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Who to Invite to a Rehearsal Dinner: Planning & Etiquette

Craft the perfect wedding rehearsal dinner guest list. Our guide helps you select the perfect guests for a memorable pre-wedding celebration.

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How to Tell Friends They Aren't In the Wedding Party

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So, You're a First-Time Maid of Honor

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The Duties of a Wedding Officiant

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Massachusetts Wedding Planning Tips

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How to Navigate Wedding Planning in the Midst of Grief

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What to Expect at a Black Muslim Wedding

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How to Handle a Super Drunk Wedding Guest

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How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?

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10 Common Wedding Party Disagreements—and How to Solve Them

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Tips to Make Your Zoom Wedding More Interactive With Guests

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A wedding rehearsal dinner is a chance for the couple and loved ones to celebrate before the wedding— pre-wedding party, if you will. \n\nBut who should you invite to a rehearsal dinner? And what do rehearsal dinners entail? Don’t worry, we’re covering it all here at Zola. \n\n__This article includes:__\n\n- Part 1: Wedding Rehearsal Dinner: Everything You Need to Know\n- Part 2: Who to Invite to a Rehearsal Dinner\n- Part 3: Rehearsal Dinner Location Ideas\n- Part 4: Rehearsal Dinner Alternatives\n\n### Do I Really Need a Rehearsal Dinner? \n\nRehearsal dinners are not a must, but they are tradition. The style and formality of them vary depending on the couple, so there’s no need to go all-out if that’s not your style. Not only do rehearsal dinners give the families of the couple an opportunity to spend quality time together, but they’re also a really nice way to celebrate the upcoming nuptials. Plus, rehearsal dinners are another excuse to eat good food—who doesn’t love that?!\n\n \n## Part 1: Wedding Rehearsal Dinner: Everything You Need to Know \n\nBefore you start planning your amazing rehearsal dinner, you need to know the etiquette around the [pre-wedding activity](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/pre-wedding-activities). There are lots of things to consider, and we aim to make wedding planning as easy as possible, so let’s dig in. \n\n### What is a Wedding Rehearsal Dinner?\n\nIf you’ve ever been part of a wedding party or attended a close family member’s wedding, chances are you’ve also gone to a rehearsal dinner. It’s considered the last of the “pre-wedding” activities and an opportunity for the couple and their close loved ones to go over wedding details and have some fun. \n\nAs the name suggests, a rehearsal dinner is an evening meal. Typically guests enjoy nice food, a few drinks, and people give toasts. Gifts are often part of the celebrations, too. Think of rehearsal dinners as a more intimate version of a wedding reception. Rehearsal dinners can be as formal or casual as you like—just like a wedding. Some couples are also big fans of rehearsal dinner alternatives. (We’ll get to that later.) \n\n### When Do You Have Rehearsal Dinners? \n\nLike all things weddings, there are traditions—but you don’t need to stick to them. Traditionally, the groom’s parents hold the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding. For Saturday weddings, this means the rehearsal dinner is typically on a Friday. (If you’re having a weekday wedding, you can always throw the rehearsal dinner the weekend prior.)\n\nHowever, nowadays, some people find it too stressful to have an event before their wedding with all the last-minute to-dos. As a result, some couples throw rehearsal dinners a few nights before the wedding.\n\n### Who Pays for Rehearsal Dinners? \n\nThe groom’s parents traditionally host the rehearsal dinner and foot the bill. Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for couples to pay for the dinner themselves, or have both sides of the family split costs. (Just be sure you take into account the cost of the rehearsal dinner in your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-start-creating-a-wedding-budget-right-now) if you’re paying for it.) \n\n### Who Plans Rehearsal Dinners? \n\nAgain, it’s up to each individual couple, but if we’re talking tradition, the groom’s family. Now, many couples like to have a say in where and when the dinner happens. For couples who have a [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) or [wedding coordinator](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner), the planner can take the details into their own hands and execute your vision, too. Where you end up hosting the rehearsal dinner will largely dictate the planning process. \n\n### Do You Send Out Invites for Rehearsal Dinners? \n\nSome couples choose to send out formal rehearsal dinner invites in the mail, whereas others send out details via email, [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), or a phone call. Whatever method you choose, it’s a good idea to send out the wedding rehearsal dinner invitation at least four to six weeks before the wedding festivities. If travel is a consideration for guests, it never hurts to tell them the details earlier, so they can book a hotel in time for the pre-wedding celebration fun. \n\n### Do Rehearsal Dinner Guests Get a Plus-One?\n\nIf a family member or friend in the wedding party is traveling out of town with a guest for your wedding, it’s good form to let them bring their plus-one to the rehearsal dinner. For guests that live in town or don’t have a significant other, there’s no pressure to extend an offer for a plus-one. \n\nIt’s important to note that if you’re not allowing plus-ones to the wedding—period—then there’s no need to offer up plus-ones for the dinner either. \n\n### What Happens at a Rehearsal Dinner?\n\nAside from eating good food and enjoying a drink, rehearsal dinners typically include speeches. It’s custom for the host of the event to give a welcome speech to guests, and it’s also common for the couple to say thanks to everyone for coming and sharing a few words. The parents of the couple may be inclined to give a toast too, as may the maid of honor or best man. \n\nIt’s also nice for the couple to give out little thank-you gifts to bridal party members at the rehearsal dinner. While not mandatory, it’s an opportunity to thank everyone for helping make your day so special.\n\n### What Happens if Guests Drink Too Much at the Rehearsal Dinner?\n\nBefore the big day, you want to make sure guests don’t overdo it the night before your wedding. Make sure water is widely available and offer non-alcoholic beverages, too. You can also put a limit on how much wine is on the table or choose not to host an open bar. Also, be sure guests don’t stay out too late, so they’re fresh for your wedding day. \n\n \n## Part 2: Who to Invite to a Rehearsal Dinner\nA good place to start is to look at who will be at your actual ceremony rehearsal. Oftentimes, this is the group of people that many will pick to have their rehearsal dinner with. \n\nBut that doesn’t mean you can’t veer away from tradition and plan your dinner the way you want it and invite who you want. The best way to approach planning a rehearsal dinner is to ask yourself: What do you want the dinner to be? Small and intimate or an excuse to throw another lavish bash ahead of your wedding? \n\nOf course, cost may limit who you invite, but we’ll look at some people you should consider to get you started. \n\n### __Immediate Family__\nMany rehearsal dinners involve your immediate family from both sides. This group usually forms the core of who’s invited to the dinner, and sticking to some immediate family and a few extras can make for an intimate and cozy evening. \n\n### __The Wedding Party__\nIf you’re incorporating a wedding party into your big day, definitely consider bringing them to the rehearsal dinner. And it’s good form to allow them to bring their plus-ones, as well. Your wedding party—especially maid of honor and best man—will likely play a role in helping organize the rehearsal dinner, and they may even give a speech. \n\n### __The Officiant__\nThis is a nice (and customary) gesture. Depending on your relationship with the officiant (for instance, a religious leader), they may not attend, but will surely appreciate the invitation. If they do come, it can be nice for them to get a sense of the couple’s family and closest friends before they help you say “I do.” \n\n### __Other Wedding Party Members__\nAre you planning to have a flower girl? A ring bearer? Send them a rehearsal dinner invite (along with their parents), so that you can have your full party in attendance. Of course, this will depend on the rehearsal dinner venue. If you’re having an event at a bar or casino, kids should not be included. \n\n### __Everyone Else__\nThe above mentioned attendees are usually the must-haves when you’re considering a rehearsal dinner. However, these days, there’s a lot more variety in the way people choose to have their rehearsals. You might want to throw a lavish bash and invite everyone who you’re planning to have at the wedding. You could also combine the best of both worlds and have an intimate dinner, but invite all your guests to post-dinner drinks at a nearby bar. \n\nHowever you organize your rehearsal dinner, know that there is no one way to do it. Choose whatever feels right for you, since you know your family and friends best.\n\n \n## Part 3: Rehearsal Dinner Location Ideas \n\nThere is no shortage of rehearsal dinner location options. You can stick with a simple dinner and then call it a night, or plan to eat some food and have some fun afterward. \n\nThe most important thing when choosing your location, however, is finding a venue that’s easy for guests to get to—ideally close to your wedding venue, especially for out-of-town guests. \n\nBe sure to think about accessibility, too. Even if your rehearsal dinner is a few miles from your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues), is there public transit that can go there for guests who might not have a car? Does the facility have full accessibility options for anyone that might need it? \n\nWith that in mind, we’ve compiled some dinner location ideas to help you plan. \n\n### Some Traditional Options:\n\n#### __Hotel Restaurant or Bar__\nThis one is especially great if you have out-of-town guests. It can be really easy to coordinate discounted room rates and at the same time book a hotel restaurant or bar for your rehearsal dinner. This is also a great option if you want to plan a smaller, more intimate dinner first, then have a larger bash at a bar. \n\n#### __Your Favorite Restaurant__\nWhat better way to spend a night with your friends and family than at the place that makes your favorite food. If you’re there often and the owner or waitstaff knows you, they might even go that extra mile to help make your special night that much better. \n\n#### __Family Member’s House__\nThere’s no need to overcomplicate a rehearsal dinner. Sometimes the best option is a close family member’s house, where you can have food catered or perhaps ask family to make the meal. Nothing says intimacy like having dinner at the familiar home of someone you love. \n\n#### __Wedding Venue__\nHaving the rehearsal dinner at the venue can simplify planning and give everyone a sneak peek into your big day. What’s more, guests will get a taste of the delicious food you’ll be serving at your wedding. \n\n### Some Options off the Beaten Path: \n\n#### __A Casino__\nHost a feast and then hit the slots. If there’s a casino in your city or in close proximity to your wedding venue, this can be a memorable way to eat some great food and have a lot of fun. A casino is an even better choice if it goes with your wedding theme, or if you’re getting hitched in Las Vegas. \n\n#### __Dinner at the Park__ \nHave a favorite or scenic park nearby? Why not scope out a picnic table and invite your guests to dinner outdoors. This is also a very budget-friendly option and requires less formality. You can have a nice little set-up with drinks and dessert, too. \n\n#### __Dinner on the Beach__\nIf you have access to a beach, this is another great, low-cost way to have your rehearsal dinner. Another plus to doing it at the beach: It’s easy to play around with fun themes (like nautical, for example) for your rehearsal. Beach dinners also evoke an elegant, but laid-back vibe. \n\n#### __The Bowling Alley__\nSure, you might not exactly find the fanciest food at your local bowling alley, but eating with your family and friends and then knocking down some pins can make for a memorable night. What’s more, bowling is fun for the entire family, and doing an activity together can help break the ice and calm pre-wedding awkwardness between guests. \n\n#### __Consider Location__\nThere’s one last thing to note when picking the location of your dinner. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, you’ll likely want to stay on the property, since these venues tend to offer packages that include rehearsal dinners. Even for couples who are getting married at vineyards or at a countryside villa, there's a good chance the venue does pre-wedding events, too. So before you go planning an off-site rehearsal, be sure to check in with your venue and find out if there are options—you might get a great rate by just staying put. \n\n \n## Part 4: Rehearsal Dinner Alternatives\n\nRehearsal dinners aren’t for everyone, and sometimes they just don’t work with your pre-wedding schedule, either. It can be particularly challenging to have a rehearsal dinner if you’re getting married during a weekday or are having an early morning wedding. Here are some rehearsal dinner alternatives for couples who like to make their own rules. \n\n### Rehearsal Brunch \n\nBrunch is one of the best meals out there, so it only makes sense to feed guests with some delicious breakfast foods. In fact, brunches are one of the rehearsal dinner ideas we love. This option is great for couples who want to have a pre-wedding activity, while also making sure that everyone gets enough rest the night before the wedding. If you’re planning an activity after brunch, you can set up a [group activity](http://love) for guests like mini-golf or croquet to get folks in the party mood. \n\n### Post-Wedding Dinner\n\nFor couples who eloped or had a super intimate wedding, a dinner after the big day may be the best option. You can even have a post-wedding reception after your honeymoon if you want to keep the good times rolling. \n\n### Rehearsal Dinner Potluck\n\nIf you’re looking to save and have more of a laid-back event, a potluck-style dinner may be the best bet for your rehearsal dinner. Family members can bring their favorite dish and everyone can get a nibble of tasty bites. A potluck can be held at a family member’s home or at the home of someone in the wedding party—or even the couple’s place. \n\n### Backyard Takeout \n\nTakeout is one of the easiest options for feeding many guests. Order from your favorite restaurant and have a meal at home—it doesn’t have to be fancy. To make the rehearsal more informal and laid-back, consider a backyard event. There’s plenty of ways to spruce up a yard with fairy lights and long, decorative tables if you want to evoke a special feel. \n\n### Rehearsal Breakfast\n\nJust like brunch, breakfast is another fantastic option for early risers or people who want to wake up on the wedding day feeling refreshed. If guests are all staying at the same hotel or resort, plan a get-together in the morning on the eve of the wedding. \n\n### Rehearsal Cocktail Party\n\nSkip the sit-down meal, and opt for a cocktail event instead. Offer guests apps and drinks, but put a time cap on the party. Think 5 p.m. to 7 p.m., so guests can grab dinner afterward or go back home and get ready for the next day. Rehearsal cocktail parties still have a celebratory vibe—without the full commitment of a sit-down meal. \n\n## Zola: The Destination for All Your Wedding Needs \n\nWhen it comes to your rehearsal dinner, remember: It’s common to invite your immediate family, members of your wedding party, and close friends. Anyone else? Up to you! The formality and location of a rehearsal dinner depends on your personal preference, too. \n\nBecause rehearsal dinners are only one of many [pre-wedding activities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/pre-wedding-activities), we have the down-low on all the other events, too. No matter what stage of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process you’re in or how much support you need, we are here every step of the way. Zola is the place for all your wedding needs.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"When designing your rehearsal party invitations, there are a few key design elements that you’ll need to consider. 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Where? On the dance floor of course! ","body":"[Zola’s First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2022) revealed all the trends making 2022 one of the biggest years ever for the wedding industry. With most couples’ guest lists this year including 100+ people, it’s safe to say it’ll be a major year for guests, too. \n\nWith so many weddings in store, __Zola surveyed over 2,500 people attending weddings in 2022__ to find out everything there is to know about being a wedding guest this year. The results: __guests have a lot on their plates this wedding season, but they’re looking forward to every moment of it.