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We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free.

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Finding the Right Wedding Planning Community for You

From who to ask to the different communities that you can join, here’s everything you need to know about finding the wedding planning community that’s right for you.

Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them
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Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them

Switching out traditionally gendered terms can actually be a fun and validating part of wedding planning! From save the dates to seating charts, here are all the gender-neutral terms and tips you can use at every stage of the planning process.

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Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding

If you're looking to plan a traditional Jewish wedding like you grew up with, or do you want it to feel new and different? Read on for our latest guide.

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25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget

A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.

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4 Hacks to Make Wedding Planning Easier

It’s no secret that planning a wedding can be intimidating. But we’ll let you in on another secret—there’s an easier way. We’ve got all the tips and tricks to bust your wedding planning stress. Because finding your person should be the hardest part, right?

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Philadelphia Weddings: Venue Ideas, Marriage License Tips, and More

Planning a Philadelphia wedding? This guide covers everything you should know—from venue ideas to how to obtain a marriage license and more.

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How You (Yes You) Can Plan Your Whole Wedding

You don’t need to be an expert to plan a wedding—you just need Zola! With smart, fun tools that all work together, Zola’s the place to head after you get engaged.

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Chinese Wedding Checklist

For everything you need to know about planning a Chinese wedding, we created this Chinese wedding checklist. Let’s make this ceremony one to remember.

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Muslim Wedding Checklist

Looking to plan a Muslim wedding? Here’s everything you need in this Muslim wedding checklist.

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How to Make a Wedding Guest List

We’ve outlined the steps on how to make a guest list, and trim it, below.

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Pentecostal Wedding Guide

Holding a Pentecostal wedding has some unique aspects to it. If you’re planning to get married in this faith, there are a few things to keep in mind.

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How to Plan a Wedding: A Step-by-Step Guide

We’ll walk you through the steps of online wedding planning, highlighting all of Zola’s incredibly easy and intuitive online wedding planning tools that’ll make planning for the big day more fun and less frustrating.

