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Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through.

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How to Talk to Friends Who Weren't Invited to Your Wedding

You can't invite everyone to your wedding—for a number of reasons. Read on to learn how to talk to friends who aren't invited to your wedding, tactfully.

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What is a Micro Wedding? Everything to Know about Smaller Ceremonies

If you’re excited to have a wedding but don’t want the $30,000 price tag, a micro wedding, minimony, elopement, or sequel wedding may be the answer.

The Reality of Planning a Wedding While Grieving

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What to Expect When Planning a Wedding While Grieving

Grief experts at Lantern sit down with four Zola couples to get their take on dealing with grief during wedding planning, plus offer advice to those looking to honor their loved ones during their big day.

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Everything You Need to Know About Wedding Ushers

A wedding usher can be a great addition to your wedding party. Read on to learn more about what wedding ushers do on the big day.

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Can You Have Two Maids of Honor?

Not sure how to choose one maid of honor? Ask yourself why you're having trouble deciding and get advice from the pros to help you make the final decision.

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What is the Benefit of a Prenup: Is it a Good Idea?

A prenup is a protection of assets in a marriage. We have a guide to the benefits of a prenup, so read on.

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What to Look for in a Wedding Vendor Contract

Getting ready to sign a wedding vendor contract? Learn about the important details to look for with this complete guide.

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How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have?

Your bridal party is a huge part of your big day, but how many bridesmaids should you have? Keep reading for more details.

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Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests

Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.

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March Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know

Love is in full bloom! Here's your complete guide to weddings in the first month of the spring season.

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What to Expect at a Ghanaian Wedding

Find out what to expect from a traditional Ghanaian wedding. Be prepared for a beautiful celebration filled with regal clothing, symbolic traditions, and more.

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How to Host a Virtual Wedding Event (With Ease!)

Hosting a virtual wedding or another ceremony online? Make it easy with our guide to hosting a virtual wedding with ease.

