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6 Ways to Include Your Kids in Your Wedding

There are a lot of ways to include your kids (or your partner's kids) in your wedding. From ceremony to reception, here are some recommended ways to just that.

Wedding planning 101

Flower Girl Duties— Everything You Need to Know

A flower girl is an essential part of any wedding. Here's a guide to help you understand what the duties of a flower girl are.

Wedding planning 101

15 Funny Bouquet Toss Songs

Looking to get some laughs during your bridal bouquet toss? Here are 15 songs of various genres, styles, and time periods that are sure to bring the humor.

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Unique Garter Toss Ideas

The garter toss is one of the oldest wedding traditions, but there’s no reason why you can’t put a fresh spin on it today. Here are some unique garter toss ideas to consider.

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How Long Should the Best Man Speech Be?

Make sure that your best man speech isn’t too long—or too short with this guide.

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Irish Wedding Toast

Irish wedding toasts date all the way back to the 17th century. Want to incorporate these into your modern wedding? Learn more with Zola.

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Wedding Guest Etiquette 101: 20 Ways to Be an Exceptional Guest

While your main job is to show up and have fun, there are a few things to keep in mind as a guest at a wedding. Here’s what to do (and not do) at a wedding.

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Traditional Wedding Vows for the Timeless Couple

Looking to recite traditional wedding vows on your special day? Read on for tips and examples from the Zola team.

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What Does It Mean If You Catch the Bouquet?

We take a look at the history and modern meaning behind the bouquet toss to get a better idea of what it means to catch the bouquet.

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4 Alternatives to the Classic Bouquet Toss

For the bride or groom who isn't a fan of the traditional bouquet toss, but still wants a similar moment, we explore four alternatives to get guests excited.

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Symbolism of the Garter Toss

Wondering what the garter toss at weddings means? Learn about the symbolism with this complete guide.

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How to Give a Great Best Man Speech

If you’re freaking out about pulling off a best man speech at a wedding, we understand. There's an art to the best man speech. Here's our best advice for giving a great best man speech.

