktail attire*\n\n*Please visit (Zola link) for all wedding details, including\nhotel accommodations, RSVPs, and gift registry.*\n\n*__Zola Tip:__* As you can see, this wording takes a little more liberty when it comes to the headings, but the information remains the same. Couples can feel free to get creative when crafting their enclosure cards, but you’ll want to make sure they remain easy for guests to read. \n\n## Other Types of Enclosure Cards \nAbove are the basics of writing a wedding enclosure card, but there’s plenty of other information that can be incorporated as well. While some couples keep things simple with a single enclosure card, others may choose to include multiple pieces of stationery in their wedding invitation suite.\n\nLet’s take a look at some other popular types of wedding enclosure cards and how they may be worded:\n\n### Response Card\nAs previously mentioned, setting up digital RSVPs is easier. That being said, we’ve included a wording example for couples who prefer to send out physical response cards with their wedding invitations:\n\n*“Kindly Reply* *On or before September 23rd,* *[Guest name]:* *Will Attend or Will Not Attend* *Entree preference:* *Beef, Chicken, or Fish”*\n\n__*Zola Tip:*__ The best part about response card wording? Your guest will be writing most of it. Simply state your deadline, give your guest options, and list the entree choices available. The rest is up to them. \n\n### Accommodations\nAccommodation information is important, especially for destination weddings and out-of-town guests. While this can be listed on your wedding website, some couples choose to include an accommodation card along with their wedding invitations. If you’re interested in doing this, the wording for your accommodation card may look something like this:\n\n*“Accommodations: For your convenience, a block of rooms has been reserved at The Fairmont San Francisco 950 Mason Street San Francisco, California.*\n\n*Please reference [hotel link] for more information with: [group code or password]*\n\n*Rates start at $150 per night Please book by September 23rd!”*\n\n__*Zola Tip:*__ Finding accommodations for your guests is easy when you use [Zola’s online hotel planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/?kw=guestnav). With this handy service, couples can find hotel blocks near their venue within seconds—and all this information can easily be uploaded to your [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### Directions Insert\nDirection inserts are fairly easy to write, because you’re mostly reiterating the information your GPS gives you. That being said, couples should include any tips and tricks they have for getting to the venue, finding parking, and avoiding traffic. A solid direction insert will typically have a visual map, along with simple wording such as:\n\n*“Bluxome Street Winery 101 Bluxome Street San Francisco, California*\n\nFrom Downtown San Francisco:\n1. *Head northeast on Market St. toward Van Ness Ave.*\n2. *Take a right onto 10th street*\n3. *Turn left onto Division Street*\n4. *At the rotary, continue straight onto Townsend Street*\n5. *Turn left onto 5th Street*\n6. *Turn right onto Bluxome Street*\n7. *Valet services are available with parking behind the building”*\n\n__*Zola Tip:*__ Since guests may be coming from different places, it can be helpful to list multiple sets of directions. This is particularly important if you live near two large metropolitan areas—such as San Francisco and San Jose. \n\n### Itinerary Card\nWeddings last longer than just a single day. Getting all your friends and family together for this celebration of love can often take up an entire weekend, if not more. This is why many couples choose to include an itinerary card along with their wedding invitations. \n\nWording for an itinerary enclosure card may look something like this:\n\n*“We would love for you to join us in the following wedding events:*\n\n*Rehearsal Dinner: Friday, September 17 7:00 PM Sotto Mare Restaurant 552 Green Street San Francisco, California*\n\n*Wedding Ceremony and Reception: Saturday, September 18 4:00 PM Bluxome Street Winery 101 Bluxome Street San Francisco, California*\n\n*Farewell Brunch: Sunday, September 19 12:00 PM Plain Jane Restaurant 1000 Guerrero Street San Francisco, California”*\n\n*__Zola Tip:__* If you’re planning an action-packed weekend, your itinerary card may end up a little longer than you’d like. That’s why we recommend keeping descriptions very brief in order to save space and make your itinerary card easy to read.\n\n## When Should I Send Out My Wedding Invitations and Enclosure Cards?\nFor our final piece of advice, we’ll be talking about timelines for sending out invitations and enclosure cards. \n\nEvery wedding is different, but invitation etiquette is pretty standard across the board. It’s recommended that most couples send out their invitation suites around six to eight weeks before the big day. RSVPs should be returned at least a month before the wedding date in order to properly arrange the guest list and seating chart.\n\nTo give yourself plenty of time, we advise couples to order their invitations and enclosure cards at least six months before you plan to send them out. To make this easier to remember, couples can simply order their invitations shortly after sending out their [save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). \n\nFor destination weddings, this timeline differs quite a bit. With so many travel accommodations needed, destination wedding invitations should be sent out no later than 12 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n## Zola: Your One-Stop Shop for All Things Wedding\nWhether you’re looking for invitations, enclosure cards, or save-the-dates, Zola is your one-stop shop for all things wedding. We have hundreds of gorgeous designs to fit any wedding style, and Zola members can even customize their invitations with photos, metallic foil, unique typography, and more.\n\nOur helpful wedding services don’t stop there, either. From our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) to our online wedding registry, Zola couples can complete their entire [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) from the comfort of home. \n\nDitch the stress and jump straight to the celebration. Start planning your dream wedding today, with Zola!","tag":"Invitation Wording","stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:05.788Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"the-best-ways-to-collect-wedding-rsvps","title":"The Best Ways to Collect Wedding RSVPs ","excerpt":"There are a few ways to collect your wedding RSVPs. Here, we'll tell you how to do it right, plus other wedding RSVP etiquette. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-08T01:54:25.405Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FzM0ewJvExp6rTd1dKixi/1a35d8c9fd81fc2e91f3ff6b8f765d74/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"zola invitation suite"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Your wedding isn’t like any other celebration; it’s not an open-door policy, so it’s extremely important to know the amount of people who will show up. The number determines how much food your caterers will buy, how much wine your bartenders will bring, how many seats you have at the ceremony, and a slew of other decisions. This is why the wedding RSVP is so crucial. But, ensuring that your guests respond, and do so in a timely manner, isn’t as easy as it sounds. \n\nHere, we outline the way and manner in which you should request RSVPs. Trust us, if you do so correctly, you’ll save yourself a lot of time and energy in the days leading up to your ceremony when you’re finalizing your seating chart and confirming your final guest count. \n\n# How to Request Wedding RSVPs\nThere are two major ways to request a wedding RSVP: by mail and online. Let’s discuss the pros and cons of each method and why you may want to employ them both.\n\n### Wedding RSVP Cards\nThe most traditional and common way to secure RSVPs for your wedding is with a response card. The response card (or RSVP card) is typically a small square or rectangular card that is sent along with your invitation. The RSVP card will include all the information that you need from your guests, such as whether or not they can make it, how many in their party will attend, and their meal preferences. \n\nWhen it comes to the design of your RSVP card, it should match your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). Most invitations come with a matching suite, which includes a details card, RSVP card, and coordinating envelopes. A pre-addressed envelope is essential to an RSVP card so that each wedding guest can mail it back to you with their RSVP. \n\n### Wedding Website RSVP\nThe other way to collect RSVPs is via your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). If you choose this option, you will need to direct your guests to the proper URL with your invitation. This is typically done with a “details” card included with your invitation. The details card will also typically include any reference material for accommodations and [gift registries](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n\nIf all of this information is laid out on your website, including links to hotels, activities, and registries, you’ll want to direct your guests to your wedding website anyway, so you may as well ask them to RSVP there while they’re at it. \n\n__Tip:__ Make it very clear on your wedding website where guests can RSVP.\n\n### Which Method Should We Use?\nThere are pros and cons to both methods of requesting RSVPs. RSVP cards are more formal and follow the traditional manner of doing things, so it’s likely that most of your guests will know exactly how to respond. However, RSVP cards do come at an additional cost to you. \n\nNot only will you pay for the additional paper material and envelope, but also for the return postage, which adds up when you’re sending 100+ already-heavy invitations. If you’re trying to save a little money, you may want to opt for the virtual route. \n\nIf you do go the virtual route, you may have to remind guests to actually log on to your wedding website and RSVP. When guests first open your invitation, they likely aren’t on their computer at the same time. If guests have to go to their computer and manually type in a URL, RSVPing could slip their mind. You’ll also want to ensure that gram and gramps—and any guests of the older generation—know how to use the interwebs, or be prepared to call them up to retrieve their RSVPs. \n\nYou can also utilize both RSVP cards and your wedding website to collect RSVPs. Offering your guests both options allows you to cater to both the traditional and tech-savvy crowds. Plus, having both options increases the chances of receiving more RSVPs quicker. \n\n![Wedding RSVP](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ebmtRTy6E27KoFc2sMNHq/80a7fe88d0d1a2aeade0306f9c3534e7/Inline_Zola.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n### Wedding RSVP Wording\nDon’t let the need for an RSVP get lost in translation. Use the right invitation wording to ensure that the request is crystal clear. Here’s what you need to include: \n\n__Clear Ask:__ Believe it or not, your guests may actually not know that they have to RSVP unless you ask them. Title your RSVP card with something such as: \n\n- “Kindly Reply”\n- “Please Respond”\n- “Your response is requested before...”\n- “Will we be seeing you?”\n- “Can you make it?”\n\n__RSVP by Date:__ After the clear ask, comes the clear date. Make it big and bold, or at least clearly legible so that your guests know that there’s a deadline. \n\n__Guest Names:__ Because RSVP cards are printed in bulk, not personalized for each guest, you will need to leave a space for guests to write in their name(s). This is typically indicated on the response card by a capital M—for Miss, Mr., Mrs., etc.—and a blank space following the M. If your wedding is more casual, feel free to skip the sometimes-confusing “M” for a more straightforward “Name(s):”. \n\nTip: Be sure to leave ample room for guests to fill in the names of everyone in their party that will be attending. \n\n__YES or No:__ Don’t forget this all-important aspect of the RSVP card. Include a space, this can be a blank or a checkbox, in line with an acceptance message and a decline message. For example: \n\n- “Will Attend” and “Will Not Attend”\n- “Happily Accepts” and “Regretfully Declines”\n- “Will be there!” and “Will be there in spirit”\n\nFeel free to get creative or even funny with your messaging to further personalize your invitations. \n\n__Meal Choice:__ If you’re serving a plated dinner at your reception, you should include a place for guests to make their meal selection in your invitation suite. The options don’t need to dictate the menu item in detail, but instead can simply say Beef, Fish, or Veggie, for example. You may also want to include a line for dietary restrictions or allergies in order to properly accommodate guests. \n\n__Wedding Website:__ Include a URL for your wedding website if you’ve shared important information there, and let guests know that they can RSVP online, too.\n\n![Wedding RSVP](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/WqocTkSmlvMYI7HPDliyd/16e09ae078cac28f68aac0b1224718b7/Inline_Zola_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n### Wedding RSVP Etiquette\nThere are a few “rules” or guidelines to requesting RSVPs that you should follow if you want to make it easier on both you and your guests.\n\n### 1. Give Your Guests Time to RSVP\nThree to four weeks is plenty of time to give your guests to RSVP to your wedding. Typically, you should send invites out six to eight weeks before your wedding date, so this gives you three to four weeks after the RSVP date to reach out to any stragglers (yes, there will be people who don’t abide by the RSVP date), invite anyone you still want to from your B or C list, to form your seating chart, and to finalize numbers with your venue and caterer. \n\nKeep in mind that if you’re having a destination wedding, it’s proper etiquette to give guests more notice by sending invitations out earlier (three to four months out) and give them more time to RSVP (around two months) so that they can make necessary travel arrangements.\n\n### 2. Pre-Address and Stamp RSVP Cards\nIf you’re using mail-in RSVP cards, make the process of mailing in the RSVP as easy as possible for your guests. Pre-stamp all the RSVP-card envelopes (remember to factor this cost into your stationery budget) and address them with your return address or that of your [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner), basically whoever is handling your RSVPs. You don’t want to risk your guests not responding because they forget to get stamps, or because the card got lost in the mail due to the misspelling of your address. Making the RSVP process as simple as possible will increase the odds that you’ll get RSVPs on time (and at all). \n\n### 3. Include Numbers on Each RSVP Card\nWhen the RSVPs start rolling in, it can be easy to forget whom you have heard from and whom you haven’t. When you’re stuffing your wedding invitations, number the back of each RSVP card with the associating number for that person on your guest list. Then, when the RSVPs come back, you’ll be able to easily notice the missing numbers, and, thus, who you’re missing RSVPs from. Plus, in the case of guests who forget to put their names (a common mishap) or have difficult-to-read handwriting, you’ll know exactly who it is.\n\n### 4. Include Special Requests\nDo you want your guests to have a say in the playlist, or do you want them to leave a personal note? Include a tertiary call to action (after their “Yes” or “No” and meal preference) for song requests or to say something sweet.\n\n### 5. Talk About the Wedding\nWhether you’re discussing the food you’ll be serving or where people are staying, talking about your wedding can casually nudge guests to respond. Of course, be sure not to discuss these things when folks who aren’t invited are around, and feel free to sweeten the ask with flattery, such as “I hope you’re able to make it” or “I can’t wait for you to see the venue”. \n\nTo ensure that you have no trouble landing a wedding RSVP from everyone on your list, remember to consider your guests and to let your personality shine through when you’re creating your wedding RSVP card or call to action.\n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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For Christian weddings, religious wording on the invitation card can help convey the couple’s values.\n- Think about what Bible verses or other additions can personalize the invitation.\n- Make sure that the design matches the tone and language of the invitation.\n- Consider all other information that might help your guests be prepared for the ceremony.\n","body":"The wedding invitation card can seem fraught with mystery and confusion. [When do you send out invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations)? What information do you need to include? [How should you word your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/invitation-wording)?\n\nThis is true for all wedding invitations—but especially for Christian Wedding invitations. Many couples feel unsure about [how to word the wedding card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording) itself, how to incorporate their religious beliefs into their invitations, or what sort of information should be included at all, as there seem to be so many different ways to ask guests to attend your wedding. For Christian weddings, the invitation is also the first opportunity for a couple to share their religious hopes and dreams for their marriage with their guests, and let their guests know that this will be a religious event. It is both important in setting the tone for the wedding, and in preparing guests for what to expect.\n\nIt’s a lot to consider! Let’s take a look at everything you need to know about traditional Christian wedding invitations (along with Bible verses you may want to consider including on your invites): \n\n## In the Beginning Was the Word\n\nThe traditional Christian wedding invitation card can be worded in several ways. While the actual Christian wedding invitation wording usually follows the general etiquette for [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)—especially when it comes to the particulars of listing the host or hosts, the venue, and reception details—the Christian wedding ceremony can be indicated in several additional ways. \n\n## Request ‘The Honour of Their Presence’\n\nInvitations that request ‘The Honour of Your Presence’ will indicate to your guests that this will be a formal religious ceremony in a church (the British spelling of honour in a wedding invitation is used almost exclusively with this meaning). \n\nThe invitation wording may read as:\n\nHosts request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children bride and groom as they seek God’s blessing on their union. \n\nFollowing formal guidelines for which lines should include which details, this sort of wedding invitation would read as: \n\n*Anne Smith Charles and David Charles \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the wedding ceremony in which their daughter \nMary Claire \nAnd \nDavid Lawrence \nWill become united as one in Christ \nOn (date) \nAt (time) \n(venue) *\n\nCatholic weddings where a mass will take place should generally indicate that there will be a Nuptial Mass where the couple will be united in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Some options include: \n\n- *(The hosts) request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass at which (Bride and Groom) will be united in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.*\n\n- *(The hosts) invite you to share in their joy at the Nuptial Mass uniting (Bride and Groom) in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.*\n\n- *(The hosts) request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter to (groom) in the sacrament of holy matrimony.* \n\n## Don’t Be Afraid to Use Faithful Language \nThe Christian wedding is not just the union of two people under a secular legal contract, but rather a religious ceremony uniting two people in Christ. These are some examples of invitation language that include traditional Christian wording: \n\n- *(Bride and Groom) together with (hosts) invite you to share in their joy as they are united in the Lord Jesus Christ on (date) at (venue).* \n\n- *We invite you to worship with us as we join together in the Lord Jesus Christ and ask for His presence in our new life together in marriage on (date) at (venue).*\n\n- *In the spirit of Christian joy \n(Bride and Groom) \nWill vow their lives to one another \nOn (date) \nWe invite you to join us in asking God’s blessing \nUpon this holy union at (time) \n(venue)*\n\n## The Inclusion of Bible Verses or Religious Quotes\nThe inclusion of a meaningful Bible verse or other religious quote can add a personal touch to a traditional Christian wedding invitation, although the scripture should be easily grasped by someone who might not have the biblical context. While it’s tempting to include a longer passage, the ideal quote would fit elegantly on the invitation. Longer passages are often better suited for wedding vows or readings at the ceremony. (If you do want to include a longer verse—for example, one of your favorite Bible verses—consider incorporating it on a separate insert card that you send with your wedding invitations.)\n\nThere are many translations of different verses, of course, so consider several different options before choosing the translation that best captures the meaning you want to convey.\n\nSome meaningful Bible verses for wedding include:\n\n### Verses on love\n\n1. __Psalms 118:24__. “This was the Lord’s doing; it is marvelous in our eyes.”\n\n2. __Corinthians 13:4-8__. \"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.\"\n\n3. __Ephesians 4:2__. \"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.\"\n\n4. __Corinthians 13:13__. \"And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.\"\n\n5. __Peter 4:8.__ \"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sin.\"\n\n6. __John 4:18-19__. \"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.\"\n\n7. __Corinthians 16:14.__ \"Do everything in love.\"\n\n8. __Song of Solomon 8:10__. \"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away.\"\n\n9. __Corinthians 13:1-3__. \"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.\"\n\n10. __Song of Solomon 8:6-7 (Song of Songs 8:6-7)__. \"Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised.\"\n\n11. __Romans 13:8.__ \"Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.\"\n\n12. __Proverbs 3:3-4.__ \"Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.\"\n\n13. __Proverbs 10:12__. \"Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.\"\n\n14. __Colossians 3:14-17__. \"And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.\"\n\n## Verses on marriage and relationships\nSong of Solomon 2:16. “I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.” \n\n15. __Song of Solomon 3:4__. “I have found the one whom my soul loves.” \n\n16. __Psalms 126:3__. “The Lord has done great things for us; we are glad.” \n\n17. __Ephesians 5:25__. \"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.\"\n\n18. __John 3:18__. \"Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.\"\n\n19. __Genesis 2:18-24__. \"Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.\" Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, 'This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.' Therefore a young man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.\"\n\n21. __Hebrews 10:24-25__. \"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.\" \n\n22. __Genesis 1:27-28.__ \"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.'\"\n\n23. __Ruth 1:16-17__. \"But Ruth said, 'Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.'\n\n24. __Ecclesiastes 4:12__. \"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.\"\n\n25. __Ecclesiastes 4:9__. \"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor…\"\n\n26. __Mark 10:9__. \"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.\"\n\n27. __Psalm 143:8__. \"Let me hear in the morning of your steadfast love, for in you I trust. Make me know the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul.\"\n\n28. __John 15:12__. \"This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.\"\n\n29. __Song of Solomon 4:9 (Song of Songs 4:9)__. \"You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.\"\n\n30. __Isaiah 54:10__. \"'For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,' says the Lord, who has compassion on you.\"\n\n31. __Proverbs 31:10-12__. \"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.\"\n\n## The Wedding Invitation Design\nThe wedding invitation should reflect the event and the wishes of the couple. This means that a casual, photo-laden invitation covered in polka dots might seem an odd backdrop for a formally worded wedding invitation. Make sure that the wording fits the layout of your invitation. If the invitation is all design and there won’t be space for the Bible quote you love, then it’s not the right choice for you.\n\n- For something clean and classic, consider invitations with elegant and richly pigmented borders, such as the [Blake design at Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/546412ac-2077-4c01-af8a-1ca07090afae).\n\n- For rustic wedding invitations, consider something floral and bold, such as our [Kenton suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/aeae2b99-3507-4afd-9560-cb73a3fc157f).\n\n- An artistic or unusual wedding invitation can stand out in all the right ways, and one like the [Larimer bright and edgy design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/b91d66ff-73ca-4954-8e7c-026d5bb08223) could be right for you.\n\n## Give Your Guests All the Information They Need\nThe wedding invitation, for all its pomp and circumstance, is supposed to give guests the information they need about attending your wedding. For a traditional Christian wedding, it’s useful to consider if there are other aspects of attendance that your guests might need to know. For example, if modest attire is required inside the church, then indicate that to your guests. If guests will be required to participate in the religious ritual in some way, then mention that too. Some guests might not be familiar with religious weddings or religious communities, and you want them to be prepared for their role on your big day.\n\nThe traditional Christian wedding invitation is a beautiful opportunity to share the religious nature of your celebration with your guests. The wording should be faithful, informative, and reflect the spirit of the union that the couple seeks on their wedding day. The design should reflect this spirit too. 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Here are some of our gorgeous favorites.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-11T17:36:06.651Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3PqS4O30Jqu8e3BNn0Lb5n/7667ab679ddd4d5b8c464b976fec0708/hero_offbeetproductions.jpg","altText":"pretty wedding invitations"},"heroCredit":"Off Beet Productions","body":"When it comes to [wedding invitation styles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations), there are a bounty of options to choose from. Along with listing all of the fun details—such as your names, the location, and both the date and time of your event—your wedding invitation serves as a hint of what’s to come.\n\nWill your celebration be elegant and classic, or rustic and vintage? Perhaps it will be a formal affair or more of a casual daytime gathering.\n\nMoreover, narrowing down your wedding invitation’s styles can aid you in wedding planning. It may help you to fine-tune the rest of your vision for the big day (if, of course, you don’t already have it).\n\nBelow, we’ve gathered some of the most popular wedding invitation ideas you can use via Zola to announce your wedding day. From modern to classic to floral, find the one that best represents this part of your love story.\n\n## 1. Elegant and Classic\n1. Elegant wedding invitations never go out of style. Our [Blake wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a39fc197-4220-4984-b58e-acd018e38642) features a formal design with a solid contrasting border. It’s a classic style that’s available on luxe cardstock with clean type and script accents. We like to think that this wedding invitation style is ideal for couples who want to keep things simple, with a hint of fancy.\n\n2. The [Baker Fan](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/1404945a-5ee6-4b13-9adf-9d8afcc9ed93) is one of those wedding invitation styles that exudes classic glamour. With an Art Deco-inspired design, its golden fan print and vintage font are ideal for formal weddings. \n\n3. Sometimes, the most minimal designs can be the most timeless. The [Powell Stamp](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/b014300b-0fbf-4f86-972c-fd4d75b44d35) wedding invitation takes a bold approach to highlighting your initials, and it features a classic infinity symbol (as a representation of your ever after).\n\n![Pretty Wedding Invitation Styles](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1nUuEYszYaCCn2eB4AvCyS/f4e2e7a7f6988d62f0ebe42d45b914db/Inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### 2. Floral and Botanical\n1. With hand-painted blooms and timeless typography, [Gardner Bloom](https://www.apple.com/) is the epitome of floral and botanical wedding invitation styles. Crafted by botanical illustrator Maggie Enterrios, this [floral wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/floral) set is a top choice among those who crave all things whimsical.\n\n2. Our [Tillage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/b2386ac8-9c45-4568-a9a3-5aab2c98267a) wedding invitation ties together two of our favorite things—a boho-chic design and watercolor flowers. Whether you’re celebrating in a farm or a field, this one will help to set the mood.\n\n3. Take a trip to the tropics with our [Cruise](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d9a09686-e994-411c-ac45-a25b1c6a5dff) wedding invitation. If you’re on the hunt for [rustic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) styles that boast a vintage, yet tropical vibe, consider this wedding stationery your ticket to paradise. This invite is ideal for destination or beach weddings, but can be used for a wide array of celebrations.\n\n### 3. Rustic and Vintage\n1. One of our favorite ways to celebrate outdoor weddings (or nature-loving couples), is the [Deepcreek Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de) wedding invitation. It features a stunning watercolor design that represents spring, summer, fall, and winter. So, if you’re on the hunt for rustic wedding invitation styles that can be tailored to any season, this one is a lovely choice.\n\n2. An invitation that’s rustic, vintage, and floral all combined into one? With its sunny design, our [Bonnie Bloom](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/25061e51-d076-4144-b82b-753837f466a0) wedding invitation radiates joy and whimsical fun. For indoor fall weddings adorned with pumpkin decor, or summer celebrations amongst nature, this stationery is both flexible and meaningful.\n\n3. If it’s winter-inspired wedding invitation styles that you’re after, our [Belvoir Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/95d05708-e801-461c-812c-4db5d870a10d) invitation is a delicate blend of rustic meets vintage. Use it for winter weddings and snow-filled celebrations. From big ballrooms to cozy restaurants, this holly-dotted beauty will set the stage for magic.