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While you shouldn’t feel bad that you can’t include everyone—venues have limits and [so does your wallet](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-ways-cut-wedding-costs)—there are certainly better and worse ways to let someone know their invite isn’t in the mail. Here’s exactly what to say to friends who aren’t invited to your wedding. \n\n## You can’t afford it.\n[Weddings can be expensive](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding). While it’s possible to get hitched on a budget, every guest still costs you and your partner money. Shrinking your [guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list) is one of the easiest [ways to cut costs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-ways-cut-wedding-costs). Your friends who aren’t invited may understand this from the jump—or they may come directly to you and ask why they weren’t invited. It’s important to reiterate how important they are to you, but explain external factors were at play. \n\n__What to say:__ Always start off positive and validate your friend's feelings. You can say, “I really value our friendship and wanted you there, but unfortunately, due to our budget, we weren’t able to invite everyone. I hope you understand and know that I would love to celebrate with you on our own at a later date.” \n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/TWquCdXHz5KRrj2GYYadF/ff194ad849f97265f7de7a794200af32/INLINE_Unsplash_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## You’re worried about their behavior.\nThis is a touchy subject, but sometimes you don’t want to invite someone because of their undesirable behavior. Maybe your old frat brother really takes advantage of open bars—in a way that may distract from your night, or maybe you have a friend prone to constant gossip. Whatever the behavior, if you don’t want it at your wedding, you don’t need to have it. \n\n__What to say:__ If you’re comfortable being direct (and kind!), you can tell the person that because of their past behavior, they’re unfortunately not invited to your wedding. There’s a good chance the person is aware of their less-than-appropriate actions, so the news shouldn’t come as a total shock. Still, be gentle. This can also be a good opportunity for you to address any awkwardness or tension, and hopefully, even clear the air. \n\nSay something along the lines of, “You are a very special person in my life, but unfortunately because of [insert behavior here], we decided it was best to not have you at our wedding. I hope you can understand where we are coming from, and realize this was a hard decision to make.” \n\n## You’re not as close anymore.\nFriendships take different forms over the years, and you may not be as close to your college roommates, for example, today as you were back then. There may also be friends who invited you to their wedding years ago, but since then, you’ve lost touch. Just because you once had a close bond with someone doesn’t mean they automatically should be on your guest list. \n\n__What to say:__ Former close friends may feel hurt by the lack of invite so it’s important to talk to them with compassion. Say, “I value you as a friend and we’ve been through a lot together over the years. Because of the nature of our wedding, unfortunately, we couldn’t include everyone from our circles—even though we wish we could! I would love to catch up with you after the wedding and go for dinner.”\n\n## They’re your coworkers. \nFirst things first: You don’t need to invite anyone from work if you don’t want to. While you may have a good relationship with coworkers or your boss, if you don’t have a friendship outside of work, there’s no need for them to come to your wedding. It’s also perfectly OK to invite one or two of your closest work pals and no one else. Again, this is your wedding and you can invite who you’d like. That being said, it can be awkward if your coworkers know you’re getting married, and continually ask you about your wedding planning.\n\n__What to say:__ If you’re having an intimate wedding, tell them that. You can say, “We’re keeping our wedding very small, strictly close family and friends. I’ll be sure to fill you in and show you photos once I return from my honeymoon.” You can also suggest post-wedding celebratory drinks with your colleagues. Pick a bar near the office and make the invite open. \n\n![INLINE Unsplash 1080 x 720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/QbrVtifMctbSz1kZBBY9C/70cc5dca469dc6a7f49366ada84e253e/INLINE_Unsplash_1080_x_720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## They’re distant relatives or there’s family drama. \nMaybe your mom doesn’t speak to her sister or you aren’t close with your second cousin. Distant relatives or family members who have tension with your immediate clan may not get an invite. This is a touchier conversation to have because family may feel offended if others are included and they aren’t.\n\n__What to say:__ If you aren’t close to a family member but your parents are, however, your mom or dad may be the best one to explain the decision. If the uninvited person brings it up to you, you can simply say, “We’re so lucky to have so many family members, but unfortunately we couldn’t invite them all. We would love to see you for a celebration after the wedding.”\n\nIf there’s a relative that doesn’t get along well with others, or you’ve had a falling out with, they probably know why they aren’t getting a save-the-date. If you need to address the topic with them you can say, “I wish we were able to have you at our wedding, but due to circumstances, we are unable to have you there. Hopefully, in the future we will be able to celebrate as a family.”\n\n## Post-wedding Solutions\nIf there were quite a few guests you couldn’t include on your big day, you may want to have a post-wedding celebration, like a backyard potluck or cocktail party at your home. That way, you can invite a group of people who missed your wedding and have a mini-celebration. \n\nSeeing friends one-on-one is also a great way to smooth over any hard wedding feelings as a catch-up over dinner offers those unable to attend your nuptials your undivided attention. \n\nIt’s important to remember, however, that if a guest is upset they aren’t invited to your wedding, it’s not up to you to justify your choice or apologize profusely. Be compassionate and listen to their feelings, but also be confident in your decision. As long as you and your spouse are at your nuptials, your most important guests are accounted for. ","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Registry"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"It's a common question and the answer isn't always straightforward. 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Everything to Know about Smaller Ceremonies","excerpt":"If you’re excited to have a wedding but don’t want the $30,000 price tag, a micro wedding, minimony, elopement, or sequel wedding may be the answer.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-01T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/azgE0Oum7s7kn26YUgRfJ/1aeed51b263d54b8200d89838adde3ff/Micro-Weddings-Minimonies-and-Elopements-Which-is-Right-for-You.jpg","altText":"newlywed couple smiling at each other in a circle graphie"},"heroCredit":"Le Image","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- What is a micro wedding?\n - How big is a micro wedding?\n - How much does a micro wedding cost?\n- Should you have a micro wedding?\n- How to plan a micro wedding\n- Other types of micro weddings\n - What is a minimony?\n - What is a sequel wedding?\n - Should we just elope?","body":"\nMicro weddings are smaller versions of traditional weddings meant for 50 people or fewer. Use this guide to decide if a micro wedding is right for you.\n\nIn the throes of wedding planning, it’s not uncommon for couples to think about throwing in the towel and eloping. Between the stress of choosing vendors, staying under budget, and managing expectations from family members, going with a smaller [wedding style](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style) might sound like the better, less stressful option. \n\nThe good news? What was once considered a less common alternative to the traditional big wedding soiree, micro weddings are now embraced in the wedding industry as a common, favorable option (many wedding venues are even offering micro wedding packages!)\n\nAs an alternative to larger weddings, intimate celebrations like micro weddings, minimonies, elopements, and plans for sequel weddings have become more popular for couples across the country (and the world!).\n\nIf you’re thinking of getting married on a smaller scale, use this guide to decide which option is right for you.\n\n## What is a micro wedding?\n \n\nMicro weddings are smaller versions of traditional weddings—typically with 50 or fewer guests. Just like a larger wedding, a micro wedding event timeline will start with the ceremony, followed by a cocktail hour and reception, and will include all the traditions that are important to the couple.\n\n__Real Couples:__ “We both feel like we got all of the best parts of a wedding ceremony and reception without all the stress and excessive cost. If we could do it all over again, pandemic or no, we would opt for the intimacy of the smaller ceremony.” - Robert and Carly\n\n---\n\n![micro-wedding-moodboard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6BvCOY0FrkDNhuciDdnjjA/ddf290a01c7cee9c00f3bfb1c759ed6e/micro-wedding-moodboard.jpg)\n\n### How big is a micro wedding?\n \nA micro wedding typically includes 50 or fewer guests, with an average number of guests coming in around 30. But there's really no minimum figure when it comes to planning a micro-wedding. It could just be you, your other half, a handful of family members, and some of your closest friends.\n\n### How much does a micro wedding cost?\n \nThe average wedding cost for 50 guests in 2023 is between $1,500 to $10,000. However, it’s definitely possible to hold a micro wedding without spending $10k. In contrast, the [average wedding in the U.S. costs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding) around $30,000, based on a wedding size of 100 guests.\n\n### Should you have a micro wedding?\n \nIf you’re looking for a way to celebrate big on a smaller scale, sit down with your partner to talk through the pros and cons and make sure your goals are the same.\n\n__Pros__\n\n- You can have a more personal and intimate wedding ceremony experience with your guests, those that matter most to you. \n- If large crowds and being the center of attention isn’t your thing, smaller ceremonies can limit anxiety.\n- You can save time and money on planning the wedding.\n- You can be more creative and flexible with your venue, style, timing and traditions. Maybe now you can splurge on a [small destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-have-a-small-destination-wedding).\n- You’ll have more money in your budget for the things that matter most to you. Longer honeymoon, anyone?\n\n__Cons__\n\n- You may not be able to invite everyone on your initial guest list. This could cause some tension or disappointment among family members or friends.\n- Your cost-per-head may end up being more expensive depending on your venue and traditions.\n- If you had your heart set on a large wedding, you may miss out on some of the excitement and energy that comes with it.\n\n## How to plan a micro wedding\n \nAs more couples host micro weddings, the benefits of having this type of event, pandemic or not, are becoming more celebrated. With fewer people comes a lower cost, simplified logistics, and more time spent with each guest. If you and your partner are planning a micro wedding, use these tips to turn it into the day of your dreams.\n\n1. Limit your guest list.\n\nThe most difficult part of planning a micro wedding is choosing the guest list. Since a micro wedding size is 50 people or fewer, only send invitations to your closest friends and family. When deciding who to invite, ask yourself the question, “Can I imagine my wedding without them?” If the answer is yes, consider saving that invite for someone else. Check out this article for more [tips on how to stick to a small guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n2. Let people know you're hosting a micro wedding.\n\nIf you were originally planning a larger event, there are a good number of people you were planning to invite to your wedding that now aren't going to be receiving invitations. And if you want to prevent any hurt feelings or misunderstandings, it’s a good idea to let people know that you've decided to have a much smaller event.\n\n3. Choose your space.\n\nWith 50 people or fewer, your venue options are endless. You and your love can host your nuptials anywhere from [small ceremony venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) to a private beach. To pick the best spot, talk to your partner about places that make you both happiest and use those places as inspiration.\n\n---\n\n__Real Couples:__ “We were able to really focus on the main reason why we were having the event in the first place — to celebrate our marriage and commitment to each other. I have zero regrets and we will no longer be having a large wedding because our intimate ceremony and reception turned out to be everything we could have wanted. It’s easy to get distracted by the flowers, event decor, band, and venue, but in the end, it's all about you, your partner, and your love for each other.” - Caroline Zalla\n> \n\n---\n\n4. Hire some help.\n\nJust because the event is small doesn’t mean that you don’t need help. If there’s room in the budget, we recommend hiring vendors to make your day extra special. With a smaller guest count, you can enjoy higher quality catering, wedding cake, and drinks, and there will be more money in the budget for the things that matter most to you—whether that's an amazing florist, the most delicious food and cocktails, an incredible wedding photographer, or the wedding dress of your dreams.\n\n5. Make it your own.\n\nOnce you send your wedding invites, find your venue and book your vendors, it’s time to finalize all the details that will make your wedding your own. Whether you want to exchange personal vows or start a beach-side surfing session, celebrate in meaningful ways with your closest friends and family.\n\n6. Make time for your in-person guests...\n\nOne of the best parts of having a micro wedding is the extra time you get with your guests. In a traditional wedding, couples may only have a few minutes to speak with each person before they need to move on to the next. With a micro wedding, it’s much easier to have quality time with each guest.\n\n7. ...and don't forget the guests who can't be there.\n\nBy definition, hosting a micro wedding means scaling back your guest list. But just because some of your wedding guests won't be able to join the festivities in person doesn't mean you don't want to include them at all (they made your original guest list for a reason!)\n\nLook for ways to celebrate your upcoming nuptials with the people you aren't able to host in-person at your micro wedding. For example, if you decided to limit your micro wedding to family members, you might host a Zoom celebration with your friends a few days before the event. Or, if you don't want anyone to miss out on your \"I do's,\" you can livestream your wedding ceremony—and send a link to all the guests you would have invited to a larger wedding so they can join in on your big day virtually.\n\n---\n\n__*We’ve got all the best [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) (completely free!) to help you plan a wedding of any size. Find everything you need to plan the wedding you want with Zola.*__\n\n---\n\nDoes a micro wedding still feel like too big of an event to manage? Not to worry; you have other, even more intimate options for your wedding ceremony and reception—starting with a minimony.\n\n## Other types of micro weddings\n \nRemember, it’s your big day. If a traditional micro wedding doesn’t work for you and your partner, these other options may be just what you’re looking for…\n\n### What is a minimony?\n \nMinimonies are similar to micro weddings but on a much smaller scale. Minimonies are small gatherings of 10 people or fewer. They include immediate family, close friends, and a few vendors like an officiant and photographer. Their size and intimacy make them the perfect way to honor your big day.\n\nTo host a minimony, gather an officiant, photographer, and your closest loved ones, such as parents, siblings, or best friends, and head to a ceremony location. This can be on the beach or in your backyard, as long as it feels special. Once you’re there, exchange your vows, take photos, and soak in every second of this special moment with your partner and loved ones.\n\nReal Couples: “Our beach ceremony was intimate, meaningful, and low stress. Our words were for one another, without distraction. My memory is filled with my beloved, our children, the sea, snow-clad mountains in the distance, and our beautiful circle on the beach.” - Stacy and Markus\n\nIf a micro wedding or minimony sounds good for now—but you still want to celebrate with friends and family at a later date–sequel weddings are a great way to have the best of both worlds.\n\n![minimony-wedding-moodboard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FbMgf8WlmTBqGcvCEO2vE/b5a6031bb6262336f072bf93bd7469ac/minimony-wedding-moodboard.jpg)\n\n### What is a sequel wedding?\n \n\nSequel weddings are large celebrations in honor of a couple that's already been married in a smaller ceremony. When a couple elopes or hosts a minimony, they can throw a sequel wedding at a later date. These events can take place one week, one month, or years after a couple officially gets married.\n\nSequel weddings are a great compromise because they give you the knowledge that you'll be celebrating your marriage with all the important people in your life in the future—which can make it easier to enjoy a smaller, more intimate event in the present.\n\nYour sequel wedding can be similar to a traditional wedding reception or it could be completely unique to you and yours. Choose a venue large enough to host your guests, and decide on your timeline and get ready to celebrate!\n\n### Should we just elope?\n \n\nFor some couples, the thought of hosting an event of any size can feel overwhelming. Or maybe you always envisioned a private ceremony for just you and your partner. If this sounds like you, the best option might be to elope.\n\nWhen you think of elopements, images of couples running to city hall or heading to a dreamy mountaintop might pass through your mind. While these options are romantic and beautiful, there are so many ways to celebrate your union with an elopement.\n\nElopements are intimate unions, typically between the couple, an officiant, and a witness. If you and your partner want to get married quickly or just prefer to share this special moment in private, this might be the best choice for you.\n\n---\n\n __Real Couples__: “The biggest benefit of an elopement to me is that I’ve really been able to take back my wedding day! Even with a small wedding, others wanted to have a say in how things were planned or who was invited. Now that it’s just going to be the two of us and we can really do whatever we want. I’m looking forward to having our special day being just about us and the commitment we’re making to one another, which is what a wedding should be about in the first place!” - Kim Hefner \n\n---\n\n![elopement-wedding-moodboard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Xt24ToYew20FLz6AMVyHA/8c0037a7f3764cf010f6fe0f81e0334d/elopement-wedding-moodboard.jpg)\n\n## To recap\nA micro wedding is similar to a traditional wedding, just for a smaller group; generally, micro weddings have 50 or fewer people in attendance.\n\nA minimony is an intimate affair with 10 or fewer people in attendance (including the officiant and maybe a photographer). Minimonies are generally reserved for immediate family members and the closest of friends—and fall somewhere between a micro wedding and an elopement.\n\nWith an elopement, you and your partner opt to get married on your own—with an officiant and potentially a witness or two. This option is ideal if you want to get married quickly or with minimal planning—or keep \"I do's\" as a private moment between you and your soon-to-be spouse.\n\nA sequel wedding is a larger event you host after hosting a micro wedding, minimony, or elopement. Sequel weddings give you the opportunity to bring together a larger group of your friends, family, and loved ones to celebrate your marriage at a later date—whether that's a few weeks, a few months, or a few years in the future.\n\n![Micro-weddings-flowchart-v2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Ec9Ds6rNNelEisESNfz4u/c9af763a924a746d160a86144594aecb/Micro-weddings-flowchart-v2.jpg)\n\nAn intimate event, like a micro wedding, minimony, or elopement can be just as magical as a large wedding ceremony. So, send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to your loved ones and get ready to have a wedding that both of you will cherish for the rest of your lives.","tag":"Inspiration","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Craft your dream wedding website effortlessly with Zola's step-by-step guide. Showcase your love story and details in style. Start creating today!","title":"How to Create Your Wedding Website: 10 Simple Steps ","slug":"how-to-make-a-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6a4MvmncJr4AKia1nFr6Tn/91e1616adecb7211caf14038546e0f27/DESKTOP_ww.png","altText":"Zola wedding website as seen on a laptop computer"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being invited to a wedding is an honor. So, you'll want to look good, including your hairstyle. 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But how, you ask? 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Little things, such as a perfume scent or favorite food, may trigger memories of them. Then there are more significant events, such as birthdays, anniversaries, and your impending wedding day, that will definitely bring them to mind. From planning seating charts to selecting your wedding attendants, you may be constantly reminded of their absence while planning one of the most meaningful days of your life. And you’re not alone.\n\n## Partnering to Help Couples Manage Grief\n\nWhile you will undoubtedly miss them on the big day — and it’s ok to feel that way — Zola realizes that many of our couples have lost relatives and close friends. __That’s one reason Zola partnered with our friends at [Lantern](https://www.lantern.co/), a source of guidance for navigating life before and after a death, to share stories and advice around wedding planning amid grief.__\n\n__[Four real-life couples](https://www.instagram.com/p/CghYvebFXCe/)__ who experienced loss, including losing parents and other close relatives, provided their take on dealing with grief. From navigating the wedding planning process to permitting yourself to let emotions flow on the day of, here’s what those couples had to say. Their sage advice lets you know that you’re not alone, so let their experiences encourage you as you plan and look forward to your union.\n\n[![Zola x Lantern ](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Y6Kp7mrEmezqUqLDCuPRU/91eec46f2777bebe375c8ba2935a6933/Screen_Shot_2022-07-28_at_1.38.48_PM.png)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CghYvebFXCe/) \n\n__[Watch the full interview here.](https://www.instagram.com/p/CghYvebFXCe/)__\n\n## How Loss Impacts the Wedding Planning Process \nAs you meet with vendors, select your wedding attire, and formulate your guest list, your loved one will naturally come to mind. Here’s what that looked like for our four couples.\n\n### Their absence is something you may have already considered.\n__Claire and Joe__ wed in March of 2022, and although Claire is an only child, she was incredibly close to her cousins, one of whom passed away in 2016. “After I found out about my cousin passing, one of the first thoughts I had was that he wasn’t going to be at my someday wedding,” Claire reminisces. Although she hadn’t even met Joe yet, she realized that someone she cared about deeply wouldn’t be able to share in her big day. \n\n### Loss may be felt throughout the wedding planning process. \n__Emily and Danny__ had both lost parents — Emily’s dad passed when she was ten years old, and Danny lost both parents in his 20s — and their absence was felt. Emily says, __“Grief was woven into every single aspect of our wedding planning process.”__ It caused her to think about what their parents would have wished for their big day. Things like where to get married, the type of wedding, and who to invite all caused her and Danny to ponder their losses.\n\n### Honoring your loved one on your big day will be a priority.\nHaving your mom miss out on the planning process is difficult, especially when you’re picking out a dress and making other plans. Unfortunately, this void is exactly what __Alica and Daniel__ experienced for their September 2019 wedding after Alica’s mom passed in 2016. How to honor Alica’s mom weighed heavily on them during the planning process, although their planner and celebrant helped with ideas. \n\n### Small tasks may bring the loss to the forefront of your mind.\nEven though it had been a few years since Claire’s cousin passed, __she couldn’t help but think of him when she was doing wedding-related tasks,__ such as making the guest list, addressing invitations, and planning a seating chart that included a cousins’ table. “It kind of forces you to think about the person who is missing or who will be missing,” Claire adds.\n\n### Supporting your grieving partner is a must.\nAlthough Alica was the only one who had experienced loss of a close fmaily member, Daniel supported her every step of the way. “What I experienced while we were planning was a real awareness of Alica and trying to be mindful of the fact that we were both going to do something we’ve never done before — and someone significant was missing,” says Daniel. __Being there for your partner is essential, even if you don’t fully understand their loss.__\n\n### Be there for each other while planning your wedding. \nIf you’ve both experienced loss, such as with __Daniela and Phil__, you’ll need to support each other while also practicing self care. Daniela lost her dad when she was 10, and Phil’s mom passed away almost two years before their March 2022 wedding. “It’s important to have sensitivity to each other,” advises Daniela. “We both experienced big losses but at very different times of our lives.” __Although they both understood grief, the process looked different for each of them.__\n\n### Lean on other family members to get through.\nIn Latin culture, it’s typical for the mom to walk the son down the aisle and for the daughter to be accompanied by her dad. Therefore, everything needed to be rethought, such as family photos, first dances, and the processional. “Having to go through all of those details was super important,” says Dani, but family was there to help. Phil notes, “My mom would have been a part of a lot of the planning, so I leaned a lot more on my family leading up to the wedding.” Realize that traditional plans may change, but your family can help you get through.\n\n![priscilla-du-preez-vDzeKnPBPLM-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25HBt1Z2cugD4V7Zelti37/cf66653e2cfc1adc3defd5d0ca891b80/priscilla-du-preez-vDzeKnPBPLM-unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Priscilla Du Preez\n\n## How Grief Impacts the Wedding Day\nIt is natural to wonder what will happen in the days leading up to your wedding. Of course, each individual’s experience is unique because we all process grief differently. However, here is what our couples had to say. \n\n### Sadness may creep in when you least expect it. \nFor Alica, __having someone by her side the entire day who understood her experience was vital.__ So, she chose a photographer who had also lost her mother before her big day. The connection between the two was necessary when Alica unexpectedly cried while alone with her photographer during pre-wedding photos. “I just burst into tears,” says Alica. “She just let me be. She let me cry and let me have my moment.” \n\n### Realize you can’t change the circumstances.