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Wedding planning 101

The Ultimate Wedding Day Emergency Kit List

Check out Zola's ultimate wedding day emergency kit, and be ready for anything on your special day. Don't worry, we've thought of everything.

Funny Wedding Favor
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Funny Wedding Favors Guaranteed to Make Your Guests Chuckle

Our guide to funny wedding favors that will have your guests giggling in no time.

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10 Black Wedding Traditions to Know and Love

Black wedding traditions are varied and beautiful. Here are just some to learn and incorporate into your wedding celebration.

Tips for Giving a Best Man Speech
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Tips for Giving a Best Man Speech

Need a few tips on how to give a memorable best man speech? The Zola experts can help! Read on to learn more.

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How Many Pages Should a Wedding Guest Book Have?

If you’ve decided to have a guest book at your wedding, you may be wondering how many pages it should have. Learn more about how to make sure you have enough space for all your guests’ messages.

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8 Boozy Wedding Favors to Lift Everyone's Spirits

Having boozy wedding favors ensures that your thank you gifts will be a hit.

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10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle

Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.

Winter Wedding Favors
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17 Winter Wedding Favors to Share the Holiday Joy!

If you’re having a winter wedding and want favors to reflect the season, there are countless options to consider. We’ve pulled together some of the most loved winter wedding favors your guest will be thrilled to receive.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Write the Best Man Speech

Need help writing your best man speech? The Zola experts are here for you. Read on for our top tips and advice

What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes
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What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes

All there is to know about this fun wedding tradition.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Give a Wedding Speech If You Hate Public Speaking

Public speaking: not for everyone. If you're asked to make a wedding speech and fear public speaking, read on. Here's how to write and deliver a wedding speech when you hate public speaking.

Who Does the Ring Bearer Give the Rings To?
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Who Does the Ring Bearer Give the Rings To?

Each member of your wedding party plays a critical role, including the little ones. But whom does the ring bearer give the rings to? Read on to ensure that you nail your wedding-day entrance.

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But, the less you have to worry about, the more you’ll be able to relax and enjoy this monumental event. \n\nYou’ve already made a rain plan, positioned point-people on troubleshooting the sound system, and visited the venue to anticipate everything that could go wrong. One extra step that can give you peace of mind—and help out in any number of jams—is an emergency kit. Don’t have one? Worry not. We’ll add everything you need in your wedding day emergency kit list. \n\n## Keep Comfortable With Your Wedding Day Emergency Kit\nThe day of your ceremony can be long and emotional. The excitement and stress all bubble up at once, leading to physical symptoms you might not expect (don’t worry, it’s normal!). Use the following list to make sure that you stay calm and comfortable, no matter what gets thrown your way. Plus, any one of these kit items could come in handy if a member of your wedding party starts feeling off, too.\n\n- __Antacid__ – Don’t let an upset tummy get you down.\n\n- __Benadryl__ – Prepare yourself for allergies, including reactions to insect stings.\n \n- __Blister pads__ – You may have already broken your wedding shoes in, but, if hours of standing starts to take its toll, you’ll be ready.\n\n- __Breath mints__ – Feel just as fresh at midnight as when you’re saying “I do.”\n \n- __Bug spray__ – If you’re outside or somewhere tropical, you’re going to want a repellent. \n\n- __Caffeine__ – You might think that adrenaline alone can take you all the way through the day, but if you find yourself crashing, be prepared with a coffee or tea of your choice.\n\n- __Contacts and solution__ – If you or your spouse wears contact lenses, be sure you have an extra pair, as well as contact solution.\n\n- __Deodorant__ – Make sure sweat stains don’t become a part of your wedding ensemble.\n\n- __Eyedrops__ – Combat red, itchy eyes in advance of posing for all of those photos.\n\n- __Hand cream__ – Feel comfortable shaking your guests’ hands, no matter what your emotions decide to do. \n\n- __Hand gel__ – Give yourself an easy way to refresh after eating.\n \n- __Lavender essential oil__ – Smelling this oil or dabbing it on your temples can help give you relief from anxiety, and allow you to head back into the fray feeling calm and grounded.\n \n- __Mouthwash__ – If you sneak a cup of coffee or find your breath less-than-pleasant after your reception, you may feel fresher with a little Listerine.\n \n- __Painkiller__ – Cramps, a headache, neck tension, or even an unexpected trip could leave you or your spouse in discomfort on your wedding day. Be prepared with an over-the-counter painkiller.\n \n- __Snacks__ – You may find yourself with an appetite throughout the day. It’s easier to stay level-headed when you’re not starving, so keep your favorite granola bar or another healthy snack on-hand. \n \n- __Water bottle__ – Hydration is your best friend. Make sure you’re drinking enough water leading up to the event. \n\n## Touch Up Your Appearance\nIt can take all morning, and then some, to get prepared for your wedding day. Even with the most extensive planning, a heavy coat of hairspray, a long day of pictures, location changes, and dancing can make it hard to keep your hair and makeup in place. On top of that, there’s always the chance of a wardrobe malfunction. If that happens, the following will save you: \n\n- __Blotting paper__ – Make sure your face doesn’t appear oily in photos.\n\n- __Bobby pins__ – Tuck a stray hair back where it belongs and keep your updo looking fresh.\n \n- __Brush and comb__ – Be prepared to fix you or your spouse’s hair after any interference from wind, rain, or a good time on the dance floor. \n \n- __Deodorant wipe__ – Make sure there aren’t stray white patches in any of your wedding photos. In a pinch, a spare pair of pantyhose can also remove deodorant stains.\n \n- __Fabric tape__ – Your dress may require fabric tape, and if it does, bring extra. Even if it doesn’t, fabric tape might help in the event that a strap snaps and your dress needs extra support.\n\n- __Floss__ – Make sure you’re prepared to remove stray food from your smile.\n\n- __Hairdryer__ – A hairdryer is useful during styling, and you might need it again in case your hair needs touching up, or even if you end up treating a stain on your wedding ensemble.\n\n- __Hairspray__ – After fixing your hair, make sure it stays in place. As an added bonus, hairspray doubles as a [static guard](https://www.brides.com/story/things-to-pack-in-wedding-emergency-kit).\n\n- __Lint roller__ – Gently remove any lint or debris that lands on your garment.\n\n- __Lipstick and chapstick__ – You may have a full kit of backup makeup you can use for touch ups. Even if you have nothing else, make sure you have lipstick and chapstick to keep your lips hydrated throughout the day.\n\n- __Mirror__ – Make sure there’s a mirror handy for touching up your hair or makeup.\n\n- __Nail kit__ – In the event of chipped or broken nails, smudged polish, or any other nail blunders, be sure to have polish and a file on-hand for touch ups.\n\n- __Straw__ – Keep your lipstick in place by drinking through a straw.\n\n- __Tissues__ – It’s your wedding day, so you’re going to cry at some point. Make sure you have tissues to help keep your makeup in place when the tears fall.\n \n- __Towelettes__ – Moist towelettes can be used to refresh sweaty armpits, blot minor stains, and so much more.\n \n- __Tweezers__ – Whether you notice a clumped eyelash or get a splinter while dancing barefoot, tweezers can come in handy.\n\n![Ultimate Wedding Day Emergency Kit List](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1USInGOtP5EcFxRUtdtRsZ/42706936eeeffc386e70f83b12d9e353/inline_the-shalom-imaginative.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* The Shalom Imaginative\n\n## Fix Your Garment and Troubleshoot Lost Jewelry\nAfter all the care—and money—you’ve put into your wedding day ensemble, make sure that you appear pristine when you say “I do” (and in the photos). Be sure to put the following items in your bridal emergency kit.\n\n- __Corsage pins__ – Make sure you have a way to pin flowers to your spouse’s garment, if that’s part of your ceremony or photo shoot.\n\n- __Extra tights__ – In case of runs or stains, pack a second pair of stockings.\n\n- __Fake wedding rings__ – Just in case your groomsman is forgetful, make sure you have a backup on-hand.\n\n- __Iron__ – If a shirt, jacket, or shawl gets rumpled at any point in the day, quickly iron it out.\n\n- __Sewing kit__ – Repair ripped and torn garments with a sewing kit or safety pins.\n\n- __Spare earrings and earring backs__ – It’s easy to lose an earring back, or even a whole earring. If you have a spare pair on-hand, you can complete your look.\n\n- __Stain emergency kit__ – Check out our guide on 5 Tips for Removing Wedding Dress Stains for everything you need to know about stain removal. Recommended items include:\n\n - A clean napkin\n - Dish soap\n - Vinegar or lemon juice\n - Rubbing alcohol\n - Hydrogen peroxide\n - A stain removal pen\n - Cornstarch or baby powder\n - Chalk that matches your dress\n\n## Document Your Wedding\nYou probably hired a professional photographer, or left it to your guests to document your wedding with a photobooth, guestbook, and other means. Whatever your method, make sure you have the supplies on-hand to ensure you have thorough documentation of the day.\n\n- __Cell phone chargers__ – Make sure you keep your cell phone charged in case you want to snap photos, or you need to get in touch with someone.\n\n- __Extra film__ – Sure, your photographer may have some on-hand, but you can never be too safe.\n\n- __Pens__ – Guarantee that guests have a way to sign your book. \n\n![Ultimate Wedding Day Emergency Kit List](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6MF3v5TE7ZCc7lmjGUP5Gn/4231440e5ebbd3886e16577b0e16f9a8/inline_alisha-tova.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Alisha Tova\n\n## In Case of Accidents\nThe last thing you want to imagine is that someone gets hurt on your wedding day. Just in case, make sure you’re prepared. \n\n- __Bandaids__ – Take care of minor cuts and scrapes in a pinch.\n\n- __First aid kit__ – Be prepared in the face of allergies, bug bites, sprains, and more.\n\n- __List of phone numbers__ – Know who to call in case of emergency.\n\n- __Glue__ – If an essential centerpiece gets damaged, glue it back together in a jiffy.\n\n## And, Everything Else You Need in Your Wedding Emergency Kit\nWith your comfort covered, your appearance troubleshooted, and accidents thoroughly prepared for, there are only a few items left that might come in handy.\n\n- __Batteries__ – Make sure an A/V issue or dead camera battery doesn’t interfere with your dance party or its documentation.\n\n- __Cash tips__ – Don’t forget to tip your servers, DJ, and other support staff.\n\n- __IDs__ – In case you need to sign for something, be sure you have proof of identification.\n\n- __Lighter__ – A lighter can ignite a candle or seal up the seam of a ripped garment; it’s incredibly handy. \n\n## Get Prepared With Zola\nAssembling an emergency kit is one way to give yourself peace of mind while planning your wedding. From assembling your guest list, creating a wedding website, and planning your honeymoon, there’s a lot to do before your ceremony. Luckily, there’s another way to make life easier. Zola’s free planning tools can help you get organized before the big day so that you can spend more time on what matters—celebrating your love.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:30.410Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"funny-wedding-favors-guaranteed-to-make-your-guests-chuckle","title":"Funny Wedding Favors Guaranteed to Make Your Guests Chuckle","excerpt":"Our guide to funny wedding favors that will have your guests giggling in no time. ","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2021-02-18T18:10:17.917Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mVGLuqtgmsNgp0VJ4aPya/5308d5a18f3d2d03a76a4ffc76f1c207/Hero_Zola__54_.jpg","altText":"Funny Wedding Favor"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Traditional wedding favors can be made humorous by tying on a gift tag with a funny saying.\n- Other funny wedding favors include personalized face cookies and hiring a caricature artist to draw pictures of your guests. \n","body":"\nIt doesn’t take much to tickle your funny bone. You quote lines from “Seinfeld” and “The Office” flawlessly because you’ve binged episodes more times than you want to admit. Conversely, maybe your sense of humor flies under the radar as you chuckle at TikToks and relatable memes before bed. No matter what makes you laugh, our list of funny wedding favors is guaranteed to make your guests giggle.\n\n## Sayings to Add to Funny Wedding Favors \nSometimes, the actual wedding [gifts and favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-gifts-favors) don’t have to garner a laugh. However, coupling a beautiful thank you wedding gift with a humorous tag can make your guests snicker. Some of these favors are corny, others are cute, but they’re all punny, IOHO!\n\n- __These are grounds for celebration.__ Give a small bag of freshly ground local coffee labeled with the saying and brewing instructions. \n- __We couldn’t love each other s’more.__ Small bags containing ingredients of [sweets and treats](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-sweets-treats)—such as chocolate, marshmallows, and graham crackers—are a big hit when tied with this phrase.\n- __It’s plain to see, we’re meant to bee!__ This funny wedding favor saying can accompany small jars of locally sourced honey, [beeswax wraps](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/beeswrap_wrap_sheet_set3), or candles.\n- __Thanks for spicing up our day.__ Put a gift tag with this text on jars of flavorful spices for your guests to cook up at home. \n- __Spread the love.__ A tiny mason jar of gourmet jams and jellies are perfect to go along with this whimsical saying.\n- __We’re nuts for each other!__ Use this adorable text to accompany upscale nuts and trail mixes.\n- __Let love grow.__ Wildflower seeds—bonus for locally-sourced—and tiny succulents are so cute paired with this phrase.\n- __We tied the knot, so take a shot!__ Tie gift tags with this saying on tiny alcohol bottles for a fun favor that your guests can enjoy post-wedding.\n- __Thanks for popping over to our wedding.__ Either have bags of gourmet popcorn at each place setting, or hire a kettle corn service to pop on site.\n- __We were definitely mint to be.__ This playful text can go along with epicurean mints or anything mint flavored, such as chocolate mint cookies. Yum!\n- __We’re on to our appley ever after.__ This one’s for you if you love a play on words. The phrase could accompany anything apple-flavored, such as jelly or dried apple slices.\n- __Donut mind if we do!__ Slide a freshly made donut inside bags with this saying for funny wedding favors.\n\n![Funny Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/48IBQEuDfJot5aC9ztte11/ec2d462fc80bffd07cd11978acf8a4bf/inline_unsplash.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Best Wedding Favors to Get a Laugh\n \n#### Personalized Cookies Featuring the Faces of the Couple\nGenerally, you should be giving your guests personalized [gifts and favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-gifts-favors) with your names or wedding date. However, when it comes to being creative and humorous, opt for custom cookies for your wedding day gift. You could have them made with a funny saying, although our favorite choice is to have them feature your faces. Not only is this adorable, but your guests will [get a laugh out of eating](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/edible-wedding-favors) your hair or eyes.\n\n#### Live Sketched Caricatures of Your Guests\nSome funny wedding favors don’t have to be waiting at each place setting. And we adore this idea because it doubles as wedding reception entertainment. Hire a caricature artist to draw pictures of guests. Guests can have their portraits sketched at their leisure during the reception, and the results are almost always hilarious.\n\n#### Funny COVID-19 Wedding Favors\nIf Coronavirus impacted your special day, make light of a difficult situation. Various funny [COVID-19](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/covid-19) wedding favors, [such as soap bars](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wellness-wedding-favors) that say “spread love not germs,” can be amusing. Another option is a locally made candle with a custom label that says “smells like our postponed wedding.” A saying accompanying your favors, such as “it’s about time,” would get a chuckle. Get creative when incorporating fun favor ideas that give a nod [to the struggles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding) leading up to your big day. \n\n![Funny Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/79vD2lTFdvNjm4KECvXoL7/988949eb149f6f805f4c9934804a31d4/inline_Kiernanmichellephotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Kiernan Michelle Photography\n\n## “Funny” Wedding Favors That Get a Hard Pass\n\n#### Anything Inappropriate\nOk, if you chuckled when you read “hard pass” above, we’re talking to you. You may think that—forgive us—nudie glasses and penis-shaped lollipops are hilarious, but we doubt that your grandparents will think so. We’re blushing just thinking about it. Save anything that focuses on the sexual aspect for the bachelor or [bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/gingerray_team_bride_10pc_photo_booth_props), if you must.\n\n#### Something That Would Offend\nWhen in doubt, don’t. In addition to the aforementioned inappropriate items, stay away from anything that could potentially offend any wedding guest. We’re all being educated about issues that have to do with gender and culture. Therefore shy away from things thought of as distasteful along those lines. Also, consider the values of your guests. For example, if you have a family with a history of alcoholism, skip the boozy wedding favors. No matter how funny the accompanying saying would be, it’s best to choose something else.\n\nThe best wedding favors let your guests know how much you appreciate their attendance, while evoking a smile. Maybe you are the Chandler in your group of “Friends,” or possibly you just love to laugh. No matter what, giving thoughtful thank you gifts is something your wedding guests will certainly remember. \n","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Discover the best trends in wedding favors for 2024. Explore unique, thoughtful and personalizable gifts to say thank you to your guests.\n","title":"57 Best Wedding Favor Ideas Guests Will Love","slug":"wedding-favor-ideas","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4htHvgMQ2kudreHw1fqB8n/d78a19bfafdcf0518d029991930d3aa8/close-up-of-wedding-party-favors.jpg","altText":"Wedding favor gift boxes laid out on a white table."},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Once you’ve decided on what wedding favors you want to give guests, you need to figure out the best way to package them. Here’s a complete guide on how to package wedding favors. ","title":"How to Package Wedding Favors: A Complete Guide","slug":"how-to-package-wedding-favors-a-complete-guide","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DrspxRRsim3B98Zey57dy/62493798ce8418f86e11e1e9350f2b48/Hero_Zola__53_.jpg","altText":"How to Package Wedding Favors"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:29.049Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-black-wedding-traditions-to-know-and-love","title":"10 Black Wedding Traditions to Know and Love","excerpt":"Black wedding traditions are varied and beautiful. Here are just some to learn and incorporate into your wedding celebration.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-01-29T17:08:03.641Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6DUwuDJKfhP8mO1q0zocPh/54a77b587fcde1c2d53dda5a4b039ad6/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"jumping the broom wedding tradition"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- With rituals borrowed from their ancestral lands, Black wedding traditions are varied. \n- Many traditional wedding actions symbolize the union of the newlyweds and seeking blessings from elders. \n- Some traditions like Jumping the Broom, are more common than others, but all hold equal importance in meaning.\n- Each of these traditions might have finer nuances depending on the couple’s heritage. ","body":"\n\nBlack weddings typically include rituals borrowed from their ancestral past or cultural heritage, such as a libation ceremony, jumping the broom, and a money dance, among other such practices. Here’s everything you need to know about Black wedding traditions and the many smaller rituals and other symbolic actions that mark the ceremony or day’s events.\n\n \n## The Libation Ceremony\nIn this ritual, alcohol or holy water is poured in each of the cardinal directions—north, south, east, and west—in the presence of elders attending the wedding and in honor of those who have passed on, inviting their blessings and guidance toward the newly married couple. In the Libation ritual, appropriate prayers are recited, and the liquids are typically presented in elaborate vessels aligned with the occasion. Close family members or friends may be invited to present the vessel at a certain time. \n\n## Tasting the Four Elements\nThe bride and groom taste four flavors that are intended to signify the ups and downs of their marital life. A pinch of cayenne, a slice of lemon, a sip of vinegar, and a spoonful of honey are presented, so that the spiciness, sourness, bitterness, and sweetness, respectively, denote the trials and tribulations the union may experience, plus the couple’s promise to experience it all together. A symbolic demonstration to stay committed in the face of any challenges. \n\n![10 Black Wedding Traditions](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2rK5cAWtrDQWgyYcfb17fF/c1744c397022902ffa2aea1cb4b0792b/inline_cortiella_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Jumping the Broom \nIn this wedding tradition, the couple jumps over a broom together toward the end of their wedding ceremony, symbolizing their love for each other and their commitment to their marriage. The brooms are sometimes customized or handmade and are saved as a memento of the day in the couple’s home. The tradition dates back in time to when marriage was forbidden by law in the Black community. \n\n## Crossing Sticks\nAnother ritual where the couple demonstrates their commitment to each other in marriage is crossing wooden sticks to signify their strength in unity. The sticks are sometimes decorated with flowers and other accessories, painted in the couple’s wedding colors, or even picked from their respective family’s home or other venue that holds special meaning. The intention: to start the building of their own home on a strong note. \n\n## Tying the Knot\nBringing the couple together in another expression of solidarity is the tying of their wrists with decorated rope, traditionally patterned cloth, braided grass, or a string of cowrie shells, which is considered by some to be a symbol of prosperity or fertility. During the ritual, the pair then says their vows in front of the wedding officiant who ties the knot and confirms the association in the presence of wedding guests. \n\n## Exchanging Kola Nuts\nWhere kola nuts once held importance for their medicinal properties, today they are commonly exchanged during a wedding ceremony as a sign of the couple and their families being unified through marriage. The healing properties of the kola nut denotes the two parties taking care of each other through thick and thin and in sickness and in health. These nuts are then placed in the couple’s home as a reminder of their wedding promises. \n\n## Money Spray\nTraditional music plays a big part in Black weddings, and the money spray tends to be included as part of festivities. On the big day, the newly married couple dances to music of their choice at the wedding reception, while guests toss cash at them. The money is eventually collected by the couple or others assisting with the event. This money is then used to help the pair start their new life together. For guests, it’s a way to share their blessing and wish the newlyweds a life of prosperity.\n\n![10 Black Wedding Traditions](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3fFL1LmOjr3kspk6x6MIIh/cee93a03be16a2a402f3a3c2757fc781/inline_angie_mcpherson_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Angie Mcpherson Photography\n\n## Using Traditional Textiles \nFor many, incorporating the patterns and colors of textiles they consider part of their cultural heritage is integral to their wedding day. If not in traditional attire they wear to their ceremony itself, they also try to incorporate it in the design and décor of their wedding venue or dining and entertaining areas. For some, the type of cloth used might hold special significance related to their ancestry, their family’s culture, or be an heirloom passed on through the generations.\n\n## Traditional Symbols \nThese symbols express words of wisdom and are used to convey special wedding messages and blessings for the new couple. You might see them on the wedding cake, invites or even the décor and favors, aside from also making an appearance in the textiles mentioned above. There may also be references made to the symbols and their meaning by the wedding officiant or other members of the wedding party in their speeches. \n\n## Knocking on the Door\nTypically done ahead of the wedding, this is the tradition of the groom knocking on the door of the prospective partner’s home to ask their family’s permission for their hand in marriage. While this may or may not be practiced anymore in the strict sense, some couples choose to include this as part of their wedding festivities and weave it into the day’s agenda to fulfill this tradition toward their wedding ceremony. \n\nAs with many cultures, Black wedding traditions encompass different aspects of the couple’s heritage that hold special meaning and are all aimed at bringing together the special pair and their respective families under the happy occasion of their marriage. \n","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Get inspiration for your Black wedding celebration with our tips for where to look for the most gorgeous inspiration online and beyond. 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","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2020-12-21T21:14:51.243Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/19uKOIOEReJZeouyg5p5Sf/2df636e67a93fce8269557831d10c2cb/Hero_FunOutdoorBoulderWeddingCelebration_RogueFilmCo..jpg","altText":"Tips for Giving a Best Man Speech"},"heroCredit":"Rogue Film Co","body":"There are a lot of [responsibilities that go along with being the best man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-man-duties), from helping the couple through the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process to throwing the bachelor party, and, finally, standing next to the soon-to-be married couple as they say their “I do’s.”\n\nAnd, one of the most important responsibilities that you’ll have as a best man is making the [best man speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech). The best man speech is a highlight of the [wedding reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/personal-touches-reception)—and, as the best man, it’s important to do everything you can to deliver the best speech possible to the [newlyweds]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-things-you-should-do-as-a-newlywed) and their [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests).\n\nBut, how exactly do you do that? If you don’t know how to give a best man speech, the Zola experts are here to help. Here are a few tips to ensure that your best man speech goes off without a hitch:\n\n## Practice, Practice, Practice\n![Tips for Giving a Best Man Speech ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6fCteJCjhDfjuFGDci5wcJ/e83bbd55ee06f05771f2a0b9352fbb8c/Inline_Pinehurst_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Pinehurst Photography\n\nThe wedding day should not be the first time that you give your best man speech. We repeat, the wedding day should not be the first time that you give your best man speech.\n\nIf you show up to the big day and wing your wedding speech, could it go well? Sure. But, the chances of it not going well are significantly higher—and you could find yourself stumbling over your words, saying the wrong thing, or completely freezing when you get up to speak to the happy couple and their wedding guests.\n\nPerhaps the most important tip for giving a best man speech is to give yourself plenty of time and opportunities to practice before the wedding reception.\n\nStart writing your speech early. Practice it out loud—and practice it out loud often. Ask to practice in front of a friend or family member to see if there are any issues that you need to address before the wedding day.\n\nThe more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll be with giving your speech—and the better the speech will be on the actual wedding day.\n\n## Talk Slowly\n\nPublic speaking makes a lot of people nervous. And when people are nervous, they have a tendency to talk faster than they normally would—and that includes during wedding speeches.\n\nIf you’re one of those people who talks fast when they’re nervous that’s ok! But, while you might feel that you’re talking only slightly faster than you do in normal conversations, to other people, it could feel like you’re talking a mile a minute—which is why it’s important to speak more slowly than you think is necessary during your best man speech on the special day.\n\nWhy is that? If you consciously speak slowly (and slower than you think is necessary), chances are that it will counteract any nervous speed-ups in your speech pattern—and, to the couple and wedding guests, it should sound like you’re speaking at a normal speed.\n\nSo, when you’re giving your wedding speech, pay attention to how quickly you’re speaking. Slow it down—and slow it down more than you think is necessary. It might seem too slow to you, but more often than not, to the people listening, it will be at a pace that’s easy to hear and understand, which is exactly the speed that you want.\n\n## Make It Personal\n![Tips for Giving a Best Man Speech ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/sDXt7mxGyi8opSZKgRBrg/865291ea2bf906b630f6db0df88df80b/Inline_Andrew_Jade_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Andrew Jade Photography\n\nThe couple asked you to be the best man for a reason; you’re a person that plays a large role in their life and they want you to be by their side on one of the most important days of their life.\n\nAnd, because you play such an important role in their life, the last thing you want is to give a generic best man speech. You want it to feel personal, so make sure that you incorporate personal details into your speech.\n\nYour best man speech is the perfect opportunity to get personal and share favorite memories, funny stories, and heartfelt wishes for the newlyweds. If you want your speech to be impactful and show the couple how much you value them and their relationship, you should definitely take the opportunity to include thoughtful words.\n\n## Keep Things Appropriate\nYou want your best man speech to be personal, but you don’t want it to be too personal. \n\nDon’t include anything in your best man speech that could potentially embarrass or upset the couple. You also want to avoid anything that could make wedding guests uncomfortable. Generally, you want to forgo mentioning past relationships, excessive drinking, sex, and/or illegal activities. (Save those stories for the bachelor party.)\n\n## End With a Toast\nKnowing how to end a speech can be tough. But, when you’re giving a best man speech, there’s only one way to end it—and that’s with a toast to the happy couple.\n\nAs you near the end of your speech, which should be anywhere from two to five minutes, ask the wedding guests to raise their glasses to the newlyweds. Offer up a toast wishing them health and happiness in their marriage. Then, congratulate them, take a drink, and end your speech on a high note.\n\nGiving the best man speech can be a nerve-wracking experience. But, with these tips, you have everything you need to deliver a speech to remember. So, all that’s left to do is give the best speech you can—for the couple, for the wedding guests, and for yourself.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t know how to ask someone to be your best man? 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Learn more about how to make sure you have enough space for all your guests’ messages. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T22:09:22.881Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DATOa4tnfSEDTLocrQjEg/3295c4e1418775366529c7c68a0356c3/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Wedding Guest Book"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Traditional guest books look a lot like blank photo albums or large journals. They are meant to provide a space for guests to offer congratulations, warm wishes, and marriage advice as they celebrate your special day with you. When your guests take the time to do this, a guest book serves as a precious keepsake for any couple. Here’s how many guest book pages you’ll need to provide and how to ensure they get filled by the end of the night. (You can also check out options for a [DIY guest book template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/diy-guest-book-templates) here.) \n\n

