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15 Plant Wedding Favors Ideas You’ll Love

Grow in love with these popular plant wedding favors.

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Wedding Night Confessions: 10 Newlyweds Dish on How to Manage Expectations

What happens on the wedding night? Read stories from real couples about what they expected…and what actually happened!

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Wedding planning 101

A Guide to Wedding Vows

Learn all you need to know about wedding vows and use our flowchart to determine whether you should write your own—plus find tons of examples of traditional vows to inspire you.

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What Is Jumping The Broom? History & Meaning

Explore the meaning and history of "Jumping the Broom" in weddings. Discover how this tradition symbolizes unity and love, adding a meaningful touch to your special day.

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Wedding Ceremony Readings: How to Choose Readings for Every Wedding

Find the wedding ceremony readings that feel right and uniquely you. Read our guide for how to choose wedding readings. Plus, find wedding reading examples for inspiration.

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9 Savvy Ways to Use Social Media at Your Wedding

Social media has turned weddings from guest-only experiences to larger broadcasts for loved ones (or wedding-loving strangers). Here's how to incorporate various social channels into your wedding—in a tactful way.

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Unique Rehearsal Dinner Ideas

From unique venues to creative menus, Zola has the ultimate guide to having a unique rehearsal dinner.

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Funny Wedding Vow Ideas

Looking to get your guests laughing on your wedding day? Discover our favorite funny wedding vow ideas here!

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How Long Is Cocktail Hour? The Power of Happy Hour

A guide as to why keeping your cocktail hour the perfect length is the best way to ensure that your reception goes exactly as planned.

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How Long Should a Rehearsal Dinner Be?

Planning your wedding rehearsal dinner, but don't know how long it should be? Read on for Zola's guide on rehearsal dinner timeline.

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Wedding Rehearsal Dinners: 5 Ideas We Love

Wedding rehearsal dinners are the final celebration before the big day. Here are five ideas we love as you plan yours.

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Unique Wedding Vows

Need inspiration for creating unique wedding vows? We’ve got you covered. Read on for all our top tips.