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And, if they’re part of yours, your ceremony isn’t just about forming a union with your partner, it’s about forming a whole new family. That can be exciting and also a bit anxiety-inducing for children. If you or your partner has kids, including them in the wedding can help them feel more like their part of something and less like something is happening to them. Plus, it’s easy to include kids in your wedding. Here are some recommended ways to do it. \n\n## Gift them something special.\nEngagement rings, registry items, [wedding party favors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-gifts)—gifts play a big role in the wedding planning process. If you have children of your own or are getting married to someone with children, help them feel a part of it all by gifting them something, too. This could be given to them leading up to your wedding, the morning of, or during vows dedicated to them (more on that below). Consider gifting a personalized watch or piece of jewelry with engravings or their birthstone. If the child or children are very young, think more along the lines of personalized books and toys.\n\n![INLINE GoodmanPhotography 1080x720 Brittany&Dustin](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2G7hm2FuCaGCPRKp2sUoJl/0081f3df8f1b5133e4a987ed62bd75c1/INLINE_GoodmanPhotography_1080x720_Brittany_Dustin.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Goodman Photography\n\n## Give them a role in the wedding.\nIf at all possible, include your kid or kids in your wedding by giving them a [special role in your ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one). When you look back on the day, it will feel like a significant family moment that you all did together. There are, of course, plenty of classic roles to choose from, which we’ve listed below. However, depending the age of the children, you may want to include them in the wedding party, give them a reading, or create a unique role. \n\nThese are some classic wedding roles for kids:\n\n- __Flower Girl or Boy:__ Traditionally, during the wedding procession the flower girl or boy tosses petals down the aisle before the bride makes her entrance. This role is most often given to children under the age of seven. \n- __Ring Bearer:__ This child’s role is to walk down the aisle and bring the couple’s rings to the best man/best woman. The ring bearer is also typically at or under the age of seven. Make the job fun by coming up with a unique ring box or pillow idea that’ll get your kid or kids excited. Maybe even enlist their help in picking it out.\n- __Pages:__ Also referred to as train bearers, these are the children that help the bride with her train while she walks down the aisle. This role is perfect for children who may not be comfortable with the spotlight or walking down the aisle on their own.\n- __Junior Bridesmaid or Groomsman:__ Younger teenagers and tweens (think between the ages of eight and fourteen) can be given the part of junior bridesmaid or groomsman. In short, these roles include the same duties as their older counterparts, just scaled down to be kid-appropriate. Some duties they might participate in are the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, walking in the processional, and standing at the altar with the rest of the party.\n\nAgain, if none of these seem like a fit (or if you have more kids and need more roles), create roles unique to your ceremony or family. \n\n## Dedicate some vows to them.\nWhen you say “I do” to your partner, you’re saying it to their children as well (or vice versa). Before the ceremony wraps up—and preferably before your vows to your fiancé—dedicate a set of vows to your spouse’s children. \n\nTake a moment to share your love and promise to support and guide them through life. Even better, add a special touch to your vows by making them specific. If your step-child plays sports, for example, promise to never miss a big game. Statements like this let them know that you’re wholly dedicated to them.\n\n## Ask them to give a toast.\nIf speaking in front of a crowd isn’t an issue, give your kids the opportunity to make a speech during the reception. Leading up to the wedding, sit down with them and help them come up with a few loving (or funny) words to share. This can help them feel like they have a place in welcoming your new husband or wife into the family. It also gives them a chance to feel important and address the entire crowd (which, let’s be honest, will probably be adorable and hilarious).\n\n![INLINE Imagine'atPhotography 1080x720 Danielle&TJ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5KsFdaPecZU2SLWHztxyyZ/9109b2d71ae07677402e8b2b8b4a4841/INLINE_Imagine_atPhotography_1080x720_Danielle_TJ.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Imagine'at Photography\n\n## Let them cut the cake.\nThis may be the most exciting part of the evening for them, so get them involved. Depending on their age, you might not want them [cutting the cake](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-cake-ideas). However, if they’re old enough to do so with some guidance (maybe place your hands over theirs), let them at it. \n\nYou can also include them in the sweets department by having personalized toppers of not just you and your spouse, but each of the kids placed on the cake. Afterward, they can keep the toppers as toys or favors. If there are going to be several kids at your wedding, consider purchasing a fun, smaller cake specifically for them. Weddings tend to be long days—even the kids could use a sugar rush.\n\n## Serve their favorite drink or mocktail.\nMake the menu kid-friendly, too. If you’re making [signature drinks](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-signature-wedding-cocktail) for you and your partner, make one or two for your kids, as well. Milkshakes, fruit punches, and Shirley Temples are bound to be a lot more fun (and tasty) than water. Also, consider a milk and cookies bar or candy set up that will excite everyone and keep your kids happy through the reception. \n\nBefore implementing all of these ideas, talk to your kids about how they feel about the wedding and if they want to be apart of it. Never force anyone to do anything just because it will look cute. 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding toasts are tricky. We’ve got some helpful tips to guide you towards a great wedding toast that you and your favorite couple will remember fondly for years, so grab your notepads and get ready for some key(note) advice.\n","title":"How to Write a Wedding Toast: The Ultimate Guide","slug":"how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/x9jCrc9cdiEKCCISOo0Yq/a0e027d2c2668c23cc22b4d5d22f577c/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Graphic of two clinking champagne glasses"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:03.609Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"the-duties-of-a-flower-girl","title":"Flower Girl Duties— Everything You Need to Know","excerpt":"A flower girl is an essential part of any wedding. Here's a guide to help you understand what the duties of a flower girl are.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-14T21:26:35.594Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/41hG3hkmcE2lktB8lXnYQe/3dbe2e36bd2230d09644139d8783e513/inline_unsplash__23___2_.jpg","altText":"Flower Girl"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Though undeniably cute, a flower girl doesn’t exist simply to charm the guests—her duties, and what she represents, are an important part of the wedding ceremony.\n\n## The History Behind Flower Girls\n\nOver the years, what the flower girl carries has changed and varies from culture to culture. She used to carry and scatter wheat and herbs symbolizing hope and fertility—and since she walks before the bride, she was meant to represent the transformation of a child to an adult.\n\nIn modern times, the flower girl, [usually eight years old or younger](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-the-appropriate-age-of-a-flower-girl), scatters rose petals as she walks down the aisle, which symbolizes new beginnings and uniting of two families. She also signals the arrival of the bride. Aside from rose petals, she can also hold a bouquet of flowers, a pomander or a ball of flowers, balloons, or a sign that says “Here comes the Bride.”\n\n[Asking a flower girl to be in your wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-ask-a-flower-girl-to-be-in-your-wedding) honors the little girls closest to you. It can be a niece, cousin, goddaughter, or even the child of one of your close friends. Some go a different route and ask their grandmothers to be their flower girl, which is also a sweet gesture. Others opt to have their fur babies fill the role. \n\n## The Duties Of A Flower Girl\nHere’s a breakdown of the tasks of a flower girl:\n\n### Before the Big Day\n\n- Gather dress, shoes, and accessories. Some brides prefer the flower girl’s dress to be a mini version of her wedding dress, but it can also be any age-appropriate dress that’s the same shade as the other bridesmaids.\n\n- Ask the bride or maid of honor about the hairstyle on the day of the wedding. Some brides prepare a headpiece, whether a wreath of flowers made by the florist, a hat, or a mini veil to be pinned on the head of the flower girl. It’s best to know this in advance to avoid last-minute changes before the ceremony.\n\n- Attend the bridal shower or luncheon, if invited. This is a great time to meet and get to know the other members of the bridal party, even if she’s way younger than the other bridesmaids. This may also help the flower girl feel more comfortable on the wedding day when she sees friendly, familiar faces. \n\n- Attend the rehearsal. This gives the flower girl the chance to practice walking down the aisle and helps the flower girl’s parents understand where the flower girl should be and when. \n\n### On the Wedding Day\n- Line up along with the bridesmaids. The flower girl is usually at the end of the line, right before the maid of honor.\n\n- Walk down the aisle and charm the crowd while scattering flower petals along the way. Other alternatives include holding pinwheels or balloons, blowing bubbles, or even ringing a bell. Toddlers can be pulled in a cute wagon or walk with her parents. Just remember: It’s good to have them close by to keep the flower girl comfortable and avoid tantrums\n\n- Your flower girl is part of the wedding party—and, as such, should take pictures with the wedding party after the wedding ceremony. She is not required to walk back during the recessional, though some school-aged flower girls do.\n\n- Be part of the grand entrance at the reception, depending on her age and if she is comfortable to participate.\n\nFrom dressing up to getting treats, there are a lot of ways to make this experience special and memorable for a flower girl. Here are some ideas to make it fun: \n\n- Make sure to pick out a dress that’s nice and comfortable for the little one. Consider pairing it with ballerina flats or Mary Janes. \n\n- Tell her about her the importance of her role and why she was chosen as a flower girl. Make her feel included in the bridal party along with the grown-ups.\n\n- Have a treat at the end of the aisle. Candy or a small toy provides motivation for her to make it all the way down the altar.\n\n- Save a spot near the front for her parents. Knowing they are close by will help ease her anxiety.\n\n- Keep her busy with an activity kit at the reception. A few crayons, coloring pages, and a cookie or two will surely tell her that she did a great job.\n\n- Keep calm and relax. Kids will be kids, and even if she chooses to run instead of walk or lifts up her dress for everyone to see, she will be adored by guests.\n\n## Flower Girls Outfit Ideas\nNot sure what a flower girl wears—and looking for some outfit inspiration? Here are some outfit ideas for you to consider:\n\n### 1. Tulle dress\nA tulle ball gown is the kind of dress that many flower girls dream of—so why not give them what they want? A flower girl dress with a tulle skirt is a classic choice for flower girl attire.\n\n### 2. Flower-patterned dress\nShe is the flower girl—so why not have her walk down the aisle in a floral-patterned dress? \n\n### 3. White dress\nAs mentioned, some brides opt to have their flower girls wear a miniature version of their own dress—and because many wedding dresses are white, having your flower girl wear a white dress is an obvious choice.\n\n### 4. A dress in your wedding color palette\nAlternatively, you could also have your flower girl wear a dress that matches your bridesmaid dresses and wedding color palette.\n\n### 5. Flower crown\nYour flower girl outfit doesn’t stop with the dress. Consider having your florist create floral design to compliment your flower girl’s outfit—like a flower crown, which works especially well for boho weddings.\n\nIn the process of building your bridal party? 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Here are 15 songs of various genres, styles, and time periods that are sure to bring the humor.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-02-26T16:06:16.127Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aFaSfoWaMjhvPqMplDtyo/076319451dc3b3e1895a4e8ab6cc3a69/Hero_Zola__80_.jpg","altText":"Funny Bouquet Toss Songs"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- As far as classics go, “Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend” and “Ladies Night” make the cut.\n- If competition is more your speed, consider tracks such as “One Way or Another,” “Another One Bites the Dust,” and the “Mission: Impossible” theme.\n- For a more modern take, consider Lizzo’s “Truth Hurts,” Beyoncé’s “Formation,” or “Oh No” by Capone.\n","body":"[DJ or live band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), classic or Top 40—your music choices can make or break many moments throughout your special day. One such moment that you’ll want to make sure to nail is your bouquet toss. \n\nAccording to wedding tradition, this is when all of the single ladies in the attendance line up, you throw [your bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-complete-guide-to-dried-flower-bouquets) behind you, and they try to catch it. Whoever succeeds is said to be married next. \n\nWhile you can make this a fun and lovely moment, you may prefer to go the comedic route. Choosing a funny song is a surefire way to get everyone excited and paying attention, after all. If rifling through massive song lists and compilations sounds like more effort than it’s worth, you’ve come to the right place. Below are 15 songs of various genres, styles, and periods that are sure to bring laughter.\n\n### The Classics \n\n#### __“Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend” by Marilyn Monroe__\nLyric spotlight: *But square-cut or pear-shaped / These rocks don't lose their shape / Diamonds are a girl's best friend*\n\nThis absolute classic is often neglected from bouquet toss lists and playlists—and we honestly can’t see why. What better song to have going while playing a traditional big day game meant to predict who’s next to get an engagement ring? There’s much to enjoy about this fun number, from its theatrical sound to its playful lyrics, and those familiar with it will get a hoot out of the association.\n\n#### __“P.Y.T. (Pretty Young Thing)” by Michael Jackson__\nLyric spotlight: *I Want To Love You (P.Y.T.) / Pretty Young Thing / You Need Some Lovin' (T.L.C.) / Tender Lovin' and Care / And I'll Take You There*\n\nGet your guests dancing, singing, and excited with this popular hit by the one and only Michael Jackson. While you’re sure to get a kick out of the comical responses, this song is also just a fun, lighthearted track that deserves to be played for an enthusiastic, pumped-up crowd.\n\n#### __“Ladies Night” by Kool & The Gang__\nLyric spotlight: *Oh, yes, it's Ladies' Night / And the feeling's right / Oh, yes, it's Ladies' Night / Oh, what a night*\n\nSeeing as the spotlight will be on the evening’s single ladies (and perhaps some others), it only makes sense to count this classic as a contender. Hype up both those hoping to secure your wedding [bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-should-a-bridal-bouquet-cost) (and the rest of the ladies in attendance) by playing it as they take the floor. We’re betting that nearly everyone will sing along.\n\n#### __“Gimme! Gimme! Gimme! (A Man After Midnight)” by ABBA__\nLyric spotlight: *Gimme, gimme, gimme a man after midnight / Won't somebody help me chase the shadows away*\n\nWhile most lists will include another one of ABBA’s greatest hits, “Dancing Queen,” we think “Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!” is much more suitable for a bouquet toss. On one hand, it works thematically, given that it’s quite the dramatized anthem for singles. On the other, it’s fitting that those vying to catch your bridal bouquet would be asking you to __gimme, gimme__.\n\n### The Ones With Competitive Spirit \n\n#### __“One Way or Another” by Blondie__\nLyric spotlight: *One way, or another, I'm gonna find ya / I'm gonna get ya! / One way, or another, I'm gonna win ya / I'll get ya! I'll get ya!*\n\nBlondie and “Coyote Ugly” fans alike will have a blast the moment this song begins playing through the speakers. Not only is it an incredibly fun, upbeat number, but it also has a bit of grit and determination that’ll bring out the competitive spirit in your guests.\n\n#### __“Another One Bites the Dust” by Queen__\nLyric spotlight: *And another one gone and another one gone / Another one bites the dust / Hey I'm gonna get you, too / Another one bites the dust*\n\nWe’re going to be bold and say that Queen’s “Another One Bites the Dust” is the epitome of a competitive song. Often played about sporting events and battle scenarios, having it played during your bouquet toss is a humorous way of poking fun at the often competitive nature that goes with it.\n\n#### __“Somethin’ Bad” by Miranda Lambert and Carrie Underwood__\nLyric spotlight: *Ran into a girl in a pretty white dress / Rolled down a window / Where you headed to next? / Said I'm heading to the bayou with my money out of the mattress / Got a real good feeling somethin' bad about to happen*\n\n![15 Funny Bouquet Toss Songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2O2JV2rNJxvAa5MoAWR4wG/1dffc1f124c3ebe48280323fe69c61d0/inline_Susan_Elizabeth_Photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Susan Elizabeth Photography\n\nCountry fans will go crazy for this powerful women-led duet. The beat-driven anthem tells the story of two women meeting on the street and causing chaos in New Orleans—a tune and tale that’ll get your guests roaring about something bad that’s probably about to happen.\n\n#### __“Let the Bodies Hit the Floor” by Drowning Pool__\nLyric spotlight: *Let the bodies hit the floor / Let the bodies hit the floor / Let the bodies hit the floor*\n\nWe couldn’t go without mentioning this rock, alt-metal favorite from the early 2000s. If you’re fairly confident that your guests will find humor in playing a song about people falling to the floor (note: the song was originally inspired by mosh pits), rather than be turned off by its intensity, it can earn a pretty great laugh.\n\n#### __“Move B***H” by Ludacris__\nLyric spotlight: *Move, get out the way / Get out the way, get out the way*\n\nIf you’re fairly certain that your single friends are going to get rowdy, play this song. Ludacris’s 2001 hit will earn howls of laughter as those spreading out to catch your flowers and on-lookers alike realize what’s playing—and how relevant it is to the situation.\n\n#### __“Mission: Impossible” theme by Lalo Schifrin__\n\nLalo Schifrin’s score is the one song on our list that doesn’t contain any lyrics. However, it’s instantly recognizable. Even guests unfamiliar with the original series or film franchise will immediately recognize it and get a laugh out of the sneaky, spy mission-like instrumental.\n\n### The Fresh, Funny Ideas \n\n![15 Funny Bouquet Toss Songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/24XY7Ar8rr7y1zl297JU9B/164dd40c411f239cab2b0e82679ad90b/inline_caseydurginphotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Caseydurgin Photography\n\n#### __“Truth Hurts” by Lizzo__\nLyric spotlight: *I put the sing in single / Ain't worried 'bout a ring on my finger / So you can tell your friends: Shoot your shot / When you see 'em / It's OK, he already in my DMs*\n\nThis song requires little if any, explanation. If an exciting reaction full of spontaneous dancing and shouts of approval is what you’re after, this is a must for your bouquet toss. Just allow it to playout for the first ten seconds—and make sure several people are videotaping.\n\n#### __“Formation” by Beyoncé__\nLyric spotlight: *Okay, ladies, now let's get in formation, cause I slay*\n\nThis hit is fast becoming a favorite for bouquet tosses. For the wedding crowd that loves pop, trap, or Beyoncé in general (which we can relate to), playing “Formation” is a fail-proof way to get a great reaction. Watch as those involved in the toss get incredibly hyped up—and hope they stay focused enough to try and catch.\n\n#### __“Oh No” by Capone__\nLyric spotlight: *Oh, no, oh, no / Oh, no, no, no, no, no*\n\nCapone’s “Oh No” samples another classic hit, titled “Remember (Walkin' In The Sand)” by The Shangri-Las. Although the original song centers around heartbreak, the remix went viral as a backtrack to clips of hilarious tumbles, accidents, and embarrassing moments. This dramatic track could poke fun at the potential chaos that’s about to take place as guests try to receive your toss.\n\n#### __“Paper Rings” by Taylor Swift__\nLyric spotlight: *The moon is high / Like your friends were the night that we first met / Went home and tried to stalk you on the internet / Now I've read all of the books beside your bed*\n\nThis upbeat, indie-pop style track is bound to get the attention of any Swifties in the room. The comical, shameless lyrics thrive off of their relatability, which makes it a fun, danceable song choice. Plus, the pre-chorus gives you a nice countdown to throwing your [bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-included-in-a-wedding-flower-package).\n\n#### __“Oops!” by Doris Day and “My Heart Went Oops” by TIAGZ__\nLyric spotlight: *Oops! My heart went oops! / The moment that I met you / My heart went oops! / I never will forget you*\n\nThe original “Oops!,” released in 1951, gained massive popularity last year when it was sampled in a remix that went viral across social media. Not only are both guaranteed crowd-pleasers, but the repetition of ‘oops’ is bound to get some laughs as people reach—and possibly take a spill—for the bouquet.\n\nIf all else fails, and you’ve yet to find your perfect bouquet toss song, refer back to songs that you love to listen to. Anything with a catchy hook or strong beat is sure to be a hit with your guests, so sift through your playlists, test a few out, and ultimately go with the one that excites you most. If that doesn’t work out, feel free to default to Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It).”\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Plan the bouquet toss to happen at the right time during your wedding.","title":"When Does the Bouquet Toss Happen?","slug":"when-does-the-bouquet-toss-happen","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WOfALixOt36gT98mBvhuZ/2d26a3e6cae7251c96f33580729507f2/Hero_Zola__79_.jpg","altText":"When Does the Bouquet Toss Happen"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Here are some ideas to consider for alternatives to the garter toss.","title":"Garter Toss Alternatives","slug":"garter-toss-alternatives","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7bYpciTzRjg3sIkbliZu3g/43080995f1e5ee66bdb4623672d86d99/Hero_Zola__75_.jpg","altText":"Garter Toss Alternatives"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore a curated collection of songs for every moment, from the ceremony to the reception, make sure each part of your special day is filled with music and emotion.","title":"300 Best Wedding Songs for Each Moment of your Wedding Day","slug":"best-wedding-songs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Music + Entertainment","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Awof6509XGZFsc5K2GCUC/21fe8ba7b5d834a1a5812f74ceaaff16/best-wedding-songs.jpg","altText":"Couple dancing at wedding reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:02.054Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"unique-garter-toss-ideas","title":"Unique Garter Toss Ideas","excerpt":"The garter toss is one of the oldest wedding traditions, but there’s no reason why you can’t put a fresh spin on it today. Here are some unique garter toss ideas to consider.","author":"Lisa Wong Macabasco","publishedAt":"2021-02-25T21:20:01.533Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5vCldlkSaqVmUnCUor9TGH/524f12b970400351100b26be90898278/Hero_Zola__77_.jpg","altText":"Unique Garter Toss Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Have the groom show off his dance moves and receive approval from the bride before the garter removal.