__ \n\n## 2022 wedding season will be busy, but guests are excited and ready to party! \n\nWedding guests this year are booked and busy. __On average they have been invited to 5 weddings and plan to attend at least 4 of them (*RSVPs in the mail - hopefully*).__ That’s A LOT of weddings in one year. When asked about how they’re feeling about all the ceremonies they’re attending, it’s a cocktail of good vibes. \n\n__How guests are feeling about weddings this year:__\n\n- Excited - 77%\n- Ready to party - 47%\n- Sentimental - 41%\n- Full of love - 40%\n\n![Xiaoqi Li Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iwbsu3kFq7Ha86WXkG8K/a20aa63103bcc1c23e56b9a768aa2110/Xiaoqi_Li_Photography_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Xiaoqi Li Photography\n\nAlong with the excitement, some are also feeling a bit anxious about attending so many gatherings and having so much on their calendars. No doubt it’s an honor to be invited to any. But for guests, attending those celebrations often come with a cost, whether that’s paying for travel around the country, using up vacation days, or generally going outside of their social comfort zones. \n\n__Even with so much excitement in the air , 28% of guests are also feeling another way: *broke*💸__ On average, invitees are attending a total of 7 wedding-related events within the year, including engagement parties, wedding showers, bach parties–and just about any type of wedding brunch you can think of. All exciting events to add to the schedule, of course, but they are also factors guests are having to consider in their budgets for each wedding. \n\n## Guests spend on average $550+ on each wedding they attend, but that cost can greatly depend on how involved they are with the wedding planning.. \n\nThere are a number of costs that come into play when attending a wedding. Guests are hoping to find the right outfits, [looking for the perfect gifts from the registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/21-last-minute-wedding-gifts), and working out prices for hotels. But first things first: how are they getting to these weddings?\n\n__The average cost to attend a wedding by car in 2022 is $593, while attending a wedding by plane can land guests around $1,314.__ What’s making up those costs? Things like:\n\n- Travel\n- Accomodations\n- Attire\n- Gifts\n- Activities\n- [Additional events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pre-wedding-events-guide) (Bach parties, Engagement parties, etc.)\n\nOverall, each guest will spend $1,500+ to be a wedding guest in 2022. When it comes to where they’re spending most, __booking travel and buying gifts take the cake with 29% of guest marking both as their top expenses.__ Accommodations are 3rd on the list, with 23% spending most on things like hotels and airbnbs.\n\n![Fox and Veil Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/LG16CCIkA69gkayNqqDem/633e0c1e7a56b7a2a7bf25dd9b9d8a71/Fox_and_Veil_Photography_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Fox and Veil Photography\n\nBut what about those guests that have more responsibilities than just attending the ceremony and reception? With weddings typically being a family affair, lots of family members may be more involved when it comes to wedding expenses. The average cost per wedding is surely different for a parent of the couple who may be covering part or all of the wedding costs versus a college roommate coming into town. It’s also bound to be different for guests playing a part in the ceremony, like members of the wedding party or even the officiant!\n\n__The bottom line: know your budget!__ Every wedding is unique, including the amount of money you need to spend on it. Just be sure you’re in the right place financially to enjoy your role in each one.\n\n## “Cocktail” attire is the most popular wedding dress code, and over ⅓ of wedding guests are buying or renting 3+ new outfits to match. \n\nFor today's guests, a new wedding = a new outfit. __More than ⅓ of guests plan to buy or rent three or more new outfits__ for the weddings they’re attending this year. Guests and couples alike want to celebrate in style. \n\n![Sabina Procacci Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/30JfTCKycpd07fBDpE7wFp/6dfdecad7a49385d31c2329001f69b89/Sabina_Procacci_Photography.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sabina Procacci Photography\n\nSo, what [type of outfit styles are guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding) looking for? __#1 on the list for both most popular and most guest-preferred wedding dress code is [“Cocktail” attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cocktail-wedding-attire-guide).__ Some couples this year are opting for more creative and specific recommendations – from “Summer Cocktail,” to “Sunday Dressy” and “Cocktail Casual.” \n\n“Black-tie optional” is also a guest favorite, which goes to show more than anything guests are ready to dress their best for all their weddings this year.\n\n## When it comes to wedding travel, guests are willing to go the extra mile, taking anywhere from 1-5+ days off from work to attend wedding celebrations. \n\nWhether by plane, train, or automobile, guests are attending weddings in 3 different cities this year on average. And with 37% of guests mostly attending weddings that require plane travel, __it’s fair to say that the destination wedding is starting to make its comeback.__ \n\n__Here’s how guests are traveling for 2022 weddings:__\n\n- Mostly local weddings (<1 hour away) - 17%\n- Mostly drivable weddings (1+ hours away) - 46%\n- Mostly domestic weddings that require plane travel - 35%\n- Mostly international weddings - 2%\n\n![KAI-PHOTO HAWAII](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1N8FX49nKsw8MsLNLPKtfp/745f9c9afe421ac3199dba221a0aa2e0/KAI-PHOTO_HAWAII_.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // KAI PHOTO HAWAII\n\nThe rise of hybrid and work-from-home models has made attending destination weddings the perfect reason to take a vacation. Some guests are even using the added distance as an excuse to extend their wedding travels into longer vacations. __In fact, ⅔ are [taking time off work](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/request-time-off-for-wedding) to attend weddings, anywhere from 2 days (18%) to 5+ days (14%).__ And who could really blame them when these are the top international destination wedding locations for 2022:\n\n- Italy\n- Mexico\n- Greece\n- France\n- Ireland\n\n## Guests are most excited about reconnecting with their loved ones at weddings this year, but they’re also looking forward to getting down on the dance floor. \n\nWonder why guests are excited about all the weddings they’re attending? Because there’s a whole lot to look forward to! After two years of delayed and downsized weddings, couples and guests alike can’t wait to be face-to-face with their loved ones again.\n\n__The top 5 things guests can’t wait to experience at weddings this year are:__\n\n1. Seeing family & friends\n2. Watching two people who love each other get married\n3. The dance floor\n4. Dressing up\n5. The food\n\n__With 80% of guests definitely planning to drink at weddings this year__, it’s safe to say wedding [receptions in 2022 are going to be *entertaining*](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding). Everyone's planning on looking and feeling good, and guests are expecting the music to carry the night. \n\n![Fox & Fig Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Zp5BPXM5U072wf2oAV663/16fa2d72d7f5f02ee94cc7b07407850c/Fox___Fig_Photography.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Fox & Fig Photography\n\nGuests all agree they want to hear the songs that’ll get everyone out to the dance floor, whether it’s:\n\n- __Classics__ like Neil Diamond’s “Sweet Caroline” and Whitney Houston’s “I Wanna Dance with Somebody,”\n- __Dance floor anthems__ like Lil John’s “Turn Down For What” and V.I.C.’s “Wobble,”\n- or __TikTok-popular hits__ like Doja Cat’s “Kiss Me More” and Harry Styles’ “As It Was.”\n\n## If You Have to Say \"No”...\nMany people think that, as long as their schedule permits, they have to say “yes” to every wedding they’re invited to. But with the number of weddings dramatically increasing in 2022, you may have more wedding invitations that you (and your budget) can handle.\n\nAnd in that situation, there’s one thing you’ll want to remember: that it’s ok to say “no.”\n\nWhile being invited to a wedding is a privilege, it’s not only unnecessary to attend every wedding you’re invited to (particularly in an event-heavy year like 2022), it’s unrealistic. No one has the time, energy, or money to spend every weekend attending a different wedding ceremony.\n\nSo, again, it’s ok to politely decline a wedding invitation. But how do you prioritize which weddings you can say “no” to—and which you should plan on attending?\n\n- __Consider your schedule__...The easiest way to decide which wedding invitations to decline is to look at your schedule. If you have a conflict on your schedule that would make it hard for you to attend (whether that’s a personal commitment, a work conflict, or another wedding), feel free to say “no.”\n\n- __...and budget__. Another surefire sign that you should consider a wedding invitation? If you can’t afford it. If a wedding doesn’t align with your budget (for example, in order to attend, you’d have to purchase an expensive plane ticket), the best thing you can do is say “no.”\n\n- __Prioritize the people closest to you__. If you technically have the flexibility and financial means to attend the weddings you’re invited to—but you’re overwhelmed by the sheer number of invitations—the best way to prioritize is by considering how close you are to the couple getting married. If your BFF since childhood is saying their “I do’s,” you should prioritize being there if you can—but if the invite is from a former colleague you haven’t seen or spoken to in years, that could be a good opportunity to cut down your list of 2022 weddings.\n\nIf you do end up attending a high volume of weddings, you can also say “no” to spending a fortune on each wedding gift. Instead of buying the most expensive item on the registry (which adds up quickly!), instead, look to purchase gifts that are unique and memorable—but still affordable.\n\nOverall, a year full of weddings is one filled with something special that often only weddings can provide: a great sense of love & togetherness. 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Talk to them with tact with our guide to telling friends they aren't in the wedding party.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-09-26T21:48:43.460Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5F4odoTJpLrAnOwFq64p5g/499bf574bd3f594424310a0257fea2cd/How-to-Tell-Friends-They-Aren-t-In-the-Wedding-Party_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"couple celebrates wedding with wedding party"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"In a perfect world, you’d be able to have all of your friends standing next to you as you say your “[I do’s.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-vows)” But wedding parties can only be so large—and, in many cases, that means some friends won’t make it into your final count. It’s a tricky situation that sometimes leads to hurt feelings. There are right ways to break the news, though, and definitely some wrong ways to break the news. Keep your friendships—and your sanity—intact. Here’s how to tell friends that they aren’t in your wedding party.\n\n## How To Do It\nThere’s no way around it—telling your friends that they aren’t in your wedding party can be an uncomfortable conversation. It’s also a necessary one. Ideally, you should tell anyone sooner rather than later. Don’t postpone the conversation because you’re nervous about it.\n\nHow you manage the “you’re not in the wedding” conversation is going to depend, in large part, on who you’re talking to. Here are some classic scenarios.\n\n![INLINE RegetisPhotography 1080x720 Michelle&Brian](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5fgSPcTVsBbJCooJLA5lQb/2567a2bb0754397f66fe1f421ac5533e/INLINE_RegetisPhotography_1080x720_Michelle_Brian.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Regetis Photography\n\n### The Old Friend\nMany people have an old friend that played a significant role in a certain time period of their life—like a childhood best friend you keep close to via social media or the freshman roommate who was an indispensable part of your college experience. Those old friends don’t play as big of a role in their current lives, though—and, as such, it doesn’t really make sense to ask them to be in the wedding party.\n\nThere’s a huge value in maintaining friendships with people who knew you way back then. So, the key to talking to old friends is making sure they know how much you appreciate them and your shared memories. \n\n__What to Say:__ *“We share so many of my favorite memories, and I’m so grateful you’re going to be there to share in this with me, too.”* Then, tell them while there isn’t room in the wedding party, you’d love to involve them in the wedding in a way that honors your shared history—like having them help put together a collage of old pictures or [giving a toast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) (with plenty of fun stories!) at your [engagement party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-an-engagement-party).\n\n### The Friend Who Assumes They’re In The Wedding Party\nIf you have a close friend, they might assume that they’ll be in your wedding party. If you’re keeping your wedding party small, though, that might not be the case.\n\nIf you have a friend who’s hinted they think they’re in the wedding party—or just assumed [bridesmaid or groomsman duties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties) as soon as you got engaged—it’s important to clear up the misunderstanding quickly. \n\n__What to Say:__ *“You know how close we are, and I would love to have you stand with me at the wedding—but the truth is, we’re keeping the wedding party really small. I’m so happy you’ll be there to celebrate with me.”* Then, tell them you’d love to have them involved in the process. Give her a job that will make them feel included on your big day (like acting as an usher or manning the gift table).\n\n### The Dramatic Friend\nOf all the friends to tell they aren’t in the wedding party, the dramatic friend just might be the trickiest. If you have a friend who’s prone to drama, gossip, or a bad attitude (we have them, we love them), you’re going to want to be direct and short with the conversation. If she brings up being in the wedding party, get straight to the point.\n\n__What to Say:__ *“I really appreciate you wanting to be involved in the process, but we actually have the wedding party taken care of.”* Then, move on. The less room you leave for drama, the less opportunity your dramatic friend has to make the situation all about them. In this case, you may anticipate a bit of backlash. If it resorts to more conversations beyond your control, remember exactly that: It’s out of your control. You have a wedding to plan.\n\n### The Friend That Had You In Their Wedding Party\nIf your friend asked you to be in their wedding party, they might expect you to do the same. But that’s not always the case—and it certainly doesn’t have to be.\n\nIf your friend asked you to be in their wedding party but you aren’t planning on asking them to be in yours, it’s important to approach the subject with some sensitivity. Remember—you stood by them at their wedding, so the fact that they won’t be able to do the same for you might sting a little bit.\n\n__What to Say:__ *“I’m so grateful I was able to be in your wedding and I’m so happy you’ll be at mine. We’re just keeping the wedding party pretty small.”* Offer them another role in the wedding if you’re close. After throwing a wedding themselves, though, they may be grateful to sit back and relax for yours.\n\n### The Last Friend Standing\nIf you have a large circle of friends, there might be one person you’re just not as close to. Asking everyone else in your circle to be in the wedding party may leave the “last friend standing” feeling left out. If you’re just not super close with this person, chances are, they realize that too—and it’s fine to acknowledge it. \n\n__What to Say:__ *“I know a lot of our friends are in my wedding party, but I feel like we haven’t had much of an opportunity to connect one-on-one—but I’d love to change that!”* This not only clears up any confusion over the wedding party but can also pave the way to deepen your friendship.\n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1R4vNhU81u3K134IslkjFC/1d5255114ef623cae527b46b7f60e45b/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## What to Do When the Conversation Goes South\nNo matter how much you prepare for telling friends they aren’t in your wedding party, some conversations may not go as planned—and could end in an argument, tears, or hurt feelings.\n\nIf one of your talks doesn’t go as planned, here are some tips for damage control:\n\n- __Give your friend some time and space.__ If your friend doesn’t take the news well, give them (and yourself) space to cool off. Once you have some time apart, reapproach the conversation from a more grounded and less emotional place.\n- __Listen.__ Chances are, your friend is feeling hurt and just wants to share why they’re upset. So give them the opportunity to do so. Listen to what they have to say, let them vent. Once they get everything out, let them know how much you care about them and appreciate them.\n- __Be willing to walk away.