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\n \n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n \n ","subtopicPage":{"articles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"what-are-the-best-plant-wedding-favors","title":"15 Plant Wedding Favors Ideas You’ll Love","excerpt":"Grow in love with these popular plant wedding favors.","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2021-02-24T20:11:13.262Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/nArhdTGXctkwbWDvu6gz8/f3b8cfeb75f040960249b85997cc2143/Hero_Zola__71_.jpg","altText":"Best Plant Wedding Favors"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Seed packets, saplings, and succulents are all sweet and traditional ways to thank your guests for attending your big day.\n- If you’re the DIY type, consider creating a pressed flower favor or lavender-infused gift for your guests to enjoy.\n- Though it might not come to mind when you think of “plants,” tea is a great option that you know will actually get used.\n","body":"For the plant lovers of the world, finding favors that your guests will also adore is easier than it sounds. From succulents and seedlings to flower crowns and elegant sachets, there are plenty of ways to repurpose blooms and incorporate greenery into your wedding day gifts. Plus, it’s an eco-friendly way to celebrate your big day! Below are some of our favorite ideas that work with many different budgets and styles.\n\n## 1. Seeds \nWhether you’re an avid gardener or simply a fan of pretty blooms, seed packets are a great wedding favor that can live on even after your special day has passed. Consider common fresh herbs that are easy to grow, like basil, rosemary, and parsley, or if you’re channeling a more bohemian vibe, go for a wildflower mix. If you want to go the extra mile, you can even get a personalized seed packet with your name or wedding date.\n\n## 2. Pressed Flowers\nFor creative types, pressed [flowers](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/flower-decor) are a great way to go. While giving them in a simple glass frame (for example, a pressed rosette) is an elegant option, notepads and bookmarks with pressed floral accents make lovely, versatile favors as well. \n\n## 3. Dried Flowers \nSmall bundles of dried florals are another great keepsake that also last a while. You can even incorporate dried blooms into your seating cards and guest book to make it cohesive.\n\n## 4. Potted Succulents\nThough they’ve definitely grown in popularity over the years, we never tire of these dainty little plants. Whether you choose to incorporate potted succulents in your decor or simply have a table arrangement with a sweet message (“Let love grow!”), these [wedding favors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-favors) are full of charm that your guests will appreciate. \n\n![What are the best plant wedding favors?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5BprBQRUkO1VXP69u3ZAqb/9c4f69475df54eccd2f2a25f8a5375e0/inline_shutterstock.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## 5. Air Plants\nIf you like the look of succulent wedding favors but need them to travel well, consider air plants, which need very little light and zero soil—making them a great low-maintenance option for out-of-town guests.\n\n## 6. Tea \nIf you’re a fan of [edible favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/edible-party-favors), tea bags are a great (though less traditional) way to incorporate plants into your wedding favors. Consider purchasing some of your favorite tea in bulk and filling small burlap bags or dainty jars for each guest. Having a “tea bar” by the exit where people can create their own mix is always a fun alternative. If you’ve got a more expansive budget, customized tea bags or personal labels are always fun\n\n## 7. Saplings\nIf you’re a plant lover who’s still trying to find creative ways to incorporate them into your big day, saplings are a great choice for favors. Evergreen varieties such as spruce and pine make great options, as well as olive trees for warmer climates. Consider places like the [Greenworld Project](https://www.greenworldproject.net/) to purchase them in bulk. Or look to an online retailer like Etsy if you’re hoping for sweet, [customized labels](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-favor-ideas) labels.\n\n![What are the best plant wedding favors?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6q9JDeKJKcBIe8A3CefiqR/f991a93bd45044e499fb6f43bba7a096/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## 8. Lavender\nAnother less obvious option for plant wedding favors is lavender. Whether you tie dried bundles together or have sachets for your guests to take home, there are many different ways you can package these fragrant blooms. If you’re the crafty type, homemade soap and candles infused with lavender are both great alternatives that are a little more extravagant.\n\n## 9. Floral Illustrations\nThough they might not be actual “flowers” per se, floral illustrations are a beautiful way to commemorate your big day. You could either purchase some small prints from one of your favorite artists or have someone do a custom illustration of your actual wedding flowers in advance. If you want to go all out, you can even have a live illustrator at your event sketching your florals in real time.\n\n## 10. Floral Crown\nYou don’t have to be celebrating Midsummer to appreciate a beautiful [flower crown](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/zolabridal_flower_crown_headband_silver). If you’re hosting a more intimate gathering, having your florist create simple floral crowns for your guests to wear and take home is a beautiful way to incorporate additional florals into your big day and repurpose them as favors. Some simple eucalyptus with a few scattered blooms makes a lovely, minimalist accessory. Note that these might be on the pricier end, so purchasing some wholesale flowers and assembling them with your wedding party is always an option.\n\n## 11. Potpourri\nPotpourri is made from dried floral petals, herbs, and spices—and they’re one of the more fragrant wedding guest gift ideas you might use as a favor. If you can, incorporate a scent or flower that might remind guests of your wedding—and add custom favor tags that list all the different fragrances.\n\n## 12. Wedding Flowers\nWhatever flowers you’re featuring in your wedding flowers or wedding decor, consider sending home with your guests! While you can’t send every guest home with a bouquet or one of your centerpieces, you can offer a single bloom of your signature flower as a wedding favor. (For example, if peonies were the focal point of your wedding flowers, you could give each guest a peony on their way out.)\n\n## 13. Grow Kits\nIf you’re worried your wedding guests don’t exactly have a green thumb, an all-in-on grow kit can be a great way to give them everything they need to get started—including a pot, seeds, and soil.\n\n## 14. Olive Branches\nExtending an olive branch is typically used to end a disagreement. And while you (hopefully!) don’t have to mend any fences with your wedding guests, olive branches are actually quite beautiful—and can make great party gifts for a wedding.\n\n## 15. Planting A Tree In Honor Of Your Guests\nIf traditional favors don’t feel like the right fit for your big day, there are [wedding favor alternatives](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-favor-alternatives)! For example, in lieu of a traditional plant wedding favor for your guests, you might consider planting a tree in their honor or making a donation to a plant-focused organization.\n\nDon’t get tricked into thinking that your budget or busy schedule prevents you from providing some beautiful favors for your guests. When it comes to plant [party favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/favors), your options are abundant, and your guests are sure to love them no matter what you choose. 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Read stories from real couples about what they expected…and what actually happened!","publishedAt":"2022-07-06T20:40:40.043Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5CTP0BDBZM4LASPTW5wzWs/0145b052224b946d82e974dae935377f/wedding-night-expectations__1_.jpg","altText":"man-and-woman-on-wedding-night"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Expectations for the long-awaited wedding night are high. You might envision an unforgettably romantic evening as [newlyweds](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/newlywed-game-questions) in the swankiest hotel suite you’ve ever stepped into, but is that how things really pan out? What do couples do on their wedding night? To find out, we asked real couples about what really happened on their wedding night—the good, the bad, and everything in between. Here are 10 true stories from married couples about what actually happened on their wedding night. Need help prepping for your upcoming wedding night? Jump straight to our infographic below! \n\n## “My husband's blood sugar started dropping”\n“We had rented a cute cottage on the wedding venue property. I thought we'd go back and read some cards, maybe make love, eat some leftovers in bed, and fall asleep—waking up joyous, well-rested, and newlywed. Here’s what actually happened: \n\nDuring the cleanup process, my dad backed my car into a post. I should have taken this as a sign of things to come. My feet hurt so bad from a night of dancing in heels that I could barely walk. We did read the cards, but then the fatigue really set in…my husband is also a T1 diabetic, and his sugar started dropping. At this point we discover that the leftovers never made it to the cottage and all we have are some grandma-style hard candies—not gonna cut it. My feet are still throbbing, so I can't get my shoes on. We scramble into my freshly crunched car and I drive us barefoot to the nearest fast food place—Taco Bell—at 2 a.m. Having saved my new husband from a medical emergency, we return to the cottage, climb into an uncomfortable bed, and wake up gassy and grumpy.” —Caitlin H. \n\n## “Guests kept popping in to say congratulations”\n“I had been really excited to finally get to the love of my life, and although we did not plan the night, I was more excited on our wedding night than any other night we've spent together before then. After the reception, we were already tired and retired to our suite. We took a warm bath together, drinking wine and reminiscing about how we met. Afterward, we lay on the bed cuddling, forced to take things slow because of the guests that kept popping in to say congratulations! Eventually we fell asleep and when we woke, we knew we had to go somewhere private to consummate our union, away from the disturbance of family and friends!” —Emma G.\n\n## “The foreplay consisted of 30 minutes of helping her out of her wedding dress”\n“I, the groom, was extremely hungover from blacking out the night before from the rehearsal dinner. It wasn't my plan at all, but with out-of-town friends, my dad's fraternity brothers, and an open bar, things were bound to happen. The wedding ended and my wife and I headed back to our hotel room for some marriage sex. The foreplay consisted of 30 minutes of helping her out of her wedding dress, followed by both of us complaining about how sore we were after standing and dancing all night. The adrenaline from the day was wearing off and exhaustion was setting in, and we both realized that whatever sex would come that night wouldn't be nearly as memorable as we had thought. Instead we decided to reflect on the night, our future, and all of those sappy things married couples do. We woke up the next morning feeling much more energized and actually excited about being married, and had the wedding night sex—albeit in the morning—we dreamed of!” —Ryan M. \n\n## “We woke up to a literal jungle in our hotel room”\n“Wedding night expectations are to [dance](https://www.zola.com/wedding-party-entrance-songs) the night away with friends and family, and still somehow look glamorous and perfect as you make your way to your hotel room that night—not reality! We finished celebrating around 3 a.m, forgetting that we had told our wedding attendants to put all of the leftover ceremony flowers in our room. Because we’d had a couple of cocktails, that realization didn’t set in until the next morning when we woke up to a literal JUNGLE in our hotel room. I (the bride) started sobbing because it was an overwhelming amount of flowers and it meant the wedding celebration was over. It took us two nights to clean everything up and even feel in the mood!” —Michelle K.\n\n## “Drunk, tired, and exhausted”\n“Going into our wedding night, my expectations were that the sex was going to be so special, and it really wasn't. By the time we got back to the hotel we were so drunk, tired, and exhausted that we did it so fast my husband didn't remember the next morning!” —Alexi M. \n\n![wedding-night-confessions](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2vKioS7ng8m8VWPWsESpmL/33821bcfbecae94ff8b5e3756912c683/wedding-night-confessions.png)\n\n## “She kissed me on the lips…then kissed my husband on the lips”\n“At the end of the night our guests were all hanging around the hotel. One specific guest, we'll call her Adrienne, hung out with my new husband and me until just about bedtime. I have to admit, I hooked up with her in my 20s. In the elevator on the way to our rooms, Adrienne kissed me on the lips. Then she kissed my husband on the lips. I could tell she wanted more, but I wasn't prepared for a threesome on my wedding night. We went our separate ways. My husband was wasted by the time we arrived at our room, and we were so tired we did NOT have sex. I planned on wearing bridal lingerie and having this romantic, dream-like ending to our night…it didn't go as planned!” —Kayla B.\n\n## “My husband spent an hour taking my hair down”\n“Sex wasn’t the priority I thought it would be on my wedding night. We assumed we’d have sex that night, but ultimately we were too exhausted and hungry. I had an elaborate [hairstyle](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-hairstyles) with more hair spray and bobby pins than I’d ever seen in my life. My new husband spent an hour helping me get my hair down, and then we laughed our butts off about how big my hair was—it stuck out like a dome around my head. In the end, though, we were exhausted and spent the night lounging in the tub and then the bed, but fell asleep before we had sex.” —Leah P. \n\n## “We went from IHOP to Denny’s and finally landed at a Waffle House”\n“Our wedding was in the late afternoon followed by a dinner cruise, but by the time the boat docked and we’d said goodbye to our families, we were hungry again. So in our [wedding attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-summer-wedding), we went out in search of food before going home. What we didn’t realize is that a lot of local high schools celebrated homecoming that night and plenty of teenagers had the same idea we did. We went from an IHOP to a Denny’s and finally landed at Waffle House, after 30 minutes of driving from place to place. But the search for food became almost personal—we were going to find something to eat at midnight one way or another. \n\nBy the time we made it home, the day had caught up with us and we struggled to keep our eyes open. Also, we had the full feeling you get when you’ve eaten overly greasy, not-great-for-you food. We had sleepy, quick sex that wasn’t particularly romantic or special. We both admit we’ve had better sex before and that we could have skipped it that night, and that we don’t regret our trip to Waffle House at all.” —Kayla L.\n\n## “We ordered takeout and went to bed”\n“My wife and I are from an Indian background—long weddings and a lot of alcohol at our reception parties. Our wedding was no different. Our wedding night finished around 1 a.m., and we were very drunk, so my wife and I, along with some of our family, got take out from the local place, ate it, then went back to our hotel and went to sleep. For us, it was just another night!\" —Ravo D.\n\n## “Confused and reluctant”\n“We didn’t officially plan our wedding night, but since we hadn’t had sex before our wedding, we knew what we would do. But things didn’t go as planned. We were both confused, and despite being lovebirds, we were reluctant. This was unexpected, but the truth is no matter how much you discuss and prepare, you may still get confused and shy. We didn’t spend time in foreplay, and I wasn’t feeling too comfortable. My wife was in a lot of pain and she was almost crying!” —Edwin M.\n\n## 4 Tips for a Memorable Wedding Night\n![tips-for-wedding-night (2)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4OJCoSDo87IGbAdeIFWaih/f8208e12c022b0dfb2f642910187d2c9/tips-for-wedding-night__2_.png)\n\n### 1. Set the Mood \nHowever you and your partner like to get in the mood, you can plan ahead so that your room feels inviting and comfortable by the time you arrive. You might set up candles and flowers, have the perfect playlist prepared, or pack that new lingerie you ordered. Setting the mood could even mean ensuring that someone has cleaned the room you and your partner will be staying in that night. Whatever it means to you, a little planning ahead of time goes a long way when the night finally rolls around and you’re [too exhausted](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/spa-day-at-home) to do much. \n\n### 2. Have a Plan for Food or Snacks\nYou might be hungry by the time your [wedding night](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is over, and the last thing you want is to be distracted by hunger! Plan ahead and ensure there’s some food available in your room by the time you and your partner arrive—especially if you anticipate your wedding will end late and you might not have many [food options](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-food-ideas) available. \n\n### 3. Relax and Enjoy Each Other's Company\nYour wedding night might include an epic romp…or it might not, and that’s OK. What matters most on your wedding night is enjoying the time spent with your new spouse—if that means cuddling up for a movie or just hanging out and talking, then go for it! \n\n### 4. Keep Plans Flexible \nMaybe you do have grandiose plans for your wedding night, and in a perfect world, they’ll go off without a hitch. While that’s totally possible, there’s always a chance that [something won’t go exactly as planned](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-does-wedding-hair-and-makeup-usually-take). It’s common to hit a few snags after an event like your wedding day, and it’s important to keep things flexible if they do. \n\nYour wedding night is certainly an exciting time, and with the whirlwind of events leading up to it, it’s understandable that it might not culminate into the epic romance of a lifetime—but that’s too much pressure for one night anyhow! Remember that your excitement as newlyweds doesn’t hinge on a single night, and you have the rest of your lives together, so do your best to relax, enjoy yourselves, and lose the pressure. You deserve it! \n\n\n![wedding-night-expectations-ig (2)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hGzSZePhuQGGrmwCxVdW2/46afceb0e01f24eca4c06ee3c30580ce/wedding-night-expectations-ig__2_.jpg)\n","tag":"Inspiration","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:50.751Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-vows","title":"A Guide to Wedding Vows","excerpt":"Learn all you need to know about wedding vows and use our flowchart to determine whether you should write your own—plus find tons of examples of traditional vows to inspire you.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-26T05:02:23.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5fgJ8AqGe0lvwpwV8BPRW1/8c92606c2c00aebb2c1077e82c8a5e5c/wedding_vows.jpg","altText":"a young couple celebrates their exchanging of vows "},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Approach writing your wedding vows knowing your prefered style: completely traditional, partially personalized, or completely original.\n- Consider the feelings you want to share, the time you have, and how formal you’d like your vows to be.\n- Traditional wedding vows vary within all religions and backgrounds, so be sure to know the established format for monologue, repeated, or response vows.\n","body":"Trying to decide whether to write your own wedding vows or use a traditional template? The decision over what to read during your marriage ceremony is a deeply personal one for couples. \n\nThe goods news is that there’s no right or wrong answer except the one you’re most comfortable with. Writing your own vows or adding unique touches to existing ones is a great way to [personalize your ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs), while traditional vows are classic and [timeless](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/simple-wedding-dresses-that-are-elegant-and-timeless). \n\nKeep reading to find out more about wedding vows, how to write them, and traditional vow examples. Our flowchart can help you decide whether to write your own vows or stick to a script, and our infographic at the end is full of tips for overcoming wedding writer’s block. \n\n## What Are Wedding Vows? \nWedding vows are promises a couple makes to each other during their wedding ceremony. Wedding vows aren’t legally required for a marriage service, but they are often included in traditional marriage ceremonies and for religious services. \n\nIn contemporary Western society, wedding vows are a common inclusion in wedding ceremonies and are generally regarded as the most beautiful, intimate, and heartwarming portion of the ceremony. Spoken aloud from one partner to the other, wedding vows describe the love felt between the couple and voices their intentions—in front of a room full of witnesses—for how they plan to think, feel, and act towards each other during their marriage.\n\n## Traditional Wedding Vows vs. Personalized Wedding Vows \n\nWhen it comes to wedding vows, there are many different types to choose from, including varieties for all types of religions and denominations. Couples should consider these three different levels of authorship when thinking about how to approach their wedding vows:\n \n- Using traditional wedding vows exactly as written, according to their religion (or whichever set of traditional vows speaks to them).\n- Using portions of traditional vows, but personalizing them with their own words or modifications.\n- Writing totally original, personalized wedding vows on their own.\n\nFor some couples, the type of wedding ceremony you have will determine the type of wedding vows you can choose from. If you are getting married in a house of worship by a priest, minister, rabbi, or another religious leader, then you may be required to use the traditional marriage vows of that religion. If you choose to have a civil ceremony, however—officiated by a justice of the peace or an individual ordained to perform marriages—then you have more freedom to choose the wedding vows that speak to you.\n\n ![Guide-to-wedding-vows-img02](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/rL2P9YLHTAs42bKRQTV49/2980dc7363ee570fc6ef998b9b12c4c8/Guide-to-wedding-vows-img02.jpg)\n\nIf you have your heart set on a particular set of vows, or would really love to flex your creative muscles and write your own, but plan to get married in a house of worship (like a church, synagogue, or mosque), talk to your [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant). The policies surrounding wedding vows might not be strict, or he or she may be willing to work with you to come up with an arrangement that feels right for you.\n\nWhen it comes time to actually choose your wedding vows, sit down with your partner and discuss what types of vows you’re most comfortable with. Look through the examples below, think about the vows you’ve heard at weddings you’ve attended, and decide whether you want to use (or modify) a set of traditional vows or write your own. If you’re modifying traditional vows, draft up a version of the vows you’d like to use and share it with your officiant.\n\nIf you decide composing [unique wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/vow-renewal-wording-tips-and-tricks) is for you, read our article on [How To Write Your Wedding Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-vows).\n\n## Should You Write Your Own Wedding Vows?\nWriting your own wedding vows is a personal decision for every couple. You might love the freedom to express yourselves in your own words, or you might be terrified at the idea of having to put your feelings into words on paper (and then share them with everyone you know). Here are some questions you and your partner should ask each other when deciding whether you should write your own vows:\n\n\n- Do we feel comfortable sharing our intimate feelings in front of our friends, family, and guests?\n- Do we have the time and dedication to actually sit down and write wedding vows ourselves?\n- Do we feel comfortable departing from the traditional vows of our religion(s)?\n- Will we both take this task seriously as part of our wedding planning?\n- Will we have enough time to draft our vows, edit them, and practice them in the months before our wedding?\n- Will we feel too overwhelmed in the moment to actually read our own words, versus just repeating after the officiant?\n- Do we want our ceremony to feel more personal and romantic, or more classic and traditional?\n- Do we want the possibility of adding humorous moments into our ceremony?\n \n\n ![should-you-write-your-own-vows-flowchart](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5c3q7oCBks89s6yTIAWTwq/3f89576a16e39ceddcd0e1e57d82ba53/should-you-write-your-own-vows-flowchart.jpg)\n\nBased on your responses to the above questions, it should hopefully be clear whether you and your partner are up to the challenge of writing your own personal vows, and whether doing so will help you accomplish your goals for your vow exchange.\n\n## How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?\n\nThere’s no hard-and-fast rule about how long wedding vows should be, but most traditional vows run anywhere from 15 seconds to 1 minute per person. If you’re writing your own vows, remember that what’s most important is what you say, not how long it takes to say it. Whether it takes 30 seconds or 3 minutes, make sure you keep your vows focused on expressing all that you want to share from your heart. This is your moment: don’t cut it short because you’re worried about boring people, but don’t pad it just to take up time.\n\nThe most important thing when considering the length of your vows is to make sure your and your partner’s vows are roughly the same lengths. If you’re working with an officiant on the ceremony script ahead of time, he or she can help provide suggestions to even out your vows so that they match in duration.\n\n## Traditional Vow Examples \n ![Guide-to-wedding-vows-img03](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6U2MKqbGyKE1ymqVorZt6O/caea3980079fe09f3ac0e8257576da32/Guide-to-wedding-vows-img03.jpg)\n \nTraditional wedding vows follow a specific format that varies by religion. Reciting the wedding vows (or their equivalent) symbolizes the moment when the couple commits themselves to each other and forms a married union. \n\nMany of the different religious wedding vows below can be recited in a variety of ways: \n1. Spoken as monologue, one at a time.\n2. Spoken first by the officiant then repeated back, in phrases, one after the other.\n3. Asked as a question by the officiant to each person getting married, to which he or she responds with “I do” or “I will.” \n\n### Catholic Wedding Vows\nIn Catholic ceremonies, couples will be asked three questions by the priest, to which they answer “yes” or “I will.” They then recite one of the sets of vows below. \n\n*______and ______, have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?*\n\n*Will you honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?*\n\n*Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?*\n...\n\n*I, ______, take you, ______, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.*\n\n*I, ______, take you, ______, to be my husband/wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.*\n\n### Eastern Orthodox Wedding Vows\nThese vows are only recited in traditional Russian ceremonies, as other branches of the Orthodox church call for silent vows or prayers. \n\n*I, ______, take you, ______, as my wedded wife/husband and I promise you love, honor and respect; to be faithful to you, and not to forsake you until death do us part. So help me God, one in the Holy Trinity and all the Saints.*\n\n### Hindu Wedding Vows\nThe closest thing to traditional “vows” in a Hindu wedding ceremony are the Seven Steps (the Saptha Padhi), which the couple take together around a flame to honor the fire god Agni while reciting the following promises: \n\n*Let us take the first step to provide for our household a nourishing and pure diet, avoiding those foods injurious to healthy living.*\n\n*Let us take the second step to develop physical, mental and spiritual powers.*\n\n*Let us take the third step to increase our wealth by righteous means and proper use.*\n\n*Let us take the fourth step to acquire knowledge, happiness and harmony by mutual love and trust.*\n\n*Let us take the fifth step so that we are blessed with strong, virtuous and heroic children.*\n\n*Let us take the sixth step for self-restraint and longevity.*\n\n*Finally, let us take the seventh step and be true companions and remain lifelong partners by this wedlock.*\n\n### Interfaith Wedding Vows\n*I,_____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.*\n\n*I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband. To love and cherish, from this day forward, and thereto, I pledge you my trust—for as long as we both shall live.*\n\n*_____, I now take you to be my wedded wife/husband, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy relationship of marriage. I promise to love and comfort you, honor and keep you, and forsaking all others, I will be yours alone as long as we both shall live.*\n\n### Jewish Wedding Vows\nJewish wedding ceremonies vary from rabbi to rabbi, and between Orthodox, Reform, and Conservative synagogues. Traditionally there are no spoken vows: the exchange of rings is the moment which symbolizes the couple’s commitment to each other. Two prayers are commonly said during the ring exchange, one more religious and one more contemporary: \n\n*Haray at mekudeshet lee beh-taba'at zo keh-dat Moshe veh-Yisrael.*\n(English translation: *Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel.)*\n\n*Ani leh-dodee veh-dodee lee.*\n(English translation: *I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine.)* \n\nIn addition to the ring exchange, many Jewish ceremonies also include the Seven Blessings (Sheva Berakhot), which the rabbi will recite. Here’s a translation from Hebrew: \n\n*Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, Ruler of the universe, gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatures in the garden of Eden. Blessed are You, Adonai, Who gladdens this couple. Blessed are You, Adonai, our God, Ruler of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, loving couples, mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, loving communities, peace, and companionship. Adonai, our God, let there soon be heard ... the voice of the loving couple, the sound of the their jubilance from their canopies and of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You Who causes the couple to rejoice, one with the other.*\n\n*We bless God for creating joy and happiness, bride and groom, mirth song, gladness and rejoicing, love and harmony, peace and companionship; and we thank God for letting this bride and groom to rejoice together.*\n\n### Nondenominational Wedding Vows\n![Guide-to-wedding-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2lFP7IerQqs5DHlb6Oo4WG/a3ef26bde489bf5bacfd8fff7ef41c13/Guide-to-wedding-vows-img01.jpg)\n*I, ______, take you, ______, to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us.*\n\n*______, I take you as my wife/husband, with your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I will help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.*\n\n*I, ______, choose you ______ to be my husband/wife, to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life.*\n\n*I, ______ give to you, ______ my vow of sacred matrimony. I acknowledge our individuality and respect the natural space that will reside comfortably between us. I promise to bridge that space with open communication, silent understanding and heartfelt compassion. I promise to act loving so as to be loving. I promise to love passionately, argue fairly and support you unfailingly. I gladly accept the responsibilities that come with our relationship. I love you and pledge my fidelity all the days of our lives.*\n\n### Muslim Wedding Vows\nRather than reciting vows, most Muslim couples listen to their officiant (also known as an imam, or cleric) speak about the significances and responsibilities that come with marriage, including their commitment to each other and to Allah. But for those couples who do choose to speak their own vows, they recite something similar to this common passage: \n\n*Bride: I, ______ offer you myself in marriage in accordance with the instructions of the Holy Quran and the Holy Prophet, peace and blessing be upon him. I pledge, in honesty and with sincerity, to be for you an obedient and faithful wife.*\n\n*Groom: I pledge, in honesty and sincerity, to be for you a faithful and helpful husband.*\n\n### Protestant Wedding Vows\nWhile different denominations within the Protestant church have slight variations to their traditional wedding vows, they are all similar to the following basic example. These vows might be the most familiar to many people. \n\n*I, ______ , take thee, ______ , to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith.*\n\n### Presbyterian Wedding Vows\n*I, ______ , take you, ______ , to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live.*\n\n### Methodist Wedding Vows\n*Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?*\n\n*In the name of God, I, ______ , take you, ______ , to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.*\n\n### Baptist Wedding Vows\n*Will you, ______ , have ______ to be your wife/husband? Will you love her/him, comfort and keep her/him, and forsaking all others remain true to her/him, as long as you both shall live?*\n\n*I, ______ , take thee, to be my wife/husband, and before God and these witnesses I promise to be a faithful and true husband/wife.*\n\n### Lutheran Wedding Vows\n*I, ______ , take you, to be my (wife/husband), and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help, and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and I will try with you better to understand ourselves, the world, and God; through the best and worst of what is to come, and as long as we live.*\n\n*I take you, ______ , to be my wife/husband from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.*\n\n### Episcopal Wedding Vows\n*In the name of God, I, ______ , take you, ______ , to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death. This is my solemn vow.*\n\n*______ , wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband to live together after God's ordinance in the Holy Estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him? Comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him as long as you both shall live?*\n\n### Quaker Wedding Vows\n*In the presence of God and these our friends I take thee, ______ , to be my husband/wife, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful husband/wife so long as we both shall live.*\n\n### Universalist/Unitarian Wedding Vows\nThe Unitarian Universalist Church allows its ministers to have their own control in writing wedding ceremonies, including the vows. Most will be similar to traditional Christian vows; here are some variations. \n\n*I, ______ , take you, ______ , to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish always.*\n\n*______ , will you have this woman/man, ______ , to be your wedded wife/husband, to live together in marriage, will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor her/him and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, so long as you both shall live?*\n\n*______ and ______ , do you pledge to help each other develop and strengthen your hearts and minds, cultivating compassion, enthusiasm, patience, concentration and wisdom as you encounter the inevitable changes, expected and unexpected, welcome and unwelcome in your journey through life together?* \n\n*______ , will you take ______ as your wife/husband, will you pledge to share your life openly with her/him, to speak the truth to her/him, in love? Will you promise to honor and tenderly care for her/him, to encourage her/him fulfillment as an individual through all the changes in your lives?*\n\n### Buddhist Wedding Vows\nIn a Buddhist wedding ceremony, the couple is making a higher pledge to Truth, and thus may create their own wedding vows that reflect their pledge to reach this Truth together. After reciting the first prayer together or reading it silently, the couple then replies to the vows unison when prompted by the wedding officiant.\n\n#### Buddhist Wedding Prayer\nToday we promise to dedicate ourselves completely to each other with body, mind and speech. In every situation of this life, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, we will work to help each other to develop our hearts and minds, cultivating compassion, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom. As we undergo the various ups and downs of life we will seek to transform them into the path of love, compassion, joy and equanimity. The purpose of our relationship will be to attain enlightenment by perfecting our kindness and compassion towards all beings.\n\n#### Vows\n*________ and ________, do you pledge to help each other to develop your hearts and minds, cultivating compassion, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom as you age and undergo the various ups and downs of life and to transform them into the path of love, compassion, joy and equanimity?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*Recognizing that the external conditions in life will not always be smooth and that internally your own minds and emotions will sometimes get stuck in negativity. Do you pledge to see all these circumstances as a challenge to help you grow, to open your hearts, to accept yourselves, and each other; and to generate compassion for others who are suffering? Do you pledge to avoid becoming narrow, closed or opinionated, and to help each other to see various sides of situations?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*Understanding that just as we are a mystery to ourselves, each other person is also a mystery to us. Do you pledge to seek to understand yourselves, each other, and all living beings, to examine your own minds continually and to regard all the mysteries of life with curiosity and joy?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*Do you pledge to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to share it with all beings? To take the loving feelings you have for one another and your vision of each other's potential and inner beauty as an example and rather than spiraling inwards and becoming self absorbed, to radiate this love outwards to all beings?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*When it comes time to part, do you pledge to look back at your time together with joy-- joy that you met and shared what you have--and acceptance that we cannot hold on to anything forever?* \n\n(We do.)\n\n*Do you pledge to remember the disadvantages of ignorance, anger and clinging attachment, to apply antidotes when these arise in your minds, and to remember the kindness of all other beings and your connection to them? Do you pledge to work for the welfare of others, with all of your compassion, wisdom and skill?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*Do you pledge to work to develop the wisdom understanding the relative functioning nature of things and the wisdom knowing their deeper way of existence that they are empty of inherent existence? And to remember the laws of cause and effect?* \n\n(We do.)\n\n*Do you pledge day to day, to be patient with yourselves and others, knowing that change comes slowly and gradually, and to seek inspiration from your teachers not to become discouraged?*\n\n(We do.)\n\n*Do you pledge to continuously strive to remember your own Buddha nature, as well as the Buddha nature of all living beings? To maintain the awareness that all things are temporary, and to remain optimistic that you can achieve your greatest potential and lasting happiness.* \n\n(We do.)\n### Native American Wedding Vows\nMost traditional Native American weddings do not contain a vow exchange, but the following wedding blessings are read aloud to the couple. \n\n#### Apache Wedding Blessing\nNow you will feel no rain,