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In fact, we advise finding a wedding planning community to help you avoid the stress and isolation that comes with planning a huge event on your own. By leaning into your support group both emotionally and practically, you’ll be surprised to discover just how much easier—and more fun—planning your day can be.\n\n## Who’s Job Is It To Plan This Wedding? \n\nNo matter what you might have seen in movies, or how the tasks were delegated long ago, nowadays, wedding planning isn’t a one-person job. Considering how intricate and large-scale events have become, splitting up wedding planning duties is not only advised, but it’s essential. In fact, according to Zola’s First Look Report, the majority of 2022 couples are splitting up wedding tasks amongst each other and with other people too. \n\nHere’s who you can consider including in the planning process, plus the type of tasks that you can consider delegating to them:\n\n### Split Tasks With Your SO\n\nFirst and foremost, it’s a good idea to [split wedding planning tasks with your significant other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding). Setting the stage for the dual effort that you’re putting into your future by planning together is a fantastic foot to start out on. That being said, not everyone is as organized or into planning as the other. \n\nIf that’s the case, sit down and chat about what areas you’re each most interested in. Maybe music, transportation, and the hotel block are important to your future spouse, while you care more about decor and your photographer. Once you each know what areas you’d like to focus on, split up the remaining duties between yourselves and the rest of your “planning team.” Then, schedule some check-in times on the calendar to ensure that things get accomplished at an appropriate rate. \n\n### Include Your Wedding Party\n\n[Your wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t just there to look pretty at the wedding and have fun at the bachelorette party—they’re there to help too. From scheduling fittings, coordinating bridesmaid dresses and/or groomsman suits, and helping with invitation creation and sendoffs, there are plenty of ways to utilize your wedding party beyond just having them walk down the aisle and fill the dance floor at the reception. \n\n### Delegate to Friends and Family\n\nDoes your dad love to negotiate contracts? Does your mom have amazing handwriting, plus knowledge of all of your relatives’ addresses? Is your bestie super organized, while your cousin is a decorating wiz? Lean into your friends and families’ strong suits and delegate tasks that they’ll be excited to take on. Not only does this help them feel included *and* take something off your plate, but you’d be surprised just how willing others are to help, especially when it’s doing something that they’re passionate about.\n\n### Hire a Planner\n\nOne of the best and most stress-free ways to take some of the planning burden off of yourself is to [hire a wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner). If your budget allows, a planner is one of the best investments that you can make, not only for your wedding, but also for your mental health leading up to the big day. Since planning weddings is in the job title of an event planner, you can rest easy knowing that everything will get done and the day will unfold flawlessly. \n\n### Lean on Your Vendors\n\nEven though it helps to [go into vendor meetings with an idea of what you want](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-know-look-for-in-your-wedding-venue-contract), when it comes down to some of the detailed planning or execution, remember that they’re the pros. Chances are that you’re balancing work, friendships, your personal life, and fostering your relationship at the same time as wedding planning, so delegate some of the work to the people getting paid to do it. Make it clear when hiring your vendors what you expect from them, and don’t be afraid to ask them for help with the planning process. If it’s not within their bandwidth or expertise, they can definitely point you toward someone who can help. \n\n## How to Find the Right Wedding Planning Community for You \n\nWhat makes the support of a community so important is that you’re not just counting on one person to pick up all those extra tasks or answer all those confusing questions—you have a whole team of people to turn to. Here are some people to consider including in your wedding planning community, and how to build a resource group that’s right for you. \n\n### Your Wedding Party\n\nChances are that the people in your wedding party are your true VIPS—the friends and family who have stood by your side and are honored to be a part of your day. These are the folks who have likely seen your relationship unfold, so don’t be afraid to lean on them when the emotions get overwhelming or you’re feeling stuck. \n\nNot only have they likely helped you through other stressful times, which means that they know what you need and how you respond in times of pressure, but odds are that there’s a person or two in your group who has planned (or is in the process of planning) their own wedding day. Seek their advice, support, and assistance wherever possible, and because they have your best interest at heart, delegate to the most organized person of the bunch (such as your maid of honor) to ensure that you receive the support that you need. \n\n### Your Friends and Family\n\nIn addition to your wedding party, your friends and family know you dearly and are typically advocates for your absolute happiness. From collecting addresses and going with you to fittings, to pampering you with a homemade meal or a night of non-wedding talk, your friends and family are some of the best advocates to help you stay grounded during the wedding planning process. \n\n### Fellow Engaged Couples\n\nFrom where to look for bridal gowns to which vendors have in-budget quotes, consider other engaged couples to be more eyes and ears on your planning team. Not only can they give you information about vendors that they’ve reached out to and/or are working with, but when it comes to the stress and sometimes frustration that goes along with planning a wedding, other engaged couples can commiserate because they're right there with you in the trenches.\n\n### Recently Married Couples\n\nAfter spending months or years planning your wedding day, you’re going to be left with a ton of knowledge. And so, while you’re planning, don’t be afraid to reach out to other couples who recently said: “I do.” They just spent a lot of time and money on their big day, and chances are that they’d be more than happy to lend some advice. In fact, this might turn out to be one of the best resources you have, especially if these couples live in your area, so even if you’re not close, reach out and you might be surprised at how much physical and emotional support you receive. \n\n### Online Wedding Planning Communities\n\nIf you don’t have a lot of support in person or you’re just looking to expand your net, there are tons of online planning tools and communities that can help you stay on track, on budget, and as stress-free as possible leading to the big day. \n\n### Zola Facebook Community\n\nChances are that you’re already on your computer pinning inspiration and researching vendors, so join [Zola’s Facebook community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity) while you’re at it. The virtual community is the largest wedding-planning company page of its type, and it’s filled with all kinds of couples spanning all budgets, all celebration types, all ethnicities, and all sexual orientations and preferences. Consider this your go-to hub to not only seek comfort and advice from other couples, but also to offer your own support. Together, the sense of community can help anyone who feels isolated or overwhelmed while planning from anywhere in the world.\n\n### Blogs and Forums \n\nMany wedding vendors and venues have their own communities, as do different wedding themes and geographic areas. Spend some time searching on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and TikTok for blogs, forums, and communities that are specific to your wedding day. Chances are that there’s a for-you specific community out there just waiting to welcome you and assist in your creative vision. \n\nNo matter where you find your community, knowing that wedding planning doesn’t just fall on you is essential. Lean on your vendors, ask your friends and loved ones for help, and remember to take some time to unwind and relax. 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From save the dates to seating charts, here are all the gender-neutral terms and tips you can use at every stage of the planning process.","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2022-06-09T17:26:08.995Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43Ro8DbmZcNLR92K964KOs/a03ac4abfed7b445c5d563ef721554a5/EA_Romantic_Winter_Wedding_at_The_Gardens_at_Viola-s.png","altText":"Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them"},"heroCredit":"Frankely Photography","body":"Gendered language has long been a part of the wedding world. And while words like bride and groom might feel synonymous with “I dos,” that doesn’t mean gendered wedding terms work for every couple or celebration. The truth is there are a lot of reasons someone might want to nix the binary and instead, opt for gender-neutral language on their big day. \n\nBefore you decide whether or not non-gendered language feels good for your day, though, it’s important to unpack what “[gender-neutral](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/androgynous-wedding-attire)” really means. According to social worker and LGBTQIA+ educator, [Zoe Stoller](https://www.instagram.com/ZoeStoller/) (she/they), the definition and ideal usage are pretty situational, but when it comes to weddings (and other [traditionally gendered events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones)), it’s simply about “removing the typical gender roles and creating a wedding space that’s more inherently inclusive to people of all identities, experiences, and needs.”\n\nTo clear up any confusion and inspire couples saying “I do,” we’re outlining everything you need to know about non-binary language and detailing gender-neutral terms you can use throughout your wedding planning journey and the forever that follows. \n\n## Why Would Engaged Couples Use Gender-Neutral Language?\n\nOne of the main reasons some people — especially those who are non-binary — prefer gender-neutral language is because they feel uncomfortable or unseen when using the gendered terms commonly associated with weddings. “It might not feel affirming to their gender, which is opposite to the goal of your wedding day, which is supposed to make you feel uplifted and affirmed and loved,” Stoller explains. \n\nWhile not every couple will want to use gender-neutral language — which Stoller stresses is completely fine — it can be affirming for many people, especially those who don't identify as a man or a woman. Beyond that, though, many ally couples whose genders do fall under the binary umbrella prefer to adopt neutral language to help normalize its usage. This is important not only for inclusion, but for creating a safer space in the wedding industry and beyond. \n\n“Currently, if people use gender-neutral terms such as ‘spouse,’ many people make assumptions that the person is queer,” Stoller says. “Queer people might be hesitant to use certain language or reveal certain information out of fear that it will ‘out’ or ‘expose’ them, which they might not want.”\n\n__If non-gendered language becomes more commonly used by all couples, it makes the neutral terms safer and more inclusive for non-binary couples to use as well.__ “This is one of the key roles of allies — being able to normalize language and experiences and help make LGBTQ+ people feel less excluded or ostracized,” notes Stoller. \n\n![ Romantic Celebration at The Sinclair Baltimore MFields Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6rmXuCfe3ib4jKLrey8BtQ/3cf3625feeeb891934a235d96853616f/23d7da1f-d2c2-4c51-b644-9874238ee23e.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // MFields Photography\n\n## Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms\n\nWhile you might not have really thought of it, language is a pretty major part of a wedding. And for days that are supposed to be affirming, feeling misrepresented or misgendered on your special day can feel rightfully devastating. That’s why Stoller says it’s “vital” to select your preferred language if you’re saying “I do,” or adhering to someone’s chosen terms if you’re celebrating a happy couple. If not, it can “cause them dysphoria or make them feel invalidated,” which is the last thing anyone should have to experience, especially on their wedding day. \n\nThe good news is, there are tons of gender-neutral wedding terms out there to use at all stages of the wedding planning process. And switching out those traditionally gendered terms is not only easy but can actually be a fun and validating part of the wedding planning process. \n\n__Below are a few gender-neutral terms couples or guests can use leading up to the special day and beyond:__ \n\n- __Nearlywed(s):__ term that can be used to describe the engaged couple or a singular person in the couple before they say “I do.”\n- __Newlywed(s):__ You’re technically a newlywed for the first year after marriage, so enjoy using this romantic, non-gendered term to describe your coupleship after saying “I do.” \n- __Marrier(s):__ This joyful word means either the person doing the marrying (like the officiant) or one of the people getting married (or both people, if used in the plural form). We love how it encapsulates the excitement of the milestone without being gendered!