\nShifting focus to honoring your loved one can sometimes be the best way to deal with grief during your wedding, which is what Claire decided to do. She had more trouble during the wedding planning process, but she decided to turn her grief into honoring her cousin instead. “The day of the actual wedding, I told myself that I can’t change this,” she says. “I can’t bring him back. __The best thing we can do together is to honor him and be happy.__” \n\n### Remember that it’s your wedding day.\nEmily and Danny knew that the day would have an element of sadness. However, they also realized that it was their special day. “Danny and I wanted to remember the day as something light because there was obvious deep sadness with people missing,” says Emily. Don’t be afraid to celebrate on your big day. “The day itself was an especially happy day. Both our families really came together, and it was a very joyous day,” Danny adds.\n\n### Look for signs throughout the day.\nInterestingly, half of our couples experienced a sign — specifically birds — during the ceremony. For example, Emily and Danny had three birds fly over the chuppah during the wedding. To them, this symbolized their three passed parents giving their blessing. “I think that’s a special piece that I like to see as a sign,” reminisces Emily. “Ultimately, I look back on my wedding day as something special and magical.”\n\nDaniela and Phil had a similar experience as they were saying their vows in a Cartagena cathedral. Although the doors were closed, they experienced a rare sighting. __“There were two white doves in the cathedral that were right by the altar,” reflects Danny. “We saw it as a symbol.”__ To them, the two birds symbolized their two passed parents.","body2":"## Creative Ways to Memorialize Your Loved Ones \n\nYour wedding day allows you to do [things in memory](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-memorial-ideas) of your lost loved ones. Planning something unique can help manage the grief you feel while acknowledging your loss. Here are unique ways our four couples paid tribute to their loved ones who had passed.\n\n![Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### Incorporate their religious preferences.\nEmily and Danny wanted to include their religion in their wedding to honor their parents. Instead of having one officiant, they chose to have both of their rabbis from their childhoods. __Doing this allowed for someone familiar — and who knew their parents — to speak about them, which was a beautiful way to pay tribute.__ “We’re not particularly religious people but the Jewish aspect of incorporating our parents felt the most natural,” reminisces Emily. They also put both of their fathers’ tallits over their chuppah during the wedding ceremony.\n\n### Wear something to help you remember.\nIn a sweet display, Claire’s aunt gave her a necklace at her wedding shower. It was a pendant that included her favorite colored stone, and the back was engraved with her cousin’s name and the date he passed. With a turquoise stone, it became her something blue. \n\n### Create a mini-memorial of your loved one.\nPhotos are always lovely to include on your big day, and Daniela and Phil had a small memorial table. “We had two images that were dear to our heart at the entrance,” remembers Daniela. “We had a candle and their favorite drinks there.” A visual tribute gave family members a moment to remember while introducing the lost loved ones to those who hadn’t met them.\n\n### Incorporate a ring warming. \nOn Alica and Daniel’s special day, they decided to incorporate a blessing. So their parents’ wedding rings were placed in a bag and passed around during the ceremony. “Guests would take a moment silently during the ceremony to send good wishes, warm the rings, and put good energy into the rings,” remembers Alica. __“It was a way to honor the relationships and the marriages that had come before us.”__ After guests warmed the rings, the couple put them on.\n\n### Turn clothing into a memorial.\nDanny decided to do something incredibly creative, although private, for the big day. He had an artist digitally print a fabric collage that included photos of their parents. Then, the memorial was sewn onto the inside of the suit jacket. It was a hidden tribute to their losses yet could be shown if folks wanted to see the art piece.\n\n### Speak the names of lost loved ones.\n__Sometimes the best way to acknowledge a loss is to mention it, mainly if this includes speaking the person’s name.__ Alica and Daniel had their officiant read the names of loved ones who couldn’t attend, and the response was surprising. Everyone clapped and cheered while the officiant read the names aloud. “It was a really good energy to start with, and to have their names spoken in the room was recognition of them and the loss,” Alica recalls. It set the tone for the day and permitted guests to talk about her mother. She adds, “The thing that really touched me was how people weren’t afraid to acknowledge the fact that she was gone.”\n\n### Include a tribute in the wedding bouquet.\nDaniela had also lost her grandad, so she had three pendants on her bouquet. They chose the photos together, and it was special to reminisce while selecting images to put on her bridal bouquet. “Having that there was so important,” she says. “I felt like all three were with us in that special moment.”\n\nIn another tribute display, Claire carried a small amount of her cousin’s ashes in a vessel attached to her bridal bouquet. __“I was able to walk with him down the aisle,” she says.__ While they were going into their reception, the vial was falling off, so she decided to wear it during the cocktail hour, which further helped Claire cope with her loss. “It really helped me feel closer to him on the wedding day,” she says. \n\n### Plan something before the big day. \nCovid caused Daniela and Phil to change their wedding date, so their big day was one day shy of the second-anniversary date of Phil’s mother’s death. They knew they needed to acknowledge her passing, so they did it the day before their wedding. “We did a small, private mass with immediate family on both sides in remembrance of her,” says Phil, adding that it put a positive spin on their wedding. “It put everybody in a good headspace to have that day for her and then turn the page and celebrate the next day, so it ended up working out beautifully.”\n\n## Advice from Our Couples on Dealing With Grief \n\nWhether it was advice given to them or wisdom based on experience, here’s what our couples had to say. Let their tips encourage you throughout your planning process and on your special day. \n\n### Allow yourself to feel what you feel.\nWhether tears creep up or you feel overcome with joy, accept your emotions without judgment. __“Go with the flow. If it’s sad in the moment, be sad. If it’s happy in the moment, be happy,” advises Phil.__ “There’s no forced reason to be upset, but if you have that feeling, just go with it.” \n\n### Think of the person being there in spirit.\nOne piece of advice Claire received from her therapist was to reflect on her cousin throughout the day. “To just remember him and remember that he is there with me,” she says. “I felt like he was with us in spirit.”\n\n### Break the rules.\nIt’s your day, so don’t be afraid to border on the nontraditional. “There aren’t any right or wrong ways to get married or have a wedding,” says Danny. “Especially with the messiness of grief, even more so you’re allowed to break the rules. __Create your own script on how you want your wedding day to be.”__\n\n### Choose a way to honor them that is meaningful to you.\nOthers may weigh in, but ultimately it’s up to you how you remember them on your big day. “You can hear a lot of different advice, but think about how you would want to remember the person and as a couple how you want that to play throughout the day,” recommends Phil. \n\n### Be patient with yourself and with your partner.\nJoe advises, “__Be patient with your partner.__ Grief is not just something that you get over in one day, one month, one year. It’s an ongoing process. You’ll have good days. You’ll have bad days. Just be there to support and to remind them that no matter what, the feelings you harbor are valid. Take it one step at a time.”\n\n### Find meaning in your loss.\nOne thing that helped Claire was to focus on what she learned to be called “the sixth stage of grief”, which is finding meaning. She asked herself questions to get through. How do you move forward in your life? How do you create meaning? How do you honor them? “The best thing that I could do for Aaron was to make sure that our wedding day was the best it could be,” she says while adding that she also spent extra time with her cousins as though he was there.\n\n### Realize that your big day only happens once. \n“You get the day once, and it’s there to enjoy it,” says Daniel. “Ignore fears about what others think. Relax and enjoy. Look out for each other and have the day you want.” You don’t want the day to go by without it being all you envisioned.\n\n### Communicate with your partner.\nAs with any relationship, being honest and vulnerable is crucial. “Communication is key,” offers Phil. “Remember that the day is for both of you, even if it’s only one of you that has experienced the loss.”\n\n### Cherish your other relationships.\nClaire’s loss caused her to dive deeper into her current relationships. __“Honestly, grief has made me think about who you value in your life, who you give your time, love, and energy to, and the importance of keeping up with your loved one,” she reflects.__ She now checks in with friends and relatives, especially if she knows they are having a rough time. “Think about who you really want there, who you couldn’t imagine the day without and then you really cherish and hold on to those relationships,” she adds. \n\n### Know the purpose of the day.\nGetting married to the one you love is the ultimate goal for the day, which is something Emily stresses. “At the end of the day, you are here to marry the person that you have chosen to build your life with — let that be your North Star when you’re planning your wedding and your life moving forward after that.” \n\n## Let Lantern Help \nFor everything from planning your future to managing a loss, [Lantern](https://www.lantern.co/) is there to help guide you through difficult times. Losing a loved one always looks different for each person. So whether planning your wedding or preparing for your future, consult Lantern at Lantern.co for your end-of-life needs.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding day is one of the happiest in your life, but missing a loved one can make it difficult. We've partnered with Lantern to bring you expert advice on how to make this process easier. ","title":"How to Navigate Wedding Planning in the Midst of Grief","slug":"navigate-wedding-planning-grief","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7qxxsdkfppgxoSvDyuOeSC/439a6296fe694ca2d9d53e1c62e1f2b7/My_project.jpg","altText":"How to Navigate Wedding Planning in the Midst of Grief"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering how to share your wedding website with guests? 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Read on to learn more about what wedding ushers do on the big day.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:21:03.406Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3uzlbYGaMnMHskO1iwSAbj/b55abc9efe316f8eba7c6d822b800458/inline_darienchuiphoto.jpg","altText":"Wedding Usher duties"},"heroCredit":"Darien Chui Photo","body":"If you’re looking to involve more family or friends on your big day, wedding ushers would be a great addition to your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one). But if you've never been to a large wedding, you might not even know what a wedding usher is, what they do, or whether you need (or want!) ushers at your wedding.\n\nIn this complete guide, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about wedding ushers so you have the information you need to decide whether wedding ushers are the right fit for your bridal party—and, if so, exactly what your ushers need to do on your big day:\n\n## What is an usher?\nFirst things first. Before we answer the question \"what do ushers do at weddings?\", let's cover the more basic question—\"what is an usher in a wedding?\"\n\nThe dictionary defines usher as \"a person who shows people to their seats, especially in a theater or at a wedding.\" Essentially, an usher is part of the wedding party and acts as the first point of contact for your guests, welcoming them to the wedding and helping to seat guests prior to the ceremony.\n\n![What Does a Wedding Usher Do](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hOJMCAZuwZFJ0CWyv041h/ad0b120d4cca54a3cff7ed65fe74901d/inline_chrisdugganphoto.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Chris Duggan Photo\n\n## Do you need an usher?\nNext question—do you need an usher? The answer depends on your wedding size and formality. If you’re planning to have a high guest count, having a wedding usher will help keep things moving fast as their primary task is to direct guests to their respective seats. Über formal weddings (for example, a [black tie wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-and-not-wear-to-a-black-tie-wedding)) also require a wedding usher to ease the day’s stress by guaranteeing a smooth flow of the wedding. Whether you have open seating or respective sides for your guests, it’s a nice touch to have someone who can answer any last-minute wedding guest questions before the ceremony starts.\n\n## What makes a good wedding usher?\nBecause ushers are the first people many guests will encounter at your wedding, you want to choose your wedding ushers wisely. But what, exactly, should you be looking for? Or, in other words, what makes a good wedding usher?\n\n- __Friendly.__ Ushers will be smiling and greeting your guests as they arrive at your wedding—so make sure you choose people who have a friendly disposition.\n- __Organized.__ Ushers will have to keep track of your seating chart and which guests you want in which seats—so you'll also want to choose someone that's organized.\n- __Responsible.__ If you decide to have ushers, you want to know that they'll show up on time and follow through on their duties—and that means choosing responsible people you know you can trust to get the job done.\n\nNow that you know what a wedding usher is (and what makes a good one), let's jump into a rundown of duties that a wedding usher is responsible for—before, during, and after your wedding ceremony:\n\n## Before the Wedding Day\n\n- Get an outfit for the wedding. Because a wedding usher is a wedding party member, he would wear something similar to what the groomsmen are wearing—so, a nice tux and formal black pants are an excellent way to go. He should also be given a boutonniere to wear on the wedding day so that he isn’t mistaken for a wedding guest.\n- Attend the wedding ceremony rehearsal. This is the perfect way to get acquainted with the rest of the wedding party, as well as the venue. The wedding usher should also be familiar with where the couple's parent's will be positioned, where the restrooms are located, and any specific requests that the couple has during their ceremony. \n- Find out from the wedding couple if there is any family tension. This is a tricky task, and is not just to gossip; however, since the main task of a wedding usher is to ensure a smooth flow of the wedding, he should at least have a background of who doesn’t sit with whom, such as estranged family members or divorced parents. During the wedding planning process, the couple should sit down with the usher and walk them through any potential tension or issues that might arise at the wedding—and give the wedding usher instructions for these awkward situations so that they don’t offend or upset any of the wedding guests.\n- Likewise, ask the couple if there are guests who are elderly or disabled that may need more assistance. The same thing goes if there are guests who are pregnant or new mothers. It’s best to know this beforehand so that the wedding usher can plan to save an aisle seat or end seat for easier access for these guests.\n\n![What Does a Wedding Usher Do](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1nFOT26oCVoJYAgcjtgZux/f22bdb28d2c0d571b06a4350a519d4f7/inline_darienchuiphoto.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Darien Chui Photo\n\n## On the Wedding Day\n\n- Man the doors and welcome guests with a smile as they enter the ceremony venue. Good manners and cleaning up nicely for the day is key.\n- Answer the guests’ questions—where the restroom is, where the coat check is located, where the guest book is placed, and where they can drop the cards. Since the couple (and the rest of the wedding party) are most likely taking preparation photos, the wedding usher serves as a host during pre-ceremony.\n- Direct guests to their seats. Usually, the ceremony venue is filled from front to back, so the user directs them to the first open row. But, if the guest requests to be seated elsewhere, the usher should comply. He should also let guests know if there are any reserved seats, especially in the front, so that they can avoid them.\n- Be polite and offer their arm to escort guests, especially the elderly, down the aisle.\n- Hand out the wedding ceremony programs, or put them on every seat before the guests’ arrival.\n- In some cases, the wedding ushers also help open the door to reveal the bride, right before she walks down the aisle.\n- Seat the guests who arrive late. He should guide them where to walk, which is around the side, and not through the middle of the aisle, especially once the ceremony has started.\n\n## After the ceremony\n\n- If the wedding reception includes a sit-down meal, ushers may also escort guests to their seats at the reception.\n- In some cases, wedding ushers may escort guests to their cars as they're leaving the wedding.\n\nUnlike the [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties) or best man, at the reception, the wedding usher usually sits with their family or friends—and not at the head table, as they also won’t be doing any speeches or dances.\n\n## FAQs about wedding ushers\n\n#### How many ushers in a wedding?\n\nThe general rule is to have one wedding usher for every 50 guests. But even if you're having a smaller wedding, you may still want to have at least two ushers; that way, they can keep each other company—and guests won't have to wait to sit down if they arrive at the same time as other guests.\n\n#### Who is typically asked to be a wedding usher?\n\nWedding ushers are often male, and because they have fewer tasks than the groomsmen, they are usually younger than the rest of the wedding party. Wedding ushers can be the couple’s younger siblings or close relatives. But, of course, this is entirely up to the wedding couple—you can choose both male and female ushers, and if you would rather leave these duties to someone older, than that works, too. Your wedding, your rules!\n\n#### What should an usher wear?\n\nWedding ushers are a part of the wedding party—and, as such, should be dressed accordingly. You can either dress the wedding ushers in the same attire as the bridesmaids and/or groomsmen—or, if that feels too formal, dress them in a more casual manner that still clearly indicates they're part of the wedding party (for example, if your groomsmen are wearing tuxes, you may have your ushers wear a suit—but have them wear the same tie and pocket square as the groomsmen). \n\nSimilar to a flower girl or ring bearer, the wedding usher is one of the very important (yet sometimes overlooked) wedding roles. Wedding usher duties primarily consist of managing seating and ceremony logistics. Not only is including a wedding usher a great way to honor a close friend or family member on your special day, but having an usher is very beneficial for the flow of your wedding. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Learn about the different father of the groom duties with this helpful guide. 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Ask yourself why you're having trouble deciding and get advice from the pros to help you make the final decision.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-01-10T19:47:08.006Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5LZC4zjiqU2GFaxdlKqq3O/a4c6f9b6700d2453824bbf8dcc3acf1c/What-to-Do-when-you-can-t-choose-one-maide-of-honor_TaylorandBenPhotography.jpg","altText":"can you have two maid of honors"},"heroCredit":"Taylor and Ben Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- If you're having trouble deciding your maid or man of honor, experts recommend you take a step back and focus on who you’d really want by your side at the altar.\n- There are no rules, so you can totally opt for an alternative like having two maid of honors, no maid of honor, or doing away with traditional titles in general.\n","body":"Maid of honor, man of honor, bridesmaid, bridesman, honor attendant—these folks go by many names, but they really are so much more. The individual you choose to honor with this title will be your ally, confidante, sounding board, and assistant throughout wedding planning and the big event. For this reason, your maid of honor is a very special choice. But what do you do if you cannot choose just one?\n\n## Can You Have Two Maids of Honor?\nOf course you can. Having two maids (or matrons) of honor is perfectly acceptable. So if you have two great ladies to honor—go ahead! The more the merrier. Both maids of honor will still be thrilled to stand by your side on the big day, and they will likely be relieved to have each other to lean on for maid of honor duties.\n\nLuckily, in today’s modern wedding environment, traditions are evolving. The emphasis is on personalizing your event and what works for you. If you’re having a maid of honor dilemma, relax, you have lots of options. Sit back, take a deep breath, and let’s talk with some wedding planning professionals.\n \n## Advice from The Pros\n\n__Ask why you're having trouble deciding.__\n\nThe first thing you need to consider is why you are having difficulty making the decision. Sarah Ward of [Sarah Ward Events](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search) in Monterey & San Francisco, CA, shares: “Having trouble choosing just one maid of honor is more common than you’d think. I see this issue pop up for one of two reasons: One, because the bride knows that someone’s feelings are going to get hurt. Second, because she has two amazing girlfriends who are equally important in her life.”\n\nIf you are facing this dilemma, ask yourself if you are mostly worrying about external pressures. Then refocus on what is most important to you. Remember, this is one time in life in which you are allowed to be a little bit selfish.\n\n“It only gets tricky when you start worrying about other people’s feelings,” says Christina Baxter (“CiBi”) of [CiBi Events](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search) in Washington, D.C. & Charleston, SC. “This is your time to choose that most special friend, relative, or sibling. Just because you were someone’s MoH does not require you to have her as yours.”\n\n__Remember there are no rules.__\n\n“There are no ‘rules’ to picking your maid of honor,” says CiBi. “It should simply be the person you want standing closest to you at the altar (second to your spouse to be of course). I tell brides to just close their eyes and think about who that person would be. The answer is usually pretty clear.”\n\n## Options If You Just Can't Choose One Person\n \nIf outside pressure isn’t your problem, and you are soooo lucky to have two (or three?) great friends you can’t choose between, that’s okay. Let’s continue with your options.\n\n### Option 1: Have More Than One Maid of Honor\n\nA lot of brides wonder whether they can have 2 maid of honors. \n\n“When a bride mentions to me, ‘I cannot decide between my two sisters or my friend and sister. Can I add them both?’ I tell her to write down the list of all the people in the wedding party,” says Jacqueline Vazquez of [Lifetime Events by Jacqueline](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), based in the New York City area. “Then I ask her to think about the reasons why she would prefer having both, versus selecting one as the maid of honor and the other as a bridesmaids. When the bride responds, ‘both are equally important to me,’ I tell her that is absolutely fine.”\n\nJacqueline points out: “When a bride elects to have two maids of honor, she can have them share the duties, such as planning the shower, attending her dress fitting, and communicating with the wedding party.”","body2":"### Option 2: Don't Have a Wedding Party\n\nLarge wedding parties are no longer the norm: many couples opt for no wedding party at all. The benefits include less stress for you (no managing a large crowd) and your friends (who can simply enjoy themselves as guests), and less money (fewer bouquets is easier on your budget, not to mention saving your friends the expense of special attire).\n\nThis also adds to the relaxed air and simplicity many couples want for their event.\n\n### Option 3: Don't Have a Maid of Honor\n\nIf you can easily choose a group of special ladies and/or gents, but feel uncomfortable ranking one above the rest, then don’t. You can simply have a wedding party with no maid of honor. Remove the pressure and enjoy your circle of friends.\n\nJacqueline also adds: “Other options I have seen range from having only flower girls or junior bridesmaids to having a wedding party which only includes a maid of honor and a best man.” CiBi shares a similar experience: “I even had one bride who had her brother as her ‘man of honor’ and the groom’s sister was the ‘best woman.’”\n\n### Option 4: Do Away With Traditional Titles\n\nAnother fun trend is to give your wedding party completely different titles. Always wanted to be a princess? Then have “ladies in waiting.” Or how about a “bridal brigade?” Some creative brides even reverse the stereotypical, much-maligned role of bridesmaid by calling their attendants “non-bridesmaids.”\n\nWhat’s important in the end is that you do what is feels right to you. Our wedding planners agree.\n\n“The biggest day in your life should be your day. Not what your family or friends tell you it should be,” says Sarah Ward. “Announce your maid of honor decision with kindness. Make sure all of your friends know how so very important they all are to you. Whether they are standing right next to you during the ceremony or down the line, it is still a huge place of honor. “\n\n“Also keep in mind that being a maid of honor is not only an honor but a big responsibility. You want to choose someone that you know you can count on to be there for you!” CiBi adds. “A good friend or family member should understand it is a difficult choice and support you in whatever decision you make.”","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"You want to include everyone in your wedding party, but you know you can't. 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We have a guide to the benefits of a prenup, so read on.","author":"Amanda Mitchell","publishedAt":"2020-12-23T15:41:35.338Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/30D8RR4MWHjHAWFzBVLO3y/ea99f0383f4bb10892c19948d356ddae/Inline_unsplash__21_.png","altText":"What is the Benefit of a Prenup"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"So much of getting married is about romance, a-rockin' celebration, and the lifelong commitment that you and your partner are making. But, at the end of the day, it’s important to remember that marriage, while being romantic, is also very much a legal matter. Just as important as making sure that your [wedding decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/decorations) colors match, it’s important to make sure that you and your partner have the same end goals in mind before getting married—and that might be where the concept of a prenuptial agreement, or a prenup, comes into play. \n\nFinancial Advisor [Theresa Morrison, CFP](https://beckettcollective.com/) explains prenups in a clean, simple metaphor: “Marriage is a legal contract, much like a company’s founding incorporation. A prenup is a legal contract, and continuing the analogy, is much like the operating marital agreement. Prenup protects assets that each partner brings to the union, as well as clarity on the disposition of assets and distribution of labor and income.” \n\nSo, you may be wondering: What is the benefit of getting a prenup? Is it a good idea to get one, or is it a thing just for celebrities? We spoke to a marriage attorney, a financial advisor, and a relationship therapist to answer all of your most burning questions. Below, we’ll cover prenup benefits and drawbacks, so that you can see if it’s right for you. \n\n## What Is the Benefit of a Prenup?