\nfor each of you will be shelter for the other.
\nNow you will feel no cold,
\nfor each of you will be warmth to the other.
\nNow there will be no loneliness,
\nfor each of you will be companion to the other.
\nNow you are two persons,
\nbut there is only one life before you.
\nMay beauty surround you both in the
\njourney ahead and through all the years,
\nMay happiness be your companion and
\nyour days together be good and long upon the earth.
\nTreat yourselves and each other with respect, and
\nremind yourselves often of what brought you together.
\nGive the highest priority to the tenderness,
\ngentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
\nWhen frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship,
\nas they threaten all relationships at one time or another,
\nremember to focus on what is right between you,
\nnot only the part which seems wrong.
\nIn this way, you can ride out the storms when
\nclouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that
\neven if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.
\nAnd if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your
\nlife together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
\n\n#### Cherokee Wedding Blessing\nGod in heaven above please protect the ones we love.
\nWe honor all you created as we pledge
\nour hearts and lives together.
\nWe honor mother-earth - and ask for our marriage to
\nbe abundant and grow stronger through the seasons;
\nWe honor fire - and ask that our union
\nbe warm and glowing with love in our hearts;
\nWe honor wind - and ask we sail through life
\nsafe and calm as in our father's arms;
\nWe honor water - to clean and soothe our relationship -
\nthat it may never thirst for love;
\nWith all the forces of the universe you created,
\nwe pray for harmony and true happiness as
\nwe forever grow young together. Amen.
\n\n#### Shoshone Wedding Blessing\nFair is the white star of twilight, and the sky clearer
\nat the day's end, but she is fairer, and she is dearer
\nShe, my heart's friend.
\nFair is the white star of twilight, and the moon roving
\nto the sky's end; but she is fairer, better worth loving
\nShe, my heart's friend.
\n\n#### Inuit Wedding Blessing\nYou are my husband/wife
\nMy feet shall run because of you
\nMy feet shall dance because of you
\nMy heart shall beat because of you
\nMy eyes see because of you
\nMy mind thinks because of you
\nAnd I shall love because of you.
\n\n### How to Overcome Writer’s Block \nWhen it comes to writing your wedding vows, writer’s block is common—even expected. After all, you're sharing the most intimate moment of your marriage thus far with family and friends (and maybe even some strangers), so the pressure is on. \n\nEventually, you must get the words to the page, though. In a writer’s block pinch? Here are some tips for getting started or picking back up again: \n\n1. __Jot down fun facts about your partner__: Recalling quirky characteristics of your partner and favorite memories from the relationship can inspire you to start writing. You can use our printable [Newlywed Game questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/newlywed-game-questions) to get started.\n2. __Read famous love poems and quotes__: Shakespeare knew a thing or two about love. There’s no shame in looking to the classics for some inspiration if you find yourself stuck. If you come across something incredibly moving, you can even add it into your vows with attribution. \n3. __Start writing your vows together__: If you’ve made the decision to write your own vows, chances are your partner has too and they’re probably in the same boat. Ease into the writing process together by talking about all the things you love about each other and sharing meaningful moments before you begin. \n4. __Set up a workspace that evokes positive energy__: Your setting can play a major role in your productivity when writing. Set the mood by displaying art in your space, listening to classical music, and journaling free thoughts when you hit a writing lull. \n5. __Take a break outside__: Nature is a proven mood booster, and it can also get the creative juices flowing. One [study](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_nature_makes_you_kinder_happier_more_creative) found that spending time in nature can increase performance on creative, problem-solving tasks such as writing by as much as 50%. You don’t have to head off on an epic outdoor adventure, either: a walk around the block will suffice. \n\nLooking for more science-backed ways to beat writer’s block? Discover common causes and 8 tips for beating it in our infographic below. \n \n\n![Guide-to-wedding-vows-overcoming-writers-block](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6GLuywutCXDc8ygoSYPeHb/ce93f161e70ab4d11fe4332aee510527/Guide-to-wedding-vows-overcoming-writers-block.jpg)\n\nFor more tips on wedding vow prep and how to create a ceremony that stands the test of time, check out our resources on [The History of Wedding Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows) and [Average Vow Wedding Length](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/average-wedding-vow-length). \n\nSources:\n[Harvard](https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/sharpen-thinking-skills-with-a-better-nights-sleep) | [Life Purpose Institute](https://www.lifepurposeinstitute.com/15-benefits-of-free-writing/) | [USC](https://news.usc.edu/71969/studying-for-finals-let-classical-music-help/)\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Find out everything you need to know about wedding officiant duties with this informative guide. 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Discover how this tradition symbolizes unity and love, adding a meaningful touch to your special day.","author":"Taylor Bryant","publishedAt":"2021-02-11T16:57:41.263Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2MIiBjqHnyJgOfGMmqT0jK/af641c4927a4fc22cf11e36d82b5866a/Hero_Zola_02__8_.jpg","altText":"What Is Jumping The Broom"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"There are a variety of wedding traditions from cultures across the globe that reach back hundreds of years. Some are more universal ceremonies, while others have a strong tie to a particular culture—like the act of jumping the broom.\n\nThis tradition is a go-to for many Black couples that want to incorporate African traditions into their wedding ceremony. But what, exactly, is jumping the broom? Where does the tradition come from? And how is it used in weddings today?\n\n## What is Jumping The Broom?\nJumping the broom is a marriage ritual performed at some [Black or African-American weddings.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-to-find-the-best-black-wedding-inspiration) After the couple says their \"I do's,\" they join hands and ceremoniously jump over a broom together, which represents stepping into their new life as a married couple.\n\n## The Origin of Jumping The Broom\n\nIt’s hard to trace where, exactly, the practice originated. Some believe it first started in Wales in the early 1700s when Roma (also known as gypsy) weddings weren’t recognized by the church, so they would marry through non-church rituals. It’s said that the broomstick was placed at the entrance of a door and the couple jumped over it, the groom followed by the bride. If either of the partners touched the broom, the union was considered not meant to be. To annul the marriage, the couple would jump over the broom backward.\n\nHowever, others say the broom ceremony has West African roots—specifically Ghana, a country in West Africa. Brooms were allegedly waved over the newlyweds and their parents’ heads to ward off evil spirits. The broom was then set on the ground for them to jump over. It’s said that the act of broom jumping came to America as part of the African Diaspora via the Transatlantic Slave Trade, which led to the tradition being used in many wedding ceremonies between enslaved people at the time. Similar to the Romas, the act was often used in the place of a legal marriage, since slave marriage was banned at the time.\n\nDecades later, the [Black wedding tradition](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-black-wedding-traditions-to-know-and-love) saw a resurgence in the African American community based on Alex Haley's 1976 novel Roots, and the miniseries of the same name that followed in 1977. In the book and series, the lead character, Kunta Kinte, is shown jumping the broom with his wife, Belle. Since then, the tradition has been shown in television series like *__This Is Us, Grey’s Anatomy__*, and *__The Originals__* and highlighted in the 2011 romantic comedy film *__Jumping the Broom__*.\n\n![What Is Jumping The Broom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2t3Frsq8m5SS6G1XrVwOSn/067fd5b681665ff5038ae2c839d838da/shutterstock_1689173941.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## What Jumping The Broom Looks Like Today \n\nToday, jumping the broom is often performed during Black weddings as a nod to the past and as a way to pay homage to their ancestors and African culture (though some Black people view broomstick weddings as archaic and choose to sidestep the act due to its ties to slavery). It’s usually done right after the couple says “I do” and before they walk up the aisle together to seal the union. A poem or prayer can also be said by the officiant and/or the couple beforehand.\n\nThis wedding tradition’s modern-day usage is a bit different from the past. It’s said to symbolize sweeping away the old to make room for a new beginning. The wedding broom itself is usually decorated with ribbons, flowers, lace, or with the couple’s initials (couples will sometimes ask their [wedding dress designer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-black-wedding-designers-to-know) to also design their broom). Some even have guests sign their names and attach them to the broom as a way to pass on their good wishes. Couples often keep the brooms as an heirloom and pass them down through generations or hang them in their homes for decoration.\n\n## Jumping The Broom FAQs\nStill curious about jumping the broom? Here are a few frequently asked questions about the tradition:\n\n- __When does jumping the broom happen in the ceremony?__ Generally, the jumping of the broom happens immediately following the couple's vows.\n\n- __How to jump the broom?__ For the broom jumping tradition, the broom is placed on the ground at the wedding ceremony site. After reciting their vows, the couple joins hands and jumps over the broom, solidifying their marriage.\n\n- __Should I jump the broom at my wedding?__ Only you can decide if jumping the broom is the right fit for your wedding. If you feel a strong cultural tie to the practice and want to incorporate the tradition into your wedding celebration with friends and family members, you should do so—or, if it doesn't feel right to incorporate this tradition (or you don't have any cultural ties to the practice), then you should consider leaving it out of your ceremony.\n\n- __What does the broom look like?__ The brooms used in jumping the broom ceremonies are typically wooden with natural-fiber bristles. While it's not required, many couples choose to customize their broom with flowers, ribbons, lace, and other adornments to make it feel festive and special for their big day.\n\n- __Is there a specific person that needs to place the broom on the ground before the broom jumping tradition takes place?__ In the jumping the broom tradition, there's no one particular person that needs to place the broom on the ground; the officiant may put it down during the ceremony—or, if the couple chooses, they might ask a friend or family member.\n\n![What Is Jumping The Broom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/TCj7ke1Mv7Ij2nGq0tjEt/623e363e564be9520aa1f29c53e11ed0/inline_picture_perfect_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Picture Perfect Photography\n\nNo matter where the tradition hailed from, it’s since been embraced and held up by the Black community during their unions. How each couple chooses to integrate it into their big day (and whether or not they choose to integrate it at all) is up to them. But either way, each jump is intended as a way of blessing the marriage. 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Check out some of our favorite designers with our latest article.","title":"20 Black Wedding Dress Designers to Know","slug":"7-black-wedding-designers-to-know","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FNtQ42E68GKAxAooB03AO/ee2b2de4438b8dffd2f61867103ef381/Hero_Zola_02__10_.jpg","altText":"Black Wedding Designers to Know"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:49.163Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-ceremony-readings","title":"Wedding Ceremony Readings: How to Choose Readings for Every Wedding","excerpt":"Find the wedding ceremony readings that feel right and uniquely you. Read our guide for how to choose wedding readings. Plus, find wedding reading examples for inspiration.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-08-23T18:19:02.925Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yFOJUNd3PqYb90zD1gxZ3/0bd74d3f08d0e30be4f2e70020a8bab8/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"couple celebrates wedding and wedding ceremony readings"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"It doesn’t matter if your wedding ceremony is religious or secular, traditional or modern, lengthy and poetic or short and to-the-point—wedding ceremony readings are the great common denominator. Plus, they’re a great way to personalize your ceremony and infuse the proceedings with a serious dose of love and commitment-inspired emotion.\n\nFortunately, there’s a seemingly endless array of readings to choose from. Unfortunately, there’s a seemingly endless array of readings to choose from. Don’t let choosing wedding readings add to your wedding planning stress! Here’s how to choose your wedding ceremony readings—no matter what kind of wedding vibe you’re going for. Plus, some wedding readings we love.\n\n![INLINE PhotobyOneLovePhotography Jenny&Justin](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3nTpFTezuILoWCgtXWMkrY/17572bcb0eb698209273e04f0c9a79d6/INLINE_PhotobyOneLovePhotography_Jenny_Justin.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // One Love Photography \n\n## Plan the logistics.\nFirst things first—logistics. Here are a few tasks you’ll want to tackle before you start narrowing down your options for wedding ceremony readings:\n\n- __Talk to your wedding officiant.__ Because the readings are a part of the ceremony, it makes sense to loop in the person who’s actually going to be [officiating the ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant). Your officiant can let you know how many readings you need, when to do the readings, and any other logistical details.\n- __Figure out how many readings you want to have.__ Before you choose your wedding ceremony readings, you need to know how many you’re going to choose. Do you envision a single reading—or do you want multiple readings spread throughout the ceremony? If you’re having a traditional religious wedding, the number of wedding readings may already be determined for you.\n- __Who’s going to read?__ Once you figure out how many wedding ceremony readings you want to have, you need to figure out who’s going to read them.\n- __Determining the friends or family members you want to read can help you choose the right readings.__ For example, if you’re having someone read who isn’t super comfortable speaking in front of large crowds, you probably want to stick to a shorter reading. If the friend you’ve asked to read during the ceremony is a staunch atheist, something super religious might not be appropriate.\n\n## Different Types Of Wedding Readings\nBefore you choose your wedding ceremony readings, it’s helpful to understand what kinds of readings are out there for the choosing! There are a number of different types of wedding ceremony readings.\n\n- Readings from religious texts (Bible, Quran, Bhagavad Gita, etc.)\n- Traditional prayers and blessings\n- Poems\n- Song lyrics\n- Movie quotes\n- Book excerpts\n\nNo one type of wedding ceremony reading is better than the other. The type of wedding ceremony reading that’s right for you is going to depend on who you and your partner are, what you want to say about love and marriage, and the general vibe that you’re going for with your wedding ceremony. If you’re hosting a very traditional, religious ceremony, for example, a movie quote might feel out of place or even confusing to guests. \n\nThat said, hey, it’s your wedding and if you want to quote “The Notebook” during your ceremony, please do.\n\n### Religious or Secular Readings? \nIn addition to choosing the type of wedding ceremony readings you want to have at your wedding, you also have to decide if you want your readings to be religious or secular.\n\nAgain, there’s no right or wrong answer. If you and your partner practice a particular religion, then having a religious reading can be a nice way to honor your faith during your wedding ceremony. If you and your soon-to-be spouse practice different religious, try having a reading that represents each faith. For example, if you’re a Christian and your partner is a Muslim, have a reading from the Bible and the Quran.\n\nIf you don’t carry any religious or spiritual beliefs, not to worry—there are plenty of non-religious wedding ceremony readings to choose from.\n\n![INLINE PhotobyAirenMillerPhotography Kathleen&Joe](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3gidrWaVN5hb0HwlDWUvI4/f1ae24c3e023b15cf750f24572e7614f/INLINE_PhotobyAirenMillerPhotography_Kathleen_Joe.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Airen Miller Photography\n\n## How To Choose Meaningful Wedding Ceremony Readings\nHere are a few tips to help you choose the most meaningful wedding ceremony readings for your big day:\n\n- __Make it personal__. Your wedding ceremony readings should represent you, your partner, and how you feel about love, commitment, and marriage. Choose a reading that feels personal and meaningful and there won’t be a dry eye in the house (including yours).\n- __Keep with the vibe of the wedding.__ Ideally, your wedding readings will jive with the overall [tone of the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style). So, for example, if you’re having a fun, laid-back ceremony, a funny, quirky song lyric would make sense—but that same song lyric would feel out of place in a more traditional ceremony.\n- __Keep the readings short and sweet.__ No one wants to listen to a novel in the middle of your wedding ceremony—so keep your readings short and sweet (two minutes or less is a good rule of thumb).\n\n## Wedding Ceremony Readings\nNeed a little more inspiration? Let’s take a look at some of the more popular wedding ceremony readings to get those creative juices flowing:\n\n### 1 Corinthians 13:4-8\n*“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”*\n\n### Irish Wedding Blessing\n*“May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace. May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase. May the saddest day of your future, be no worse than the happiest day of your past. May your hands be forever clasped in friendship and your hearts joined forever in love.”*\n\n### Ecclesiastes: 4:9-12\n*“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him.”*\n\n### Hebrew Wedding Prayer\n*“Blessed art thou, O Lord our God, King of the universe, who hath created joy and gladness, bridegroom and bride, mirth and exultation, pleasure and delight, love and brotherhood, peace and friendship. May there soon be heard in the cities of Judah, and in the streets of Jerusalem, the voice of joy and gladness, the voice of the bridegroom and the voice of the bride, the jubilant voice of bridegrooms from the wedding canopy, and of youths from their feasts of song. Blessed art thou, O Lord, who gives the Bridegroom joy in his bride.”*\n\n### Song of Solomon\n*“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.\nMy beloved speaks and says to me: Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away; for lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land. The fig tree puts forth its figs, and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance.\nArise, my love, my fair one, and come away. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the covert of the cliff, let me see your face, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet, and your face is comely. Set me as a seal upon your heart and seal upon your arm; for love is strong as death, jealousy cruel as the grave.\nIt flashes are flashes of fire, a most vehement flame.\nMany waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, it would be utterly scorned. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.”*\n\n### Hindu Love Poem\n*“Let the earth of my body be mixed with the earth\nMy beloved walks on.\nLet the fire of my body by the brightness\nIn the mirror that reflects his face.\nLet the water of my body join the waters\nOf the lotus pool he bathes in.\nLet the breath of my body be air\nLapping his tired limbs.\nLet me be sky, and moving through me the cloud-dark Shyama, my beloved.”*\n\n### Apache Wedding Prayer\n*“Now you will feel no rain,\nFor each of you will be shelter to the other.\nNow you will feel no cold,\nFor each of you will be warmth to the other.\nNow there is no more loneliness,\nFor each of you will be companion to the other. \nNow you are two bodies,\nBut there is one life before you.”*\n\n### Sonnet 18, William Shakespeare\n*“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?\nThou art more lovely and more temperate:\nRough winds do shake the darling buds of May,\nAnd summer’s leash hath all to short a date:\nSometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,\nAnd often is his gold complexion dimmed,\nAnd every fair from fair sometime declines,\nBy chance, or nature’s changing course untrimmed:\nBy thy eternal summer shall not fade,\nNor lose possession of that fair thou ow’st,\nNor shall death brag thou wader’st in this shade,\nWhen in eternal lines to time thou grow’st,\nSo long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,\nSo long lives this, and this gives life to thee.”*\n\n### This Marriage, Rumi\n*“May these vows and this marriage be blessed.\nMay it be sweet milk,\nthis marriage, like wine and halvah.\nMay this marriage offer fruit and shade,like the date palm.\nMay this marriage be full of laughter,\nour every day a paradise.”*\n\n### I carry your heart with me, E.E. Cummings\n*“here is the deepest secret nobody knows\n(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud\nand the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows\nhigher than soul can hope or mind can hide)\nand this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart\n\ni carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)”*\n\n### Captain Corelli's Mandolin, Louis de Bernières\n*“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being 'in love', which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”*\n\n### Bridge Across Forever, Richard Bach\n*“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.”*\n\n### The Art of Marriage, William A. Peterson\n*“The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands.\nIt is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.\nIt is never going to sleep angry.\nIt is at no time taking the other for granted;\nThe courtship should not end with the honeymoon,\nIt should continue through all the years.”*\n\n### Sonnet #43, Elizabeth Barrett Browning\n*“How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.\nI love thee to the depth and breadth and height\nMy soul can reach, when feeling out of sight\nFor the end of Being and ideal Grace.”*\n\n### Les Miserables, Victor Hugo\n*“Oh, love, adoration, the rapture of two spirits which know each other, two hearts which are exchanged, two looks which interpenetrate! You will come to me, will you not, this happiness! To walk together in solitude! Blessed and radiant days! I have sometimes thought that now and then moments may be detached from the lives of angels to enrich the lives of men.”*\n\n### Thoughts on Marriage, Kahlil Gibran\n*“You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.\nYou shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.\nYes, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.\nBut let there be spaces in your togetherness.\nAnd let the winds of head dance between you.”*\n\n### Carrie’s Poem, Sex and the City\n*“His hello was the end of her endings\nHer laugh was their first step down the aisle\nHis hand would be hers to hold forever\nHis forever was as simple as her smile\nHe said she was what was missing\nShe said instantly she knew\nShe was a question to be answered\nAnd his answer was ‘I do.’”*\n\n### He’s Not Perfect, Bob Marley\n*“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect.\n\nBut if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being a human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can.\n\nHe isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break.\n\nDon’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there.\n\nLove hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist—but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”*\n\n### Falling In Love Is Like Owning A Dog, Taylor Mali\n*“Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.\nBut come home and love is always happy to see you.\nIt may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,\nBut you can never stay mad at love for long.”*\n\n### Touched by an Angel, Maya Angelou\n*“We, unaccustomed to courage; exiles from delight. Live coiled in shells of loneliness until love leaves its high holy temple and comes into our sight to liberate us into life.\n\nLove arrives and in its train come ecstasies, old memories of pleasure, ancient histories of pain. Yet if we are bold, love strikes away the chains of fear from our souls. We are weaned from our timidity. In the flush of love’s light we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.”*","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:48.413Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding","title":"9 Savvy Ways to Use Social Media at Your Wedding","excerpt":"Social media has turned weddings from guest-only experiences to larger broadcasts for loved ones (or wedding-loving strangers). Here's how to incorporate various social channels into your wedding—in a tactful way.","author":"Jenn Sinrich","publishedAt":"2019-06-25T18:50:13.457Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YRX2YvzFDDeaWpHeKQpCp/50c02c930685ce9d76a308197e574702/AliceMaliaPhotography_HeroImage_1080x720.jpg","altText":"social media wedding hashtag sign"},"heroCredit":"Alice Malia Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/alice-malia-photography","body":"With your big day on the horizon, you’re most likely knee-deep in the throes of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-10-things-to-do-when-planning-a-wedding). Preparing for such a memorable and large-scale event is certainly overwhelming, but it’s also incredibly exciting—especially in the modern age. In the age of social media, weddings aren’t guest-only experiences anymore, but rather larger broadcasts for friends (and friends of friends) to see. \n\nIf you aren’t adopting a #nosocialmedia policy for your wedding, you can utilize social media to include the wider world and enhance your day—before, during and after. Here are some tactful ways to use social media for you wedding. \n\n# How To Use Social Media At Your Wedding\n\n## Before Your Wedding\n\n### Announce your engagement.\nThe lead-up to your wedding day starts the very moment you get engaged. When you choose to broadcast this exciting news on social media, however, is totally up to you. Some people announce their engagement immediately and others choose to wait a few days or weeks. There are a few [different ways to announce your engagement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement), too. You can [share a photo on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/?hl=en), write a lovely long-winded Facebook status, send out a quick tweet—whatever feels right to you.\n\nWhen you do finally share, you can expect the excitement to start pouring in from all over—family and friends, acquaintances you haven’t spoken to in years, and maybe even some wedding-loving strangers. \n\n### Create a wedding hashtag.\nIf you’re going to consistently share wedding planning updates on social media, a wedding hashtag is right for you. Once you’re engaged (or even before), brainstorm a wedding hashtag that will personalize your special day and serve as a means of connecting all future wedding-related posts. Don’t worry if you can’t think of anything just yet—go ahead and post as much as you want in the interim. You can edit all past posts to add in your wedding hashtag once you decide on it. \n\nYour wedding hashtag can be as creative or basic as you’d like. Make sure, though, that it’s a hashtag that makes sense to your guests and is easy to remember. Your guests will also use your tag throughout your wedding ceremony and reception so you want something to the point. \n\nIf you can’t think of a fitting hashtag, we recommend a few simple formats. For example’s sake, we’ll use the names Nicolette Risser and Elizabeth Fortune.\n\n- If you’re taking your partner’s name: __Soon-to-be last name + Wedding + Year__\n#FortuneWedding2020\n- If you’re not taking your partner’s name: __First Name + First Name + Year__ #NicoletteElizabeth2020\n- If you want something simple, but with a small twist: __First Name + First Name + Forever/4ever__ #NicoletteElizabeth4ever\n\n### Use social media for inspiration.\nSocial media serves as one of the best (and cheapest!) wedding planning tools. It costs nothing to browse [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/zola/) and Instagram for [wedding inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) of all kinds–from potential wedding gown styles and color schemes to venue options and even invitation designs. \n\nUse Pinterest to create special boards that collect inspiration based on the subject. Use Instagram’s save feature to organize all of your wedding favorites into folders you can quickly reference as you plan. This keeps all of your inspo in a few dedicated places and makes it easy to show wedding vendors what looks you’re really hoping to achieve. \n\n## At Your Wedding\n\n### Go live.