__ If your friend really makes a huge deal over not being in your wedding party—and says mean, hurtful, or vindictive things as a result—they’re not really a friend. This is especially true if they try to rope people who are in your wedding party into the drama. Be willing to walk away from toxic relationships.\n\nYou might be dreading telling a friend they’re not in the wedding party—but now that you know how to manage the conversation, the best thing you can do is rip the Band-Aid. 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Here's everything you need to know about being the best maid of honor and how to feel confident in your role.","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2020-02-05T16:58:30.890Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/saNIorCUTzKysqWXysACj/63763171c265bdde20f28a913fff3287/So-You-re-a-First-Time-Maid-of-Honor_NSTPictures.jpg","altText":"maid of honor cries at wedding"},"heroCredit":"NST Pictures","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers/nst-pictures","body":"There are few things as heartwarming as being selected as a maid of honor. Whether it’s your sister, college roommate or childhood BFF, you’ve clearly made a positive impact on their life and there’s no one they’d rather have by their side on their big day. Let’s be honest, though: If you’re a first-time maid of honor, you probably have no idea what you’re doing. It’s a lot of fun, but also a lot of pressure.\n\nIn addition to [familiarizing yourself with the role and the usual expectations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist-maid-of-honor-duties) that come along with it, every maid of honor could use some guidance on what to expect. Whether you’re nervous, excited, or a little bit of both, here’s how to handle almost every situation as a first-time maid of honor.\n\n![INLINE RosieNaryPhotography 1080x720 Erin&Tim](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hgtnNMPRPwwNBLS0PTNJQ/639800b7dc64e07e9115da2dbe94b476/INLINE_RosieNaryPhotography_1080x720_Erin_Tim.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Rosie Nary Photography\n\n## Discuss expectations in advance.\nBeing forward about expectations, hesitations, and feelings always helps [prevent disaster](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/resolve-wedding-party-disagreements).\n\nEvery bride is different, and while some might expect you to take over a huge chunk of the planning process, others might want you to be totally hands-off and simply be their stand-in therapist during the actual wedding.\n\n“Be upfront with your [friend] about what she actually wants and prioritize your role from there,” says Megan Clark, owner of [Clutch Events](http://www.clutchevents.com/). This includes being clear about expectations for the wedding day as well. Are you going to be responsible for greeting guests as they arrive? Keeping an emergency kit in your bag? Giving a lengthy speech? \n\nGoing over checklists and timelines as a team will not only help reduce overwhelm but will make sure the actual day runs like butter.\n\n## Ask how you can help.\nThis might be an obvious one, but almost every bride gets overwhelmed at some point in the planning process. Even if she doesn’t outwardly show it, there are likely multiple tasks she would happily delegate to someone she trusts. Has she been venting about how hard it is to find a good makeup artist or stressing over DJ costs? Keep your ears open and be ready to jump in wherever she needs you—even if it’s just to offer support.\n\n## Be honest.\nIn the end, you’re one of the people she cares about most in this world. She appointed you as her maid of honor not only because she loves and respects you, but because she values your opinion. \n\nThere are likely to be many moments throughout the planning process when your bride is going to need someone to bounce ideas off of, and you’re probably going to be one of the first people she calls. Be prepared to give thoughtful feedback and help her work through some of the obstacles that come with planning one of the biggest events of her life.\n\nThat said, there is such a thing as being too honest. When it comes down to it, you know the bride best, so make sure you’re helping her shape the day of her dreams, even if it’s not necessarily your style.\n\n## Make sure every decision takes the bride into account...\nIt’s easy to get carried away in the planning process (after all, it is exciting) and forget to ask for the bride’s opinion. What may seem like something small to you may be a big deal to her. As with knowing her expectations, make sure you know where she wants to give an opinion (i.e. the bachelorette destination or the size of the bridal shower) and where she would prefer to be more hands-off.\n\n“For example, maybe it’s more important to the bride to have everyone in the bridal party included in the bachelorette party as opposed to making it a destination event,” says Clark. “I think there is so much pressure put on bridal parties to go all out for the bachelorette party, but that also [makes it financially hard](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/talk-money-in-a-wedding-party) for a lot of people. Make sure the group is spending money where it counts and that should be based on what the bride prefers!”\n\n## …but don’t sacrifice your own well-being.\nYou’re her support system, not her servant. If the bride-to-be starts transitioning to a bridezilla during the planning process, it’s time to be honest. This doesn’t mean tell her she’s being an absolute nightmare, but let her know that you recognize how stressed she is and would love to help make the process more enjoyable for both of you.\n\nWeddings can overwhelm even the most rational brides, says Clark, which is why it’s important to react calmly and gently. “I think it is really important to make sure the bride’s wishes are heard first and foremost and that they know they are a priority in the maid of honor’s life,” she says. “Then as nicely as possible, explain what you are and are not capable of based on your own life, job, and financial restraints. \n\n“It’s difficult not to get overwhelmed and emotional when your friend gets engaged and stops really caring about your needs, but as long as you remember it’s only temporary, that usually helps.”\n\n![INLINE EmmaClearyPhotoAndVideo 1080x720 Jessice&Robert](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Hz1rwDQhWxryvbjEhsppE/4ffb405df1feed09735d2e83ff87f62c/INLINE_EmmaClearyPhotoAndVideo_1080x720_Jessice_Robert.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Emma Cleary Photo and Video\n\n## Make sure to practice your speech.\nAccording to Clark, one of the most common mistakes she witnesses from maid of honors is [not preparing for their speeches](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/give-wedding-speech-hate-public-speaking).\n\n“Write it down and read it to at least two people for feedback,” she says. “And remember, it’s a toast, not a roast! Humor is appreciated, but not if it makes you or the bride look bad.”\n\n*Clark’s pro tip: Keep it under five minutes.* In this amount of time, she says, you should be able to get across who you are, your history with the bride, several great attributes or stories, and how happy she is now that the groom is in her life.\n\n## Don’t be afraid to ask for advice.\nThere are plenty of people out there who want to help (like us!) and have not only done this before but have likely been in your exact shoes. No one likes to feel like they’re in the dark, and weddings can be a lot for everyone involved. \n\nMany people are not only willing to provide tidbits of advice but are also open to sharing what mistakes they made and what they would’ve done differently. Most importantly, remember: No one is perfect, so don’t expect yourself to be either.","tag":"Inspiration","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"If you want to totally rock your maid of honor duties, check out our full checklist of MOH duties. 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Read on for more.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:31:47.239Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5FcjHBxTTxO1YZpvEYhbsB/b18e8839dc4a6219458869b64f798fe5/Inline_CapturesbyJustine.png","altText":"Wedding Officiant Duties"},"heroCredit":"Captures by Justine","body":"An essential person at a wedding, apart from the couple, is the wedding officiant, because, after all, they make the marriage official. That being said, this is someone you need to research and book early on in the wedding planning process. In this guide, we’re going to explain what wedding officiants do, and also provide a list of wedding officiant duties for your special day.\n\n### What Are the Different Types of Wedding Officiants?\n\nThere are many different types of wedding officiants; one is a religious officiant. This person can be a priest, a pastor, a rabbi, or an imam who is authorized to perform wedding ceremonies within or outside their religious institutions. Some symbolic customs and traditions are tied to religious services that make them solemn and intimate between the couple. If you choose this type of ceremony, book the church early. There may also be pre-marital classes and counseling before the wedding that you need to attend, which will help your religious officiant get to know you more before the big day.\n\nAnother type is a __professional officiant__, who is more flexible and can cater to both secular and spiritual wedding ceremonies. They can help personalize the wedding ceremony, depending on what the couple wants, whether it’s non-denominational or religious, or, perhaps, a balance of both. A professional officiant can guide a couple into ensuring that their wedding ceremony sounds and feels like it.\n\nCouples who want to elope, or simply want to make their marriage legal, can opt for a __civil officiant__. This person is often a judge or justice of the peace who can perform the wedding ceremony at the office of the city or county clerk. Going this route is fast, easy, and hassle-free.\n\nNowadays, __friends or family members__ can also officiate a wedding ceremony—this definitely would make a wedding ceremony personal and extra special for the couple. Check if the state where you’re getting married accepts this type of officiant, and, of course, ensure that he or she is (or plans to be) ordained. It would also help to consult a professional who can provide sample scripts and ideas on how to make the ceremony personal for the couple.\n\n[__Related: How to Become a Wedding Officiant__](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-become-a-wedding-officiant)\n\nWhat else does a wedding officiant do? Here’s a breakdown of the wedding officiant duties:\n\n### Before the Wedding Day\n\nMake sure that the wedding couple has filed for a marriage license with the state or county before the marriage ceremony. Simply put, a wedding will not be legit without a marriage license. This can be filed 30 to 60 days before the wedding date, depending on the state (and, sometimes, even the county), where the couple is getting married. Remind the couple not to get the license too far in advance so that the certificate doesn’t expire by the time the wedding day comes along.\n\nMeet with the wedding couple to discuss how the marriage ceremony will flow. It’s important to know the couple’s vision for their wedding, as well as the tone they want for their wedding day. Ceremonies can be spiritual, non-denominational, or religious. Are there traditions that need to be incorporated? What type of readings does the couple prefer? Do they want the ceremony to be funny or heartfelt? Do they need help in starting to write their [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows)? The wedding officiant is in charge of creating a program that is all about the couple and what they want, to ensure a smooth flow of the ceremony.\n\nLead the wedding party at the ceremony rehearsal. The bridesmaids, groomsmen, best man, maid of honor, and kids all have roles to play during the ceremony. The rehearsal, which is usually the day before the wedding, is the perfect time to gather all parties together. Brief the wedding party when to walk down the aisle, where everyone’s respective places should be, and at what point they are going to be called up for their part. The wedding officiant facilitates the rehearsal to make sure that nothing is amiss on the day of the wedding. \n\n### During the Wedding\n\n![The Duties of a Wedding Officiant](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hYNYYGacxEu2jXbIFYrZj/b1844dd8e8ad1d17b35738e32d2267cd/Inline_Asya_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit //* Asya Photography\n\nPerform the wedding ceremony. While there is no one-script-fits-all ceremony, there are two key elements that are required to be present in any ceremony. First is the declaration of intent. This is the time when the wedding officiant asks the words, “Do you take…?”. Second is the declaration or pronouncement of the couple as married. All the other segments of the ceremony program are nice to have, but having these two would make it binding and legal. \n\n__And, Lastly…__\nAfter the ceremony, signing of the marriage license, and a pictorial with the newlyweds, there is one final step to make everything official: Turn in the completed marriage license to the city or county clerk. The wedding officiant has to return the signed and completed marriage license—either in person or by mail—and it has to be done promptly after the ceremony so that there’s no risk of the license being expired. The newly married couple will then receive the certified copy of their marriage contract by mail two to three weeks after the marriage license has been retired.\n\nAs you can see, the officiant has some very important duties when it comes to the big day. 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","body":"From Stockbridge and Salem to Barnstable and Boston, Massachusetts offers a stunning selection of backdrops, sure to satisfy the visions of just about any soon-to-be-betrothed couple. It’s hard not to fall in love with the state’s colonial villages, lighthouse-adorned shores, and cobblestone streets—not to mention the infectious energy of New England sports fans.\n\nBeyond hitting the jackpot when it comes to finding the love of your life, consider yourself amongst the lucky few who get to say “I do” in charming Massachusetts. If you’re in need of a few tips and tricks to bring a bit more shape, color, and romance to your day, you’re cordially invited to read on. We’ll be covering:\n\n- Where to Get Married in Massachusetts\n- How to Infuse Your Wedding Menu With Massachusetts Flavor\n- Activity Ideas to Keep Your Wedding Guests Entertained\n- Legal Requirements for Getting Married in Massachusetts\n\nLet’s start by putting your Massachusetts wedding on the map. \n\n## Where to Get Married in Massachusetts \nNothing is perfect, but Massachusetts is pretty darn close. The beauty of each region is completely unique, but they all have an equally good chance of capturing your heart. To help smooth out your decision-making process of which Massachusetts [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) to choose, read through the overview of each area below to find the best fit for your ideal wedding celebration. \n\n### Greater Boston Area\nBring your wedding day to this metropolitan hub if you’ve got your heart set on an industrial-chic celebration. Here, you’ll find cobblestone streets, stunning red-brick homes, and some of the most prestigious universities in the entire country. Plus, the Boston Logan International Airport offers easy access for out-of-state guests coming and going by plane. \n\n### North and South Shores\nResidents of these rivaling shores won’t be pleased to find the two regions packed into the same category, but they both offer up some attractive perks when it comes to hosting your wedding. You’ll find that they’re both easily accessible from Boston (just a short drive up or down the coast) and are home to some of the most beautiful beaches in the state. \n\nYou might run into a bit more traffic on the South Shore, but it’ll also bring you closer to the idyllic peninsula of Cape Cod. The North Shore boasts 30 miles of coastline and is known for quaint towns such as Beverly, Marblehead, and Gloucester. \n\n### Cape Cod and The Islands\nIf you’re envisioning nautical-themed nuptials, take your special event south of Boston to the Cape Cod region. You’ll find white-sand beaches, charming fishing villages, and some of the best seafood that the state has to offer. Plus, you’re just a short boat ride away from the secluded islands of Nantucket and Martha’s Vineyard. \n\n### Western Massachusetts\nNature-loving couples would be wise to consider taking their celebration over to the western part of the state. Packed with rural college towns, meandering rivers, and historic landmarks, this region is home to the Berkshires, as well as several rustic wedding venue options. However, it’s a couple-hours drive west of Boston, so be sure that your guests plan for an alternative mode of transportation if they’re flying in from out of town. \n\n## Planning a Massachusetts-Made Menu \nWhat better way to journey around the state of Massachusetts than with a carefully curated menu featuring all of the local goodies? Whether you’d prefer to add just a subtle flavor of the region to your appetizer trays or have the entire meal designed to put the Massachusetts culinary scene on display, here are a few ideas to help guide your taste buds in the right direction: \n\n- __Oysters on the half shell –__ Nothing says “New England” quite like an elaborate display of freshly shucked oysters served atop ice with lemon, horseradish, and a handcrafted mignonette. It’s up for debate, of course, but some may consider the best oysters to be found right in the Massachusetts waters. Whether they’re sourced from Duxbury Bay, Cape Cod, or Martha’s Vineyard, your foodie friends will be delighted to find them served alongside a chilled glass of white wine at the cocktail hour. \n\n- __Seafood galore –__ The cold Atlantic waters aren’t just home to tasty oysters. You’ll also find an assortment of seafood options that are sure to be well-received at dinner time. While you may not be overly thrilled about cracking into a lobster in posh wedding attire, you may find hot, buttery lobster rolls to be an equally delicious alternative. Add a cup of sweet, creamy clam chowder to the menu and your guests will be eager for seconds. \n\n- __Cranberries –__ South of Boston there are thousands of acres of cranberry bogs—one-third of global cranberry-crop acreage, to be precise! Most people may find them a bit tart to eat on their own, but include them in a signature cocktail and they’re sure to be a hit. Cranberry mimosa, martini, or mulled wine, anyone? \n\n- __Boston cream pie –__ You haven’t truly lived until you’ve had a piece of Boston cream pie. Contrary to what the name may suggest, it is not a pie but rather a vanilla sponge cake, layered to perfection, stuffed with a gooey custard center, and drizzled with chocolate icing—sounds like the perfect treat for a unique wedding cake alternative, right? \n\n- __Cannolis –__ Another sweet treat you can serve after dinner is the classic cannoli. The North End of Boston is where you can look in order to learn more about this regional claim to fame. The old, narrow streets of Boston’s Little Italy are home to several award-winning bakeries and cafés. If you really want to impress your wedding guests, place a special order for cannolis and share them on your wedding day in lieu of a traditional cake. \n\n## How to Keep Your Massachusetts Wedding Guests Entertained \nYou, your partner, and your heart-melting love story are certainly set to be the main event at your Massachusetts wedding, but you can still leave some room for a number of other attractions to be seen and enjoyed while in this state.