\n\n![What is the Benefit of a Prenup: Is it a Good Idea?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2w3dUUukJHSqnVOvV2cULF/60a6d04149dda4698f231eab991bf3ea/Inline_unsplash__20_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n“Prenups help you negotiate more favorable terms than whatever law may be in place at the time of legal separation or divorce. This nuptial agreement can also protect you and your partner from lengthy and expensive litigation if there ever comes a time,” explains [Maria M. Barlow](https://www.attorneymariabarlow.com/), an Illinois-based attorney. You want to have a prenup, to make these decisions about your future between two people who like each other, not when things are at their worst. Protecting your possessions and avoiding future conflict will take a ton of stress and tension out of the divorce process if it happens. Starting at a place of mutual understanding and agreement is great for both you, your partner and your marriage. You want to start your marriage perfectly in sync, because otherwise if a challenge arises later, it can be far more difficult to resolve. It’s expecting the unexpected, a built-in “break glass in case of emergency” box. \n\n## What Questions and Legal Advice About Prenups Should You Ask a Lawyer?\nIt’s very important that your attorney knows your goals and desires in your nuptial agreement, and to discuss any possible conflicts that might arise in the future. \n\nAccording to Barlow, these are some points to keep in mind when discussing a prenuptial agreement with your attorney:\n- What are your rights?\n- What are your partner’s rights?\n- What are some necessary terms to include?\n- How to bring up the prenup to my spouse?\n- What is the estimated cost of a prenup?\n- What happens if you decide not to get a prenup?\n\nMorrison adds a few other points:\n\n- If assets are brought into the marriage, do the assets need to be valued or can I just state the value?\n- If “prenup” assets are sold after marriage, how are the proceeds tracked?\n- What are the implications if we move to/from a community of property state? How does this affect whether we need a prenup?\n\n## What Are Some Misconceptions About Prenups?\nPeople often get the wrong idea about prenups, mostly because they’re not very romantic (in theory, that’s an opinion) and they’re seemingly exclusive to the rich and/or famous. That’s highly untrue—assets can be whatever you have, including a possible inheritance, children from a previous relationship, or a family business. All of those things should be covered and protected in a prenup. “Prenups are for any couple that decides that it is in the best interest of their relationship to have the marital agreement. Also, prenups do not insinuate lack of trust, but [rather] a desire to lack confusion and conflict,” says [Dr. Markesha Miller](https://www.drmarkeshamiller.info/post/meet-dr-markesha-miller). \n\nA prenup can protect you and your family, and guide responsibilities during marriage, regardless of the number in your bank account. It’s about so much more than just money and your spouse; the prenup process helps you clarify you and your partner’s perspectives on major changes, such as moving or giving up a career to take care of children. If your partner has an issue with trust, Morrison put it simply: “Actually, the power of a prenup is the increased trust that is built by going through the process.”\n\n## Are Prenups a Good Idea?\n\n![What is the Benefit of a Prenup: Is it a Good Idea?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/30D8RR4MWHjHAWFzBVLO3y/ea99f0383f4bb10892c19948d356ddae/Inline_unsplash__21_.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nEvery person interviewed for this piece gave this question a resounding yes—if that works for your values and beliefs. Either way, discussing important future life questions and getting financial advice with a neutral third party—whether it’s a financial planner, marriage attorney, or family therapist is always an excellent idea. “Prenups are a great idea and highly recommended. If nothing else, it gets the couple thinking and talking about how they see marriage,” Barlow shared.\n\n“This is a subjective decision that has to be made based on individual desires, values, and beliefs. If you feel that the presenting marriage is not even—based upon income, debt, and possessions—and this is concerning to you, then a prenup may be an option to present on the table before signing the marriage license,” Dr. Miller says. Also, if you have other children from a previous relationship to consider or a family business to protect, then a prenup may be of consideration. \n\nMorrison gives an enthusiastic yes: “A prenup is like writing your marriage insurance, without monthly premiums. It can protect you during a worst-case scenario, as well as help mitigate future arguments and marital conflicts.” She adds, “If your marriage does get to the end of its road, a prenup is like a cul-de-sac. You can turn around faster, more easily, and with less emotional baggage.”\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We’ll walk you through the best way to approach the topic with your partner—and what to do if you disagree.","title":"What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup?","slug":"what-happens-if-you-dont-get-a-prenup","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Aq8dzGy1ahtzEPcy8lXcQ/53d229cb6b8b84f82b1bee71a12f9283/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg","altText":"What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering, “can you still sign a prenup after marriage?” We’ll tell you the answer today, so keep reading to learn more.","title":"Can You Sign a Prenup After Marriage?","slug":"can-you-sign-a-prenup-after-marriage","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NRH0oES7RCEjSEft2HG3R/c01216040914320812dc6e47bc55b8cb/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg","altText":"Prenup After Marriage"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"If you’re considering getting a prenup, this blog post is for you. 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Learn about the important details to look for with this complete guide.","author":"Lisa Wong Macabasco","publishedAt":"2021-02-11T23:07:39.685Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5lvUZ9C6S1pfoCsUAnKOlv/34554226a5e02c0ab831f14eaac39280/Hero_Zola_02__9_.jpg","altText":"What to Look for in a Wedding Vendor Contract"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Don’t be afraid to ask questions or for clarification about things that you don’t understand in a document that a vendor presents for signature. \n- Plan for the best, prepare for the worst— map out undesirable scenarios and make sure that it’s spelled out in the contract.\n- Look closely for provisions like force majeure clauses, liability waivers, and language about cancelations, payments, deposits, and termination.\n","body":"It’s an anxious, uncertain time, to say the least, and particularly so when it comes to weddings and the copious amount of paperwork involved in putting together that special day. “Contracts are a whole different ball game now,” says Virginia Frischkorn of Colorado’s [Bluebird Productions](https://www.bluebirdproductions.com/). \n\n“We find that our clients are reading them :)” adds Alison Semmler, owner of [Lifestyle Maven Events](https://www.lifestylemavenevents.com/) in NYC: “A lot of couples are feeling taken advantage of by vendors, and, on the flip side, vendors are feeling taken advantage of by couples.” So, how can you create mutual trust and feel confident about signing a binding agreement when the future is unpredictable? Here are some tips for what to look for in a wedding vendor contract.\n\n![Zola_What to Look for in a Wedding Vendor Contract](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/27DdemjYlkOzdcbsGrPHYC/ace1ba26d3f3a48c267eaccbe16a5625/inline_onelove_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Onelove Photography\n\n### Negotiating Contracts 101 \nDon’t simply assume that a [wedding vendor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) contract is a final word. “The best advice is that you should consider it as a negotiable item,” says Bay Area Wedding Planner [Olivia Wong](http://www.oliviawongevents.com/). “The worst thing a vendor can say to a request for changes in a contract is no. A great vendor will also listen and hopefully accept a few of your change requests.” Adds Bay Area Wedding Planner [Ashley Smith](https://www.ashleysmithevents.com/), “If you have an existing contract that doesn’t mention COVID-19 or pandemic-related clauses and you would like to ensure [that] you are on agreeable terms with the other party, ask to create an addendum with both parties’ signatures.”\n\nDon’t be afraid to ask questions. If you don’t understand something, ask the vendor to explain it to you. “Sometimes clauses in the contract are just pulled forward from someplace else,” Wong says. “If something doesn’t make sense to you, ask! If they can’t explain it, ask for it to be removed or stricken out.” \n\nAnd remember, keep your best interests in mind, and look for places in the contract to make clauses more amenable to you or to give you a little more leverage. “Most businesses have sought legal language to protect themselves about this and how to proceed if another pandemic arises, or this one is dragged out for months/years to come,” says Smith. “Make sure this language is also covering you, not just the business you are seeking services from.” \n\n“Add something along the lines of ‘The client will be given the first right of refusal,’ or even state in the contract that if there are any changes at the vendor, they must notify the client immediately,” Wong says. “While this seems like common sense, a vendor may not inform you of any changes, like venue constructions, until closer to your date, leaving you with less time to adjust your plans or find another wedding venue. Or, a vendor could accidentally double book and pick the other client instead of you. Then, you have left in a bind [with] very little recourse.”\n\n### Read Over Your Contracts With a Fine-Toothed Comb Before Signing\nYou’ve jumped into [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) with gusto, and—score!—you’ve found a special location or vendor that you love. Your impulse might be to sign the contract quickly to lock down what you want. But consider resisting the temptation to do so. Always take the time to read your contracts carefully before signing a [wedding photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-photographers), florist, or another wedding professional for your big day.\n\n- Make sure the contracts cover every expectation and discussed item clearly and comprehensively. If there’s anything in the contract that differs from what you’ve discussed with the vendor, suggest language that reflects your understanding and/or ask for clarification. \n- Make sure that it’s clear what services they’re performing and what (and how and when) you’re paying for such services.\n- Make sure that you understand and agree to the additional charges described, or make sure that there will not be any additional charges. \n- If certain health-related precautions are important to you, such as PPE, hand-washing, and testing, make sure that it’s specified and clear. \n\n### Plan for the Best, Prepare for the Worst \nYou want your special day to go swimmingly, but it’s important to map out any undesirable scenarios. (And in the time of COVID-19, this might be more likely than you think!) Keep in mind that many vendors have already done so, with their interests in mind, so you want to think about your interests, too. For example, some wedding vendor contracts drafted since the ongoing pandemic began to stipulate that if a vendor is unable to provide services because of circumstances outside of its control for any reason (including government intervention), the client is not entitled to any refund of the fees.\n\n- __Safety precautions and health measures:__ Make sure that the vendor is doing all they can on their end in terms of safety measures. For example, ensuring PPE usage, maximizing social distancing, and ensuring that they don’t work if they’re sick. (Also consider contingency plans and what happens if they are COVID-19 positive or otherwise unavailable.)\n- __Changes in rules about gatherings:__ Negotiate and discuss what happens if there’s a sudden change in maximum occupancy for space, due to regulations related to social distancing or social gatherings.\n - Negotiate and discuss what happens if a curfew is in effect.\n - Consider contingency plans with your vendor, and address what happens in the event of such contingencies. \n- __Breach of contract:__ And more generally, what happens if the vendor breaches the terms of the contract? How will you and the vendor address this situation?\n - Do they get an opportunity to cure the breach in a reasonable amount of time?\n - Do you get a refund?\n\nWhatever you settle on, make sure that all of this is in the contract. \n\n### Provisions to Look Out For \nRead through your wedding contract closely, and make sure that you understand every word. But, as we navigate through the COVID-19 pandemic (and generally, as things inch toward a semblance of normalcy), here are some common clauses to look out for.\n\n- __Force majeure:__ [Force majeure clauses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-wedding-planner-contracts) typically excuse a party’s non-performance under a contract when extraordinary events prevent such party from fulfilling certain obligations. You’ve likely heard this phrase a lot in the past few months. \n - That said, don’t assume that because there are the words “force majeure” that the wedding contract has considered a pandemic. It’s not a magic phrase.\n - Typically, there’s a high bar for the applicability of force majeure language. If it ever comes to litigation, courts will likely look to whether (a) the extraordinary event qualifies as a force majeure under the contract, (b) whether the risk of non-performance was foreseeable and able to be mitigated, and (c) whether performance is truly impossible.\n - Be specific and comprehensive about what triggers “force majeure”: Make sure the language considers COVID-19 and related public safety interventions by governmental authorities. “Many existing contracts do not cover and will not cover pandemic-related occasions,” points out Smith. “Ask to specifically name COVID-19 and future pandemics in this case to your new contracts.”\n - Also, be clear about who can invoke this clause and when and how this clause may be invoked.\n\n-__ Rescheduling/cancellation:__ If you’re set on a certain wedding venue and need to reschedule (and a certain vendor isn’t available on that rescheduled date) or cancel, what happens to your contract with that vendor? Are there any related fees for rescheduling or cancellations? \n\n“I’ve seen many vendors be more flexible with rebooking and cancellation clauses in recent months, given the last few months,” notes Wong. “Many vendors are very understanding of the current market and will try to win your business,” Semmler adds that most vendors are not charging postponement fees, except wedding planners, who work additional time if a wedding is postponed. \n\nFinally, “in the event of a reschedule or postponement, please be understanding with partners, as they offer their available dates to you,” says Bay Area Wedding Planner [Lea Stafford](https://leastafford.com/). “Our event dates are essentially inventory, once you have secured a date on our calendar, the inventory has been claimed.”\n\n- __Payments and deposits/retainers:__ Vendors typically ask for a non-refundable retainer or deposit to lock down their services on a certain time and date. But what happens if the event cannot go on as scheduled in the manner initially contemplated? \n - Discuss and understand the schedule and method of payments.\n - Discuss and understand the timeline and method of refunds.\n - Is the deposit transferable in the event of a reschedule?\n - What happens to any payments already made should something happen and the event cannot go on as scheduled or in the manner initially contemplated?\n\n- __Termination:__ What happens if you’re just not happy with your vendor or if they do something that breaches the terms of the contract? How will you and the vendor address this situation?\n - Do they get an opportunity to cure the breach in a reasonable amount of time?\n - In what event do you get a refund?\n\n- __Indemnification and liability waivers:__ Often vendors will have such language in their contracts. \n - An indemnification provision comprises language to shift the risk between parties to a contract. Often a vendor will want language where you indemnify them: If they get sued by a guest or another vendor, you’re on the hook to defend them and for any damages.\n - A liability waiver says that you won’t sue the vendor if something happens at your event. More and more vendors are introducing liability-waiver language, particularly related to COVID-19 and public health. Some venues even have liability waivers that require guests to sign. \n\n![Zola_What to Look for in a Wedding Vendor Contract](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hZJHmel6AOKC7bHQDxbdt/2317ddf24162fa988cb087fda5df5f68/inline_viera_photographics.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Viera Photographics\n\nWith so many details involved in the planning of weddings, it’s easy to quickly sign off on a contract without looking closely at it (particularly these days, when it’s so easy to provide an electronic signature). But it’s extremely important to pay attention to the language that you’re agreeing to. And make sure that you retain copies of every contract, signed by all parties, for your records (this goes for any addendums, amendments, and modifications to the contract, as well). Whether you're booking a [wedding photographer in Phoenix](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/phoenix-az--wedding-photographers) or a florist in Los Angeles, don’t just sign and forget about your wedding paperwork; you never know when something will come up and you need to refer to it.\n","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Read on for our list of the top 10 questions to ask a wedding videographer to determine if they're the best fit to capture your celebration.","title":"10 Questions to Ask Your Wedding Videographer","slug":"10-questions-to-ask-your-wedding-videographer","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4zyl9HXz8dHFYI90DmdTbj/6d426b290a928e799f79105bad5e015a/Hero_10-questions-to-ask-videographer_Etch-films.jpg","altText":"Couple smiling at party "},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Plan your wedding budget wisely with insights into average catering costs. Get informed about pricing to create a delicious and memorable celebration.","title":"Average Wedding Catering Cost: 2023 Guide ","slug":"cost-of-wedding-caterers","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7C2InREnxSPZJgN8BUGco3/69d6371de355f89c053743eb9f068d5a/Hero_NaturalSummerWeddingatPavilionatCrystalLake_CoreyLynnTuckerPhotography.jpg","altText":"skillet on fire"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Looking to weigh the costs of having a live wedding band? Read our complete guide for all there is to know.","title":"How Much Does a Live Wedding Band Cost?","slug":"how-much-does-a-live-wedding-band-cost","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2mdFt6pBpvvd6GJOBYnmn/df2207c4c5e40cc206892192e643bff9/Hero_IntimateFallWeddingatRenaissanceEventHall_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"Live Wedding Band"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Find Vendors in Your Area","url":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard?question=intro"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:10.331Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-bridesmaids-should-you-have","title":"How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have?","excerpt":"Your bridal party is a huge part of your big day, but how many bridesmaids should you have? Keep reading for more details.","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2021-01-04T16:06:07.677Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4ey3nnzXBPW0J1gYQnxMOi/b390e32f579965949c66c3a2561a95d2/Hero_TropicalWorld_Travel-ThemedWeddingatGrandTraditions_MarieMonfortePhotography.jpg","altText":"How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have"},"heroCredit":"Marie Monforte Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- It's not a must, but tradition says that a wedding party is determined by the number of guests and the formality of your wedding.\n- Don’t feel obligated to ask anyone to be a bridesmaid, even if you were in their wedding or they’re hinting at wanting to be in your wedding party.\n- Before asking 20 people to be bridesmaids, make sure that your budget allows for bridal party related costs, such as gifts and/or day-of accessories. \n","body":"One of the most exciting parts of the wedding planning process is selecting your wedding party. While you’re probably excited to buy matching robes and pop bottles at your bachelorette party, deciding who, exactly, you want to [ask to be your bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/shop/collection/will-you-be-my-bridesmaid) can be challenging. \n\nFrom family members to childhood pals, work connections to new friends, high school besties to college roommates, there are a lot of people to consider for your bridal party. If you’re having a hard time choosing how many bridesmaids you should have, we’re breaking it all down so that you can select your wedding party with ease.\n\nSo, this begs the important question: How many bridesmaids should you have?\n\n## The Role of Bridesmaids\nFirst things first. Before we jump into how many bridesmaids you should have in your bridal party, let's quickly cover what, exactly, a bridesmaid does.\n\nBridesmaids have a few different responsibilities before and during the wedding, including:\n\n- Attending any and all pre-wedding events (including the engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, and rehearsal dinner)\n- Providing emotional support to the bride, both on the wedding day and throughout the wedding planning process\n- Buying the bride's preferred wedding attire and accessories (for example, a bridesmaid dress)\n- Participating in the wedding ceremony (for example, standing at the altar next to the bride or sharing a reading)\n- Depending on their relationship with the bride, some bridesmaids will also be asked to give a speech at the wedding reception, toasting the bride and her new partner.\n\n![How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4QZm7OIZFWpwMY7WBzsPXi/d23b49db2e9f067a26aa827ff9673871/thomas-ae-LT65g070FIk-unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Consider Tradition...If You Want \nNow that you know what a bridesmaid does, let's jump into how to determine how many bridesmaids is the right number for your big day.\n\nTraditionally, the number of people in your wedding party is determined by both the number of guests invited to your wedding and how formal your event is. If you’re having a formal wedding with 200+ people, you can have up to 12 attendants, as well as a ring bearer and a flower girl. If you’re having a smaller, more intimate wedding or a less formal wedding, you’d cut that number down proportionally. (The average number of bridesmaids hovers around six.)\n\nAgain, this is just a general rule of thumb—and there are plenty of brides that throw that rule of thumb out the window and have as many (or as few) attendants as they want. How many bridesmaids you have at your wedding is 100 percent your choice—no matter the number of guests or formality of your event.\n\nThat being said, consider how many people would be standing at the altar versus in the crowd, and how everyone will fit at the front of the wedding ceremony space to help determine how many bridesmaids to ask (or where to have them stand for the “I dos”). For example, if you're only having 25 people at your wedding, it might feel a little off balance to ask 10 people to be your bridesmaids—and have all 10 of them stand next to you at the altar.\n\n## You Don’t Need the Same Number of Bridesmaids and Groomsmen\nIf you're having men in your wedding, it's hard to consider how many bridesmaids to ask to be in your wedding without also considering how many bridesmaids and groomsmen you want to round out your wedding party.\n\nSome couples feel strongly that they need to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen for a cohesive wedding day look. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with having equal numbers on both sides, it can result in selecting (or cutting) people that you wouldn’t have otherwise. Try not to feel stuck in the idea that you and your SO need the same number of attendants; that way you can both select exactly who feels right on your big day—without trying to add or eliminate people based on what the other person is doing. \n\nIf you’re worried about unbalanced photos—don’t be! Modern photographers are pros at coordinating uneven parties; with their handiwork, you won’t even notice the mismatched numbers in your photos.\n\n## Consider Groomswomen and Bridesmen\nWhile you’re selecting your bridesmaids, remember: You don’t need to have *only* bridesmaids. Many couples are bucking tradition, including all of their best friends and closest loved ones in their wedding party, regardless of their gender identity—and we are here for it.\n\nIs your brother the closest person to you? Instead of having a maid of honor, ask your brother to be your man of honor. Is it hard to imagine saying your \"I do's\" without your best guy friend by your side? Include him in your bridal party and ask him to be a bridesman. And if you're the groom? Don't be afraid to ask your sister or female bestie to be a groomswoman.\n\nBottom line? Having bridesmaids, groomsmen, bridesmen, and groomswomen in your wedding party allows you and your partner to have the people you care about most by your side at your wedding—so don't be afraid to buck tradition and think outside of the box.\n\n## Celebrate Family Relationships\nMany couples choose to have their siblings or close family members (think cousins or step-siblings) be a part of the wedding party—even if they aren’t super close—because there’s a good chance that they'll still be a part of your life come your five, 10, and 20 year wedding anniversary. If you have a lot of siblings (or, if you don’t love the idea of including them as bridesmaids), opt for other roles such as ushers or wedding ceremony readers, so that they’re still showcased on the special day. Traditionally, plan for one usher for every 50 guests, but you can always add more if you need to assign extra roles.\n\n![How Many Bridesmaids Should You Have? | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/38klCfHU0OVn1Qw0SOR2rg/6d556bedde663d75420c4be301620a32/devon-divine-Mml3vlckZIM-unsplash.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Don’t Feel Pressured to Ask Someone \nAt the end of the day, this event is about you and your SO. Your wedding party members should be composed of those who support your love story and will celebrate your bond long after the wedding day is over. Just because you were in someone else’s wedding (or a pal is hinting that he or she wants to be in your party), that doesn’t mean that you need to ask him or her to be a bridesmaid. Consider how often you talk to that person on a monthly basis, how many times you’ve hung out one-on-one, and how he or she would fit in with the rest of your bridesmaids. If you rarely speak or only hang out in a group, don’t stress about just inviting him or her as a guest.\n\n## Make Sure Your Budget Permits\nSome couples pay for things such as outfits, [bridesmaid hair](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bridesmaid-hairstyle-ideas) and makeup, lodging, and transportation on the big day, but, at the bare minimum, you’ll be purchasing gifts for your party (to not only ask them, but also to [thank your bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-ways-to-thank-your-bridesmaids) on your wedding day). Items such as robes, necklaces, water bottles, and hairpieces can really add up. Before asking your entire sorority to stand by your side, make sure that you’re comfortable with all the costs involved in having a big party, so that you don’t have to forgo things such as day-of gifts due to the costs adding up.