\n- Choose another item to throw: the boutonniere, a hat or veil; or a stuffed animal. It can be anything that has meaning to you.\n- Present the bouquet to the couple that’s been married the longest and the garter to the couple married most recently. ","body":"The garter toss, where a groom takes off a bride’s garter and throws it to an angling mob of single male guests, is one of the oldest [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions) practiced today. But, while it may date from medieval times, there’s no reason why you can’t put a fresh and fun spin on it today. Here are some unique ideas to consider as a garter toss alternative.\n\n### Have the Groom Show Off His Moves\n \n![Unique Garter Toss Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/52Vu6SPKsPa7VpX0VF9jq6/12554b04eaf91884c7b559e4d702b36a/inline_kaleb_fulton_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Kaleb Fulton Photography\n\nMake the groom dance to a fun or silly song to receive approval from the bride before the garter removal. When the dance is over, the bride will give a thumbs up (meaning that he can proceed with the garter removal) or thumbs down (meaning that he has to try again).\n\n### Score Points With Sports Fans\nFor sports buffs: Attach the garter to a ball, have the DJ put on a familiar sports theme, and throw it (gently) into the crowd. \n\n### Up the Ante\nFasten some money or lottery tickets to the garter to intensify the motivation for guests to go for it. Including a bottle of wine or booze for the garter winner can also amp up the enticement. \n\n### Put It in a Piñata\nPlace the garter in a piñata (filled with glitter, candy, etc.) and have blindfolded guests take turns giving it a whack.\n\n### Remove Everything and the Kitchen Sink\nAn idea for the jokesters—make it a garter toss that guests will remember. Hide other items under the bridal dress: a rubber chicken, old newspapers, a bowling ball, anything really! Remove them with a flourish before finally producing the garter.\n\n### Throw Something Else \nThe entire point of the garter toss is to make a winner out of one of the single ladies or men. (The idea goes that the person who catches the garter will have good luck and be the next to be married.) But if you feel less than comfortable with the idea, choose another item to throw: the boutonniere; a hat or veil; a small pillow (the ring pillow, perhaps) or stuffed animal; a bag of your favorite coffee, tea, or candies. It can be anything not too heavy or fragile that has meaning for you.\n\n### Test Guests’ Knowledge of the Couple \nSee how well wedding guests know the bride and groom with a short series of trivia questions about their habits and tastes, how they met, etc. Whoever answers the most questions correctly wins.\n\n### Get the Kids Involved\nGather up the kids at the wedding, and affix a small bill to the garter before throwing it toward them. \n\n### Play It Hot-Potato Style\nPass the garter around, as the DJ, blindfolded, plays a song. When the DJ pauses the song, whoever is holding it is out. The last person holding the garter is the winner. \n\n### Honor Other Couples \nPresent the [wedding bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-included-in-a-wedding-flower-package) to the couple that’s been married the longest and the garter to the couple married most recently. \n\n### Skip the Tosses and Have a Dance-Off\n\n![Unique Garter Toss Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gP5irglxdxO1D9p4HWHdl/4734979267914e7ee968e8dd0fd28619/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\nDitch the garter, but keep the competitive spirit. Have a dance for the ladies and one for the gents. (Or have a free-for-all dance with everyone on the floor.) Let the crowd pick two winners by applause, then have a dance-off between them. \n\nRemember that wedding customs ebb and flow with time; they’re not set in stone, and couples should make their wedding feel personal and individual, instead of blindly following practices that mean nothing to them. Don’t forget that this is your wedding, and you have the right to tweak any wedding tradition you like—or even do away with them completely if they just don’t fit your wedding day style. \n","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Learn more about the origins and history of the bridal garter toss and the meaning behind the tradition.","title":"What Is the History of the Garter Toss?","slug":"what-is-the-history-of-the-garter-toss","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Br5EtoXs1G4dzdv8VrQLN/2bff9f001e9e129870aca180ac525250/Hero_Zola__76_.jpg","altText":"What Is the History of the Garter Toss"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Here are some ideas to consider for alternatives to the garter toss.","title":"Garter Toss Alternatives","slug":"garter-toss-alternatives","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7bYpciTzRjg3sIkbliZu3g/43080995f1e5ee66bdb4623672d86d99/Hero_Zola__75_.jpg","altText":"Garter Toss Alternatives"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering if you should do a garter toss at your wedding? Learn about the pros and cons with this complete guide.","title":"Should You Do a Garter Toss?","slug":"should-you-do-a-garter-toss","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5y9WwTLG6RlB5bVBRxIizU/e6c3417ea0f031230cec99603a90d46a/Hero_Zola__72_.jpg","altText":"Should You Do a Garter Toss"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore a curated collection of songs for every moment, from the ceremony to the reception, make sure each part of your special day is filled with music and emotion.","title":"300 Best Wedding Songs for Each Moment of your Wedding Day","slug":"best-wedding-songs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Music + Entertainment","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Awof6509XGZFsc5K2GCUC/21fe8ba7b5d834a1a5812f74ceaaff16/best-wedding-songs.jpg","altText":"Couple dancing at wedding reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:01.278Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-should-the-best-man-speech-be","title":"How Long Should the Best Man Speech Be?","excerpt":"Make sure that your best man speech isn’t too long—or too short with this guide.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2020-12-21T19:51:53.840Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZkjIHIJVZsSENJUhhROPt/d25fb38281560f02e0a17575edde29ac/Inline_OneLove_Photography__1_.png","altText":"best man at wedding"},"heroCredit":"OneLove Photography","body":"When you’re writing your [best man speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech) for a wedding celebration, there are a lot of things to consider. And, one of the most important factors that you’ll want to consider when writing your speech, is the length.\n\nSo, how long should a best man speech be? There’s no exact formula for how long the best man speech should be—but there are definitely tips to keep in mind when you’re figuring out how long (or how not-so-long) you want your speech to run at the [wedding reception.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline)\n\nBut, what exactly are those factors?\n\n## Your Best Man Wedding Speech Shouldn’t Be Too Long\n\n![How Long Should the Best Man Speech Be?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Tr0X7WwqJqCkIsOc9fUA8/a0dc73175caf7dadd19a49dd910e1edf/Inline_Zola__3_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nChances are that there are many things that you want to say to the newly married couple on their wedding day. You may want to share some of your favorite memories with the [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests), recount a few funny stories, or talk about how excited you are for the couple as they begin their new life together as a married couple.\n\nBut, even though you have a lot to say during the wedding celebration, you don’t want to take a lot of time to say it.\n\nThere are a lot of events that need to happen at a wedding—and time can be tight. The last thing you want to do is monopolize 45 minutes of the reception with your wedding speech. Not only does it cut into other important wedding activities (such as cocktail hour or dancing), but it can also be a drag for wedding guests to have to sit through a long wedding toast. Remember—they came to *celebrate* the newlyweds, not to listen to you *talk about* the happy couple.\n\n## But, It Shouldn’t Be Too Short, Either\n\nIf your best man speech goes too long, you risk taking time away from other speakers at the wedding reception—and losing the attention of the wedding guests.\n\nBut, just because you don’t want your speech to go too long doesn’t mean that you should go to the other extreme—and give a speech so short that, if the couple blinks, they’ll miss it.\n\n[Being the best man is a big deal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-man-duties); the groom (or bride, if you’re on the bride’s side of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list)) asked you to be the best man because you’re an important part of their life—and that should be reflected in your best man speech. If you’ve been honored with the best man role, no matter if you’re a brother or a close friend, it’s essential that you prepare a good speech for the big day. \n\nIf your speech is too short—as in “a minute or less” short—chances are that you’re not going to be able to say all of the things that you want to say. There’s a high likelihood that your speech is going to feel rushed or impersonal—which could not only cause the guests to become disinterested, but could also hurt the couple’s feelings.\n\nBottom line? You don’t want your speech to drag on for hours—but you also don’t want it to be over so fast that it barely has a chance to register with the [newlyweds]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-things-you-should-do-as-a-newlywed) and wedding guests.\n\n![How Long Should the Best Man Speech Be?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ZkjIHIJVZsSENJUhhROPt/d25fb38281560f02e0a17575edde29ac/Inline_OneLove_Photography__1_.png) *Photo Credit* // OneLove Photography\n\n## What’s the Right Length for Your Best Man Wedding Speech?\n\nAs mentioned, there’s no exact formula for how long your best man speech should be on the big day.\n\nBut, as a general rule of thumb, when you’re writing your best man speech, you should take what we like to call “the Goldilocks approach” to speech length: not too long, not too short, but *just right.*\n\nAnd, just right is somewhere between two and five minutes. Two to five minutes gives you a good amount of time to move through your speech—whether you want to crack a few jokes, share a few stories, or simply propose a toast to the newlyweds. But, it’s not so much time that you’re likely to ramble or have the audience looking at their watches, wondering when you’re going to be done talking. It’s the perfect balance.\n\nOne thing to keep in mind as you’re writing your speech, depending on how fast you speak, is what you think two to five minutes worth of words on the page translates to in speaking time. So, if you want to make sure that your speech falls into that “just right” range, make sure that you practice it a few times before the big day. \n\nNailing the length of your best man speech is important. But, ultimately, the most important aspect of your speech is what you say. So, make sure that you keep your speech to a reasonable length, but also make sure that your speech conveys all the love you want to share with the happy couple. \n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"So you’ve been chosen to be the best man, but what does that mean? Don’t worry, the experts at Zola have you covered with a guide on all the best man’s duties.","title":"Best Man Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-best-man-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6yUj6IlflBg9sNoDqUzo3A/be91a8e185bce29c9ba599a4207728f6/Best-Man-Duties_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"best man adjusts collar pin for groom in military attire"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know to practice proper groomsmen etiquette is up on the blog. 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Explore a range of affordable groomsmen gift ideas that combine quality and sentiment.","title":"31 Best Groomsmen Gifts Under $50 ","slug":"awesome-groomsmen-gift-ideas-under-$50","topic":"Registry & gifts","tag":"Groom's Crew","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4yhXOZSnldUBEUZU52aphD/513cf7259a63b0b157aba45c9222d2ee/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"six Brown glasses with mustaches"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know about budgeting for a groomsmen gift.\n","title":"How Much Should I Spend on a Groomsmen Gift?","slug":"how-much-should-i-spend-on-a-groomsmen-gift","topic":"Registry & gifts","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xKIEKjiC1kXCEfeB0jPFB/0637c14f4330b6d34cfb6aa3c6770dc0/inline_unsplash.jpg","altText":"groomsmen gifts "},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:00.418Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"irish-wedding-toast","title":"Irish Wedding Toast","excerpt":"Irish wedding toasts date all the way back to the 17th century. Want to incorporate these into your modern wedding? Learn more with Zola.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-07-12T16:21:34.700Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2sSYHc6KgLev9DVCI5uSCY/2cff0276cf37890ac8518b0bd39e085f/Hero_IrishHertiageInspiredWeddinginCharleston_ReeseMoorePhotography.jpg","altText":"Irish Wedding Toast"},"heroCredit":"Reese Moore Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are many types of Irish wedding toasts. Some couples may utilize the short, humorous phrases, while others prefer the more traditional poetry-style blessings. \n- An Irish wedding toast may be given by the best man, the maid of honor, or the parents of the couple. Irish blessings can even be incorporated into the officiant’s remarks or the couple’s vows. \n- Toasts are typically given during the dinner portion of the evening, or following the cake cutting. Toasts should honor the couple, wish them a successful marriage, and remain appropriate for the event. \n- You can include your Irish wedding toast on your [wedding program](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop) by using one of Zola’s customizable design templates.","body":"# Traditional Irish Wedding Blessings & Toast\n\nIrish culture is full of expressive traditions. Many of these [traditions are enjoyed and celebrated around the world](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-couples-are-integrating-culture-into-their-weddings-in-2022), particularly those related to love and marriage. Whether you plan on getting reciting your wedding vows on the Emerald Isle, or you’re an Irish American looking to reconnect with your Celtic roots, Irish toasts (like “May God be with you and bless you, may you see your children's children”) make a great addition to any wedding celebration.\n\nAs with any cultural tradition, it’s important to fully understand the significance of an Irish wedding toast. From the history to the intentions, there’s a lot to learn about this affectionate practice.\n\nFortunately, the experts at Zola have insider knowledge of these Celtic celebrations. Because if there’s one thing we know, it’s weddings.\n\nThis guide will cover everything you need to know about Irish wedding toasts, from their history to their modern usage: \n\n- [History of Irish Wedding Toasts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/irish-wedding-toast#history)\n- [Common Irish Toasts and Blessings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/irish-wedding-toast#types)\n- [How to Give an Irish Wedding Toast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/irish-wedding-toast#given)\n- [Other Irish Wedding Traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/irish-wedding-toast#other)\n\n## History of Irish Wedding Toasts \n\nWedding toasts date back as early as the sixth century. Toasting at weddings was originally done to splash liquid from one glass to another, assuring guests that the wine was free from poison. Fast forward a few centuries, and the purpose of toasts became more celebratory and less survivalist. \n\nTraditional Irish wedding toasts began sometime around the 17th century. The act of raising a glass was originally done as an offering to the Celtic gods. This is why many Irish wedding toasts come in the form of blessings.\n\nThroughout the years, Irish wedding practices remained popular for several reasons. Irish blessings are said to bring good luck to a newly married couple and set them up for a long, happy marriage as they embark on their new life. \n\nIrish toasts are often well-versed, pleasant, and to the point. And because so many Americans are of Irish descent, this Irish wedding tradition tends to be popular in the United States.\n\n## Common Irish Toasts and Blessings \n\nNow that you have a little background information, it’s time for the fun part: choosing your toast.\n\nIrish culture contains a diverse set of toasts, blessings, and proverbs, so couples have plenty of options when deciding on the perfect toast for their celebration. From short, light-hearted quips to longer poems and religious blessings, here are some of the most popular Irish wedding toasts and traditional Irish wedding blessings:\n\n### Irish Toasts\nFor a quick toast that will fit into any wedding celebration, these traditional Irish phrases are funny, sweet, and always charming. The following toasts can be used at the beginning or end of speeches, or even randomly throughout the reception:\n\n- *“May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been, the foresight to know where you’re going, and the insight to know when you’re going too far.”*\n\n- *“That the sound of happy music and the lilt of Irish laughter fill your heart with gladness, that stays forever after.”*\n\n- *“‘Tis glad I am, and glad I’ll be, knowing you like the likes of me.”*\n\n- *“Here’s to the groom with the bride so fair, and here’s to the bride with the groom so rare!”*\n- \n- \"May you always have money in your pocket, a woman to love, and a smile on your face.\"\n\n### Gaelic Toasts\nIf you’re committed to reciting a toast in the Gaelic language, you’ll want to rehearse quite a bit beforehand. Fortunately, many of these toasts are short and easy to grasp, so you won’t be studying for too long. Below are some popular Gaelic toasts to help celebrate the happy couple:\n\n- “__*Sláinte chuig na fir, agus go mairfidh na mná go deo”*__ – Translation: Health to the men and may the women live forever!\n\n- __*“Beannacht Dé leat” – Translation:*__ God’s blessing on you!\n\n- __*“Go n-éirí an bóthar leat”__ –* Translation: May your journey be successful. \n\n- __*“Mo sheacht mbeannacht ort” –*__ Translation: My seven blessings on you.\n\n- __*“Sliocht sleachta ar shliocht bhur sleachta” –*__ Translation: Blessings on your prosperity.\n\n### “May You” Blessings\nMany Irish toasts follow a similar pattern, starting with the phrase “may you.” These blessings are simple, easy to understand, and often flow like poems. If you’re looking for something short to include in a speech or your vows, give some of these Irish blessings a try:\n\n__Good Weather Blessing__\nThis blessing wishes mild weather on the married couple, acting as a symbol for good days to come:\n\n “May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow\n May the soft winds freshen your spirit\n May the sunshine brighten your heart\n May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you\n And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.”\n\n__Short Rhyme Blessing__\nThis toast is short, sweet, and—best of all—it rhymes. Use this to cap off a best man or maid of honor speech:\n\n “May your troubles be less,\n And your blessings be more.\n And nothing but happiness,\n Come through your door.”\n\n__Blessing for Children__\nParents of the couple can recite this blessing in hopes of a future filled with grandchildren:\n\n \"May all your troubles be little ones\n and all your little ones be trouble-free.\"\n\n__Community Blessing__\nA strong sense of community is important in Irish culture. This blessing is a great way to kick off a happy marriage, especially for couples who are moving into their first home together:\n\n \"May your neighbors respect you\n May trouble neglect you\n May the angels protect you\n And may heaven accept you.\"\n\n### Longer Blessings\nIf you’re looking for a longer Celtic wedding blessings to use as a toast, there are plenty of beautiful options to choose from. These toasts work well during the reception dinner, given by family or members of the bridal party. Take a look at some of these lengthy and articulate Irish blessings:\n\n__Traditional Irish Blessing__\nThis blessing is a bit longer, giving you more to work with when crafting a speech. The traditional Irish blessing covers many aspects of marriage, thus sending the couple off with nothing but optimism and joy:\n\n “I wish healing upon you\n The healing of Mary with me,\n Mary, Michael, and Brighid\n Be with me all three.\n\n Fly with the birds of the air\n Fly with the wasps of the hill\n Swim with the sea-going whale\n For they are swiftest\n\n Be upon the clouds of the sky\n For they are the rainiest\n Be upon the river’s current\n Cascading to the sea”\n\n__Welsh Love Poem__\nThis Welsh love poem dates back to the 14th century, but the sentiment remains true even in modern-day relationships:\n\n “It was sweet, sweetheart, a while\n Beneath the birchgrove’s shade to live.\n To cuddle up was even sweeter,\n In the wood’s retreat close hidden,\n Wandering hand in hand along the seashore\n Lingering hand in hand along the wood shore\n Lying beside each other in the grove,\n Mutually shunning folk, complicit in a complaint,\n Living together with kindness, quaffing mead,\n Resting in each other’s love, one heart,\n Keeping tryst with love’s secret.”\n\n__Blessing of a Lover__\nThis long-form blessing reads like a beautiful poem, and it’s the perfect toast for the married couple to share with one another:\n\n *“You are the star of each night,*\n *You are the brightness of every morning*\n *You are the story of each guest*\n *You are the report of every land*\n\n *No evil shall befall you*\n * on hill nor bank,*\n *In field or valley*\n *On mountain or in glen*\n\n *Neither above nor below*\n *Neither in sea nor on shore*\n *In skies above*\n *Nor in the depths*\n\n *You are the kernel of my heart*\n *You are the fact of my sun*\n *You are the harp of my music*\n *You are the crown of my company.”* \n\n__The Closing Blessing__\nThis long-form blessing is perfect for an end-of-the-night toast. Family or friends may give this toast following the cutting of the cake or when sending off the newlyweds on their honeymoon:\n\n*“May the meaning of this hour be fulfilled through the days and years to come.*\n*May the love of this man and this woman, their unity of spirit, grow deeper and stronger in the uncertainties and changes of life they will share.*\n Loving each other, may they love all persons. \n *Trusting each other, may they learn to trust life.* \n*May their love reach out to the love of all, that their lives may bless all whose lives they touch.* \n*May they find comfort together in shared hours of shadow, as well as in the bright sunshine of joy.* \n *May they be to each other both strong and gentle.* \n*May all who follow their lives with interest and affection have cause to rejoice not alone in their happiness, but in their brave and generous living which makes life beautiful and significant.”*\n\n## How to Give an Irish Wedding Toast \n\nMost Irish toasts tend to be on the shorter side, so you may want to add them onto the end of a longer speech you’ve prepared. This will add more bulk to your toast, particularly for important family and bridal party members—such as the best man, maid of honor, or parents of the couple. \n\nWhen it comes to giving a proper Irish wedding speech, there are a few things to keep in mind. \n\n### Toast Etiquette \n\nFirst and foremost, a quick crash course in giving toasts: \n\n__Timing:__ A toast should be given at the wedding reception, typically during the dinner portion of the evening or after cutting the cake. Attempting to give a toast [during the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-keep-family-involved-in-wedding-traditions-during-the-ceremony) or cocktail hour can result in an awkward interruption, and later in the evening, people may be too busy busting a move to properly listen.