How Many Wedding Guest Book Pages Do I Need?

\n\nThe number of pages you need will depend on how big your wedding is, the style of guest book you plan to have, and what strategies you plan to employ to encourage people to write their well-wishing notes. \n\n

Wedding Size

\n\nThe size of your wedding is the most significant factor in determining how many guest book pages you need to have. Obviously, if you have more people in attendance, you should have more pages available. Here are our suggested page counts: \n\n- __Less than 50 guests__: Around 10 pages\n- __51 to 100 guests__: About 15 pages\n- __101 to 200 guests__: Approximately 20 to 25 pages \n- __201 to 300 guests__: Roughly 25 to 30 pages\n- __Over 301 guests__: At least 30 to 35 pages, increasing proportionately \n\nIn addition to the total guest count, you should also consider how many families or couples will be in attendance. Usually, these groupings will write a single message. The page counts provided, of course, are an estimate and will be impacted by a few other factors. However, these ranges should give you a good starting point, which you can adjust based on the other elements listed below. \n\n

Guest Book Style

\n\nThe next most important factor influencing your wedding guest book pages is the style of the book you will be using. Let’s take a look at four of the most significant elements that may impact how many pages you need your guest book to have. \n\n![How Many Pages Should a Wedding Guest Book Have? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5GGUjiD9n112hMSLl5YqtT/315acbb7b7587d9df6d1865e568a924c/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n__Blank or Lined Pages__: First, you need to decide if you’d like the book to be filled with blank or lined pages. Blank pages allow guests to write wherever they desire and at all different angles. This could save space by giving guests the opportunity to squeeze their messages into various odd-sized spots. However, it’s more likely that you will need more blank pages, as there are no lines to guide guests and they may write larger notes. Lined pages can help mitigate this problem, as the ruling on the pages prompt guests to stay within the lines. \n\n__Page Size__: Next, you should consider the size of your book. Typically, the most standard sizes for pre-made books are 8-inch and 10-inch squares. The larger pages allow more families or guests to write on each page. While these are the most common size for books that you can purchase, you can also create your own guest book with custom page sizing, though the same general rule applies. \n\n__Binding__: The type of binding you select may also influence how many guest book pages you need. If your book has a more permanent binding type, such as case binding or saddle stitch binding, you should err on the side of caution and include a few more pages than you think you need. Once made, you will not be able to adjust the page count. However, if your book has a ring or binder-style binding, you will be able to add or remove pages as needed. In that case, you could start with fewer pages and have your wedding planner or someone at the venue add more if necessary.\n\n__Book Alternatives__: An increasingly popular choice for many couples is to think outside the book, so to speak, to show off their creativity and personality. Rather than having a traditional book of bound pages, some couples opt for something unique that they will want to keep and display within their home—a photo book full of pictures of the couple, a wooden bench, or a globe. Another idea is to have guests write their message on individual pieces of paper and then place them in a glass jar that the couple can pick through over the years. In this case, you may not need any pages for your [wedding guest book alternative](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/do-you-need-a-wedding-guest-book). [LINK]\n\n

