Proposals

Planning to propose soon? You're in the right place. Find advice from experts on how to plan the perfect proposal, how photograph the moment, and when and how to announce your engagement aftwards. We're so excited for you!

In 2022, Why Are Only 2% of Women Proposing to Men?

"Why are women and men who fight for equality in all other aspects of their lives clinging to a tradition that inherently does not put them on equal footing?"

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Ashley & Damien — The Day it All Began

How this couple and both their families turned a “photoshoot” into a surprise proposal!

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13 Unique Beach Proposal Ideas for a Romantic Getaway

Popping the big question on sandy shores can be both romantic and timeless. Read on to find out our favorite beach proposal ideas.

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A Woman's Guide to Proposing to a Man

A man proposing to a woman might be the norm, but it doesn’t have to be. Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.

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How to Be Engaged at the Same Time As Your Best Friend

Getting engaged at the same time as your best friend can be exciting—and tricky. Here's how to manage expectations and be there for your friend as you plan your own wedding.

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Fall Engagement Photo Shoot Ideas

From pumpkin patches to steaming mugs by the fire in your cozy living room, there are many different ways that you can incorporate the changing season into your engagement photos.

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Country Proposal Ideas

The country is one of the most romantic places to pop the big question to your significant other. Read on for our best country proposal ideas.

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Megan & Paul — The Day it All Began

How this couple (didn't) plan their at-home proposal.

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What to Say During a Proposal

Are you ready to pop the big question to your partner, but unsure of what to say? Read on to learn about the best ways to make your proposal a memory your loved one will never forget.

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Engagement Photo Outfits Ideas

Get inspired with these engagement photo outfits ideas. Plus tips and tricks to help you choose the perfect outfits for photos you'll love now and forever.

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Proposal Etiquette: How to Ask for a Father's Permission to Marry His Daughter?

There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help.

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No One's Talking About the Stigma Around Women Proposing to Men. Let's Change That.

Zola encourages couples to consider the endless possibilities for their proposal and surveys 1200+ engaged couples to uncover all the ways they’re reinventing wedding traditions.