\n- __Partner(s):__ A safe, grounding term for any couple, married or not. \n- __Significant Other(s):__ Another all-inclusive term that can be used to describe a person or a couple, whether married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Spouse(s):__ Instead of “husband” or “wife,” this term implies that the person (or people, if you’re using it to describe a couple) is married. \n- __Future Spouse:__ This term describes one half of an engaged couple. \n- __To-Be-Wed(s):__ Similar to nearlyweds, this gender-neutral term describes an engaged couple before their wedding. \n- __Couple:__ A way to describe two people in a relationship regardless of whether or not they’re married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Fiance:__ While this term *can* be gendered (\"fiancee\" refers to a betrothed woman), the general spelling can be a gender-neutral term when written or spoken. It’s similar to saying “partner” but in this case, the partner is someone you’re engaged to. \n- __Broom/Gride__: Modern combinations of “bride” and “groom” that have been recently gaining traction. These terms can be used to describe a member of the engaged couple who is gender-fluid or non-binary. \n- __Other-Half/Better-Half:__ The sweet, non-gendered term can be used to describe your partner whether you’re dating, engaged, newlyweds, or have been together for years. \n- __Soulmate(s):__ Another tender way to describe your partner (or your coupleship, when used in the plural) no matter your marital status. \n- __Bachelorx:__ The non-gender version of “bachelor” or “bachelorette.” Use the term to describe the person or the party!\n- __Best Person/Person of Honor__: There’s no need to have the titles of “best man” or “maid of honor” if that doesn’t adhere to your or your attendants’ gender identities. Best Person or Person of Honor is another way to describe the head person on either side of the wedding party. \n- __Mate of Honor:__ Another way to acknowledge the head member of either side of the wedding party, a “Mate of Honor” is used to acknowledge your friendship without gendering the individual. \n- __Bridesmates/Groomsmates:__ If the to-be-wed couple is binary but they have non-binary members or multiple genders on either side of their wedding party, “bridesmates” instead of “bridesmaids” and “groomsmates” instead of “groomsmen is a nice change from the traditionally less inclusive terms. \n- __Ring Bearer:__ The attendant — traditionally a child — who carries the rings down the aisle. This traditional term is non-gendered, so it can apply to anyone!\n- __Wedding Party:__ Bridal party, bridesmaids, and groomsmen are all gendered, so instead, use the term “wedding party” to describe the people who stand by your side on the special day. \n- __Attendants:__ A non-gender specific way to describe members of the wedding party. \n- __Flower Person/Pal/Child:__ A non-gendered take on the traditional “flower girl” title. The role is typically a child who either carries or tosses flowers down the aisle during the processional. \n- __Mx.:__ If you want to [use honorifics](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations)—formal titles such as Mr. and Mrs—for place cards or your own paper goods, “Mx” is a popular, gender-neutral, formal title. \n- __[Your Names]:__ If none of the terms feel right, or if you’re a guest and unsure, simply using the couples’ names is always an acceptable option!\n\n## How to Use Gender-Neutral Terms when Wedding Planning\n\nNot only are there many gender-neutral wedding terms to choose from, but there are also plenty of opportunities to use your chosen terms as well! “This can be as simple as the labels that are used in reference to the couple getting married (which appear in various settings), to how the marrying couple is introduced to the public day-of,” Stoller explains. \n\n__If you’re a guest trying to determine how to address the new couple, check their wedding website for clues or direction. If it’s unclear, respectfully ask!__ The nearlyweds will appreciate you taking the time to honor their identities and use their preferred language/terms.\n\n### Save the Dates\n\nGendered language isn’t typically used on save-the-dates. Instead, the format usually includes the to-be-weds’ names, city of the wedding, date, and website information. If you’re looking to switch up the typically [save-the-date format](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates) (which we support!) some of the best non-gendered terms to use are:\n\n- Nearlyweds\n- To-be-weds\n- Marriers\n- Soulmates\n- Fiances\n\nJust make sure to still include your names so guests know who’s getting married!\n\n### Invitations\n\nTraditional [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony) don’t typically include gendered language either, and instead, list the names of the couple, the name(s) of the host(s), the location, the time of the event, and the wedding website URL. [Wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower) invitations, however, are a place where gendered language can be heavy. Instead of the typically binary like “bride” or “groom,” here are a few of our favorite non-gendered invite/party terms:\n\n- Nearlywed\n- Marrier\n- To-be-wed\n- Gride/Broom\n- Future Spouse\n- Bachelorx\n\n### Wedding Website\n\nConsider your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) the place to make your language choices crystal clear. For some couples, this means simply using honorifics like “Mx.” or gride and broom instead of bride and groom. \n\nFor other couples, it means making a special note on the [website or having a Q&A section](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-wedding-website) to clear up any confusion. It might seem in-your-face, but your guests will appreciate the transparency—they’re there to celebrate you exactly as you desire, after all, so make your preferred pronouns and/or language clear. Pick and choose whichever terms feel right for your day, your bond, and your event. Some of the most common include:\n\n- To-be-weds\n- Nearlyweds\n- Soon-to-be-newlyweds or Almost Newlyweds\n- Marriers\n- Gride and Broom\n- Future Spouse(s)\n- [Your names]\n- Future Mx. and Mx. [insert future last name if you’re going to share a family name]\n\n### Seating Charts/Placecards\n\nWhen working on your [seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), there’s no need to use pronouns if you’re just trying to figure out where people should go for personal use. Just their names work best here. But when it comes time to make your [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-place-cards-for-your-wedding) or you’re putting your seating chart (or chart information) on a sign to help direct guests, honorifics—which are often gendered—are traditional. That doesn’t mean titles are required, though. Simply using guests’ full names (or first initial with last name) is a fantastic option. \n\nIf you love the idea of honorifics, make sure everyone gets one—don’t just skip over someone because you don’t know how they identify. Be sure to connect with guests regarding their preferred pronouns first since you should never misgender someone. An easy way to do this is to request guests' pronouns with their RSVPs, just like you would food preferences and song requests. \n\nHere are some good seating chart/place card options:\n\n- For all guests: [Full Name]\n- For all guests: First Initial + Last Name]\n- For all guests: Honorifics such as Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx. (a gender-neutral honorific), and Dr. \n\n### Day of Paper \n\nPamphlets, napkins, and notes for your VIPs are a few ways you might want to use a wedding-related gender-neutral term at your wedding. And if you’re a guest, using a sweet, gender-neutral wedding term on your card — whether physical or virtual — is a nice touch to commemorate the special day. Below are a few non-gendered terms we love for paper goods:\n\n- Newlyweds\n- Gride and Broom\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Spouse(s)\n- The Happy Couple\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n\n### Signage\n\nFrom venue directions to signs with your [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag) or signature drinks, there are plenty of opportunities to use some special, gender-neutral wedding terms. While the options are limitless, these are some of the most popular:\n\n- The Newlyweds/Nearlyweds\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n- The Happy Couple\n\nAdditionally, if you’re comfortable, it’s also a good idea to work with your venue to replace gendered signage for restrooms, making them unisex. \n\n![Modern Outdoor Wedding at the Skirball Cultural Center Stephen Tang Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4AIOj8ERvO8C8usyz8cwX/d3272c706707803874d394a2d9966eda/e56db975-acc2-43d8-94a9-42719383b5bb.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Stephen Tang Photo\n\n## Tips for Communicating the Use of Gender-Neutral Language\n\nUnfortunately, since gender-neutral language hasn’t been used in the mainstream wedding industry for as long as binary language, some of your guests and vendors might not be as accustomed to the tweaks. That’s why Stoller says it’s a good idea to open up the lines of communication to outline your preferred terms and explain the importance of using them leading up to and the big day.\n\nHere’s how to ensure everyone’s on the same page, language-wise, before your wedding: \n\n## To Your Guests\n\n__One major perk about wedding planning is that there are ample opportunities to inform your guests of your language preferences.__ First, you can make your gender-neutral term choices clear via invitations and written stationery, Stoller explains. “Including someone’s pronouns, like Mx., or including the specific gender-neutral labels you’re using in your wedding — like “nearlyweds” instead of “bride and groom” — is a fantastic first step. You can even make some signs for your venue that say “here come the broom/gride” or “Mx. and Mx. (last name)” to make your preferences even clearer. When these terms are reinforced via vendors and signage, most guests will catch on. \n\nThat said, it can also be a good idea to make your chosen language explicitly stated on [your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website). This can be done with a simple sentence or paragraph, or if you really want to inform, you could have a whole section about gender-neutral language usage. While it’s not your job to educate, some guests might enjoy the opportunity to learn more. Either way, starting your preferred language clearly takes any guesswork out for guests so they can comfortably use celebratory terms that you feel good about. \n\n__If there are any guests you’re worried either won’t understand or won’t respect your preferred language, consider reaching out to them individually. You can do this personally if you're comfortable, but if not, enlist a wedding party member or more receptive relative to have that conversation.__ Ultimately, you’re never under any obligation to do anything that makes you feel unsafe, and you're allowed to disinvite or cut off anyone who doesn’t support your pronouns and/or chosen language.\n\n### To Your Vendors\n\nWhen it comes to your vendors, Stoller advises sharing your preferred language with them ASAP. This helps ensure they use the correct language when referring to you from the get-go at all stages and in all aspects of the wedding planning process. “You can do this by directly emailing or sharing your preferred language in conversation, but I recommend being direct with your needs in order to make sure they are met,” they explain. \n\n__You can also search for [LGBTQIA+ vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist) when you’re in the initial planning stages to ensure your wedding team is well versed in all things neutral language and proud weddings.__ Zola is a great resource for non-binary couples looking for LGBTQIA+ and ally vendors. That’s because every vendor in Zola’s marketplace is required to agree to a [“Vendor Pledge.”](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors/pledge) This states that the vendor “respects every couple’s right to marry” and will treat every couple equally “regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, race, ethnicity, religion, or budget.”\n\nUltimately, choosing to use gender-neutral terms for your wedding celebration is a very personal decision, and it doesn’t work for everyone. But that’s what’s so great about evolving terms — it means there are options that’ll ensure you feel seen at all life stages. “Everyone gets to use whatever language feels most affirming to them on their special day and beyond,” Stoller says. So whether that means the bride or the broom is walking down the aisle, embrace your chosen terms to help usher in the next authentic, validating, and comfort-filled season of your love story.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_SaveTheDates"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know to find values-based wedding vendors.","title":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values","slug":"how-to-find-wedding-vendors-who-align-with-your-values","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ho80jYkfxvlen4cZhEeYI/d0f1fdb7a284321b849e3acc232b699a/01.jpeg","altText":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101","slug":"lgbt-wedding-invitations-101","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23DI7PxNMPASe1xfEZjUjx/f7b1b8bc53e8f7d264283790004e0524/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Save the Dates","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:38.536Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"planning-a-traditional-queer-jewish-wedding","title":"Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding","excerpt":"If you're looking to plan a traditional Jewish wedding like you grew up with, or do you want it to feel new and different? Read on for our latest guide.","author":"Shira Telushkin","publishedAt":"2022-11-03T19:36:04.559Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png","altText":"Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Brindamour Photography","body":"For thousands of years, Jewish couples have been married through a religious ceremony known as kiddushin. It is a moment that has come to mean many things to many people, and has a range of romantic and beautiful interpretations; but, is also—at its core—a legal ceremony where the husband acquires his bride, making it definitively gendered and also uncomfortably unequal. \n\nTo say the least, it's not a great fit for LGBTQIA+ Jewish couples; therefore, this can be especially hard for traditionally observant queer Jews, who keep kosher, observe the Sabbath, recite the daily prayers, and otherwise lead lives governed every day by Jewish law. To have Judaism influence every aspect of your life, yet not govern your marriage can feel like a bizarre departure from tradition. \n\nFortunately, the past few decades have seen an incredible outpouring of creativity from Jewish scholars, rabbis, and queer couples themselves, who are creating new rituals and ceremonies that utilize the vast resources of the Jewish tradition to rethink what a traditional Jewish marriage could be. \n\nAs with any new foray into ancient tradition, the swirl of ideas means that there are many options to consider and few concrete guidelines, leaving many couples unsure as to where to start. \n\nHere are some things to consider when planning a traditional Jewish wedding ceremony that does not rely on kiddushin. \n\n## The Lovers’ Contract\n\nFor Jewish couples looking to root their wedding ceremony in traditional Jewish law, the most legally significant question is: How do we structure the wedding contract? And then, how do we make that contract legally binding?