Getting Guests to Sign

\n\n![How Many Pages Should a Wedding Guest Book Have? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3cwAsalJm0obXbT0ya4kGs/9833be68b04ae257a387d0f19eb6ff81/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nFinally, the number of pages you need in your guest book will depend on whether your guests actually sign it. After all, you will need far fewer pages if no one takes the time to write in your guest book. While you won’t be able to guarantee the quality of their messages, there are a few tried and true ways to encourage more guests to sign your guest book, so you don’t end up with a book full of blank pages. \n\n__Prominent Placement__: The most prominent location for your guest book is on a table right in the entryway, near the table assignment display or on the way to the restrooms. Giving the book a visible placement will ensure that guests see it and know where to find it when they are ready to sign. However, this method is quite passive and will only capture the signatures of those who naturally feel drawn to sign the book. \n\n__Make an Announcement__: You can build on your book placement strategy by making an announcement (or two) throughout your reception. If you’re having a cocktail hour, you may want to have the book available for signing and have your wedding planner or a friend announce that it is available and where to find it. You may also want to have your deejay or band make a similar announcement before or after dinner, as the dancing begins, or at another opportune moment where guests may be able to get up from their seats. \n\n__Book Tour__: The most active strategy to get your guests to sign may be to assign a family member or friend to take the book around to guest tables during dinner or halfway through the reception. This helps eliminate the need for guests to find the book and take the time to go sign it themselves. It may also be more convenient for older guests or those with mobility limitations. \n\nFiguring out how many wedding guest book pages you need to have may be slightly more complicated than you imagined. However, if you consider each of these elements, you will surely find the best fit for you and your guests. \n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Guest books are traditionally part of every wedding. But through your planning, you may wonder if you really need one? Read on to get this answer and more. ","title":"Do You Need a Wedding Guest Book?","slug":"do-you-need-a-wedding-guest-book","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1JEVv124D5H15klb8iy6yw/f0294304b0f56745b3f2d4b7f31aad4c/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Wedding Guest Book"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"A homemade guest book can make your guests feel at home and keep wonderful memories for you and your SO. Learn how to DIY wedding guest books with Zola.","title":"20 DIY Wedding Guest Book Ideas","slug":"diy-wedding-guest-book-ideas","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtZBrNSqHg0U4FLFToKi/15ddcadb0d823fff53117e15063d18ca/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"DIY Wedding Guest Book"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Thinking of creating your own wedding guest book? Check out some of our printable templates to help you get started. ","title":"DIY Guest Book Templates","slug":"diy-guest-book-templates","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nJ72vff5o0V0jr9ZJXSiO/272af9cd3aa207a717db364b7a47bb41/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"DIY Guest Book Templates"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding memory books are a great way to keep everything from your big day in one place. Learn what to include to make this special keepsake. ","title":"What to Include in a Wedding Memory Book","slug":"what-to-include-in-a-wedding-memory-book","topic":"Relationship advice","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6rdpAEly7RniinPHvPs0nM/4ba7779af1c75614b0035b82572c9aa8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Wedding Memory Book"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:26.160Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"8-boozy-wedding-favors-to-lift-everyones-spirits","title":"8 Boozy Wedding Favors to Lift Everyone's Spirits","excerpt":"Having boozy wedding favors ensures that your thank you gifts will be a hit. ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-02-16T16:46:06.456Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5SIBRp337uUJ5IMyVKu0JK/cf114b3664ff279e55fd27900de2e0e2/Hero_RomanticBlackTieWeddingatTerminus330_SageAndCedarPhotography.jpg","altText":"Boozy Wedding Favors"},"heroCredit":"Sage And Cedar Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Boozy wedding favor ideas range from drink kits, gourmet garnishes, and hangover kits. \n- Items such as koozies, bottle openers, and coasters are not ideal choices as your guests may already have those. \n- Giving drinkable wedding favors allows guests to have a drink on you as they recall your wedding. \n","body":"Not to sound ungrateful, but we’ve all been to weddings where the [gifts and favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-gifts-favors) have been lacking. It’s not the absence of wedding favors—it’s the choice of thank you gift in question. Unfortunately, non-useful wedding favors lead to discarded items and wasted funds. However, if you’re up for keeping the party going long after your [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/reception), we’ve got the perfect wedding favor in mind. Here are eight alcohol wedding favors that your guests will definitely want to keep. \n\n![Boozy Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/77FfnPN1cA8z3LIgERh4XY/a54cd06b8479e31fe4111b9552bbfa77/inline_finalframe1.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Final Frame\n\n## Drinkable Wedding Favors for Your Guests \nWhether you decide to give straight-up alcohol or the ingredients for a DIY drink, your wedding guests will appreciate them. Plus, guests can recall your [wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/wedding-day) as they relax and [sip on cocktails](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-buy-alcohol-for-your-reception) made possible by you. Boozy wedding favors can be some of the most thoughtful thank you gifts.\n\n### Infused-Alcohol\nDo you and your partner know your way around the kitchen? Show off your skills by bottling flavored liquor. Distilled spirits, such as vodka, are easy to infuse. Present the finished product in a mason jar or decorative bottle, and put a suggested use-by date, if necessary. \n\n### Crafting Kits\nConveniently, you can purchase drink kits pre-assembled, although if you enjoy good DIY projects, you can put together your own. Ingredients for drinks, such as a Bloody Mary or Moscow Mule, can be easily assembled to enjoy at home. Either supply mini liquor alcohol bottles or give instructions for your guests to add their own spirits at home. \n\n### Mini Alcohol Bottles \nOne of the most common boozy wedding favors is alcohol. Whether you choose wine, Champagne, or mini liquor wedding favors—such as gin or bourbon—be creative. Go for high quality or uniquely flavored alcohol for an unexpected treat.\n\n![Boozy Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Xer7rqNHVv8vkyF2SrRK8/86f0998f6204da997f46495a5a0e7344/inline_Finalframe.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Final Frame\n\n### Local Alcohol\nOut-of-town connoisseurs will enjoy a taste from your hometown. Give them a six-pack from a local brewery, or present your guests with handcrafted cider. If it’s [within your budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-calculate-alcohol-needs-for-your-wedding), give each attendee a bottle from a local winery or distillery. \n\n### Homemade Simple Syrup\nMany cocktail recipes call for simple syrup, and you can make the sweetener from scratch for your guests. Include a few easy recipes to go along with the syrup. Alternatively, this is a fabulous, boozy wedding favor for [non-drinkers in attendance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-sober-wedding), as the syrup can sweeten non-alcoholic drinks. \n\n### Fancy Garnish \nMost likely, if a cocktail recipe calls for an olive or cherry, folks purchase inexpensive ones at the grocery store. Of course, this is ok for our own usage, but kick it up a notch for your guests. Head to a specialty store to purchase gourmet maraschino cherries, colored sanding sugar, or olives from Spain. Your wedding guests may not splurge on these themselves. However, they will appreciate the quality of your thoughtful gesture.\n\n### Curated Recipes\nWhether you collect recipes from yesteryear—Sidecar or Tom Collins, anyone?—or have family recipes, share them with your guests. Have them bound into a small book as your boozy wedding favors. Consequently, you could also [include a recipe](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/boomboxgifts_recipe_memory_box) so they can make a new cocktail at home.\n\n### Hangover Kits\nIf your wedding has an open bar, your guests may wake up feeling less than their best the next day. Put together a small kit with items—such as water, specialty crackers, mints, and pain medication—to keep them feeling alert. Even if they [don’t have a hangover](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/drunk-wedding-guest), the items will prove useful at some point. \n\n## Boozy Wedding Favors to Avoid \nSome boozy wedding favors are overdone or just downright not useful. You may be incredibly excited about sending your guests off with something personalized with your names and wedding date, but, just don’t. No one—except maybe your parents—wants anything with your names and date on them.\n\nYour guests, most likely, have our list of items already lying around their house. Avoid duplication and think creatively, instead. We hate to say it—ok, we actually don’t—but skip out on these potentially trite options.\n\n- Drink koozies\n- Any type of glass (shot, wine, etc.)\n- Bottle openers\n- Corkscrews\n- Coasters\n\n### However, There Are Some Exceptions\n\nIf you have your heart set on a koozie, purchase ones with kitschy sayings. Phrases such as “save water, drink beer” or “IPA lot when I drink beer” are more likely to be used. Additionally, they’ll garner a chuckle from those who read them.\n\nAn upscale travel souvenir, such as etched glass, can serve as a memento for a destination wedding trip. Additionally, if you’re thinking of [something to open beverages](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/crafthousebyfortessa_barcorkscrew), be sure that it’s a high-quality one. Giving guests something they may already have means that the favor needs to have a luxurious wow factor.\n\nChoosing boozy wedding favors is a decision that you make with confidence. With so many creative options, your guests will appreciate your thoughtfulness as they sip and savor at home. And they definitely won’t throw them away.\n","tag":"List","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How to determine whether you need to give wedding favors to every guest at your wedding.","title":"Do You Give Wedding Favors to Each Guest?","slug":"do-you-give-wedding-favors-to-each-guest","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Ku5W4ofaXyHnGAp3DcXP7/ef3ae745d5de3fc2957cdb38b1292552/Hero_NaturalOutdoorWeddingatMerryHill_AandAWeddings.jpg","altText":"Do You Give Wedding Favors to Each Guest"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Get creative with these fall wedding ideas for the outdoor celebration of your dreams! See our favorite 25 wedding ideas inspired by autumn here. 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Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"winter-wedding-favors","title":"17 Winter Wedding Favors to Share the Holiday Joy!","excerpt":" If you’re having a winter wedding and want favors to reflect the season, there are countless options to consider. We’ve pulled together some of the most loved winter wedding favors your guest will be thrilled to receive.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-02-22T15:23:39.695Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WGcJLxu98OnL7T9p10YV7/8214b11b65b40e0ba4d188d8a801e40c/Hero_Zola_02__11_.jpg","altText":"Winter Wedding Favors"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- __[Customized candles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/winter-wedding-favors#candles)__ are one of the most romantic winter wedding favors to gift your wedding guests.\n- Help your guests stay warm during the cold weather with winter essentials like __[lip balm and hand warmers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/winter-wedding-favors#warm)__.\n- __[Personalized mugs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/winter-wedding-favors#mugs)__ with your date and venue are useful winter wedding favors everyone can enjoy.","body":"__[Winter weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/winter-wedding-decoration-ideas)__ have long been the definition of romantic. Whether you’re celebrating on a beach with clear skies and serene weather or you’re up in the mountains, bundled up as the snow falls, or even counting down to the New Year, a wedding in the cold season is always a popular choice. If you’re searching for the perfect thank you gifts for your guests, we have a few all-time favorites everyone will adore. From blankets to flasks, to rustic wedding party favors, here are some of our favorite perfect winter wedding ideas your family and friends will cherish. \n\n![Winter Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uPV6Z3PhsthGiaqRFI2od/a771538ff390f658e9358f234bb6a1bb/inline_Someplaceimages.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Someplaceimages\n\n### 1. [Customized Candle Favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/foxblossomco_botanical_monogram_custom_wedding_favor_candle_set25) \n\nFew favors are more romantic than __[personalized candles](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/candles-matches-favors)__ for the big day. Select a scent that compliments your theme or wedding venue (think pine tree or apple), and have the jar or tin customized with your names, wedding date, venue/location, or your favorite love quote. Whenever your friends light the candle afterwards, they’ll remember the wonderful time they had celebrating with you. \n\nPhoto Credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/aN-zGYlxiCI)\n\n### 2. [Pinecone Fire Starters](https://www.amazon.com/Color-Cones-Changing-Changes-Purple/dp/B001KUX8DA/ref=sr_1_5?crid=1KHPV414EP0MR&keywords=pinecone+fire+starters&qid=1676800398&sprefix=pine+cone+fire+strater%2Caps%2C304&sr=8-5)\nHelp your guests warm up on a cold night with fire starters. Put together cute baggies with pinecones, pine sprigs, and potpourri for your guests to take home after the reception. The next time they’re feeling chilly, they’ll pop the scented starter in the fire and have warm and fuzzy thoughts about your wedding. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/4kUs15XLHTQ)\n\n### 3. [Blankets](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/bearaby_organic_cotton_weighted_blanket_cloudwhite)\n\nIf you’re having an outdoor celebration in the winter, blankets aren’t just a cute favor your guests will cherish after the wedding, but they’re functional as well. Select simple fleece or weaved blankets in your __[wedding colors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-colors)__ and place them on each ceremony seat or in a basket when guests walk in. Be sure to include a note to let them know they’re allowed to hang on to their blankets post ceremony and beyond. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/zOxYem4n4h8)\n\n### 4. [Christmas Tree Ornaments](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/spode_christmas_tree_3pc_woodland_tea_ornament_set)\n\nIf you’re having a holiday or [winter wonderland themed wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-winter-wedding-themes), few __[party favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/favors)__ would be more quintessential than an ornament. Christmas wedding favors are wonderful winter wedding ideas. Since many guests travel for holiday weddings, something special to help them remember their trip around the holidays is an ideal choice. Opt for an ornament with the location and date so your friends can look back fondly and remember the special occasion every holiday season. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/XJyK_Iqrz4I)\n\n### 5. [Personalized Mugs](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/lecreuset_mug_marseille_4.5) \n\nHelp your guests prepare for the cold weather season by gifting them personalized mugs. Have your wedding date and venue added so loved ones will remember the celebration every time they reach for it. Additionally, consider filling each with a baggie of coffee or cocoa so your guests have something special to sip in their new mugs. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/JM7A7x5VyAE)\n\n### 6. [Flasks](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/hydroflask_21_oz._standard_mouth_bottle_with_flex_cap_snapper)\n\nIf you and your SO are fans of something stronger, flasks as winter wedding favors are a great way to showcase your fun-loving personalities. Have them etched with your wedding date and location and select them in a classic style like silver, wood, or black so they’ll fit everyone’s taste. If you want to take it a step further, have filling stations where guests can fill their flasks with drinks to enjoy all night long. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/Le5TGQcItMs)\n\n### 7. [Snowflake Soap](https://www.amazon.com/MoldFun-Christmas-Snowflake-Chocolate-Decorating/dp/B07F49D7KD/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1NQFSUYRYJOD7&keywords=snowflake+shaped+soap&qid=1676800750&sprefix=snowflake+shapedsoap%2Caps%2C305&sr=8-3)\n\nKeeping with the winter wedding theme, nothing says cute and precious as soap shaped like a snowflake in a keepsake box that has your wedding date and venue on it along with your names. You can customize this with a signature aroma, mix it up with aromas the bride and groom like, or simply have a combination of aromas that are either distributed at some point during the wedding or picked up by guests as they leave. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/5AiWn2U10cw)\n\n### 8. [Bottle Opener](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/cuisinartgrill_magnetic_bottle_opener)\n\nAnother handy idea for a favor, and a wedding favor at that, considering you might have an open bar and bottles aplenty to take care of! A custom designed bottle opener is a fun and very resourceful wedding favor. Especially in the winter when your wedding guests might not want to venture too far to the bar to be able to have a drink. A fun message on the bottle opener is a great way to add a smile to your guests’ face as well. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/ryThqzrnoxc)\n\n### 9. [Pashmina](https://www.amazon.com/Achillea-Reversible-Paisley-Pashmina-Seagreen/dp/B073DK5C7P/ref=sr_1_5?crid=5GAKQ4S0R9Y1&keywords=pashmina&qid=1676800818&sprefix=pashmina%2Caps%2C393&sr=8-5)\n\nLike blankets, a pashmina would be great as a [winter wedding favor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-favors), not just for guests to use at the venue but also to take along as a reminder for the big day. Classic pashmina is extremely fine textured and would be a memorable keepsake for any guest attending your wedding. Order ahead and get them in the colors you have chosen for your wedding or even mix it up for a combination of colors, and even patterns, that guests can choose from. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/VFrcRtEQKL8)\n\n### 10. [Coasters](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/noritake_konawood_coaster_setof4)\n\nA winter wedding favor that can never go out of style is a pair or set of coasters. Choose a theme that’s cheeky, maybe a play on words, or shares some fun details about the bride and groom that guests will enjoy having in their homes. Creating custom illustrations to go on the coasters that are specific to your wedding is also one way to ensure this is a treasured keepsake for your guests. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/t3gHKECmB3I)\n\n## DIY Wedding Favor Ideas\n\n### 11. Winter Essentials Bag \n\nOftentimes __[winter weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-colors)__ take place outside because the sky is blue, the air is crisp, and the pine trees are covered in snow. Unless your ceremony is taking place somewhere warmer, there’s a good chance your guests will feel chilly in an outdoor space. Consider providing baggies with cute winter essentials like customized lip balm, hand warmers, and a scarf for them to weather the elements as they watch the celebration. You can have these as big or small as you like. A little goody box with travel-size products should do the trick. Try to support local small businesses if possible and always add some edibles goodies or sweet treats to further sweeten the deal as they say. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/L0UsybxXiCs) \n\n12. __[Mason Jar](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/zolabridal_best_day_ever_wedding_mason_jar_glass_bottle)__\n\nMason jars always lend to a great DIY project but especially for winter wedding favors that you can customize however you wish. Consider edibles, ornaments, trinkets, sweet treats, and a plethora of other options for this DIY choice. You could also have unique sizes and mason jar decorations that coordinate with the wedding theme you’ve chosen. Think of a few different colors, textures, prints, and patterns to play with that will make your guests want to see their favors right away. And a note sharing what you’ve gifted and why or where it’s from for guests’ future reference. Guests will be happy to take home a fun mason jar full of surprises to enjoy. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/mV_fzXhwiOg) \n\n### 13. [Centerpiece Keepsakes](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/michaelaram_butterflyginkgo_centerpiece)\n\nThis is a great option, particularly if you have gorgeous flower arrangements, fruit baskets, vegetable carvings, or have in some way incorporated seasonal produce possibly in your centerpieces that would simply go to waste if not for repurposing it as a keepsake from your winter wedding. It’s also a bit of a budget saver as you wouldn’t be spending separately on favors as well. Other ideas include little sculptures, table candles, dinner candles or holders, and miniature plants. Your guests truly are taking a little bit of the wedding memory back with them when they can continue to enjoy such keepsakes at home for a few days after the events of the big day. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/-e3y1ltkEos)\n\n### 14. [Stickers](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1205584174/wedding-favors-mint-to-be-lifesavers?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=engagement+favor+stickers&ref=sc_gallery-1-4&pro=1&sts=1&plkey=3610ffda164e7a65c06baf499cb8d9c94f928b73%3A1205584174)\n\nHave a lot of fun with DIY stickers for favors which can prove to be a truly versatile option. From stickers on mints and candy to those illustrating the couple’s favorite treats, these can be customized to different shapes and sizes and easily created using online sources. You can add details of your wedding or add some fun messages for guests and even create a few different versions for different events. This is a wedding favor that is often overlooked but couples can have a great time putting these together. These can be an extension of your wedding theme, or you can also take inspiration from the venue and some of your engagement photos to put together something unique and very special. \n\nPhoto credit: [Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1205584174/wedding-favors-mint-to-be-lifesavers?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=wedding+favors&ref=sr_gallery-1-1&pro=1&col=1&sts=1&organic_search_click=1)\n\n## Edible Wedding Favors\n\n### 15. [Gourmet Coffee](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/oxo_conical_burr_coffee_grinder)\n\nThis winter wedding favor is especially great for coffee lovers, but all your guests will appreciate the pick-me-up. Select your favorite coffee flavor or special blend (like beans from your hometown or ceremony city) and put them in little baggies for your guests to enjoy the morning after the celebration. Consider including a note with the coffee details so guests can order their own if they end up loving it as well or just show the local company love on social media. Add a twist by including the coffee varieties that both the bride and groom love or even coffees from places they visited during their courtship, maybe even from where they got engaged. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/6VhPY27jdps)\n\n### 16. [Maple Syrup](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/kilner_3pc_breakfast_set)\n\nGifting your guests something [edible](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/edible-wedding-favors) is sweet, especially if it's honey or jam! These popular summer wedding favors are a delicious way to help your guests remember your special day and thank them for attending. You can buy the condiments in bulk and put them in small jars of your choosing or go with a company who does it all for you. Either way, your guests will appreciate the delicious gesture. Choose maple syrup or any other condiment that the area for your venue is known for or maybe go with a company from your respective hometowns to support businesses you’ve known when you were growing up. These are also great additions to a larger mix of gifts bundled together. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/XNtwi0xmZr8)\n\n### 17. [Hot Chocolate Favors](https://www.amazon.com/RomanticBaking-Chocolate-Cupcake-Candies-Birthday/dp/B0B8HGXPK2/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2VL6BBXZG24NP&keywords=hot+chocolate+favors&qid=1676802004&sprefix=hot+chocolate+fav%2Caps%2C369&sr=8-2)\n![Winter Wedding Favors](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1pyx78US7vTiaxcVhrJXxc/5184da1405262f0edb0063c78150a503/inline_Diybarnwedding.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Diybarnwedding\n\nWhether you select popular hot chocolate bombs or package kits with cocoa mix and marshmallows or sprinkles, few favors are more deliciously winter than hot chocolate. Package the hot chocolate in cute baggies and if your budget permits, put them in mugs with some peppermint bark in hot cocoa to make preparation super easy. Whichever you choose, be sure to add instructions to guide your guests in creating the perfect cup. You can also indulge in a few different hot chocolate flavors aside from classic, so your guests have fun discovering which flavors they live. A sachet combo with those different flavors is also a great idea. \n\nPhoto credit: [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/photos/RtHw0PWCLhw)\n\nSelecting the most fitting winter wedding favor takes a little bit of creativity, but there are plenty of options that’ll help your guests remember the celebration. Say thanks with something sweet like syrup or hot chocolate or keep the party going with a flask or gourmet coffee. Whatever you choose, your guests will appreciate the “thank you” and enjoy celebrating your love story post “I do.”","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Here’s a look at some of our favorite wedding flowers and aisle decor ideas.","title":"Wedding Aisle Flower Ideas","slug":"wedding-aisle-flower-ideas","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2486tmSxQbXDDXk4Q3Ooy/04258d2e8dd4246009f1f3359804197f/Hero_LuxuriousRomanceinCalifornia_RewindPhotography.jpg","altText":"Wedding Aisle Flower Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Nervous about choosing your wedding colors? Don’t be: we’ve outlined some basic steps you can take to choose a wedding color palette that matches your vision and expresses your personality as a couple. 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Read on for our top tips and advice","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2020-12-21T20:17:53.036Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1AAijVX8kcD2NY8F1gFfuB/aa0f5e74194b1aa77cd5c0d14bcc9636/Hero_New__7_.jpg","altText":"groomsmen at wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"A wedding is not only an opportunity for two soon-to-be spouses to [walk down the aisle](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle), say their “[I do’s,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows)” and mark the beginning of their life as a married couple; it’s also an opportunity for the people who love them most to celebrate them and their relationship on their wedding day.\n\nAnd, if you’re the [best man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-man-duties), you’ll have a major part of celebrating the happy couple by [giving the best man speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech) at the wedding reception.\n\nThe best man speech is your chance to share your best wishes for the [newlyweds]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-things-you-should-do-as-a-newlywed) with all of the [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests) in attendance.\n\nBut, what exactly should you say on the actual wedding day? \n\nLet’s take a look at how to write a perfect best man speech:\n\n### Start Writing Early\n\nWriting a best man speech takes a good amount of thinking, planning, and effort—and you want to make sure that you give yourself plenty of time for that thinking, planning, and effort.\n\nWriting your best man speech the week of (or the day of!) the wedding isn’t an effective strategy. Not only are you going to feel stressed out, but if you write your speech at the last minute, chances are that you’re not going to get everything you want to say down on paper—and, as a result, your best man speech won’t be as heartfelt/touching/funny/composed/(insert desired adjective here) as you’d like it to be.\n\nIf you’re going to be the best man, start writing your speech early—as in months before the wedding ceremony. The earlier you start writing, the more time you have to revise, change, and practice—and the more likely it is that your speech will go off without a hitch on the big day.\n\n### Consider the Tone of Your Speech\n\nThere are a lot of different ways in which you could write a best man speech. You could go straight for the heart and write something emotional and touching; you can infuse a funny story and inside jokes to get a laugh from the couple; or you can keep things simple, straightforward, and to the point.\n\nSo, before you start writing, you should spend some time considering which of those vibes you’re going for at the wedding ceremony.\n\nSetting the tone before you start writing your best man speech can help streamline the writing process; for example, if you know you want your speech to feel more emotional and heartfelt, you might consider incorporating memories that illustrate how much the groom and/or couple mean to you. If you want to go with a more humorous tone, you can start by writing out all of your most hilarious stories—and seeing which of them are the most likely to get the couple (and their wedding guests) laughing on the big day. The idea is to make it personal and to say some kind words at your friend’s wedding.\n\nCan you have different tones at different points throughout your speech—such as an overall humorous speech with a few touching moments for good measure? Of course. But, if you want your speech to feel cohesive, you should set a primary tone—and make sure that you carry that tone throughout as you write your speech.\n\n### Start Strong\n\n![How to Write the Best Man Speech | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/VXfOpf9boWSj6KMn5fqZq/fc7701df41323920c3f62e75bafe0d65/Inline_OneLove_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit //* OneLove Photography\n\nAs the old saying goes, “you only get one chance to make a first impression”—and, for your best man speech, that means you need to capture people’s attention from the very beginning.\n\nStarting your speech strong will ensure that you immediately hook the guests, wedding party, and newly married couple—and that they’ll be engaged and attentive for the rest of your speech.\n\n“Starting strong” can mean a variety of things; depending on your speech’s tone, you might start with a particularly touching story about the couple or a funny story to break the ice. But, whatever you decide to start with, make sure that it grabs the audience’s attention from the get-go, which will make it easier to keep their attention for the rest of your speech.\n\n### Incorporate Your Favorite Memories\n\nThe groom (or bride) asked you to be the best man for a reason; chances are that you have a long history with plenty of happy, hilarious, and fun memories. And your best man speech is the perfect time to share those memories.\n\nIncorporate at least one or two of your favorite memories with the groom, bride, and/or couple into your speech. Not only does sharing memories in your best man speech work from a storytelling perspective (everyone loves a good story), but it will also remind the couple of how special and important they are to you, which is exactly what a best man speech is supposed to do.\n\n### Keep Things Appropriate\n\nSharing memories in your best man speech is great—as long as those memories are appropriate.\n\nRemember, this is one of the most important days of the newly married couple’s life—and all the most important people in their life (including family, friends, and colleagues) are going to be there, listening to your speech. The last thing you want to do is embarrass them or offend someone they care about.\n\nSo, if you have any memories that have even the slightest potential of upsetting or offending anyone (which, as a rule, includes anything involving excessive drinking, drugs, sex, or past relationships), leave it out of your best man speech.\n\n![How to Write the Best Man Speech | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1M7b8iU7jSt1SNvS6NcNb3/b0bf5e6babcad8d8d2c544885d078a61/Inline_Our_Day_Wedding_Photography_.png)*Photo Credit* // Our Day Wedding Photography\n\n### Write, Practice, and Revise\n\nA key part of writing the best speech is, you know, actually writing it down.\n\nEven if you’re a person who does well speaking on the fly, you want to write your speech from beginning to end. That way, you have more control over what you say, how you say it, and when you say it.\n\nThen, once you have it written down, you’ll want to practice it—and practice it out loud. Reading your speech out loud will help you get a better idea of how it flows, and help you identify any areas that need to be tweaked, adjusted, or revised.\n\nAnd, just like you want to start writing your speech early, you want to give yourself plenty of time to practice and revise before the big day. Again, the more time you give yourself to work on your best man speech, the more comfortable you’ll be giving the speech at the wedding (and the better it will be as a result).