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He got down on one knee at the East Village bar where we met, pulled out a solitaire diamond ring, and asked me to spend my life with him. I felt overjoyed because I loved him deeply, but also relieved because I had been waiting for him to ask me for several months. We had already moved in together and discussed marriage, including the style of the engagement ring. Despite already being an independent career woman who considered herself progressive in so many ways, I never felt that I could ask him. Looking back, that reluctance seems absurd and outdated. Sixteen years later, I’m surprised that still __[only 2% of heterosexual women propose to men](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men).__ \n\n![Why Aren’t More Women Proposing to Men? ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/lHAMOm5XL64LiEF7YfORj/b40f054593538467e8b52ae5380c24b0/IWD_Hero3_Unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Jeremy Bishop\n\nOne of the most joyful parts of my job as President of [Zola](http://zola.com) is seeing how couples make their weddings more a reflection of themselves and their values. In recent years, we’ve seen couples start to eschew traditions like the bouquet toss or brides being \"given away\" by their fathers. These changes are a quiet dismantling of traditions that have been around for hundreds of years, and are deeply rooted in patriarchal legacy. LGBTQIA+ couples have been at the forefront of change, sometimes out of necessity. Yet, the industry-at-large has evolved at a snail's pace.\n\nEven as younger millennials and Gen-Z couples – who fully embrace and demand a more equitable world – head to the altar, the heterosexual proposal has failed to progress. __According to a recent Zola survey, 77% of heterosexual women never even thought to propose,__ even though 98% view themselves as completely equal to their partner. These are strong and independent women, [more educated than any generation of women before them](https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/20/u-s-women-near-milestone-in-the-college-educated-labor-force/). \n\nTake Jenny, the daughter of a close family friend, who works as a top investment banker and who carried a sign that read “equal pay, for equal rights” to a women’s rally with me a few months ago. After living with her boyfriend Matt for over a year and adopting two cats together, she was still awaiting the bent knee and ring. Over coffee a few months ago, I asked her, “Why don’t YOU just ask HIM?” She replied, “Oh, I just don’t think I could.” A few weeks later, Matt proposed and she said yes.\n\nOf course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with men proposing to women. Anyone should be able to propose to the person they love. What needs to be asked is: __Why are women and men who fight for equality in all other aspects of their lives clinging to a tradition that inherently does not put them on equal footing?__\n\nI don’t have a clear answer. Even Zola’s survey of recently engaged women points to various outdated gender norms. 16% feel a proposal might inadvertently wound the ego of their male partner. 14% are ready to commit, yet are seeking confirmation in the form of a proposal. 36% say the man is just “supposed to propose.” \n\n__At the root of all this might be that it hasn’t been normalized or seen anywhere in a meaningful way.__ As we know, the media – whether it be social, TV, or advertisements – can have a major effect on societal change. There are so few examples of women proposing to men in Hollywood, and the ones that do come to mind typically still end up with the man popping the question in the end, like when Monica proposes to Chandler on *Friends*. Even on modern dating shows like *The Bachelorette*, where a woman chooses the man she wants to spend her life with, she still stands in an evening gown waiting for him to get down on bended knee.\n\nWhen Zola decided to make a video showing real-life female-led proposals, the first audience was my 13-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son. My daughter got teary-eyed. “This is great,” she said, “why can’t a woman propose to a man?!” My son, on the other hand, shrugged and said, “I like it. The music is good.” I breathed a sigh of relief. He is still too young to have expectations for a marriage proposal. 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He offered that I join him for the photoshoot to \"take a few\" shots together.\n\n__Leading up to the \"photoshoot,\" everything that could have deterred us, did.__ The photoshoot/proposal was supposed to happen on Saturday, June 4th but a [tropical storm](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-rain-on-your-wedding-day-good-luck) swept through and pushed us back by one day. We came into town for the photoshoot that night and I asked him if we could get my favorite restaurant for dinner, The Cheesecake Factory. He replied that he wanted to eat something light in preparation for the pictures the next day. \n\nOn Sunday, June 5th, it was showtime and we had the absolute perfect weather. We made our way to our photoshoot location, and unbeknownst to me, Damien caught a glance of both of our families in a completely different hidden parking lot than was planned, due to some unexpected construction. __All in a frazzle, thinking [the surprise](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal) was ruined, he had to make a 3-point turn on a very small street with high curbs and essentially hit every curb possible.__ Once away from our families, he also hit the parking cement block. He was a nervous wreck!\n\nDamien took some solo photos first and we eventually made our way to the chapel where we could take some couples shots together. __I was asked to stand in front of Damien and then to turn around, where he was [down on one knee](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/which-knee-should-you-propose-on).__ I notoriously said, 'Are you serious?' (because, are you, truly, serious with me right now?) and, of course, said yes! Both of our families surprised me by coming from the parking lot across the street who had witnessed the whole thing.\n\n__Afterwards, our [families celebrated](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement) with lunch reservations, at the one and only Cheesecake Factory.__ It was truly a perfect day.\"\n\n![The day is all began - Ashley and Damien 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ayFPAgrSYCM4QAUepYaci/bd9221f55e3d83651d8d77ffdce12faf/D688C74E-DF1D-4114-9C27-83AC768202DB_-_Ashley_Clark__1_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // RTW Photography\n\n![The day it all began - Ashley and Damien 3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4xMMc3FY27XpBBY7I2GhBM/a5f63663a7eca1d37a608d95a97605ec/AB68F342-9B81-47B2-9236-9C869CBFCCF7_-_Ashley_Clark__1_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // RTW Photography\n\n*Every wedding starts with a [great proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas), and we're helping couples celebrate the day they said “yes”! If you're interested in sharing your proposal story, [visit here](https://forms.gle/2SuQJP2jsvkhFCWZ7).*","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? Arrange the perfect proposal for your partner with these creative ideas. From romantic to adventurous, there's one for you!","title":"50 Unique Marriage Proposal Ideas [+ Printables]","slug":"proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6dR1PxiYWKzfOfBhHANhYv/cd70212d7dfbc320706b4488eed2dd13/proposal-ideas-2.jpg","altText":"proposal idea hero image of person holding engagement ring box"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T21:55:19.704Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ieQt6XnsH30jIJSUZYMOe/683c087b922eccfc01aee8aa07587dc7/Hero_Bright_BohoCoastalStyledShoot_HeidiBeePhotography.jpg","altText":"Most Unique Beach Proposal Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Heidi Bee Photography","body":"There’s just something about the beach that screams romance and makes it the perfect place to [pop the question](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas). Whether on Bora Bora’s white sand or visiting a coastal US town, our beach [proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) will have you well on your way to making lasting memories of your own. Not to knock urban environments like New York City or snowy places like Alaska, but the beach holds a special treasure all its own when it comes to romance.\n## A Note About Beach Proposals\nBefore we get into locations—and before you experience despair—ensure that the __[wedding ring](https://zola.app.link/lGHZ7AfLTab)__ is safe. As with all outdoor proposal ideas, __[keeping valuables protected](https://zola.app.link/NjBbkHZ6rcb)__ is essential. Store the jewelry in its __[box](https://zola.app.link/8VHeo616rcb)__ until you’re ready for the wedding proposal to ask the love of your life to marry you.\n\nAlso, ensure that the ring will be safe if it accidentally falls. Proposing on a pier or by the waves may seem [romantic](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas), but it’s important to consider other areas that won’t pose a danger to a precious piece of jewelry. An intimate moment can quickly turn to heartbreak if you’ve lost the engagement ring among the seashells and sandcastles. An impromptu treasure hunt for a dropped and buried treasure is something you need to avoid.\n\nWhen you __[start planning your surprise proposal idea](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__, make sure you consider all the logistics. Depending on your location, check the weather and tides at the time of day you plan on having the big moment. It’s best to be prepared for any circumstance when you’re trusting in nature. High tide and pop-up storms can thwart the most romantic beach proposal in a hurry. To get a fabulous start to the rest of your life, here are some romantic proposal ideas for you to take your ask to the next level. \n\n![Most Unique Beach Proposal Ideas | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Kl29caaYtmtZu0JtRNLiC/ef6005ea7d02778e0882769fd73350b1/Inline_unsplash17_.png) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Where to Propose at the Beach\n\nIf you grew up going to the beach, you might envision crowds of people lying on blankets for miles. Of course, you can propose in such a location, but other places are a bit more private.\n\n- __On the dunes:__ Natural dunes are an attraction all their own. When you look out and only see water and mountains of sand, it emphasizes the two of you. \n- __In the amusement park:__ Areas that have rides make for adorable photos. They often have romantic alcoves for the perfect proposal. \n- __On the boardwalk:__ Boardwalk areas lend themselves to romantic walks, getting ice cream, and viewing the ocean. Consider popping the big question with beautiful beaches in the distance on both sides of you.\n- __Under a pier:__ While others are viewing the water from above, steal a moment below the stately pylons.\n- Above the water: Helicopter rides can give a different vantage point to a proposal. \n- __While at a restaurant:__ Quaint eateries abound by the seashore. Have a romantic meal, then get down on one knee for your special moment. \n- __In a boat:__ Take a boat tour of the area. Find a private spot and ask, “Will you marry me?”\n- __On the sand:__ Your rental is behind you, and all that is in front of you is the ocean. No matter who else is around, asking on the sand is one of the most romantic marriage proposal ideas.\n\n## 13 Unique Beach Proposal Ideas\n\n#### 1. Have a beach picnic proposal\nFind a secluded area and set up a picnic. Have a caterer cook a meal and set the scene, or pack a large basket with wine and charcuterie. Eat, enjoy the ocean sounds, and then pop the question. Take a hand-in-hand walk on the beach after the beach picnic proposal to add to the romantic vibe. \n\n#### 2. Discover a message in a bottle that contains a proposal \nHave a friend place and watch over a bottle containing a special message for your partner to find. Take a walk, and when your significant other happens to discover the container, get down on one knee. Ask the question while your watchkeeping friend [takes a few photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). \n\n#### 3. Be an early bird and take a sunrise walk on the beach to propose\nThe world—well, the beach—is your oyster if you’re willing to get up early. To beat the crowds and have a bit of privacy, set an early alarm and head out on the beach. Wear your bathing suit, PJs, or loungewear if you must. Whatever it takes, grab a few private moments and start your partner’s day with an early surprise. \n\n#### 4. Write your proposal in the sand\nSomething as simple as writing, “Will you marry me?” in the sand can be a memorable way to ask. If you or a friend has time, you can also use driftwood or shells to spell it out. Either take a walk and happen upon the saying, or write it while they’re napping on their [beach towel.](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/snowe_beach_towel_black) \n\n#### 5. Find a Ferris wheel and propose during a ride\nYou’re in luck if the beach has a Ferris wheel. Quite often, the cars hold two people perfectly, so you can steal a few moments of privacy. Wait until you reach the top where the view is at its peak, then ask. The pods’ secluded nature also allows for a few post-proposal kisses to celebrate a “Yes!”\n\n#### 6. Hire a sand sculpture artist to design a masterpiece \nBeautiful sand art captures attention, and sculptures are a favorite among beachgoers. Quite often, folks encounter several while they are walking on the beach. Take advantage of this, and hire an artist to design a piece that’s uniquely you. Have the art represent a memory you have together. Then, pop the question after you and your SO view the installation. \n\n#### 7. Schedule a beach photo session\n\n![Most Unique Beach Proposal Ideas | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NMioUKQzsVe6LnZYrQZT9/38cdbe72a6a9b17231ba8721c4f8f812/Inline_Unsplash__53_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nBeach photos for couples and families are standard. It’s no wonder, as the scenery makes the perfect backdrop for pictures. Hire a photographer to take images, and then pop the question when the time is right. Of course, your photographer will be [ready to snap away](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos) as you ask and they say, “Yes!”\n\n#### 8. Go snorkeling and pop the question under the water\nRemember the safety point made above? Keep that top of mind if you choose any underwater beach proposal ideas. Go snorkeling, and have someone capture your special moment with a water-safe camera. Not only will you have unforgettable memories, but you’ll also have a unique story to tell. If you’re scuba-certified, you could take it to the next level and go diving during the marriage proposal. \n\n#### 9. Make a sunset fire and propose under a colorful sky \nSunset proposal ideas are some of the most romantic. Get a secluded beach involved, and it’s doubly exciting. Check your local area to see if they allow fires—skip this idea if they don’t. Build a cozy fire before sunset, watch the sun go down, and ask when the sky is in full color. Night beach proposal ideas create such fond memories. Plus, this surprise marriage proposal will be a complete shock to your partner.\n\n#### 10. Head to a destination resort and propose \nGet the [all-inclusive resort](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/fairmont1_100_gift_card) you’re staying at involved in your proposal. Have your bartender slide the ring on the [straw](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/fivetwo_silicone_straws) of your partner’s drink while they’re sunbathing, or ask the restaurant to arrange a romantic sunset meal for two on a secluded beach. There are many ways to ask during a memorable resort vacation. \n\nIf the time of year and your vacation plans hit correctly, asking along the coast can be an enjoyable experience. Just be sure to secure the ring and that “yes” answer by using one of our unique beach proposal ideas. They’re “shore” to love it if you do! \n\n### 11. Put the engagement ring in a seashell instead of a ring box\nHow fun would it be for your partner to “accidentally” find pick up a beautiful shell? A beautiful ring awaits inside and so does the question, “Will you marry me?” What a fun twist to add to your love story as you ask the big question. Again, just be careful where you place the seashell to keep the ring safe. Another option is to have a path of rose petals leading up to a beach bonfire with the shell resting on a bench or beside the fire. It will be an unexpected twist that your loved one won’t expect.\n\n### 12. Plan a treasure hunt\nA scavenger hunt is a truly fun way to add an element of excitement to your proposal story. However, when you’re at the beach, it’s more of a treasure hunt! Channel your inner pirate and get up in the early morning to search for buried treasure. Craft a makeshift map and go to different sites before you find the “X” and ask the big question. An adorable twist is to place a message in a bottle-style note in the sand for your significant other to find at the designated spot.\n\n### 13. Make or commission a sandcastle\nSure, sandcastles were fun to make during your summer beach vacation when you were a kid. However, the truth is that they are difficult to make! Have a professional make a sandcastle that spells out the marriage proposal or is a replica of where you had your first date. Take a walk down the beach with your love, admire the sandcastle, and then ask once they realize its significance. Just be sure to do a little photoshoot with the sand creation before nature washes it away. \n\n## Zola, Helping You Further Your Love Story\nWhether you’re planning a beach wedding or nuptials against an urban skyline, Zola is here to help with expert advice. We want to be a part of planning everything from your proposal story to your destination honeymoon. Also, don’t miss out on our [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), [vendor lists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), and [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Zola is the perfect one-stop shop for couples looking forward to their big day and beyond.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Getting married is exciting, and using a tried-and-true method to propose can be meaningful. Our classic marriage proposal ideas can help. Check out our latest blog to discover classic marriage proposal ideas from the experts at Zola.","title":"20 Classic Wedding Proposal Ideas Your Partner Will Love","slug":"classic-marriage-proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4A5fLUA9nH9HyoW3fj87MC/d9b39d206399496f3dbca1e584533315/Hero_CopperRaptureStyledShoot_B.JonesPhotography.jpg","altText":"Classic Marriage Proposal Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Looking to pull off the perfect surprise proposal? 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Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T17:03:43.838Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7c3zU7NCSq4IdpOmArMWZM/a37b0e47c1323e761830de9dc0b9e0a3/Hero_IntimateMountaintopElopementStyledShoot_RaynaMcginnisPhotography.jpg","altText":"Guide to Proposing to a Man"},"heroCredit":"Rayna Mcginnis Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- If *you* want to be the one to pop the question, know you're not alone! 2% of women today propose to their male partners, a trend that's bound to grow as more couples challenge gender norms.\n- You don’t need a ring to propose to your man. You can present a card, a watch, a gift, or nothing at all. \n- If you decide to kneel when you propose, make sure your outfit allows for the task. \n- Have a strategy for when—and how—to announce the engagement to family and friends. \n","body":"We all know how popular culture portrays the classic marriage proposal: the man on one knee, the proffered ring box, the woman overcome with emotion. It’s an image that needs no explanation. Even in a modern world, the kneeling man with a perfect ring remains the visual reference point for a wedding proposal. \n\nAccording to a [recent Zola survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men), __only 2% of women today propose to their male partners.__ The #1 thing holding most women back from feeling like they can propose is the idea of the \"perfect proposal\" that society-at-large, the media, and the wedding industry has shaped for them. \n\nBut the truth is that there's no right way, or right person, to propose. __Zola is setting out to celebrate couples who embrace the endless possibilities with all aspects of their weddings, and that includes reimagining what proposals should look like.__ The water can still be tricky to navigate, as there’s a real lack of guidance on the subject. Luckily, the Zola team is here to help with the woman’s guide to proposing to a man. \n\n\n\n## Deciding to Propose \n\nThe best time to propose is after you and your partner know that you want to get married. For many couples, the formal proposal is the last step in a much longer series of conversations about marriage. You don’t want your moment of proposal to be the first time you and your partner have ever discussed marriage. While the proposal itself might be a surprise—the day, the time, the method of asking—the question itself shouldn’t shock your partner, especially if you have friends or family present for the big moment.\n\n- __If you’ve never discussed marriage, first open up the conversation.__ How do each of you envision the next step of your relationship? If you sense your partner is reluctant to commit, do not propose as a way to force their hand.\n- __There is also the big question of when you hope to plan your wedding.__ Some couples don’t like to have an extended engagement, and so one partner might propose only when they’ve decided on an ideal wedding date.\n-__You should also consider work schedules and other big family announcements.__ Proposing right before a two-week work trip or having your engagement announcement conflict with his sister’s wedding is not ideal.\n\nOf course, some couples get engaged during an informal, spontaneous conversation in which one partner asks the other to marry them. This organic moment can be very intimate and beautiful. Some couples might choose to follow up with a more elaborate proposal idea, and some will consider the question asked and answered.\n\nFor a woman, deciding to be the one who proposes can also mean making waves in traditional marriage protocol. This might matter to some brides, and it might be no big deal to others. But the proposal remains one of the few gendered marriage rituals, even among otherwise egalitarian social groups. You might be surprised by the reaction of family and friends to your decision to ask the big question. \n\nIf you haven’t discussed it at all with your partner, you might be surprised by his reaction, too. [Zola's recent survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men) revealed that __though more than half (58%) of women believe that their male partner would not be okay with them proposing, but most men (93%) would have said \"Yes\" if they were poposed to.__ Though we hope this is reassuring, checking in with your partner first is one of the most important things in [how to plan a proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question). For all you know, he was planning an elaborate proposal of his own. If your partner is a pretty traditional guy, check in with him about his general feelings around proposals. Proposals should be delightful surprises, not come with unexpected reactions. \n\n![How to Propose to a Man | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5teyNUVOJguI4VGtDpRyQL/bb2eb87835ca683b6f56654e4d74ed66/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### What to Do About the Ring \n\nThe proposal is about asking someone to marry you, and finding out if the answer is yes—that’s it. There certainly doesn’t need to be a [ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/womens-wedding-rings) involved to make that happen. As such, many women decide to propose and then discuss the question of buying rings separately from the decision to get married. \n\nIn recent years, an alternative tradition has emerged for women to buy the man a watch when they propose, symbolizing the time they will spend together. If you go this route, then make sure to pay close attention to your partner’s style and taste in watches. This should be a substantial purchase that he will wear for years to come, and you want to make sure he likes it. You could even go watch shopping together.\n\nSome women want to have something on hand for the moment they propose, but a ring or a watch doesn’t quite fit their vision. You can get creative with your proposal idea. Maybe present him with a heartfelt card about why you want to get married or a gift that will be particularly meaningful to him. This might be something of sentimental value, tickets to his absolute favorite band, or plans for a once-in-a-lifetime trip together. Again, the most important thing is to mark the moment as meaningful for you as a couple.\n\nIf you do want a ring to be a part of the proposal, you have a few options. You can give him a wedding band that he can choose to wear after the wedding, you can present him a ring that he will choose to wear as an engagement ring, or you can buy him a ring he might wear on his right hand until the wedding.\n\n### To Kneel or Not to Kneel \n\nThe tradition of kneeling in order to ask someone to marry you is very old. In many traditional contexts, kneeling is a sign of respect that demonstrates loyalty and allegiance. Knights, for example, knelt before their king and queen, and in many religions the faithful will kneel in front of an altar, respected clergy, or sacred image as a way to pay homage and respect. Similarly, the man knelt before the woman to symbolize the honor it was to ask for her hand.\n\nFor a lot of people, the gesture of kneeling feels symbolic and meaningful for a wedding proposal. Women who want to kneel when they ask the question should definitely do so. If you have a gift to offer, make sure it’s in easy reach before you go down on that one knee. If you’re not offering a gift, then kneel down and take your partner’s hand when you ask the question, or keep your hands on your knee.\n\nYou should also be dressed for the occasion. Don’t wear a tight pencil skirt or high stilettos, as it will make the kneeling position more difficult. You want some stretch in your clothes. You should also be mindful of short, flowy skirts that might blow in the wind or prove too revealing in the position. Some people find trousers the easiest option. Whatever you wear, practice kneeling in your outfit beforehand, so you’re not caught off guard during the moment.\n\nFor women who don’t want to kneel, but want to physically mark the moment, there are gestures of intimacy you can adopt. You can take your partner’s hands and look into his eyes as you ask him to marry you, for example. \n\n![A Woman’s Guide to Proposing to a Man](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bx7x4OgpR86pHSmiaCidz/c465dae3d736b459f6f4f298dd9dd243/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Proposal Tips\nAs with any proposal, those planning to propose to their man could benefit from a few quick tips. Before diving head-first into things, read the following. Keep them top-of-mind as you plan what's sure to be a day (or evening, or night) to remember.\n\n- __Be completely sure you're ready.__ Check in with yourself and make sure you aren't feeling any sort of uncertainty. Know that you're proposing, because you and your partner are ready to make things official and step into married life together.\n- __Consider your partner's feelings.__ Equally as important is where your partner is at with your relationship. Before proposing, have a conversation and make sure you're on the same page. At this point, it shouldn't be about if, but when.\n- __Tailor your proposal to your partner.__ Remember: You aren't planning your dream proposal, but his (or the both of yours, if your tastes here align). Shape your proposal to your SO's personality and/or passions.\n- __Be sensitive to several reactions.__ Gender roles typically have a man proposing to his partner. If you haven't floated the idea of you proposing to them, be prepared for an sensitive to a variety of reactions. There's a chance he may be disappointed he didn't get to ask you first. In that case, suggest that he ask you in return at another time of his choosing. Having asked each other is a lovely thought and will make for wonderful proposal stories.\n- __Prepare.__ You know the saying, *failing to prepare*... Well, the same can be said for any and all proposals. Have a backup plan or two in mind in case the weather shifts, you can't make it to your planned location, people can't show, or any other array of things goes wrong. In any case, always roll with the punches and remember what matters: That you're asking your partner to spend the rest of your lives together. Your partner won't know your new plan from the actual proposal plan.\n\n## Special Proposal Ideas\nEquipped with your newfound information, it's time to brainstorm some proposal plans. At the heart of things, your proposal should be genuine and heartfelt. That being said, a few [fun and creative ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) never hurt. Read on for some of our favorite ideas.\n\n### 1. A Beach or Hike Proposal. \n\nFor the couple that loves to be outdoors together, plan a proposal that takes place on the beach or at the end of your beau's favorite hike. A major pro, here, is that you can have family members and best friends waiting nearby to surprise your SO post-proposal. This proposal is also fairly easy to put together, depending on any extra details you might include, and can be very cost-efficient.\n### 2. Involve your pets. \n\nIf you and/or your SO have a beloved pet, get them involved in asking the big question. For example, purchase (or make) a bandana that says, \"Will you marry me?\" and tie it around your pet's neck while out on a walk. This surprise proposal makes for a lovely moment you're both sure to remember for the rest of your lives.\n\n### 3. A Holiday Proposal. \n\nAnother proposal idea for those who want loved ones nearby is to pop the question during a favored holiday. Plan a special moment in advance (e.g. Christmas tree shopping, the countdown during New Year's Eve) or keep the ring on you and let spontaneity decide. Either approach is sure to get a sentimental SO's \"I do.\"\n\n## Announcing the Engagement \n\nWomen and men will often announce their engagement in gendered language, for example proclaiming “she said yes!” or “I said yes!” to share the good news. Similarly, social media is full of engagement pictures that are nothing but a woman’s hand with a perfect ring, announcing the engagement without any words.\n\nFor women who propose to their partners, it can be tricky to find the right language. Some couples want to celebrate the fact that the woman popped the question. This can be a great way to flip any stereotypes on their head and normalize women proposing to men. You can take some fun pictures captioned “he said yes!” or “I can’t believe I convinced this guy to marry me” to share with family and friends. This is a time to have fun.\n\nOther couples may opt to put the focus on the upcoming marriage and not the proposal. Social media captions such as “we’re getting married!” is a more forward-focused way to let people know about the engagement.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? Arrange the perfect proposal for your partner with these creative ideas. From romantic to adventurous, there's one for you!","title":"50 Unique Marriage Proposal Ideas [+ Printables]","slug":"proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6dR1PxiYWKzfOfBhHANhYv/cd70212d7dfbc320706b4488eed2dd13/proposal-ideas-2.jpg","altText":"proposal idea hero image of person holding engagement ring box"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. 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Here's how to manage expectations and be there for your friend as you plan your own wedding.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-11-22T16:47:48.889Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Rc2R8CnYBAvDUljxL9qk2/431a71cd2fa527552615df47b88f9de0/HERO_PexelsAsyaCusima_1080x720.jpg","altText":"friends engaged at the same time"},"heroCredit":"Asya Cusima","body":"There are few things in life more exciting than when your best friend gets engaged. The exception, of course, being when you, yourself, get engaged and start wedding planning. As for [Getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged) around the *same time* as a close friend—well, things can be as complicated as they are exciting. \n\nBeing engaged and wedding planning at the same time can be an especially fun experience. You have each-other to lean on and know exactly what the other is going through. That said, challenges can come up with simultaneous engagements. While those challenges are totally manageable, it’s good to have an idea of what they are ahead of time so that you can better navigate—and you both arrive at your big days with your relationship intact, if not better than ever. Read on to aptly prepare and get in the right mindset.\n\n![INLINE LensesAndLaughterPhotography 1080x720 Jess&Brian](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2hLnMTQl36mSMyZKZHGGPG/ddebc50049a5ad71eb6cd1cda4b76b95/INLINE_LensesAndLaughterPhotography_1080x720_Jess_Brian.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Lenses and Laughter Photography\n\n## Potential Issues When Being Engaged at the Same Time \nWithout a doubt, you’re over the moon that your best friend is engaged. However, you and your BFF may be faced with a few challenges if their engagement overlaps with yours.\n\nSome of the potential challenges of getting engaged at the same time as your best friend can include:\n\n- __Scheduling conflicts__. [Dress shopping](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-i-invite-wedding-dress-shopping?_branch_match_id=link-730486391662449605). Bridal showers. Bachelor and/or bachelorette parties. Honeymoons. There are a variety of celebratory events that go along with getting married—and if you and your best friend get engaged at the same time, it’s possible that you’ll come across some scheduling conflicts (especially if you share friends or family members).\n\n- __Balancing your wedding and being a part of their wedding__. There’s a certain level of responsibility that goes along with being in a wedding party. If you and your best friend want to be in each-other’s wedding parties, it can be challenging to balance those responsibilities with planning your own wedding.\n\n- __Sharing the spotlight__. Getting engaged is a moment in life where you expect yourself and your partner to be something of the center of attention. However, when your best friend gets engaged at the same time, that means sharing the spotlight—which, for some, can be challenging.\n\n- __Financial stress__. Relationships of all kinds can become strained when money comes into play—and planning a wedding, as well as being in a wedding party, can be expensive. For example, having to turn down going on a bach weekend due to not being able to afford it may be one thing, while turning it down so that you can afford X, Y, or Z at your own wedding can get a little messy.\n\n- __General Stress__. It isn’t news that weddings can be stressful, whether it’s yours or a good friend’s. That said, balancing both at the same time potentially opens the door for more tension. If you and/or your friend are overwhelmed, you may end up taking it out on each-other.\n\n## How To Balance Both\nFirst thing’s first: Don’t let these possibilities scare you from enjoying this time together. Any potential issues that come up when you and your best friend get engaged at the same time are entirely manageable. With a little bit of effort from both sides, you can enjoy planning your wedding and celebrating their upcoming nuptials.\n\nHere are a few need-to-know tips when it comes to navigating the tandem planning process:\n\n### 1. Talk about dates ASAP.\nThe biggest challenge you‘re likely to face while being engaged at the same time is scheduling all of the celebratory events that lead up to your wedding day (e.g. an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) or bridal shower). The last thing you want to do is forgo communicating from the beginning and have to miss out on one-another’s important gatherings.\n\nAs soon as possible, sit down with your best friend and share the dates you’re considering for your major wedding events—including your engagement party, [wedding shower, bachelorette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers)/bachelor/bach party, and your actual wedding date. If there’s any overlap, discuss why those dates are important to you (for example, it’s the only weekend your grandparents can make the trip out) and see if either of you has any wiggle room.\n\n### 2. Set expectations.\nIf you’re in your best friend’s [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one), you want to be as involved as possible. However, you’re also going to be in the midst of planning one your own wedding. So, it’s important to set expectations from the get-go.\n\nWhen your best friend asks you to be in their wedding (and vice versa), have an honest conversation about how available you can be during the process. For example, do you have the capacity to plan the bachelorette weekend—or would it be better to let your best friend’s sister or Maid of Honor/[Best Man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-ask-someone-to-be-your-best-man) take over? If your best friend is having a destination wedding, are you going to have the cash to fly out for the event—or is all of your budget going to be put towards your own wedding?\n\nBe cognizant of their dilemmas, as well. Fortunately, you’ll be well aware of the scheduling and financial conflicts from your own perspective. So, be gentle if they can’t make one of your events, too. Setting expectations upfront will help prevent hurt feelings as the wedding gets closer.\n\n![INLINE EicharPhotography 1080x720 Monica&Emir (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/iTwXip7uAHYgKEGJEcP78/65843b146d3be1bbb4e013024df14d13/INLINE_EicharPhotography_1080x720_Monica_Emir__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Eichar Photography\n\n### 3. Let your best friend have the spotlight at their events.\nGetting engaged is beyond exciting and, chances are, you want to talk to your loved ones about your engagement and upcoming wedding. However, if you’re attending a wedding-related event for your best friend (more specifically, one that involves mutual friends or family members), it’s important that you let the event be about them.\n\nIf you’re in this situation and someone asks you about your engagement or [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-stop-others-from-taking-over-your-wedding-planning), feel free to share a few details, but don’t spend significant time talking about it. Let your best friend be the center of attention—it is their celebratory event, after all. Hopefully, they’ll show you the same respect when it comes to your own wedding events.\n\n### 4. Talk about your feelings—and cut each other some slack.\nPlanning a wedding can be an emotionally charged time. With emotions running high, it can be easier for feelings to get hurt, even if you and your best friend have a more solid relationship than most. For this reason, it’s important that you always maintain transparency when it comes to your feelings. If your friend upsets you—for example, by being so wrapped up in their wedding that they don’t ask about yours—express that to them. Ignoring it or pushing it down is only going to lead to resentment and, potentially, a big blowout.\n\nThat said, it’s also paramount that you cut each-other some slack. Showing some empathy and compassion for your best friend will go a long way. So, if you’re upset that they’re considering very similar colors for their bridal party attire or themes for their engagement photos, ask yourself, “in the grand scheme of things, does this really matter?” If the answer is no, move on.\n\n## 3 Tips to Protect Your Friendship While Being a Bride\nPreserving your relationship with your best friend should be a priority throughout this experience. While this might come across as obvious, it can be more difficult than expected.\n\nWith that in mind, here are three paramount pieces of advice for maintaining your friendship whilst both going through this exciting time together.\n\n- __Remember that it isn’t a competition__. Ultimately, your wedding is a celebration of you and your partner taking a significant step in your life together—marriage! The same goes for your best friend and their significant other. While comparing notes, ideas, and inspiration can be fun, don’t allow things to get into competitive territory (à la Anne Hathaway and Kate Hudson in *Bride Wars*). Your friendship should take priority over one person’s wedding being “better” than the other’s—which is impossible, by the way, with both being entirely unique to you. If you sense these feelings coming on, we recommend taking a break from wedding-talk with one-another.\n\n- __Be informative and prepared to compromise__. Because wedding planning has so many components, it’s wise that you and your friend be in the know about each-other’s bigger planning details and progress. For example, those important (and tricky) wedding event dates. Be transparent and prepared to compromise in one area or another—but not too much—which will greatly benefit your relationship.\n\n- __Allow yourselves to lean on each-other__. There’s nothing like experiencing wedding planning with someone so close to you (outside of your partner, of course). That said, this process can be extremely stressful and, at times, overwhelming. Know that you’re both going through similar things and lean on one-another throughout. Ask how your best friend is doing and offer moral, if not logistical support—because who better to ask for fellow planning advice?\n\nGetting engaged is extremely exciting. More so when you have your best friend to celebrate with and confide in throughout simultaneous wedding planning. When conflicts arise, remember that most anything is manageable—and how important this relationship is to you. With that in mind, you’ll both end up walking down the aisle happy. Cheers to you both!","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Just engaged and wondering what’s next? A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.","title":"Just Engaged? Here’s What To Do Next!","slug":"to-dos-after-you-get-engaged","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Need inspiration for your wedding hashtag? 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Make sure you book reservations ahead of time and and be considerate of weather or lighting.\n- Indoor photoshoots can make use of props, coordinated outfits, and decorations to match your seasonal theme.\n- Engagement photos can be used on everything from your Save the Dates to your wedding website. At Zola, we’ve got hundreds of templates and designs for all of your wedding paper needs.","body":"After basking in the happy glow of engagement, it’s time to kick off the exciting new period in your relationship with engagement photos. For those couples who love the crisp autumn air and any excuse to cuddle up during sweater weather, fall engagement photos are perfect for announcing your coming union.\n\nAs we dive into your dream engagement photoshoot, we’ll go over: \n\n- Planning the Perfect Fall Photoshoot\n- Fun and Creative Staging Ideas to Reflect Your Relationship\n\n### How Engagement Photo Shoots Come in Handy\nProposals can happen at any time, anywhere. The element of surprise can be a romantic part of the proposal magic, but it might also mean less than ideal circumstances for capturing that special moment. And if your spouse wants fall photos, but you popped the question in June, then a pre-planned engagement shoot can get you the pictures you want.\n\nA well-done photo shoot will give you a beautiful set of photos of the two of you that you can use throughout the pre-wedding phase, including:\n\n- On your save the date cards or [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop).\n- As a display at your engagement party or wedding.\n- On Facebook and Instagram to announce your big news digitally.\n- Adorning your wedding website.\n\nAt Zola, we offer free, [easy-to-use wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that you can personalize with your engagement photos and wedding details. With hundreds of customizable templates, you can choose the color schemes and fonts that best complement your fall engagement photos. We also offer matching invitation samples, if you’d like to create a cohesive design for your wedding paper.\n\nSo, how do you snap the perfect fall photos to plaster across your website, invitations, and [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)? We’ve got you covered.\n\n## Planning for Fall Engagement Photos \n\nFrom pumpkin patches to steaming mugs by the fire in your cozy living room, there are many different ways that you can incorporate the changing season into your engagement photos. Take advantage of the stunning colors of autumn leaves and create the perfect backdrop for photos that you’ll be able to use again and again during the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process.\n\nHere are some pro tips to keep in mind while you plan and look for fall engagement photo ideas:\n\n- __Timing is everything:__ The fall season is glorious but brief. If fall foliage is an important part of your dream engagement photos, make sure that you check when the leaves will be at their peak at your location.\n\n- __Coordinate your outfits:__ Matching couple outfits are a bold choice and not for everyone. However, coordinated prints and complementary colors are important for every couple’s photoshoot. If you want to incorporate the reds, golds, and oranges of autumn into your backdrop, opt for neutral or cool tones that will help your faces pop without distracting from your colorful surroundings. \n\nSome prints may be too busy for the camera, but if plaid is a must-have element to your autumnal shoot, you can try layering it under a sweater or breaking up the pattern with an open vest.\n\n- __Dress for the season:__ Snuggling looks cute on camera but shouldn’t be the only thing keeping you warm out there. Take advantage of the weather and bust out your fall wardrobe. From plush, thick cardigans to fleece-lined boots, there are tons of options for you both to look fashionable and stay warm.\n\n- __Check the weather for lighting conditions:__ Good lighting is important to beautiful photography; luckily, in the fall, both sunny and overcast days can work to your advantage. Direct sunlight will add shadows, depth, and texture to an image for a dramatic flair, while overcast days are perfect for capturing the bold, saturated colors of fall foliage. Check the weather forecast ahead of time and make sure that you pick a day that’ll result in the type of photographs you want.\n\n- __Bring props:__ Props are an easy way to make your engagement photos unique and personal. Don’t be afraid to add some personality to the classic fall backdrop. Pack a picnic blanket and scarf for a snug day out in the park, or double down on the seasonal theme by making use of pumpkins, squashes, and apples.\n\n- __Have fun:__ Candid photos are some of the best ways to capture your genuine love, but can also feel a bit awkward. Finding a photographer who understands your vision and who you can relax around will make the process easier, but just try to remember that this is a chance for you and your partner to have fun and enjoy some time together.\n\nSo, what exactly should you do while having fun in your matching outfits surrounded by gorgeous autumn colors? These creative suggestions will help you hammer out the details and plan for truly special moments.\n\n## #1 Use the Colorful Fall Foliage \n\nClassic fall photoshoots take advantage of the best that mother nature can offer by incorporating the gorgeous fall foliage into the natural backdrop. \n\nClose-up shots that center on you and your partner will intimately focus on your relationship, while still using colorful leaves as an accent or frame around your happy faces. \n\nIf you have a beautiful location in mind with trees full of red and gold, take advantage of it with long, panoramic shots. Wide spaces can be framed to add drama or depth to certain shots. For a more whimsical and playful vibe, use the fallen leaves as your prop to capture your fun side.\n\n## #2 Monochrome Backgrounds\nAutumn leaves are beautiful, but the various colors can be overwhelming. Pick a location where the trees are all the same color, such as gold or red, for a monochromatic background that will complement, not overwhelm, the central subjects. Against a single shade, the two of you will pop more on camera and immediately draw the eye.