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What to Expect at a Nigerian Wedding

Have you been invited to a Nigerian wedding? Find out what to expect with this comprehensive guide.

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A Step-by-Step Guide on How to Get Married in Idaho

If you’re saying “I do” in the Gem State, read on for Zola’s tips and tricks for getting your Idaho marriage license!

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How to Sleep the Night Before Your Wedding

You're bound to be nervous the night before your wedding. Get the shuteye you deserve and need with tips from sleep experts on how to sleep before your wedding.

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Which Vendors Should You Tip On Your Wedding Day?

Check out our guidelines for wedding veder tipping, how much to budget for, and other tips regarding gratuity.

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How to Get Married in Mississippi–Everything You Need To Know

Getting married in the Magnolia State? Here’s how to get a marriage license in Mississippi with tips and tricks from Zola.

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Is It Ever OK to Ask for a +1 to a Wedding?

The plus-one debate is a common one—should you ask for one or shouldn't you? Find out when it's OK to ask for a plus-one and how to do it the right way.

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How to Talk Money When You're in a Wedding Party

When wedding party money issues arise, be upfront and honest. Learn the best ways to talk about money when you're in a wedding party here.

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Wedding Coordinator Tips & Tricks: How to Prepare For the Big Day

We’re walking you through when to book a wedding coordinator, and more importantly, what you need to know before you book.

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What Do You Write In a Marriage Advice Card?

It can be hard to find the right words and strike the appropriate tone when giving heartfelt marriage advice in a card. Here are some ideas for what to write and what to avoid, according to relationship experts.

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Who NOT to Invite to Your Wedding

Before you cut—or feel obligated to include—those on your “maybe” list, here are things to consider when weighing who not to invite to your wedding.

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May Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know

The start of Wedding Season is here! Read on for your complete guide to planning a wedding in May.

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How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values

Everything you need to know to find values-based wedding vendors.