\n\nWriting (and giving) a speech can feel a bit scary for a lot of people. But, now that you know exactly how to write the perfect best man speech, all that’s left to do is get out there and get writing.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make sure that your best man speech isn’t too long—or too short with this guide.","title":"How Long Should the Best Man Speech Be?","slug":"how-long-should-the-best-man-speech-be","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZkjIHIJVZsSENJUhhROPt/d25fb38281560f02e0a17575edde29ac/Inline_OneLove_Photography__1_.png","altText":"best man at wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":" If you’re not sure where to start when it comes to choosing wedding day clothing for men, check out our guide to groom’s attire. ","title":"A Complete Guide to Wedding Attire for Grooms","slug":"a-guide-to-grooms-attire","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3VMpMOUBZSyCkaeYeEmqgk/8db23790cfb65c8c8eebd5f2ecc5c522/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"groom in cobalt blue tux jacket"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"So you’ve been chosen to be the best man, but what does that mean? Don’t worry, the experts at Zola have you covered with a guide on all the best man’s duties.","title":"Best Man Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-best-man-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6yUj6IlflBg9sNoDqUzo3A/be91a8e185bce29c9ba599a4207728f6/Best-Man-Duties_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"best man adjusts collar pin for groom in military attire"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know to practice proper groomsmen etiquette is up on the blog. Read on to find out more.","title":"Groomsmen Etiquette 101: A Beginner's Guide","slug":"groomsmen-etiquette-101-a-beginners-guide","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/p1emi1UCDPEYpulAeBOS5/48401b251b3daaf22a3892fa9e064db9/Inline_Tricia_McCormack_Photography.png","altText":"groomsmen at wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:21.534Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"what-a-wedding-bouquet-toss-symbolizes","title":"What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes","excerpt":"All there is to know about this fun wedding tradition.","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-02-22T18:49:44.005Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13mF0hu6Aq3qUvy2TBFH3e/bbd21bcd1610a7151fd1c98527fe4419/Hero_Zola__66_.jpg","altText":"What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- The wedding bouquet toss is a tradition that dates back to the 1300s in England. \n- The bride tosses her bouquet to unmarried women during the wedding reception and whoever catches it is said to be the next in line to wed. \n- The bridal bouquet toss meaning is symbolic of fertility and good luck.","body":"Weddings are a mixture of traditional and nontraditional, old and new, something borrowed and (sometimes) something blue. One thing that tends to make it to most weddings, traditional or not, is the custom known as bouquet tossing. \n\nIt’s that moment during the wedding reception when the DJ calls for the single ladies to get into position on the dance floor. The bride, with her back to the crowd, clutches her bouquet, closes her eyes, and, on the DJ’s count, tosses the bouquet into the air. Without a second thought, it’s a mad scramble from the anxious group to catch the bride’s beautiful array of flowers, all for the hope of the good luck that the wedding tradition promises. \n\n### How Did The Tradition Start?\n \n![What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5AkmObHIou2DBpD08QlVJE/74fca10758119f0791dba1c0fcc8dffa/inline_Erika_Follansbee_Photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Erika Follansbee Photography\n\nDuring the 1300s in medieval Europe, it was thought to be good luck to touch the bride. A bride didn’t expect to wear her wedding dress again, so others saw it as good luck or fertility charm. After the wedding, single women would chase the bride and try to rip the gown off. \n\nDuring that time, marriage was a woman’s way of [upward mobility](https://www.brides.com/bouquet-toss-5077200) and often more of a strategic move versus a romantic one. Single women were desperate to change their economic status by marrying someone who could provide for them. They wanted a bride’s accessories, simply because she was married. So, to deter guests from what had to be an uncomfortable moment, and an invasion of privacy, brides began tossing their bouquets into the crowds to cause a distraction. The wedding bouquet is said to be the best object to toss because the flowers are symbolic of fertility. \n\nOver the years, as wedding dresses have evolved and gotten more expensive, it’s more of a tradition for women to keep them as a memento or to pass them on to other family members as a family heirloom. As society has progressed, marriage is a choice, and while luck may not be needed to fall in love and marry for romance, the bouquet toss tradition is one that has endured the test of time. It has evolved into a fun way for a bride to share her day with her single friends and family members. \n\nOther countries have variations on the bouquet toss meaning. [In Finland](https://oureverydaylife.com/what-happens-if-you-catch-the-bridal-bouquet-12083108.html), the bride is blindfolded and stands in the middle of a circle of women. The bride turns slowly, while the women turn in the opposite direction, and when everyone stops a flower is handed to the lady standing directly in front of the bride. \n\n### Catch the Bouquet of Luck\n \n![What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1HvD5fdohUNT2PL1S6jL91/c673e61d247ec3c8a6dc11ef207f85de/inline_Emmaclearyphotoandvideo.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Emmaclearyphotoandvideo\n\nTradition calls for single women to participate, but if your unmarried friends aren't too keen on the idea of being pushed out of the way to catch the [bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), don’t force them. Some may be feeling lonely or dealing with a breakup, so try to avoid shaming or guilting anyone into participating. If you only have one or two single friends attending, it might be awkward to do a toss, especially if other guests are married. \n \nTradition says that whoever catches the bouquet or wedding flowers at a wedding is thought to be the next in line to wed. But, if the lucky lady doesn’t meet the man of her dreams, at least she has a beautiful flower arrangement.\n\nThe bouquet toss tradition has been around for centuries, but it’s a great way for brides who want a tradition to incorporate into their special day. Brides who opt for a more contemporary or modern wedding can still include the bouquet toss, but with a twist. Most often, single ladies look forward to the bouquet toss and are excited to elbow the competition. Some couples don’t like the idea of throwing a bouquet, so they can tailor a bouquet toss to their preference, or do away with the idea. Some brides can opt to stage the bouquet toss so that a specific person from the wedding party such as the maid of honor or a close engaged friend catches it. Others choose to give a flower to family members from the bouquet. \n\n### To Toss or Not to Toss?\n\nAs with all wedding traditions, nothing is set in stone. As a couple, you can determine if the bouquet tossing tradition works best for you and your wedding. There are many ways to tailor traditions to your liking and to your guests to make the day special. Be as traditional as you want, or put a modern spin on it, it’s up to you, because, after all, it’s your wedding day. \n\nRemember, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/), is here to help offer advice and assist you with all the details of your wedding during all steps of the [planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding), from the decor, wedding ceremony, and to the flowers included in the bouquet.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In Zola’s First Look Report, over 3,000 engaged couples shared the wedding traditions that they’re keeping, leaving, and are split on for their 2022 weddings. Here’s what they had to say.","title":"The Wedding Traditions We'll See in 2022—And The Ones We Won't","slug":"wedding-traditions-that-couples-are-having-at-their-weddings","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZoJaS144DGGadbTjRl0dC/bd26005567dd6dbcf9bdb5edf5672843/07.jpeg","altText":"2022 Wedding Traditions"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Including family and loved ones in wedding traditions can be tricky, but there are ways that they can still be a part of the big day. Read on for more!","title":"8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony","slug":"8-ways-to-keep-family-involved-in-wedding-traditions-during-the-ceremony","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3PzGN99uh194Q96RDPdWXQ/e729adcea46bf416b6c0a3178ff79fa3/Hero_SweetSpringWeddingatFairmontParkHorticultureCenter_BriannaWilburPhotography.jpg","altText":"Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"The four elements, adapted from a tradition of the Yorùbá people, are a lovely addition to a wedding ceremony. Here are some ways to integrate the tradition into your wedding.","title":"Best Ways To Incorporate Tasting the Four Elements In Your Wedding","slug":"great-ways-to-incorporate-tasting-the-four-elements-in-your-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4QiQIQ6ZBbsBXci0hWvIDt/36d7c259642b3247deee6bf99c979bec/Hero_IntimateModernWeddingatTribeca360_LHewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"Tasting the Four Elements In Your Wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From koozies to succulents, infused oil to hand sanitizer, there are a lot of wedding favors to consider when selecting for your big day. With that in mind, we’ve compiled the best wedding favors, to take the guesswork out of gifts for your guests.","title":"30 Wedding Favor Ideas To Make Your Guests Smile","slug":"best-wedding-favors","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3Fivh6xtQQk3GFRAs53LEY/1f5bcf4fa5c218e776e61a56cea3e1d0/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Best Wedding Favors"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:20.806Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"give-wedding-speech-hate-public-speaking","title":"How to Give a Wedding Speech If You Hate Public Speaking","excerpt":"Public speaking: not for everyone. If you're asked to make a wedding speech and fear public speaking, read on. Here's how to write and deliver a wedding speech when you hate public speaking.","author":"Kathleen Wong","publishedAt":"2019-10-02T21:51:38.684Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2TwzFjP0qpLXZavIzst7JZ/b76661abb4230ce5ca226533cb95f83d/How-to-Give-a-Wedding-Speech-if-you-hate-public-speaking.jpg","altText":"maid of honor gives wedding speech"},"heroCredit":"Anton Drummond Photography","body":"A great wedding speech—one that’s touching, lighthearted, and just the right amount of sentimental—can really help set the mood of a reception. If the couple asks you to make a speech at the wedding, you’re probably of some level of importance (like the [best man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech)). So, take it as an honor if it happens to be you. For someone who’s afraid of public speaking, though, being assigned to give a [wedding toast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/give-wedding-speech-hate-public-speaking) can feel overwhelming and scary. Since bailing is an unlikely option, you’ll have to step up to the plate and face the wedding crowd. Here’s how to get over the fear of public speaking to deliver a truly awesome wedding speech. \n\n## What makes a successful wedding speech?\n\n“Speeches are a gift to the couple,\" shares [Katelyn’s Wedding Words](https://www.weddingwords.us/), Professional Vow and Speech Writer. \"Reviewing them is like asking to see a gift just in case you want to return it. Instead, let your speakers know what your expectations are.”\n\nThe best type of wedding speech isn’t the one that makes people laugh the hardest or is the most poignant—it’s the one that sounds most like you. No really. A speech isn’t going to go that well if you’re trying to be something you’re not. \n\nFor example, if you’re not the type to crack jokes every other sentence then why try to force them into the wedding speech? Just stick to what makes you feel comfortable. After all, *you* were chosen to make the speech by the newlyweds so they know what you’re capable of and they’re excited to hear what you have to say. \n\n![INLINE EicharPhotography 1080x720 Monica&Emir](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TE0Nu1vhZ1CukmWdZn8AP/1f8493499b060e37f6781e8509ef27dd/INLINE_EicharPhotography_1080x720_Monica_Emir.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Eichar Photography\n\n## How To Write A Wedding Speech You Can Deliver\nIf you’re already nervous to give a wedding speech then winging it probably isn’t the best idea. The key is to write an uncomplicated speech that won’t trip you up. \n\n### Keep it short. \nYes, this is the wedding of someone you really care about, but this doesn’t mean you need a long-winded speech to impress the audience. Keep the speech short, sweet, and simple. By this, we mean absolutely under 10 minutes. Everyone—including yourself–will thank you.\n\n### Say something nice about the newlyweds. \nStuck on what to even talk about in the speech? Keep the attention on the newlyweds. Even if they didn't give you any rules, [Katelyn](https://www.weddingwords.us/) advises couples to share things like, “I’m so excited that you’re speaking at my wedding! Just remember, my grandparents will be there so keep the jokes PG, please!” \n\nShare a short (and straightforward) story about them or just mention a quality or characteristic that makes them perfect for each other. Avoid anything controversial, crude, or embarrassing. \n\n### Show appreciation. \nRight now you may be dreading the task, but getting to deliver a wedding speech is a big honor. You’re a significant part of the wedding, so express some gratitude for the happy couple and say thanks.\n\n## How To Prepare To Give Your Wedding Speech\nWriting the speech is one thing. Getting up and presenting it in front of a crowd is most definitely another. Fear not! Taking the proper precautions can help make you feel confident and ready.\n\n### Have a test audience. \nAfter you draft out your speech, sit down with a fellow wedding party member or friend for a test run-through. It’s always helpful to get another pair of ears on a speech. They can tell you if the story is too hard to follow or offer some other constructive criticism to help boost your speech-giving confidence before the big day. Do as many test runs with as many people as you need to in order to feel comfortable.\n\n### Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. \nYou know what they say: Practice makes perfect. “Give” the speech at least three times to see where you tend to hiccup or blank. Literally—we mean say the speech out loud to yourself and track the difficult parts. You’ll probably find that parts of the speech come easy to you (you may even memorize them quickly), but others stop you in your tracks. Rehearsing helps make the speech more familiar to you, which means more confidence when you deliver it. \n\n*__Pro tip: Do at least one trial run loaded with distractions, like people walking around or a cell phone going off. You never know what could happen during the actual speech delivery so it’s best to prepare for the unexpected.__* \n\n![INLINE OneLovePhotography 1080x720 Kristin&Michael](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3hfMKDe9kGnPrjFI54BW9B/c9540d430680e568cf7e75beb1465c14/INLINE_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Kristin_Michael.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // One Love Photography\n\n### Don’t be afraid of notes.\nYou do not need to memorize your wedding speech. Repeat: You do not need to memorize your wedding speech. Feel free to bring up a copy of your speech in any format (short of poster board) that helps you read or reference it clearly. For some people, that means reading off their phones. For others, it means printing the speech on standard paper. \n\nBringing a copy of your speech with you to the microphone isn’t anything to be ashamed of. You might not even use the backup during the actual speech but for some people. However, just knowing you have the option to read your speech can be a major comfort. It may ease some of your nerves about fumbling or forgetting anything. \n\n### Focus on the foreheads. \nForget the old adage of picturing the audience in their underwear. First of all, no thanks. Second, a great speaker is one who makes eye contact with the audience, wouldn’t you agree? They’re confident enough to look right at you as they seamlessly deliver point after point. \nNo worries if you’re not ready for that type of commitment yet. Just focus your eyes on the tops of people’s foreheads. It gives the illusion that you’re making eye contact and keeps you from staring at the ceiling or floor out of nerves. \n\n### Watch your drinks. \nAs tempting as the open bar is, try to lay off the booze until after you give your speech. You may think liquid courage will help things run smoothly but lowered inhibitions and a microphone is also the formula for some seriously embarrassing disasters. If you’re slated to give a wedding toast, it’s better to be safe rather than sorry and to hold off on going bottoms up.\n\nWe also recommend eating at least a small something before your speech. You don’t want to be uncomfortably full but you also really don’t want to be distracted by hunger pains or (god forbid) an audibly grumbling stomach.\n\n### Don’t forget to breathe—and smile! \nBeing in the spotlight, even if just for a few minutes, is understandably nerve-wracking so if you start to freak out, just remember to breathe and smile! Just the act of [smiling](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/simply-smiling-can-actually-reduce-stress-10461286/) has been found by scientists to relieve tension during otherwise stressful situations. So if you stumble over your words or trip on your dress on the way to the microphone, don’t sweat it. At the end of the day, the newlyweds are just excited to have you commemorating their big day with a few kind words. \n\nYou made it! 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Read on to ensure that you nail your wedding-day entrance.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-11-06T06:04:51.152Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6BeiqFRAKX5LapxaMeOylt/83b1153ffb8e7d72915200974e678759/Hero_ClassicFallWeddingatRiverMillEventCenter_TheSweetestThingsPhotographyByKima.jpg","altText":"Who Does the Ring Bearer Give the Rings To?"},"heroCredit":"The Sweetest Thing Photography By Kima","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Typically, the ring bearer passes the rings off to the best man or best woman, or another person of honor, who holds them until the couple is ready to exchange rings. \n- Feel free to have more than one ring bearer or, perhaps, none at all. If you choose to have multiple, make sure that each one is given their own tasks and responsibilities. \n- Historically, ring bearers have been boys, but if you’d prefer to have a girl (or even a pet!) as a ring bearer, feel free to make that choice in collaboration with your partner. ","body":"Whether it’s days, weeks, or even months away, you and your partner are about to put a ring on it for life and you’ll need someone to facilitate the process. Your wedding officiant will be the one to make things legal on paper, but when it comes to the symbolic representation of your union (your wedding bands), you’ll need a ring bearer. \n\nHow do you choose the little boy to fulfill this important role? What are the details of ring bearer duties? In this blog, you’ll find out everything you need to know about wedding etiquette for ring bearers, including: \n\n- Who the Little Bearer Gives the Rings To\n- What They Should Wear\n- Who Can Be a Ring Bearer\n- Other Frequently Asked Questions\n\nMake your way down this aisle decorated with all the details you need to know before your big day. \n\n## What Is a Ring Bearer?\nTraditionally, ring bearers are young boys (usually somewhere between the ages of four and 10) that have been chosen to carry a couple’s real wedding rings down the aisle before the ceremony. However, whether or not they carry the real wedding rings is up to you and your partner. Some spouses-to-be include a young ring bearer simply for the sake of tradition, but the couple puts the precious jewelry in the hands of someone a bit older and more responsible.\n\nYou can work out the logistics of who does what later on, but start by choosing someone closely linked to your family—a nephew, godson, or cousin could be an appropriate pick. Keep an open door of communication with their parents to be sure that their son (or daughter!) is up for the task. \n\n## The Ring Bearer Tradition: A Brief History\nRing bearers have been long-time crowd-pleasers at wedding events. Watching them (sometimes haphazardly) walk down the aisle just before the flower girl is an undeniably adorable introduction to the main event. But, where did this tradition come from and when did it start? \n\nTake a look at this brief history of ring bearers to better understand why wedding ceremonies sometimes look the way they do today. \n\n- Though it’s not known for sure, some say that ring-bearing traditions date as far back as ancient times—ancient Egypt, to be precise.\n\n- It was customary at Egyptian wedding ceremonies to entrust a young boy with the task of carrying precious gems and jewels to the altar on a decorative pillow. Not all that different from what’s often done today, right?\n\n- A Victorian-era alternative to the Egyptian ring bearer was called a page boy. At weddings—typically aristocratic ones—a boy (often one closely related to the marrying couple in some way) would be put in charge of assisting the bride down the aisle, mainly by carrying the back of her train. \n\n- In Medieval matrimonies, they took a slightly different approach. Instead of carrying wedding bands down on a pillow, ring bearers would present the betrothed couple with their rings atop a sword.\n\nYou won’t need to quiz your chosen ring bearer on this history, of course, but it could be fun to share with them just how far back their role goes. \n\nWhether you’re sticking with tradition or making your own version of history, make sure that your ring bearer and their family keep their schedule clear on the day of your nuptials and the rehearsal (typically the day before the wedding) by sending out invitations in a timely manner. Browse through [Zola’s collection of save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) and wedding invitations to find a variety of styles suited to just about any wedding day aesthetic. \n\n## Ring Bearer Responsibilities \nOnce you’ve chosen your ring bearer, work with them and their family to nail down the duties for the day. You might think it’s as simple as waltzing down the aisle, rings in hand, but there are a few details regarding their responsibilities that you’ll want to clarify before the big day:\n\n- First thing’s first: they’ll need to look dashing. Well, maybe not designer-level dashing, but you’ll want to make sure that the ring bearer’s attire fits with the style you’ve chosen for the wedding day, as well as with the rest of the wedding party. Talk to their parents and set up a timeline that allows plenty of time for shopping, shipping, and any necessary tailoring. \n\n- Decide whether or not you actually want the ring bearer to carry the rings. If you’re trying to include a young family member in your ceremony, but would prefer someone else to handle the wedding bands themselves, let them know, and be sure to assign the task to another member of your wedding party. \n\n \n- If the ring bearer will, in fact, be delivering the rings, make sure that they know whom to give them to and how to get there. In a traditional processional, the ring bearer follows the maid, matron, or person of honor, entering just before the flower girl. \n\n- Whom does the ring bearer give the rings to? Once they’ve made it down the aisle, the ring bearer will pass off the wedding bands to either the best man or person of honor to hold onto until the time comes to exchange vows.\n\n- After they’ve fulfilled their primary duty, decide where you’d like them to stand. If your ring bearer is quite young and you plan to have a long ceremony, it could be a challenge for someone so little to stand still for so long. If you don’t have them stand alongside the other members of your wedding party, arrange for them to find their way back to their parents nearby. \n\nOnce all of those details are in order, you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that your ring bearer will be the cutest and most capable around. \n\nStill stumbling over a few more loose ends? Read on for answers to more of your questions. \n\n## Frequently Asked Questions About Ring Bearers \nThere are a lot of details to sort out when it comes to planning for your wedding day. How will you stay on top of the guest count? What’s the best way to book vendors for details such as floral decor and catering services? Thankfully, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) is brimming with planning tools to streamline the vendor selection process and to keep your to-do list organized. \n\nIf you still don’t feel like you have a firm grasp on all the ring bearer details, take a look at a few questions you might not have thought to ask. \n\n## What Should a Ring Bearer Wear? \nFirst, consider how formal your wedding day is, in general, and then coordinate an outfit for your ring bearer that matches the aesthetic and tastefully ties in with what the rest of the wedding party will be wearing. Keep things elegant and timeless with a tuxedo or suit, or opt for something more casual such as a flannel button-down shirt and trousers for a rustic event. \n\nBe sure to have a chat with the ring bearer’s parents when deciding on an outfit to find out what they’re comfortable with, both in terms of budget and style. \n\n### Can I Have More Than One Ring Bearer? \nWhether you have one, two, or even a handful of ring bearers, it’s totally up to you and your partner. Remember, it’s your day and you have the freedom to personalize it in whatever manner you want. If you have a number of young children in your family and would like to include them all in some way in your ceremony, go ahead and let the ring bearers loose.\n\nIf you do decide to have multiple young ones play a role in your special day, consider a few ways to give each one their own responsibilities, such as:\n\n- Pulling a wagon of flower petals\n- Walking the family dog down the aisle\n- Holding a chalkboard sign\n- Bearing one of the two wedding bands alongside a partner\n\nYou want to ensure that each kiddo in your ceremony has their own special duty. \n\n### Does the Ring Bearer Need to Be a Boy? \nPerhaps you’re wedded to the tradition of having a young boy carry the rings down the aisle on a plush pillow. If that’s your vision, realize it. Otherwise, feel free to swap out a young boy for any ring-bearing child you please. \n\nSome couples may even decide to toss tradition aside entirely in favor of a pet. Your family dog or cat can take part in your ceremony by wearing a special collar that can hold the rings on a pillow or in a box. (Just make sure that they’re properly trained so that they don’t run off with your wedding bands in pursuit of a squirrel!)\n\nWould you rather skip the formality of having a ring bearer altogether? Make your day your own by entrusting your wedding bands to an adult member of your wedding party from the beginning. \n\n### Do Ring Bearers Typically Attend the Reception?\nYou and your partner make the rules on your wedding day, and whether or not you invite the youngins to your ceremony is entirely up to you. \n\nHowever, chances are that your ring bearer is more closely linked to your family than some of your other distant relatives’ little ones. Since they’ve not only helped to tie your special day together, but also invested time and money into rehearsing their responsibilities and purchasing an outfit, it’d be a kind gesture to bring them along to the reception too, even if you’re hosting a child-free affair.\n\nFor couples who are adamant about having a kid-free reception, consider arranging a special time during the cocktail hour where ring bearers and flower girls can still feel like they’re part of the celebration. Set up a pizza table or craft station where kids can spend an hour or so before taking off for the night with a nanny or babysitter. \n\n### Should the Ring Bearer Come to the Rehearsal Dinner?\nYou’ll definitely want your ring bearer to attend the rehearsal itself. Keep in mind that this might be the first-ever wedding they attend, so they’ll benefit from an overview of the day’s events and how they fit into them. Take some time at the rehearsal to instruct them on where to stand and in what order they’ll be filing down the aisle.\n\nAs for the rehearsal dinner, it would be a courteous gesture to invite the ring bearer and their parents along since they are, in fact, part of the wedding party itself. They’ll likely be surrounded by mostly adults at this event, so plan ahead by including a few kid-friendly activities to keep them busy while everyone else mingles before the big day. \n\nHere are a few ideas to keep them entertained:\n\n- __Activity kits –__ Mystery bags with an assortment of surprises are often a hit with young children. Toss in a few items such as coloring books, playdough, or sidewalk chalk—and maybe a sweet treat or two for after dinner (with parent approval, of course).\n\n- __Lego station –__ Legos have a long history of keeping kids busy for hours, and it’s also an activity that can often be done independently. Find an age-appropriate set (something wedding-themed could be fun!) and lay it out on a small table nearby where adults can still supervise. \n\n- __Lawn games –__ If you’re hosting an outdoor rehearsal dinner with plenty of backyard space, set aside an area for lawn games. Include an assortment of bubbles and bubble wands for the ring bearer and other young ones to play with. Set up a game such as cornhole or lawn bowling that can be fun for both kids and adults. \n\n## Saying Thank You: Five Gift Ideas for Your Ring Bearer\nFor someone who might still be working on how to tie their own shoes, your ring bearer has agreed to take on a pretty significant role for your wedding day. Take a moment to thank them and their family for outfitting them for the occasion, attending the rehearsal, and doing it all with an adorable smile on their face. Think of a small way to express your gratitude in the form of a gift or card that can be given to them prior to your wedding day. \n\nNeed a few creative gift ideas that your ring bearer will love? Consider these ideas:\n\n- __Sunglasses –__ From classic aviators to retro wayfarers, tie together your ring bearer’s wedding day look with a pair of sunglasses. They’ll come in handy for a mid-summer ceremony and can easily be worn time and time again after the event. \n\n- __Socks –__ Add a pop of personality to your ring bearer’s outfit by gifting them a quirky pair of socks. Whether they feature a favorite sports team or cartoon character, pick something that you know your ring bearer will love. \n\n- __Personalized memento –__ From framed photos to engraved wooden toys, remind your ring bearer of how special they are to you, your partner, and your wedding day with a personalized memento. Include their name or initials and your wedding date for a keepsake that they’ll be able to hang onto for years to come. \n\n- __Stuffed animal or small toy –__ A ring-bearing teddy bear could be just the thing to let your ring bearer know how thankful you are to have them participate in your wedding day. Otherwise, think about what their interests are and give them a small toy that they’ll be able to bring along with them to keep them entertained throughout the night of the reception. \n\n- __Ring security shirt –__ For those ring bearers who are fully embracing their duties, make their position extra official with a personalized ring security T-shirt. Include their name, the date of your wedding, and a playful title such as “Wedding Band Boss.”\n\nYou don’t have to break the bank to say thank you to your ring bearer and their family for participating in your wedding ceremony. If you’re skilled in a particular craft, consider a handmade token of gratitude such as a scrapbook or a crocheted toy. \n\n## Ring in the Next Chapter at Zola\nNow that you’ve sorted out the details regarding your ring bearer, it’s time to dive into the next step of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Whether you need to book a venue or [wedding vendor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), hire a photographer, or share the news of your upcoming wedding with friends and family, you’ll have a plethora of planning tools right at your fingertips at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/). \n\nShop for a few thoughtful gifts for your wedding party at the Zola Boutique, showcase the cast of your wedding crew on your easy-to-personalize website, and let us root for love alongside you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make your wedding ceremony blossom with a flower girl basket that uniquely showcases your wedding theme and location.","title":"How to Make a Flower Girl Basket","slug":"how-to-make-a-flower-girl-basket","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5uxCSDgUi8HDcu5BwJlkC0/e1d020828ab4b887439f7f91485812bf/Hero_VineyardWeddingatCasaRealatRubyHillWinery_ApolloFotografie.jpg","altText":"How to Make a Flower Girl Basket"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are a lot of ways to include your kids (or your partner's kids) in your wedding. 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Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. Learn more about how to plan a timeline that ensures you will have plenty of time to get the photos you want.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T21:53:59.472Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YSGQJgdXFs7GGnLAdB0JC/b42c6028988e7ad383c57eafef3c00dd/Hero_Zola_02.jpg","altText":"How Long Do Wedding Photos Take"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Throughout your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/), you’ve probably put together a timeline of events for your wedding day. You’ve figured out when to start getting ready in the morning, when to leave for the venue, how long the ceremony will take, and when you will be announced to your guests at the reception. But have you incorporated a timeline for your photos to ensure you get all the shots you want? \n\nMany couples don’t realize how much time is needed to get wedding photos that look effortlessly beautiful. So, how long do wedding photos take? Let’s take a closer look at the details of your wedding photography timeline. \n\n