\n\n- __Drink:__ While your drink of choice is ultimately up to you, a traditional wedding toast is done with Champagne or sparkling wine. For Irish weddings, whiskey, Guinness, and Baileys have commonly enjoyed beverages, as well.\n\n- __Schedule:__ Most weddings follow a certain schedule when it comes to toasts. The first toasts are usually made by the best man and maid of honor. Then, the couple themselves will get up and give a loving toast to one another. Finally, the parents of the couple will give a speech thanking everyone for coming, particularly if they’re hosting the wedding. \n\n- __Right Hand:__ Sorry lefties, but a traditional wedding toast is meant to be given with a full drink in the right hand. Of course, this is simply a fun tradition that can easily be modified if needed.\n\n- __Keep It Appropriate:__ Everyone has different standards for what is wedding appropriate, but a toast should generally be tasteful, respectful, and full of good wishes. You also want to make sure your toast stays within an appropriate time frame to give others a chance to speak.\n\nIn terms of timing and schedule, you can make things easy for eager toasters by posting the day’s schedule on your wedding website. Don’t have your site live yet? No problem. With Zola’s easy-to-use [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) builder, you can start with a ready-made design, customize it with photos of your love, and quickly share it with friends and loved ones.\n\n### Celtic vs. English\nIreland’s rich history has led to a mixture of languages throughout the country’s culture. Although many Irish blessings can be read in English, older ones are often recited in Celtic languages—particularly Gaelic. \n\nWhile sticking with tradition is great, it’s also good to know your limits. If the person giving the toast isn’t familiar with the Gaelic language, it may lead to confusion or awkwardness. \n\nOverall, incorporating English will generally be helpful among mixed companies. If you’d like to incorporate a traditional Gaelic blessing, consider explaining the translation within your speech. This can open the door for an interesting and heartfelt conclusion to the toast. \n\n### Prepare Guests\nBy adding the actual words for the blessing or toast to your program, guests may have an easier time following along and understanding the meaning of the tradition. Your loved ones want to be involved in the day’s events, and this is an easy way to make them feel included. \n\nCouples can add their Irish toast to the [wedding program](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/programs/shop) by using one of Zola’s customizable card templates. These stylish designs will help keep everything organized and punctual, without sacrificing any aesthetic elements.\n\n## Other Irish Wedding Traditions \n\nIn addition to a toast, some couples may opt for an all-out Irish [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/couples-top-wedding-themes), incorporating other Irish [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions) into their celebration. \n\nTo help you celebrate your Irish marriage, here are some of the other popular Irish wedding traditions you may want to consider for your big day: \n\n- __Embellishing Your Dress:__ It’s traditional for Irish brides to incorporate Celtic symbols into their wedding gown, typically in the form of professionally embroidered knots, shamrocks, and crosses. \n\n- __Wearing a Kilt:__ Similar to Scottish ceremonies, an Irish groom may wear a unique type of kilt on their wedding day. The kilt can be accompanied by an authentic Irish warrior jacket, or a simple dress shirt and tuxedo jacket for a more relaxed look.\n\n- __Tying the Knot:__ Taking place during the wedding ceremony, this Irish wedding tradition involves tying the couple's hands together using a ribbon or rope. For a more simplified version, some couples choose to tie only their right hands together. \n\n- __Wedding Bells:__ In Irish culture, the sound of wedding bells is said to ward off evil spirits. \n\n- __Claddagh Ring:__ Claddagh rings, which feature two hands surrounding a heart to signify the couple’s sacred vow, are traditional Irish wedding bands. For an authentic Irish ceremony, the ring is placed on the left hand with the heart facing away from the body.\n\n## Celebrate Your Big Day With These Irish Wedding Traditions\nOverall, Irish traditions can be a wonderful addition to any wedding reception. Irish and non-Irish couples alike can enjoy the romantic, hopeful, and exciting customs that exist within this culture.\n\nFrom well-known toasts to the phrase “tying the knot,” it’s clear that Ireland has made a significant impact on modern wedding practices. If you’re looking for a way to make your wedding unique, Irish traditions are a great way to do this.\n\n## Zola: Your Wedding Good Luck Charm\nIrish customs often surround the idea of luck. But couples won’t need any luck when they plan their wedding with Zola.\n\nZola’s wedding tools are designed to make [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) easy. From [stylish programs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to [free wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), all of your information will be organized, accessible, and attractive. If you’re in search of a venue, photographer, or caterer, look no further than Zola’s list of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) in cities around the country.\n\nSay slán to stress, and say dia dhuit to your dream Irish wedding with Zola.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Whether or not you should get married in a banquet hall depends on you and your partners’ preferences. 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Our handy list below will help you navigate both the obvious and not-so-obvious elements of common wedding guest etiquette. And when in doubt, it’s always best to ask the couple any pressing questions. \n\n## 1. RSVP Promptly \nWedding invitations are mailed six to eight weeks before the wedding date (12 weeks prior for most destination weddings), and couples typically request that you RSVP at least four weeks before the big day. \n\nWhile this is done so guests can plan in advance to be able to attend, the RSVP date also helps the couple work through some critical wedding planning elements. Solidifying things like seating charts, headcounts for the caterer, and numbers for furniture rentals all rest upon the number of guests attending, which is why RSVPs are kind of a big deal. One of the first rules of proper wedding guest etiquette is getting your RSVP in on time—sending it in late means you’re making people scramble last minute to accommodate you. \n\n__Nuptial no-no:__ Sending your RSVP card late—or not at all\n\n## 2. Fill Out the RSVP Card Accurately \nWhether the couple includes a paper RSVP card in their wedding invitation suite or requests that you respond digitally on their wedding website, it’s important to fill in all of the requested information. This might include noting your food choices, checking “will attend” or “will not attend” boxes, and including the full names of all the guests in your party who will be attending (if you were given a plus-one). Whatever information is requested, be sure to fill each section out before sending it off. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Forgetting to fill in part of the RSVP card \n\n## 3. Communicate Dietary Restrictions Early \nIn addition to listing meal options, some RSVP cards include a space for you to note any food allergies or dietary restrictions you may have. If the one you received doesn’t, it’s up to you to reach out to the couple and let them know ahead of time. If done far enough in advance, this shouldn’t be an issue for the couple to arrange. Asking for a gluten-free plate or [vegan meal option](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/vegan-wedding) as you’re being served at the reception is a different story. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Changing your meal order last minute \n\n## 4. Don’t Assume You Can Bring a Plus-One \nBelieve us when we say that hashing out the guest list is one of the most painstaking parts of the wedding planning process. While plus-one invitation etiquette can be confusing, a good rule of thumb is to never make assumptions. Before extending your invitation to a partner, friend, or family member, take a close look at how the invitation is worded. The standard etiquette to abide by is that only the names addressed on the invitation are invited. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Bringing a plus-one who wasn’t invited \n\n## 5. Don’t Assume Kids Are Invited \nIf your wedding invitation explicitly mentions “adults only,” you don’t need to wonder whether or not you can bring your kids to the wedding. However, some consider this to be bad etiquette and will leave it to you to interpret the wording on the invitation. If it’s addressed to “The Cooper Family,” it’s safe to assume that the whole family is welcome. If not, be sure to leave the little ones at home. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Bringing your kids who weren’t included in the wedding invitation \n\n## 6. Check Out Their Wedding Website \nBefore you reach out to the couple with any questions you might have, explore their [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) first if they have one. The couple has a lot on their plate, and their wedding website serves as a hub for any information you might need, from travel arrangements to the dress code. This thoughtfully curated resource is intended to help their guests, so avoid reaching out to the couple directly for answers to a question that’s likely already covered on their site. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Asking questions that have already been answered on the wedding website \n\n![Asking-questions-before-checking-wedding-site (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1CEBGpXzRV37bqaMYlWmpq/b6ad1daab5bdf7423155a370891b9ca1/Asking-questions-before-checking-wedding-site__1_.png)\n## 7. Choose Your Wedding Gift From the Couple’s Registry \nSpeaking of gift-giving etiquette, a good rule of thumb when deciding on your gift is to rely on the couple’s [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). While it’s not uncommon for well-meaning friends or family to purchase something they think the couple will really love that wasn’t listed on the registry, the wedding registry exists for a reason. It’s filled with specific items the couple actually needs and wants, and while you might think that cutlery set just isn’t exciting or heartfelt enough, the couple will be thrilled. Try your best to limit your gift options to what’s on the wedding registry! \n\nIf the couple is using Zola's registry, the couple has the option to choose when gifts are shipped to them—meaning you don't need to worry about figuring that out as a guest. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Buying a wedding gift that’s not on the couple’s registry \n\n## 8. Follow the Dress Code \n[design: downloadable attire guides]\n\nA wedding dress code exists for a reason, and any gracious guest should do their best to follow it. This is a wedding, after all! While a formal or casual dress code is fairly self-explanatory, always use your best judgment when it comes to your fashion choices while keeping common etiquette in mind. Guests should avoid wearing white (unless instructed otherwise), and all guests should avoid wearing anything flashy or provocative (again, unless instructed otherwise). \n\nYou should be able to find the wedding dress code on your wedding invitation or on the couple’s wedding website, but if you’re still wondering what’s appropriate and what’s not, be sure to consider things like the season, time of day, and location. A [spring brunch wedding typically calls for softer colors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-spring-wedding) and lighter suits for men, while an evening black-tie wedding means darker shades and longer hemlines for women. For more wedding guest dress code tips, jump to our visual below!\n\n__Nuptial No:__ Ignoring the dress code\n\n## 9. Arrive to the Ceremony on Time \nIf punctuality isn’t your strong suit, you’ll need to make an extra effort when the wedding day rolls around. Fashionably late simply doesn’t apply to weddings. Your best bet is to arrive at the [ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) early so you can take in the venue and take your seat on time. We recommend planning to arrive 30 minutes before the ceremony start time—this gives you a buffer for unexpected traffic or delays. \n\nIf you do arrive after the ceremony has begun, try and find the coordinator for instructions on getting to your seat. If you show up during the processional, you’ll need to wait until the couple reaches the altar before discreetly finding your seat. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Showing up after the ceremony has begun\n\n## 10. Attend Both the Ceremony and Reception \nUnless you’ve made prior arrangements and let the couple know in advance, wedding guests should plan to attend both the ceremony and the reception. You shouldn’t try to attend only one or the other unless you truly have a scheduling issue—after all, the couple intentionally made an effort to include you in witnessing their special day. \n\nIf something comes up on the wedding day that will cause you to miss the event, call the hosts as soon as you can to inform them. RSVPing and then not showing up without letting anyone know is considered poor taste and should be avoided at all costs. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Skipping the ceremony, then showing up for the reception \n\n## 11. When in Doubt, Put Your Phone Away \nKnowing when to put your phone away is key to being a considerate guest, especially during the ceremony. Unless otherwise instructed, silence your phone or turn it off completely as soon as you arrive—you don’t want to be the person whose phone goes off the moment the ceremony begins. This applies to snapping photos during the ceremony, too—the couple already invested in a photographer, and taking your own photos only makes their job more difficult. \n\nWhile most guests can expect to keep their phones stowed away during the ceremony, some couples will choose to embrace technology with a wedding hashtag. If they have one, do your best to capture some sweet moments at the reception and share them using the hashtag. The couple will love having those moments to look back on, and they’ll appreciate guests who participated in using their unique hashtag. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Playing paparazzi during the ceremony \n\n![playing-paparazzi-during-ceremony (3)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ox7bGAQiWDeAS3Ry8tCoi/1b26310acba2d2930738d5f246a31aac/playing-paparazzi-during-ceremony__3_.png)\n\n## 12. Follow the Seating Chart\nIf you see a seating chart or name place cards at the reception, it’s important to follow them. The couple has likely pored over seating arrangements based on different dynamics like personalities, life stages, and relationships. It’s never OK to swap your place cards or break from the seating chart, and respecting the seating chart helps keep the flow of the event intact. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Sitting in a different seat than you were assigned \n\n## 13. Be Considerate of the Venue\nWhile the couple will undoubtedly appreciate their guests having fun at the reception, don’t forget that you’re partying on rented property. The couple has a deposit on the line, and every guest should do their part in respecting the space. Aside from common sense (don’t break anything), this also includes not taking anything home from the venue (yes, people do that). You never know what items are rentals that need to be returned by the end of the night, and the responsibility for those missing items will fall on the couple. Make it easy for them by respecting the venue. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Treating the venue carelessly\n\n## 14. If You Drink, Do So Responsibly \nThe open bar is to be enjoyed, not abused. While the couple wants you to have fun, maintaining proper decorum and knowing your limits is especially important at an event like a wedding. An open bar is provided by the couple as a courtesy, and you can show your gratitude by taking care to pace yourself. Similarly, excessive drinking can really become a problem when it’s time to leave—make sure you have a ride lined up beforehand to avoid putting yourself and others in a dangerous situation. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Abusing the open bar \n\n## 15. Keep Speeches Short\nIf you’ve been asked to give a toast or speech at any point in the day, aim to keep it brief. That doesn’t mean it can’t still be touching and eloquent, but shorter is always better when it comes to toasts and speeches. Try focusing on one story or message, and keep it around five minutes or less. The goal is to [share something from the heart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-maid-of-honor-speech), not leave guests checking their watches as the speech drags out beyond what’s appropriate. \n\n__Nuptial no-no:__ Dragging your speech out too long\n\n## 16. Socialize With Others \nAs a guest, an event like a wedding usually means a lot of new faces. While you aren’t expected to introduce yourself to every single person, you should probably avoid sulking in the corner while everyone else is socializing and dancing. Make an effort to introduce yourself to the guests seated at your table and say hello to the couple’s family. It goes a long way in showing your appreciation for all the hard work the couple put in to bring the day to life! \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Not making an effort to introduce yourself to new faces \n\n## 17. Don’t Leave Your Wedding Favor Behind\nSure, you might not need another Koozie or that personalized set of matches, but the couple put time, thought, and effort (not to mention money) into those wedding favors. It’s how many couples show their appreciation for your presence on their special day, so avoid leaving them behind. If it’s not something you really want, you can always take it with you and toss it once the day is over. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Leaving your wedding favor behind because you don’t want it \n\n## 18. Congratulate the Couple’s Families \nIf you want to be a gracious guest, make a point to say hello to the couple’s parents and congratulate them on the special occasion. If you’ve never met them before, make an effort to introduce yourself and tell them how you know the couple. It’s likely that the couple’s parents had a hand in making the wedding day possible, so expressing your appreciation won’t go unnoticed. \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Forgetting to congratulate the couple’s families \n\n![forgetting-to-congratulate-couples-families (2)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3FEZQo8mTD6Gwxbp2qFGwC/6143d4f653189362aae7055ca1db0a4c/forgetting-to-congratulate-couples-families__2_.png)\n## 19. Savor the Day and Be Present\nSimilar to making an effort to socialize with others, a key part of being an outstanding wedding guest is being actively engaged in all aspects of the event. The couple hand-picked you to join in the festivities, and being present and engaged with whatever is thrown your way will mean more to them than you know. This includes everything from hitting the dance floor as soon as the couple invites guests to join to signing the guest book. None of this should feel like a chore—the point is to enjoy yourself and let the couple know it! \n\n__Nuptial No:__ Acting bored or uninterested \n\nWhile the social graces and rules of wedding guest etiquette are plentiful, they’re not hard to follow. With the amount of time, money, and effort couples pour into their special day, making an effort to be a thoughtful and accommodating guest goes a lot further than you think. At the end of the day, you’re there to celebrate and support the happy couple, and your gracious attitude is a simple way to show that support. The newlyweds will thank you! \n\n![Wedding-guest-style-guides](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/471wJNZJjVUN90FhPhd0Au/e47e3c7fb4ab4ffa071ecb194304ba08/Wedding-guest-style-guides.jpg)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:58.652Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple","title":"Traditional Wedding Vows for the Timeless Couple","excerpt":"Looking to recite traditional wedding vows on your special day? Read on for tips and examples from the Zola team. ","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2020-10-20T18:55:03.313Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1qHXXN17gcRJpiJkyqnG3F/db55b212c6252df029e3473defcbf905/hero_unsplash33.jpg","altText":"Traditional Wedding Vows for the Timeless Couple - couple on train rails"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"If, on your wedding day, you want to express your unique story while paying homage to your background, utilizing [wedding vows]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows) customary for your culture or religion is a great way to tap into tradition. \n\nBut crafting these vows isn’t always as easy as picking a passage from a book. Sometimes it takes tweaking and finessing to find words that really resonate. Take your time—this process is a marathon, not a sprint. \n\nAnd if you’re really feeling stuck, these [wedding vow examples](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) can help you get started. Or, take a look at the traditional wedding vows below for more ideas. And always keep in mind: Many modern weddings allow couples to alter the wording slightly to better suit their relationship, so chat with your officiant if you’d like to make any important edits prior to exchanging your “I dos.”\n\n### Apache\n*In Apache tradition, there isn’t normally an exchange of verbal vows. Instead, a beautiful blessing is read to the couple at the wedding ceremony*:\n\n“Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.”\n\n“Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulties, and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives—remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.”\n\n### Baptist\n*Baptist couples have two options when planning a traditional wedding. Depending on your ceremony, venue, and/or personal preferences, go with whichever version feels best for your wedding day. First, there’s a call and response:*\n\n__Officiant:__ \"Will you, have _____ to be your (wife/husband)? Will you love (her/him), comfort and keep (her/him), and forsaking all others remain true to (her/him), as long as you both shall live?\"\n\n__Bride/Groom:__ \"I will.\"\n\n*Additionally, there’s a short, one-line vow that can be said by both partners:*\n\n“I, _____, take thee, to be my (wife/husband), and before God and these witnesses, I promise to be a faithful and true (husband/wife).”\n\n### Buddhist\n*The Tibetan Buddhist vows are longer than some other religions, but the beautiful promises create a truly breathtaking ceremony. The couple answers “we do” in unison to the traditional vows read aloud by the officiant:*\n\n__Officiant:__ “_____ and _____ do you pledge to help each other to develop your hearts and minds, cultivating compassion, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiasm, concentration, and wisdom as you age and undergo the various ups and downs of life and to transform them into the path of love, compassion, joy, and equanimity?”\n\n__Bride/Groom:__ \"We do.\"\n\n__Officiant__: “Recognizing that the external conditions in life will not always be smooth and that internally your own minds and emotions will sometimes get stuck in negativity, do you pledge to see all these circumstances as a challenge to help you grow, to open your hearts, to accept yourselves, and each other; and to generate compassion for others who are suffering?”\n\n__Bride/Groom:__ \"We do.\"\n\n__Officiant:__ “Understanding that just as we are a mystery to ourselves, each other person is also a mystery to us, do you pledge to seek to understand yourselves, each other, and all living beings, to examine your own minds continually and to regard all the mysteries of life with curiosity and joy?”\n\n__Bride/Groom:__ \"We do.