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","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2021-02-04T15:44:50.010Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oDRA8nNKk5tg1Tr1pNO9a/34ca5063f3b9071bec13443a39fcda7b/Hero_ColorfulSpringWeddingWithNigerianInspiration_WillKernerPhotography.jpg","altText":"Nigerian Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Will Kerner Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- The number of tribes calling Nigeria home ensures no two weddings are exactly alike.\n- Be prepared for a big party, lavish arrangements, and a celebration to remember.\n- Traditional aspects of a Nigerian wedding include the money spray and kola nut ceremony.\n","body":"Nigerian weddings are lavish affairs, with elaborate attire, food, entertainment, and specific Nigerian wedding traditions. With hundreds of tribes calling Nigeria home, every wedding is a unique celebration of religion, culture, language, and more. The proceedings will look a tad bit different depending on whether it’s a Christian or Muslim wedding (the two religions make up the bulk of the population), but here’s what you might expect:\n\n## There May Be More Than One Invitation\n\nIt’s acceptable for two weddings to be hosted—a traditional Nigerian wedding in all its splendor and a religious ceremony that’s more aligned with western tradition, typically held at a church or nondenominational venue. Expect to be invited to one or both, depending on how well you know the couple. The weddings are sometimes held days or weeks apart and in different locations.\n\n## Everyone’s Invited\n\nA Nigerian wedding isn’t just a family affair, it’s a community affair. Expect to meet extended family members, relatives of relatives, friends of friends, and then some at a traditional Nigerian wedding. Everyone will be there. It’s a joyous occasion, and the good vibes are shared with one and all. The concept of the guest list and RSVPs simply doesn’t hold its ground here. The proud parents are happy to invite everyone they know to share in their children’s special day.\n\n## The Outfits Are Extravagant \n\n ![What to Expect at a Nigerian Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7syfAyUKvY3PUcE0FmDz0x/1bbcab70df04a12fb90db0b631570e41/inline_willi_kerner_photography2.jpg)\n *Photo Credit //* Willi Kerner Photography\n\nYou will see the new couple wearing stunning outfits representing their heritage. The entire wedding party might coordinate their outfits as well, which makes it easy to identify which side of the wedding party or side of the family some of the guests represent. You are welcome to wear anything occasion-appropriate, and if you choose to dress in traditional wear like the rest of the friends and family present, you will be embraced for your choice to participate in the culture.\n\n### What is an Aso-Ebi?\nThe aso-ebi (also spelled as asoebi and ashoebi) is a traditional uniform dress that is worn throughout Nigeria and other African cultures as a display of solidarity and cooperation during important ceremonies and festivities. In this case, it'd traditional wedding attire. The name comes from two Yoruba words, with aso meaning \"cloth\" and ebi denoting \"family,\" meaning the aso-ebi can be described as a family outfit. \n\nThe tradition originally developed as a means to identify relatives at Nigerian weddings, funerals, and other celebrations and gatherings. That being said, the custom of wearing one has grown to include friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and other guests. Through this style of uniform dressing, guests also establish their sense of belonging and place in society. Wearing one is a display of your heritage and culture, especially because many are family clothes passed down through generations.\n\nThere may be up to five different aso-ebi at an event, identifying different groups within the wedding celebration. For example, the bride's family may wear white and gold, while her bridal party wears blue and gold, and the groom's family wears green and gold. Typically, the bride will select the fabrics for her aso oke (or wedding dress) and aso-ebi and inform selected guests months ahead of the wedding, allowing them to prepare their outfits. Guests will then purchase the material and bring it to a tailor to have their ideal design created.\n\n## At the Wedding \nThe nuptials are short at a Nigerian wedding ceremony—typically about an hour or so. The reception after is where you’ll spend most of your time. Depending on the couple’s traditions, there may be outfit changes, a few additional rituals or smaller ceremonies, and lots of dancing. In a [Muslim wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-traditional-muslim-wedding-invitation), expect to be seated separately by gender with minimal intermingling between sexes. The couple does not kiss in public, either.\n\n### What are Yoruba weddings? \n[The Yoruba people](https://www.britannica.com/topic/Yoruba) are one of the three largest ethnic groups in Nigeria, residing primarily in the coastal regions of the southwest. Traditional Yoruba weddings are spirited celebrations with many guests typically in attendance to support and celebrate loved and local Nigerian couples. The marriage ceremony is usually hosted by two older women given the title of alagas, or officiant-slash-emcees. It's their job to heckle the groom and his friends throughout the ceremony as entertainment, so you can expect some lively and humorous personalities. The alagas are joined by a drummer who brings more energy and excitement to the occasion.\n\nYoruba weddings begin with a greeting custom called Ìdobálè, during which the groom and his groomsmen prostrate, or lay on the ground with their faces downward. This is done as a show of respect to the bride's family. Once in this position, the bride's parents and family asks the groom a few questions before the groom can stand and be seated. The bride and her bridesmaids will then enter, with the bride placing a hat on the groom's head. He then proceeds to pick her up and carry her, place a ring on her finger, and they are pronounced married. This process is called Igbeyawo, which is Yoruba for \"wedding.\"\n\n## Kola Nut Ceremony \nThe fruit from the kola tree is considered a sign of blessings and prosperity. When given as a gift, the kola nut also indicates respect and gratitude towards one-another. Those who exchange and chew kola together mean to show the world (in this case, their guests) that they love and trust each-other.\n\nThe couples exchange nuts with each other and they are broken in front of guests to signal the start of the auspicious occasion of marriage and the unifying of two families. Couples may choose to keep the rest of the nuts in their home as a souvenir of their wedding day and a reminder of their wedding promises.\n\n## Money Spray\nThis is the practice of money being thrown by older guests at the Nigerian bride or the couple as they dance at their wedding reception. At this time, bridesmaids will collect the money strewn on the floor for the Nigerian bride and place it into bags. This money is intended to help the new couple start their life together, similar to the American wedding custom of the money dance, where guests give money to the bride or groom to dance with them. Go with plenty of notes to shower them with your goodwill and share in their happiness. Don't be surprised if you also see people pressing dollars and pounds on the heads of the happy couple, as this is also common.\n\n## Food and Drink\nIndulge in traditional delicacies, such as jollof rice, meat skewers, and fufu (made from cassava, yams, and plantains). The food at Nigerian weddings—typically catered by the bride’s mother and her friends—is certainly crowd-pleasing. Aside from beer, wine, and other drinks, you may also see palm wine served. At a Muslim wedding, though, alcohol is not served.\n\n### Alcohol\nDepending on the type of wedding, alcohol can play an important, [traditional role](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/irish-wedding-toast), a lively one, or none at all. Whether or not a Nigerian wedding has alcohol or not entirely depends on the religion and traditions of the couple. As mentioned above, Muslim weddings will not have alcohol available. However, other types of receptions, such as those following Christian ceremonies, are likely to serve alcoholic beverages. In that case, you'll typically find red and white wine, the favored palm wine, Guinness (Nigeria is the second largest market for it), champagne, and other spirits.\n\nOne Nigerian wedding tradition you might witness actually heavily involves a glass of wine. The ritual ultimately is an attempt to get the newlyweds to drink palm wine out of the same glass. The bride is initially given the cup. Then, throughout the reception, she must go from guest to guest until she finds her husband and is able to offer him a drink. Once completed, the couple needs to figure out a way to drink from the glass together. This ritual can take a small amount of time or the entire wedding reception, as the bride and groom are likely to be constantly pulled away by friends and family members.\n\n## Dance and Music\nAt [Christian weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-christian-wedding-invitations), deejays typically play tracks from the latest Afrocentric hits or international beats. Some of the dances may almost look choreographed, but are steps to popular hits that you can easily follow as you go. Consider it akin to the cha-cha-slide or cupid shuffle at American weddings. That being said, there will be empty seats aplenty as all ages head to the dance floor. Aside from the food, this is where you’ll spend the most time as a guest. \n\n![What to Expect at a Nigerian Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1GPGdX08K8zDeLDkVcWN9X/6490df363e260ca82b617d57d9269f3a/inline_willi_kerner_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Willi Kerner Photography\n\n### Wedding Favors \nIt’s a given that you will receive custom party favors when you leave. This can include branded items, monogrammed gifts, household presents, and more featuring the name of the couple and the wedding date. A lot of thought goes into planning these favors as a reminder of the good time shared at the wedding. Don’t be surprised if this is as elaborately designed as the overall wedding and reception itself.\n\nEnjoy your time at the wedding and partake in as many aspects as you can. 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We’ve got some helpful tips to guide you towards a great wedding toast that you and your favorite couple will remember fondly for years, so grab your notepads and get ready for some key(note) advice.\n","title":"How to Write a Wedding Toast: The Ultimate Guide","slug":"how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/x9jCrc9cdiEKCCISOo0Yq/a0e027d2c2668c23cc22b4d5d22f577c/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Graphic of two clinking champagne glasses"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:04.520Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-to-get-a-marriage-license-in-idaho","title":"A Step-by-Step Guide on How to Get Married in Idaho","excerpt":"If you’re saying “I do” in the Gem State, read on for Zola’s tips and tricks for getting your Idaho marriage license!","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-08-23T16:04:49.061Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2K8dxmZSfD5Xx6mlOBAcTi/36fe05f2a47ad883190a5d09e58a555e/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Get a Marriage License in Idaho"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- To [receive a marriage license in Idaho](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-a-marriage-license-in-idaho#idaho), go to your county recorder’s office with your partner and present your social security number, proof of identity and age, and approximately $30 in cash.\n- There is no waiting period in Idaho, so you can get married as soon as you receive the marriage license. There is also no expiration date for your marriage license.\n- After your wedding ceremony, your officiant will complete the bottom section of [both copies of the marriage license](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-a-marriage-license-in-idaho#both). \n- Once the Bureau of Vital Records and Health Statistics files your marriage license, you can [request certified copies of your marriage certificate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-a-marriage-license-in-idaho#copies).","body":"Idaho couples are a lucky bunch—an Idaho wedding promises to be a real gem in a state full of them. And once you’ve both said “yes” to getting married in this stunning state, you can begin dreaming about your wedding details: the dress, the [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-questions-to-ask-wedding-cake-bakers), the venue, the marriage license... wait, what? \n\nBefore you can enjoy your wedding day, you’ll need to acquaint yourself with Idaho marriage laws. Namely, you’ll need to acquire a marriage license to make your union legally (and social media) official. \n\nRead on for a comprehensive guide to getting your marriage license. Plus, we have a full rundown of everything else you need to know to plan your Idaho wedding.\n\n### 1. Apply For a Marriage License \n\nThere are two overlapping terms that you’ll need to know to make this process go smoothly:\n\n- __Marriage License –__ Your marriage license is a legal document that you must obtain before your wedding to make it official.\n\n- __Marriage Certificate –__ After your wedding, you’ll turn in your marriage license and receive your marriage certificate.\n\nThe process of obtaining your Idaho marriage license is fairly straightforward, but let’s break it down.\n\n#### Where to Go to Get a Marriage License in Idaho\nFirst, let’s review the Idaho marriage license requirements.\n\nBoth individuals within the couple will need to go to their county recorder’s office. There are no appointments, only walk-ins.\n\n#### What Documents to Bring\nCouples will need to bring two types of identification to receive their marriage license:\n\n- __Social Security Number –__ Both individuals need to provide their social security numbers. Non-U.S. citizens should instead present identification from their country of citizenship. If someone does not have a social security number, they should secure a letter from the nearest Social Security Office.\n\n- __Proof of Identity and Age –__ Both individuals also need to provide proof of identity or age in the form of any of the following documents: a current driver’s license, state-issued identification card, passport, or birth certificate (either an original birth certificate or a certified copy).\n\n#### What Fees to Pay\nThe marriage license fee is approximately $30 in cash, but fees vary by county in Idaho. For example, certain counties in Idaho charge up to $20 more on Saturdays. Most county recorders do not accept checks or credit cards, so make sure to bring cash.\n\nAnd that’s it! It’s a surprisingly easy process. Use the rest of your day to secure all of your wedding vendors with Zola’s easy-to-use and pre-screened [wedding vendor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) search function. \n\n### Things to Know About Your Idaho Marriage License\nThere are a few more important details to know about how your marriage license works and how to make sure that your marriage is legal.\n\n#### Is There a Waiting Period After We Receive Our Idaho Marriage License? \n\nIdaho has no waiting period after you receive your license. That means that you can get married on the same day that you receive it.\n\n#### When Does an Idaho Marriage License Expire?\nIdaho marriage licenses do not expire; however, if you don’t get married after one year, Idaho requires that you contact the state Bureau of Vital Records and Health Statistics.\n\n#### Is a Blood Test Required to Marry in Idaho? \nA blood test is not necessary to receive an Idaho marriage license. However, couples will need to read an AIDS information sheet before they sign their marriage license affidavit.\n\n#### What If My Officiant Isn’t Authorized?\nIf the officiant who performed your ceremony was not authorized without your knowledge, it does not invalidate your marriage as long as you and/or your spouse fully believed that the officiant was lawfully conducting the marriage.\n\n#### Are Witnesses Required?\nIdaho does not require witnesses to make a marriage license valid.\n\n#### Can Non-Residents Have an Idaho Wedding?\nBoth residents and non-residents can obtain an Idaho marriage license; however, the license is only valid if the marriage ceremony is performed in Idaho.\n\n#### What If Either My Partner or I Was Previously Married?\nIf you were previously married, during your marriage license application process you’ll need to provide the date that your divorce was finalized.\n\n### 2. Familiarize Yourself With the Marriage Laws Unique to Idaho\nAnyone who has ever taken a road trip knows about the patchwork of laws and regulations across the United States. Each state has its own unique marriage laws and requirements. Below are some of Idaho’s.\n\n#### Common-Law Marriage in Idaho\nAs of 1996, Idaho stopped allowing common-law marriage. Accordingly, couples must obtain and file a marriage license for their marriage to be legally recognized in Idaho.\n\n#### Legal Age of Marriage in Idaho\nThe legal age of marriage in Idaho is 18 years of age and older. There are two groups who may also marry under specific circumstances:\n\n- __Ages 16 and 17 –__ Individuals ages 16 and 17 can get married if they are accompanied by a parent or legal guardian, or with a notarized statement signed by their parent or guardian. Legal guardians need to produce a certified copy of their appointment of guardianship.\n\n- __Under 16 –__ Individuals younger than 16 years old must receive both parental consent through a notarized statement and permission from the court. \n\nIdaho law also specifies that individuals under 18 cannot marry individuals over 18 if the difference in age between the two individuals is greater than three years.\n\n#### Prohibited Marriages\nIdaho does not allow incestuous marriages under any circumstances. They define these relations as marriages between:\n\n- Parents and children\n- Ancestors and descendants of every degree\n- Brothers and sisters\n- Half brothers and sisters\n- Uncles/aunts and nieces/nephews\n\nIdaho also prohibits marriages between first cousins. Polygamous marriages are also disallowed in Idaho. \n\n#### Out-of-State and International Marriages\nIdaho recognizes marriages and unions from other states and countries as long as they are valid in their place of origin and do not “evade the prohibitions of the marriage laws of [Idaho].”\n\n#### Marriage Penalties in Idaho\nThere are two instances in which the marriage license and ceremony may be subject to penalties:\n\n- __Improperly Performing a Marriage Ceremony –__ If the officiant performs a marriage ceremony without a valid marriage license, they are committing a misdemeanor offense punishable by a $50 to $200 fine. If the officiant performs a marriage ceremony knowing that either individual isn’t “legally competent” to marry, this is also a misdemeanor offense punishable by a $50 to $200 fine.\n\n- __Misrepresenting Information –__ Anyone who misrepresents any of the information on their marriage license application is committing a misdemeanor offense.\n\n## 3. Choose a Date and Venue\n\nWith marriage certificates Idaho, you can get married in any county in the state of Idaho. And the state of Idaho? It has just about every kind of landscape and venue you could image. You have your choice between a variety of gorgeous landscapes, including stunning mountains, lakes, rivers, and sand dunes—as well as rural, suburban, and urban settings. So, whether you’re looking for an extravagant outdoor affair with a stunning mountain backdrop or a simple Boise courthouse marriage, your marriage license will have you covered—so choose whatever place feels right for you. \n\nOnce you choose where you want to get married, it will help you choose a date. For example, if you have your eyes set on an outdoor venue with epic vineyard views (like Fox [Canyon Vineyards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/fox-canyon-vineyards) in Marsing, ID), you’ll want to choose a date when the weather is likely to be on your side, like spring, summer, or early fall. If you’re envisioning an indoor wedding (like at the [CW Penthouse at C.W. Moore Plaza](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/cw-penthouse-at-c-w-moore-plaza), which offers epic views of the Boise skyline), you have more flexibility in booking a venue—as you can host an indoor wedding any time of year.\n\nYou can also choose your date first—and then choose a venue that makes sense for that date. For example, if you know you want to get married on April 24 (for example, because it’s your anniversary or another important date to your relationship), you can search venues that have availability on that date.\n\n*Looking for the perfect venue for your Idaho wedding? Check out our collection of [Idaho wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/idaho-city-id--wedding-venues)!*\n\n#### 4. Who Can Officiate a Wedding in Idaho?\nA wedding officiant is a person that is legally authorized to marry two people. In Idaho state, there are a number of people who can officiate your wedding.\n\n- Current or retired justice of the supreme court\n- Current or retired appeals judge\n- Current or retired district judge\n- Current or former governor\n- Current lieutenant governor\n- Current or retired magistrate of the district court\n- Current mayor\n- Current federal judge\n- Current tribal judge of an Idaho Indian tribe\n- Tribal officials approved by an official act of an Idaho Indian tribe \n- Authorized clergy member\n\nIf you want a friend or family member to act as your officiant, you can have them look into how to get ordained in Idaho; there are online certifications they can pursue to get the legal right to officiate your ceremony.\n\n## 5. Plan Your Dream Wedding\nNow comes the fun part—[starting to plan the actual wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-10-things-to-do-when-planning-a-wedding)!\n\nThere are a number of things you’ll need to do during the wedding planning process, including:\n\n- Create your wedding website\n\n- Create your registry\n\n- Create your wedding planning to-do list\n\n- Set your budget\n\n- Create your guest list\n\n- Send out save the dates\n\n- Find [Idaho wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/idaho-city-id) (for example, a wedding photographer, caterer, etc.)\n\n- Choose your wedding theme and decor\n\n- Find your wedding attire\n\n- Create your wedding day timeline\n\n- Send out wedding invitations\n\n- Manage your RSVPs\n\n*Planning a wedding can feel overwhelming—but we’re here to help! If you need more insight on the wedding planning process, make sure to check out our resources: [How to Plan a Wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) and [Your Ultimate Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).*\n\n#### Following Up After the Ceremony \n\nAfter the ceremony, you’ll be enjoying the newlywed bliss (and hopefully an epic honeymoon!). But there are a few loose ends you’ll need to tie up after your Idaho wedding:\n\n### Return Your Marriage License\nYour officiant will complete the bottom section of the two copies of the marriage license. You will keep the copy with the gold seal and the other copy must be returned to your county office. Once your county records your marriage, they will send the license to the Idaho Bureau of Vital Records, which issues your marriage certificate.\n\n \nIt’s important that you return your marriage license so that your marriage is recorded and so that you can receive your marriage certificate. You’ll need your marriage certificate to do tasks such as changing your maiden name.\n\nIf you wait for more than a year to file your certificate of marriage, it will need to be categorized as delayed by the Idaho Bureau of Vital Records and Health Statistics. You will need to submit a written request that includes:\n\n- Type of certificate (marriage or divorce)\n- Name(s) listed on the certificate\n- Date of event\n- Place of event\n- Relationship to the person(s) on the certificate\n- Return address\n- Daytime phone number\n\nYou must also include a check or money order for $16. This request should be mailed to the Idaho Bureau of Vital Records and Health Statistics. They will search to confirm that they do not already have the marriage certificate on file.\n\n### Change Your Name (If Applicable)\nYour last name will not be automatically changed after your wedding. If you’re planning to change your name, you will need to bring a certified copy of your marriage license to both the Social Security Office and the Department of Motor Vehicles. You can obtain a certified copy of your marriage license through the Idaho Department of Health and Welfare either online or by mail.\n\n## Frequently Asked Questions About Marriage in Idaho\nOverwhelmed? We don’t blame you. Navigating marriage laws and the marriage license process can be a headache. Hopefully, these frequently asked questions offer you some clarity.\n\nRegardless, you can make your wedding planning process a whole lot easier with help from Zola. Build a wedding website, craft wedding invitations, find your vendors, and more all at Zola. Now, without further ado: the top Idaho marriage FAQs.\n\n#### When Should I Start Applying for My Marriage License in Idaho?\nSince Idaho has no expiration dates, waiting periods, or appointments for marriage licenses, you can apply whenever you want. As always, it’s better to apply earlier rather than later. Definitely make sure that you have all of the necessary documents to apply for the marriage license well before your wedding day.