How to Plan Your Wedding Photos

\n\nDepending on the types of portraits you want your photographer to take ([different wedding photographers have different styles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!), it will probably take you at least two hours to get all the shots. However, the good news is that the photos usually aren’t taken all at once, and the time is broken up throughout your day.\n\nMost photographers say you need about 30 minutes for wedding party portraits, 30 minutes for family portraits (close family only), and 45 minutes for couple portraits. Just remember: These timeframes can contract or expand, depending on the size of your wedding party and family, as well as the specific types of shots you want. For specifics, speak to your wedding photographer about how long they’ll need to take all the different shots you have in mind, plus how you might be able to save time. Here are some of the details you should consider as you plan the photos you want. \n\n

1. Pick Who You’ll Include in Formal Portraits

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6I2KiXD8d9GuSXE3jwqoXS/0e1ec004961a149e27003cd624f4d90c/inline_unsplash17.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nOf course, the focus of your wedding photos will be you and your spouse. However, you will probably want to have formal portraits taken of you with your wedding party, as well as [family wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). Deciding who you will include in this session can significantly impact how long your wedding photos will take. Your parents may try to convince you that you should have a formal portrait with all of your relatives, but remember that the more photos you take, the longer you will be kept away from your celebration. A good rule of thumb is to keep formal portraits limited to about 15 different groupings, including your wedding party, immediate family, and possibly a few important relatives. To help you make this decision, your photographer may be able to provide you with a list of suggested formal portrait groupings, so you know [how to edit wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) based on your needs. \n\n

2. Decide If You’ll Do a “First Look”

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uVnMhM1d3mlXyhe9PX49q/1549b1156768118b6061ca133f0bba66/inline_unsplash18.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nAn increasingly popular photo that couples are choosing to incorporate is a “first look.” [The first look wedding photo](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) This photo captures the first time the couple sees each other on their wedding day, usually wearing their wedding attire and occurring before the ceremony. \n\nMany photographers suggest this option, because it gives you the opportunity to take formal portraits before the ceremony, allowing you to enjoy the cocktail hour with your guests. If you choose the alternative—to stick with tradition and wait to see each other at the ceremony—you will likely spend your entire cocktail hour taking portraits. This choice can significantly impact your wedding photography timeline, so make sure you and your partner have come to a decision before finalizing your plans. \n\n

3. Pick Your Locations

\n\nOnce you’ve decided who’ll be in your photos and if you’ll be doing a “first look,” choose where you will be taking the photos. The most obvious and easiest locations will be your ceremony and reception venues, but you aren’t limited to these.\n\nIf the hotel where you’re getting ready has beautiful scenery, you might decide to have some portraits taken there, such as the bridal party or groomsmen photos. However, you might have other specific places of importance, like a local park or a specific neighborhood in your city. While this is definitely an option, you will need to plan for the extra time and transportation required to travel to and from those locations on your big day. \n\n

Your Wedding Photo Timeline

\n\nAfter you’ve figured out all the details of your wedding photos, you’ll want to work with your photographer (or wedding planner) to create a fully documented schedule of your wedding day, including the timeline for your photos. And don’t forget: It’s useful to add five-minute buffers throughout the day to leave room for any last-minute changes. You will also want to include any travel time to move between locations.\n\nOnce you’ve established your timeline, make sure that anyone who will be included in photos is aware of the schedule, plus has all relevant details. The last thing you want is to be waiting on a relative to show up for photos, so encourage all your important people to stick to the timeline you give them. \n\n