\n\n## 4. Beach and Destination\n1. If you’re planning a seaside affair, our [Providence Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/da5a4b8a-b443-4865-8d14-ab7514a1f0d8) is the perfect, [beach wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/beach). From a cruise around the harbor to a sandy, beachside gathering, the nautical theme can be applied to just about any water-inspired wedding. We love the simplicity of the white anchor on the navy backdrop, although the reverse (blue anchor on a white backdrop) is just as eye-catching.\n\n2. Keep things artistic, yet elegant with your destination wedding when you choose our [Afton Landscape](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/99730f57-b8f3-4e7b-a19f-d0efa6938fb0) invitation. With beautiful brush strokes and a joyful pattern, this [destination wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/destination) is customizable for a wide array of events. Whether you’re doing a celebration at an art gallery or in an open meadow, this is one of the wedding invitation styles where the destination details sing.\n\n3. The Art Deco-inspired [Westshore Border](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dadf8668-f90b-47e0-9ee7-fb492a77c4a9) wedding invitation is pretty with a hint of old Hollywood glam. With its retro scalloped borders and dreamy seashell decor, this stationery is a favorite among ocean lovers who enjoy a bit of flare. Customize your color—such as periwinkle or pink—and let the wedding festivities begin.\n\n## 5. Bohemian\n1. Our [Cricket Wreath](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/fe1679e8-be3f-42e5-83fd-d8e21d66e916) invitation blends the bohemian with the botanical. Set in a landscape that’s filled with desert blooms and succulents, this one can be used for an array of cacti-inspired wedding days. They may be prickly, but they sure are pretty. To really complete the theme, pair this invite with a [boho save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/bohemian), prickly pear signature wedding drink and a cactus boutonniere. \n\n2. Bursting with hand-painted blooms and timeless typography, the [Destin](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/9d933b5b-fd4d-4ec5-955c-9596af542a8a) is one of our most romantic wedding invitation styles. If you’re a wildflower or nature enthusiast, you’ll love this pretty card in peach, navy, and white. Pair it with rose gold foil and set the stage for a sweet wedding filled with whimsical charm.\n\n3. [Bohemian wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/bohemian) styles can be sophisticated and timeless, too. Our [Brisa Classic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c1a8328b-c9d4-4e97-8c4d-506df53bfcfb) invitation comes in a range of colors, from slate to beige. It looks lovely when you add on our pearlescent option to give it a slight metallic sheen. Once you look closer, you’ll find an abstract botanical outline behind the typography, such as a hidden bohemian treasure. \n\n## 6. Romantic\n1. Romance abounds with our [Abbey](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c61e2c7b-5f52-4326-a294-603bfc87d86a) wedding invitation. Featuring clean lines and script font, this is one of the wedding invitation styles whose beauty speaks for itself. Shop the full Abbey suite to add more romance, or view this design in [Letterpress](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/9685860d-5cfd-4c83-a065-6da82969a228) for something extra special. \n\n2. Our [Cardinell Stamp](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/3b04e853-18b9-4c3f-b987-002733aff887) wedding invitation is both delicate and natural. Ideal for couples who are celebrating in a romantic, nature-inspired setting, this invitation boasts hand-sketched flowers and modern typography. Printed on luxurious, extra-thick cotton paper, we swoon over this one in all font colors—sky, mint, gray, and navy.\n\n3. Give the feeling of sprinkles, stars, and shapes with our [Splendor Landscape](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/68743414-a3e9-4878-a04d-d72dfb90959e) wedding stationery. If you’re looking for wedding invitation styles that spark a feeling of expansiveness and joy, this one is perfect. It’s ideal for couples whose love language is all things astrology.\n\n## 7. Minimalist\n1. Leafy eucalyptus is a favorite among both indoor and outdoor celebrations. Bring this mint-hued beauty to paper with our [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/6bb81610-cca1-4683-a1d0-a786f11422e1) wedding invitation. This beautiful botanical design features leafy eucalyptus garlands that frame the initials of you and your spouse-to-be. It comes in a variety of colors, all of which will make the details of your wedding invite shine. If you’re going for a minimalist [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes), this card is the perfect option for you. \n\n2. For a minimalist design, our [Florence Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/75492fce-0aee-4c6a-9f40-94c274407a25) makes a statement. With bold font and a clean background, this card makes all the important details stand out—such as your names, the location, and what’s soon-to-become your favorite date and future wedding anniversary. When you’re looking for wedding invitation styles that are minimal, colors such as blush, white, blue, and sage are ideal. Just choose your font hue and you’re all set.\n\n3. Make your [simple save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/simple) and minimalist invitation unique by opting for a landscape layout. Our [Stowe Landscape](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/2104da7c-cce8-4165-ac71-79d4c34a5d21) wedding invitation features a letterpress design on extra-thick cotton paper. We like to think that it strikes that beautiful balance between modernity and elegance. If you’re an engaged couple on the hunt for something understated, yet chic, this one’s a fantastic option.\n\n![Pretty Wedding Invitation Styles](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6eu2taNPOCNgPxXqdHl1im/1af5c5baf33832c9a13d8644189aff2c/inline_Zola.png)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n## 8. Modern\n1. The [Lyons Classic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8653415a-8661-4643-922b-ab46479d8519) pairs a bold brush font with a rich background color. Whether you’re choosing rust, rose, forest, or any of the other available colors, this invitation highlights your wedding details in a modern and joyful way. Simply choose your color, input your information, and watch the invites sing.\n\n2. Our [Urbana Stroke](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c23d5ba4-d981-40ae-b0f1-7d8d10f0e749) wedding invitation boasts all the best industrial-chic vibes. With its modern typography and painterly design, this one is stunning in dark slate, mocha, and beyond. We’re partial to using it for an art gallery or loft celebration, though its flexibility and simplicity are what make it modern to its core. \n\n3. Go for elegance with the Cody Border invitation; this letterpress design is sleek and romantic. Whether you’re celebrating your upcoming nuptials at an expansive vineyard, an industrial warehouse, or an intimate restaurant, you’ll find this is one of those wedding invitation styles that works just about anywhere.\n\n## 9. Pastel Color Wedding Invitations\n1. Our [Cardinell Bloom](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f3843134-fe11-485b-8600-d55874be2dc3) invitation (and wedding invitation suite) is elegant and minimal, with some hand-sketched floral flair. It comes in four different color options, two of which are a pastel pink and blue. Morerover, it boasts monograms, modern typography, and the option to choose custom foil lettering. All in all, it’s ideal for formal garden weddings and spring weddings.\n\n2. For a gorgeous take on pastels, consider the [Violin](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/adf09873-7389-46dc-bd7c-4c1041066e1c) invitation. This classic wedding invitation design is paired with stylish calligraphy and a swatch of pastel watercolor, the perfect wedding invitation card for nuptials of many themes—from black tie, to boho, to classic.\n\n3. Lean into your artistic, soft side with the beautiful [Olmsted](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/43354983-9f5c-4832-9411-46190205d5c2) invitation. If more painterly brush strokes and a bold typeface for easy-to-understand information is what you seek, this card, with its pastel color palettes, is the one for you.\n\nFrom modern to minimalist, choosing your perfect invitation style is a personal experience. Whether you view your style as more bohemian or prefer a flair for the romantic, we know that you’ll find your ideal wedding invite match here at Zola. Prepare for an influx of RSVPs.\n\nIf you have any questions—from [addressing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) to [printing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-printing-your-own-wedding-invitations) to [when to send them out](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations)—or need any guidance, feel free to reach out to our team today. Between color choice, paper material, and style, there can be a lot to consider. Luckily, we’re enthusiastic about all things wedding, and we’re here to help.\n\nWhatever wedding invitation style you choose, make sure that it’s one that makes your heart sing. And, when the big day has come and gone, put your invite in a frame, find a perfect spot on the wall, and hang it up as a meaningful reminder of your most special day.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Deciding between digital wedding invitations and traditional invites? Read on to see if you should go the digital route.\n","title":"15 Best Online Wedding Invitations","slug":"pros-and-cons-of-digital-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7vL6IMDLJW9ID16SVBaadz/37cb00fc30ca9c191039d16fad718e85/pexels-george-milton-7014337.jpg","altText":"Woman working retouching photo on laptop at convenient workplace"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Looking for funny wedding invitations to get your guests laughing before the big day? 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","title":"21 Unique Wedding Invitation Ideas","slug":"unique-wedding-invitations","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jaaqQUtj8FjGZDPPjqoDd/35a45b68c89816e9517864983aef3cb9/16-Unique-Wedding-Invite-Ideas.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitations"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:03.298Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"unique-wedding-invitation-wording","title":"Unique Wedding Invitation Wording","excerpt":"Your wedding invitation should speak to your personality. Here are some ideas for unique wedding invitation wording from Zola.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T07:32:33.813Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Pwk8BInEkc9y2nU1XHNpp/06beb371af5ad512f6a2049f1b21f7a9/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitation Wording"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- It’s important to consider the tone of voice in your wedding invitation wording. You can be classic, casual, comedic, or celebratory, and you can even combine these elements to create a tone that feels your own. \n- Wedding invitations are meant to convey specific details to your guests. No matter how you say it, make sure these details are clear and accessible on your invitations. \n- Breaking away from stylistic conventions can also help your wedding invitations and ceremony be more inclusive of all of your guests. \n- Your unique wedding invitation wording should balance personal touches with proper etiquette. ","body":"Just because you’re engaging in the long and storied tradition of marriage with your partner, doesn’t mean you two can’t forge new ground together. Your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) are a perfect space for you to showcase what makes your love story special and get your friends and loved ones excited about your upcoming celebration. \n\nIn this article, we’ll cover several key aspects of unique wedding invitation wording, including: \n\n- Knowing the format\n- Setting the tone\n- Covering all the crucial details \n- Using inclusive language\n- Conveying individuality \n- Maintaining wedding etiquette and respect\n\nRead on to learn more about some easy techniques you can apply to your wedding invitations to make the wording shine. \n\n## Typical Format for a Wedding Invitation\nBefore you make your own rules for the wording for your wedding invitation, it can help to know the template and work from there:\n\n- __The names of the hosts (if applicable):__ Parents have traditionally paid for the weddings of their children. However, more and more couples are shaking things up and paying for their own celebration. Whether or not you or your partner’s parents are paying, or if you’re splitting the costs, it’s considerate to include their names on the invitation. After all, your wedding day is a big day for your parents, too. \n\n- __The part that invites the guest:__ This is the part that actually does the inviting, with phrases like “would be honored by your attendance at the wedding of” or “request your company at the marriage ceremony of.”\n\n- __The names of the couple:__ This information is the heart of your wedding invitation. Your guests will get excited when they see your name in such a lovely context and be eager to celebrate with you. While wedding invitations for heterosexual couples traditionally place the bride’s name before the groom’s, this is by no means necessary and can easily be done away with. If you want to order your names in a way that feels less heteronormative, simply use alphabetical order. \n\n- __The ceremony date and time:__ This is another place where you can decide whether you want to sound more formal or casual. If you’re going for a formal tone, try writing out your wedding date and time instead of using numerals. For a casual tone, try the opposite. You can include the year if you want—especially if it’s more than a year in advance, so your guests don’t incorrectly assume the date. \n\n- __The ceremony location:__ Let guests know where they can join the festivities. Offer the name of the venue at this section of the invitation. You can add the street address for extra clarity or save it for a directions enclosure card. If you’re getting married at a private home, you can include only the address or also give it a title such as, “Our Loving Home.” No matter where you’re getting married, be sure to include the city and state. \n\n- __The reception:__ Is your reception taking place at the same venue as your ceremony? In that case, you can simply put, “Reception immediately following,” or “An evening of celebration to follow,” or “Dinner and dancing afterward.” Include the reception time if it’s not occurring right after the ceremony. If the reception is in a separate location from the ceremony, include the address on your invitations. You can add additional details to your reception enclosure card. \n\nSo here’s what that looks like all put together:\n\n*Mr. Rakheem Madani and Dr. Hediyeh Madani*\n*And Mr. and Mrs. Peter Morgan * \n*request the pleasure of your company*\n*at the marriage of their children*\n*Leila Marie*\n*to*\n*Timothy Louis*\n*Saturday, June 11th, twenty twenty-two*\n*at six o’clock in the evening*\n*De Young Museum*\n*San Francisco, California*\n\n*Dinner, drinks, and dancing to follow*\n\n## Setting the Tone of Your Wedding Invitations\nNow that you know the general shape of the invitation, it’s time to bring your own personality to the wording of the piece. \n\nOne way you can let your personality shine through is by paying attention to your tone of voice. The tone is essentially the attitude of a piece of writing. \n\nIt’s easy to stray from a worn-out, traditional tone in your wedding invitations by adding some linguistic flair. You can also maintain an elegant and timeless ethos without leaning too much on overly familiar invitation language. \n\nRead on for some different tones you can take in your wedding invitations. \n\n### Classic \nIf the wedding of your dreams is classic, elegant, and timeless, you can bring that elegance to your invitation wording. A more sophisticated approach can easily be done by adding more formal words and turns of phrase throughout your invitation. Here are a few tips \n\n- __Using prefixes:__ Adding a “Ms.” or “Mr.” in front of a name immediately adds a sophisticated air to your invitation. \n\n- __Having hosts invite the guests:__ Typically, the parents of one of the newlyweds invite the guests in the wording of the invite. Granted, you and your partner will be the ones deciding on the invite design and sending the invites out. \n\nFor example: \n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Carlos Sanchez would be delighted to have your attendance at the marriage of their daughter Jessica Leigh to Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen.* \n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Carlos Sanchez invite you to share in their excitement at the marriage of their daughter Jessica Leigh to Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen.* \n\n- *Jessica Leigh Sanchez and Elliot Joseph Chen request the honor of your presence at their wedding ceremony and reception.* \n\n- *Ms. Jessica Leigh Sanchez and Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen request the pleasure of your company at their wedding ceremony and reception.* \n\n- *Ms. Jessica Leigh Sanchez and Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen invite you to celebrate their marriage.* \n\n- *Ms. Jessica Leigh Sanchez and Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen are thrilled to invite you to celebrate their marriage.* \n\n- *Ms. Jessica Leigh Sanchez and Mr. Elliot Joseph Chen joyfully invite you to celebrate their marriage.* \n\n### Casual\nTo make your wedding invitations sound more casual, you can use colloquial language—things you would usually say in spoken conversation. It sounds more conversational, lively, and friendly. Your guests may even read it in your voice and feel more connected to you through the invitation. This can be as simple as saying “Hey!” instead of “Hello.” \n\nHere are a few ideas to get you started:\n\n- *Come celebrate with us! Michael Terrence Johnson and Sean Khan-Patel are getting married.*\n\n- *Break out your dancing shoes: Mike and Sean are saying “I do!”*\n\n- *Mikey and Sean are getting married and they want you to be there (lucky you)!*\n\n- *Attention nearest and dearest: You’ve been invited to celebrate Mike and Sean’s biggest party ever—our wedding!* \n\n- *Mikey popped the question, Sean said yes, now we’ve got a question for you: Want to come to our wedding?* \n\n- *Mikey and Sean are tying the knot! We’re going all out and we want you to be there!*\n\n- *Sean and Mikey are saying “I do!” and would love you to be there!*\n\n### Comedic\nAre you someone who always has your friends laughing? Then you may want to bring that positive energy to your wedding invitations. Wedding invitations don’t always have to be serious and formal—you can use subtle puns or jokes to add a comedic touch. \n\nTry to keep the comedy light, so that it doesn’t overpower what’s important about the day—celebrating your love story. You also don’t want a joke or sarcastic tone to confuse or detract from the important information on your wedding invitations.\n\nWriting a comedic wedding invitation can be a delicate balance, but it’s a tone that’s sure to put smiles on your guests’ faces. \n\n- *Hey, you! Are you doing anything Saturday, June 4th? Because we’re getting married!* \n\n- *Luisa Ortega and Dylan O’Brien are (finally) getting hitched!*\n\n- *Did someone say wedding cake? Oh wait, that was us—Luisa and Dylan are headed to the altar!*\n\n- *Luisa and Dylan are throwing a party. Jewelry and cake will be involved. Want to come?*\n\n- *Dylan and Luisa have been in love for years. Now they’re getting paperwork involved and throwing a party about it! (Translation: We’re getting married!).* \n\n- *Who? Luisa and Dylan What? They’re getting married. Where? The Edinburgh Zoo. Why? Because we’re party animals crazy for love and want you to come!*\n\n### Other Ways to Strengthen Your Tone \nIt’s important to note that you can also complement your chosen tone of voice with your wedding invitation design. Whether its color, font, paper type, or another factor, design choices also convey tones. Gold foil accents can heighten a celebratory feel or a relaxed script font can collaborate with a casual writing style to hype your guests up for a laid-back wedding celebration. \n\nWith Zola’s wide variety of wedding invitation templates and customization options, you’re sure to find a design that complements the tone of your wedding invitation wording. \n\n## 7 Essential Wedding Invitation Tips\nYou’ve got the invitation wording down, but here are a few extra tips and tricks to create a beautiful set of wedding invitations. \n\n### #1 Consider Your Guests’ Calendars\nYour guests will want to come to your wedding, but they may need to organize things like childcare, time off, and of course, outfit shopping as far in advance as possible. That’s what [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are for. Send these out six to eight months in advance of your wedding (or a year in advance if you’re planning a destination celebration). \n\n### #2 Keep Your Invitation Simple\nWhile a wedding invitation is meant to convey necessary details, don’t go overboard with what you include. \n\n- __Don’t stuff your invitation with details:__ Stick to the who, what, when, and where on your invitations.\n\n- __Use enclosure cards:__ These are great for other important pieces of information, including venue directions, schedule of events, [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) information, dress code, and everything else you might need to tell guests.\n\n- __Take advantage of a wedding website:__ Enclosure cards are tasteful and informative, but they might not be able to fit every single detail of your wedding. That’s why you should add all the important details your guests will be curious about to your website. This can include whether there will be vegan options at your buffet or what the rain plan is. \n\nGood news? Zola’s [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) builder makes it easy to keep your guests up to date on everything they’ll need to have an amazing time at your wedding. \n\n### #3 Double Check Everything\nIf you’re working on wedding invitation wording in between all of your other to-do list tasks, it might be easy to miss a mistake here and there. Once you’ve whipped up a draft of your wording, be sure to sleep on it and then give it a fresh set of eyes. \n\n### #4 Clarity is Key \nDon’t be afraid to get creative, but don’t let the fun flair of your wedding invitations detract from the information your guests need to know. \n\nIf your swirly script font is difficult to read, take it down a notch. If your comedic prose is getting in the way of the straightforward dates and times on your invitation, save the jokes for the less detail-focused sections of your invitations. \n\n### #5 Know How to Address Your Guests\nIt’s important to note that some of your guests have titles other than Mrs., Ms., or Mr. \n\nTo be gender-neutral, you can use the title Mx. when addressing your guests. \n\nIf one of your guests is a doctor, you should use Dr. when referring to them, regardless of their gender. This can be an important sign of respect, especially for non-male doctors who often have their hard-earned title dropped or forgotten due to careless patriarchal assumptions. \n\nGoing the extra mile to ensure your guests are addressed properly will make them feel loved and cared for. \n\n### #6 Including Parents in the Invite\nNot every couple’s parental situation fits easily into a wedding invitation template. Here are a few tips for incorporating your family into your invitation wording:\n\n#### *Including a Deceased Parent or Parents* \nEven if you or your partner’s parents have passed on, you may want to include their names on your wedding invitations out of respect, love, and honor. To do so, you can refer to a deceased parent as “the late” in your wedding invitations. \n\nFor example, this could look like, “Ana Rodriguez, daughter of Mr. Martin Rodriguez and the late Sara Rodriguez...” \n\nYour deceased parent can still be a big part of your life and including their name on your wedding invitations can be a way to pay your respects on this important occasion in your life. \n\n#### *Including Divorced or Separated Parents*\nYour or your partner’s parents may not be together anymore, but you may want them both to appear on your wedding invitation nonetheless. However, your parents may not want to see their names written as a couple on your wedding invitations. \n\nTo accommodate these conflicting desires, you can simply separate your parents’ names with line breaks on your wedding invitations, as opposed to including them on the same line. \n\n#### *Including Stepparents*\nSometimes the people that raised you aren’t your parents by blood. Stepparents or guardians can play a large and positive role in certain family arrangements, and you or your partner may want to acknowledge them on your wedding invitations as such. \n\nIt doesn’t have to get too complicated—just include the stepparent on the same line as the parent they’re married to, as you would with any other couple on a wedding invitation. \n\nFor example, it might look like “Mr. Samuel Price & Ms. Laura McClare and Mr. Nathan Starling invite you to...” \n\nIf you're unsure about how to list parents on a wedding invitation, you can always have an open conversation with them to understand their preferences. This way, you can be sure to be respectful of everyone’s situation and list their name as they would want to see it.\n\n### #7 Get Ahead of Your Guest List With Zola \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, handling a guest list can be a big source of stress. Enter [Zola’s wedding guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), which makes managing RSVPs, meal choices, and communication with guests as easy as a slice of, well, wedding cake.\n\nThat way, when your Great Aunt Ivy texts you her updated meal choice (again), a few quick taps at the keyboard are all you’ll need to keep your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) going smoothly. \n\n## Design Your Own Perfect Wedding Invitations With Zola\nWhen it comes to wedding invitations, the wording is only one piece of the puzzle. You will also want to consider many design decisions, such as paper type, font, color scheme, and what decorative accents you may want to add. \n\nAfter all, the wedding invitation wording you’ve worked so hard on deserves a wonderful presentation. \n\nDon’t feel overwhelmed if you don’t know where to start when it comes to designing your wedding invitations. When you work with Zola, we can assist you every step of the way with our easy-to-use tools for everything from designing invitations and websites to searching for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and florists. \n\nWeddings are about togetherness, and with Zola, you’re not alone in planning your big day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:02.541Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"the-traditional-muslim-wedding-invitation","title":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Everything you need to know about Muslim wedding invitations. ","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking to plan a Muslim wedding? 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Whether you’re opting for hand-drawn florals or festival prints, here are some ideas for rustic wedding invitations.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-12-11T17:38:30.329Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/21CiBeJ2NrFRPCqtYTR17l/42eedbde1daec3732e28b4e03cb4f0e4/hero_lindsaydawnphotography.jpg","altText":"rustic wedding invitations"},"heroCredit":"Lindsay Dawn","body":"Today, rustic weddings can take place anywhere from a [barn venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/which-type-of-wedding-venue-is-right-for-you) in the rural countryside to an elegant ballroom overlooking a forest.\n\nWhether it’s the flora, the fauna, or the overall allure of nature that grabs your attention, a rustic celebration is always a good choice. \n\nAlthough your definition of rustic can mean everything from woodsy and bucolic to adventurous and romantic, there are things to keep in mind as you nail down those rustic [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). After all, the invitations set the tone for the day and get guests excited for what’s to come. \n\nWhether you’re opting for hand-drawn florals or festival prints, here are 12 ways to bring those rustic vibes to paper. \n\n# 1. Hand-Drawn Florals\nNothing exudes that beautiful balance between rustic and formal like hand-drawn florals. Your version of the perfect florals might mean wildflowers in an open field or delicate flowers in a fairy forest. Whichever direction you take, hand-drawn flowers are the perfect addition to [rustic wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic). Our [Novela Landscape](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f825601b-c180-4574-a6d0-d2b0fd2b058c) invite combines magnolia flowers with a script [wedding invitation font](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-fonts)—it’s kind of organic, kind of fancy, and works well for rustic weddings of all sorts. The [Bonnie Bloom](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/25061e51-d076-4144-b82b-753837f466a0) invitation is another example of a sunny design with a hand-drawn floral. Sunflowers, especially when they’re hand-drawn or hand-painted, are perfect for [floral save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/floral) and rustic invites. \n\n# 2. Go for Green\nNothing screams fresh air like the color green. When you’re on the hunt for rustic wedding invitations, take a leap and go for green—all green, that is. From the envelope to the contents inside, a [greenery wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/greenery) will get your guests breathing in that scent of forest pine. Our [Camden](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/5074f429-4c9b-47a1-ae96-6acc23d4dfb5) wedding invitation features watercolor pine trees and a soothing green color. \n\nCombine it all with some fun typewriter-style or classic fonts to get your guests ready to bathe in greenery at your upcoming celebration. \n\n# 3. Citrus-Inspired\nCitrus offers a unique vibe for a rustic wedding. You may be hosting your nuptials in your family’s lemon grove or adorning your tablescape with plenty of in-season citruses. However, you choose to bring nature’s bounty into your wedding day, choose a rustic wedding invitation that sets the stage. There are a handful of ways to incorporate citrus into rustic wedding invitations; perhaps it’s an oval-shaped citrus wreath with your names in the center or a simple orange or lemon at either corner. \n\nOur [Folly Frame](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7b6c5ee7-3eec-4256-b9e9-2408f5867027) wedding invitation boasts a watercolor botanical design with—you guessed it—lemons. It’s a fresh choice for those looking to bring citrus into their invitations and their wedding day. \n\n# 4. All Things Autumn\nAutumn is one of the most magical times of the year. If you’re celebrating your wedding during this season, there’s likely some sort of rustic vibe to accompany it. You may have pumpkins on the table, apple cider at the bar, or a hue of fall leaves at the table. However, you choose to represent the season, search for a rustic wedding invitation that does the same. \n\nOur [Gramercy Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/1c57c3d4-d721-4108-a01c-fd4c14f33114) wedding invitation is ideal for fall celebrations. It features a warm floral design and plenty of sunset-hued wildflowers to get you into the seasonal spirit. \n\n# 5. Festival Print\nIf you’re a couple who’s going for the festival [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes), we’re guessing you’re about to throw one heck of a celebration. (We’d be lying if we said we didn’t wish we were invited.) A festival print invitation may include a mix of logos, flags, vintage fonts, and other graphic design elements. Our own [Festival Print](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/735a5234-edfb-4ca3-bad6-993a8cbc5fee) wedding invitation is meant to mimic a rustic band poster. \n\nWe like that it’s ideal for couples who are aiming for a bit of rustic Southern charm. Whether you go for coral and white colors or denim and brown, one thing is for sure, this is a fun, festive wedding invite.