\n\n#### How Long Is the Waiting Period Between Applying for and Receiving the Marriage License?\nSince you obtain your marriage license in person and there are no appointments, the time will depend on how busy your county recorder’s office is that day. However, you will receive the marriage license the same day after you submit all necessary information to the office.\n\n#### Can a Marriage Ceremony Be Performed in the Clerk’s Office?\nMarriage ceremonies cannot be performed in a clerk’s office. Couples must contact a judge to schedule an appointment with an authorized party\n\n#### Does Idaho Offer Domestic Partnerships?\nIn a domestic partnership, a couple lives together, but is not part of a marriage, civil union, or another legally recognized contract. Idaho offers no benefit or rights for domestic partnerships.\n\n#### Does Idaho Allow Proxy Marriages?\nIn a proxy marriage, one of the partners is represented by a proxy during the ceremony. Idaho, however, does not allow proxy marriages.\n\n#### What If There Is an Error on My Marriage License?\nIf your marriage license has already been issued and includes incorrect information, submit a signed and notarized affidavit of correction by mail or in-person to your county office.\n\n#### Choose Your Season\nIdaho has it all: mountains, lakes, sand dunes, rivers, and more. That makes any season perfect for an Idaho wedding, but let’s hone in on some of the benefits and drawbacks of each season.\n\n### Get a Little Extra Help at Zola\nIdaho makes it easy to get your marriage license. A trip to the county recorder’s office, and your social security number, identification, and a $30 fee in hand are all you’ll need to obtain your marriage license and be ready to go for your wedding day.\n\nZola makes it easy to plan your wedding. Find inspiration from real weddings as you develop your style and theme, and share your big news with guests with our stylish save the dates, invitations, and/or wedding website templates. 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Get the shuteye you deserve and need with tips from sleep experts on how to sleep before your wedding.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-10-10T19:55:26.555Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5U3rpny5uGjCyW6bWK4cU/549cde23eba3eda3ffaa82a62496b544/EA-revamp_Wedding-planning_How-to-sleep-before-wedding.jpg","altText":"bridal party getting ready for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Your wedding may just be one of the most special days of your life. So, don’t be surprised if the anticipation keeps you up at night. It’s normal. Nerves and excitement never made great sleeping partners. However, this is one event you probably want to get some rest before. Low-quality or no sleep affects you physically and mentally so it’s in your favor to try to get some shut-eye. Stack the odds in your favor with these expert-approved tips for sleeping the night before your wedding.\n\n## Establish a sleep schedule.\nIn the lead up to your wedding, it’s in your best interest to start (and stick to) a consistent sleep schedule, or sleep cycle. This will help you get your circadian rhythm in check ASAP. If you’re a bit closer to your date, no worries. [Andrew Varga, MD](https://www.mountsinai.org/profiles/andrew-varga) at Mount Sinai in New York City, tells us that it’s most important to establish this pattern in the one to two weeks leading up to your wedding. “If you’re an eight-hour sleeper, then you should plan to get the same eight hours of sleep on all days and again on the night before the wedding itself,” he says. That can mean 9 p.m. to 5 a.m., 10 p.m. to 6 a.m., or 11 p.m. to 7 a.m.—consider your daily schedule and try what works best for you.\n\nThe important thing here is to get your body into the right sleeping habits. It may be challenging at first, but eventually, your body will start to feel when it’s time to go to bed. Remember: It’s not earth-shattering if you break schedule once or twice (hello, pre-wedding celebrations!). Just do your best to stay diligent those two weeks before.\n\n![INLINE SarahCramerShieldsCramerPhoto 1080x720 Kara&Taylor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3CnsNPaQDGhr3IXCGQfFW0/c8a13e5d98d790a1e70d6540aec0d46a/INLINE_SarahCramerShieldsCramerPhoto_1080x720_Kara_Taylor.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sarah Cramer Shields\n\n## Be mindful of your daily habits.\nThe process of getting a good night’s sleep begins long before your head hits the pillow. Be aware of the following during the day in order to create a successful sleep schedule.\n\n- __Caffeine:__ Coffee may help you get through all of that wedding planning, but ingesting caffeine too late in the day can throw off your sleep. In fact, caffeine stays in your system for four to six hours after you consume it. Because of this, the [American Academy of Sleep Medicine](https://aasm.org/) recommends cutting caffeine consumption at least six hours before bed.\n- __Alcohol:__ Like caffeine, alcohol takes time to metabolize. About one to three hours per drink on average, to be specific. As your wedding draws near, limit your alcohol intake to one or two beers or glasses of wine at least a couple hours before you go to bed. This will allow your body enough time to break it down. Any more than two drinks, though, and the alcohol could disrupt or prevent deep sleep.\n- __Exercise:__ Yes, regular exercise can improve your quality of sleep. Exercising too close to bedtime, though, can have the opposite effect. If you work out and try to sleep soon after, chances are you’ll feel too energized to snooze. Instead, try getting any workouts in two or more hours before sleeping. That way, your body has time to return to its relaxed state. \n\n## Disconnect from electronics.\nWe know, we’re also guilty of getting in bed only to pull out our phones and open social media platform. While you may catch yourself dozing off from time to time mid-scroll, using electronics before bed greatly inhibits your ability to fall asleep. This is in large part due to blue light. Simply put, the light that comes from your screen is physiologically and psychologically stimulating. It delays your internal clock and stops the release of melatonin, making it harder for you to feel sleepy.\n\n“If you anticipate some extra nerves the night before your wedding, we recommend shutting off all electronic devices at least one hour before bedtime,” says Varga. This includes all phones, tablets, and televisions. \n\nJust like you set a nightly bedtime, set yourself a digital curfew—ideally an hour or two prior. Varga says to use that new-found free time for relaxing activities, such as guided visualization, serial muscle relaxation, and deep breathing exercises. We also recommend meditation, reading, and journaling, if that’s more your preference. You’ll be falling asleep sooner than you realize.\n\n## Take a warm bath or shower.\nA hot shower or soak towards the end of the day is as relaxing as it gets. For one, the warm water helps to release physical stress and ease your muscles. Furthermore, going from warm water into a cool temperature bedroom will cause your body temperature to drop, which in turn makes you feel tired. \n\nAs Varga puts it, “A hot shower or bath can help you fall asleep by dilating your peripheral blood vessels, which in turn lowers your core body temperature, which aids in sleep onset and depth.” Light a couple of candles and throw in some essential oils, while you’re at it.\n\n![INLINE DannyWeissPhoto 1080x720 Alexis&Nick](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/IIxTaINS1uKURD9E36rG5/2fc2cdb99e00b92245e695d95297f57e/INLINE_DannyWeissPhoto_1080x720_Alexis_Nick.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Danny Weiss\n\n## Create the right environment.\nThe best environment for sleeping involves more than a comfortable blanket and copious amounts of pillows (just us?). Prep your bedroom by making sure it’s dark, quiet, and set at a cool temperature ([around 60-67 degrees](https://www.sleep.org/articles/temperature-for-sleep/)). The latter helps your body to drop in temperature, which naturally induces sleep. It’s harder for your body to do this when the surrounding area is too hot or too cold. Warmer (or colder) temperatures can leave you tossing and turning and run a good chance of waking you up in the middle of the night.\n\nTo complete your sleeping sanctuary, Varga recommends covering or turning any clocks away and charging your phone in another room. That way, in case you wake up in the middle of the night, you’re not tempted to check it. You can try a comfortable eye mask, too. \n\nWake up the morning of your wedding feeling refreshed and rejuvenated. Fall asleep fast and deep—and stay asleep—with these expert-approved tips for how to sleep the night before your wedding. ","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Weddings are fun, but planning them can be stressful. 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Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Social media has turned weddings from guest-only experiences to larger broadcasts for loved ones (or wedding-loving strangers). 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In many cases, tipping is a gracious, if not expected, way to give to those who have helped you plan your wedding celebration.\n\nFirst thing’s first: Double check the line items of your contract to ensure wedding vender tipping or a service charge isn’t already included. You want to follow proper etiquette when it comes to your wedding staff, but definitely don’t want to pay twice.\n\nBooking each of your vendors is likely to be the most expensive portion of wedding planning process. Often, there are unexpected taxes, gratuities, and other fees that are tacked onto the final contract. Make sure to read all of the fine print and ask questions before signing. Even if you discussed the main details of the day and have a good feeling about the individuals or companies you’re working with, there may be charges that end up on your bill that you hadn’t initially planned for. And, one of those things may be a baked-in tipping cost. If this is the case, no need to add anything else.\n\nOn the other hand, if you have a vendor that you feel has gone above and beyond to make your celebration a success, personally tip an additional amount or give them a small gift to express your gratitude. Their job is to make your wedding go off without a hitch within the parameters of your contract and the capabilities allowed within the wedding venue. However, you can tell when a person goes the extra mile and it’s a nice gesture to extend your appreciation through tipping.\n\nAs you finalize your budget, include which wedding vendors to tip, [how much to tip them](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors), and review contracts to confirm where gratuity is already factored into the final cost. Although you’ll want to follow standard tipping protocol, you don’t want to end up paying for the same thing more than once.\n\nWhen it comes down to it, tipping is entirely at your discretion. When you’re happy with the service and/or when certain vendors are expecting it as part of their full wages, it’s best to calculate these costs ahead of time.\n\nRead on for more of our wedding tip guide below.\n\n## When to Tip Wedding Vendors\nTipping at weddings should be handled upon services rendered or at the end of the reception. Give the responsibility of passing out tip envelopes to your maid of honor, best man, or [wedding planning coordinator](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/do-you-tip-wedding-coordinators). For the vendors where optional tips are welcome, feel free to mail a monetary appreciation or small gift to them after the honeymoon as you send out the rest of your thank you cards.\n\nAnother way to share gratitude in a helpful way—especially for vendors that are small businesses—is to post a positive online review, as well as share and tag photos on your social media channels. Also be sure to refer their services to friends, family, and colleagues. Word-of-mouth is a good way to spread your satisfaction with others and, hopefully, lead to future opportunities for your wedding vendors.\n\nWhen it comes to who to tip at a wedding, don't forget that the decision is up to you. While it’s a nice gesture, you shouldn’t feel obligated to tip if you weren’t happy with the service. That said, know that most catering companies and other wait staff members will be expecting a tip if they've completed their job.\n\n## Who Should You Tip on your Wedding Day?\nThe question doesn’t stop at do you tip your wedding venue, but *[what wedding vendors do you tip?](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors)* Do you tip wedding vendors like your hairstylist, wedding cake baker, and florist? [Do you tip the wedding photographer](https://zola.app.link/CV9phGS5o9), musicians, and wedding planner? Some vendors expect a tip as part of their services. For example, standard tipping applies for your hairstylist the same as it does if you were visiting for a regular haircut or blowout. You may want to add more if you have an intricate hairstyle for your wedding day or the salon has made special accommodations for you and your wedding party.\n\nOn the other hand, the person or bakery that makes your wedding cake isn’t likely expecting a tip. That is, unless they have delivery staff bringing the final product to you. The total amount, which may include delivery to the venue, should be calculated in the final contract amount. If that’s the case, this is a situation where tipping is optional. If they’ve managed to go beyond what they normally provide for their customers, or have made a cake look far more stunning than you could ever have imagined, of course, feel free to add a tip.\n\n*Other wedding vendors in addition to your wedding venue that are likely to expect a tip for services include:*\n\n- Hair and makeup artists\n\n- Transportation companies\n\n- Delivery drivers\n\n- Reception staff\n\n- Wedding officiant\n\n### Hair and Makeup Artists\nAs mentioned, tip your hair and makeup artist in the same way you would for a salon visit. This can be anywhere from 15-25% of your total bill. Many hair stylists will offer brides-to-be a trial run or consultation for their wedding updo or style. This should be factored into the cost, as well as how long your hair or makeup appointment lasts. Also, tipping leans toward the higher side if you’ve hired a team for the day for touch ups.\n\n### Transportation\nHiring a limousine, trolley car, or other special transportation for you and your wedding party is a common wishlist item for couples. For unique wedding rides, driver gratuity may already be factored into the final bill. Check this part of your contract when deciding if and when to tip. If there’s mention that gratuity is appreciated, but not included, consider how prompt and friendly the service is and tip accordingly. \n\n### Delivery Drivers\nThe people who deliver your cake, flowers, rental chairs, and all other wedding decorations and details need to be tipped as well. For certain vendors, they may already add delivery costs into their contract, but actual tipping is likely not included. Reserve $5-$10 per person in cash envelopes to have your venue or wedding coordinator distribute as necessary.\n\nFor these tips, be sure to pull out money from the bank well in advance of your big day. Set the cash aside in separate envelopes that are clearly labeled and sealed.\n\nAlthough these tips are $10 here and there, depending on how many vendors you have and the amount of services required, they can quickly add up and take you over your original budget.\n\n![Wedding Venue Tip](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7D80qSxXEB1UdKQyY2XuD2/855206ad91a62279713740773b3f61f9/Inline_RusticSummerWeddingatCarondeletHouse_HailleyHowardPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Hailley Howard Photography\n\n### Reception Waitstaff\nTip waitstaff and bartenders in the same way you would in a restaurant. If the service is excellent and well-managed, 20% is ideal. Keep in mind there’s likely a service fee included as part of your venue contract, which means you won’t need to include a tip on top of that, unless you are blown away by the service. For cash bars, guests can tip bartenders as they wish.\n\n## Vendors Where Tipping is Optional\n*In addition to the vendors who are expecting tips, here is a list of vendors where tipping is optional:*\n\n- Wedding planner\n\n- Photographer/videographer\n\n- Ceremony musicians\n\n- Florist\n\n### Wedding Planner\nMany couples [hire a wedding planner](https://zola.app.link/QP9O1sNWo9). This is an additional position to the venue coordinator onsite. This person is with you from the very beginning and handles everything from scheduling vendors to alleviating wedding day stress. The best wedding planners have a personal touch, which proves invaluable when it comes to creating your dream wedding. If this is the case, consider a tip of 10-20% of the total bill or opt to send a personal note and gift of gratitude. \n\n### Photographer/Videographer\n[Photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/should-you-tip-wedding-photographers) and videographer services are clearly laid out in the contract, as you’re typically working with business owners. Considerations for tipping include if a second shooter is needed or if there are extenuating circumstances where the photographer had to adapt more than planned to get the shots you wanted. Whether they're a [wedding photographer from Tampa](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/tampa-fl--wedding-photographers), FL or Chicago, IL, tipping $50-$100 is customary or you can also give a personal gift as an alternative.\n\n### Ceremony Musicians\nMuch like a wedding planner and the wedding photographer, the contract you have with the musicians hired for both the wedding ceremony and wedding reception include setup time, hours played, and more. This should be clearly laid out in their contract so you are all aware and agree to the expectations. If your wedding band goes above and beyond in accommodating song requests or navigating a difficult set up, consider adding in a tip of approximately $20-$35 per musician.\n\n![Wedding Venue Tip](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6ndWyDA5XyHfmlvTDIOFQM/390483f909ea5b1709eb8ef3894cf7cc/Inline_SummerF__tewithGorgeousViews_MoondancePhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Moondance Photography\n\n### Florist\nMany florists will offer free delivery depending on where your wedding venue is located. When tipping, consider how responsive the florist was with your requests, changes, setup at the venue, and other key moments to make the process flow seamlessly. If you loved the final product and were amazed by the level of service, tip away. A 10-15% gratuity is a nice addition to the final invoice or can be sent separately with a thank you note.\n\n## Vendors Where Tipping Depends on Contract Conditions\nAll of this being said, there are a few vendors for which things can be a tad more confusing. Whether or not you should tip them may not be as clear-cut as traditional wedding tip etiquette. However, if you take a good first (or second, or third) look at your vendor contract, you should be able to figure out whether or not a tip is necessary—or already included. We recommend keeping this in mind before signing on any dotted lines. Don’t hesitate to ask any potential vendors questions if you’re confused on wording or the contents of a proposal.\n\nProp tip: A service charge and gratuity aren’t necessarily the same thing, as the service charge doesn’t always go directly to employees, such as delivery people or waitstaff. Feel free to ask potential vendors what their service charge is going to, if it isn’t made clear in their proposal.\n\n*Here is a list of vendors where tipping depends on the conditions laid out in your contract.*\n\n- Bartenders\n\n- Catering staff\n\n- Chauffeurs or drivers\n\n- Venue staff (coat check attendants, restroom attendants, parking valet, banquet manager, etc.)\n\n## Wedding Tipping Recommendations\nCreating and paying mind to a wedding budget can be difficult enough for those who don’t do this sort of thing regularly (i.e. most of us). Add gratuity customs and the entire process can easily become overwhelming. With that in mind, we leave you with a handful of helpful tips to aid you along the wedding tipping process. Keep them top-of-mind as you navigate your budget, vendors, and final numbers.\n\n### Prepare Tips in Advance\nIf you are tipping specific vendors, prepare the tips in advance. We especially recommend this when it comes to cash tips. Separate each tip by the appropriate amount and place each in its own dedicated envelope. On your wedding day, give them to someone trustworthy, such as your wedding planner—or, if you’d rather, keep hold of them yourself—and distribute them at the appropriate times (typically, at the end of the night).\n\n### Leave Positive Reviews\nIn any case—in-person gratuity, mailed gratuity, or built-in gratuity—consider leaving your vendors good reviews. Reliable reviews are how most vendors gain business, so if you were impressed, we highly suggest leaving a comment or post about their good work.\n\n### Tag Your Vendors in Posts\nIf you’ll be posting about your wedding on social media, consider tagging the vendors your feature. For example, if you post a photo highlighting the gorgeous florals, tag your florist. This way, people can easily find them. Plus, many vendors enjoy reposting their work—or just knowing you enjoyed it!\n\nTipping is a cost you may not have previously considered as you're creating your wedding budget, but it’s an important one. Outlining the amount for each vendor and/or choosing personal gifts you want to purchase ahead of time will alleviate the stress of handling it at the last minute. Follow proper wedding etiquette when it comes to tipping, while reserving your right to tip the top amount for only those who provide truly exceptional service.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"This destination wedding checklist is the #1 resource you’ll need to plan your exotic celebration. Discover how to choose a destination wedding location, what to look for in a wedding venue, how to work with local vendors, and more. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-08-24T17:55:54.373Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ba0ACajIjaLrrq4897irG/f5d1315fda99bd80fe4c033a2cdbfcf8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"How to Get a Marriage License in Mississippi"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Both you and your partner will need to be present at your local county clerk’s office to apply for a Mississippi marriage license.\n- In order to fulfill the requirements for a marriage license, both you and your spouse-to-be will need to provide valid proof of identification. You’ll also need to pay an application fee of around $20 to 30.\n- Mississippi marriage licenses don’t have an expiration date, so you can get married any time after receiving your license. The license needs to be signed by you, your officiant and witness, and then returned to the county clerk. \n- When planning your dream Mississippi wedding, use Zola to find all the best venues and caterers in the area. You may be surprised by all the hidden gems you might find.","body":"*Getting married in the Magnolia State? Here’s how to get a marriage license in Mississippi with tips and tricks from Zola.*\n\nFor engaged couples [planning a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) in beautiful Mississippi, there are a lot of decisions ahead and to-do’s to check off your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-checklist-for-the-bride). Maybe you’re planning on the big, formal traditional wedding you’ve always dreamed of. Or maybe yours will be a rustic affair that’s more relaxed and intimate.\n\nNo matter what type of wedding you’re planning, the one thing you’ll need in every scenario is the [marriage license](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-marriage-licenses).\n\nRules and regulations around marriage licenses change from state to state, so it’s important to familiarize yourself with Mississippi’s procedures and requirements well before the big day. That’s where we come in. Let’s take a look at how to get married under Mississippi law:\n\n## Getting a Marriage License in Mississippi\n\n### Application Procedure \n\nTo get married in the U.S., you’ll need a marriage license, no matter what state you’re in. Think of the license as an application to get married. You need a marriage license from the county where you’ll be getting married for your marriage to be valid in the eyes of the government.\n\nIn some states, there are waiting periods and expiration dates on marriage licenses. Make sure you’re familiar with the local marriage regulations, so you don’t run into any hiccups on the big day. If you come across any odd or unusual requirements in your research (or later in this article!), add it to your Zola [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) so you can be prepared for every situation.\n\nHere’s a general outline of the marriage license application process:\n\n- Decide which county you’re getting married in. Will you wed in Jackson, Southaven, or Harrison County? Wherever you end up, you’ll want to make sure you get your license from that county’s clerk. Use the __[Mississippi.gov clerk](http://Mississippi.gov)__ list to find the right location. \n\n- Visit the county clerk’s office where you intend to get married in person. Both you and your spouse-to-be need to be present.\n\n- Fill out an application form for a marriage license.\n\n- Meet state and county requirements and provide the necessary documents (more on that in a bit).