\"\n\n__Officiant__: “Do you pledge to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to share it with all beings? To take the loving feelings you have for one another and your vision of each other's potential and inner beauty as an example and rather than spiraling inwards and becoming self-absorbed, to radiate this love outwards to all beings?”\n\n__Bride/Groom__: \"We do.\"\n\n### Catholic\n*Prior to the actual vows, Catholic couples usually answer (in the form of “yes” or “I will”) three questions asked by the priest:*\n\n\"_____ and _____, have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?\"\n\n\"Will you honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?\"\n\n\"Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?\"\n\n*After the questions, the couple then continues onto the wedding vows themselves. These can either be recited, in turn, from memory or can be repeated back to the priest, phrase by phrase:*\n\n\"I, _____, take you, _____, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.\"\n\n![Traditional Wedding Vows For the Timeless Couple](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/HBb8T3nhgcYhZ7Hlfmacr/20262a943885cf544d0981009f546959/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Cherokee\n*While Cherokees don’t have an “answer and repeat” style wedding vow, these wedding ceremonies do feature a traditional blessing:*\n\n“God in heaven above please protect the ones we love. We honor all you created as we pledge our hearts and lives together. We honor Mother Earth and ask for our marriage to be abundant and grow stronger through the seasons. We honor fire and ask that our union be warm and glowing with love in our hearts. We honor wind and ask that we sail through life safe and calm as in our fathers' arms. We honor water to clean and soothe our relationship—that it may never thirst for love. With all the forces of the universe you created, we pray for harmony as we grow forever young together. Amen.”\n\n### Eastern Orthodox\n*In the Orthodox church, it’s common to utilize silent vows during the ceremony. In the Russian tradition, however, the following traditional marriage vows are spoken aloud:*\n\n\"I, ---------, take you, ----------, as my wedded wife/husband and I promise you love, honor, and respect; to be faithful to you, and not to forsake you until death do us part. So help me God, one in the Holy Trinity and all the Saints.\"\n\n### Episcopal\n*While personalized or modified vows are welcome in Episcopal ceremonies, depending on the venue, the language of the wedding itself comes from the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer:*\n\n\"In the name of God, I, _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death. This is my solemn vow.\"\n\n### Hindu\n*Technically there are no \"vows\" in the Western sense during a traditional Hindu wedding ceremony. Instead, the Saptha Padhi (Seven Steps) around a flame—to honor the fire god, Agni— showcases and binds the promises the couple makes to each other. As they walk around the flame together, they recite the following:*\n\n- Let us take the first step to provide for our household a nourishing and pure diet, avoiding those foods injurious to healthy living.\n- Let us take the second step to develop physical, mental, and spiritual powers.\n- Let us take the third step to increase our wealth by righteous means and proper use.\n- Let us take the fourth step to acquire knowledge, happiness, and harmony by mutual love and trust.\n- Let us take the fifth step so that we are blessed with strong, virtuous, and heroic children.\n- Let us take the sixth step for self-restraint and longevity.\n- Finally, let us take the seventh step and be true companions and remain lifelong partners by this wedlock.\n\n![Traditional Wedding Vows For the Timeless Couple](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6RfS3E31svRPrObx3LgKiQ/78212ac6ec5751f4aee5b0f97f37dbeb/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Interfaith\n*The Living Interfaith Church embraces the teachings of all religions that lead people to seek a life of compassion. If you and your SO come from different backgrounds and want something short and sweet—or want to incorporate non-religious vows into your ceremony—this passage may be a good choice for your wedding: *\n\n\"I,_____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.\"\n\n### Jewish\nIn a traditional Jewish ceremony, there is no actual exchange of vows; the covenant is said to be implicit in the ritual. \n\nThe Jewish wedding ceremony structure varies within Orthodox, Conservative, Reform, and Reconstructionist synagogues, and also among individual rabbis. \n\nThe marriage vow is customarily sealed when the groom places a ring on the bride's finger and says (in English transliteration), \"Haray at mekudeshet lee beh-taba'at zo keh-dat Moshe veh-Yisrael,\" which translates to \"Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel.\"\n\nMany Jewish couples today do want to exchange spoken vows, and as such, they are now included in many Reform and Conservative ceremonies.\n\n#### Reform Vows\n\"Do you, ------ , take ----- to be your wife/husband, promising to cherish and protect her/him, whether in good fortune or in adversity, and to seek together with her/him a life hallowed by the faith of Israel?\"\n\n#### Conservative Vows\n\"Do you, ____, take _____ to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband, to love, to honor and to cherish?\"\n\nAnother version of nontraditional vows is a phrase from the Song of Songs: \"Ani leh-dodee veh-dodee lee,\" which means, \"I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine.\"\n\nDuring a traditional Jewish wedding, the couple may say these words (in Hebrew) as they exchange rings:\n\n\"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.\"\n\nAlong with the ring exchange, they recite the Seven Blessings (Sheva Berakhot). Here's a translated excerpt:\n\nBlessed are You, Adonai, our God, Ruler of the universe, gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens this couple. Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, Ruler of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, loving couples, mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, loving communities, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there soon be heard...the voice of the loving couple, the sound of their jubilance from their canopies and of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the couple to rejoice, one with the other.\n\nWe bless God for creating joy and happiness, bride and groom, mirth song, gladness and rejoicing, love and harmony, peace and companionship; and we thank God for letting this bride and groom to rejoice together.\n\n### Lutheran\n*Similar to other Christian religions, Lutheran vows are read by the officiant and repeated back by the couple.*\n\n“I, ______, take you, to be my (wife/husband), and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help, and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and I will try with you better to understand ourselves, the world, and God; through the best and worst of what is to come, and as long as we live.”\n\n### Methodist \n*Since Methodist vows are in the form of call and response, the officiant reads the actual vows aloud and the couple responds in turn with “I do.”*\n\n__Officiant:__ \"Will you have this (woman/man) to be your (wife/husband), to live together in holy marriage? Will you love (her/him), comfort (her/him), honor, and keep (her/him) in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to (her/him) as long as you both shall live?\"\n\n__Bride/Groom:__ \"I do.\"\n\n### Muslim\n*In many traditional Muslim ceremonies, couples don’t recite vows. Instead, the imam (cleric) speaks about the couple's responsibilities to each other and to Allah during the nikah (marriage contract). At the end of this ritual, the couple receives a blessing from the congregation and consents to be married. *\n\n*If you do choose to recite vows at your Muslim ceremony, here’s a common declaration:*\n\n__Bride or Groom:__ \"I, ___, offer you myself in marriage in accordance with the instructions of the Holy Quran and the Holy Prophet, peace and blessing be upon him. I pledge, in honesty and with sincerity, to be for you an obedient and faithful husband/wife.\"\n\n__Bride or Groom:__ \"I pledge, in honesty and sincerity, to be for you a faithful and helpful husband/wife.\"\n\n### Non-Denominational\n*If you’re looking for non-denominational vows that still incorporate a higher power, these can either be memorized and said individually or repeated back to the officiant, in turn, phrase-by-phrase.*\n\n\"_____, I now take you to be my wedded wife/husband, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy relationship of marriage. I promise to love and comfort you, honor and keep you, and forsaking all others, I will be yours alone as long as we both shall live.\"\n\n#### Handfasting Vows\n*Another option for a secular ceremony utilizes knot-tying as part of the vows. The couple makes a fisherman's knot (that gets tighter with pressure), then says the following, in turn:*\n\n“I, _____, commit myself to you, _____, as (wife/husband) to learn and grow with, to explore and adventure with, to respect you in everything as an equal partner, in the foreknowledge of joy and pain, strength and weariness, direction and doubt, for all the risings and settings of the sun. We tie these knots to symbolize our connection to one another. They represent our trust in each other and our combined strength together.”\n\n### Presbyterian\n*These traditional Presbyterian vows are gorgeous in their simplicity and touch upon the classic lines so many couples have dreamt of saying for a lifetime.*\n\n\"I, _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live.\"\n\n### Protestant\n*Traditional Protestant wedding vows are the ones most people know from the movies. They can either be memorized or repeated back to the officiant phrase-by-phrase.*\n\n\"I, _____, take thee, _____, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith.\"\n\n### Quaker\n*Often referred to as the silent ceremony, traditional Quaker weddings don’t have an officiant or a “giving away of the bride” moment. Instead, everyone worships silently until the couple feels it’s time to say their vows. They then rise together and say: *\n\n\"In the presence of God and these our friends, I take thee to be my wife/husband, promising with divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful husband/wife so long as we both shall live.\"\n\n### Unitarian/Universalist\n*Known for its universal respect of many faiths, Unitarian vows touch upon some of the classic sentiments seen in Western culture:*\n\n\"I, _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish always.\"\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:57.041Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"what-does-it-mean-if-you-catch-the-bouquet","title":"What Does It Mean If You Catch the Bouquet?","excerpt":"We take a look at the history and modern meaning behind the bouquet toss to get a better idea of what it means to catch the bouquet.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2021-02-22T19:03:02.958Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1qDTLmBTU1PO98K5p5JOJA/8cf2f54f5abe9a7af61f247ad094da7b/Hero_SummerWeddingatOlentangytheCondominium_WhitneyAMoore.jpg","altText":"What Does It Mean If You Catch the Bouquet"},"heroCredit":"Whitney A Moore","body":"The [bouquet toss](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bouquet-tossing-101) is a staple at many modern weddings—and many of the weddings that preceded them. Even if you haven’t frequented many receptions, you probably know how this tradition goes down. \n\nIn short, the unmarried guests gather on one side of the dance floor, while the bride (or groom) stands several feet across from them. There, they turn to face the opposite direction and quite literally toss their bouquet over their shoulders to be caught by one of the people playing. But what does catching the bouquet at a wedding mean? We take a look at the history of the bouquet toss and its modern symbolism to get a better idea of what it means when someone catches the bouquet.\n\n![What Does It Mean If You Catch the Bouquet](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2LfuY45z6xLlmSU8NW9roo/5e9056581179eb55f036e0c94209f734/inline_Chris_Carter_Photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Chris Carter Photography\n\n### The History of the Bouquet Toss\n\nThe tradition of tossing the bouquet originates from an entirely different tradition that began in ancient England, \nprior to the 1800s (an exact year isn’t known). History tells us that during this time it was considered good luck to touch the bride on her big day so that some of her good luck would rub off on you. After a couple’s wedding ceremony took place, those in attendance—especially single women—would rush the bride in hopes that some of this luck would transfer to them, so that they, too, could get married soon. Oftentimes, this would progress to people trying to rip pieces of fabric off of the bride’s gown. Many even tried to make off with the [bridal bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-complete-guide-to-dried-flower-bouquets) or other keepsakes.\n\nWhile this may come across as shocking, it’s important to keep in mind the purposes and culture surrounding getting married at the time. Back then, marriage was viewed as more of a transaction, oftentimes of wealth or social status. For many women, it was their only hope of rising above their situation or financially supporting themselves and their families. This made marrying the right person, by those standards, a very large responsibility or expectation. Knowing that it isn’t difficult to imagine single women vying for every bit of luck they could get their hands on.\n\nTo avoid the sometimes brutal nature of this tradition, brides began tossing their bouquets as a distraction. They’d then run in the opposite direction in an attempt to escape the crowd and leave their wedding night in peace. Over time, this became incredibly common and eventually took the place of the older tradition. It has become a new tradition, has enabled those getting wed to still grant one wedding guest some luck without having to fight too hard for it.\n\n### The Modern Bouquet Toss\n\nAs societies around the world have progressed, the reasons for marriage have changed. In modern society, a person will marry [because they love someone](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-about-marriage-when-dating)—not because they need them to provide financially. Along with this, the bouquet toss has evolved. What was once an aversion tactic is now a fun game of competition and chance, as well as an opportunity to put the spotlight on your unmarried friends. Today, the game goes as follows:\n\n- __When:__ While there aren’t any strict guidelines, the bouquet toss usually takes place during the wedding reception, after the toasts, meal, special dances, and cake cutting have been done.\n- __Who:__ As per tradition, not only single women but any unmarried women in attendance can take part in the toss. That means that if someone is in a relationship, but has yet to get engaged, they’re allowed (and typically expected) to participate. That being said, if anyone feels uncomfortable with playing—or just doesn’t want to—don’t make them or shame them into it.\n- __What:__ When the toss is about to take place, the DJ (or someone willing to address the crowd) will announce it. They’ll call all of the single or unmarried ladies (or people, if you prefer) to the floor, who’ll then gather in a line or cluster together at one end. The bride or groom will then stand a good distance in front of the group (however far they’re comfortable tossing), face the opposite direction, and toss a wedding bouquet behind them. Whichever single lady manages to catch it gets to keep it.\n\nUpdates aside, the bouquet is still thought to represent good luck and fortune. It’s said that if you catch the bouquet, then you’ll obtain this luck, with the added superstition that you’ll be the next person within the group to wed. The idea of the bride “passing” this fortune on to the lucky individual is also a relatively new addition. Despite updates to the bouquet toss, it isn’t rare to hear of participating guests getting as ambitious as those of the past while trying to catch it for themselves.\n\n![What Does It Mean If You Catch the Bouquet](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BvIkxYxlyJEQbvCH55oBs/069364294c52586a9588dfd37da8d80e/inline_sweetalicephotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Sweetalice Photography\n\nBefore the flowers go flying and someone catches the bride’s bouquet, a lot of thought goes into the toss. From [selecting a song ](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/15-funny-bouquet-toss-songs)to deciding if you’re going to [throw your bridal bouquet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-i-toss-my-real-bouquet), make sure that you plan the activity ahead of time so that it’s every bit as fun as you envision it being. You may leave fate to decide who ends up with the bundle of flowers that night, but the rest of the activity is in your control.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"All there is to know about this fun wedding tradition.","title":"What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes","slug":"what-a-wedding-bouquet-toss-symbolizes","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13mF0hu6Aq3qUvy2TBFH3e/bbd21bcd1610a7151fd1c98527fe4419/Hero_Zola__66_.jpg","altText":"What a Wedding Bouquet Toss Symbolizes"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"In Zola’s First Look Report, over 3,000 engaged couples shared the wedding traditions that they’re keeping, leaving, and are split on for their 2022 weddings. 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Read on to find out more.","title":"15 Wedding Cake Traditions and Their Significance","slug":"wedding-cake-traditions-and-their-significance","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jU5L8cq6PWeaeAqlGE5Ol/20d83efebb5c9d448434d60eeebb4f25/Hero_IntimateFallWeddingat_RenaissanceEvent_Hall_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"Wedding Cake Traditions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:56.293Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"4-alternatives-to-the-classic-bouquet-toss","title":"4 Alternatives to the Classic Bouquet Toss","excerpt":"For the bride or groom who isn't a fan of the traditional bouquet toss, but still wants a similar moment, we explore four alternatives to get guests excited.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2021-02-26T16:52:48.800Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fSCkVtvNLsPHDFrmVGMWX/8b571db62bde8e18e949317ac7c100f4/Hero_Zola__82_.jpg","altText":"Alternatives to the Classic Bouquet Toss"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Rather than let fate decide, pass the bouquet on to a soon-to-be married couple or the longest married couple in attendance.\n- If you’re all for a game, but aren’t fond of the idea of tossing your bouquet, replace the toss with another game of chance.\n- Whichever alternative you choose to go with, what’s most important is that it’s one that caters to your and your guests' desires.","body":"The traditional [bouquet toss](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bouquet-tossing-101) has been around for many years (centuries, in fact). While this is great for engaged couples who want to include [classic traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions) in their wedding day, it leaves those who’d prefer a more modern celebration at a crossroads. Do you stick it out and do the toss? Do you cut it altogether? For the modern bride or groom who isn’t a fan of the customary activity, but still wants a similarly exciting game or meaningful moment, there are plenty of bouquet toss alternatives. Below we explore four different options that are worthy of taking their place on your big day.\n\n### Pass the Bouquet\n\nRather than let fate (or an eager group of participating guests) decide which wedding guest gets the bride’s bouquet, decide to pass it on to a particular couple or individual. \n\nOne beloved, but not quite as popular, wedding game you can put on, in this case, is the anniversary dance. This is a dance in which the dejay (or whoever is addressing the crowd throughout the night) will call all of the married couples to the dance floor. Throughout the dance, they’ll call out several years, with couples stepping off the dance floor if the number exceeds the number of years they’ve been married. The goal is to find the couple who has been married the longest. This couple then receives your bouquet. \n\nThis gives you a nice opportunity to get some photos together and congratulate them or ask for their best marriage advice. On the other hand, if you have an engaged and soon-to-be-married couple in attendance, you can choose to pass your bouquet on to them as a way of wishing them good luck.\n\nSimilarly, you might want to consider picking a special individual and giving them your bouquet as a thank you. Maybe they weren’t a part of the wedding party, but were a great help throughout your engagement and wedding day? Perhaps you have a wedding guest who serves in the military that you’d like to thank? Opting out of the bouquet toss and instead of taking a moment to honor someone—or a couple of people—is sure to be a meaningful and unforgettable bouquet toss alternative.\n\n### Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed\n\n![4 Alternatives to the Classic Bouquet Toss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/362FEGB5xbzmo8GTL5TlsQ/f1e15bcdf34d1db0c3320ca32a7d994e/inline_Kevin_Ferguson_Weddings.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Kevin Ferguson Weddings\n\nThere are many ways you can [honor lost loved ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-memorial-ideas) throughout your wedding, from reserved seats to dedicated toasts—and even a couple of ways that involve your wedding bouquet. After your wedding celebration, put your bouquet in a beautiful vase and place it atop a memorial table. Alongside your flowers, place photographs of friends and family members who are no longer with you or a sign listing each of their names. Your bouquet will serve as a reminder that you’re thinking of them throughout this important occasion.\n\nAnother touching way to honor loved ones who have passed is to take your bouquet to their cemetery or burial site. Though you may not be able to do this on your wedding day, you can make a special trip in the days following, which will allow you to dedicate more time to the memorial. Placing your bouquet at someone’s grave or in a spot that was important to them is a moving form of remembrance and stunning use of your wedding flowers.\n\n### Replace It With Another Game\n\nIf you’re all for a game but aren’t fond of the idea of tossing your bouquet, replace the toss with another game of chance. For example, have all of your non-married guests—or whoever you’d like to participate—take a key out of a bag or bowl at the beginning of your [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/reception). Then, at the time you’d usually have the bouquet toss (post-cake cutting, in most cases), have those participating lineup and try to use their key to unlock a glass box holding a bouquet. Whoever’s key unlocks it gets to take it home. \n\nSwapping out the bouquet toss for a game you find more your [wedding style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-style) is a great alternative if you still want to involve your guests in an exciting activity. It’s also a chance to give away something that isn’t your bouquet—say a gift card or small cash prize.\n\n### Donate Your Bouquet (and Other Florals)\n\n![4 Alternatives to the Classic Bouquet Toss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10PzRcsVcgApSudFukkGhx/db7d6c366131d22cef14052bbc7acf1f/inline_Hudson_River_Photographer_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Hudson River Photographer\n\nMost cut [flowers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers) have a lifespan of seven to 12 days. Rather than tossing your bridal bouquet—either to a guest or into the trash at the end of the night—brighten the lives of those in your community by donating your bouquet and other floral decorations. After collecting your florals, organizations like Repeat Roses and Random Acts of Flowers deliver them to patients in nursing homes, hospices, cancer treatment centers, mental health facilities, and homeless shelters. Such companies make sure your wedding flowers go to good use and provide as much joy and purpose as possible while they’re still alive and beautiful. If you’re having trouble finding one in your area, consider contacting shelters, hospitals, and similar locations near you directly.