\n\nOne of the most popular options for couples today is to create a contract known as a Brit Ahuvim, or the Lovers’ Contract, developed by Jewish feminist scholar Rachel Adler in the 1980s. Based on Jewish business partnership contracts, known as a shtar shutafim, this contract outlines the obligations that the couple is making. Together, the couple acquires the relationship itself during the ceremony, in a moment that ritually replaces the tradition of the husband acquiring his bride. This model was recently promoted by the Conservative Movement, in an opinion that is available [online](https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/2011-2020/same-sex-marriage-and-divorce-appendix.pdf). \n\nOther models rely on Jewish traditions of taking vows and making oaths, which is the legal mechanism by which someone takes obligations upon themselves. A standard mechanism of acquisition in Jewish rituals is the lifting up of an object—in many Jewish weddings, the rabbi overseeing the ketubah, or contract, will have the groom lift a pen, for example, to signify his acquisition. For the Brit Ahuvim, a couple will often choose to place two items of value into a bag, and then lift the bag together to demonstrate their mutual acquisition of the terms now binding them to one another. Many couples use their wedding rings as the two items. \n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5idt1ArW5lZ6AFojd01zPp/dc71eb48f7b41a34138aff018a477988/Brindamour_Photography.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // Brindamour Photography\n\n## Making the Contract Personal \n\nIn each of these models, there is no set standard text for the contract, and so it is up to each couple to decide what obligations they want to take upon themselves. This can be exciting, yet also challenging.\n\n“I loved writing about our promises to each other for our time of dying,” said Tamar Lindenbaum, who married her wife Sabina Tilivech in 2021. The couple included a commitment in their contract to respect one another at their end of days, and to maintain the other’s memory after death. “But, my friends were just totally not interested in having something about death and dying in their own contract. Everybody should have the opportunity to personalize what they want.”\n\nCouples can ask friends, family, and others about what sorts of commitments they might include, and consider together what their marriage means to them in terms of obligations. There also needs to be a legal mechanism for dissolution, and ending the contract in a way that allows for separation. This process should be developed with a competent halachic authority, or Jewish legal advisor. \n\n## Choosing Traditions \n\nIn addition to the contract, Jewish weddings have [tons of traditions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-decor-ideas). For anybody who grew up attending traditional Jewish weddings, there are many moments and symbols that will feel familiar, and might be worth including in a ceremony. For example, some couples want both people to [wear a kittel](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-jewish-wedding), the white Jewish robe usually reserved for Yom Kippur; while others dispense with the tradition of circling all together, and some replace one or more of the traditional seven blessings with a Jewish blessing that they feel better reflects their relationship. \n\nDon’t be afraid to think creatively, and don’t feel obligated to write off certain traditions because of their gendered associations. Many couples utilize the full spectrum of Jewish wedding traditions that have developed for both men and women (and other ritual moments of commitment) to create a ceremony that is both traditional and modern. \n\nSome ideas to try: \n\n- __Substitute gendered terms.__ For example, Rabbi Benjamin Goldberg and his husband Daniel Olson decided to use the terms ‘ahuv’ and ‘rayah’ for their wedding in 2018, which means lover and friend. Though many couples choose to substitute the Hebrew terms for bride and groom, Olson and Goldberg liked that these terms were less inherently gendered, and reflected other parts of the tradition. \n\n- __Choose your own first blessing.__ The couple also swapped out the traditional first blessing, whose descriptions of sexual restriction are rooted in the Leviticus passage that also prohibits gay sex, and instead chose the Jewish blessing said on a rainbow, which not only symbolizes the eternal covenant between God and human beings, as described in Genesis, but is a symbol of gay pride. \n\nAnd while it can sometimes feel like everything needs to be made from scratch, remember that there are also lots of traditions that are not inherently gendered, and can add to your day. Such as:\n\n- __Keep what feels right.__ “Giving ourselves time to say the viduy [confessions] really intensely allowed us to come into this space and think about everything we had done to get there, and everything we were ready to leave behind, and everything we were ready to step into,” said Tilivech, noting how she and Lindenbaum chose to pray the afternoon mincha prayer by themselves in advance of any arriving guests or family. “It was actually a huge part of that day that nobody else saw, and probably the most meaningful thing we did.”\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding3_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2dYDrJCN4kqRoLyVfIVOgm/6cd4c7f17a64b44af94bca06e7de0a51/85a05ab5-d3bd-44c3-aa9b-91da21d587d1.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // Brindamour Photography\n\n## How to Make It Happen\n\nWhen bringing your wedding from concept to reality, the details can be just as important as the big picture. \n\n### Talk It Out Together\n\nIt’s helpful to have an early conversation with your partner about the desired, broader vision for your wedding. Some people might be eager for their wedding to be virtually indistinguishable from the straight weddings they attended growing up, while others might be wary of adopting a tradition or ritual that typically excluded them, and rather desire a wedding that feels distinctly queer. \n\nThese can be hard conversations, especially for couples who have had different experiences of acceptance or rejection within Jewish spaces, so prepare to go deep. \n\nSam Greenberg, who married his husband Zach Cohen in 2017, describes how it was initially hard to accept that his wedding was not going to look exactly like the wedding of his grandparents, parents, and other ancestors. \n\nBut, ultimately, he felt that papering over the differences between a queer and non-queer wedding wouldn’t do justice to his own story, as he grew up in a traditional observant Jewish household where it was assumed that he would have a traditional wedding, but then, by coming out as gay, he went through times when he thought that he would never have that. “Coming out at a place where we were going to have that Jewish wedding we had always dreamed of, it was just going to look a little different, was a big emotional journey,” he said, and one that he wanted to honor at the ceremony. \n\nThere is no one right way to approach the planning, but understanding where each partner is coming from can help a couple create a ceremony that takes each of their needs into account. \n\n### Explain What You Want\n\nWhile traditional queer Jewish weddings are becoming more common, for many guests this may be the first wedding of its kind that they attend. As such, some couples want to explain every aspect of the process for their guests, to reflect the work and considered thought and scholarship that goes into these new ceremonies. \n\nWhere possible, consider limiting the explanations that are given during the ceremony. This can take the focus away from you and your partner, and spotlight the legal mechanisms at play in a way that can feel out of place at a wedding. Consider instead including the explanation in the wedding pamphlet or on your wedding website, which you can share with your attendees via your [save the dates and invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-jewish-wedding-invitations). \n\n### Enlist Your Loved Ones for Help \n\nWhenever you plan something new, it is helpful to account for all the small things that might go awry. The traditional queer Jewish wedding hasn’t been road-tested, as it were, in the same way that a standard straight Jewish wedding has, over centuries of use. This means that questions of timing and logistics (Who holds the object to be smashed? When do you put on the kittel? When do guests begin to sing the traditional songs?) won’t be as intuitive for your guests, your officiant, or even for you. So, it’s extra important to do a practice run, if possible, of the ceremony in advance, and to loop in friends and family who can help maintain the flow of the day as you envision. \n\nEvery wedding requires time, energy, and the need to make more decisions than one might think humanly possible. While some couples love the process of personalizing every aspect of their wedding day, others find it overwhelming or even a burden. For anybody planning a traditional queer Jewish wedding ceremony, be prepared for some amount of research and planning, simply because there isn’t really a universal, cut-and-paste template out there, (although some couples choose to use ceremonies developed by friends or other couples who got married before them). \n\nAs you plan, try to stay in touch with your feelings. If some aspect of the ceremony makes you uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to speak up or consider other options. This is new territory for most people, and that will likely include your families, friends, and the clergy or individual overseeing your wedding. You may encounter assumptions about what should or should not happen, and it can be hard to figure out the line between tradition and innovation. Don’t be afraid to be bold in asking for other ways to think about something, and remember: There is no one right way to host a queer Jewish wedding. Mazel tov! 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Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"hacks-to-make-wedding-planning-easier","title":"4 Hacks to Make Wedding Planning Easier","excerpt":"It’s no secret that planning a wedding can be intimidating. But we’ll let you in on another secret—there’s an easier way. We’ve got all the tips and tricks to bust your wedding planning stress. Because finding your person should be the hardest part, right?","author":"Sabrina Karlin","publishedAt":"2023-06-09T13:47:36.170Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7Ho53S2ybKPC6cqp9BOo0I/3e7f25bfcbd5f8e80d8de8d9797ad4bf/Hero_Zola__33_.jpg","altText":"make wedding planning easier"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Establishing ground rules ahead of time can help you make better planning decisions.\n- Save time by creating a wedding website for guests to answer their own questions.\n- Look for planning tools that multitask. \n","body":"Bringing your lives together, celebrating your love, and doing it all while juggling the thoughts and feelings of loved ones—wedding planning can be a lot. Luckily, there are ways to cut through the clutter. Read on to learn how to make planning your wedding easier, faster, and more fun.\n\n## A Solid Foundation \nBefore the process begins, considering sitting down together to get on the same page and establish some expectations. Important questions to ask might include:\n\n- What will each of you be responsible for?\n- What are your must-haves? \n- What are your dealbreakers?\n- Where do you want your budget to go?\n\nThis exercise will not only help you two [get organized](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist), but also lay an important framework for faster decision-making later on. And, when the peanut gallery inevitably chimes in with opinions, you’ll be on the same page about what you’re open to changing, and what you’re not.\n\nIf you’re having a wedding party, consider sitting down with them, too. While they might be thrilled to be your VIPs, they’re also probably wondering about your expectations. Who should take on what responsibilities, if any? Will there be a bach party, and, if so, who should plan it? Is someone considered the leader of the group? Discussing this information now can prevent misunderstanding and drama down the line.\n\n## Let Guests Do the Work for You \n\nBefore you get the wrong idea, no, this isn’t about forcing guests to unload your rental furniture. Rather, it’s about using smart tools to lessen the burden on yourselves in ways you might not have considered. Sound enticing?