\nIf you feel comfortable inviting just about anyone to your wedding day (virtually, of course), consider setting up a live stream of your ceremony. You can use Facebook or Instagram to capture your day in real-time. This is a wonderful way to include any family or friends who couldn’t make it. We definitely recommend a livestream if you’re planning a destination wedding.\n\nSet up a phone tripod or employ a well-placed friend or family member to film the ceremony. Your livestream will also capture any well wishes from viewers that you can look back on for years.\n\n![MarquisePhotography InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bI6i4LAV6tMGSS5lHUuS0/5eacbcebc9b8e990031285bee07a4f74/MarquisePhotography_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // [Marquise Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)\n\n### Create post-worthy experiences.\nDuring your planning process, give some thought to how you can promote social media posting by your guests. Think about when most people reach for their phones to post a picture. Here are a few scenarios to consider: \n\n- __Walking down the aisle.__ Many guests post images of the couple as they make their way down the aisle. Add a social media callout with a hashtag reminder to your program to encourage shares.\n- __At the reception.__ Your reception is bound to be the most shareable time of your wedding day. Place hashtag reminders in a few key areas so guests will add it as they post static images and Instagram Stories throughout your party. \n- __By the food.__ Food content is king on social media. If you’re having a seated dinner, make sure you include reminders to share on your menu. If you’re having a buffet dinner situation, include those same reminders on any signs listing the foods available.\n\nYou may even consider going the extra mile and actually creating a share-worthy backdrop that guests can take photos in front of to post. If you offer the right setup, your guests will feel even more excited and inclined to share. \n\n### Set up a hashtag printer.\nA hashtag printer is a tool that allows your guests to instantly print copies of any images they upload to social media sites using your tag. Not only does this encourage them to post, but it also creates a fun and exciting activity for your guests.\n\nMany hashtag printers offer different designs that your guests can choose from to enhance their photos even further. It also serves as a keepsake, as guests will leave with physical copies of the pictures they took from your big day. If you want to create something more memorable, ask guests to print two copies of their photos and set out an empty picture- or scrapbook nearby with a request to add their images.\n\n### Make custom social filters.\nCreate a personal social media experience by making custom filters on Snapchat and Instagram. Snapchat, especially, has made filter creation easier than ever. Make a filter that includes your wedding colors, your hashtag or your names, any fun design elements—whatever you want.\n\n![TiffanyChapmanPhotography InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/41dyYIeMW42eYcL5GpDMzi/42b76a262c2820c5924d4c1491088f87/TiffanyChapmanPhotography_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Tiffany Chapman Photography\n\n## After Your Wedding\n\n### Share your professional photos.\nYour [wedding photographers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) worked hard on your wedding day—and once you have their edited photos, it’s time to share. Take advantage of Instagram’s carousel feature to share a few photos at once. Here are some round up ideas:\n\n- __Couple shots.__ People want to see you and your new wife or husband—and they really want to see your outfits.\n- __Detail shots.__ Share any up close and personal images of your tablescapes, food, decor, and flowers. These photos, especially, are great for inspiring your guests or other soon-to-be brides and grooms. Include some other hashtags (#weddingflowers, #weddinginspo, #weddingdecor) that will draw more viewers and encourage more shares.\n- __Your guests.__ If there’s one thing your guests will want to share, it’s pictures of themselves—hey, we’re human! Share a carousel of some of your favorite action shots from the reception and be sure to tag your guests.\n\n### Post your video.\nIf you hired a videographer for your wedding day, ask them to create share-friendly cuts of their work. On Instagram, you’ll want to keep it pretty concise—no more than 30 seconds. On Facebook, feel free to post a longer clip as the platform lends itself to a bit more viewing time. \n\nThere’s no right or wrong way to use social media at your wedding. You can share as much or little as you want. Your guests and followers will be happy to follow along.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:47.603Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"unique-rehearsal-dinner-ideas","title":"Unique Rehearsal Dinner Ideas","excerpt":"From unique venues to creative menus, Zola has the ultimate guide to having a unique rehearsal dinner.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T17:09:24.962Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5WcyJuBjdsmglD8meE708L/90ba583caa8336a8a73636097184840e/Hero_Black-tieAffairAtCapitolTheatre_AmandaMayPhotos.jpg","altText":"Unique Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Amanda May Photos","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Choosing a unique venue for your rehearsal dinner is a fantastic way to make your event stand out. Local breweries and wineries are sure to be hits, as are luxury charter boats.\n- Entertain your wedding party with unique games and activities. For the really adventurous, consider hiring a palm reader.\n- Although live music can be a nice touch to your rehearsal dinner, live entertainment tends to be a bit pricier, so consider if it's worth the splurge. \n- For the most unique experience possible, get creative with invites, decor, and food.","body":"With all that goes into [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning), it’s easy to forget about the wedding rehearsal dinner. In fact, many people choose to simply go the traditional route and have their rehearsal dinner in a restaurant or banquet hall. \n\nWhile there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a traditional rehearsal dinner, some couples may want a less traditional event.\n\nIn this guide, we’ll cover ways to make your rehearsal dinner truly unique—from choosing cool [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) with a little help from Zola to entertaining guests with exciting activities. By following the below rehearsal dinner ideas, you’ll make your rehearsal dinner as memorable as the moment you say “I do.”\n\n## Choose a Unique Venue \nChoosing your rehearsal dinner venue is one of the most difficult (and exciting) aspects of wedding planning. Unless you’re holding the rehearsal dinner and wedding in the same place, chances are that you’ll be in a different location for each.\n\nIf you’re looking to make your rehearsal dinner one for the ages, consider having it at one of the five following memorable locations.\n\n### #1 Local Brewery or Winery\nSimilar to restaurants, most breweries and wineries serve food while providing a lively atmosphere. However, unlike traditional restaurants, breweries and wineries tend to be more informal environments with distinct, even quirky, personalities. These distinct spaces often reflect the personalities of both partners.\n\nFor instance, if you’re into German culture, having your rehearsal dinner at a brewery that specializes in German beer gives you a chance to show your wedding guests your taste for German cuisine. What’s more, socializing with friends and family in the “Biergarten” is a fun, informal way to relax before your wedding or nikkah.\n\nIf you’re thinking about holding your rehearsal dinner at a brewery or winery, consider doing the following:\n\n- Going on a group tour of the brewery or winery\n- Treating your guests to a beer or wine tasting\n- Reserving a space in the facility to mingle and eat hors d'oeuvres\n\nHaving your rehearsal dinner at a brewery or winery comes with many perks. Not only will you and your guests enjoy your favorite beverages, but you’ll also treat your guests to a fun, informal outing.\n\n### #2 A Sporting Event\nIf you really want to set a fun, laid-back tone for your rehearsal dinner, consider having it a sporting event. \n\nRegardless of the sport, tailgating with your nearest and dearest is one of the best ways to show both of your personalities while building excitement for your sangeet.\n\nWhat’s more, holding a rehearsal dinner at a sporting event doesn’t mean that you only have to scarf down hot dogs in a crowded parking lot. At most sports venues, you can rent luxury suites that come with tables, food service, and all the comforts of a traditional restaurant.\n\nFor instance, at AT&T Stadium, home of the Dallas Cowboys, you can rent luxury suites with high-quality catering for up to forty guests. Celebrate your ceremony while cheering on your favorite team from the best seats in the house.\n\n### #3 A Theater\nFor the couple who loves all things Broadway, a rehearsal dinner in a theater is a unique and fun way to celebrate your upcoming marriage. \n\nFrom curtain calls to playbills detailing your love story, you and your wedding party will enjoy getting “dolled up” as you set the stage (literally) for an amazing wedding ceremony.\n\nIf you choose to have your rehearsal dinner in a theater, consider taking the event to the next level by doing the following:\n\n- Printing playbills for each guest detailing how you met\n- Displaying your names out front on the marquee\n- Having guests give speeches on stage\n- Raising the curtains to show a video montage of your story\n- Designing your tables so that they reflect the elegance of Broadway\n\nIf cinema calls to you more than traditional theater, having your rehearsal dinner in a movie theater is a unique way to bring your loved ones together in a space you both enjoy. After the movie, treat your guests to your love story by showing a video montage on the big screen.\n\n### #4 Local Arcade or Amusement Park\nHaving your rehearsal dinner at an arcade or amusement park is a surefire way to thrill your guests, while pumping them up for your nissuin or wedding.\n\nIf you don’t want to rent out the entire arcade or amusement park, consider renting out a private space in the facility where you can eat dinner and toast champagne before challenging your father-in-law to a game of Skee-Ball.\n\nTo add a more personal touch to this venue, think about incorporating the following:\n\n- Arcade prizes that reflect your interests and personalities\n- Ticket stubs with the date you met each other printed on one side\n- Photographs of your wedding party barreling down a roller coaster\n\nChoosing an arcade or amusement park as the venue for your rehearsal dinner is sure to give your guests an experience that they’ll never forget.\n\n### #5 On the Water\nIf you or your partner are celebrating your wedding in a port city or near a lake, having your rehearsal dinner on the water is a beautiful and unique way to celebrate your upcoming marriage.\n\nTreat your guests to the full cruise experience by serving food on the mezzanine, dancing on the upper deck, and touring the ship. What’s more, if you’re cruising past a historic city, you and your guests will delight in the moonlit views from the water.\n\nTo plan this type of rehearsal dinner, it’s best to contact the event coordinator for a luxury charter boat company. The event coordinator will then customize the entire experience from the place settings on the table to the ship tours.\n\nWhile you’re making plans to treat your loved ones to an elegant night on the water, check out Zola for [ways to design your rehearsal dinner invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) with a nautical theme in mind.\n\n## Entertain Guests With Memorable Activities \n\nIn addition to choosing an unconventional venue, filling your rehearsal dinner with unique, playful, and stress-free activities is an excellent way to make your rehearsal dinner distinctly you.\n\nFrom incorporating board games to hiring palm readers, read on to discover how you can entertain your guests from start to finish.\n\n### Play Games and Conversation Starters\nAlthough you probably know everyone attending the rehearsal dinner, there’s a good chance that not everybody knows everyone else. Therefore, it may be a good idea to break the ice with a few conversation starters.\n\nAn easy, fun way to get guests to interact with one another is to ask each rehearsal dinner guest to write down how they’re associated with the soon-to-be-married couple on a blank name tag; this is sure to get guests talking. Other conversation starters include:\n\n- Asking each table to play “Two Truths and a Lie.” To play this game, have each guest write down two truths and one lie about the wedding party. The other guests then have to try to guess the lie.\n\n- Give each table wedding-themed “Mad Libs” and ask them to fill them in.\n\n- Set up a trivia game in which the questions pertain to the wedding party. The table with the most correct answers “wins.”\n\nIn addition to conversation starters, entertain your guests by setting up lawn games such as cornhole, bocce ball, and croquet. You might also consider setting up an area with board games. To this extent, Jenga is an especially enjoyable way to get your guests interacting.\n\n### Set Up a Photo Booth\nMany people set up photo booths during their wedding reception. Why not do the same at your rehearsal dinner? A photo booth is an easy way for guests to show off their creativity and excitement for the big day to come.\n\nTo add a personal touch, stock the photo booth with objects that reflect both of your interests and personalities. And don’t forget to include funny props, cool backdrops, and photo strips to make the experience as memorable as possible. \n\nOn average, photo booths cost $125-$200 per hour making them affordable, exciting activities for your entire wedding party.\n\n### Hire Live Music \n\nWhile your reception will most likely feature a live band or DJ, having live music at your rehearsal dinner may add a more personal touch to the event.\n\nThis is especially true if you’re having a destination wedding. For instance, hiring a mariachi band for a rehearsal dinner in Mexico can add to the already fun, relaxed atmosphere.\n\nHowever, you should only incorporate live music if it fits within your budget. Live music is expensive, and you’re likely to have some form of live entertainment during your wedding reception.\n\n### Give Palm Readings\nHiring a certified psychic to read tarot cards and give palm readings is a surefire way to make your rehearsal dinner unlike anything your guests have ever experienced.\n\nIn addition to your wedding party lining up to have their fortunes read, you and your partner will be thrilled to hear what’s in store for your wedding ceremony.\n\nOn average, tarot card readers cost $40-60 per hour, but that price may change depending on the location of your event and the experience and reputation of the psychic.\n\n### Roll Cigars\nCigars aren't for everyone, but if you or your partner (and your wedding party) are into cigars, hiring a professional cigar roller may just be the thing that takes your rehearsal dinner to the next level.\n\nNot only will your wedding party be thrilled to watch the cigar roller at work, but they’ll also enjoy one with you after dinner while you get ready for your big day. \n\nHiring a cigar roller tends to be a bit pricey, however. Cigar rollers typically cost around $400, but this price could change depending on the size of the wedding party, the location of the event, and the duration.\n\n### Light a Bonfire\nThere are few things better than warming yourself by a bonfire with your closest friends and family. Take this experience to the next level by treating your wedding party to a rehearsal dinner bonfire.\n\nAfter dinner, your guests will love roasting s’mores and singing songs beside a fire as vibrant as your love story. \n\nBonfires work especially well for destination rehearsal dinners. A beach bonfire beneath a sky full of stars will keep your guests talking about your rehearsal dinner for years to come.\n\n## Lean into a Theme\nMost people love events with a theme. A themed rehearsal dinner is an easy way to make your rehearsal dinner truly your own.\n\nFrom backyard barbecues to “nights at the casino,” the following themed rehearsal dinner ideas are guaranteed to inspire you.\n\n### Backyard Barbecue\nAt first glance, a backyard barbecue doesn’t seem like a unique theme. But if you go all out in terms of decor and food, you can transform a simple barbecue into an event well worth remembering.\n\nTreat your wedding party to the best barbecue that they’ve ever experienced by doing the following:\n\n- __Step up the decor –__ Who says a barbecue must only feature wobbly plastic chairs and red plastic cups? Make your barbecue-themed rehearsal dinner stand out by decorating picnic tables with checkered tablecloths, flower arrangements, and napkins with snippets of your love story printed on them. Additionally, consider stringing up lanterns and pennants. \n\n- __Modify the food –__ While barbecues are known for burgers and hotdogs cooked over charcoal, it doesn’t mean that you can’t make your barbecue-themed rehearsal dinner elegant by changing up the food for more refined fare. Grilled salmon is always a crowd-pleaser, as are ribs and whole chicken. For sides, instead of baked beans and chips, consider serving watermelon salad with feta, grilled Mexican street corn, or some other more distinct barbecue fare.\n\n- __Set up lawn games –__ As mentioned above, lawn games definitely help encourage the wedding party to get in the celebratory spirit. Set up ring toss and cornhole sets with your names emblazoned on the boards. For a more personal experience, consider designing an “activity wheel” that guests can spin to see which creative activity they’ll have to engage in, from “showing their best dance moves” to “giving an impromptu speech.”\n\n- __Hire live music –__ To really get into the barbecue theme, hiring a live band that specializes in bluegrass, country, or some other genre associated with a traditional barbecue is a fantastic idea. \n\nExciting and inexpensive, a barbecue-themed rehearsal dinner may just be the informal, relaxing event you need before you walk down the aisle.\n\n### A Night at the Casino\nYou don’t have to go to Vegas or Monte Carlo to give your guests the casino experience they’ve always dreamed of. Raise your rehearsal dinner’s “stakes” by having a casino-themed event.\n\nWhether you set up blackjack tables outside or wear your poker face inside, your wedding party will love dressing up in their best attire, throwing dice, and winning prizes. Additionally, feel like James Bond for the night by sipping highballs from the “casino’s bar.”\n\nTo fully immerse yourself in the casino experience, consider adding the following touches:\n\n- Hire dealers to run the blackjack, poker, and roulette tables\n- Decorate your space with poker chips that feature your wedding monogram\n- Send out rehearsal dinner invites on customized playing cards\n\nBuild excitement for your casino night well before the rehearsal dinner by adding the event’s details to your wedding website. At Zola, you can customize your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) so that details about your ceremony are just a tab click away from your more playful casino night in “Monte Carlo.”\n\n### Relax on the “Beach”\nEven if you’re not having a destination wedding in a tropical paradise, you can still recreate the experience of white sands, clear water, and cold daiquiris by having a beach-themed rehearsal dinner.\n\nTo feel like Jimmy Buffet for the night, create a relaxed, “beachy” vibe by doing the following:\n\n- Set up tiki torches in your backyard\n\n- Have your wedding party wear informal, beach-inspired attire, such as flowery Hawaiian shirts and sandals\n\n- Serve a buffet-style dinner on long surfboards\n\n- Hang hammocks from trees\n\n- Hire a steel drum band or a band that specializes in “surf music”\n\n- Serve beach-inspired drinks such as daiquiris, hurricanes, and margaritas\n\n- Serve fish and other seafood\n\nA beach-themed rehearsal dinner comes with many perks. Enjoy dancing the night away with your wedding party on your own private beach. \n\n### A Day at the Country Club\nA country club-themed rehearsal dinner works best if you’re able to rent out a space at your local country club, but you can easily transform your backyard into a “mini-Augusta” as well.\n\nIf holding the event in your backyard, immerse yourself in the theme by setting up putting greens, chipping areas, tee boxes, and a “veranda” to watch the golfers. You might also consider designing a scoreboard outfitted with your wedding monogram.\n\n## Unique Rehearsal Dinner Tips \nNow that you know a few ways to make your rehearsal dinner stand out from the pack, let’s go over a few tips to make your unique rehearsal dinner everything you hoped for and more.\n\n### Tip #1: Dazzle With Your Invites\nAlthough your rehearsal dinner is generally less formal than your wedding day celebration, you should still send out invites to your wedding guests. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t be creative.\n\nAs mentioned above, you can design your invites to match your rehearsal dinner theme. For example, if you’re having a beach-themed event, invites that evoke tropical environments are sure to be a hit.\n\nHowever you decide to design your invites, be sure to send them out well in advance. Unique rehearsal dinners often require more planning than traditional events. In general, be sure to send out invites at least four to six weeks in advance.\n\n### Tip #2: Don’t Let Traditional Guest Counts Constrain You\nRehearsal dinners have traditionally been smaller affairs featuring the couple getting married, the wedding party, and immediate friends and family. However, if you’re having a more distinct rehearsal dinner, it’s ok to invite more than a select group of guests.\n\nThis is especially true if you’re holding a themed event in your backyard. Unique rehearsal dinners give you more leeway when deciding who to invite. If you want to invite your golf pro third cousin to your country club-themed rehearsal dinner, you can do so.\n\n### Tip #3: Get Creative With Your Menu\nHaving a unique rehearsal dinner means that you’ll likely be in charge of the menu. Why not make it as creative and delicious as possible? \n\nIf you’re throwing a themed rehearsal dinner, you’ll probably want to serve food that matches the theme, but don’t let the theme restrict you. If you want woodfired Sicilian pizza at your luau-themed rehearsal dinner, go for it.\n\nFor more catering information, be sure to click on Zola’s [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) tab for caterers in your area. Whether you’re having your rehearsal dinner in San Francisco or Shreveport, Zola has you covered.\n\n## Zola: For All Your Unique Rehearsal Dinner Needs\nFor many couples, rehearsal dinners are an important part of wedding festivities, but this doesn’t mean that you have to throw a cookie-cutter rehearsal dinner.\n\nMake your rehearsal dinner truly unique by following the above tips. \n\nBe sure to also check out Zola for rehearsal dinner planning [advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice), as well as advice for the wedding reception and beyond. For all things wedding, Zola is there.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:46.847Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"funny-wedding-vow-ideas","title":"Funny Wedding Vow Ideas","excerpt":"Looking to get your guests laughing on your wedding day? Discover our favorite funny wedding vow ideas here!","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2020-10-23T14:50:26.928Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7si5GoxzoiZoF516ubmdk3/b25b9ee76ac0dea8cabc5435f2d40649/hero_unsplash27.jpg","altText":"Funny Wedding Vow Idea couple showing off rings"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"For some couples, wedding vows means linking together lots of romantic sentences and flowery phrases to create one swoon-worthy speech. For others, it’s the chance to make your SO double-over in laughter before saying “I do.” If your relationship is full of giggles and good times, chances are that you want your vows to showcase your fun-loving bond. \n\n## How to Write Funny Wedding Vows\nWhile drafting funny wedding vows might seem daunting, if jokes, laughter, and light teasing are a big part of your relationship, it’s a great way to let your personality shine. We’re outlining everything you need to know—as well as providing plenty of examples—to help you create funny [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows) that stand the test of time and keep your future spouse giggling long after you walk back down the aisle to start the rest of your life together.\n\n![Funny Wedding Vow Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/E0APRqoQfxlbgh4P5zpYT/1a53f6722ba35aee8fca2cb051933184/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Be True to Your Relationship\nThough you might like the idea of getting the whole room to crack up, decide if funny vows actually showcase who you are, either individually or as a couple. If you’re known to be a comedy whiz, then joke away. If silliness and comedic timing isn’t your thing, consider just adding a few small jokes and sticking to more [traditional wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple). Ultimately, your vows are about being yourself, showcasing your true relationship, and making promises for the future. While laughter might seem like the ultimate prize, the real reason for the vows will be standing right in front of you. Don’t lose focus on the purpose of the vows simply with the hope of making your guests laugh. \n\n### Think Broad\nEven if you and your future spouse are always speaking with inside jokes, it’s a good idea to keep your humor broader (and PG-rated) so that your guests don’t feel like they’re intruding. When it comes to jokes, stick to personality traits or facts that at least a majority of your friends and family will get. This will help make them feel included and should also eliminate any cricket chirps after delivering a punchline. \n\n### Remember the Purpose of Vows\nEven if you’re fluent in comedy and have a degree in sarcasm, it’s important to remember that wedding vows aren’t a stand-up show. Vows are a serious declaration of your love for your partner and the promise you make for the future as you face both highs and lows. Comedy is a wonderful way to showcase your love, but make sure that you’re still acknowledging the importance of the moment and the commitment you’re making while your guests catch their breath in between jokes.\n\n![Funny Wedding Vow Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5X9SH0QQ6JFvjR1Qdtwihs/25ea5782b1114709656f3350bcb93967/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Practice a Little Extra\nWhether your vows are funny or serious, practicing before the big day is crucial. Not only will this help you feel more at ease when you’re reciting them in front of a room of friends and family, but it’ll help ensure that your eyes aren’t glued to your paper the day-of. If jokes or humor are large components of your vows, practicing is *extra* important. Make indications for timing beats and pauses, as well as inflection points (even if you think you don’t need them) to help ensure that your jokes land when saying your funny vows.\n\n## Other Funny Wedding Vow Ideas\nWhen it comes to writing funny wedding vows, there are a variety of options. Here are a few unique ways to add humor to your vows:\n- __Add dancing to your vows__\nWhether you dance throughout your vows—like simultaneously busting a move between portions—or have your wedding party dance down the aisle (like at [Jim and Pam’s wedding from *The Office*](https://youtu.be/ryxUeWEcUqE)), movement is a great way to add a little something silly to an otherwise serious moment. \n\n- __Make your vows musical__\nSinging or rapping part of your vows can prove to be a unique way to get your funny vows across, even if you’re not a songbird. Take a page from [Adam Sandler in *The Wedding Singer*](https://youtu.be/vYjk2WRlvUA) to create heartfelt, yet hilarious musical vows.\n\n- __Incorporate a silly reading__\nIf you want to keep your wedding vows formal but still infuse humor into your wedding ceremony, consider a funny wedding reading. Rewrite any of the vows below to turn them into a passage to be presented by a friend or family member, or have them recite this short and silly passage by Ogden Nash that all married couples will be able to relate to: \n“To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you’re wrong admit it; Whenever you’re right shut up.”\n\n## Funny Wedding Vow Ideas\nFinally, if you’re looking for ideas to incorporate into your vows, here a few tried-and-true wedding vow examples that’ll make your guests (and your partner) giggle, all sourced from popular shows and movies, as well as from some real-life couples:\n\n__Monica from “Friends”__: “For so long I wondered if I would ever find my prince, my soulmate. Then three years ago, at another wedding, I turned to a friend for comfort. And instead, I found everything that I'd ever been looking for my whole life. And now, here we are, with our future before us, and I only want to spend it with you, my prince, my soulmate, my friend. Unless you don't want to. You go!”\n\n__Harry from “When Harry Met Sally”__: “I love that you get cold when it’s seventy-one degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour-and-a-half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.\"\n\n__Bernadette from “The Big Bang Theory”__: “Like you, this is going to be short and sweet. I love you with all my heart and soul and promise to be with you forever.”\n\n__Paige from “The Vow”__: “I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands. To speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not. To agree to disagree on red velvet cake, and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.”\n\n__April from “Parks & Recreation”:__ “I guess I kind of hate most things, but I never really seem to hate you. So I wanna spend the rest of my life with you. Is that cool?”\n\n__Andy from “Parks & Recreation”:__ “You are the most awesome person I have ever known in my entire life. I vow to protect you from danger. And I don’t care if I have to fight an ultimate fighter, or a bear, or him (points to a random guest), or your mom. I would take them down. I’m getting mad right now even telling you. I wanna spend the rest of my life, every minute, with you, and I am the luckiest man in the galaxy.”\n\n__Anthony from “Sex & The City 2”__: “It was not exactly love at first sight, but it turns out it was love. You are the first man to accept me for the man that I actually am.”\n\n__Marshall from “How I Met Your Mother”__: “There are a million reasons why I love you. You make me laugh and you take care of me when I’m sick. You’re sweet, caring, and you even created an egg dish and named it after me...It’s called ‘Egg Marshall’ and it’s awesome. But the main reason that I love you is that you’re my best friend. You’re the best friend I ever had.”\n\n__Lily from “How I Met Your Mother”__: “I love you because you’re funny and you make me feel loved and you make me feel safe. And for our anniversary you gave me a sweatshirt that says, ‘Lily and Marshall: Rockin’ It Since ‘96’... but the main reason I love you is you make me happy. You make me happy all the time.”\n\n__Mike from “Friends”__: “You are so beautiful. You're so kind, you're so generous, you're so wonderfully weird. Every day with you is an adventure. I can't believe how lucky I am, and I can't wait to share my life with you forever.”\n\n__Lena from “The Fosters”__: “You are a piece of work, but you’re my piece of work. I accept you, every single thing that makes you who you are, from now until the end of time. I love you.”\n\n“I vow to grow old and ugly and smelly with you—yelling at hooligans to get off our lawn and starting as many speeches as possible to our children with ‘When we were kids…’”\n\n“I promise not to watch the next episode without you.”\n\n“As the late, great Salt-N-Pepa once said: ‘What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man.’\"\n\n“I vow to protect you from snakes as long as we both shall live.”\n\n“I’m not excited to become your Instagram husband, but I vow to take a million photos of you anyway.”\n\n“I vow to agree to disagree on what the thermostat should be set at.”\n“Let's forget when to shut up, forget being polite. Let's be that couple, those people, and have the time of our lives until we drop dead.”\n\n“I vow to try my best not to schedule anything when the New York Jets are playing.”\n\n“I promise to spend our days exploring dancing in the kitchen, being the only ones laughing at our jokes, and eating takeout on the couch.”\n\n“I vow never to make you watch “Gossip Girl” with me. Again. Sorry about that, by the way.”\n\n“I vow to love you even when you're old and still playing Xbox with your headset on.”\n\n“I vow to always let you have the last slice of pizza. Unless I’m really hungry and you really want to give me it. Or if it looks really good. Or if I’m tipsy. Actually, scratch that. Sorry, I can’t promise you that. But I can vow to love you forever. So, here’s to a lifetime of forever fighting over that last slice.”\n\nIf your love language is laughter and jokes, inserting humor into your wedding vows is a great way to showcase your personalities and start the rest of your lives on the right, hilarious foot. \n","tag":"Inspiration","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:46.049Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-is-cocktail-hour-the-power-of-happy-hour","title":"How Long Is Cocktail Hour? The Power of Happy Hour ","excerpt":"A guide as to why keeping your cocktail hour the perfect length is the best way to ensure that your reception goes exactly as planned. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-12T19:25:21.649Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1g2keHF1uq0Bxck9tteyIr/569a02048dff03bafd8332992b47132b/Hero_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Drink with flowers in mason jar"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Upon arrival at your wedding reception locale, your guests will be welcomed by the open arms of a cocktail hour. Though not an official part of the reception, this event acts as the bridge between the wedding ceremony and the celebration that is to come. But, how long is cocktail hour in a wedding day timeline?\n\nIt may sound strange to learn that your cocktail hour is not considered part of your reception. Especially if it’s in the same venue as the reception itself. Traditionally the cocktail hour is simply the [time between ceremony and reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-time-should-you-have-between-a-wedding-ceremony-and-reception) that allows your wedding guests to be entertained while you attend to more pressing business. \n\nThe cocktail hour allows the newlywed couple, along with the rest of the wedding party, to take pictures and handle any other wedding business without the fear of keeping guests waiting. The reception does not officially begin until the newlyweds are on the premises, which is why the cocktail hour is not considered part of your reception. Basically, the celebration doesn't start until you walk in.