\n\nWhile the wedding bouquet toss is a [wedding tradition](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions), it’s in no way strictly enforced. Tailor the activity to you and your guests or swap it out for a fun alternative that makes you happy. When it comes to these kinds of games, your wedding only needs to be as traditional as you’d like it to be.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking to get some laughs during your bridal bouquet toss? 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Plus tips and tricks to help you choose the perfect outfits for photos you'll love now and forever.","title":"Engagement Photo Outfits Ideas","slug":"what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2HdV6dlwgN9nLf3kRNksF1/3b43ea55afc14ef156f78c1330d6d579/Hero_New_RubyRedApple-InspiredStyledShoot_LaurenLovePhotography.jpg","altText":"Couple in circle image with pink background. She wears a red dress and he wears a gray suit."},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:55.587Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"symbolism-of-the-garter-toss","title":"Symbolism of the Garter Toss","excerpt":"Wondering what the garter toss at weddings means? Learn about the symbolism with this complete guide. ","author":"Maggie Mahoney","publishedAt":"2021-02-25T18:51:47.593Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3JWWXyNKNQ6kROpHz37zHP/010427ef9a4ea41755fb9ed79da1c98b/Hero_Zola__73_.jpg","altText":"what is a garter toss"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- The garter toss involves the groom removing the garter from the brides’ leg and throwing for a single male wedding guests to catch. \n- In medieval times, wedding guests would tear the bride’s clothes off, so brides began wearing garters they could throw into the crowd.\n- Today, the garter toss also symbolizes the passage from single to married life for the bride and groom. \n","body":"Have you ever wondered what certain [wedding traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration/wedding-traditions) symbolize? Today we will be exploring the symbolism of the garter toss and how its meaning has evolved over time. \n\n## What is a Garter Toss?\n \nThe wedding garter toss is like the male version of the bridal bouquet toss. More specifically, during the garter toss, the groom removes the garter from the bride’s leg (often with his teeth or hands) while wedding guests look on. He then tosses the garter into a crowd of single male wedding guests on the dance floor. In some cases, the man who catches the garter will later put it on the woman who catches the bridal bouquet.\n\nBridal garter tosses are not for everyone and have been the source of some controversy over the years. Whether you’re for or against the garter toss tradition, the ritual itself holds interesting historical significance. Below are a few of the varied meanings that the garter toss embodies and symbolizes. \n\n![Symbolism of the Garter Toss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6DwK1v72PXGyJdUydgxizD/10a6928dc299f571d85b2fb46a012c7e/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## What is the Wedding Garter Tradition?\n \nThe wedding garter toss is thought to be one of the oldest wedding traditions still practiced today. In Medieval times, wedding guests would try to [tear off pieces of a brides’ clothing](http://www.bridebox.com/blog/everything-need-know-wedding-garter/), because they were thought to be tokens of good luck. Brides began wearing garters to toss as a way to appease the crowd and prevent onlookers from grabbing at them. The bridal bouquet was also used in a similar manner as a distraction so the bride could get away. \n\nOne of the earliest iterations of the modern day garter toss was thought to have [emerged in early 1500s France](https://www.1motherofthebride.com/2052/the-origin-of-the-wedding-garter-toss-tradition/). Back then, it was customary for friends and family of the newlyweds to ensure that the marriage was consummated immediately following the wedding ceremony. That often meant that close friends and family would accompany the bride and groom back to the bedroom to observe or wait just outside the door. \n\nOnce the deed had been done, the garter was presented as a form of proof. At the time, consummation also often denoted deflowering or a loss of innocence, because sex before marriage was not as commonplace as it is in modern times.\n\n## What Does the Garter Symbolize?\n### Good Luck and Fertility\n\nIn the late Renaissance period, the garter began to symbolize [good luck and sometimes even fertility](https://www.brides.com/story/wedding-garter-traditions-old-and-new). During these years and for hundreds of years after, the [garter remained a lucky symbol](https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-garter-tradition) for whoever held or wore it. Undoubtedly, the suggestion of fertility and luck most likely arose from the early origins of the garter toss that centered around consummation and the idea that having children was a sign of good fortune. \n\nIn 18th century England, the “[flinging the stocking](https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-garter-tradition)” game involved guests tossing garters at the bride and groom on their wedding day. If the garters landed on the wedding couple’s heads, it was thought to be a token of good luck in love. \n\nThe way the garter’s significance harkens back to its early history reveals how deeply this ritual is rooted in superstition. \n\n![Symbolism of the Garter Toss](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1EQub7ze8CuDDZL3wPFkh4/22d8bf634736a3e93695e8386b28f8b3/inline_hales_studio_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Hales Studio Photography\n\n### Next to Wed\n\nIn modern times, the groom removes the garter, rather than boisterous wedding guests. Today, the garter toss itself is more of an intentional passing of the torch to the wedding couple’s single friends and family. Akin to the bouquet toss for women, the garter toss is thought to determine who will get married next. The man who catches the garter and the woman who catches the bouquet are jokingly assumed to be next to walk down the aisle. \n\n### Moving on From Single Life\n \nThe garter toss also symbolizes a sort of transition for the wedding couple from their single lives to their married lives. In some ways, throwing the garter symbolizes the couple discarding their single lives in favor of a new journey together. \n\nThe history of the garter toss and the meanings it takes on are varied and interesting. It has evolved from a ritual with slightly dark, somewhat intrusive, boisterous origins to a more playful tradition perfect for photo opportunities and engaging wedding guests during the wedding reception. \n\nWhether you choose to include the garter toss into your wedding festivities, modify it for a more modern approach, or forgo the toss altogether, knowing its roots allows you to discover the deeper meaning behind this age-old custom. \n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering if you should do a garter toss at your wedding? Learn about the pros and cons with this complete guide.","title":"Should You Do a Garter Toss?","slug":"should-you-do-a-garter-toss","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5y9WwTLG6RlB5bVBRxIizU/e6c3417ea0f031230cec99603a90d46a/Hero_Zola__72_.jpg","altText":"Should You Do a Garter Toss"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Here are some ideas to consider for alternatives to the garter toss.","title":"Garter Toss Alternatives","slug":"garter-toss-alternatives","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7bYpciTzRjg3sIkbliZu3g/43080995f1e5ee66bdb4623672d86d99/Hero_Zola__75_.jpg","altText":"Garter Toss Alternatives"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"The garter toss is one of the oldest wedding traditions, but there’s no reason why you can’t put a fresh spin on it today. Here are some unique garter toss ideas to consider.","title":"Unique Garter Toss Ideas","slug":"unique-garter-toss-ideas","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5vCldlkSaqVmUnCUor9TGH/524f12b970400351100b26be90898278/Hero_Zola__77_.jpg","altText":"Unique Garter Toss Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore a curated collection of songs for every moment, from the ceremony to the reception, make sure each part of your special day is filled with music and emotion.","title":"300 Best Wedding Songs for Each Moment of your Wedding Day","slug":"best-wedding-songs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Music + Entertainment","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Awof6509XGZFsc5K2GCUC/21fe8ba7b5d834a1a5812f74ceaaff16/best-wedding-songs.jpg","altText":"Couple dancing at wedding reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:54.787Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"giving-killer-best-man-speech","title":"How to Give a Great Best Man Speech ","excerpt":"If you’re freaking out about pulling off a best man speech at a wedding, we understand. There's an art to the best man speech. Here's our best advice for giving a great best man speech.","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:53-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/vYQbYrk5c6o7JRHam2PKg/1e58fd82a867490c34ff9b8c513ddae9/How-to-Give-a-Great-Best-Man-Speech_EpicPhotography.jpg","altText":"Best Man holding a paper with text \"Best best man speech ever\""},"heroCredit":"Epic Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- You should absolutely aim to tell a story, combine humor with emotion, address the groom’s new wife, and end with a sweet note. \n- Avoid long or rambling speeches, inappropriate material, telling inside jokes, and being too tipsy for the speech. \n- To give the best speech possible, prepare your material and practice it, don’t speak too fast or too slow, and don’t dwell on any mistakes you might make during the delivery. \n","body":"Let me guess: if you’ve made it here, you’re a best man (or a best woman), and you’re nervous. First off, congrats on this special role of honor! You’re gonna do great. But if you’re freaking out about pulling off all of your [groomsmen duties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-groomsmen-duties), especially having to write and deliver a best man speech on the wedding day, we understand. There is an art to the perfect best man speech. Too far in any direction, and a bad speech can negatively alter the mood of a wedding in a snap.\n\nBut before we make you even more nervous, take a cleansing breath and lower your heart rate: you’ve come to the right place. We’re here to guide through the process of writing and giving a stellar best man speech from start to finish, including a list of dos and don’ts, tips on subject matters, and a sample best man speech outline to focus your efforts. Follow our advice, and you’re sure to walk away with praise, admiration, and [an awesome groomsmen gift](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/awesome-groomsmen-gift-ideas-under-$50).\n\n\n\nBefore we get into the do's and don'ts, we'll provide you with a short list of things to include in your speech. Generally, for a great best man speech, you'll want to:\n\n- Have an opening line that will grab the crowd's attention. This can be funny or sentimental, whatever you think works best.\n- Say congratulations to the bride and groom. Acknowledge the major commitment they just made and the event that brought you all together.\n- Say some nice words about the groom's new spouse. This is your friend's new life partner, say a few words about this person that highlights why they are perfect as the groom's spouse.\n- Tell a funny story or joke about your groom. Keep it appropriate and relevant to the audience.\n- Give a toast to the happy couple. Close out your speech with some nice words to wish the newlyweds a loving and happy marriage. \n\n![tricia-mccormack-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/721oVoPW8ehbfFflRdBORo/8ec928fdb303a36fe8dead904388591e/tricia-mccormack-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Rick Dean Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Best Man Speech Dos and Don’ts\n\n### DO Prepare\n\nGoes without saying, but this is an instance where “I’ll just wing it” doesn’t work in your favor. Although you don’t need to memorize your best man speech, don’t save this one until the night before. A few thoughts jotted down on a napkin will look like you didn’t put any care or thought into your words (because, uh, you didn’t). A month or two out, but no less than a week, take some dedicated time to compose your thoughts. This will also allow you time to seek input and feedback from others (more on this below).\n\n### DO Research and Crowdsource\n\nThe best best man speeches (with me?) are those that let the audience know a little bit more about the groom—in a good way—so try to include some funny and/or sweet stories from his childhood, adolescence, or young adulthood. Ask the groom’s parents, siblings, or other close friends for any great tidbits that you could weave into your speech for greater authenticity and dimensionality.\n\n### DO Be a Storyteller\n\nAs mentioned above, good stories make for a good speech. Take your listeners on a little journey about your friend and how we arrived at this day: what kind of person he is (as demonstrated by X anecdote from his past), how you know each other, how he met his partner, how their relationship grew, why they are such a great match, and what you hope for their future. If you can weave in a little thematic joke or a narrative through-line, even better.\n\n![meredith-sledge-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6lie5pokA8VzPfFEM6wv3g/8c34beffb8c7d56bc99b03980b67dd27/meredith-sledge-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meredith Sledge Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### DON’T Ramble\n\nTell a short (short) story, not a novel. No one wants to hear you digress about something unrelated to your key message, or worse, about yourself. Remember, this isn’t your show—this moment is about the newlyweds, so resist the urge to go off on a tangent.\n\n### DO Combine Humor With Emotion\n\nA great speech includes a healthy mix of humor, sentimentality, good-natured ribbing, and sincerity. You want the groom, and the rest of the wedding guests, to feel both amused and touched by your words. If you’re naturally funny, include some clean jokes about the newlyweds that won’t hurt anyone’s feelings (jokes at your own expense are alway a safe bet). If you always botch the punch line, it’s perfectly fine to stick to a straightforward message of warmth and congratulations.\n\n### DON’T Be Too Mean, Crass, or Dirty\n\nMaking people laugh is good. Making people uncomfortable is not. I know I don’t have to remind you, but offensive, off-color, or any mean-spirited joke at the expense of an individual or group is a no-fly zone. If you stop and ask yourself, “Should I say this?,” that’s a good indication that you should just not. And if you normally swear like a sailor, watch your language and avoid profanity.\n\n### DON’T Tell Inside Jokes\n\nIf only you and the groom (or a small handful of other people) will understand what you’re talking about, then it’s probably not good material to include in a best man speech. You don’t want to alienate your audience by making them feel like they’re not in on the inside joke. Stick to universal topics and be inclusive in your story- and joke-telling.\n\n![alicia-lucia-photogrqaphy(1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4g15zMMBXviurrBEfvckFt/53269fc5899b46fe1b13261710195d9d/alicia-lucia-photogrqaphy_1_.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Alicia Lucia Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### DO Keep It Clean(ish)\n\nThis one is obvious, right? The key here is to know your audience. Remember that you’re not just addressing the groom and groomsmen, but every single wedding guest—which might include ages 3-93. Joking about adult topics must be done subtly and in good taste. To keep things classy, be intentionally vague and keep the examples lighthearted. Don’t go into sordid detail, don’t share anything that could get anyone in trouble, don’t reveal anything truly humiliating in an embarrassing story, and avoid bathroom humor.\n\n### DO Address The Groom’s New Spouse\n\nSo that your entire speech doesn’t feel awkwardly lopsided, be sure to say some kind, sincere, and personal words to your best bud’s new partner for life. If you are also friends with him/her, even more reason to share an anecdote about why this person is great individually and doubly great for your friend. Remember that this special day celebrates a step they’ve taken together, so be sure to address them both.\n\n![J.-Ferrara-Photography-Inc](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6xqqjapSIyVVxVLAkC3ojS/2bf135ba671159e3bec7e716bd80ab83/J.-Ferrara-Photography-Inc.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [J.Ferrara Photography Inc.](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### DO Borrow Language\n\nNot all of us were born with the gift of gab. If Wordsworth you are not, there’s no shame in stealing some great lines from the masters. Look up some quotations on love, relationships, or marriage to either guide your speech’s theme or to pepper in at the beginning and end for greatest impact. Writers and essayists like MLK Jr., Pablo Neruda, Shakespeare, or any of the Romantic poets are good places to look for inspiring quotations.","body2":"### DON’T Get Tipsy\n\nWhile it might be tempting to throw back a few after the “I dos” to loosen up for your moment in the spotlight, use common sense. Has consuming a bunch of alcohol in a short amount of time ever helped you be more articulate, quick on your feet, or sensitive to the passage of time? My guess is no. Wait until after your speech to take advantage of the open bar, because it will be clear to the crowd (especially the groom) if you are not in your best frame of mind.\n\n### DO Practice Out Loud\n\nNowhere is the phrase “practice makes perfect” more true than in public speaking. Besides familiarizing yourself with the material, you’ll be able to hear any mistakes, awkward phrasing, or weird timing when experiencing the words out loud. Practice reading your entire speech to a partner or friend before the wedding reception, get their feedback (and have them time you so you know if you need to add or cut), and practice again until you feel solid.\n\n![highlight-studios](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2qagXEIf65bje16sWJQl89/b61fec2ae23406f18fd0f23c40b899e7/highlight-studios.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Highlight Studios](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### DO Speak Clearly\n\nIf you have a bring-down-the-house kind of best man speech but no one can understand it, what good will it do? Make sure your one-liners zing and your heartfelt wishes bring tears by speaking loudly and clearly, enunciating your words, and appropriately using a microphone or any AV equipment that’s provided.\n\n### DON’T Dwell on Your Blunders\n\nEvery public speaker misses a line or trips up their words now and then. Rather than drawing attention to an error by apologizing profusely or joking about how bad a speech-giver you are, simply make a quick correction or skip over it and move on. Dwell any further, and your audience will get uncomfortable or lose confidence in you.\n\n### DON’T Just Read, Engage\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your speech, it’s public speaking 101 that just reading a piece of paper (or your phone) out loud without acknowledging the crowd is a no-no. Know your speech well enough so that you don’t have to look at it word-for-word. Take time to look around, make eye contact (especially when you’re addressing the happy couple), and pause for laughter or applause.\n![tricia-mccormack-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3PRbC97AzeoPURzlvNiO9I/904cbec3e3cdaddc6d3047304d420ebc/tricia-mccormack-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Tricia McCormack Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### DON’T Rush\n\nBeing nervous is totally normal—but if your nerves are too apparent, they can distract your audience or put them on edge. A clear sign of being nervous is racing through your speech like you’re competing for a NASCAR trophy. Take deep breaths, use the above tips about audience engagement, and speak nice and slowly. We promise, it’ll be over before you know it.\n\n### DON’T Go Long\n\nThat being said, don’t be longwinded or hog too much of the wedding reception’s precious timeline, or your audience will start wondering when they can get on the dance floor rather than pay attention to your eloquence. Stick to whatever time frame the couple recommended, or if you’re on your own, aim for 2-5 minutes.\n\n### DO End On a Sweet Note\n\nNo matter what else you say or do, end your best man speech with positivity. Giving a few words of congratulations on the marriage, happy wishes for the bride and groom's future together, and a general toast in the groom and his partner’s direction are customary (for a reason) and always well-received.\n\n![allison-kuhn-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mSfJZPgv3UkrQftvzddmL/cf9951de7fcb49a219ccf400f9cf9c06/allison-kuhn-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Allison Kuhn Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### Best Man Speech Topics to Avoid\n\nThere are really never any circumstances under which the following topics are a good idea to bring up in a best man speech. Don’t touch these subject matters with a 10-foot pole:\n\n1. Exes or previous marriages.\n2. General negativity about marriage.\n3. Illegal activity.\n4. Pornography or strip clubs. Just don’t.\n5. X-rated stuff.\n6. Sex, drugs, drinking, gambling…use your judgment.\n7. Bathroom stuff.\n8. Your own drama.\n\n![luma-weddings(1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4eh4DFZF1BVvRHunTeI740/9ce64bd3f171669e1792ee6680f2359e/luma-weddings_1_.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Luma Weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n### Template for the Perfect Best Man Speech\n\nFollow this general outline, and you’ll slay on the big day.\n\n1. Salutation/introduce yourself\n2. Thank the hosts for the great party\n3. Funny, attention-grabbing opening line\n4. Great anecdote(s) about the groom (best if it supports #3)\n5. Reasons why the groom is great (as exemplified in #4)\n6. Why the groom’s partner is great/a great match\n7. Great anecdote about them as a couple (best if it supports #6)\n8. Congratulations/beautiful quotation/sweet wishes\n9. Toast to the happy couple’s future\n\n![sera-petras-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2QzE6oIY6e3QRcsIthnJia/a81afe4dfa7640a77a1808d4f4c158c8/sera-petras-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","tag":"Wedding Party Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"So you’ve been chosen to be the best man, but what does that mean? Don’t worry, the experts at Zola have you covered with a guide on all the best man’s duties.","title":"Best Man Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-best-man-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6yUj6IlflBg9sNoDqUzo3A/be91a8e185bce29c9ba599a4207728f6/Best-Man-Duties_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"best man adjusts collar pin for groom in military attire"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding toasts are tricky. 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Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. Learn more about how to plan a timeline that ensures you will have plenty of time to get the photos you want.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T21:53:59.472Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YSGQJgdXFs7GGnLAdB0JC/b42c6028988e7ad383c57eafef3c00dd/Hero_Zola_02.jpg","altText":"How Long Do Wedding Photos Take"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Throughout your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/), you’ve probably put together a timeline of events for your wedding day. You’ve figured out when to start getting ready in the morning, when to leave for the venue, how long the ceremony will take, and when you will be announced to your guests at the reception. But have you incorporated a timeline for your photos to ensure you get all the shots you want? \n\nMany couples don’t realize how much time is needed to get wedding photos that look effortlessly beautiful. So, how long do wedding photos take? Let’s take a closer look at the details of your wedding photography timeline. \n\n