\n\nIf you want to be the host with the most, start by building a [wedding website at Zola.](https://www.zola.com/) You can customize it with pictures and special event details and you’ll even be able to create a special page to provide your guests with all of the insider information regarding Massachusetts tourism. \n\nAnd, to collect that much-anticipated insider info, read on. Grab a few ideas from the list below and share them on your website to keep your guests entertained, even when they’re not moving and grooving alongside you and your spouse at the wedding reception. \n\n### #1 Tour Fenway Park\nIf you and your partner have opted for a city celebration or even one that’s a short drive away, there’s plenty of exploring for your guests to do in Boston. Grab a beverage, a Fenway frank, and catch a Red Sox game at the historic Fenway Park. \n\nIt’s the oldest active baseball stadium in the United States, dating back to 1912, and is home to one of the most iconic structural features in the league, the 37-foot high “Green Monster.” Whether or not your wedding guests are die-hard baseball fans, adding this to the Boston itinerary is a must for family and friends of all ages. \n\n### #2 Enjoy a Picnic at the Boston Common\nLet’s face it: Massachusetts is old—that means it comes with a rich history that shouldn’t be ignored, and the Boston Common is no exception whatsoever. It’s considered to be the oldest public park in the country and was, historically, used as a meeting point for public gatherings and government protests throughout the Revolutionary War. \n\nWhile in the city, you and your guests won’t regret making time for a picnic in the Boston Common. For a little something special, you and your guests can:\n\n- Go on a scavenger hunt in search of the famous Make Way for Ducklings statue to find out what outfits the eight mallards are currently dressed in.\n\n- Peruse the in-season blooms at the nearby Public Garden. \n\n- Take a quick stroll to the historic Beacon Hill district, complete with vine-covered brick façades and swoon-worthy stoops.\n\n### #3 Walk the Freedom Trail\nThe list of Bostonian adventures could go on and on—and on. But we’ll wrap up our express tour through the capital city with a stroll along the Freedom Trail. \n\nIf your guests are looking to get out and stretch their legs while also learning more about local—and national—history, they’ll want to make time for this two-and-a-half mile walk. Along the red-brick path, they’ll pass by a number of historic museums, churches, and cemeteries that hold several stories of the Revolutionary War and the birth of America as we know it. \n\nThey’ll want to keep their eyes peeled for things such as:\n\n- The Old Corner Bookstore\n- The Old South Meeting House\n- The Boston Massacre Site\n- The burial places of historical figures such as Paul Revere and Samuel Adams at the Granary Burying Ground\n\nBe sure to leave room for lunch afterward at Quincy Market. \n\n### #4 Go Whale Watching\nFrom Provincetown and Plymouth to Gloucester and Barnstable, there are a number of different places along Massachusetts’ North and South shores to explore marine life, including several species of whales. If your wedding guests are looking for a unique excursion, encourage them to book a tour with a local charter company for a chance to see everything from humpback to minke whales. \n\nThe peak season for whale watching is usually between May and October, so if you’ve opted for a summer soiree, chances are the two events will coincide. \n\n### #5 Get Spooked in Salem\nLate autumn is another ideal time of year for weddings in New England. The fiery branches of local maple, oak, and dogwood trees will be painted with red, yellow, and orange leaves—the perfect romantic backdrop for a rustic wedding. Plus, if you’ve booked a date for mid- to late October, you may want to encourage your wedding guests to make a trip over to Salem, Massachusetts. \n\nNot only is it known as the site of the Salem Witch Trials of 1692 but it’s also a host of several spooky Halloween activities and tours each year. Ghost-loving guests won’t want to miss out on a scary good time. \n\n## Getting Married in Massachusetts, the Legal Way \nBy now, you know how to keep your adventure-loving wedding guests entertained and how to craft an unforgettable menu that’s complete with locally sourced ingredients. \n\nBut, what about the not-so-glamorous side of things? \n\nThe legal aspect of marriage isn’t quite as exciting as cresting humpback whales or a home run at Fenway Park, but it’s just as important—if not more so. Follow along below and you might just find it’s easier than you think. \n\nIf you want to make the process even easier on yourself, add the following information into [Zola’s customizable wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). Add or remove tasks as needed and download the app to receive push notifications anytime an important deadline is approaching. \n\nHere’s what you’ll need to make note of:\n\n- Good news! Even if you’re not a Massachusetts resident, you and your partner can still make things official here. There are no laws prohibiting out-of-state couples from getting married in this state. Just be sure to apply for your marriage license at a Massachusetts city clerk’s office. All licenses issued elsewhere will be deemed invalid. \n\n- When applying for a marriage license, you and your spouse-to-be will need to present valid photo identification, such as a driver’s license, non-driver’s license, passport, or military ID, along with your social security numbers and proof of a qualified officiant. \n\n- You’ll also need to pay a marriage license application fee. The exact amount will vary from place to place, so be sure to inquire about the cost before your appointment. Most city clerk offices will accept cash or check, but call ahead if you’d like to know more about other acceptable forms of payment. \n\n- Your marriage license is valid in the state of Massachusetts for 60 days. In other words, you’ll have 60 days to get married, starting on the date of issuance. Wedding ceremonies that occur outside of this window of validity will not be legally recognized. \n\n- Massachusetts is one of many states that enforce a waiting period between the time a marriage license is issued and the time of the wedding ceremony itself. This is usually done to ensure that couples have carefully thought out their decision to enter into a legally binding union before actually doing so. In the state of Massachusetts, you’ll have to wait the requisite three days before sealing the deal.\n\n- The legal age for marriage without consent in Massachusetts is 18 years old. If you or your partner are under 18, you’ll need to request a special Marriage of Minors form and submit it to a district or probate court in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts in order to be approved. \n\n- Be sure to return a signed copy of your marriage license to the city clerk’s office in order to receive your marriage certificate. This will need to be done within the 60-day validity period. \n\n- Don’t forget to request a couple of copies of your marriage certificate. You may need them later for logistics such as shared bank accounts or changes to your health insurance coverage. \n\n## Planning Your Massachusetts Wedding—Zola-Style\nWhether you’re exchanging vows amidst the mountains of the Berkshires or atop a jazzy rooftop in the heart of Boston, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) is the wedding hub you’ll want with you. Aside from rooting for love and long-lasting marriages, we’re also here to guide you through each step of the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) process. We’ll help you:\n\n- Pick out and customize your wedding invitations and paper suite collection. You can even consult with our experts to help you get the wording just right. \n\n- Customize your wedding registry to make it easy for guests to know exactly what you’ll need for married life. \n\n- Locate a local restaurant or [wedding catering](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-catering) service who can bring your visions for a mouthwatering Massachusetts meal to life. Plus, we can connect you with other [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) in your area if you need a florist, photographer, and/or beauty professional. \n\n- Stay on top of your guest list by tracking RSVPs from friends and families and sorting through each of their individual meal choices. \n\nTake Zola down the aisle and into each of the carefully curated corners of your Massachusetts wedding day.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Want to get wedded in wine country? 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After carefully planning your wedding, being surrounded by family and friends as you pledge your love is meaningful and memorable. However, your big day may be challenging if you’ve lost a loved one, no matter how long it's been since they passed. Organizing a celebratory event can seem daunting while your heart is hurting, but the right resources can help you through a difficult situation. \n\nRelying on others, such as your partner, close friends, and a support service, is essential as you try to get through each day. It’s [not advantageous](https://www.lantern.co/articles/talking-grief) to bear it all alone. __That’s why we have partnered with our friends at [Lantern](https://www.lantern.co/) to help our couples through difficult times.__ As a source of guidance for navigating life before and after a death, Lantern is lending its expertise to make a difficult process easier. From days where you feel on top of the world to times when you just can’t bear to think about your special day — and there will be some — here’s how to navigate planning your wedding while you’re experiencing grief. \n\n## Understand that everyone grieves differently. \n\nSome folks cry, and others hold things in for days, weeks, and even years before they break down. __Everyone differs in how they handle grief, as the healing process is not the same for every person.__ For example, your partner may be able to function as usual, while you need time to be able to do small tasks, such as grocery shopping or tackling your email inbox. Or perhaps your partner is the one that is having a more difficult time. Don’t expect your experience to be like that of others, so don’t compare or judge yourself or your partner because the grief process is different. \n\n## Realize that grieving isn’t a linear process.\n\nThe adage says that time heals all wounds, which is somewhat true, but that doesn’t mean there won’t be highs and lows as time passes. Although it would be ideal if grieving progressed on a perfect, downward slope until it disappears, that isn’t the case. __Expect times when you are excited about planning your wedding and days when it’s the last thing on your mind.__ Certain moments may trigger strong emotions when you least expect it, and other times — say, picking out a wedding dress without your mom — may turn out ok when you thought it would be impossibly difficult. \n\n## Take space when you need it. \n\nWedding planning can take its toll, especially when you have a job, hobbies, and a relationship with your partner. Add grieving into your already packed life, and orchestrating your big day can all of a sudden feel incredibly daunting. There may be days when you simply can’t push through, which is ok. __Allow yourself to pause or have an escape plan if needed.__ For example, have your partner or a friend accompany you to meetings, drive separately, and signal if you need to make a quick exit. Or have your maid-of-honor or future mother-in-law pinch hit if you can’t make a meeting. Give yourself permission to take a moment, a few hours, or a day if needed.\n\n## Plan moments to remember a lost loved one. \n\nMany couples memorialize lost loved ones on their wedding day. It is a beautiful way to honor someone who has passed. However, that doesn’t have to be the only time you remember them. Plan to serve the person’s signature drink at your wedding shower, bachelor/bachelorette party, or rehearsal dinner. Incorporate their favorite flower into your wedding invitation. Share with others what you feel their reaction would be as you try on prospective wedding attire. __Even if you do something small and private as a couple, such as toasting the person over a pre-wedding or honeymoon dinner, it can offer relief and give you something to look forward to.__\n\n## Share your feelings with your partner.\n\nDon’t grieve alone. Your partner loves you and is about to commit their life to you in front of family and friends. Rely on that fact, and be honest with them. Grief can be challenging and revealing to discuss, but having that vulnerability with your partner can create stronger bonds. Plus, it will help you understand each other better, which will help your marriage stand the test of time. __Sharing emotions while planning your wedding can set a strong foundation as you prepare to enter the next phase of your relationship.__\n\n## Continue being vulnerable after your wedding day.\n\nAlthough wedding planning will be over after your special day — and you have your honeymoon to look forward to — continue to share your emotions and deepen your relationship after your wedding day as you get used to new spousal roles. Of course, having each other to rely on is essential, but support services are available that will help you navigate life with each other. \n\nWhether that means grief, finances, insurance, estate planning, or whatever else, having support services available is a must. __That’s where [Lantern](https://www.lantern.co/) can come in to help.__ Let them aid you in putting the right foot forward as you plan your new chapter together as married partners.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wedding toasts are tricky. 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Here are a few elements you can expect at the ceremony.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-02-04T15:56:53.949Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5BaOTwMCIP5IXuKVZcjemJ/c1c24c670d48e6df7505b0a1f6c78311/Hero_TraditionalOutdoorWeddingatGraceESimonsLodge_ElizaJanePhotography.jpg","altText":"Black Muslim Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Eliza Jane Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Typically, seating is separated by gender, alcohol is not indulged in, and sometimes the same goes for dancing.\n- Be sure to be respectful of attire, cultural nuances, and religious observations as a wedding guest.\n","body":"As a first time guest at a Black Muslim wedding, you might find several unique aspects that are new to you. Here’s what to expect as far as some of the more common elements of a Black Muslim wedding go, so you can put your best foot forward as a guest.\n\n### At the Wedding Venue \nOn the day of the wedding ceremony, male and female guests are seated separately until the couple is announced as married. At that time, depending on their family’s Muslim traditions, guests may mingle. Sometimes a co-ed section might be allocated for guests not from the Islamic religion who may want to be seated together or as a family. There may or may not be assigned table seating, depending on whether the couple has opted for a sit-down or buffet-style meal for the celebrations afterward. \n\n### Wedding Day Attire \n![What to Expect at a Black Muslim Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26EhQiHNRqKgHZ8hJdPsFj/14213f1276042af7442804547ad3ea7c/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nAt a Muslim wedding ceremony, you will find most guests covering their heads—Black Muslim men with caps and Black Muslim women with scarves, hijab, or another headdress per their culture’s traditional dress. As a guest and especially if you are not a practicing Muslim, you are not expected to participate or follow a dress code, but should you wish to, or the family deems it necessary, they will make arrangements to provide you with such coverings. In general, the traditional wedding attire slants modest with no bare arms and legs displayed but can be opulent. The bride will, of course, wear a Muslim wedding dress. The groom and most men will typically wear a Sherwani, while the Muslim women will wear a traditional formal gown.