\n\n## Cocktail Hour vs. Reception\nEven [wedding caterers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues \"Wedding Venues | Zola\") and special event venues make a clear distinction between reception and cocktail hour. If you want to host a cocktail happy hour for wedding guests, it’s often in addition to the time and cost of the reception as a whole. \n\nThe reason for this distinction from wedding vendors stems from the fact that not all couples want a cocktail hour incorporated into their wedding day timeline. However, we feel we must tell you that the success of your reception hinges on a well-planned cocktail hour. This is why team Zola says the perfect cocktail hour is an absolute must. \n\nWithout a cocktail hour, your guests are often left to simply fend for themselves for several hours post-ceremony. A lack of structure for your guests can cause confusion, tardiness, and general disruption to the reception as a whole. Seeing as how you want your reception to run smoothly, a cocktail hour should be a priority on your big day. \n\n![How Long Is Cocktail Hour? ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RKUZoJBzx23awPvYBwJwH/13141b3239cf835703adb6ef327f46fd/INLINE_HowLongIsCocktailHour___.jpg)*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## The Importance of Cocktail Hour\nThe cocktail hour is of the utmost importance regarding the success of your wedding reception. Despite being misunderstood as an extension of the reception, the cocktail hour is the foundation on which your reception will be perceived and enjoyed. The cocktail hour allows your guests to ease into the celebration with drinks, appetizers, and some lighthearted socializing. You can even integrate a form of [cocktail hour entertainment](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) or [even party cocktail games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-entertain-guests-between-the-wedding-and-reception) to occupy guests before the formal reception starts.\n\nAs the name might suggest, this portion of your reception will be somewhere between one and two hours. While two hours may be pushing it as far as holding your guests' attention, one hour is typically not long enough. \n\nNot only do your guests want time to mingle and enjoy themselves, but you also need time to take wedding photos before making your grand entrance into the reception hall. For most newlywed couples, somewhere between an hour and a half and two hours is the ideal amount of time for a cocktail hour, as it allows you to get the pictures you need without being rushed.\n\nKeeping track of time is not something you’ll have to worry about on your big day. Your day-of wedding coordinator will ensure that you’re in the right place at the right time, keeping an eye on the clock on your behalf. \n\nThis feels like a good time to remind you that a day-of coordinator is an absolute must. On your wedding day, there’s too much going on around you to juggle all that you have to do. Not to mention, in your new haze of love, clarity will be hard to hold on to, so get yourself a reliable day-of wedding coordinator.\n\n## The Right Amount of Time\nWhen it comes to planning the amount of time for the perfect cocktail hour, it’s better to plan for more time than not enough. If dinner is scheduled to start at 6 p.m., your caterer will be chomping at the bit to get everyone seated for dinner service. Once again, it’ll be up to your day-of coordinator to ensure that everything goes according to plan. Even you should be familiar with the rough time frame of how the night will unfold, so you’re never out of sync.\n\nEven if you finish your photos early, you should avoid making a grand entrance at the cocktail happy hour. The bride and groom's introduction is an essential part of the reception's formal proceedings after everyone is seated. Showing up to your own cocktail hour would not only ruin that moment for you and your guests, but it would also be very unorthodox. Should you finish photos early, by all means, take a breather and enjoy some apps and cocktails in private with your wedding party. \n\nWe feel obligated to inform you that your cocktail hour is not something you will be a part of. As mentioned earlier, this time will be used for you and your spouse to attend to other wedding business, such as taking pictures. \n\nPerhaps you’ll use the cocktail hour to get some much desired alone time. However you intend to spend the hours while your guests are enjoying drinks and appetizers, you should get comfortable with the idea that you won't be in attendance for this portion of the evening's festivities.\n\n## Have Fun With It\nKnowing that you and your new spouse won't be able to enjoy the cocktail hour may tempt you into cutting corners. If there’s one aspect of your wedding day that you need to spend up on, it's the cocktail hour. The whole purpose of the cocktail hour is to distract your guests from the fact that you're not there, and, as such, it needs to be entertaining and enjoyable. \n\nThe overall entertainment value of your cocktail hour will help determine how long you can expect your guests to remain content. If you believe that you will need a longer cocktail hour to accomplish your photos, you may need to consider upping the entertainment value of your cocktail hour. \n\nAs a general rule of thumb, your guests will have more fun if they are comfortable, well-attended to, and entertained. The mark of a well-executed cocktail hour is if your guests leave the event wishing it had been longer. This is by no means an endorsement of a lengthy cocktail hour, but rather a benchmark for how you should plan this pre-reception. Here are a couple pro tips that will ensure your guests leave the cocktail hour happy and excited for the rest of the evening:\n\n![How Long Is Cocktail Hour? ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/58Gr08UdWNtn83xB1ln17L/f29a088f10652fad74f15e41c9b1e262/INLINE2_HowLongIsCocktailHour___.jpg)*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## Some Things to Remember\nMake sure there are multiple bars and multiple bathrooms. This boils down to the fact that nobody likes a line. Whether you have an open bar, a cash bar, or are simply sticking to beer and wine only, ensure that there are multiple locations where guests can grab a drink. \n\nIt may go without saying, but a crowd of people drinking means people will need to use the restroom. Make sure there are several bathrooms to avoid frustrating lines, and, if the restrooms are not well-marked, add some signs to better direct traffic. \n\nJust like marking the bathrooms is a good idea, signs, in general, are an excellent way to inform your guests of what's what and who's who. Put signs on everything. Keeping your guests informed with signs will cut down on questions, and will generally help your guests to have a better time.\n\nSome couples even set out name tags at their reception so that guests who may not be familiar can easily address one another. As a general rule of thumb, the less that people need to ask for, the happier they will be.\n\n## Entertainment Is Key\nAdd some flair, but keep it simple. A cocktail hour doesn't need to be complicated or extravagant to be fun. A small touch of entertainment can go a long way in winning over your guests. \n\nWhether it’s live music in the form of a solo guitarist, or a selection of games, such as cornhole, your guests will be thrilled to find themselves immersed in an environment of fun. Simple additions that add to the overall atmosphere of your cocktail hour are a great way to ensure its success. \n\nIn the overall context of your wedding day, the cocktail hour is unique. This portion of the day's events is the only event that you’ll not be present for, yet, despite your absence, it’s a portion of the day that your guests should remember fondly. While it may seem unfair that you and your new spouse don't get to enjoy this particular moment, take solace in knowing that you will be too wrapped up in marital bliss to care. \n\nThe cocktail hour ranges in time between one and two hours, but it should only be as long as it needs to be. If you find that you’re ready to begin the formalities of the reception a little early on the day of your wedding, go for it. Likewise, if you find that you’re running a bit behind, thus forcing the cocktail hour to run a bit long, don't stress about it. \n\nYour wedding day is all about you and your new spouse, so don't worry about what others may be thinking. So long as you have a well-planned cocktail hour where your guests are well-attended, the length is completely up to you. Don't be afraid to call the shots on your own wedding day. With Zola in your corner, there’s no plan you can't handle, and nothing you can't change to your liking.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:45.262Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-should-a-rehearsal-dinner-be","title":"How Long Should a Rehearsal Dinner Be?","excerpt":"Planning your wedding rehearsal dinner, but don't know how long it should be? Read on for Zola's guide on rehearsal dinner timeline.","author":"Lisa Wong Macabasco","publishedAt":"2021-12-15T05:13:28.995Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2vD4wJMu5oq7umH1YVQNaq/01f324d177f7d6184af13134f0640125/Hero_Zola__25_.jpg","altText":"How Long Should a Rehearsal Dinner Be?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Rehearsal dinners are an essential part of any wedding, providing a more intimate and leisurely celebration before the full festivities begin. \n- Plan for two to three hours for a rehearsal dinner. More people attending or giving speeches may lengthen the duration of the event; holding a more casual dinner may make it shorter.\n- Determine whom you want to invite—smaller gatherings tend to be shorter. If the wedding is the following day, wrap things up early so that everyone has time to rest.","body":"Rehearsal dinners are an essential part of any wedding, allowing the opportunity to express gratitude to those closest to the couple and celebrate in a more intimate way before the full festivities begin. It’s also a time for family members to unite, reflect, and connect with each other in a more leisurely manner before the pressure on the big day. But how long should they last? Here’s some advice on a rehearsal dinner timeline.\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner Timeline \nAllow about two to three hours (or more) for a rehearsal dinner. This time frame includes about half an hour for people to arrive from the ceremony rehearsal, mingle, and then get settled with their drinks; an hour to 90 minutes for the meal itself; and then 10 to 20 minutes (or more) for speeches and gift-giving.\n\n### Factors to Consider \n\n- __How large your rehearsal dinner is__ will determine in part how long it is, so first, figure out whom you want to invite. Traditionally, rehearsal dinners include immediate family members. the wedding party and their guests, and guests from out of town who have traveled a long way to attend. You might also include your officiant, readers, ushers, the ring bearer and flower girls, and other extended family members, depending on how close they are to you.\n\n- __If you end up with a long wedding guest list for the rehearsal dinner__, you can cut down on costs by making it more of a wedding reception, with drinks and snacks, or a buffet-style event (or even a backyard BBQ!) instead of a full sit-down served meal. That may also make the rehearsal dinner slightly shorter in duration—but you’ll still want to make sure that there’s plenty of time for people to eat and socialize. \n\n- Rehearsal dinners tend to be directly after the ceremony rehearsal. However, they don’t have to be—feel free to do a lunch or brunch, if you prefer.\n\n- __If the [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) are in different places__, factor in plenty of travel time from the wedding rehearsal venue to the rehearsal dinner venue. Stay away from a wedding rehearsal dinner venue where guests will have to travel more than 45 minutes.\n\n- __Allot more time for speeches__ if you’re opening the mic up to others besides the host and wedding party (or if anyone particularly likes grabbing the spotlight). Some couples also opt to include a slideshow, which will add on a few more minutes. Remember that you should take a few moments to thank those taking part in the wedding ceremony. This traditionally occurs when you present gifts to members of the wedding party (and perhaps your parents) as a thank-you for their support.\n\n- __Try to wrap up the evening on the early side__ (10 p.m. at the latest), especially if the actual wedding is the following day, so that guests—including the bride and groom-to-be—can get plenty of rest before the big day. This isn’t the time to have an all-night rager! If your wedding day falls on a Sunday or a holiday, you can have your rehearsal dinner two nights before, so that everyone has time to relax the night before the main event.\n\nNo matter whom you plan to invite or whether the dinner is more formal or casual, make sure to allow plenty of time for guests to enjoy themselves. You don’t want anyone to feel rushed at an event that’s meant to express gratitude and kick off the fun times. You want to be sure that everyone feels comfortable with each other before the stress of the big day. \n\nThe rehearsal dinner sets the tone for the wedding itself, so you want to be sure that everyone feels relaxed, happy, and ready to continue on with the goodwill and celebrations. And while there are some traditional rules about [wedding rehearsal dinners](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-rehearsal-dinners-5-ideas-we-love), many couples today feel free to adapt and amend those to their own preferences. So, go ahead and make it your own and tailor it to your own needs.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Here are some tips and advice on how to write a rehearsal dinner speech.","title":"How to Write a Rehearsal Dinner Speech","slug":"how-to-write-a-rehearsal-dinner-speech","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3GuavAoMgQ5MIRPhd6rMGr/7bdf9eb435cdd18be8c3c70e661335c7/Hero_ModernMinneapolisWeddingatFIVEEventCenter_EileenKPhotography.jpg","altText":"How to Write a Rehearsal Dinner Speech"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Have you been invited to a rehearsal dinner and are wondering what etiquette to follow? We're here to help. 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Here are five ideas we love as you plan yours.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-10-23T14:30:45.500Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2jZnH4ubLd1ndJia9Xkoqo/8ac648e2f0f0627f9bd7625b2c8e8018/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"It’s no secret that one of the highlights of a wedding celebration is the food. Before the wedding day comes the rehearsal dinner. It’s a time for the happy couple, their wedding party, and respective families to come together to eat, drink, and be merry. This “practice event” is a formality followed by a festive meal to get everyone mingling and prepared for the big day ahead. \n\nMany choose menus for their wedding rehearsal dinners to closely reflect their favorite foods and drinks. The guest list is smaller, because it typically only includes members of the wedding party and close friends and family. Plus, there’s less concern over pleasing everyone’s palette like with the wedding day meal. \n\nHave fun when planning your wedding rehearsal dinner and think about how special it’ll be to have all your loved ones in one place celebrating with you. Pick a place that’s not too far from where your ceremony is being held to make it easy to get to, particularly for out-of-town guests. That way, transportation won’t be a problem and there’s a better chance for everyone to show up on time. \n\nWhile there are plenty of ideas for how to host your rehearsal dinner, we’re sharing five ideas we simply love that will hopefully spark delicious inspiration for you. \n\n![Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3RBLehSPhRquSyFRQ26CUa/6b00ba989f43ab6b49c5cd8a5bba209c/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## Backyard BBQ Wedding Rehearsal Dinners\nNothing says easygoing better than a backyard BBQ. Now that the wedding day is upon you, all of the stress of planning and preparation can melt away. It’s time to relax and keep things lighthearted and simple. A casual meal such as this also helps to keep costs lower and the atmosphere informal so that people can let loose a little bit before the wedding ceremony the following day. \n\nThe easiest way to go is to order BBQ catering from your go-to place, complete with your chosen meats, side dishes, drinks, and cutlery. Another idea is to designate someone to command the grill and cook up hamburgers and hot dogs with plenty of sides and desserts to complete the meal. Everyone in your wedding party can be responsible for bringing a dish and an extra lawn chair for a laid-back setup. \n\nIf you’re not a fan of BBQ, but like the low-key approach, have a backyard taco spread, spaghetti dinner, or any other easy-to-prepare food that can feed (and please) a crowd. Add in a fire pit or tiki torches, coolers full of drinks, and an upbeat playlist and you have the makings for a perfect evening with your friends and family prior to your wedding day. Other alternatives to a backyard bash are to set up food at a local park or spread it out on folding tables on the beach or lakeside, depending on location. \n\nFor drinks, craft beer, a spiked punch, lemonade, and liters of soda are all good ideas. The goal is to pick an uncrowded, open spot with enough seating for everyone that allows you and your guests to focus on spending time with each other without a lot of fuss.\n\n![Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OkfY6FBq2vjHpL0hUYED6/80e1c5a177d300caac0b88cf3b9bc39d/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n## Formal Wedding Rehearsal Dinners\nOn the other end of the wedding rehearsal dinner spectrum is the formal, sitdown meal. It makes the feeling intimate and special, and it doesn’t have to feel stuffy, especially when you’re fully in charge of the menu. Host it at your special occasion restaurant and keep the headcount low. It’s a great option if you’re keeping your wedding day meal more casual and still want an upscale offering, too. \n\nHowever, even when planning a fancier event, choose foods that you enjoy, and won’t be served at the wedding. For example, steak and scallops are delicious options, but they may not be suitable for your entire wedding guest list cost-wise or preference-wise. This is a time to indulge and share a celebratory meal with those intimately involved in your wedding. \n\nA formal dining experience allows you to sit back and be served with drinks topped off and toasts galore, without worrying about who’s in charge of cleaning up. Let the wine and champagne flow, and ask the restaurant to make a specialty, non-alcoholic drink, too. Make sure to reserve ahead of time since certain places can fill up as quickly as wedding venues. Think of it as a preview to all of the joy and love you’ll feel once your wedding day arrives.\n\n## Appetizer and Dessert Rehearsal Dinners\nIn the same vein as the backyard BBQ, keep things simple, yet elegant with an appetizer and dessert “dinner.” Head to a local winery, rooftop space, or another venue to set up a meal that invites mingling. Cheese and charcuterie platters and finger sandwiches are optimal, while fresh fruit, mini pizzas, and other snackable, finger foods also meet the criteria. If you want a fancier spread, consider tuna tartare, shrimp scampi, and goat cheese tartlets as possible options. \n\nDessert-wise, save the cake for the wedding day and, instead, offer up a make-your-own-sundae station with trays of cookies or individual pies and cupcakes. To make it extra personal, you and your soon-to-be spouse should each pick your favorite dessert for the rehearsal dinner. Make it feel like a party as you celebrate one last time before you become a married couple and gear up for the day ahead. Stick with wine spritzers, hard seltzers, and Shirley Temples as your drinks of choice.\n\nThis type of wedding rehearsal dinner can be set up at your home, a clubhouse, or other communal space where cleanup is a breeze and the rental costs are low (or free). It keeps the atmosphere relaxed, while making sure that everyone has enough to eat. \n\n## Brunch Wedding Rehearsals \nNot all wedding rehearsals are followed by a dinner, especially if you’re planning an afternoon ceremony. Brunch foods are popular across the board, and there are several ways to serve up a rehearsal brunch for your friends and family. Set up different food stations for waffles, eggs, breakfast meats, and fruits. Let the mimosas and bloody marys flow freely, and follow it up with an afternoon of activity, such as mini-golf, croquet, or another low-key outing for you, your wedding party, and your family to enjoy. \n\nIt’s yet another chance to spend quality time together before the wedding day, which will go by in a blur. Having a brunch wedding rehearsal in lieu of a rehearsal dinner ensures that everyone has a good time during the day and gets enough rest before the wedding activities to follow. This is an optimal idea for destination weddings, especially if you want a chance to hang out with everyone pre-wedding, to take in the local scene, and enjoy your location.\n\nA brunch option may also be less expensive than a full dinner, which may leave room for you to invite more of your guests. Although the focus is on the food and atmosphere of what you choose, you’ll also want to make sure that your planning fits into your wedding budget, too.\n\n## Favorite Foods Rehearsal Dinners\nWhile fast-food cheeseburgers and milkshakes may be your favorite food, they may not be the wedding meal you have envisioned as your first shared meal as a married couple. That doesn’t mean that you can’t have it as part of your rehearsal dinner. People are getting clever with how they celebrate their practice run by calling in their favorite food trucks for catering or ordering in a bunch of their guilty pleasure foods to be enjoyed the night before the ceremony.\n\nIf there’s a special restaurant or distinctive food that means something to you as a couple, but isn’t as good for a larger group, order it for your rehearsal dinner. This may mean platters of sushi from where you had your first date or a fair food extravaganza, if attending has been a tradition for you as a couple. Or, you may pick a food that’s popular for your region. \n\nThink Chicago deep-dish pizza, fish tacos for San Diego, and shrimp and grits for New Orleans, just to name a few choices. Food serves up plenty of fond memories, so share yours by having a smorgasbord of some of your food and drink favorites before the big day.\n\n## Wedding Rehearsal Dinners Are a Preview of What’s to Come\nThe wedding rehearsal dinner is the official kick-off to your wedding celebration. It’s when all the planning and preparation come to a close and the big day is only hours away. The rehearsal dinner is a chance for you to walk through the ceremony, button up any last-minute details, and spend quality time with those closest to you. Take the time to slow down and soak it all in while you are surrounded by your friends, family, and good food. \n\nIt’s a chance for you to pass out any wedding party gifts, make special toasts to those who have helped you plan, and enjoy your time before you officially become a married couple. Make sure to think about your wedding rehearsal as you plan, and consider both the places that are special to you as a couple and the food that makes you feel happiest. ","tag":"Inspiration","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:43.630Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"unique-wedding-vows","title":"Unique Wedding Vows","excerpt":"Need inspiration for creating unique wedding vows? We’ve got you covered. Read on for all our top tips. ","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2020-10-20T16:13:46.913Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6ddPDmZpPan66iqrHXGMY6/3156eeb15fd1094a5d7fdc8434886049/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Unique Wedding Vows - rings on written vows"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"One of the most romantic parts of any wedding, whether it’s a giant bash or an exclusive elopement, are the custom [wedding vows]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows). But selecting promises and passages that feel both worthy of the day and true to your relationship can prove to be downright tricky. \n\nThe good news? There’s no right or wrong way to share your vows at your wedding ceremony. Maybe you’d prefer to [write your wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-vows) together and have your officiant read them aloud. Maybe you like the idea of surprising each other with custom wedding vows from the heart? Chat about what feels right for your celebration, and then find your inspiration for your wedding day. \n\nWhether it’s a quote from the movie you watched on your first date, a passage from the book you bonded over in school, or just an inside joke about who steals the covers, lean into what makes your bond so special for unique vows that will make your guests say “that was *so* them.” \n\nStill need some guidance to get there? Whether you’re aiming for something short and sweet or hilarious and heartwarming, here’s everything you need to know about crafting unique wedding vows for your love story. \n\n![Unique Wedding Vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2dlzGjihSl0ndzab7avCKC/116f89607bc54f9b5e1f3d6a0071a5be/inline_unspalsh.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Pick the Format\n[Traditional wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) (or their equivalent) symbolize the moment when the couple forms a married union. If you’re a quirky couple, consider going the [non-traditional wedding vow](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/vow-renewal-wording-tips-and-tricks) route to keep things interesting. Your own vows can be recited a variety of ways, including:\n\n1. Being spoken as a monologue, one at a time.\n2. Being spoken first by the officiant, then repeated back, one after the other.\n3. Asked as a question by the officiant to each person getting married (this is where the “I do” portion comes in).\n\nHowever you choose to format your unique vows, opt to keep it somewhere between 30 seconds and three minutes (and have a chat about general length, so they’re comparable). \n\nAfter writing your marriage vows, have a friend give them a once-over to ensure the jokes will land and the references will be understood. \n\n## Put Pen to Paper\n\nNow, if you’ve got your pencil ready and are searching for inspo, here’s a look at some quotes, passages, song lyrics, and humorous quips to use in full or as jumping-off points to make your unique vows truly stand out. \n\n### Take a Page From a Book\n\nLiterature is full of vow-worthy phrases from both timeless classics and modern tales. Consider some of these favorites: \n\n- “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” — *Wuthering Heights*\n- “Poets often describe love as an emotion that we can’t control, one that overwhelms logic and common sense. That’s what it’s like for me. I didn’t plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt that you planned on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created. For me, love like that has happened only once, and that’s why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. I’ll never forget a single moment of it.” — *The Notebook*\n- “You’ll stay with me?” “Until the very end.” -*Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows*\n\n### Quote Your Favorite Movie\nWhether it’s a rom-com you watched when you were young or a drama you quote endlessly, don’t be afraid to look to unexpected films for a source of marriage inspiration. \n\n- “I love that you get cold when it’s seventy-one degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle in your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.” — *When Harry Met Sally*\n- \"People call these things imperfections, but they're not. Ah, that's the good stuff. Then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds. You're not perfect, sport, and let me save you the suspense. This girl you met? She isn't perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about.\" — *Good Will Hunting*\n- \"I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not, to agree to disagree on red velvet cake, and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.\" — *The Vow*\n\n### Bring It Back to That TV Show You Binged Together\nLove means never watching a new episode of your favorite series without the other, so showcase your fandom with a quote from the small screen.\n\n- “The things that you have done for me, to help me, support me, surprise me, to make me happy, go above and beyond what any person deserves. You're all I need. I love you and I like you.” — *Parks & Recreation*\n- “I wasn't sure this day would ever come, but you were. I wasn't sure love could survive everything we put it through, but you were. You were always strong and always sure. And now I know I want you to stand beside me for the rest of my life. That's what I'm sure of.” — *Boy Meets World*\n- \"You make me happier than I ever thought I could be. And if you let me, I will spend the rest of my life trying to make you feel the same way.\" — *Friends*\n\n### Make It Funny\nThe key to many happy marriages is to keep each other laughing, so get started on the right foot by causing your SO (and your loved ones in the crowd) to giggle during your handwritten vows. \n\nBut you want to strike the right balance. [Katelyn’s Wedding Words](https://www.weddingwords.us/), Professional Vow and Speech Writer, advises couples to use the 80/20 rule. \"80% of your vows should be sweet and serious while 20% should be more playful and humorous. Consider including fun differences like how you root for rival sports teams or how they are the only person you’d be willing to go camping with. Pet peeves that you can playfully poke fun at can be good too. But it’s best to highlight the ones they have about you rather than the ones you have about them!”\n\nBelow are some [funny wedding vow](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/funny-wedding-vow-ideas) ideas to help you get started:\n\n- “I promise to love you, not despite your faults but because of them, including but not limited to your inability to put your stuff away, the toe prints you leave on my dashboard, and your tendency to steal all of the blankets in the house.”\n- “I vow to try my best not to schedule anything when the New England Patriots are playing.”\n- “Roses are red,\nMy devotion is true.\nI love everything about you,\nAnd your butt is awesome too.”\n\n### Make It Honest\nUltimately, as husband and wife, your vows are about your promises to each other, so if that means swearing to always put your socks away or sharing the last piece of pizza, use it! \n\n- “While most people say they fell in love at first sight, for me, it was the first laugh. Because that’s our foundation. That’s what makes us work. At the end of the day, it’s true: You are my absolute favorite person, and I can’t believe how much I love you.”\n- “I promise to spend our days exploring foreign lands, eating delicious foods, and watching Netflix on the couch.”\n- “Let's forget when to shut up, forget being polite. Let’s dance when there’s no music, laugh when there’s silence, and toss out the rulebook without any regard to the norms. Let's be that couple, those people, and have the time of our lives until we drop dead.\"\n\n### Quote the Unconventional\nYour love story is one-of-a-kind, so pick some phrases for your vows to match. Whether it’s from a Halloween movie, a song from your middle school days, or a sci-fi flick, there’s outside-the-box inspo everywhere. \n\n- \"My dearest friend, if you don't mind, I'd like to join you by your side. Where we can gaze into the stars, and sit together, now and forever. For it is plain as anyone can see, we're simply meant to be.\" — *The Nightmare Before Christmas*\n- \"I think anybody who falls in love is a freak. It's a crazy thing to do. It's kind of like a form of socially acceptable insanity.\" — *Her*\n- “If heaven and hell decide that they both are satisfied. And illuminate the no's on their vacancy signs. If there's no one beside you when your soul embarks. Then I'll follow you into the dark.” — “I Will Follow You Into The Dark.”\n\n### Make It Romantic\nIf your wedding is all about the romance, don’t be afraid to share what’s really in your heart. Now’s the time for all things rose petals and heart-eye emojis. \n\n- “I promise to cheer on your successes, comfort you during loss, and stand steadfastly by your side through it all.”\n- “I will strive to always understand you, giving you comfort when you seek it from me. I will try never to say in anger that which I wouldn’t say in friendship. I promise that when you talk, I'll really listen. And when each night comes, I’ll go to sleep with thanks for your presence at my side and renewed love for you in my heart.”\n- “I promise to forever offer you my unconditional love and encouragement, my trust and respect, as together we create our future.”\n\n### Quote a Song\nWhether it’s a classic love song or something a little more modern, music lyrics are a great way to share your feelings for your other half. \n\n- “When you need some shelter from the rain, when you need a healer for your pain, I will be there time and time again.” — “Here I Am”\n- “I could make you happy, make your dreams come true. Nothing that I wouldn’t do. Go to the ends of the earth for you to make you feel my love.” — “Make You Feel My Love”\n- “And when you’re needing your space to do some navigating, I’ll be here patiently waiting to see what you find.” — “I Won’t Give Up”\n\n![Unique Wedding Vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7imJN2ngZQIdUBbO3MmLjp/d3167298d23313d5eddcf9a36b114ee7/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\n### Keep It Simple\nYou don’t have to go big and bold. Sometimes the simplest sentiments are the sweetest. \n\n- “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always. As long as I’m living, my soulmate you’ll be.”\n- “I promise to be your friend until the end.”\n- “I vow to love you forever.”\n\nWhether your unique vows quote your favorite song, make your guests and loved ones double over in laughter, or are spoken entirely in TV show references, there’s no right way to share your unique love on your special day. \n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:42.865Z"}],"pagination":{"currentPage":3,"total":108},"subtopic":{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-ceremony-script","title":"8 Wedding Ceremony Scripts to Borrow & Printables","excerpt":"Find beautiful wedding ceremony scripts ranging from unique to traditional. Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. Learn more about how to plan a timeline that ensures you will have plenty of time to get the photos you want.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T21:53:59.472Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YSGQJgdXFs7GGnLAdB0JC/b42c6028988e7ad383c57eafef3c00dd/Hero_Zola_02.jpg","altText":"How Long Do Wedding Photos Take"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Throughout your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/), you’ve probably put together a timeline of events for your wedding day. You’ve figured out when to start getting ready in the morning, when to leave for the venue, how long the ceremony will take, and when you will be announced to your guests at the reception. But have you incorporated a timeline for your photos to ensure you get all the shots you want? \n\nMany couples don’t realize how much time is needed to get wedding photos that look effortlessly beautiful. So, how long do wedding photos take? Let’s take a closer look at the details of your wedding photography timeline. \n\n