\n\nTake addressing, for instance. Dreading all the awkward “can I get your address?” conversations? Enter: Zola’s [Super Link](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Not all heroes wear capes, and this one’s certainly coming to your rescue. With only a few clicks, you can send a personalized link, complete with a photo and message, through text, email, or DM. Guests give their contact information through the included form—because why should you have to fish for addresses yourself?\n\nGiving guests the ability to answer their own questions will save you loads of time, too. Your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) is a one-stop-shop for sharing wedding details, FAQs, important updates, and more. It can also be a great way to introduce your theme or color palette early on—on Zola, for example, you can match your website design to your save the dates and invitations.\n\n## Get in Sync \n\nNothing eats up time like having to enter the same information in multiple places. Say goodbye to repetitive tasks by centralizing all your planning on a single platform. On Zola, for instance, [every tool works together](https://www.zola.com/). Add something once, and it will appear everywhere else it should be, too. Remember those addresses guests submitted? Zola will automatically add everyone who responds to your Zola guest list (along with their addresses, of course). Later on in the game, this same guest list can be used to address your [envelopes](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper), create [seating charts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), and more.\n\nAs discussed above, a home base isn’t just useful for you, however—it’s equally important to create one for guests. If your guests are already coming to your wedding website to learn about your wedding and answer their questions, why not make it multi-functional? On Zola, guests can also RSVP and [shop your registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) directly on your website.\n\n## Plan Some Time Off, Too\n\nIn the shuffle of making decisions and building toward the big day, it can be easy to forget that your wedding is ultimately about celebrating the two of you. Taking time off from planning gives you both time to process this moment in your lives, enjoy each other’s company, and put everything into perspective. A break can be as simple as heading to a romantic dinner after touring a venue, or banning all “wedding talk” for one day each week. When you do get back to it, you’ll be recharged and ready to get a move on all the fun that lies your way.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Looking for wedding themes to suit your personality and style? 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This guide covers everything you should know—from venue ideas to how to obtain a marriage license and more.","publishedAt":"2021-11-15T18:01:21.615Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UU6Z32WEVmakPgcHHDOER/d81e1d36987b18ac13e0d51d3df66b1c/bride-and-groom-running-though-city-street.jpg","altText":"bride-and-groom-running-through-city-street"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Looking to plan your wedding in one of the nation’s most historical and culturally vibrant cities? You’re in the right place. Known as The City of Brotherly Love, Philadelphia has become a unique hybrid of old and new, classic and modern, full of history and must-see attractions. \n\nAlong with countless curated restaurants, dazzling art galleries and locally owned boutiques, Philadelphia’s pivotal role in the founding of the nation can be seen among its cobblestone streets and old-world architecture. Whether you want to be awed by the art collections or experience the culinary offerings across the city, a wedding in Philadelphia is one you won’t soon forget. \n\nNo matter [what kind of wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) you’re envisioning, nailing down the details of your venue, accommodation options, photo locations and more is essential. From COVID-19 updates to LGBTQIA wedding support, our Philadelphia wedding guide has all the tips and inspiration you’ll need to make your [wedding vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) a reality. \n\nRead the complete guide or use our jump-to links below: \n\n- Where to Get Married in Philadelphia\n- How to Obtain a Philadelphia Wedding License \n- Philadelphia Wedding Trends\n- Philadelphia Weddings and COVID-19\n- Real Philadelphia Weddings and Best Photo Spots\n- LGBTQIA Marriages in Philadelphia\n- How to Find Local Vendors \n- Philadelphia Wedding Guest Guide \n\n## Where to Get Married in Philadelphia\n\nPhiladelphia is rich with history, and you’ll find some truly iconic locations to host your wedding in Pennsylvania’s largest city. Whether you’re looking for a more traditional location to host your wedding or something more off the beaten path, there’s no shortage of beautiful Philadelphia wedding venues to choose from. \n\n- __Museums and galleries:__ If you’re looking for a distinctive venue to hold a memorable ceremony in, Philadelphia won’t disappoint. You’ll find countless historic sites throughout the city, from industrial galleries to stunning art museums steeped in history. \n- __Garden wedding sites:__ Contrary to popular belief, Philadelphia is home to a plethora of gorgeous gardens and green spaces that can bring your [outdoor wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/outdoor-wedding-ideas-for-fall) vision to life. From tucked-away gardens and greenhouse venues to the rolling hills of countryside estates, you’ll find plenty of enchanting garden-inspired venues. \n- __Hotels and ballrooms:__ If you’re looking to host a wedding somewhere with classic elegance, Philadelphia has countless hotels and ballrooms with all the grandeur and beauty you could imagine. \n- __Countryside barns:__ Philadelphia is home to some beautiful countryside and historic barn venues with plenty of rustic charm. Captivate your guests with high wooden ceilings, craftsman-style stonework, and sprawling farm landscapes. \n\n### How to Obtain a Philadelphia Wedding License \nA marriage license is required in order to get legally married in Philadelphia. Here’s how to obtain one: \n\n- Both you and your future spouse must appear together in Room 413 of City Hall to apply for the marriage license. Use the northeast corner entrance of City Hall and check in at the security desk once inside. \n- Go to the fourth floor and find Room 413, where you’ll knock on the door.\n- A Marriage License Bureau representative will walk you through the rest of the process. \n- Prepare to pay a marriage license fee of $90.00. \n\nYour marriage license will be issued three days after your application date, and your ceremony must take place within 60 days of the license issuance. The marriage license can be used in any county in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, but it cannot be used out of state. For more information, reference the [Marriage Licenses page](https://secureprod.phila.gov/row/marriagelicense.aspx) on Philadelphia’s website. \n\n### Do I Need a Philadelphia Marriage License? \nYes. To get legally married in Philadelphia or any other county in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, a Philadelphia marriage license is required.\n\n### Can I Get Married the Same Day in Philadelphia?\nCouples in Philadelphia must wait three days following their marriage license applications before they can hold their wedding ceremony. \n\n### Philadelphia City Hall Wedding\nIf you and your partner are looking to get married right away, you can hold a [city hall wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/city-hall-wedding-ideas) at Philadelphia’s City Hall. To get started, you’ll need to email __MLappt.@phila.gov__ or __call (215) 686-2233__ to request an appointment with the Marriage License Bureau in City Hall. Keep in mind that you’ll need to plan on getting married within 60 days of your appointment. You’ll also need to bring two forms of ID—review [this checklist](https://rows-public-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/Virtual+Marriage+License.pdf) to learn which forms of IDs are accepted. \n\n## Philadelphia Wedding Trends \nPhiladelphia is steeped in rich cultural history, artistic treasures, and gorgeous countrysides, making it the perfect location for a memorable wedding. Planning a wedding in Philadelphia gives you the chance to explore centuries of history and architecture, remarkable museums, endless restaurants, and a vibrant nightlife. \n\n### Average Cost of a Wedding in Philadelphia \nThe average cost of a wedding in Philadelphia is $58,474. Busy metropolitan areas are known to have steeper prices, particularly when it comes to venues. \n\nOther factors that impact average wedding costs are guest list size, location, season, and style. View the chart below for a helpful breakdown of costs by vendor: \n\n![philadelphia-city-guide-wedding-costs](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/7CcV5NR03hmMfXBm3jVOBJ/cf0bf120e900592fec703835fa467e1b/philadelphia-city-guide-wedding-costs.png)\n\nIf you think a Philadelphia wedding might cost more than you budgeted for, you might consider hosting a smaller, more intimate ceremony to cut down on costs. For more tips, check out our guide on [how to plan a wedding on a budget. ](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget)\n\n### Best Times of Year for Weddings in Philadelphia \n![philadelphia-city-guide-seasonal-guide](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5TMPMj8lSpcuN2Ll30neeV/7b7b0639d2555f7953888865d63b3739/philadelphia-city-guide-seasonal-guide.png)\n\nSeasons are an important factor in wedding planning, impacting everything from your venue choice to the look and feel of your wedding. Here are some considerations when choosing a wedding month in Philadelphia. \n\n__Fall:__ September, October, November \n\nWhile temperatures often fluctuate, fall weather in Philadelphia starts off fairly warm in September before dropping to cooler temperatures in October and November. In September, temperatures average around 70 degrees, with lows in the 60’s. By October, these drop to the mid and low 60s. In November, expect temperatures between the 40s and mid 50s. \n\n__Spring:__ March, April, May\n\nSpring is known to arrive slowly in Philadelphia, and the city doesn’t start to warm up until late April. Spring in Philadelphia feels like more of a mild winter, with lower temperatures remaining for much of the season. Expect weather in the low 40s and 50s in March before the temperature slowly climbs to highs of 60 degrees in April. By May, temperatures average in the low to mid 60s with highs in the 70s. Keep in mind that heavy snowstorms are typical in March. \n\n__Summer:__ June, July, August\n\nSummers in Philadelphia are known to be rainy and humid, with late afternoon thunderstorms happening frequently in July. Expect temperatures in the high 70s all summer long with heavy afternoon downpours every now and then. July is Philadelphia’s hottest month, with highs averaging around 88 degrees, as well as the wettest month. \n\n__Winter:__ December, January, February \n\nWhile Philadelphia gets quite frigid in the winter, the season also brings a mix of sunshine and clouds throughout the season. January is Philadelphia’s coldest month, with temperatures averaging 34 degrees, and they don’t vary much moving into February. \n\n### Busiest Weeks in Philadelphia\n\n- [The Mummers Parade:](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/events/the-mummers-parade/) January \n- [Philly Wine Week:](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/events/philly-wine-week/) March and April \n- [Italian Market Festival:](https://www.italianmarketfestival.com/) May\n- [Philadelphia Flower Show:](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/events/philadelphia-international-flower-show/) June \n- [Philly Beer Week:](https://phillylovesbeer.org/) June\n- [Wawa Welcome America Festival:](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/events/wawa-welcome-america/) June and July \n- [Wawa Hoagie Day:](https://welcomeamerica.com/event/wawa-hoagie-day-2/) July \n- [Halloween Nights Festival:](https://www.easternstate.org/halloween/node/3) October\n- [Wintergarden on the Greenfield Lawn:](https://www.centercityphila.org/parks/dilworth-park/winter/wintergarden) November through April \n- [Made in Philadelphia Holiday Market:](https://www.centercityphila.org/parks/dilworth-park/winter/market) November through January \n\n## Philadelphia Weddings and COVID-19\n\nPhiladelphia has made significant progress in recovering from COVID-19, resulting in updated guidelines and safety measures for residents and visitors. The following guidelines of The Commonwealth of Pennsylvania are in alignment with [CDC guidelines](https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/your-health/index.html). \n\nAs of August 11, 2021, fully vaccinated individuals can resume regular activities without wearing a mask (except where required by local businesses and workplaces). The City of Philadelphia requires all individuals to wear masks or provide proof of vaccination at indoor public places, and masks are required at outdoor gatherings of 1,000 people or more. \n\nFor more information, visit the official City of Philadelphia website. \n\n## Real Philadelphia Weddings \nCheck out some of these photos of [real Philadelphia weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/philadelphia-pa), where you can filter to find inspiration by season, trending styles, and location! Below are a few of our favorites. \n\n![real-philadelphia-wedding-1](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5qh9GyCmYsbfYHAlSv9WRN/9968c7257f4d59a0a9759ad982a3d23d/real-philadelphia-wedding-1.jpg)\n\n![real-philadelphia-wedding-3](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/2UtGi2k93DilOn17Xp3R1K/aae2120c139cb2a7821cea960327ac98/real-philadelphia-wedding-3.jpg)\n\n![real-philadelphia-wedding-2](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/5Hvjy4h0QCVh0KwsQffY89/d61385f607418ac8f175434fbc226d2e/real-philadelphia-wedding-2.jpg)\n\nFor