How to Plan Your Wedding Photos

\n\nDepending on the types of portraits you want your photographer to take ([different wedding photographers have different styles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!), it will probably take you at least two hours to get all the shots. However, the good news is that the photos usually aren’t taken all at once, and the time is broken up throughout your day.\n\nMost photographers say you need about 30 minutes for wedding party portraits, 30 minutes for family portraits (close family only), and 45 minutes for couple portraits. Just remember: These timeframes can contract or expand, depending on the size of your wedding party and family, as well as the specific types of shots you want. For specifics, speak to your wedding photographer about how long they’ll need to take all the different shots you have in mind, plus how you might be able to save time. Here are some of the details you should consider as you plan the photos you want. \n\n

1. Pick Who You’ll Include in Formal Portraits

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6I2KiXD8d9GuSXE3jwqoXS/0e1ec004961a149e27003cd624f4d90c/inline_unsplash17.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nOf course, the focus of your wedding photos will be you and your spouse. However, you will probably want to have formal portraits taken of you with your wedding party, as well as [family wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). Deciding who you will include in this session can significantly impact how long your wedding photos will take. Your parents may try to convince you that you should have a formal portrait with all of your relatives, but remember that the more photos you take, the longer you will be kept away from your celebration. A good rule of thumb is to keep formal portraits limited to about 15 different groupings, including your wedding party, immediate family, and possibly a few important relatives. To help you make this decision, your photographer may be able to provide you with a list of suggested formal portrait groupings, so you know [how to edit wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) based on your needs. \n\n

2. Decide If You’ll Do a “First Look”

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uVnMhM1d3mlXyhe9PX49q/1549b1156768118b6061ca133f0bba66/inline_unsplash18.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nAn increasingly popular photo that couples are choosing to incorporate is a “first look.” [The first look wedding photo](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) This photo captures the first time the couple sees each other on their wedding day, usually wearing their wedding attire and occurring before the ceremony. \n\nMany photographers suggest this option, because it gives you the opportunity to take formal portraits before the ceremony, allowing you to enjoy the cocktail hour with your guests. If you choose the alternative—to stick with tradition and wait to see each other at the ceremony—you will likely spend your entire cocktail hour taking portraits. This choice can significantly impact your wedding photography timeline, so make sure you and your partner have come to a decision before finalizing your plans. \n\n

3. Pick Your Locations

\n\nOnce you’ve decided who’ll be in your photos and if you’ll be doing a “first look,” choose where you will be taking the photos. The most obvious and easiest locations will be your ceremony and reception venues, but you aren’t limited to these.\n\nIf the hotel where you’re getting ready has beautiful scenery, you might decide to have some portraits taken there, such as the bridal party or groomsmen photos. However, you might have other specific places of importance, like a local park or a specific neighborhood in your city. While this is definitely an option, you will need to plan for the extra time and transportation required to travel to and from those locations on your big day. \n\n

Your Wedding Photo Timeline

\n\nAfter you’ve figured out all the details of your wedding photos, you’ll want to work with your photographer (or wedding planner) to create a fully documented schedule of your wedding day, including the timeline for your photos. And don’t forget: It’s useful to add five-minute buffers throughout the day to leave room for any last-minute changes. You will also want to include any travel time to move between locations.\n\nOnce you’ve established your timeline, make sure that anyone who will be included in photos is aware of the schedule, plus has all relevant details. The last thing you want is to be waiting on a relative to show up for photos, so encourage all your important people to stick to the timeline you give them. \n\n