\n\n \n- Pay an application fee (usually $20 to 30 dollars or so in Mississippi).\n\nTimelines for application processes can vary as well, depending on the location and your situation, so make sure you plan around that if timing is an issue.\n\nNext, we’ll go over some of the nitty-gritty details of the application procedure, so you’ll know exactly what you need to make the process as smooth and easy as possible.\n\n### What’s Required in the Application\nGood news: There aren’t any residency requirements to get married in the state of Mississippi—or, in other words, you don’t need to be a resident of Mississippi to get married there. But whether you’re a born-and-bred Mississippian or just an admirer of historic Southern charm, you’ll still need to apply for your marriage license in person. That might mean a little pre-wedding getaway trip to Mississippi with your fiance, or just a short drive up into town. \n\nWhatever the case may be, be sure to have all the necessary items to submit your application successfully. Before you set out, make sure you have: \n\n- The full names and addresses of both applicants.\n\n- The full names and addresses of both of the applicants’ parents (or the next of kin or guardian).\n\n- Highest education completed for both parties.\n\n- Number of previous marriages, and when and how the last marriage ended. If you or your spouse ended another marriage in the last six months, you’ll need to bring proof of divorce or the death of your spouse. A copy of the divorce decree or a death certificate should suffice.\n\n- In some states, you may need a witness to sign the license with you. Usually, the court clerk or county circuit clerk can act as a witness if you need one. Mississippi doesn’t require witnesses, but if it’s meaningful for you (or if you’re hosting your marriage ceremony at the county court, circuit court, or circuit clerk’s office), you can always bring your best friend or sibling along for the ride.\n\n- Proof of identification and the applicants’ age \n\nDocuments that are deemed acceptable forms of identification and proof of age include:\n\n- A driver’s license\n- Birth certificate\n- School record\n- Life insurance policy\n- Military ID\n- Other official documents that include your date of birth and/or age \n\n \nAfter your union has been officiated and your marriage license signed by all parties, it’s your officiant’s responsibility to file it with the local government. This process registers your marriage on the public record, and you should receive a certified copy of your marriage certificate as proof in the next few weeks—which you’ll need for your marriage records (Having these vital records is a must for a variety of post-wedding tasks, like changing a maiden name to a married name or applying for new identification after your name change.)\n\n### Things to Know About Your Mississippi Marriage License\nYou might be tempted to sail off into your happily ever after as soon as you’ve been issued a license. But before you start popping the Champagne, make sure you’re familiar with all the ins and outs of your Mississippi marriage license. When it comes to weddings, there’s no such thing as being overprepared.\n\n#### Is There a Waiting Period in Mississippi for Marriage Licenses?\nSome states mandate a waiting period of a few days after your application before you’re issued a marriage license, so that you have time to mull over your decision. This can throw a wrench in your plans if you’ve already booked a venue or if you’re trying to be spontaneous. In Mississippi, however, there is no waiting period if you’re over 21. This means that you can get married the same day you’re issued your marriage license. \n\nIf you’re between the ages of 17 and 21 (or 15 and 21, if you’re female), you’ll need:\n\n- Parental consent. If you don’t meet the age requirements, a parent or guardian will need to fill out a consent form to receive your license.\n- To undergo a waiting period of three days after the application to receive your license.\n\nThis waiting period is waived if you’re over 21, so if you’re not under the age limit you can get married as soon as you’ve been issued a license.\n\n#### Do Mississippi Marriage Licenses Expire?\nLuckily, in Mississippi, there’s no expiration date on marriage licenses. That means that you can get yours issued in advance and get married whenever you’re ready. \n\nThe flexibility of getting your marriage license in Mississippi means you don’t need to rush the other parts of your wedding. And with one less thing on your to-do list, you’ll have more time to think about which dinnerware to add to your Zola [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n\n#### Do You Need to Get a Blood Test in Order to Get Married in Mississippi?\nNo, per the Mississippi Department of Health, blood tests aren’t required to get a marriage license in Mississippi. \n\n#### When Should You Start Your Marriage License Application?\nSince there’s no expiration date or waiting period, the beauty of getting your marriage license in Mississippi is that you can do it whenever you want. \n\nYou could get a license issued as soon as you’re engaged and wait years before deciding you’re ready to make it official. Or, you could get your license and get married the next day. Typically, though, we recommend giving yourself at least a week in advance in case of any unforeseen complications. \n\n#### What Might Invalidate a Marriage License Application?\nWhile obtaining a marriage license is relatively simple in Mississippi, there’s always the chance that your application may be denied or the license invalidated. \n\nIn general, it’s up to you and your partner to make sure you’re complying with all the requirements and regulations in good faith. You may be in violation and your license invalidated if the following applies:\n\n- You or your partner falsified information on the marriage license application.\n\n- If one or both of you are minors or under 21 and applying for a license without parental consent.\n\n- One or both of the applicants were forced to apply for the license and did—or were not able to consent to the application. If one or both are incapable of consent due to mental illness or incompetence, the license is rendered invalid.\n\n- If the divorce of one or both of you from a previous marriage was not legally binding.\n\n- If your marriage license was issued between the hours of 6:00 p.m. and 8:00 a.m. It’s illegal for a clerk to grant a license within those hours, so keep an eye on the time if you’re visiting the county clerk at the end of the day.\n\nAs long as you’re following all the rules, have all the necessary documents, and pay your marriage license fee, getting your marriage license in Mississippi should be a breeze.\n\n### Marriage Laws Unique to Mississippi\nEvery state has its quirks when it comes to matrimony. For example, in Wisconsin, you can get legally married to the home you live in. \n\nMississippi’s got its own set of marriage laws, too. If you’re planning to get married in this state, it might be a good idea to review this list of unique marriage laws, so you know what to take note of:\n\n- In order to get married in Mississippi, a male applicant needs to be at least 17 years old, while a female applicant needs to be at least 15. Applicants under 21 years old need their parents’ or guardians’ consent in order to get married. \n\n- Bigamy is illegal in Mississippi, so if you’ve been married before, make sure all your paperwork is wrapped up before you embark on your new union. In fact, in Mississippi, it’s against the law to even explain what polygamy is.\n\n- Cousin marriages and other incestuous marital unions are not legal in Mississippi. \n\n### Frequently Asked Questions About Marriage in Mississippi\nWhen it comes to your marriage, there’s no question too big or too small. Here are some frequently asked questions about marriage in Mississippi:\n\n#### Can You Marry By Proxy in Mississippi? \nSome states allow for proxy weddings. Marriage by proxy occurs when one or both parties aren’t physically present at the wedding and are instead represented by other people. Unfortunately, Mississippi doesn’t recognize proxy weddings.\n\n#### Are Common-Law Marriages Allowed in Mississippi? \nA common-law marriage legally recognizes a couple as a married couple—even if they haven’t applied for a license or held a ceremony. Only a handful of states recognize common-law marriage, and unfortunately, Mississippi isn’t one of them.\n\n#### Are Same-Sex Marriages Legal in Mississippi? \nYes. As of 2015, after the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in Obergefell v. Hodges, same-sex marriage is legal in Mississippi.\n\n#### What’s the Difference Between a Marriage License and a Marriage Certificate? \nThe two are easily confused, so don’t worry if you’re not sure how to differentiate the two. As we’ve already covered, you need a marriage license in order to get married. The certificate is what you get back as proof of your marriage after everything is signed and sealed.\n\nThat segues perfectly into our next segment: What happens after you get your marriage license?\n\n#### What to Do After You Get Your Marriage License\nOnce you have your marriage license, you’re free to get married in whatever fashion you want—and in Mississippi, whenever you want. Remember, there’s no expiration on the license.\n\nWhen you’re ready to tie the knot, the license should be signed by you, your new spouse (!), and the officiant. It needs to be sent back and filed with the county clerk that issued your license.\n\nMake sure you get copies of your marriage certificate after you file your signed license. This document serves as proof of your legally binding union.\n\n### What’s the Difference Between a Domestic Partnership and a Marriage?\nIf you’re trying to decide between marriage or a domestic partnership, it’s important to understand the differences. Depending on where you live, a domestic partnership might not be recognized by the local government, which might mean you don’t have the same rights a married couple would have.\n\nTwo people who are living together—but not married or united in a civil union or any other legally recognized contract—can be considered a domestic partnership. You might have some of the same rights a married couple has, such as shared healthcare benefits, but it’s largely dependent on where you live.\n\nDomestic partnerships were common among some same-sex couples before same-sex marriage was legalized on the federal level in 2015. However, they remain an option for couples of all sexual orientations who, for whatever reason, don’t want to get married. Keep in mind that benefits for domestic partnerships vary from state to state.\n\n#### Are Domestic Partnerships Legally Recognized in the State of Mississippi?\nDomestic partnership rights in each state can be broken down into three classifications:\n\n- __The “All In” States:__ Full benefits are offered to domestic partnerships.\n- __The “Some” States:__ Whether benefits are offered vary from county to county or specific cities.\n- __The “No Rights” States:__ These states don’t offer any rights to domestic partnerships.\n\nMississippi is a “No Rights” state, so that means that if you opt for a domestic partnership in this state, you won’t have any of the benefits you would have as a married couple. If rights such as tax benefits, inheritance laws, or shared healthcare are a priority for you and your partner, then you should reconsider getting married in Mississippi. \n\n## Throw the Perfect Southern Wedding With Zola \n\nKnowing the ins and outs of your local marriage laws is always a good idea when getting married, particularly when timing is an issue in the wedding plans. Thankfully, in Mississippi, the process for marriage license applications is relatively simple and easy. As long as you’ve reviewed everything we’ve covered, getting a license should be a breeze. \n\nWith all the legal paperwork wrapped up, you’ll be able to refocus your energies on planning the other details of your special day. Zola can help you. \n\nNot sure where to get started? 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From breathtaking beaches to charming cities, discover the perfect romantic escape.","title":"34 Best Honeymoon Destinations for 2024","slug":"best-honeymoon-destinations","topic":"Honeymoons","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xMfB590ouqVlhSF5M5gmO/3e7b6ada89c87837e1c9eca1c7e686c4/best-honeymoon-destinations-hero.jpeg","altText":"Couple holding hands walking on a beach"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Surprise your groom with thoughtful inclusions at the reception. To get you inspired, we’ve got 10 groom-approved wedding reception ideas that will knock the fancy socks off of your partner and make your wedding day even more memorable.","title":"Top 10 Wedding Reception Ideas to Surprise Your Groom","slug":"top-10-wedding-reception-ideas-to-surprise-your-groom","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Reception","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6eVI4wNpvZOy8VTUUs5aga/93273da37c712d850ea5c344184f9647/Hero_1.jpg","altText":"happy Groom At Reception"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Find Vendors in Your Area","url":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/onboard?question=intro"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:01.263Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"is-it-ever-ok-to-ask-for-a-1-to-a-wedding","title":"Is It Ever OK to Ask for a +1 to a Wedding?","excerpt":"The plus-one debate is a common one—should you ask for one or shouldn't you? Find out when it's OK to ask for a plus-one and how to do it the right way.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2019-07-12T15:52:00.564Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5jPfAVVcMUF5b6XyZNpbI5/c6d73d0449a0394a915573ba45e7315c/Is-it-Ever-OK-to-ask-for-a-Plus-1-to-a-wedding.jpg","altText":"plus-one at a wedding"},"heroCredit":"Josh Wong Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/josh-wong-photography","body":"For the most part, [wedding guest etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-for-wedding-guests) is pretty straightforward. [RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps) by the requested date, choose a registry gift, [dress appropriately](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-donts-wedding-guest-fashion), and show up ready to celebrate. Yet, some aspects of attending aren’t always so clear-cut. We’re talking about plus-ones. Ideally, your invitation should state whether or not you can bring one, but if it doesn’t, you might not feel sure. \n\nMany would have you believe that you should never, under any circumstances, ask about a plus-one. There’s a lot of contradicting advice in this area, though, and etiquette can change overtime. Here’s when you should—and definitely shouldn’t—ask for a plus-one to a wedding.\n\n## Don’t ask if… one isn’t listed on your invitation.\nAs a standard rule, if a plus one (or “guest”) isn’t listed on your invitation, you likely aren’t meant to bring one. In this case, it may be considered rude to ask the couple if you can bring someone anyway. Don’t take it personally—there are plenty of reasons why couples don’t include plus-ones. Mainly: the budget. Weddings are expensive and pushing the question might lead to an awkward conversation about finances. \n\nOn the other hand, the couple may be hoping for a small, intimate ceremony exclusive to their loved ones. It’s important that you respect the couple’s decision. It’s their day, after all, not yours. And don’t worry, if you didn’t get a plus-one, a lot of other people didn’t get one either.\n\n## Do ask if… you’re in a serious relationship.\nThere are a few situations in which it’s understandable to ask about a plus-one. One such case is if you’re married, engaged, living with your significant other, or are in a long-term committed relationship that the couple is aware of. Typically, you should expect to see your partner’s name [addressed on your save-the-date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations) and invitation. If it isn’t, though, it’s fair to reach out and ask if a mistake has been made. While partners are usually invited guests and not considered plus-ones, there’s a chance there could’ve been an oversight.\n\n![L. Hewitt Photography InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4MacThWYvXD1MEc09dmi3g/308007a674fcda01ae4280a128f72db0/L._Hewitt_Photography_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // L. Hewitt Photography\n\n## Don’t ask if… you’re casually seeing someone.\nUnlike the aforementioned, if you’re casually dating someone, don’t assume you’ll be able to bring them. That is unless your invitation clearly states that you have a plus-one. If it doesn’t, it’s safe to surmise that asking the couple for one anyway will result in being turned down. \n\nThe same could be said if you’re single or otherwise unattached. Again, it’s nothing against you and was likely a decision that came down to many factors. Before asking a loved one why the person you’re going on semi-regular dates with isn’t invited, ask yourself if you’ll really miss them in wedding photos years down the line.\n\n## Do ask if… you’re genuinely unsure.\nIf you’re truly unsure of whether you get a plus-one, it’s acceptable to reach out for clarification. For example, perhaps your save-the-date doesn’t specify any names and you need to know ahead of time so you can plan. Maybe you moved in with your partner or got engaged after invitations were sent out. While asking about bringing a guest is daunting, assuming you can bring one—or leaving someone out when the couple was actually expecting them—is worse.\n\n![Justine & Wayne InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/69pCMP19Tvdz0bXZNKqe12/c136caa993a260d6e224bebf074d5e19/Justine___Wayne_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Justine & Wayne\n\n## How to Ask For A Plus-One\nWhen it comes down to it, how you ask is more impactful than whether you do. Keep the following in mind when reaching out.\n\n### Do\n- __Be straightforward, respectful, and polite.__ You’re asking the hosts if you can include someone in their day, which is a huge favor. Be thoughtful and get to the point.\n- __Be casual.__ Don’t make it a bigger deal than it is.\n- __Ask over the phone.__ Text messages and emails can be misinterpreted as critical and rude. That is if they don’t get lost in a pile of other unread texts and emails (hey, [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) is busy work). Calling also gets you an immediate response.\n- __Acknowledge that they might decline__—and that’s okay. Be sure to mention that, regardless, you’re appreciative of their consideration.\n- __End on a good note.__ Saying something as simple as, “Thanks for talking to me about it. I’m really looking forward to the big day!” is perfect.\n\n### Don’t\n- __Guilt someone__ into allowing you a guest. Don’t make the day about you by trying to garner sympathy. This could lead to serious resentment down the line.\n- __Refuse a no.__ Continuing to push after you’ve already been given an answer is not only disrespectful but stressful on an already stressed-out couple.\n- __Assume__ you can bring a guest and forgo asking at all.\n- __Take a no personally.__ This isn’t about you.\n\nAsking for a plus-one to a wedding isn't the most comfortable thing to do. Be sure to keep it casual and always reiterate your gratitude, regardless of the response you receive.\n\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Wedding Paper","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:47:00.441Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"talk-money-in-a-wedding-party","title":"How to Talk Money When You're in a Wedding Party","excerpt":"When wedding party money issues arise, be upfront and honest. Learn the best ways to talk about money when you're in a wedding party here.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2019-09-27T16:22:57.478Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7awGvk1d2uOjzwSCzQUZeF/dd0d835d50686b85aaf3f122efda5199/How-to-Talk-Money-When-You-re-in-a-Wedding-Party.jpg","altText":"wedding party"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"It’s exciting to be by the bride or groom’s side as part of a wedding party—it’s also expensive. Being in a [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-party) can cost, on average, anywhere between $1,200 to $1,800. This amount typically includes engagement and shower gifts, expenses for bachelor and bachelorette parties, your wedding outfit (if you’re a bridesmaid, hair and makeup alone can cost a few hundred dollars), and gifts for the couple. For destination weddings, things can add up even faster.\n\nWhen you’re not on the same page about spending, it can cause tension and resentment throughout a wedding party. You need to be able to talk about how much you can and cannot afford upfront. We know, easier said than done. Don’t go into personal debt because you didn’t speak up. Here’s how to talk about money when you’re in a wedding party. \n \n## Know what you're signing up for.\nWe need to get this out of the way: If you say yes to being in a wedding party, you’re agreeing to the responsibilities that come along with the job (within reason, of course). If you’re the [maid of honor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist-maid-of-honor-duties) or [best man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-man-duties), there are additional duties you should be aware of, like planning pre-wedding activities and attending all related parties. \n\nIf you’re not sure you can financially swing it all, sit down with the bride or groom and clarify what’s expected of you from the beginning. Get a sense of what’s in store: are they planning a [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cut-destination-wedding-costs)? Keeping things on a [tight budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget)? Once you have a clearer picture of what they’re anticipating their wedding party to spend, you can then see what’s possible for you personally. \n\n![INLINE JannetteDeLlanosPhotography 1080x720 Sofia&Mike](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6TiU1elOiGhkZUXOKJcRM7/2abb0fce71b37ccb95de9094c2d388fd/INLINE_JannetteDeLlanosPhotography_1080x720_Sofia_Mike.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Janette De Llanos Photography\n\n## Be honest and upfront.\nAfter you have a sense of what expenses you’ll need to cover, be honest about your financial situation. You don’t want anyone to assume you’re OK with something when you’re not, and you also don’t want to promise something you can’t afford, either. \n\nIf the maid of honor or best man is in charge of the wedding party activities, let them know where you stand—in person, if possible. Don’t be afraid to be specific about what you can afford. If you’re saving up for a house, [destination bachelor parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas) may be off the table for you, for example. Likewise, if you’ve recently been laid off, maybe even smaller-scale costs, like professional wedding hair and makeup, are out of your current budget. \n\nYou also don’t need to be experiencing a massive life change to talk about your money situation. People are in varying financial situations—that can be enough of a reason. You still have to speak up, though. \n\nMost money tension comes when people aren’t on the same page about expectations. Nip potential bad feelings and awkward situations in the bud by being clear—with everyone—about what you are comfortable spending as soon as possible. \n\n## Offer affordable solutions.\nOK, here’s what you can’t do: raise a problem without raising a solution. It’s easy to say “this is too expensive”—most things are. Come prepared for any specific financial conversations with something to say besides “I can’t afford this.”\n\nFor example, if an [NYC bachelorette getaway](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-themes) is on the table and you can’t really swing it, suggest a cabin excursion in a more local area. It’s still a trip, but on a more affordable scale. If everyone would be saving big, explain other ways to use a little of that extra money to make the weekend feel more personal and special for the bride. Use the money you would’ve spent on $15 cocktails in the city and stretch it further with all the brides’s favorite foods plus monogrammed decor.\n\nThere are also ways to cut down on your own costs even if other members of the wedding party want to partake in something more expensive. If your mom is great at sewing, for example, ask her to alter your dress or suit instead of having it done by a bridal store. You can also save by splitting a hotel room with another member of the wedding party, or going in on gifts with others. \n\n![INLINE JeffreyLynnMediaPhotography 1080x720 Jasmine&Marcellus](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/J6T3Ib47or1ysEhJiNu1n/531e1b0de6b9f25f53ea2daa9eb92667/INLINE_JeffreyLynnMediaPhotography_1080x720_Jasmine_Marcellus.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Jeffrey Lynn Media Photography\n\n## Don't trash talk the bride or groom.\nIf you’re not happy with how a situation is playing out, or are spending more than you expected, you may be inclined to rant about the piling costs. Don’t do that. Talking negatively about anyone in the party, and especially about the bride or groom, only furthers tensions—and frankly, makes you look bad.