Sample Timelines

\n\nTo help you out, we put together two sample wedding photo timelines (including a [wedding photo list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list)!). The first is for a couple doing a “first look” session, while the second is for a couple going the more traditional route. Seeing these schedules next to one another may help you decide what you’d like to do for your wedding based on the impact that session can have on your overall timeline. \n\n### Timeline With First Look\n\n#### 11:45 AM - Wedding Photographer’s Arrival\nFrom a photo perspective, the day can’t start until the photographer arrives—which is why the first item on any wedding day photography timeline is the photographer’s arrival. At this point, the wedding photographer arrives on site and prepares to start snapping photos. \n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos \nDuring the next phase, the couple is separated, getting ready for the ceremony with their wedding party. These photos are often candid. \n\nDuring this time, the wedding photographer may take a variety of shots, including:\n\n- The groom getting dressed with the groomsmen\n\n- The bride getting ready with the bridesmaids\n\n- The hair stylist creating the bride’s wedding day hairstyle\n\n- Close-ups of the makeup artist doing the bride and bridesmaids’ makeup\n\n- Detail shots (for example, rings, wedding shoes, bouquets, wedding invitations, etc.)\n\nIf the wedding photographer has a second shooter, they may split up—with each photographer taking photos of one half of the couple and their bridesmaids and/or groomsmen. \n\n__Location ideas:__ Wherever the bride and/or groom is getting ready—for example, their home, the wedding venue, or a hotel\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:00 PM - First Look and Couple Portraits\nIf a couple opts to do a first look, then the photographer will get the opportunity to shoot them pre-ceremony. [First look photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) generally include:\n\n- Portrait sessions for both people (for example, bridal portraits and groom portraits)\n\n- The couple seeing each other in their full wedding looks for the first time\n\n- Couples portraits\n\nLocation ideas: Somewhere at or near the wedding venue—either outdoors (for example, in a garden or next to the ocean) or indoors (for example, in a hallway or underneath an entrance)\n\n#### 3:15 - 3:45 PM - Wedding Party Portraits\nAfter the first look, it’s time to tackle wedding party photos. This may include:\n\n- The bride with all of her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with the maid of honor\n\n- The groom with all of the groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The couple with the entire wedding party\n\n- The bride with her partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n- The groom with his partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n__Location ideas:__ Outside the wedding venue, at an off-site location with a scenic background\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nIt’s time to get married! During the wedding ceremony, the photographer will likely snap a variety of photos, including:\n\n- The ceremony location\n\n- Detail shots (for example, the ceremony programs, the flowers, the arbor, etc.)\n\n- Guests arriving at the ceremony start time\n\n- The wedding party walking down the aisle\n\n- Family members walking down the aisle\n\n- The bride and/or groom (or brides and grooms) walking down the aisle\n\n- The officiant\n\n- Any friends or family that share readings during the ceremony\n\n- The couple exchanging wedding vows\n\n- The couple walking down the aisle after getting married\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site\n\n#### 5:10 - 5:40 PM - Family Portraits\nAfter the ceremony, the wedding photographer will take formal [portraits of the couple and their families](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). This may include:\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The couple with one partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- Additional family photos as necessary (for example, photos with aunts, uncles, and/or cousins)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site, somewhere scenic/quiet at the wedding venue that’s away from cocktail hour (for example, a garden or ballroom)\n\n#### 5:10 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nIf your wedding photographer has a second shooter, they will often snap photos during cocktail hour while the main photographer handles family photos. This may include:\n\n- Guests mingling at cocktail hour\n\n- Photos of your signature wedding cocktails\n\n- Detail shots (for example, cocktail napkins, signage and decor, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the cocktail hour site\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nYour wedding reception is full of moments that you’ll want to turn into memories—and your wedding photographer will be on hand to ensure that happens. Some wedding reception photos your photographer will likely want to capture include:\n\n- The couple’s grand entrance\n\n- Guest table photos\n\n- The couple’s first dance\n\n- Parent dances\n\n- Toasts and speeches\n\n- Guests dancing on the dance floor\n\n- The garter toss and/or bouquet toss\n\n- Cake cutting\n\n- The couple’s exit\n\n- Detail shots (for example, centerpieces, decor, table signage, gift table, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas__: At the wedding reception site\n\n### Timeline Without First Look\n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos\n\nSame as above\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:30 PM - Separate Wedding Party and Family Portraits \nIf a couple opts not to do a first look, the wedding photographer can’t do group photos before the ceremony—but they can do separate wedding party and/or family portraits. This may include:\n\n- The bride with her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with her maid of honor\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The bride with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with his entire family\n\n- The groom with his groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The groom with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with her entire family\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nSame as above\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:15 PM - Couple and Group Portraits \nIf there’s no first look, the couple will take both couple’s and group portraits after the wedding ceremony. This may include:\n\n- Photos of the couple\n\n- The couple with their entire wedding party\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with the other set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The couple with one person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents \n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- The couple with one person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with both of their entire families\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nSame as above\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nSame as above\n\nAs you can see from the timelines above, the “first look” photos can give you more time to enjoy being with your guests after the ceremony. However, if you choose to stick to a more traditional timeline and wait to see each other at the ceremony for the first time, you will still be able to take all the photos you want. Ultimately, the decision is up to you as a couple and what works best for your wedding day.\n\n## Things To Consider When Developing Your Wedding Day Photography Timeline\nNeed more insights in to how to navigate your wedding day timeline? Here are a few things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Stick to the timeline...__ Your wedding photographer has a timeline for a reason! The timeline is created to ensure they have enough time to capture all of the shots you’ll want from your wedding day—so make their lives easier by sticking to the timeline as much as possible.\n\n- __...but also be flexible.__ Ideally, you’ll stick to your wedding photography timeline—but things happen that may throw you off course (for example, it may take you longer to get ready than you originally planned or there may be a delay in getting to your first look location). Make sure to stay flexible and allow your photographer to switch things up as necessary.\n\n- __Keep awkward moments to a minimum.__ Your wedding photographer is there to capture happy moments—not awkward ones. Think about any potential awkward interactions—and make a plan to deal with them. (For example, if you have divorced parents that can’t be in the same room, make sure to let your photographer know so she can schedule those family portraits separately.)\n\n- __Make sure to account for transportation time.__ If you’re taking photos at multiple locations, make sure to build transportation time into your timeline.\n\n- __Don’t be afraid to ask for a redo.__ If something feels off about your photography sessions—for example, you don’t like where you’re snapping your bridal party photos or the sky is too dark and cloudy for your liking—don’t be afraid to ask your photographer to either retake the photos or rethink their approach and offer other options.\n\nWhile it may be tempting to figure out your wedding photos on a whim throughout your wedding day, ensuring you get all the shots you want will require some planning. Start by deciding who you want to take photos with and where they will be taken. Then, as a couple, choose whether or not you want a “first look” photo. Work with your photographer to get a better sense of how long they need to get high-quality shots. And finally, create a detailed timeline for your wedding day, then share it with all the appropriate people. Taking these steps will ensure your big day runs smoothly, so you can enjoy being in the moment—and enjoy getting back your wedding photos after your big day. (Don’t forget to ask about turnaround time!)","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"You’ll be reminiscing on your wedding photos for years to come. 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","body":"Bringing people together to celebrate your love doesn’t always bring the same degree of excitement to your wallet as it does to you and your partner. High costs can seem to creep up out of nowhere even for a more intimate occasion like the wedding rehearsal dinner. For a memorable night with family and friends that’s exquisite and easy on the budget, follow along. \n\nIn this piece, we’ll cover everything you need to know from rehearsal dinner basics to creative ideas that will bring radiance and spending relief. Focus more on the wedding-day walk-through and on cherishing small moments—we’ll help you take care of the rest. \n\nHere’s a closer look at what you’ll find below:\n\n- Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know\n- How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly\n- Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas\n- Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\n- Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know \nRehearsal dinners are more than just a walk-through of the ceremony. The post-rehearsal time is an opportunity to sneak extra hugs, conversation, and dancing with your closest friends and family members. \n\nBefore handing out a few tips about how to put on an affordable event, let’s first talk a bit more about what a rehearsal dinner actually is. Who comes? When does it typically happen? Find answers to these questions and more below. \n\n- The what: A rehearsal, of course! You’ll do a general practice of the ceremony from top to bottom to coordinate details such as music, entries, and where to stand. The best part is dinner and drinks afterward with your inner circle of loved ones. \n\n- __The who:__ As wedding tradition goes, the rehearsal dinner is generally reserved for you, your partner, the wedding party, the officiant, and anyone else who may hold a spot on the ceremony program. Some couples may choose to expand the guest list to include a few more family members and friends. Talk this through with your partner to see just how big or how small you’d like to keep things. \n\n- __The where:__ That’s entirely up to you. We’ll give you a few rehearsal dinner venue ideas below, but there are no rules that dictate where exactly you should hold your rehearsal dinner. From seaside soirees to park picnics, the choice is yours.\n\n- __The when:__ Most couples opt to host their rehearsal dinner on the day before their wedding day, as this ensures that all the ceremony dos and don’ts are fresh in everyone’s minds. If you choose to do it sooner, let your wedding guests know so that they can adjust their schedules. \n\n- __The why:__ To go over last-minute details to make sure that there aren’t any hiccups on the day of your wedding. It’s also a time when you and your partner can express thanks to friends and family members for all of the time and effort that they’ve put in to help realize your wedding-day dreams. \n\nNow that you’re familiar with some of the basics, let’s talk about the budget. \n\n## How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly \nIt’s no secret that weddings can often come with a high price tag. Some couples prefer to go all out for their big day and for additional wedding-related events such as the rehearsal dinner or post-wedding brunches. \n\nBut if you’re the type of duo who would prefer to keep spending low for the wedding in order to invest more in a lavish honeymoon or a new home, you’re in the right place. Just because you’d rather keep your celebration budget-friendly, doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice elegance and refinement. Cheap rehearsal dinner ideas do not equate to tacky and tawdry. \n\nHere are a few ideas to help you plan an affordable rehearsal dinner that’s both well-organized and well-polished. \n\n- __Do it at home.__ Whether it’s at your residence or a family member’s, having a backyard or patio gathering is a savvy way to avoid the high costs of booking a venue or renting out space at a restaurant. Plus, it allows you to have full control over all the details such as decor, duration of the event, and dinner choices. \n\n- __Find a low-cost venue.__ If you don’t quite have the space to host an event at home, consider another low-cost alternative such as a public beach or park. It gives you just as much freedom to decorate and tailor it to your liking without the pressure of getting your house event-ready. However, it might not be completely free, so be sure to ask about the cost of a permit and how to go about reserving the space for the date you need. \n\n- __Book a space within your price range.__ Not a fan of backyard barbecues or public park gatherings? Use the Zola Vendor Search tool to find a ready-made venue that’s within your budget. Filter through the available spaces by price, setting, and capacity to find one that works with your vision and your wallet. \n\n- __Coordinate a potluck.__ Especially if you opt for an at-home affair, you can join forces with your rockstar wedding crew and eager-to-help family members. Set up a spreadsheet with plenty of time to spare for people to sign up for different dishes. It doesn’t get much more affordable than this and you’ll probably find that people are happy to contribute in any way that they can. \n\n- __Opt for buffet-style catering.__ If you’d rather leave the cooking to the professionals, elect to hire a catering service. Ask about buffet-style dinner options since this will allow you to keep a fixed cost per person instead of opening it up for guests to order individual meals and drinks. \n\n- __Ask about your venue’s event policies.__ If you’ve reserved a date and time for your rehearsal dinner at a hotel or restaurant, ask them to be upfront with you about the total costs. You’ll need to pay the rental fee for the locale, of course, but it would be important to find out if there are any minimum spending requirements for food and drinks.\n\n- __Ask a creative friend for a favor.__ You’ve already booked a photographer for your wedding day but you’d like to get a few snaps of you, your partner, and your crew at the rehearsal dinner too. See if one of your friends who’s got an eye for photography wouldn’t mind documenting a few special moments throughout the night. They might offer to do so free of charge, but consider thanking them for their efforts with a bottle of wine or a gift card to their favorite eatery. \n\n- __Opt for handmade decorations.__ The internet is chock-full of good ideas for DIY decorations. You might be surprised to find that most projects are fairly easy to succeed at too, so you won’t need to be a master crafter to pull it off. From upcycled picture frames and shutters to wood-burned coasters, the sky’s the limit when it comes to handmade, budget-friendly decor. \n\nNow that you’ve packed your brainstorm list to the brim with affordable rehearsal dinner ideas, let’s see how you can pull them all together. Get your creative juices flowing a bit more in the next section where we’ll help you tie your ideas together into a charming and cohesive rehearsal dinner theme. \n\n## Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas \nNot quite sure where to start when it comes to choosing a theme for your rehearsal dinner? Sometimes all you need are a few ideas to help nudge you in the right creative direction. Get some inspiration from the following and feel free to adapt them to fit your own unique vision. \n\n- __Piazza pizza party –__ Look to Venice, Italy for your inspiration for this budget-friendly theme. Decorate your back patio with lights, greenery, and maybe even a small garden fountain to channel the aesthetic of an Italian piazza. For dinner? Pizza, of course! It’s always a crowd favorite and something that’s quick and easy to put together. It feeds a number of people, too, so getting it catered by a local ristorante shouldn’t run up a high bill. Set up a gelato bar for dessert and include a station for guests to add their own toppings. \n\n- __Backyard barbecue –__ If you’d rather opt for a more casual theme, take advantage of backyard space for some grilling and lawn games. The venue is free, of course, and it will give you and your crew a chance to be comfortable and informal before having to dress to the nines on the following day. Coordinate a potluck, if you want, and include some classic homestyle dishes such as macaroni and cheese or potato salad to pair with the barbecue burgers and kebabs. \n\n- __Parisian charcuterie picnic (aka grown-up Lunchables) –__ Save yourself some time with a simple, yet classy charcuterie spread. Take a quick trip to your local bulk store (think Costco or Sam’s Club) to pick up an assortment of deli meats, pre-sliced cheeses, crackers, and bread for a delectable, self-serve rehearsal dinner. You can also purchase plenty of fruit and veggie plates for a balanced meal. \n\nAdd a few checkered tablecloths and some tapered candles in wine bottles, and you’ll have a little taste of Paris the night before your big day. \n\n## Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\nSince you’ve been planning your wedding, you’re probably no stranger to lists by now. The number of to-dos that pile up for wedding day details can be a bit overwhelming at times. \n\nKeep everything in order and in one place by customizing your task list at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). Plus, our app is designed to send you notifications whenever a deadline is approaching. The good news? You can use this handy tool for your rehearsal dinner checklist, too. \n\nNot sure where to begin when it comes to prioritizing tasks? Here’s a list of things to get you started down the aisle on the right foot. \n\n- __Set up a budget –__ You might already have a budget set for the wedding day itself, but it’s a good idea to make another one for your rehearsal dinner too. Even though you’re catering to a smaller crowd, costs for food, decorations, and wedding party gifts can add up quickly. Work out with your partner and your families how much you’re willing to spend, and then do your best to adhere to it. \n\n- __Decide who to invite –__ As we mentioned before, this event is typically reserved for your closest family members, your wedding crew, and anyone playing a part in the ceremony itself. Feel free to do things your own way by opening it up to plus-ones or a few extended family members. However, just be mindful of how that might affect the budget before doing so. Another idea is to keep the dinner to just your inner circle, and then open a space up later in the night for more guests to stop by for mingling and a few pre-wedding day cocktails. \n\n \n- __Pick a theme that works with your wedding style –__ Modern and formal? Or, vintage and bohemian? Your rehearsal dinner can be a design extension of your wedding day and an opportunity to weave in a few recurring motifs throughout the entire weekend. Or, you can change things up completely by hosting a dinner with its own unique style and personality. If the wedding day is a black-tie affair, perhaps you’d prefer a casual beachfront barbecue for your rehearsal dinner. Whatever you decide, use the theme as a base from which all other details will extend. \n\n- __Choose and book the venue –__ If budget consciousness is a priority for you, picking a venue can be an opportunity to save big or not. Even for small groups, some [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) may cost a pretty penny just to reserve the space and could even require a minimum tab for food and drinks. An at-home event won’t cost you anything to book the space, of course, but it may require more investment in details such as decorations and floral arrangements. Decide what’s most important to you in an event space and give yourself plenty of time to book in advance. \n\n- __Coordinate catering –__ If you’ve chosen a restaurant or a hotel function hall, you might not even need to give catering much of a second thought. These spaces are well-oiled machines when it comes to hosting events and probably already have menu options and in-house catering services ready to go. If you’ll be celebrating at a park or at home, you and your partner will have to work out these details yourselves. Shop around to find something that satisfies your flavor palette and budget, or consider cooking a few dishes yourself. \n\n- __Send out the invitations –__ Pardon the obvious, but if you’re hosting an event your guests will need to know where to go and what time to be there. Your wedding party is probably already expecting a pre-wedding walk-through as part of their duties, but be sure to clue them in on the details of the dinner and the rehearsal itself so they can add it to their schedule. Consider coordinating [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to match the theme of your dinner. A few floral accents would be well-suited for a garden party, or you can establish elegance with a gold metallic foil. \n\n- __Create a playlist –__ You don’t necessarily need to book a DJ or a band for your rehearsal dinner (unless you want to, of course) but some background music for mealtime and mingling could be a nice touch. Curate a playlist to your liking for an at-home affair or check with your venue to see if you’re able to provide your own music. If you’ve got a family or friend who is musically inclined, you might consider asking them to play a few songs for a laid-back dinner—complete with sing-alongs and dancing. \n\n- __Include a few fun activities –__ You and your guests are there to take care of the logistics before the big day, but don’t forget to have fun, too. Beyond dinner and drinks, consider adding a few games and activities to let loose the night before your ceremony. Lawn games and Jenga are always a hit. Or, you can encourage people to get creative by setting up a DIY table for crafting or scrapbooking. \n\n- __Say thank you and enjoy the company –__ This will likely be your last event with family and friends as an unmarried couple. Soak in those moments with the people who have come from near and far to rally behind your love story before the wild ride of married life takes off. Consider taking this opportunity to send out a thank you to them too. A handwritten note is a simple, heartfelt gesture; or, shop for a few small gifts that your wedding party will be able to have as a keepsake for years to come. \n\nWhen it comes to weddings our well never runs dry. Stay tuned for more rehearsal dinner hacks in the section below. \n\n## Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner \nFeeling just about ready to dive into the planning part of your rehearsal dinner? Before you go, let’s send you off with a few more tips and tricks to ensure a smooth and stylish soiree. Add this advice to your checklist for you to come back to whenever you need a reminder. \n\n- __Don’t forget to keep an eye on mother nature.__ Some weather is unpredictable, but keep tabs on the forecast in the days leading up to your rehearsal dinner in case you need to make any last-minute adjustments. \n\n- __Incorporate a taste of the town.__ Whether you’re celebrating in your backyard or in an upscale restaurant, pay attention to what makes this part of the world different from others. Include some local flavors made famous in that region or any seasonal treats that are hard to find elsewhere. \n\n- __Let your wedding guests know the best way to dress.__ Being clear about attire is important, especially for your rehearsal dinner. If you have any activities planned that require a change of clothes, give the invitees a heads-up so that they can pack accordingly. Additionally, if you’ve opted for a laid-back get-together, tell your friends and family that it’s okay to keep it casual. \n\n- __If you’re hosting at home, be sure to give your attendees clear instructions about how to arrive.__ Particularly if your home or the event space is located in a remote area where cell service is sparse, be in touch with them ahead of time in order to avoid losing a friend down a country back road. \n\n## Design Your Dream Rehearsal Dinner at Zola \nThe rehearsal dinner may just seem like one more thing you have to plan on top of your wedding day, but given the right tools and tricks, it can actually be quite easy and fun. Especially, when you let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help you take care of the essentials. \n\nHere at the hub of all things wedding related we believe in:\n\nHelping you celebrate your love through every step of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process.\n\nSharing the news of your wedding day and the details of your love story on your very own, easy-to-customize [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\nConnecting you with the right florists, photographers, and other [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to bring each piece of the planning puzzle together into one picture-perfect event.\n\nYour rehearsal dinner is already starting to take shape. Keep molding the magic right here at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/).","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:45.440Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."},"topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101","description":"Your complete guide to wedding planning from start to finish. Get practical advice and insider tips for planning your dream wedding from staying within your budget to creating your gift registry to all the little details in between saying \"Yes!\" and \"I do\". Find answers to all your wedding planning questions here.","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Real weddings","slug":"real-weddings","description":"Learn from real couples as they break down exactly how they planned and budgeted for their weddings. Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"duties-of-the-father-of-the-groom","title":"What Does The Groom’s Family Pay For? + Duties List","excerpt":"Learn about the different father of the groom duties with this helpful guide. Read on to discover more.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:39:42.802Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6j6aXC2QuSVpzWVKT0nu9o/6bb939d2d770bb6f2e99c9187a6df26d/Inline_Civicphotos.png","altText":"Father of the Groom"},"heroCredit":"Civic Photos","body":"Seeing your son get married is perhaps one of the most exciting days of any parent's life—and if your son is getting married, you may be wondering what part, exactly, you play in their big day.\n\nIf your son is getting married to a bride, you're in luck; the groom’s parents are often on the more relaxed side of the wedding party—as, at most weddings, there’s typically a bigger spotlight on the [bride's parents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-wedding-cake) on the wedding day. But, this doesn’t mean that the mother or father of the groom’s role is less important. The groom’s parents can make a lot of contributions to help make the wedding fun, successful, and memorable.\n\nIf your son is marrying the groom of his dreams, you can expect to take on more of the spotlight—and more of the responsibilities that go along with it.\n\nWhatever the situation, the groom's parents (whether that's the groom's mother and groom's father, groom's two fathers, groom's two mothers, or a two sets of parents, with a combination of biological and stepparents) get to enjoy witnessing the best day of their son’s life as he marries the love of his life.\n\nIf you’re a parent whose son is getting married, we have listed the things that are expected of you, from the moment he gets engaged up until his wedding day.\n\n![What Should the Father of the Bride Wear?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26mmGU1x2zryKjZWoXLJaw/536b64b915f2c640d951dba5eacd9a3b/inline_unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Before the Wedding\n\nDon’t know what mother or father of the groom duties you'll have before the big day? Here are a few ways you can prep for your son’s wedding day.\n\n### Get to Know Your Future In-laws\nIf you have not been formally introduced to your future son or daughter-in-law’s parents, reach out to them soon, and invite them for lunch or dinner with the entire family to celebrate the couple’s engagement. Getting to know the groom's family or bride’s family before the big day is a great way to merge the two sides.\n\n### Offer Financial Help\nGone are the days when the parents of the bride (or groom) are the ones footing the entire bill. Nowadays, when it comes to [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding), wedding costs are mostly covered by the couple getting married—or, if you have the resources, you can offer to help your son and his soon-to-be-spouse cover some of their wedding-related financial responsibilities.\n\n## What Do The Groom’s Parents Traditionally Pay For?\nIf you do decide to help your son financially, depending on your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), there are a few wedding expenses that, traditionally, the groom's family pays, including:\n\n- __[Wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings)__. This includes the wedding band for both your son and their bride or groom. Worry not, you aren’t expected to pay for anyone’s engagement ring, as well.\n\n- __Marriage License__. Before the wedding can take place, the couple needs to acquire their marriage license. This can be completed before the wedding or signed during the wedding ceremony.\n\n- __Engagement party__. While the parents of the bride [traditionally pay for wedding planning expenses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding) (as well as a bridal shower) and [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-do-bridesmaids-pay-for) contribute to the [bachelorette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-bachelorette-party), the parents of the groom traditionally cover the costs of the engagement party. This event sees loved ones come together to celebrate the engaged couple.\n\n- __Rehearsal dinner__. Likewise, this dinner takes place in the nights before the wedding in celebration of the upcoming wedding.\n\n- __The groom's attire__. Much like it is tradition for a bride’s parents to purchase her wedding dress, it’s good etiquette for a groom’s parents to purchase his wedding attire. This may include a suit or tux, dress shirt, socks, shoes, and/or accessories.\n\n- __Flowers__. This includes, but isn’t limited to, wedding florals such as the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for the groomsmen, corsages, centerpieces, and other decor.\n\n- __The [wedding officiant's](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant) fee__. This covers the money paid to the officiant for performing the wedding, including a tip.\n\n- __Gifts for the best man and groomsmen.__ Often, a groom will be inclined to give wedding gifts to his best man and groomsmen for participating in the wedding. Depending on budget, these can be as affordable or pricy as one likes.\n\n- __Entertainment.__ For example, the wedding band or DJ, a photo booth, or similar that is at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Alcohol for the wedding.__ Be it an open bar, limited bar, or BYOB.\n\n- __Honeymoon costs for the newlyweds.__ This may include flights, accommodations, and excursions.\n\nIf you're not sure what to contribute, sit down with your son and his fiancée so that you can figure out what kind of help they need—and what it makes sense for you to pay for.\n\n### Offer Support to Your Son\nBe available to your son, especially during the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/15281fd5-a93e-44f0-b480-bc0df933b290) process. Getting married is such a big step, and wedding planning can sometimes be chaotic. Be there to give him practical marriage advice and calm his nerves during the planning stage (which he’ll need). You can also offer to help him with wedding planning duties, like researching what he needs to do to obtain his marriage license or helping him narrow down the guest list. (Just make sure not to [overstep your boundaries](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).)\n\nAside from this, you can also use your strengths to help. Are you a builder? You can help with some DIY projects such as building yard games if they’re having the wedding outdoors or creating wedding favors. Do you whip up legendary cocktails? You can help the couple plan their bar menu and develop their signature cocktail. Spending time with the happy couple will give you an idea of what they need and which areas you can be of the most help.\n\n### Host the Engagement Party and/or Rehearsal Dinner\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n### Share Family Traditions\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n![Duties of the Father of the Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7mVr1BiDRI7OO19We69Yuh/7803725dbe2ac67c43d4fb98f854673b/Inline_Taylor_Cotilla_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Taylor Cotilla Photography\n\n## During the Wedding\nThe mother and/or father of the groom's duties isn’t over just yet. As the groom's parent, there's plenty for you to do on your son's big day, including:\n\n### Get Ready With the Groom and Groomsmen\nIf you're the groom's father, you'll want to get ready with your son during the morning of the wedding. Make sure that your son eats in the morning and is prepped and ready on time. (If you're the groom's mother, you won't be getting ready with your son and his groomsmen—but feel free to stop by with breakfast and some words of encouragement before you go get ready yourself.)\n\n### Be Present for Photos\nFamily portraits are done while getting ready and immediately after the wedding ceremony. Make sure you're ready to go for photos—and, if the wedding photographer needs help, offer to go and gather other family members as necessary.\n\n### Walk Down the Aisle\nBoth parents of the groom have a significant role at the ceremony, and they can either walk down the aisle together or with the groom before sitting in the very front of the venue, on the right side. (If you and your son's other parent are separated, you may opt to walk down the aisle separately.)\n\n### Say a Few Words\nAs the groom's parents, you might be asked by the couple to give a wedding toast at the reception. This is your time to “introduce” your son to their new spouse's family by sharing some of his amazing traits, as well as a little bit about his childhood. Your wedding speech will also include thanking the guests for coming and welcoming your son or daughter-in-law into the family.\n\n### Dance With the Bride\nMany weddings have parent dances—and that includes dances for the groom's parents. Traditionally, the mother of the groom does a son dance with the groom.\n\nBut the dancing doesn't end there! Once the party gets underway, make sure that each parent spends some time dancing with your son and his new spouse (for example, if your son married a woman, the father of the groom might ask the bride for a dance).\n\n## Tips to Ask My Parents or In-Laws to Pay for Wedding Things\nPerhaps you’re the son in this case. Though many of these expenses come with a traditional wedding, approaching your parents and asking them to pay for any one (or several) of them isn’t easy. That being said, we’ve compiled a few tips to help you start and carry the conversation.\n\n### Be direct\nThough you may be nervous, avoid talking in circles and beating around the bush. Be straightforward and honest with your intentions and asking.\n\n### Be polite\nThat being said, it’s most important that you remember to be kind. Requesting help with paying for a wedding is no small ask. Be polite, mindful, and appreciative.\n\n### Ask them to be involved\nIf it’s alright with you and your partner, also ask your parents if they’d like to be involved in the matters of planning a wedding they’ll be contributing towards. Let them know that their input is also important to you.\n\n## Conclusion\nAs the groom's parents, the best wedding etiquette you can perform is being there to support your son. Welcoming wedding guests and making sure that everyone is comfortable is always a good idea for the big day. As long as you’re there helping the happy couple where they need it most, everyone will appreciate the extra effort.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t know what your mother of the groom's duties are? Find out now with this informative guide.","title":"Mother of the Groom’s Duties","slug":"mother-of-the-grooms-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ruL7vMddMagLEKt723j2Q/053ad2200fc74dd3c5b2905589e60bdd/Inline_Colorado_Elopement_Photography.png","altText":"Mother of the Groom"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"A flower girl is an essential part of any wedding. 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","slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:49:41.428Z"}],"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget","description":"Learn how to create a wedding budget that works for you. Find practical advice and expert tips on how to stay within your budget while creating the wedding you want."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding websites","slug":"wedding-websites"},"slug":"how-to-share-your-wedding-website","title":"How to Share Your Wedding Website","excerpt":"Wedding websites allow you to communicate all of the details about your big day in one place. Wondering how to share your wedding website? Read ahead.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2021-06-22T14:42:48.401Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/U6iHTOMdVoNeVioB8Ftz6/a54c7cdefa478613ea8cf761fc5b9016/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Share Your Wedding Website"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- There are many classy ways you can share this URL with your guests. \n- You can include your wedding website URL on your save the dates, bachelor and bachelorette invitations, wedding shower invitations, and formal invitation enclosure cards. \n- You can also share a clickable link to your wedding website via text or email, or post it in a private Facebook group. \n- Invest in a catchy custom domain name and show off eye-catching website design. Zola has hundreds of beautiful [wedding website templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that you can choose from.","body":"Gone are the days of relying solely on snail mail to inform your guests about your wedding day. Thanks to [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-create-a-personalized-wedding-website), you can efficiently communicate all of the important details about your big day in one place.\n\nBetter yet, wedding websites with a landing page are more convenient for your guests, especially those who are prone to losing physical invitations. Your guests can refer back to your __[wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ any time they have questions about your wedding date, location, registry information, or FAQs.\n\nAlso, ban any thoughts that using technology, such as an online RSVP or wedding landing page is tacky. Although older guests may wonder how QR codes work or want a printed wedding program, utilizing technology helps modern wedding guests stay engaged.\n\nUse QR codes for your wedding website and invitations. Having a QR code wedding invitation is unique, but it’s also easily scannable for anyone who has a smartphone camera. They also aren’t difficult to DIY to keep destination wedding details and wedding RSVPs close at hand. And that’s just one of many ways that tech can help keep your wedding planning organized.\n\nSo, what is the best way to share your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-url-ideas) with your guests? While there aren’t decades of etiquette or tradition behind this innovative tool, we have some suggestions for how you can share it in a classy way. Below, we’ll discuss:\n\n- __What is a Wedding Website?__\n- __What to Share on Your Wedding Website__\n- __How to Share Your Wedding Website__\n- __How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website__\n\n### What is a Wedding Website? \n\nA wedding website is a personalized website [created and shared](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-make-a-wedding-website) by an engaged couple. Its purpose is to act as a touchpoint for your guests to access information about your wedding day (or weekend). Typically, your website will include details such as your wedding date, location, and travel accommodations. However, couples may also use theirs to share how they met and introduce their wedding party. Note: If you build a free website with a wedding company, such as Zola, you can also use it to share your gift registry and collect digital RSVPs.\n\n## How to Share Your Wedding Website \n\nWhile __[wedding websites have a lot to offer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website)__, yours won’t do much good if your guests never see it. Fortunately, there are many classy ways to share your wedding website with your guests that make finding information a snap. Here are a few suggestions of where to place the link to your wedding website:\n\n### 1. Include it on the Save the Dates.\nYour save the date is the first place you can share your wedding website URL with your guests. Simply list the URL in dainty text somewhere underneath your main message, or add in a QR code that can take your guests straight to your website in a snap.\n\nIf your save the date card doesn’t have enough space for your URL, you can also send a “details” enclosure card along with it. Use this card to encourage your guests to visit your wedding website for additional wedding details.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n### 2. Use an enclosure card in your formal invitation suite.\nIf your wedding website wasn’t published when you sent out your save the dates, don’t worry. You can share your URL when you send out your formal invitations too. Many guests will save these invitations for future reference, so they’re a great place to include your URL. This is also the perfect opportunity to include an easily scannable QR code.\n\n### 3. Add it to your wedding shower or bach party invitations.\nInclude your wedding website URL on all of the invitations for wedding-related festivities leading up to your big day. This will give your guests more opportunities to check out your website while your wedding is fresh in their minds. Keeping this information handy is vital to making everything easy on your attendees.\n\n### 4. Send it via email or text message.\nChances are, you already communicate with most of your guests by email or text. Since you have everyone's contact information, use it to share your [wedding website URL as a clickable link](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002259412-How-do-I-share-my-website-with-my-guests-). Clicking on a link from a laptop or a smartphone is much easier than typing in a URL manually, especially for your less tech-savvy guests. Your guests can also save this text or email message for future reference in case they lose their invitation.\n\nAt Zola, we offer a streamlined process for sharing your special link via email. All you have to do is go to your [“Guest List”](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) in the Zola Weddings dashboard. From there, you can:\n\n- Add an email address for each guest on your list\n\n- Check each guest’s name or simply click “Select All”.\n\n- Click the “Bulk Actions” dropdown menu.\n\n- Choose “Send Message”.\n\n- Write a brief message in the field and include your wedding website link and password (if you have one) at the end. An example message might look something like this: “We are so excited to invite you to our wedding. To learn all of the details about our big day, check out our wedding website at www.OurWedding.com. The website’s password is LOVE2021.”\n\n### 5. Make a private Facebook group.\nAs far as social media goes, Facebook still reigns supreme—everyone seems to have an account. In turn, it’s a convenient place to share your wedding website link too. Post your website in a private group made up of your wedding guests, as opposed to a status update or in a public group. Sharing your link privately will prevent you from hurting any friends’ or family members’ feelings who didn’t make it onto the guest list.\n\nYou can enhance the privacy of your website by protecting it with a password. At Zola, you can __[create a custom website password](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002135571-How-do-I-make-my-website-password-protected-)__ in a few easy steps. This will avert any random internet onlookers from stumbling upon your information. It will also prevent uninvited acquaintances from seeing all of your wedding details. Just make sure to use a password that’s easy for your guests to remember and simple to spell.\n\n### 6. Create a QR code and add it where you need it.\nFolks are now pretty familiar with how to use a custom QR code. Nowadays, many restaurants use them instead of paper menus, and you can create a dynamic QR code to convey information to your wedding guests. Similar to barcodes, you can use a QR code generation to create QR codes specific to your big day. \n\nThings like links to your dress code, wedding invitation cards, venue directions, and RSVP cards can all be turned into scannable images using a free QR code generator. Some sellers on Etsy can create a QR code resembling a shape to coordinate with your invitation design. Think about how easy it would be for your guests to scan a QR code RSVP using their smartphone camera. They can easily let you know if they’ll be celebrating with you on your big day. \n\n### How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website\n\nCreating a wedding website can be a ton of fun. However, it also takes up a lot of precious wedding planning time. You have to write out all of your FAQ answers, research local lodging and transportation options for your guests, and get the design just right.\n\nAfter all of that work, you want to make sure that your guests use your wedding website to its full potential.\n\nTo encourage them to explore your website, try out these strategies with your specific site:\n\n- __Prompt them with an informative message:__ When you share your URL on your save the dates, invitations, enclosure cards, and Facebook posts, make sure to include a brief message explaining why your guests should visit your wedding website. Without this message, they may not realize how important it is to check it out. Here are some short and sweet message ideas you can use for inspiration:\n\n- *Check out our website to RSVP and learn more about our special day: insert link*\n\n- *To learn more about our wedding, registry, and more, visit our wedding website:*\n\n- *Get all of the details about our wedding day and RSVP here*\n\n- *For directions, lodging suggestions, and other FAQs, check out our wedding website*\n\n- __Invest in a custom domain name:__ Typing in a complex URL with a string of numbers, letters, and slashes can be difficult for your guests. To make things easier on them, consider purchasing a custom domain name. With a custom domain name, your wedding website URL will read as “JackAndJill.com,” rather than “Zola.com/wedding/JackAndJill.com.” Choosing a custom URL that’s catchy and easy to spell will also increase the chances that your guests type it in correctly and make it onto your website.\n\n- __Employ a user-friendly layout:__ Once your guests get to your website, you want to make sure that they find all of the information they’re looking for with ease. To do so, clearly label each section of your website and arrange the content in an order that flows naturally.\n\n- __Impress your visitors with stylish design:__ Your wedding website is a place where you can showcase your style and creativity. Make sure that you choose an attractive wedding website template and upload beautiful photos. Stylish web design will captivate your visitors’ attention and keep them on your website.\n\nWhether your wedding is elegant, rustic, beachy, or bohemian, Zola has a wedding website template that will compliment your theme. Better yet, each of our wedding website themes has matching __[invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__, __[save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)__, and __[enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop)__. By choosing a cohesive design for all of your wedding materials, you can set the tone for your big day.\n\n## Aid and Impress Guests With a Wedding Website from Zola\nA wedding website can help share all of your wedding information with your guests in one convenient location. By using a combination of methods to share your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website), you can increase the chances that all of your guests find their way onto yours and use it to its full potential.\n\nZola makes it simple to create free, __[beautifully designed wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/designs)__ that are easy to navigate and convenient to share. You can even search our templates by color so that yours matches your wedding theme. Leading up to your wedding, you and your guests will appreciate the ease, user-friendly nature, and convenience of this crucial wedding planning tool.\n\nThe functionality of Zola’s invitation designs is easy to navigate, making it easy for both tech-savvy and older generations to find information on your site. Minimalist fonts are available for couples who want a sleeker invitation template, and perhaps the best part is that you can select an invitation design to coordinate with your Zola wedding website. Nowadays, having a wedding website is essential and almost expected, so make things simple for your guests — from bridesmaids to your grandparents — by finding the [perfect template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates) today.","body2":"## How to Share Your Wedding Website \n\nWhile [wedding websites have a lot to offer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website), yours won’t do much good if your guests never see it. Fortunately, there are many classy ways to share your wedding website with your guests. You can include it:\n\n \n### 1. On the Save the Dates\nYour save the date is the first place you can share your wedding website URL with your guests. Simply list the URL in dainty text somewhere underneath your main message.\n\nIf your save the date card doesn’t have enough space for your URL, you can also send a “details” enclosure card along with it. Use this card to encourage your guests to visit your wedding website for additional wedding details. \n\n### 2. On an enclosure card in your formal invitation suite\nIf your wedding website wasn’t published when you sent out your save the dates, don’t worry. You can share your URL when you send out your formal invitations too. Many guests will save these invitations for future reference, so they’re a great place to include your URL. \n\n### 3. On your wedding shower or bach party invitations\nInclude your wedding website URL on all of the invitations for wedding-related festivities leading up to your big day. This will give your guests more opportunities to check out your website while your wedding is fresh in their minds.\n\n \n### 4. Via email or text message\n\nChances are, you already communicate with most of your guests by email or text. Since you have everyone's contact information, use it to share your wedding website URL as a clickable link. Clicking on a link from a laptop or a smartphone is much easier than typing in a URL manually, especially for your less tech-savvy guests. Your guests can also save this text or email message for future reference in case they lose their invitation.\n\nAt Zola, we offer a streamlined process for [sharing your special link via email or text](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002259412-How-do-I-share-my-website-with-my-guests-). All you have to do is go to your “Guest List” in the Zola Weddings dashboard. From there, you can:\n\n- Add an email address or phone number for each guest on your list\n- Check each guest’s name or simply click “Select All”.\n- Click the “Bulk Actions” dropdown menu. \n- Choose “Send Message”.\n- Write a brief message in the field and include your wedding website link and password (if you have one) at the end. An example message might look something like this: “We are so excited to invite you to our wedding. To learn all of the details about our big day, check out our wedding website at www.OurWedding.com. The website’s password is LOVE2021.”\n\n### 5. In a private Facebook group\nAs far as social media goes, Facebook still reigns supreme—everyone seems to have an account. In turn, it’s a convenient place to share your wedding website link too. Post your website it in a private group made up of your wedding guests, as opposed to a status update or in a public group. Sharing your link privately will prevent you from hurting any friends’ or family members’ feelings who didn’t make it onto the guest list.\n\nYou can enhance the privacy of your website by protecting it with a password. At Zola, you can [create a custom website password](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002135571-How-do-I-make-my-website-password-protected-) in a few easy steps. This will avert any random internet onlookers from stumbling upon your information. It will also prevent uninvited acquaintances from seeing all of your wedding details. Just make sure to use a password that’s easy for your guests to remember and simple to spell. \n\n![When Should I Make a Wedding Website](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/sLKCakFGZZzhLUqPFfwbg/2ec593f04e02c3cd13836ad9b65db680/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n## How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website \n\nCreating a wedding website can be a ton of fun. However, it also takes up a lot of precious wedding planning time. You have to write out all of your FAQ answers, research local lodging and transportation options for your guests, and get the design just right. \n\nAfter all of that work, you want to make sure that your guests use your wedding website to its full potential.\n\nTo encourage them to explore your website, try out these strategies: \n\n- __Prompt them with an informative message:__ When you share your URL on your save the dates, invitations, enclosure cards, and Facebook posts, make sure to include a brief message explaining why your guests should visit your wedding website. Without this message, they may not realize how important it is to check it out. Here are some short and sweet message ideas you can use for inspiration:\n\n- *Check out our website to RSVP and learn more about our special day: insert link*\n- *To learn more about our wedding, registry, and more, visit our wedding website:*\n- *Get all of the details about our wedding day and RSVP here*\n- *For directions, lodging suggestions, and other FAQs, check out our wedding website*\n\n- __Invest in a custom domain name:__ Typing in a complex URL with a string of numbers, letters, and slashes can be difficult for your guests. To make things easier on them, consider purchasing a custom domain name. With a custom domain name, your wedding website URL will read as “JackAndJill.com,” rather than “Zola.com/wedding/JackAndJill.com.” Choosing a custom URL that’s catchy and easy to spell will also increase the chances that your guests type it in correctly and make it onto your website.\n\n- __Employ a user-friendly layout:__ Once your guests get to your website, you want to make sure that they find all of the information they’re looking for with ease. To do so, clearly label each section of your website and arrange the content in an order that flows naturally. \n\n- __Impress your visitors with stylish design:__ Your wedding website is a place where you can showcase your style and creativity. Make sure that you choose an attractive wedding website template and upload beautiful photos. Stylish web design will captivate your visitors’ attention and keep them on your website. \n\nWhether your wedding is elegant, rustic, beachy, or bohemian, Zola has a wedding website template that will compliment your theme. Better yet, each of our wedding website themes has matching [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), and [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop). By choosing a cohesive design for all of your wedding materials, you can set the tone for your big day.\n\n## Aid and Impress Guests With a Wedding Website from Zola\nA wedding website can help share all of your wedding information with your guests in one convenient location. By using a combination of methods to share your wedding website, you can increase the chances that all of your guests find their way onto yours and use it to its full potential.\n\nZola makes it simple to create free, [beautifully dessigned wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/designs) that easy to navigate, and convenient to share. You can even search our templates by color so that yours matches your wedding theme. Leading up to your wedding, you and your guests will appreciate the ease, user-friendly nature, and convenience of this crucial wedding planning tool.","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Do you need one? Learn all about wedding websites, why they make wedding planning so much easier for you and your guests, and finally, how to create the perfect website for your wedding!","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}}},{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Legal","slug":"legal","description":"Find guidance on legal aspects of getting married and planning a wedding like changing your name, marriage certificates, wedding venue insurance, wedding vendor contracts and more."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. 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Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. Learn more about how to plan a timeline that ensures you will have plenty of time to get the photos you want.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T21:53:59.472Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YSGQJgdXFs7GGnLAdB0JC/b42c6028988e7ad383c57eafef3c00dd/Hero_Zola_02.jpg","altText":"How Long Do Wedding Photos Take"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Throughout your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/), you’ve probably put together a timeline of events for your wedding day. You’ve figured out when to start getting ready in the morning, when to leave for the venue, how long the ceremony will take, and when you will be announced to your guests at the reception. But have you incorporated a timeline for your photos to ensure you get all the shots you want? \n\nMany couples don’t realize how much time is needed to get wedding photos that look effortlessly beautiful. So, how long do wedding photos take? Let’s take a closer look at the details of your wedding photography timeline. \n\n