\n\n### The Wedding Ceremony \nThe actual Muslim wedding ceremony (also called a nikah ceremony) typically takes place in a mosque, is quite short, and includes prayers by the officiant or imam, followed by presenting and signing of the marriage contract (nikah) by both parties, and then an announcement of the wedding having been officiated. For couples seated separately, this is when they would be permitted to sit together in front of their Muslim family, friends, and other guests invited to the wedding. Speeches and toasts are kept to a minimum, if at all, but this will vary from couple to couple depending on how casual or formal the event is. \n\n### Celebratory Dinner\nThis is when the wedding festivities truly come alive. With the religious portion of the day’s events performed and completed, the dinner party afterward is when the couple is seen together, mingling with guests and enjoying a meal with family. Expect a large spread of special dishes made just for the occasion, many of which will be rooted in the specific cultures that the newlyweds trace their ancestry to. In many cases, dinner is a co-ed affair, but beware that this isn’t always the case. \n\n### Traditional Customs \n\n![What to Expect at a Black Muslim Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Vt0wHWH4tyMrVzWoubzO3/2acc62f6be78b5ebd8dec38c03975780/inline_shutterstock2.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nDepending on which parts of the world the couple traces their family’s heritage too, there will be several smaller rituals and ceremonies to symbolize the union of the two individuals and their families. You might receive a wedding day agenda at the venue that explains some of the significance behind these actions or a member of the extended family might be made available to you to help understand these cultural nuances. Be aware that some of these practices might not align with your ideas of weddings and be respectful of the general proceedings. \n\n### Libations and Such\nSince alcohol is forbidden in Islam, the free-flowing Champagne and wine, or open bar concepts you may see at other weddings will be missing at these celebrations. If the couple and their families are particularly broad-minded, there might be some arrangements made for non-Muslims to enjoy a drink or two privately, but this is a rarity and done solely at their discretion. Pork or any form of pork products will never be served at a Muslim wedding. Carrying alcohol into the wedding venue for personal consumption is not looked upon favorably, either. \n\n### Entertainment and Dancing\nAnother aspect that is completely dependent on one’s culture is the entertainment aspect of the wedding day. In some parts, dancing is segregated by gender; other times, couples may have an open dance floor for all to join. You may see larger musical performances and dancing acts by members of the family for the enjoyment of all guests or a more solemn single instrument performance in the background. Many weddings may have no form of entertainment at all, with the lavish dinner spread and interaction with friends and family serving as the highlight of the evening. \n\n### Gift-Giving Norms\nThough many Americans provide registry information, so guests can choose gifts that the couple would like, this may not be the norm when it comes to Black Muslim weddings. It is typically deemed inconsiderate to ask for gifts—a guest’s presence is considered sufficient. \n\nWhen gifts are given, decorative envelopes bearing a cash present are most common. Sometimes utilitarian items for the new couple’s home are also acceptable. When in doubt, ask around to understand what the acceptable practices are relevant to that couple. \n\nIf you aren’t from the community, attending a Black Muslim wedding as a guest can be quite a revelation and a fun foray into understanding a new culture and way of celebration. Enjoy the festivities as you learn more about how weddings around the world are officiated.\n","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:29.659Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"drunk-wedding-guest","title":"How to Handle a Super Drunk Wedding Guest","excerpt":"Weddings are celebrations and things can get out of hand. Here's exactly how to deal with drunk wedding guests (and even prevent too much over-drinking).","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2019-11-20T19:28:58.466Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/rYISVmCrOfIIgAmkT3uFy/9765708ee6387e13b1da83eb0163a74f/pexels-cottonbro-3171736.jpg","altText":"drunk wedding guests"},"heroCredit":"Pexels","body":"Weddings are a time to celebrate and let loose, but between [cocktail hour](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour), drinks with dinner and sometimes an open bar, it’s not hard for guests to overindulge. “In the past at one wedding, a guest was very intoxicated and he actually tried to fight with another guest,” said Alana Klein, a wedding planner at Toronto’s [Swoon Events](https://www.swoonevents.ca/). “I tried to talk to him for a minute and just said, ‘Look, you're at a wedding…’ but he just wouldn't calm down. So in the end, we ordered him a cab and put him in it and sent him off.”\n\nThankfully, Klein says, situations like these are rare and most guests don’t try to fight with others. In fact, the majority of guests are on good behavior. Still, wedding guests drinking too much happens and can definitely be a problem—and one couples like to avoid. \n\n![INLINE MantasKubilinskasPhotography 1080x720 Danielled&Ted](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1yHVzuoE6s03mpOxrI4Awa/0f56b253f8b046d3bfb9c1d7cc9497c5/INLINE_MantasKubilinskasPhotography_1080x720_Danielled_Ted.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Mantas Kubilinskas Photography\n\n## How To Prevent Guests From Drinking Too Much\nFirst things first: you don’t need to have an open bar at your wedding if you don’t want to. It’s also perfectly OK to [buy a limited amount of alcohol](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-buy-alcohol-for-your-reception) or have a dry wedding altogether. Some guests even opt to [stay sober](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/stay-sober-at-a-wedding).\n\nIf you are serving booze at your wedding, though, there are simple tricks to help prevent guests from drinking too much. \n\n- __No shots.__ Klein says that some couples decide early on that shots won’t be served at their wedding, and make this rule known to staff. “All of the bartenders will be aware before the wedding starts that they're not allowed to give out shots,” Klein said. “Another way is to say no to double drinks.”\n- __Consider alcohol type.__ Some couples only serve wine, beer, and nonalcoholic drinks during cocktail hour, while others opt for champagne. \n- __Close the bar.__ It’s not uncommon to shut down bar service during dinner, meaning guests can only enjoy table wine while they eat. (Plus between food and a slower flow of alcohol, dinner is a good time for guests to sober up if they’ve already had one too many.)\n- __Stay hydrated.__ It’s also important to have water available at all times. Make sure the bar has water jugs set up so guests don’t have to wait in line, and ensure serving staff are always topping up glasses. \n\nLastly, decide when you want the bar to shut down for good. Some venues have time limits on open bars, but you can work with a wedding planner or venue to determine what hours work best for you. It’s not always a good idea to have cocktails available until 2 a.m.\n\n### Give a head’s up to the staff.\nIf you have a friend or family member who is known to end up intoxicated at events, you might want to talk to them before your wedding. It’s perfectly OK to tell your cousin or best friend that while you love them, you want to make sure they don’t take things too far. Let them know you want them to enjoy and have a good time, but won’t appreciate it if they end up sick in the bathroom.\n\nYou can also give the heads-up to your venue’s security or wedding planner if you want them to keep an eye on someone. \n\n“I had one wedding last summer where the bride did warn me beforehand,” Klein said. “She said, ‘You know my uncle sometimes takes it too far with the drinking… and if you need to kick him out, I give you permission to do that.’” \n\n![INLINE LaurenRyanPhotography 1080x720 Desiree&Henry](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2vW3Td9mOaZk4h7N8ZLOmA/28dd7f3018c152970ebcbafc61a9f84c/INLINE_LaurenRyanPhotography_1080x720_Desiree_Henry.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Lauren Ryan Photography\n\n## How To Deal With Drunk Wedding Guests\nEven with all your best intentions, it’s impossible to control everyone. \n\n- __Send them home.__ If a guest looks like they need to be in bed and not lifting up your grandma on the dance floor, it may be time to send them home. “At one wedding I did the best man's girlfriend had way too much to drink during cocktail hour, and I found her slumped in a chair in the lobby during dinner, throwing up all over herself,” Klein said. “In the end, the best man did end up having to leave with her to take her home.”\n- __Lean on the staff.__ Klein says it’s usually up to security and on-site wedding staff to handle wasted guests. It shouldn’t be the responsibility of a bride or groom to monitor people’s alcohol consumption or tell someone to leave.\n- __Trust your bartenders.__ They should also exercise their judgment and cut-off guests if they’re too inebriated. Couples can stress to bar staff that they’d prefer people to be cut off than overserved. \n\n“Discretion is a big thing for me,” Klein said. “If there is something going on that I don't necessarily have to alert the bride and groom to and we can deal with ourselves, then that's usually the way I like to go.”\n\n### Schedule transportation.\nIt’s important to remember, however, that whether a guest has four drinks or fourteen, it’s never a good idea for them to drive home. \n\nPrevent any incidents by having the number of a local cab company handy for folks, and make sure transportation is available. 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One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Here are the most common wedding party disagreements, from money to attire concerns, and how to resolve them quickly.","author":"Elizabeth Blasi","publishedAt":"2019-09-17T15:44:40.188Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3h4mZrl6MiCEwoU4AARo1/b6cf4a4ee36ad0119b8e2a351f324ba5/10-Common-Wedding-Party-Disagreements.jpg","altText":"bride and groom with wedding party"},"heroCredit":"Love in Motion LLC","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/love-in-motion-llc","body":"Planning a wedding can be stressful, and that stress can occasionally bubble over into tensions or disputes between loved ones. This can be especially true about your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one). There’s a lot of responsibility that comes with being in a wedding party—and, oftentimes, a lot of money. So, whether it’s disagreements about price points, schedules, or general dispositions, issues can arise in groups of all sizes. Here, we’ve outlined five common wedding party disagreements and how to solve them. \n\n## It’s about money... \nMoney is a hard topic to discuss in any capacity—weddings are no different. In the midst of planning expenses with your wedding party, slight tensions may pop up and the topic can get heated quickly. It’s important to address the issues upfront and as soon as possible. Here are three common wedding party money issues that can crop up: \n\n### You're expecting too much. \nFrom an engagement party, bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette party, and day-of wedding activities, the cost can add up. If a member of your wedding party starts to feel uncomfortable about the number of financial obligations associated with your wedding, try having an open dialogue. \n\nMake it known that you want them involved in every step of the way, but you understand that you can’t expect too much from them financially. Pick an event or two you prioritize over the others and let them know there are no hard feelings if they can’t make the others—and mean it. \n\n### Everyone spends differently. \nNot every member of your wedding party acquires or spends money the same way (or at the same capacity). When one member of the party is suggesting penthouse suites, the other may be recommending the cheapest house-share. Oftentimes these arguments can happen away from the couple’s attention. \n\nTo avoid or resolve these issues, make it known to the wedding party that your main goal is to have fun and make everyone comfortable. Before the wedding details unfold, create an online survey to see how comfortable everyone would be spending for certain events (let them know it’s anonymous). This is easy to do in a Google form. From there, set financial caps that, hopefully, work for everyone (and their wallets). \n\n### Someone is having income issues.\nThe job market is tricky. If you have a bridesmaid who’s in between roles or coming up short on freelancing work, for example, be sympathetic. Let them know you’re OK with them skipping certain events. You may also opt to split the cost on certain things like their wedding attire.\n\n![INLINE MichelleLawsonPhotography 1080x720 Mishelle&Jason](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4oXUzuEFsurZueGM2CNEmH/2fd8b0047b00f885a8317662d320fbc4/INLINE_MichelleLawsonPhotography_1080x720_Mishelle_Jason.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Michelle Lawson Photography\n\n## It’s about the maid of honor or best man...\nThis could go a few ways. The issues could be between you and your MOH or BM or they could be about those people. There are a few ways to ease the discomfort with or between those closest to you:\n\n### You can't choose.\nThe age-old dilemma, [who do you ask to be your best man/maid of honor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-do-if-you-can't-choose-just-one-maid-of-honor)—your best friend, your sibling, no one? If there are a few people in the running for that top position, be considerate. Once you make your decision, don’t let it sit in the air if someone was potentially hurt by your choice. Have an honest conversation with them and explain (nicely!) why you came to that decision. If it seems too hard, don’t forget: It’s totally OK to have two people in that position.\n\n### You have multiple MOHs or Best Men.\nOK, yes, it’s a good solution for the first issue, but we need to acknowledge that having two maids of honor or best men raises issues, too. Complications can arise if the two feel like their competing in the role—or one person is consistently dropping the ball. To avoid or mend any of these situations, set a clear plan of responsibilities and expectations between each. For example, one person should plan the engagement party. The other is responsible for the bachelor/bachelorette party.\n\n### Your MOH/BM isn't involved.\nWhoever you choose as a MOH or BM probably knows that the role comes with [a lot of responsibility](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist-maid-of-honor-duties). Still, it’s important to set precedents on both ends from the beginning. If it helps, you can even outline the expectations in writing. If you feel like your right-hand person isn’t holding up their end of the deal, be upfront and nip the issue in the bud right away. You never know, they may have something personal going on that’s distracting them from the role.\n\n## It’s about wedding attire... \nFrom mismatched bridesmaids dresses to unique pocket squares, [wedding party attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/let-bridesmaids-choose-own-dresses) can be a source of excitement—or contention. \n\n### The dresses/suits are expensive.\nWe’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: It can be expensive to be in a wedding party. If you agree to be in a wedding party, you also usually agree to front the cost to look the part—whether that be in a dress or suit. \n\nSometimes this can cause tension as not all party members make or spend money the same way. To help alleviate this, ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen what they can afford. Present them with an anonymous digital survey and try to offer attire options at affordable price points.\n\n### Your party doesn't like the attire.\nWhen you don’t get to pick the clothes you have to wear, sometimes you don’t love the clothes. This is especially true of bridesmaids dresses. If your [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) pushes back against your attire choice, hear them out. Is the concern about the color? Well, truthfully, that’s not up to them. However, if it’s an issue of fit or they feel bad wearing the dress, that’s a little different. \n\nBefore you shop for bridesmaids dresses, poll your party. Ask them what styles or shapes they prefer. You probably won’t be able to find something that checks every box on every list, but at least this way you’re setting yourself up for more success by listening to what your bridal party would like to wear. \n\n![INLINE VictoriaHeerPhotography 1080x720 Spring&David](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/59gHw4qRqyn70Vm670iEee/6de88ee079f3d8399fbf4edbbdfc11f6/INLINE_VictoriaHeerPhotography_1080x720_Spring_David.