\n\nWith a monochromatic background, your stylish, cohesive photos will be more versatile, making them perfect for invitations, Facebook posts, and the wedding itself. [Zola offers hundreds of customizable invitation designs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) with different colored template options to match the palettes of your engagement pictures. \n\n## #3 Take a Hayride\nFor a rustic aesthetic out in the countryside, a hayride is a unique and fun setting for your autumnal engagement photos. And if the country vibe is more of a lifestyle than a theme, take full advantage of the setting and don your best cowboy boots and Stetsons. \n\nHere are a couple of different ways that you can set the tone for your hayride engagement:\n\n- __Playful and relaxed:__ Think soft flannel, your comfy jeans, hay fights, and peals of laughter as you unleash your inner child among the bales.\n\n- __Intimate and romantic:__ Dress in your best farmhouse chic as you ride off into the sunset, with cuddles and steamy, cinematic kisses included. \n\nTry to time your shoot during golden hour so that you can make use of the flattering light over the open countryside.\n\n## #4 Opt for Neutral Tones in Your Fall Backdrops \n\nWhat if fall foliage isn’t an option, or your photoshoot is scheduled for the tail end of the season after all the leaves have gone? Perhaps your significant other prefers a more neutral, cool palette to prioritize the subjects—the two of you.\n\nWhatever the case, it’s still possible to have beautiful autumnal engagement photos without the colorful tones clashing with your hair or clothes. Take a stroll in the woods later in the season after the leaves have dropped. Empty branches can provide a clean and elegant frame for your photos. Beech trees in particular, with their pale white bark, will look lovely and ethereal in the background.\n\n## #5 Go Apple Picking\nIf you and your partner are looking for a more active, dynamic set of photos, shake things up with activity during your shoot. \n\nApple picking is a quintessential harvest time activity that you can incorporate into your engagement photos. Orchards with long, lush rows of ripening fruit will make a picture-perfect autumn setting. Make teamwork a focal point to some of your photos by picking apples, climbing trees, and taking sunset strolls with a basket full of the fruits of your labor. \n\n## #6 Visit a Pumpkin Patch\nNothing says fall quite like a pumpkin patch, making it the perfect spot for fun and whimsy (and quintessentially fall) engagement shoots. \n\nShowcase your playful side with hide-and-seek in the patch, or carve your initials and the [wedding day date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) into the side of a pumpkin for a personalized set prop. \n\nOther accessories that will be right at home with your pumpkins include:\n- A big flannel blanket to snuggle up beneath.\n- Chunky boots and denim for a more casual look.\n- Tasteful touches of plaid that can coordinate with your wardrobe.\n- Thermoses and mugs were full of your favorite steaming beverage.\n\n## #7 Embrace the Spooky Season\nFor all the Halloween lovers out there, there’s no reason not to make this day a part of your October engagement. A special celebration for many, couples has found creative ways to include Halloween-inspired elements in their engagement photos.\n\nHere are a few different ways that you can approach a themed engagement:\n\n- __Comedic:__ If you don’t like to take yourselves too seriously, throw tradition to the wind and have fun with the photo shoot. Break out the costumes, cheesy decorations, and Halloween candy galore.\n\n- __Creative:__ For the hardcore cosplayers and historical reenactors out there, your engagement is a chance to go all out. Show off your artistic side with elaborate costumes and detailed makeup. \n\n- __Atmospheric:__ For those who prefer a subtler touch, but still want to pay tribute to the spooky and mysterious, use locations such as gothic castles, haunted houses, old ruins, abandoned woods, or charmingly rundown cabins. Mix formal wear with edgy accessories that showcase your personality.\n\n## #8 Catch the Early Morning Mist\nAutumn morning mist across a wide-open field can offer stunning shots full of atmospheric mystery and allure.\n\nLook for wheatfields and other open spaces where the mist can settle. If there’s frost in the field the night before, you might get a lovely glittering effect by dawn. Once the sun comes up, the pale, waving fronds of wheat will be perfect for a rustic or bohemian shoot, as long as you have the right outfits and accessories.\n\nCheck ahead of time that your photographer knows how to work with foggy and misty conditions since they’ll need to adjust for exposure time and other variables. \n\nOther tips to keep in mind when arranging misty fall engagement photos include:\n\n- Checking the weather forecast often for the location of your shoot. Weather in the autumn can be unpredictable, so be prepared to reschedule if necessary.\n\n- Head out to your location early so that you can catch the fog before it burns off.\n\n- Foggy conditions are great for capturing rays of light on the camera, whether it’s man-made or from natural sunbeams. Use that to your advantage during the photo shoot. \n\n- Communicate clearly with your photographer about the tone and atmosphere of your photos. You might want to practice framing shots beforehand to avoid wasting time while the fog is just right.\n\n## #9 Schedule Waterfront Photo Shoots\nBodies of water make fantastic locations for photographs in the cooler season, such as: \n\n- Babbling brooks in a moody forest.\n- A simple, rustic dock in front of a wide-open lake or sea.\n- The reflecting pools of still lakes, ponds, or even large puddles.\n- Autumn storms at the horizon of the ocean for dramatic effect.\n\nThe tone of your waterfront shoot will change depending on the weather. For a relaxed, casual atmosphere, direct sunshine is best, while sunset shoots on the water are more traditionally romantic. Overcast days can be framed into either dramatic photos or intimate ones as you keep each other warm from the fall chill.\n\n## #10 Adventure into the Great Outdoors\nHiking is a favorite fall time activity for many. If you and your partner love getting off the grid and exploring the great outdoors, why not share that aspect of your life in your engagement photos?\n\nHere are a few ways that you can wander off the beaten path (literally and figuratively) for your fall engagement photos:\n\n- Find big fallen tree trunks, ivy-wrapped rocks, gushing waterfalls, or other landmarks to strike a pose with your favorite hiking (and life) partner.\n\n- Find a spot in the middle of the road (while it’s empty, of course!) that has a view of the forest and mountains. Show yourselves on the path towards your next great adventure to immortalize the real-life journey that you’re about to embark on together.\n\n- Make your way to the top of the mountain so that you can play around with perspective and angles. Use the breathtaking view as a central part of your engagement photos.\n\n- If you love to camp out underneath the sky, break out the tent and overnight gear. Finish off your photoshoot with a cozy campfire and s’mores.\n\n## #11 Embrace the Cozy Indoors \n\nYou don’t need to be outside in nature to have a fall engagement. The right props and clothing will set the scene from the comfort of the home. For example: \n\n- Dress in thick sweaters and soft scarves, or wrap up together in a blanket. \n\n- Use the fireplace as a backdrop with mugs and thermoses as seasonal props.\n\n- Decorate your home with all things autumn, such as mini pumpkins and gourds on the hearth. Dried wreaths, cinnamon brooms, lit candles, and centerpieces with acorns, cranberries, and maple leaves would also make for lovely fall decor.\n\n## #12 Turn It into a Celebration\nFor many people, the fall season is a time for family and friends to come together. If you and your partner love playing host, why not open up your home to your loved ones and the camera? Your fall engagement photos are the perfect chance to show off your teamwork skills and put the spotlight on domestic bliss.\n\nRecreate favorite dinner parties and holiday celebrations by decking out your home in autumn-themed decorations. This is where props will come in handy, such as:\n\n- Mini pumpkins, squashes, or gourds. You can stay natural or get creative with ones that have been painted in gold, silver, or other elegant patterns.\n\n- Harvest wreaths with a red, gold, orange, or brown palette. Dress it up with tiny crab apples, acorns, or maple leaves.\n\n- Fall-themed centerpieces on the table, such as cornucopias overflowing with harvest bounty, or sugary bowls of cranberries, oranges, and star anise.\n\nFor those who love cooking, consider adding a few action shots in the kitchen or dining room as you prepare your favorite dishes together. Mashed potatoes, mouthwatering pies, roasted chicken, or turkey would all do a great job of setting the scene for fall festivities.\n\n## #13 Take Your Love Out on the Water\nWe’re not just talking about waterfront photoshoots—we mean venturing out onto open waters. \n\nThe same aspects we love about waterfront photos also apply here, from the gorgeous, clear reflections to the beautiful fall backdrops. \n\nTake your spouse-to-be for a spin on the nautical vessel that suits your style:\n\n- __An intimate paddle boat:__ Your photographer can capture intimate moments as you push off from shore as well as big picture wide-angle shots from hills and cliffs surrounding the lake. Just the two of you, alone in the middle of a massive lake is a seriously romantic image just waiting to happen—think Rapunzel and Flynn Rider in “Tangled” and you’re pretty much there. If your photographer can shoot through the autumn trees, you can still feature the fall colors in all their glory.\n\n- __A luxurious yacht:__ With a boat this big, you can invite your photographer onto the ship with you. The early evening light will look beautiful at this time of year, as will your Jack and Rose in “Titanic” moment. To emphasize the fall vibes, dress for a cozy autumn day and bring your favorite plaid blanket to layout across the bow of the ship. \n\n- __An adventurous sailboat:__ Showcase both your outdoorsy spirit with sailboat action shots and your romantic side with the intimate moments in between. By shooting towards land, you can capture the colorful autumn background of surrounding trees and mountains, while maintaining all the intimacy of a boat ride just for two.\n\n## Showcase Your Engagement Photos Front and Centre at Zola \n\nWith all these ideas now bouncing around in your head, you can start planning your fall engagement photo shoot. Feel free to mix and match with elements that capture your relationship and fit with your wedding vision. Once you’ve received your photos in all their digitized glory, you’ll be able to put them to use on all your wedding invites and paper, from [Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) to your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n\nLost with all the options of paper types, fonts, colors, and graphics? Our experts at Zola have put together templates and paper collections that will make it easier for you to choose matching designs across your wedding paper and online. Our matching [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) are customizable and easy to use. \n\nIf a font needs to be adjusted, or you’d like a color palette that better matches your fall engagement photos, it’s as simple as the click of a button. You can also easily include your wedding registry and a way to RSVP for your guests in one handy location. \n\nLearn more about how Zola can help with your wedding planning needs, and check out our most popular designs for captivating [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper).\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Find Vendors in Your Area","url":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard?question=intro"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:55:17.560Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Proposals","slug":"proposals"},"slug":"country-proposal-ideas","title":"Country Proposal Ideas","excerpt":"The country is one of the most romantic places to pop the big question to your significant other. Read on for our best country proposal ideas. ","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T21:06:10.843Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7oESkzjKlQ2AZBMacm3WZ8/1c94f63c63853c0c16b11903cdfb397c/Hero_Unsplash__1_.jpg","altText":"Country Proposal Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Plan a picnic proposal, or take a late-night stroll where the stars are extra bright for a magnificent marriage proposal. \n- Few activities are more romantic than a leisurely row boat ride, so head to the most scenic, yet intimate spot in your area for a charm-filled proposal.\n- Fans of the great outdoors will love a scenic, adventure-packed hike proposal, while for others, an at-home proposal the perfect place. ","body":"If you’re looking for country proposal ideas that are beautiful, charming, and memorable, you’d be surprised how many great options there are. Here, a few of the best country proposal locations and ideas to help you find the perfect spot to propose to your partner. \n\n### Plan a Romantic Picnic\nFew things are more romantic than packing up a picnic of your love’s favorite food, grabbing a bottle of wine, and dining under a clear blue sky. While snacking on cheese and crackers, tell you SO how special they are, then reach for the ring as if you’re bringing out the next course. If you want to make it extra special, consider setting up the space ahead of time. Decorate the area with flowers, rose petals, candles, and photos of your relationship. While they’re looking at the display, drop down to a knee behind them, so you’re ready for the proposal when they turn around in surprise. \n\n![Zola: Country Proposal Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1vs0B1nvl7dCKomMOUirrN/729a3634e4ce7dfb8e105adcffe0fa40/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### Get Engaged Under the Stars\nThe stars have long been considered “romantic” for many cultures, so why not take a page from the past for a dreamy, moonlit proposal? Take a nighttime stroll or lay out a blanket and watch the sky glitter above. As you’re looking up at the heavens, pull out the ring and ask the question of a lifetime. Consider talking about your future, your dreams, and maybe even make up a constellation for your relationship while you’re cuddled together. Bonus points if you bring a basket with some Champagne, chocolates, or other treats for after he or she says “yes.”\n\n### Overlook the Best View in the Area\nIf you’re not sure [how to plan a proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question), start by thinking of a location with a view. Proposals overlooking vast, panoramic views are a classic for a reason. Not only do they make for gorgeous photos (if you’re thinking of having a photographer on hand), but they also afford you the opportunity to take in a symbolic magnificent vista as you start the next chapter of your life. The future is full of highs and lows, mountains and valleys, possibilities and potential. Bring up what you hope the rest of your lives look like as you’re taking in the beautiful view and pop the big question as the sun sets or rises above the horizon. \n\n### Rent a Rowboat\nTake a page out of The Notebook and stage a romantic boat ride for your intimate proposal. If you want to get extra fancy, you can have some flowers or Champagne waiting, but if you’d prefer to keep things low key, the glistening water and the soothing sounds are amorous all on their own. Try to find a spot that’s less crowded (floating in a lake full of people might take away from the moment) for a truly intimate proposal. \n\n### Propose While Clay Shooting\nIf you and your partner like to practice your aim, a proposal at a gun range or sporting clay range could be a memorable way to start your engagement. There are a few ways to pull this type of proposal off safely, like having a special message printed on the target that he or she sees after the session is over or getting down on your knee behind them with the ring and asking for their hand right after they finish a round. If you want a one-of-a-kind proposal they won’t see coming, this is one you’ll cherish for a lifetime. Just make sure a rustic, fun-loving proposal is more their style than something more classically romantic before making plans.\n\n### Go on a Walk or Hike\nA pastime like walking or hiking is a great way to not only stay healthy, but also bond as a couple. If you like exploring together, going on a hike is a wonderful surprise proposal option. Whether you choose a new hike or a favorite, ask the question at a pretty spot along the way. If you’re stuck on the location, consider whether or not your SO would want the moment photographed. If so (and if you’re planning on hiring someone to take the photos), make sure to select a path that’s easy enough. You don’t want anyone to be doused is sweat or dirt come time for the actual proposal. \n\n![Zola: Country Proposal Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/78CwUuyzzsoAruH7mZgUZP/60c318a5b9b4d875b4f6fa77b03e2e1f/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### Propose at Home\nHome is where the heart is, which makes it a wonderful choice for an intimate proposal idea. While it might seem strange to pop the big question at the same place you cook, clean, and pay the bills, the fact that it’s the backbone of your relationship makes it so special. Consider decorating your porch, living room, or dining room with candles, flowers, and pictures, or make a home-cooked meal that you eat over candlelight. When it comes time to ask the question, bring up the good times you’ve had there and how you hope to spend your lives together. Just being in the place that holds so many memories will make the moment even more memorable. \n\nThere’s no better way to do a surprise proposal than in the country. Country proposal ideas are full of beauty, grace, and timeless romance. And coming up with the perfect proposal plan is easy when there are so many great places to consider. Wherever you decide to ask the question, it’s the meaning behind the gesture that truly makes for a one-of-a-kind moment. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Deciding where to propose is a big deal—you want it to be special, memorable, and above all, the perfect start to your engagement. If you’re looking for the best places to propose, here are the winners, all of which you can pull off anywhere you live. 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It was the perfect proposal for us because we are so confident in who we are as a couple and don't like the pressure to do something big and not \"us.\" \n\n__It was romantic and silly - the perfect combo.__ The next morning we had a celebratory brunch and watched our city's Christmas parade. A great start to a wonderful [engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged).\" \n\n![Megan & Paul - The day it all began 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5qki4B5Qwv04cNPea6wBZt/48a587aed53ba11175b6535827d159e8/Screen_Shot_2022-07-23_at_6.24.58_PM_-_Megan_Watson__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Ron & Christina Sanchez\n\n![Megan & Paul - The day it all began 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2y9azUs3MZcoHJkhbLJbsC/7d4a6273443eda928a616f26bc4398e3/Screen_Shot_2022-07-23_at_6.19.49_PM_-_Megan_Watson__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Ron & Christina Sanchez\n\n*Every wedding starts with a [great proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas), and we're helping couples celebrate the day they said “yes”! If you're interested in sharing your proposal story, [visit here](https://forms.gle/2SuQJP2jsvkhFCWZ7).*","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? 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Read on to learn about the best ways to make your proposal a memory your loved one will never forget. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-28T20:26:50.822Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1QuX2rGpy2UcGGSowqUuMM/e7e35f7daa5c1a4e3f93a49b87cb9c1a/Hero_MountainElopementatRavensRoostOverlook_HannahMalloyPhotography.jpg","altText":"What to Say During a Proposal"},"heroCredit":"Hannah Malloy Photography","body":"Chances are, if you are considering popping the question, [you’re reasonably confident the answer will be a resounding, “yes!”](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-do-you-know-youve-found-the-one) Long gone are the archaic days of iffy marriage proposals. However, there’s still a lot of pressure to make the moment meaningful. You can create an elaborate setting, but all that effort can sink in a hurry if you don’t know what to say. With a little forethought, you can be well on your way to knowing exactly what to say during a proposal. \n\n## Figuring Out What to Say During a Proposal\n“Will you marry me?” Those four little words hold so much weight and the answer ultimately ends up determining the course of your future. If you’re thinking about popping the question, you may be concentrating on [proposing creatively](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas). However, you need to consider what you’ll say beyond those four words to nail the perfect proposal.\n\n### Reminisce About Your Relationship\nRecall instances such as how you met, first impressions, a special moment, or your first date. Recounting things that brought you together is a fabulous way to build up to a proposal. The two of you may end up laughing and crying together. However, make it a highlight reel instead of a full synopsis featuring every little detail. \n\n### Tell Them Why They’re The One\nWas there a moment with your partner where you just knew that you wanted to spend the rest of your life together? Mention it. Even if they’ve heard the story before, remind them what caused you to make that shift in your mind. \n\n![What to Say During a Proposal](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3fnVGgdpPL340QUt3cz9LC/f54240b4d9353d06a5f1336a786bc77a/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### Let Them Know What You Love About Them\nWhether they make you laugh, understand you like no one else, or have similar interests, tell them about it. Voicing your list of reasons will make them feel good while reassuring them that they’re loved. \n\n### Ponder the Future\nCouples often talk about where they want to live and their goals for the future. Maybe you’ve even chatted about kids, jobs, and future vacation plans. Let them know how you envision the rest of your lives together. Again, please don’t make it a diatribe. Touching on the highlights is evidence that you’re on the same page and will create a perfect marriage proposal. \n\n### End With Those Four Little Words\nDon’t forget to end with the ever-pressing question. “Will you marry me?” is the best way to end a proposal. But don’t rush it—give them time to answer. A proposal is a sentimental time. Sometimes people are at a loss for words, so it’s ok to hug them and relish the moment.\n\n## How to Remember What to Say During a Proposal Speech\nYou’ve set the scene, the [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) is in place, and the [after-party is ready.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) After all of that planning, you get down on one knee and draw a blank. Yikes! With a few tricks up your sleeve, you can recall the words effortlessly.\n\n![What to Say During a Proposal](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59Y1jJyLyyH4x2AMvHvSnt/fbce6760bc8213994c30ee8547cd54e0/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Write It Down\nAlthough this may not seem like an ideal solution, it outweighs just staring at your boyfriend or girlfriend while on one knee. Have a cheat sheet, or scribble cues in the palm of your hand. Either write your thoughts in full or simply jot words that will jog your memory as you cover each point. \n\n### Show Your Creative Side in a Romantic Way\nAn extension of simply writing your thoughts down and reading them is doing so in a creative way. Come up with a poem or write a letter to read out loud to your love. Do it on letterpress paper in your neatest handwriting, so that you both have a keepsake from your proposal. Besides, the ring, of course. \n\n### Pre-Record Your Sentiments\nConsequently, this only fits in with certain types of proposals. However, if you make a home video or radio spot, you can do several takes to get it right. Even if you plan to propose without a pre-recorded message, you can create a voice note or video. This can help you remain calm and critique yourself before the main event. \n\n### Practice Making the Big Moment Perfect \nDon’t wing it. Practice, practice, practice until you find the right words. Know what you want to say, and say it over and over again. Recite your sentiments to the dog. Declare your undying love to a house plant if you have to do so. Have a trusted friend help you remember. The more times you rehearse, the more comfortable you’ll feel. \n\n### Be Genuine \nEnsure that what you’re saying to your significant other is genuinely how you feel. If your words convey your true feelings, it will be hard to mess up. Your thoughts will flow as you dig deep into your heart to let them know how much they’re loved.\n\n### Prepare Yourself \nWhether you’ve given a speech or done a live performance, you know that people can be distracting. A cough, cell phone ring, or person glancing around can leave thoughts in a muddle. Be aware that your love may cry, gasp, or be emotional. After all, it’s a big day. Prepare yourself for the fact that you may have to pause for a moment.\n\n*Quick Tip: Be mindful that you may also tear up during the proposal. Allow your emotions to come through naturally. Therefore, don’t worry if you cry, laugh, or have to pull yourself together. This moment is supposed to be filled with emotion.*\n\nSo, are you ready to propose? We are rooting for you. No matter how you choose to pop the question, it will be the beginning of a beautiful life together. You’ve got this!\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:55:14.265Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Proposals","slug":"proposals"},"slug":"what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos","title":"Engagement Photo Outfits Ideas","excerpt":"Get inspired with these engagement photo outfits ideas. Plus tips and tricks to help you choose the perfect outfits for photos you'll love now and forever.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-29T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2HdV6dlwgN9nLf3kRNksF1/3b43ea55afc14ef156f78c1330d6d579/Hero_New_RubyRedApple-InspiredStyledShoot_LaurenLovePhotography.jpg","altText":"Couple in circle image with pink background. She wears a red dress and he wears a gray suit."},"heroCredit":"Lauren Love Photography","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- What to wear in engagement pictures?\n- Engagement photo outfit ideas\n- Men’s outfits for engagement photos\n- Tips for choosing the best engagement outfits\n","body":"Congratulations on saying “yes”! Now you’re preparing for the next exciting step: your engagement photoshoot. But where should you start when it comes to your engagement photo outfits? What do you wear? What does your partner wear? \n\nWe’ve got the answers to all your questions. Read on for plenty of engagement photo outfit inspiration, as well as our expert guidance on choosing outfits that feel authentically you.\n\nSince engagement photos have [so many potential uses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos), you should think carefully about how you and your partner will look for the shoot (think outfits, [hair, and makeup](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/hair-and-makeup-ideas-for-engagement-photos)). \n\n## What to wear in engagement pictures? \n\nThere are a lot of things to consider when selecting your engagement photo outfits, especially since the options are quite endless: lights or darks? Bold prints or classic solids? Casual, dressy, or themed? A white engagement shoot dress or a bright color? How do you pick outfits that you’ll love now and forever? [Team-Z has the answers](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7196100575350541614?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894).\n\n## Engagement photo outfit ideas \n\nMaybe you’ve already got a Pinterest board full of cute white dresses for engagement pictures. Or perhaps you’re all about cute and cozy sweaters for [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/winter-engagement-photo-shoot-ideas). The most important thing when it comes to what to wear for engagement pics is to ensure your photos are representative of you and your beau’s personalities and styles. \n\nBut, in case you have no clue where to start, we’ve rounded up some of the best engagement pic outfits for inspiration below. \n\nThe classic choice? White dress engagement pictures.\n\n### White dress\n\n![white dress engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7eIIZ2hjGGUSdOmvLGMaO8/c97e2d875c89e0798e160821abb2ea34/engagementshoot-whitedress.jpg)\n\nWe know — you probably saw this coming. With the idea of wedding wardrobes (cohesive outfits across your engagement photos, [parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-bachelorette-party), and wedding celebrations), it’s incredibly convenient to choose a white dress as one of your engagement photo outfits. \n\nNot only is it on-theme, but it’s easy to pair with [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories) and even locations. Even better, you can re-wear a white dress to an [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas), bridal shower, and/or bach party.\n\nCheck out our guide to [Planning an Engagement Party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) next!\n\n### White top\n\n![White top engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/12gXrvto7maDFGMlH2od9h/a818c12532131f6465f0dcd19003f169/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4873557.jpg)\n\nDon’t fancy wearing head-to-toe white? White tops for engagement photos are growing in popularity in recent years, especially if you’re more into casual clothes. \n\n### Maxi dress\n\n![maxi dress engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/V9O7fYLpkfV8IRkF0o10j/d1d76b13562ac88de5745cdb40697fb6/pexels-marcus-silva-15966642.jpg)\n\nNo doubt you’ll come across plenty of white maxi engagement dresses during your hunt for the perfect outfit. But you can also don a dress that isn’t white. \n\nIf you love to wear a flowy dress, but usually don’t get to, consider this the perfect opportunity. There’s nothing quite so romantic as a long, billowing dress. Especially if your photoshoot location will have some wind, like along the beach or on a rooftop.\n\n### Dress alternatives\n\n![jumpsuits engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59NLbqL17YDA3Wua5F1QuU/9bb424df5ca290b3073ab9442f1474d6/pexels-mikhail-konetski-13661911.jpg)\n\nYour engagement shoot is your chance to get creative with what you wear. With that in mind, you can easily forgo a dress and still look formal (or, at least, a little dressier than usual). You can find jumpsuits and two-piece sets in a variety of styles, from silky and chic to laid back.\n\n### Sexy suit pieces\n\n![Sexy suit engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/tJg8AgVKVAWfozFRxNSKK/c727da7e665bd16a0be8ef4b1dbdd975/pexels-vladimir-konoplev-10955546.jpg)\n\nPerhaps you and your SO prefer a more upscale, high-end look to your engagement photoshoot. If you want to go all out with your engagement photo outfits, one or both of you can wear a full suit or select pieces of one—such as a blazer, dress pants, or a button-down shirt—to upgrade your outfit. Stick to a complimentary [color palette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-colors), such as neutrals, for a cohesive, put-together look.\n\n### Swimsuits\n\n![Swimsuits engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3RA3L6v5PljKcdFcRFwxLG/920635aee4db2e5223bd6a913ccd6210/pexels-leticia-azevedo-9321012.jpg)\n\nIf your shoot takes place at the beach, on a lake, or at a hotel with a pool, use it as an excuse to throw on your swimsuits and go for a swim. \n\n### Sports gear\n\n![sports gear engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vE3eZBVN6VDuGseBVtmhK/cd405bd0808fffd21c14a8a0d495c7fc/pexels-luis-zambrano-11871921.jpg)\n\nYou read correctly. Whether your photoshoot takes place in a country club or on the football field, you can dive into your [theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) by donning sports gear. Not necessarily pads and all, but matching jerseys, tennis skirts, and the like. \n\nThe best engagement photo outfits are the ones that match your personality so, if you’re all about sports, this might be the best engagement style photo for you. Don’t forget a few fun props, too.\n\n### Classic pieces\n\n![classic pieces engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6puMkCZZ52tjcY6MnlDINb/5b53a06a038792737858687c7aea2009/pexels-polina-tankilevitch-7741744.jpg)\n\nYou can never go wrong with a classic outfit. Think trench coats in neutral colors, camel coats, trousers, button-down shirts, and nice knitwear. Pair with sneakers to make it more casual, or dress shoes to complete the timeless look.\n\n### Jeans and tees\n\n![Jeans and tees engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FneaXkZ2UwOmanEwJmIu3/9ad104ca1207b7325cdb7a663db6f3e9/pexels-damian-barczak-8830053.jpg)\n\nSpeaking of timeless, nothing stays in style like jeans and t-shirts. If you and your partner prefer casual engagement photos where comfort is a top priority, consider this laidback and effortlessly cool uniform. What’s more, you can stray from being too matchy-matchy by considering denim pants, shorts, skirts, and jackets or varying washes. \n\nStill want everyone to know it’s an engagement shoot? Choose a white sweater for engagement photos to keep things classic.\n\n### Themed attire\n\n![Themed attire engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/KIWqnlybUrW1Ijh6fcK8g/dd54bbd86b7122923db4dba9c5929475/pexels-koolshooters-8512238.jpg)\n\nNo one said your engagement photo outfits can’t be seriously unique. If your engagement shoot has a [theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes), don’t hesitate to run with it. Is it based on a film? A specific time period? A unique location? Research the outfits that typically go with the location, and match your ensembles accordingly. What’s great is that you can go all the way or incorporate more subtle nods.\n\n### Cohesive loungewear\n\n![Cohesive loungewear engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3Q1PpS5aEFYsR7B1Hwyeac/a00864c185a1da6dd741326da7f17729/pexels-blue-bird-7218218.jpg)\n\n At-home engagement photoshoots have skyrocketed in popularity the last few years (and for good reason). Keep things cozy with cohesive-but-not-super-matchy loungewear. Think, less matching [Christmas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/christmas-gifts-boyfriend) pajamas and more complimentary colors.\n\n## Men's outfits for engagement photos \n\n![Men's outfit for engagement photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/73u78E46zbLlXL6Ndd4xhW/b6bc872b47e58a64e65192ac2c7b5232/pexels-ushindi-namegabe-6441903.jpg)\n\nHopefully the engagement photo outfits above give you some inspiration when it comes to guys' engagement photo outfits. If your beau is happy to let you be in charge of outfit planning, his outfit can complement yours with subtle color combos like a burgundy tie to match your burgundy dress. \n\n## Zola’s top tips for choosing the best engagement outfits \n\nRemember, this is your moment to represent yourselves as a couple and to visually capture your newly-engaged, so-in-love-it’s-crazy bliss. And while working with a photographer or managing your pictures on social media might feel like a chore in the midst of wedding planning, try not to stress. \n\nStill need to hire the perfect photographer for the shoot? Zola’s got you covered. Find photographers near you in the [Vendor Marketplace](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\nYour engagement photo shoot (or your save the date outfits, or one of the many other photo opportunities before the big day) is a time to wear what makes you happy, what makes you feel beautiful in your skin, and what will photograph well between the both of you.\n\n__1. Pick clothes that reflect your personality__\n\n![clothes that reflect your personality engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/44Ac0IAVcXH1qxsQOeUbmy/a4159a40a5357512f99720d923da42cb/Stocksy_txpd8d7dc2eEfL300_Small_2599596.jpg)\n\nWe know the tendency may be to go all out for your engagement pictures, but experts agree that’s usually a mistake. First of all, your engagement photoshoot is a reflection of your and your partner’s personalities and your relationship as a couple. \n\nSo if you’re the type to dress head to toe in bright colors on a 24/7 basis, don’t book an engagement photo session dressed in all black, just because it’s something you’ve seen on Pinterest (for example). You’ll want to look back on these and remember who you were and how you dressed authentically at the time. \n\n__2. Choose clothes you feel comfortable in__\n\n![clothes you feel comfortable in engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Aj5vN2tTUjU5IpadudbNf/e1ecb54eb189be0b333971657214bb3f/Stocksy_txpf7e17834h3u100_OriginalDelivery_428294.jpg)\n\nThis tip is twofold. Yes, we do mean that your engagement photo outfits should literally be comfortable to wear, but we also mean that you should choose outfits that make you feel your best. Nothing creates awkwardness in front of the camera like feeling self-conscious, so be sure that whatever you end up wearing gives you confidence and makes you look (and feel) like a million bucks.\n\n3. __Choose clothes that complement each other__\n\n![clothes that complement each other engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hctOSTxQR3QLjUh3jj6VI/9522ca6b3716ab20d960a71d713beca6/Stocksy_txpf631455556u100_Large_1558861.jpg)\n\nIt’s also important to make sure that both partners pick outfits that complement each other. For example, if one of you is rocking a favorite LBD, then the other probably shouldn’t drag out the ripped jeans and “Bob’s Burgers” t-shirt. \n\nSimilarly, stay away from both partners wearing busy patterns. Make sure you’re both on the same page by planning early and trying on your favorite outfits together before the engagement photo session.\n\n4. __Don’t try to be matchy-matchy__\n\n![Don’t try to be matchy-matchy engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3Iximgd7LhOp8JiQOw5vtX/3053c6852b7be725ae42d0f0ec525aea/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4651491.jpg)\n\nJust because you’re wearing a blue dress doesn’t mean your partner needs to wear a blue shirt. When there’s too much of one hue in a shot, everything blends together and nothing stands out. \n\nYour best bet is to choose colors that complement each other, like blue and yellow or pink and white, but that don’t look overly staged. When in doubt, stick to neutrals or cool or pastel shades that layer harmoniously.\n\n5. __Don’t be afraid to wear bright colors or prints__\n\nIf you’re feeling it, go ahead and embrace bold prints and bright colors—in moderation, of course, such as through your choice of accessories. You’ll be amazed how easily you become the focus of the photo (rather than just an addition to the landscape) when you’re wearing an eye-catching hue or pattern. \n\nBut again, both partners shouldn’t go for bold patterns. Instead, while one of you rocks prints for your engagement photo outfits, the other should choose an article of clothing that pulls out a color from that print for effortless, but not obvious, coordination.","body2":"6. __Embrace layers__\n\n![Embrace layers engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ljnvK1KF5lsxj6MsEDEqA/f3b95ee7b0b2da038cc1305fd9cb5565/pexels-murat-i_ik-19525913.jpg)\n\nOne quick and easy way to give yourself multiple looks without having to change clothes is to incorporate layering into your ensemble. And did we also mention that whatever layers you take off, like a chunky sweater, denim jacket, or a faux fur coat, can also double as a fun prop for later on in the e-shoot?\n\n7. __Add at least one accessory__\n\nContinuing on this idea of changing up your look with minimal effort, consider adding at least one accessory to your engagement shoot outfit. Nothing adds instant “wow” factor to an otherwise neutral ensemble than a fun scarf, a statement necklace, or a pair of chic sunglasses. For men, this could look like a watch, a chain, or a signet ring.\n\nPlus, since you can easily switch them up, accessories are a low-risk way to show off different aspects of your personal style.\n\n8. __Keep the season in mind__\n\n![fall engagement shoot](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57gX6RcYopXoyuio9oWMiX/3244e1a712446d9a539fffd45167ccd3/pexels-jonathan-borba-2917382.jpg)\n\nWe know it seems obvious that you shouldn’t wear a sundress in the middle of winter or a peacoat on a 90-degree day, but you’d be surprised what some couples try to make work. Check the forecast, prepare your engagement shoot outfits in advance, and work with the weather you’ve been given. \n\nIf you have your heart set on [outdoor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/outdoor-wedding-ideas-for-fall) engagement photos staged during a particular season, then schedule your e-shoot for that time of year rather than trying to fake it. \n\nCheck out some inspirational ideas for winter, [spring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/spring-engagement-photo-shoot-ideas), summer and [fall](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fall-engagement-photo-shoot-ideas) engagement photos. Trust us, you can always tell when the environment and the wardrobe don’t mesh.\n\n9. __Consider the landscape__\n\nIf you’re dreaming of nature engagement photos shot in the meadows or woods, you’ll look out of place in a little black dress and stilettos. Similarly, if you’re doing an urban engagement shoot, put together a sophisticated look rather than something too casual or outdoorsy. \n\nFor beach sessions, summery hues will stand out against the muted tones of sand and water, whereas neutrals could be drowned out. Likewise, if there’s a lot going in the background, busy patterned engagement photo outfits will make you look like part of the hodgepodge landscape, rather than the star.\n\n10. __Select no more than two outfits__\n\nIf you find it impossible to decide on just one style or theme for your engagement photos, you can always bring a second outfit along. We love the idea of starting off in a casual outfit, then amping it up with dressier, more formal, or more high-fashion styles. \n\nThat being said, try to limit yourselves to no more than two outfit changes. Having several outfit choices on the day of may cause you to spend more time worrying about changing clothes, rather than trying to [capture your authentic selves](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos).\n\nWe hope you found all the inspiration and tips you need to for put together the engagement shoot you’ve been imagining. Capture the magic in an [engagement photo book](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-photobook-ideas) and/or use the best pictures on your [save the date cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop). When it comes to wedding planning, Zola has you covered all the days along the way. Start planning your wedding from anywhere with our [free wedding planning tools](http://zola.com)! ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Craft your dream wedding website effortlessly with Zola's step-by-step guide. Showcase your love story and details in style. 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Our complete guide can help. ","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T21:29:48.680Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1CrIRnIrgR2agUQxhfJpO1/c8b2a42c550da4bdc8ee4049a30801bb/Hero_BohoSummerWeddingatCampMontShenandoah_SabrinaSteelePhotography.jpg","altText":"Proposal Etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Sabrina Steele Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Your partner and their family may want you to seek permission from their father or both parents. \n- Don’t steal someone else’s limelight, plan your proposal, and have a ring to give. \n- Traditions around the world include families giving gifts and presenting the father with a whale tooth. \n","body":"Life affords a lot of “firsts,” and while many resources are available to guide you through purchasing a starter home and having your firstborn, there aren’t many manuals regarding wedding proposal etiquette. However, Zola is here to change that so you can have confidence during the actual proposal and get it right the first time. \n\nThe [marriage proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal) is the first step in wedding planning, so before you begin making your guest list or inviting family members to the [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party), you’ll need to ask your future father-in-law. Whether you’re encountering the bride’s parents or groom’s parents, it’s best to be prepared. From seeking permission (should you?) to what to do during the [perfect proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-do-you-know-youve-found-the-one), remember these tips when you’re planning to pop the big question.\n\n## Is Asking Their Father Proper Proposal Etiquette? \nNo matter how nice they may seem, the mere thought of seeking your partner’s father's permission sends shudders through your spine. That’s totally understandable as you consider asking her father’s blessing. Questions surrounding parental consent are the first things that come to mind with proposal etiquette.\n\nTraditionally, you should seek permission from your partner’s parents before you ask for their hand in marriage. Nowadays, both parents are often consulted as a sign of respect. However, consider his or her relationship with their family. \n\nIf your partner is estranged from their family, is older, or has had multiple marriages, asking a woman’s father for her hand in marriage may not be necessary. If your girlfriend’s father passed, you could always ask her siblings or mom. Gauge your partner’s feelings about it and how asking—or not—would impact their family.\n\nIf asking for the parents’ blessing is a must, then roll with it. It’s a part of being a good daughter or son-in-law. Plan a coffee date, and get their blessing. Schedule a Zoom or phone call if you can’t ask in person. In some conservative countries, such as India and Greece, it’s necessary to receive the father’s permission. Yes, it can be nerve-wracking, but it’s worth it—especially if it’s what your partner wants. \n\n## Proposal Etiquette Before Popping the Question \n\n### Be sure you’ll get a yes\nSet yourself up for success, and know the answer before you propose. Long gone are the days of iffy asks by the guy whose carriage rolled through your town once a year. Most couples take the time to talk about their future together, which includes their thoughts on marriage. In short, take cues from your significant other to be sure that you should be asking.\n\n### Don’t steal the show\nPopping the question at a baby shower, anniversary party, or someone else’s wedding is taboo. Unless you’re ultra-close with the guest of honor and it’s their idea, just don’t. Wait until you can have the limelight solo, and grant others the opportunity to bask in theirs.\n\n### Have an engagement ring ready\nPopping the question __[involves a ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_frenchset_wedding_ring_14ktwhitegold)__. And there will probably—ok, definitely—be disappointment if there isn’t some bling to show off post-engagement. Unless you’re skydiving or scuba diving while you ask, it’s good proposal etiquette to have the perfect engagement ring for that special person.\n\n### Get their nails done \n\n![Proposal Etiquette: What You Need to Know Before Popping the Big Question](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7oYlnJn2ktiy04tekYopN/6dd714cbc602849a351a8809b9abce7e/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\nOk, ok. We admit that this isn’t a must when it comes to proposal etiquette. However, everyone is going to ask to see that precious bling. Therefore, your SO needs to have hands worthy of an __[engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_fivestone_wedding_ring_14ktwhitegold)__. Have friends invite your partner for a spa day or get a mani/pedi.\n\n### Plan a meaningful proposal\nYou don’t have to pull out all of the stops with all of the bells and whistles. However, plan to pop the question in a meaningful way. Doing so will seal the deal and create a special moment. Whether it’s a private proposal or you ask in front of a crowd, how you ask is truly important.