How to Plan Your Wedding Photos

\n\nDepending on the types of portraits you want your photographer to take ([different wedding photographers have different styles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!), it will probably take you at least two hours to get all the shots. However, the good news is that the photos usually aren’t taken all at once, and the time is broken up throughout your day.\n\nMost photographers say you need about 30 minutes for wedding party portraits, 30 minutes for family portraits (close family only), and 45 minutes for couple portraits. Just remember: These timeframes can contract or expand, depending on the size of your wedding party and family, as well as the specific types of shots you want. For specifics, speak to your wedding photographer about how long they’ll need to take all the different shots you have in mind, plus how you might be able to save time. Here are some of the details you should consider as you plan the photos you want. \n\n

1. Pick Who You’ll Include in Formal Portraits

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6I2KiXD8d9GuSXE3jwqoXS/0e1ec004961a149e27003cd624f4d90c/inline_unsplash17.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nOf course, the focus of your wedding photos will be you and your spouse. However, you will probably want to have formal portraits taken of you with your wedding party, as well as [family wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). Deciding who you will include in this session can significantly impact how long your wedding photos will take. Your parents may try to convince you that you should have a formal portrait with all of your relatives, but remember that the more photos you take, the longer you will be kept away from your celebration. A good rule of thumb is to keep formal portraits limited to about 15 different groupings, including your wedding party, immediate family, and possibly a few important relatives. To help you make this decision, your photographer may be able to provide you with a list of suggested formal portrait groupings, so you know [how to edit wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) based on your needs. \n\n

2. Decide If You’ll Do a “First Look”

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uVnMhM1d3mlXyhe9PX49q/1549b1156768118b6061ca133f0bba66/inline_unsplash18.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nAn increasingly popular photo that couples are choosing to incorporate is a “first look.” [The first look wedding photo](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) This photo captures the first time the couple sees each other on their wedding day, usually wearing their wedding attire and occurring before the ceremony. \n\nMany photographers suggest this option, because it gives you the opportunity to take formal portraits before the ceremony, allowing you to enjoy the cocktail hour with your guests. If you choose the alternative—to stick with tradition and wait to see each other at the ceremony—you will likely spend your entire cocktail hour taking portraits. This choice can significantly impact your wedding photography timeline, so make sure you and your partner have come to a decision before finalizing your plans. \n\n

3. Pick Your Locations

\n\nOnce you’ve decided who’ll be in your photos and if you’ll be doing a “first look,” choose where you will be taking the photos. The most obvious and easiest locations will be your ceremony and reception venues, but you aren’t limited to these.\n\nIf the hotel where you’re getting ready has beautiful scenery, you might decide to have some portraits taken there, such as the bridal party or groomsmen photos. However, you might have other specific places of importance, like a local park or a specific neighborhood in your city. While this is definitely an option, you will need to plan for the extra time and transportation required to travel to and from those locations on your big day. \n\n

Your Wedding Photo Timeline

\n\nAfter you’ve figured out all the details of your wedding photos, you’ll want to work with your photographer (or wedding planner) to create a fully documented schedule of your wedding day, including the timeline for your photos. And don’t forget: It’s useful to add five-minute buffers throughout the day to leave room for any last-minute changes. You will also want to include any travel time to move between locations.\n\nOnce you’ve established your timeline, make sure that anyone who will be included in photos is aware of the schedule, plus has all relevant details. The last thing you want is to be waiting on a relative to show up for photos, so encourage all your important people to stick to the timeline you give them. \n\n