\n\n![Rustic Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/35YMgO99jgPX96Fmq6nv6J/33445adaf3d166d83bd9a04e92db0615/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n# 6. Botanical Accents\nIf you’re looking for a side of elegance with your rustic wedding invitations, add a botanical accent. A simple botanical accent can work wonders to announce your rustic wedding celebration. Our [Norcross Stamp](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/0d756fee-8974-4ef9-a55c-b30abedea82a) wedding invitation, for example, features a simple botanical surrounded by timeless typography. If you’re getting married in nature or plan to bring the outside indoors, this one is the perfect pick. Make sure to find a matching [greenery save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/greenery) to complete your theme. \n\nSome couples opt for a dried botanical element in their wedding envelope or attached to the invitation itself. With a bit of brown baker’s twine to tie it all up, we’re in botanical-scented heaven with this [rustic save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop/rustic) and wedding invitation.\n\n# 7. Summer Camp Inspired\nBold in their nature, summer camp-inspired rustic wedding invitations are certainly a creative choice. Maybe you’re a couple-o-campers—or maybe you met at summer camp. You may be hosting your rustic celebration at a lakeside campground or a wooded retreat. Wherever your special day may lead you (and your guests), a summer-camp inspired invitation will get everyone prepared. \n\nAt Zola, we love our [Haring Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/2c69e92a-707d-4b27-93ed-e951683f0453) wedding invitation. Featuring a playful monogram, block font, and contrasting colors, it’s the ideal [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) for those saying “I do” in the great outdoors.\n\n# 8. Landscape Paintings\nLandscape paintings help make rustic wedding invitations truly shine. Plenty of couples have memories that involve landscapes—a sunrise over the mountains, a lakeside retreat in the forest, or an early morning on the lake. If you’re looking to express your unique style, and your unique love story with an invitation, use a landscape painting for your card. It’s an artistic choice for an invitation, and, if it gets your attention from the beginning, it’s one that will resonate with you for years to come. \n\nOur [Deepcreek Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/ec57f548-67b8-48ff-8999-43c489de41de) features beautiful watercolor renderings of landscapes in every season: spring, summer, fall, and winter. No matter the season, this one is a top choice among nature enthusiasts in search of rustic wedding invitations.\n\n# 9. Vintage Elegance\nRustic wedding invitations don’t have to mean all things woodsy and nature-inspired. Sometimes, they can simply work to evoke a feeling. Our [Augusta Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/e0e62da9-8d00-4a61-9e89-75b91edf8095) invitation, for example, evokes a vintage elegance ideal for all sorts of rustic gatherings. From backyards to brewhouses, this one is flexible and versatile. With its intricate frame and elegant block font, all you have to do is pair it with your choice of florals or greenery. (P.S. the fact that it comes in five other rustically-worthy colors has us daydreaming about forests, woods, and every scenic landscape in between.)\n\n# 10. Natural Paper\nA simple, natural design and natural-colored paper go hand-in-hand. If you’re looking for an easy way to create rustic wedding invitations, think of white font and brown paper. Our [Rooftop Bloom](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/7362e826-c9bd-4f34-9a3b-7a8815722e86) invite takes this idea and lets it shine. With illustrated white florals set on a brown background, this one is perfect for fancy farm celebrations or weddings in floral fields. In addition to a natural color, this one also comes in walnut, white, and gray.\n\n![Rustic Wedding Invitations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6CeStZ19ion3ZpSRbb7vxi/6c3f478cf607a4fa2be8ac7e7ffa1844/inline_stocksy.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Stocksy\n\n# 11. Bloom Background\nAbloom here or it is beautiful, but what about an entire bloom background? As long as you have boxes of text with legible details, you can go florally wild with your rustic wedding invitations. Take our [Beacon Portrait](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/76e8bf03-c8da-498a-963e-56fbaf4da801) wedding invitation as a prime example—this romantic design boasts an entire background of soft florals and modern font. Perhaps you’re going for a wildflower rooftop in NYC vibe or the pristine rose garden of a family member. These spaces are both ethereal and beautifully rustic; a [floral wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/floral) to match is always a good plan. \n\n# 12. Plaid Patterns\nThe checkered plaid print is famous in every area from clothing to picnic blankets. When you’re searching for rustic wedding invitations, consider adding this iconic geometric print to your idea-list. Our [Lewis Frame](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dc2874e6-dfbd-4af1-a255-8d3093085940) wedding invitation features cheery blue and white gingham inspired by—yep, you guessed it—outdoor picnics. We love this pick for couples who are getting married in a park, on a city rooftop, in their backyard, or anywhere else worthy of a picnic. Whether you opt for hot dogs, sandwiches, or elegant finger food, we’re all about picnic parties (and picnic party foods) in every form.\n\nRustic wedding invitations can take on so many different designs and forms. Like the weddings that accompany them, these festive and fun invites conjure visions of nature and greenery.\n\nWhether you’re opting for a summer camp-inspired invite or throwing in some citrus elements, we hope this roundup of rustic [wedding invitation ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/unique-wedding-invitations) leaves you feeling excited. When you’re ready to dive deeper into wedding planning, browse through our entire lineup of wedding invitations. \n\nWe do love our rustic invites, though we’re also partial to the elegant, the bohemian, the romantic, the minimalist—and just about any other style you can think of.\n\nFrom all of us at Zola, thanks for reading! Big congrats on your upcoming nuptials. We know that whatever invite you to choose, will be the perfect fit for your rustic theme. 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","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking to plan a Muslim wedding? 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This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- *“Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.” *\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”*\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”*\n\n- *“Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. *\n\n- *I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”*\n\n- *“Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”*\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. They also come with their challenges. 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Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},"topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper","description":"From save the dates to wedding shower invitations to the famous wedding invitation, there is so much wedding paper to think about. When do you order invities and paper? When do you send them? What do they say? Does it all have to match? We've got the answers to all your invitations and paper questions here.","stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Save the dates","slug":"save-the-dates"},"slug":"when-to-send-save-the-dates","title":"When To Send Save The Dates","excerpt":"Timing is key! Generally, save the dates should be sent no earlier than 8 months and no later than 4 months out from your wedding. Learn the specifics and more in this article.","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5toiH1YJrR7a8riilSNTHn/5921caa719187c7ae05075d7e7b681bf/WhenToSendSTD-06.jpg","altText":"graphic image of calendar with date circled"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- When to send save the dates\n- Can you ever send save the dates too early?\n- Do I have to send save the dates?\n- How do save the dates differ from wedding invites?\n- How to address save the dates\n- Who do we send save the dates to?\n- Save the date templates\n- Overall wedding timeline\n- Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule","body":"The precursor to the wedding invitation, save the dates are both fun and practical. On the one hand, they get friends and family excited for the upcoming festivities, on the other, they give your guests an ample amount of time to block off their calendars and prepare for your wedding.\n\nMuch like [fitting a wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-dress-alterations), when to send save the dates depends on your specifics. There’s a science to sending save the dates—not too early and never too late. Plus, did you know that different types of weddings require sending save the dates at different times? With all these small details, it’s easy to get caught up in the logistics. No worries! Find out exactly when to send yours below.\n\n## When to send save the dates \n\nYou should send your save the dates 4 to 6 months before a local wedding, and 8 to 12 months before a destination wedding. These timelines will give your guests ample time to make arrangements, but not so much time that it’s too far away for them to keep track of or forget about. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Make sure you have your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) 100% secured on your chosen date before ordering and sending out [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). While including the name of your venue on your cards isn’t essential, having your venue reserved for the date you’ll share on these cards is. Sign the venue contract first to avoid the headache of having to send change the date cards.\n\n## Can you ever send save the dates too early? \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7v0Cu5hkOsqnVR8fxF1qaE/ad0ec8aa577058b71854e750bc9b67a2/INLINE_Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nIt's definitely possible to send save the dates too early. If you do, your guests might put your wedding out of mind because they feel like it’s too far away to mentally prioritize. Wedding etiquette states that it’s best to send a save the date card four to six months ahead of your big day. \n\nThe exception is if you’re hosting a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), in which case eight months out is a better time frame. This gives out-of-town guests enough time to plan and make travel arrangements.\n\n## Do I have to send save the dates? \n\nSending save-the-dates for a wedding isn't mandatory, but it's highly recommended. Not only do they let your guests know a formal [invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will follow, but they're useful for giving guests enough time to plan their travel and accommodations, especially if you're hosting a destination wedding.\n\n## How do save the dates differ from wedding invites? \n\nSave the dates are optional, but wedding invites are essential. However, save the dates are a great opportunity to show off a cute photo from your [engagement photoshoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) and share the date and location of your wedding. But don't feel like they have to contain all the details. Save the dates don't have to include the start time, for example, or any other facts you haven’t finalized yet. \n\n## How to address save the dates \n\nAside from knowing when to send save the dates, you’ll also need to know [how to address your guests on the envelope](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-save-the-dates-a-guide).\n\nTo a single guest, use their title, e.g “Mr.”, “Mrs.” or “Ms.”\n\nMs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo a married couple, use titles “Mr. and Mrs.” and the couple’s last name.\n\nMr. and Mrs. Lee \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\nTo an unmarried couple, use the titles “Mr. and Ms.” and spell out first and last names.\n\nMr. David Lee and Ms. Jennifer Kim \n\n12 Maple Street Boston, MA 02115\n\n## Who do we send save the dates to? \n\nMany couples have a group A and group B when it comes to sending out wedding invites. Group B is typically made up of those guests who you would love to have at your wedding, but, because of space or [budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) issues, may not be able to accommodate.\n\nIn proper wedding etiquette, never send a save the date to anyone in group B. These people haven’t definitely secured an invite to your wedding after all. Only send save the dates to group A—and only send them to each household rather than to every individual person on your guest list. If they live at the same address, they only need one save the date.\n\n## Save the date templates \n\nLooking for some save the date design inspiration? We’ve got plenty of stylish templates to suit all couples.\n\n### Talana Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020832](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AmKpNiegHXbMbiClrH0pc/46c2e7d3ad5d327710c517022b01fcd6/2023-12-27_020832.png)\n\nThe versatile [Talana](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/834b1947-8b34-47d9-9fd6-3ad7b8aa82ed) design features an elegant mix of typography and calligraphy over your custom picture, plus your wedding date in the corner.\n\n### Emeline Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013311](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vq8bTzcvMN6QpbXBCCqrt/7e7e4c39a03ad5e389ffb2289d8a3821/2023-12-27_013311.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot front and center with this [Emeline](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/02f578c5-16cc-4db4-b27a-1264c7ccf8cf) save the date design. It’s a gorgeous choice for any wedding, from urban to rustic.\n\n### Violin Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013536](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hh31ScUfBze2smObLW4ae/718d25a62a497c4f8dbe3276bce93d33/2023-12-27_013536.png)\n\nCan't decide on just one photo from your engagement shoot? The [Violin Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/84d3d632-1d62-4d93-a898-28059082d68a) template allows you to whittle it down to your top three.\n\n### Goundry Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013706](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43fx2QXzrVg3fkyAJAObxu/9f1237144dac32905ec4fe276e30e966/2023-12-27_013706.png)\n\nThe chic, simplistic [Goundry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d9e4c88b-e5e3-4761-8ca7-bd566d59f6ba) design features leaves and flowers around your initials, plus a timeless mix of typography.\n\n### Galata Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 013908](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yj8vECxuRrwfoA1Z3HG9w/b0e3dfee6b84ef1318c6df6ad5f45ecc/2023-12-27_013908.png)\n\nAvailable on luxe paper, this botanical [Galata](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/555fba41-4cfb-445f-ba37-6945daa7d014) design features a wreath of leafy eucalyptus that frames your wedding details perfectly. \n\n### Burke Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014439](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4kSWqOonrJuEiLVV5IJvpD/25dab936b9e2a5ba85e2e5e5d7d1a4dd/2023-12-27_014439.png)\n\nAre you a fan of photography? Your family and friends will proudly remember this polaroid-esque [Burke Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1e536a29-57d0-43ea-9781-df2229f133d0) save the date long after the big day.\n\n### Avila Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014630](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4q0AZIA13HJjmWjNUELZf3/e53688de3195d6e8f0af079fef21c76c/2023-12-27_014630.png)\n\nThe [Avila](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/61bc957d-873f-46fd-8b86-4d9bcf7297ab) design is perfect for nature lovers looking to showcase a special snapshot, featuring delicate hand-drawn leaves, next to your custom picture. \n\n### Brevard Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 014750](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZZoq7A37Emk4DvJnKLObZ/e583e78f940c412baacc29def58ea023/2023-12-27_014750.png)\n\nPut your favorite snapshot on display with the bold [Brevard](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/45713c13-974a-4a35-a6e6-34eeff8ac9cd) template that places you and your other half right in the spotlight.\n\n### Venado Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015001](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7ALy2RGXE6GaahNECHbHJW/07b07cfc6c7ea4ec9ff590b0710db62a/2023-12-27_015001.png)\n\nMake a romantic statement with the delicate [Venado](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc4badb-5d12-4b54-bad0-3b23c14eeffb) design. Better yet, you can edit the silhouette for a unique finish.\n\n### Gardner Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015207](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/l1W1S6ORuJKIlpat6HFmK/c2a845144d418d61552f642a9e96b708/2023-12-27_015207.png)\n\nGetting married in a garden or other flower-filled setting? You'll love the floral-adorned [Gardner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/d479af31-b5fe-4fbc-b413-19b8553155d7) template.\n\n### Alta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015340](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KAjG15X1cMCBqyArluYAf/22f42c754a7ad697ec523d3edbde7b9d/2023-12-27_015340.png)\n\nIf you're a fan of bright colors and prints, you'll adore the vibrant [Alta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/892f40f8-3ff0-4ff3-94db-49c180fd5a19) design, complete with customizable foils.\n\n### Paltz Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015529](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Hax3JQUgAJ2GyyBsUXkll/12967ec3a3b0651057df860e219ea1be/2023-12-27_015529.png)\n\nWe especially love the [Paltz](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/8852bff8-96d4-4873-bdaa-5d74031b7f7e) save the date for formal weddings, in venues like hotel ballrooms and seaside resorts. \n\n### Serene Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020042](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GYoaF5tQrVCKmwioYtS69/fedbced72e38688f0a9034c3544abb2e/2023-12-27_020042.png)\n\nMuch like its name suggests, this [Serene](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/7d2c6ac0-27cb-44f6-bb01-7ad3a6298053) design comes with a gorgeous, serene landscape and space for all the key details.\n\n### Celeste Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015652](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5oN54iueZ5SSCKsBo5J94T/dbf25ee6880c7674abe1f391f91c13cb/2023-12-27_015652.png)\n\nChoose modern cool with a card that strikes a clean balance between formal and minimalist like this [Celeste](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/ba9f42d9-8922-4fc8-83a2-d33544bb17ed) design.\n\n### Vandeburg Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015802](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5UgR8zaBQU5s1pit71CYw3/e657e53add8a2e81745f50c1c43bf945/2023-12-27_015802.png)\n\nThe stylish [Vandeburg](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1bfb919d-2949-49d1-b524-d1b8c694133d) save the date design comes in a big range of colors, themes, and paper types, ensuring a bespoke finish.\n\n### Chesley Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 015926](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6aLH3zUFjhpQL15ExpTxtn/0d35f885a57d38f483f09072795771aa/2023-12-27_015926.png)\n\nThe [Chesley](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/eeb56cd3-3930-4850-95c0-41257885013f) template features stunning hand-painted flowers, plus timeless typography. It's perfect for couples who want to add a splash of color to their big day.\n\n### Santini Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020547](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ljLlEy1axSlL6mImMW4fj/7ed0965fee2518610e68ae8de05595d5/2023-12-27_020547.png)\n\nThe upscale [Santini](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/1fc52150-ca6d-46fd-ad9f-4f0b88de806c) design is a classic choice, making good use of gold foil to commemorate your big day.\n\n### Colletta Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020704](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YzTVILPDR0zSR7LZpxinl/f275080c85ea9bbdc3c5912a209b7496/2023-12-27_020704.png)\n\nArty couples step forward: the [Colletta](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a41537a0-8394-4105-9e99-549e17e7e57f) template is both romantic and elegant, with hand-painted watercolor flowers.\n\n### Bahama Photo save the date template\n\n![2023-12-27 020307](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1lOX518oScFgojhVRyXdPo/3865deb7a1050c8523195af6782c5035/2023-12-27_020307.png)\n\nThis [Bahama](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/70198cfe-cfa8-4ae2-bfbe-ba8c5528b700) design features bold typography for a cool, minimalist vibe, complete with your favorite couples photo and dramatic lines.\n\n## Overall wedding timeline \n\n![INLINE Zola 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KZ3EBCyGb72tJlp0MTxTC/e7109391e2d5b1b98299804392afa8c3/INLINE__Zola_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nWhile every wedding timeline is different, there are a few tried and true standards for when to send save the dates and other related wedding stationery. As previously mentioned, knowing exactly when to send save the date cards depends on your unique wedding timeline. Here’s a general [timeline for a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) with a year of planning:\n\n- 12 Months in Advance: [Reserve the wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and secure a date.\n\n- 11 Months in Advance: Set up a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n- 10-12 Months in Advance: Take [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos). (Optional, but these look great on save the dates!)\n\n- 10 Months in Advance: Collect friends and family addresses. (You can [manage your guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) at Zola too!)\n\n- 8 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a destination wedding.\n\n- 6 Months in Advance: Send out save the dates for a local wedding.\n\n- 8 Weeks Before Wedding: Send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n\n## Wedding invitation etiquette: the basic rule \n\nThe above timeline ensures that your guests have an appropriate amount of time to block off your wedding date in their calendars. However, every wedding’s details and timelines vary. Whether you secure your location a year in advance or a few months beforehand, there’s one basic rule to follow when it comes to wedding invitation etiquette: Do not withhold scheduling information and wedding details.\n\nAs soon as you’ve [secured the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue) and set a specific date, let your guest list know via physical or [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop?pkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Std_Brand%20(Exact)&orderkey=std_googlesem_desktop_brandexact_np_&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4Y-sBhC6ARIsAGXF1g7fhRrL2hPy4-WzNcvaiMbXFKHCLVW8bYHES6WMy1Xjk-yATRV-kUcaAmqNEALw_wcB). You don’t really need any other details for these, so don’t get hung up on anything else before sending.\n\n## In summary\n\nSave the dates are the introduction to your wedding so we understand you want to time it right. 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-13T15:56:01.000Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Send save the dates before your wedding invitations and at least 4-6 months ahead of your wedding date so guests can literally “save the date” for the celebration. \n- Design your save the dates to match your free wedding website from Zola! It's the perfect way to direct guests to learn more about your event.\n- Save the dates wording should be short, sweet, and communicate basic information guests need to know, i.e. who, where, and when.\n","body":"[Save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) serve as the first piece of formal communication about your wedding logistics that you’ll share with guests. Before the invitation, a save the date simply lets wedding guests know, well, what date to save for your wedding. Here’s everything you need to know about wedding save the dates (sometimes called wedding save-the-dates), from etiquette, wording examples, to when to send save the dates, and much more.\n\n## What Is a Save The Date? \nAs the first piece of your wedding stationery or invitation suite, save the dates serve a functional purpose and add an extra touch of style and coordination to your wedding event. Sent to your guest list months ahead of actual invitations, save the dates let guests know that your wedding is happening—and they should quite literally “save the date” for the celebration. They also indicate that a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) is coming. \n\nThese announcements most often take the form of printed cards sent via snail mail. Some couples get creative with save the date magnets or other small mementos, though (also sent via snail mail).\n\n## Save The Date Goals\nYour wedding save the date card should serve the following purposes: \n1. Alert your guests to your wedding date, and have them record it in their calendars.\n2. Let guests know that there’s a [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal) to follow.\n3. Direct guests to your wedding website to learn more details about your wedding weekend.\n4. Prompt your guests to think about travel arrangements, if necessary.\n5. Set the general tone (including style, theme, or formality) for your event.\n6. Provide a tangible memento (that can coordinate with the rest of your wedding paper) to include in your wedding album or scrapbook. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## Save the Date Etiquette: The Five Ws of Save The Dates\n\n### WHO Gets a Save The Date?\nOne hundred guests on your list, 100 save the dates, right? Think again. Every household on your guest list (rather than every individual guest) should receive a save the date. \n\n### WHAT Should I Include on My Save The Dates?\nSave the dates provide guests with the most basic information: who is getting married, when, and where. An engagement photo of you and your partner from your engagement shoot is also a great addition. You can also include a link to your wedding website if it’s set up so that invited guests can check for updates in real time. See below for more information about how to word save the dates. \n\n### WHEN Should I Send My Save the Dates?\n \nIf you’re wondering when to send save the dates, it all depends on your specific wedding timeline. The standard rule of thumb is to send save the dates four to six months before your wedding celebration (if it’s a local wedding). If your timeline is different, don’t stress: the safest thing to do is to send them as soon as possible once you’ve booked a venue and settled on a date. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you want to send save the dates earlier. If you have a year, send them two [months](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) earlier than normal.\n\nFor more details, check out our [complete guide to sending your Save the Dates.\n](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates)\n### WHERE Should I Shop for Save The Dates?\n \nWe might be a little biased, but [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) has an incredible selection of save the dates and related wedding stationery. Designed to coordinate with our [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and matching [paper invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), our stunning array of save the dates means there’s a design for every style and type of wedding. Customize the wording (and upload your favorite photo) to make it feel 100 percent personal to you. \n\n### WHY Are Save The Dates a Thing?\n\nSince the trend gained traction in the mid-2000s, these classy head’s ups have become increasingly popular as people become busier (and more forgetful) and couples need to give their invited guests more time to block out the event on their calendars. They are especially important if your wedding day falls during a popular month to travel like close to the holidays or during the summer.","body2":"## How to Word Wedding Save The Dates\n \nSave the date wording should be short and sweet, and communicate the basic information guests need to know: who is getting married, where the wedding is taking place, and when. Typically you can just name the city in which you’re getting married—at this stage, guests only need to know if travel is required. \n\nIf you have a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), which we highly recommend you set up as soon as you’ve secured your wedding date and location, include the link so guests can read more details about your wedding online for themselves. Then save other details for the invitations you’ve promised them—and do be sure to promise them invitations to follow! \n\n## Save the Date Wording Ideas\n\nIf you want to know exactly how to word your wedding save the dates, here are some examples in a variety of styles, moods, and formalities. Use them as a jumping-off point when crafting your own original save the date wording. \n\n### Formal Wording Examples\n\n> Meghan Markle and Prince Henry of Wales
\n> are getting married in London
\n> May 19, 2018
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to celebrate the marriage uniting
\n> George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin
\n> September 27, 2014
\n> Venice, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Traditional Wording Examples\n\n> Please save the date
\n> to share in the joy of
\n> Gisele Bundchen
\n> and
\n> Thomas Brady
\n> at their marriage on February 26, 2009
\n> in Santa Monica, CA
\n> Invitation to follow
\n>\n\n> Please save the date
\n> for the wedding of
\n> Neil Patrick Harris to David Burtka
\n> September 6, 2014
\n> Perugia, Italy
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n\n### Casual Wording Examples\n\n> Save the date!