\n\nAddress your concerns directly with the bride or groom as soon as possible (or the person in charge of organizing pre-wedding activities). Explain that your financial situation makes you unable to do certain things, like attend an out-of-town bridal shower or buy an expensive dress. Anyone will appreciate honesty upfront over complaining later. The last thing anyone wants to do is [add stress or drama](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/resolve-wedding-party-disagreements) to a joyful time. \n\n## It's OK to say no. \nToo often we forget that we’re being asked—not told—to be in a wedding party. So, we have the ability to say “no.” If your current financial situation simply does not allow you to cover the costs that come with the job, it may be in your best interest to politely decline the offer. \n\nAs with any hard conversation, delivery is key. Tell the bride or groom that you’re honored they asked you to be in their wedding party, but you can’t afford the associated costs at this time. This is best said in person, as rejecting a wedding party offer over text or email can come across as impersonal or can be misconstrued. \n\nMake it clear that just because your finances prevent you from being part of the wedding party, it doesn’t mean you don’t want to celebrate their big day. In other words, let a bride-to-be know you still plan on attending her nuptials. \n\nAs a consolation, you can always take the bride or groom out for a celebratory meal or have them over for an intimate dinner. The important thing is that you don’t let money prevent you from supporting your loved one, and you honor their big day in a way that’s manageable for you. ","tag":"How To","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Sometimes issues come up between wedding party members. 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"Fill your bachelor party with groom-approved activities. From weekend getaways to nighttime options, explore the best and most unique bachelor party ideas.","title":"55 Bachelor Party Ideas for Every Groom","slug":"bachelor-party-ideas","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3tsqFK8yqAYtlWDMjoh4FA/7633b0eb185f8df51dfe0d0ae0cedef8/kats-weil-CLD1i8hp008-unsplash.jpg","altText":"Low angle of groomsmen holding beer bottles and having a celebratory toast"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Discover the 60 best bachelorette party themes of 2024 with ideas for activities, drinks, and food. 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Find ideas, designs, and links to download 20+ different games.","title":"60+ Bridal Shower Games to Celebrate the Couple","slug":"free-bridal-shower-printables","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7xgt4edAtkcz1USNg4x7Vk/c7e5db74925a8954bea78bfde3c53f60/Bridal_Shower_Game_by_Casey_Chae.jpg","altText":"Woman sitting with a game paper on her knee playing he said, she said writing with a blue sharpie"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Get all your questions about bachelor parties—from who is responsible for planning to what to do—in this comprehensive guide. ","title":"A Guide to Bachelor Parties","slug":"a-guide-to-bachelor-parties","topic":"Parties & events","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6xYvE1cGvmqiEWoqyMSoy0/c820939acd9d2ea06c136a83dc1d8a41/Hero_VentolaPhotography.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen"},"type":"articlePage"}],"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:59.689Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"wedding-coordinator-tips-and-tricks-how-to-prepare-for-the-big-day","title":"Wedding Coordinator Tips & Tricks: How to Prepare For the Big Day","excerpt":"We’re walking you through when to book a wedding coordinator, and more importantly, what you need to know before you book. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2020-08-08T05:00:04.917Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6uAGOyeeWpDanlmfdxe75d/14b559d43bb1a0f42c8d5fae57165415/Hero_Wedding-coordinator-tips-and-tricks_Foolishly-rushing-in.jpg","altText":"Couple kissing in group photo"},"heroCredit":"Foolishly Rushing In","body":"There are plenty of ways to get involved in the wedding industry. And if you’re a detail-oriented person, one position you may want to consider? A day-of [wedding coordinator](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner).\n\nDay-of wedding coordinators play a huge role making sure the entire wedding goes off without a hitch—whether that’s through managing a detailed timeline, taking care of last-minute details, or doing whatever they can to make sure the happy couple has a stress-free day.\n\nBut what, exactly, are a day-of [wedding coordinator’s responsibilities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-wedding-coordinator-checklist)? And if you decide to get into this profession, what do you need to do to set yourself up for success?\n\nWhether you’re wanting to break into the wedding industry as a day-of coordinator or are just curious about whether you should [hire one for your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner), let’s take a look at everything you need to know about day-of coordinators: \n\n## Wedding Coordinator Tips and Tricks\n\n### The Week Before\n\n#### Make Any Last-Minute Changes\nTweak the timeline, proof all day-of stationery, and go over the table arrangements. If any guests have sent their regrets or tacked on a plus-one in the final hour, make any necessary adjustments to the seating chart, wedding guest list, and place cards. \n\n![Wedding Coordinator Tips & Tricks: How to Prepare For the Big Day](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2j2i0d2hkndQlQeQkgfOW1/c110db296a02a0452d27efe00d14685e/Inline_Wedding-coordinator-tips-and-tricks_Jennifer-Van-Elk.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Jennifer Van Elk\n\n#### Confirm the Guest List\nOnce you’ve accounted for any last-minute changes, make sure the caterer and venue coordinator have the final headcount for their own preparation. Confirm vendor meals for any vendors that will be present during the reception at this time as well. \n\n#### Go Over Contracts and Payments\nDouble-check all wedding vendor contracts and remind the couple to make any final vendor payments. You should also encourage the couple to pre-arrange cash envelopes for the vendors they plan to tip.\n\n#### Communicate With Vendors\nIf you’re just coming on board, introduce yourself to all vendors via email or phone. Let them know you are their point of contact if they should need anything or have any questions. This not only opens the lines of communication to ensure nothing slips through the cracks, but also puts everyone at ease knowing there is someone in charge on the day of. \n\n#### Pick Up Stationery\nSecure all paper goods from either the printer or the stationer, and organize them in preparation for the wedding day. This includes programs, place cards, and menus, as well as any signage or other specialty paper goods. Don’t forget to check for typos! \n\n#### Check the Weather\nAnd plan accordingly. If inclement weather is in the forecast, you’ll need to plan accordingly, Move anything you can indoors, call in a tenting company, and pick up umbrellas for getting the bride, groom, and wedding party from point A to point B. Even mildly questionable weather, like high winds, can mess with decor. \n\nIs there draping on the ceremony arch or paper goods that could blow away? Weigh down anything lightweight, or nix it altogether. Don’t forget to plan for extreme heat or cold, too. Order parasols, fans, and extra ice to help guests beat the heat, or order extra heaters and blankets or pashmina scarves to keep guests warm in chilly temps. \n\n### The Day Before\n\n#### Share the Timeline\nOnce you’ve finalized the timeline, share it with the vendors, wedding party, and necessary family members. This way, if anyone has any questions, you’ll have ample time to answer them and make any necessary adjustments. \n\n#### Check In With Vendors\nFinalize delivery schedules and arrival times. Provide the photographer with the shot list. \n\nGive all vendors a contact sheet with any information they may need. Most importantly, list your number first, so they can reach you when they need to. \n\n#### Pack an Emergency Kit\nYou should have basic items on hand that the wedding party may need, such as stain remover, safety pins, bandages, hairpins, tissues, tape, etc. Keep it on you in a belt or bag, or stow it in the bridal suite for easy access on the wedding day. \n\n#### Make a Drop Off \nIf you can visit the ceremony site, reception venue, and bridal suite to drop off items before the wedding day, you should. Just be sure to leave anything of value in a secure location. Bring items such as programs and candles to the ceremony location, signs and favors to the reception, and an emergency kit and a steamer to the bridal party suite. \n\n##### Run the Rehearsal \nThe wedding ceremony rehearsal is your time to shine and set the tone for the wedding day. Introduce yourself to the wedding party and lead them through a quick and efficient rehearsal, showing them where to walk, how to stand, and when to exit. Field any questions and give everyone a brief rundown of where they need to be and when. \n\n#### Triple Check\nDo you have everything you need? A phone charger? Water bottle? A change of shoes (yes, you need an extra pair of flat shoes)? Copies of the timeline and vendor contracts? Check your kit—and then check it again—to ensure your bag is packed and ready to go. \n\n### The Special Day\n\n#### Check In With the Couple\nThe wedding day is all about the couple, so keep them at the forefront of your mind from the very beginning. Check in with them consistently, making sure they have everything they need, and making them feel heard. Whether they have lipstick on their garments or need a pep talk before they walk down the aisle, you are there to attend to their every need. \n\n#### Prepare the Wedding Suite\nCheck the couple into their hotel room, drop off any luggage or overnight bags they have, and prepare any thoughtful additions to the room such as Champagne, candles, or rose petals. Keep the room key with you, and pass it along to the couple before they make their getaway. \n\n#### Keep the Marriage License Safe\nThe marriage certificate is crucial, so you should know where it is at all times. Keep it safe in an envelope and get it where it needs to go at each stage of the day. Provide the marriage license to the officiant before the ceremony and ensure the witnesses sign it afterward.\n\n#### Keeps Tabs on the Wedding Party\nMake sure the wedding party is where they need to be at the correct time, whether that means in the makeup chair, putting on ties, or lining up for the grand entrance. Gather them for photos, tell them when to walk down the aisle, and cue them 10 to 15 minutes before their speeches. \n\n#### Stick to the Schedule\nYou spent all that time crafting the perfect timeline, so be sure to use it. Check in with the wedding party and vendors to make sure everyone is on schedule and do your best to get things back on track when necessary. \n\n#### Give Credit Where Credit Is Due\nVendor relationships can make or break your business, so it’s important to treat everyone you are working alongside with respect and gratitude. Whether you have worked with them a dozen times before or it’s your first wedding together, a positive presence, a helpful attitude, and gratitude go a long way in both establishing and maintaining good relationships. \n\n#### Keep an Eye on Cards and Gifts\nThe gift table should never go unattended. If the bride hasn’t assigned a family member to be in charge of the gifts, it’s your job. Have an assistant stand by before, during, and after the ceremony, and stow away all gifts and cards once the reception begins for safe keeping.\n\n### When It’s All Over\n\n#### Follow Up With the Couple\nAfter all the hard work you put in, and the relationship you built, don’t let weeks go by without following up with the couple. Reach out to tie up any loose ends, coordinate getting photos back, and wish them a happy honeymoon. If they were satisfied with your service, this is also a great time to politely ask for an accolade or review, or better yet, a referral. \n\n![Wedding Coordinator Tips & Tricks: How to Prepare For the Big Day](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ksA4zh2rrMmny6Lxo5taS/722bf423e869e231f3309521cc2339b5/Inline_Wedding-coordinator-tips-and-tricks_Stephanie-dee-photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Stephanie Dee Photography\n\n#### Collect the Professional Photos\nAfter accolades, professional photos are the next best way to speak to your work. Nowadays, most brides find their vendors on Instagram, which means beautiful images can be your ticket to booking more business. Follow up with the photographer after the wedding and ask for the photos, promising to credit them, of course. Use them on your website, social media platforms, and—if the couple agrees—submit them for publication to a wedding blog or magazine. \n\nAt the end of the day, if everything runs smoothly and the couple is happy, you can pat yourself on the back for a job well done. With every wedding, you will grow more and more confident and develop your own stock of wedding coordinator tips and tricks. ","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"From not booking under your new name to leaving too soon, there are a lot of mistakes you can make when planning a trip like your honeymoon. Find out what those are and how to avoid them.","title":"11 Dos and Dont’s for a Perfect Honeymoon","slug":"honeymoon-planning-mistakes","topic":"Honeymoons","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1TMU9PcgZH8CptS4V7lmLQ/a9992a60a36cb8f924e62702f87a1e11/HERO_PexelsGiftHabeshaw_1080x720.jpg","altText":"couple avoids honeymoon planning mistakes"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Taking on wedding debt may seem like the only way to fund your big day, but are wedding loans a good idea? 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Our complete guide can help. 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Here are some ideas for what to write and what to avoid, according to relationship experts.","author":"Lisa Wong Macabasco","publishedAt":"2020-12-22T18:51:11.078Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3Y6dyQ5baTBCfwkLSgrZWD/b929edec541143d7658d31cb5ab21e51/Hero_New__20_.jpg","altText":"Marriage Advice"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Though it's tempting to approach a marriage advice card as an opportunity to get attention with hilarious advice, try to focus on the newlyweds receiving your advice.\n- Recommend always staying curious about—and appreciative of—your partner, and remind remind the couple that there will be rough times.\n- Don't use it as a platform to push an agenda, vent, or take a cheap shot. Be genuine, honest, and thoughtfu with your advice.\n","body":"Let’s face it: Marriages take work, and couples can use as much help as they can get. But, how can you best convey meaningful, useful, heartfelt [advice for newlyweds](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged) within the limited space of a wedding card? We turned to some marriage and relationship experts for their thoughts on this tricky terrain and the words of wisdom that couples will truly appreciate. Here are some ideas for what to write (and what to avoid) in a marriage-advice card.\n\n## Choose Your Words Carefully\n\n“Don't use it as a platform to push an agenda, vent, or take a cheap shot,” says [Lee Wilson](http://marriageradio.com/), a relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience. “Be genuine, honest, and thoughtful.” \n\nThat means avoiding unhelpful clichés. “They sound so good and we've heard them so much that they must be true, right?” Wilson says. “The problem is, sometimes they aren't true, they lack creativity and aren't personal, and clichés are often extremely vague.” \n\nAnd, don't generalize sexes. “Men and women are different—it's also true that men are different from other men and women are different from other women,” Wilson notes. “Don't suggest that attitudes will be held or actions will be taken based on gender.” \n\nFurthermore, don't make jokes at the expense of either spouse. “A wedding day is supposed to be a wonderful day for both of them,” Wilson points out. “Do you want to risk hurting feelings, offending, or even embarrassing one or both of them on their wedding day?” Getting a laugh is not worth the risk. \n\nFinally, don't quote marriage experts unless you have experience with their advice. “You wouldn't suggest a restaurant you haven't been to or a Netflix series you haven't seen, so why would you recommend advice you haven't tried?” Wilson points out. \n\n![Zola_What Do You Write In a Marriage Advice Card?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1tOyAWwR8BdAsECaS9mAaN/b5484e3ae189d4522886eaf41c4e4ad1/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n## Keep the Focus on the Newlyweds, Not on Yourself\n\nThough it's tempting to approach a marriage advice card as an opportunity to show off or get attention, do your best to keep the focus off of yourself and on the newlywed couple who is are receiving your advice. So, don't seek to be profound—seek to be helpful. “When you start to write your advice, remember that this shouldn't be a contest of who can sound the most profound,” Wilson says. “This isn't about impressive writing—it's about being genuine and providing practical guidance that can help two people have a stronger, happ[ier] marriage, a happier home, and, hopefully, some solid ground to stand on when their relationship feels uncertain.” Reject the pressure to show off and embrace the opportunity to communicate something helpful. \n\nBut, don't speak from bitterness or resentment, Wilson adds. Be careful not to project relationship problems that you have had onto this happy new couple. No whining or venting. Encourage and offer solutions for potential problems, but don't predict gloom and doom on this couple based on your unfortunate experiences.\n\nAnd, be careful when it comes to sex. “I'm not saying sex should be kept in the shadows—it's so important, and encouragement in that area is a positive thing, but be careful how specific you get,” Wilson says. “It only takes a few words to sound creepy and awkward.” This is not a platform to show how great or diverse your sex life is. The focus should be on providing something helpful for this couple.\n\nSo, what is appropriate wedding advice to give in a card? Here are some ideas to offer, according to experts. \n\n## Remember That You and Your Partner Area Team\n![Zola_What Do You Write In a Marriage Advice Card?](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nxM4kWk2KcDJdLlWueyjk/cc58f1f6280de69a30c3e0b425ee9992/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nA healthy, long-term relationship has four vital components, according to [Crystal Bradshaw](https://www.synergycounselinginnovations.com/), a licensed professional counselor specializing in couples counseling in Marietta, Georgia: friendship, trust, respect, and admiration. “Always act in the best interest of your partner and the relationship—have a “we” mindset and not a “me” mindset,” she says. “Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. During times of stress, find ways to navigate challenges in a more collaborative way. See yourself as a team, as intimate allies, not intimate enemies. You must be willing to see yourself and your partner as flawed human beings and still love yourself and your partner despite that. And, you must never stop playing with each other—play is so important.” \n\nSometimes being a team means putting your partner first. “One of the most damaging dynamics in a relationship is when one individual is still aligned and ‘married to’ their family of origin,” says New York-based Psychotherapist [Aimee Hartstein](http://www.aimeehartstein.com/), LCSW. “A true partnership requires that both parties commit to building a family together and have each other’s backs, even in the face of familial pressure.”\n\n## Don’t Forget to Have Time for Yourself\n\nRemember to maintain your own life and interests. “You and your partner should be a team, but you shouldn’t expect anyone person to fulfill all of your needs all of the time,” Hartstein adds. “It’s important for you both to keep pursuing your interests and your friends.”\n\n## Always Be Curious About Your Partner—and Be Appreciative \n\n“Never assume that you know all there is to know about your partner,” Bradshaw says. “The moment you stop being curious about your partner is the moment when things will start to atrophy.” \n\nFind ways to express your appreciation for your partner every day (not just on special occasions), and take an interest in something they do. “If it’s interesting to them, it should be interesting to you to the degree that you want to know your partner's inner world better,” she notes. Empathy also goes a long way. “Be considerate of your partner’s experience and use curiosity to understand and connect with them. They will feel less alone.”\n\n## Take Responsibility\n\nOwn your stuff—it always takes two people to contribute to relationship problems, says Hartstein. “It’s very easy to sit and point the finger at your partner and tell them what they have done wrong,” she says. “It’s harder and much more effective to look at your possible weaknesses and blind spots. The more we know how our patterns and habits contribute, the better the relationship will be.”\n\n## Set a 20-Minutes-Max Limit on Arguments\n\nAgree that arguments will last no more than 20 minutes, advises New York-based Marriage and Family Therapist [Vivian Jacobs](https://www.vivianjacobslmft.com/). “After 20 minutes, accept that your disagreement will become the kitchen-sink effect,” where other grievances not germane to the issue at hand are tossed in. Set a timer, and when it goes off, stop immediately; agree to then resume the argument exactly where you left off tomorrow at the same time and place. “Chances are after this time-out, 20 minutes will feel like forever!”\n\n## Counter Negatives With Positives to Keep Balanced\n\nIf you find yourself getting irritated with your partner, think of the things you like about him or her, and what they do that you appreciate. “One exercise I have couples do is to have three positive memories about their partner queued up, and call upon them in times when they are stressed and irritated with their partner,” Bradshaw says. “I call this a reality check. Find memories of your partner where you felt loved by them, you knew they had your best interest at heart, where they were supportive of you, etc. These are the types of things you need to be able to see when you are seeing red.”\n\nResearch has shown that in healthy relationships there is a five to one ratio, Bradshaw notes. “For every one bad thing that happens, the couple needs five positive things to balance that one negative,” she says. “You have to be able to reflect on your relationship as a whole and be able to see that your partner has your best interest at heart and you have countless memories and experiences of [him or her] that demonstrate this.” The ratio changes dramatically for unhealthy couples—for every one negative interaction between a couple, 20 positive ones are needed to bounce back.\n\n## Pledge to Not Stonewall \n\nWithdrawing is a refusal to communicate or cooperate with someone by giving short answers and insignificant responses. “This can mean not answering a question, responding with another question, or appearing to not be interested or even listening,” Jacobs says. “This increases the distance, as one feels unheard or seen. Turning your body away from your partner, looking at your phone, or walking out in the middle of a discussion creates hurt and pain. This vicious cycle is often a vain attempt to protect oneself.”\n\n## Expect Your Relationship to Have Ebbs and Flows \n\nJust like how the initial honeymoon period doesn’t last forever, your relationship will have peaks and valleys, notes Hartstein. “Sometimes, you are getting along great and in a nice rhythm, and sometimes you will irritate each other and need a break,” she says. “As long as you don’t expect things to be perfect all the time, this isn’t necessarily a problem. It’s life.”\n\n## Don’t Forget to Laugh\n\nHave a sense of humor! “Even the worst fights can be worked through if you can laugh at yourself a bit,” says Hartstein. “And, humor is a real point of connection between people.”\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Finding the person you spend forever with is no easy task. There are signs to look out for to know if someone is your soulmate. Learn more here.","title":"How Do You Know You’ve Found “The One“?","slug":"how-do-you-know-youve-found-the-one","topic":"Relationship advice","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1qEbZGmQOEVaFZN6Y5nzWM/6c3650f50147658c78f789ed88111e8a/Hero_ModernFallElopementatFreeman-s_AngelicaRadwayPhotography.jpg","altText":"Finding the one to marry"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Just engaged and wondering what’s next? A lot goes into wedding planning, but you don’t have to do it all at once. Here are the must-do to-dos after getting engaged.","title":"Just Engaged? Here’s What To Do Next!","slug":"to-dos-after-you-get-engaged","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What are the most important things in a long, healthy relationship? Read on to find out now. ","title":"18 Things That Are Important In a Relationship","slug":"what-are-the-5-most-important-things-in-a-relationship","topic":"Relationship advice","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2tRMjQG9NUdJdwEjUjdprR/76dcb8f489b13a16d5ff396dc6fcad62/18-Things-That-Are-Important-In-a-Relationship-.jpg","altText":"Most Important Things in a Relationship"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:58.107Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"who-not-to-invite-to-your-wedding","title":"Who NOT to Invite to Your Wedding","excerpt":"Before you cut—or feel obligated to include—those on your “maybe” list, here are things to consider when weighing who not to invite to your wedding.","author":"Jennifer Prince","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T15:54:34.828Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57k97HLajBPOTuvAZzGzwQ/bce61ac78b903b62f285b2c9b0ed3464/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Who NOT to Invite to Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- The couple and whoever is paying for the wedding should be in charge of curating who makes the guest list.