Sample Timelines

\n\nTo help you out, we put together two sample wedding photo timelines (including a [wedding photo list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list)!). The first is for a couple doing a “first look” session, while the second is for a couple going the more traditional route. Seeing these schedules next to one another may help you decide what you’d like to do for your wedding based on the impact that session can have on your overall timeline. \n\n### Timeline With First Look\n\n#### 11:45 AM - Wedding Photographer’s Arrival\nFrom a photo perspective, the day can’t start until the photographer arrives—which is why the first item on any wedding day photography timeline is the photographer’s arrival. At this point, the wedding photographer arrives on site and prepares to start snapping photos. \n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos \nDuring the next phase, the couple is separated, getting ready for the ceremony with their wedding party. These photos are often candid. \n\nDuring this time, the wedding photographer may take a variety of shots, including:\n\n- The groom getting dressed with the groomsmen\n\n- The bride getting ready with the bridesmaids\n\n- The hair stylist creating the bride’s wedding day hairstyle\n\n- Close-ups of the makeup artist doing the bride and bridesmaids’ makeup\n\n- Detail shots (for example, rings, wedding shoes, bouquets, wedding invitations, etc.)\n\nIf the wedding photographer has a second shooter, they may split up—with each photographer taking photos of one half of the couple and their bridesmaids and/or groomsmen. \n\n__Location ideas:__ Wherever the bride and/or groom is getting ready—for example, their home, the wedding venue, or a hotel\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:00 PM - First Look and Couple Portraits\nIf a couple opts to do a first look, then the photographer will get the opportunity to shoot them pre-ceremony. [First look photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) generally include:\n\n- Portrait sessions for both people (for example, bridal portraits and groom portraits)\n\n- The couple seeing each other in their full wedding looks for the first time\n\n- Couples portraits\n\nLocation ideas: Somewhere at or near the wedding venue—either outdoors (for example, in a garden or next to the ocean) or indoors (for example, in a hallway or underneath an entrance)\n\n#### 3:15 - 3:45 PM - Wedding Party Portraits\nAfter the first look, it’s time to tackle wedding party photos. This may include:\n\n- The bride with all of her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with the maid of honor\n\n- The groom with all of the groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The couple with the entire wedding party\n\n- The bride with her partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n- The groom with his partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n__Location ideas:__ Outside the wedding venue, at an off-site location with a scenic background\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nIt’s time to get married! During the wedding ceremony, the photographer will likely snap a variety of photos, including:\n\n- The ceremony location\n\n- Detail shots (for example, the ceremony programs, the flowers, the arbor, etc.)\n\n- Guests arriving at the ceremony start time\n\n- The wedding party walking down the aisle\n\n- Family members walking down the aisle\n\n- The bride and/or groom (or brides and grooms) walking down the aisle\n\n- The officiant\n\n- Any friends or family that share readings during the ceremony\n\n- The couple exchanging wedding vows\n\n- The couple walking down the aisle after getting married\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site\n\n#### 5:10 - 5:40 PM - Family Portraits\nAfter the ceremony, the wedding photographer will take formal [portraits of the couple and their families](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). This may include:\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The couple with one partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- Additional family photos as necessary (for example, photos with aunts, uncles, and/or cousins)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site, somewhere scenic/quiet at the wedding venue that’s away from cocktail hour (for example, a garden or ballroom)\n\n#### 5:10 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nIf your wedding photographer has a second shooter, they will often snap photos during cocktail hour while the main photographer handles family photos. This may include:\n\n- Guests mingling at cocktail hour\n\n- Photos of your signature wedding cocktails\n\n- Detail shots (for example, cocktail napkins, signage and decor, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the cocktail hour site\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nYour wedding reception is full of moments that you’ll want to turn into memories—and your wedding photographer will be on hand to ensure that happens. Some wedding reception photos your photographer will likely want to capture include:\n\n- The couple’s grand entrance\n\n- Guest table photos\n\n- The couple’s first dance\n\n- Parent dances\n\n- Toasts and speeches\n\n- Guests dancing on the dance floor\n\n- The garter toss and/or bouquet toss\n\n- Cake cutting\n\n- The couple’s exit\n\n- Detail shots (for example, centerpieces, decor, table signage, gift table, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas__: At the wedding reception site\n\n### Timeline Without First Look\n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos\n\nSame as above\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:30 PM - Separate Wedding Party and Family Portraits \nIf a couple opts not to do a first look, the wedding photographer can’t do group photos before the ceremony—but they can do separate wedding party and/or family portraits. This may include:\n\n- The bride with her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with her maid of honor\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The bride with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with his entire family\n\n- The groom with his groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The groom with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with her entire family\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nSame as above\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:15 PM - Couple and Group Portraits \nIf there’s no first look, the couple will take both couple’s and group portraits after the wedding ceremony. This may include:\n\n- Photos of the couple\n\n- The couple with their entire wedding party\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with the other set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The couple with one person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents \n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- The couple with one person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with both of their entire families\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nSame as above\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nSame as above\n\nAs you can see from the timelines above, the “first look” photos can give you more time to enjoy being with your guests after the ceremony. However, if you choose to stick to a more traditional timeline and wait to see each other at the ceremony for the first time, you will still be able to take all the photos you want. Ultimately, the decision is up to you as a couple and what works best for your wedding day.\n\n## Things To Consider When Developing Your Wedding Day Photography Timeline\nNeed more insights in to how to navigate your wedding day timeline? Here are a few things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Stick to the timeline...__ Your wedding photographer has a timeline for a reason! The timeline is created to ensure they have enough time to capture all of the shots you’ll want from your wedding day—so make their lives easier by sticking to the timeline as much as possible.\n\n- __...but also be flexible.__ Ideally, you’ll stick to your wedding photography timeline—but things happen that may throw you off course (for example, it may take you longer to get ready than you originally planned or there may be a delay in getting to your first look location). Make sure to stay flexible and allow your photographer to switch things up as necessary.\n\n- __Keep awkward moments to a minimum.__ Your wedding photographer is there to capture happy moments—not awkward ones. Think about any potential awkward interactions—and make a plan to deal with them. (For example, if you have divorced parents that can’t be in the same room, make sure to let your photographer know so she can schedule those family portraits separately.)\n\n- __Make sure to account for transportation time.__ If you’re taking photos at multiple locations, make sure to build transportation time into your timeline.\n\n- __Don’t be afraid to ask for a redo.__ If something feels off about your photography sessions—for example, you don’t like where you’re snapping your bridal party photos or the sky is too dark and cloudy for your liking—don’t be afraid to ask your photographer to either retake the photos or rethink their approach and offer other options.\n\nWhile it may be tempting to figure out your wedding photos on a whim throughout your wedding day, ensuring you get all the shots you want will require some planning. Start by deciding who you want to take photos with and where they will be taken. Then, as a couple, choose whether or not you want a “first look” photo. Work with your photographer to get a better sense of how long they need to get high-quality shots. And finally, create a detailed timeline for your wedding day, then share it with all the appropriate people. Taking these steps will ensure your big day runs smoothly, so you can enjoy being in the moment—and enjoy getting back your wedding photos after your big day. (Don’t forget to ask about turnaround time!)","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"You’ll be reminiscing on your wedding photos for years to come. 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Here are cheap rehearsal dinner ideas from Zola.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T04:41:26.496Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4xVQpZoBKXEPIyxsp4Il5q/cdf04678e673b19dc6aabcfcbd2cbe3a/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Rehearsal dinners can be as elegant or as laid-back as you want them to be—and an event that allows you to let loose before your wedding day. \n- Keep your rehearsal dinner affordable by holding it at home, a public park, or another low-cost venue. \n- Book buffet-style catering or coordinate a pot-luck dinner in order to reduce food costs. Get creative with decorations by making them yourself or upcycling objects you may already have lying around your home. \n- Pick a theme for your rehearsal dinner that fits your aesthetic and allows you to decorate and cater the event without putting too much of a strain on your budget. ","body":"Bringing people together to celebrate your love doesn’t always bring the same degree of excitement to your wallet as it does to you and your partner. High costs can seem to creep up out of nowhere even for a more intimate occasion like the wedding rehearsal dinner. For a memorable night with family and friends that’s exquisite and easy on the budget, follow along. \n\nIn this piece, we’ll cover everything you need to know from rehearsal dinner basics to creative ideas that will bring radiance and spending relief. Focus more on the wedding-day walk-through and on cherishing small moments—we’ll help you take care of the rest. \n\nHere’s a closer look at what you’ll find below:\n\n- Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know\n- How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly\n- Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas\n- Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\n- Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know \nRehearsal dinners are more than just a walk-through of the ceremony. The post-rehearsal time is an opportunity to sneak extra hugs, conversation, and dancing with your closest friends and family members. \n\nBefore handing out a few tips about how to put on an affordable event, let’s first talk a bit more about what a rehearsal dinner actually is. Who comes? When does it typically happen? Find answers to these questions and more below. \n\n- The what: A rehearsal, of course! You’ll do a general practice of the ceremony from top to bottom to coordinate details such as music, entries, and where to stand. The best part is dinner and drinks afterward with your inner circle of loved ones. \n\n- __The who:__ As wedding tradition goes, the rehearsal dinner is generally reserved for you, your partner, the wedding party, the officiant, and anyone else who may hold a spot on the ceremony program. Some couples may choose to expand the guest list to include a few more family members and friends. Talk this through with your partner to see just how big or how small you’d like to keep things. \n\n- __The where:__ That’s entirely up to you. We’ll give you a few rehearsal dinner venue ideas below, but there are no rules that dictate where exactly you should hold your rehearsal dinner. From seaside soirees to park picnics, the choice is yours.\n\n- __The when:__ Most couples opt to host their rehearsal dinner on the day before their wedding day, as this ensures that all the ceremony dos and don’ts are fresh in everyone’s minds. If you choose to do it sooner, let your wedding guests know so that they can adjust their schedules. \n\n- __The why:__ To go over last-minute details to make sure that there aren’t any hiccups on the day of your wedding. It’s also a time when you and your partner can express thanks to friends and family members for all of the time and effort that they’ve put in to help realize your wedding-day dreams. \n\nNow that you’re familiar with some of the basics, let’s talk about the budget. \n\n## How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly \nIt’s no secret that weddings can often come with a high price tag. Some couples prefer to go all out for their big day and for additional wedding-related events such as the rehearsal dinner or post-wedding brunches. \n\nBut if you’re the type of duo who would prefer to keep spending low for the wedding in order to invest more in a lavish honeymoon or a new home, you’re in the right place. Just because you’d rather keep your celebration budget-friendly, doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice elegance and refinement. Cheap rehearsal dinner ideas do not equate to tacky and tawdry. \n\nHere are a few ideas to help you plan an affordable rehearsal dinner that’s both well-organized and well-polished. \n\n- __Do it at home.__ Whether it’s at your residence or a family member’s, having a backyard or patio gathering is a savvy way to avoid the high costs of booking a venue or renting out space at a restaurant. Plus, it allows you to have full control over all the details such as decor, duration of the event, and dinner choices. \n\n- __Find a low-cost venue.__ If you don’t quite have the space to host an event at home, consider another low-cost alternative such as a public beach or park. It gives you just as much freedom to decorate and tailor it to your liking without the pressure of getting your house event-ready. However, it might not be completely free, so be sure to ask about the cost of a permit and how to go about reserving the space for the date you need. \n\n- __Book a space within your price range.__ Not a fan of backyard barbecues or public park gatherings? Use the Zola Vendor Search tool to find a ready-made venue that’s within your budget. Filter through the available spaces by price, setting, and capacity to find one that works with your vision and your wallet. \n\n- __Coordinate a potluck.__ Especially if you opt for an at-home affair, you can join forces with your rockstar wedding crew and eager-to-help family members. Set up a spreadsheet with plenty of time to spare for people to sign up for different dishes. It doesn’t get much more affordable than this and you’ll probably find that people are happy to contribute in any way that they can. \n\n- __Opt for buffet-style catering.__ If you’d rather leave the cooking to the professionals, elect to hire a catering service. Ask about buffet-style dinner options since this will allow you to keep a fixed cost per person instead of opening it up for guests to order individual meals and drinks. \n\n- __Ask about your venue’s event policies.__ If you’ve reserved a date and time for your rehearsal dinner at a hotel or restaurant, ask them to be upfront with you about the total costs. You’ll need to pay the rental fee for the locale, of course, but it would be important to find out if there are any minimum spending requirements for food and drinks.\n\n- __Ask a creative friend for a favor.__ You’ve already booked a photographer for your wedding day but you’d like to get a few snaps of you, your partner, and your crew at the rehearsal dinner too. See if one of your friends who’s got an eye for photography wouldn’t mind documenting a few special moments throughout the night. They might offer to do so free of charge, but consider thanking them for their efforts with a bottle of wine or a gift card to their favorite eatery. \n\n- __Opt for handmade decorations.__ The internet is chock-full of good ideas for DIY decorations. You might be surprised to find that most projects are fairly easy to succeed at too, so you won’t need to be a master crafter to pull it off. From upcycled picture frames and shutters to wood-burned coasters, the sky’s the limit when it comes to handmade, budget-friendly decor. \n\nNow that you’ve packed your brainstorm list to the brim with affordable rehearsal dinner ideas, let’s see how you can pull them all together. Get your creative juices flowing a bit more in the next section where we’ll help you tie your ideas together into a charming and cohesive rehearsal dinner theme. \n\n## Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas \nNot quite sure where to start when it comes to choosing a theme for your rehearsal dinner? Sometimes all you need are a few ideas to help nudge you in the right creative direction. Get some inspiration from the following and feel free to adapt them to fit your own unique vision. \n\n- __Piazza pizza party –__ Look to Venice, Italy for your inspiration for this budget-friendly theme. Decorate your back patio with lights, greenery, and maybe even a small garden fountain to channel the aesthetic of an Italian piazza. For dinner? Pizza, of course! It’s always a crowd favorite and something that’s quick and easy to put together. It feeds a number of people, too, so getting it catered by a local ristorante shouldn’t run up a high bill. Set up a gelato bar for dessert and include a station for guests to add their own toppings. \n\n- __Backyard barbecue –__ If you’d rather opt for a more casual theme, take advantage of backyard space for some grilling and lawn games. The venue is free, of course, and it will give you and your crew a chance to be comfortable and informal before having to dress to the nines on the following day. Coordinate a potluck, if you want, and include some classic homestyle dishes such as macaroni and cheese or potato salad to pair with the barbecue burgers and kebabs. \n\n- __Parisian charcuterie picnic (aka grown-up Lunchables) –__ Save yourself some time with a simple, yet classy charcuterie spread. Take a quick trip to your local bulk store (think Costco or Sam’s Club) to pick up an assortment of deli meats, pre-sliced cheeses, crackers, and bread for a delectable, self-serve rehearsal dinner. You can also purchase plenty of fruit and veggie plates for a balanced meal. \n\nAdd a few checkered tablecloths and some tapered candles in wine bottles, and you’ll have a little taste of Paris the night before your big day. \n\n## Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\nSince you’ve been planning your wedding, you’re probably no stranger to lists by now. The number of to-dos that pile up for wedding day details can be a bit overwhelming at times. \n\nKeep everything in order and in one place by customizing your task list at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). Plus, our app is designed to send you notifications whenever a deadline is approaching. The good news? You can use this handy tool for your rehearsal dinner checklist, too. \n\nNot sure where to begin when it comes to prioritizing tasks? Here’s a list of things to get you started down the aisle on the right foot. \n\n- __Set up a budget –__ You might already have a budget set for the wedding day itself, but it’s a good idea to make another one for your rehearsal dinner too. Even though you’re catering to a smaller crowd, costs for food, decorations, and wedding party gifts can add up quickly. Work out with your partner and your families how much you’re willing to spend, and then do your best to adhere to it. \n\n- __Decide who to invite –__ As we mentioned before, this event is typically reserved for your closest family members, your wedding crew, and anyone playing a part in the ceremony itself. Feel free to do things your own way by opening it up to plus-ones or a few extended family members. However, just be mindful of how that might affect the budget before doing so. Another idea is to keep the dinner to just your inner circle, and then open a space up later in the night for more guests to stop by for mingling and a few pre-wedding day cocktails. \n\n \n- __Pick a theme that works with your wedding style –__ Modern and formal? Or, vintage and bohemian? Your rehearsal dinner can be a design extension of your wedding day and an opportunity to weave in a few recurring motifs throughout the entire weekend. Or, you can change things up completely by hosting a dinner with its own unique style and personality. If the wedding day is a black-tie affair, perhaps you’d prefer a casual beachfront barbecue for your rehearsal dinner. Whatever you decide, use the theme as a base from which all other details will extend. \n\n- __Choose and book the venue –__ If budget consciousness is a priority for you, picking a venue can be an opportunity to save big or not. Even for small groups, some [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) may cost a pretty penny just to reserve the space and could even require a minimum tab for food and drinks. An at-home event won’t cost you anything to book the space, of course, but it may require more investment in details such as decorations and floral arrangements. Decide what’s most important to you in an event space and give yourself plenty of time to book in advance. \n\n- __Coordinate catering –__ If you’ve chosen a restaurant or a hotel function hall, you might not even need to give catering much of a second thought. These spaces are well-oiled machines when it comes to hosting events and probably already have menu options and in-house catering services ready to go. If you’ll be celebrating at a park or at home, you and your partner will have to work out these details yourselves. Shop around to find something that satisfies your flavor palette and budget, or consider cooking a few dishes yourself. \n\n- __Send out the invitations –__ Pardon the obvious, but if you’re hosting an event your guests will need to know where to go and what time to be there. Your wedding party is probably already expecting a pre-wedding walk-through as part of their duties, but be sure to clue them in on the details of the dinner and the rehearsal itself so they can add it to their schedule. Consider coordinating [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to match the theme of your dinner. A few floral accents would be well-suited for a garden party, or you can establish elegance with a gold metallic foil. \n\n- __Create a playlist –__ You don’t necessarily need to book a DJ or a band for your rehearsal dinner (unless you want to, of course) but some background music for mealtime and mingling could be a nice touch. Curate a playlist to your liking for an at-home affair or check with your venue to see if you’re able to provide your own music. If you’ve got a family or friend who is musically inclined, you might consider asking them to play a few songs for a laid-back dinner—complete with sing-alongs and dancing. \n\n- __Include a few fun activities –__ You and your guests are there to take care of the logistics before the big day, but don’t forget to have fun, too. Beyond dinner and drinks, consider adding a few games and activities to let loose the night before your ceremony. Lawn games and Jenga are always a hit. Or, you can encourage people to get creative by setting up a DIY table for crafting or scrapbooking. \n\n- __Say thank you and enjoy the company –__ This will likely be your last event with family and friends as an unmarried couple. Soak in those moments with the people who have come from near and far to rally behind your love story before the wild ride of married life takes off. Consider taking this opportunity to send out a thank you to them too. A handwritten note is a simple, heartfelt gesture; or, shop for a few small gifts that your wedding party will be able to have as a keepsake for years to come. \n\nWhen it comes to weddings our well never runs dry. Stay tuned for more rehearsal dinner hacks in the section below. \n\n## Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner \nFeeling just about ready to dive into the planning part of your rehearsal dinner? Before you go, let’s send you off with a few more tips and tricks to ensure a smooth and stylish soiree. Add this advice to your checklist for you to come back to whenever you need a reminder. \n\n- __Don’t forget to keep an eye on mother nature.__ Some weather is unpredictable, but keep tabs on the forecast in the days leading up to your rehearsal dinner in case you need to make any last-minute adjustments. \n\n- __Incorporate a taste of the town.__ Whether you’re celebrating in your backyard or in an upscale restaurant, pay attention to what makes this part of the world different from others. Include some local flavors made famous in that region or any seasonal treats that are hard to find elsewhere. \n\n- __Let your wedding guests know the best way to dress.__ Being clear about attire is important, especially for your rehearsal dinner. If you have any activities planned that require a change of clothes, give the invitees a heads-up so that they can pack accordingly. Additionally, if you’ve opted for a laid-back get-together, tell your friends and family that it’s okay to keep it casual. \n\n- __If you’re hosting at home, be sure to give your attendees clear instructions about how to arrive.__ Particularly if your home or the event space is located in a remote area where cell service is sparse, be in touch with them ahead of time in order to avoid losing a friend down a country back road. \n\n## Design Your Dream Rehearsal Dinner at Zola \nThe rehearsal dinner may just seem like one more thing you have to plan on top of your wedding day, but given the right tools and tricks, it can actually be quite easy and fun. Especially, when you let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help you take care of the essentials. \n\nHere at the hub of all things wedding related we believe in:\n\nHelping you celebrate your love through every step of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process.\n\nSharing the news of your wedding day and the details of your love story on your very own, easy-to-customize [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\nConnecting you with the right florists, photographers, and other [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to bring each piece of the planning puzzle together into one picture-perfect event.\n\nYour rehearsal dinner is already starting to take shape. 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Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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