even more real wedding inspiration, head over to [Zola’s Real Weddings gallery. ](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings)\n\n### Best Spots for Wedding Photos \nPhiladelphia has no shortage of photo opportunities, with plenty of beautiful sites for the perfect wedding photo backdrop. From mile-long sunsets and the sparkling Delaware River to gorgeous skyline views, you won’t struggle to find a beautiful photo setting in Philadelphia. \n\n- [Rocky Statue at the Philadelphia Museum of Art](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/attractions/the-rocky-statue-and-the-rocky-steps/)\n- [Boathouse Row](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/attractions/boathouse-row/)\n- [Race Street Pier](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/attractions/race-street-pier/)\n- [Benjamin Franklin Bridge](http://www.drpa.org/bridges/ben-franklin-bridge.asp)\n- [The LOVE sculpture](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/attractions/love-statue/)\n- [Elfreth’s Alley ](https://www.visitphilly.com/articles/philadelphia/most-instagrammable-places-in-philadelphia/#elfreths-alley)\n\n![philadelphia-guide-map](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/6oiDfU7ufsgOM8stJ1IF8q/4e870c9d81650fe8286dbf1bbc8cc0ab/philadelphia-guide-map.png)\n\n## LGBTQIA Marriages in Philadelphia\nLGBTQIA couples planning to say “I do” in Philadelphia won’t be disappointed. Philadelphia proudly celebrates the LGBTQ civil rights movement and the role they've played as a city in fostering the movement. After all, the City of Brotherly Love and Sisterly Affections hosted the country’s first major LGBTQ rights demonstration in Philly in 1965. \n\nThe center of Philadelphia’s LGBTQ community and culture is known as [The Gayborhood](https://www.visitphilly.com/areas/philadelphia-neighborhoods/midtown-village/), where you’ll find rainbows adorning street signs, homes, and businesses at every turn. You’ll find plenty of [LGBTQIA-friendly restaurants](https://www.visitphilly.com/articles/philadelphia/bars-and-nightlife-in-philadelphias-gayborhood/) and nightlife, and don’t forget Philadelphia’s annual [LGBT PrideDay](https://www.visitphilly.com/things-to-do/events/lgbt-pride-parade-and-festival/) parade and festival. \n\n## How to Find Local Vendors \nOnce you’ve decided on Philadelphia as your wedding destination, it’s time to start researching and planning out your vendors. To help you get started, our list of pre-screen vendors has you covered. You can filter by price, venue style, wedding theme, and more.\n\n- [Venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-venues)\n- [Florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-florists)\n- [Caterers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-catering) \n- [Beauty Professionals ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-hair-makeup)\n- [Cakes and Desserts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-cakes-desserts)\n- [Photographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-photographers)\n- [Videographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/philadelphia-pa--wedding-videographers) \n\n\n## Philadelphia Wedding Guest Guide \nIf you have out-of-town guests traveling to attend your wedding, you’ll want to prepare an itinerary of helpful information like travel tips, the best neighborhoods nearby, and fun things to do around town. Check out the travel details below to ensure you give your guests the best experience possible when they’re traveling to be apart of your special day! \n\n### How to Get to Philadelphia \n__By plane:__ The Philadelphia Airport (PHL) is the nearest airport to Philadelphia just 7 miles away from town. SEPTA (Philadelphia’s bus, light rail, regional rail and subway system) offers a train service between Center City and the airport, which runs daily every 30 minutes.\n\n__By train:__ There are several centrally located Amtrak rail trains that depart to Philadelphia from cities along the east coast. Trains arrive at historic 30th Street Station (William H Gray III 30th Street Station) within a short walk to Center City, and offer easy connections to SEPTA. \n\n__By bus:__ Megabus provides affordable bus routes throughout Philadelphia’s Northeast Corridor. The Greyhound Terminal arrival station is located at 10th and Filbert street.\n\n__By car:__ If you plan to make your journey by car, Interstates 95 and 76 (the Pennsylvania and New Jersey Turnpikes) offer access points from all directions. Once you arrive, you’ll find over 40 parking lots and garages in Center City, along with metered street parking. More parking information can be found at the Philadelphia Parking Authority.\n### Best Neighborhoods for Out-of-Town Guests\nPhiladelphia is rich with first-rate dining spots, famous historic sites and top-notch museums and galleries, many within steps of Center City. With miles of outdoor space and plenty of walkable neighborhoods, there are plenty of opportunities for your guests to explore the city. \n\n- __Chestnut Hill:__ Located close to downtown Philly, Chestnut Hill has more museums, gardens, parks and theaters than any other Philadelphia neighborhoods. You’ll find plenty of shops, events and things to do in this bustling neighborhood. \n- __Rittenhouse Square:__ Rittenhouse Square is a tried and true favorite among out-of-town visitors for its locally owned boutiques, galleries and theaters, and a wide array of restaurants and cafes. \n- __Washington Square West:__ Washington Square West is a bustling area that encompasses Midtown Village and the Gayborhood, making it more like three neighborhoods in one. As one of the five original public squares in Philadelphia, Washington Square is a favorite for travelers looking for unique shops, eateries, and bars. \n- __Old City:__ Travelers tend to flock to the cobblestone streets of Old City, known for its 18th-century charm and rich history. Located near the Liberty Bell, Penn’s Landing and Benjamin Franklin Bridge, there’s no shortage of sites to see. \n- __East Passyunk:__ East Passyunk is a unique blend of Philly’s classic historical charm and modern energy. Food-loving travelers tend to flock to East Passyunk for its highly acclaimed dining spots and eateries, which have earned this location a spot on Food and Wine’s list of 10 Best Foodie Streets in America.\n\n### 10 Fun Things to Do in While You’re in Town for a Wedding \nIf your guests are traveling from out of town to attend your wedding, highlighting some fun things to do while they’re in town is a thoughtful way to help them prepare for the trip. Here are some of our favorite attractions, sites, and spots in Philly!\n\n1. __Take a Liberty Bell History Tour:__ Hit all the main historic sites of Philadelphia in a single [guided tour](https://www.beyondthebelltours.com/tours/beyond-the-liberty-bell-history-tour). Starting in Washington Square, take in the wonder of the Liberty Bell before making your way to Betsy Ross’s House and even Ben Franklin’s grave. \n2. __Visit Independence Hall:__ No trip to Philly is complete without a visit to this historical site. [Take a free tour](https://www.nps.gov/inde/planyourvisit/independencehall.htm) of the World Heritage site where America’s Founders signed both the Declaration of Independence and the U.S. Constitution. \n3. __Grab a bite at The Bourse food hall:__ Once the nation’s first commodities exchange market, this historic 125-year-old building has since been restored and is now home to a diverse collection of eateries. Featuring over 20 artisanal vendors, you can satisfy just about any food craving you might have at [The Bourse](https://theboursephilly.com/)!\n4. __Explore Cherry Street Pier:__ [This former municipal pier](https://www.cherrystreetpier.com/) is now a year-round, mixed-use public space located on the Delaware River waterfront. You’ll find a diverse array of artist studios and exhibitions, pop-up events and stunning views of the Delaware River. \n5. __Take in the beauty of Philadelphia’s Magic Gardens:__ For an unforgettable experience, check out [Philadelphia’s Magic Gardens](https://www.phillymagicgardens.org/about-us/)—a half indoor, half outdoor mixed media art destination that’s entirely covered in mosaics. Experience the two indoor galleries before making your way to the outdoor sculpture garden! \n6. __Visit the Philadelphia Museum of Art:__ Don’t miss this cultural staple in the heart of Philadelphia. The [Museum of Art](https://philamuseum.org/) is home to an array of renowned artworks, from Van Gogh and Marcel Duchamp to the Rodin Museum. With over 200 galleries, there’s something for everyone. \n7. __Take a Philadelphia Cheesesteak Tour:__ It may as well be criminal to visit Philadelphia without trying a Philly cheesesteak, so why not take a [tour](https://www.tripadvisor.com/AttractionProductReview-g60795-d12463926-Philadelphia_Cheesesteak_Tour_by_Segway-Philadelphia_Pennsylvania.html) where you can sample all the best cheesesteak spots in town? \n8. __Eat at the Reading Terminal Market:__ This historic [market](https://readingterminalmarket.org/) takes up an entire city block, and is a full blown wonderland for your tastebuds. Explore over 80 vendors selling fresh meat, fish, produce, and baked goods before heading to the food hall with dozens of restaurants. \n9. __Walk through Elfreth’s Alley:__ Now a National Historic Landmark, [Elfreth’s Alley](http://www.elfrethsalley.org/) is America’s oldest residential street built in 1702. With pre-Revolutionary War homes still preserved from over 250 years ago, you’ll be enchanted by one of the most picturesque and historical streets in Philly. \n10. __Take in the views at Boathouse Row:__ [Boathouse Row](https://boathouserow.org/) makes up 10 historical crew clubhouses first constructed in the 19th century. Now a National Historical Landmark, the boathouses are one of the city’s most sought after sites. Be sure to visit at night, when the lights surrounding the boathouses cast beautiful reflections on the Schuylkill River. \n\nNow that you and your guests have everything you need to plan the perfect Philadelphia wedding weekend, you can get to work on the rest of your wedding planning. From designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) you might need to bring your special day to life. \n\nSources: [City of Philadelphia Official Website](https://www.phila.gov/services/birth-marriage-life-events/marriage-and-divorce/get-a-marriage-license/)\n","tag":"How To","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:35.351Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding","title":"How You (Yes You) Can Plan Your Whole Wedding","excerpt":"You don’t need to be an expert to plan a wedding—you just need Zola! With smart, fun tools that all work together, Zola’s the place to head after you get engaged.","author":"Sabrina Karlin","publishedAt":"2023-06-09T13:45:23.461Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6AytkhWqCuyciLNnlHyfMT/4cdf6ffb9e886553e564ef5f46b0c475/Hero_Zola__32_.jpg","altText":"Plan with Zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- Explore Zola’s Real Weddings to get inspiration and book the vendors behind your favorite photos.\n- Get in sync! When you collect addresses through Super Link, Zola automatically updates your guest list and uses the info to address your envelopes.\n- Your wedding website is so much more than just information headquarters—it’s also where guests can RSVP and shop your registry.\n","body":"Wedding planning can involve many decisions. Keeping it intimate, or inviting everyone you love? Staying local, or going destination? While you have many choices to make, it all starts with just one: [Heading to Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning). Gone are the days of a million open browser tabs and phone calls. Zola makes it easy to plan your whole wedding, all in one place. We’ll cheers to that!\n\n## Hone Your Vision and Explore Vendors \n\nIf you aren’t sure where you’re headed, it can be hard to get going—and wedding planning is no exception. A solid vision of your wedding’s vibe and style can help guide many decisions, like your date, your venue, and more. Whether you’re just getting started or looking to add some finishing touches, Zola’s [Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings) is the place to get ideas and bring them to life. \n\nStart by exploring hundreds of photos from real, recent weddings (because a lot can change in a few years, right?) and gathering some inspiration. You can filter by setting, style, and color to get specific. The more photos you favorite, the better Real Weddings learns what you like and can personalize your feed.\n\nBut here’s the super useful part: Every photo features real vendors. If you fall in love with a cake, you can book the baker who made it. The same goes for florists, hair and makeup professionals, venues, and more. Many featured vendors are part of Zola’s [community of wedding professionals](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), meaning they are pre-screened for quality and have received recommendations from the community. Reach out to these vendors in just a few clicks, right on Zola!\n\n## Super Link, Super Powers \n\nOnce you’ve figured out a season and venue, your wedding date should be easier to pin down. Take your time making the decision, but don’t wait too long! Calendars fill up quickly, so you’ll want to get a move on telling your guests.\n\nBut before you send your save the dates, you’ll need addresses. Enter: [Zola’s Super Link](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). With only a few clicks, you can send a personalized link, complete with a photo and message, through text, email, or DM. When guests give their contact information through the included form, Zola will automatically add them to your guest list (more on this later).\n\nAnd it doesn’t stop there. Choose a Zola [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), and Zola will use those same addresses from your guest list to address your envelopes. Say hello to hours of your life back.