\n\n## Etiquette While Proposing to Your Partner \n\n### Stick with tradition if it’s what they want\nGet down on one knee. Have __[the ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pair-wedding-band-with-engagement-ring)__ in a __[beautiful box](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lillianrose_glass_ring_holder_gold)__ and open it as you [pop the question](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal). If your partner loves traditional elements (see asking dad above), then go for it. It’s probably the only time you’ll get the chance to do all of those things in your life.\n\n### Know that it’s ok to cry during the proposal\n“I’m not crying. You’re crying!” Actually, the truth is that you both may be crying. Even if you have already committed your lives to each other, there’s just something emotional about a proposal. Male or female. Young or old. It’s ok to let that flood of feelings come through. We have tear ducts for a reason—don’t resist the urge to use them.\n\n### Give your partner time to process\nYour partner may not say yes right away, and it’s probably not because they don’t know the answer. It’s most likely because of the point above—they’re emotional. Floods of excitement, reality, and love are all flowing at once. Consequently, it may take them a few moments—or minutes—to verbalize their response.\n\n### Have alone time\nEven if you choose to orchestrate a public proposal, schedule time alone afterward to chat and enjoy the moment. You may want to laugh, cry, hug, and reminisce. Bask in the occasion and take time to savor it together. \n\n![Proposal Etiquette](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1oe2nEt0AmVZuinn40fCFb/5834f3f863bc70e6a5e8dad99edde399/inline_shutterstock__2_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## Post-Proposal Etiquette\n### Tell family and friends in a particular order\nWhen your parents aren’t aware, they better not hear it from their longtime neighbor instead of you. __[Tell those closest to you first](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement)__, such as parents and siblings, and work your way out from there. Move on to best friends and then coworkers and acquaintances. Once you’ve told everyone you feel needs to hear personally, go ahead and post it on social media.\n\n### Take care of the ring\nJewelry can get lost, stolen, or damaged, and a __[replacement can be costly](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__. Take the time to insure the ring, and also have it cleaned regularly. Many jewelry stores will do complimentary cleaning and inspection to keep diamonds sparkling and gems set in place. \n\n## Proposal Etiquette Around the World\nCertain cultures require the families of the couple meet before proposing. In others, it’s an offense not to ask the parents for permission. Before you commit a social faux pas, take a peek at some wedding traditions you may—or may not—want to incorporate when asking your future spouse.\n\n### Fiji\nNot only does the groom have to purchase a ring, but he also needs to find the tooth of a sperm whale. No sweat, right? Presenting this as he asks his permission from his partner’s father is a symbol of true love. \n\n### Japan\nCharming is the perfect word to describe this Japanese tradition. Each partner’s families meet and exchange gifts, such as fans, dried seaweed, and money. It’s an excellent way to build a relationship while honoring their culture.\n\n### Ireland\nMost of us have heard of Sadie Hawkins dances where the girls do the asking. However, in Ireland, it’s appropriate for females to propose once every four years. Leap Day—February 29—is traditional, although most couples nowadays do as they wish.\n\n### Africa\nThe vast number of tribes in Africa allow for a range of traditions. One of which involves the groom knocking on the door of the home of his significant other. If he’s granted entry, he presents gifts and asks the father for permission to marry.\n\nNo matter your heritage or cultural traditions, it’s important to honor the wishes of your partner. Both roles—proposing and being asked—are equally valuable, so know what’s essential for each of you to include. Give nods to your customs while celebrating and solidifying the love you both share. For that, there’s no instruction manual required. Just go with your hearts as you anticipate your engagement.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Follow these step-by-step instructions for how to plan an engagement party to achieve guaranteed hosting success. ","title":"The Ultimate Guide to Plan an Engagement Party","slug":"how-to-plan-an-engagement-party","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6gsqs04WfHnnZR5YSUGvch/ac4778019adadb17d985dc84e1ef3aff/Brand_Book_Yeti_03.jpg","altText":"Yeti cooler filled with bottles of sparkling rose wine and glasses filled with wine in the background"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? 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Let's Change That.","excerpt":"Zola encourages couples to consider the endless possibilities for their proposal and surveys 1200+ engaged couples to uncover all the ways they’re reinventing wedding traditions. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2022-03-04T20:55:21.727Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/lHAMOm5XL64LiEF7YfORj/b40f054593538467e8b52ae5380c24b0/IWD_Hero3_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Why Aren’t More Women Proposing to Men?"},"heroCredit":"Jeremy Bishop","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Modern couples are challenging all kinds of gender norms in their relationships, yet only 2% of straight women today propose to their partner.\n- The majority of women think their male partners would be opposed to the them proposing, but 93% of men would have said “Yes” if they were asked.\n- Most women with male partners never considered the posibility of proposing first, sharing that society and the media shaped their idea of the \"perfect proposal.\"\n- The majority of pre-engagement activities are completed togather, but ⅔ of women feel like they’re left waiting for their partner to make the engagement official.\n- Every year, more couples are reworking traditions to make their weddings feel more authentic.","body":"Weddings are events that are heavily steeped in traditions, ones that historically have been slow to evolve. But in recent years couples have made strides breaking away from customs that may feel outdated or out-of-touch in favor of ones that feel more authentic to them. Yet there are still barriers to be challenged when it comes to the gender norms surrounding proposals. \n\nDespite most modern couples mutually deciding to get married long before they get engaged, the overwhelming majority of straight women are still waiting for men to make it official. We’re not saying more women have to propose (traditional proposals will *always* be beautiful), but is there a reason why most women still feel like they can’t? \n\n__Zola is setting out to celebrate couples who embrace the endless possibilities with all aspects of their weddings__, and that includes reimagining what proposals should look like. __We surveyed 1,200+ recently engaged couples__ to find out what's holding them back from breaking this barrier.\n\n\n\n## Women are breaking all kinds of gender norms in their relationships, yet only 2% of women today propose to their male partners. \n\nThe act of women proposing to their SO isn't something new. Same-sex couples have long been paving the way for couples to recognize that there’s no right way, or right person, to propose. __Yet straight couples are slow to follow, with only 2% of straight women proposing to their partners.__ \n\nAnd it’s not like adhering to strict gender norms is a priority for these couples. In fact, 98% of all couples see their partner as their total equal, and __the overwhelming majority believe gender norms shouldn’t hold anyone back from things like:__\n\n- Equal pay\n- Career, education, and leadership opportunities\n- Dividing childcare and household responsibilities \n- Being with whoever they love \n- And, surprisingly, proposing to their partners \n\n85% of couples believe that gender roles shouldn't limit people from proposing, but the fact that they *still* do shows there’s something holding them back from challenging this tradition.\n\n## Most women think their partner would not be okay with them proposing, but 93% of men would have said “Yes” if they were proposed to. \n\nThe lack of women proposing in hetero relationships isn’t necessarily rooted in the idea that women can’t propose, or that they don’t want to; __¾ of women never even considered the possibility. When asked why, there was no one clear reason.__\n\n- 36% said men are “supposed to” propose \n- 23% said the idea just never even crossed their mind\n- 16% said they were worried about hurting their partner’s ego\n- 15% said there was no good reason \n- 14% said they needed confirmation from their partner\n- 12% said they do not know, or have not seen, any other examples of a woman proposing to their male partner\n \n\nWhen asked if they thought their partner would be ok with them proposing, more than half (58%) of women said “No.” But the men felt differently, almost all (93%) responding that they would have accepted. __The #1 thing holding women back from feeling like they can propose if they want to is that 67% felt pressure or that society-at-large / media / the wedding industry shaped their idea of the \"perfect proposal.\"__ \n\nThere have been very few examples of women proposing to men in the media period. When we think about examples from mainstream television shows or films, we often think about scenes where the woman does propose and it’s a joke, or where she almost proposes but in the end the male partner pops the question. No matter how beautiful the setting or how grand the gesture is, most expect proposals to end with the guy on one knee instead of vice versa.\n\n![Inline-WhitneyJustesen Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6xKvmixrKLlqt8EWs3mPXx/86336d57262a073fc032bd343d1ca435/Inline-WhitneyJustesen_Photography.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Whitney Justesen Photography\n\n## Couples are doing the majority of pre-engagement activities together, yet when it comes to actually getting engaged, ⅔ of women feel like they’re left waiting. \n\nDespite what most engagement photos and videos may lead you to think, the surprise of the proposal for women is mainly in *how* and *when* it happens rather than knowing whether it’ll happen at all. That's because leading up to that incredible moment, couples are already talking about and planning their futures together.\n\n__Before officially getting engaged:__\n\n- 94% aligned that they want to marry each other\n- 77% discussed when they want to get engaged\n- 63% talked about what their wedding would be like\n- 43% went ring shopping together\n\n__But in the end, ⅔ still felt like they were waiting for their partner to make it official – and ¼ shared that they waited a year or more.__ Others shared:\n\n- <1 month: 12%\n- 1-3 months: 23%\n- 3-6 months: 23%\n- 6-12 months: 21%\n\nThough half of those women (52%) felt excited during this time, feelings of anxiety, stress, and worry were among the top for less pleasant emotions. __So why the wait? Most women shared that they already knew their partners were planning to propose eventually.__ For some of those women, they knew the act of proposing was something their partner “always dreamed of doing.” \n\nOther women shared that they wanted to be proposed to, both to experience the “moment of him proposing to me,” as well as to have the reassurance that their partner was ready to make the decision. Those women that even contemplated the idea of proposing first opted to wait out of fear of “stealing his thunder!” Otherwise, some would have been “happy” to propose. \n\n## The overwhelming majority of women who did propose felt excited about proposing to their partner. \n\n__77% of couples have never seen a woman propose to their male partner.__ It’s easy to see why then the thought wouldn’t even cross most women’s minds. However, the verdict has shown that __most guys are into the idea of being proposed to, with 45% sharing that they’d feel touched/moved and very loved if their partner proposed,__ and 36% saying they’d be happy and excited about it. \n\nAnd for the 2% of women doing the proposing, they feel a whole host of emotions. __Leading up to the proposal, these women felt:__\n\n- Excited: 83%\n- Joyful: 58%\n- Empowered: 50%\n- Anxious / Nervous: 50%\n- Confident: 38%\n- Stressed: 21%\n\nAfter the proposal, they experienced a lot of the same feelings with one key shift: they felt even more joyful (92%). That goes to show that despite the majority of women never considering proposing, those that want to can create an incredibly touching moment for both parties. And it doesn't have to end there. Proposals, no matter who they’re coming from, evoke excitement all around. \n\n![Inline-Ava-Moore-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/UuimNtdT9EL007Aw5RDJd/92af627c2e57ce26a4dd01a8c1507546/Inline-Ava-Moore-Photography.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Ava Moore Photography\n\n__After getting proposed to:__\n\n- 7% of women proposed back to their partners\n- 46% percent of men proposed back to theirs\n\n## Every year, more couples are reworking more traditions to make their weddings feel more authentic. \n\nCouples today are no strangers to subverting societal expectations. Things like moving in together before marriage, women being equal or majority breadwinners, and forgoing traditional name changes are increasingly becoming more prevalent. \n\nMake no mistake, even if the majority of straight women are still waiting for their partners to propose (which we’re bound to see shift), __they’re breaking societal expectations and gender norms in other ways, including:__\n\n- 17% asked him out on a date first\n- 24% paid for or contributed toward the first date\n- 32% said “I love you” first\n\n__And leading up to their weddings:__\n\n- 15% are having mixed-gender wedding parties \n- 12% are having co-ed wedding showers\n- 9% are having joint bach parties\n- 9% are walking down the aisle together or alone \n- 7% are forgoing traditional gendered wedding attire\n\nProper communication of your desires and setting expectations for everything from household tasks to intimacy are among the top ways couples are reinventing their own roles in their relationships. __More and more, couples are throwing out the expectations of what a \"normal couple\" looks like in favor of what they know they want for themselves.__ For them, rather than equality in a relationship being “50/50”, they believe that relationships should be “100/100”. “You don't give half, you give your all to the one you love.\"","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"A man proposing to a woman might be the norm, but it doesn’t have to be. 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Make sure you’re prepared by following this wedding proposal checklist. 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Discover heartfelt ways to celebrate your love with minimal fuss.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T22:10:27.050Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hM1ElGqlQw3XBF60ba8o/b351b89a68f1d6f663f96b31abb34067/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"12 No-Fuss Proposal Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Creatrix Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Make the mundane things, such as working, going out to lunch, or running errands, __interesting with a surprise proposal__. \n- __Have a private engagement__ by rowing out to the middle of a lake or taking a sunset walk. \n- Don’t let others pressure you into having an elaborate engagement, and __do what speaks to you both__ to create the perfect proposal. ","body":"Simply being with your significant other speaks volumes to you. It doesn’t matter if you’re walking in the park hand in hand or grabbing a late-night milkshake—your proposal process can be as easy as you'd like it to be.\n\nPomp and circumstance have little place in your relationship. If this sounds like you—and it’s time to pop the question—don’t worry about doing something over the top. Just focus on your love and use one of our no-fuss marriage __[proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__.\n\n## Easy and Creative Proposal Ideas \n\n### 1. Include Your Outdoor Activities\nCouples who enjoy biking, hiking, horseback riding, or something more competitive like golf, beach volleyball, or another sport have ample opportunity to turn their beloved outdoor activity into a perfect proposal. In fact, proposing during any of these can end up making the activity all the more meaningful to you both (and if you __[plan on proposing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__ in the water, we recommend proposing with a __[silicone ring](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=silicone%20ring)__ and saving the __[precious metal one](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_diamond_milgrain_wedding_ring_18ktwhitegold)__ for when you’re on land).\n\n### 2. Head Out on a Hike\nInvite your loved one to join you on your favorite or most treasured trails for a romantic trek with a stunning backdrop, then wait for just the right moment on your journey to pop the question. Being alone with a view can make for a truly romantic atmosphere. A mountain, lake, or walk along the beach can easily suffice. Skip the professional photographer and set your phone up for a video pre-proposal. Tell your partner you're capturing the view, then capture the entire moment on camera!\n\n### 3. Make the Most of a Small Moment\nIf you’re the spontaneous type, keep the ring with you and wait for the right moment. How fun it would be to surprise your partner—and yourself!—when you decide to pop the question. Xiaoqi Li of __[Xiaoqi Li Photography](https://xiaoqili.com/)__ suggests, “Instead of a grand gesture, start the conversation during one of your favorite little moments you share daily or weekly.” Think shared morning coffee or breakfast, the ways you relax together after a long day (watching your favorite show? reading together?), or taking your beloved pet on a walk.\n\n### 4. Order in for the Night\nAt-home proposal ideas don’t need to be complex. Ordering pizza, Chinese, or just about any type of takeout food online can still serve as a creative proposal idea or romantic dinner—all in the comfort of your own home. When the food arrives, be sure you’re the one to answer the door, then securely slip the ring into the delivery box, onto a drinking straw, in with the fortune cookies, or into a bundle of cutlery. Let your significant other happen upon the bling and be ready to pop the question once he or she finds it. \n\nWant more inspiration for proposing at home? Check out our article for [29 more unique and romantic at home proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/at-home-proposal-ideas)!\n\n### 5. Watch a Movie With a Proposal Scene\nPlenty of proposal scenes throughout film history are endearing—some to the point of being emotional and moving. Embrace this living room proposal idea by __[hiding the ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_fivestone_diamond_wedding_ring_platinum)__ in a couch cushion or somewhere nearby and cueing up a movie like The Notebook, Pride and Prejudice, and more humorous options like The Wedding Singer\n\nAs the movie’s big moment gets closer, and when it does—pop the question. You can either use the words from the movie or wait until after the romantic scene has finished to ask, “Will you marry me?” For some shock or added humor, begin saying the proposal lines along with the film (seriously or humorously) before pulling out the engagement ring.\n\n### 6. Utilize Ribbon and Love Notes\n__[Unique and creative proposals](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ can often sound intimidating—especially if they bring forth thoughts of extensive ones from film and television. Don't fret. Oftentimes, all you need is a bit of thought and a few craft supplies. For example, all this __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal)__ requires is a long string of ribbon (or two, or three, depending on the size of your home) and some handwritten notes.\n\nSimply secure one end of a pretty ribbon at one end of your home—be it by tape, pin, or tying it off—and the other end on the opposite side. You can choose to get creative with the path, leading your partner in various directions, but don't have to. Then attach handwritten love notes along the ribbon with tape or a stapler. These notes can be a written out timeline of milestones in your relationship, different things you love about your partner, or some of your favorite memories together.\n\nAt the end of the ribbon, be there waiting with the ring box in hand. Share a few more heartfelt words with your partner, then pop the big question! Not only is this a thoughtful and surprising proposal, but it can also play off of the East Asian belief of The Red Thread of Fate—also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage. Or, if you're more familiar, Taylor Swift's \"Invisible String\" idea. Bonus points for playing the song.\n\n### 7. Fill a Room With Photographs\nPlenty of proposals include a verbal look back on your relationship history. Talking about your love story can be lovely and especially powerful during such an emotional moment. Play on that idea by incorporating special photographs from all throughout your relationship into your proposal plan.\n\nA few weeks before you plan to ask your partner to marry you, start collecting photos that have been taken from the time you started dating. Remember to look through your phone, social media accounts (including Instagram and Facebook), and computer. Once you start collecting, we suggest saving them into one folder.\n\nThen, simply have the photos printed. If you have a photo printer, you can do this right at home. If you don't mind the photos being printed on regular paper, you can also do this on a normal printer. And, of course, you can choose to have them printed at a local store. In any case, when you have all of the physical photos, place them all around the room you'll proposal in, like a relationship montage. They can be taped to the walls, framed, or displayed in any way you like. Lead your SO into the room, reveal the surprise, and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 8. Pop the Question at Your Favorite Spot\nIt's likely that by now you and your significant other have a few favorite spots you like to frequent. Or, perhaps there's a place you both love to go together that you don't get to go to very often. In either case, having your proposal at one of these places can be extremely special.\n\nThink about your most favorite restaurant, cafes, cocktail bars, movie theaters, and the like. Is there one that really stands out to you as both of your favorite spot to go together? If so, start making plans to go! If not, casually ask your partner if there's a place you both love that they'd like to go to again soon. Make it seem like a normal date idea.\n\nOnce you arrive at the spot, try to make the experience special—without giving anything away, of course. Because you've both been here before and enjoy the place, you can relax and focus on enjoying yourselves before proposing. When the timing seems right, bring out the ring box and propose.\n\n### 9. Pop the Question While Camping\nYes, __[camping](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=camping)__ can be a romantic proposal idea. It may seem a bit specific, but it can be as low-key as you can get. Send your SO out to grab firewood. When he or she gets back, be __[down on one knee](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/which-knee-should-you-propose-on)__, ready to pop the question. Just hope that he or she doesn’t take too much time finding kindling.\n\n### 10. Incorporate the Family\nChildren are adorable, and if you have any, they would love being involved. Have them make cute “Will you marry me?” signs, and designate one child as the __[smartphone photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos)__. Laughter and giggles will ensue, which is one reason that proposal ideas with kids are such a huge success.\n\n### 11. Steal a Moment Out in the Country\nIf you adore farm life or have access to a tractor or ATV, ask your partner to take a ride on a lovely day. While you’re out exploring, stop and pop the question. Other country proposal ideas include asking while you’re picnicking in a field or while relaxing after a long day of chores.\n\n### 12. Take a Sunset Walk on the Beach\n__[Vacations](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/raffles_100_gift_card)__ can be a perfect time to ask, “Will you marry me?” Beach proposal ideas are relatively plentiful. However, for the low maintenance couple, take a walk by the ocean at sunset. Doing so can be one of the most romantic ways to secure that “Yes!”\n\n### 13. Take Advantage of a Holiday\nIf your partner loves any particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's bending down on one knee in the middle of a Christmas tree farm, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 14. Plan a Game Night\nFor the couple that has a blast playing board games together, craft your at-home proposal into a game night. You can do this just between the two of you or invite your closest friends and family over to join in on the fun. Not sure how to work a proposal into a game? We think Scrabble is an easy and exciting way to go about it. If you have people over, suggest you all play the game. Then, have someone distract your SO while you spell out \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Finally, bring them back to the game table for the special moment.\n\n### 15. Set Up a Picnic\nPicnics with your partner are inherently romantic. Putting effort into an outdoor snack or meal together, especially with the right view, is sure to strike the right mood. You can go simple with a blanket and picnic basket of food or include some extra flourishes, like candles, champagne, fresh flowers, and chocolate covered strawberries.\n\n### 16. Say it With Music\nIf you're musically talented, an endearing proposal is likely right at your fingertips. Write or compose a special song that reflects on your relationship, talks about your hopes for the future, or dotes on your partner. Then, once you've played it, finish it off with your proposal. You can even write your proposal into the song, if you prefer.\n\n### 17. Involve Your Partner's Favorite Things\nIf your partner has a lot of love for any particular thing—a book, a film, a type of art, a place—do your best to incorporate it (or them) into your proposal. This can make asking them to marry you especially fun and special, since you're including something you know they care about. Some quick ideas include placing the engagement ring in their favorite book, recreating their favorite movie scene, and planning to make some art together and working in the big question.\n\n### 18. Have Your Pet Ask For You\nThere are a handful of adorable ideas when it comes to involving your pet in your proposal. For collared pets, consider getting a new tag that has \"Will you marry me\"? engraved in it. Similarly, you can purchase a bandana with the same phrase and tie it around your fury friend's neck. Some pets may be a bit more difficult to work around (birds, reptiles, fish), but with some creativity, any house animal can get it on the big moment.\n\n### 19. Have a Photo Shoot\nIf you're into photography, plan an outdoor or at-home photo shoot between you and your SO. This can start off with you taking photos of just them, or all along be self-timed shots of the two of you together. Just be sure you have the camera on both of you and ready to shoot when you surprisingly propose.\n\n### 20. Surprise Your Them With Fresh Flowers\nIt's one thing to surprise your significant other with some gorgeous flowers, but it's another entirely to turn that into a proposal. Get a hold of a beautiful bouquet either at a local grocery store or florist, or get them delivered right to your door. Then place the ring box or engagement ring among the blooms and (carefully!) gift them to your partner. Once they notice, start your proposal speech or pop the question.\n\n## First Comes Love, Then Comes Zola!\nRelationships take time and effort, yet there is no reason to stress out over the marriage ask. You and your partner know how to show love to each other. If that means a low-maintenance proposal, then so be it! No matter what you decide to do, the start of your life together will reflect you perfectly. In short, don’t be afraid to keep it simple. Some of the best proposal ideas are the simplest. So long as you've got yourself, your partner, and some heartfelt words, you've got everything you need. And when you need some help planning your wedding, Zola's got all the advice and tools you'll need, right here.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? 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","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T18:32:15.371Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58Was5Fgz8kxScfS0XaaCE/0069bf3d28ceb04517d39c06a9c172fc/Hero_EtherealCoastalRomanceStyledShoot_ArleneJacobsPhotography.jpg","altText":"Propose Without a Ring"},"heroCredit":"Arlene Jacobs Photography","body":"Engagement rings — some people love them, some people hate them, but not every couple expects them. You can propose without a ring. Getting engaged is about deciding that you and your partner (AKA your soon-to-be fiance!) want to spend the rest of your lives together. That decision does not need to come with a piece of jewelry in a ring box—or anything else, for that matter. Any proposal that ends in a decision to get married is great. \n\nNonetheless, the [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings) has become the symbolic object of impending marriages everywhere. So what should you do if you’re planning to propose, but don’t want an engagement ring to be part of the moment—whether because you want a [low maintenance proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple), you want to propose with another piece of jewelry, or rings simply aren’t your partners style? The Zola team is here to walk you through the process. \n\n### Make Sure You’re Both on the Same Page\n\nEngagement rings are a big social signifier of being engaged, and some people don’t feel properly engaged unless they have a ring to show for it. You want to make sure your partner is on board with the idea of a marriage proposal without a wedding ring. You don’t want the absence of the ring to be the focus of your proposal. Even if the two of you generally forgo conventional [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions), people can be surprisingly attached to engagement rings. Before you plan your proposal, check-in with your partner to gauge their general feelings about rings. \n\nIf you’re more concerned that you won’t buy the right ring, then read on for suggestions on proposing before making your purchase. \n\n### Propose Now, Buy the Ring Later\n\nBuying an engagement ring is a big deal. Engagement rings are expensive, wildly different from one another, and something that your partner might wear for his or her entire life. A lot of people are hesitant to jump into such a big decision without the direct input of their partner. \n\nIf you’re planning to propose now and buy the ring later, you have a few options. You can propose with a heartfelt gift instead of a ring, such as a photo album with pictures that span your relationship or a particularly meaningful poem. If you propose without a ring—but want to show your partner that a ring is on the way—you can buy a temporary ring that’s a placeholder, such as a large candy rock ring or a paper mache ring. Or, you can make a certificate good for one ring-shopping experience together, and present this along with your proposal. \n\nThe idea is to convey that the ring will be part of your engagement period, but not part of your marriage proposal. \n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57BcxK1mE95lk4Lm73u7s6/2b0a8dfb2ff3b27e0dc68b7d9d44a2ee/Inline_Pixabay.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### The Decision to Ditch the Ring Entirely \n\nIncreasingly, many couples are foregoing engagement rings entirely. Some feel the tradition is antiquated, overly gendered, or simply an unneeded expense. When both partners agree, the decision to go without a ring is an easy one. \n\nThe more difficult part of this decision can be dealing with the negative feedback of family and friends. We’ve all heard the routine: When a woman gets engaged to be married, she’s often asked to show off her ring. (This is way less of an issue with men, who often don’t wear engagement rings.) Social media photos of engagement announcements often feature at least one, if not multiple, close-ups of the ringed finger. \n\nIf you decide to propose without a ring, you might want to prepare for the people in your life who will be upset by this decision. Not because you need to pander to them, but because you want to get ahead of those critiques. Plan out your one sentence, the calm and collected explanation that says that you don’t need a diamond ring to decide to get married, and move on. \n\n### Alternatives to Engagement Rings\n\nFor many people, the engagement ring is about the symbolism of the investment. The ring, for all its expense, implies permanence. In other words, the person is putting down some serious investment in the person by investing so seriously in a diamond ring. \n\nLots of other gifts can achieve these same goals when planning out a romantic proposal, though. When considering alternatives to the engagement ring, you want to consider gifts that come with some symbolic backstory and demonstrate a significant amount of investment, either emotional or financial. The goal is to convey that you are “all in” on this proposal and willing to back that up with some thought and personal investment. \n\n### 1. Buy a Watch \nIn recent years, it’s become more commonplace for women to propose to men to present them with a watch. This can be a beautiful way for a couple to take charge of the too-often gendered reality of proposals and guide the process themselves. Make sure the watch matches the style of your partner. \n\n### 2. Book a Vacation\nIn place of a ring, present your loved one with a planned vacation to a spot you both want to visit. The trip can be a way to spend time together and celebrate your decision to get married. This trip should be a truly exciting and adventurous proposal. \n\n### 3. Take An Adventure\nHas there been an adventure you and your partner have been wanting to experience together—like skydiving, rock climbing, or whitewater rafting? If so, plan an excursion for the two of you—and then cap off the adrenaline-filled day with a proposal they’re sure to remember for the rest of their life!\n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2BgqWB13HjPfxm0Y4EIkq1/cbd507a23bc64d94983561403ae90de6/Inline_Pixabay__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 4. Shop for Jewelry\nWho says you need a ring? If you want a gift that will last forever, but your partner isn’t interested in a ring, try another type of jewelry. Diamond earrings, pendant necklaces, or anything that you know your partner will love and adore can be a really beautiful gift for a proposal.\n\n### 5. Offer a Family Heirloom\nIf you want to give your significant other jewelry to signify your engagement, it doesn’t need to come from the jewelry store. An heirloom from your family (like your mothers’s necklace or a bracelet your grandfather gifted your grandmother when they got engaged) is a meaningful symbol of love—and a great way to propose.\n\n### 6. Plan The Perfect Surprise Proposal\nNot all engagement gifts need to be physical items. If your partner is the kind of person that watches proposal videos on YouTube, planning an over-the-top surprise proposal (like a flash mob!) is the perfect way to begin the rest of your lives together. \n\n### 7. Buy a House\nThis is a rather dramatic option, but for the right couple, a stunning gesture can be to present your loved one with the home you want to live in, with them, forever.\n\n### 8. Go Romantic\nLet’s just say again that no proposal needs a big, expensive gift. Sometimes the best proposal is one that comes straight from the heart. A romantic gift, which might be anything from tracking down some beloved childhood toy to putting together a recipe book of her favorite family dishes, can be the absolute right choice. The point is to show that you care and that you’re putting your love on full display. Think of a gift that will make your partner feel overwhelmed with love, and you’ll be on the right track.\n\n### 9. Write It In The Sky\nIf you want to propose in a way your partner will never forget, using a skywriting service to write your proposal in the sky is a fun, memorable way to ask for their hand in marriage.\n\n### 10. Create Something From Scratch\nYou don’t have to buy something to propose. If you’re the crafty type, building or creating something handmade (for example, building a table or creating a painting) can be a personal way to commemorate such a special day. \n\n## Tips to Propose Without A Ring\nNeed some more tips popping the question—but without the bling? Here are some things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Be clear__. When someone sees an engagement ring, it’s clear what’s happening—and, as such [what you say during your proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple) isn’t as critical; they’ll get the idea. But if you’re going to propose without a ring, it’s super important that you’re clear—and make sure to distinctly ask “will you marry me?” Otherwise, your partner might not know you’re proposing!\n\n- __Set the mood__. Ring or no ring, you want your proposal to be special—so make sure to set the mood and create a memorable backdrop for your engagement (for example, by choosing the perfect song, filling the space with flowers, or lighting candles). \n\n- __Consider involving friends and family__. If you really want your proposal to be a celebration, consider inviting friends and family to witness the big moment and/or celebrate with you immediately afterwards. Who needs an engagement ring when you’re surrounded by the people you love most?\n\nEven if your proposal idea doesn’t include a diamond ring to match, that doesn't mean you have to wait until you have one. Sometimes people don't want fancy jewelry. No matter how you choose to propose, just be sure that both individuals are on the same page.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Planning a wedding proposal is no joke. Make sure you’re prepared by following this wedding proposal checklist. ","title":"Wedding Proposal Checklist","slug":"wedding-proposal-checklist","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yu05UOJ3vPezTnlJkOJFR/0a404fe21dbe265fcda15418ce693871/Hero_ClassicKeyWestOceanfrontAffair_LivingWaterImages.jpg","altText":"Wedding Proposal Checklist"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. 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Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T17:03:43.838Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7c3zU7NCSq4IdpOmArMWZM/a37b0e47c1323e761830de9dc0b9e0a3/Hero_IntimateMountaintopElopementStyledShoot_RaynaMcginnisPhotography.jpg","altText":"Guide to Proposing to a Man"},"heroCredit":"Rayna Mcginnis Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- If *you* want to be the one to pop the question, know you're not alone! 2% of women today propose to their male partners, a trend that's bound to grow as more couples challenge gender norms.\n- You don’t need a ring to propose to your man. You can present a card, a watch, a gift, or nothing at all. \n- If you decide to kneel when you propose, make sure your outfit allows for the task. \n- Have a strategy for when—and how—to announce the engagement to family and friends. \n","body":"We all know how popular culture portrays the classic marriage proposal: the man on one knee, the proffered ring box, the woman overcome with emotion. It’s an image that needs no explanation. Even in a modern world, the kneeling man with a perfect ring remains the visual reference point for a wedding proposal. \n\nAccording to a [recent Zola survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men), __only 2% of women today propose to their male partners.__ The #1 thing holding most women back from feeling like they can propose is the idea of the \"perfect proposal\" that society-at-large, the media, and the wedding industry has shaped for them. \n\nBut the truth is that there's no right way, or right person, to propose. __Zola is setting out to celebrate couples who embrace the endless possibilities with all aspects of their weddings, and that includes reimagining what proposals should look like.__ The water can still be tricky to navigate, as there’s a real lack of guidance on the subject. Luckily, the Zola team is here to help with the woman’s guide to proposing to a man. \n\n\n\n## Deciding to Propose \n\nThe best time to propose is after you and your partner know that you want to get married. For many couples, the formal proposal is the last step in a much longer series of conversations about marriage. You don’t want your moment of proposal to be the first time you and your partner have ever discussed marriage. While the proposal itself might be a surprise—the day, the time, the method of asking—the question itself shouldn’t shock your partner, especially if you have friends or family present for the big moment.\n\n- __If you’ve never discussed marriage, first open up the conversation.__ How do each of you envision the next step of your relationship? If you sense your partner is reluctant to commit, do not propose as a way to force their hand.\n- __There is also the big question of when you hope to plan your wedding.__ Some couples don’t like to have an extended engagement, and so one partner might propose only when they’ve decided on an ideal wedding date.\n-__You should also consider work schedules and other big family announcements.__ Proposing right before a two-week work trip or having your engagement announcement conflict with his sister’s wedding is not ideal.\n\nOf course, some couples get engaged during an informal, spontaneous conversation in which one partner asks the other to marry them. This organic moment can be very intimate and beautiful. Some couples might choose to follow up with a more elaborate proposal idea, and some will consider the question asked and answered.\n\nFor a woman, deciding to be the one who proposes can also mean making waves in traditional marriage protocol. This might matter to some brides, and it might be no big deal to others. But the proposal remains one of the few gendered marriage rituals, even among otherwise egalitarian social groups. You might be surprised by the reaction of family and friends to your decision to ask the big question. \n\nIf you haven’t discussed it at all with your partner, you might be surprised by his reaction, too. [Zola's recent survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men) revealed that __though more than half (58%) of women believe that their male partner would not be okay with them proposing, but most men (93%) would have said \"Yes\" if they were poposed to.__ Though we hope this is reassuring, checking in with your partner first is one of the most important things in [how to plan a proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question). For all you know, he was planning an elaborate proposal of his own. If your partner is a pretty traditional guy, check in with him about his general feelings around proposals. Proposals should be delightful surprises, not come with unexpected reactions. \n\n![How to Propose to a Man | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5teyNUVOJguI4VGtDpRyQL/bb2eb87835ca683b6f56654e4d74ed66/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### What to Do About the Ring \n\nThe proposal is about asking someone to marry you, and finding out if the answer is yes—that’s it. There certainly doesn’t need to be a [ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/womens-wedding-rings) involved to make that happen. As such, many women decide to propose and then discuss the question of buying rings separately from the decision to get married. \n\nIn recent years, an alternative tradition has emerged for women to buy the man a watch when they propose, symbolizing the time they will spend together. If you go this route, then make sure to pay close attention to your partner’s style and taste in watches. This should be a substantial purchase that he will wear for years to come, and you want to make sure he likes it. You could even go watch shopping together.\n\nSome women want to have something on hand for the moment they propose, but a ring or a watch doesn’t quite fit their vision. You can get creative with your proposal idea. Maybe present him with a heartfelt card about why you want to get married or a gift that will be particularly meaningful to him. This might be something of sentimental value, tickets to his absolute favorite band, or plans for a once-in-a-lifetime trip together. Again, the most important thing is to mark the moment as meaningful for you as a couple.\n\nIf you do want a ring to be a part of the proposal, you have a few options. You can give him a wedding band that he can choose to wear after the wedding, you can present him a ring that he will choose to wear as an engagement ring, or you can buy him a ring he might wear on his right hand until the wedding.\n\n### To Kneel or Not to Kneel \n\nThe tradition of kneeling in order to ask someone to marry you is very old. In many traditional contexts, kneeling is a sign of respect that demonstrates loyalty and allegiance. Knights, for example, knelt before their king and queen, and in many religions the faithful will kneel in front of an altar, respected clergy, or sacred image as a way to pay homage and respect. Similarly, the man knelt before the woman to symbolize the honor it was to ask for her hand.\n\nFor a lot of people, the gesture of kneeling feels symbolic and meaningful for a wedding proposal. Women who want to kneel when they ask the question should definitely do so. If you have a gift to offer, make sure it’s in easy reach before you go down on that one knee. If you’re not offering a gift, then kneel down and take your partner’s hand when you ask the question, or keep your hands on your knee.\n\nYou should also be dressed for the occasion. Don’t wear a tight pencil skirt or high stilettos, as it will make the kneeling position more difficult. You want some stretch in your clothes. You should also be mindful of short, flowy skirts that might blow in the wind or prove too revealing in the position. Some people find trousers the easiest option. Whatever you wear, practice kneeling in your outfit beforehand, so you’re not caught off guard during the moment.\n\nFor women who don’t want to kneel, but want to physically mark the moment, there are gestures of intimacy you can adopt. You can take your partner’s hands and look into his eyes as you ask him to marry you, for example. \n\n![A Woman’s Guide to Proposing to a Man](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bx7x4OgpR86pHSmiaCidz/c465dae3d736b459f6f4f298dd9dd243/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Proposal Tips\nAs with any proposal, those planning to propose to their man could benefit from a few quick tips. Before diving head-first into things, read the following. Keep them top-of-mind as you plan what's sure to be a day (or evening, or night) to remember.\n\n- __Be completely sure you're ready.__ Check in with yourself and make sure you aren't feeling any sort of uncertainty. Know that you're proposing, because you and your partner are ready to make things official and step into married life together.\n- __Consider your partner's feelings.__ Equally as important is where your partner is at with your relationship. Before proposing, have a conversation and make sure you're on the same page. At this point, it shouldn't be about if, but when.\n- __Tailor your proposal to your partner.__ Remember: You aren't planning your dream proposal, but his (or the both of yours, if your tastes here align). Shape your proposal to your SO's personality and/or passions.\n- __Be sensitive to several reactions.__ Gender roles typically have a man proposing to his partner. If you haven't floated the idea of you proposing to them, be prepared for an sensitive to a variety of reactions. There's a chance he may be disappointed he didn't get to ask you first. In that case, suggest that he ask you in return at another time of his choosing. Having asked each other is a lovely thought and will make for wonderful proposal stories.\n- __Prepare.__ You know the saying, *failing to prepare*... Well, the same can be said for any and all proposals. Have a backup plan or two in mind in case the weather shifts, you can't make it to your planned location, people can't show, or any other array of things goes wrong. In any case, always roll with the punches and remember what matters: That you're asking your partner to spend the rest of your lives together. Your partner won't know your new plan from the actual proposal plan.