How to Plan Your Wedding Photos

\n\nDepending on the types of portraits you want your photographer to take ([different wedding photographers have different styles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos)!), it will probably take you at least two hours to get all the shots. However, the good news is that the photos usually aren’t taken all at once, and the time is broken up throughout your day.\n\nMost photographers say you need about 30 minutes for wedding party portraits, 30 minutes for family portraits (close family only), and 45 minutes for couple portraits. Just remember: These timeframes can contract or expand, depending on the size of your wedding party and family, as well as the specific types of shots you want. For specifics, speak to your wedding photographer about how long they’ll need to take all the different shots you have in mind, plus how you might be able to save time. Here are some of the details you should consider as you plan the photos you want. \n\n

1. Pick Who You’ll Include in Formal Portraits

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6I2KiXD8d9GuSXE3jwqoXS/0e1ec004961a149e27003cd624f4d90c/inline_unsplash17.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nOf course, the focus of your wedding photos will be you and your spouse. However, you will probably want to have formal portraits taken of you with your wedding party, as well as [family wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). Deciding who you will include in this session can significantly impact how long your wedding photos will take. Your parents may try to convince you that you should have a formal portrait with all of your relatives, but remember that the more photos you take, the longer you will be kept away from your celebration. A good rule of thumb is to keep formal portraits limited to about 15 different groupings, including your wedding party, immediate family, and possibly a few important relatives. To help you make this decision, your photographer may be able to provide you with a list of suggested formal portrait groupings, so you know [how to edit wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) based on your needs. \n\n

2. Decide If You’ll Do a “First Look”

\n\n![How Long Do Wedding Photos Take? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uVnMhM1d3mlXyhe9PX49q/1549b1156768118b6061ca133f0bba66/inline_unsplash18.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nAn increasingly popular photo that couples are choosing to incorporate is a “first look.” [The first look wedding photo](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) This photo captures the first time the couple sees each other on their wedding day, usually wearing their wedding attire and occurring before the ceremony. \n\nMany photographers suggest this option, because it gives you the opportunity to take formal portraits before the ceremony, allowing you to enjoy the cocktail hour with your guests. If you choose the alternative—to stick with tradition and wait to see each other at the ceremony—you will likely spend your entire cocktail hour taking portraits. This choice can significantly impact your wedding photography timeline, so make sure you and your partner have come to a decision before finalizing your plans. \n\n

3. Pick Your Locations

\n\nOnce you’ve decided who’ll be in your photos and if you’ll be doing a “first look,” choose where you will be taking the photos. The most obvious and easiest locations will be your ceremony and reception venues, but you aren’t limited to these.\n\nIf the hotel where you’re getting ready has beautiful scenery, you might decide to have some portraits taken there, such as the bridal party or groomsmen photos. However, you might have other specific places of importance, like a local park or a specific neighborhood in your city. While this is definitely an option, you will need to plan for the extra time and transportation required to travel to and from those locations on your big day. \n\n

Your Wedding Photo Timeline

\n\nAfter you’ve figured out all the details of your wedding photos, you’ll want to work with your photographer (or wedding planner) to create a fully documented schedule of your wedding day, including the timeline for your photos. And don’t forget: It’s useful to add five-minute buffers throughout the day to leave room for any last-minute changes. You will also want to include any travel time to move between locations.\n\nOnce you’ve established your timeline, make sure that anyone who will be included in photos is aware of the schedule, plus has all relevant details. The last thing you want is to be waiting on a relative to show up for photos, so encourage all your important people to stick to the timeline you give them. \n\n