\n\nFor those interested in a paperless option, or just getting the word out ASAP, Zola also offers [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) in many beautiful designs.\n\n## One Wedding Website, So Many Uses \nWhen you do eventually follow up with [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), you’ll want to include a link to your Zola [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Guests love asking questions, and you’ll love directing them to a place with all the answers. Your Zola wedding website is free and easy to create—you can even match it to your save the dates and invitations!\n\nBut your wedding website isn’t just a useful place for providing information about hotel blocks, schedules, directions, and more. Guests can also use it to RSVP and access your Zola [registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). When they RSVP, your Zola guest list will automatically update their status and include details about their meal preferences, plus ones, and anything else.\n\n## Keep the Party Going Post-Wedding\nAs guests purchase items off your Zola registry, Zola will also track who gifted you what (did Aunt Suzy buy that stand mixer or those concert tickets…?). Grab some Zola [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) from your matching paper suite and go to town—once again, Zola’s got your back with free envelope addressing.\n\nSpeaking of gifts, there’s nothing worse than receiving a hundred boxes when you aren’t prepared. Okay, maybe there are worse things… but perhaps you just moved into a new house or apartment, you plan to be away for a while, or you just don’t feel like recycling mass amounts of cardboard all at once. Zola allows you to ship gifts on your schedule, whether that’s 6 weeks after your wedding, or 6 months. You can even exchange gifts for Zola credit before they ship, just in case you’ve changed your mind.\n\n## It’s All About You\n\nWhen planning gets stressful, take a moment to recenter and consider what’s at the heart of it all: The two of you! Your wedding should be a celebration of your love in a way that feels authentic and true to you as a couple. You might feel like you have a million things on your plate, but remember that there’s just one place to start—[Zola](https://www.zola.com/). With some good humor, a little patience, and Zola’s tools at your fingertips, you’ve got everything you need to plan like a pro.\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In Zola’s First Look Report, over 3,000 engaged couples shared the wedding traditions that they’re keeping, leaving, and are split on for their 2022 weddings. 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Here’s What To Do Next!","slug":"to-dos-after-you-get-engaged","topic":"Getting engaged","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KWedC7RqcjzNqK8zy0LoU/286c6acfc830a30a9ac4d274ebf14501/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Illustration graphic of an engagement ring box with a wedding ring and shine marks to indicate sparkle"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:34.527Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"chinese-wedding-checklist","title":"Chinese Wedding Checklist","excerpt":"For everything you need to know about planning a Chinese wedding, we created this Chinese wedding checklist. Let’s make this ceremony one to remember.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2021-05-27T20:26:24.147Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7HoIPA5eIomJWpkdZDAqZY/b4452aac290fcff754b2010de7e7c178/Hero_Unsplash_EastMeetsDress.jpg","altText":"Chinese Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"East Meets Dress","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As you begin planning your wedding, loop in your parents to discuss the guest list, the budget, and what traditional ceremonies you’ll want to include. \n- You may also choose to hire a wedding planner, appoint a Dai Kam Jie, or consult with a Feng Shui master.\n- Once you’ve decided which traditions you want to incorporate, it’s time to book venues and vendors and send out invitations to your family and friends. \n- The week of the wedding, prepare your outfit, take some time for yourself, and double check all the details with vendors and venue staff. From there, enjoy the celebrations. ","body":"For couples implementing parts of a traditional Chinese wedding ceremony into their wedding, an already-length to-do list can grow even longer. To ensure you’re completely covered, we’ve broken our Chinese [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) into five categories:\n\n- __12 Month Before the Wedding:__ Parents’ Meeting, Logistical Planning, and Practicalities\n- __12 to 9 Months Before the Wedding:__ Perfecting the Dinner and Tea Ceremony\n- __9 to 6 Months Before the Wedding:__ Planning Your Ensemble and Building Your Wedding Website\n- __6 to 4 Months Before the Wedding:__ Booking Travel and Opening Up the Registry\n- __4 to 1 Month Before the Wedding__: Sending Invites, Confirming Headcounts With Vendors, and Getting Ahead\n- Week-of-Wedding Preparations\n\n## 12 Months Before the Wedding: Parents’ Meeting, Logistical Planning, and Practicalities\n\nOne of the very first steps on the road to a happy marriage is introducing the two sets of parents to each other. Even if they’ve already met, a formal sit-down provides an opportunity to go over the logistics of your wedding.\n\n### Question Checklist for the Parental Planning Meeting\nBefore settling on colors and dresses, there are a few questions every couple should answer to help create a vision for their special day:\n\n- __How Big Will the Wedding Be?__ Which friends, family members, and co-workers have to be included on the guest list?\n\n- __What’s the Budget?__ The bigger the wedding, the higher the costs. In many cases, the parents will iron out an agreement over who pays for what. Some couples may choose to chip in on the wedding budget. \n\n- __What Traditional Ceremonies Will You Include?__ In practice, Chinese weddings are multi-day affairs with a variety of different ceremonies. Decide which aspects you’d like to include in your day to help frame the celebrations. \n\n- __Who Will Be Invited?__ Chinese wedding guest lists can be anywhere from 100 to 500 people. Start talking with your family now about what you want your guest list to look like (and enlist the help of [Zola’s wedding guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help you keep track of RSVPs, guest communication, and more).\n\nOf course, more events mean more planning, more Chinese wedding decorations, and more expenses. Before you plan anything, figure out what on the below list has a place in your dream wedding:\n\n- __The Guo Da Li__ (formal engagement), after the proposal and before the wedding\n- __The An Chuang__ (marriage bed preparation), usually two to three days before the wedding\n- __A hair combing ceremony__ the night before the wedding\n- A __tea ceremony__ (usually for the immediate family) on the day of the wedding\n- A procession to __pick up the bride__ (or spouse) before the wedding\n- An __exchange of vows__ (at the place of the banquet or in a western ceremony)\n- An __eight or 10-course banquet__ on the wedding night\n- A __visit with the groom’s family__ three days after the wedding\n\nOnce you, your future spouse, and all parental figures are in agreement, it’s time to make it official and start planning.\n\n### Plan the Guo Da Li\n\nWhile some couples consider themselves engaged as soon as one party has popped the question, the Guo Da Li is the traditional ceremony for establishing a formal betrothal.\n\n__Some couples may wait to start their wedding planning until after completing the Guo Da Li. __\n\nThis formal engagement ceremony includes an exchange of gifts between the groom’s family and the bride’s family. In the past, it was a traditional dowry, including monetary exchange. Many families have modernized or customized this practice somewhat, although it sometimes still includes cash gifts. Likewise, individuals from different regions and dialects may have slightly different tradition,s. \n\nTypically, Guo Da Li gifts may include:\n\n### Gifts From the Groom to the Bride and Her Family:\n\n - Phoenix and dragon double happiness candles\n - Roast pork\n - Liquor or wine\n - Wedding cakes\n - Dried seafood\n - Lucky fruits\n - Jewelry for the bride\n\n### Gifts From the Bride’s Family:\n\n- Bedsheets and pillowcases\n- Bucket and ruler\n- A tea set\n- Chopsticks\n- Bedside lamps\n\n### Gifts From the Bride to the Groom:\n\n- Men’s accessory (watch or cufflinks, etc)\n- Fruits\n- Pants\n- Wedding cakes\n\nOf course, not every Chinese couple has both a bride and a groom. Feel free to adjust these traditions to you and your partner’s vision, and no matter what, you’ll find something beautiful.\n\nAdditionally, some of these items have symbolic meaning, and others can be used in future wedding ceremonies. The Guo Da Li doesn’t have to be incredibly formal. These days, it’s easy to buy pre-made Guo Da Li packages or kits. If you choose to assemble your own gift set, remember to gift everything in even numbers (other than four) to invite good luck. Red packaging is preferred. \n\n### Checking Off the Wedding Practicalities\n\nAfter both families have agreed on the basic arrangements for the wedding, it’s time to tackle logistical details so that you can start informing guests.\n\nTake the following steps:\n\n- __Apply for a Marriage License:__ While a marriage license is hardly the most romantic part of your wedding, it’s a necessary step for getting legally married. Get the b,all rolling well in advance of your nuptials.\n\n- __Hire a Wedding Planner (or Not)__: Due to the many steps involved in planning a wedding, it can be helpful to solicit some professional help. If you can find a wedding planner who’s experienced in the components of a traditional Chinese wedding, even better. However, some couples choose to do the legwork themselves (often with lots of help from their friends and family).\n\n- __Consider Appointing or Hiring a Dai Kam Jie or Chaperone:__ This person can be a member of the family or a hired professional. Either way, the Dai Kam Jie will accompany the bride on her wedding day (or the couple), and serve as a valuable resource for planning the ceremonies.\n\nConsult With a Feng Shui master: Many families consult with a fortune teller or Feng Shui master to help them pick a lucky date for the wedding rituals.\n\n## 12 to 9 Months Before the Wedding: Perfecting the Dinner and Tea Ceremony \n\nOnce you’ve chosen a date, you’re well on your way to sending [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop). But first you need to figure out exactly when and where the different public-facing aspects of the day will occur.\n\nAt this point, your specific timetable will depend on the events you include. While some couples choose to walk down the aisle in a more westernized ceremony, we’ll focus our guide on two more traditional components of a Chinese wedding: the tea ceremony and the banquet.\n\n### Planning the Tea Ceremony\n\nTraditionally, the couple serves tea to their parents and other close family members in the morning or afternoon before the banquet. This private ceremony often implements the tea set given by the groom during the Guo Da Li. \n\n- Some couples visit the bride’s family in the morning, followed by the groom’s family in the afternoon. If you’re both brides or both grooms, you can schedule these visits however you wish.\n\n- Others include the entire family in a formal tea at the groom’s parents’ house.\n\n- You could also choose to perform the tea ceremony as part of a wedding breakfast or luncheon.\n\nAt your tea ceremony, you’ll brew tea (of any kind) and serve it to the proud parents. This can be as informal or formal as you like. Be sure to consider:\n\n- The decor\n- Your outfit\n- The music\n\nHowever you choose to dress, decorate, and prepare, make sure there’s ample time between your tea ceremony to change clothes and travel between [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) before dinner.\n\n### Planning the Dinner Banquet\n\nAfter the tea ceremony comes to a celebratory dinner. To start planning yours, check these things off your list:\n\n- __Find a Wedding Venue:__ Use online tools to look for venues that suit your preferences and accommodate your party size. Keep in mind that many desirable locales book up a year or more in advance. The sooner you can start your search, the better.\n\n- __Hire a Caterer:__ Some Chinese families have very specific traditions for 10-course meals with dishes like roast duck, roast suckling pig, and scallops. Of course, others choose vegetarian or even gluten-free affairs. No matter what, you’ll definitely want a caterer with delicious food that will impress your guests. Serve an even number of courses (often eight or 10).\n\n- __Hire a Photographer or Videographer:__ A videographer or photographer can help you document your banquet and any other ceremonies. Look through local professionals’ portfolios. You can even try them out for an engagement shoot to see if your styles mesh. If they do, work together to create a thorough shot list for the big day.\n\n- __Entertainment Vendors:__ To keep your guests enrapt throughout multiple courses, you’ll need entertainment. This can mean:\n\n - __Hiring an MC__, so you and your spouse can spend more time enjoying the meal. \n\n - __Hiring lion dancers__ to ward off evil spirits via a beautiful and entertaining traditional dance.\n\n - __Hiring a deejay__ to play music and get guests on the dance floor as the eating comes to an end.\n\n- __Other festivities:__ It’s a good idea to start figuring out what other kinds of activities you want to incorporate into your celebration like:\n\n - Playing door games (i.e. quizzing the couple about each other)\n - Deciding what music you want played (either by your deejay or a playlist).