\n\n## Special Proposal Ideas\nEquipped with your newfound information, it's time to brainstorm some proposal plans. At the heart of things, your proposal should be genuine and heartfelt. That being said, a few [fun and creative ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) never hurt. Read on for some of our favorite ideas.\n\n### 1. A Beach or Hike Proposal. \n\nFor the couple that loves to be outdoors together, plan a proposal that takes place on the beach or at the end of your beau's favorite hike. A major pro, here, is that you can have family members and best friends waiting nearby to surprise your SO post-proposal. This proposal is also fairly easy to put together, depending on any extra details you might include, and can be very cost-efficient.\n### 2. Involve your pets. \n\nIf you and/or your SO have a beloved pet, get them involved in asking the big question. For example, purchase (or make) a bandana that says, \"Will you marry me?\" and tie it around your pet's neck while out on a walk. This surprise proposal makes for a lovely moment you're both sure to remember for the rest of your lives.\n\n### 3. A Holiday Proposal. \n\nAnother proposal idea for those who want loved ones nearby is to pop the question during a favored holiday. Plan a special moment in advance (e.g. Christmas tree shopping, the countdown during New Year's Eve) or keep the ring on you and let spontaneity decide. Either approach is sure to get a sentimental SO's \"I do.\"\n\n## Announcing the Engagement \n\nWomen and men will often announce their engagement in gendered language, for example proclaiming “she said yes!” or “I said yes!” to share the good news. Similarly, social media is full of engagement pictures that are nothing but a woman’s hand with a perfect ring, announcing the engagement without any words.\n\nFor women who propose to their partners, it can be tricky to find the right language. Some couples want to celebrate the fact that the woman popped the question. This can be a great way to flip any stereotypes on their head and normalize women proposing to men. You can take some fun pictures captioned “he said yes!” or “I can’t believe I convinced this guy to marry me” to share with family and friends. This is a time to have fun.\n\nOther couples may opt to put the focus on the upcoming marriage and not the proposal. Social media captions such as “we’re getting married!” is a more forward-focused way to let people know about the engagement.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? Arrange the perfect proposal for your partner with these creative ideas. From romantic to adventurous, there's one for you!","title":"50 Unique Marriage Proposal Ideas [+ Printables]","slug":"proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6dR1PxiYWKzfOfBhHANhYv/cd70212d7dfbc320706b4488eed2dd13/proposal-ideas-2.jpg","altText":"proposal idea hero image of person holding engagement ring box"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. Discover heartfelt ways to celebrate your love with minimal fuss.","title":"25 Simple Proposal Ideas for the Low Maintenance Couple ","slug":"12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hM1ElGqlQw3XBF60ba8o/b351b89a68f1d6f663f96b31abb34067/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"12 No-Fuss Proposal Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Getting married is exciting, and using a tried-and-true method to propose can be meaningful. Our classic marriage proposal ideas can help. Check out our latest blog to discover classic marriage proposal ideas from the experts at Zola.","title":"20 Classic Wedding Proposal Ideas Your Partner Will Love","slug":"classic-marriage-proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4A5fLUA9nH9HyoW3fj87MC/d9b39d206399496f3dbca1e584533315/Hero_CopperRaptureStyledShoot_B.JonesPhotography.jpg","altText":"Classic Marriage Proposal Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Looking to pull off the perfect surprise proposal? Check out our latest article for all our top tips and tricks.","title":"28 Best Surprise Proposal Ideas + Tips to Make It Memorable","slug":"how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZSvx7fS927GXT72ZS6XYW/3278ca8712f9f8e9edeac2ca35019fa1/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography.jpg","altText":"Surprise Proposal"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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Check out our latest article for all our top tips and tricks.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T21:35:40.650Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZSvx7fS927GXT72ZS6XYW/3278ca8712f9f8e9edeac2ca35019fa1/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography.jpg","altText":"Surprise Proposal"},"heroCredit":"Creatrix Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Surprise proposals can be exciting, but be sure that it’s the right type of proposal for your partner. \n- Be careful who you tell, and don’t leave clues, such as the ring or receipt, where your SO can find them. \n- Do things to distract your partner, such as using a different credit card and throwing them off the proposal trail.\n","body":"Life affords many surprises. While there’s the wrong kind—cracking your iPhone screen or a flat tire—many unexpected circumstances are oh-so-right. Popping the question is one of those, but coming up with romantic ways to keep your big moment a secret can be difficult.\n\nIf you’re trying to pull off a __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__, there are creative ways to fly under the radar. Below, our experts share a number of __[best wedding proposal ideas/best proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__ on how to inspire the perfect proposal story, so you'll have no issues in planning that special moment without your partner knowing, helping you continue to shape your love story—and the rest of your life together. Let’s look at some unique marriage proposal ideas/unique proposal ideas.\n\n## How to Pull Off the Best Surprise Proposals \n\n### 1. Be careful who you tell about your epic proposal\nYour __[friends and family](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)__ could have the best intentions, but some have loose lips. Others get so nervous about keeping a secret that they act awkwardly and arouse suspicion. If you need to rely on others to pull off your surprise proposal, use caution. Remind them that it’s essential to keep their eye on the prize and not let one word—or glance—slip. \n\n### 2. Ensure that your marriage proposal is well planned.\nChances are your SO will be clued in if you’re acting nervous or distracted. Don’t leave the planning of your __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/classic-marriage-proposal-ideas)__ to the last minute. Have everything in place, such as a beautiful setup and a proposal photographer. If others are involved, be sure that they are clear on their role and know exactly what to do when. A well-organized plan will help you relax and act naturally until it’s time to pop the question. \n\n### 3. Guard your devices before you pop the question.\nThe last thing you want your partner to do is to read a stray text that pops in. Put conversations with everyone involved on mute. Turn off notifications if you have to do so. Your faraway mom may send you a “good luck popping the question” text. Yikes! How do you explain that to your partner? It’s best to keep track of your smartphone, but don’t let that spark suspicion, either. Just make sure there are no accidental slips, so it can remain a total surprise.\n\n### 4. Distract them to throw them off the trail. \nIf you’re afraid that they’ll sense something is coming, throw them off course. Have your SO anticipate a marriage proposal at a different time or location than you planned. When they assume that you’ll be popping the question next month, imagine their shock when you propose this week. Distraction can be one of the best ways to divert their attention from what’s going on. \n\n### 5. Hide the engagement ring and anything that has to do with it.\nIn the words of __[Antoine Dodson](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzNhaLUT520&list=FLBk90eKSRwxjUUZMbUkmVag&index=20)__, “Hide yo ring, hide yo box, hide yo bag.” Oh, wait—that’s not what he said? Well, it’s what he would have said if someone was asking him about the best surprise proposal ideas. That said, don’t leave anything—__[ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring)__, box, receipt, and for heaven’s sake, the jewelry store bag—where your partner can find it.\n\n### 6. Stick to the routine.\nUnless you’re an ultra-spontaneous couple, changing plans can be a big red flag. Your partner may already know a __[ring is coming](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_fivestone_wedding_ring_14ktwhitegold)__, and senses can heighten at anything out of the norm. When planning surprise wedding proposals, it’s best to develop a plan that includes your everyday routine. Ask while at your favorite restaurant on a Tuesday night. Pop the question at your favorite team’s next home game. Keep it simple and undetectable. \n\n### 7. Don’t use a joint credit card or account to purchase the ring.\nWhen your charge card bill is double what it typically is, your SO will be looking at line items. Another big surprise-spoiler is a __[high-dollar charge](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__—or possibly any charge—from XYZ jewelry store. Do your best to pay cash, use store credit, or get a new card to pay.\n\nReady for some covert operations? No matter what attempts you make, your partner may be alerted if they’re naturally suspicious or a super sleuth. If they figure it out, change course and start with a new plot. No matter the method, doing your best to plan the ultimate surprise proposal will __[pay off in the long run](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement)__.\n\n## Pros and Cons\n### Pros\n- __Fond memories.__ When many people look back at getting engaged, the surprise is what's greatly admired and remembered.\n\n- __Creativity and dedication.__ Your partner may deeply appreciate the creativity, time, and work put into a special surprise proposal.\n\n- __Tradition.__ Many significant others consider the surprise aspect of a proposal necessary and, thus, __[part of the whole tradition](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__.\n\n### Cons\n- __Uncertainty.__ If you're uncertain whether or not your partner is ready to get engaged, don't spring a surprise proposal—especially not in front of other people.\n\n- __Keeping the secret.__ Proposal planning can be difficult to pull off in secret. If you're worried you'll give it away or that any suspicious behavior will come off badly, skip the secrecy.\n\n- __Not into surprises.__ Surprise engagements don't excite everybody. If your partner isn't typically a fan of surprises (or you aren't a fan of pulling them), don't try to force it.\n\n## 21 Surprise Proposal Ideas\n\n![How to Pull Off a Surprise Proposal | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5mvq6UvIYPZo3H3Nc7gtjl/10c5acb04946d100d45dc10b4bee2bbf/Inline_Pixabay__2_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 1. Recreate a movie scene\nIf you and your partner are big film fans—or fans of one film, in particular—base your surprise proposal on a certain scene. This will be easier if the scene itself is a proposal (à la Pride and Prejudice, Love Actually, and Crazy Rich Asians), but don't be discouraged if it isn't. Even Star Wars and Lord of the Rings moments can have a proposal built into them. You can take this as far as you'd like, with a special setting, costumes, or the movie playing in the background. Surprise your SO with the set up and performance, followed by asking them to marry you.\n\n### 2. Take advantage of a holiday\nIf your partner loves a particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's doing a Christmas proposal in the middle of gift-giving, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt that ends with a ring, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 3. Recreate your first date\nIf your first date was memorable or extra special, consider recreating it. Café, restaurant, park, or otherwise, plan a day or night out at your first date spot, ring in tow. Once there, settle in and have a good time. When you're ready to propose, start reminiscing about your first date. Not only what happened, but how you felt about your partner. Then, when you feel the time is right, bring out the ring and propose.\n\n### 4. Hold a game night\nFor the couple that loves a night in with loved ones, prepare for the perfect surprise. Invite close family and best friends over for a game night, in which you've crafted your proposal into one of the games. Not sure how to do this? We think Scrabble is an easy way to go. Ask someone to distract your partner in another room as you pull the game out and place \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Then, bring them back in to play. When they notice the big question, get down on one knee and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 5. Have a photo shoot\nIf you're a frequent photographer, consider planning a photoshoot. You can ask to take photos of your significant other or suggest a couple's shoot. The latter works especially well if a holiday is coming up, like Valentine's Day or Christmas. Start snapping away, then, at the end of the shoot, get in front of the camera, get down on one knee, and propose! Just make sure you're getting photos as it happens. Bonus: You'll immediately have engagement photos you can share with family and across social media.\n\n### 6. Gift them flowers\nSurprise proposals don't need to be big productions, nor do they need to be very public. For the __[low-key couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__, consider slipping the engagement ring or ring box into a bouquet of flowers. Bring a bouquet home from a local grocery store or florists (or have the flowers delivered), carefully place the ring amidst the blooms, and give them to your partner. They'll be in for not one, but two sweet and intimate surprises.\n\n### 7. Take a walk along the beach\nWhether you're on vacation or live near the coast, a beach proposal is extremely romantic. What's more, it's very easy to pull off. Slip the ring box in your pocket and take a walk along the shoreline with your partner, perhaps during sunrise or sunset. When the time feels right, surprise your SO by getting down on one knee. You can also have friends and family standing by, waiting to jump out and celebrate.\n\n### 8. Plan a boat ride\nIf you live near the water and have access to a boat (don't forget rentals!), plan a day or evening out at sea. Gather friends or family to join you for extra fun—and to not tip your partner off to the surprise. Then, when the sun is setting or you feel the time is right, propose to your partner. Tell a friend or family member when you're just about to do it so they can get the whole gorgeous scene on video from nearby.\n\n### 9. Take a special trip\nNot everyone can jet off at a moment's notice, but you can plan a special trip ahead of time. Jet-setting to a different country, taking a road trip to a nearby destination, and everything in-between can work wonderfully for a surprise proposal. Even stay-cations can be very romantic. Wherever you end up, once you've settled, pick a beautiful location and ask your partner the big question. You'll both love the ability to celebrate after, be it by relaxing or adventuring.\n\n### 10. Host an engagement party\nNothing says \"surprise\" like a party. Plan your proposal at a location where you can also host an engagement party afterwards. Consider restaurants, nice bars, hotels, and even your home. You don't have to go all out with your budget, but can definitely splurge on a big celebration if you want to. Simply plan a \"date night\" with your partner, get them to dress for the occasion, and bring them to the spot. Once there, surprise them with a romantic proposal and the arrival of your loved ones.\n\nSurprise proposals can be tough to pull off. Even the simplest of ideas run the chance of being spilled. That being said, try not to put too much pressure on yourself. So long as the moment is meaningful and your words come from the heart, your partner is sure to love whatever efforts you put in.\n\n### 11. Organize a flash mob\nGet together with loved ones—or hire professional dancers—to coordinate and organize a flash mob proposal. Then, take your partner somewhere public—like a park, mall, or beach—where the waiting flash mob will spring into action to help you pop the big question. (A flash mob works especially well for outdoor proposals!)\n\n### 12. Hide the ring in your Christmas tree\nThe holidays make for an especially romantic and magical time of year, so why not use them to come up with the perfect proposal? Before you go to bed on Christmas Eve, hide the ring box in the Christmas tree. On Christmas morning, call special attention to “one more gift” before your partner pulls the box out of the branches.\n\n### 13. Visit Disney for a fairytale proposal\nIt’s called the Magic Kingdom for a reason. What’s more magical than proposing in front of Disney’s Cinderella Castle? Enchant your partner and have them feel like they’re living a fairytale by popping the question while surrounded by the magic and classical beauty of some of their favorite characters and stories.\n\n### 14. Ride a ferris wheel\nWith the stars above and city lights flickering in the distance, a ferris wheel proposal is a surefire way to surprise your partner. For the best effect, wait until the ferris wheel is at its apex, with a vast and stunning view to serve as the backdrop when you pull out the ring and have your big moment.\n\n### 15. Hide the ring inside a fortune cookie\nCracking open a fortune cookie and reading your fortune is always fun. But what if, instead of a fortune, that cookie hid an engagement ring instead? Next time you order Chinese takeout, slip away with one of the cookies and heat it in the microwave quickly to help it open up before secreting the ring inside of it. When it’s time for your partner to read their fortune, dazzle them with a beautiful engagement ring! (It’ll definitely be the most memorable cookie they’ve ever had!)\n\n### 16. Go for a hot air balloon ride\nCruising through the sky on a hot air balloon is a great way to enjoy a little bit of excitement and romance with your loved one. As you drift over and past the natural beauty below, pull out the ring and ask for your partner’s hand in marriage for a truly surprising—and breathtaking—proposal. (Just make sure to share your plan with the pilot and staff first).\n\n### 17. Put together a jigsaw puzzle\nPuzzles are always more fun when you’re not sure what the final result should look like. Purchase or create a jigsaw puzzle for the perfect surprise proposal by encouraging your partner to gradually piece it together until it’s all but obvious that you’re asking “will you marry me?”\n\n### 18. Climb a mountain in a ski lift\nIf you and your partner enjoy hitting the slopes, a ski lift is the perfect surprise proposal idea. As the lift caresses over the gentle snow-covered slopes of your favorite resort with the promise of a warm hot chocolate in each of your near-futures, get down onto your knee and ask to share the rest of your lives together.\n\n### 19. Hire a skywriter\nFor a grandiose and surprising proposal, invite your partner to join you somewhere with a great and unobstructed view of the sky—ideally on a day with clear weather and little cloud cover. When you hear the whirring engine of a low-flying plane above, direct your partner’s attention to it and pull out the ring just in time for the pilot to finish writing out the big question against the clear blue sky.\n\n### 20. Spend a night stargazing\nStars shine brilliantly for millions of years with the same amount of energy with which you love your partner. For this surprise proposal idea, head out somewhere with a clear view of the night sky and little light pollution, roll out a blanket onto the ground (or enjoy the soft grass against your backs), and stare up at the sky overhead. Point out your favorite constellations and, when the time is right, pull out the ring and share your speech beneath the night sky.\n\n### 21. Create a treasure hunt\nFor another perfect proposal idea, think of all the places you and your partner consider special or important, like the place you had your first date and your favorite restaurant. Hide clues in or at each of these places to create a trail of breadcrumbs your partner can follow until the end, where the final treasure awaits: a beautiful proposal ring and a heart-warming speech in which you ask to spend the rest of your lives together.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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It’s official: Everyone’s opting for these months—and here’s why.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2022-01-06T22:41:32.982Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1RBNfTEOwI6UdlwKrEQqw0/8bddc5094111a16de83743ba5ec39212/1116_EA_FLR-Months_Everyones_Getting_Engaged.jpg","altText":"top months to get engaged and married"},"heroCredit":"Katie Dawn Photo","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- This year the __most popular months to get engaged and married__ look a little familiar. Below we cover all of the ‘whens’ and ‘whys.’\n- Due to extended engagements and brewing excitement, 2023 will see an __earlier wedding season than usual__.\n- The __top months to get engaged__ haven’t seen too much change, being influenced mostly by the holidays, time spent with loved ones, and the weather.\n- However, the __top months to get married__ have shifted from April and May, to October, September and June.\n","body":" \nWhen a couple gets engaged or married is typically based on a number of factors. Holidays, breaks from work and school, and—perhaps most notable—weather, all play into the month that someone proposes or says I do. In fact, __[wedding season](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-season-should-you-get-married-in)__ exists for these exact reasons.\n\nThis coming year, things are looking a bit familiar to popular wedding months of the past. While some of the most popular times to get engaged and married remain mainstays, we’re seeing new months on couples’ radars and an overall shift in 2023’s projected wedding season. It’s official: Everyone’s getting engaged and married in these months. Here’s why.\n\n## Top Months to Get Married \nWith 2023 coming off the heels of one of the busiest wedding seasons ever, it's no surprise to see the most popular wedding months pre-pandemic rising back to the top. \n\nAfter last year's shift due to postponed weddings, [September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) returns to the #1 most popular wedding month for 2023. Summertime and early fall typically host the most weddings, next year’s couples have set the most dates between May and September.\n\n### September\nMany people’s calendars are marked up with wedding dates and summer vacations during the summer months. __[September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__, however, sees a decrease in packed plans, making it ideal for couples with longer guest lists. Guests have more time and availability for early [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/november-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) and are more likely to attend your celebration. September also embodies that desired fall feeling many engaged couples are after, while still offering the warm weather present at the end of summer. Add in the three-day Labor Day weekend, and many are sold on this being the best time of year.\n\n### June\n__[June weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/june-wedding-everything-you-need-to-know)__ are well-liked for many of the reasons that we’ve already covered. However, the month is also steeped in history and tradition. For one, June is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage and childbirth, and thus long considered a favorable month to get married. Nowadays, June weddings are often sought after for more practical reasons. The beginning of summer has great weather, school break offers flexibility, and you can choose an outdoor wedding venue.\n\n### May\nMay weddings enjoy many of the benefits that June weddings do, such as nice weather and the accompanying flexibility. May is one of the months of the year that’s less likely to clash with plans, such as summer vacations and weddings. On that note, guests won’t suffer from wedding fatigue, which is possible during the busy summer wedding season. For many venues and vendors, a May spring wedding falls outside peak summer pricing. For couples that prioritize sticking to a budget, this month provides all of the perks of a summer wedding without the extra cost.\n\n### October\nThe reasons why October sees so many weddings are similar to why it sees so many engagements. In many places, it’s the perfect post-summer temperature, and vibrant fall colors have started to paint mountains, trees, and landscapes. You can also use deeper, moodier, or cozier decor than is usually seen in the spring or summer. An autumn wedding also opens the door to fun and seasonal food and cocktail options. __[Halloween](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-put-together-a-spooky-halloween-wedding)__ also gives couples the chance to throw the ultimate themed ceremony and reception in potentially cold weather, especially on the east coast.\n\n### April\nAlthough April showers can occur, this seems to be the only downside to having a wedding this month. When it isn’t raining, couples and their guests can enjoy comfortable weather, with temperatures anywhere from the fifties to the eighties throughout the US. [April](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/april-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) also has a popular and traditional context, making it a favorable month. After all, William and Kate chose April 29th, and the Romans considered April the Sacred Month of Venus, the Goddess of love and fertility.\n\n### July\nOne of the first things that come to mind with a mid-summer wedding is the high likelihood of fantastic weather. In many parts of the US, there is a very low risk of showers or strong winds, which is a great relief for those who want an outdoor ceremony or destination wedding. The days are longer, an abundance of flowers and fresh fruits are in season, and people are more willing to spend time traveling and socializing.\n\n## Top Months to Get Engaged \nWith that in mind, let’s start by looking at the months when people get engaged. This data hasn’t been seen as big of a change, likely due to proposals being a more intimate experience. That is to say, not many couples plan on having all of their loved ones present for it.\n\nMore often, proposals involve the couple, if not a handful of close friends and family members. This has made getting engaged throughout the last year easier to manage, with the usual factors such as weather, time off from work and school, and holidays having the largest influence. \n\n### December\nThe holiday season has long reigned supreme when it comes to the most popular months to get engaged—and we can’t say that we’re surprised. December brings with it feelings of thankfulness and love in the winter months. It’s the time that we’re most likely to be surrounded by loved ones, many of whom couples want to share these special moments with, which is one reason winter weddings are popular. With loved ones near, holiday cheer, and many towns decked out in festive decor, it is no surprise it is such a beloved time of the year to get engaged.\n\n### May\n[May](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/may-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) is one of the best months and lands in that nice place between late spring and early summer, with sunnier weather making an appearance in many places. Warmer days and the long Memorial Day weekend begin to coax people outside, making outdoor proposals much easier to pull off. Another plus to getting engaged in May is that it leads seamlessly into summer; a time when __[celebrating your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ and beginning wedding planning becomes more manageable due to summer break and people’s availability opening up.\n\n### October\nWith fall kicking off just a few weeks earlier, __[October](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/october-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__ is a prime time to take advantage of the best weather. Come mid-October, most of the US sees the arrival of fall foliage, a great excuse to drive into the mountains or take a surprise trip upstate. A vibrant, gorgeous autumn backdrop makes quite the backdrop for a proposal. Of course, we can’t go without mentioning Halloween, as spirited couples who go all out find it an especially special day to get engaged.\n\n### March\nLate March marks the beginning of springtime peak season, a time representative of renewal, rebirth, and fresh new beginnings. It’s a wonderful time to celebrate the start of something new, especially with the return of warmer weather and new blooms. Spring break starts around mid-March, allowing couples with children to make a sunny escape full of adventure and relaxation. This month also has two holidays that provide the perfect time: St. Patrick’s Day (especially if you or your partner are Irish) and National Proposal Day.\n\n### June\nSummer is finally in full swing, and with it comes sunny skies, large family gatherings, and the chance to go on trips with your significant other. Many couples take advantage of the typically warm weather by spending time together at their favorite outdoor spots near or far from home. Moreover, school’s out for summer, which means that couples or significant others with children can more easily involve them in the proposal. All of this provides ample opportunity for exciting engagements in all parts of the country.\n\n### February\nThough Valentine’s only lasts a single day (February 14th), the feeling of love permeates the entire month. Whether due to the anticipation leading up to the holiday, the giddiness thereafter, or both, it isn’t shocking that a lot of couples get engaged throughout. __[Valentine’s Day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ alone is an apt time for big surprises and grand expressions of love. It’s romantic and traditional, as well as pretty unforgettable.\n\n## Dates to Avoid and Consider for Your Wedding\nNot only is the time of year important to consider when planning your wedding day, but there are some dates you need to consider avoiding. Although, some holidays can be helpful. If you’re considering having your big day near a holiday, poll essential wedding guests to see if they’ll be able to attend.\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Avoid\n- __Super Bowl Sunday__ (or other major sporting events, depending on your guest list and country)\n\n- __Thanksgiving Day__\n\n- __Christmas Day__\n\n- __Easter Sunday__\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Consider\n- __Long Weekends,__ such as Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas weekends\n\n- __Weekday Weddings,__ getting married in the off-season or weekday can help avoid peak wedding season pricing\n\n- __New Year’s Eve__ and __New Year’s Day__\n\n- __Halloween__\n\n- __Valentine’s Day__\n\n- __Interestingly Numbered Dates,__ for example, 4/24/24 or 2/5/25\n\n## Setting a Schedule at Zola\nOnce you’re engaged and your date’s been picked, much of your wedding planning can begin. Great! Although, admittedly, this can be an intimidating thing to approach. Not sure where to start? Zola’s got you covered. By __[creating an account](https://www.zola.com/onboard/select-product)__, you gain access to a number of helpful tools, like a customized monthly wedding checklist. Just sign up, tell us your wedding date and any special traditions that you’ll be following, and allow us to compile the rest. Come for the checklist and stay for the __[Wedding Website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ builder, online RSVPs, and more __[Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice)__.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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There are a whole host of benefits to having a wedding in each season. Here are our tips to help you make the right choice.","title":"What Season Should You Get Married In?","slug":"what-season-should-you-get-married-in","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/14d8DevAzXMNdpgYAplGp5/dbc88a6e5763c178bbc37dc24376fee4/Hero_IntimateOutdoorWeddingatTheMonticelloTrail_AmySmithPhotography.jpg","altText":"What Season Should You Get Married In"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:55:05.864Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Proposals","slug":"proposals"},"slug":"to-dos-after-you-get-engaged","title":"Just Engaged? Here’s What To Do Next!","excerpt":"Just engaged and wondering what’s next? A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-11-15T21:25:37.344Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n- Just got engaged, now what?\n- 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n- Engagement rings and wedding bands\n- FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos","body":"\nYou’re engaged! Whether you asked or answered, you just took the first step toward one of the happiest days (and chapters) of your life. You’ve probably heard that now the work begins—and, if you’re hoping to wed in a year or less, that’s true. Wait, wait, wait… don’t get overwhelmed. Yes, there’s wedding planning to do, but it doesn’t all need to happen at once.\n\n## Just got engaged, now what?\n \n\nWith the help of Zola, you’ll be off planning in a jiffy, but your list of to-do’s after engagement doesn’t have to be stressful. However, there are certain things you and your partner should accomplish in the first month (or so) after your engagement. Plus, you’ll discover the things you shouldn’t do right away, so you’ll know what to look forward to doing.\n\nSo, now that you’ve officially ticked “[getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged)” off the list, it’s time to begin. First, congrats! Second, here’s your checklist of what’s coming up next as you begin to plan your wedding day. \n\n## 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n \n\n### 1. Celebrate\n\nIt might feel tough, but refrain from reaching for your phone right away. Instead, take some time to celebrate your engagement with your new fiancé. Make your way over to your favorite bar or restaurant and enjoy each other’s company. Take a walk on the beach or through your favorite part of the city.\n\nRegardless of the setting, enjoy the moment one-on-one (unless, of course, your loved ones were in on the [proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/proposals) and are waiting in the wings). Before you know it, you’ll be up to your neck in wedding planning, so savor this time for all it’s worth. Bask in that newly engaged glow.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TinaZh7eVfqET7ez5FgmP/527c65acd1e95d3ecf50b5852795015a/INLINE___Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Share the news.\nWhen you’re ready to tell others, start with those closest to you. This is likely your immediate family (parents and siblings), other close relatives, and best friends. Ring them personally or pay a visit, if possible, but steer clear of text messages. While it might seem like the most efficient way to tell your people, it can feel a bit impersonal. Save text announcements for people you aren’t as close with.\n\nTypically, there’s a hierarchy that states you should tell family first. However, we realize that not all dynamics are the same. [Share the news of your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) with those you love in the order you deem most appropriate.\n\n### 3. Alert the (social) media\n\nThat is if you’re on social media, of course. Once you tell your close family and friends, now it’s time to tell the world. Share a status update on Facebook to say that you’re just engaged, or post a photo or story on Instagram. Take a selfie with your partner, show off [your ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dont-like-engagement-ring), or upload a photo someone snapped of the actual engagement moment.\n\nYou’re engaged—you should absolutely share the story. However, we do caution against spamming your various timelines with [engagement news](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). There will be plenty of opportunities to share wedding planning highlights as you work out details. Maybe don’t exhaust your followers with too much upfront.\n\n### 4. Tell your loved ones first\n\nIt's normal to be extremely thrilled and excited about the proposal. Of course, you want to let everyone within earshot—or everyone with access to a smartphone—know of the good news. We get it, it’s convenient to make a couple of posts online.\n\nAnd while it’s completely up to you who you tell and how you do it, you probably don’t want the friend you lost touch with after college to find out via Facebook that you’re engaged—before your own parents or best friends. \n\nHold off on making any social media posts until you’ve delivered the news to your important people in person, if not via a phone call.\n\n### 5. Start thinking about dates\nDue to desirable venues and [certain months](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) getting booked well in advance, it’s wise to start thinking about dates quite early. This is especially the case if you’re looking to have your wedding within a year or two of getting engaged. \n\nStart by discussing the ideal time of year or month with your significant other. Then, check for any holidays, birthdays, or other conflicts that you’d like to avoid double-booking. \n\nAlso, reach out to important loved ones, such as close friends and family members, to check for conflicts before settling on anything. Find out what works for you and those closest to you, and settle on a few days or weekends that you can ask potential [venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) about.\n\n### 6. Start talking logistics\nYou and your partner have brainstormed locations, dates, and your wedding style—now’s the time to start setting things in stone. Be pragmatic in your discussions and decisions. Start by sitting down together and drawing out a personalized budget and timeline. Or, let Zola do the manual work for you – create a personalized wedding checklist, timeline and budget in just a few minutes. [Sign up and access our free wedding planning tools here](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard).\n\nThere’s no official timeline you need to stick to but your own, by the way. If you want to be engaged for a couple of years, do that. Circle back to planning in a few months or years. If that’s not you, however, start with a location and date. Once you have both of those, reach out to venues. Figure out what they have for availability around your desired date and book it. From there, you can begin looking into and [securing other vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors#:~:text=Explore%20wedding%20vendors%20by%20category), such as a wedding planner, catering, and entertainment.\n\n### 7. Say your thank yous\n\nThroughout the first few weeks of being engaged, you might receive celebratory cards and even gifts from friends and family. This is even more likely if you have an engagement party. Maintain a list of everyone who sends or brings you a card and/or gift, so that you can send out proper [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop).\n\n### 8. Spend some time researching before booking\n\nRemember how important it is to think about the big picture? You’ll want to put considerable time into that before booking a venue or any vendors for your big day. You’re just engaged, after all. \n\nWe know that locking down a space or [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) you love ASAP can be stressful, but trust us, you want to take the time to be really clear about what you both want before making anything official. \n\nTry not to rush. Allow yourselves the time to dream, find inspiration, and bounce ideas and desires off of one another.\n\n### 9. Hold off on sorting the wedding party\n\nMaid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and every bridal party and wedding party member in between… there’s potential for a lot of loved ones to be involved in your wedding day! While this is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding, we highly recommend you hold off a few weeks before asking anyone to officially take on a role. There are many details that can shape not only who you’ll want by your side but how many people you’ll be able to include. \n\nWait to ask your helpers until you’ve figured out your wedding’s basics—your budget, venue, and the type of wedding you want, to start.\n\n### 10. Keep things vague with guests for now\n\nAs with requests and potential wedding party members, hold off on inviting anyone to your wedding until you have planning underway. The excitement of being newly engaged, added to the love and well-wishes from all around, can have you wanting to share the excitement and invite everyone. Refrain. Better to keep things polite and vague now than to be put in an awkward position when someone doesn’t make the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) later on.\n\n### 11. Wait to purchase your wedding attire\n\nIt’s incredibly tempting to start trying on [wedding dresses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/tips-wedding-dress-shopping), suits, and other [wedding day attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-attire) soon after getting engaged. However, it’s crucial that you don’t jump in too soon. At this point, odds are you haven't yet decided on your budget or what you really want. \n\nRushing this process and making a purchase too soon out of excitement can lead to regret and financial issues down the line. Wait until you’re sure of what you’re looking for and can afford before making any try-on appointments.\n\n### 12. Relax\n\nOne more time: you just got engaged, so slow down. Wedding planning has the potential to be pretty stressful right off the bat. With guest list creation, wedding venue touring, budget making, and every other aspect of the wedding planning process right around the corner, don’t forget to make time to enjoy being engaged. \n\nSet some time aside for a relaxing date night, just the two of you. Put the beginning stages of planning on pause and focus on each other and how happy you are to be where you are right now.\n\n### 13. Expect some unsolicited advice\n\nUpon telling loved ones of your engagement, chances are you’re going to be hearing a lot of advice from those who have had a wedding. Take any and all unsolicited advice with grace, but don’t be quick to take it to heart. \n\nWhile you may come to agree with and appreciate some advice here and there, you definitely don’t need to take or even consider it all. Offer a “thank you,” pocket what gems you can, and move forward.\n\n### 14. Host an engagement party\n\nAfter saying yes, it’s time to celebrate! Depending on how you want to announce your engagement, this should take place before or after you post to social media. If you like the idea of telling your friends and family all at once, plan a surprise [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) before making a public announcement. That way, the news is completely unexpected. Many couples also prefer to host a more formal engagement party (with invitations and maybe even scheduled activities) a few weeks after the engagement.\n\nIf your loved ones are already in the know, one or some of them may come forward and offer to host your party for you. Whatever you decide works—engagement parties aren’t necessary, so if you choose to have one, get creative with [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) and celebrate however you want. Be aware, though: You shouldn’t invite anyone to the engagement party that you won’t invite to the wedding. Plan accordingly.\n\n### 15. Book an engagement shoot\n\nThis is another optional to-do. If an engagement photoshoot doesn’t sound like your style, stay with us for just a second. Engagement shoots are popular for a few reasons. Mainly, they’re usually free and come as an additional component of your wedding photography package. If you haven’t yet [booked a photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) (totally normal at this stage, by the way!), you can either wait until you do or you can hire another local photographer for this shoot.\n\nCouples also often see an [engagement shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) as an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera together. Again, if you have a photographer booked, this is a great time to get to know more about his or her style. This way, you’ll hopefully feel more natural when your photo is being taken from all angles come wedding day. Use your engagement photos on your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), wedding website, and/or wedding invitations.\n\n### 16. Think big picture\n\nNow that you’re no longer just engaged, your engagement celebrations have probably slowed. Now it feels like time to really start thinking about your big day. Don’t stress yourself out by immediately looking into every single detail, though. Start off by discussing big-picture ideas with your partner. Now is the time to figure out if you’re both on the same page with your dream wedding style and guest count.\n\nTalk about everything from wedding location and wedding size to a potential color palette and wedding date options. And, of course, always be open to your partner’s ideas. Stay organized off the bat by gathering inspiration in a place that’s easy to access and edit. Pinterest board, Google Doc, computer folder, binder—whatever works for you.\n\n### 17. Make time to soak it all in\n\nWe’re aware that we’re reiterating here, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t get so immediately wrapped up in wedding planning that you forget to enjoy being just engaged. Skipping over this part can lead to considerable stress later on. Pop some bubbly, spend quality time with your fiancé(e), and bask in the excitement from all of those closest to you.\n\n## Engagement rings and wedding bands\n \n\nIf you were over the moon to put your new [ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/rings) on… only to find it didn’t quite fit, you’ll want to get it sized ASAP. This won’t be the most exciting part of getting engaged, but it’s necessary if you want to avoid losing your special stone.\n\nSpeaking of losing your ring, enter ring insurance! When it comes to what to do after getting engaged, sorting out insurance definitely isn’t the most exciting task. While it's not super sexy, it's highly recommended. Most jewelry experts suggest taking out a policy with a jewelry insurance provider (and not extending your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to cover it). Head to a jeweler or another certified professional and get an appraisal. Here’s more on [engagement ring insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n## FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos\n \n\n### What does it mean to be engaged?\nJust engaged? That means you and your partner have decided to get married and are planning your future together. Being engaged is more than just wearing a ring. It's an exciting and romantic phase of your relationship. However, it also comes with some responsibilities and challenges as you grow together.\n\n### What to do after getting engaged?\nFirst of all, remember to celebrate! Next on the list comes telling your family and friends. Then, start thinking about wedding dates, share your good news on social media (optional), and arrange an engagement party and/or photo shoot. For now, don't worry about the guest list or wedding attire.\n\n### How do we announce our engagement?\nHow you announce your engagement is completely up to you and your partner. Most couples like to tell their immediate family and friends face to face before announcing their good news on social media. Others will share the news through phone calls, TikTok, or traditional paper announcements.\n\n### How to start planning a wedding?\nThe first thing you'll need for wedding planning is a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and a budget. You may want to create a wedding Google Drive and email to keep everything organized. Or you can use free budgeting and checklist tools from wedding planning sites like Zola. Then you can start on the finer details: where, when, what you'll wear, and who will take part.\n\n## Final Thoughts\n\nOnce you’ve checked these boxes, you’ll be ready to go all in on wedding planning. Buckle up because it can (read: probably will) get hectic. Just remember to take a pause every now and then to enjoy being engaged.