\n> April 4, 2008
\n> for the wedding celebration of Beyonce and Jay Z
\n> New York City
\n> Formal invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> are tying the knot!
\n> Friday 19 October 2012
\n> Fasano, Italy
\n> Invitation to follow
\n\n### Whimsical Wording Examples\n\n> We’re spreading the news!
\n> Ellen and Portia are getting hitched!
\n> Please save the date: 8/16/08
\n> in Beverly Hills, California
\n> Invitation to follow
\n> \n\n> Will proposed…
\n> Jada said yes!
\n> Join us on December 31, 1997
\n> as we say, “I do!”
\n> in Baltimore, Maryland
\n> Invitation to follow
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","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T18:26:20.252Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NiM6LeE7oogArQWnfFnog/4b1799a210880ed0b3b25db5b8283a1b/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"The Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your Muslim wedding invitation should reflect the spirit of your wedding. \n- There are several ways to incorporate traditional Muslim language into your invitation. \n- Keep your wedding invitation design in theme with your wedding, and make sure your wedding invitation includes all relevant information for your guests. \n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nWhen planning a traditional Muslim wedding, the details of the wedding invitation should not be overlooked. Not only does the invitation design set the tone for the event, but the wording ensures guests have all the information they need and provides an opportunity to honor family members, as well as express Muslim values that define the celebration. \n\nOf course, Muslim wedding invitations are as varied as the many Muslim communities around the world. Afraz Khan, executive director of Muslim Wedding Services based in New York, emphasizes the importance of recognizing the many different ways that Muslims celebrate weddings. \n\n“A lot of the variation when it comes to Muslim wedding invitations is based on culture,” he says, noting the variety of norms within different communities around the world. “Different customs can be based on culture, or vary based on customs and traditions within the culture, from South East Asian, to Arab, to African and Black communities, as well as Indonesian, Malaysian, and Eastern European communities, such as Bosnia, and couples born and raised in the U.S.”\n\nWhile every couple should feel guided by their own unique Muslim heritage, here are some things to keep in mind when considering wedding invitations for a traditional Muslim wedding. \n\n## What Wording to Consider \n\nThe invitation or wedding card itself should be issued in the hosts’ name, following the general etiquette of wedding invitations. Ideally, however, both sets of parents should be named to emphasize the union of the two families. Some couples might also include the name of a grandparent or other respected relative who they wish to honor on the invitation. \n\nThere are many opportunities to use religious language, if the couple chooses to do so. Some Muslim wedding invitations invite guests to the nikah ceremony or the walima celebration, for example (depending on which is being emphasized or hosted), and include verses from the Quran or Hadith. Other Muslim invitations use the terms ‘wedding’ and ‘wedding reception’ instead. This decision should be up to the couple or the hosts issuing the marriage ceremony invitation. \n\nThe phrase ‘In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful’ will often be written out on top of the Muslim wedding invitation card, sometimes in quotes or in italics. Some invitations will choose to write this phrase in the original Arabic, or include it as a transliteration, usually rendered ‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.’ This gives your invitation a traditional and sacred feeling. \n\nHere are some ways one might word a Muslim wedding ceremony invitaton: \n\n#### 1\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the marriage of their daughter \n(bride) \nto \n(groom) \nSon of Mr and Mrs Y \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 2\n\n*In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the Most merciful \nMr and Mrs X \nRequest the honour of your presence \nAt the nikah ceremony of their son \n(groom) \nWith \n(bride) \nDaughter of Mr and Mrs Y \nGranddaughter of W \n(date) \n(year) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n#### 3 \n\n*‘Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem’ \n(bride) \nAnd \n(groom) \nRequest the pleasure of your company \nAt the walima celebration of their marriage \nAlong with their parents \n(bride’s parents) \nAnd \n(groom’s parents) \n(date) \n(venue) \n(location) \n*\n\n## Quotes for Muslim Wedding Invitations\n\nYou might want to include a traditional religious quote on your Muslim wedding invitation as well. There are many beautiful quotes about love and marriage in the Muslim tradition, from the Quran and Hadiths to the rich traditions of Muslim poets throughout the vast cultures of the Islamic world. Some of the more popular Quran quotes about marriage include: \n\n*“And we created you in pairs” *(Quran 78:8)\n\n*“And it is among His signs that He created for you partners from among yourselves, so that you may find peace in them, and He has created love and kindness between you.”* (Quran 30:21)\n\n*“Exalted is He who created all pairs”* (Quran 36:36) \n\nSome invitations will include the original Arabic verses, and some will include translations. If you include a translation, make sure you consider several translations before choosing the one that best captures the sentiment you desire. \n\nWhile there’s no problem under Islamic law with including Quran verses or the bismillah on a wedding day invitation, Muslim couples sending invitations to a diverse set of guests, including non-Muslims, should keep in mind that guests may be unaware of Muslim customs around how to respectfully dispose of writing material that includes the name of Allah and verses from the Quran.\n\n### Include All Relevant Information \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding has several parts, and many traditional Muslim weddings include ceremonies or customs unique to specific countries or cultures. If there’s a traditional ceremony happening at a certain time—such as the baraat procession—then note the particular time on the invitation as well. You want your guests to be fully informed. \n\nOn a similar note, if the ceremony is taking place in a mosque where guests will be expected to cover their shoulders or hair, then consider adding this information as well. \n\n## How to Design a Traditional Muslim Wedding Invitation \n\n### Stay on Theme \nThe design of your wedding invitation should reflect the theme and nature of the celebration itself. If your wedding will be a formal, elegant affair, then go for simple, dramatic colors like gold, cream, navy, or black. If you’re planning a traditional, vibrantly decorated wedding ceremony, then choose an invitation that matches that theme. \n\n### Consider Calligraphy or Traditional Design Features \n\nThe Muslim world is rich with a variety of visual traditions. Some couples choose to incorporate traditional calligraphy of both their names or use patterned designs that reflect their ethnic heritage. In recent years, sending wedding invitations in the form of miniturature scrolls has become popular.\n\n### Stay on Schedule\n\nThe wedding invitation should be selected about __six months before the wedding date__. You’ll want time to ensure you get the wording just right, consider what aspects of the Muslim ceremony you want to emphasize to your guests, and ensure that any Arabic or religious phrasing in rendered accurately. \n\nThe traditional Muslim wedding invitation includes many opportunities for a couple to share their Muslim values and important wedding information with their guests. This is everything you need to know about designing your Muslim wedding invitation.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking to plan a Muslim wedding? 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This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T18:13:56.426Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Respond to RSVPs as quickly as possible and follow the couple’s instructions to ensure your seat at the wedding.\n- RSVPs can take the form of printed cards, online websites, or e-mails. Be sure to fill out all fields and any add additional (or optional) fun notes.\n- If you’re declining an invitation, respond to the RSVP with a definitive “No”, an explanation if appropriate, and a gift from their Registry in your absence.\n","body":"With so many different ways to send out wedding invitations and RSVPs, it can be a little confusing to know what the best way to RSVP to a wedding is. In this post, we’ll walk through how to RSVP to different types of wedding invitations.\n\n## Things to Keep in Mind for All RSVPs\n\nThere are a few things to keep in mind for all RSVPs, regardless of the format: \n1. Follow instructions from the couple so your RSVP is not lost\n2. Include your full name(s)\n3. Include your response (Attending or Not Attending)\n4. Include the total number of guests attending\n5. If entree selection is requested, place the initials of the guest next to each meal selection\n6. Respond to any special prompts from the couple\n7. Send RSVPs back as soon as you can\n\n## What Does RSVP Mean? \nThe acronym RSVP stands for the French phrase “répondez, s'il vous plaît\" which translates literally to “respond if you please.” \n\n## When Should Guests RSVP to a Wedding?\n \nGuest should respond to the invitation as quickly as possible, but at least by the RSVP deadline listed on the invite. The RSVP deadline should be two to three weeks before the wedding - enough time for the couple to get a final headcount and make arrangements as needed. Late RSVPs are not only impolite, but can lead to you not having a seat or meal at the wedding as wedding vendors require final headcount by a particular date. Whatever you do, don’t show up to the wedding without notifying the hosts that you’re planning to attend. \n\n## How to Fill Out a Wedding RSVP Card\n \nA [wedding RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) will look different for every event, depending on the couple’s style and the formality of the celebration. However, there are a few things that are pretty standard across all RSVP cards. Here’s a breakdown of what you might typically find on a response card:\n\n1. A place for your name(s)\n2. A place to check off or write your response\n3. A place to choose your meal of choice\n4. A place to provide the total number of guests attending\n5. A place to answer a fun question from the couple\n6. A place to share a note with the couple\n\n### How to Fill Out The Name Line(s)\nHere are examples for how the name line(s) might be worded: \n\n – __M__\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s):\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_\\_
\n\nHere are examples for how to actually fill it out: \n\n – __M__ r. David Beckham & Mrs. Victoria Beckham
\n -OR-
\n – Name(s): Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
\n\n__Pro Tips:__\n1. Include the first and last name for each guest. \n2. Do not add the names of individuals to whom the invitation was not specifically addressed. \n3. Unless the invitation is addressed with a nickname, don’t use one on the RSVP card. \n4. Use proper titles if the name space has a capital “M” (see more on this below). \n\n## What Does The “M” Means on a Wedding RSVP?\nOn more formal wedding invitations, the name line is often preceded by a capital letter “M.” What does this mean, and more importantly, what is it for? It’s actually pretty simple. The “M” indicates that guests should fill out the line for their names with their proper title(s): Mr., Mrs., Ms., Miss. \n- For example: M_ Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter & Mrs. Beyoncé Knowles-Carter\n\n## What If There’s No RSVP Card? \nIf the invitation doesn’t have a response card included, look closely at the invitation for details about how to RSVP. It’s likely that the wedding hosts have opted to take RSVPs online (a common choice with couples who use Zola, since our [Tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) makes it easy to track responses and keep them all in one place). Alternatively, the host has included other instructions, like a phone number or email address, for how to communicate your acceptance or your regrets. \n\n## How to RSVP Online\nHow to RSVP online will vary depending on which [website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) or tool the couple has chosen for gathering responses. Your best bet is to type the URL provided on the invitation into your browser and follow the steps provided. The same rules of etiquette apply if you’re RSVPing online (with the exception of those that only relate to paper response cards), so see our quick list of RSVP rules to follow below. \n\n## How to RSVP By Email\nWhen the hosts ask that you RSVP via email, it’s important to honor their request and follow directions. Specifics will vary, but here are some basic guidelines. \n\n- __RSVP on time.__ As with all RSVPs, do the couple the courtesy of responding by the provided deadline. \n- __Respond to the email provided.__ It can be tempting to shoot over a text or use a personal email you might already have saved for the couple, but it’s important that you address your reply to the email provided on the invitation. It’s likely that the couple created a dedicated email address for the wedding to make it easier to keep track of responses. \n- __Write a gracious note, regardless of accepting or declining.__ While a simple “yes” or “no” gets the point across, it isn’t the most polite. Take a few moments to write a personal message to the couple when you RSVP via email. Also, make sure to include your name, how many in your party will be attending or declining (if someone other than you was invited), and any other information the couple has asked you to provide (such as entree choice or song request). See sample wording just below. ","body2":"## How to RSVP By Email Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,* \n\n*Thank you for inviting us to join your wedding celebration. Matt and I are happy to accept your invitation to the wedding day and the rehearsal.* \n\n*In regard to entree choices, Matt and I would both prefer fish.* \n\n*Looking forward to the big day!*\n\n*Warmly,*\n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation\n \nIt’s okay if you are unable to attend the wedding, but it’s important to let the hosts know by declining their invitation formally. Don’t assume that not responding at all makes it clear that you won’t be present. Here’s how to properly decline a wedding invitation: \n\n- __RSVP with a “No.”__ If you need to decline an invitation, it’s proper etiquette to RSVP via the host’s preferred method (online, response card, etc.) with a “no” or “regrets.” It’s never okay to not respond at all. If you’re particularly close with the couple, it can also be a nice gesture to send them a handwritten note or call them in addition to expressing your regrets formally. \n- __Make sure to still send a wedding gift.__ Even if you cannot attend the wedding, it’s important to still send the couple a wedding gift from their [Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- __Don’t change your mind.__ Once you have declined, it’s bad form to change your response later. The hosts are required to give final guest counts to their caterer and many other vendors before the wedding to ensure that there’s enough seating and food for everyone. Although the couple may be overjoyed that your situation has changed, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they can accommodate you. And whatever you do—never show up at a wedding after you have responded no to the invitation without speaking to the hosts first. \n- __Don’t make up excuses.__ If you have a legitimate excuse for declining the invitation, it’s fine to share with the couple why you cannot attend their celebration. However, it’s not necessary—and it’s sometimes better to decline without details if the reason behind your absence could hurt the couple’s feelings. \n\n## How to Decline a Wedding Invitation Sample Wording\n\n*Dear Charles & Audra,*\n\n*Thank you so much for inviting us to join you at your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be out of the country on business that weekend. We are sad to miss this special event and will be celebrating with you from afar on the big day.*\n\n*Sending our love and best wishes. Congratulations!*\n\n*With love,* \n*Matt & Shea Simmons*\n\n## What to Do If You Can’t Attend A Wedding After RSVPing Yes\nLife happens, and there will be instances where you are unable to attend a wedding after you have said “yes” on the RSVP. Whether it be inclement weather, an illness, or an emergency, there’s a right and wrong way to inform the couple that you won’t be able to make it to the celebration:\n\n- __Have a good reason for your cancellation.__ Only back out if the circumstances are truly serious, such as a severe illness or a family emergency. Time and money have been dedicated to preparing for your presence at the wedding, so don’t disregard your commitment lightly. \n- __Don’t bother the couple if it’s the wedding day.__ If you need to cancel on the day of the wedding, don’t reach out to the couple. Instead, touch base with the planner or the maid of honor or best man to inform them that you are unable to attend. The couple should be focused on getting married and distractions like these will only cause stress. \n- __Apologize.__ Even if the situation was outside of your control, it’s good decorum to apologize to the couple for missing their big day. As mentioned before, lots of planning was done to secure your spot—let them know that you appreciate all their prep work by issuing a sincere apology for your absence. \n\n## Wedding RSVP Etiquette \n- __Don’t add additional guests.__ You should never add additional guests to your RSVP. Only those to whom the invitation is addressed should respond and/or attend the celebration. \n- __Don’t swap out +1s.__ If one or more of your party cannot attend the event, note that it isn’t okay to swap out the guest that cannot attend with someone else. In the case that the invitation reads “with guest,” note that you may bring whomever you like. Traditionally your guest would be your romantic partner or spouse. \n- __Don’t (attempt to) RSVP to a wedding you haven’t been invited to.__ Period. \n- __Fill out the response card fully, if provided.__ Do the hosts a favor and make sure to fully fill out the RSVP card with all requested information. They are likely already juggling a lot of planning details, so don’t make them track you down for your preferred menu selections, too. \n- __Follow instructions and the host’s preferred RSVP method.__ Similarly, make sure to RSVP using the method the hosts have requested. If they’ve asked you to respond online, don’t shoot them a text, a call, or send them a DM on Instagram. Using anything other than their preferred way of gathering responses will make it difficult for them to keep track of everyone and maintain accurate totals. \n- __Use the RSVP card, if provided.__ If a paper response card is included with your invitation, use it let the hosts know if you can attend or can’t make it. \n- __Use the provided stamped envelope.__ Don’t go rogue with the response card envelope either. If there’s an RSVP card included with your invitation, traditionally an envelope (complete with a return address and postage) is included is well. Don’t let that stamp go to waste! \n- __Respond even if you can’t attend.__ Even if you can’t attend the wedding, you should always respond to acknowledge that you’ve received the invitation and to politely decline. \n- __Respond to all wedding event invitations.__ You should receive separate invitations to all wedding-related events, such as the engagement party, shower, and rehearsal dinner. 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Learn formal and modern approaches to create elegant and inviting cards.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-04-24T13:29:14.381Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13bpWVURYrrvQwpySxNZSw/65e5ad02aad6f00301a4fd489b36746b/Zola-05.04.20-Colored-Envelopes-_-Letterpress2332_CROPPED-e.jpg","altText":"A metal calligrapher's pen resting next to a wedding invitation envelope addressed using ink calligraphy"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Properly address your wedding invitations to ensure your wedding guests understand fully what you expect on your big day.\n- A Formal wedding invitation usually includes an outer envelope with a more personalized inner envelope that includes the invitation, RSVP card, RSVP envelope, and any additional wedding stationery of your choice.\n- An invitation addressed to families, couples, or a single guest can vary in specificity and it's best to use guidelines when addressing your envelopes wedding envelope.\n","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nAnyone familiar with addressing an envelope is probably wondering how we have a full article on how to address wedding invitations. More goes into wedding invitation envelope wording than names and addresses and a postage stamp, though. Wedding planning involves a long to-do list and, often, a lengthy guest list. Make sure your own invitations get to your wedding guests with envelopes that appropriately call out their titles, relationship status, and similar. Below is our complete guide on how to address [your wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal).\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n\n- If both names do not fit on Zola's template, try shortening the names\n\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. Otherwise, [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) suggests you err on the side of formality.\n\n- Avoid using nicknames or name abbreviations\n\n- Ensure you use the correct titles or prefixes (more on these below)\n\n## 1. How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope.\n\n## 2. How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n\n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:\n\n- *The Simpson Family Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n *Mr. Bart Simpson*\n *Miss Lisa Simpson*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:\n\n- *The Simpson Family*\n *—or—*\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*\n\n*Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:*\n\n- *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*\n —or—\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## General Rules for Addressing Wedding Invitations\n- If both guests' names don’t fit on one line, indent the second line.\n- If you’re having a [casual wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), such as a backyard barbecue or brunch in the park, you might be able to get away with addressing your envelopes less formally, such as leaving off titles or just using first names. But otherwise, err on the side of formality: people expect a bit more pomp and circumstance surrounding weddings, and older or conservative guests will take note if you are too informal.\n\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to Married Doctors (or two!)\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n- How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n \n## How to Address Wedding Invitations Without an Inner Envelope\n\n[Traditional wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) have both an outer mailing envelope, which contains the mailing address, postage, and return address, and an inner envelope. The inner envelope is printed with only the recipients’ names, and contains [all the pieces of the invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop): the invitation, [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), RSVP envelope, and any [additional enclosures](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop) such as a reception card, a map with directions, or invitations to additional weekend activities. When two envelopes are involved, the outside envelope is addressed more formally while the inside envelope is slightly more casual and frequently incorporates first names.\n\nIf you choose to send wedding invitations without an inside envelope, which is more common these days, simply focus on properly addressing the outer envelope. __Below, we provide guidelines for how to address invitations with a single envelope vs. an inner and outer envelope for your reference.__\n \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations To a Family\n \n### For One Envelope\n- When [sending wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) to a family, first decide whether you want to be specific about whom in the family is invited. If you don’t want to call out specific family members, simply address the envelope to the entire family:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n\n- If you do want to specify which family members are invited, write the names of each family member in list form. Begin your [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) with the parent or parents’ names, and list invited children's name in order of age below. Female children under the age of 18 should be addressed as Miss:
\n - *The Simpson Family*\n Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson
\n Mr. Bart Simpson
\n Miss Lisa Simpson
*\n\n### For Two Envelopes \n- If the whole family is invited, use the family name or only the names of the parents on the outer envelope:
\n - *The Simpson Family*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. & Mrs. Homer Simpson*
\n\n- Then list the first names of all invited family members on the inner envelope:
\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Simpson*
\n *Bart, Lisa, and Maggie*
\n —or—
\n *Homer, Marge, Bart, Miss Lisa, and Miss Maggie*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple\n \n### For One Envelope\n- If a married couple has the same last name, you can list them together just using the husband’s first and last name: \n - *Mr. and Mrs. Robert Belcher*
\n- Or you can use BOTH the husband’s and the wife’s first and last names, if you’d prefer to address both partners equally:\n - *Mr. Robert Belcher and Mrs. Linda Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Robert and Mrs. Linda Belcher*\n\n- If a married couple has __different last names__, you can list either name first based on your preference, whomever your closest with, or the alphabet. “Mrs.” is traditionally used to indicate married women’s or men’s marital status: \n - *Mrs. Leslie Knope and Mr. Ben Wyatt*\n\n- If one partner has a __hyphenated name__, list the hyphenated name last. Either “Ms.” or “Mrs.” can be used: \n - *Mr. Andy Dwyer and Ms. April Ludgate-Dwyer*\n\n- If __one partner is a judge__, list the judge’s name first using the term “The Honorable,” and then use “Judge” for the inner envelope:\n - *The Honorable Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Mr. Martin David Ginsburg*\n\n- If __one partner has a distinguished title__, such members of the clergy, rabbis, or military personnel, the distinguished title comes first regardless of gender: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Richard Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Rabbi Richard and Mrs. Rosina Glass*
\n —or—
\n *The Honorable Senator Elizabeth Ann Warren and Mr. Bruce Mann* \n\n- If __both partners have distinguished titles__, follow the same format as for medical doctors listed above regarding same or different last names. The higher-ranking title should come first, and if they are the same rank, traditionally the woman is listed first:\n - *Colonel Peter Jefferies and Reverend Margaret Jeffries*
\n —or—
\n *Lieutenants Amy and Jake Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Captain Benjamin Pierce and Major Margaret Houlihan, US Army*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor outer envelopes, address them using the choices above for each married-couple scenario. For inner envelopes, you can be less formal though one of two options: titles + last names, or first names only (but only if you are very close with the couple). Here are examples of inner envelope addressing etiquette for married couples:\n\n- For a couple with the same last name: \t\t\n - *Mr. and Mrs. Belcher*
\n —or—
\n *Robert and Linda*\n\n- For a couple with different last names:\n - *Mrs. Knope and Mr. Wyatt*
\n —or—
\n *Leslie and Ben* \n\n- For a couple with a hyphenated last name:\t\n - *Mr. Dwyer and Ms. Ludgate-Dwyer*
\n —or—
\n *Andy and April* \n\n- For a couple with a judge:
\t\t\t\t\n - *Judge Ginsburg and Mr. Ginsburg*\n\n- For a couple with one distinguished title: \n - *Rabbi and Mrs. Glass*
\n —or—
\n *Senator Warren and Mr. Mann*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, same last name: \n - *The Lieutenants Peralta*
\n —or—
\n *Colonel and Reverend Jefferies*\n\n- For a couple with two distinguished titles, different last names:\n - *Captain Pierce and Major Houlihan*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Married Doctor (or Two!)\n\n### For One Envelope\nIf one partner is a doctor, list the doctor first regardless of gender. You can choose to spell out \"Doctor\" rather than hyphenate it to \"Dr.\" if you would like to be more formal. Note that for academic doctors, you should always use the abbreviated \"Dr.\" rather than spell it out. If the doctor is a woman and she has taken her husband's last name (or uses it socially), reflect that:\n\n- *Doctor Michaela Quinn and Mr. Byron Sully-or-Doctor Rainbow and Mr. Andre Johnson, Sr.-or-Doctor and Mrs. Perry Cox-or-Doctor Perry and Mrs. Jordan Cox*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with the same last name__, you can address their invite to the plural, non-abbreviated \"Doctors\" to be more formal. Traditionally the woman's name comes first:\n- *Doctors Monica and Alan Quartermaine-or-Drs. Monica and Alan Quartermaine*\n\nIf __both partners are doctors with different last names__, traditionally the woman's name comes first, or you could list their names in alphabetical order:\n- *Dr. Meredith Grey and Dr. Derek Shepherd*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFor a couple with one doctor:\n- *Dr. Quinn and Mr. Sully For a couple with two doctors, same last name:*\n- *(The) Doctors Quatermaine For a couple with two doctors, different last names:*\n- *Dr. Grey and Dr. Shepherd*\n\n## 5. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n### For One Envelope\n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines:\n\n- *Mr. Ross Geller*\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:\n\n- Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.\n\n- *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*\n —or—\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## 6. How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n### For One Envelope\nThe same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n\n- Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n\n- Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nFollow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:\n\n- *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*\n —or—\n *Mitchell and Cameron*\n\n## 7. How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is an __unmarried woman__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n\n- *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon*\n —or—\n *Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary\n\n- *Mr. George Constanza*\n\n- If your guest identifies as __nonbinary__, they have similarly simple rules to addressing women or men. Most often, you can use the honorific “Mx.” If you’re unsure, ask for their personal preference.\n\n- *Mx. Courtney Andrews*\n\n- If the guest is a __widowed woman__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n\n- *Mrs. George Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced woman__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n\n- *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n\n- *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals:\n\n- For a single female:\n\n- *Ms. Lemon*\n —or—\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n\n- *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n\n- *Mr. Costanza*\n —or—\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n\n- *Mrs. Devereaux*\n —or—\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n\n- *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*\n —or—\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n\n- *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n\n- *Father Karras*\n\n## 8. How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:\n\n- *Ms. Jessica Spano*\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”\n\n*Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nOuter envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:\n\n- *Ms. Spano*\n *Mr. Slater*\n —or—\n *Jessie and A.C.*\n —or—\n *Mr. Morris and guest*\n\nFrom [invitation templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), to proper addressing, to [wedding invitation wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-dos-and-donts-of-wedding-invitation-wording), Zola’s here to help you each step of the way. For answers to more questions—like, *[how do we share our wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation)*?—look through our Expert Advice.","body2":"## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- If a couple is not married but living together, you have two options. You can either list their names alphabetically by last name on separate lines: \n - *Mr. Ross Geller*
\n *Ms. Rachel Green*\n\n- Or you can list both names on the same line, leading with whichever person you’re closest with. If you’re equally close with both, go alphabetical again:
\n - *Ms. Rachel Green and Mr. Ross Geller*\n\n- If a couple is not married and do not live together, send a separate invitation to each guest.\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple.