\n- Budget, venue size, and other restrictions may force you to cut people from your wedding guest list.\n- Avoid inviting those who could potentially cause drama and/or people that you only feel obligated to invite.\n- If you feel that an uninvited guest may be disappointed, have a conversation with them and answer any questions about not making the guest list.","body":"When couples know an engagement is on the horizon, thoughts naturally turn to the big day. They envision who will be in the wedding party and imagine relatives getting emotional as the couple says, “I do.” There’s a lot of [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning) involved in making that special day perfect. However, before starting your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website), [venue tours](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-when-touring-a-wedding-venue), and [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) search, there’s one thing to keep in mind: the guest count. \n\nAs you formulate your list, there will be certain folks that jump out at you immediately. Possibly, they’re on your must-have wedding guest list, such as parents, friends, and close relatives. Alternately, there are probably folks already on the chopping block. Before you cut—or feel obligated to include—those on your “maybe” list, here are things to consider when weighing who not to invite to your wedding. \n\nPart 1: Factors That Are Influenced by Guest Count \nPart 2: Points to Ponder Before Deciding Who Not to Invite \nPart 3: Whom You Should and Shouldn’t Invite to Your Wedding \nPart 4: How to Deal With Fallout from Those Not Invited \n\nWho Should Decide the Wedding Guest List?\nOf course, the couple should have frank conversations with each other about the wedding guest list. Both partners need to be aware of prioritizing who is essential and who shouldn’t attend the wedding day. However, if someone else is helping to pay for a significant portion of the wedding, consult with them. They may have people that they feel the need to invite, such as a second cousin or close friend. \n\n“Keep in mind that whoever is paying gets the final say on who is invited,” says Laura Maddox, owner of [Magnolia Celebrates](https://www.magnoliacelebrates.com/) in Atlanta, Georgia.” If everyone is splitting costs evenly, then, of course, you should all have a say in these matters.” No matter what, remember that it’s your day and you should feel comfortable about who attends your wedding. Therefore have frank discussions about the guest list when necessary.\n\n## Factors That Are Influenced by Guest Count \n\n### Venue Restrictions\nBefore you select a location, you should have an approximate number of people in mind. For example, you can’t consider a small wedding venue that holds a maximum of 40 if your guest list will be 200. Conversely, if you have 20 people at a site that holds 400, your wedding may seem dwarfed. Of course, if you have your heart set on a particular location and it only holds 50, you will have to adjust your guest list accordingly. Just remember that you won’t have an exact number until you send out [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [receive RSVPs](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/sections/115000582491-RSVP).\n\n### Overall Budget\nMany couples think that the number of people only impacts your [catering costs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cost-of-wedding-caterers). However, the truth is that your entire bottom line will be affected by each guest you invite. More people equals more seating, which will influence your setup and tear down costs. You will need more invitations, favors, drinks, cake, and the list goes on. “When you start to add up how much money each individual invite costs, it becomes very easy to say that Aunt Sally’s boyfriend, who’s been around for two months, is not invited,” advises Maddox. Once you see the cost per guest, culling the list becomes easier.\n\n### Desired Atmosphere\nDo you want a big party, or do you prefer something more intimate? Also, consider whether one or both partners is shy or has anxiety about being up in front of a large crowd. It’s your day, and you want to look back on it fondly. Unwanted nervousness due to an influx of people won’t do you or your partner any good. Also, if you want an intimate, micro-wedding with 30 people, you have every right to plan what you envision.\n\n## Points to Ponder Before Deciding Whom Not to Invite \nPhotographer Meredith Ryncarz, owner of [Meredith Ryncarz Photography](https://meredithryncarz.com/) in Savannah, Georgia, has a specific set of questions that she feels couples need to ask before formulating the guest list. Consider things like whether you’ve talked to them in the past year and if you see a continuing post-wedding friendship. In addition, ask yourself if there is a family or other deep connection. Also, evaluate whether or not they’re supportive of your union. \n\n“If you answered yes to any or all of these, then you should be inviting them,” suggests Ryncarz. “This will help keep your guest count down to a reasonable list and weed out acquaintances that, while you might feel obligated to invite, really are not vital to being part of the guest count or the story of your day.”\n\n“Formulating a guest list should come easily for the large majority, but there will be some people that come to mind, which raises the question if an invite should be extended or not,” says Kelley Nudo, client manager at Momental Designs in Wyoming, Pennsylvania. Setting parameters will help in these situations. For example, have you seen them in the past five years? If not, then they may need to get cut. \n\n“Ultimately, the couple should first prioritize their list by adding up the people they deem as being highly important to have with them on their special day and then carefully add any additional groups of people (co-workers, friends, neighbors, etc.) while trying not to leave anyone out within those social circles,” Nudo suggests.\n\n“Think about the people you have genuinely spent time with within the last year,” advises Maddox. “These are the people that should be invited to your wedding celebration.” Of course, time, distance, and pandemics may have altered that timeline, so make exceptions in those circumstances. Also, Maddox says don’t feel like you have to reciprocate if you scored an invite to their event. “Just because someone invited you to their wedding 10 years ago does not mean [that] you need to feel obligated to invite them to yours.” \n\n## Who You Should and Shouldn’t Invite to Your Wedding \nIt’s ultimately up to you, your spouse, and the people covering the cost of your wedding to decide. No one besides the members of that group of people can come up with a list that is perfect for you. Only you know each individual’s dynamics, relationships, and situations, so keep that in mind. The list below is just a suggestion, so feel free to do as you wish for your big day.\n\n### People Who Could Bring or Cause Drama\n“In general, when considering who[m] not to invite, I always suggest avoiding those that cause family drama or seek to make situations about themselves,” says Ryncarz. The wedding day can already be stressful as you think about timelines and the emotions surrounding the commitment itself. Therefore, avoid drama and conflict at all costs. \n\n### Those With Potential Health or Safety Concerns\nIf the pandemic has taught folks anything, it’s to check on spikes, no matter the disease. Whether it’s flu season or there is another COVID-19 spike on the horizon, your guest count could fluctuate. As a result, there may be cause not to invite immunocompromised family members or to lessen your guest count altogether. \n\n### Someone Who Struggles With Alcoholism\nNone of these situations are easy. However, someone with alcohol addiction can change the tone of an event—especially if they’re overconsuming. “Considering someone who struggles with alcohol addiction, and you are planning an [open bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/open-bar-weddings-a-guide)? Depending on who you are, you may want to exclude them as well for the health of both your guest and your event,” advises Nora Sheils, founder of [Bridal Bliss](https://www.bridalbliss.com/) in Portland, Oregon. Talking with this type of guest is challenging, yet it’s easier than dealing with situations while someone is under the influence. \n\n### Children Under a Certain Age\nWhether or not to invite children can be touchy, especially for parents who need to plan. However, giving parents ample advance notice ensures that they can find a sitter. “A big sticking point for some couples is the question of whether or not to include children,” reminds Nudo. “Of course, some weddings offer a wonderful time for both adults and children to celebrate together.”\n\nAlso, think about the time and style of your event. Kids may do ok at a casual afternoon event. Conversely, a late-night open bar dance party may not be conducive to littles. “Still, there are some weddings that are not quite appropriate for children to attend, so determining this early on and making it clear to all guests that the celebration is for [adults only](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-say-no-kids-in-the-wedding-invitation) is important,” suggests Nudo.\n\n### People You Don’t Really Care About Inviting\n“Couples should not invite anyone that they wouldn’t even care if they RSVPd no,” says Shannon Tarrant, co-founder of [Wedding Venue Map](https://weddingvenuemap.com/). “This is a clear indicator that they shouldn’t be on the guest list at all.” So, if you’re questioning it or feel obligated about inviting them, consider culling them from the list.\n\n## How to Deal With Fallout from Those Not Invited \n\n### Consider Adding a Live Stream to Your Big Day \nOffering an online component to your wedding allows for an unlimited amount of virtual guests. “A nice way to allow people to celebrate your marriage without actually attending is to allow them to join in via live stream,” offers Nudo. “With modern technology, there are so many ways to help people feel included without having your guest list get too out of control.”\n\n### Let Them Hear It from You That They Didn’t Make the Cut\n“If someone finds out they are not invited to your wedding, and you know ahead of time that it may possibly create fallout, have the conversation first before they find out,” suggests Ryncarz. “Let them know gently that you have a limited amount of guest count. It is as simple as that. Remind them that they are important to you and that you had to factor in your list of guests and your partners.” Having a chat instead of leaving them to wonder or hear from someone else is such sage advice. \n\n### Most Folks Who Aren’t Invited Will Be OK With It\nWhen you’re questioning whether or not to invite a guest, chances are they are probably wondering whether or not they’ll make the cut. “Most people honestly will understand if they are not invited. Especially when you explain that you had a finite amount of space or finances and were unable to extend the invite,” says Maddox. “The reality is that you are likely not cutting your most important people off your list but instead those that you are friendly with but not the closest to.”\n\n### Be Honest About Your Reasoning for Not Inviting Them\nWhen in doubt, the best you can do is tell the truth. “It’s really important just to be honest with someone if they ask why they weren’t invited,” says Tarrant. “Of course, the goal is not to hurt their feelings. But you can always blame the [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-start-creating-a-wedding-budget-right-now) or venue size if that makes it easier.” \n\n### Prepare to Answer Questions \n“If you are excluding someone that you know will become aware of the exclusion, you must be prepared for fall out,” warns Sheils. “People take offense when left out of larger events, so be prepared to answer questions or potentially lose a friend.” Weigh the cost, but also have frank conversations if they press you for a reason.\n\n## Zola: Your Destination for Curating Your Wedding Guest List\nNeed more advice about how to make your guest list? Zola has you covered! From basics on [creating your guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list) to [when you need to finalize your list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-list-timeline-when-to-make-yours-and-when-to-follow-up-with-guests), Zola has the tips you need. On a short timeline? Learn how to [cull your guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding) in less than 10 minutes. Also, keep track of your guest list and let people RSVP through your [Zola website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Zola makes it simple to keep everything organized and plan with ease so that you can have a big day surrounded by those closest to you.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_InvitesPaper"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We have scoured the web for the most unique wedding invitations on the stationery scene, and we’re sharing them here. 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Read on for your complete guide to planning a wedding in May.","author":"Ruksana Hussain","publishedAt":"2022-05-02T21:45:56.146Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7GwurZ7SERl1BhTWXvjiRF/4a0401a10db798c05d483e66b0a015d0/Spring_Limelight_Photography.jpeg","altText":"May Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know"},"heroCredit":"Limelight Photography","body":"The [spring season](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/march-wedding-heres-everything-you-need-to-know) is ending, marking the start of everyone’s favorite season: Wedding Season, of course! With all that May has to offer to couples, mild temperatures, the best of blooms, and a whole host of celebrations, there’s no wonder why it’s one of the most popular wedding months. If you’re considering hosting your perfect wedding ceremony this popular month, here are some things that make a summer wedding in May a good idea.\n\n## The Basics\n#### History & Culture\n\nIf your wedding day is going to be May, here are a few things you should keep in mind when tying the knot:\n\n- May is named after the Greek goddess Maia, Goddess of fertility, making it a great month for the birth of a new life together as newlyweds.\n\n- According to old __[marriage superstitions](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/choosing-the-date/)__, May used to be considered an unlucky month to be wed. Now it’s the 2nd most popular wedding month for couples.\n\n## Ideas and Inspiration\n#### What's In Season?\n\nWhat's In Season? \n\nPhoto credit: [Wedding Bee](https://www.weddingbee.com/article/wedding-planning/ceremony-reception/seasonal-fruits-to-incorporate-into-your-summer-wedding/)\n\nMay is a great month for a wedding because there are so many choices for [food](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-food-ideas) and [flowers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers).\n\n- Break out the buffet spreads of fan favorites like pizza bites, mini bagels, and tiny tacos. Everything comfort food and ready for snacking is a welcome treat. Especially if you are planning on an outdoor event, then you want to make sure your guests can move around and simple finger foods like these allow for just that.\n\n- Get hands-on with your dessert picks, serving treats like cake pops and churros that are easy to roam around with, aside from the wedding cake they get to enjoy. Keep stations around the venue so your guests can move around and enjoy the weather and the ambiance as they snack on sweet treats and explore what’s on offer. \n\n- Ranunculus, peonies, poppies, and bluebells are some of the spring's best additions to floral __[arrangements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/everything-you-need-to-know-about-winter-wedding-flowers)__. Use these not just in the venue décor but also in tablescapes and place settings or centerpieces as well as in bride and bridesmaids’ bouquets and hair pieces to match your wedding colors. Make the most of all this floral splendor. \n\n#### Weather\n\nPhoto Credit: [Amanda May Photos](https://amandamayphotos.com/smoky-mountain-wedding/)\n\nBrighter days are to come with the shifting season.\n\n- Outdoor weddings thrive during this month with the perfect balance of spring breeze and summer sun. An indoor wedding can merge the best of both worlds in a hybrid setting or one with lots of windows. Choose a venue that facilitates and indoor and outdoor wedding setting so you can make the best of both worlds.\n\n- The weather in May can still be fickle depending on your area. Be on the lookout for those surprise rainstorms in more southern and tropical regions. Always have a plan B ready to go. Speak with the wedding venue, planner, and vendors to explore all possible options before you decide how you will address such an incident.\n\n- An indoor wedding, on the other hand, would have a fantastic ambiance if it is held in a setting with floor-to-ceiling windows. It will let more light enter the building, ensuring a well-lit wedding and celebration. Make sure the windows aren’t hidden and allow for ample light to shine through into the venue.\n\n#### Holidays\n\nPhoto credit: [Wedding Bee](https://www.weddingbee.com/article/wedding-planning/ceremony-reception/the-pros-and-cons-of-holiday-weekend-weddings/)\n\nDon't forget about the following dates if you want to work with (or around) them when planning your wedding events.\n\n- May 5: Cinco de Mayo \n- May 8: Mother’s Day \n- May 30: Memorial Day \n\n__Tip:__ In May, there are two bank holidays. If you can set your wedding around these dates, you and your guests might be able to spend a long weekend together.\n\n#### Theme Ideas\n\nPhoto credit: [Pro Wedding Invites](https://www.proweddinginvites.com/blog/6-beautiful-inviting-wedding-colors-for-may-wedding-in-2022/)\n\nHere are a few __[themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes)__ to inspire your wedding this month: \n\n- Looking to stand out this season? Create the ultimate retro vibes at your wedding. Bring back the disco or go full-on mid-century modern to pull [this theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/couples-top-wedding-themes) off. A unique theme will make your wedding day more special for guests to attend. \n\n- Embrace your inner fan with a movie-based theme for an event surrounded by all the things you love. Be as subtle or over-the-top as you’d like with inspired dessert and decor. It’s your big day so rejoice in your own way!\n\n- Keep things modern and minimalist. Less is more with this theme that uses shapes, textures, and small pops of color to elevate simplicity. Make a visual impact with clean and clear designs for your wedding.\n\n#### Clothing Ideas\n\nPhoto credit: [Repeller](https://repeller.com/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding-3-outfits/)\n\n- With a spring wedding comes lots of wedding attire alternatives. From flouncy cotton wedding dresses to elegant suede suits, May wedding dress codes are among the most creative. Be as refined or as relaxed as you like.\n- Speaking of dress codes, it’s time for everyone’s favorite wedding style: Cocktail attire! Otherwise known as semi-formal, couples and guests are all dressing up for weddings this month. Make this a formal do and dress to the nines!\n\n__Quick color tip:__ May [color palettes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-colors) are all about embracing the best of both worlds. Mix rich colors with bright pastels for the perfect balance.\n\n## Pros and Cons of May Weddings\n\n### Pros\n\n1. The weather is almost always beautiful, everything is in bloom, and your pictures are probably going to turn out brilliant, especially with gorgeous wedding flowers everywhere.\n\n2. This is considered peak season so wedding venues and vendors will be ready to work with you and provide the best deals. \n\n3. This is possibly the best time for an outdoor wedding with the climate and the greenery in its best spirits. \n\n4. The long weekend might provide more days to celebrate and allow you to pack in additional festivities.\n\n### Cons\n\n1. There is still a chance of rain, so you need to have an alternate plan ready just in case the weather gods decide not to cooperate. \n\n2. Given the busy season, venues and vendors might be difficult to find on certain dates so wedding planning for all scenarios will be prudent, especially if you are looking at a destination wedding. \n\n3. Outdoor spaces may be hard to come by as most every couple will be aiming for an outdoor venue this time of year. \n\n4. Invites will need to head out earlier than usual, so folks don’t plan any other activities or travels during the dates of your wedding, especially if they are going to be your bridesmaids or other important members of your bridal party. \n\n## Zola Facts\nWant the scoop on how other couples are planning their May weddings? Here are some fun facts from Zola about weddings this month.\n\nCouples’ Favorite May Wedding Invites + Paper Designs \n\nPhoto credit: [Mospens Studio](https://www.mospensstudio.com/product/may-flowers-floral-wedding-invitations/)\n\n- [Bow Bridge](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/c767c9b6-ae3f-42e6-a25c-221d6bd98e0d)- This bold, simple design highlights your wedding details beautifully. \n- [Kalispell](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/adc0d7db-b960-4083-b299-0bb96adba163)- This botanical design features a delicate floral frame around timeless typography.\n- [Splendor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/dfc35cf7-2bba-4cf1-bfc8-b4435ea4c75d)- This awe-inspiring design features sprinkles of stars and a bold watercolor moon, beautifully accented with a mix of a classic and handwritten font. \n\n### Average Guest Count for May Weddings\n\nPhoto credit: [Every Last Details](https://theeverylastdetail.com/the-guest-count-counts-your-wedding-guest-list/)\n\nThe average number of wedding guests on the guestlist for a May wedding is 125.\n\n### Popular Registry Adds for May Weddings\nCouples getting married in May have these top three must-adds on their wedding registries:\n\n- [Mercer Rim Cereal Bowl](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/cratebarrel_mercer_rim_cereal_bowl_blue)\n- [Lucca Faceted 5-Piece Flatware Set, Service for 1](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/fortessa_lucca_5pcflatware_copper_9)\n- [Nonstick Essentials Bakeware Set, 10 Piece](https://homestore.zola.com/shop/product/farberware_nonstick_10piece_bakeware_set)\n\n## Things to Consider\n\n#### Popularity\nMay is the start of the wedding season for many reasons. Here’s why so many couples prefer this month to wed. \n\n- Though May is a popular wedding month, it’s not the most popular. Second to June, weddings this month are a part of the lucky bunch setting the tone for a summer full of celebrations.\n- For many institutions, May marks a shift to summer schedules. Whether it’s the start of summer break or summer work schedules for you and your guests, you can take advantage of the extra free time to plan your wedding events.\n- May weddings are also less likely to clash with other events. If you schedule your wedding for this month, you and your partner will be able to spend the summer partying rather than planning.\n\n#### Cost\nWith summer around the corner, expect to be on the early end of rising wedding prices from [vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors).\n\n- Understand that with greater demand comes heavily booked schedules. You may find it more difficult to book all your vendors in time for your wedding date, so try your best to start inquiring early.\n\n- Prioritize your non-negotiables for your wedding and decide what can get cut or adjusted, if need be. Budget for the most important aspects first and the nice-to-have elements can follow next.\n\nNo matter what season or month it is, planning a wedding is difficult. The best part is that today’s couples are planning their weddings any way they want to. Themes, colors, flowers, and attire are all things you can use to showcase your personality for a wedding to remember.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Whether you’re having a boho wedding or just want to incorporate more color, texture, and elements from nature into your wedding accessories, flower crowns are a great choice. 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But, for many couples, when choosing wedding vendors, there are things that are just as important as quality—including finding vendors that align with their values.\n\nIn [Zola’s First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2022), we surveyed thousands of engaged couples to find out what matters to them for their 2022 weddings. What we found is that couples are being more intentional than ever when hiring vendors. Of the couples we interviewed, 44 percent are intentionally supporting small businesses in their wedding planning—and nearly one-third (29 percent) are intentionally hiring wedding vendors with values that align with their own.\n\nSo, if you’re looking for wedding vendors that align with your values, you’re not alone. But the question is how, exactly, do you find those vendors? And how do you ensure that, when it comes to wedding vendors, you’re “speaking with your wallet”—and hiring values-based companies that you can feel good about?