\n\n## It’s Okay to Have Zero Bridesmaids (No Need For A Bridal Party)...\nAs mentioned, you can have any number of bridesmaids that feel right to you—and that includes having no bridesmaids at all. Plenty of couples opt for omitting a wedding party altogether for a variety of reasons—to avoid hurt feelings or people feeling left out, to center their day more around their own bond, or just to keep things simple. So, if the thought of bridesmaids stresses you out or doesn't feel right for your big day? No worries; having zero bridesmaids is totally fine. \n\n(If you choose to go bridesmaid-free, just make sure to have some friends and family on-hand to help you get ready and/or to ensure that you don’t forget your bouquet before walking down the aisle.)\n\n## ...And It's Okay To Have A Lot of Bridesmaids \nAnother question—when it comes to bridesmaids, can you have too much of a good thing? Or, in other words, how many bridesmaids is too many?\n\nIn a short answer—you can never have too many bridesmaids!\n\nJust like it’s okay to have no bridesmaids, it’s also okay to have as many bridesmaids as you want (even if your mother-in-law hates the idea). If you can’t narrow down your close friend list—or just don’t want to—feel free to have a large wedding party. While it’s helpful to consider the amount of guests in relation to your party size (12 bridesmaids might seem strange if you’re having a small wedding), it’s ultimately up to you if you’d like a big party.\n\nIt is important, however, to be conscious of how a large wedding party might affect the relationships of those you don’t choose (the pals not asked might feel more hurt if half the guest list is standing at the altar with you). Consider not only your individual relationships, but how your friends will all mix together. The last thing you’ll want to deal with on your wedding day is bridesmaid drama, so choose accordingly to make sure that everyone will get along.\n\n## Choose The Number of Bridesmaids That Feels Right For You\nWhile deciding how many bridesmaids you should have might feel stressful, all that matters is that your number feels right to you. The only rule here is making sure that you feel loved and supported on your wedding day, whether that means that you’ll have 20 bridesmaids by your side or none.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Read our round-up of the best places to buy bridesmaid dresses online, plus storefronts to try them on in person. Some budget-friendly, some unique, all flattering.\n","title":"Where to Buy Bridesmaid Dresses: 13 Shops + Answering FAQs","slug":"where-to-buy-bridesmaid-dresses","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2XC5WoAwwzfV7qUKlERL1B/3e27d6f5155bbc52158a4423ba100c97/Hero_EtherealCoastalRomanceStyledShoot_ArleneJacobsPhotography__2_.jpg","altText":"Bride sitting with her bridesmaids in pink dresses on the wedding day"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Don’t know when to order bridesmaid dresses before your wedding? Our experts can help! 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","slug":"who-pays-for-bridesmaids-dresses","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13ZKNhp1wk9ozS31qOiyAH/1820e2294348f0818c2dea1b8a1eb251/Hero_BohoDesertWeddingatTroonNorthGolfClub_DrewBrashlerPhotography.jpg","altText":"Who Pays for Bridesmaid’s Dresses"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:08.902Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests","title":"Dos and Don'ts for Wedding Guests","excerpt":"Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding faux pas.","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T14:56:13.548Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4vU3Qmq5GM4ueQ6mU8Q2AI/ede946744da5e6f4377ca4a35d9c0af2/oliver-pan--oFxHLYKgLA-unsplash.jpg","altText":"bride and groom kissing with guests cheering and holding sparklers"},"heroCredit":"Oliver Pan","body":"So you’re invited to a wedding? Congrats—you made the [Guest List](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) and are on your way to celebrating by the couple’s side on the big day. Whether it’s your first time attending a wedding or this is one of many nuptials under your belt, there’s a lot you can do (and not do) to ensure that you’re a great guest. Check out our list of dos and don’ts for wedding guests to avoid any embarrassing wedding *faux pas*.\n\n## The Dos\n- __[RSVP on time](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding).__ \nResponding late can result in awkward situations—like not having a seat and/or meal.\n- __Communicate dietary restrictions early.__\nThe sooner the hosts know about any special food needs, the more likely they can accommodate them. \n- __[Buy a gift on the registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).__\nThe couple chose these gifts for a good reason. Get them what they really want/need! \n- __[Mail your gift (or cash/check)](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-to-spend-on-a-wedding-gift).__\nIt’s a hassle for the couple or hosts/planners to keep track of gifts at the reception (and they’re easily lost). \n- __Let the hosts know if you have to cancel.__\nIf something comes up, it’s not okay to just not show. \n- __Follow the [dress code](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guests/wedding-attire/how-to-dress-for-a-wedding).__\nTrust us, adhering to attire recommendations is always a good idea. \n- __Watch the weather (and be prepared for it).__\nIs Mother Nature raining on this parade (literally)? Arrive with an umbrella in hand. \n- __Wear comfortable shoes (or bring a backup pair).__\nDon’t let sore feet and blisters hold you back from enjoying the entire evening, dancing included.\n- __Leave any drama at the door.__\nIt’s not your party and you can’t cry if you want to. (Happy tears are an exception.) \n- __Sit where you’re assigned (if applicable).__\nAs with boarding an airplane, disregarding the seating chart will only lead to chaos. \n- __Sign the guest book.__\nIt only takes a second, but leaving your name and a sweet message will let the couple look back and remember your presence at their big day. \n- __Silence your phone.__ \nGetting text alerts during the vow exchange = majorly embarrassing.\n- __Stay out of the photographer’s way.__\nThe back of your head blocking a key moment like the first kiss won’t be appreciated. \n- __Get acquainted with other guests.__\n“How do you know the couple?” is a great way to get conversation flowing at your table.\n- __Drink responsibly.__\nFeel free to have fun, but this isn’t a college rave. \n- __Dance!__\nNo couple dreams of an empty dance floor on their wedding day. \n- __Congratulate the couple.__\nSeriously, a simple “Congrats you guys!” or “What a beautiful wedding! Thanks for inviting me” will do. \n- __Remember your favor.__\nEven if it’s an item you’re not thrilled about, it’s still good form to take home your wedding favor. The couple or hosts went through a lot of thought and work to provide it. \n- __If you have to leave very early, say goodbye to the couple.__\nGhosting isn’t cool, but especially so at a wedding celebration. \n\n## The Don’ts\n- __Text/call the couple on the wedding day.__\nLet them enjoy their day and soak up the memories in the making without interruption from you. \n- __Bring uninvited +1s.__\nThis causes major problems when it comes to seating and meal arrangements. Flying solo for one night won’t kill you, we promise. \n- __Dress to draw attention.__\nGo ahead and look cute (it’s encouraged), but remember that all eyes should be on the couple. \n- __Wear white.__\nBreaking this cardinal rule of [wedding attire](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding) is a serious no-no. \n- __Be late.__\nPlan to arrive at the ceremony and settle into your seat ~10 minutes before the event start time. \n- __Assume kids are welcome.__\nUnless your invitation specifically invited your whole family, book a babysitter.\n- __Skip the wedding ceremony.__\nUnless you have a good reason that you’ve discussed with the hosts prior, it isn’t okay to just show up for dinner, drinks, and dancing. The vow exchange is the whole point, after all.\n- __Take photos or videos during the ceremony.__\nYou aren’t the photographer. Sit back and be present in the moment. \n- __Give an unrequested toast or speech.__\nThis isn’t open mic night. If you haven’t been specifically asked to give a speech, leave the public words to those on the official timeline. \n- __Request inappropriate songs.__\nGrandma doesn’t want to get down to your raunchy jams, and the entire wedding probably doesn’t want to hear your favorite niche band. \n- __Ask the couple financial or personal questions.__\nIt’s none of your business how much they spent on the florals or if they plan to have kids. \n- __Propose to your significant other.__\nSomeone else’s wedding isn’t your time to shine (or bring out the bling). \n- __Make a big announcement.__\nSimilarly, don’t steal the spotlight to announce pregnancies, career moves, relocations, or any other personal news. Remember whose day it is.\n- __Abuse the open bar.__ \nWe get it: free drinks are hard to pass up. But you’re at a private event, not at Mardi Gras.\n- __Share opinions about the decor/details.__\nNot digging the peach palette? Keep it to yourself. \n- __Dine and dash.__\nIt’s a good rule of thumb to stay until at least the cake cutting. \n- __Get competitive during the bouquet or garter toss.__\nThese rituals are supposed to be clean, good-natured fun—not look like a scene from The Hunger Games. \n- __Criticize the food.__\nThe meal may not be to your taste, but it’s better to keep your lips sealed on this one. \n- __Try to take food to go.__\nWe don’t blame you for wanting to take a slice of cake home with you, but it’s considered bad etiquette to ask the waitstaff to box up leftovers for you. \n- __Overdo it on PDA.__\nLove may be in the air, but excessive displays of affection won’t be appreciated by the other wedding attendees. \n- __Hit the dance floor before the first dance.__\nUnless the DJ or bandleader specifically requests it, the dance floor isn’t officially open until the couple’s first dance is finished, even if there’s music playing.\n- __Dominate the couple’s time with a long conversation.__\nSave that trip down memory lane for another time. This pair has a lot of folks to talk to tonight. \n- __Tell embarrassing/awkward stories about the couple.__\nYou’re in mixed company—play it safe and keep your stories PG. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"If you've received an invitation to a wedding and you're not sure how exactly to respond? This is our guide to wedding RSVP etiquette, tips, and steps.","title":"How to RSVP to a Wedding ","slug":"how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Un5RYDtyMgk6QCyO00iqk/39a3c4e43f81bcfe6d0ab640a3ac9a7f/How-to-RSVP-to-a-Wedding-RSVP-Etiquette.jpg","altText":"how to RSVP to a wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift? Learn the etiquette of wedding gifting, including how much to give for a cash wedding gift. 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Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. 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Here's your complete guide to weddings in the first month of the spring season.","author":"Alexis Ferguson","publishedAt":"2022-03-01T22:47:56.126Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/tnGOmh26SM4SRFjLhKWhB/3944a2c02c69f85688d0722ed69f09eb/081d7b6a-572b-4308-85f9-f62414a85406.jpeg","altText":"March Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know"},"heroCredit":"Dragonfly Photography","body":"The cold winds are settling and spring is finally rolling in. Yes, it's March, a beautiful month known for new blooms, crisp air, and the beginning of the spring wedding season! This month marks a time of new beginnings, the welcoming of brighter, warmer options for your wedding themes, decor, food, and more.\n\nIf you’ve chosen March as your wedding month, you're in luck! This resource has everything you need to plan all the details of your day.\n\n## The Basics\n#### History & Culture\n\n- March gets its name from the Roman god of war, Mars. It’s no wonder then that, according to [popular wedding superstitions](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/choosing-the-date/), couples that are wed this month will overcome sorrows and experience great joys.\n- “Spring break” also has Roman origins, being traced back to Greek and Roman celebrations of spring as a time of fertility and new beginnings. Today it’s more than just a time for parties. It’s a time known for travel and relaxation for students across the country.\n\n## Ideas And Inspiration\n#### What's In Season?\nSpring brings with it its bounties, making it easier to source locally grown, in-season [food](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-food-ideas) and [florals](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers).\n\n- Goodbye heavy dishes, hello finger foods! Serve mini quiches, seafood skewers, and seasonal salads. You can even create a grazing table with a unique assortment of berries and cheese.\n- Scoop up refreshing treats like sorbet or fresh-fruit ice cream at your dessert table. Popsicles are also a fun way to cool off.\n- Spring blooms are some of the best you’ll see all year. Consider peonies, poppies, daisies, and ranunculus for [colorful arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/everything-you-need-to-know-about-winter-wedding-flowers).\n\n#### Weather\nMarch weather tends to be unpredictable. You can look forward to sunnier days, but keep an eye out for spring showers.\n\n- Southern regions are no stranger to temperatures in the 70s this time of year. Northern regions may still experience some chilly days and even snowstorms.\n- Weather also varies from coast to coast. States like Seattle and Portland experience more rainy spring days whereas Florida and the Carolinas tend to be drier.\n- Keep a close eye on weather forecasts near your ceremony. Having a plan B for [weather changes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/is-rain-on-your-wedding-day-good-luck) is always a great idea, and you can keep your guests updated via your wedding website. \n\n#### Holidays\nDespite there being fewer holidays in March, this month is a popular time for travel for guests young and old. Be sure to keep these dates in mind to avoid schedule conflicts.\n\n- March 8: Holi and International Women’s Day\n- March 15: The Ides of March\n- March 17: St. Patrick's Day\n- March 22: Beginning of Ramadan\n\nNotify your guests 8-12 months of your destination wedding date or four months in advance for a local wedding. This ensures that most of your loved ones make it to your special day.\n\n#### Theme Ideas\nSpring brings with it fresh energy, so here are a few [themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) that will help you inject those vibes into your ceremony.\n\n- Host a full bloom garden-themed wedding, incorporating your favorite flowers into everything from your invites to centerpieces and decor. \n- Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all. Throw a vintage travel-themed ceremony featuring antique globes, postcards, and more creative decor. \n- Opt for classic glam for an affair that dazzles. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamour.\n\n#### Clothing Ideas\n\nFinally, you can leave the layers behind and embrace lighter fabrics and styles this month.\n\n- Break out the short hems and floral patterns. Spring wedding attire is known for its fun and flexibility. Rolled sleeves, suspenders, and sneakers make for the ultimate laid-back looks.\n- Slippers and sandals are great but always be prepared for a rainy day with matching boots. Transparent umbrellas also make for really cute photos.\n\n__Quick color tip:__ It’s pastel season. Take your favorite colors and opt for lighter tones for the perfect spring color palette. \n\n## Zola Facts\nWant to know how other couples are planning their March weddings? Here are some fun facts from Zola about weddings this season.\n\n### Couples’ Favorite March Wedding Invites + Paper Designs\nMarch’s most popular Invites + Paper designs on Zola are couples’ top picks.\n\n- [Riverside Suite.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/d0be3a52-ce83-4181-8a4a-b5dd0470dd6d) This classic, timeless design features a whimsical handwritten script and a wash of painterly watercolor that frames your wedding details.\n- [Galata Suite.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/a2c6d5e6-ecb2-4ec3-acd1-1d8418482bbc) This botanical design features leafy eucalyptus garlands that frame your wedding details gorgeously. \n- [Blake Suite.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/546412ac-2077-4c01-af8a-1ca07090afae) This classic, formal design features a solid contrasting border with a clean, minimalist monogram. \n\n### Average Guest Count for March Weddings\nThe average number of wedding guests on the guestlist for a March wedding is __127__.\n\n### Popular Registry Adds for March Weddings\nCouples getting married in March have these top three must-adds on their wedding registries:\n\n- [Peak Double Old-Fashioned Glass](https://homestore.zola.com/shop/product/orrefors_peak_double_old_fashioned_glass_set4)\n- [Luxe Sateen 4-Piece Core Sheet Set](https://homestore.zola.com/shop/product/brooklinen_luxe_4pc_sheet_set_windowpane)\n- [Logic Cast Iron Skillet](https://homestore.zola.com/shop/product/lodge_castironskillet_12)\n\n## Things To Consider\n#### Popularity\nMarch weddings are just ahead of the popular summer wedding season, but there are still a few things you need to consider when scheduling your events.\n\n- March is lined with spring breaks for students across the country. Ensure your beach or destination wedding is not a hot spot during this time of year.\n- Spring break falls in March so it’s a great month for couples hoping to have college-aged family members or younger kids at their weddings.\n\n#### Cost\nLower demand during this wedding month can mean greater deals from your [venue and vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)! \n\n- March is among the less popular months to get married, so you may be able to book vendors and venues that are busier during the rest of the year\n- With blooms in abundance, an outdoor wedding is a great way to save on florals and splurge on [memorable favors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-favors) like picture frames and potted plants for your guests.\n\n[Choosing your wedding month](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month) is indeed a tough decision. But if you're considering a March wedding, move forward with confidence. Don’t forget to take care of guest availability well in advance, keep an eye on the weather, and get creative with your theme. \n\nA wedding is a celebration of a lifetime, and we are sure that with this guide you’ll be able to pull yours off perfectly! \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Whether you’re having a boho wedding or just want to incorporate more color, texture, and elements from nature into your wedding accessories, flower crowns are a great choice. 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Be prepared for a beautiful celebration filled with regal clothing, symbolic traditions, and more. ","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-02-04T15:35:03.574Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6BYDG3HCNqoao7qbKjQf6v/30ddf8f4d916f5cdd05182726869ba74/Hero_RomanticGhanaianandJewishFusionWineryWedding_OneLovePhotography.jpg","altText":"Traditional Ghanaian Wedding"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- In a Ghanaian traditional wedding, the couple and the wedding party dress in kente cloth to give the feeling of royalty.\n- There is a presentation of wedding gifts to the bride and her family at the wedding venue.\n- There is dancing and music aplenty, as entertainment plays a big role in the celebrations.\n- Traditional food is served buffet-style at the wedding reception party held immediately after.","body":"So, you’ve been invited to a Ghanaian wedding? Get ready to experience a beautiful marriage ceremony of two individuals and their families in a display of rich culture filled with traditional rituals.\n\n## What Should You Expect at a Traditional Ghanaian Wedding?\n### Looking Regal\n\n![What to Expect at a Ghanaian Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6BfiiiiVIolmC02yLiMnwE/d5ca09164cbf41af639f7a50d21293ef/Inline_onelove_photpgraphy.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nThe new couple will dress to the nines for their Ghanaian wedding. Traditional Ghanaian wedding attire includes brightly colored and intricately patterned or embroidered kente fabric in traditional African fashion, made of handwoven silk and cotton, accompanied by resplendent gold jewelry. The bride wears a traditional headdress, sometimes resembling a crown for the wedding ceremony. Traditional wedding attire may also feature adinkra symbols and you will find the kente cloth making an appearance in the décor or table arrangements, too. \n\n### Negotiation Among Both Families\nMembers of both families will sit across from each other at the wedding venue and spokespersons assigned to each party engage in friendly banter, asking for the bride’s hand in marriage. There is some back and forth as jokes are exchanged and demands are made before agreeing to hand over the bride. A fun little precursor to the joyous moment of marriage that both families are now involved in. \n\n### Gifts for the Bride and Her Family\nIn a traditional Ghanaian wedding, gifts are presented to the bride and her family, including a wedding registry that serves the purpose of a dowry, listing things she needs to begin her new life. This is a pretty elaborate list and includes gifts for the parents and siblings, but primarily comprises personal effects, household items, and other presents for the bride. These gifts are typically presented at the wedding ceremony in a decorative display. \n\n### The Bride’s Extravagant Arrival\nAs it is in a traditional wedding, the arrival of the bride is always the star attraction of the party. But at Ghanaian weddings, this can be a drawn-out process—especially if there’s a lot of gifting involved. The bride makes an appearance with much fanfare and goes around greeting the family of the groom, welcoming them to her home, and accepting the gifts presented to her and her family.\n\n### A Tradition of Consent\n![What to Expect at a Ghanaian Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2gfEecf59n9VuiwpVRr4qM/4c07ead4cc367104ae4927767fcd8863/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Shutterstock\n\nA symbolic aspect of the Ghanaian wedding is the bride giving her consent when asked for her hand in marriage. This is done three times, as a matter of denoting that she is sure of her decision and not forced into an alliance. Though a dated tradition, it is very much a part of modern weddings and included in the day’s proceedings. The bride is then presented to the groom’s family after everyone present has borne witness to her accepting the proposal.\n\n### Formal Wedding Attire Worn by Guests \nWhether invited to the traditional wedding or the church ceremony, any wedding-appropriate formal attire is welcome. If you do choose to wear traditional Ghanaian attire to the wedding, rest assured that’s also welcome. In this special type of African wedding, with all the bright colors and gorgeous designs, the rest of the wedding party is wearing, you will fit right in. If in doubt, check in with the wedding party. \n\n### Entertainment Aplenty\nMusic is a big part of the ceremony, so expect to hear gospel songs, as well as Afro beats. The groom’s family enters with music when bringing the bride’s gifts, the bride’s family enters with music when she makes her grand entry, and there’s generally music all around accompanying every aspect of the wedding. Brush up on the latest tunes or check in with the bridal party, so you can enjoy some of the songs.\n\n### Delicious Eats Galore\nIndulge in traditional Ghanaian fares, such as banks and grilled fish, red bean and fish stew with fried plantain, roast goat, roast ripe plantain, jollof rice… the list goes on. Food is a big part of the wedding traditions, and a large spread with multiple dishes is the norm. Be ready to head over for seconds, as the celebratory meal is usually served buffet-style after the wedding ceremony. \n\n### A Tradition of Knocking on the Door\nKnocking on the door involves the tradition of the groom and his family going to the bride's home to present the marriage proposal and ask her family for her hand in marriage. Though in Ghanaian culture this practice is historically done weeks or months before the wedding day, this is now sometimes incorporated on the day of the wedding just ahead of the rest of the festivities planned for the day. \n\n### A Beautiful Wedding Celebration\nBe prepared for the catchy music, beautiful clothing, and equally happy gathering of family members at a traditional Ghanaian wedding as you celebrate the newly wedded couple on their special day.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:06.074Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-to-host-a-virtual-wedding-ceremony-with-ease","title":"How to Host a Virtual Wedding Event (With Ease!)","excerpt":"Hosting a virtual wedding or another ceremony online? Make it easy with our guide to hosting a virtual wedding with ease. ","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2020-06-23T19:08:52.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6fOdskPVOHkRCmAWHWXDZw/725235bb279f53abd12d5b5b65f66922/How-to-Host-a-Virtual-Wedding-Event.jpg","altText":"virtual wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"*__Planning A Wedding During A Pandemic:__ Every wedding planning journey has its twists and turns. To make sure your path is as smooth as possible and to help you keep an eye out for tiny potholes and giant roadblocks, always follow the advice of your local health guidelines and the recommendations set forth by the [CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/). The state of the pandemic can change quickly, but by staying informed, you can make it to your destination—wedded bliss—without a hitch.*\n\nOK, so you made a [backup plan](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/backup-wedding-plan-quick) for potential rain at your outdoor wedding. You even know how to fix your attire if something snags it day-of. We know, you thought of everything! Except getting married in cyberspace. Hey, it happened. And we want to help you make the most of it. As more and more couples celebrate online, it’s becoming clear that hosting a virtual ceremony doesn’t mean you have to compromise what’s most important to you. \n\nWhether you’re experiencing a change of plans or committing to a digital ceremony from the get-go, below are some snippets of advice to make sure the day runs as smoothly as possible.\n\n## Invite Guests\nHow you [invite your guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list) depends a lot on your original plans. \n- If you initially intended to have an in-person gathering and have already sent out invitations, for example, it’s best to send out a simple [“change the date”](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/change-the-date/shop) with the new virtual wedding details. \n- If you were still in the early stages of planning [when COVID-19 hit](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know) and are opting for a digital celebration, then you could include the details on your invitations as you would for any traditional wedding. \n\nFor digital ceremonies, the most important details to include are the date, time, link to join, and any necessary login information. It’s also a good idea to have all this information available on your wedding website. Just make sure that the virtual aspect of your ceremony is loud and clear, particularly if you’re changing plans. If you are hosting any guests who are not so tech-savvy, consider calling them to confirm they understand the new plan.\n\n## Get Your Affairs in Order\nUnfortunately, the legalities of a virtual wedding are generally different than an in-person one. For this reason, make sure you do some research on your state’s specific requirements. \n\nIn addition to the couple, an officiant and witnesses are often required, along with a marriage license. However, it, again, depends on your location. New York, for example, has made some exceptions due to COVID-19 and it’s also fairly simple for a friend or roommate to serve as an officiant after being ordained online. Just make sure you visit your County Clerk’s office website and work through all the legalities to make your union official.