\n - *Ms. Green and Mr. Geller*
\n —or—
\n *Rachel and Ross*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to a Same-Sex Couple\n\n### For One Envelope \n- The same etiquette applies for same-sex couples as for any other couple, married or unmarried. If they’re married or live together, definitely list both names on the same line. If one partner has a hyphenated last name, list the hyphenated name last:\n - *Ms. Susan Bunch and Ms. Carol Willik-Bunch*\n\n- For a same-sex couple with different last names, you can list names either alphabetically or according to whichever guest you’re closest with:\n - *Mr. Mitchell Pritchett and Mr. Cameron Tucker*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Follow the above guidelines for the outer envelope. For the inner envelope, as with above, use courtesy titles + last names or only first names if you are close with the couple:
\n - *Mr. Pritchett and Mr. Tucker*
\n —or—
\n *Mitchell and Cameron* \n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations to an Individual \n\n### For One Envelope\n- If the guest is a __single female__, use “Ms.” unless she is younger than 18—in this case, “Miss” spelled out is more acceptable:\n - *Ms. Elizabeth Lemon
\n —or—
\n Miss Donna-Jo Tanner*\n\n- If the guest is a __single male__, use “Mr.” unless he is younger than 18—then no title is necessary \n - *Mr. George Constanza* \n\n- If the guest is a __widow__, it’s best to ask someone close to her if she prefers to still be addressed using her husband’s name, or if she prefers her married name. Some widows might also prefer to use “Ms.,” so be sure to inquire.\n - *Mrs. George Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs. Blanche Deveraux*\n\n- Similar options exist if the guest is a __divorced female__: you can address her envelope using “Ms.” or “Mrs.” and either her ex-husband’s last name (if she still uses it) or her maiden name, depending on her preference.\n - *Mrs./Ms. Cookie Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs/Ms. Cookie Holloway*\n\n- If the guest is a __judge__, use the term “The Honorable” before his or her full name:\n - *The Honorable Sonia Sotomayor*\n\n- If the guest is a __priest__, use the term “Father” before his full name:\n - *Father Damien Karras*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\nThe same traditional etiquette rules apply here as with couples when it comes to inner vs. outer envelopes. Outer envelopes follow the above suggestions. Inner envelopes either drop first names or just use first names—but only if you are very close with the individual. Here are examples of __Inner envelope addressing etiquette for individuals__: \n\n- For a single female:\n - *Ms. Lemon*
\n —or—
\n *Elizabeth*\n\n- For a single female under 18:\n - *Miss Chase*\n\n- For a single male:\n - *Mr. Costanza*
\n —or—
\n *George*\n\n- For a widow:\n - *Mrs. Devereaux*
\n —or—
\n *Blanche*\n\n- For a divorced female:\n - *Mrs./Ms. Lyon*
\n —or—
\n *Mrs./Ms. Holloway*\n\n- For a single judge:\n - *Judge Sotomayor*\n\n- For a priest:\n - *Father Karras*\n\n## How to Address Wedding Invitations With a Guest\n\n### For One Envelope\n- For guests to whom you’ve allowed a plus-one, send only one invitation—to the person you’re truly inviting—to that person’s address. If you know the name of the guest, include his or her name on the envelope as you would for an unmarried couple:
\n - *Ms. Jessica Spano*
\n *Mr. Albert Clifford Slater*\n\n- If you do not know the name of your friend’s guest, simply write “and guest” after your friend’s name. You do not capitalize either “and” or “guest:”
\n - *Mr. Zachary Morris and guest*\n\n### For Two Envelopes\n- Outer envelopes follow the above rules, while inner envelopes drop the first names or, when you are very close with the guests, use first names exclusively:
\n - *Ms. Spano*
\n *Mr. Slater*
\n —or—
\n *Jessie and A.C.*
\n —or—
\n *Mr. Morris and guest*
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Not only are your invitations one of the first things your guests will see, touch, and feel when it comes to your wedding, but they also do an important job of conveying critical information. For the sake of politeness and formality, as well as for clarity of your message, be sure to choose clear and appropriate wedding \ninvitation wording.\n\nWorried you’re not good with words, or you don’t know all the proper “rules” for wedding invitation wording? Follow our comprehensive guide, to understand the ins and outs of wedding invitation wording and etiquette.\n\n## What to include in your wedding invitation \n![what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6OrqLSs7G5su3LU5E5fq1x/b66c146a6b51f678844aa5dccc591c64/what-to-include-in-your-wedding-invitation.jpg)\n\nWedding invitation cards and messages set the theme for weddings. When guests see [a rustic invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/rustic) with informal wording, it lets them know that the event will be on the casual side. On the other hand, when they see a [classic wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/classic) with traditional, formal wording, they will expect a more upscale affair.\n\nLike your wedding, invitations can be as simple or as grandiose as you want as long as they accomplish the following jobs:\n\n- Tell guests the critical information about the wedding: who is getting married, the wedding date, and the wedding location.\n- Recognize the hosts of the wedding.\n- Convey the tone and formality of the wedding, including the dress code.\n- Indicate how guests should RSVP, if no response or other enclosure cards are included.\n- Recognize the couple’s parents, if they are not also the hosts. (Optional)\n\nIf you are writing your own invitations from scratch, follow these requirements line-by-line as you fill out this piece of your wedding stationery. Each section of this guide outlines what information should appear, and in what order, on a traditional wedding invite. Once you understand the various components of a wedding invitation, feel free to get creative with your own personal touches and style, using the unique wording that feels right for you and your partner.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## The essentials of a wedding invitation (line-by-line) \n\nWedding invitations typically don’t have a lot of space, so you’ll want to make the most of every line you get. These tips will ensure that your guests get all the information they need. \n\n__1. Start by writing the host line the right way__\n\nLocated at the very top of the invitation, the host line is where the name(s) of the event hosts appear. The hosts are typically the people who are paying for the wedding. Depending on who’s hosting, the wording will vary slightly: it could be one set of parents, both sets of parents, the couple and their parents together, or just the couple. Jump down to the Wedding Invitation Wording Etiquette section for guidance on how to format names in your invitation.\n\nBe sure to capitalize proper names and titles. Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles. \n\n__2. Include a proper request line__\n\nThe request line is where you'd invite your guests to join your wedding celebration! Traditionally, couples would include formal wording in the request line to denote a formal religious ceremony, whereas wedding invitations for modern celebrations tend to use more casual language.\n\nInclude the British spelling of \"honour\" to denote a more formal tone to your wedding day (“request the honour of your presence”). Opt for more casual language if you're planning a non-religious service or more casual wedding ceremony. \n\nCommon wording options include \"invite you to join,\" \"please join us to celebrate,\" and \"love the pleasure of your company.\"\n\n__3. Continue with the couple’s names__\n\nMake sure you and your partner’s names are front and center. They may be placed high, low, or center depending on your invitation design, but make sure they are clearly legible and prominently featured. For heterosexual couples, the bride’s name traditionally comes before the groom’s. For same-sex couples, the wording of the host line may dictate who’s name comes first (i.e., if one set of parents is hosting, their names will come first and their child’s should follow). If you are hosting yourselves, then it’s up to you to decide which name comes first.\n\nIf you’re using traditional wedding invitation wording, follow these rules to format names: \n\n- Capitalize proper names and titles.\n- Don’t use punctuation, except after courtesy titles.\n- Avoid abbreviations; in general, spell everything out except courtesy titles.\n- Don’t spell out courtesy titles, except for “Doctor” in the case of medical doctors.\n- Consider using both partners’ full legal names. If you prefer to go by a nickname, use it on the save the date or other, less formal pieces of the invitation suite.\n- Drop the bride’s and/or groom’s middle names if they become too long to fit on one line.\n\n__4. Include the date, time, and location of the ceremony__\n\nDon’t make your guests guess. Include everything they need to show up at the right place at the right time. The real meat of the invitations, the information section, follows the couple’s names. Include this must-have information: \n\n- __Date of the wedding:__ Spell out the date and year for formal invitations so that guests don’t transpose numbers. For instance, you should write July 2, 2025, instead of 7/2/2025. \n- __Start time:__ Spell out the time for formal invitations, and don’t use a.m. or p.m. Instead, use “in the morning”, “in the afternoon”, or “in the evening”. \n- Location: Include the wedding venue. Use the full address for a destination wedding or out-of-town guests. \n- __Number of guests:__ Some couples allow guests to bring a plus one, while others prefer to keep their ceremonies more intimate with only close friends and family. Luckily, it’s easy to create [wedding invitations with no plus one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations-with-no-plus-one). Only write the name of the guest on the envelope to subtly convey that the invitation is only for them. You can also use the wedding invitation to specify if the wedding allows children. If little ones are welcome, write \"X and X and Family\" on the envelope. If you're planning a child-free wedding, write \"Adults only, please\" at the bottom of the invitation.\n\nYou can also include information on the dress code and how guests should RSVP (a wedding website, an email, and/or phone number, and an RSVP deadline) if you forgo a response card.\n\n__5. Finish the wedding invite with the reception details line__\n\nThe party line comes at the end of the invitation and notifies guests of what’s scheduled to follow the wedding ceremony. Your wedding reception card wording should let your guests know what type of festivities they should expect, whether it’s dinner and dancing, a light luncheon, or cocktails and canapes.\n\nIf the ceremony and reception are at different locations, include the addresses on separate cards for [formal wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal). \n\n## Examples of wedding invitation wording \n![wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hlMIKAeagmXrwzYvymnRc/aaeee860c12da1a4db12d697f626c7c3/wedding-invitation-wording-etiquette.jpg)\n\nWedding ceremony invitation wording often makes people nervous. What if you accidentally misspell a word, or leave out critical info? Never fear—we’ve put together a list of wedding invitation wording etiquette and examples that will help you craft perfectly on-point invitations.\n\n__Note:__ We realize that every wedding is unique. You will have to decide as a couple what type of language feels right for your specific style. These etiquette “rules” are really more suggestions for the most traditional and formal wedding invitation wording. If you are having an informal wedding, and/or prefer a more modern approach to your invitation design, then use whatever unique wedding invitation wording works for you and your style.\n\n### Hosted by one set of parents\n![hosted-by-one-set-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ShCgsAATreIQByWCnFeJy/9850df43ba058415cfe1b904573e1846/hosted-by-one-set-of-parents.jpg)\n\nTraditionally, the bride's family hosted and paid for the wedding. While that is still common, the groom’s family or even other loved ones may host the event. In all of these cases, it is a nice gesture to include their names on the invitation.\n\n- Include your parents’ full names with middle names (for very formal invites).\n- Avoid using initials.\n- Write \"and\" to join the two names if the parents have different last names.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Ernie Lively
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their daughter
\n> Blake Ellender
\n> to
\n> Ryan Rodney
\n> Saturday, the ninth of September
\n> two-thousand twelve
\n> at noon
\n> Boone Hall
\n> Mount Pleasant, South Carolina
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Simon Peter Blunt
\n> invite you to the marriage of
\n> Emily Olivia Leah
\n> and
\n> John Burke
\n> July 10, 2010
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Via Regina Teodolinda, 35
\n> Como, Italy
\n> Food, wine, and merriment to follow
\n\n### Hosted by both sets of parents\n![hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v37R0g9ao3mqyZdY1tdgn/05518e0f091bb63185d8d22168633206/hosted-by-both-sets-of-parents.jpg)\n\nWeddings are beautiful celebrations of unity and what better way to demonstrate that unification than both sets of parents hosting the big day. If you are fortunate to have both families host your wedding, configuring all of the names on the invitation may be tricky.\n\n- List the bride’s parents’ names first if you are a different-sex couple.\n- List parents’ names in alphabetical order if you are a same-sex couple.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Adams
\n> and
\n> Mr. and Mrs. David Beckham
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their children
\n> Victoria Caroline
\n> to
\n> David Robert Joseph
\n> Saturday, the fourth of July
\n> Nineteen ninety-nine
\n> at half past seven in the evening
\n> Luttrellstown Castle
\n> Clonsilla, Ireland
\n> Reception to follow.