Sample Timelines

\n\nTo help you out, we put together two sample wedding photo timelines (including a [wedding photo list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list)!). The first is for a couple doing a “first look” session, while the second is for a couple going the more traditional route. Seeing these schedules next to one another may help you decide what you’d like to do for your wedding based on the impact that session can have on your overall timeline. \n\n### Timeline With First Look\n\n#### 11:45 AM - Wedding Photographer’s Arrival\nFrom a photo perspective, the day can’t start until the photographer arrives—which is why the first item on any wedding day photography timeline is the photographer’s arrival. At this point, the wedding photographer arrives on site and prepares to start snapping photos. \n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos \nDuring the next phase, the couple is separated, getting ready for the ceremony with their wedding party. These photos are often candid. \n\nDuring this time, the wedding photographer may take a variety of shots, including:\n\n- The groom getting dressed with the groomsmen\n\n- The bride getting ready with the bridesmaids\n\n- The hair stylist creating the bride’s wedding day hairstyle\n\n- Close-ups of the makeup artist doing the bride and bridesmaids’ makeup\n\n- Detail shots (for example, rings, wedding shoes, bouquets, wedding invitations, etc.)\n\nIf the wedding photographer has a second shooter, they may split up—with each photographer taking photos of one half of the couple and their bridesmaids and/or groomsmen. \n\n__Location ideas:__ Wherever the bride and/or groom is getting ready—for example, their home, the wedding venue, or a hotel\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:00 PM - First Look and Couple Portraits\nIf a couple opts to do a first look, then the photographer will get the opportunity to shoot them pre-ceremony. [First look photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) generally include:\n\n- Portrait sessions for both people (for example, bridal portraits and groom portraits)\n\n- The couple seeing each other in their full wedding looks for the first time\n\n- Couples portraits\n\nLocation ideas: Somewhere at or near the wedding venue—either outdoors (for example, in a garden or next to the ocean) or indoors (for example, in a hallway or underneath an entrance)\n\n#### 3:15 - 3:45 PM - Wedding Party Portraits\nAfter the first look, it’s time to tackle wedding party photos. This may include:\n\n- The bride with all of her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with the maid of honor\n\n- The groom with all of the groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The couple with the entire wedding party\n\n- The bride with her partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n- The groom with his partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n__Location ideas:__ Outside the wedding venue, at an off-site location with a scenic background\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nIt’s time to get married! During the wedding ceremony, the photographer will likely snap a variety of photos, including:\n\n- The ceremony location\n\n- Detail shots (for example, the ceremony programs, the flowers, the arbor, etc.)\n\n- Guests arriving at the ceremony start time\n\n- The wedding party walking down the aisle\n\n- Family members walking down the aisle\n\n- The bride and/or groom (or brides and grooms) walking down the aisle\n\n- The officiant\n\n- Any friends or family that share readings during the ceremony\n\n- The couple exchanging wedding vows\n\n- The couple walking down the aisle after getting married\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site\n\n#### 5:10 - 5:40 PM - Family Portraits\nAfter the ceremony, the wedding photographer will take formal [portraits of the couple and their families](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). This may include:\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The couple with one partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- Additional family photos as necessary (for example, photos with aunts, uncles, and/or cousins)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site, somewhere scenic/quiet at the wedding venue that’s away from cocktail hour (for example, a garden or ballroom)\n\n#### 5:10 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nIf your wedding photographer has a second shooter, they will often snap photos during cocktail hour while the main photographer handles family photos. This may include:\n\n- Guests mingling at cocktail hour\n\n- Photos of your signature wedding cocktails\n\n- Detail shots (for example, cocktail napkins, signage and decor, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the cocktail hour site\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nYour wedding reception is full of moments that you’ll want to turn into memories—and your wedding photographer will be on hand to ensure that happens. Some wedding reception photos your photographer will likely want to capture include:\n\n- The couple’s grand entrance\n\n- Guest table photos\n\n- The couple’s first dance\n\n- Parent dances\n\n- Toasts and speeches\n\n- Guests dancing on the dance floor\n\n- The garter toss and/or bouquet toss\n\n- Cake cutting\n\n- The couple’s exit\n\n- Detail shots (for example, centerpieces, decor, table signage, gift table, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas__: At the wedding reception site\n\n### Timeline Without First Look\n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos\n\nSame as above\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:30 PM - Separate Wedding Party and Family Portraits \nIf a couple opts not to do a first look, the wedding photographer can’t do group photos before the ceremony—but they can do separate wedding party and/or family portraits. This may include:\n\n- The bride with her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with her maid of honor\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The bride with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with his entire family\n\n- The groom with his groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The groom with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with her entire family\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nSame as above\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:15 PM - Couple and Group Portraits \nIf there’s no first look, the couple will take both couple’s and group portraits after the wedding ceremony. This may include:\n\n- Photos of the couple\n\n- The couple with their entire wedding party\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with the other set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The couple with one person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents \n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- The couple with one person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with both of their entire families\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nSame as above\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nSame as above\n\nAs you can see from the timelines above, the “first look” photos can give you more time to enjoy being with your guests after the ceremony. However, if you choose to stick to a more traditional timeline and wait to see each other at the ceremony for the first time, you will still be able to take all the photos you want. Ultimately, the decision is up to you as a couple and what works best for your wedding day.\n\n## Things To Consider When Developing Your Wedding Day Photography Timeline\nNeed more insights in to how to navigate your wedding day timeline? Here are a few things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Stick to the timeline...__ Your wedding photographer has a timeline for a reason! The timeline is created to ensure they have enough time to capture all of the shots you’ll want from your wedding day—so make their lives easier by sticking to the timeline as much as possible.\n\n- __...but also be flexible.__ Ideally, you’ll stick to your wedding photography timeline—but things happen that may throw you off course (for example, it may take you longer to get ready than you originally planned or there may be a delay in getting to your first look location). Make sure to stay flexible and allow your photographer to switch things up as necessary.\n\n- __Keep awkward moments to a minimum.__ Your wedding photographer is there to capture happy moments—not awkward ones. Think about any potential awkward interactions—and make a plan to deal with them. (For example, if you have divorced parents that can’t be in the same room, make sure to let your photographer know so she can schedule those family portraits separately.)\n\n- __Make sure to account for transportation time.__ If you’re taking photos at multiple locations, make sure to build transportation time into your timeline.\n\n- __Don’t be afraid to ask for a redo.__ If something feels off about your photography sessions—for example, you don’t like where you’re snapping your bridal party photos or the sky is too dark and cloudy for your liking—don’t be afraid to ask your photographer to either retake the photos or rethink their approach and offer other options.\n\nWhile it may be tempting to figure out your wedding photos on a whim throughout your wedding day, ensuring you get all the shots you want will require some planning. Start by deciding who you want to take photos with and where they will be taken. Then, as a couple, choose whether or not you want a “first look” photo. Work with your photographer to get a better sense of how long they need to get high-quality shots. And finally, create a detailed timeline for your wedding day, then share it with all the appropriate people. Taking these steps will ensure your big day runs smoothly, so you can enjoy being in the moment—and enjoy getting back your wedding photos after your big day. (Don’t forget to ask about turnaround time!)","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"You’ll be reminiscing on your wedding photos for years to come. 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Here are cheap rehearsal dinner ideas from Zola.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T04:41:26.496Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4xVQpZoBKXEPIyxsp4Il5q/cdf04678e673b19dc6aabcfcbd2cbe3a/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Rehearsal dinners can be as elegant or as laid-back as you want them to be—and an event that allows you to let loose before your wedding day. \n- Keep your rehearsal dinner affordable by holding it at home, a public park, or another low-cost venue. \n- Book buffet-style catering or coordinate a pot-luck dinner in order to reduce food costs. Get creative with decorations by making them yourself or upcycling objects you may already have lying around your home. \n- Pick a theme for your rehearsal dinner that fits your aesthetic and allows you to decorate and cater the event without putting too much of a strain on your budget. ","body":"Bringing people together to celebrate your love doesn’t always bring the same degree of excitement to your wallet as it does to you and your partner. High costs can seem to creep up out of nowhere even for a more intimate occasion like the wedding rehearsal dinner. For a memorable night with family and friends that’s exquisite and easy on the budget, follow along. \n\nIn this piece, we’ll cover everything you need to know from rehearsal dinner basics to creative ideas that will bring radiance and spending relief. Focus more on the wedding-day walk-through and on cherishing small moments—we’ll help you take care of the rest. \n\nHere’s a closer look at what you’ll find below:\n\n- Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know\n- How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly\n- Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas\n- Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\n- Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know \nRehearsal dinners are more than just a walk-through of the ceremony. The post-rehearsal time is an opportunity to sneak extra hugs, conversation, and dancing with your closest friends and family members. \n\nBefore handing out a few tips about how to put on an affordable event, let’s first talk a bit more about what a rehearsal dinner actually is. Who comes? When does it typically happen? Find answers to these questions and more below. \n\n- The what: A rehearsal, of course! You’ll do a general practice of the ceremony from top to bottom to coordinate details such as music, entries, and where to stand. The best part is dinner and drinks afterward with your inner circle of loved ones. \n\n- __The who:__ As wedding tradition goes, the rehearsal dinner is generally reserved for you, your partner, the wedding party, the officiant, and anyone else who may hold a spot on the ceremony program. Some couples may choose to expand the guest list to include a few more family members and friends. Talk this through with your partner to see just how big or how small you’d like to keep things. \n\n- __The where:__ That’s entirely up to you. We’ll give you a few rehearsal dinner venue ideas below, but there are no rules that dictate where exactly you should hold your rehearsal dinner. From seaside soirees to park picnics, the choice is yours.\n\n- __The when:__ Most couples opt to host their rehearsal dinner on the day before their wedding day, as this ensures that all the ceremony dos and don’ts are fresh in everyone’s minds. If you choose to do it sooner, let your wedding guests know so that they can adjust their schedules. \n\n- __The why:__ To go over last-minute details to make sure that there aren’t any hiccups on the day of your wedding. It’s also a time when you and your partner can express thanks to friends and family members for all of the time and effort that they’ve put in to help realize your wedding-day dreams. \n\nNow that you’re familiar with some of the basics, let’s talk about the budget. \n\n## How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly \nIt’s no secret that weddings can often come with a high price tag. Some couples prefer to go all out for their big day and for additional wedding-related events such as the rehearsal dinner or post-wedding brunches. \n\nBut if you’re the type of duo who would prefer to keep spending low for the wedding in order to invest more in a lavish honeymoon or a new home, you’re in the right place. Just because you’d rather keep your celebration budget-friendly, doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice elegance and refinement. Cheap rehearsal dinner ideas do not equate to tacky and tawdry. \n\nHere are a few ideas to help you plan an affordable rehearsal dinner that’s both well-organized and well-polished. \n\n- __Do it at home.__ Whether it’s at your residence or a family member’s, having a backyard or patio gathering is a savvy way to avoid the high costs of booking a venue or renting out space at a restaurant. Plus, it allows you to have full control over all the details such as decor, duration of the event, and dinner choices. \n\n- __Find a low-cost venue.__ If you don’t quite have the space to host an event at home, consider another low-cost alternative such as a public beach or park. It gives you just as much freedom to decorate and tailor it to your liking without the pressure of getting your house event-ready. However, it might not be completely free, so be sure to ask about the cost of a permit and how to go about reserving the space for the date you need. \n\n- __Book a space within your price range.__ Not a fan of backyard barbecues or public park gatherings? Use the Zola Vendor Search tool to find a ready-made venue that’s within your budget. Filter through the available spaces by price, setting, and capacity to find one that works with your vision and your wallet. \n\n- __Coordinate a potluck.__ Especially if you opt for an at-home affair, you can join forces with your rockstar wedding crew and eager-to-help family members. Set up a spreadsheet with plenty of time to spare for people to sign up for different dishes. It doesn’t get much more affordable than this and you’ll probably find that people are happy to contribute in any way that they can. \n\n- __Opt for buffet-style catering.__ If you’d rather leave the cooking to the professionals, elect to hire a catering service. Ask about buffet-style dinner options since this will allow you to keep a fixed cost per person instead of opening it up for guests to order individual meals and drinks. \n\n- __Ask about your venue’s event policies.__ If you’ve reserved a date and time for your rehearsal dinner at a hotel or restaurant, ask them to be upfront with you about the total costs. You’ll need to pay the rental fee for the locale, of course, but it would be important to find out if there are any minimum spending requirements for food and drinks.\n\n- __Ask a creative friend for a favor.__ You’ve already booked a photographer for your wedding day but you’d like to get a few snaps of you, your partner, and your crew at the rehearsal dinner too. See if one of your friends who’s got an eye for photography wouldn’t mind documenting a few special moments throughout the night. They might offer to do so free of charge, but consider thanking them for their efforts with a bottle of wine or a gift card to their favorite eatery. \n\n- __Opt for handmade decorations.__ The internet is chock-full of good ideas for DIY decorations. You might be surprised to find that most projects are fairly easy to succeed at too, so you won’t need to be a master crafter to pull it off. From upcycled picture frames and shutters to wood-burned coasters, the sky’s the limit when it comes to handmade, budget-friendly decor. \n\nNow that you’ve packed your brainstorm list to the brim with affordable rehearsal dinner ideas, let’s see how you can pull them all together. Get your creative juices flowing a bit more in the next section where we’ll help you tie your ideas together into a charming and cohesive rehearsal dinner theme. \n\n## Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas \nNot quite sure where to start when it comes to choosing a theme for your rehearsal dinner? Sometimes all you need are a few ideas to help nudge you in the right creative direction. Get some inspiration from the following and feel free to adapt them to fit your own unique vision. \n\n- __Piazza pizza party –__ Look to Venice, Italy for your inspiration for this budget-friendly theme. Decorate your back patio with lights, greenery, and maybe even a small garden fountain to channel the aesthetic of an Italian piazza. For dinner? Pizza, of course! It’s always a crowd favorite and something that’s quick and easy to put together. It feeds a number of people, too, so getting it catered by a local ristorante shouldn’t run up a high bill. Set up a gelato bar for dessert and include a station for guests to add their own toppings. \n\n- __Backyard barbecue –__ If you’d rather opt for a more casual theme, take advantage of backyard space for some grilling and lawn games. The venue is free, of course, and it will give you and your crew a chance to be comfortable and informal before having to dress to the nines on the following day. Coordinate a potluck, if you want, and include some classic homestyle dishes such as macaroni and cheese or potato salad to pair with the barbecue burgers and kebabs. \n\n- __Parisian charcuterie picnic (aka grown-up Lunchables) –__ Save yourself some time with a simple, yet classy charcuterie spread. Take a quick trip to your local bulk store (think Costco or Sam’s Club) to pick up an assortment of deli meats, pre-sliced cheeses, crackers, and bread for a delectable, self-serve rehearsal dinner. You can also purchase plenty of fruit and veggie plates for a balanced meal. \n\nAdd a few checkered tablecloths and some tapered candles in wine bottles, and you’ll have a little taste of Paris the night before your big day. \n\n## Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\nSince you’ve been planning your wedding, you’re probably no stranger to lists by now. The number of to-dos that pile up for wedding day details can be a bit overwhelming at times. \n\nKeep everything in order and in one place by customizing your task list at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). Plus, our app is designed to send you notifications whenever a deadline is approaching. The good news? You can use this handy tool for your rehearsal dinner checklist, too. \n\nNot sure where to begin when it comes to prioritizing tasks? Here’s a list of things to get you started down the aisle on the right foot. \n\n- __Set up a budget –__ You might already have a budget set for the wedding day itself, but it’s a good idea to make another one for your rehearsal dinner too. Even though you’re catering to a smaller crowd, costs for food, decorations, and wedding party gifts can add up quickly. Work out with your partner and your families how much you’re willing to spend, and then do your best to adhere to it. \n\n- __Decide who to invite –__ As we mentioned before, this event is typically reserved for your closest family members, your wedding crew, and anyone playing a part in the ceremony itself. Feel free to do things your own way by opening it up to plus-ones or a few extended family members. However, just be mindful of how that might affect the budget before doing so. Another idea is to keep the dinner to just your inner circle, and then open a space up later in the night for more guests to stop by for mingling and a few pre-wedding day cocktails. \n\n \n- __Pick a theme that works with your wedding style –__ Modern and formal? Or, vintage and bohemian? Your rehearsal dinner can be a design extension of your wedding day and an opportunity to weave in a few recurring motifs throughout the entire weekend. Or, you can change things up completely by hosting a dinner with its own unique style and personality. If the wedding day is a black-tie affair, perhaps you’d prefer a casual beachfront barbecue for your rehearsal dinner. Whatever you decide, use the theme as a base from which all other details will extend. \n\n- __Choose and book the venue –__ If budget consciousness is a priority for you, picking a venue can be an opportunity to save big or not. Even for small groups, some [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) may cost a pretty penny just to reserve the space and could even require a minimum tab for food and drinks. An at-home event won’t cost you anything to book the space, of course, but it may require more investment in details such as decorations and floral arrangements. Decide what’s most important to you in an event space and give yourself plenty of time to book in advance. \n\n- __Coordinate catering –__ If you’ve chosen a restaurant or a hotel function hall, you might not even need to give catering much of a second thought. These spaces are well-oiled machines when it comes to hosting events and probably already have menu options and in-house catering services ready to go. If you’ll be celebrating at a park or at home, you and your partner will have to work out these details yourselves. Shop around to find something that satisfies your flavor palette and budget, or consider cooking a few dishes yourself. \n\n- __Send out the invitations –__ Pardon the obvious, but if you’re hosting an event your guests will need to know where to go and what time to be there. Your wedding party is probably already expecting a pre-wedding walk-through as part of their duties, but be sure to clue them in on the details of the dinner and the rehearsal itself so they can add it to their schedule. Consider coordinating [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to match the theme of your dinner. A few floral accents would be well-suited for a garden party, or you can establish elegance with a gold metallic foil. \n\n- __Create a playlist –__ You don’t necessarily need to book a DJ or a band for your rehearsal dinner (unless you want to, of course) but some background music for mealtime and mingling could be a nice touch. Curate a playlist to your liking for an at-home affair or check with your venue to see if you’re able to provide your own music. If you’ve got a family or friend who is musically inclined, you might consider asking them to play a few songs for a laid-back dinner—complete with sing-alongs and dancing. \n\n- __Include a few fun activities –__ You and your guests are there to take care of the logistics before the big day, but don’t forget to have fun, too. Beyond dinner and drinks, consider adding a few games and activities to let loose the night before your ceremony. Lawn games and Jenga are always a hit. Or, you can encourage people to get creative by setting up a DIY table for crafting or scrapbooking. \n\n- __Say thank you and enjoy the company –__ This will likely be your last event with family and friends as an unmarried couple. Soak in those moments with the people who have come from near and far to rally behind your love story before the wild ride of married life takes off. Consider taking this opportunity to send out a thank you to them too. A handwritten note is a simple, heartfelt gesture; or, shop for a few small gifts that your wedding party will be able to have as a keepsake for years to come. \n\nWhen it comes to weddings our well never runs dry. Stay tuned for more rehearsal dinner hacks in the section below. \n\n## Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner \nFeeling just about ready to dive into the planning part of your rehearsal dinner? Before you go, let’s send you off with a few more tips and tricks to ensure a smooth and stylish soiree. Add this advice to your checklist for you to come back to whenever you need a reminder. \n\n- __Don’t forget to keep an eye on mother nature.__ Some weather is unpredictable, but keep tabs on the forecast in the days leading up to your rehearsal dinner in case you need to make any last-minute adjustments. \n\n- __Incorporate a taste of the town.__ Whether you’re celebrating in your backyard or in an upscale restaurant, pay attention to what makes this part of the world different from others. Include some local flavors made famous in that region or any seasonal treats that are hard to find elsewhere. \n\n- __Let your wedding guests know the best way to dress.__ Being clear about attire is important, especially for your rehearsal dinner. If you have any activities planned that require a change of clothes, give the invitees a heads-up so that they can pack accordingly. Additionally, if you’ve opted for a laid-back get-together, tell your friends and family that it’s okay to keep it casual. \n\n- __If you’re hosting at home, be sure to give your attendees clear instructions about how to arrive.__ Particularly if your home or the event space is located in a remote area where cell service is sparse, be in touch with them ahead of time in order to avoid losing a friend down a country back road. \n\n## Design Your Dream Rehearsal Dinner at Zola \nThe rehearsal dinner may just seem like one more thing you have to plan on top of your wedding day, but given the right tools and tricks, it can actually be quite easy and fun. Especially, when you let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help you take care of the essentials. \n\nHere at the hub of all things wedding related we believe in:\n\nHelping you celebrate your love through every step of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process.\n\nSharing the news of your wedding day and the details of your love story on your very own, easy-to-customize [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\nConnecting you with the right florists, photographers, and other [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to bring each piece of the planning puzzle together into one picture-perfect event.\n\nYour rehearsal dinner is already starting to take shape. Keep molding the magic right here at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/).","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:45.440Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."},"topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101","description":"Your complete guide to wedding planning from start to finish. Get practical advice and insider tips for planning your dream wedding from staying within your budget to creating your gift registry to all the little details in between saying \"Yes!\" and \"I do\". Find answers to all your wedding planning questions here.","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Real weddings","slug":"real-weddings","description":"Learn from real couples as they break down exactly how they planned and budgeted for their weddings. Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"duties-of-the-father-of-the-groom","title":"What Does The Groom’s Family Pay For? + Duties List","excerpt":"Learn about the different father of the groom duties with this helpful guide. Read on to discover more.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:39:42.802Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6j6aXC2QuSVpzWVKT0nu9o/6bb939d2d770bb6f2e99c9187a6df26d/Inline_Civicphotos.png","altText":"Father of the Groom"},"heroCredit":"Civic Photos","body":"Seeing your son get married is perhaps one of the most exciting days of any parent's life—and if your son is getting married, you may be wondering what part, exactly, you play in their big day.\n\nIf your son is getting married to a bride, you're in luck; the groom’s parents are often on the more relaxed side of the wedding party—as, at most weddings, there’s typically a bigger spotlight on the [bride's parents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-wedding-cake) on the wedding day. But, this doesn’t mean that the mother or father of the groom’s role is less important. The groom’s parents can make a lot of contributions to help make the wedding fun, successful, and memorable.\n\nIf your son is marrying the groom of his dreams, you can expect to take on more of the spotlight—and more of the responsibilities that go along with it.\n\nWhatever the situation, the groom's parents (whether that's the groom's mother and groom's father, groom's two fathers, groom's two mothers, or a two sets of parents, with a combination of biological and stepparents) get to enjoy witnessing the best day of their son’s life as he marries the love of his life.\n\nIf you’re a parent whose son is getting married, we have listed the things that are expected of you, from the moment he gets engaged up until his wedding day.\n\n![What Should the Father of the Bride Wear?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26mmGU1x2zryKjZWoXLJaw/536b64b915f2c640d951dba5eacd9a3b/inline_unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Before the Wedding\n\nDon’t know what mother or father of the groom duties you'll have before the big day? Here are a few ways you can prep for your son’s wedding day.\n\n### Get to Know Your Future In-laws\nIf you have not been formally introduced to your future son or daughter-in-law’s parents, reach out to them soon, and invite them for lunch or dinner with the entire family to celebrate the couple’s engagement. Getting to know the groom's family or bride’s family before the big day is a great way to merge the two sides.\n\n### Offer Financial Help\nGone are the days when the parents of the bride (or groom) are the ones footing the entire bill. Nowadays, when it comes to [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding), wedding costs are mostly covered by the couple getting married—or, if you have the resources, you can offer to help your son and his soon-to-be-spouse cover some of their wedding-related financial responsibilities.\n\n## What Do The Groom’s Parents Traditionally Pay For?\nIf you do decide to help your son financially, depending on your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), there are a few wedding expenses that, traditionally, the groom's family pays, including:\n\n- __[Wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings)__. This includes the wedding band for both your son and their bride or groom. Worry not, you aren’t expected to pay for anyone’s engagement ring, as well.\n\n- __Marriage License__. Before the wedding can take place, the couple needs to acquire their marriage license. This can be completed before the wedding or signed during the wedding ceremony.\n\n- __Engagement party__. While the parents of the bride [traditionally pay for wedding planning expenses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding) (as well as a bridal shower) and [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-do-bridesmaids-pay-for) contribute to the [bachelorette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-bachelorette-party), the parents of the groom traditionally cover the costs of the engagement party. This event sees loved ones come together to celebrate the engaged couple.\n\n- __Rehearsal dinner__. Likewise, this dinner takes place in the nights before the wedding in celebration of the upcoming wedding.\n\n- __The groom's attire__. Much like it is tradition for a bride’s parents to purchase her wedding dress, it’s good etiquette for a groom’s parents to purchase his wedding attire. This may include a suit or tux, dress shirt, socks, shoes, and/or accessories.\n\n- __Flowers__. This includes, but isn’t limited to, wedding florals such as the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for the groomsmen, corsages, centerpieces, and other decor.\n\n- __The [wedding officiant's](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant) fee__. This covers the money paid to the officiant for performing the wedding, including a tip.\n\n- __Gifts for the best man and groomsmen.__ Often, a groom will be inclined to give wedding gifts to his best man and groomsmen for participating in the wedding. Depending on budget, these can be as affordable or pricy as one likes.\n\n- __Entertainment.__ For example, the wedding band or DJ, a photo booth, or similar that is at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Alcohol for the wedding.__ Be it an open bar, limited bar, or BYOB.\n\n- __Honeymoon costs for the newlyweds.__ This may include flights, accommodations, and excursions.\n\nIf you're not sure what to contribute, sit down with your son and his fiancée so that you can figure out what kind of help they need—and what it makes sense for you to pay for.\n\n### Offer Support to Your Son\nBe available to your son, especially during the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/15281fd5-a93e-44f0-b480-bc0df933b290) process. Getting married is such a big step, and wedding planning can sometimes be chaotic. Be there to give him practical marriage advice and calm his nerves during the planning stage (which he’ll need). You can also offer to help him with wedding planning duties, like researching what he needs to do to obtain his marriage license or helping him narrow down the guest list. (Just make sure not to [overstep your boundaries](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).)\n\nAside from this, you can also use your strengths to help. Are you a builder? You can help with some DIY projects such as building yard games if they’re having the wedding outdoors or creating wedding favors. Do you whip up legendary cocktails? You can help the couple plan their bar menu and develop their signature cocktail. Spending time with the happy couple will give you an idea of what they need and which areas you can be of the most help.\n\n### Host the Engagement Party and/or Rehearsal Dinner\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n### Share Family Traditions\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n![Duties of the Father of the Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7mVr1BiDRI7OO19We69Yuh/7803725dbe2ac67c43d4fb98f854673b/Inline_Taylor_Cotilla_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Taylor Cotilla Photography\n\n## During the Wedding\nThe mother and/or father of the groom's duties isn’t over just yet. As the groom's parent, there's plenty for you to do on your son's big day, including:\n\n### Get Ready With the Groom and Groomsmen\nIf you're the groom's father, you'll want to get ready with your son during the morning of the wedding. Make sure that your son eats in the morning and is prepped and ready on time. (If you're the groom's mother, you won't be getting ready with your son and his groomsmen—but feel free to stop by with breakfast and some words of encouragement before you go get ready yourself.)\n\n### Be Present for Photos\nFamily portraits are done while getting ready and immediately after the wedding ceremony. Make sure you're ready to go for photos—and, if the wedding photographer needs help, offer to go and gather other family members as necessary.\n\n### Walk Down the Aisle\nBoth parents of the groom have a significant role at the ceremony, and they can either walk down the aisle together or with the groom before sitting in the very front of the venue, on the right side. (If you and your son's other parent are separated, you may opt to walk down the aisle separately.)\n\n### Say a Few Words\nAs the groom's parents, you might be asked by the couple to give a wedding toast at the reception. This is your time to “introduce” your son to their new spouse's family by sharing some of his amazing traits, as well as a little bit about his childhood. Your wedding speech will also include thanking the guests for coming and welcoming your son or daughter-in-law into the family.\n\n### Dance With the Bride\nMany weddings have parent dances—and that includes dances for the groom's parents. Traditionally, the mother of the groom does a son dance with the groom.\n\nBut the dancing doesn't end there! Once the party gets underway, make sure that each parent spends some time dancing with your son and his new spouse (for example, if your son married a woman, the father of the groom might ask the bride for a dance).\n\n## Tips to Ask My Parents or In-Laws to Pay for Wedding Things\nPerhaps you’re the son in this case. Though many of these expenses come with a traditional wedding, approaching your parents and asking them to pay for any one (or several) of them isn’t easy. That being said, we’ve compiled a few tips to help you start and carry the conversation.\n\n### Be direct\nThough you may be nervous, avoid talking in circles and beating around the bush. Be straightforward and honest with your intentions and asking.\n\n### Be polite\nThat being said, it’s most important that you remember to be kind. Requesting help with paying for a wedding is no small ask. Be polite, mindful, and appreciative.\n\n### Ask them to be involved\nIf it’s alright with you and your partner, also ask your parents if they’d like to be involved in the matters of planning a wedding they’ll be contributing towards. Let them know that their input is also important to you.\n\n## Conclusion\nAs the groom's parents, the best wedding etiquette you can perform is being there to support your son. Welcoming wedding guests and making sure that everyone is comfortable is always a good idea for the big day. 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Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? Here's the rundown on one of the first tasks you’ll need to accomplish after saying “yes!”","title":"10 Tips to Pick the Perfect Wedding Venue","slug":"how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Dzm0QohK8uai2YouWoMUg/f7db6c6feb0fe4c3d27f9f2a914572ad/EA-revamp_Wedding-planning_How-to-choose-venue.jpg","altText":"Bridge and groom in front of the church"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Weddings are fun, but planning them can be stressful. 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Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding decorations","slug":"wedding-decorations"},"slug":"wedding-themes","title":"75 Wedding Themes to Inspire Every Type of Couple","excerpt":"Looking for wedding themes to suit your personality and style? Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. Shop for thematic save-the-dates, invitations, and decor elements on Zola’s [Wedding Boutique](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop).\n\n![wedding-themes-alternative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KF7Kfp5f2WR1PH2XgqoAt/98fa5d92d309df258f4f4975d8ba1323/wedding-theme-alternative.png)\n\nSources: [Uriel Photography](http://www.uriel-photography.com/) | [Michelle Edgemont](https://michelleedgemont.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n","tag":"Wedding Style","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In this wedding style guide, find out why thinking about your wedding style early on will help you in your planning, and how to use Zola Inspiration to discover your own personal wedding vision. 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Explore unique, thoughtful and personalizable gifts to say thank you to your guests.\n","title":"57 Best Wedding Favor Ideas Guests Will Love","slug":"wedding-favor-ideas","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4htHvgMQ2kudreHw1fqB8n/d78a19bfafdcf0518d029991930d3aa8/close-up-of-wedding-party-favors.jpg","altText":"Wedding favor gift boxes laid out on a white table."},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From unique venues to creative menus, Zola has the ultimate guide to having a unique rehearsal dinner.","title":"Unique Rehearsal Dinner Ideas","slug":"unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5WcyJuBjdsmglD8meE708L/90ba583caa8336a8a73636097184840e/Hero_Black-tieAffairAtCapitolTheatre_AmandaMayPhotos.jpg","altText":"Unique Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Classic wedding themes are tried and true. 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These mason jar cocktail kits are the perfect solution to showing you care without too much fuss. \n","publishedAt":"2019-07-22T16:20:34.333Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ctk29C6DAnK7Wfxh7hAln/3c28f31551ebe64246f2702ceef9cd6d/zola-mason-jar-group-3-min.jpg","altText":"Mason-jar-cocktails"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Putting together favors for your wedding or bachelorette party is the perfect way to show your appreciation for your [friends and family](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Even so, when it comes down to actually giving a gift to each attendee, things can get overwhelming quick. \n\nSo, we put together these DIY mason jar cocktail kits. Whether you’re a margarita maven or cider connoisseur, these kits are a super simple way to make your guests feel warm and welcome (we mean before putting them to use!) Keep reading to learn how to make the cocktail kits or skip to all the recipes below. \n\n## How to Make a Mason Jar Cocktail Kit\n\nBefore you start, make sure to get an [accurate count](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-politely-remind-guests-to-rsvp) of the number of guests you expect to attend. It also never hurts to have a few extra. Then, gather your materials:\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-materials](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2OTTnN2t9VHz0HbTpWE2Oc/5373a7528f2289fd1be782788c597e98/mason-jar-cocktails-materials.png)\n\n- __Mason jar__: You can go large or small, but at least a pint or quart-sized jar will be perfect for most cocktails.\n- __Straw:__ Match the straw with the cocktail, or provide a straw in a contrasting color for a vibrant pop.\n- __Scissors__: You'll need scissors to cut the twine or string, as well as any gift tags you may attach.\n- __Twine__: Use twine, string, yarn, or even a ribbon (for a more refined look) to tie on the tag and mini liquor bottles.\n- __Drink tag__: Attach a tag to thank guests for coming, and let them know how to make their kits. We made printable tags for you! \n- __Mixers__: Some drinks will only require one ingredient, while others may need extras like simple syrup or tabasco. Depending on your cocktail, you may have to get creative to fit everything in the jar. \n- __Liquor__: The smallest bottle you can find at the store, typically 1.7 oz or about 50ml will be just the right size to tie on the outside of your kit.\n\n### Step 1: Add some small accents like paper filling or confetti for a stylish flair. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/J2pSq4gGdnwnCQNpzONeS/c2b850628b16ef06da2a6ec515e6c206/mason-jar-cocktails-step-1.jpg)\n \n### Step 2: Place your mixer and any extra ingredients like Tabasco inside the jar\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3T5916pceBY1ZnTqZg1F3j/5ddf7ca5b8a1aa2780e3ab0acff5b3b4/mason-jar-cocktails-step-2.jpg)\n\n### Step 3: Insert the straw, securing it in a position where it will stay put. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3wA4LdKsWmPeJwN7PDrvF5/9c6b19e68db6bc812ea2491a1ea1f90b/mason-jar-cocktails-step-3.jpg)\n\n### Step 4: Attach a gift tag around the grooves of the jar and tie a knot.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-4](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3aef8Qdwz9BSiTfShubyrV/57caad7c50817ddbad4bf35518528769/mason-jar-cocktails-step-4.jpg)\n\n### Step 5: Hold your liquor to the knot and tie it just below the cap.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/v59bYskLskrAfnIy6Evx2/be4d16a0249bf77ed71a35877e5d9fe0/mason-jar-cocktails-step-5.jpg)\n\n### Step 6: Admire!\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3qYfjBnttrPU6hlS0qb3u/169ffe7867bf850c64ae7b00ef978b9e/mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary.jpg)\n\nIt's that simple. Just repeat the process for the number of guests, and you'll have charming party favors for everyone in no time.\n\nTry out your personal favorite cocktail, or keep reading for more mason jar cocktail kit recipe ideas:\n\n## Bubbling Bride\n\nThis lime-less take on a Moscow Mule is perfect the perfect sparkling drink for an outdoor wedding. The light flavor and fizz of the ginger beer will be a welcome refreshment on a warm afternoon. For a clever ode to this cocktail’s usual copper mug, try tying in a copper straw. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-bubbling-bride](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3pj3gXxCdRyBcufMxTTYE/9c82dc9c174e181184aa7fded5b530f4/mason-jar-cocktails-bubbling-bride.jpg)\n\nWhat you’ll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Copper straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Ginger beer\n- 1.7 oz mini vodka\n\n__Mix it up:__ Not a fan of vodka? You can swap out the liquor for any other. Tequila makes a Mexican Mule, and bourbon makes a Kentucky Mule. Gin and whiskey also work! For a refined flair, try adding sprigs of lavender and a little container of lavender simple syrup. \n\nFor a bit more of a splash, you can include a powdered drink flavor packet. Cranberry and watermelon work especially well!\n\n## Apple of My Eye\n\nPlanning a winter occasion? Warm your guest’s hearts and hands with these spiked hot apple cider kits. Throw in a cinnamon stick, and you have the perfect cool-weather treat or [groomsmen gift](https://groomsmengiftideas.com/). \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-apple-of-my-eye](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3w36Pj6x2TO4nQj9TilNWb/3cfe4bfc7a700b43b5d5e20d1c054624/mason-jar-cocktails-apple-of-my-eye.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Cinnamon stick\n- Drink tag\n- 1.7 oz spiced rum\n- Hot apple cider packet\n\n__Mix it up__: Supply a bit of caramel flavoring, and you have yourself the liquid equivalent of a candied apple. Another fall favorite, maple syrup also pairs well with hot apple cider, lending it a decadent spin.\n\n## Blissful Mary\n\nStart your union off right with this uncomplicated take on a Bloody Mary. Still packed with plenty of spice, this kit is sure to impress even the most discerning guest. The jar contains everything you need to achieve this satisfying cocktail, with way less prep.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3qYfjBnttrPU6hlS0qb3u/169ffe7867bf850c64ae7b00ef978b9e/mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Mini tabasco\n- V8 vegetable juice\n- 1.7 oz mini vodka\n\n__Mix it up:__ As garnishes go, the bloody mary has seen it all. From celery to bacon, to full-on burgers, this cocktail goes great with anything savory. Swap the tabasco for Sriracha for a Thai twist. \n\nTo transform this cocktail into a tropical treat, skip the heavy V8 vegetable juice and pick up V8 Splash instead. Pair it with a little bottle of Malibu and your guests will be able to hear the ocean in their jars. \n\n## Mason Mar-jar-ita\n\nNothing beats the sweet and sour combo of a tasty margarita. This margarita in a jar will fit right in at a springtime party or wedding. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-mar-jar-rita](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VngcjghdaXtsS2TrU2PMZ/dd49751db33adfb6093786158de95e0d/mason-jar-cocktails-mar-jar-rita.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need:\n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- 8 oz margarita mix can\n- 1.7 oz tequila\n\n__Mix it up__: As one of the most re-mixed drinks around, there’s no shortage of creative ways to do something new. Shake things up by adding some flavor packets in strawberry or raspberry.\n\n## Pop the Question\nIf you’re a fan of brunch drinks, this Bellini-inspired cocktail is perfect for you. These are the perfect favor for a bachelorette party or girl’s day. Just pop the tab on some sparkling wine, add in peach-flavored vodka, and you and your besties can enjoy a bubbly beverage any time of day.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-pop-the-question](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UIMTYXPOY4reNiezPM8Wo/2acaa0407a862f71a9997b0bdb77e441/mason-jar-cocktails-pop-the-question.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need:\n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Can of sparkling wine\n- 1.7 oz Peach flavored vodka\n\n__Mix it up__: Here’s the secret to sparkling wine: you can add any juice to it (or none!). Substitute the vodka for orange juice,pineapple juice, grapefruit juice, or peach juice. If you prefer bubbly beverages, swap the white wine for champagne or rosé!\n\n## Cocktail Kit Gift Tags\n![mason-jar-cocktails-all](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3RCUHEyYscGAtvqAFwrEo9/8349db4620d8f32b0bc212a952af20d3/mason-jar-cocktails-all.jpg)\n\nAfter you’ve collected your ingredients, packaged everything, and tied it all in a nice bow, there’s still something missing: gift tags. Take your mason jar to the next level with a gift tag that lets your guests know how much you [care about them](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop)!\n\nWe went ahead and made them for you!\n\n $\"mason-jar-cocktails-download-button\"$

\n\n\n## Cocktail Recipes\n\nIf your wedding or party date is still far off, save a copy of these recipes so you can whip them up when it's time. They make a great touch for backyard or birthday parties, or even just as a personal treat. Here are all the recipes again below:\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-infographic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dQ34zAO2j1dfAAytryGwT/9fec86f34f04d97113e9a9df1d4ea380/mason-jar-cocktails-infographic.png)","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:48.084Z"}],"name":"Wedding decorations","slug":"wedding-decorations","description":"Planning your wedding decorations and theme just might be the best part. Whether you're searching for beautiful ceremony backdrops, color palette inspo, or unique and trendy ideas, you'll find the inspiration you need to create a picture-perfect celebration."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-ceremony-script","title":"8 Wedding Ceremony Scripts to Borrow & Printables","excerpt":"Find beautiful wedding ceremony scripts ranging from unique to traditional. Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. 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