\n\nYou can also, of course, use your virtual wedding as a celebration instead of an official union. Many couples are opting to recognize their would-be wedding via a virtual ceremony and planning to officially (and legally) tie the knot when stay-at-home orders end.\n\n![virtual wedding decor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IAvsS8kpcfnSFV9MusIvf/97bd1d1734c836ca3079aea82baf6cba/soft-delicate-romance-styled-shoot-22_AlisaFerris.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Alisa Ferris\n\n## Work with Vendors\nOne of the tougher decisions you’ll have to make when planning your virtual ceremony is which vendors you’d like to remain involved (if you were already planning) and which aspects of the event you’d like to handle on your own. \n\nFor example, with social distancing still a concern in most places, it might be in your best interest to do your own hair and makeup. Or maybe you and your partner take the opportunity to bond while baking your own cake. \n\nThat said, there are still plenty of ways to [support and include your vendors while going virtual](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know), whether it be having floral arrangements dropped off at your door or purchasing a smaller version of your original cake. You can even hire your photographer to take photos outside after the ceremony. Just make sure you’re transparent and discuss details in-depth with each vendor. Your contracts will likely require a review and update. \n\nIf you don’t know where to start, you can always work with a planner or day-of coordinator to take some of the stress off. \n\n## Prep your Space\nWhether you’re streaming from the comfort of your home, a local outdoor area, or a more traditional wedding venue, there are some steps you can take to make sure your day is camera-ready. \n\nPick a spot that not only looks great in-person but works well on video. Parents have a house on the beach that you think will make for a great view? Make sure the sound feed isn’t overcome by the wind too often. And check that lighting! \n\nThe [type of décor you choose](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) may depend a lot on where your ceremony is taking place. For example, if you’re recording from an outdoor space like a garden, then extravagant florals may seem unnecessary. However, if the background is fairly simple, then flowers, candles, and hanging lights are all great ways to set the scene. \n\nYou can create a really beautiful space anywhere you are—even a tiny apartment. Think about your wedding vibe and work with your space and some extra decor touches to create a DIY backdrop. The space should simply feel right for you and your celebration.\n\n## Get Technical\nOne of the more important decisions you’ll have to make for your virtual wedding is which platform to use. Though Zoom has quickly become a frontrunner, there are other options to consider, including Google Hangouts, Instagram Live, Facebook Live, Skype and more. \n\nIn addition to checking your recording equipment, wi-fi connection, and outlets, try to delegate key aspects of the event to friends and family so that it’s not all on you. This includes considering some of the less intuitive concerns, like whether or not you want your guests to be muted during the ceremony. Just be sure that all the ins and outs are communicated with your guests in advance.\n\n![virtual wedding couple](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1nEnHttxgiSOa0hAOEwayW/80dbb3bd8f10c9bc81c3425819e428ee/romantic-summer-elopement-at-rocks-state-park_JadeNikkolePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Jade Nikkole Photography\n\n## Rehearse\nDon’t be fooled: Just because the event is online doesn’t mean you can skip rehearsing. In fact, it only makes it that much more important so you can ensure things run smoothly. Set aside time with your fiancé, officiant and bridal party (if you have one) to go through the most important aspects of the big day and troubleshoot any technological challenges.\n\nSince your guests’ attention spans likely will be shorter than if the event were in person, this is also a good time to think about which traditions you most want to include. For example, maybe you choose to skip the cake cutting simply because you don’t have a group to share it with. Or maybe your fiancé shared how much they were looking forward to the first dance, so you make sure to prioritize that. \n\nDespite being digital, a timeline is very important, so these are all key considerations when planning and rehearsing.\n\n## Infuse Some Creativity\nJust because you had to take things online doesn’t mean you have to give up on making the event feel like your own. Aside from tradition, the primary purpose of a wedding is to celebrate a union and have fun – so make sure you do just that! Get creative and engage your guests through thoughtful, interactive experiences. \n\nMaybe you decide to send a simple, custom cocktail recipe along with your e-vites or do a virtual countdown to the big day. The hashtag #ZoomWeddings is a great place to start for gathering inspiration. Just do what feels most authentic to you as a couple.\n\nA virtual event may seem complicated, especially to couples who weren't exactly planning on hosting one. 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How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"Perhaps you’ve decided to style your own hair for your wedding to save time and money, but suddenly realize you have no idea how to do wedding hair. Don’t worry, we’re here to help. Opting for a DIY wedding hairstyle can be intimidating, but all it takes is a little preparation to pull it off flawlessly. Luckily there are some tried and true DIY wedding hair tricks that you can use to make sure you look amazing when you walk down the aisle. 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Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. 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","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"duties-of-the-father-of-the-groom","title":"What Does The Groom’s Family Pay For? + Duties List","excerpt":"Learn about the different father of the groom duties with this helpful guide. Read on to discover more.","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-15T01:39:42.802Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6j6aXC2QuSVpzWVKT0nu9o/6bb939d2d770bb6f2e99c9187a6df26d/Inline_Civicphotos.png","altText":"Father of the Groom"},"heroCredit":"Civic Photos","body":"Seeing your son get married is perhaps one of the most exciting days of any parent's life—and if your son is getting married, you may be wondering what part, exactly, you play in their big day.\n\nIf your son is getting married to a bride, you're in luck; the groom’s parents are often on the more relaxed side of the wedding party—as, at most weddings, there’s typically a bigger spotlight on the [bride's parents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-wedding-cake) on the wedding day. But, this doesn’t mean that the mother or father of the groom’s role is less important. The groom’s parents can make a lot of contributions to help make the wedding fun, successful, and memorable.\n\nIf your son is marrying the groom of his dreams, you can expect to take on more of the spotlight—and more of the responsibilities that go along with it.\n\nWhatever the situation, the groom's parents (whether that's the groom's mother and groom's father, groom's two fathers, groom's two mothers, or a two sets of parents, with a combination of biological and stepparents) get to enjoy witnessing the best day of their son’s life as he marries the love of his life.\n\nIf you’re a parent whose son is getting married, we have listed the things that are expected of you, from the moment he gets engaged up until his wedding day.\n\n![What Should the Father of the Bride Wear?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26mmGU1x2zryKjZWoXLJaw/536b64b915f2c640d951dba5eacd9a3b/inline_unsplash.jpg) *Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Before the Wedding\n\nDon’t know what mother or father of the groom duties you'll have before the big day? Here are a few ways you can prep for your son’s wedding day.\n\n### Get to Know Your Future In-laws\nIf you have not been formally introduced to your future son or daughter-in-law’s parents, reach out to them soon, and invite them for lunch or dinner with the entire family to celebrate the couple’s engagement. Getting to know the groom's family or bride’s family before the big day is a great way to merge the two sides.\n\n### Offer Financial Help\nGone are the days when the parents of the bride (or groom) are the ones footing the entire bill. Nowadays, when it comes to [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding), wedding costs are mostly covered by the couple getting married—or, if you have the resources, you can offer to help your son and his soon-to-be-spouse cover some of their wedding-related financial responsibilities.\n\n## What Do The Groom’s Parents Traditionally Pay For?\nIf you do decide to help your son financially, depending on your [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), there are a few wedding expenses that, traditionally, the groom's family pays, including:\n\n- __[Wedding rings](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-rings)__. This includes the wedding band for both your son and their bride or groom. Worry not, you aren’t expected to pay for anyone’s engagement ring, as well.\n\n- __Marriage License__. Before the wedding can take place, the couple needs to acquire their marriage license. This can be completed before the wedding or signed during the wedding ceremony.\n\n- __Engagement party__. While the parents of the bride [traditionally pay for wedding planning expenses](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding) (as well as a bridal shower) and [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-do-bridesmaids-pay-for) contribute to the [bachelorette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-pays-for-the-bachelorette-party), the parents of the groom traditionally cover the costs of the engagement party. This event sees loved ones come together to celebrate the engaged couple.\n\n- __Rehearsal dinner__. Likewise, this dinner takes place in the nights before the wedding in celebration of the upcoming wedding.\n\n- __The groom's attire__. Much like it is tradition for a bride’s parents to purchase her wedding dress, it’s good etiquette for a groom’s parents to purchase his wedding attire. This may include a suit or tux, dress shirt, socks, shoes, and/or accessories.\n\n- __Flowers__. This includes, but isn’t limited to, wedding florals such as the bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres for the groomsmen, corsages, centerpieces, and other decor.\n\n- __The [wedding officiant's](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant) fee__. This covers the money paid to the officiant for performing the wedding, including a tip.\n\n- __Gifts for the best man and groomsmen.__ Often, a groom will be inclined to give wedding gifts to his best man and groomsmen for participating in the wedding. Depending on budget, these can be as affordable or pricy as one likes.\n\n- __Entertainment.__ For example, the wedding band or DJ, a photo booth, or similar that is at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Alcohol for the wedding.__ Be it an open bar, limited bar, or BYOB.\n\n- __Honeymoon costs for the newlyweds.__ This may include flights, accommodations, and excursions.\n\nIf you're not sure what to contribute, sit down with your son and his fiancée so that you can figure out what kind of help they need—and what it makes sense for you to pay for.\n\n### Offer Support to Your Son\nBe available to your son, especially during the [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/15281fd5-a93e-44f0-b480-bc0df933b290) process. Getting married is such a big step, and wedding planning can sometimes be chaotic. Be there to give him practical marriage advice and calm his nerves during the planning stage (which he’ll need). You can also offer to help him with wedding planning duties, like researching what he needs to do to obtain his marriage license or helping him narrow down the guest list. (Just make sure not to [overstep your boundaries](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).)\n\nAside from this, you can also use your strengths to help. Are you a builder? You can help with some DIY projects such as building yard games if they’re having the wedding outdoors or creating wedding favors. Do you whip up legendary cocktails? You can help the couple plan their bar menu and develop their signature cocktail. Spending time with the happy couple will give you an idea of what they need and which areas you can be of the most help.\n\n### Host the Engagement Party and/or Rehearsal Dinner\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n### Share Family Traditions\nTraditionally, the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, which is typically held the evening before the wedding day. It's attended by the wedding party (including bridesmaids and groomsmen) and close family members—especially those who have traveled for the wedding.\n\nIt's also appropriate for the groom's parents to host the engagement party. If your son and his partner choose to host the engagement party themselves (which has become increasingly common), you'll at least want to show up with a thoughtful gift, ready to welcome your future daughter-in-law or son-in-law into your family. \n\n![Duties of the Father of the Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7mVr1BiDRI7OO19We69Yuh/7803725dbe2ac67c43d4fb98f854673b/Inline_Taylor_Cotilla_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Taylor Cotilla Photography\n\n## During the Wedding\nThe mother and/or father of the groom's duties isn’t over just yet. As the groom's parent, there's plenty for you to do on your son's big day, including:\n\n### Get Ready With the Groom and Groomsmen\nIf you're the groom's father, you'll want to get ready with your son during the morning of the wedding. Make sure that your son eats in the morning and is prepped and ready on time. (If you're the groom's mother, you won't be getting ready with your son and his groomsmen—but feel free to stop by with breakfast and some words of encouragement before you go get ready yourself.)\n\n### Be Present for Photos\nFamily portraits are done while getting ready and immediately after the wedding ceremony. Make sure you're ready to go for photos—and, if the wedding photographer needs help, offer to go and gather other family members as necessary.\n\n### Walk Down the Aisle\nBoth parents of the groom have a significant role at the ceremony, and they can either walk down the aisle together or with the groom before sitting in the very front of the venue, on the right side. (If you and your son's other parent are separated, you may opt to walk down the aisle separately.)\n\n### Say a Few Words\nAs the groom's parents, you might be asked by the couple to give a wedding toast at the reception. This is your time to “introduce” your son to their new spouse's family by sharing some of his amazing traits, as well as a little bit about his childhood. Your wedding speech will also include thanking the guests for coming and welcoming your son or daughter-in-law into the family.\n\n### Dance With the Bride\nMany weddings have parent dances—and that includes dances for the groom's parents. Traditionally, the mother of the groom does a son dance with the groom.\n\nBut the dancing doesn't end there! Once the party gets underway, make sure that each parent spends some time dancing with your son and his new spouse (for example, if your son married a woman, the father of the groom might ask the bride for a dance).\n\n## Tips to Ask My Parents or In-Laws to Pay for Wedding Things\nPerhaps you’re the son in this case. Though many of these expenses come with a traditional wedding, approaching your parents and asking them to pay for any one (or several) of them isn’t easy. That being said, we’ve compiled a few tips to help you start and carry the conversation.\n\n### Be direct\nThough you may be nervous, avoid talking in circles and beating around the bush. Be straightforward and honest with your intentions and asking.\n\n### Be polite\nThat being said, it’s most important that you remember to be kind. Requesting help with paying for a wedding is no small ask. Be polite, mindful, and appreciative.\n\n### Ask them to be involved\nIf it’s alright with you and your partner, also ask your parents if they’d like to be involved in the matters of planning a wedding they’ll be contributing towards. Let them know that their input is also important to you.\n\n## Conclusion\nAs the groom's parents, the best wedding etiquette you can perform is being there to support your son. Welcoming wedding guests and making sure that everyone is comfortable is always a good idea for the big day. 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","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thousands of couples have incredible weddings every year without sacrificing on style or going over budget, and you can do it too. 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Read on for examples, tips, and ideas to help you get started!","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2024-08-02T04:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3PBdrNBS2UYhqnyCFooKG1/e390e62472f70f1a40534d892abbb40b/hero.jpg","altText":"Example of profile picture with young female"},"heroCredit":"Zola Inc","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n\n- [Brief wedding party bio examples](#brief)\n- [Poetry wedding party bio examples](#poetry)\n- [How long you've known each other bio ideas](#long)\n- [Where you met sample bios](#where)\n- [Why you've included them bio examples](#why)\n- [How to get started writing wedding party bios](#start)\n- [Additional ideas for creative bios](#additional)","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Writing bios for your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn't as difficult as you may think. Guests will be interested in how you know the members of your wedding party and others helping out on your big day.\n- When you write a bio, add tidbits, such as how you met and other fun facts about each person.\n- Our wedding website bio examples include starter questions to help you write something short and sweet.\n\n## Why write wedding party bios for your site?\n\nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website \"Free Wedding Website Templates & Builder (Ideas & Themes) | Zola\") serves two purposes. For starters, it provide your guests a place to revisit wedding details, including all of the information they’ll need to attend the reception and ceremony. Secondly, it provides them with personal insight into who you are as a couple your love story, and the people you’ve invited to be part of your wedding party. Crafting wedding website bios deserves thoughtful consideration. \n\nThe [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) is made up of those who mean the most to you. They’re who you asked to stand up with you at your wedding ceremony. Naturally, your guests will want to get to know a little bit about them. Under the wedding party section of the design template of your choice, you'll find examples to spark your creativity and get the writing juices flowing.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## 5 Wedding party bio examples\nWedding website bio examples may include how long you’ve known the different members of your wedding party, where you met, and why you’ve decided to include them in your wedding celebration. Here are a few sample wedding party bios to get you thinking.\n\n### 1. Brief wedding website bio examples\n\nIn just a short sentence or two, each of these wedding party bios shows the relation of the [wedding guest](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding) to the couple as well as an anecdotal detail that illustrates the bond. \n\n- __Maid of Honor__ - Sure, she’s just two years older than us, but she’s the mama bear of the group forever.\n\n- __Best Man__ - Rec frisbee teammate in college. Friz for life!\n\n- __Bridesmaid__ - We shared a cubby in preschool. We were neat freaks then, and neat freaks now!\n\n- __Groomsman__ - Yes, he introduced the happy couple. He gets a seat at the table.\n\n### 2. Poetry wedding party bio examples\n\nThese wedding bio examples put a twist on the first version with [added humor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/funny-wedding-vow-ideas) and details. When writing your own wedding website bios, inject your own personal flair into the words. P.S. They don't have to rhyme.\n\n- __Maid of Honor__ - Sure, she’s two years older than the bride, but she might as well have been a twin.\n\n- __Best Man__ - Lacrosse teammate in high school throughout college. You could say it’s a bromance, but it might be more than that (and Kate’s trying not to be jealous). \n\n- __Bridesmaid__ - We shared a cubby in preschool. We were neat freaks then and neat freaks now, as evidenced by the spotless apartment we shared until my engagement!\n\n- __Groomsman__ - Yes, he introduced the happy couple. He gets a seat at the table.\n\n### 3. How long you've known each other sample bios\n\nFrom meeting in high school to being new (but very bonded!) coworkers, your guests will be curious about how far back your relationship goes.\n\n- __Maid of Honor__ - Seeing as she’s my sister, I’ve known her my whole life and couldn’t imagine having anyone else standing by my side on my wedding day.\n\n- __Best Man__ - Mark and I have been friends since Miss Elaine’s kindergarten class and have shared many of life’s big moments. It means the world to me to have him there on the day I get married.\n\n- __Bridesmaid__ - Whitney and I were neighbors growing up and our parents have been friends forever. She’s like another member of the family. \n\n- __Groomsman__ - Matt and I were college roommates and our annual fishing trip is still going strong 10 years later. \n\n![Lovely Wedding Website Bio Examples](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/HRU2Q9aCeYO4RVo4Bs1Qk/d3ccf216bc1454607b5572a84e14e8cc/inline_glam-black-tie-wedding-at-the-four-seasons-downtown-4_FionaConradPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Fiona Conrad Photography\n\n### 4. Where you met wedding day bios\n\nDid you spot each other doing the same moves on the dance floor and become instant BFFs? Our perhaps you joined the same club in college. No matter what, let your guest list know what brought you together.\n\n- __Maid of Honor__ - Five years ago, Candice and I met at a party we both wanted to leave. We headed to a bar close by and laughed over martinis. We’ve still been doing our own thing as besties ever since.\n\n- __Best Man__ - Who knew my marathon training partner would turn out to be one of my best friends getting ready to stand by me on my wedding day?\n\n- __Bridesmaid__ - Rachel and I met in Mr. Gilmore’s homeroom sophomore year where we got in trouble frequently for passing notes. \n\n- __Groomsman__ - I met John on my first day on the job at Qualcomm 10 years ago. Our friendship has outlasted that job and many others since then.\n\n### 5. Why you've decided to include them bio examples\n\nInstead of fun facts, let everyone know the personality and traits of your wedding party. Adding personal reasons of why they're a part of your wedding day can be truly meaningful. \n\n- __Maid of Honor__ - Candice is my loving, spirited sister who has my back no matter what, so of course, I’d want her to hold my bouquet and be by my side as my MoH. \n\n- __Best Man__ - Mark and I are “thick as thieves” as our parents used to say. We fought as brothers do, but he’s my best friend and the obvious choice for my Best Man.\n\n- __Bridesmaid__ - As a longtime family neighbor, Rachel and I have known each other since the day we were born. She’s been with me through all of my big life moments.\n\n- __Groomsman__ - John and I haven’t lived in the same city since college, but we’re always able to pick up right where we left off whenever we’re together.\n\n## Goals for these wedding party bio examples \n\nThe goal of writing these bios is for your friends and family to feel as if they know a little something about your [groomsmen](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-groomsmen-duties) and bridal party before the big day. While your wedding site will include practical details, such as [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests) and directions to the ceremony, the bios section makes your website fun and engaging.\n\nYou can tell the story in a number of ways. Wedding party bios will depend on which direction you want to go when sharing details and personal glimpses into the lives of your wedding party members and what they mean to you. The only challenging part is likely how to simplify a lifetime of knowing each other into only a few sentences. \n\n## How to get started with writing wedding party biographies\n\nIf you’re having a tough time knowing where to begin, take it step by step. Act like you’re talking to a friend, which is ultimately what you’re doing through your website. With the structure of the design templates to help guide you, it makes it easier to know which bios go where and how much information to include. \n\nA few tips to keep in mind when writing website bios are: \n\n- Keep the bios short, sweet, and reflective of your personality.\n- Add humor, but keep the inside jokes (and potentially embarrassing details) private.\n- Maintain a light tone throughout.\n- Use proper names so wedding guests are clear about who you are talking about.\n\nYou’re sharing an introduction to some of the most important people in your wedding celebration. While some of your guests may be familiar with who they are, there are others who will be meeting them for the first time. Give off a good impression as you write the bios for your wedding party. \n\nAs for who to include on your website, this can be limited to your wedding party. However, the bios can extend to include parents, flower girl, ring bearer, [wedding officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant), and any other person who has a significant role in the ceremony. \n\n## 4 Ideas for including wedding party bios\n\nIn addition to thinking about how long you’ve known each other and where you met, there are other ways to come up with your website bios. \n\n### 1. Send a survey to help write your wedding party info.\nOne first idea is to put the work on your party, so to speak. Send out a quick questionnaire to the members of your wedding party that asks them to share a favorite memory or activity they like doing with you. This will jumpstart your memory and inspiration of what to include for each person. \n\n### 2. Think about life events you've had in common.\nAnother idea is to pinpoint a significant event you’ve shared together. Examples might be college roommates, sharing an apartment, attending a concert, or traveling to a different country. Think of a short list of big moments that you have shared and what kind of stories came out of those experiences. These anecdotal moments are fun to reminisce about and will set the scene for those who are reading about them on your website. \n\n### 3. Get creative with icebreakers for wedding party members.\nYou can also think of icebreakers guests can ask members of your wedding party or ways to get to know them better. For example, if your maid of honor is a travel enthusiast, guests can ask her about her most recent trip. If your best man is a marathon runner, guests can ask about what his favorite race has been. \n\n### 4. Sentiment matters most when writing bios.\nEven if you feel like you can’t come up with the perfect words to describe what your wedding party means to you, as long as you come from an authentic place, the sentiment will be there. Be intentional with your wording, and it’ll be clear their importance in your life as individuals and as a couple. If all else fails, use the bio as a way to thank them for being part of your celebration and your journey as a couple. \n\n![Lovely Wedding Website Bio Examples](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Vfymt8FT1zhoYiqOuN53r/26d8bfc551816d6ca7cbd11f87779139/Inline_black-tie-wedding-with-rustic-elegance-27_KimberlyCoccagnia.