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> With great pleasure
\n> Kimberly and Jonathan Biel
\n> and Lynn Bomar Harless and Randall Timberlake
\n> invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
\n> Jessica and Justin
\n> October 19, 2012
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Borgo Egnazia Resort
\n> 72015 Savelletri di Fasano BR, Italy
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\nFor more expert advice and direction, check out our [Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitations-paper-guide).\n","body2":"### Hosted by the couple\nFor modern couples, the tradition of parents hosting a wedding is often skipped. Whether the couple has unique ideas for their wedding, wants to keep it small, or don’t have parents with us anymore, hosting your own wedding is a wonderful thing.\n\nTo save space you can skip the host line or you can start the wording with a welcoming introduction.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Amal Alamuddin
\n> and
\n> George Timothy Clooney
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the celebration of their marriage
\n> Saturday, 27 September 2014
\n> at noon
\n> Aman Canal Grande Hotel in Venice, Italy
\n> Festivities to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Miss Beyonce Knowles
\n> and
\n> Shawn “Jay Z” Carter
\n> are getting married
\n> Friday, April 4th, 2018
\n> at four o’clock in the afternoon
\n> Join us for dinner and drinks
\n\n#### Hosted by divorced parents\nTo include divorced parents on the invitation—either for the bride or the groom—include the mother’s name first followed by the father’s name on a separate line without an “and” separating them.\n\n- For divorced mothers who are not remarried, use the courtesy title “Ms.” followed by whichever last name she prefers (maiden or married).\n- To include stepparents on the invitation—for either the bride or the groom list the mother and stepfather’s names first, followed by the father and stepmother’s names.\n- List the mother first regardless if the father is remarried and the mother is not.\n- The bride should consider including her last name if multiple sets of parents, with different last names, come before her on the invitation.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Angiolo Guiseppe and Ms. Elettra Rossellini
\n> invite you to share in the joy
\n> of marriage uniting their son
\n> Roberto Rossellini
\n> to
\n> Ingrid Bergman
\n> Saturday, the twenty-fourth of May
\n> nineteen fifty
\n> at noon
\n> Hotel Boca Chica, Acapulco, Mexico
\n> Dinner and merriment to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Pamela Jacobsen
\n> Mr. and Mrs. Fred Jacobsen
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Jordan
\n> to
\n> Paige
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
\n\n#### Hosted by parent, including deceased parent\nWeddings are emotional events, especially when a parent isn't there to witness it. If you want to honor a deceased parent on your invitations, include them in the host line or after the bride or groom's name.\n\n- Use the phrase “the late” preceding his or her name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mrs. and Mr. Michael Francis Middleton
\n> request the honour of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Catherine Elizabeth Middleton
\n> to Prince William, Duke of Cambridge
\n> Son of Charles, Prince of Wales and the late Diana, Princess of Wales
\n> Friday, the twenty-ninth of April
\n> two thousand and eleven
\n> at eleven o’clock in the morning
\n> at Westminster Abbey – 20, Deans Yard
\n> London, England
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Together with their families
\n> Malaak Compton
\n> daughter of Gerald and Louisa Compton
\n> and
\n> Christopher Rock
\n> son of the late Julius Rock and Rosalie Rock
\n> invite you to share in their wedding festivities
\n> November 23, 1996
\n> at eight o’clock in the evening
\n> The Estate at Florentine Gardens
\n> 97 Rivervale Road
\n> River Vale, New Jersey
\n> Dinner reception to follow
\n\n#### Hosted by same-sex parents\nIf your parents identify as the same sex here are a few ways to best honor them on your invitation.\n\n- To include the names of two parents with different last names, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by last name.\n- To include the names of two parents with the same last name, use the courtesy title “Mr.” “Mrs.” or “Mx.” and list their names in alphabetical order by first name.\n\n#### Formal invitation example\n\n> Mr. Michael and Mr. Sean Flannigan
\n> request the pleasure of your company
\n> at the marriage of their daughter
\n> Julie Marie
\n> to
\n> Stephen Anthony
\n> Saturday, the tenth of April
\n> two thousand and twenty one
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Hotel Chantelle
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Reception to follow
\n\n#### Casual invitation example\n\n> Ms. Jane and Ms. Courtney Lowe
\n> invite you to attend the marriage
\n> of their daughter
\n> Madison
\n> to
\n> Colton
\n> Saturday, April 10th, 2021
\n> at half past six in the evening
\n> Allan House
\n> 1104 San Antonio Street
\n> New York City, NY
\n> Party to follow
\n\n## What to include in enclosure cards and RSVP cards \nOnce you have your bases covered on your invitation, feel free to include enclosure cards–also known as detail cards—with more information about the event. Your cards could include reception details, RSVP information, or anything else that wouldn’t fit on the invitation. Use matching wedding stationery so your guests understand that the extra cards are related to the main event. \n\nRSVP cards are great tools for getting an accurate headcount for your big day. Make sure to include a reply-by date that occurs at least three weeks before the wedding. This will allow you to give a final headcount to the caterer and fill out your seating chart. Ideally, that means you’ll [send wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations) around six to eight weeks before your ceremony. \n\nOn the RSVP card, include specific instructions about the number of guests they're allowed to bring and how they should respond. If you expect them to be mailed back to you, it is courteous to include a stamped envelope. If you prefer the convenience of an [online RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/benefits-of-an-online-rsvp-for-your-wedding-website), include the URL or even a QR code linking to the wedding website on the card.\n\nTraditional RSVP wedding invitation wording typically includes two options for guests: “Accepts With Pleasure” or “Regretfully Declines.” But you can also personalize your RSVP cards with more informal wedding invitation wording. For example, if you’re planning a casual wedding in the mountains, you could write, “We’re ready to join your adventure!” or “Apologies, but our hiking boots are heading in a different direction that day.” \n\nIf you have meal choices for your reception, the RSVP card is a great way to collect your guests’ preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also get them excited about the event by asking them to recommend a song for the wedding playlist or submit a picture of the couple to include in a wedding slideshow.\n\nIf you run out of space on your invitation but need to mention details about accommodations, directions, or attire, a details card is the perfect place for overflow. These are especially important if the reception is held at a different location than the ceremony.\n\nSee our article, [Wedding Details Cards: Everything you need to know](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card), for more info about these.\n\n## Create invitations for your dream wedding day with Zola \n\nBrowse Zola’s [wedding invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to start creating your dream wedding invites. We offer stationary in various sizes, materials, styles, and colors. With such a huge selection, you’re sure to find the perfect invitations that reflect your personality. Customize your invitations even more with creative [paper add-ons](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper-add-ons/shop) like belly bands, vellum jackets, and wax seals. \n\nThat’s not all. Zola also offers a broad range of wedding stationery so you can get everything you need for your big day. Browse matching [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), menus, place cards, and table numbers. You can also pick up thank you cards to express your gratitude for your guests after the wedding. \n\nThe best part? Order sample wedding invitations to get a feel for the texture and weight of the paper before committing.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget3":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When is it too early or too late to send out invites? 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And a lot of these awkward decisions have to do with your guest list. Determining who falls on list A, list B, and who gets a plus-one are just a few of the difficult decisions that can make the wedding guest list feel like something you’d really rather not touch. \n\nWe get it, your relationships with close friends and family members often hang in the balance and you and your parents, in-laws, and maybe even your fiancé could have differing views on the list. If you’re struggling, we’ll help you navigate the waters of one of the trickier issues. Zola will teach you how to word [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper) without (and with!) a plus-one, plus explain how to decide who’s entitled a guest in the first place. \n\n## How to say no plus-ones on wedding website\n \nAt Zola, we are all about curating an informative website, so adding your plus-one information is essential. Add information about sticking to your guest list and how you're going about [inviting plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-my-plus-one-sign-the-wedding-card). Are they on a case-by-case basis? Will you put \"and guest\" on the physical invitation or RSVP card? Keep guests informed so that they're in the know.\n\n## Who gets a plus one? \nBefore you even start thinking about how to word your wedding invitations, you have to establish who is getting those coveted plus-one spots. Here are a few general guidelines: \n\n### 1. Those who are married or engaged\nIf a guest is married or engaged, the spouse or fiancé should always be invited. Guests who are living together should also be invited together. You can list these couples’ full names on separate lines, starting with the woman’s name.\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2oFDjdrCON9ZUKMmPyxGta/f920f704cddd0c6b72472d1670cb91e6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_J.Lebron-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* J. Lebron Photography\n\n### 2. Couples in long-term relationships\nHow long is long? This is up to you and your fiancé, but consider six months as a starting line. Also, it’s appropriate to extend the invite to any significant others that you have met and spent time with. If you set a hard-and-fast rule when it comes to dating couples, it will be easier to field questions when they come.\n\n### 3. Everyone else on the guest list\nYou want all of your wedding guests to have a good time on your special day, and there are likely a few on your list that may feel alone or uncomfortable without a plus-one, ie. coworkers, your study-abroad friend, or an old roommate. Letting them bring a date, even if it’s not a romantic partner, will ensure your big day is enjoyable for everyone.\n\nAdditionally, if you’re asking your guests to travel for your celebration, adding plus-ones is both appropriate and encouraged. Traveling is always more enjoyable with someone to travel with, so it’s more likely that your guest will attend as well as make a vacation out of it if you allow them to bring a plus-one. \n\nOf course, this is all dependent on two very important factors: budget and space. As your guest list increases, your costs increase accordingly. If the budget is tight, think about setting limits on plus-ones. (Note: The cost of adding one more place setting shouldn’t trump ruining a relationship with your invitee.) Similarly, if space is tight, you may also need to cut back on the plus-ones you dole out. If your venue or caterer has capacity limits, you can always extend plus-ones once you receive regrets.\n\nIf you are inviting guests that are single, a plus-one is a nice gesture, but shouldn’t come at the expense of people you wanted to invite but couldn’t due to budget or space constraints. \n\n## Plus-one wedding invitation wording \nOnce you’ve made your decisions on who gets to bring a guest to your wedding day, how do you make it clear to them? Whether your family members or BFFs are seeking extra seats reserved for their friend, here’s how to word wedding invitations with no plus-one or with one: \n\n### When you know the plus-one \nIt is best practice to include the name of your guest’s plus-one on the invitation when you know it. You can include the plus-one on the invitation with the guest, listing his or her name on a separate line below your guest. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Shawn Jackson \n- Ms. Lily Caberet\n\nOr, you can send a separate invitation to the plus-one directly. If you can find out their name and address easily by sending a text to your invitee, it will not only affirm their wedding guest but also make the invitation more personal. \n\nExample: \n- Mr. Shawn Jackson, 123 Lover’s Lane \t\n- Ms. Lily Caberet, 456 Ranch Road \n\nAre you good friends with the plus-one? If so, they should also receive their own invitation, addressed and delivered directly to them. \n\n### When you don't know the plus-one\nIf you don’t know who your invitee will bring, but want to allow them a plus-one, you can simply add “and Guest” to the envelope. \n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton and Guest\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett and Guest\n\n### When you aren't inviting a plus-one\nWhen there’s [no plus-one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding), wedding invitation wording is pretty simple: Only include the name of the guest on the envelope.\n\nExample:\n- Mr. Harry Stockton\n- Ms. Veronica Lovett\n\n![How to Word Wedding Invitations with No Plus One](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/67uO44TweHEpswdXqVswxp/3c04c57fa5a69cd9aad17f1fa46195d6/Inline_How-to-word-wedding-invites-with-no-plus-one_sarah-kuszelewicz-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Sarah Kuszelewicz Photography\n\n## What to do when a guest asks about a plus-one\n \nThe odds are good that a few of your more-confrontational guests will bring up the topic of a plus-one directly. You can navigate this scenario in a couple of ways: \n\n### 1. Stick to your guns.\nDid you and your fiancé set hard-and-fast rules when you made your wedding guest list? If so, stick to them. You decided on a certain length of time couples had to be together, or on no plus-ones at all for a reason. If you go making exceptions for one couple, or person, the word may get out, and you may feel pressured to add a few more to your guest list.\n\nIf your guest just goes ahead and writes in a plus-one on their [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps), you need to address it tactfully. Call them and graciously explain that their plus-one is, unfortunately, not invited. Give a reason like budget or space, or refer back to your hard-and-fast rules to let them know this is the case for everyone. \n\n### 2. See if there are special circumstances.\nLet’s face it, not everything is black and white, and some cases may actually warrant a second look. Maybe a guest you originally didn’t extend a plus-one to got engaged after your invitations went out. In these scenarios, it’s best to call or send a thoughtful text to let them know their nearly-wed partner is also invited. \n\nOr, maybe a friend has recently become much more serious with their partner and you’ve begun to spend more time with the couple. If your wedding guest asks politely if they can bring their SO, use your best judgment. \n\n### 3. Come back around (if there's room).\nInevitably, some of your guests will regretfully decline. If you receive more “no” RSVPs than you were expecting, it’s okay to extend the invite to plus-ones. If a guest asks for a plus-one and you may genuinely be able to add them down the line, tell them numbers are tight but you would love to have their guest attend and will reach out if anything changes. \n\n## Going beyond no plus one invitation wording\n\nEven though there is proper etiquette to follow and feelings to tip-toe around, these tips can help you navigate the wedding invite process, plus-one or not, with ease so you can send your invitations off with confidence.\n\nIf you're in the middle of wedding planning and have other sticky situations on the horizon, Zola is your go-to source for getting your big day started off right. From common [wedding etiquette questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-etiquette-guide-for-a-second-marriage) to avoiding [wedding invitation mistakes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola), stick around and read how to navigate planning your special day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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","title":"How to Word Bridal Shower Invitations","slug":"bridal-shower-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CQScX6pAG7bqZAlCqwS5D/27fa5822e275efc6e1f277b29c5e927c/howToWord_BridalShower-28-28-28.jpg","altText":"Zola bridal shower invitation wording"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Your wedding invitation should speak to your personality. Here are some ideas for unique wedding invitation wording from Zola.","title":"Unique Wedding Invitation Wording","slug":"unique-wedding-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Pwk8BInEkc9y2nU1XHNpp/06beb371af5ad512f6a2049f1b21f7a9/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Invitation Wording"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-08-03T01:02:30.697Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"how-to-politely-decline-a-wedding-invitation","title":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation","excerpt":"Looking for a polite way to decline a wedding invitation? We're here to help. Read on for our guide on how to politely decline a wedding invitation.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2021-08-30T15:16:25.260Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jq0BAo4NZshqkCuYWsmsk/a29f0862a607d17e0cb3a8c00505d516/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Politely Decline a Wedding Invitation"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should decline a wedding invitation as soon as you know you can’t attend. \n- There are many reasons it might make sense to decline a wedding invitation. \n- If you’re close to the couple, call or email in addition to declining by invitation. \n- For most weddings, you should probably still send a gift. ","body":"On the whole, it’s usually a good idea to make an effort to attend the wedding of someone who is important to you. Sure, the wedding is just one day and often crowded with guests, but people remember who was there on their big day. The very act of showing up is a long-term investment in your relationship. If you’re close to the couple, you should make a good faith effort to be part of their celebration. \n\nBut sometimes it’s necessary to decline a thoughtful invitation to someone’s wedding. This is your [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) guide for how to politely send your regrets. \n\n## Actually Decline!\n\nUsing proper etiquette, if you must decline a wedding invitation, then you have to actually send your regrets. This is true if the informal invitation is an email with a Zoom link sent to a thousand people or if it came covered in rose petals carried on the wings of hired homing pigeons. Whatever your reason for declining—good or bad—you should respond to every wedding invitation you receive. \n\n## Reasons to Decline\n\nThere are many reasons for declining an invitation to someone’s wedding, but some are better than others. These are some of the reasons you might need to decline: \n\n### Budgets \n\nAttending a wedding can be very expensive for guests, especially if you have to book a flight and hotel room. You never should feel obligated to attend a wedding if it’s going to really strain your finances. \n\n### Prior Engagements \n\nThere will sometimes be a major scheduling conflict with the wedding you’re invited to attend. Maybe your best friend is getting married on the same weekend as your sister. Maybe your colleague planned a wedding in the middle of your fully booked, non-refundable trip abroad. Maybe three different people in your life announced weddings within three weeks of each other, and you simply cannot take the time off work. \n\n### Lukewarm Interest \n\nThere are times where you simply don’t want to attend the wedding. You might be invited to the wedding of a distant cousin, a casual acquaintance, or someone from work with whom you don’t want to pursue a friendship out of the office. You might be going through a bad divorce, recently suffered a personal tragedy, or otherwise not up for weddings. There might even be a time you have ill feelings towards one partner in the couple. Or there might be a more trivial reason, such as when the wedding conflicts with concert tickets or a desired trip. \n\nA formal invitation is not a summons. You should only attend a wedding if you will be present in celebration with the couple. While you should always investigate your motivations and see if you can make it work, there will be times where the relationship is sufficiently casual that it feels like too much of a hassle and it makes sense to decline. \n\n## How to Politely Decline \n\n### As Soon As Possible \n\nThere is no kindness in dragging your feet. If you cannot attend, let the couple know as soon as possible. If you’re unsure, then work through your schedule and budget as soon as you get the invitation, so you can give a timely response. The couple cannot finalize arrangements with the caterer or other details until they have their guest list, and they might want to invite someone else in your place. The earlier you decline, the easier it will be for everyone. \n\n### Firmly and With Compassion \n\nYou don’t want to lie about the reason you’re missing a wedding, but there’s no reason to be cruel in the name of being honest. If you simply don’t want to attend, you still must give some sort of reason. For a casual friend, you can say you have a work commitment that you sadly just cannot miss or explain that you “would love to attend, but can’t swing the budget this year.” Stay in the realm of categorical reasons, and be clear that this is your final answer. Wedding planning can be hectic, so even if the couple is sad, they’ll appreciate the clarity. \n\n### Make a Call\n\nA phone call is the most personal, gracious way to decline a wedding invitation. If you’re close to the couple or you think they’ll be hurt that you cannot attend, you should pick up the phone. Give a brief explanation of why you cannot attend, and apologize. While you should still decline through formal channels—whether by a return invitation or on their wedding website—calling is a nice touch. When declining for a simple reason, you can try something like this: \n\n- *“Hi, Allison. I just got your wedding invitation, and it was so exciting to see in person! Unfortunately, though, I’m not going to be able to attend. My niece is getting married that same weekend in a city across the country, and I’m committed there. I was so sad when I realized! I know you will host such a beautiful ceremony and reception, and I was really looking forward to celebrating with you.” *\n\nIf your reason is more complicated, then plan in advance how much detail you want to share. The goal should be to convey the category of the reason you cannot attend—prior engagement, budget constraints, work commitments, travel, etc—so the couple understands you have not been cavalier about the invitation, but not to burden them with the details. You certainly don’t want to share details if the reason might not seem a sufficient hurdle. \n\n### Send an Email or a Text Message \n\nA written message, in addition to declining the invitation, is another way to add warmth to your response. You can write a few lines in email or even in a text message noting why you are unable to attend and expressing how sorry you are to miss the event. If you have a close personal relationship with the couple, then something similar to the wording for a phone call, above, will likely be appropriate. \n\nWhen declining the wedding invitation of someone who isn’t likely to be devastated by your absence, you can be less emotional, and write something such as:\n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nThank you so much for inviting me to your wedding. I was really looking forward to celebrating, but unfortunately, that weekend coincides with a long-planned work trip abroad that I cannot cancel. I’m so sorry I will have to miss the big day. Thank you again, and I send my warmest congratulations.”*\n\nIf you want to be more personal, then you can add one or two lines about a memory or recollection you have of the couple. \n\n## Declining an Invitation You’ve Already Accepted \n\nIf you have to decline a wedding invitation after accepting, then you must do so immediately and with as much apology as you can muster. Depending on when you are revoking your response, the couple might have already paid for your meal and arranged the seating. In this case, you should call or send a heartfelt message. \n\nYou will need a good reason. This should be a true work, family, or health emergency—or something of equal urgency. If you miscalculated your budget or forgot to apply for a visa in advance, then elide the details of your own fault unless you want to permanently sour the relationship. Lots of people will be understanding, but this is not a great thing to do, so err on the side of making too much of a fuss rather than too little. Either of these samples would work: \n\n- *“Dear Allison,\nI am so sorry, but I am not going to be able to attend your wedding next month. My youngest son suffered a bad knee injury this morning while playing hockey, and will need to go in for surgery the afternoon of your reception. I was heartbroken when I realized it would be the same day as your wedding. You always discuss [name of partner] with such an air of genuine love and care, and I was very much looking forward to celebrating with you. What a strange and unpredictable world. I cannot wait to see the pictures, and I will be there in spirit. Sending all the love and joy in the world.”*\n\n- *“Oh, Allison—I’ve been putting off writing this email since this morning, because I’m so upset, but it looks like I will not be able to attend your wedding. I applied to renew my passport two months ago, and I just got an update that because of my name change after my own wedding, it will take another two months before it is processed. *\n\n- *I feel so ridiculous, but I spent the day on the phone with various agencies, and it just doesn't seem like there will be a way around this. I’m so sorry for not confirming all of this before I said yes. I was so excited to be there, and it never occurred to me that a passport renewal could take four months.”*\n\n- *“Dear Allison, \nI was so moved to be invited to your wedding, and was very much looking forward to it. I’m terribly sorry to share that I will actually not be able to attend. Some urgent family business came up this weekend, and I had to book a flight across the country for tomorrow. I know this is awful timing and so close to the event itself. I really wish it had not happened this way. I’m so sorry I won’t be there.”*\n\n## After Declining a Wedding Invitation \n\nIf you are close with the couple, you should send a gift and check in with them a few days after the wedding. Tell them the pictures looked beautiful, or that you heard how much fun the reception was. This will make it clear that you regret not being able to attend and make them feel cared for. \n\nSending a gift is often the right choice after declining a wedding, though not always needed. The era of Zoom weddings has blurred some lines around gifting etiquette, as the remote guest list has swelled without constraint. If you think you would have been invited to the physical, in-person wedding, then it would be nice to send a gift once you declined. \n\nThe gift allows you to be part of their wedding memories, even if it’s just the kitchen utensils from their registry that make them think of you when they cook. If you feel like an associate who got invited along with everyone they know, then you can send a gracious note instead of a gift.\n\nLet's face it, nobody likes to be rejected, but if you find that you have to turn down a [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), hopefully this guide can help you navigate the right way—and the wrong way—to do so. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Outdoor weddings are beautiful and super common. They also come with their challenges. Take on any issue with our rundown of common outdoor wedding problems and how to fix them all.","title":"How to Plan an Outdoor Wedding: 32 Tips to Avoid Hitches","slug":"10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Weyg0vwi76esqFCLLazzy/aa1e8d07be6b3992a70108637221f63c/c92fd4e9-40c0-4b43-b660-73a778e258b2.jpeg","altText":"couple has outdoor wedding "},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:50:39.759Z"}],"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations","description":"From the wedding invitation to details cards, wedding shower invites, bach party invites, thank you cards and more it can be hard to keep track of all the invites involved in wedding planning. Our experts break each invitation down for you, like what details to include in each, when to order them, when to send them, and everything else you might need to know. Find design inspiration and unique ideas for invitations like online or DIY invites too."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T16:07:10.864Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"heroCredit":"MeewMeew Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/meewmeew-studios","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Consider your relationship with the couple and their personalities before writing your wedding card.\n- Include an address, congratulations, well wishes, shared memories/advice, thanks, and a sign-off.\n- Be genuine, unified, and well-prepared, but try not to write too much, scratch out mistakes, or get too personal.\n","body":"Sharing your wedding wishes with a newlywed couple is a thoughtful way to celebrate their new life together and [show your appreciation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/gift-etiquette/wedding-gifts-from-around-the-world) for being a part of their wedding day. But knowing what to write in a wedding card can be intimidating, especially if you don’t consider yourself to be great with words. \n\nTo help you get started, we’ve put together a collection of tips and examples for what to write in a wedding card. Use them as inspiration for your own wedding wishes, and remember that a genuine, from-the-heart message from you is all that really matters.