\n\n## Ask for Recommendations \n\nPeople tend to flock to like-minded people. So, chances are that your friends, family members, and loved ones share similar values with you and your partner—and if any of them have recently gotten married, they can be a great resource for finding vendors that also share those values.\n\nAsk your [recently engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged) and/or married friends if they worked with any wedding vendors that they feel would align with your values. Getting a recommendation from someone you know and trust is always a good place to start, because your loved one already knows you and your partner’s values, and, thus, they can be a great matchmaker in connecting you with vendors that also share those values.\n\n## Do Your Online Research \n\nAs mentioned, hiring wedding vendors that align with a certain value (or set of values) is becoming a major wedding trend. And because hiring values-based wedding vendors is on so many couples’ radars, there is plenty of information on how to do it—all you have to do is find it.\nDo a little online research to see what content you can find around how to hire wedding vendors that align with your values. \n\nFor example, here’s an article on [how to find Black-owned wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-black-wedding-vendors-you-should-know-about)—and another on [how to find LGBTQIA+ wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist). You can also use social media to connect with vendors that align with the kind of values that you want to partner with—for example, by searching for specific hashtags (either in vendor content or their social media bios), such as #disabilityowned or #womenownedbusiness.\n\n## Search in the Right Places \n\nThere are a variety of marketplaces where you can find wedding vendors, but not all marketplaces are created equal. If hiring wedding vendors that align with your values is a priority, it’s important to spend your time searching the right marketplaces.\n\nAt Zola, we’re committed to bringing together vendors that are not only the best at what they do, but are also diverse in style, budget, and background. Zola vendors also commit to our [Vendor Vows](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors/pledge), thus honoring their commitment to respect, transparency, and inclusion, so you can rest assured that every vendor you find on the platform operates with ethics and values that you can trust.\n\nSo, whether you’re committed to hiring BIPOC-owned vendors, want to support sustainable wedding practices, or are looking to engage small businesses in your community, at Zola, you can find wedding vendors that align with your values *and* deliver the highest quality services for your big day\n\n## How to Find Wedding Vendors Based on Specific Values \n\nNow that you have a general overview of how to find values-based wedding vendors, let’s jump into tips on how to find—and hire—wedding vendors that align with specific values:\n\n### Small Businesses\n\nIf you’re committed to hiring small businesses for your wedding, you’re in luck. Most wedding vendors are small businesses—so unless you actively seek out large chains (for example, hiring a wedding photographer from a national chain, instead of hiring a local photographer), the vast majority of vendors you speak with will be small business owners or independent contractors. \n\n### LGBTQIA+-Owned/Ally\n\nIf you’re a LGBTQIA+ couple, an ally, or you just want to support LGBTQIA+ businesses at your wedding, there are a number of marketplaces that focus specifically on LGBTQIA+ and/or LGBTQIA+ friendly wedding vendors—including [Pridezillas](https://www.pridezillas.com/), [Equally Wed](https://equallywed.com/lgbtq-gay-wedding-vendors-venues/), and [Rainbow Wedding Network](https://www.rainbowweddingnetwork.com/).\n\n### BIPOC or Black-Owned\n\nNearly 14 percent of the couples reported that they were intentionally supporting BIPOC-owned businesses during their wedding planning. And, if hiring BIPOC vendors is a priority for you, there are a number of ways to connect with aligned wedding vendors in your community; in addition to the general tips listed above (such as leveraging social media and retail marketplaces, many of which have BIPOC-specific search functionality), many cities have business associations that can connect you with black and minority-owned businesses—including wedding vendors.\n\n### Women-Owned\n\nThere are plenty of women-owned businesses in the wedding industry, and, if you’re committed to supporting female vendors (and female-owned businesses), you can use the same strategies as searching for a LGBTQIA+ or BIPOC-owned business; just change your hashtags and search criteria. (For example, instead of connecting with BIPOC business associations in your area, reach out to business associations focused on women-owned businesses). \n\n### AAPI-Owned\n\nSearching for AAPI-owned businesses would leverage the same strategy as BIPOC-owned businesses. Again, you would just want to narrow your search criteria to focus on businesses owned by Asian Americans and/or Pacific Islanders.\n\n### LatinX-Owned\n\nIf you’re looking to engage LatinX-owned businesses for your wedding, again, take those BIPOC-related search tips—and apply them to LatinX businesses.\n\n### Eco-Friendly\n\nMost vendors that incorporate green, sustainable, and eco-friendly practices into their business operations are vocal about it. So, researching vendors’ social media presence can give you insight into whether they value sustainability and what kind of eco-friendly services they would utilize while supporting your big day—which can help you decide whether they’re the right vendor for you.\n\n### Religious Affiliation \n\nIf you’re committed to working with vendors with a specific religious affiliation, start with [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)/ceremony sites that align with that specific affiliation (for example, if you’re committed to a Christian wedding, find a local church where you want to host your wedding; if you’re looking for Jewish vendors, lock in the synagogue where you want to [say your “I do’s.”](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows)). A place of worship that’s accustomed to performing wedding ceremonies will likely have an approved vendor list—and if you specify that you want your vendors to also share your religious affiliation, they can point you in the right direction.\n\n### Nonprofit\n\nIf you want to partner with nonprofits for your wedding, most areas have directories of all their nonprofits, complete with contact information—and searching those directories is a great way to get in touch with potential nonprofit vendors. (For example, if you are planning a wedding in Oregon, you could search for wedding vendors through the [Nonprofit Association of Oregon’s Directory](https://directory.nonprofitoregon.org/).)\n\n### Supporting Accessibility\n\nSocial media (for example, searching the #disabilityowned hashtag) and word-of-mouth recommendations are great ways to find wedding vendors that support disability rights, equality, and accessibility. If you have a specific value in mind, it’s always helpful to ask vendors directly (for example, if you’re looking for an autistic-friendly wedding venue, ask what practices they have in place to make their events inclusive for guests on the autism spectrum.)\n\n## Find the Vendors That Mirror Your Values\n\nHiring wedding vendors that align with your values is important to a lot of couples. Whether you want to hire a BIPOC makeup artist, an AAPI-owned catering service, or fill your wedding vendor roster with local small businesses, you now have everything you need to go find wedding vendors that will not only do an amazing job, but will also mirror the values that are most important to you. So, what are you waiting for? Get out there and find your wedding vendors.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering what you should check for in your wedding venue contract? We're here to help! 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Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make sure your wedding makeup stands up to your celebration. 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Here are our DIY wedding hair tips to follow for gorgeous wedding hairstyles you can pull off yourself.","title":"DIY Wedding Hair Tips","slug":"diy-wedding-hair-tips","topic":"Fashion & beauty","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3B4JXngFOMWYGs2QSeuqKq/cd886b06bd7f132aacf49b6692d86e87/3937960.jpg","altText":"African-American bride side pose with beautiful hair curls"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"The impulse to diet or lose weight for your wedding is strong. Here's how to break the cycle and focus less on your wedding diet and more on a healthy body and stress-free wedding planning.","title":"How to Break Out of the #WeddingDiet Mentality","slug":"wedding-diets-lose-weight-for-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6V9XrUDHmz4UvWtnNWGu8W/aa926bf361e969338d3c02ed4b72a2c9/HERO_NicoleChanPhotography_1080x720.jpg","altText":"veiled bride walking to wedding"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. 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","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"how-to-set-your-wedding-budget","title":"How to Set Your Wedding Budget Step by Step","excerpt":"While it may not be the most exciting item on your to-do list, setting your wedding budget is essential. We’ll break down the typical expenses, guide you through the entire process from start to finish, and tell you where you can save money. ","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thousands of couples have incredible weddings every year without sacrificing on style or going over budget, and you can do it too. 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It gives you a chance to reminisce about your relationship journey and gives you yet another reason to be excited for your wedding ceremony and celebration. While your website will include essential wedding details about your venue, dress code, and information about the spouses-to-be, it also provides the perfect opportunity to add a custom touch. \n\nThat's why including a beautiful story section about how the two of you met is highly recommended. It’s one of the most popular parts of a [wedding site](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-create-a-personalized-wedding-website) and in wedding planning overall. Your guests and member in your wedding party want to read it, so why not try to make it enjoyable and engaging for them?\n\nA common way to approach writing an ‘about us’ story is to write the story of how you met from your point of view. This approach helps relatives and friends from both sides who may not know you as a couple or may have met your significant other only a few times more insight into your relationship.\n\nHowever, some couples opt out of telling the story of how they met. Maybe your friends and family already know the details of your love story. Maybe you’re childhood sweethearts and everyone who is attending your wedding has watched your relationship grow. You can still have an about us story and skip over the __[wedding website bios](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-lovely-wedding-website-bio-examples)__. \n\nFor example, people want to know the story of the proposal. It’s probably the first question people ask when they learn about your engagement. You can share this moment instead of, or in addition to, a how we met story. Other ideas include sharing a memorable date or milestone that you’ve experienced as a couple. Give information about each of your personalities and what you love about each other. It's like a trip down memory lane. \n\nYou could also talk about your love for each other and how you feel about getting married. [The best wedding website builders](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website) will also offer an FAQs section where you can share some of the nitty gritty details, such as logistics and transportation, or arrangements for special dietary or mobility restrictions, etc. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## “Our story” examples for your wedding website \n\nWhen coming up with your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)’s about us, think of a favorite moment from your relationship and share it with your loved ones. Here are five [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) examples inspired by Hollywood love stories to spark your creativity and inspiration for how to write your own story.\n\n### 1. Tell how you met\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66I55zzM7AsNUlU1eTrCP/9b19086ab0fab9f9050c88238457b162/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_1.jpg)\n\n*\"We were introduced through Sally’s college friend. We were both moving to New York (separately) from Chicago after graduation and Harry sat shotgun as Sally drove. We talked a lot on that road trip but parted ways as soon as we arrived in the city.\"* \n\n*\"Throughout the years, though, we’d run into each other randomly and eventually, we started hanging out and became close friends.\"*\n\nThis example follows the classic guideline of answering who, what, where, and when. Fill in the blanks of the questions for yourself and think about who introduced you as a couple, what you were doing when you met, where the first meeting happened, and when you realized that a relationship might be a possibility. Put it all in an easy to read format leading up to your special day.\n\n### 2. Focus on the proposal\n\n![Engagement Session on Wedding Website](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01Suw0MpTVWMCravF9uPix/eeaae557a81bc48f6f7c5dd9000b1f86/Engagement_Session_on_Wedding_Website.jpg)\n\n*\"Michael was leaving on another extended business trip and as his train was pulling away, he rushed to the back and yelled out “Marry me!” to Kimmy who was standing on the platform.\"*\n\n*\"It was exhilarating and spontaneous and we both knew right then that no matter how many miles were between us or however many days we had to be apart. We wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.\"*\n\nWas your proposal a well-planned out affair or a spontaneous moment based on a rush of love and emotions? Let your proposal story be guided by the details of how it happened and the feelings that surrounded it. When writing your proposal story, let it provide a glimpse into your life. This example shows the distance challenges the couple faced and how it worked itself into the actual proposal and setting of a wedding date. Add an engagement photo gallery as pictures do speak louder than words. After all, everyone wants to know how he (or she!) popped the question and see your [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos).\n\n### 3. Share a memorable date or milestone\n\n![Proposal idea recreate first date](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7m6l5Ihxa4tSNWQMnvepSp/26a50652dc21889189b731f01a51372f/proposal-ideas-2.jpg)\n\n*\"We wouldn’t call it a date necessarily. But we started spending a lot of time together when Kevin was assigned to write a story on Jane.\" *\n\n*\"Her always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride tale was intriguing to Kevin’s newspaper and he followed Jane closely as she prepared for the upcoming wedding season, including her sister’s semi-impromptu nuptials.\"* \n\nInject humor when possible or specific details many may not know such as your first date or how you chose your destination wedding. It allows guests to feel like they have personal insight into what makes your love so special and will get everyone geared up for the big day. We know you can't wait to celebrate!\n\n### 4. Show your personalities\n\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1578mqE6kY1YE3xvjVgBNU/35198dd4d8e2945c8680f28e25fdc691/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example.jpg)\n\n*\"Anna has lived in the spotlight her whole life. She likes jet-setting around the world and experiencing the finer things in life. William prefers his own quiet part of the world surrounded by only his closest friends and family. You’ll likely find his nose buried in a book.\" *\n\n*\"At first, our worlds collided serendipitously but not necessarily in a good way. But in the end, a change of pace is exactly what we both needed and we got to a place where we could completely be ourselves together. We found that we balance each other out in all the right ways.\" *\n\nShowing parts of your personality individually also illustrates how you work together as a couple. It gives your wedding party and guests a chance to know more about both of you since the bride’s side may not know too much about the groom’s and vice-versa. It is also a great way for family members and best friends to learn more about you and your special other in this section of your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Reflect on your love for each other\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6y2CjTulVydA5bYsZEdFUe/d413e457fa2a44e8139e224af926cb6c/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_2.jpg)\n\n*Sara: When I met Alex, he seemed like another smooth talker trying to pick me up in a bar. While I must admit his suave demeanor was attractive, it was his sweet and thoughtful side that really drew me in, and the rest is history.*\n\n*Alex: I was immediately awestruck when I first laid my eyes on her but knew I had to be creative to win her over. She was someone special; I could just tell.*\n\nAn about us story can be short and sweet. Speak from the heart from your individual perspectives to keep it authentic and fill in the space by sharing your excitement about getting married. This will get your guests excited, too.\n\n## Tips for writing your own story \nThe about us section is one of the first parts you'll fill out on [your website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Take your time when you create it. Write a few drafts before settling on the final story. Read your words aloud to each other and have fun laughing and reminiscing about fond memories before your wedding ceremony. Keep it to a few short paragraphs and add levity and authenticity when you write it. A few tips to keep in mind as you’re writing are:\n\n- __Tip 1:__ Write it like a casual conversation, not a professional bio. It should read like you’re telling the tale in person to a guest. You want it to feel warm and inviting. Skip writing inside jokes but freely share the humor of a story. Guests want to feel like they have a bit of insider knowledge about the spouses-to-be.\n\n- __Tip 2:__ Don’t overthink it. While most about us stories are about the length of a paragraph, if you want to sum it up in two or three sentences, do as you please. It’s about sharing your story in the way you want guests to receive it.\n\n- __Tip 3:__ Make sure the story flows. If you are each writing from your own perspective, make sure each part is similar in length. You don’t want one of you to extend the writing to several lines while the other person only contributes one or two.\n\nFollowing the Hollywood formula is useful as it answers the questions of who, what, when, where, and how. It also shows how to focus on the important details and select private moments.\n\n![Zola Wedding Website Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7iMxcB3Lsjs2rhBGZsN8Gs/161cd2722cc9508f4576a85c68d593d5/inline_simplyadriphotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Simply Adri Photography\n\n## Let your wedding website design guide your words \n\nChoose from one of hundreds of [wedding website templates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Each will guide you to where and how much you should add to your wedding website’s About Us story. Using templates helps you decide __[what to put on your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-z-list-of-what-to-put-on-your-wedding-website)__. You’re able to preview how it looks on the screen and decide if you want to add or delete words to make it easier to read. The design enhances the story by also reflecting your personalities and style of your upcoming nuptials. \n\nMatch your website to your wedding theme. Whether it’s an elegant evening affair, an afternoon countryside ceremony, or one of the many other aesthetics and locations in between, you’ll find one that sets the tone for your big day. This can also be extended to your RSVP, guest list, wedding registry, and wedding invitations. \n\nPart of creating your wedding website means taking a walk down memory lane while at the same time preparing for the future. It’s a special time so make sure you savor the moment when getting ready for your wedding day!\n\n## Zola, your best wedding website option\n\nWith Zola, you not only get a free [wedding website template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates) but also a unique and customizable one with many features. Not only is there an exhaustive wedding registry to choose from, but the variety of designs and templates to add your personality to your wedding website design is huge. \n\nYou also receive a completion discount for items pending in your wedding registry past your wedding date so go ahead and set up your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) at Zola to see how easy and convenient a platform it is as you plan for your big day.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Explore etiquette tips for how to share your wedding website on an invitation.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-04T15:29:33.595Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26CncJFSKWLqU3QCUNbXDz/adef7cbc39110ffd3962b155c77cb77a/HERO_Zola_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding website on invitation etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"You [wrote your “how we met” story](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), uploaded your [beautiful engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos), and [created your wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/registry-basics/tips-for-creating-a-wedding-registry). This can only mean one thing: you completed your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Congrats! Crafting a wedding website that communicates all the important details about your wedding day is no easy task. Now that you hit publish, you’re probably wondering when and how you should share your brand-spanking-new site with your wedding guests.\n\nWhile it can be tempting to post a link to your wedding website on your social media accounts right away, we strongly advise against it. Sharing your wedding details with all of your web-based followers and friends often leads to confusion about who is and isn’t invited to your big day. Instead, modern etiquette suggests that you share your website with your guests via your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (and save the dates, if applicable). For more information on how to include your wedding website on your invitation, keep reading. \n\nJust getting started? Check out our step-by-step guide on [how to make a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). \n\n## Why to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nIncluding a link on your invitation is the easiest and most common way to share your website with your guests. Traditionally, the wedding invitation suite includes a few different enclosure cards to relay critical information to guests. While that’s still an option, many modern couples have opted to forego multiple enclosure cards and instead direct guests to their website to learn need-to-know wedding details, such as hotel recommendations and registry information. In addition to communication wedding details, the wedding website may be included on the invitation for the following reasons: \n\n__1. To Collect RSVPs Online__ — Many couples choose to collect online RSVPs rather than have their guests fill out paper response cards. That’s because sites like Zola make it easy to gather RSVPs through your wedding website and [manage the guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) with real-time updates and easy-to-use tracking tools. \n\n__2. To Share Registry Information__ — In the past, registry etiquette dictated that the registry only be shared by word of mouth. The digital age has rendered that rule outdated, and it’s now considered standard to share where you’re registered on your wedding website. Including your website URL on your invite makes it easy for guests to find your registry without hassle. \n\n## How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nNow that we’ve covered *why* to share your wedding website on your invitations, let’s talk about *how* to include your wedding website on your invitation without sacrificing aesthetic appeal or committing an etiquette faux pas. \n\nIn general, when sending out the [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal), guests appreciate having the wedding website information all in one place. Wedding etiquette insists that you don’t include your website on the invitation directly, but if you do choose to share it on the formal invitation, add the website to the bottom of the invitation. Wedding save the dates and enclosure cards are also a great place to share your wedding website with guests. You can do this by either:\n\n- Adding your wedding website URL\n- Adding a QR code\n\nLet's explore these different options for how you can share your wedding website on your invitation.