\n\nHere at Zola, we have everything you need to make wedding planning as seamless (but exciting) as possible. Even if you don’t publish it yet, you can start working on your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and making your wishlist on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) right away. Zola can help you every step along the way from proposal to your new life together as a married couple. 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Find resources and expert advice on your journey to engagement from choosing the perfect ring to popping to question to photographing and announcing the proposal. We guide you step-by-step though the beginning of your forever!","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Rings","slug":"rings"},"slug":"best-diamond-shape-for-your-finger","title":"The Best Diamond Shape & Size For Your Finger","excerpt":"Different diamonds look different on different fingers. The diamond experts at The Clear Cut share which diamond shapes look best on which finger sizes.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-12-26T15:52:16.629Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ECvXhLPmPgOpov3xDS8WX/6546f0108bf3a0ca312f65037cce0c8b/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"best diamond shape for your finger type"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- A round brilliant cut will flatter most every finger shape, while long, thin fingers are better suited to elongated cuts.\n\n- People with chubby fingers find that oval and pear cuts suit them best.\n\n- Finally, if you have small fingers or hands, stick with a more delicate style that’s proportional to your anatomy.\n","body":"When it comes to shapes and styles, not all diamonds are created equal—and not all diamonds work equally well with every finger. You might be in love with your [best friend’s engagement](https://zola.app.link/01BPrmyN71) ring, but that same shape and style may not look the same when you try it on your own finger. It’s true: Different diamonds look different on different fingers. To help you find your perfect fit, we asked the diamond experts at [The Clear Cut](https://theclearcut.co/) to share how to find a diamond shape and style that works best with your ring finger. \n\n![INLINE ClearCut 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ae4s50gqVHT9Vci2PuM2z/5dd9b34685d0dbae4639c773aa925f32/INLINE_ClearCut_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // The Clear Cut\n\n## What To Consider Before Choosing A Diamond Ring\nFirst things first—before we jump into the best diamond shapes and style for each finger type, let’s quickly go over some of the most important factors that go into choosing the right diamond ring for you.\n\nSome of the main criteria you’re going to want to consider when choosing the perfect diamond shape and style for your engagement ring include:\n\n### The Width and Length of Your Finger\nWhen choosing a diamond shape and style, you want to create a sense of balance and proportion on your finger—so the length, width, and overall size of your finger is going to dictate which diamonds are going to look balanced and proportionate.\n\n### The Size of the Stone\nThe size of a diamond is also going to play into how flattering a certain shape or style is going to look on your finger. As a rule of thumb, the larger the stone, the more noticeable any issues with balance, proportion, or unflattering shapes will be.\n\n### Your Personal Style\nIt doesn’t matter if a diamond shape or style “works” on your finger shape—if it doesn’t match your [personal style](https://zola.app.link/XXGCpJyN71), it’s not going to make you happy in the long run. Make sure you choose a diamond shape and style that feels like a reflection of your own personal taste—and that you’ll be happy rocking on your finger from now until forever.\n\n### Band Width\nNot only do the stones on your ring have a high impact, but the band. While material—silver, gold, white gold, rose gold, etc.—is important to consider, even more important is the width of the band. For example, if you have thinner fingers, a thicker band might overwhelm them. At the same time, if you prefer a ring with a lot of stones, a thin band might not be able to accommodate that. Also consider the style of wedding band you’d like to go with your engagement ring and how the widths of each band might look together.\n\n### Accent Gemstones\nPerhaps you’d like more than a singular diamond. Whether that means a ring design with a couple accent stones around the center stone or a band covered in pavé diamonds is up to your preference. Accent gemstones, too, can add a variety of shapes, styles, and uniqueness to a diamond ring. If that sounds like what you’re looking for, consider those that add color to a ring that’s diamond color is more classic. Also try those that add to the overall ring style.\n\n### Budget\nWe couldn’t talk about important deciding factors without discussing budget. While this isn’t the most exciting aspect of ring shopping, it’s paramount to think over before setting your heart on something. Set a realistic budget range for yourself and be transparent about it with any jewelers and/or sellers. If a proposal isn’t a total surprise, consider having an open conversation about budget and expectations with your partner.\n\n## Best Diamond Shape For Each Finger Type\nAs we said, different diamonds look different on different fingers and hands. Here’s how to figure out what diamond will best suit your finger.\n\n### A Universally Flattering Diamond That Looks Good On Every Finger\nA round brilliant is one of the most classic diamond shapes on the market. And it’s a classic for a reason. This diamond holds a lot of its weight at the top, which takes up a lot of real estate on your ring finger. Plus, because of the round diamond shape, you get a balanced look that will work on a variety of finger shapes and [sizes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-ring-size-guide).\n\nWhile there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to choosing the right diamond shape/style, if you want a diamond that’s going to be [universally flattering](https://zola.app.link/vi2RlmyN71), the round brilliant is a solid choice.\n\n### For Long And Thin Fingers\nIf you have long, thin fingers, you’re going to want to choose a diamond shape that compliments your finger length. So, elongated diamonds are a fantastic choice.\n\nLuckily, there are a ton of different styles out there to choose from. A naturally elongated diamond shape, like an oval, pear, or marquise cut, will look gorgeous on your finger, as will an elongated radiant or an emerald cut. Just remember, if you have long fingers, you want your diamond to have a more elongated appearance to match. Moreover, solitaire rings (those with a single diamond on a band) can also look beautiful, as they won’t overwhelm your finger.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Anything too square-shaped or princess cut. More square-shaped diamonds like a standard (not elongated) emerald or radiant cut aren’t always the most flattering on long, thin fingers. The shape can actually make your fingers look longer (and your ring can look disproportionate on your finger).\n\n### For Stout Fingers\nIf your fingers are on the thicker side, going with a more delicate diamond shape or style can actually make them look wider. Instead, look for a stone that’s going to really make a statement and take up a lot of real estate on your finger—like an oval or pear-shaped diamond.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Narrow diamonds. You want a stone that’s going to fill out the width of your finger. If you have your heart set on a [narrower cut](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-different-diamond-cut-options), you can add side stones to create width and add a sense of balance.\n\n### For Small Fingers\nIf you have small hands, you have a serious benefit when shopping for engagement rings; everything is going to look bigger on your small fingers.\n\nOn the flip side, going with a diamond shape or style that’s overly big or bold can have the opposite effect, looking too over-the-top on your tiny finger. If your hands are noticeably small, make sure to stick to a more delicate style (such as a round cut, oval cut, or pear cut) that looks proportionate on your finger. On the other hand, opposing styles—such as elongated radiant cuts and emerald cuts—can look too harsh or overwhelming.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Huge diamonds. As mentioned, any diamond you put on a small finger is going to look larger than it would on a bigger finger. So, oversized diamonds can look almost cartoonishly disproportionate on someone with extremely small hands.\n\n## Choosing The Perfect Diamond Carat Size\nFor those who don’t know, a carat is a unit of measurement in regards to a diamond’s (or gemstone’s) physical weight. Note that carat weight is just that—a stone’s weight, not the size of the diamond. Jewelers, gemologists, and similar ring and stone sellers will use diamond carat size in the description of diamond engagement rings in order to describe how heavy one’s cut diamond is. This weight will be the same across natural diamonds and lab grown diamonds, as their physical and chemical makeup is the same.\n\nFor reference, a half carat diamond weighs .1 grams, a 1 carat diamond weights .2 grams, a 2 carat diamond weights .4 grams, and so on and so forth. Pro tip: Diamond rings that don’t have a neat carat weight (such as a half carat, one carat, two carat, etc.) can sometimes cost less than those that do, despite being unnoticeable to the naked eye. When discussing stones, ring sizes, and the like with a jeweler, feel free to ask about carat sizes and to see those of similar weights.\n\nThese are some suggestions on which diamond cuts, shapes, and styles tend to work best with different finger types. Take the above information into consideration when figuring out how to choose a diamond shape, size, and style for your [engagement ring](https://zola.app.link/6iNeuzyN71).\n\nRemember, though, these are just suggestions. You’re the one (or your partner’s the one) who’s going to be wearing your ring every day, so ultimately, it’s up to you to get out there and find the diamond that feels perfect for you.\n\nFor more information regarding carat size (because we know it can be tricky), check out our [Ultimate Diamond Carat Size Guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-ultimate-diamond-carat-size-guide).","body2":"### If you have long, thin fingers, try an elongated diamond.\nIf you have long, thin fingers, you’re going to want to choose a diamond shape that compliments your finger length. So, elongated diamonds are a fantastic choice.\n\nLuckily, there are a ton of different styles out there to choose from. A naturally elongated diamond shape, like an oval or pear cut, will look gorgeous on your finger, as will an elongated radiant or an emerald cut. Just remember, if you have long fingers, you want your diamond to have a more elongated appearance to match. \n\n__What to Avoid:__ Anything too square-shaped. More square-shaped diamonds like a standard (not elongated) emerald or radiant cut aren’t always the most flattering on long, thin fingers. The shape can actually make your fingers look longer (and your ring can look disproportionate on your finger).\n\n### If you have stout fingers, try an oval or pear shape.\nIf your fingers are on the thicker side, going with a more delicate diamond shape or style can actually make them look wider. Instead, look for a stone that’s going to really make a statement and take up a lot of real estate on your finger—like an oval or pear-shaped diamond.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Narrow diamonds. You want a stone that’s going to fill out the width of your finger. If you have your heart set on a narrower cut, you can add side stones to create width and add a sense of balance.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720 (10)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6HVbmW4UNMQkSp3HC0m9kz/d300c0aead944ea5c6ce4f95cec62db5/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720__10_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### If you have small fingers, try to stick to a more delicate style\nIf you have small hands, you have a serious benefit when shopping for engagement rings; everything is going to look bigger on your small fingers.\n\nOn the flip side, going with a diamond shape or style that’s overly big or bold can have the opposite effect, looking too over-the-top on your tiny finger. If your hands are noticeably small, make sure to stick to a more delicate style that looks proportionate on your finger.\n\n__What to Avoid:__ Huge diamonds. As mentioned, any diamond you put on a small finger is going to look larger than it would on a bigger finger. So, oversized diamonds can look almost cartoonishly disproportionate on someone with extremely small hands.\n\nThese are some suggestions on which diamond cuts, shapes, and styles tend to work best with different finger types. Take these into consideration when figuring out how to choose a diamond shape for your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring). \n\nRemember, though, these are just suggestions. You’re the one who’s going to be wearing your ring every day, so ultimately, it’s up to you to get out there and find the diamond that feels perfect for you. ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Unlock 50 unique engagement party ideas. You'll find ideas you've never thought of and something for every couple. 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Here are nine tips for how to deal without hurting your partner's feelings.\n","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2019-09-12T14:48:09.060Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/MS3dyElvqDAW4HZGjlULM/4cd4f592a1faaf3f23b1a68d2f74a294/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"woman hugs partner after engagement "},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"You probably thought a bit about how someone might propose to you before it ever happened. It’s exciting to imagine where and how it might happen—and what the ring might look like. We’re human! So what happens when your partner proposes, pulls out a ring, and… record scratch… you don’t love this unconditional gift? Don’t panic. Before you allow this to ruin your excitement, know that you still have options. Here’s what to do if you don’t like your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring).\n\n## Give it some time.\nSo, it wasn’t love at first sight between you and the ring. That doesn’t mean it won’t grow on you. As unlikely as it sounds, when given some time, many begin to love their rings. First impressions can be deceiving with conditional gifts, so allow the shock to subside and sleep on it. Then wear it around for a few days. Pair it with your other __[jewelry](https://zola.app.link/oF4C3jyN71)__, ask your spouse why they chose it, and just live with it for a moment. You may find—especially if you don’t wear jewelry often—that you start to fall for it.\n\n![INLINE SteveCowellPhoto 1080x720 Jeff&Lauren](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7qynD26ddyPPULUAkOUEmD/66f1cd8a2f3edd829eb12c720e957db5/INLINE_SteveCowellPhoto_1080x720_Jeff_Lauren.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Steve Cowell Photo\n\n## Talk to your partner.\nAt the same time, don’t allow any negative feelings to linger. Avoid any possible brewing resentment by being honest with your partner. Open communication is a cornerstone of any marriage, even in the face of a difficult conversation. Simply be truthful and kind. Gently and tactfully let them know how you feel and say you’re open to discussing affordable options or compromises. In case you’re stuck, start with something like:\n\n*“[Name], I’m so excited to be marrying you, and I want to be honest with you about something that’s been on my mind. An engagement ring is something I’ve been excited about for a long time and I want to be happy with it forever.”*\n\nAlso, try not to feel guilty. We know, easier said than done. But at the same time: Yes, you dislike your engagement ring. No, you’re not an awful person. When all is said and done, both you and your partner just want to be excited about being together. A small hurdle in the process won’t change that.\n\n## Modify or personalize your engagement ring.\nWith some thought, some modifications might be all you need. Tweaking some details without trading out the entire ring is a creative, cost-effective solution. Examine what you like and dislike about it currently (such as the band, shape, or center stone). Then ask your jeweler if certain changes can be made. That way, you can maintain the parts you and your spouse love and update any you aren’t crazy about. Turn it into a creative project between the two of you.\n\nThis is also a potential solution for family heirlooms. If you’re inheriting a ring and would like for it to feel more you, broach the subject of adding some personalizations. This could mean resetting the stone, adding or removing side stones, or similar. Although, if you and your spouse plan on doing this, discuss it with the person who gave it to you, if possible. This keeps appreciation and respect at the forefront of the conversation and makes it less likely to feel offensive. \n\n## Don’t make size the issue.\nIf you don’t like your ring because you truthfully wish the stone was bigger, tread lightly. Telling your partner that the ring isn’t big enough could come across as ‘this isn’t expensive enough.’ Don’t make your partner feel like they couldn’t afford what you wanted or expected—especially considering they likely purchased the best they could for you. \n\nAsk yourself if it’s something else you don’t like, such as the material, type of stone, shape, or overall style. If it’s really about the stone size, though, keep your distaste quiet. You can always save up once you’re both more established and potentially get a bigger stone for an anniversary. This isn’t something to upset or concern your partner with.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash)1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6C7TBdMaFUTzHhoGO78zHj/bd0cb888a005203f933f7f151457523e/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Be considerate of budget.\nIf you do plan to modify or get a new ring, be considerate of your partner’s __[budget](https://zola.app.link/8WoDoDyN71)__. Perhaps they can’t afford to get you your dream ring at the moment. That doesn’t mean they love you any less—or that you’re doomed to wear a ring you don’t adore. Be honest with yourself about whether or not this is a big deal and if you’re willing to compromise. Remember, this may feel paramount at the moment, but it’s far from the most important aspect of getting married. When suggesting alternatives to your spouse, ask that you’re both transparent about the expense and expectations.\n\n## Turn your attention to your wedding band.\nWhether you’ve chosen to keep your ring or just can’t bear to bring it up, all hope isn’t lost. You still have a chance to embellish it with the wedding band of your dreams. Adding your band may even change the way you feel about your [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring) entirely. For example, if you feel it’s lacking in a certain stylistic element (sparkle? gemstones?), make it present in your band. The addition just might turn the combination into a duo you adore.\n\n## Know the legalities of the ring for broken engagements.\nOne pressing question many couples have is what are the legal ramifications and rules about giving a carat engagement ring back. Can you get a full refund? Does the date of purchase matter? Is it ok to offer the ring up for resale or take it to a pawn shop? The reality is that each state has its own rules on what you can do with an engagement ring, so check with your state law. \n\nHowever, the first place you should start is by checking the return policy of the retailer’s store where the wedding ring was originally purchased. Even if you can’t return the ring — especially if you’ve gone beyond their days of purchase — they may have an exchange policy. That way, you can get another piece with the same value of the ring. If you purchased your diamond engagement ring on sale, the piece of jewelry may be more difficult to return, or you may be unable to exchange the original ring. \n\n## Can you return engagement ring?\nIn the end, you may decide to trade in your current ring for something different. That’s OK! After all, it’s an expensive item you’ll rarely remove. If your significant other purchased the ring from a jewelry store, you should be able to return or exchange it within a given time frame. That is, it’s in its original condition—so be mindful of it while contemplating. Also keep in mind that policies differ from store to store. Some require a restocking fee, while others only allow exchanges. Ask your jeweler about your options.\n\nIf neither is possible—say, your ring was custom-made—you can still try and sell it. We recommend that all custom rings get approval before they’re purchased, but realize that that’s not always the case. You should be able to set a reasonable price if it’s in mint condition. Just be sure to handle the situation delicately and be aware that it could be difficult to resell. Then, once you’ve been able to return, exchange, or sell, make an afternoon of trying on rings together with your partner. Turn the situation positive and learn more about each other’s style.\n\n## Are pawn shops an option?\nAlthough you won’t get the original purchase price for your piece, you can take your ring to a pawn shop. You’ll need to have your ring in-store so that the shop can place a value on your ring and offer you a price. Ebay and other resale sites are also an option. However, be sure to have the GIA paperwork to validate the piece.\n\nFast forward: You’ve discussed things and taken the steps you need to. Now do your best to swiftly move on. Don’t dwell—your engagement is to be enjoyed. 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Plus, tips for keeping your engagement ring like new.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-12-26T16:54:49.731Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1EkyCSqm040daFYaobOyaH/00c105e08f44c0785713e860c896e31e/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"where you can wear your engagment rings"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"After you get engaged, chances are, you’re going to want to rock that [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring) anywhere and everywhere you go. While there are plenty of places you can (and should) wear your bling, there are also some places where wearing your ring is a no-no if you want to keep it clean, safe, and sparkly. Let’s make this easy. The diamond experts at [The Clear Cut](https://theclearcut.co/) helped us outline where you can wear your engagement ring and where you can’t wear your engagement ring.\n\n\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring during your normal day-to-day activities.\nYour engagement ring is a symbol of your commitment and upcoming marriage to your partner, so it makes total sense that you’re going to want to wear it as often as possible.\n\nAnd the good news? For most of your normal, day-to-day activities, you can absolutely rock your bling. Going to work? Wear your engagement ring. Swinging by the grocery store? Wear your engagement ring. Meeting friends for dinner? Wear your engagement ring.\n\n## You CAN’T wear your engagement ring to bed.\nThere is, however, one place you go every day that you shouldn’t wear your wedding ring—and that’s to bed. \n\nSome people experience slight swelling in the hands overnight—and if your fingers swell while you sleep, it can not only feel uncomfortable, but it can make it harder to get your ring off in the morning. Plus, your ring can get snagged on your sheets, your blanket, your pajamas. It’s just not fun. \n\nWearing your engagement ring to bed could also put you at risk for injury. Diamonds can be sharp—and you don’t want to wake up in the middle of the night after scratching your face with your engagement ring.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7s96MB8mHAFphDMS9SC5oz/fb8ccde13dbf105e316715aa5372f11a/INLINE_Unsplash__1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring while tidying up—as long as you avoid harsh cleaning products. \nThere’s no need to take off your wedding ring for household chores like sweeping, laundry, or making the bed. There is, however, one exception to that rule—and that’s if you’re tackling any deep cleaning where you’ll be using harsh cleaning products that could damage your ring. \n\nIf you’re cleaning includes bleach, ammonia, or any other harsh chemicals, do yourself (and your diamond) a favor and take your engagement ring off beforehand.\n\n## You CAN’T wear your engagement ring in the shower.\nA shower is great for keeping you clean—but your ring? Not so much. All the products you use to clean your face, hair, and body can latch onto your diamond, creating a film that makes it look cloudy, dull, and all-around dirty. \n\nNot to mention that you don’t want your ring to slip off your finger and down the drain. Anyone who’s seen Apollo 13 knows that. So, don’t wear your ring in the shower and wait to put it back on until all your after-shower grooming activities (like slathering on lotion) are complete.\n\n## You CAN wear your engagement ring when you travel…\nIf you want to keep your ring on your finger during your travels (whether that’s on [your honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-we-go-honeymoon), your [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pack-for-a-bachelorette-party), or any other upcoming trips), there’s no reason you can’t. \n\nJust make sure to take the proper steps to keep your ring safe, like bringing along a ring stand to securely hold your ring while you sleep and never, ever leaving your ring unattended in a hotel room or vacation rental property.\n\nYou also shouldn’t travel with your engagement ring unless it’s insured. Read more about [engagement ring insurance here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4POaDqNGbqYuOSQZDlNnUS/982c2bfdee2974ee70efc02f4e3838bb/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## ...but you CAN’T wear it to the beach.\nOne travel destination that’s not the best fit for your engagement ring? The beach. Taking care of your skin at the beach means a lot of sunscreen. All that sunscreen will leave your diamond looking cloudy and dirty (and it’s also a pain in the neck to clean!). \n\nPlus, the ocean can spell disaster for your ring. Not only will the sand and saltwater quickly dirty up your ring, but your fingers actually get slightly smaller when you swim, and it goes without saying that losing your engagement ring in the ocean? Not exactly a day at the beach.\n\n## Engagement Ring Care Tips: How to Clean Your Ring at Home\n\n\n\nNo matter where you do or don’t wear your engagement ring, you always want to keep your bling as safe and sparkly as possible. Here are a few tips to keep it that way:\n\n- __Get your engagement ring insured.__ It doesn’t matter how careful you are or where you do/don’t wear your ring. Things happen, and you want to [make sure you’re insured](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring) and covered should your ring gets lost, stolen, or damaged. \n- __Diamond looking dull? Clean up your ring at home.__ Wearing your ring certain places (like in the shower) can leave it looking dull. Get it back to sparkling with a [simple at-home engagement ring cleaning](https://theclearcut.co/blogs/clear-cut-classroom/cleaning-and-caring-for-your-engagement-ring). Fill a bowl with warm water and a few drops of Dawn dish soap and let your ring soak for a few minutes. Remove the engagement ring from the bowl, scrub with a soft-bristled toothbrush, and rinse off the excess soap with warm water (just make sure your sink drain is covered). Dry with a soft cloth or paper towel, and your ring will shine like new.\n- __When in doubt, wear a stand-in ring.__ If you’re going somewhere that makes you feel uneasy about wearing your wedding ring, it’s always better to be safe than sorry. When in doubt, leave your ring in a safe, secure place at home and wear a stand-in ring. You can get a cute silicone version for less than $10.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Unlock 50 unique engagement party ideas. You'll find ideas you've never thought of and something for every couple. 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Here's how to manage expectations and be there for your friend as you plan your own wedding.","title":"How to Be Engaged at the Same Time As Your Best Friend","slug":"engaged-same-time-as-best-friend","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Rc2R8CnYBAvDUljxL9qk2/431a71cd2fa527552615df47b88f9de0/HERO_PexelsAsyaCusima_1080x720.jpg","altText":"friends engaged at the same time"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:54:18.309Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Rings","slug":"rings"},"slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-rings","title":"A Guide to Wedding Rings","excerpt":"From how much you should expect to spend on a wedding ring to tips for how to choose the right one for you, check out this guide on wedding ring styles, types, and materials.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-02-22T19:10:38.243Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5P3fQN4IfleT7GqBYDmSs/8149be86e6f0b1e35a8e477b1a792fe8/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"gold wedding band and three diamond eternity wedding bands on a white sequined fabric"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/sean-money-elizabeth-fay","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are many factors to consider such as cost, band width, band finish, and if you want matching rings or not with your partner.\n- Although there is a lot of thoughtful planning when it comes to pick out your wedding ring, this is a place for customization and for you and your partner to pick the perfect set that suits you!\n","body":"The big day is coming up but you still have to find the perfect wedding ring - don’t fret! Zola's put this guide together just for you.\n\n## Tips for Choosing a Wedding Ring \n\n### 1. Start Looking Early \n\nAllow yourself plenty of time to shop for and select a wedding ring. If you’re going to buy a ring from a [brick-and-mortar or online jeweler](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), two to three months before your wedding date should allow you enough time to shop around, compare prices, order, and receive your rings in time. If you’re going for a totally custom ring, however, allow yourself even more time (at least six months). Engraving your wedding ring(s) will also add an additional month to your timeline. \n\n### 2. Set a Budget\n\nBefore you set foot into a jewelry shop or begin looking online, set a wedding ring budget. Much like shopping for a wedding dress, having a dollar amount in mind before you begin your search will help you avoid the heartache of falling in love with something that’s way out of your price range. See the below section (How Much Should You Spend On A Wedding Ring?) for the average cost of wedding rings for both men and women, and determine with your partner what you’re both comfortable spending—in the grand scheme of all your wedding expenses—on wedding rings.\n\n### 3. Think About Your Engagement Ring\n\nIf you’ll be wearing an engagement ring on the same finger as your wedding ring, you should consider how these two pieces of jewelry will interact. You want both rings to complement each other physically, and to fit comfortably together on your finger. There’s no rule that says your engagement ring and wedding band need to match exactly, but perhaps you want them made out of the same material (which also helps reduce potential reactions between metals), or perhaps you want one ring to be more simple and the other to be the standout piece with more stones and decoration. \n\nIf you do want your engagement and wedding rings to be a set, make this wish known to your partner when he or she is choosing an engagement ring—some rings and bands are contoured to fit together perfectly, and you could even score a better deal when buying both rings at the same time. \n\n### 4. Consider Your Lifestyle\n\nDo you exercise frequently, spend time outside gardening or swimming, or work with your hands daily? If you have an active lifestyle, you should think about which wedding ring design and material will be the most practical choice. A wedding ring with many diamonds or other small stones will require more frequent cleaning and maintenance, and should be protected from harsh chemicals or lots of banging and jostling. More simple bands in metals that are super-strong and scratch-resistant, like palladium, titanium, tungsten, or even silicone, are good choices for those who want to wear a wedding band daily without worrying about its upkeep. \n\n### 5. Decide If Your Rings Will Match\n\nThe coordination decisions don’t stop at your engagement ring. It’s a good idea to decide with your partner whether you’d like matching wedding bands before you begin shopping. For some couples, sharing every aspect of this symbol of eternal love—down to the color, look, and shape—adds an extra layer of romance. For others, matching bands don’t hold any additional significance, so each partner might prefer to express his or her individuality when it comes to wedding rings. \n\n### 6. Narrow Down Your Ring Style\n\nAfter thinking about your budget, what will work best with your engagement ring and your lifestyle, and yay or nay to matching bands, research different styles of wedding rings to home in on your preferences. Do you want a simple metal band, or a ring set with diamonds or other gemstones? Do you want a thin or thick band, something very traditional, or something more trendy and eye-catching? Look around at examples so you can begin your wedding ring shopping well-informed with a sense of your preferred styles.\n\n## How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding Ring?\n\nWhile the cost of a wedding ring can vary wildly based upon the ring’s material, style, and decorative elements, it can be helpful to have a ballpark range for what most couples are spending on their wedding rings. These averages can help you set realistic expectations and allocate an appropriate amount towards wedding rings in your overall wedding budget. \n\n- For women’s wedding bands, a plain band can cost anywhere from $300 to $1,500 depending on the metal. Prices increase to between $1,000 to $6,000 for a band that’s larger, more intricate, or set with diamonds or other stones. The average price of a woman’s wedding ring is around __$1,400__. \n\n- A men’s wedding band can start as low as $100 for a plain titanium band, to over $2,000 for a platinum band, with the average price being around __$560__.\n\nIn general, rings made of platinum will always cost more due to the more expensive nature of the metal—but platinum rings will last forever without any required maintenance. White or yellow gold are less expensive options, with prices decreasing by the carat number (lower carat golds are less expensive than higher carat golds). However white gold will need to be rhodium-plated every few years as the metal wears down and turns yellow. Palladium is another great, low-cost alternative to white gold and platinum that is largely maintenance-free.\n\n## Elements of a Wedding Ring\nAfter reading these helpful descriptions about the different elements that go into the design of a wedding ring, you’ll be a ring connoisseur. \n\n### Wedding Band Width\nRing bands come in varying widths from thin to thick. Besides affecting the overall aesthetic of the ring, a band’s width may also affect its comfort level, since it determines the amount of space being covered on your finger. Try on rings in different widths to be sure you’re choosing the right width for your finger (and for your engagement ring, if you’ll be wearing the two together. Here is the breakdown for a band’s size based on width:\n- __Thin:__ 1-3mm\n- __Medium:__ 4-6mm\n- __Thick:__ 7-10mm\n\n### Wedding Band Profile\nThe profile of a wedding band describes the shape of both the inside and outside of the ring. While there are several profile options, some are more popular than others. All ring profiles will affect the comfort of the ring, as it directly affects how the ring will rest on your finger.\n\n- __Court:__ this profile is the most traditional shape, with rounded corners both on the inside and outside of the ring that produce a comfortable fit. \n- __D-Shape:__ a D-shape ring is flat on the inside and rounded on the outside. It’s also very comfortable where the ring sits on the finger, and is a second traditional option. \n- __Flat:__ exactly how it sounds, a flat profile is flat on all sides. A flat ring looks chunky and substantial, but can require some getting used to fit-wise. \n- __Flat Court:__ a edgy profile with a more comfortable fit, a flat court ring looks flat from the outside but has a rounded inner edge. \n- __Flat-Sided Court:__ a flat-sided court ring is exactly like it sounds: a court ring (rounded inside and out) with flat sides. The flat sides give the ring a less domed profile, and also make it a good choice to rest alongside an engagement ring.\n- __Halo:__ a halo profile creates a band that is perfectly spherical all the way around. It’s one of the older and more classical shapes, as it was the easiest to design and make back in the day.\n- __Concave:__ another aesthetic choice, a concave ring has a rounded interior and a concave exterior for a unique band appearance. \n\n### Wedding Band Finish\nFrom shiny to matte, a ring’s finish has less to do with comfort and more to do with looks. Here are some popular types of wedding band finishes: \n\n- __Mirror:__ a polished finish with a shiny, reflective surface\n- __Fine Matte:__ a non-reflective, misty finish that doesn’t show any texture; created by tiny scratches in the surface.\n- __Coarse Matte:__ a non-reflective finish with visible texture; created by deeper scratches and embellishment on the surface.\n- __Hammered:__ a textured finish where the metal has been “hammered” to look dented all over.\n- __Sandblast:__ a textured finish caused by high-pressure sandblasting, resulting in a grainy appearance.\n- __Stardust:__ a more subtly textured finish with mixed areas of partial polish and partial sandblasting for a sparkling effect.\n\n## Wedding Ring Styles\n\nIt’s impossible to put together an exhaustive list of wedding ring styles, because the options out there are practically limitless. From simple, unadorned bands to complex designs featuring diamonds, etching, and mixed metals, you can most likely find any wedding ring you can dream up in your imagination. Here are some general wedding ring style categories that might help you understand, and then narrow down, the possible choices to find the look that’s right for you. \n\n### Minimalist Wedding Ring\nMinimalist wedding rings are simple, often just plain bands with little to no adornment. More embellished minimalist rings might include a row of small diamonds, a twisted rope or a flat-edge design, or an interesting textural finish. Minimalist wedding bands are great as subtle accents to more statement-making engagement rings. \n\n### Diamond Wedding Ring\n[Diamond wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_micropave_diamond_wedding_ring_14kwhitegold) include one or multiple diamonds in their design. See below for an explanation of different types of stone settings—each of these settings shapes the final look of the ring. From rows of tiny pavé diamonds to larger stones set within channels or bars, a diamond wedding band adds a touch of sparkle and luxury to your ring set. \n\n### Eternity Wedding Ring\nAn eternity band is a type of diamond wedding ring, but is distinctive in that the [diamonds encircle the entire band](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/edelweissjewelry_womens_diamond_eternity_band_18krosegold) instead of just being placed in the front half. Eternity bands can be expensive due to the number of stones required, but are beautiful statements of elegant symmetry. They are great choices for those who want to just wear a statement wedding band, rather than an engagement ring-band combo. \n\n### Enhancers Wedding Ring\nEnhancers are two separate (top and bottom) rings designed to curve around and, well, enhance an engagement ring. Enhancers can come in a variety of metals and colors, and frequently include additional diamonds or stones. Some brides choose to solder together their enhancers and engagement ring for one large, unified ring. \n\n### Matching Wedding Ring\nAs we’ve discussed, matching wedding rings are his-and-hers sets of bands that either complement or exactly mimic each other. You can match your partner’s band by metal, by color, or by stone—the style possibilities are as endless as the love commitment they represent.\n\n### Engraved Wedding Ring\nEngraved wedding rings include a touch of extra personalization in the form of your names, wedding date, and/or a short message engraved on the interior of the band. If having an engraved wedding ring is important to you and your partner, be sure you choose a ring style that can accommodate engraving, both in width and in material. \n\n## Types of Wedding Band Stone Settings\n\n### Channel Setting \nIn this setting, [gemstones sit side-by-side in a “channel”](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/nagijewelers_14k_gold_light_scoop_prong_diamond_wedding_band_.25_ctw_yellow) formed by a top and a bottom track of precious metal. The stones are flush with the ring’s exterior, rather than protruding out from it. \n\n### Pavé Setting\nPavé means “paved” in French, and this setting aims to “pave” the ring with tiny diamonds by setting them very closely together. The stones are secured with small beads or mini-prongs that are minimally visible. Pave settings [create abundant sparkle factor](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_tapered_pave_wedding_ring_rosegold). \n\n### Micro-Pavé Setting\nThe same concept as pavé, but with even smaller stones. [Micro-pavé settings](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_doublemicropave_wedding_ring_platinum) include stones that are smaller than 0.1 - 0.2 carats, which is the size usually used in pavé-set rings.\n\n### Bar Setting\nGemstones are separated by metal bars in this setting, which is most often seen in diamond wedding bands or other rings where the stones form a continuous circle around a large portion of the ring. \n\n### Shared Prong Setting\nDiamonds or other [gems placed side-by-side other share prongs](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/nagijewelers_14k_gold_deep_scoop_prong_diamond_wedding_band_1.00_ctw_yellow) in this setting. Shared prongs make sense for rings that contain a long row of adjacent stones, as less metal means room for more stones. \n\n### Flush Setting\nAlso known as a “gypsy” setting, the stone here is inset into a hole in the band so that it’s flush with the metal. A flush setting can look very modern, or more antique, depending on the metal and style, but either way this setting is great for protecting the stone.\n\n## Types of Wedding Band Materials\nChoosing the metal for your wedding ring is one of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make when it comes to buying wedding bands. The metal will affect not only how the ring looks, but how it wears, what kind of maintenance is required, and the price of the ring. Get a leg up on your wedding ring metal research with these helpful descriptions. \n\n### The Precious Metals\n- #### Yellow Gold\n [Yellow gold](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/markenewyork_mens_classic_matte_14k_gold_wedding_band_slim) is the warm-hued metal that’s associated with traditional wedding rings. Gold comes in different karat weights, which indicate its purity: the higher the karat weight, the more pure gold is present in comparison to other alloys, and the harder and more expensive it is. Gold is easy to repair and polish, but is also the most malleable precious metal. \n\n- #### White Gold\n White gold is yellow gold that’s been alloyed with palladium and silver to achieve a polished shine, and then plated with rhodium to provide a layer of protection and a bright, white appearance. Rhodium plating does wear after time, so if you want to keep a silvery sheen to your white gold ring, you’ll need to replate it every so often. \n\n- #### Platinum\n Platinum is the premier choice of precious metals for wedding rings. It’s the most rare, most lasting, and most durable—and also therefore the most expensive. It’s naturally white, bright color will never fade, and platinum is also hypoallergenic. \n\n- #### Palladium\n A member of the platinum family, [palladium has bright white sheen](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/christianbauer_palladium_18k_white_gold_brushed_wedding_band) that won’t fade and doesn’t scratch easily. It’s less dense than platinum (but still a pure alloy), meaning it’s a lightweight, durable option that’s much less expensive than platinum. \n\n- #### Silver\n Like yellow gold, silver is a long-standing precious metal used for making jewelry. It is less expensive than other precious metals, largely because it is softer and less durable. To improve its durability, pure silver is often rhodium-plated and/or mixed with sterling silver. Silver will also scratch and tarnish over time, so prepare to schedule regular maintenance. \n\n- #### Vermeil\n If you want the look of gold but the durability of sterling silver, vermeil is a great option. A vermeil ring is made of sterling silver that’s been plated with a thick layer of gold (anywhere from 10k to 18k in weight). Vermeil will hold up well for many years with proper care. \n\n### The Alternative Metals \n- #### Titanium\n Titanium has grown in popularity for wedding bands, especially for men, as it’s incredibly strong, durable, and lightweight. It has a slightly darker gray appearance rather than a bright-white sheen, and is also naturally hypoallergenic. While titanium can withstand many elements, including chlorine and salt water, it can scratch. \n\n- #### Cobalt Chrome\n Cobalt chrome is an alloy of [cobalt and chromium](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_meteorite_cobalt_chrome_wedding_band), and its bright white color most closely resembles platinum or white gold. It’s a popular choice for those who work with their hands for a living, as it is more scratch-resistance than titanium and nearly as lightweight. \n\n- #### Tungsten Carbide\n Tungsten Carbide is one of the most popular alternative metals due to its scratch-resistance and affordability. It comes in a variety of shades, from white to gray to black, and is much heavier than other alternative metals. Yet as it’s exceptionally hard, tungsten rings can actually shatter if they are dropped or suffers a blow. \n\n- #### Zirconium\n Another durable, anti-corrosive option, zirconium is similar to titanium is strength, weight, and hypoallergenic qualities. It naturally has a grey/white luster, however when treated with heat, it forms a black, scratch-resistance coating. Known as black zirconium, [this distinctive black look](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lashbrook_zirconium_cross_satin_finish_wedding_band) (it can polished or left matte) has recently become very popular.\n\n- #### Steel\n Stainless steel is great for small budgets, as it offers durability and strength at a lower price point. It has a brighter sheen than titanium or zirconium, but isn’t quite as bright as palladium or platinum. Like many other alternative metals, it’s hypo-allergenic. \n\n- #### Silicone\n Silicone rings are gaining in popularity, as those with active lifestyles or hands-on work don’t want to risk damaging a traditional metal ring. Silicone is affordable, durable, comfortable, and can even be made to mimic the look of metal if you want to have a more classic wedding ring look. \n\n- #### Wood\n Whether inlaid in metal or made entirely out of wood, wooden wedding rings have a distinct appeal for their unique look, eco-friendliness, and affordability. They are good choices for those with metal allergies or those who work around heat or electricity. Since they’re easy to find in matching sets, some couples like the idea of exchanging wooden rings due to the symbolic strength, protection, and regeneration associated with trees. Of course, wood is much less durable than metal, so wooden rings will need to be kept dry and removed before activities that could cause damage or scratching. \n\n## What Hand Does The Wedding Ring Go On? \nWhile it might seem like a simple question with a simple answer, which hand the wedding ring goes on is actually a more complicated investigation than you might think. Like many good questions, the answer depends upon context and will change based upon when and where you’re putting on a wedding ring. \n\n### General American Custom\nIn the US, most women and men wear their wedding rings on the fourth finger of their left hand (aka the “ring finger”), due to a false but charming belief passed down from ancient Romans that there’s a vein running directly from the heart to this finger. Dubbed the vena amoris (“vein of love”), it only made sense that the wedding ring be placed on this lifeline as a symbol of enduring love and lifelong commitment. Modern medicine now tells us that this love vein doesn’t really exist, but the tradition has persisted. \n\nHowever in other European and South American countries such as Russia, Greece, Germany, and Colombia, men and women wear wedding rings on their right hand. Some same-sex couples also prefer to wear their rings on the right hand to set themselves slightly apart from heteronormative tradition. So really, whichever hand you prefer is fine! \n\n### What About The Engagement Ring? \nIn most Western countries, the engagement ring is also worn on the ring finger of the left hand. Yet brides (and even grooms) in other countries opt for wearing engagement rings on the right hand, or wear it on one hand during the engagement period and transfer it to the other after the wedding. \nSince both engagement and wedding rings are typically worn on the same finger in American culture, their order has been defined as wedding band on the bottom, engagement ring on top—so your wedding band is still closest to your heart (in our cultural imagination, at least). \n\n### During The Wedding Ceremony\nSince most wedding ceremonies contain a ring exchange in which the wedding rings are physically placed on each person’s left hand, you might wonder how this will work if you’re already wearing an engagement ring on this finger. You have a couple of options here, so choose whichever one works best for you: \n\n1. Move your engagement ring to your right hand for the duration of the ceremony, leaving your wedding ring finger free and clear. 