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Victoria Heer Photography\n\n## It’s about inappropriate behavior...\nSometimes the people we love don’t do things we love. It happens—none of us are perfect, old habits die hard, etc. However, if those behaviors impact your wedding planning or wedding party at large, it’s time to talk about it. \n\n### You're worried about too much drinking.\nWeddings are meant to be fun and receptions are meant to be parties. However, sometimes alcohol can cause things to get out of hand. To avoid drinking in excess (on purpose or by accident), supply your wedding party with food throughout the day, tons of water, and limited sources of alcohol. \n\nFor example, provide a hearty breakfast while you get ready. Ask your party to only have one drink before the ceremony (or none!). Be sure to be upfront with your wedding party, too. Remind them that you’ll have family—of all ages—in attendance. Tell them they’re welcome to party but to keep the antics clean and be responsible for themselves. These small steps can make a big difference in avoiding a scene of any kind later in the night.\n\n### There's lingering drama.\nYour wedding party is usually made up of a group of friends and family that know, well, a lot of about you and, likely, each other. If there are past issues or current problems that you don’t want to be discussed, be sure to make that clear immediately. \n\nIf two of your wedding party members don’t get along perfectly, for example, pull them aside (together or separately) and make it clear that they need to be able to keep their issues far away from your wedding planning process. No, the world doesn’t stop just because you’re planning a wedding, but there are a time and a place for unrelated disputes—and the events leading up to your wedding aren’t either. \n\nWedding party disagreements happen—it's really only natural. However, be upfront and honest with your bridesmaids or groomsmen about your expectations and your feelings. They're there to support you—and they will.","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Pick out a thoughtful gift for the squad that shows up for you on your big day. 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Here are some must-know tips to make your Zoom wedding day more interactive and celebratory for guests near and far. ","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2021-02-10T22:18:39.715Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sKUPMxrRqNInENckFSVnV/f1fe56be9a430162c17b5252066532e5/Hero_Zola__41_.jpg","altText":"Make Your Zoom Wedding More Interactive"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Set aside time after the ceremony for guests to virtually mingle with each other and wish the bride and groom congratulations. \n- Give your virtual guests a reason to don their best looks on your special day and include a dress code in the invitations.\n- Add more interactive features to the wedding ceremony, such as a cue for guests to blow bubbles or toss rose petals for an extra dash of fun.","body":"*__Planning A Wedding During A Pandemic:__ Every wedding planning journey has its twists and turns. To make sure your path is as smooth as possible and to help you keep an eye out for tiny potholes and giant roadblocks, always follow the advice of your local health guidelines and the recommendations set forth by the [CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/). The state of the pandemic can change quickly, but by staying informed, you can make it to your destination—wedded bliss—without a hitch.*\n\nIf you’ve decided to have a [virtual wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-host-a-virtual-wedding-ceremony-with-ease) due to safety or travel restrictions, there’s a good chance you’re trying to figure out how to make it feel more like a celebration and less like a meeting for your guests. Luckily, there are tons of ways to up the “wow” factor on your streamed event and make it feel just as special as an in-person one. If you’re searching for tips to make your Zoom wedding more interactive with guests, look no further. With a few tweaks and a bit of creativity, you’ll have a virtual wedding your loved ones will want to relive again and again.\n\n![Tips to Make Your Zoom Wedding More Interactive With Guests](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KSxXrvrXXCRem70CY18ng/43e75a3dc66c5a03cecb8e0cec7a9e2e/inline_shutterstock_2.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\n## Include a Signature Cocktail Recipe\nMost modern couples opt to have a signature cocktail or two at their celebrations. Just because you’re having a virtual wedding doesn’t mean you need to forego the fun touch. Create signature cocktail cards and send them to each guest a week or so before the wedding. Make sure they include things like ingredients needed and instructions. If you want to make it even easier, add a section to your website with the recipe and include links to where friends and family can purchase the ingredients. \n\n## Send Snacks or Drinks\nIf you’d like to kick things up a notch and your budget permits, send your guests a care package with some snacks to enjoy during the virtual wedding ceremony or at a specified time afterward, just like a sit-down dinner. Include things like wine, cheese, and crackers, sparkling water, or a dessert. You could even send along the ingredients for a home-cooked meal, like pasta or pizza, if you’re missing the dinner portion of the event. There are no rules, so have fun with it and make it your own. \n\n## Have a Virtual Cocktail Hour \nOnce your guests have their drinks and/or snacks, don’t forget to include time to mingle. Lots of couples live to stream their actual marriage ceremony, but part of the fun of a wedding is chatting and relaxing with other guests as well as the newlyweds. After the “I dos,” set aside some time for everyone to chit chat and exchange well wishes. If you’re not sure which virtual platform to use or how, exactly, to coordinate the virtual celebration, chat with your wedding planner about details like distributing links, planned talking points, and/or creating different “rooms” for different things (such as a room to chat with the bride and groom and a room to hang out with other wedding guests).\n\n## Create a Playlist\n\n![Tips to Make Your Zoom Wedding More Interactive With Guests](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/HU8vVIHtQE5raukpMfzCd/0068f8452fd1561beab7c47961e45fe5/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nIf you love to dance or just can’t imagine a celebration without a perfectly curated playlist, be sure to include some music in your virtual event. Think of the vibe you want—whether it’s for your guests to relax with a glass of wine or get up and boogie in their living rooms—and add songs you love. Consider things like your favorite music to listen to at home or meaningful music that has played a part in each of your lives. You can send along with information about the music or have a dance teacher give a virtual lesson so your guests get that dance floor feel from the comfort and safety of their homes. \n\n## Have a Dress Code \nEven if people are hanging out at home, it’s always fun to have a reason to get dressed up. When sending your invitation or [virtual event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-host-your-virtual-event-on-zola) information, be sure to add a line about the [dress code](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding). If you want to give guests even more reason to don their best looks, include your wedding hashtag so they can tag your event and consider reposting their photos. \n\n## Include a Signature Scent\nThe scent is one of the most powerful ways to transform an experience, and it’s a great way to help your guests feel like they’re with you on the big day. Before the celebration, send your guests a specially chosen scented candle. Consider your venue, your wedding vibe, and your style when selecting the scent—think pine for a forest wedding, coconut for a beach wedding, or a spiced apple scent for an autumn event. Ask your guests to refrain from lighting it until the start of your ceremony when the officiant asks the guests to light their candles. Not only will the scent elevate their at-home experience, but the ritual act of lighting it at the same time will help them feel included.\n\n## Make the Ceremony Interactive \nIf you’re looking for more ways to help your guests feel included, consider making your ceremony more interactive. In addition to lighting a candle, this can be anything from sending faux rose petals for them to toss after the “I dos,” bubbles to blow as the bride walks down the aisle, or noisemakers to ring during the first kiss. Make sure to send along a note including the “cues,” so the guests can be on the lookout and be ready for what comes next. \n\n## Don’t Sign Off After the Ceremony\nFinally, while guests enjoy watching a ceremony, it’s usually the moments after they want to be a part of it. From the first dance to the speeches, watching the newly married couple interact and soak up well wishes is usually a big highlight for attendees. While it’s important to stream the ceremony, make sure to keep the feed going into the dances, the speeches, the wedding party, the cake cutting, and even the send-off. While not everyone will want to stick around, those who do will appreciate the opportunity to be a part of the big day and see some of the classic wedding moments unfold in real-time. \n\nMaking your Zoom wedding feel more interactive for guests might seem foreign, but with a little extra planning and creativity, you can create a virtual event guest will be talking about for years to come. \n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. 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How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"Finding the perfect wedding dress can sometimes feel as challenging as finding your soul mate. Luckily we’re here with a quick-and-easy quiz to help you figure out your ideal wedding style.","title":"What’s Your Wedding Dress Style? ","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"duties-of-the-father-of-the-groom","title":"What Does The Groom’s Family Pay For? + Duties List","excerpt":"Learn about the different father of the groom duties with this helpful guide. Read on to discover more.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:39:42.802Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6j6aXC2QuSVpzWVKT0nu9o/6bb939d2d770bb6f2e99c9187a6df26d/Inline_Civicphotos.png","altText":"Father of the Groom"},"heroCredit":"Civic Photos","body":"Seeing your son get married is perhaps one of the most exciting days of any parent's life—and if your son is getting married, you may be wondering what part, exactly, you play in their big day.\n\nIf your son is getting married to a bride, you're in luck; the groom’s parents are often on the more relaxed side of the wedding party—as, at most weddings, there’s typically a bigger spotlight on the [bride's parents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-wedding-cake) on the wedding day. But, this doesn’t mean that the mother or father of the groom’s role is less important. The groom’s parents can make a lot of contributions to help make the wedding fun, successful, and memorable.\n\nIf your son is marrying the groom of his dreams, you can expect to take on more of the spotlight—and more of the responsibilities that go along with it.\n\nWhatever the situation, the groom's parents (whether that's the groom's mother and groom's father, groom's two fathers, groom's two mothers, or a two sets of parents, with a combination of biological and stepparents) get to enjoy witnessing the best day of their son’s life as he marries the love of his life.\n\nIf you’re a parent whose son is getting married, we have listed the things that are expected of you, from the moment he gets engaged up until his wedding day.\n\n![What Should the Father of the Bride Wear?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26mmGU1x2zryKjZWoXLJaw/536b64b915f2c640d951dba5eacd9a3b/inline_unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Before the Wedding\n\nDon’t know what mother or father of the groom duties you'll have before the big day? Here are a few ways you can prep for your son’s wedding day.\n\n### Get to Know Your Future In-laws\nIf you have not been formally introduced to your future son or daughter-in-law’s parents, reach out to them soon, and invite them for lunch or dinner with the entire family to celebrate the couple’s engagement. Getting to know the groom's family or bride’s family before the big day is a great way to merge the two sides.\n\n### Offer Financial Help\nGone are the days when the parents of the bride (or groom) are the ones footing the entire bill. Nowadays, when it comes to [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding), wedding costs are mostly covered by the couple getting married—or, if you have the resources, you can offer to help your son and his soon-to-be-spouse cover some of their wedding-related financial responsibilities.\n\n## What Do The Groom’s Parents Traditionally Pay For?\nIf you do decide to help your son financially, depending on your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), there are a few wedding expenses that, traditionally, the groom's family pays, including:\n\n- __[Wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings)__. This includes the wedding band for both your son and their bride or groom. Worry not, you aren’t expected to pay for anyone’s engagement ring, as well.\n\n- __Marriage License__. Before the wedding can take place, the couple needs to acquire their marriage license. This can be completed before the wedding or signed during the wedding ceremony.\n\n- __Engagement party__. While the parents of the bride [traditionally pay for wedding planning expenses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding) (as well as a bridal shower) and [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-do-bridesmaids-pay-for) contribute to the [bachelorette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-bachelorette-party), the parents of the groom traditionally cover the costs of the engagement party. This event sees loved ones come together to celebrate the engaged couple.\n\n- __Rehearsal dinner__. Likewise, this dinner takes place in the nights before the wedding in celebration of the upcoming wedding.\n\n- __The groom's attire__. Much like it is tradition for a bride’s parents to purchase her wedding dress, it’s good etiquette for a groom’s parents to purchase his wedding attire. This may include a suit or tux, dress shirt, socks, shoes, and/or accessories.\n\n- __Flowers__. This includes, but isn’t limited to, wedding florals such as the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for the groomsmen, corsages, centerpieces, and other decor.\n\n- __The [wedding officiant's](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant) fee__. This covers the money paid to the officiant for performing the wedding, including a tip.\n\n- __Gifts for the best man and groomsmen.__ Often, a groom will be inclined to give wedding gifts to his best man and groomsmen for participating in the wedding. Depending on budget, these can be as affordable or pricy as one likes.\n\n- __Entertainment.__ For example, the wedding band or DJ, a photo booth, or similar that is at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Alcohol for the wedding.__ Be it an open bar, limited bar, or BYOB.\n\n- __Honeymoon costs for the newlyweds.__ This may include flights, accommodations, and excursions.\n\nIf you're not sure what to contribute, sit down with your son and his fiancée so that you can figure out what kind of help they need—and what it makes sense for you to pay for.\n\n### Offer Support to Your Son\nBe available to your son, especially during the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/15281fd5-a93e-44f0-b480-bc0df933b290) process. Getting married is such a big step, and wedding planning can sometimes be chaotic. Be there to give him practical marriage advice and calm his nerves during the planning stage (which he’ll need). You can also offer to help him with wedding planning duties, like researching what he needs to do to obtain his marriage license or helping him narrow down the guest list. (Just make sure not to [overstep your boundaries](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).)\n\nAside from this, you can also use your strengths to help. Are you a builder? You can help with some DIY projects such as building yard games if they’re having the wedding outdoors or creating wedding favors. Do you whip up legendary cocktails? You can help the couple plan their bar menu and develop their signature cocktail. Spending time with the happy couple will give you an idea of what they need and which areas you can be of the most help.\n\n### Host the Engagement Party and/or Rehearsal Dinner\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n### Share Family Traditions\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n![Duties of the Father of the Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7mVr1BiDRI7OO19We69Yuh/7803725dbe2ac67c43d4fb98f854673b/Inline_Taylor_Cotilla_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Taylor Cotilla Photography\n\n## During the Wedding\nThe mother and/or father of the groom's duties isn’t over just yet. As the groom's parent, there's plenty for you to do on your son's big day, including:\n\n### Get Ready With the Groom and Groomsmen\nIf you're the groom's father, you'll want to get ready with your son during the morning of the wedding. Make sure that your son eats in the morning and is prepped and ready on time. (If you're the groom's mother, you won't be getting ready with your son and his groomsmen—but feel free to stop by with breakfast and some words of encouragement before you go get ready yourself.)