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) \n\n### Save The Dates\nAlthough your [wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are sent out in advance of your invitations, they’re still a part of your invitation suite and the most popular choice for sharing the wedding website URL with guests as quickly as possible. \n\n__Where:__ If you make your save the dates using a pre-made design online, then the template will guide you on where exactly you should list your wedding website link. It varies by design, but in most cases, it’s listed on the back of the save the date or at the bottom of the front side. If you’re working with an invitation designer or making your own, where you place the URL is up to your personal preference. If you opt for a QR code, placing it on the back of your save-the-date would be ideal.\n\n__When:__ Send save the dates 4-6 months before your wedding date. \n\n### The Formal Invitation \nAlthough some wedding experts believe it’s bad decorum to include your wedding website on your invitation, we’re of the opinion that it’s okay if you’re collecting RSVPS through your site in lieu of response cards. Just keep in mind that unless the link serves a purpose other than broadcasting where guests can buy you gifts, that it may be considered poor etiquette to share your wedding website on your invitation. \n\n__Where:__ At the bottom of your invitation. Some wording examples:\n- “For more information, please visit [URL]”\n- “Kindly RSVP by [RSVP deadline] at [URL]”\n\nIf you opt to add a QR code instead, adding it to the back of the invite is best.\n\n__When:__ Send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n### The Enclosure Card(s) \nYour other option is to include your wedding website URL on an enclosure card (an additional piece of your invitation suite used to communicate additional details to your guests). While there are many types of enclosure cards, these three are used to point guests to your website: \n\n- __RSVP Card__ — If guests should RSVP online via your wedding website and you don’t want (or have the space) to include these instructions on your invitation, an option is to include an RSVP card with instructions on where, when, and how guests should accept or decline your invitation online. \n- __Details Card__ — To communicate multiple pieces of information with guests on one card, many couples prefer to enclose a details card with their invite. This card may list your website, travel information, requested attire, and other fine points that your guests should know before the wedding day.\n- __Wedding Website Card__ — A final option is to add a wedding website card to your invitation suite. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-25T20:26:29.674Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IcJuHdO9FKSB9935zn2CW/8674613b9fcf7440e5c9d2d87360ac2c/Mackler_Studios.jpg","altText":"bride and groom sitting in the backseat of car posing with marriage license"},"heroCredit":"Mackler Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/mackler-studios--4","body":"When you’re in the midst of planning all the details of your wedding day, it’s easy to forget the one thing that signifies that you are actually married: the marriage license. This bit of paperwork isn’t the most exciting task on your road to married life, but it is a requirement for your union to be deemed legal. So how do you go about getting a marriage license? Our guide covers it all below. \n\n## What Is a Marriage License?\nA marriage license is a document issued by the government that grants you permission to marry. It indicates that you are both legally eligible to enter into the union (i.e., neither of you are already married, underage, or otherwise ineligible for marriage). \n\n## What Is a Marriage Certificate?\nWhile a marriage license is a permit that legally allows you to get married, the marriage certificate is the official document you receive after your wedding has taken place. The certificate is granted after the marriage license has been returned to, and deemed valid by, the office where it was issued. In other words: \n- License = Permission to get married\n- Certificate = Proof that you are married\n \n## Why Do I Need a Marriage License? \nIf you do not obtain a marriage license, your marriage will be deemed illegal according to the law. While you can choose to be married in name only, or through a religious organization exclusively, the state will not permit you the rights typically reserved for legally married couples, such as certain tax breaks, social security benefits, joint healthcare plans, and inheritance rights. \n\n## Where to Get a Marriage License? \nWhere you get your marriage license depends on where you’re getting married—the office or location that handles them varies by state. Depending on your state, the location might be city hall, the clerk’s office, a designated marriage license bureau, or somewhere else unique to that area. \n\nTo learn more about your state’s marriage license requirements, check out [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml). \n\n## When to Get a Marriage License? \nWhen you should get your marriage license also depends on where your wedding will take place. Each state has its own set of rules for how long the license is valid (the license may expire if you do not get married and return the license to the state within a given number of days) and if there’s a waiting period. The waiting period is either the amount of time you have to wait between applying for and receiving the license, or a designated wait period between receiving the license and when you can tie the knot. \n\nAgain, [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml) is a great resource on this topic, but your local city hall will have the most up-to-date information. \n\n## How to Get Marriage License?\nThe process for obtaining a marriage license will vary by state (and sometimes city or county), but the process involves an submitting an application and paying a fee. Some states allow you to apply online, but most dictate that you apply in person and that both individuals be present that wish to be married. \n\n## What Do I Need to Apply for a Marriage License? \nThe exact requirements depend on the state’s individual laws, but there are a few things you can expect:\n\n- __Proof of identity (and that you are of legal age to marry)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - Social Security Card\n - Driver’s License\n - State ID\n - Military ID\n - U.S. Passport\n \n- __Proof that you are not currently married__\n - Divorce Decree, if you’re divorced \n - Death Certificate, if you are widowed\n- __Proof of citizenship (or residence)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - U.S. Passport\n - Certificate of Naturalization \n- __Payment for the application fee __\n\nConsult with your state for details on laws governing marriage age, blood test requirements, proxy, common law, and cousin marriages.\n\n*Pro Tip: Some applications may ask if you’re planning a [name change after marriage](https://zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). Make sure that you have come to a decision before you apply.* \n\n## How Much Is a Marriage License? \nFees for marriages licenses change range from $10 - $115 depending on the state, city or county where you apply. For accepted payment methods, check with your local licensing office. \n\n## Who Signs The Marriage License? \nMost states require that the marriage license be signed by both spouses, the officiant, and 1-2 witnesses, but, as we’ve mentioned before, every state is different. Be sure to ask for details when you apply for your marriage license. \n\n## Where Do I File for a Marriage License If I’m Planning a Destination Wedding?\nIf you’re planning to wed abroad, you can file for your marriage license two ways: \n\n__1. Apply in your home state and have a civil ceremony before or after the destination wedding.__ \n- Pros: \n - It’s cheaper\n - No need to file additional paperwork.\n - It’s less complicated.\n- Cons:\n - Your official wedding date will not be the day of your destination wedding.\n \n__2. Apply for a license in the country you’re getting married in, then have your marriage legally authenticated in your home state.__ \n- Pros: \n - Your official wedding date will be the same day as your destination wedding.\n- Cons:\n - It can be expensive.\n - You may have to hire translator (if the license isn’t in English).\n - It requires additional paperwork.\n - It can be complicated.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. 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Here's Your To-Do List","excerpt":"Even when you still have six months to go until your wedding, it’s important to have a game plan. Here's our checklist of the main to-dos to focus on. \n","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2021-03-12T23:52:12.687Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7pADAauDANJlA1FRu4ZYXC/4355eee1fdd08e2cf47fbb1b0c677809/Hero_Zola__3_.jpg","altText":"wedding planning with zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- In addition to attire, make sure you have your hair and makeup crew accounted for.\n- Send out save-the-dates and start adding gifts to your wedding registry.\n- Now is the time to lock in a florist, videographer, and deejay or musician.\n- Consider attending some premarital counseling sessions to make the transition to married life as smooth as possible.\n- Don’t overlook necessities, like purchasing ceremony rings and booking the honeymoon.\n","body":"When you're six months out from your wedding, it might feel like you’ve got all the time in the world. Others might be feeling the pressure. No matter what emotional state you’re in, having a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) is important for staying organized and will give you the peace of mind that all of your bases are covered.\n\nIf you’ve got half the year to plan, here are our top 12 to-dos:\n\n## 1. Research (and Book) Your Beauty Crew\nIt’s time to narrow down your search and secure your hair and makeup team. Don’t hesitate to book a few trials and play around with some styles if you’re still not sure exactly what you want.\n\n## 2. Say Yes to the Dress (or Suit)\nOr whatever you decide to wear, really. When it comes to attire, it’s time to let your personality shine.\n\n## 3. Schedule Tastings\nFrom macarons to cake varieties, you’ll want to make sure your dessert menu is finalized at least five months before your big day. Now is a great time to attend a few tastings and get a feel for exactly what you like.\n\n## 4. Send Save the Dates\nAs soon as you’ve got a venue secured and a guest list in mind, it’s time to send out your save the dates. Be sure to include essential details like the venue, date, and link to your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Book Your Florist\nIt’s time to graduate from fawning over Pinterest bouquets and finally take the big leap. Whether you’ve got a dream florist in mind or are still on the hunt, you’ll want to check this off your list as soon as you can.\n\n## 6. Start Your Registry\nFrom cooking utensils to a new couch, now is the time to start thinking about what might come in handy after the big day. Luckily, Zola’s registry is super straightforward and home to a wealth of inspiration to get you started.\n\n## 7. Pick Out a Videographer\nIf video is on your radar, now is the time to consider booking a pro. Not only is it a great way to capture some additional footage on your big day, but it’s also something you can reflect on for years to come.\n\n## 8. Research DJs and Musicians\nDepending on how far along you are in the planning process, this is a good time to examine your entertainment options. Whether you’re looking to book a deejay or a musician, now is the time to narrow down your choices and start gathering some quotes.\n\n## 9. Book a Rehearsal Dinner Venue\nAssuming that you only have your wedding venue booked for a single day, you’ll need to secure an additional venue for the rehearsal dinner. Keep in mind that this can be somewhere low key and personal, like a family farm or childhood home.\n\n## 10. Attend Premarital Counseling\nEven if you’ve never done therapy together, don’t be intimidated—premarital counseling can be a great way to strengthen your bond as a couple, while simultaneously preparing you for married life.\n\n## 11. Pick Out Ceremony Rings\nThis is a big one that’s easy to leave until the last minute. Make sure you pick out your rings far enough in advance to add engravings or make any other special customizations.\n\n## 12. Book the Honeymoon\nFor most couples, the wedding isn’t the only big event they’ve got coming up. Be sure not to overlook any important honeymoon details, like booking flights and accommodations or renewing your passports.\n\nThough everyone’s priorities may vary (as well as their sense of urgency), most couples benefit from having a structured timeline attached to their to-dos. And let’s be honest: It always feels good to check one more thing off the list. ","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingChecklist"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. 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","title":"A Guide to Marriage Licenses","slug":"a-guide-to-marriage-licenses","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IcJuHdO9FKSB9935zn2CW/8674613b9fcf7440e5c9d2d87360ac2c/Mackler_Studios.jpg","altText":"bride and groom sitting in the backseat of car posing with marriage license"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Checklist","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_CHECKLIST"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:43.739Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need","title":"The Small Wedding Checklist You Need","excerpt":"There are many benefits to having a small wedding. To get you started, here's our wedding planning checklist and things to consider.","author":"Nilina Mason-Campbell","publishedAt":"2021-02-03T17:33:06.699Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AVuIm2AbEIiZ5LPNGXsBQ/aaef55a70fa6b17967732410314700a6/Hero_Zola__24_.jpg","altText":"Small Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Consider your [potential wedding guests list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#list) and who makes the most sense for your intimate wedding.\n- [Wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [catering](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [and activities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue) open up with a smaller guest list. Your expenses may shrink, too, making it so that you stay within your wedding budget still.","body":"There are plenty of benefits for [planning a small wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding). Rather than getting lost in a [myriad of wedding details](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) during the planning process, having fewer guests narrows the focus and helps to create a more intimate environment. In turn, you’re able to direct more energy into celebrating your love and impending partnership. Beyond that, there are other aspects such as saving money with fewer guests to spend on or opening up possibilities such as making a destination wedding and other activities more feasible to stage. Having a simple wedding with fewer guests also makes for a more relaxed wedding planning timeline—and a more stress-free planning process overall. (No need for a wedding planner here!)\n\nIf you’re planning something small and simple for your big day, we’ve created a checklist of important considerations and wedding ideas you’ll want to keep in mind so you can have the ultimate wedding—no matter how many (or few!) guests you ultimately decide to have:\n\n### 1. Guest List Criteria \n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5K2noT8FAnrYdU19Gdh0SZ/3b4f7bb11675a8bfa5a2acb512197a7a/inline_danielle_lentz_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Danielle Lentz Photography\n\nDefining who is significant enough to cut to receive a wedding invitation is key to narrowing down your small wedding guest list. Whether they play an important role specifically to you as the bride and/or groom, narrowing the list isn’t necessarily about exclusivity. It’s about seeking to narrow the focus and magnify those within your life—as an individual or as a couple—who have been key to you in reaching this milestone, whether that be through personal growth and development, support, witness to key events, or whatever else.\n\nSo, before you get too far into wedding planning, narrow down which friends and family members you want to invite and finalize your guest count; that way, you know who to direct towards your wedding website, what RSVPs to expect, and where to put people on your wedding chart.\n\n### 2. Wedding Style\nYour wedding style is the overall look and feel you want to capture at your wedding. And while it will, of course, play a large part in your decor and attire, it will also dictate pretty much every other part of the wedding planning process—from what reception venue to choose to what stylist and makeup artist you want to help you get ready on your big day, what florist you want to do your wedding flowers to wear to host the rehearsal dinner, what playlist you want your DJ to rock on the dance floor to what kind of wedding favors you want to give your guests.\n\nEven though you’re having a small, simple wedding, you still want it to look and feel cohesive—and uniquely you. So, choose your wedding style from the get-go. For example, do you want to go with a classic, romantic wedding theme—or does something more modern feel like a better fit? Do you want to go big and bold—or do you want your style to feel more subtle and understated? \n\nOnce you’ve defined your wedding style, you can use it to dictate all of the rest of your wedding planning choices—from what dresses you want your bridesmaids and flower girls to wear to what kinds of linens you want on your reception tables.\n\n### 3. Venue \nRather than needing a large hall or similar wedding venue that can accommodate a large crowd of 100 or more, a smaller wedding opens up the possibilities of where your ceremony and festivities can take place. Suddenly, a backyard wedding is in play because it can fit your entire guest list without overcrowding. A low-impact outdoor wedding is now possible too and packing out won’t be such a burden with a smaller wedding party. Suddenly, a destination wedding becomes more feasible with fewer guests.\n\nWith a __[wedding venue checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)__, you can choose the location based on what fits your vibe, rather than have it primarily be driven by the numbers game of accommodating a larger crowd. Alternatively, you can still go big in terms of venue size. Perhaps, fill it however you see fit, playing with a small number of guests in an open space to create an atmosphere more akin to a contemporary art installation. \n\n### 4. Picking Out The Outfits\nAt a [small, intimate wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-small-intimate-wedding) (or really, at any wedding!), all eyes are on the happy couple. It’s your own wedding; you deserve to look your best! As such, choosing your wedding attire is a hugely important step in the wedding planning process.\n\nIf you’re a bride, you’ll need to choose a wedding dress, wedding shoes, and any accessories, like a veil and wedding jewelry. Choose a dress that not only makes you feel amazing, but is in line with your overall wedding style (for example, if you’re having a casual backyard wedding, you wouldn’t want to get a dress that’s overly formal.) And keep in mind that you’ll need to leave enough time for your dress to be tailored; ideally, you’ll want to start looking for a dress at least six months before your special day.\n\nIf you’re a groom, you’ll need to look for a tux, a wedding suit, or another look that fits in line with your wedding style (for example, if you’re having a laid-back beach wedding, you might wear a linen shirt and slacks). Generally, grooms have more wiggle room in terms of shopping time—but don’t leave the task of finding your wedding outfit to the last minute. Give yourself at least a few months to lock in the perfect look (and get that look tailored, if needed). \n\nIf you’re having a bridal party, you’ll also want to lock in looks for the bridesmaids and groomsmen well before the wedding—ideally you’ll let them know what they need to wear at least a few months before the big day. That way, they have time to find their clothing, buy or rent the necessary items, and get them fitted and/or tailored as necessary.\n\n### Catering\nSimilar to venue choice, a smaller guest list often opens up dining options. Places that might not have the capacity to cater to a large wedding may now be available. Similarly, approaching favorite restaurants that don’t traditionally offer event catering may now be open to your smaller gathering.\n\nAnother benefit to a smaller wedding plan is that you’ll be paying for fewer people, thus fewer plates. This may enable you to save money in the budget overall or to splurge elsewhere. It also may mean that you can go gourmet since you’ll be spreading your wedding budget among fewer people, and you can opt for spendier catering than if you were feeding 100 people. (Just make sure to book a caterer who does tastings; that way, you can try the food before your wedding—and make sure it’s the right fit for you, your partner, and your guests.)\n\n### 6. Activities\nCurating an experience for your guests to participate in is more feasible with fewer guests. For example, a group rafting outing suddenly becomes more tenable when you’re able to fit the entire guest list on a flotilla of only three rafts. Planning for an on-the-go lunch is suddenly easier and more transportable, too. Perhaps a pre-wedding bonfire? A smaller guest list means you can see all of their faces around the flame of the campfire.\n\nWhereas the bachelorette party and bachelor parties tend to be the only added, experiential component of a wedding other than the wedding ceremony and wedding reception itself, with a smaller guest list, you can create an experience all of your wedding guests can enjoy!\n\n### 7. Accommodation\nWill you have guests coming from out of town? Will your guests all be sequestered together at the destination of your choosing? With fewer guests, wedding tasks such as arranging accommodation becomes less of a headache. Maybe you’re having a getaway wedding, which requires your guests to travel out of town to attend. Whether or not you’re making reservations on behalf of your guests or if they’re handling them individually, trying to find enough availability is less of a hassle if there are fewer people that need bookings for your wedding date. Alternatively, it might make sense to rent out the entirety of a boutique hotel for all guests to stay at if your numbers are low enough. Having everyone in semi-communal housing during the event can help extend the experience to something more all-encompassing than merely a wedding ceremony, creating further opportunities for guests to bond.\n\n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IsJ0ttxh1pf21Ae3xHhIc/2315c286d7c1cad577a662c1f96535b4/inline_little_but_fierce_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Little But Fierce Photography\n\nPlanning a small wedding can open up bigger possibilities that would otherwise be off the table with larger numbers. Lean into the aspect of it being small, and craft a special experience that allows you to highlight the best aspects of your relationship and share them with those closest to you.\n\n*Planning a more elaborate affair—or need more support and structure on your wedding planning journey?* *Make sure to check out [Zola’s ultimate wedding planning checklist and timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)!*\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingChecklist"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Planning a bachelorette party can be easy! With the help of our bachelorette party checklist, planning a bach weekend is a breeze. 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Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Checklist","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_CHECKLIST"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:17.433Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make sure your wedding makeup stands up to your celebration. 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Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? Here's the rundown on one of the first tasks you’ll need to accomplish after saying “yes!”","title":"10 Tips to Pick the Perfect Wedding Venue","slug":"how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Dzm0QohK8uai2YouWoMUg/f7db6c6feb0fe4c3d27f9f2a914572ad/EA-revamp_Wedding-planning_How-to-choose-venue.jpg","altText":"Bridge and groom in front of the church"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Weddings are fun, but planning them can be stressful. 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding toasts are tricky. 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Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:23.818Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"not-inviting-family-to-your-wedding-dos-and-donts","title":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts","excerpt":"When creating your wedding guest list, you have to decide what family members to invite to your special day. ","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. 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Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"wedding-planning-guide","title":"Wedding Planning 101: Ultimate Guide to Planning a Wedding","excerpt":"Your guide to planning a wedding from start to finish. Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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Wedding planning questions

Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through.

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