\n\n- Formal Wedding Wishes\n- Casual Wedding Card Wishes\n- Funny Wedding Card Wishes\n- Religious Wedding Card Wishes\n- Wedding Wishes for Family\n- Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n- Wedding Wishes for a Friend\n- Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\n- What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n- Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\nWedding cards are traditionally gifted to the couple at the wedding [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline). If you [can’t make it to the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding), be sure to mail your wedding card as close to the wedding date as possible. The most important rule of thumb when it comes to wedding card etiquette is to write a warm, genuine message unique to the newlyweds. \n\n## How to Structure Your Wedding Card Message\nDepending on the nature of your relationship with the newlyweds, you might not feel the need to follow a specific message structure when you write your wedding card. However, the standard format of a wedding card message typically follows the format below: \n\n1. Note of congratulations\n2. Warm wishes for their new marriage \n3. Personal message, memory, joke or marriage advice (this will vary depending on your relationship to the newlyweds) \n4. Loving sign off \n\nIf you’re stuck on [how to word your wedding card message](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations), the format above is a great place to start. For more inspiration, keep reading for a variety of wedding message examples.\n\n## Examples for What to Write in a Wedding Card\n\nTo get your pen moving, here’s some wedding card inspiration at different levels of formality and for various types of couples:\n\n### Formal Wedding Wishes\n\nExamples: \n\n- “Sending you wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.” \n- “I/We wish you all the best as you begin your lives together.” \n- “May the years ahead strengthen the love that you share.”\n- “Best wishes for a beautiful marriage filled with wonderful memories.”\n- “Warm wishes for a beautiful wedding day and a happy union.”\n- \"May your joining together bring you more joy than you can imagine.\"\n- \"May today be the beginning of a long, happy life together.\"\n- \"Thank you for letting us/me share in this joyful day. We/I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.\"\n- \"Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together.\"\n- \"May the love and happiness you feel today shine through the years.\"\n\n### Casual Wedding Wishes\n\nIf the newlyweds you’re writing to are close friends or family members, a formal message might not feel as genuine. Or perhaps a formal note just doesn’t fit your personality—that’s okay too! Opting for a more casual message allows you to be more personal, and works well when combined with a specific detail or memory you have of the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Best wishes!”\n- “Congratulations on your wedding!”\n- “Here’s a little something to start your life together.” (if you’re including a gift) \n- “Here’s to a long and happy marriage!” \n- \"I'm seeing a fun-filled life in your future. Congratulations!\"\n- “I/We wish you guys lots of love now and always.”\n- “Here’s to many years of love and happiness!”\n- “Best wishes for an amazing future together.”\n- “Hope the days ahead are filled with lots of hugs and kisses.”\n- “Wishing you guys fun-filled adventures in married life!”\n\n### Funny Wedding Wishes\n\nIf you want to make the happy couple laugh, consider writing a funny wedding card message if it will put a smile on their faces! Don’t be afraid to include something laugh-worthy in your note—after all, you know them best, so you can be the judge of what to include based on their sense of humor. \n\nExamples: \n\n- \"Thanks for inviting us/me to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!\"\n- \"I haven't been this happy for anybody since [insert team name here] won the World Series/other championship!\"\n- Being married is like any other job; it helps if you like your boss. Congratulations!\n- \"Congratulations—your wedding successfully made me sob like a baby!\"\n- “Hope you guys have more belly laughs than fights overloading the dishwasher!”\n- “Best wishes as you annoy each other for the rest of your lives.”\n- “Here’s to endless sleepovers with your favorite weirdo.”\n- \"Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage!\"\n- “May Facebook notifications always save you from forgetting your anniversary.”\n- “Good luck and remember that dating apps are only getting creepier.” \n\n### Religious Wedding Wishes\n\n\nIf the newlywed couple is religious, this could be the perfect way to tailor your wedding card message. A religious wedding card may include mentions of your prayers over their marriage, quotes from scripture, and mentions of God. Be sure to think about the couple’s religious beliefs before you opt for this type of wedding card, and use their practices to frame your note. \n\nVersatile Examples: \n\n- “May God bless your marriage.”\n- “May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.”\n- “May your union be filled with God’s blessings, now and every day forward.”\n- “We/I pray that God will cover you both as you enter this new life together.” \n- “Sending you prayers for a marriage filled with love and joy.”\n- \"God bless you both on this day with a lifetime of shared love and joy.\"\n- “Praying that your marriage will prosper and be strengthened by the love of God each step of the way.” \n\nChristian Examples: \n\n- \"Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.\" –Ephesians 4:32\n- \"No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\" –1 John 4:12\n- \"'Love is patient. Love is kind… Love never fails.' – 1 Corinthians 13:4-13\"\n\nJewish Examples: \n\n- “Mazel Tov! May joy fill all the days of your life together.\"\n- \"'I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\" Or \" 'Ani L'Dodi, v'Dodi Li.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3\"\n- \"Mazel Tov on your wedding!\" or \"Mazel Tov on your marriage!”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Family\n\nThere’s something special about celebrating the wedding of a close family member. A wedding card message to someone in your own family is a great chance to get personal, and you don’t have to be afraid of being too over the top—in fact, it’s probably expected! \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Today, we add one more member to our family and we couldn’t be happier.”\n- “I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.”\n- I love you both and couldn’t be happier for our family!\n- What a beautiful day for our family, we’re finally complete.\n- Thanks for letting us share in your celebration.\n- “So excited to add a new member to our family! Here’s to a lifetime of love and growing old together.”\n- “Today is a wonderful day for our family. Congrats and warm wishes!”\n- “Congratulations and welcome to the family! Hope today and every day after is amazing.”\n- “We’re so happy to call you both family. Here’s to lots of love and future family drama!”\n- “Cheers to family and love! Congrats on getting married you guys.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Siblings\n\nYour sibling is someone you’ve grown up with and shared some of life’s defining memories with, and watching them get married is one of the greatest milestones you’ll share. When writing a wedding card to one of your own siblings, a good rule of thumb is to just write what feels natural to you. \n\nExamples:\n\n- “I’m so happy to add a brother/sister to our family. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy life together.”\n- “Congrats to the best brother/sister in the world and my new brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Lots of love to you both.”\n- “So thankful that my brother/sister has found the one whom his/her soul loves. Welcome to the family and congratulations on finding love in each other.”\n- “Yay! So excited to gain a sibling today. All my love to you guys!”\n- “Best wishes to you guys as you begin your lives together. Let’s celebrate!”\n- “For my brother/sister who’s found love. May your wedding be the first day of many years of happiness to come!”\n- For my brother/sister who deserves only the best, may your wedding day be everything you’ve dreamt of.”\n- To my brother/sister who has always meant so much to me, I am so happy for the wonderful love you’ve found. I’m wishing you all the best on your wedding day.”\n- \"It seems like yesterday we were playing 'house' in the backyard, and now you get to do it in real life. I couldn't be happier for you both. Congratulations!\"\n- I couldn’t be happier as a brother/sister than I am to see the joy you’ve found in marriage. Can’t wait to watch you two grow old together.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for Son or Daughter\n\nFor many parents, watching their son or daughter get married is a huge milestone. If you’re the mother or father of a bride or groom, you might feel overwhelmed with emotion that can feel tough to put into words. What’s most important is that you express your joy and wish the couple well. From there, feel free to get as personal as you’d like. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “So happy to welcome a new son/daughter to our family. Thank you for the joy you bring my son/daughter. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime!”\n- “Today we add a new member to our family and we couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you both!”\n- “Lots of love and happiness to you both on this joyful day for our family.”\n- Son/Daughter, I’m so happy to see you marry someone who brings you so much joy. Here’s to a beautiful marriage that grows through the years.”\n- “Best wishes to my son/daughter and my new son-in-law/daughter-in-law on this wonderful occasion!”\n- \"We/I know we're/I'm not losing a son/daughter. We're/I'm gaining a son/daughter. Much happiness to you.\"\n- \"Son/daughter, I/we feel many emotions on this day. Most of all, I'm/we're happy you've found someone wonderful to share your life with. Best wishes to you both.\"\n- “Seeing you go from a young girl/boy to the grown man/woman you are today is such a special sight to see. May you both be blessed in your future together, and know how much I love you!”\n- “Watching you reach this milestone is a proud moment for a parent, and I’m filled with joy to know you’ve found love.” \n- “It’s a privilege to watch you get married and to give you away to [spouse]. I have no doubt that your marriage will be an adventure, and don’t forget I’ll always be here to support you as your mother/father.” ","body2":"### Wedding Wishes for a Parent\n\nFinding the right thing to say to a parent who’s getting married or remarried can be tough, so when in doubt, keep it simple! Any parent will likely be grateful for any type of message they receive from their child, whether you want to get deep and personal or keep it short and light. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Welcome to the family. Love you both so much!”\n- “I’m so thrilled that you have found each other. Congrats and best wishes!”\n- “Mom/Dad, I’m so happy for the love that you have found. Congrats to you both, and welcome to the family [Name of Stepparent]!”\n- “[Name of Stepparent], thank you for the joy you bring my Mom/Dad. Cheers to a bigger, better family!”\n- “So excited to see our family grow today. Congratulations on your big day!”\n- “Mom/Dad, thank you for all the advice you’ve given me over the years. Now here’s mine: [Fill in your own advice].”\n- “I’m overjoyed to see you so happy. Lots of love.”\n- “Mom/Dad, seeing how happy [Name of Stepparent] makes you is such a gift. So happy for you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Friend\nHow you craft your wedding card message to a friend will depend on how close you are to them. The message might be short, sweet and classic, or you may choose to get specific and personal. Consider your relationship and how personal, sentimental, serious or funny you want to get with your wedding wishes. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “May you bring each other as much happiness and friendship as you’ve brought me. Congrats!”\n- “Here’s to love, friendship, and double-dates! Best wishes for an awesome marriage.”\n- “So thrilled to celebrate this day with two amazing friends! Happy wedding day, guys!”\n- “Can’t wait to get down on the dance floor and celebrate with you. Congratulations on getting married!”\n- “Thanks for inviting me to eat cake and drink champagne. You should get married all the time!” \n- \"Of all the big life events we've celebrated over the years, today tops the list. Congrats!\"\n- \"We've had so many laughs together! May you always make each other laugh!\"\n- \"Here's to love and friendship!\"\n- \"Congratulations to a wonderful friend and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- “We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.”\n\n### Wedding Wishes for a Coworker\nIf you’re writing to congratulate a coworker on their marriage, it’s unlikely you’ll be including deeply heartfelt sentiments. Instead, it’s best to be more general with your wording. You might choose to use one of the more formal or casual examples above depending on your relationship, or opt for one of some of the work-inspired wedding quotes below. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “Thank you for inviting me to share this day with you. Best wishes!”\n- “I’m so happy to have bonded with you at work. Congrats to you and your love!”\n- “Cheers! I’m looking forward to seeing your new title on your email signature.”\n- “Wishing you guys the very best and a happy honeymoon!”\n- “Congrats on finding each other! Here’s to many happy years.”\n- \"Best wishes to a very cool coworker and his/her new husband/wife.\"\n- \"Wishing you success—and most of all happiness—in your marriage.\"\n- \"You've got a new title: husband/wife! Wishing you and your spouse the best.\"\n- \"What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker and his/her spouse. All the best to you both in your marriage.\"\n- What a wonderful day to celebrate my coworker. All of the best to both of you in marriage.\n\n### What to Write in a Wedding Card When You Can't Attend\n\nSometimes life gets in the way and you can’t make it to the wedding. This type of wedding card presents the perfect opportunity to express your apologies for not being able to attend and share warm wedding wishes to the couple. \n\nExamples: \n\n- “With you in spirit as you celebrate your love. Congratulations!”\n- “So sad to miss your special day, sending all our love and best wishes to the happy couple!”\n- “So sorry we can’t be there to celebrate your special day, but please know we are toasting you from afar!”\n- “We are glad we have the rest of your lives to congratulate you on your new marriage. Best of wishes!”\n- “Your wedding is important to us, don’t let our absence tell you otherwise! We would’ve loved to be a part of your special day and wish you all the best on your union.” \n- “While we hate to have missed your special day, we’re celebrating from afar. Congratulations!”\n- “Just because we missed your wedding doesn’t mean we aren’t still celebrating! We’re so thrilled for you two and wish you all the best.”\n- “I’m sure the wedding was beautiful—we’re so sorry we missed it! We wish you all the best as you start your next chapter as newlyweds.”\n- “Congratulations to the happy couple, I wish I could have been there to watch you say ‘I do’!”\n\nYou might feel guilty if you have to miss a friend’s wedding, but you can still share your love from afar and let them know you care with a thoughtful wedding gift. With all the [wedding gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-gift-ideas) they’ll probably be receiving, give yours a special touch with these printable gift tags with sweet messages. \n\n### Printable Wedding Gift Tags\n\n![gift-tag-mockup-1](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1YSxxFUV0HoCMVDQ0PWfPF/4cb1348a2bb1bd0e1eddf895ae93345d/gift-tag-mockup-1.jpg)\n\n[![download-gift-tags](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/J0f9yxZ4rnHV9r0EdYbl4/a320342aa5519dda542669ad1f9b2f20/download-gift-tags.png)](//assets.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5ImtAZV4XdSDrYm7vD8NeA/b933d79d65dcea2818ec399d36c817e2/wedding-gift-tags.pdf)\n\nWeddings are one of the most joyous occasions to take part in, and your wedding wishes are an opportunity to make the newlyweds feel special, loved and supported as they embark on their new life together. If you’re looking for the perfect wedding card to send, there are hundreds of [beautiful and affordable designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to choose from that can add that special touch to your message. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift? Learn the etiquette of wedding gifting, including how much to give for a cash wedding gift. 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From wording to personalization, learn to convey appreciation in every note you write.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-11-22T00:00-08:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2bmjLPUEJbV1Ka3AMoKglO/8c48c198f18c343e95278addd508e49f/thank-you-card-wording-hero.jpeg","altText":"A pair of newlyweds are captured holding the words “thank you” while sharing a kiss, perhaps before practicing their wedding thank you card wording skills."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com","body":"### The +1 Pledge \n\nWe’re showing the world some extra love by *planting a tree for every paper order placed on Zola*. Read more about our [+1 Pledge here](https://www.zola.com/faq/plus-one).\n\n---\n\nBasking in the post-wedding glow with your significant other is much more enjoyable when all of the [wedding to-dos](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist?_branch_match_id=1112793252738758355&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXr8rPSdRLLCjQy8nMy9bP8sjMCMvKKjE1AgBLvb9XIAAAAA%3D%3D) are officially checked off—like thanking your guests for celebrating this new chapter with you both.\n\nThanking every guest in an original and genuine way can take time and preparation. And it all comes down to how you approach your wedding thank you card wording, which is why we’ve pared down the dos and don’ts of writing a thank you card. \n\nFor safe measure, we also compiled 15 wedding thank you card wording examples to help you navigate every type of guest and gift. Keep reading to learn about the dos and don’ts of writing a wedding thank you card.\n\n## How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards: 10 Dos and Don’ts\n![how-to-write-a-thank-you-card](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AYbSbjBaeZZm67pCd8tNW/c17dbca3cd6962c25e75edea6e0afc18/how-to-write-a-thank-you-card.png)\n\nCrafting sincere [wedding thank you card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) messages is much easier when you understand the basics of what a wedding thank you card should or shouldn’t mention. \n\n### Do Prioritize the Structure\n\n__1. Greeting__: Begin with a greeting that identifies to whom the card is written.\n\n__2. Thank them for coming__: Immediately thank them for attending your wedding in the first place.\n\n__3. Thank them for the gift__: Get right to the heart of your message by thanking them for their wedding gift.\n\n__4. Say why the gift brings you joy__: Write a line or two about why their gift fits your needs, how it will be used, or why you’re so grateful to have it.\n\n__5. Show gratitude for the big picture__: Don’t forget to acknowledge the love and support given by your loved ones as you made this major life decision.\n\n__6. Closing__: Wrap it up with an expression of your warmth, love, or friendship for the recipient, and sign your name.\n\n### Don’t Try to Write Them All at Once\n\nWriting wedding thank you cards all at once might sound like a good idea in theory, but this method can quickly lead to fatigue.\n\nDepending on the size of your [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), plan to set aside some time every weekend or so to write your wedding thank you cards in small batches.\n\nThe last thing you and your significant other want is to make your guests feel unappreciated by your rushed wedding thank you card wording. \n\n### Do Opt for Handwritten Cards (If Possible)\n\nHandwritten notes signify that a lot of time and effort went into crafting your message. If possible, try to create handwritten wedding thank you cards.\n\nSourcing stationery that matches your [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) is another way to add a considerate touch of style to your handwritten notes.\n\n### Don’t Forget to Thank the Vendors\n\nIf time allows, consider writing thank you notes for the vendors, caterers, and any support staff that took part in making your big day special!\n\n### Do Write Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Send Gifts\n\nShow everyone who took the time to celebrate you and your partner’s ceremony just how special their presence was, even if they didn’t send a present.\n\nDepending on the accessibility of your wedding venue, some guests may have had to spend more resources to attend than others. A wedding thank you card for their attendance lets them know that their efforts were appreciated.\n\n### Don’t Write the Same Note for Every Guest\n\nReceiving a beautifully written thank you card is like a present all its own, but realizing that your thank you card is completely unoriginal can leave a guest feeling unimportant.\n\nAttempt to write a personalized thank you card for every guest who attended your wedding ceremony. Mentioning the specific gift you received from them is a great way to add a personal touch.\n\n### Do Send Thank You Cards as Soon as Possible\n\nSending your thank you cards ASAP allows you to check off one of the final tasks on your post-wedding checklist—even if you run into shipping delays and other factors outside of your control.\n\nAlthough it's common practice to send wedding thank you cards within three months of the wedding, sooner is always better, so that no guest feels forgotten.\n\n### Don’t Send Multiple Thank You Cards to One Household\n\nStationary prices and stamps can add up, especially if you had a long guest list. There is no need to send multiple thank you cards to one household.\n\nIf multiple gifts were sent by different guests living under the same roof, make sure to address them individually in your wedding thank you card wording so that everyone feels appreciated.\n\n### Do Mention the Specific Gift You Received\n\nMentioning the specific gift you received is the best way to tailor each wedding thank you card to the sender. \n\nIf you’re able to do so, include a brief sentence on how that gift is now bettering your marriage with your significant other. These small details can help the sender understand the impact their gift is making on your new life together.\n\n### Don’t Mention Exact Monetary Amounts\n\nFor security reasons, it’s typically a good idea to avoid mentioning the exact monetary amount of cash gifts. \n\nIn case your thank you card is lost or given to a stranger, you want to protect the gift-giver by not mentioning the cash amounts they were able to give away.\n\n## Wedding Thank You Card Wording Examples\n\nWhether you’re writing a thank you note to a guest who didn’t come to your wedding (but still sent a gift) or someone who gave you an off-registry present that you immediately returned, these wedding thank you card examples will help you navigate wording for every kind of message.\n\n### For When the Gift Was from Your Registry\n\n*Dear Jacqueline,\n\nWe’re so grateful you could come to our wedding a few weeks ago. And thank you so much for the chef’s knife and honing steel you gave us! We’ve both been learning some basic cooking skills, and can’t wait to show them off when you visit us this summer.\n\nOur wedding was a day we’ll remember for the rest of our lives. Words really can’t express how thankful we are that you could be part of it.\n\nLove,\nJanine and Kai*\n\n### For When the Gift Was a Monetary Gift\n\n*Dear Ellen and Sam,\n\nIt was wonderful to see you at our wedding! Thank you for making the trip—and for your incredibly generous gift. We’re planning to take a long camping trip this summer, and we were able to pick up some crucial gear thanks to you. We’ll send pictures!\n\nAgain, we’re so grateful for your friendship. Thank you for being part of our special day.\n\nWith love,\nMillie and Beau*\n\n### For When You Didn’t like or Exchanged the Gift\n\n*Dear Uncle Jeff,\n\nIt was a true delight to see you at our wedding. Thank you for the fondue set you gave us! It was incredibly thoughtful of you, and we’re both touched by your generosity.\n\nOur wedding was all we could have hoped for, and it wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you again for helping us get our marriage off to such a wonderful start.\n\nGratefully yours,\nCher and Kiera*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Didn’t Attend the Wedding\n\n*Dear Henrietta,\n\nThank you for the stunning serving bowl! It’s the perfect accent for the open shelves in our kitchen. Thanks to you, our newlywed home is looking beautiful so far.\n\nWhile we missed you at the wedding, we know you were there in spirit. We hope to see you when we’re back from our honeymoon! Again, our deepest thanks for your generosity.\n\nSincerely,\nMargaret and Kate*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Very Close Friend\n\n*Dear Jake,\n\nWe loved having you at our wedding! Thank you so much for the beer brewing kit. We’re going to fire it up in the next few weeks, and hope to be sipping backyard IPAs with you in no time.\n\nYou can’t imagine how moving it was for us to see you in the crowd with everyone else we love. These memories will last a lifetime and then some. Thank you for being part of our lives.\n\nMuch love,\nZach and Tracy*\n\n### For When the Gift-Giver Is a Formal Acquaintance\n\n*Dear Dr. Milford,\n\nPlease accept our deepest gratitude for the crystal vase you gave us. It’s a stunning centerpiece for our coffee table, and we can’t wait to fill it with the first flowers of spring.\n\nWe were both touched that you could attend the wedding. Your kindness and support means everything as we set off on a new life together.\n\nGratefully yours,\nLogan and Mackenzie*\n\n### For When Guests Sent a Group Gift\n\n*Dear Chia, Hector, Phoebe, and Tonya,\n\nWe are so grateful that you all pitched in to gift us our new grill! We already cooked our first meal on it and cannot wait to grill for everyone whenever you’re all back in town.\n\nWe have profound gratitude for your gift and it touched our heart that you worked together to make this happen. We miss you all so much already!\n\nOur love to all of you,\nSebastian and Terry*\n\n### For When Guests Traveled Far to Attend\n\n*Dear Aunt June,\n\nWe are eternally grateful that you traveled all the way from the other side of the country to be part of our big day! The memories we all made are cherished more than you can imagine.\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift and we both look forward to spending more time with you this summer!\n\nLove,\nHaru and Aki*\n\n### For When the Sender Was in Your Wedding Party\n\n*Dear Esmerelda,\n\nWe cannot thank you enough for being in our wedding party. Your help with the decor and rehearsals made this big day such a breeze for us both!\n\nWe love our new dishware as well! We’re so lucky to have your artistic touch in our home now, and we hope to celebrate our new life with you over dinner very soon.\n\nTalk soon,\nDiaz and Iris*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Your Parents\n\n*Dear Dad and Papa,\n\nWe are beyond grateful to have shared our special day with you both by our sides. You both were a tremendous help in making this wedding come to life and the new bookcase you sent was an incredibly thoughtful gesture.\n\nThank you for sharing your wisdom with us throughout the process and being our shoulder to cry on during the stressful moments—it was all worth it to dance with you like we did.\n\nWe love you always,\nCassie and Clarke*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Wedding Vendors\n\n*Dear Wedding Supplies & Co.,\n\nThank you for all the thoughtful touches you added to our big day. Your help made everything run smoothly and we deeply appreciate the wine and charcuterie board you gifted us.\n\nWe will be able to host lots of dinners at our new home thanks to your generosity.\n\nSincerely, \nLupita and Louise*\n\n### For When the Gift Is a Charity Donation\n\n*Dear Fletcher and Fiona,\n\nWe cannot begin to thank you enough for your generous contribution to our charity of choice, The Nippon Foundation Ocean Innovation Consortium.\n\nYour thoughtful gift will help fund ocean cleanup events across East Asia! Our dream is to one day live in a world free of plastic ocean waste, and you have just helped us get one step closer to that goal.\n\nWe are forever grateful,\nJessie and Matt*\n\n### For When a Guest Didn’t Send a Gift\n\n*Dear Leonard and Nancy,\n\nThank you for taking the time to celebrate our special day with us. We were so excited to see you hitting the dance floor during the reception!\n\nYour presence at our ceremony was such a gift, and we cannot wait to dance the night away with you again soon!\n\nLove,\nTaylor and Elizabeth*\n\n### For When the Gift Is from Someone You Don’t Know\n\n*Dear Ms. Ramirez,\n\nWe received the gorgeous vegan cookbook you sent us, and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful gift honoring our new life together.\n\nWe appreciate your generosity and kindness, and we hope to cook a delicious meal for you sometime soon. Please give our thanks to your wife and family as well!\n\nOur sincerest gratitude, \nYasmine and Maxwell *\n\n### For When the Gift Is from a Shared Household\n\n*Dear Shibuya family, \n\nThank you all so much for helping us celebrate our big day! Little Vanessa’s paintings were the perfect gift, and they’re now hanging up in our study.\n\nWe know her artwork will help spark creativity while we both begin new careers during this new chapter of our lives. We can’t thank your family enough for taking time to dance the night away with us!\n\nTake care,\nAntonio and Alex*\n\n## Helpful Synonyms for Wedding Thank You Notes\n\nWhen you’re writing card after card (after card), it can get pretty tiresome to say the same thing over and over. Here is a list of synonyms for common expressions that will help you keep your thank you card language fresh.\n\n__Ways to Say “Thank You for Your Gift”__\n- We deeply appreciate your gift.\n- We have profound gratitude for your gift.\n- We’re offering the deepest thanks for your gift.\n- We’re truly thankful for your gift.\n- We’re so grateful for your gift.\n- We can’t thank you enough for your gift.\n- We love your gift; thank you so much!\n- Your gift is very much appreciated.\n- Thank you for your generosity.\n- Thank you for your thoughtfulness.\n\n__Ways to Say “Our Wedding”__\n- Our ceremony\n- Our special day\n- The big day\n- Our union\n- The beginning of our life together\n- Our celebration\n- Our big event\n\n__Ways to Say “We’re Happy You Could Come”__\n- It was a joy to have you at our wedding.\n- We were delighted you could come.\n- We’re honored that you made the trip.\n- It was wonderful to see you at our wedding.