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Get advice from the experts on how to choose the perfect ring and how to insure it plus engagement ring trends and more!"},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Getting engaged","slug":"getting-engaged"},"subtopic":{"name":"Proposals","slug":"proposals"},"slug":"12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple","title":"25 Simple Proposal Ideas for the Low Maintenance Couple ","excerpt":"Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. Discover heartfelt ways to celebrate your love with minimal fuss.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T22:10:27.050Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hM1ElGqlQw3XBF60ba8o/b351b89a68f1d6f663f96b31abb34067/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"12 No-Fuss Proposal Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Creatrix Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Make the mundane things, such as working, going out to lunch, or running errands, __interesting with a surprise proposal__. \n- __Have a private engagement__ by rowing out to the middle of a lake or taking a sunset walk. \n- Don’t let others pressure you into having an elaborate engagement, and __do what speaks to you both__ to create the perfect proposal. ","body":"Simply being with your significant other speaks volumes to you. It doesn’t matter if you’re walking in the park hand in hand or grabbing a late-night milkshake—your proposal process can be as easy as you'd like it to be.\n\nPomp and circumstance have little place in your relationship. If this sounds like you—and it’s time to pop the question—don’t worry about doing something over the top. Just focus on your love and use one of our no-fuss marriage __[proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__.\n\n## Easy and Creative Proposal Ideas \n\n### 1. Include Your Outdoor Activities\nCouples who enjoy biking, hiking, horseback riding, or something more competitive like golf, beach volleyball, or another sport have ample opportunity to turn their beloved outdoor activity into a perfect proposal. In fact, proposing during any of these can end up making the activity all the more meaningful to you both (and if you __[plan on proposing](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__ in the water, we recommend proposing with a __[silicone ring](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=silicone%20ring)__ and saving the __[precious metal one](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_diamond_milgrain_wedding_ring_18ktwhitegold)__ for when you’re on land).\n\n### 2. Head Out on a Hike\nInvite your loved one to join you on your favorite or most treasured trails for a romantic trek with a stunning backdrop, then wait for just the right moment on your journey to pop the question. Being alone with a view can make for a truly romantic atmosphere. A mountain, lake, or walk along the beach can easily suffice. Skip the professional photographer and set your phone up for a video pre-proposal. Tell your partner you're capturing the view, then capture the entire moment on camera!\n\n### 3. Make the Most of a Small Moment\nIf you’re the spontaneous type, keep the ring with you and wait for the right moment. How fun it would be to surprise your partner—and yourself!—when you decide to pop the question. Xiaoqi Li of __[Xiaoqi Li Photography](https://xiaoqili.com/)__ suggests, “Instead of a grand gesture, start the conversation during one of your favorite little moments you share daily or weekly.” Think shared morning coffee or breakfast, the ways you relax together after a long day (watching your favorite show? reading together?), or taking your beloved pet on a walk.\n\n### 4. Order in for the Night\nAt-home proposal ideas don’t need to be complex. Ordering pizza, Chinese, or just about any type of takeout food online can still serve as a creative proposal idea or romantic dinner—all in the comfort of your own home. When the food arrives, be sure you’re the one to answer the door, then securely slip the ring into the delivery box, onto a drinking straw, in with the fortune cookies, or into a bundle of cutlery. Let your significant other happen upon the bling and be ready to pop the question once he or she finds it. \n\nWant more inspiration for proposing at home? Check out our article for [29 more unique and romantic at home proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/at-home-proposal-ideas)!\n\n### 5. Watch a Movie With a Proposal Scene\nPlenty of proposal scenes throughout film history are endearing—some to the point of being emotional and moving. Embrace this living room proposal idea by __[hiding the ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_womens_fivestone_diamond_wedding_ring_platinum)__ in a couch cushion or somewhere nearby and cueing up a movie like The Notebook, Pride and Prejudice, and more humorous options like The Wedding Singer\n\nAs the movie’s big moment gets closer, and when it does—pop the question. You can either use the words from the movie or wait until after the romantic scene has finished to ask, “Will you marry me?” For some shock or added humor, begin saying the proposal lines along with the film (seriously or humorously) before pulling out the engagement ring.\n\n### 6. Utilize Ribbon and Love Notes\n__[Unique and creative proposals](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ can often sound intimidating—especially if they bring forth thoughts of extensive ones from film and television. Don't fret. Oftentimes, all you need is a bit of thought and a few craft supplies. For example, all this __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-pull-off-a-surprise-proposal)__ requires is a long string of ribbon (or two, or three, depending on the size of your home) and some handwritten notes.\n\nSimply secure one end of a pretty ribbon at one end of your home—be it by tape, pin, or tying it off—and the other end on the opposite side. You can choose to get creative with the path, leading your partner in various directions, but don't have to. Then attach handwritten love notes along the ribbon with tape or a stapler. These notes can be a written out timeline of milestones in your relationship, different things you love about your partner, or some of your favorite memories together.\n\nAt the end of the ribbon, be there waiting with the ring box in hand. Share a few more heartfelt words with your partner, then pop the big question! Not only is this a thoughtful and surprising proposal, but it can also play off of the East Asian belief of The Red Thread of Fate—also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage. Or, if you're more familiar, Taylor Swift's \"Invisible String\" idea. Bonus points for playing the song.\n\n### 7. Fill a Room With Photographs\nPlenty of proposals include a verbal look back on your relationship history. Talking about your love story can be lovely and especially powerful during such an emotional moment. Play on that idea by incorporating special photographs from all throughout your relationship into your proposal plan.\n\nA few weeks before you plan to ask your partner to marry you, start collecting photos that have been taken from the time you started dating. Remember to look through your phone, social media accounts (including Instagram and Facebook), and computer. Once you start collecting, we suggest saving them into one folder.\n\nThen, simply have the photos printed. If you have a photo printer, you can do this right at home. If you don't mind the photos being printed on regular paper, you can also do this on a normal printer. And, of course, you can choose to have them printed at a local store. In any case, when you have all of the physical photos, place them all around the room you'll proposal in, like a relationship montage. They can be taped to the walls, framed, or displayed in any way you like. Lead your SO into the room, reveal the surprise, and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 8. Pop the Question at Your Favorite Spot\nIt's likely that by now you and your significant other have a few favorite spots you like to frequent. Or, perhaps there's a place you both love to go together that you don't get to go to very often. In either case, having your proposal at one of these places can be extremely special.\n\nThink about your most favorite restaurant, cafes, cocktail bars, movie theaters, and the like. Is there one that really stands out to you as both of your favorite spot to go together? If so, start making plans to go! If not, casually ask your partner if there's a place you both love that they'd like to go to again soon. Make it seem like a normal date idea.\n\nOnce you arrive at the spot, try to make the experience special—without giving anything away, of course. Because you've both been here before and enjoy the place, you can relax and focus on enjoying yourselves before proposing. When the timing seems right, bring out the ring box and propose.\n\n### 9. Pop the Question While Camping\nYes, __[camping](https://www.zola.com/search/gifts?q=camping)__ can be a romantic proposal idea. It may seem a bit specific, but it can be as low-key as you can get. Send your SO out to grab firewood. When he or she gets back, be __[down on one knee](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/which-knee-should-you-propose-on)__, ready to pop the question. Just hope that he or she doesn’t take too much time finding kindling.\n\n### 10. Incorporate the Family\nChildren are adorable, and if you have any, they would love being involved. Have them make cute “Will you marry me?” signs, and designate one child as the __[smartphone photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos)__. Laughter and giggles will ensue, which is one reason that proposal ideas with kids are such a huge success.\n\n### 11. Steal a Moment Out in the Country\nIf you adore farm life or have access to a tractor or ATV, ask your partner to take a ride on a lovely day. While you’re out exploring, stop and pop the question. Other country proposal ideas include asking while you’re picnicking in a field or while relaxing after a long day of chores.\n\n### 12. Take a Sunset Walk on the Beach\n__[Vacations](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/raffles_100_gift_card)__ can be a perfect time to ask, “Will you marry me?” Beach proposal ideas are relatively plentiful. However, for the low maintenance couple, take a walk by the ocean at sunset. Doing so can be one of the most romantic ways to secure that “Yes!”\n\n### 13. Take Advantage of a Holiday\nIf your partner loves any particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's bending down on one knee in the middle of a Christmas tree farm, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 14. Plan a Game Night\nFor the couple that has a blast playing board games together, craft your at-home proposal into a game night. You can do this just between the two of you or invite your closest friends and family over to join in on the fun. Not sure how to work a proposal into a game? We think Scrabble is an easy and exciting way to go about it. If you have people over, suggest you all play the game. Then, have someone distract your SO while you spell out \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Finally, bring them back to the game table for the special moment.\n\n### 15. Set Up a Picnic\nPicnics with your partner are inherently romantic. Putting effort into an outdoor snack or meal together, especially with the right view, is sure to strike the right mood. You can go simple with a blanket and picnic basket of food or include some extra flourishes, like candles, champagne, fresh flowers, and chocolate covered strawberries.\n\n### 16. Say it With Music\nIf you're musically talented, an endearing proposal is likely right at your fingertips. Write or compose a special song that reflects on your relationship, talks about your hopes for the future, or dotes on your partner. Then, once you've played it, finish it off with your proposal. You can even write your proposal into the song, if you prefer.\n\n### 17. Involve Your Partner's Favorite Things\nIf your partner has a lot of love for any particular thing—a book, a film, a type of art, a place—do your best to incorporate it (or them) into your proposal. This can make asking them to marry you especially fun and special, since you're including something you know they care about. Some quick ideas include placing the engagement ring in their favorite book, recreating their favorite movie scene, and planning to make some art together and working in the big question.\n\n### 18. Have Your Pet Ask For You\nThere are a handful of adorable ideas when it comes to involving your pet in your proposal. For collared pets, consider getting a new tag that has \"Will you marry me\"? engraved in it. Similarly, you can purchase a bandana with the same phrase and tie it around your fury friend's neck. Some pets may be a bit more difficult to work around (birds, reptiles, fish), but with some creativity, any house animal can get it on the big moment.\n\n### 19. Have a Photo Shoot\nIf you're into photography, plan an outdoor or at-home photo shoot between you and your SO. This can start off with you taking photos of just them, or all along be self-timed shots of the two of you together. Just be sure you have the camera on both of you and ready to shoot when you surprisingly propose.\n\n### 20. Surprise Your Them With Fresh Flowers\nIt's one thing to surprise your significant other with some gorgeous flowers, but it's another entirely to turn that into a proposal. Get a hold of a beautiful bouquet either at a local grocery store or florist, or get them delivered right to your door. Then place the ring box or engagement ring among the blooms and (carefully!) gift them to your partner. Once they notice, start your proposal speech or pop the question.\n\n## First Comes Love, Then Comes Zola!\nRelationships take time and effort, yet there is no reason to stress out over the marriage ask. You and your partner know how to show love to each other. If that means a low-maintenance proposal, then so be it! No matter what you decide to do, the start of your life together will reflect you perfectly. In short, don’t be afraid to keep it simple. Some of the best proposal ideas are the simplest. So long as you've got yourself, your partner, and some heartfelt words, you've got everything you need. And when you need some help planning your wedding, Zola's got all the advice and tools you'll need, right here.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? 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","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T18:32:15.371Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58Was5Fgz8kxScfS0XaaCE/0069bf3d28ceb04517d39c06a9c172fc/Hero_EtherealCoastalRomanceStyledShoot_ArleneJacobsPhotography.jpg","altText":"Propose Without a Ring"},"heroCredit":"Arlene Jacobs Photography","body":"Engagement rings — some people love them, some people hate them, but not every couple expects them. You can propose without a ring. Getting engaged is about deciding that you and your partner (AKA your soon-to-be fiance!) want to spend the rest of your lives together. That decision does not need to come with a piece of jewelry in a ring box—or anything else, for that matter. Any proposal that ends in a decision to get married is great. \n\nNonetheless, the [engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings) has become the symbolic object of impending marriages everywhere. So what should you do if you’re planning to propose, but don’t want an engagement ring to be part of the moment—whether because you want a [low maintenance proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple), you want to propose with another piece of jewelry, or rings simply aren’t your partners style? The Zola team is here to walk you through the process. \n\n### Make Sure You’re Both on the Same Page\n\nEngagement rings are a big social signifier of being engaged, and some people don’t feel properly engaged unless they have a ring to show for it. You want to make sure your partner is on board with the idea of a marriage proposal without a wedding ring. You don’t want the absence of the ring to be the focus of your proposal. Even if the two of you generally forgo conventional [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions), people can be surprisingly attached to engagement rings. Before you plan your proposal, check-in with your partner to gauge their general feelings about rings. \n\nIf you’re more concerned that you won’t buy the right ring, then read on for suggestions on proposing before making your purchase. \n\n### Propose Now, Buy the Ring Later\n\nBuying an engagement ring is a big deal. Engagement rings are expensive, wildly different from one another, and something that your partner might wear for his or her entire life. A lot of people are hesitant to jump into such a big decision without the direct input of their partner. \n\nIf you’re planning to propose now and buy the ring later, you have a few options. You can propose with a heartfelt gift instead of a ring, such as a photo album with pictures that span your relationship or a particularly meaningful poem. If you propose without a ring—but want to show your partner that a ring is on the way—you can buy a temporary ring that’s a placeholder, such as a large candy rock ring or a paper mache ring. Or, you can make a certificate good for one ring-shopping experience together, and present this along with your proposal. \n\nThe idea is to convey that the ring will be part of your engagement period, but not part of your marriage proposal. \n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57BcxK1mE95lk4Lm73u7s6/2b0a8dfb2ff3b27e0dc68b7d9d44a2ee/Inline_Pixabay.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### The Decision to Ditch the Ring Entirely \n\nIncreasingly, many couples are foregoing engagement rings entirely. Some feel the tradition is antiquated, overly gendered, or simply an unneeded expense. When both partners agree, the decision to go without a ring is an easy one. \n\nThe more difficult part of this decision can be dealing with the negative feedback of family and friends. We’ve all heard the routine: When a woman gets engaged to be married, she’s often asked to show off her ring. (This is way less of an issue with men, who often don’t wear engagement rings.) Social media photos of engagement announcements often feature at least one, if not multiple, close-ups of the ringed finger. \n\nIf you decide to propose without a ring, you might want to prepare for the people in your life who will be upset by this decision. Not because you need to pander to them, but because you want to get ahead of those critiques. Plan out your one sentence, the calm and collected explanation that says that you don’t need a diamond ring to decide to get married, and move on. \n\n### Alternatives to Engagement Rings\n\nFor many people, the engagement ring is about the symbolism of the investment. The ring, for all its expense, implies permanence. In other words, the person is putting down some serious investment in the person by investing so seriously in a diamond ring. \n\nLots of other gifts can achieve these same goals when planning out a romantic proposal, though. When considering alternatives to the engagement ring, you want to consider gifts that come with some symbolic backstory and demonstrate a significant amount of investment, either emotional or financial. The goal is to convey that you are “all in” on this proposal and willing to back that up with some thought and personal investment. \n\n### 1. Buy a Watch \nIn recent years, it’s become more commonplace for women to propose to men to present them with a watch. This can be a beautiful way for a couple to take charge of the too-often gendered reality of proposals and guide the process themselves. Make sure the watch matches the style of your partner. \n\n### 2. Book a Vacation\nIn place of a ring, present your loved one with a planned vacation to a spot you both want to visit. The trip can be a way to spend time together and celebrate your decision to get married. This trip should be a truly exciting and adventurous proposal. \n\n### 3. Take An Adventure\nHas there been an adventure you and your partner have been wanting to experience together—like skydiving, rock climbing, or whitewater rafting? If so, plan an excursion for the two of you—and then cap off the adrenaline-filled day with a proposal they’re sure to remember for the rest of their life!\n\n![Can You Propose Without a Ring?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2BgqWB13HjPfxm0Y4EIkq1/cbd507a23bc64d94983561403ae90de6/Inline_Pixabay__1_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 4. Shop for Jewelry\nWho says you need a ring? If you want a gift that will last forever, but your partner isn’t interested in a ring, try another type of jewelry. Diamond earrings, pendant necklaces, or anything that you know your partner will love and adore can be a really beautiful gift for a proposal.\n\n### 5. Offer a Family Heirloom\nIf you want to give your significant other jewelry to signify your engagement, it doesn’t need to come from the jewelry store. An heirloom from your family (like your mothers’s necklace or a bracelet your grandfather gifted your grandmother when they got engaged) is a meaningful symbol of love—and a great way to propose.\n\n### 6. Plan The Perfect Surprise Proposal\nNot all engagement gifts need to be physical items. If your partner is the kind of person that watches proposal videos on YouTube, planning an over-the-top surprise proposal (like a flash mob!) is the perfect way to begin the rest of your lives together. \n\n### 7. Buy a House\nThis is a rather dramatic option, but for the right couple, a stunning gesture can be to present your loved one with the home you want to live in, with them, forever.\n\n### 8. Go Romantic\nLet’s just say again that no proposal needs a big, expensive gift. Sometimes the best proposal is one that comes straight from the heart. A romantic gift, which might be anything from tracking down some beloved childhood toy to putting together a recipe book of her favorite family dishes, can be the absolute right choice. The point is to show that you care and that you’re putting your love on full display. Think of a gift that will make your partner feel overwhelmed with love, and you’ll be on the right track.\n\n### 9. Write It In The Sky\nIf you want to propose in a way your partner will never forget, using a skywriting service to write your proposal in the sky is a fun, memorable way to ask for their hand in marriage.\n\n### 10. Create Something From Scratch\nYou don’t have to buy something to propose. If you’re the crafty type, building or creating something handmade (for example, building a table or creating a painting) can be a personal way to commemorate such a special day. \n\n## Tips to Propose Without A Ring\nNeed some more tips popping the question—but without the bling? Here are some things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Be clear__. When someone sees an engagement ring, it’s clear what’s happening—and, as such [what you say during your proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple) isn’t as critical; they’ll get the idea. But if you’re going to propose without a ring, it’s super important that you’re clear—and make sure to distinctly ask “will you marry me?” Otherwise, your partner might not know you’re proposing!\n\n- __Set the mood__. Ring or no ring, you want your proposal to be special—so make sure to set the mood and create a memorable backdrop for your engagement (for example, by choosing the perfect song, filling the space with flowers, or lighting candles). \n\n- __Consider involving friends and family__. If you really want your proposal to be a celebration, consider inviting friends and family to witness the big moment and/or celebrate with you immediately afterwards. Who needs an engagement ring when you’re surrounded by the people you love most?\n\nEven if your proposal idea doesn’t include a diamond ring to match, that doesn't mean you have to wait until you have one. Sometimes people don't want fancy jewelry. No matter how you choose to propose, just be sure that both individuals are on the same page.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Planning a wedding proposal is no joke. Make sure you’re prepared by following this wedding proposal checklist. ","title":"Wedding Proposal Checklist","slug":"wedding-proposal-checklist","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yu05UOJ3vPezTnlJkOJFR/0a404fe21dbe265fcda15418ce693871/Hero_ClassicKeyWestOceanfrontAffair_LivingWaterImages.jpg","altText":"Wedding Proposal Checklist"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. 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Read on for tips on how to propose to a man.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-30T17:03:43.838Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7c3zU7NCSq4IdpOmArMWZM/a37b0e47c1323e761830de9dc0b9e0a3/Hero_IntimateMountaintopElopementStyledShoot_RaynaMcginnisPhotography.jpg","altText":"Guide to Proposing to a Man"},"heroCredit":"Rayna Mcginnis Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- If *you* want to be the one to pop the question, know you're not alone! 2% of women today propose to their male partners, a trend that's bound to grow as more couples challenge gender norms.\n- You don’t need a ring to propose to your man. You can present a card, a watch, a gift, or nothing at all. \n- If you decide to kneel when you propose, make sure your outfit allows for the task. \n- Have a strategy for when—and how—to announce the engagement to family and friends. \n","body":"We all know how popular culture portrays the classic marriage proposal: the man on one knee, the proffered ring box, the woman overcome with emotion. It’s an image that needs no explanation. Even in a modern world, the kneeling man with a perfect ring remains the visual reference point for a wedding proposal. \n\nAccording to a [recent Zola survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men), __only 2% of women today propose to their male partners.__ The #1 thing holding most women back from feeling like they can propose is the idea of the \"perfect proposal\" that society-at-large, the media, and the wedding industry has shaped for them. \n\nBut the truth is that there's no right way, or right person, to propose. __Zola is setting out to celebrate couples who embrace the endless possibilities with all aspects of their weddings, and that includes reimagining what proposals should look like.__ The water can still be tricky to navigate, as there’s a real lack of guidance on the subject. Luckily, the Zola team is here to help with the woman’s guide to proposing to a man. \n\n\n\n## Deciding to Propose \n\nThe best time to propose is after you and your partner know that you want to get married. For many couples, the formal proposal is the last step in a much longer series of conversations about marriage. You don’t want your moment of proposal to be the first time you and your partner have ever discussed marriage. While the proposal itself might be a surprise—the day, the time, the method of asking—the question itself shouldn’t shock your partner, especially if you have friends or family present for the big moment.\n\n- __If you’ve never discussed marriage, first open up the conversation.__ How do each of you envision the next step of your relationship? If you sense your partner is reluctant to commit, do not propose as a way to force their hand.\n- __There is also the big question of when you hope to plan your wedding.__ Some couples don’t like to have an extended engagement, and so one partner might propose only when they’ve decided on an ideal wedding date.\n-__You should also consider work schedules and other big family announcements.__ Proposing right before a two-week work trip or having your engagement announcement conflict with his sister’s wedding is not ideal.\n\nOf course, some couples get engaged during an informal, spontaneous conversation in which one partner asks the other to marry them. This organic moment can be very intimate and beautiful. Some couples might choose to follow up with a more elaborate proposal idea, and some will consider the question asked and answered.\n\nFor a woman, deciding to be the one who proposes can also mean making waves in traditional marriage protocol. This might matter to some brides, and it might be no big deal to others. But the proposal remains one of the few gendered marriage rituals, even among otherwise egalitarian social groups. You might be surprised by the reaction of family and friends to your decision to ask the big question. \n\nIf you haven’t discussed it at all with your partner, you might be surprised by his reaction, too. [Zola's recent survey](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/addressing-the-stigma-around-women-proposing-to-men) revealed that __though more than half (58%) of women believe that their male partner would not be okay with them proposing, but most men (93%) would have said \"Yes\" if they were poposed to.__ Though we hope this is reassuring, checking in with your partner first is one of the most important things in [how to plan a proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question). For all you know, he was planning an elaborate proposal of his own. If your partner is a pretty traditional guy, check in with him about his general feelings around proposals. Proposals should be delightful surprises, not come with unexpected reactions. \n\n![How to Propose to a Man | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5teyNUVOJguI4VGtDpRyQL/bb2eb87835ca683b6f56654e4d74ed66/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### What to Do About the Ring \n\nThe proposal is about asking someone to marry you, and finding out if the answer is yes—that’s it. There certainly doesn’t need to be a [ring](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/womens-wedding-rings) involved to make that happen. As such, many women decide to propose and then discuss the question of buying rings separately from the decision to get married. \n\nIn recent years, an alternative tradition has emerged for women to buy the man a watch when they propose, symbolizing the time they will spend together. If you go this route, then make sure to pay close attention to your partner’s style and taste in watches. This should be a substantial purchase that he will wear for years to come, and you want to make sure he likes it. You could even go watch shopping together.\n\nSome women want to have something on hand for the moment they propose, but a ring or a watch doesn’t quite fit their vision. You can get creative with your proposal idea. Maybe present him with a heartfelt card about why you want to get married or a gift that will be particularly meaningful to him. This might be something of sentimental value, tickets to his absolute favorite band, or plans for a once-in-a-lifetime trip together. Again, the most important thing is to mark the moment as meaningful for you as a couple.\n\nIf you do want a ring to be a part of the proposal, you have a few options. You can give him a wedding band that he can choose to wear after the wedding, you can present him a ring that he will choose to wear as an engagement ring, or you can buy him a ring he might wear on his right hand until the wedding.\n\n### To Kneel or Not to Kneel \n\nThe tradition of kneeling in order to ask someone to marry you is very old. In many traditional contexts, kneeling is a sign of respect that demonstrates loyalty and allegiance. Knights, for example, knelt before their king and queen, and in many religions the faithful will kneel in front of an altar, respected clergy, or sacred image as a way to pay homage and respect. Similarly, the man knelt before the woman to symbolize the honor it was to ask for her hand.\n\nFor a lot of people, the gesture of kneeling feels symbolic and meaningful for a wedding proposal. Women who want to kneel when they ask the question should definitely do so. If you have a gift to offer, make sure it’s in easy reach before you go down on that one knee. If you’re not offering a gift, then kneel down and take your partner’s hand when you ask the question, or keep your hands on your knee.\n\nYou should also be dressed for the occasion. Don’t wear a tight pencil skirt or high stilettos, as it will make the kneeling position more difficult. You want some stretch in your clothes. You should also be mindful of short, flowy skirts that might blow in the wind or prove too revealing in the position. Some people find trousers the easiest option. Whatever you wear, practice kneeling in your outfit beforehand, so you’re not caught off guard during the moment.\n\nFor women who don’t want to kneel, but want to physically mark the moment, there are gestures of intimacy you can adopt. You can take your partner’s hands and look into his eyes as you ask him to marry you, for example. \n\n![A Woman’s Guide to Proposing to a Man](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bx7x4OgpR86pHSmiaCidz/c465dae3d736b459f6f4f298dd9dd243/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Proposal Tips\nAs with any proposal, those planning to propose to their man could benefit from a few quick tips. Before diving head-first into things, read the following. Keep them top-of-mind as you plan what's sure to be a day (or evening, or night) to remember.\n\n- __Be completely sure you're ready.__ Check in with yourself and make sure you aren't feeling any sort of uncertainty. Know that you're proposing, because you and your partner are ready to make things official and step into married life together.\n- __Consider your partner's feelings.__ Equally as important is where your partner is at with your relationship. Before proposing, have a conversation and make sure you're on the same page. At this point, it shouldn't be about if, but when.\n- __Tailor your proposal to your partner.__ Remember: You aren't planning your dream proposal, but his (or the both of yours, if your tastes here align). Shape your proposal to your SO's personality and/or passions.\n- __Be sensitive to several reactions.__ Gender roles typically have a man proposing to his partner. If you haven't floated the idea of you proposing to them, be prepared for an sensitive to a variety of reactions. There's a chance he may be disappointed he didn't get to ask you first. In that case, suggest that he ask you in return at another time of his choosing. Having asked each other is a lovely thought and will make for wonderful proposal stories.\n- __Prepare.__ You know the saying, *failing to prepare*... Well, the same can be said for any and all proposals. Have a backup plan or two in mind in case the weather shifts, you can't make it to your planned location, people can't show, or any other array of things goes wrong. In any case, always roll with the punches and remember what matters: That you're asking your partner to spend the rest of your lives together. Your partner won't know your new plan from the actual proposal plan.\n\n## Special Proposal Ideas\nEquipped with your newfound information, it's time to brainstorm some proposal plans. At the heart of things, your proposal should be genuine and heartfelt. That being said, a few [fun and creative ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas) never hurt. Read on for some of our favorite ideas.\n\n### 1. A Beach or Hike Proposal. \n\nFor the couple that loves to be outdoors together, plan a proposal that takes place on the beach or at the end of your beau's favorite hike. A major pro, here, is that you can have family members and best friends waiting nearby to surprise your SO post-proposal. This proposal is also fairly easy to put together, depending on any extra details you might include, and can be very cost-efficient.\n### 2. Involve your pets. \n\nIf you and/or your SO have a beloved pet, get them involved in asking the big question. For example, purchase (or make) a bandana that says, \"Will you marry me?\" and tie it around your pet's neck while out on a walk. This surprise proposal makes for a lovely moment you're both sure to remember for the rest of your lives.\n\n### 3. A Holiday Proposal. \n\nAnother proposal idea for those who want loved ones nearby is to pop the question during a favored holiday. Plan a special moment in advance (e.g. Christmas tree shopping, the countdown during New Year's Eve) or keep the ring on you and let spontaneity decide. Either approach is sure to get a sentimental SO's \"I do.\"\n\n## Announcing the Engagement \n\nWomen and men will often announce their engagement in gendered language, for example proclaiming “she said yes!” or “I said yes!” to share the good news. Similarly, social media is full of engagement pictures that are nothing but a woman’s hand with a perfect ring, announcing the engagement without any words.\n\nFor women who propose to their partners, it can be tricky to find the right language. Some couples want to celebrate the fact that the woman popped the question. This can be a great way to flip any stereotypes on their head and normalize women proposing to men. You can take some fun pictures captioned “he said yes!” or “I can’t believe I convinced this guy to marry me” to share with family and friends. This is a time to have fun.\n\nOther couples may opt to put the focus on the upcoming marriage and not the proposal. Social media captions such as “we’re getting married!” is a more forward-focused way to let people know about the engagement.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thinking of popping the question? Arrange the perfect proposal for your partner with these creative ideas. From romantic to adventurous, there's one for you!","title":"50 Unique Marriage Proposal Ideas [+ Printables]","slug":"proposal-ideas","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6dR1PxiYWKzfOfBhHANhYv/cd70212d7dfbc320706b4488eed2dd13/proposal-ideas-2.jpg","altText":"proposal idea hero image of person holding engagement ring box"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore effortless yet meaningful proposal ideas for couples who cherish simplicity. 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Check out our latest article for all our top tips and tricks.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2020-12-29T21:35:40.650Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZSvx7fS927GXT72ZS6XYW/3278ca8712f9f8e9edeac2ca35019fa1/Hero_EarthyPunkRockStyledShoot_CreatrixPhotography.jpg","altText":"Surprise Proposal"},"heroCredit":"Creatrix Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Surprise proposals can be exciting, but be sure that it’s the right type of proposal for your partner. \n- Be careful who you tell, and don’t leave clues, such as the ring or receipt, where your SO can find them. \n- Do things to distract your partner, such as using a different credit card and throwing them off the proposal trail.\n","body":"Life affords many surprises. While there’s the wrong kind—cracking your iPhone screen or a flat tire—many unexpected circumstances are oh-so-right. Popping the question is one of those, but coming up with romantic ways to keep your big moment a secret can be difficult.\n\nIf you’re trying to pull off a __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__, there are creative ways to fly under the radar. Below, our experts share a number of __[best wedding proposal ideas/best proposal ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__ on how to inspire the perfect proposal story, so you'll have no issues in planning that special moment without your partner knowing, helping you continue to shape your love story—and the rest of your life together. Let’s look at some unique marriage proposal ideas/unique proposal ideas.\n\n## How to Pull Off the Best Surprise Proposals \n\n### 1. Be careful who you tell about your epic proposal\nYour __[friends and family](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement)__ could have the best intentions, but some have loose lips. Others get so nervous about keeping a secret that they act awkwardly and arouse suspicion. If you need to rely on others to pull off your surprise proposal, use caution. Remind them that it’s essential to keep their eye on the prize and not let one word—or glance—slip. \n\n### 2. Ensure that your marriage proposal is well planned.\nChances are your SO will be clued in if you’re acting nervous or distracted. Don’t leave the planning of your __[surprise proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/classic-marriage-proposal-ideas)__ to the last minute. Have everything in place, such as a beautiful setup and a proposal photographer. If others are involved, be sure that they are clear on their role and know exactly what to do when. A well-organized plan will help you relax and act naturally until it’s time to pop the question. \n\n### 3. Guard your devices before you pop the question.\nThe last thing you want your partner to do is to read a stray text that pops in. Put conversations with everyone involved on mute. Turn off notifications if you have to do so. Your faraway mom may send you a “good luck popping the question” text. Yikes! How do you explain that to your partner? It’s best to keep track of your smartphone, but don’t let that spark suspicion, either. Just make sure there are no accidental slips, so it can remain a total surprise.\n\n### 4. Distract them to throw them off the trail. \nIf you’re afraid that they’ll sense something is coming, throw them off course. Have your SO anticipate a marriage proposal at a different time or location than you planned. When they assume that you’ll be popping the question next month, imagine their shock when you propose this week. Distraction can be one of the best ways to divert their attention from what’s going on. \n\n### 5. Hide the engagement ring and anything that has to do with it.\nIn the words of __[Antoine Dodson](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzNhaLUT520&list=FLBk90eKSRwxjUUZMbUkmVag&index=20)__, “Hide yo ring, hide yo box, hide yo bag.” Oh, wait—that’s not what he said? Well, it’s what he would have said if someone was asking him about the best surprise proposal ideas. That said, don’t leave anything—__[ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring)__, box, receipt, and for heaven’s sake, the jewelry store bag—where your partner can find it.\n\n### 6. Stick to the routine.\nUnless you’re an ultra-spontaneous couple, changing plans can be a big red flag. Your partner may already know a __[ring is coming](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ritani_fivestone_wedding_ring_14ktwhitegold)__, and senses can heighten at anything out of the norm. When planning surprise wedding proposals, it’s best to develop a plan that includes your everyday routine. Ask while at your favorite restaurant on a Tuesday night. Pop the question at your favorite team’s next home game. Keep it simple and undetectable. \n\n### 7. Don’t use a joint credit card or account to purchase the ring.\nWhen your charge card bill is double what it typically is, your SO will be looking at line items. Another big surprise-spoiler is a __[high-dollar charge](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-finance-an-engagement-ring)__—or possibly any charge—from XYZ jewelry store. Do your best to pay cash, use store credit, or get a new card to pay.\n\nReady for some covert operations? No matter what attempts you make, your partner may be alerted if they’re naturally suspicious or a super sleuth. If they figure it out, change course and start with a new plot. No matter the method, doing your best to plan the ultimate surprise proposal will __[pay off in the long run](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement)__.\n\n## Pros and Cons\n### Pros\n- __Fond memories.__ When many people look back at getting engaged, the surprise is what's greatly admired and remembered.\n\n- __Creativity and dedication.__ Your partner may deeply appreciate the creativity, time, and work put into a special surprise proposal.\n\n- __Tradition.__ Many significant others consider the surprise aspect of a proposal necessary and, thus, __[part of the whole tradition](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-etiquette-what-you-need-to-know-before-popping-the-big-question)__.\n\n### Cons\n- __Uncertainty.__ If you're uncertain whether or not your partner is ready to get engaged, don't spring a surprise proposal—especially not in front of other people.\n\n- __Keeping the secret.__ Proposal planning can be difficult to pull off in secret. If you're worried you'll give it away or that any suspicious behavior will come off badly, skip the secrecy.\n\n- __Not into surprises.__ Surprise engagements don't excite everybody. If your partner isn't typically a fan of surprises (or you aren't a fan of pulling them), don't try to force it.\n\n## 21 Surprise Proposal Ideas\n\n![How to Pull Off a Surprise Proposal | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5mvq6UvIYPZo3H3Nc7gtjl/10c5acb04946d100d45dc10b4bee2bbf/Inline_Pixabay__2_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pixabay\n\n### 1. Recreate a movie scene\nIf you and your partner are big film fans—or fans of one film, in particular—base your surprise proposal on a certain scene. This will be easier if the scene itself is a proposal (à la Pride and Prejudice, Love Actually, and Crazy Rich Asians), but don't be discouraged if it isn't. Even Star Wars and Lord of the Rings moments can have a proposal built into them. You can take this as far as you'd like, with a special setting, costumes, or the movie playing in the background. Surprise your SO with the set up and performance, followed by asking them to marry you.\n\n### 2. Take advantage of a holiday\nIf your partner loves a particular holiday, try to plan your proposal around it. Whether that's doing a Christmas proposal in the middle of gift-giving, planning an Easter egg scavenger hunt that ends with a ring, going into the New Year engaged, or taking advantage of the chocolates and rose petals that come with Valentine's Day, your SO is sure to enjoy the added cause to celebrate.\n\n### 3. Recreate your first date\nIf your first date was memorable or extra special, consider recreating it. Café, restaurant, park, or otherwise, plan a day or night out at your first date spot, ring in tow. Once there, settle in and have a good time. When you're ready to propose, start reminiscing about your first date. Not only what happened, but how you felt about your partner. Then, when you feel the time is right, bring out the ring and propose.\n\n### 4. Hold a game night\nFor the couple that loves a night in with loved ones, prepare for the perfect surprise. Invite close family and best friends over for a game night, in which you've crafted your proposal into one of the games. Not sure how to do this? We think Scrabble is an easy way to go. Ask someone to distract your partner in another room as you pull the game out and place \"Will you marry me?\" on the board. Then, bring them back in to play. When they notice the big question, get down on one knee and launch into your __[proposal speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-say-during-a-proposal)__.\n\n### 5. Have a photo shoot\nIf you're a frequent photographer, consider planning a photoshoot. You can ask to take photos of your significant other or suggest a couple's shoot. The latter works especially well if a holiday is coming up, like Valentine's Day or Christmas. Start snapping away, then, at the end of the shoot, get in front of the camera, get down on one knee, and propose! Just make sure you're getting photos as it happens. Bonus: You'll immediately have engagement photos you can share with family and across social media.