\n\n### Be Present for Photos\nFamily portraits are done while getting ready and immediately after the wedding ceremony. Make sure you're ready to go for photos—and, if the wedding photographer needs help, offer to go and gather other family members as necessary.\n\n### Walk Down the Aisle\nBoth parents of the groom have a significant role at the ceremony, and they can either walk down the aisle together or with the groom before sitting in the very front of the venue, on the right side. (If you and your son's other parent are separated, you may opt to walk down the aisle separately.)\n\n### Say a Few Words\nAs the groom's parents, you might be asked by the couple to give a wedding toast at the reception. This is your time to “introduce” your son to their new spouse's family by sharing some of his amazing traits, as well as a little bit about his childhood. Your wedding speech will also include thanking the guests for coming and welcoming your son or daughter-in-law into the family.\n\n### Dance With the Bride\nMany weddings have parent dances—and that includes dances for the groom's parents. Traditionally, the mother of the groom does a son dance with the groom.\n\nBut the dancing doesn't end there! Once the party gets underway, make sure that each parent spends some time dancing with your son and his new spouse (for example, if your son married a woman, the father of the groom might ask the bride for a dance).\n\n## Tips to Ask My Parents or In-Laws to Pay for Wedding Things\nPerhaps you’re the son in this case. Though many of these expenses come with a traditional wedding, approaching your parents and asking them to pay for any one (or several) of them isn’t easy. That being said, we’ve compiled a few tips to help you start and carry the conversation.\n\n### Be direct\nThough you may be nervous, avoid talking in circles and beating around the bush. Be straightforward and honest with your intentions and asking.\n\n### Be polite\nThat being said, it’s most important that you remember to be kind. Requesting help with paying for a wedding is no small ask. Be polite, mindful, and appreciative.\n\n### Ask them to be involved\nIf it’s alright with you and your partner, also ask your parents if they’d like to be involved in the matters of planning a wedding they’ll be contributing towards. Let them know that their input is also important to you.\n\n## Conclusion\nAs the groom's parents, the best wedding etiquette you can perform is being there to support your son. Welcoming wedding guests and making sure that everyone is comfortable is always a good idea for the big day. 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","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Here's our checklist of the main to-dos to focus on. \n","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2021-03-12T23:52:12.687Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7pADAauDANJlA1FRu4ZYXC/4355eee1fdd08e2cf47fbb1b0c677809/Hero_Zola__3_.jpg","altText":"wedding planning with zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- In addition to attire, make sure you have your hair and makeup crew accounted for.\n- Send out save-the-dates and start adding gifts to your wedding registry.\n- Now is the time to lock in a florist, videographer, and deejay or musician.\n- Consider attending some premarital counseling sessions to make the transition to married life as smooth as possible.\n- Don’t overlook necessities, like purchasing ceremony rings and booking the honeymoon.\n","body":"When you're six months out from your wedding, it might feel like you’ve got all the time in the world. Others might be feeling the pressure. No matter what emotional state you’re in, having a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) is important for staying organized and will give you the peace of mind that all of your bases are covered.\n\nIf you’ve got half the year to plan, here are our top 12 to-dos:\n\n## 1. Research (and Book) Your Beauty Crew\nIt’s time to narrow down your search and secure your hair and makeup team. Don’t hesitate to book a few trials and play around with some styles if you’re still not sure exactly what you want.\n\n## 2. Say Yes to the Dress (or Suit)\nOr whatever you decide to wear, really. When it comes to attire, it’s time to let your personality shine.\n\n## 3. Schedule Tastings\nFrom macarons to cake varieties, you’ll want to make sure your dessert menu is finalized at least five months before your big day. Now is a great time to attend a few tastings and get a feel for exactly what you like.\n\n## 4. Send Save the Dates\nAs soon as you’ve got a venue secured and a guest list in mind, it’s time to send out your save the dates. Be sure to include essential details like the venue, date, and link to your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Book Your Florist\nIt’s time to graduate from fawning over Pinterest bouquets and finally take the big leap. Whether you’ve got a dream florist in mind or are still on the hunt, you’ll want to check this off your list as soon as you can.\n\n## 6. Start Your Registry\nFrom cooking utensils to a new couch, now is the time to start thinking about what might come in handy after the big day. Luckily, Zola’s registry is super straightforward and home to a wealth of inspiration to get you started.\n\n## 7. Pick Out a Videographer\nIf video is on your radar, now is the time to consider booking a pro. Not only is it a great way to capture some additional footage on your big day, but it’s also something you can reflect on for years to come.\n\n## 8. Research DJs and Musicians\nDepending on how far along you are in the planning process, this is a good time to examine your entertainment options. Whether you’re looking to book a deejay or a musician, now is the time to narrow down your choices and start gathering some quotes.\n\n## 9. Book a Rehearsal Dinner Venue\nAssuming that you only have your wedding venue booked for a single day, you’ll need to secure an additional venue for the rehearsal dinner. Keep in mind that this can be somewhere low key and personal, like a family farm or childhood home.\n\n## 10. Attend Premarital Counseling\nEven if you’ve never done therapy together, don’t be intimidated—premarital counseling can be a great way to strengthen your bond as a couple, while simultaneously preparing you for married life.\n\n## 11. Pick Out Ceremony Rings\nThis is a big one that’s easy to leave until the last minute. Make sure you pick out your rings far enough in advance to add engravings or make any other special customizations.\n\n## 12. Book the Honeymoon\nFor most couples, the wedding isn’t the only big event they’ve got coming up. Be sure not to overlook any important honeymoon details, like booking flights and accommodations or renewing your passports.\n\nThough everyone’s priorities may vary (as well as their sense of urgency), most couples benefit from having a structured timeline attached to their to-dos. And let’s be honest: It always feels good to check one more thing off the list. ","tag":"List","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. 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To get you started, here's our wedding planning checklist and things to consider.","publishedAt":"2021-02-03T17:33:06.699Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AVuIm2AbEIiZ5LPNGXsBQ/aaef55a70fa6b17967732410314700a6/Hero_Zola__24_.jpg","altText":"Small Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Consider your [potential wedding guests list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#list) and who makes the most sense for your intimate wedding.\n- [Wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [catering](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [and activities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue) open up with a smaller guest list. Your expenses may shrink, too, making it so that you stay within your wedding budget still.","body":"There are plenty of benefits for [planning a small wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding). Rather than getting lost in a [myriad of wedding details](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) during the planning process, having fewer guests narrows the focus and helps to create a more intimate environment. In turn, you’re able to direct more energy into celebrating your love and impending partnership. Beyond that, there are other aspects such as saving money with fewer guests to spend on or opening up possibilities such as making a destination wedding and other activities more feasible to stage. Having a simple wedding with fewer guests also makes for a more relaxed wedding planning timeline—and a more stress-free planning process overall. (No need for a wedding planner here!)\n\nIf you’re planning something small and simple for your big day, we’ve created a checklist of important considerations and wedding ideas you’ll want to keep in mind so you can have the ultimate wedding—no matter how many (or few!) guests you ultimately decide to have:\n\n### 1. Guest List Criteria \n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5K2noT8FAnrYdU19Gdh0SZ/3b4f7bb11675a8bfa5a2acb512197a7a/inline_danielle_lentz_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Danielle Lentz Photography\n\nDefining who is significant enough to cut to receive a wedding invitation is key to narrowing down your small wedding guest list. Whether they play an important role specifically to you as the bride and/or groom, narrowing the list isn’t necessarily about exclusivity. It’s about seeking to narrow the focus and magnify those within your life—as an individual or as a couple—who have been key to you in reaching this milestone, whether that be through personal growth and development, support, witness to key events, or whatever else.\n\nSo, before you get too far into wedding planning, narrow down which friends and family members you want to invite and finalize your guest count; that way, you know who to direct towards your wedding website, what RSVPs to expect, and where to put people on your wedding chart.\n\n### 2. Wedding Style\nYour wedding style is the overall look and feel you want to capture at your wedding. And while it will, of course, play a large part in your decor and attire, it will also dictate pretty much every other part of the wedding planning process—from what reception venue to choose to what stylist and makeup artist you want to help you get ready on your big day, what florist you want to do your wedding flowers to wear to host the rehearsal dinner, what playlist you want your DJ to rock on the dance floor to what kind of wedding favors you want to give your guests.\n\nEven though you’re having a small, simple wedding, you still want it to look and feel cohesive—and uniquely you. So, choose your wedding style from the get-go. For example, do you want to go with a classic, romantic wedding theme—or does something more modern feel like a better fit? Do you want to go big and bold—or do you want your style to feel more subtle and understated? \n\nOnce you’ve defined your wedding style, you can use it to dictate all of the rest of your wedding planning choices—from what dresses you want your bridesmaids and flower girls to wear to what kinds of linens you want on your reception tables.\n\n### 3. Venue \nRather than needing a large hall or similar wedding venue that can accommodate a large crowd of 100 or more, a smaller wedding opens up the possibilities of where your ceremony and festivities can take place. Suddenly, a backyard wedding is in play because it can fit your entire guest list without overcrowding. A low-impact outdoor wedding is now possible too and packing out won’t be such a burden with a smaller wedding party. Suddenly, a destination wedding becomes more feasible with fewer guests.\n\nWith a __[wedding venue checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)__, you can choose the location based on what fits your vibe, rather than have it primarily be driven by the numbers game of accommodating a larger crowd. Alternatively, you can still go big in terms of venue size. Perhaps, fill it however you see fit, playing with a small number of guests in an open space to create an atmosphere more akin to a contemporary art installation. \n\n### 4. Picking Out The Outfits\nAt a [small, intimate wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-small-intimate-wedding) (or really, at any wedding!), all eyes are on the happy couple. It’s your own wedding; you deserve to look your best! As such, choosing your wedding attire is a hugely important step in the wedding planning process.\n\nIf you’re a bride, you’ll need to choose a wedding dress, wedding shoes, and any accessories, like a veil and wedding jewelry. Choose a dress that not only makes you feel amazing, but is in line with your overall wedding style (for example, if you’re having a casual backyard wedding, you wouldn’t want to get a dress that’s overly formal.) And keep in mind that you’ll need to leave enough time for your dress to be tailored; ideally, you’ll want to start looking for a dress at least six months before your special day.\n\nIf you’re a groom, you’ll need to look for a tux, a wedding suit, or another look that fits in line with your wedding style (for example, if you’re having a laid-back beach wedding, you might wear a linen shirt and slacks). Generally, grooms have more wiggle room in terms of shopping time—but don’t leave the task of finding your wedding outfit to the last minute. Give yourself at least a few months to lock in the perfect look (and get that look tailored, if needed). \n\nIf you’re having a bridal party, you’ll also want to lock in looks for the bridesmaids and groomsmen well before the wedding—ideally you’ll let them know what they need to wear at least a few months before the big day. That way, they have time to find their clothing, buy or rent the necessary items, and get them fitted and/or tailored as necessary.\n\n### Catering\nSimilar to venue choice, a smaller guest list often opens up dining options. Places that might not have the capacity to cater to a large wedding may now be available. Similarly, approaching favorite restaurants that don’t traditionally offer event catering may now be open to your smaller gathering.\n\nAnother benefit to a smaller wedding plan is that you’ll be paying for fewer people, thus fewer plates. This may enable you to save money in the budget overall or to splurge elsewhere. It also may mean that you can go gourmet since you’ll be spreading your wedding budget among fewer people, and you can opt for spendier catering than if you were feeding 100 people. (Just make sure to book a caterer who does tastings; that way, you can try the food before your wedding—and make sure it’s the right fit for you, your partner, and your guests.)\n\n### 6. Activities\nCurating an experience for your guests to participate in is more feasible with fewer guests. For example, a group rafting outing suddenly becomes more tenable when you’re able to fit the entire guest list on a flotilla of only three rafts. Planning for an on-the-go lunch is suddenly easier and more transportable, too. Perhaps a pre-wedding bonfire? A smaller guest list means you can see all of their faces around the flame of the campfire.\n\nWhereas the bachelorette party and bachelor parties tend to be the only added, experiential component of a wedding other than the wedding ceremony and wedding reception itself, with a smaller guest list, you can create an experience all of your wedding guests can enjoy!\n\n### 7. Accommodation\nWill you have guests coming from out of town? Will your guests all be sequestered together at the destination of your choosing? With fewer guests, wedding tasks such as arranging accommodation becomes less of a headache. Maybe you’re having a getaway wedding, which requires your guests to travel out of town to attend. Whether or not you’re making reservations on behalf of your guests or if they’re handling them individually, trying to find enough availability is less of a hassle if there are fewer people that need bookings for your wedding date. Alternatively, it might make sense to rent out the entirety of a boutique hotel for all guests to stay at if your numbers are low enough. Having everyone in semi-communal housing during the event can help extend the experience to something more all-encompassing than merely a wedding ceremony, creating further opportunities for guests to bond.\n\n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IsJ0ttxh1pf21Ae3xHhIc/2315c286d7c1cad577a662c1f96535b4/inline_little_but_fierce_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Little But Fierce Photography\n\nPlanning a small wedding can open up bigger possibilities that would otherwise be off the table with larger numbers. Lean into the aspect of it being small, and craft a special experience that allows you to highlight the best aspects of your relationship and share them with those closest to you.\n\n*Planning a more elaborate affair—or need more support and structure on your wedding planning journey?* *Make sure to check out [Zola’s ultimate wedding planning checklist and timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)!*\n","tag":"Inspiration","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Planning a bachelorette party can be easy! With the help of our bachelorette party checklist, planning a bach weekend is a breeze. 