Sample Timelines

\n\nTo help you out, we put together two sample wedding photo timelines (including a [wedding photo list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list)!). The first is for a couple doing a “first look” session, while the second is for a couple going the more traditional route. Seeing these schedules next to one another may help you decide what you’d like to do for your wedding based on the impact that session can have on your overall timeline. \n\n### Timeline With First Look\n\n#### 11:45 AM - Wedding Photographer’s Arrival\nFrom a photo perspective, the day can’t start until the photographer arrives—which is why the first item on any wedding day photography timeline is the photographer’s arrival. At this point, the wedding photographer arrives on site and prepares to start snapping photos. \n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos \nDuring the next phase, the couple is separated, getting ready for the ceremony with their wedding party. These photos are often candid. \n\nDuring this time, the wedding photographer may take a variety of shots, including:\n\n- The groom getting dressed with the groomsmen\n\n- The bride getting ready with the bridesmaids\n\n- The hair stylist creating the bride’s wedding day hairstyle\n\n- Close-ups of the makeup artist doing the bride and bridesmaids’ makeup\n\n- Detail shots (for example, rings, wedding shoes, bouquets, wedding invitations, etc.)\n\nIf the wedding photographer has a second shooter, they may split up—with each photographer taking photos of one half of the couple and their bridesmaids and/or groomsmen. \n\n__Location ideas:__ Wherever the bride and/or groom is getting ready—for example, their home, the wedding venue, or a hotel\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:00 PM - First Look and Couple Portraits\nIf a couple opts to do a first look, then the photographer will get the opportunity to shoot them pre-ceremony. [First look photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos) generally include:\n\n- Portrait sessions for both people (for example, bridal portraits and groom portraits)\n\n- The couple seeing each other in their full wedding looks for the first time\n\n- Couples portraits\n\nLocation ideas: Somewhere at or near the wedding venue—either outdoors (for example, in a garden or next to the ocean) or indoors (for example, in a hallway or underneath an entrance)\n\n#### 3:15 - 3:45 PM - Wedding Party Portraits\nAfter the first look, it’s time to tackle wedding party photos. This may include:\n\n- The bride with all of her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with the maid of honor\n\n- The groom with all of the groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The couple with the entire wedding party\n\n- The bride with her partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n- The groom with his partner’s side of the wedding party\n\n__Location ideas:__ Outside the wedding venue, at an off-site location with a scenic background\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nIt’s time to get married! During the wedding ceremony, the photographer will likely snap a variety of photos, including:\n\n- The ceremony location\n\n- Detail shots (for example, the ceremony programs, the flowers, the arbor, etc.)\n\n- Guests arriving at the ceremony start time\n\n- The wedding party walking down the aisle\n\n- Family members walking down the aisle\n\n- The bride and/or groom (or brides and grooms) walking down the aisle\n\n- The officiant\n\n- Any friends or family that share readings during the ceremony\n\n- The couple exchanging wedding vows\n\n- The couple walking down the aisle after getting married\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site\n\n#### 5:10 - 5:40 PM - Family Portraits\nAfter the ceremony, the wedding photographer will take formal [portraits of the couple and their families](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-take-authentic-engagement-photos). This may include:\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The couple with one partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other partner’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- Additional family photos as necessary (for example, photos with aunts, uncles, and/or cousins)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the ceremony site, somewhere scenic/quiet at the wedding venue that’s away from cocktail hour (for example, a garden or ballroom)\n\n#### 5:10 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nIf your wedding photographer has a second shooter, they will often snap photos during cocktail hour while the main photographer handles family photos. This may include:\n\n- Guests mingling at cocktail hour\n\n- Photos of your signature wedding cocktails\n\n- Detail shots (for example, cocktail napkins, signage and decor, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas:__ At the cocktail hour site\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nYour wedding reception is full of moments that you’ll want to turn into memories—and your wedding photographer will be on hand to ensure that happens. Some wedding reception photos your photographer will likely want to capture include:\n\n- The couple’s grand entrance\n\n- Guest table photos\n\n- The couple’s first dance\n\n- Parent dances\n\n- Toasts and speeches\n\n- Guests dancing on the dance floor\n\n- The garter toss and/or bouquet toss\n\n- Cake cutting\n\n- The couple’s exit\n\n- Detail shots (for example, centerpieces, decor, table signage, gift table, etc.)\n\n__Location ideas__: At the wedding reception site\n\n### Timeline Without First Look\n\n#### 12:00 - 2:00 PM - Getting Ready Photos\n\nSame as above\n\n#### 2:15 - 3:30 PM - Separate Wedding Party and Family Portraits \nIf a couple opts not to do a first look, the wedding photographer can’t do group photos before the ceremony—but they can do separate wedding party and/or family portraits. This may include:\n\n- The bride with her bridesmaids\n\n- The bride with each bridesmaid\n\n- The bride with her maid of honor\n\n- The bride with her parents\n\n- The bride with her siblings\n\n- The bride with her immediate family\n\n- The bride with her grandparents\n\n- The bride with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with his entire family\n\n- The groom with his groomsmen\n\n- The groom with each groomsmen\n\n- The groom with his best man\n\n- The groom with his parents\n\n- The groom with his siblings\n\n- The groom with his immediate family\n\n- The groom with his grandparents\n\n- The groom with any additional family as necessary (for example, aunts, uncles, or cousins)\n\n- The groom with her entire family\n\n#### 4:30 - 5:00 PM - Wedding Ceremony\nSame as above\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:15 PM - Couple and Group Portraits \nIf there’s no first look, the couple will take both couple’s and group portraits after the wedding ceremony. This may include:\n\n- Photos of the couple\n\n- The couple with their entire wedding party\n\n- The couple with one set of parents\n\n- The couple with the other set of parents\n\n- The couple with both sets of parents\n\n- The couple with one set of siblings\n\n- The couple with the other set of siblings\n\n- The couple with both sets of siblings\n\n- The couple with one person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s immediate family\n\n- The couple with both of their immediate families\n\n- The couple with one set of grandparents \n\n- The couple with the other set of grandparents\n\n- The couple with both sets of grandparents\n\n- The couple with one person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with the other person’s entire family\n\n- The couple with both of their entire families\n\n#### 5:15 - 6:20 PM - Cocktail Hour\nSame as above\n\n#### 6:30 PM - Wedding Reception\nSame as above\n\nAs you can see from the timelines above, the “first look” photos can give you more time to enjoy being with your guests after the ceremony. However, if you choose to stick to a more traditional timeline and wait to see each other at the ceremony for the first time, you will still be able to take all the photos you want. Ultimately, the decision is up to you as a couple and what works best for your wedding day.\n\n## Things To Consider When Developing Your Wedding Day Photography Timeline\nNeed more insights in to how to navigate your wedding day timeline? Here are a few things to keep in mind:\n\n- __Stick to the timeline...__ Your wedding photographer has a timeline for a reason! The timeline is created to ensure they have enough time to capture all of the shots you’ll want from your wedding day—so make their lives easier by sticking to the timeline as much as possible.\n\n- __...but also be flexible.__ Ideally, you’ll stick to your wedding photography timeline—but things happen that may throw you off course (for example, it may take you longer to get ready than you originally planned or there may be a delay in getting to your first look location). Make sure to stay flexible and allow your photographer to switch things up as necessary.\n\n- __Keep awkward moments to a minimum.__ Your wedding photographer is there to capture happy moments—not awkward ones. Think about any potential awkward interactions—and make a plan to deal with them. (For example, if you have divorced parents that can’t be in the same room, make sure to let your photographer know so she can schedule those family portraits separately.)\n\n- __Make sure to account for transportation time.__ If you’re taking photos at multiple locations, make sure to build transportation time into your timeline.\n\n- __Don’t be afraid to ask for a redo.__ If something feels off about your photography sessions—for example, you don’t like where you’re snapping your bridal party photos or the sky is too dark and cloudy for your liking—don’t be afraid to ask your photographer to either retake the photos or rethink their approach and offer other options.\n\nWhile it may be tempting to figure out your wedding photos on a whim throughout your wedding day, ensuring you get all the shots you want will require some planning. Start by deciding who you want to take photos with and where they will be taken. Then, as a couple, choose whether or not you want a “first look” photo. Work with your photographer to get a better sense of how long they need to get high-quality shots. And finally, create a detailed timeline for your wedding day, then share it with all the appropriate people. Taking these steps will ensure your big day runs smoothly, so you can enjoy being in the moment—and enjoy getting back your wedding photos after your big day. (Don’t forget to ask about turnaround time!)","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How are you and your guests going to travel from point A to point B on your big day? 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Here are cheap rehearsal dinner ideas from Zola.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T04:41:26.496Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4xVQpZoBKXEPIyxsp4Il5q/cdf04678e673b19dc6aabcfcbd2cbe3a/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Rehearsal dinners can be as elegant or as laid-back as you want them to be—and an event that allows you to let loose before your wedding day. \n- Keep your rehearsal dinner affordable by holding it at home, a public park, or another low-cost venue. \n- Book buffet-style catering or coordinate a pot-luck dinner in order to reduce food costs. Get creative with decorations by making them yourself or upcycling objects you may already have lying around your home. \n- Pick a theme for your rehearsal dinner that fits your aesthetic and allows you to decorate and cater the event without putting too much of a strain on your budget. ","body":"Bringing people together to celebrate your love doesn’t always bring the same degree of excitement to your wallet as it does to you and your partner. High costs can seem to creep up out of nowhere even for a more intimate occasion like the wedding rehearsal dinner. For a memorable night with family and friends that’s exquisite and easy on the budget, follow along. \n\nIn this piece, we’ll cover everything you need to know from rehearsal dinner basics to creative ideas that will bring radiance and spending relief. Focus more on the wedding-day walk-through and on cherishing small moments—we’ll help you take care of the rest. \n\nHere’s a closer look at what you’ll find below:\n\n- Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know\n- How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly\n- Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas\n- Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\n- Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know \nRehearsal dinners are more than just a walk-through of the ceremony. The post-rehearsal time is an opportunity to sneak extra hugs, conversation, and dancing with your closest friends and family members. \n\nBefore handing out a few tips about how to put on an affordable event, let’s first talk a bit more about what a rehearsal dinner actually is. Who comes? When does it typically happen? Find answers to these questions and more below. \n\n- The what: A rehearsal, of course! You’ll do a general practice of the ceremony from top to bottom to coordinate details such as music, entries, and where to stand. The best part is dinner and drinks afterward with your inner circle of loved ones. \n\n- __The who:__ As wedding tradition goes, the rehearsal dinner is generally reserved for you, your partner, the wedding party, the officiant, and anyone else who may hold a spot on the ceremony program. Some couples may choose to expand the guest list to include a few more family members and friends. Talk this through with your partner to see just how big or how small you’d like to keep things. \n\n- __The where:__ That’s entirely up to you. We’ll give you a few rehearsal dinner venue ideas below, but there are no rules that dictate where exactly you should hold your rehearsal dinner. From seaside soirees to park picnics, the choice is yours.\n\n- __The when:__ Most couples opt to host their rehearsal dinner on the day before their wedding day, as this ensures that all the ceremony dos and don’ts are fresh in everyone’s minds. If you choose to do it sooner, let your wedding guests know so that they can adjust their schedules. \n\n- __The why:__ To go over last-minute details to make sure that there aren’t any hiccups on the day of your wedding. It’s also a time when you and your partner can express thanks to friends and family members for all of the time and effort that they’ve put in to help realize your wedding-day dreams. \n\nNow that you’re familiar with some of the basics, let’s talk about the budget. \n\n## How to Keep Your Rehearsal Dinner Budget-Friendly \nIt’s no secret that weddings can often come with a high price tag. Some couples prefer to go all out for their big day and for additional wedding-related events such as the rehearsal dinner or post-wedding brunches. \n\nBut if you’re the type of duo who would prefer to keep spending low for the wedding in order to invest more in a lavish honeymoon or a new home, you’re in the right place. Just because you’d rather keep your celebration budget-friendly, doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice elegance and refinement. Cheap rehearsal dinner ideas do not equate to tacky and tawdry. \n\nHere are a few ideas to help you plan an affordable rehearsal dinner that’s both well-organized and well-polished. \n\n- __Do it at home.__ Whether it’s at your residence or a family member’s, having a backyard or patio gathering is a savvy way to avoid the high costs of booking a venue or renting out space at a restaurant. Plus, it allows you to have full control over all the details such as decor, duration of the event, and dinner choices. \n\n- __Find a low-cost venue.__ If you don’t quite have the space to host an event at home, consider another low-cost alternative such as a public beach or park. It gives you just as much freedom to decorate and tailor it to your liking without the pressure of getting your house event-ready. However, it might not be completely free, so be sure to ask about the cost of a permit and how to go about reserving the space for the date you need. \n\n- __Book a space within your price range.__ Not a fan of backyard barbecues or public park gatherings? Use the Zola Vendor Search tool to find a ready-made venue that’s within your budget. Filter through the available spaces by price, setting, and capacity to find one that works with your vision and your wallet. \n\n- __Coordinate a potluck.__ Especially if you opt for an at-home affair, you can join forces with your rockstar wedding crew and eager-to-help family members. Set up a spreadsheet with plenty of time to spare for people to sign up for different dishes. It doesn’t get much more affordable than this and you’ll probably find that people are happy to contribute in any way that they can. \n\n- __Opt for buffet-style catering.__ If you’d rather leave the cooking to the professionals, elect to hire a catering service. Ask about buffet-style dinner options since this will allow you to keep a fixed cost per person instead of opening it up for guests to order individual meals and drinks. \n\n- __Ask about your venue’s event policies.__ If you’ve reserved a date and time for your rehearsal dinner at a hotel or restaurant, ask them to be upfront with you about the total costs. You’ll need to pay the rental fee for the locale, of course, but it would be important to find out if there are any minimum spending requirements for food and drinks.\n\n- __Ask a creative friend for a favor.__ You’ve already booked a photographer for your wedding day but you’d like to get a few snaps of you, your partner, and your crew at the rehearsal dinner too. See if one of your friends who’s got an eye for photography wouldn’t mind documenting a few special moments throughout the night. They might offer to do so free of charge, but consider thanking them for their efforts with a bottle of wine or a gift card to their favorite eatery. \n\n- __Opt for handmade decorations.__ The internet is chock-full of good ideas for DIY decorations. You might be surprised to find that most projects are fairly easy to succeed at too, so you won’t need to be a master crafter to pull it off. From upcycled picture frames and shutters to wood-burned coasters, the sky’s the limit when it comes to handmade, budget-friendly decor. \n\nNow that you’ve packed your brainstorm list to the brim with affordable rehearsal dinner ideas, let’s see how you can pull them all together. Get your creative juices flowing a bit more in the next section where we’ll help you tie your ideas together into a charming and cohesive rehearsal dinner theme. \n\n## Affordable Rehearsal Dinner Theme Ideas \nNot quite sure where to start when it comes to choosing a theme for your rehearsal dinner? Sometimes all you need are a few ideas to help nudge you in the right creative direction. Get some inspiration from the following and feel free to adapt them to fit your own unique vision. \n\n- __Piazza pizza party –__ Look to Venice, Italy for your inspiration for this budget-friendly theme. Decorate your back patio with lights, greenery, and maybe even a small garden fountain to channel the aesthetic of an Italian piazza. For dinner? Pizza, of course! It’s always a crowd favorite and something that’s quick and easy to put together. It feeds a number of people, too, so getting it catered by a local ristorante shouldn’t run up a high bill. Set up a gelato bar for dessert and include a station for guests to add their own toppings. \n\n- __Backyard barbecue –__ If you’d rather opt for a more casual theme, take advantage of backyard space for some grilling and lawn games. The venue is free, of course, and it will give you and your crew a chance to be comfortable and informal before having to dress to the nines on the following day. Coordinate a potluck, if you want, and include some classic homestyle dishes such as macaroni and cheese or potato salad to pair with the barbecue burgers and kebabs. \n\n- __Parisian charcuterie picnic (aka grown-up Lunchables) –__ Save yourself some time with a simple, yet classy charcuterie spread. Take a quick trip to your local bulk store (think Costco or Sam’s Club) to pick up an assortment of deli meats, pre-sliced cheeses, crackers, and bread for a delectable, self-serve rehearsal dinner. You can also purchase plenty of fruit and veggie plates for a balanced meal. \n\nAdd a few checkered tablecloths and some tapered candles in wine bottles, and you’ll have a little taste of Paris the night before your big day. \n\n## Rehearsal Dinner To-Dos\nSince you’ve been planning your wedding, you’re probably no stranger to lists by now. The number of to-dos that pile up for wedding day details can be a bit overwhelming at times. \n\nKeep everything in order and in one place by customizing your task list at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). Plus, our app is designed to send you notifications whenever a deadline is approaching. The good news? You can use this handy tool for your rehearsal dinner checklist, too. \n\nNot sure where to begin when it comes to prioritizing tasks? Here’s a list of things to get you started down the aisle on the right foot. \n\n- __Set up a budget –__ You might already have a budget set for the wedding day itself, but it’s a good idea to make another one for your rehearsal dinner too. Even though you’re catering to a smaller crowd, costs for food, decorations, and wedding party gifts can add up quickly. Work out with your partner and your families how much you’re willing to spend, and then do your best to adhere to it. \n\n- __Decide who to invite –__ As we mentioned before, this event is typically reserved for your closest family members, your wedding crew, and anyone playing a part in the ceremony itself. Feel free to do things your own way by opening it up to plus-ones or a few extended family members. However, just be mindful of how that might affect the budget before doing so. Another idea is to keep the dinner to just your inner circle, and then open a space up later in the night for more guests to stop by for mingling and a few pre-wedding day cocktails. \n\n \n- __Pick a theme that works with your wedding style –__ Modern and formal? Or, vintage and bohemian? Your rehearsal dinner can be a design extension of your wedding day and an opportunity to weave in a few recurring motifs throughout the entire weekend. Or, you can change things up completely by hosting a dinner with its own unique style and personality. If the wedding day is a black-tie affair, perhaps you’d prefer a casual beachfront barbecue for your rehearsal dinner. Whatever you decide, use the theme as a base from which all other details will extend. \n\n- __Choose and book the venue –__ If budget consciousness is a priority for you, picking a venue can be an opportunity to save big or not. Even for small groups, some [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) may cost a pretty penny just to reserve the space and could even require a minimum tab for food and drinks. An at-home event won’t cost you anything to book the space, of course, but it may require more investment in details such as decorations and floral arrangements. Decide what’s most important to you in an event space and give yourself plenty of time to book in advance. \n\n- __Coordinate catering –__ If you’ve chosen a restaurant or a hotel function hall, you might not even need to give catering much of a second thought. These spaces are well-oiled machines when it comes to hosting events and probably already have menu options and in-house catering services ready to go. If you’ll be celebrating at a park or at home, you and your partner will have to work out these details yourselves. Shop around to find something that satisfies your flavor palette and budget, or consider cooking a few dishes yourself. \n\n- __Send out the invitations –__ Pardon the obvious, but if you’re hosting an event your guests will need to know where to go and what time to be there. Your wedding party is probably already expecting a pre-wedding walk-through as part of their duties, but be sure to clue them in on the details of the dinner and the rehearsal itself so they can add it to their schedule. Consider coordinating [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to match the theme of your dinner. A few floral accents would be well-suited for a garden party, or you can establish elegance with a gold metallic foil. \n\n- __Create a playlist –__ You don’t necessarily need to book a DJ or a band for your rehearsal dinner (unless you want to, of course) but some background music for mealtime and mingling could be a nice touch. Curate a playlist to your liking for an at-home affair or check with your venue to see if you’re able to provide your own music. If you’ve got a family or friend who is musically inclined, you might consider asking them to play a few songs for a laid-back dinner—complete with sing-alongs and dancing. \n\n- __Include a few fun activities –__ You and your guests are there to take care of the logistics before the big day, but don’t forget to have fun, too. Beyond dinner and drinks, consider adding a few games and activities to let loose the night before your ceremony. Lawn games and Jenga are always a hit. Or, you can encourage people to get creative by setting up a DIY table for crafting or scrapbooking. \n\n- __Say thank you and enjoy the company –__ This will likely be your last event with family and friends as an unmarried couple. Soak in those moments with the people who have come from near and far to rally behind your love story before the wild ride of married life takes off. Consider taking this opportunity to send out a thank you to them too. A handwritten note is a simple, heartfelt gesture; or, shop for a few small gifts that your wedding party will be able to have as a keepsake for years to come. \n\nWhen it comes to weddings our well never runs dry. Stay tuned for more rehearsal dinner hacks in the section below. \n\n## Tips and Tricks for Hosting a Rehearsal Dinner \nFeeling just about ready to dive into the planning part of your rehearsal dinner? Before you go, let’s send you off with a few more tips and tricks to ensure a smooth and stylish soiree. Add this advice to your checklist for you to come back to whenever you need a reminder. \n\n- __Don’t forget to keep an eye on mother nature.__ Some weather is unpredictable, but keep tabs on the forecast in the days leading up to your rehearsal dinner in case you need to make any last-minute adjustments. \n\n- __Incorporate a taste of the town.__ Whether you’re celebrating in your backyard or in an upscale restaurant, pay attention to what makes this part of the world different from others. Include some local flavors made famous in that region or any seasonal treats that are hard to find elsewhere. \n\n- __Let your wedding guests know the best way to dress.__ Being clear about attire is important, especially for your rehearsal dinner. If you have any activities planned that require a change of clothes, give the invitees a heads-up so that they can pack accordingly. Additionally, if you’ve opted for a laid-back get-together, tell your friends and family that it’s okay to keep it casual. \n\n- __If you’re hosting at home, be sure to give your attendees clear instructions about how to arrive.__ Particularly if your home or the event space is located in a remote area where cell service is sparse, be in touch with them ahead of time in order to avoid losing a friend down a country back road. \n\n## Design Your Dream Rehearsal Dinner at Zola \nThe rehearsal dinner may just seem like one more thing you have to plan on top of your wedding day, but given the right tools and tricks, it can actually be quite easy and fun. Especially, when you let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help you take care of the essentials. \n\nHere at the hub of all things wedding related we believe in:\n\nHelping you celebrate your love through every step of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process.\n\nSharing the news of your wedding day and the details of your love story on your very own, easy-to-customize [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\nConnecting you with the right florists, photographers, and other [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to bring each piece of the planning puzzle together into one picture-perfect event.\n\nYour rehearsal dinner is already starting to take shape. Keep molding the magic right here at [Zola](https://www.zola.com/).","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:42:45.440Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."},"topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101","description":"Your complete guide to wedding planning from start to finish. Get practical advice and insider tips for planning your dream wedding from staying within your budget to creating your gift registry to all the little details in between saying \"Yes!\" and \"I do\". Find answers to all your wedding planning questions here.","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Real weddings","slug":"real-weddings","description":"Learn from real couples as they break down exactly how they planned and budgeted for their weddings. Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"how-to-set-your-wedding-budget","title":"How to Set Your Wedding Budget Step by Step","excerpt":"While it may not be the most exciting item on your to-do list, setting your wedding budget is essential. We’ll break down the typical expenses, guide you through the entire process from start to finish, and tell you where you can save money. ","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Find practical advice and expert tips on how to stay within your budget while creating the wedding you want."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding websites","slug":"wedding-websites"},"slug":"how-to-share-your-wedding-website","title":"How to Share Your Wedding Website","excerpt":"Wedding websites allow you to communicate all of the details about your big day in one place. Wondering how to share your wedding website? Read ahead.","publishedAt":"2021-06-22T14:42:48.401Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/U6iHTOMdVoNeVioB8Ftz6/a54c7cdefa478613ea8cf761fc5b9016/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Share Your Wedding Website"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- There are many classy ways you can share this URL with your guests. \n- You can include your wedding website URL on your save the dates, bachelor and bachelorette invitations, wedding shower invitations, and formal invitation enclosure cards. \n- You can also share a clickable link to your wedding website via text or email, or post it in a private Facebook group. \n- Invest in a catchy custom domain name and show off eye-catching website design. Zola has hundreds of beautiful [wedding website templates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that you can choose from.","body":"Gone are the days of relying solely on snail mail to inform your guests about your wedding day. Thanks to [wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-create-a-personalized-wedding-website), you can efficiently communicate all of the important details about your big day in one place.\n\nBetter yet, wedding websites with a landing page are more convenient for your guests, especially those who are prone to losing physical invitations. Your guests can refer back to your __[wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ any time they have questions about your wedding date, location, registry information, or FAQs.\n\nAlso, ban any thoughts that using technology, such as an online RSVP or wedding landing page is tacky. Although older guests may wonder how QR codes work or want a printed wedding program, utilizing technology helps modern wedding guests stay engaged.\n\nUse QR codes for your wedding website and invitations. Having a QR code wedding invitation is unique, but it’s also easily scannable for anyone who has a smartphone camera. They also aren’t difficult to DIY to keep destination wedding details and wedding RSVPs close at hand. And that’s just one of many ways that tech can help keep your wedding planning organized.\n\nSo, what is the best way to share your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-url-ideas) with your guests? While there aren’t decades of etiquette or tradition behind this innovative tool, we have some suggestions for how you can share it in a classy way. Below, we’ll discuss:\n\n- __What is a Wedding Website?__\n- __What to Share on Your Wedding Website__\n- __How to Share Your Wedding Website__\n- __How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website__\n\n### What is a Wedding Website? \n\nA wedding website is a personalized website [created and shared](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/when-should-i-make-a-wedding-website) by an engaged couple. Its purpose is to act as a touchpoint for your guests to access information about your wedding day (or weekend). Typically, your website will include details such as your wedding date, location, and travel accommodations. However, couples may also use theirs to share how they met and introduce their wedding party. Note: If you build a free website with a wedding company, such as Zola, you can also use it to share your gift registry and collect digital RSVPs.\n\n## How to Share Your Wedding Website\n\nWhile __[wedding websites have a lot to offer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website)__, yours won’t do much good if your guests never see it. Fortunately, there are many classy ways to share your wedding website with your guests that make finding information a snap. Here are a few suggestions of where to place the link to your wedding website:\n\n### 1. Include it on the Save the Dates.\nYour save the date is the first place you can share your wedding website URL with your guests. Simply list the URL in dainty text somewhere underneath your main message, or add in a QR code that can take your guests straight to your website in a snap.\n\nIf your save the date card doesn’t have enough space for your URL, you can also send a “details” enclosure card along with it. Use this card to encourage your guests to visit your wedding website for additional wedding details.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n### 2. Use an enclosure card in your formal invitation suite.\nIf your wedding website wasn’t published when you sent out your save the dates, don’t worry. You can share your URL when you send out your formal invitations too. Many guests will save these invitations for future reference, so they’re a great place to include your URL. This is also the perfect opportunity to include an easily scannable QR code.\n\n### 3. Add it to your wedding shower or bach party invitations.\nInclude your wedding website URL on all of the invitations for wedding-related festivities leading up to your big day. This will give your guests more opportunities to check out your website while your wedding is fresh in their minds. Keeping this information handy is vital to making everything easy on your attendees.\n\n### 4. Send it via email or text message.\nChances are, you already communicate with most of your guests by email or text. Since you have everyone's contact information, use it to share your [wedding website URL as a clickable link](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002259412-How-do-I-share-my-website-with-my-guests-). Clicking on a link from a laptop or a smartphone is much easier than typing in a URL manually, especially for your less tech-savvy guests. Your guests can also save this text or email message for future reference in case they lose their invitation.\n\nAt Zola, we offer a streamlined process for sharing your special link via email. All you have to do is go to your [“Guest List”](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) in the Zola Weddings dashboard. From there, you can:\n\n- Add an email address for each guest on your list\n\n- Check each guest’s name or simply click “Select All”.\n\n- Click the “Bulk Actions” dropdown menu.\n\n- Choose “Send Message”.\n\n- Write a brief message in the field and include your wedding website link and password (if you have one) at the end. An example message might look something like this: “We are so excited to invite you to our wedding. To learn all of the details about our big day, check out our wedding website at www.OurWedding.com. The website’s password is LOVE2021.”\n\n### 5. Make a private Facebook group.\nAs far as social media goes, Facebook still reigns supreme—everyone seems to have an account. In turn, it’s a convenient place to share your wedding website link too. Post your website in a private group made up of your wedding guests, as opposed to a status update or in a public group. Sharing your link privately will prevent you from hurting any friends’ or family members’ feelings who didn’t make it onto the guest list.\n\nYou can enhance the privacy of your website by protecting it with a password. At Zola, you can __[create a custom website password](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002135571-How-do-I-make-my-website-password-protected-)__ in a few easy steps. This will avert any random internet onlookers from stumbling upon your information. It will also prevent uninvited acquaintances from seeing all of your wedding details. Just make sure to use a password that’s easy for your guests to remember and simple to spell.\n\n### 6. Create a QR code and add it where you need it.