\n\n### 6. Gift them flowers\nSurprise proposals don't need to be big productions, nor do they need to be very public. For the __[low-key couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/12-no-fuss-proposal-ideas-for-the-low-maintenance-couple)__, consider slipping the engagement ring or ring box into a bouquet of flowers. Bring a bouquet home from a local grocery store or florists (or have the flowers delivered), carefully place the ring amidst the blooms, and give them to your partner. They'll be in for not one, but two sweet and intimate surprises.\n\n### 7. Take a walk along the beach\nWhether you're on vacation or live near the coast, a beach proposal is extremely romantic. What's more, it's very easy to pull off. Slip the ring box in your pocket and take a walk along the shoreline with your partner, perhaps during sunrise or sunset. When the time feels right, surprise your SO by getting down on one knee. You can also have friends and family standing by, waiting to jump out and celebrate.\n\n### 8. Plan a boat ride\nIf you live near the water and have access to a boat (don't forget rentals!), plan a day or evening out at sea. Gather friends or family to join you for extra fun—and to not tip your partner off to the surprise. Then, when the sun is setting or you feel the time is right, propose to your partner. Tell a friend or family member when you're just about to do it so they can get the whole gorgeous scene on video from nearby.\n\n### 9. Take a special trip\nNot everyone can jet off at a moment's notice, but you can plan a special trip ahead of time. Jet-setting to a different country, taking a road trip to a nearby destination, and everything in-between can work wonderfully for a surprise proposal. Even stay-cations can be very romantic. Wherever you end up, once you've settled, pick a beautiful location and ask your partner the big question. You'll both love the ability to celebrate after, be it by relaxing or adventuring.\n\n### 10. Host an engagement party\nNothing says \"surprise\" like a party. Plan your proposal at a location where you can also host an engagement party afterwards. Consider restaurants, nice bars, hotels, and even your home. You don't have to go all out with your budget, but can definitely splurge on a big celebration if you want to. Simply plan a \"date night\" with your partner, get them to dress for the occasion, and bring them to the spot. Once there, surprise them with a romantic proposal and the arrival of your loved ones.\n\nSurprise proposals can be tough to pull off. Even the simplest of ideas run the chance of being spilled. That being said, try not to put too much pressure on yourself. So long as the moment is meaningful and your words come from the heart, your partner is sure to love whatever efforts you put in.\n\n### 11. Organize a flash mob\nGet together with loved ones—or hire professional dancers—to coordinate and organize a flash mob proposal. Then, take your partner somewhere public—like a park, mall, or beach—where the waiting flash mob will spring into action to help you pop the big question. (A flash mob works especially well for outdoor proposals!)\n\n### 12. Hide the ring in your Christmas tree\nThe holidays make for an especially romantic and magical time of year, so why not use them to come up with the perfect proposal? Before you go to bed on Christmas Eve, hide the ring box in the Christmas tree. On Christmas morning, call special attention to “one more gift” before your partner pulls the box out of the branches.\n\n### 13. Visit Disney for a fairytale proposal\nIt’s called the Magic Kingdom for a reason. What’s more magical than proposing in front of Disney’s Cinderella Castle? Enchant your partner and have them feel like they’re living a fairytale by popping the question while surrounded by the magic and classical beauty of some of their favorite characters and stories.\n\n### 14. Ride a ferris wheel\nWith the stars above and city lights flickering in the distance, a ferris wheel proposal is a surefire way to surprise your partner. For the best effect, wait until the ferris wheel is at its apex, with a vast and stunning view to serve as the backdrop when you pull out the ring and have your big moment.\n\n### 15. Hide the ring inside a fortune cookie\nCracking open a fortune cookie and reading your fortune is always fun. But what if, instead of a fortune, that cookie hid an engagement ring instead? Next time you order Chinese takeout, slip away with one of the cookies and heat it in the microwave quickly to help it open up before secreting the ring inside of it. When it’s time for your partner to read their fortune, dazzle them with a beautiful engagement ring! (It’ll definitely be the most memorable cookie they’ve ever had!)\n\n### 16. Go for a hot air balloon ride\nCruising through the sky on a hot air balloon is a great way to enjoy a little bit of excitement and romance with your loved one. As you drift over and past the natural beauty below, pull out the ring and ask for your partner’s hand in marriage for a truly surprising—and breathtaking—proposal. (Just make sure to share your plan with the pilot and staff first).\n\n### 17. Put together a jigsaw puzzle\nPuzzles are always more fun when you’re not sure what the final result should look like. Purchase or create a jigsaw puzzle for the perfect surprise proposal by encouraging your partner to gradually piece it together until it’s all but obvious that you’re asking “will you marry me?”\n\n### 18. Climb a mountain in a ski lift\nIf you and your partner enjoy hitting the slopes, a ski lift is the perfect surprise proposal idea. As the lift caresses over the gentle snow-covered slopes of your favorite resort with the promise of a warm hot chocolate in each of your near-futures, get down onto your knee and ask to share the rest of your lives together.\n\n### 19. Hire a skywriter\nFor a grandiose and surprising proposal, invite your partner to join you somewhere with a great and unobstructed view of the sky—ideally on a day with clear weather and little cloud cover. When you hear the whirring engine of a low-flying plane above, direct your partner’s attention to it and pull out the ring just in time for the pilot to finish writing out the big question against the clear blue sky.\n\n### 20. Spend a night stargazing\nStars shine brilliantly for millions of years with the same amount of energy with which you love your partner. For this surprise proposal idea, head out somewhere with a clear view of the night sky and little light pollution, roll out a blanket onto the ground (or enjoy the soft grass against your backs), and stare up at the sky overhead. Point out your favorite constellations and, when the time is right, pull out the ring and share your speech beneath the night sky.\n\n### 21. Create a treasure hunt\nFor another perfect proposal idea, think of all the places you and your partner consider special or important, like the place you had your first date and your favorite restaurant. Hide clues in or at each of these places to create a trail of breadcrumbs your partner can follow until the end, where the final treasure awaits: a beautiful proposal ring and a heart-warming speech in which you ask to spend the rest of your lives together.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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It’s official: Everyone’s opting for these months—and here’s why.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2022-01-06T22:41:32.982Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1RBNfTEOwI6UdlwKrEQqw0/8bddc5094111a16de83743ba5ec39212/1116_EA_FLR-Months_Everyones_Getting_Engaged.jpg","altText":"top months to get engaged and married"},"heroCredit":"Katie Dawn Photo","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- This year the __most popular months to get engaged and married__ look a little familiar. Below we cover all of the ‘whens’ and ‘whys.’\n- Due to extended engagements and brewing excitement, 2023 will see an __earlier wedding season than usual__.\n- The __top months to get engaged__ haven’t seen too much change, being influenced mostly by the holidays, time spent with loved ones, and the weather.\n- However, the __top months to get married__ have shifted from April and May, to October, September and June.\n","body":" \nWhen a couple gets engaged or married is typically based on a number of factors. Holidays, breaks from work and school, and—perhaps most notable—weather, all play into the month that someone proposes or says I do. In fact, __[wedding season](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-season-should-you-get-married-in)__ exists for these exact reasons.\n\nThis coming year, things are looking a bit familiar to popular wedding months of the past. While some of the most popular times to get engaged and married remain mainstays, we’re seeing new months on couples’ radars and an overall shift in 2023’s projected wedding season. It’s official: Everyone’s getting engaged and married in these months. Here’s why.\n\n## Top Months to Get Married \nWith 2023 coming off the heels of one of the busiest wedding seasons ever, it's no surprise to see the most popular wedding months pre-pandemic rising back to the top. \n\nAfter last year's shift due to postponed weddings, [September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) returns to the #1 most popular wedding month for 2023. Summertime and early fall typically host the most weddings, next year’s couples have set the most dates between May and September.\n\n### September\nMany people’s calendars are marked up with wedding dates and summer vacations during the summer months. __[September](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/september-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__, however, sees a decrease in packed plans, making it ideal for couples with longer guest lists. Guests have more time and availability for early [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/november-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) and are more likely to attend your celebration. September also embodies that desired fall feeling many engaged couples are after, while still offering the warm weather present at the end of summer. Add in the three-day Labor Day weekend, and many are sold on this being the best time of year.\n\n### June\n__[June weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/june-wedding-everything-you-need-to-know)__ are well-liked for many of the reasons that we’ve already covered. However, the month is also steeped in history and tradition. For one, June is named after Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage and childbirth, and thus long considered a favorable month to get married. Nowadays, June weddings are often sought after for more practical reasons. The beginning of summer has great weather, school break offers flexibility, and you can choose an outdoor wedding venue.\n\n### May\nMay weddings enjoy many of the benefits that June weddings do, such as nice weather and the accompanying flexibility. May is one of the months of the year that’s less likely to clash with plans, such as summer vacations and weddings. On that note, guests won’t suffer from wedding fatigue, which is possible during the busy summer wedding season. For many venues and vendors, a May spring wedding falls outside peak summer pricing. For couples that prioritize sticking to a budget, this month provides all of the perks of a summer wedding without the extra cost.\n\n### October\nThe reasons why October sees so many weddings are similar to why it sees so many engagements. In many places, it’s the perfect post-summer temperature, and vibrant fall colors have started to paint mountains, trees, and landscapes. You can also use deeper, moodier, or cozier decor than is usually seen in the spring or summer. An autumn wedding also opens the door to fun and seasonal food and cocktail options. __[Halloween](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-put-together-a-spooky-halloween-wedding)__ also gives couples the chance to throw the ultimate themed ceremony and reception in potentially cold weather, especially on the east coast.\n\n### April\nAlthough April showers can occur, this seems to be the only downside to having a wedding this month. When it isn’t raining, couples and their guests can enjoy comfortable weather, with temperatures anywhere from the fifties to the eighties throughout the US. [April](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/april-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) also has a popular and traditional context, making it a favorable month. After all, William and Kate chose April 29th, and the Romans considered April the Sacred Month of Venus, the Goddess of love and fertility.\n\n### July\nOne of the first things that come to mind with a mid-summer wedding is the high likelihood of fantastic weather. In many parts of the US, there is a very low risk of showers or strong winds, which is a great relief for those who want an outdoor ceremony or destination wedding. The days are longer, an abundance of flowers and fresh fruits are in season, and people are more willing to spend time traveling and socializing.\n\n## Top Months to Get Engaged \nWith that in mind, let’s start by looking at the months when people get engaged. This data hasn’t been seen as big of a change, likely due to proposals being a more intimate experience. That is to say, not many couples plan on having all of their loved ones present for it.\n\nMore often, proposals involve the couple, if not a handful of close friends and family members. This has made getting engaged throughout the last year easier to manage, with the usual factors such as weather, time off from work and school, and holidays having the largest influence. \n\n### December\nThe holiday season has long reigned supreme when it comes to the most popular months to get engaged—and we can’t say that we’re surprised. December brings with it feelings of thankfulness and love in the winter months. It’s the time that we’re most likely to be surrounded by loved ones, many of whom couples want to share these special moments with, which is one reason winter weddings are popular. With loved ones near, holiday cheer, and many towns decked out in festive decor, it is no surprise it is such a beloved time of the year to get engaged.\n\n### May\n[May](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/may-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) is one of the best months and lands in that nice place between late spring and early summer, with sunnier weather making an appearance in many places. Warmer days and the long Memorial Day weekend begin to coax people outside, making outdoor proposals much easier to pull off. Another plus to getting engaged in May is that it leads seamlessly into summer; a time when __[celebrating your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party)__ and beginning wedding planning becomes more manageable due to summer break and people’s availability opening up.\n\n### October\nWith fall kicking off just a few weeks earlier, __[October](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/october-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know)__ is a prime time to take advantage of the best weather. Come mid-October, most of the US sees the arrival of fall foliage, a great excuse to drive into the mountains or take a surprise trip upstate. A vibrant, gorgeous autumn backdrop makes quite the backdrop for a proposal. Of course, we can’t go without mentioning Halloween, as spirited couples who go all out find it an especially special day to get engaged.\n\n### March\nLate March marks the beginning of springtime peak season, a time representative of renewal, rebirth, and fresh new beginnings. It’s a wonderful time to celebrate the start of something new, especially with the return of warmer weather and new blooms. Spring break starts around mid-March, allowing couples with children to make a sunny escape full of adventure and relaxation. This month also has two holidays that provide the perfect time: St. Patrick’s Day (especially if you or your partner are Irish) and National Proposal Day.\n\n### June\nSummer is finally in full swing, and with it comes sunny skies, large family gatherings, and the chance to go on trips with your significant other. Many couples take advantage of the typically warm weather by spending time together at their favorite outdoor spots near or far from home. Moreover, school’s out for summer, which means that couples or significant others with children can more easily involve them in the proposal. All of this provides ample opportunity for exciting engagements in all parts of the country.\n\n### February\nThough Valentine’s only lasts a single day (February 14th), the feeling of love permeates the entire month. Whether due to the anticipation leading up to the holiday, the giddiness thereafter, or both, it isn’t shocking that a lot of couples get engaged throughout. __[Valentine’s Day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas)__ alone is an apt time for big surprises and grand expressions of love. It’s romantic and traditional, as well as pretty unforgettable.\n\n## Dates to Avoid and Consider for Your Wedding\nNot only is the time of year important to consider when planning your wedding day, but there are some dates you need to consider avoiding. Although, some holidays can be helpful. If you’re considering having your big day near a holiday, poll essential wedding guests to see if they’ll be able to attend.\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Avoid\n- __Super Bowl Sunday__ (or other major sporting events, depending on your guest list and country)\n\n- __Thanksgiving Day__\n\n- __Christmas Day__\n\n- __Easter Sunday__\n\n#### Wedding Dates to Consider\n- __Long Weekends,__ such as Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas weekends\n\n- __Weekday Weddings,__ getting married in the off-season or weekday can help avoid peak wedding season pricing\n\n- __New Year’s Eve__ and __New Year’s Day__\n\n- __Halloween__\n\n- __Valentine’s Day__\n\n- __Interestingly Numbered Dates,__ for example, 4/24/24 or 2/5/25\n\n## Setting a Schedule at Zola\nOnce you’re engaged and your date’s been picked, much of your wedding planning can begin. Great! Although, admittedly, this can be an intimidating thing to approach. Not sure where to start? Zola’s got you covered. By __[creating an account](https://www.zola.com/onboard/select-product)__, you gain access to a number of helpful tools, like a customized monthly wedding checklist. Just sign up, tell us your wedding date and any special traditions that you’ll be following, and allow us to compile the rest. Come for the checklist and stay for the __[Wedding Website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ builder, online RSVPs, and more __[Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice)__.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are guides for almost every first, but there’s no manual on proposal etiquette. Our complete guide can help. 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A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-11-15T21:25:37.344Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n- Just got engaged, now what?\n- 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n- Engagement rings and wedding bands\n- FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos","body":"\nYou’re engaged! Whether you asked or answered, you just took the first step toward one of the happiest days (and chapters) of your life. You’ve probably heard that now the work begins—and, if you’re hoping to wed in a year or less, that’s true. Wait, wait, wait… don’t get overwhelmed. Yes, there’s wedding planning to do, but it doesn’t all need to happen at once.\n\n## Just got engaged, now what?\n \n\nWith the help of Zola, you’ll be off planning in a jiffy, but your list of to-do’s after engagement doesn’t have to be stressful. However, there are certain things you and your partner should accomplish in the first month (or so) after your engagement. Plus, you’ll discover the things you shouldn’t do right away, so you’ll know what to look forward to doing.\n\nSo, now that you’ve officially ticked “[getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged)” off the list, it’s time to begin. First, congrats! Second, here’s your checklist of what’s coming up next as you begin to plan your wedding day. \n\n## 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n \n\n### 1. Celebrate\n\nIt might feel tough, but refrain from reaching for your phone right away. Instead, take some time to celebrate your engagement with your new fiancé. Make your way over to your favorite bar or restaurant and enjoy each other’s company. Take a walk on the beach or through your favorite part of the city.\n\nRegardless of the setting, enjoy the moment one-on-one (unless, of course, your loved ones were in on the [proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/proposals) and are waiting in the wings). Before you know it, you’ll be up to your neck in wedding planning, so savor this time for all it’s worth. Bask in that newly engaged glow.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TinaZh7eVfqET7ez5FgmP/527c65acd1e95d3ecf50b5852795015a/INLINE___Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Share the news.\nWhen you’re ready to tell others, start with those closest to you. This is likely your immediate family (parents and siblings), other close relatives, and best friends. Ring them personally or pay a visit, if possible, but steer clear of text messages. While it might seem like the most efficient way to tell your people, it can feel a bit impersonal. Save text announcements for people you aren’t as close with.\n\nTypically, there’s a hierarchy that states you should tell family first. However, we realize that not all dynamics are the same. [Share the news of your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) with those you love in the order you deem most appropriate.\n\n### 3. Alert the (social) media\n\nThat is if you’re on social media, of course. Once you tell your close family and friends, now it’s time to tell the world. Share a status update on Facebook to say that you’re just engaged, or post a photo or story on Instagram. Take a selfie with your partner, show off [your ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dont-like-engagement-ring), or upload a photo someone snapped of the actual engagement moment.\n\nYou’re engaged—you should absolutely share the story. However, we do caution against spamming your various timelines with [engagement news](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). There will be plenty of opportunities to share wedding planning highlights as you work out details. Maybe don’t exhaust your followers with too much upfront.\n\n### 4. Tell your loved ones first\n\nIt's normal to be extremely thrilled and excited about the proposal. Of course, you want to let everyone within earshot—or everyone with access to a smartphone—know of the good news. We get it, it’s convenient to make a couple of posts online.\n\nAnd while it’s completely up to you who you tell and how you do it, you probably don’t want the friend you lost touch with after college to find out via Facebook that you’re engaged—before your own parents or best friends. \n\nHold off on making any social media posts until you’ve delivered the news to your important people in person, if not via a phone call.\n\n### 5. Start thinking about dates\nDue to desirable venues and [certain months](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) getting booked well in advance, it’s wise to start thinking about dates quite early. This is especially the case if you’re looking to have your wedding within a year or two of getting engaged. \n\nStart by discussing the ideal time of year or month with your significant other. Then, check for any holidays, birthdays, or other conflicts that you’d like to avoid double-booking. \n\nAlso, reach out to important loved ones, such as close friends and family members, to check for conflicts before settling on anything. Find out what works for you and those closest to you, and settle on a few days or weekends that you can ask potential [venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) about.\n\n### 6. Start talking logistics\nYou and your partner have brainstormed locations, dates, and your wedding style—now’s the time to start setting things in stone. Be pragmatic in your discussions and decisions. Start by sitting down together and drawing out a personalized budget and timeline. Or, let Zola do the manual work for you – create a personalized wedding checklist, timeline and budget in just a few minutes. [Sign up and access our free wedding planning tools here](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard).\n\nThere’s no official timeline you need to stick to but your own, by the way. If you want to be engaged for a couple of years, do that. Circle back to planning in a few months or years. If that’s not you, however, start with a location and date. Once you have both of those, reach out to venues. Figure out what they have for availability around your desired date and book it. From there, you can begin looking into and [securing other vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors#:~:text=Explore%20wedding%20vendors%20by%20category), such as a wedding planner, catering, and entertainment.\n\n### 7. Say your thank yous\n\nThroughout the first few weeks of being engaged, you might receive celebratory cards and even gifts from friends and family. This is even more likely if you have an engagement party. Maintain a list of everyone who sends or brings you a card and/or gift, so that you can send out proper [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop).\n\n### 8. Spend some time researching before booking\n\nRemember how important it is to think about the big picture? You’ll want to put considerable time into that before booking a venue or any vendors for your big day. You’re just engaged, after all. \n\nWe know that locking down a space or [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) you love ASAP can be stressful, but trust us, you want to take the time to be really clear about what you both want before making anything official. \n\nTry not to rush. Allow yourselves the time to dream, find inspiration, and bounce ideas and desires off of one another.\n\n### 9. Hold off on sorting the wedding party\n\nMaid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and every bridal party and wedding party member in between… there’s potential for a lot of loved ones to be involved in your wedding day! While this is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding, we highly recommend you hold off a few weeks before asking anyone to officially take on a role. There are many details that can shape not only who you’ll want by your side but how many people you’ll be able to include. \n\nWait to ask your helpers until you’ve figured out your wedding’s basics—your budget, venue, and the type of wedding you want, to start.\n\n### 10. Keep things vague with guests for now\n\nAs with requests and potential wedding party members, hold off on inviting anyone to your wedding until you have planning underway. The excitement of being newly engaged, added to the love and well-wishes from all around, can have you wanting to share the excitement and invite everyone. Refrain. Better to keep things polite and vague now than to be put in an awkward position when someone doesn’t make the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) later on.\n\n### 11. Wait to purchase your wedding attire\n\nIt’s incredibly tempting to start trying on [wedding dresses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/tips-wedding-dress-shopping), suits, and other [wedding day attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-attire) soon after getting engaged. However, it’s crucial that you don’t jump in too soon. At this point, odds are you haven't yet decided on your budget or what you really want. \n\nRushing this process and making a purchase too soon out of excitement can lead to regret and financial issues down the line. Wait until you’re sure of what you’re looking for and can afford before making any try-on appointments.\n\n### 12. Relax\n\nOne more time: you just got engaged, so slow down. Wedding planning has the potential to be pretty stressful right off the bat. With guest list creation, wedding venue touring, budget making, and every other aspect of the wedding planning process right around the corner, don’t forget to make time to enjoy being engaged. \n\nSet some time aside for a relaxing date night, just the two of you. Put the beginning stages of planning on pause and focus on each other and how happy you are to be where you are right now.\n\n### 13. Expect some unsolicited advice\n\nUpon telling loved ones of your engagement, chances are you’re going to be hearing a lot of advice from those who have had a wedding. Take any and all unsolicited advice with grace, but don’t be quick to take it to heart. \n\nWhile you may come to agree with and appreciate some advice here and there, you definitely don’t need to take or even consider it all. Offer a “thank you,” pocket what gems you can, and move forward.\n\n### 14. Host an engagement party\n\nAfter saying yes, it’s time to celebrate! Depending on how you want to announce your engagement, this should take place before or after you post to social media. If you like the idea of telling your friends and family all at once, plan a surprise [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) before making a public announcement. That way, the news is completely unexpected. Many couples also prefer to host a more formal engagement party (with invitations and maybe even scheduled activities) a few weeks after the engagement.\n\nIf your loved ones are already in the know, one or some of them may come forward and offer to host your party for you. Whatever you decide works—engagement parties aren’t necessary, so if you choose to have one, get creative with [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) and celebrate however you want. Be aware, though: You shouldn’t invite anyone to the engagement party that you won’t invite to the wedding. Plan accordingly.\n\n### 15. Book an engagement shoot\n\nThis is another optional to-do. If an engagement photoshoot doesn’t sound like your style, stay with us for just a second. Engagement shoots are popular for a few reasons. Mainly, they’re usually free and come as an additional component of your wedding photography package. If you haven’t yet [booked a photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) (totally normal at this stage, by the way!), you can either wait until you do or you can hire another local photographer for this shoot.\n\nCouples also often see an [engagement shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) as an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera together. Again, if you have a photographer booked, this is a great time to get to know more about his or her style. This way, you’ll hopefully feel more natural when your photo is being taken from all angles come wedding day. Use your engagement photos on your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), wedding website, and/or wedding invitations.\n\n### 16. Think big picture\n\nNow that you’re no longer just engaged, your engagement celebrations have probably slowed. Now it feels like time to really start thinking about your big day. Don’t stress yourself out by immediately looking into every single detail, though. Start off by discussing big-picture ideas with your partner. Now is the time to figure out if you’re both on the same page with your dream wedding style and guest count.\n\nTalk about everything from wedding location and wedding size to a potential color palette and wedding date options. And, of course, always be open to your partner’s ideas. Stay organized off the bat by gathering inspiration in a place that’s easy to access and edit. Pinterest board, Google Doc, computer folder, binder—whatever works for you.\n\n### 17. Make time to soak it all in\n\nWe’re aware that we’re reiterating here, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t get so immediately wrapped up in wedding planning that you forget to enjoy being just engaged. Skipping over this part can lead to considerable stress later on. Pop some bubbly, spend quality time with your fiancé(e), and bask in the excitement from all of those closest to you.\n\n## Engagement rings and wedding bands\n \n\nIf you were over the moon to put your new [ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/rings) on… only to find it didn’t quite fit, you’ll want to get it sized ASAP. This won’t be the most exciting part of getting engaged, but it’s necessary if you want to avoid losing your special stone.\n\nSpeaking of losing your ring, enter ring insurance! When it comes to what to do after getting engaged, sorting out insurance definitely isn’t the most exciting task. While it's not super sexy, it's highly recommended. Most jewelry experts suggest taking out a policy with a jewelry insurance provider (and not extending your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to cover it). Head to a jeweler or another certified professional and get an appraisal. Here’s more on [engagement ring insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/reasons-to-insure-engagement-ring).\n\n## FAQs about getting engaged and post-proposal to dos\n \n\n### What does it mean to be engaged?\nJust engaged? That means you and your partner have decided to get married and are planning your future together. Being engaged is more than just wearing a ring. It's an exciting and romantic phase of your relationship. However, it also comes with some responsibilities and challenges as you grow together.\n\n### What to do after getting engaged?\nFirst of all, remember to celebrate! Next on the list comes telling your family and friends. Then, start thinking about wedding dates, share your good news on social media (optional), and arrange an engagement party and/or photo shoot. For now, don't worry about the guest list or wedding attire.\n\n### How do we announce our engagement?\nHow you announce your engagement is completely up to you and your partner. Most couples like to tell their immediate family and friends face to face before announcing their good news on social media. Others will share the news through phone calls, TikTok, or traditional paper announcements.\n\n### How to start planning a wedding?\nThe first thing you'll need for wedding planning is a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and a budget. You may want to create a wedding Google Drive and email to keep everything organized. Or you can use free budgeting and checklist tools from wedding planning sites like Zola. 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Whether you asked or answered, you just took the first step toward one of the happiest days (and chapters) of your life. You’ve probably heard that now the work begins—and, if you’re hoping to wed in a year or less, that’s true. Wait, wait, wait… don’t get overwhelmed. Yes, there’s wedding planning to do, but it doesn’t all need to happen at once.\n\n## Just got engaged, now what?\n \n\nWith the help of Zola, you’ll be off planning in a jiffy, but your list of to-do’s after engagement doesn’t have to be stressful. However, there are certain things you and your partner should accomplish in the first month (or so) after your engagement. Plus, you’ll discover the things you shouldn’t do right away, so you’ll know what to look forward to doing.\n\nSo, now that you’ve officially ticked “[getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged)” off the list, it’s time to begin. First, congrats! Second, here’s your checklist of what’s coming up next as you begin to plan your wedding day. \n\n## 17 steps for the just engaged couple\n \n\n### 1. Celebrate\n\nIt might feel tough, but refrain from reaching for your phone right away. Instead, take some time to celebrate your engagement with your new fiancé. Make your way over to your favorite bar or restaurant and enjoy each other’s company. Take a walk on the beach or through your favorite part of the city.\n\nRegardless of the setting, enjoy the moment one-on-one (unless, of course, your loved ones were in on the [proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/proposals) and are waiting in the wings). Before you know it, you’ll be up to your neck in wedding planning, so savor this time for all it’s worth. Bask in that newly engaged glow.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TinaZh7eVfqET7ez5FgmP/527c65acd1e95d3ecf50b5852795015a/INLINE___Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Share the news.\nWhen you’re ready to tell others, start with those closest to you. This is likely your immediate family (parents and siblings), other close relatives, and best friends. Ring them personally or pay a visit, if possible, but steer clear of text messages. While it might seem like the most efficient way to tell your people, it can feel a bit impersonal. Save text announcements for people you aren’t as close with.\n\nTypically, there’s a hierarchy that states you should tell family first. However, we realize that not all dynamics are the same. [Share the news of your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) with those you love in the order you deem most appropriate.\n\n### 3. Alert the (social) media\n\nThat is if you’re on social media, of course. Once you tell your close family and friends, now it’s time to tell the world. Share a status update on Facebook to say that you’re just engaged, or post a photo or story on Instagram. Take a selfie with your partner, show off [your ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dont-like-engagement-ring), or upload a photo someone snapped of the actual engagement moment.\n\nYou’re engaged—you should absolutely share the story. However, we do caution against spamming your various timelines with [engagement news](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement). There will be plenty of opportunities to share wedding planning highlights as you work out details. Maybe don’t exhaust your followers with too much upfront.\n\n### 4. Tell your loved ones first\n\nIt's normal to be extremely thrilled and excited about the proposal. Of course, you want to let everyone within earshot—or everyone with access to a smartphone—know of the good news. We get it, it’s convenient to make a couple of posts online.\n\nAnd while it’s completely up to you who you tell and how you do it, you probably don’t want the friend you lost touch with after college to find out via Facebook that you’re engaged—before your own parents or best friends. \n\nHold off on making any social media posts until you’ve delivered the news to your important people in person, if not via a phone call.\n\n### 5. Start thinking about dates\nDue to desirable venues and [certain months](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) getting booked well in advance, it’s wise to start thinking about dates quite early. This is especially the case if you’re looking to have your wedding within a year or two of getting engaged. \n\nStart by discussing the ideal time of year or month with your significant other. Then, check for any holidays, birthdays, or other conflicts that you’d like to avoid double-booking. \n\nAlso, reach out to important loved ones, such as close friends and family members, to check for conflicts before settling on anything. Find out what works for you and those closest to you, and settle on a few days or weekends that you can ask potential [venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) about.\n\n### 6. Start talking logistics\nYou and your partner have brainstormed locations, dates, and your wedding style—now’s the time to start setting things in stone. Be pragmatic in your discussions and decisions. Start by sitting down together and drawing out a personalized budget and timeline. Or, let Zola do the manual work for you – create a personalized wedding checklist, timeline and budget in just a few minutes. [Sign up and access our free wedding planning tools here](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard).\n\nThere’s no official timeline you need to stick to but your own, by the way. If you want to be engaged for a couple of years, do that. Circle back to planning in a few months or years. If that’s not you, however, start with a location and date. Once you have both of those, reach out to venues. Figure out what they have for availability around your desired date and book it. From there, you can begin looking into and [securing other vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors#:~:text=Explore%20wedding%20vendors%20by%20category), such as a wedding planner, catering, and entertainment.\n\n### 7. Say your thank yous\n\nThroughout the first few weeks of being engaged, you might receive celebratory cards and even gifts from friends and family. This is even more likely if you have an engagement party. Maintain a list of everyone who sends or brings you a card and/or gift, so that you can send out proper [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop).\n\n### 8. Spend some time researching before booking\n\nRemember how important it is to think about the big picture? You’ll want to put considerable time into that before booking a venue or any vendors for your big day. You’re just engaged, after all. \n\nWe know that locking down a space or [photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) you love ASAP can be stressful, but trust us, you want to take the time to be really clear about what you both want before making anything official. \n\nTry not to rush. Allow yourselves the time to dream, find inspiration, and bounce ideas and desires off of one another.\n\n### 9. Hold off on sorting the wedding party\n\nMaid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and every bridal party and wedding party member in between… there’s potential for a lot of loved ones to be involved in your wedding day! While this is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding, we highly recommend you hold off a few weeks before asking anyone to officially take on a role. There are many details that can shape not only who you’ll want by your side but how many people you’ll be able to include. \n\nWait to ask your helpers until you’ve figured out your wedding’s basics—your budget, venue, and the type of wedding you want, to start.\n\n### 10. Keep things vague with guests for now\n\nAs with requests and potential wedding party members, hold off on inviting anyone to your wedding until you have planning underway. The excitement of being newly engaged, added to the love and well-wishes from all around, can have you wanting to share the excitement and invite everyone. Refrain. Better to keep things polite and vague now than to be put in an awkward position when someone doesn’t make the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) later on.\n\n### 11. Wait to purchase your wedding attire\n\nIt’s incredibly tempting to start trying on [wedding dresses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/tips-wedding-dress-shopping), suits, and other [wedding day attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-attire) soon after getting engaged. However, it’s crucial that you don’t jump in too soon. At this point, odds are you haven't yet decided on your budget or what you really want. \n\nRushing this process and making a purchase too soon out of excitement can lead to regret and financial issues down the line. Wait until you’re sure of what you’re looking for and can afford before making any try-on appointments.\n\n### 12. Relax\n\nOne more time: you just got engaged, so slow down. Wedding planning has the potential to be pretty stressful right off the bat. With guest list creation, wedding venue touring, budget making, and every other aspect of the wedding planning process right around the corner, don’t forget to make time to enjoy being engaged. \n\nSet some time aside for a relaxing date night, just the two of you. Put the beginning stages of planning on pause and focus on each other and how happy you are to be where you are right now.\n\n### 13. Expect some unsolicited advice\n\nUpon telling loved ones of your engagement, chances are you’re going to be hearing a lot of advice from those who have had a wedding. Take any and all unsolicited advice with grace, but don’t be quick to take it to heart. \n\nWhile you may come to agree with and appreciate some advice here and there, you definitely don’t need to take or even consider it all. Offer a “thank you,” pocket what gems you can, and move forward.\n\n### 14. Host an engagement party\n\nAfter saying yes, it’s time to celebrate! Depending on how you want to announce your engagement, this should take place before or after you post to social media. If you like the idea of telling your friends and family all at once, plan a surprise [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party) before making a public announcement. That way, the news is completely unexpected. Many couples also prefer to host a more formal engagement party (with invitations and maybe even scheduled activities) a few weeks after the engagement.\n\nIf your loved ones are already in the know, one or some of them may come forward and offer to host your party for you. Whatever you decide works—engagement parties aren’t necessary, so if you choose to have one, get creative with [engagement party ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-ideas) and celebrate however you want. Be aware, though: You shouldn’t invite anyone to the engagement party that you won’t invite to the wedding. Plan accordingly.\n\n### 15. Book an engagement shoot\n\nThis is another optional to-do. If an engagement photoshoot doesn’t sound like your style, stay with us for just a second. Engagement shoots are popular for a few reasons. Mainly, they’re usually free and come as an additional component of your wedding photography package. If you haven’t yet [booked a photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) (totally normal at this stage, by the way!), you can either wait until you do or you can hire another local photographer for this shoot.\n\nCouples also often see an [engagement shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) as an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera together. Again, if you have a photographer booked, this is a great time to get to know more about his or her style. This way, you’ll hopefully feel more natural when your photo is being taken from all angles come wedding day. Use your engagement photos on your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), wedding website, and/or wedding invitations.\n\n### 16. Think big picture\n\nNow that you’re no longer just engaged, your engagement celebrations have probably slowed. Now it feels like time to really start thinking about your big day. Don’t stress yourself out by immediately looking into every single detail, though. Start off by discussing big-picture ideas with your partner. Now is the time to figure out if you’re both on the same page with your dream wedding style and guest count.\n\nTalk about everything from wedding location and wedding size to a potential color palette and wedding date options. And, of course, always be open to your partner’s ideas. Stay organized off the bat by gathering inspiration in a place that’s easy to access and edit. Pinterest board, Google Doc, computer folder, binder—whatever works for you.\n\n### 17. Make time to soak it all in\n\nWe’re aware that we’re reiterating here, but it’s worth the reminder. Don’t get so immediately wrapped up in wedding planning that you forget to enjoy being just engaged. Skipping over this part can lead to considerable stress later on. Pop some bubbly, spend quality time with your fiancé(e), and bask in the excitement from all of those closest to you.\n\n## Engagement rings and wedding bands\n \n\nIf you were over the moon to put your new [ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged/rings) on… only to find it didn’t quite fit, you’ll want to get it sized ASAP. This won’t be the most exciting part of getting engaged, but it’s necessary if you want to avoid losing your special stone.\n\nSpeaking of losing your ring, enter ring insurance! When it comes to what to do after getting engaged, sorting out insurance definitely isn’t the most exciting task. 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Then, start thinking about wedding dates, share your good news on social media (optional), and arrange an engagement party and/or photo shoot. For now, don't worry about the guest list or wedding attire.\n\n### How do we announce our engagement?\nHow you announce your engagement is completely up to you and your partner. Most couples like to tell their immediate family and friends face to face before announcing their good news on social media. Others will share the news through phone calls, TikTok, or traditional paper announcements.\n\n### How to start planning a wedding?\nThe first thing you'll need for wedding planning is a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and a budget. You may want to create a wedding Google Drive and email to keep everything organized. Or you can use free budgeting and checklist tools from wedding planning sites like Zola. 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