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Kimberly Coccagnia\n\n## Let Zola help with all aspects of wedding planning\n\nWhile the focus of the celebration will land squarely on you as a couple, there will be loved ones from both sides who may be intermingling for the first time. Since you won’t likely have time for one-to-one introductions for your entire [guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list), bios are a way to give a virtual wedding party introduction and a place to spark a conversation.\n\nTake the examples we’ve shared and make them your own. Your family and friends are excited to be a part of your wedding moments with you, so no need to put too much pressure on crafting bios. Simply give them an idea of who the people are who you've chosen to stand up for on your wedding day. Keep them lighthearted and fun, sentimental and short, and you’ll be all set. You have this! And if you need more wedding advice, like selecting a [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-coordinators-cost) or [booking a honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-honeymoon-destinations), Zola has the info you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-08-03T01:22:28.321Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding websites","slug":"wedding-websites"},"slug":"wedding-website-url-ideas","title":"Wedding Website URL Ideas","excerpt":"Wedding websites are the preferred way for couples to organize and distribute information for their big day. Need some wedding website URL ideas?","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2021-07-09T16:38:05.688Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3BaqUiLjFSgmCC3Xa3e8pj/eb815ed5775790ad2b88e39f360324ec/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"Wedding Website URL Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- When choosing a URL for your wedding website, the key detail to remember is to keep it as short and straightforward as possible. Use something that’ll be easy for your guests to remember, such as your names.\n- If you’re having trouble finding a name combo that’s still available, make simple changes such as adding your wedding year or using a different domain.\n- Zola can make it simple and fun to [create your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/manage/website/designs) from start to finish with our beautiful and customizable designs.","body":"As part of your wedding planning process, consider creating a beautiful wedding website to host all your wedding information. Yes, this means adding another thing to your wedding to-do list, but trust us, it’ll be worth it! If you need some help on [how to write your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), don’t worry—we’re here to guide you through the ins and outs of creating a wedding website. Keep reading to discover Zola’s best tips on building your own wedding website, starting with choosing the right website URL for your wedding website. \n\n- Wedding Website URLs 101\n- 10 Ideas and Templates for Wedding Website URLs\n- How to Set Up a Wedding Website\n- Customizing Your Wedding Website to Match Your Custom URL\n\n## Wedding Websites 101 \n\nWedding websites are fantastic because they provide a __[central place for details on your forthcoming nuptials](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website)__. All the useful info, such as the date, time, and address, can be kept in one place.\n\nThere’s also room on your website to spotlight other fun and helpful tidbits for your wedding. Couples who want a place to share their love story can do so on a separate page. And, if you’re looking for a way to subtly link your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola makes it easy by integrating your online registry directly into your wedding site.\n\nBefore you can set up an online hub for your wedding, the first thing that you need to decide is what the name and URL of your website will be. The name of your website will build the foundation for everything else that comes after. \n\n![[Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)\n\n### The Dos and Don’ts of Wedding URLs \n\nWhile anyone can register a domain name, good website names are hard to come by. That’s why we’ve put together this list of dos and don’ts to help you navigate the pitfalls of wedding URLs.\n\n__Do:__\n\n- __Check ahead of time to see if your URL hasn’t already been taken:__ If you’re registering your own website domain, you’ll need to make sure that the name you want is still available, and then lock it down to get started.\n\n- __Make your URL as brief as possible:__ When it comes to URLs, the best wedding websites are short and sweet. Long URLs will make your __[wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__ look cluttered and unprofessional.\n\n- __Keep your URL simple:__ Complicated URLs are difficult to remember. If your friend loses your invitation and can’t remember the name of your website, they won’t have access to all the info they need. Plus, for family members who aren’t tech-savvy, a long and complicated address means more room for error when typing.\n\n- __Use nicknames:__ Nicknames are a simple and cute workaround if you have an unusual or uniquely spelled name. They’re also a smart option if your actual birth names aren’t available anymore.\n\n__Don’t: __\n\n- __Misspell words on purpose:__ If the website name you want is unavailable, don’t try to work around it by misspelling words. Chances are that your guests will enter the correct spelling and get sent to the wrong couples’ website. \n\n- __Use special symbols:__ Non-alphabetical or non-numeric characters will be confusing when sending URLs. Hyphens can often be mistaken for underscores on paper. And, if you tell your mom over the phone that your website is Tina&Celine.com, chances are that she’ll try TinaandCeline.com or TinaNCeline.com before the ampersand. \n\n- __Use the full date of your wedding in the URL:__ You may not be the only Darren and Zoe ever to get married, so don’t try to remedy the matter by using your wedding date in the URL. DarrenZoe04102021.com is a mouthful and can be incredibly confusing if your international guests are used to a different calendar format.\n\nWebsites are more accessible now than ever for anyone to make or use, but don’t fall for common mistakes when registering a domain. Stick with these guidelines and you’ll have a website that makes your life easier, instead of sending your guests straight to the 404 error page. \n\n## 10 Ideas and Templates for Wedding Website URLs \n\nComing up with an idea for your wedding website can be a fun and easy activity for you and your partner. There are many __[website themes and designs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs)__ to choose from that reflect your relationship and personality. If you’re both blanking on where to start, though, we’re here to help.\n\nUse these wedding website ideas and templates as a starting point as you brainstorm your URL:\n\n \n\n### 1. A“(First Name) and (First Name)” URL\nThis template is a classic and effortlessly chic option. Many couples prefer a template that uses both of their first names, as it’s simple and to the point.\n\nThis template is also easy to remember, and it puts the focus on the two people getting married. You'll be able to quickly rattle off the name of a website when talking to a friend, and they'll have an easier time remembering it. You could always drop the “and” if your names are long or if you prefer the way the URL looks without it.\n\n__Examples:__ \n- *SamandAlexa.com*\n- *SamAlexa.com*\n\n### 2. “(First Name) plus (First Name)” URL\nThis template uses the same logic as the previous one, but provides a slightly more playful structure. The equation format is reminiscent of romantic high school crushes doodling hearts around their names in notebooks. “Jack + Diane = True Love.” \n\n__Examples:__\n- *KillianplusGeorge.com*\n- *SaraplusDan.com*\n\n### 3. “The (Last Name)s” URL\nIf you or your partner are planning on taking the other’s surname, what better time than the pre-wedding period to test out how this sounds and looks? Surnames make short and concise URLs that get straight to the point.\n\n__Examples:__ \n- *TheMcDonnells.org*\n- *The Wilsons.net*\n\n### 4. “The (Hyphenated Surnames)” URL\nFor those modern couples who will be combining last names once you’re married, debut your new hyphenated surnames in your wedding website URL. That way, you can give your guests a hint of how you’d like to be addressed once you’re married, so as to avoid any awkward toasts at the reception.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *ThePolanskiShens.com*\n- *TheSanchezSmiths.com*\n\n### 5. Add Your Wedding Year to Your URL\nAdding the year of your wedding after your name is a popular option for both a wedding website and a wedding hashtag. It’s less cluttered than including the full month and date (a URL faux pas), but still excites anticipation for your upcoming celebration.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *AikoandRachel2021.com*\n- *TheChangs2021.net*\n\n### 6. Put the “Wedding” in Your Wedding Website\nIf the above options are a little too plain and bland for your tastes, adding the word “wedding” to your names will make it crystal clear exactly what this website is about. Combine this with your wedding year for a URL that has all the details.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *FredBeeWedding.org\n- GoldsteinsWedding2021.com*\n\n### 7. Use Suffixes in Your Wedding URL\nCouples who want to try new forms of address can throw in the appropriate suffixes into their wedding URL.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *MrandMrsPark2021.com*\n- *MrsandMrsWilkinson.net*\n- *MrandDrGarciaHaw.com*\n\n### 8. Set the Scene With Destination Wedding URLs\nJetsetting couples hosting their marital celebrations in a destination wedding can make the location a focal point in their URLs. Not only will a __[destination wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-website-help-your-guests-prepare-for-your-wedding)__ URL provide a unique website name, but it’ll immediately signal to your guests that the wedding location might require some travel.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *TheTruongsinVietnam.wedding*\n- *MattandFarahinFrance.com*\n- *JamieAshgotoMilan2021.net*\n\n### 9. Add Wedding or Love-Themed Phrases\nIf one or both of you are wordsmiths, you can play around and add some romantic wedding-related words to your website name. Just remember to keep it concise and straightforward.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *MinawedsNick.com\n- DavelovesJin2021.love\n- TheBrownsHappilyEver.wedding\n- Zoesaidyes.org*\n\n### 10. Use a Different Domain Extension for Your URL\nThe most familiar domain extension for websites is “.com,” but you don’t have to stick with that option when it comes to your wedding URL. Couples looking to change things up or navigating around an unavailable \".com\" website domain can use a different extension.\n\nOther common extensions include:\n- .org\n- .net\n- .me\n- .online\n\nIf you’d like to stick closer to the wedding theme in your website, use an unusual, but on-point extension such as:\n- .love\n- .wedding\n\nWebsite hosting platforms such as Squarespace can help you check domain availability and suggest alternative combos for your website. Registration on website domains for regular use, such as weddings, usually won’t cost more than $20/year, so it’s an affordable option for couples who want to go the extra mile.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *PeggyandSteve2021.love*\n- *AmaniplusAdam.wedding*\n\nIf you don’t want to fuss around registering and paying for your own wedding domain, Zola can help you with our __[free and customizable website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ tools. Those who decide on this option won’t need a custom domain name, but, if you want, you can add one to your __[Zola site for as low as $14.95](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115001755451-Does-Zola-sell-custom-domain-names-?%24web_only=true&_branch_match_id=711383717283485260)__.\n\nWith hundreds of gorgeous designs, Zola makes it simple to set up a website that still feels like “you.”\n\n## Customizing Your Wedding Website to Match Your Custom URL \n\nSo, you’ve got a lock on a custom website URL and an outline of the kind of website that you want. But how can you take it one step further and make your wedding website something that reflects who you are as a couple?\n\nUsing templates from website builder programs doesn’t mean that you’ll end up with a wedding page that looks like everyone else’s. With minimal effort and work, you can transform your website into a stunning and unique portal for your special day.\n\n### Include an “About Us” Section\nThe best way to personalize a wedding website is to get a little personal—so tell us a little about yourselves with a [wedding website bio](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-bio-couple-story-templates). Couples with adorable meet-cutes or first-date stories should feel free to share the details here.\n\nIf you have trouble talking about yourself, ask your partner to write a little bio about you (and vice versa)—this can be a sweet and romantic activity for both of you. Think about little habits or quirks that you love about your SO and small jokes that make both of you laugh. \n\n### Introduce the Wedding Party\nTake advantage of your digital space to dedicate a page to your wedding party. Write short bios for each attendant that include their role in the party and why they’re special to you.\n\nTell the story of how your cousin made you pinky swear that you’d make him your person of honor when you were 10 in this space, or share the time that you met your bridesmaid rock climbing. This section can be a thoughtful way to acknowledge and thank the people who will be standing by you as you enter a new chapter of your lives.\n\n### Decorate Your Website With Pictures\nPictures are a fantastic way to make your website all about you. If you have albums of film from a romantic vacation abroad or beautiful shots from your engagement photos, now’s the time to put them to use. \n\nHere are some creative ways to utilize photos on the website:\n\n- Feature your favorite shots from your engagement on the landing page.\n\n- Use different pictures on the headers for each page of your website.\n\n- Break up chunks of text with images of the two of you.\n\n- Include side-by-side photos of you two as babies.\n\n- Create an interactive page for guests to upload pictures and videos they take at your engagement party, rehearsal dinner, or on the wedding day so that you can look back on your website after the honeymoon.\n\nCustomizing your wedding website with personal details and images will help your website stand out and feel unique to you. You can be as creative as you want, even when you’re using a designed template. \n\n## Use Zola for All Your Wedding Website Needs\nNow that you’ve got everything you need to create the ultimate wedding website, you can start organizing all the details of your big day online. Keep track of your guest list and upcoming booking deadlines by using Zola’s online RSVP and wedding checklist. Add your __[wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)__ so guests can easily view it. Include a section on your website to provide dress code information, any social media hashtags, and FAQs your guests may be interested in. __[Give our wedding website builder a try](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__― it has everything you need in one place. \n\nFound a website template you love, but are still undecided on which paper options to use for everything else? Zola pairs our free website designs with matching paper products so that your wedding aesthetic is the same both on- and offline.\n\nOrder a free sample invite to see your dream design brought to life on paper. With Zola’s __[premium paper suite collections](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper)__, you’ll never have to worry about mismatched fonts or clashing color palettes.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We count down our 20 most popular wedding website templates.","title":"20 Free Wedding Website Templates That Will Inspire You","slug":"20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2C4ipaW0Zc4U1VbuH7Y3zv/8a2a008bc80c3186ceff9b89a12d25c8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"20 Most Popular Zola Wedding Website Templates"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Explore etiquette tips for how to share your wedding website on an invitation.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-04T15:29:33.595Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26CncJFSKWLqU3QCUNbXDz/adef7cbc39110ffd3962b155c77cb77a/HERO_Zola_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding website on invitation etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"You [wrote your “how we met” story](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), uploaded your [beautiful engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos), and [created your wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/registry-basics/tips-for-creating-a-wedding-registry). This can only mean one thing: you completed your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Congrats! Crafting a wedding website that communicates all the important details about your wedding day is no easy task. Now that you hit publish, you’re probably wondering when and how you should share your brand-spanking-new site with your wedding guests.\n\nWhile it can be tempting to post a link to your wedding website on your social media accounts right away, we strongly advise against it. Sharing your wedding details with all of your web-based followers and friends often leads to confusion about who is and isn’t invited to your big day. Instead, modern etiquette suggests that you share your website with your guests via your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (and save the dates, if applicable). For more information on how to include your wedding website on your invitation, keep reading. \n\nJust getting started? Check out our step-by-step guide on [how to make a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). \n\n## Why to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nIncluding a link on your invitation is the easiest and most common way to share your website with your guests. Traditionally, the wedding invitation suite includes a few different enclosure cards to relay critical information to guests. While that’s still an option, many modern couples have opted to forego multiple enclosure cards and instead direct guests to their website to learn need-to-know wedding details, such as hotel recommendations and registry information. In addition to communication wedding details, the wedding website may be included on the invitation for the following reasons: \n\n__1. To Collect RSVPs Online__ — Many couples choose to collect online RSVPs rather than have their guests fill out paper response cards. That’s because sites like Zola make it easy to gather RSVPs through your wedding website and [manage the guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) with real-time updates and easy-to-use tracking tools. \n\n__2. To Share Registry Information__ — In the past, registry etiquette dictated that the registry only be shared by word of mouth. The digital age has rendered that rule outdated, and it’s now considered standard to share where you’re registered on your wedding website. Including your website URL on your invite makes it easy for guests to find your registry without hassle. \n\n## How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nNow that we’ve covered *why* to share your wedding website on your invitations, let’s talk about *how* to include your wedding website on your invitation without sacrificing aesthetic appeal or committing an etiquette faux pas. \n\nIn general, when sending out the [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal), guests appreciate having the wedding website information all in one place. Wedding etiquette insists that you don’t include your website on the invitation directly, but if you do choose to share it on the formal invitation, add the website to the bottom of the invitation. Wedding save the dates and enclosure cards are also a great place to share your wedding website with guests. You can do this by either:\n\n- Adding your wedding website URL\n- Adding a QR code\n\nLet's explore these different options for how you can share your wedding website on your invitation.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) \n\n### Save The Dates\nAlthough your [wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are sent out in advance of your invitations, they’re still a part of your invitation suite and the most popular choice for sharing the wedding website URL with guests as quickly as possible. \n\n__Where:__ If you make your save the dates using a pre-made design online, then the template will guide you on where exactly you should list your wedding website link. It varies by design, but in most cases, it’s listed on the back of the save the date or at the bottom of the front side. If you’re working with an invitation designer or making your own, where you place the URL is up to your personal preference. If you opt for a QR code, placing it on the back of your save-the-date would be ideal.\n\n__When:__ Send save the dates 4-6 months before your wedding date. \n\n### The Formal Invitation \nAlthough some wedding experts believe it’s bad decorum to include your wedding website on your invitation, we’re of the opinion that it’s okay if you’re collecting RSVPS through your site in lieu of response cards. Just keep in mind that unless the link serves a purpose other than broadcasting where guests can buy you gifts, that it may be considered poor etiquette to share your wedding website on your invitation. \n\n__Where:__ At the bottom of your invitation. Some wording examples:\n- “For more information, please visit [URL]”\n- “Kindly RSVP by [RSVP deadline] at [URL]”\n\nIf you opt to add a QR code instead, adding it to the back of the invite is best.\n\n__When:__ Send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n### The Enclosure Card(s) \nYour other option is to include your wedding website URL on an enclosure card (an additional piece of your invitation suite used to communicate additional details to your guests). While there are many types of enclosure cards, these three are used to point guests to your website: \n\n- __RSVP Card__ — If guests should RSVP online via your wedding website and you don’t want (or have the space) to include these instructions on your invitation, an option is to include an RSVP card with instructions on where, when, and how guests should accept or decline your invitation online. \n- __Details Card__ — To communicate multiple pieces of information with guests on one card, many couples prefer to enclose a details card with their invite. This card may list your website, travel information, requested attire, and other fine points that your guests should know before the wedding day.\n- __Wedding Website Card__ — A final option is to add a wedding website card to your invitation suite. 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","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2020-12-16T23:12:58.131Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5SSzO8fJPbHyTaFnzumWsv/55f7388e6c90da3045c1b047e18ceb2e/Hero_WeddingWebsiteExamplesandInspiration.jpg","altText":"Zola Wedding Website"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Now that we’ve walked you through what information to include when you __[build a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website)__ and __[why you need one](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website)__ for your wedding, here comes the fun part: figuring out a beautiful wedding website theme and design. \n\nWe stand by our previous advice of having your website complement the style of your actual wedding theme—whether it’s modern chic or bohemian. A great way to translate that online is by being selective about the color schemes, images, and even typography of your wedding website. Adding a personal touch, such as a story about the happy couple or if there’s a special reason behind the date of your big day, can make this part of wedding planning easier and more fun to do together. \n\nThankfully, a lot of wedding companies—including Zola—have __[website builder templates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates)__ for you to choose from that you can then customize to your liking. Ahead, we list out some of our best wedding website examples (from over 300 Zola examples) that will hopefully help spark some inspiration for your own custom __[wedding website design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__. \n\n## 1.[Old School Charm](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/griffin-navy)\nThis is a classic wedding template design with a sophisticated feel. It's great for the traditional couple (hence the monogram) and is perfect for a wedding taking place at a country club or another equally posh wedding ceremony location. \n\n## 2.[Outdoorsy](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/galata)\n\nFor the couple that lives for adventures, this is a nice nod to nature. It’s a good option if you’re having an outdoor wedding ceremony or just know that there will be a lot of greenery involved. \n\n## 3.[Romantic Vibes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/steadfast)\n\n![Wedding Website Examples and Inspiration: Themes and Designs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6HbT1C71YJticHNvcQmSf5/e508a0df22b34ef2bfc9b56235cea9d9/Inline_2WeddingWebsiteExamplesandInspiration.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nA deep red color like this one automatically reads romance. Specifically, the kind that takes place in a cabin, next to a fireplace, in the middle of winter. So, if you’re opting for a cold-weather wedding, this could be a good choice. \n\n## 4.[Tropical Getaway](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/escape)\n\nAs soon as you see the spiked palms on this website, you immediately know this __[destination wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-website-help-your-guests-prepare-for-your-wedding)__ is going to take place somewhere warm. It’s a big hint for guests without giving away the entire theme. \n\n## 5.[Cute Colorblocking](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/peak) \nWe love the use of color on this website which, for some reason, reminds us of a quirky startup. It gives off a playful energy that’s bound to make any aesthetic-obsessed millennial happy. \n\n## 6.[Simple and Sweet](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/violin)\nThanks to the script text, this website design is simple and to the point, while still remaining chic. It’s a great choice for an array of wedding types, from beachfront to ballroom. \n\n### 7.[Cultural Elements](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/sona-pink)\nIf you know you’re having a ceremony and reception that follows the traditions of your culture, it’s a nice idea to incorporate those wedding details into your website. This bold and bright website uses Indian motifs and is a preview of what’s sure to be an equally bold and bright wedding. \n\n## 8.[Architecturally Approved](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/franklin)\nThis website manages to be both fun and grownup at the same time. The architectural lines and shapes with the abundance of white, marbled space pairs well with black and white photography. \n\n## 9.[Minimalistic](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/rosemont-red)\nSometimes all you need is a minimalistic, to-the-point website. If you don’t want to spend more time making any other style decisions, go for this simple text and type layout. The wedding day is where the real effort should be directed anyway. \n\n## 10.[Big Typography Fans](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/louise-green)\nFor the couple for whom typography is king, we present the graphic designer-approved layout. The color combination gives off Nashville or Austin vibes that are retro and contemporary all at the same time. \n\n## 11.