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Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"Finding the perfect wedding dress can sometimes feel as challenging as finding your soul mate. Luckily we’re here with a quick-and-easy quiz to help you figure out your ideal wedding style.","title":"What’s Your Wedding Dress Style? ","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding decorations","slug":"wedding-decorations"},"slug":"average-cost-of-wedding-decorations","title":"Average Cost of Wedding Decorations","excerpt":"Wedding decoration costs can include everything from flowers, to string lights and tablecloths. Read on to find out the average cost of wedding decorations.","author":"Jane Chertoff","publishedAt":"2020-12-09T17:40:01.539Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/uG1PQToQn3ZIW9nbuVNuC/6c886faeea9a1d9bf3c1acd387c40666/inline_unsplash__9_.jpg","altText":"Average Cost of Wedding Decorations"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"On average, wedding decorations can range from $2,000 to $10,000. This average decor budget can include flowers, centerpieces, ceremony decor, and more. With that in mind, the average cost of wedding decorations can vary greatly, depending on where you’re getting married and how opulent you want to go. For a bare-bones DIY wedding ceremony in a natural setting like the beach, you might spend as little as $500, but if you’re hosting an over-the-top event in a large city venue, you could be looking at a bill of $20,000 or more. \n\n## How Much Do Wedding Decorations Cost? \nFor an outdoor wedding, expect to spend $200 to $3000 for the ceremony and $1,000 to $15,000 for the reception. Indoor weddings are a bit pricer, costing an average of $500 to $5,000 for the ceremony and greatly varying for the reception. To get an idea of how much the decorations will cost you, be sure to tally up everything carefully. This includes everything from the ceremony [floral wedding arch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-arches-with-flowers-cost), to string lights, to floral centerpieces. (Ask your [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner) or venue coordinator for an itemized list of wedding decor costs, so there are no surprises.) And don’t forget to include any labor costs associated with setup and breakdown.\n\nTo give you a better ballpark, here’s a closer look at the average cost of wedding decorations.\n\n### Average Wedding Decor Costs\n\nThese numbers can vary widely depending on how many guests you’re having, where you’re getting married, and how much you’ve budgeted for decor. With that in mind, average wedding decor costs include:\n\n- Flowers: $500 to $12,000\n- Centerpieces: $50 to $500 per table\n- Tablecloths or runner: $20 to $80 per table\n- Chargers: $8 to $10 each\n- Lighting: $200 to $5,000\n- Candlesticks: $10 each\n- Photo booth backdrop: $100 to $1,500\n- [Welcome sign](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas): $10 to $50\n- Aisle runner: $30 to $200\n- Ceremony arch: $75 to $1,000 (with flowers)\n\nCheck in with your wedding venue about decor, too. See if any of the costs noted above—like tablecloths or chargers—are already included in your wedding package. You can also look online for recycled wedding decor and DIY some of these decorations yourself.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Outdoor Wedding Ceremony\n\nPlanning to tie the knot in a beautiful setting outdoors? One of the top benefits is that a lot of the decor is likely already in place. (Thanks, mother nature!) Whether it’s the swaying palm trees on the beach or the evergreens in the woods, the setting will speak for itself—all you need to do is enhance it.\n\nYou’ll still need to rent chairs, which you can decorate with simple sashes or ribbons. And you may want an aisle runner and an arch to say your vows under. Keep flowers simple and, if you need extra lighting, add candles, twinkle lights, or lanterns. \n\nTo decorate an outdoor wedding ceremony, expect to spend: $200 to $3,000.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Outdoor Wedding Reception\n\n![Average Cost of Wedding Decorations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46u5rWHC0OLMqqHP507A0A/010a1000866e995c9b9d0215944e1334/inline_unsplash__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nHow much it’s going to cost to decorate your outdoor reception depends on what type of amenities are already in place. It will also depend on how many guests you have and how much decor you want. For example, if you’re renting a large tent or dining outdoors after dark, you may have to pay for bistro and/or string lights so guests can see. These may cost up to $3,000 to install professionally. You may also want paper lanterns, flowers, tablecloths, chandeliers, candles, and other [wedding reception lighting](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lantern-wedding-centerpieces-to-light-up-your-wedding).\n\nTo decorate an outdoor wedding reception, expect to spend: $1,000 to $15,000.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Indoor Wedding Ceremony\nFor an indoor wedding ceremony, you may want to add an arch, flowers, aisle runner, candles, lanterns, or other decor. These elements can help add some ambiance to an otherwise plain room. But if you are getting married in a beautiful church, mosque, or temple, you may not need much in terms of decorations. (Just let these beautiful venues speak for themselves!)\n\nTo decorate an indoor wedding ceremony, expect to spend: $500 to $5,000, depending if you’re going DIY or all out with the decor.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Indoor Wedding Reception\nIndoor receptions may take place in a ballroom, restaurant, historic building, or even a museum. Consider the location and ambiance before you decide on any decorations, and ask to see photos from other weddings at the space, so you can get an idea of what decor you need. For example, some rooftop venues with a view may require less decor than a hotel ballroom that’s a completely blank space.\n\nTo decorate an indoor wedding reception, the cost will [vary, depending on how much decor is required and what your wedding budget allows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget).\n\n### The Cost of Cultural Wedding Decoration\n\nCultural and religious decorative elements are another cost to factor into your wedding budget. Some examples are listed below.\n\nChuppah for Jewish ceremony: $350 to $1,500\nVarmala (or Jaimala) garlands for an Indian wedding: $60 to $200\nRed paper lanterns for a Chinese wedding: about $25 for 20 lanterns\nPapel Picado flags for a Mexican wedding: about $5 per bunting\n\nLooking for more decor inspo? Visit [Zola’s Expert](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) Advice for all the ideas you’ll need.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"There are lots of options for lighting for your big day. 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. Shop for thematic save-the-dates, invitations, and decor elements on Zola’s [Wedding Boutique](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop).\n\n![wedding-themes-alternative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KF7Kfp5f2WR1PH2XgqoAt/98fa5d92d309df258f4f4975d8ba1323/wedding-theme-alternative.png)\n\nSources: [Uriel Photography](http://www.uriel-photography.com/) | [Michelle Edgemont](https://michelleedgemont.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In this wedding style guide, find out why thinking about your wedding style early on will help you in your planning, and how to use Zola Inspiration to discover your own personal wedding vision. 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These mason jar cocktail kits are the perfect solution to showing you care without too much fuss. \n","publishedAt":"2019-07-22T16:20:34.333Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ctk29C6DAnK7Wfxh7hAln/3c28f31551ebe64246f2702ceef9cd6d/zola-mason-jar-group-3-min.jpg","altText":"Mason-jar-cocktails"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Putting together favors for your wedding or bachelorette party is the perfect way to show your appreciation for your [friends and family](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Even so, when it comes down to actually giving a gift to each attendee, things can get overwhelming quick. \n\nSo, we put together these DIY mason jar cocktail kits. Whether you’re a margarita maven or cider connoisseur, these kits are a super simple way to make your guests feel warm and welcome (we mean before putting them to use!) Keep reading to learn how to make the cocktail kits or skip to all the recipes below. \n\n## How to Make a Mason Jar Cocktail Kit\n\nBefore you start, make sure to get an [accurate count](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-politely-remind-guests-to-rsvp) of the number of guests you expect to attend. It also never hurts to have a few extra. Then, gather your materials:\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-materials](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2OTTnN2t9VHz0HbTpWE2Oc/5373a7528f2289fd1be782788c597e98/mason-jar-cocktails-materials.png)\n\n- __Mason jar__: You can go large or small, but at least a pint or quart-sized jar will be perfect for most cocktails.\n- __Straw:__ Match the straw with the cocktail, or provide a straw in a contrasting color for a vibrant pop.\n- __Scissors__: You'll need scissors to cut the twine or string, as well as any gift tags you may attach.\n- __Twine__: Use twine, string, yarn, or even a ribbon (for a more refined look) to tie on the tag and mini liquor bottles.\n- __Drink tag__: Attach a tag to thank guests for coming, and let them know how to make their kits. We made printable tags for you! \n- __Mixers__: Some drinks will only require one ingredient, while others may need extras like simple syrup or tabasco. Depending on your cocktail, you may have to get creative to fit everything in the jar. \n- __Liquor__: The smallest bottle you can find at the store, typically 1.7 oz or about 50ml will be just the right size to tie on the outside of your kit.\n\n### Step 1: Add some small accents like paper filling or confetti for a stylish flair. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/J2pSq4gGdnwnCQNpzONeS/c2b850628b16ef06da2a6ec515e6c206/mason-jar-cocktails-step-1.jpg)\n \n### Step 2: Place your mixer and any extra ingredients like Tabasco inside the jar\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3T5916pceBY1ZnTqZg1F3j/5ddf7ca5b8a1aa2780e3ab0acff5b3b4/mason-jar-cocktails-step-2.jpg)\n\n### Step 3: Insert the straw, securing it in a position where it will stay put. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3wA4LdKsWmPeJwN7PDrvF5/9c6b19e68db6bc812ea2491a1ea1f90b/mason-jar-cocktails-step-3.jpg)\n\n### Step 4: Attach a gift tag around the grooves of the jar and tie a knot.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-4](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3aef8Qdwz9BSiTfShubyrV/57caad7c50817ddbad4bf35518528769/mason-jar-cocktails-step-4.jpg)\n\n### Step 5: Hold your liquor to the knot and tie it just below the cap.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-step-5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/v59bYskLskrAfnIy6Evx2/be4d16a0249bf77ed71a35877e5d9fe0/mason-jar-cocktails-step-5.jpg)\n\n### Step 6: Admire!\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3qYfjBnttrPU6hlS0qb3u/169ffe7867bf850c64ae7b00ef978b9e/mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary.jpg)\n\nIt's that simple. Just repeat the process for the number of guests, and you'll have charming party favors for everyone in no time.\n\nTry out your personal favorite cocktail, or keep reading for more mason jar cocktail kit recipe ideas:\n\n## Bubbling Bride\n\nThis lime-less take on a Moscow Mule is perfect the perfect sparkling drink for an outdoor wedding. The light flavor and fizz of the ginger beer will be a welcome refreshment on a warm afternoon. For a clever ode to this cocktail’s usual copper mug, try tying in a copper straw. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-bubbling-bride](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3pj3gXxCdRyBcufMxTTYE/9c82dc9c174e181184aa7fded5b530f4/mason-jar-cocktails-bubbling-bride.jpg)\n\nWhat you’ll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Copper straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Ginger beer\n- 1.7 oz mini vodka\n\n__Mix it up:__ Not a fan of vodka? You can swap out the liquor for any other. Tequila makes a Mexican Mule, and bourbon makes a Kentucky Mule. Gin and whiskey also work! For a refined flair, try adding sprigs of lavender and a little container of lavender simple syrup. \n\nFor a bit more of a splash, you can include a powdered drink flavor packet. Cranberry and watermelon work especially well!\n\n## Apple of My Eye\n\nPlanning a winter occasion? Warm your guest’s hearts and hands with these spiked hot apple cider kits. Throw in a cinnamon stick, and you have the perfect cool-weather treat or [groomsmen gift](https://groomsmengiftideas.com/). \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-apple-of-my-eye](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3w36Pj6x2TO4nQj9TilNWb/3cfe4bfc7a700b43b5d5e20d1c054624/mason-jar-cocktails-apple-of-my-eye.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Cinnamon stick\n- Drink tag\n- 1.7 oz spiced rum\n- Hot apple cider packet\n\n__Mix it up__: Supply a bit of caramel flavoring, and you have yourself the liquid equivalent of a candied apple. Another fall favorite, maple syrup also pairs well with hot apple cider, lending it a decadent spin.\n\n## Blissful Mary\n\nStart your union off right with this uncomplicated take on a Bloody Mary. Still packed with plenty of spice, this kit is sure to impress even the most discerning guest. The jar contains everything you need to achieve this satisfying cocktail, with way less prep.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3qYfjBnttrPU6hlS0qb3u/169ffe7867bf850c64ae7b00ef978b9e/mason-jar-cocktails-blissful-mary.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need: \n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Mini tabasco\n- V8 vegetable juice\n- 1.7 oz mini vodka\n\n__Mix it up:__ As garnishes go, the bloody mary has seen it all. From celery to bacon, to full-on burgers, this cocktail goes great with anything savory. Swap the tabasco for Sriracha for a Thai twist. \n\nTo transform this cocktail into a tropical treat, skip the heavy V8 vegetable juice and pick up V8 Splash instead. Pair it with a little bottle of Malibu and your guests will be able to hear the ocean in their jars. \n\n## Mason Mar-jar-ita\n\nNothing beats the sweet and sour combo of a tasty margarita. This margarita in a jar will fit right in at a springtime party or wedding. \n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-mar-jar-rita](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VngcjghdaXtsS2TrU2PMZ/dd49751db33adfb6093786158de95e0d/mason-jar-cocktails-mar-jar-rita.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need:\n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- 8 oz margarita mix can\n- 1.7 oz tequila\n\n__Mix it up__: As one of the most re-mixed drinks around, there’s no shortage of creative ways to do something new. Shake things up by adding some flavor packets in strawberry or raspberry.\n\n## Pop the Question\nIf you’re a fan of brunch drinks, this Bellini-inspired cocktail is perfect for you. These are the perfect favor for a bachelorette party or girl’s day. Just pop the tab on some sparkling wine, add in peach-flavored vodka, and you and your besties can enjoy a bubbly beverage any time of day.\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-pop-the-question](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UIMTYXPOY4reNiezPM8Wo/2acaa0407a862f71a9997b0bdb77e441/mason-jar-cocktails-pop-the-question.jpg)\n\nWhat you'll need:\n- Mason jar\n- Straw\n- Scissors\n- Twine\n- Drink tag\n- Can of sparkling wine\n- 1.7 oz Peach flavored vodka\n\n__Mix it up__: Here’s the secret to sparkling wine: you can add any juice to it (or none!). Substitute the vodka for orange juice,pineapple juice, grapefruit juice, or peach juice. If you prefer bubbly beverages, swap the white wine for champagne or rosé!\n\n## Cocktail Kit Gift Tags\n![mason-jar-cocktails-all](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3RCUHEyYscGAtvqAFwrEo9/8349db4620d8f32b0bc212a952af20d3/mason-jar-cocktails-all.jpg)\n\nAfter you’ve collected your ingredients, packaged everything, and tied it all in a nice bow, there’s still something missing: gift tags. Take your mason jar to the next level with a gift tag that lets your guests know how much you [care about them](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop)!\n\nWe went ahead and made them for you!\n\n $\"mason-jar-cocktails-download-button\"$

\n\n\n## Cocktail Recipes\n\nIf your wedding or party date is still far off, save a copy of these recipes so you can whip them up when it's time. They make a great touch for backyard or birthday parties, or even just as a personal treat. Here are all the recipes again below:\n\n![mason-jar-cocktails-infographic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dQ34zAO2j1dfAAytryGwT/9fec86f34f04d97113e9a9df1d4ea380/mason-jar-cocktails-infographic.png)","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:51:48.084Z"}],"name":"Wedding decorations","slug":"wedding-decorations","description":"Planning your wedding decorations and theme just might be the best part. Whether you're searching for beautiful ceremony backdrops, color palette inspo, or unique and trendy ideas, you'll find the inspiration you need to create a picture-perfect celebration."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. 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Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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