\nFolks are now pretty familiar with how to use a custom QR code. Nowadays, many restaurants use them instead of paper menus, and you can create a dynamic QR code to convey information to your wedding guests. Similar to barcodes, you can use a QR code generation to create QR codes specific to your big day. \n\nThings like links to your dress code, wedding invitation cards, venue directions, and RSVP cards can all be turned into scannable images using a free QR code generator. Some sellers on Etsy can create a QR code resembling a shape to coordinate with your invitation design. Think about how easy it would be for your guests to scan a QR code RSVP using their smartphone camera. They can easily let you know if they’ll be celebrating with you on your big day. \n\n### How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website\n\nCreating a wedding website can be a ton of fun. However, it also takes up a lot of precious wedding planning time. You have to write out all of your FAQ answers, research local lodging and transportation options for your guests, and get the design just right.\n\nAfter all of that work, you want to make sure that your guests use your wedding website to its full potential.\n\nTo encourage them to explore your website, try out these strategies with your specific site:\n\n- __Prompt them with an informative message:__ When you share your URL on your save the dates, invitations, enclosure cards, and Facebook posts, make sure to include a brief message explaining why your guests should visit your wedding website. Without this message, they may not realize how important it is to check it out. Here are some short and sweet message ideas you can use for inspiration:\n\n- *Check out our website to RSVP and learn more about our special day: insert link*\n\n- *To learn more about our wedding, registry, and more, visit our wedding website:*\n\n- *Get all of the details about our wedding day and RSVP here*\n\n- *For directions, lodging suggestions, and other FAQs, check out our wedding website*\n\n- __Invest in a custom domain name:__ Typing in a complex URL with a string of numbers, letters, and slashes can be difficult for your guests. To make things easier on them, consider purchasing a custom domain name. With a custom domain name, your wedding website URL will read as “JackAndJill.com,” rather than “Zola.com/wedding/JackAndJill.com.” Choosing a custom URL that’s catchy and easy to spell will also increase the chances that your guests type it in correctly and make it onto your website.\n\n- __Employ a user-friendly layout:__ Once your guests get to your website, you want to make sure that they find all of the information they’re looking for with ease. To do so, clearly label each section of your website and arrange the content in an order that flows naturally.\n\n- __Impress your visitors with stylish design:__ Your wedding website is a place where you can showcase your style and creativity. Make sure that you choose an attractive wedding website template and upload beautiful photos. Stylish web design will captivate your visitors’ attention and keep them on your website.\n\nWhether your wedding is elegant, rustic, beachy, or bohemian, Zola has a wedding website template that will compliment your theme. Better yet, each of our wedding website themes has matching __[invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__, __[save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)__, and __[enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop)__. By choosing a cohesive design for all of your wedding materials, you can set the tone for your big day.\n\n## Aid and Impress Guests With a Wedding Website from Zola\nA wedding website can help share all of your wedding information with your guests in one convenient location. By using a combination of methods to share your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website), you can increase the chances that all of your guests find their way onto yours and use it to its full potential.\n\nZola makes it simple to create free, __[beautifully designed wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/designs)__ that are easy to navigate and convenient to share. You can even search our templates by color so that yours matches your wedding theme. Leading up to your wedding, you and your guests will appreciate the ease, user-friendly nature, and convenience of this crucial wedding planning tool.\n\nThe functionality of Zola’s invitation designs is easy to navigate, making it easy for both tech-savvy and older generations to find information on your site. Minimalist fonts are available for couples who want a sleeker invitation template, and perhaps the best part is that you can select an invitation design to coordinate with your Zola wedding website. Nowadays, having a wedding website is essential and almost expected, so make things simple for your guests — from bridesmaids to your grandparents — by finding the [perfect template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates) today.","body2":"## How to Share Your Wedding Website \n\nWhile [wedding websites have a lot to offer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website), yours won’t do much good if your guests never see it. Fortunately, there are many classy ways to share your wedding website with your guests. You can include it:\n\n \n### 1. On the Save the Dates\nYour save the date is the first place you can share your wedding website URL with your guests. Simply list the URL in dainty text somewhere underneath your main message.\n\nIf your save the date card doesn’t have enough space for your URL, you can also send a “details” enclosure card along with it. Use this card to encourage your guests to visit your wedding website for additional wedding details. \n\n### 2. On an enclosure card in your formal invitation suite\nIf your wedding website wasn’t published when you sent out your save the dates, don’t worry. You can share your URL when you send out your formal invitations too. Many guests will save these invitations for future reference, so they’re a great place to include your URL. \n\n### 3. On your wedding shower or bach party invitations\nInclude your wedding website URL on all of the invitations for wedding-related festivities leading up to your big day. This will give your guests more opportunities to check out your website while your wedding is fresh in their minds.\n\n \n### 4. Via email or text message\n\nChances are, you already communicate with most of your guests by email or text. Since you have everyone's contact information, use it to share your wedding website URL as a clickable link. Clicking on a link from a laptop or a smartphone is much easier than typing in a URL manually, especially for your less tech-savvy guests. Your guests can also save this text or email message for future reference in case they lose their invitation.\n\nAt Zola, we offer a streamlined process for [sharing your special link via email or text](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002259412-How-do-I-share-my-website-with-my-guests-). All you have to do is go to your “Guest List” in the Zola Weddings dashboard. From there, you can:\n\n- Add an email address or phone number for each guest on your list\n- Check each guest’s name or simply click “Select All”.\n- Click the “Bulk Actions” dropdown menu. \n- Choose “Send Message”.\n- Write a brief message in the field and include your wedding website link and password (if you have one) at the end. An example message might look something like this: “We are so excited to invite you to our wedding. To learn all of the details about our big day, check out our wedding website at www.OurWedding.com. The website’s password is LOVE2021.”\n\n### 5. In a private Facebook group\nAs far as social media goes, Facebook still reigns supreme—everyone seems to have an account. In turn, it’s a convenient place to share your wedding website link too. Post your website it in a private group made up of your wedding guests, as opposed to a status update or in a public group. Sharing your link privately will prevent you from hurting any friends’ or family members’ feelings who didn’t make it onto the guest list.\n\nYou can enhance the privacy of your website by protecting it with a password. At Zola, you can [create a custom website password](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002135571-How-do-I-make-my-website-password-protected-) in a few easy steps. This will avert any random internet onlookers from stumbling upon your information. It will also prevent uninvited acquaintances from seeing all of your wedding details. Just make sure to use a password that’s easy for your guests to remember and simple to spell. \n\n![When Should I Make a Wedding Website](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/sLKCakFGZZzhLUqPFfwbg/2ec593f04e02c3cd13836ad9b65db680/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n## How to Encourage Your Guests to Explore Your Wedding Website \n\nCreating a wedding website can be a ton of fun. However, it also takes up a lot of precious wedding planning time. You have to write out all of your FAQ answers, research local lodging and transportation options for your guests, and get the design just right. \n\nAfter all of that work, you want to make sure that your guests use your wedding website to its full potential.\n\nTo encourage them to explore your website, try out these strategies: \n\n- __Prompt them with an informative message:__ When you share your URL on your save the dates, invitations, enclosure cards, and Facebook posts, make sure to include a brief message explaining why your guests should visit your wedding website. Without this message, they may not realize how important it is to check it out. Here are some short and sweet message ideas you can use for inspiration:\n\n- *Check out our website to RSVP and learn more about our special day: insert link*\n- *To learn more about our wedding, registry, and more, visit our wedding website:*\n- *Get all of the details about our wedding day and RSVP here*\n- *For directions, lodging suggestions, and other FAQs, check out our wedding website*\n\n- __Invest in a custom domain name:__ Typing in a complex URL with a string of numbers, letters, and slashes can be difficult for your guests. To make things easier on them, consider purchasing a custom domain name. With a custom domain name, your wedding website URL will read as “JackAndJill.com,” rather than “Zola.com/wedding/JackAndJill.com.” Choosing a custom URL that’s catchy and easy to spell will also increase the chances that your guests type it in correctly and make it onto your website.\n\n- __Employ a user-friendly layout:__ Once your guests get to your website, you want to make sure that they find all of the information they’re looking for with ease. To do so, clearly label each section of your website and arrange the content in an order that flows naturally. \n\n- __Impress your visitors with stylish design:__ Your wedding website is a place where you can showcase your style and creativity. Make sure that you choose an attractive wedding website template and upload beautiful photos. Stylish web design will captivate your visitors’ attention and keep them on your website. \n\nWhether your wedding is elegant, rustic, beachy, or bohemian, Zola has a wedding website template that will compliment your theme. Better yet, each of our wedding website themes has matching [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), and [enclosure cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/enclosures/shop). By choosing a cohesive design for all of your wedding materials, you can set the tone for your big day.\n\n## Aid and Impress Guests With a Wedding Website from Zola\nA wedding website can help share all of your wedding information with your guests in one convenient location. By using a combination of methods to share your wedding website, you can increase the chances that all of your guests find their way onto yours and use it to its full potential.\n\nZola makes it simple to create free, [beautifully dessigned wedding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/designs) that easy to navigate, and convenient to share. You can even search our templates by color so that yours matches your wedding theme. Leading up to your wedding, you and your guests will appreciate the ease, user-friendly nature, and convenience of this crucial wedding planning tool.","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Learn all about wedding websites, why they make wedding planning so much easier for you and your guests, and finally, how to create the perfect website for your wedding!","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}}},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Legal","slug":"legal"},"slug":"a-guide-to-marriage-licenses","title":"A Guide to Marriage Licenses","excerpt":"Your marriage license isn’t the most exciting task on your road to married life, but it is a requirement for your union to be deemed legal. So how do you go about getting a marriage license? Our guide covers it all. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-25T20:26:29.674Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IcJuHdO9FKSB9935zn2CW/8674613b9fcf7440e5c9d2d87360ac2c/Mackler_Studios.jpg","altText":"bride and groom sitting in the backseat of car posing with marriage license"},"heroCredit":"Mackler Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/mackler-studios--4","body":"When you’re in the midst of planning all the details of your wedding day, it’s easy to forget the one thing that signifies that you are actually married: the marriage license. This bit of paperwork isn’t the most exciting task on your road to married life, but it is a requirement for your union to be deemed legal. So how do you go about getting a marriage license? Our guide covers it all below. \n\n## What Is a Marriage License?\nA marriage license is a document issued by the government that grants you permission to marry. It indicates that you are both legally eligible to enter into the union (i.e., neither of you are already married, underage, or otherwise ineligible for marriage). \n\n## What Is a Marriage Certificate?\nWhile a marriage license is a permit that legally allows you to get married, the marriage certificate is the official document you receive after your wedding has taken place. The certificate is granted after the marriage license has been returned to, and deemed valid by, the office where it was issued. In other words: \n- License = Permission to get married\n- Certificate = Proof that you are married\n \n## Why Do I Need a Marriage License? \nIf you do not obtain a marriage license, your marriage will be deemed illegal according to the law. While you can choose to be married in name only, or through a religious organization exclusively, the state will not permit you the rights typically reserved for legally married couples, such as certain tax breaks, social security benefits, joint healthcare plans, and inheritance rights. \n\n## Where to Get a Marriage License? \nWhere you get your marriage license depends on where you’re getting married—the office or location that handles them varies by state. Depending on your state, the location might be city hall, the clerk’s office, a designated marriage license bureau, or somewhere else unique to that area. \n\nTo learn more about your state’s marriage license requirements, check out [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml). \n\n## When to Get a Marriage License? \nWhen you should get your marriage license also depends on where your wedding will take place. Each state has its own set of rules for how long the license is valid (the license may expire if you do not get married and return the license to the state within a given number of days) and if there’s a waiting period. The waiting period is either the amount of time you have to wait between applying for and receiving the license, or a designated wait period between receiving the license and when you can tie the knot. \n\nAgain, [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml) is a great resource on this topic, but your local city hall will have the most up-to-date information. \n\n## How to Get Marriage License?\nThe process for obtaining a marriage license will vary by state (and sometimes city or county), but the process involves an submitting an application and paying a fee. Some states allow you to apply online, but most dictate that you apply in person and that both individuals be present that wish to be married. \n\n## What Do I Need to Apply for a Marriage License? \nThe exact requirements depend on the state’s individual laws, but there are a few things you can expect:\n\n- __Proof of identity (and that you are of legal age to marry)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - Social Security Card\n - Driver’s License\n - State ID\n - Military ID\n - U.S. Passport\n \n- __Proof that you are not currently married__\n - Divorce Decree, if you’re divorced \n - Death Certificate, if you are widowed\n- __Proof of citizenship (or residence)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - U.S. Passport\n - Certificate of Naturalization \n- __Payment for the application fee __\n\nConsult with your state for details on laws governing marriage age, blood test requirements, proxy, common law, and cousin marriages.\n\n*Pro Tip: Some applications may ask if you’re planning a [name change after marriage](https://zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). Make sure that you have come to a decision before you apply.* \n\n## How Much Is a Marriage License? \nFees for marriages licenses change range from $10 - $115 depending on the state, city or county where you apply. For accepted payment methods, check with your local licensing office. \n\n## Who Signs The Marriage License? \nMost states require that the marriage license be signed by both spouses, the officiant, and 1-2 witnesses, but, as we’ve mentioned before, every state is different. Be sure to ask for details when you apply for your marriage license. \n\n## Where Do I File for a Marriage License If I’m Planning a Destination Wedding?\nIf you’re planning to wed abroad, you can file for your marriage license two ways: \n\n__1. 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We may earn compensation if you click the links or buttons below.*__\n\n---\n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"sponsorCta":{"copy":"Get Started","url":"https://www.zola.com/shop/brand/nee-name-change"},"sponsorName":"Née Name Change","sponsorAbout":"It's simple. You want the name change without the hassle, without a headache, and let's face it, without the wait. We get it; you got better things to do than wait in a line for hours and fill out countless (and probably outdated) applications. Here at Née Name Change, we want you to rest assured. We've got you covered! Simply provide us with your basic information, and we provide the rest. The future of name change has evolved, and we're here to prove to you just how easy it can be.\n\nWith Née Name Change you can now change your name online, instead of in-line!","sponsoredBottomContent":"First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a name change—if you want. [Changing your name](https://www.zola.com/shop/brand/nee-name-change) to match your spouse is a common tradition and one that actually dates back to ninth-century English common law. Back then, women were required to ditch their maiden names and take their husband’s surname after marriage. Fast forward to more modern times: There’s no law in the U.S. that demands a name change after marriage, but many married couples still choose to come together under a single family name. \n\n[Zola’s First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2022) surveyed 3,309 couples getting married in 2022 and found out that while a majority are planning to change their names (approximately 78%), there is 16% of today's couples choosing to keep their original names. About 4.6% of couples are going the route of hyphenating their names, and there’s even a small group of couples (a mighty .87%) changing their names to something completely different than either of their surnames. \n\nIf you’re thinking about or decided to legally change your name after your wedding, here’s everything you need to know about how to do it—and why you might want to.\n\n## The Benefits of Changing Your Name After Marriage \nThese days, the reasons to change your name lean more personally and socially acceptable than legally beneficial. Here are a few good reasons to change your name:\n\n- It creates consistency throughout the family. Many people prefer to change their names to keep the same last name running throughout the entire unit. This is especially true when children are involved. One family name can make things easier on things like vacations or school trips.\n- You don’t like your current name. Here’s your excuse to finally shed the surname that makes you cringe.\n- It’s for a religious reason. Many people change their names if they’ve converted religions or simply want to honor their spouse’s traditions. Name changes for religious reasons are quite common.\n- You love a personal touch. This may seem like a shallow reason to legally change your name, but if you’re big on monogramming and personalization ([hand towels](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/matouk_auberge_hand_towel), anyone?), one family name makes customization easy. \n\nNote: Changing your name doesn’t only have to mean taking your partner’s name, or vice versa. There are a few different ways to change your name. You could hyphenate both your names into a joint surname (Lopez-Rodriguez, for example). Or you could try combining your names into an entirely new one (Miller + Winston = Milton). There are a number of alternative approaches so think about what’s best for you as a married couple.\n\n## Name Change Laws\nWhile there’s no law requiring a name change after marriage, there are laws that come into play if you do decide to make the switch. It’s important to note that name change laws vary by jurisdiction so it’s crucial that you check which rules and regulations apply to your specific situation. In some cases, you may have to file a formal name change petition with the court.\n\nGenerally, though, most states simply require that you meet certain residency requirements. All states require the applicant to be a resident of the state—typically for six months, but this varies—before filing for a legal name change.\n\nDepending on your state, you may need a formal name change petition and court date for the following situations:\n- A man taking his wife’s last name\n- Both partners choosing a last name different from either of theirs\n- A same-sex marriage partner changing his or her last name\n\nChanging your name isn’t typically hard to do. Just be sure to review the laws in your state ahead of time so you don’t encounter any surprises and find yourself delayed during the change process.\n\n## How to Change Your Name After Marriage \nYou probably guessed that you need your [marriage license](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-marriage-licenses) to change your name. And you’re right. In fact, you need several certified copies of your marriage license and marriage certificate (request these from the county clerk where your marriage license application was filed). Some states offer both short- and long-form marriage licenses—request the long forms. Once you have those copies from the county clerk’s office, you’re ready to start the name change process.\n\n### Social Security Card\nThe first step on your name change journey should be the Social Security Administration. In many states, you can’t change the name on your license without an updated Social Security card. Here’s how to do it.\n\nBad news: You can’t apply for a new card online. Good news: A new card is free.\n\nBefore heading to your local Social Security office, gather your marriage license, a valid driver’s license or ID, and [this Social Security form](https://www.ssa.gov/forms/ss-5.pdf). In some cases, you may also need to show proof of citizenship by providing a certified copy of your birth certificate or passport. [Check here](https://www.ssa.gov/ssnumber/ss5doc.htm) to make sure you have all the right documents. \n\nTake or mail your legal name change application and copies of your documents to your local Social Security office. \n\n### Driver’s License\nNext, it’s time to update the name on your license. Driver’s license name change requirements vary pretty significantly state-to-state. So, do your research and make sure you know exactly what legal documents you need before you head to the DMV. In most cases, you’ll need your current driver’s license, marriage certificate, new Social Security card, a form of ID, and any forms required by your state. A quick Google search for your state’s requirements should lay out everything you need to bring to your local DMV.\n\n### Bank Accounts\nOnce your Social Security card and driver’s license are updated, you’ll want to head to the bank. Visit your local branch and bring your marriage license and your updated driver’s license. Ask the bank to change your name on all of your accounts—this will make a big difference if you decide to open joint bank accounts with your new spouse. Also, request new checks, credit cards, and debit cards. Note: You might get hit with a fee for the new cards.\n\n## Everything Else \nNow that you’ve covered the major name updates, it’s time to update your name on just about everything else. Here’s a list of places you may need or want to update with your name change.\n\n- Employer/Payroll Department\n- Post Office (especially if your address has changed)\n- Utility Companies\n- Schools/Alumni Organizations\n- Landlord or Mortgage Office\n- Insurance (Home, Auto, Life)\n- Doctor’s Offices\n- Voter Registration\n- Investment Account Providers\n- Attorney (to update legal documents, including your will)\n- Passport Office\n- Airlines (transfer your miles!)\n- Subscriptions (magazines, monthly boxes, etc.)\n\nDon’t let all the steps stress you out. Changing your surname after marriage is an age-old tradition—and it stuck for a reason. 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We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? Here's the rundown on one of the first tasks you’ll need to accomplish after saying “yes!”","title":"10 Tips to Pick the Perfect Wedding Venue","slug":"how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Dzm0QohK8uai2YouWoMUg/f7db6c6feb0fe4c3d27f9f2a914572ad/EA-revamp_Wedding-planning_How-to-choose-venue.jpg","altText":"Bridge and groom in front of the church"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"We’ve outlined the steps on how to make a guest list, and trim it, below. 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Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. 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The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. Shop for thematic save-the-dates, invitations, and decor elements on Zola’s [Wedding Boutique](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop).\n\n![wedding-themes-alternative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KF7Kfp5f2WR1PH2XgqoAt/98fa5d92d309df258f4f4975d8ba1323/wedding-theme-alternative.png)\n\nSources: [Uriel Photography](http://www.uriel-photography.com/) | [Michelle Edgemont](https://michelleedgemont.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In this wedding style guide, find out why thinking about your wedding style early on will help you in your planning, and how to use Zola Inspiration to discover your own personal wedding vision. 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Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle","title":"10 Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle","excerpt":"Learn how to walk down the aisle with confidence on your wedding day. Practice these tips and to shake wedding nerves and look incredible in your photos.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-06T19:28:49.603Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4mxsphkEoFTD1SOr3csU9z/d5ba8ceb2b3d933a5bcdf093131f4a21/hero_intimate-modern-wedding-at-tribeca-360-36_L.HewittPhotography.jpg","altText":"10-tips-on-how-to-walk-down-the-aisle"},"heroCredit":"Hewitt Photography","body":"It’s understandable to be nervous about walking down the aisle on your wedding day. No matter how much thought and work you put into the [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now \"5 Wedding Color Palettes to Try Right Now\") and [flower arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers), at that moment, all eyes are on you. \n\nAlthough the following tips are meant to help you learn how to walk down the aisle properly during a [traditional English white wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), customs differ widely from one culture or religion to the next. These tips can help anyone preparing to take center stage stay calm and feel more comfortable throughout the ceremony.\n\n## 1. Make Sure the Wedding Party Knows Their Part\nThe more bridesmaids and/or groomsmen you have in your wedding party, the more organized your wedding processional needs to be. If you each only have one or two people at your side, there is plenty of time for everyone to walk out individually. If you each have four or five people in your processional, pair them off to help move things along. \n\nIf you have a large wedding processional, consider sending the group out in two waves, one for each side of the aisle. They can walk in pairs if you need to save time. And don’t forget to plot out exactly where each person will stand. If need be, you can use place markers to make sure no one crowds the officiant during the wedding ceremony. \n\n## 2. Practice Your Timing\nOnce you’ve chosen the processional music, whether it’s the classic “Wedding March” or something special to you, give it a few trial runs to get the timing down. A wedding processional usually lasts around three to four minutes, and timing for groups or individuals will vary depending on the size of your wedding party. \n\nIt shouldn’t take you any more than 30 to 45 seconds to walk down the aisle. That will allow enough time for everyone to enjoy the moment and for the photographer to get a few good snaps. It may help to count in your head as you time your steps. \n\nThe more you practice, the easier it will be to get through any anxiety that may come up on your wedding day. \n\n## 3. Perfect Your Posture\nIf your clothing is flowy or heavy, or you’re not used to walking in the shoes you chose, it may be hard to stand up straight. You may also be tempted to look down at your feet. Your photos will look much better if you can maintain your posture while you walk.\n\nThe best way to keep your head level is to lift your chin and try to keep your earlobes in line with your shoulders. If you spend a lot of time looking down on your computer or phone, your neck muscles may not be used to it, but practicing every day will help. \n\nStand straight and tall. Push your shoulders back and keep them down. This will help you avoid hunching, especially if you’re holding a bouquet. As you walk, keep your knees bent and your feet shoulder-width apart. Tuck your tummy in to keep your core engaged and help you maintain.\n\n## 4. Loosen Up\nFocusing on your posture is important, but you don’t want to go rigid. \n\nYou should let your body move as naturally as possible. Keep anything you may be carrying—like a bouquet—a few inches in front of your stomach, but allow your arms to move some when you walk. And resist stiffening your neck to keep a veil or [floral crown](https://www.zola.com/blog/wedding-inspiration/ultimate-guide-to-floral-crowns/ \"The Ultimate Guide To Floral Crowns\") in place. Instead, look from side to side as you walk down the aisle and try to make eye contact with your guests as you go. (If eye contact is too much for you at the moment, you can look at people’s heads or shoulders.) \n\nEven if you feel a little nervous, you will look more natural this way, and it will make a big difference in the photos and videos. \n\n## 5. Smile\nHopefully, this will be a no brainer. If you are swept away in the moment, you will likely be unable to keep yourself from smiling, But if your nerves are getting the better of you, close your eyes and take a breath when your entrance song begins. Take a second to clear your mind before you start your walk. Relax your face and jaw muscles, and let your tongue lay slack in your mouth. Lift your eyebrows slightly, and think happy or goofy thoughts, or even something embarrassing, and smile. Small is better than big if you’re nervous, but don’t hold back once you start to feel it for real. \n\n## 6. Lock Elbows With Your Escort\nIf your mom or dad, or anyone else special to you will be walking you down the aisle, have them lock elbows with you. If two people are walking you down the aisle, have them lock arms on either side of you. That way, you will be sure to start on the same foot as each other for a smooth walk. \n\nIf you are holding a bouquet, locking arms with your escort can also remind you to keep your flowers low. Not only will it be more flattering, but it will also make sure the camera can see your outfit. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle IL](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01OxryVnt6Q3Bzst6T72dM/6b64c536ed0a7243dced92814f5e6a5a/inline_sparkly-holiday-wedding-at-the-phoenix-55_AlexMariePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Alex Marie Photography\n\n## 7. Watch Your Step\nNo one wants to trip in the middle of their ceremony. If you are mindful of how you step, you can reach the end of the aisle without incident. However, you also need to be aware of what you are wearing and how it may interfere with your stride. \n\nIf you are wearing a long, flowy wedding dress, you can avoid stepping on it without having to look down at all. Each time you put your foot forward, your dress will move against the back of your leg. Wait until the hem of your dress hits your ankle before you take your next step, and you won’t have to worry about stepping on your dress. \n\nIf you aren’t a pro at wearing heels and decide to sport them for your marriage ceremony, you can get some practice in at home by walking around on the balls of your feet. This will strengthen your legs and ankles so you can stay steady on your feet. You should also break your shoes in before the ceremony. \n\n## 8. Make Time for Yourself\nWhen the big day arrives, take the time to eat breakfast and stay hydrated. You are much more likely to be stressed, woozy, or light-headed if you haven’t taken care of yourself all day. But even more essential is scheduling some time right before your grand entrance. \n\nWhile you’ll likely want to make some last-minute touch-ups to your hair or makeup before you go down the aisle, give yourself at least 15 additional minutes to use the restroom, have a glass of water, and take some time to collect yourself right before the ceremony begins. If you’re jumping from one thing to the next all day, you’re more likely to be flooded with stress the moment all eyes are on you. \n\n![Tips on How to Walk Down the Aisle](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Ux8xyBfYod2eJk9IPUHWz/0d3ef4c3e057fa46e7c4f53a8b872968/inline_cheery-bright-summertime-san-diego-wedding-16_FonyatWeddingPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credits* // Fonyat Wedding Photography\n\n## 9. Don’t Skip the Dress Rehearsal\nAs much as you practice at home, you still need to do a run-through at the venue. Put on your song, make sure you have the timing right, and put on your best posture and smile. This will let you know precisely how far the walk will be and whether or not there’s anything that might trip you up.\n\nIt will also help you be aware of any bright lights that might be shining in your eyes, so you can be prepared to avoid any squinting or grimacing. The fewer surprises there are on the big day, the better. \n\n## 10. Enjoy Yourself\nIf reading anything on this list made you even more worried than you were before, you can scratch it. After all, [it’s your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs). If you are having fun, it will show, and you won’t have to sweat the small stuff. All the work you put into wedding planning is finally paying off, and there’s no better way to celebrate than by having a great time and celebrating your commitment to each other. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:43:24.648Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"how-long-do-wedding-photos-take","title":"A Guide to the Ideal Wedding Photography Timeline","excerpt":"Your wedding photos are an important part of your big day. Learn more about how to plan a timeline that ensures you will have plenty of time to get the photos you want.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-01-20T21:53:59.472Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6YSGQJgdXFs7GGnLAdB0JC/b42c6028988e7ad383c57eafef3c00dd/Hero_Zola_02.jpg","altText":"How Long Do Wedding Photos Take"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Throughout your [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/), you’ve probably put together a timeline of events for your wedding day. You’ve figured out when to start getting ready in the morning, when to leave for the venue, how long the ceremony will take, and when you will be announced to your guests at the reception. But have you incorporated a timeline for your photos to ensure you get all the shots you want? \n\nMany couples don’t realize how much time is needed to get wedding photos that look effortlessly beautiful. So, how long do wedding photos take? Let’s take a closer look at the details of your wedding photography timeline. \n\n

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1. Pick Who You’ll Include in Formal Portraits

2. Decide If You’ll Do a “First Look”

3. Pick Your Locations

Your Wedding Photo Timeline

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