[Starry Starry Night](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/splendor-black)\nBlack is a bold, unexpected choice for a website that gives off an air of Great Gatsby-like glamor. It’s also perfect for a wedding that’s taking place outside and under the night stars.\n\n## 12.[Trendy and Bright](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/rios-black)\nThis website reminds us of a playful, trendy restaurant—in the best way possible. The bold colors are stunning and the traditional Mexican motifs add a hint of folklore. \n\n## 13.[Wanderlust Lovers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/perch-green)\nWe’re obsessed with this sweet, muted green and nude combination. The “you’re invited” sticker is reminiscent of a passport stamp, which makes us think it would be perfect for a destination wedding. Or, it can simply be a nod to the couple’s love of traveling. \n\n## 14.[City Setting](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/manhattan-skyline-v2-blue)\nMake clear where your guests will be partying (and perhaps where the couple also met) straight from the get-go by including an outline of the skyline. In this case, it’s pretty obviously New York City. \n\n## 15.[Gingham Style](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/august-navy)\nPerfect for a backyard or barn wedding, this gingham print makes known what kind of environment guests can expect. Think preppy and sweet. \n\n## 16.[That Fall Feeling](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/tallulah-beige)\nAnother great option for a winter or fall wedding, thanks to its deep, warm hues. \n\n## 17.[Beach Babes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/oahu-navy)\nThis website is nautical and beachy without being too obvious. It’s ideal for a wedding taking place alongside the water. \n\n## 18.[Vintage Perfection](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/festival-kraft)\nThis wedding website template has plenty of vintage style and charm reminiscent of a western ranch—perfect for a rustic wedding. \n\n![Wedding Website Examples and Inspiration: Themes and Designs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/IuCIgfMRr6gEZoP3pMTu2/4362e55196930a3ad3dd942689829d57/Inline_WeddingWebsiteExamplesandInspiration.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Zola\n\n## 19. [Desert Boho](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/aurora-beige) \nFor any desert-loving couple, this beautiful watercolor cacti design is simple but elegant. It’s great for a wedding taking place in warmer months.\n\n## 20. [Southern Elegance](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/dover-white) \nWith a hint of floral and a soft color palette, this wedding template is fitting for anyone planning a charming southern wedding. \n\n## 21. [Adventurers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/camden) \nThis wedding design features deep, earthly colors, with a beautiful forest of trees, perfect for the adventurous couple. This may be a great option for an outdoor wedding. \n\n## 22. [Mickey and Minnie](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/mickey-and-minnie-modern-pink) \nIf you’re a Disney fan, you’ll love Zola’s Disney-themed designs like this one. It features Mickey and Minnie, a great option for any Disney lover.\n\n## 23. [Summertime Sunflowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/bonnie-cream) \nFor the couple getting married in summer, surrounded by sunshine and happy vibes, this template radiates joy. \n\n## 24. [Twinkling Lights](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website/design/moonlight) \nSparkly string lights set the mood with this cute and fun design. \n\n## What to Include on a Wedding Website?\nAfter browsing some of our beautiful wedding website examples, now it’s time to design your own website. Feel free to customize your website with one of these wedding website templates, but keep some of these must-have features in mind to make sure your website is informative for your guests. \n\n- __Header.__ Your header can be as simple as your names at the top of your website—or, if you want to give a little more information, use it to greet your guests and explain what they’ll find on your wedding website.\n\n- __URL: Custom Domain.__ Choose a domain name that is simple and easy to remember. Consider using your first names (for example, TommyAndGina.com), include your wedding year (GrangerWedding2023.com), or a cute play-on-words to make your wedding URL unique to you (FinallyFreedmans.com).\n\n- __Share Your Love Story.__ Your love story is unique to you. Your wedding website is the perfect opportunity to reflect on your first date or the moment you both fell in love with each other. \n\n- __RSVP.__ Make sure the RSVP date is clearly stated on your website so no one misses out on celebrating your special day with you.\n\n- __Event Details.__ You’ll also want to include any relevant event details (more on those in a bit).\n\n- __Dress Code.__ Specify the type of dress code so your guests know what to show up in. Is your wedding black tie—or is it more smart casual?\n\n- __Wedding Party.__ Take a moment to introduce your wedding party and why you’ve asked those closest to you to share in your big day.\n\n- __Wedding Date.__ No one wants to get your wedding date mixed up. Make sure the date is clearly stated on both your wedding invitations and your website. If you have international guests joining you, be sure to write out the month and date to prevent any confusion on when you’re hosting your big day.\n\n- __Wedding Venue.__ Provide the address of your wedding venue along with driving directions (and a map). You can also include how early guests may arrive at the venue and any other information they might need to know about the venue (for example, if they’ll need to catch a shuttle from the parking lot to the ceremony location).\n\n- __Countdown.__ Get people excited about your wedding by including a digital countdown tracker on your website. \n\n- __Gift Registry/Wedding Registry.__ Integrate your wedding registry on your website to give your guests easy access. (Good news! You can __[create your registry through Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)__ to make the setup simple and easy.)\n\n- __Social Media Hashtags.__ Create your signature social media hashtag so everyone can look back and find photos from your engagement party, rehearsal dinner, and wedding day events. Make sure they’re simple to remember but unique to your wedding—like HappilyEdwardsAfter2023 or BradAndBridgetSayIDo.\n\n- __Slideshow with Photos of the Couple or Engagement Photos.__ As another personal touch, consider including a few photos or videos of you and your partner. Add baby photos, pictures from your childhood, and snapshots that create a timeline of your relationship.\n\n- __FAQs—especially for Destination Weddings.__ An FAQ page is a great place to add any additional information you want your guests to know. This might include travel information (including information on local hotels and hotel blocks, flight options, and car rental contacts), information about your wedding (like if it’s a child-free event), or information about accessibility at your venue.\n\n## Zola, Your Best Wedding Website Option\nYour wedding website can be a wonderful tool to use while planning your wedding. It provides a one-stop shop for all the necessary details and information that all your guests can access. And if you need help designing a beautiful wedding website, Zola has got you covered! Choose from our wide collection of themes that match your wedding, style, and relationship. Try __[Zola’s custom wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ today and access all the features you need to create the perfect wedding website.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We count down our 20 most popular wedding website templates.","title":"20 Free Wedding Website Templates That Will Inspire You","slug":"20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2C4ipaW0Zc4U1VbuH7Y3zv/8a2a008bc80c3186ceff9b89a12d25c8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"20 Most Popular Zola Wedding Website Templates"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering how to share your wedding website with guests? 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Learn all about wedding websites, why they make wedding planning so much easier for you and your guests, and finally, how to create the perfect website for your wedding!","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}}},{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Legal","slug":"legal","description":"Find guidance on legal aspects of getting married and planning a wedding like changing your name, marriage certificates, wedding venue insurance, wedding vendor contracts and more."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"featured":[{"excerpt":"Perhaps you’ve decided to style your own hair for your wedding to save time and money, but suddenly realize you have no idea how to do wedding hair. Don’t worry, we’re here to help. Opting for a DIY wedding hairstyle can be intimidating, but all it takes is a little preparation to pull it off flawlessly. Luckily there are some tried and true DIY wedding hair tricks that you can use to make sure you look amazing when you walk down the aisle. 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Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. 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","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. 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Whether you're searching for beautiful ceremony backdrops, color palette inspo, or unique and trendy ideas, you'll find the inspiration you need to create a picture-perfect celebration."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-memorial-ideas","title":"56 Unique Wedding Memorial Ideas to Honor Loved Ones ","excerpt":"Honor cherished memories at your wedding with thoughtful memorial ideas. Create a meaningful tribute to late loved ones on your special day.","publishedAt":"2020-10-18T21:51:12.753Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/jj4pJ80HF2Wd37qIBjbKR/a41d6f461480d972ee58014432e36d5b/hero_unsplash.jpg","altText":"Ways to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"Your wedding day is a joyous occasion, but it can be difficult to celebrate in the absence of a loved one. It’s completely valid to feel the weight of the loss of a cherished friend or family member even amid such a happy time, and choosing to include a meaningful moment or gesture in your wedding is a beautiful way to honor their memory. \n\nThere are many ways to pay tribute to a deceased loved one at your wedding, and how you do it is completely personal—some might favor a public commemoration, while others might prefer a more private moment. Before you decide, it’s wise to consider the appropriateness of your idea based on your unique circumstances. This includes: \n\n- The deceased person’s relationship to you and your partner \n- The date of your wedding (some memorial ideas might be difficult if the death occurred close to your wedding day) \n- The wishes of anyone close to the deceased (it’s important to discuss with anyone who might be sensitive to death) \n- Religious or cultural considerations\n\nThe best plan of action when choosing a wedding memorial idea is to discuss it with those directly involved before a decision is made. Though your intentions may be good, it’s the most considerate approach.\n\nIf you’re all on the same page, and you’re looking for unique wedding memorial ideas, browse these creative ways to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding, or jump straight to our infographic below.\n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Ceremony \n### 1. Reserve a Seat in Their Honor\nKeep your loved one’s memory close by reserving a seat for them up front in their honor. You might choose to place their photo in the seat, or another personal item that holds sentimental value. \n\n### 2. Add a Note in Your Ceremony Program \nYour wedding ceremony program is a fitting spot to include a sincere message in your loved one’s honor. This way, everyone will have a chance to read the tribute while still keeping the ceremony proceedings uplifting. \n\n### 3. Incorporate a Reading in Their Honor \nIf you’d like a more public commemoration of your loved one, including a reading in their honor at some point during the ceremony is a touching way to pay homage to their memory. The reading could be a poem, book passage, or a quote—whatever you feel is most meaningful. If you’d rather not perform the reading yourself, you can ask your priest or officiant to step in instead. \n\n### 4. Speak to Their Memory During the Ceremony\nAn alternative to including a reading in your late loved one’s honor is to simply dedicate a portion of the ceremony to sharing about their memory and what they meant to you. Rather than reading a specific quote or passage, you’ll have the chance to speak freely about your relationship with your late loved one and share directly from the heart. \n\nBe sure to consider carefully whether or not this might become too emotional, as emotions will likely already be high on your wedding day. \n\n### 5. Include a Moment of Silence \nAnother way to honor a deceased loved one publicly (without having to actually say anything if it feels too difficult to speak about) is to include a moment of silence for them at the beginning of the ceremony. Ask your priest or officiant to work this into your ceremony order and have them lead the moment of silence. \n\n### 6. Light a Candle During the Service \nCandles are a beautiful way to pay homage to late loved ones and help signify that while their physical presence is missed, they’re still there in spirit. Light a candle in their memory during your ceremony—you can work with your officiant or wedding planner for help with where to include the special moment in your order of service. \n\n### 8. Place an Item On Their Chair After Walking Down the Aisle\nIf you have an item of your late loved one that holds sentimental value, a touching way to memorialize them during your ceremony is to carry it with you as you walk down the aisle, then place it on a chair reserved for them in their honor. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas for the Reception \n\n### 9. Name Something After Them\nFor a sweet tribute to a late loved one, choose something at your reception to name after them—this could be anything from the bar station (“John’s Bar”) where you serve their favorite drink, or naming a single drink after them (“Grandma’s Lemonade”). \n\n### 10. Display Framed Family Photos \nDisplaying framed photos of your late loved ones is a beautiful and thoughtful way to honor them and make them a part of your special day. Frame a selection of your favorite photos, then create an installation on your [guestbook](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-guest-book-ideas) table so your guests can see and appreciate it, too. \n\n### 11. Add Their Favorite Dishes to Your Wedding Menu\nIf you’re looking for a unique wedding memorial idea with plenty of character, consider incorporating your late loved one’s favorite dishes into your wedding day menu. This might be an old family recipe or even their favorite late-night snack—whatever it is, your guests will appreciate such a thoughtful addition.\n\n### 12. Play Their Favorite Song \nIs there a particular song or artist that meant a lot to your loved one or simply reminds you of them? Use that tune or collection of tunes in your wedding reception playlist in their honor.\n\n### 13. Dedicate Your Parent Dance to Them\nIf your late loved one is related to your or your partner’s parents, dedicating your parent dance to them is a truly meaningful way to honor their memory. You can also choose to play their favorite song or pick a song that reminds you of them for the dance.\n\n### 14. Make a Toast \nIf you’re commemorating a late family member, the [reception](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-reception-timeline) is a special time to give a toast in their honor. If you don’t want to perform the toast yourself, ask a close family member or whoever is giving toasts to share a cherished memory or sentimental story in their honor.\n\n![inline unsplash 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2thP4DFjVikjjQFS5NewhD/e842afcef590d0230691c51f09d005fc/inline_unsplash_1_.webp)\n\n### 15. Select Touching Favors \nYour wedding favors can be used as a sweet token of remembrance, and offer a unique way to leave your guests with a piece of your loved one’s memory. This could be anything from incorporating their favorite candies or choosing something you know they loved—if your late grandfather loved cigars, for example, you could send your guests home with his favorites along with a note explaining the token. \n\n### 16. Create a Memory Table in Their Honor \nReserve a designated space at your reception by setting up a table filled with framed photos, sentimental objects, and anything else that holds meaning to the person whose memory you’re honoring. \n\n### 17. Create a Memory Box\nA unique and interactive way to pay homage to late loved ones is by creating a memory box. Have a space where guests can take a card and write down their memories with your loved one for you to look back on later. Place it on your guestbook table or on a memory table if you’re creating one. \n\n### 18. Display a Remembrance Drawing \nHaving a custom illustration made is a creative way to give recognition to late loved ones at your wedding, and with so many talented illustration artists out there, it’s a chance to create something truly special to display in your loved one’s honor. If you choose to designate a seat for them at the ceremony, you might place the illustration on their chair for guests to see. \n\n### 19. Display a Plaque or Sign\nDisplaying a plaque or sign is one of the simplest ways to pay tribute to late loved ones. Have one made (or make one yourself) with a touching message in their honor. \n\n### 20. DIY a Wooden Sign\nIf you have a penchant for creating things yourself, a DIY wooden sign in honor of your late loved one is the perfect way to pay your respects. Going the DIY route also means endless possibilities in how you choose to customize your sign, which could include names, dates, and a thoughtful message. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Sentimental Symbolisms \n### 21. Incorporate a Family Heirloom \nWhether you wear your loved one’s handkerchief, wrap a symbolic rosary around your bouquet, or carry a sentimental trinket or object with you down the aisle, there are countless ways to incorporate a late loved one’s family heirloom to feel like they’re close to you on your big day. \n\n### 22. Choose a Sentimental Wedding Location\nThere are a variety of factors that go into choosing a wedding location and venue, like the time of year, number of guests, and so on. But if you’re wedding planning in the midst of losing a cherished friend or family member, you might also consider choosing a site that holds meaning to the deceased loved one. \n\n### 23. Wear Their Jewelry or Cufflinks \nAdding a piece of your late loved one’s jewelry to your wedding day ensemble or sporting their cufflinks with your suit is a beautiful way to keep them close to your heart for each moment of your big day. That way, you’ll always wear your loved one with you, from the ceremony until the day comes to an end. \n\n### 24. Light a Candle in Their Honor\nCandles are an excellent way to symbolize that a late loved one’s memory still burns bright in your heart, even if they’re physically absent. If you’d rather not light a candle publicly during your wedding ceremony, choose a private moment to light a candle in their honor instead. It could be on the morning of your wedding day while you get ready, or with close friends and family directly after the ceremony. \n\n### 22. Pin Their Photo to Your Attire \nFor a sweet and subtle way to keep your late loved one close to you on your wedding day, place a small photo of them in an ornamental case like a locket, and pin it to your attire. You can choose if you want the photo to be outwardly visible, or you can place it somewhere more discreet so only you and your partner know it’s there. \n\n### 25. Add Their Photo to Your Bouquet \nAn alternative to pinning a photo of your loved one to your attire is to add their photo to your bouquet so you can keep them close as you walk down the aisle. Simply add their photo to a heart-shaped locket or small charm and affix it to your bouquet. \n\n### 26. Incorporate Their Favorite Flowers \nSurround yourself with your late loved one’s memory by incorporating their favorite blooms into your [floral decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/decor-inspiration/flowers/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers). You might use their favorite flowers in your bouquet, or use them to adorn your reception tables. You can also simply choose to incorporate flowers and plants that symbolize remembrance, like statice, rosemary, pansies, and gladiolus. \n\n![inline unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4h6kKpstWY2mNfkK97mz51/0ebd6fa561976b54b97d86e22565baac/inline_unsplash.webp)\n\n### 27. Incorporate a Special Motif \nFinding ways to incorporate your late loved one’s memory on your wedding day doesn’t have to be done traditionally. For example, maybe they weren’t fond of flowers, but they really loved butterflies. In that case, you might incorporate butterflies into your decor or favors. Anything that holds meaning to you and your late loved one can be woven into whatever part of your wedding you choose—don’t be afraid to get creative. \n\n### 28. Sew a Memory of Them Into Your Attire \nTake pinning a trinket or photo to your attire a step further by having a memory of your loved one sewn into your wedding day attire, such as a cutting of their shirt or a small monogram. Bring your idea to your seamstress for their input on how to best incorporate it into your suit or dress. \n\n### 29. Wear a Piece of Their Wedding Attire \nIf your late loved one was an older family member, a truly personal way to pay homage to their legacy is by sporting a piece of their wedding attire in your own wedding day outfit. This could mean going all out and wearing their wedding dress as your own, or simply incorporating a single piece, like their veil or tie. \n\n### 30. Set Aside a Private Moment \nIf you’d rather not put on a public display in remembrance of your late friend or family member, set aside some time for a private moment at some point during the wedding instead—either with close friends and family who knew them or even with just you and your partner. This allows for a moment of stillness amid the hustle and bustle of the big day in which you can have the chance to pay your respects privately. \n\n### 31. Request Donations to Their Favorite Charity \nUphold the memory of your late loved one by requesting donations to a special charity that mattered to them in lieu of a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). Alternatively, instead of providing wedding favors, you might consider making the donation yourself. Create a sign at the guestbook table indicating your donation in place of favors, along with a note detailing the significance of what the charity meant to your friend or family member. \n\n## Wedding Memorial Ideas: Quotes and Readings \nThe quotes and readings below can help you add a more personal touch to any wedding memorial signs, speeches, or readings in honor of loved ones no longer with you on your wedding day. \n\n### Memorial Quotes\n32. “As you were you will always be, treasured forever in our memory.” –Unknown\n33. 31. “In the hearts of those who loved you, you will always be there.” –Unknown\n34. “Forever remembered, forever missed.” –Unknown\n35. “May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here.” –Unknown \n36. “Life has to end. Love doesn’t.” –Mitch Albom\n37. “The song has ended, but the melody lingers on.” –Irving Berlin\n38. “Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” –Irish proverb\n39. “Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” –Dorothy Ferguson\n40. “Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart.” –Unknown\n41. “Your life was our blessing, and you shall never be forgotten.” –Unknown\n42. “Every life is noted and is cherished, and nothing loved is ever lost or perished.” –Madeleine L’Engle\n43. “And they all said, ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ as if you were someone who could ever be taken from me.” –Robert Brault\n44. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” –Winnie the Pooh\n45. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” –Helen Keller\n46. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” –Gandhi\n47. “Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.” –Mother Teresa\n\n### Memorial Readings\n\n### 48. William Wordsworth Reading\n“And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory,\nImages and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed.” \n\n–William Wordsworth, The Excursion\n\n### 49. There Is No Light Without a Dawning Reading\nNo winter without a spring\nAnd beyond the dark horizon\nOur hearts will once more sing ….\nFor those who leave us for a while\nHave only gone away\nOut of a restless, care worn world\nInto a brighter day\n\n–Helen Steiner Rice\n\n### 50. Our Memories Build a Special Bridge Reading\nWhen loved ones have to part\nTo help us feel we’re with them still\nAnd soothe a grieving heart\nThey span the years and warm our lives\nPreserving ties that bind\nOur memories build a special bridge\nAnd bring us peace of mind\n\n–Emily Mathews\n\n### 51. Irish Blessing Reading\nMay the roads rise up to meet you,\nMay the wind be always at your back,\nMay the sun shine warm upon your face,\nMay the rains fall soft upon fields\nAnd until we meet again\nMay God hold you in the palm of his hand.\n\n–Irish Proverb\n\n### 52. Life Can Never Stay the Same Reading\nLife can never stay the same\nNo matter how we try\nOur hands can never stop\nThe clock of life from ticking by\nBut love remains, unchanging\nIn the care of sorrowing hearts\nFor as the love of life is stilled\nThe love of memory starts.\n\n–Unknown\n\n### 53. Turn Again to Life Reading\nIf I should die and leave you here a while,\nBe not like others sore undone,\nWho keep long vigil by the silent dust.\nFor my sake turn again to life and smile,\nNerving thy heart and trembling hand to do\nSomething to comfort other hearts than thine.\nComplete these dear unfinished tasks of mine\nAnd I perchance may therein comfort you. \n\n–Mary Lee Hall\n\n### 54. If I Should Die Before the Rest of You Reading\nIf I should die before the rest of you\nBreak not a flower nor inscribe a stone\nNor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,\nBut be the usual selves that I have known.\nWeep if you must\nParting is hell.\nBut life goes on.\nSo sing as well.\n\n–Joyce Grenfell\n\n### 55. Not How Did He Die, But How Did He Live? Reading\nNot, how did he die, but how did he live?\nNot, what did he gain, but what did he give?\nThese are the units to measure the worth\nOf a man as a man, regardless of his birth.\nNor what was his church, nor what was his creed?\nBut had he befriended those really in need?\nWas he ever ready, with words of good cheer,\nTo bring back a smile, to banish a tear?\nNot what did the sketch in the newspaper say,\nBut how many were sorry when he passed away?\n\n–Anonymous\n\n### 56. Intimations of Immortality Reading\nWhat though the radiance which was once so bright\nBe now forever taken from my sight,\nThough nothing can bring back the hour\nOf splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;\nWe will grieve not, rather find\nStrength in what remains behind.\n\n–William Wordsworth\n\n\n![wedding-memorial-ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jzPxkqkpzd2pVgDLzEfkp/cb21b39a2d359c02b345356af0a79883/wedding-memorial-ideas.png)\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2025-03-14T18:47:31.753Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"wedding-planning-guide","title":"Wedding Planning 101: Ultimate Guide to Planning a Wedding","excerpt":"Your guide to planning a wedding from start to finish. Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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Wedding planning questions

Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through.

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