\n- We were so grateful to have you as a guest. \n- We really appreciate your presence. \n- We loved having you there. \n- We’re so thankful you could join us. \n- You made our celebration complete. \n\n__Ways to Say “With Love”__\n- Many thanks,\n- Gratefully yours,\n- With love and gratitude,\n- Warmly yours,\n- With deepest thanks,\n- All our love,\n- Best wishes, \n- Together with love,\n- Fondly, \n- Cheers,\n- Sincerely,\n\n![how-to-say-thank-you](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Mo3WiDrPLVN3sEcVhDbbB/08a338683d1d71cab499690697e735d9/how-to-say-thank-you.png)\n\nHopefully these phrases help you best express the warm fuzzies you got from your wedding gifts. Crafting a heartfelt thank you card is all about the little details, like which adjectives you use and how personal your thank you card wording comes across.\n\n[Beautiful wedding card designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) can also heighten the wow factor guests will feel upon opening their custom thank you card. Test out these tips while writing your next thank you card batch and you’ll be amazed by how tender your words can be.\n\n## FAQs About Wedding Thank You Card Wording\n\nHave more questions about wedding thank you card wording? We have answers.\n\n### What Do You Say in a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nThe core elements of wedding thank you card wording include a personalized greeting, thanking the guest for attending, showing gratitude for their specific gift, and a heartfelt closing.\n\n### Who Receives a Wedding Thank You Card?\n\nAnyone who sent you and your significant other a gift should be sent a wedding thank you card, and some couples also choose to send a thank you card to every guest who attended the wedding.\n\n### Do I Send a Thank You Card to Someone Who Didn’t Attend the Wedding?\n\nThis is a personal decision between you and your spouse. Depending on the length of your guest list, this can also be a major time commitment. \n\nIf you have the budget to invest in stationary and stamps, then consider taking the time to thank guests who made their presence your present.\n\n### How Do You Say Thank You for Wedding Money?\n\nInstead of mentioning the specific monetary amount the guest gifted you, tell the sender what you plan on doing with their investment in your future. \n\nFor example, mention that their gift will help make your honeymoon adventures possible or will go to a diaper fund for the next chapter of your life.\n\n### When Should Thank You Cards Be Sent Out After a Wedding?\n\nIn general, wedding thank you cards should be sent out between one to three months of the wedding. Any earlier is always appreciated by the guests, but later than this might leave guests wondering if you truly enjoyed their gifts or not.\n\n\n","body2":"## We'll do the work.\n \nNow that you know *what* to write in your wedding thank you cards, let us do the hard part. If you aren't into handwriting—or you tried and your hands can't handle it—we'll do that part for you. Now with Zola, you can type messages for any of your guests or customize our suggested notes. Yes, you can write individual messages to individual guests or families—it's still super personal. Then, we'll print whatever you write in a beautiful font.\n\nFind this feature when you select any thank you card style on Zola. 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See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cost in 2024?","slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4skZZwsBNNnII2pvCWRNPN/671c056531847a20ab06c1a85d2f37f5/1205_FLR2024_EA_header_editorial.png","altText":"Couple sitting on steps in wedding attire, with text \"The First Look Report 2024\""},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"We’ll walk you through the steps of online wedding planning, highlighting all of Zola’s incredibly easy and intuitive online wedding planning tools that’ll make planning for the big day more fun and less frustrating.","title":"How to Plan a Wedding: A Step-by-Step Guide","slug":"how-to-plan-a-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dIWp3wUEoOYErrmI2ARMW/7ef19284bfcf930b88487d3c0a562999/How-to-plan-a-Wedding.jpg","altText":"Zola online wedding planning tools as seen on mobile, desktop, and tablet"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Thousands of couples have incredible weddings every year without sacrificing on style or going over budget, and you can do it too. ","title":"How to Plan a Wedding on a Budget","slug":"how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12xT1Cmwna6F8ZH5lfSaZG/9ad57fff315f5f3634f00c3f162db28a/How-to-Plan-a-Wedding-on-a-Budget.jpg","altText":"Couple holding bouquets exiting outdoor wedding ceremony"},"type":"articlePage"}],"cta":{"copy":"Shop Thank You Cards","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:53:44.423Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Day-of paper","slug":"day-of-paper"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-menu-cards","title":"A Guide to Wedding Menu Cards","excerpt":"Discover everything there is to know about wedding menu cards in our guide. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-11T15:46:29.719Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/61hYhBsuFxG4P1dyCiV5XB/563a14f4629b73a3a383c1d0329291d0/hero_A_Guide_to_Wedding_Menu_Cards.jpg","altText":"wedding reception place setting with cream colored plates, sage green accents, and a wedding menu card"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"### What's New: Table Numbers at Zola!\n\nShop Zola's latest addition to your full suite of day-of wedding paper— [Table Numbers!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop) Mix and match your favorite designs with your [place cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/place-cards/shop), [menus](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop), and [programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop), and customize eveything from paper types, colors, fonts, shape, and style to create the ultimate personalized guest experience at your wedding reception.\n\nWhether it's [rustic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/rustic), [modern](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/modern), or [vintage](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop/vintage_retro), you can add a personal, diy touch to your wedding table, centerpieces, and table setting settings with unique wedding table numbers that stand out. Plus, Zola makes it easy to manage all your [Day-of Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of), integrating details from your Guest List, RSPVs and Seating Chart seemlessly into your wedding planning process. [Shop Zola's new table numbers today!](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/table-numbers/shop)\n\n---\n\nYou chose a dining style, hired a great local [wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and selected the delicious food that will be served at your wedding reception. Now, the next menu consideration you need to tackle is the [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop). If you’re like most couples, you probably have a few questions about wedding reception menu cards: Are they necessary? What should you include on them? What are the display options? Discover the answers and more in our guide below. \n\n## Are Wedding Reception Menu Cards Necessary? \nWedding reception menu cards are not a requirement, but they are great for communicating the details of the meal to your guests. If you’re serving a plated meal with multiple main course options, it’s common to ask your guests to choose the main course they would prefer on the [RSVP card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps). However, in some cases, you may prefer that guests make their choice at the event—therefore it’s important to have a printed dinner menu on hand for them to refer to when making their decision. \n\nIf you opt for buffet or family-style service, menu cards are a quick and easy way to share the food options and give guests the courtesy of knowing what to expect. Guests with dietary restrictions and food allergies will appreciate the heads up about what’s on the menu so they can plan ahead and enjoy the meal without stress. \n\n## What to Include on Wedding Menu Cards? \nWhat you include on your [wedding menu cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-menu-card-ideas) is up to your preference and the style and tone of your event. Feel free to get creative and have fun with your wording, but your menu template should include the following: \n\n### 1. Description of Courses (or List of Dishes Served)\n- __Plated Meal:__ Outline the courses or meal options in the order they will be served. \n- __Family Style Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served to each table.\n- __Buffet Meal:__ List the food items or meal options that will be served at the buffet.\n\n### 2. Main Ingredients in Each Dish\nWhile it’s not required to list every ingredient used in a dish, it is customary to provide a shortlist of the main ingredients, including foods that are common food allergies, such as nuts, shellfish, gluten, and dairy. \n\n### 3. A Welcome and Thank You (Optional)\nMany couples also use their wedding menu cards as an opportunity to welcome and thank their guests. This text is typically very short and is often found at the top or bottom of the card. \n\n### 4. Your Names and Wedding Date (Optional)\nTo turn your wedding menu card into a scrapbook-worthy memento, include your names and your wedding date on the card. \n\n## Wedding Menu Card Wording Samples\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Plated\n\n__APPETIZER
__\n\n*Assorted Empanadas*
\n*and*
\n*Gazpacho with Fried Almonds*
\n\n__SALAD
__\n\n*Kale Salad with Spicy Quinoa*
\n*and*
\n*Jicama and Mango Slaw*
\n\n__MAIN COURSE
__\n\n*Skirt Steak with Chimichurri*
\n*or*
\n*Snapper with Avocado Salsa*
\n*or*
\n*Charred Street Corn Risotto*
\n\n__DESSERT__\n\n*Gelato Sundae Bar*
\n*and*
\n*Local Pie and Tart Bar*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Buffet\n\nThank you so much for celebrating this special occasion with us! \nPlease eat, drink, and be merry. \n\n*Braised Pork Shoulder*
\n*Bacon, Apple, Sausage, Cheddar Stuffing*
\n*Brandied Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Hot Smoked Salmon*
\n*Dijon Cream Sauce*
\n\n*Whipped Russet Potatoes*
\n*Garlic & Chives*
\n\n*Roasted Local Vegetables*
\n*Fig Tapenade*
\n\n*Seasonal Green Salad*
\n*Balsamic Vinaigrette*
\n\n*Whole Grain Baguette*
\n*Honey Butter*
\n\n### Menu Sample Wording: Family Style\n\nWelcome to Our Wedding Reception. Please enjoy this family-style menu as you get to know everyone at your table, and thank you for being part of our special day.\n\n__First__\n\n*Local Cheese & Charcuterie Platter*
\n*Olives, Crostini, Apples, Bread & Seasonal Garniture*
\n\n__Second__\n\n*Mixed Green Salad*
\n*Port Wine Poached Pears, Stilton Cheese, Walnuts*
\n*Aged Sherry Vinaigrette*
\n\n__Third__\n\n*Pan Seared Duck Breast*
\n*Blood Orange Gastrique*
\n\n*Sweet Potato Gnocchi*
\n*Mushrooms, Peas, Parmesan, Carrot Sauce*
\n\n*Rice Pilaf*\n\n*Seasonal Roasted Vegetables*\n\n__Fourth__\n\n*Passed Local Sweets*\n\n## Wedding Menu Card Display Options\nThere are many different ways to display your catering menu at your wedding, but here is a look at the main styles you’re likely to encounter: \n\n- __Individual Menu Cards —__ For formal or elegant weddings with plated dinner service, it is typical for small [menu cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/menus/shop) to be placed at each place setting. This option adds a nice finishing touch to your design and individually welcomes each guest. In some cases, couples might have the menu card do double duty as a place card by including the guest’s name as well. That way, guests can find their seat, read your welcome message, and peruse the menu in one go. \n- __Large Display or Signage —__ If you prefer not to invest in individual menu cards for each place setting, a great option is to display a large sign at the reception. From chalkboard signage to calligraphy on gilded mirrors, there are limitless ways to get creative and elevate your decor at the same time. \n- __Small Buffet Sign —__ For a sign that gets the job done but is more inconspicuous, many couples opt to place a small menu sign beside the buffet or at each food station. \n- __Table Sign —__ To retain the intimate feel of individual menu cards without straining your budget, we recommend posting a menu sign on each round table, or a displaying a menu per every 4 chairs if you’re using rectangular tables. \n\nYour wedding stationery isn’t really complete with wedding reception menu cards. 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Find guides, advice and ideas for all wedding stationary here."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Invites & paper","slug":"invites-paper"},"subtopic":{"name":"Invitations","slug":"invitations"},"slug":"wedding-invitations-paper-guide","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations and Paper","excerpt":"Here’s everything you need to know about wedding invitations, save the dates, wedding stationery, and wedding party invites–plus expert tips for creating, ordering and sending them.","publishedAt":"2023-12-27T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pdjGxliJ09cJurPvdVnex/3795bb9532ada8a69aa5545e5b8dd372/Elevated-Details_0559.jpg","altText":"Floral wedding invitation suite laid out on a green table"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations\n- Save the dates\n- Wedding invitations\n- Wedding event and party invitations\n- Day-of paper\n- Thank you notes\n- Wedding invitation suite\n- Frequently asked questions about wedding invites\n","body":"There’s nothing quite like getting wedding invitations or save the dates in the mail. We all love the anticipation as we open them, read the event details, and feel all the feels as we mark our calendars.\n\nBut when you’re actually the one planning the wedding, there’s a whole other side to wedding invitations that you’ve likely never thought of. *Until now. *\n\nSuddenly your mind is racing. How many wedding invitations will you need? Do you need backup wedding invitations? How much is postage, anyway? How much of your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is allocated for wedding invitations and wedding stationery? When do you have to order them? \n\nFrom solidifying your most important details to figuring out what to put in your invitation suite, plus who to invite and how to invite them, here’s our complete guide to wedding invitations and paper. \n\n## 5 Details you need to know before ordering your wedding invitations \n\nNot sure where to begin? We get that. Start by thinking through these 5 details.\n\n### 1. Your wedding date\n\nThis one might be obvious, but it might just be the most important piece of information on your wedding invitations, aside from who you’re marrying. Make sure your wedding date is officially locked in before you design and order your save the dates or wedding invitations. If there’s any question about the date, or if you’re only penciled in at the [venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues), hold off on making any moves until you know for certain. Trust us. \n\n### 2. Location and start times of ceremony and reception\n\nOnce the date is settled, the other important info follows. The location and start times of both your ceremony and reception (especially if they’re at different locations) should be set in stone before you place your wedding invitation order. \n\nIf you’re in between times or not sure if you’ll have the ceremony on-site, you aren’t ready to order wedding invitations. However, as long as you have your date and wedding venue secured, you can order your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop).\n\n__Expert Advice__: You might also want to build your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) before sending save the dates or wedding invitations. Zola offers free wedding websites and the option to add a [QR code to your invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation) that will take guests directly to your website when scanned!\n\n### 3. How to word personal information\n\nAh, this one can be tricky and can feel a bit intimidating. When it comes to the [wording](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-word-wedding-invitations) of your name, your partner’s name, and your parent’s name(s) on the invites, there are two approaches.\n\nTo stick with tradition, the formal structure for wedding invitation wording is: \n\n__If one set of parents is hosting:__\n\nThe parents’ names can appear first on the invitation.\n\n*Example: Mr. & Mrs. Edward Jones request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Katie Jones to Mr. John Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith.*\n\n__If both sets of parents are hosting:__\n\nYou can include their names together.\n\n*Example: Mr. and Mrs. Edward Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith request the pleasure of your presence at the marriage of their children, Katie Marie and John Peter.*\n\n__If the couple is hosting it themselves:__\n\nWhen you’re paying for your own wedding, you can signify that by omitting any mention of your parents or families and keeping it simple.\n\n*Example: Katie Marie Jones and John Peter Smith request the pleasure of your presence at their wedding.*\n\nOf course, if neither parents are hosting but you still want to include their names, you can absolutely do that, too. \n\n### 4. Total number of invitations you want to order\n\nThe number of invitations you’ll need to order will depend on the size of your guest list. So, you’ll want to have a good idea of [how many people you’re inviting to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) before ordering save the dates or wedding invitations. But remember, you only need to send one invitation per couple or family that shares an address.\n\n__Expert Advice__: The number of invitations you order should not, we repeat, should not, be the exact number you need. Always order at least 5-7 extra to account for any mishaps, errors, and late invitees. Plus, your [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) may want a clean copy for pictures, and you’ll also probably want to save a set for yourself as a cherished keepsake. \n\n### 5. Your budget\n\nIn general, you can expect to spend between 2% and 5% of your entire wedding budget on wedding invitations and stationery, keeping in mind that this includes save-the-dates, invitations, postage, shower, party and brunch invitations, and RSVP cards. You’ll want to be mindful of your wedding budget in every wedding-related purchase, and [track your expenses as you spend](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). \n\n## Save the dates \n\n![51b7e6f6-b004-4729-b12d-60843764db93](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jlCPxHPB39d9GBZA2jMr8/23b9cd3d67e9d7de222a976e85a68803/Screenshot_2023-12-26_171433.png)\n\nWedding save the dates serve two purposes. Of course, they’re a way of letting your guests know that they’re invited to your upcoming wedding and to mark the date in their calendars. But they’re also your way of giving a sneak peek into your wedding day. You only need to include the basics — your names, your wedding date, and a general idea of the location. No need to be too specific or go into too much [detail on a save the date card](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates).\n\nMany couples like their save the dates to match their invitation suite, which requires some advance planning. Others opt to use an engagement photo or even an assortment of photos to share the news. There aren’t nearly as many “rules” or components to consider with save the dates as there are wedding invitations, so try to have fun with it!\n\n### When should you order save the dates?\n\nIdeally you want your save the dates to be received about 8 months before a destination wedding and 6 months before a local wedding, so ordering them about 2-3 weeks in advance is a safe bet. \n\nCheck out [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates) for a full explanation of when to order and send your date announcements.\n\n## Wedding invitations \n\nUnlike [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/bridal-shower/shop) or engagement party invitations, wedding invitations are a bit more complex. Your wedding invitation includes all the information your guests need to know about the wedding—who, what, when and where. \n\nSometimes, but not always, people will match their wedding invitations to their save the dates and the rest of their wedding paper. At Zola, we offer fully customizable [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) with hundreds of beautifully crafted templates and designs to get you started. \n\n### How to choose wedding invitations?\n\n![New-Shapes-Marketing MAIN 0777](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6p4uncDsnqaPQQkIaA67yc/93ef3fe97338d007caca8e65749e2405/New-Shapes-Marketing_MAIN_0777.jpg)\n\nWe always suggest that wedding invite designs reflect who you are as a couple, your love, or have hints from your big day woven in, like color themes or detailing. But there are truly no rules. In fact, you can get as custom as you like at Zola with our “[upload your own design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)” option that lets you DIY your wedding invitation design.\n\nUpload your desired image or design file, and customize the size, foil, shape, paper type, and other details. \n\n### How to address your wedding invitations?\n\nOnce you’ve finalized your guest list and have tracked down each address (try using our free [Contact Collector](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to make that part easier!), it’s time to formally address your invitations. But with so many different prefixes, suffixes, pairings and unique guest situations, you might be wondering, what’s the right way to address your wedding invitations? \n\nThere are a lot of specifics when it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, but a few general rules include:\n- Full names instead of nicknames \n\n- Formal titles — avoid abbreviations\n\n- Address couples of the same sex as you would based on their preferred pronouns\n\n- If including children, address them by name\n\n- If inviting a single guest, make sure that is clear\n\n- Double check spelling\n\n- Triple check that the addresses are correct\n\nWhat about families? Children? Those with special titles? See our article on [How to Address Wedding Invitations: Etiquette & Examples](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) for more on the nitty gritty grammar and style recommendations. \n\nAnd to lighten your never-ending wedding planning to-do list even more, our [Guest List Tool](https://www.zola.com/faq/360009615491-how-do-i-use-zola-to-address-my-invitations-) makes addressing invites super easy by displaying all your guest data in one convenient place (it can also seamlessly upload contact data from Excel). Best of all? It’s free.\n\n### When should you order wedding invitations?\n\nIn short? Earlier than you think. Here’s why.\n\nPlanning backwards can come in handy when it’s time to order wedding invitations. Start with your wedding date and count backwards 6-8 weeks (assuming you’ve already sent a save the date). That’s when your invitations should arrive in your guests’ mailboxes. \n\nAt Zola, the typical turnaround time to design and print wedding invites and paper is 1-3 business days. Shipping can take 5-10 business days, so you can reliably allow about 14 business days for your items to arrive after you place your order. But no worries, Zola will always give you an [estimated arrival time ](https://www.zola.com/faq/360035252031-how-long-does-it-take-for-paper-products-to-ship-invitations-save-the-dates-thank-you-cards-etc-)when you add your order to your cart. \n\nThen, give yourself as much time as you need to [assemble the invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stuff-wedding-invitations-a-complete-guide-to-creating-the-perfect), add postage, and get them out. Keep in mind that mail can take up to a full week to arrive in guests' mailboxes depending on where they live. Still with us? \n\nHere’s a helpful example: If you’re getting married on January 1st, you should order your invitations about 11 weeks before, in early/mid October. \n\n__Expert Advice__: Make sure you add a firm RSVP date to the invitation, and carefully track responses (or leave that to us! You can [create events and track RSVPs online via your free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)).\n\n## Wedding event and party invitations \n\nWhile the wedding is, of course, the main event, there are also so many fun milestone events leading up to it that make the journey that much better.\n\nEach event you’re planning — from your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) to the farewell brunch after your wedding — should have its own unique invitation to keep things clear and organized. \n\nSometimes, the bridal party or families will take care of the invitations for the bachelor or bachelorette party and the [bridal showers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cute-bridal-shower-brunch-invitations) (or [Jack and Jill party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower)). But for any wedding-related event you’re in charge of planning, you can find matching or complementary styles to keep all your wedding stationary cohesive ([or mix and match!](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match)). \n\n## Day-of paper \n\nWhen you’re planning for all your wedding paper and stationery needs, don’t forget to think of the big day itself! Items like menus, ceremony programs, welcome notes, table numbers, place cards — pretty much anything you want to convey to your guests as they enjoy your reception — will need a variety of [day-of wedding stationary](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/day-of) or signage. \n\n__Expert advice:__ Double check with your venue to see if they have day-of paper offerings included in your package. But if you want them to match your existing designs, you can always choose to use your own!\n\n## Thank you notes \n\nWe highly recommend ordering your [wedding thank you notes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) ahead of time, unless you plan on using a photo from the wedding day.\n\nOnce you’ve said “I do,” the last thing you want to do is have another thing to cross off your list. Ordering your thank you notes along with your wedding invitations fixes two potential problems. First, they’ll match, and second, they’ll be at home and waiting for when you’re feeling super grateful and ready to share your gratitude. \n\nHere, you can find out more about [how to write your wedding thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards). \n\n## Wedding invitation suite \n\n![paper-invitation-staton-portrait color-712334 pdp full suite 1800px](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ug9vmawaBHlzhdo5nTFHe/c4ca53cb16609edf1d2925b16a07480c/paper-invitation-staton-portrait_color-712334_pdp_full_suite_1800px.jpg)\n\nWhat’s included in a wedding invitation suite? Here are the essential components of a complete [wedding invitation suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/suites/shop), including some optional “nice to haves” you might want to include. Often, couples will buy their thank you cards at the same time, so those are part of the coordinated suite, too. \n\n- The wedding invitation itself (the main event! typically the largest inclusion)\n- The RSVP Card (with a pre-addressed, stamped return envelope)\n- Accommodation cards (gives information for where guest can stay overnight and how to make the reservations) \n- Itinerary card (if you have a jam-packed wedding weekend with different events, you can outline them here)\n- Attire Cards (includes guidance for guest’s attire) \n- Reception Cards (gives all the details needed for the reception)\n- Map / Directions card (you can include a handy map or written out directions for your guests that are driving.) \n- Meal selection card (if your venue has suggested you give an estimated total for dinner selection)\n- Song request card (a fun way to ask your guests to select a song they’d love to hear at your wedding)\n- Belly bands (optional decorative accessory to keep all stationary neatly together)\n- Inner and outer envelopes (the main envelope addressed to the guest and a pre-addressed stamped envelope for the return rsvp)\n\nNote that you can combine many of the items above in a details or enclosure card vs several separate components of the suite. See our guide on [wedding details cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-include-on-a-wedding-details-card) for more info.\n\nThe world of wedding invitations is vast, and it can feel a bit overwhelming if you go it alone. With so much room for both creativity and personalization, the process of selecting, designing, and (finally!) sending out your wedding invitations should be more fun than it is stressful. That’s why Zola is with you every step of the way. \n\nWant to stay organized and on-track throughout the whole wedding planning process? Introducing: [The Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\n## FAQs about wedding invites \n\n### When to send wedding invitations?\n\nFor local-ish weddings, sending your invitations 6-8 weeks in advance is pretty standard. For destination weddings, give your guests ample time to prepare and make arrangements — send a save the date about a year in advance, followed by a wedding invitation that arrives at least four months before the big day.\n\nSee our article: [When to Send Out Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-you-send-out-your-wedding-invitations).\n\n### When to send save the dates?\n\nSend save the dates 4-6 months before a local wedding, and 8-12 months before a destination wedding. This will give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements, but not so much time that they forget about your big day. \n\nSee our article: [When to Send Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-to-send-save-the-dates).\n\n### Should I have a “B” list for my wedding invitations? \n\nIf you’ve signed an event contract for your wedding that includes a minimum headcount, you’ll pay for that number whether you reach it or not. Many couples create a “B” list, or alternative guest list of people to invite to replace any guests that RSVP “no.” \n\nSome etiquette experts advise against this, as it can be difficult to manage and sometimes can appear obvious to the guests you’re inviting later that they weren’t a first choice. Others say it’s fine if it’s done properly.\n\nBut to avoid needing a “B” list in the first place, make sure you invite the right amount of people. While, of course, you can’t control who can come and who can’t, the general rule is to expect 15-20% of people to RSVP “no,” and allow leeway for that number (it might be higher if you’re getting married on a holiday weekend, for example).\n\n### How much do wedding invitations cost?\n\nThe [cost of wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-invitations-cost?pkey=pmax_mobile_paper&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%20-%20Paper&orderkey=pmax_mobile_paper&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACea2FTxLvLLgyaACaPLGqV9yF6Yy&gclid=CjwKCAiAmZGrBhAnEiwAo9qHiSaNycFPE1mrKdvFJ96gja9-iuDQmkkfgXXUOQxwTra4XwF75EY_WhoCsxAQAvD_BwE) can vary greatly depending on the quantity, quality and level of personalization you’re looking for. \n\nIn general, wedding industry reports suggest that an average of 100 wedding invitations costs between $300 and $700 — or [an average of $5.50 per guest](https://blog.gitnux.com/wedding-cost-statistics/). 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