\n\n## 9 to 6 Months Before the Wedding: Planning Your Ensemble and Building Your Wedding Website \n\nThis is when you’ll make some of the most important decisions and make sure your guests have all the information they need. \n\n### Getting Your Ensemble Ready\n\nBesides getting the venue ready for guests, there’s the task of curating your appearance on your special day. \n\nThis involves:\n\n- __Shopping for Your Qi Pao, Qun Kwa, Dress, or Suit:__ If you or your partner identify as a bride, there are a variety of traditional dresses for brides, including the two-piece Qun Qwa and the one-piece Qi Pao. Depending on a bride’s home region and taste, she could choose either silhouette or any red dress. Likewise, grooms can choose traditional or western suits. \n\n- __Visiting a Tailor:__ Make sure your garment is hemmed and finished, so that it perfectly fits your form (maybe with a little wiggle room for that 10-course meal). \n\n- __Finding a Hairstylist:__ Does your regular stylist do elaborate updos with all-day hold? If not, ask them for a recommendation for someone who can make sure your locks look their best from the tea ceremony through dinner and beyond.\n\n- __Hiring a Makeup Artist__ – Just because you’re a Sephora Beauty Insider doesn’t mean you should try doing your own makeup for your wedding. It takes specific products to stand up to the elements and your aunties’ kisses throughout an all-day affair.\n\n- __Getting a Practice Mani-Pedi__ – Taking your ji mui (bridesmaids) out for a mani-pedi to finalize your nail look before the wedding can give you a much-needed opportunity to relax while ensuring your nails look their best.\n\n### Build Your Wedding Website\n\nBefore you send out your invites, it’ll be helpful to get ahead of questions your friends and family will have about your special day. Your wedding website should include:\n\n- Time and date of the wedding\n- Venue location and directions for all of the events\n- Attire information\n- Explanation of ceremonies, if you’re inviting a variety of guests from different backgrounds\n\nZola’s [free wedding website creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) makes building a beautiful website easy. Choose from hundreds of customizable templates and use our drag-and-drop feature to include all the information you need on your site. Your guests will be able to find everything with just a few clicks. \n\n## 6 to 4 Months Before the Wedding: Booking Travel and Opening Up the Registry \n\nOnce the biggest decisions of the wedding have been made, it’s time for the extra touches that you and your spouse-to-be will really enjoy. \n\n- __Book Your Honeymoon:__ Honeymoons are a more modern addition to typical Chinese weddings, but more and more couples are taking advantage of the time to enjoy the post-wedding planning calm. Start booking flights, hotel rooms, and researching activities for you and your partner to look forward to. \n\n- __Open Up Your Registry:__ While registries aren’t a traditional part of Chinese weddings, many Chinese couples have started using them. [Zola’s wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you and your partner to register from hundreds of amazing brands, as well as select honeymoon funds as a registry option. You’ll also enjoy free shipping and returns, price matching, and stellar customer service. \n\n## 4 to 1 Months Before the Wedding: Sending Invites, Confirming Headcounts With Vendors, and Getting Ahead \n\nAt this stage, the majority of wedding details should be finalized. Now all that’s left is to ensure family and friends can join (and that vendors know what to expect). \n\n### Send the Invitations\n\nAccording to Chinese tradition, send out your wedding invitations at least three months before your wedding day. However, it’s important to keep in mind the following details: \n\n- You or your spouse’s parents may request that you __invite your guests in person__. Of course, you can also send out paper wedding save-the-dates and invitations to those who are too far away.\n\n- __Invite your “ji mui” (bridesmaids) and “heng dai” (groomsmen)__ to take part in the wedding planning. They can provide invaluable help for the steps to come. For example, they can help you brainstorm door games to play on the day of your wedding.\n\n### Finalize Decor, Vendors, and Rentals\n\nOnce you have a general idea of who’s coming, you can use that information to:\n\n- Rent the correct number of tables and chairs\n- Select place settings\n- Decide on flowers and decorations\n\nIf you’re working with a wedding planner, they’ll set up visits with individual [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), so that you can make informed choices about flowers, streamers, lighting, and other decors. Some You can also choose to DIY some aspects of the wedding. Depending on where you host your Chinese wedding tea ceremony, you may find yourself decorating more than one venue.\n\nWhatever route you choose, don’t forget to include the following at your venue(s):\n\n- Lots of red\n- Good luck fruits (dates, pomegranates, and oranges)\n- The double good luck symbol combining two “Xi” (喜) characters\n- Paper lanterns\n\nWhen the RSVPs start coming in, you should also reach out to your caterer to sort out any dietary restrictions and help give them an accurate sense of what (and how much) they need to cook. You’ll also want to:\n\n- __Finalize Headcount:__ Once you have a final headcount for your guest list, you can work with your venue and other vendors to ensure you have all of your bases covered. \n\n- __Start Addressing Thank You Notes:__ Traditionally, Chinese couples don’t send thank you notes. However, if you’re signing up for a registry, it’s best practice to send thank you notes. Get a headstart on addressing the thank you notes, so you’ll be ready to roll right after the honeymoon. \n\n## Week-of Wedding Preparations \n\nAs the wedding date approaches, Chinese couples need to make the same preparations as any other soon-to-be-married pair—sometimes with added twists.\n\n### Standard Week-Before-Wedding Prep\n\nLike all other couples, you’ll need to take a few basic steps to make sure everything stays on track.\n\n- __Finalize Your Look__. Do a dry run of your outfit (or outfits) along with your game-day makeup and hair. Be sure to try out different shoes and accessories. Get any last-minute alterations to your garment. Once you’ve made your decisions, polish your jewelry and break in any shoes you’ll be wearing on your wedding day. You’ll also want to pack an emergency kit stocked with supplies that can hide minor stains and tears.\n\n- __Double Check the Details:__ If you’re working with a wedding planner, make sure you’re on the same page about the schedule of events. Ask them to confirm timing and vendor payment procedures, or do it yourself. If there are last-minute changes to the guest list or potential issues with the weather forecast, communicate with all relevant parties to make the necessary adjustments.\n\n- __Get in the Right Headspace.__ You have a lot going on, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find time to breathe, drink water, eat, and connect with your future spouse. In fact, some traditional Chinese ceremonies provide time for contemplation and blessings. Check out the list below, or make time to find your own happy place, whether that means listening to music or hitting the gym for some endorphin release.\n\n- __Make Adjustments__. Expect the unexpected—like a guest who can’t make it at the last minute. Appoint someone to help juggle untimely guest requests and issues while you get ready to greet your guests.\n\n### Finalize the Details on Special Ceremonies and Traditions\n\nIf you’re participating in any of the following traditions, make sure the stage is adequately set.\n\n- __Hair Dressing:__ The night before the wedding, you and your spouse-to-be might choose to spend the night separately for this ritual. Traditionally, both partners shower with cleansing botanicals. Then, a “woman of good fortune” (sometimes the Dai Kam Jie) combs their hair while reciting a blessing. If you’ve hired a professional helper or a wedding planner, they can help assemble the needed supplies, which include:\n\n - Red candles\n - Incense\n - Red yarn\n - Cypress leaves\n\n- __Bed Installation (An Chuang):__ On an auspicious date just before the wedding, a woman of good fortune (as above) prepares the couple’s wedding bed with red sheets. No one should sleep in a bed until the wedding night.\n\n- __Red Envelope Wedding Gift:__ Some couples may choose to forgo a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) in favor of cash gifts, and others implement both. Many guests expect to give money equal to the amount of their meal at the banquet. If you plan to accept, be sure to place a money box or red envelopes at the entrance of the dining room. Assign someone to collect the money at the end of the night.\n\nWe’ve mentioned a few other potential ceremonies, including the visit to the groom’s (or partner’s) family three days after the wedding. The good news? That’s one aspect of the wedding you won’t have to plan. \n\n## Need Help With Your Checklist? Zola’s Here for You\n\nA traditional Chinese wedding isn’t just about the couple, but the blending of two families and their extended communities. As such, there’s a long checklist of tasks to complete, things to buy or rent, and etiquette to adhere to.\n\nBut the goal of all these items is your long-term happiness. After all your hard work and preparation, your wedding will serve as a formal blessing of your union, inviting in good luck and clearing away any obstacles.\n\nAnd even before the ceremony takes place, your friends and family are there to help. So are we.\n\nZola’s [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) tools, registry, and marketplace are all here to simplify the process of your nuptials. Get started with our [free, customizable wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist). 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Here’s everything you need in this Muslim wedding checklist.\n","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-05-28T23:58:38.375Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3wDCPnvOtasxGnm8WfOZcn/b16be0016785c4309d2391434c0319f2/Hero_Unsplash_AlexHudson.jpg","altText":"Muslim Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"Alex Hudson","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Muslim weddings come with their own unique list of to-dos. Before you get deep into planning, talk about what kind of wedding you want to have and which cultural practices you want to incorporate. \n- When it comes to the ceremony, figure out whether you want to be married in a mosque by an imam or qazi or by someone who understands Islamic tradition and laws. \n- The week of the wedding, take your outfit, accessories, and shoes for a test drive to make sure you feel good in your attire and that everything fits. \n- From wedding registries to wedding websites, Zola has everything you need to make your wedding special.\n","body":"Planning a wedding requires months of decision-making, preparation, and to-do lists. With the help of your future spouse and your community, it’s possible to get it all done with a smile on your face—but only if you have the right checklist. \n\nLike every pair, you want a picture-perfect day filled with delicious food, beautiful decorations, and plenty of family bonding. As a Muslim couple, you’ll have a few more things on your to-do list to incorporate beloved traditions and make sure aspects of your wedding observe Islamic religious laws.\n\nDon’t worry: We’ve got your back. In this guide, we’ll break down the process into four comprehensive categories:\n\n- __12 to 9 Months in Advance:__ Mastering the Basic Details\n- __9 to 6 Months in Advance:__ Planning the Ceremonies\n- __6 to 3 Months in Advance:__ Inviting Your Guests\n- __3 to 1 Month in Advance:__ Creating a Program Finalizing the Details\n- __Week of Wedding:__ Everything in Place\n\nConquer these tasks one by one and, inshallah, you’ll be well on your way to a beautiful wedding and marriage.\n\n## 12 to 9 Months in Advance: Mastering the Basic Details \n\nIt takes time to plan a wedding. Happily, many Muslim parents and guardians want to be involved from the get-go. After your engagement—and a year or so in advance of your intended wedding—start to discuss your plans with your spouse, parents, and in-laws to get everyone on the same page.\n\nSchedule a formal get-together or virtual chat to discuss the following details:\n\n- __Wedding Type:__ What traditions and rituals will you observe? Will you have a conservative or liberal ceremony? How long will the celebration be? Will the wedding take place at lunch, dinner, tea, or will it be a multi-day affair? Consider whether you’ll complete the nikkah (marriage contract signing) and Walima (celebration and send-off) on the same day or consecutive days. In some cultures, the walima is a multi-day affair.\n\n- __Guest List:__ Do you want a big wedding or a small one? You can split the difference by holding some private ceremonies and celebrations, which of course creates more planning in other regards. Once you have a ballpark idea of potential attendance, look for appropriate venues.\n\n- __Mahr:__ Traditionally, the groom gives the bride a financial gift as part of the marriage contract. This could take the form of money, but today, many couples choose to count the exchanged rings as the mahr. This is sometimes negotiated between the parents, but you and your spouse can also request a say in the matter. If you’re observing this tradition, be sure to voice your preferences and expectations.\n\n- __Budget:__ How much will the wedding cost? Who will pay for it?\n\n- __Hiring a Wedding Planner:__ Will you seek out professional help to orchestrate your wedding? A well-qualified wedding planner with expertise in Muslim weddings can help lighten your load (for a fee). Of course, you can also DIY many or all aspects of your wedding. \n\nThen, once your families are on the same page, start your logistical planning.\n\n- __Pick a Date:__ Avoid scheduling your wedding during Muharram and Ramadan, and choose an auspicious date (potentially a Sunday). \n\n- __Choose Your [Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) (or Venues):__ Many Muslim couples choose to get married in a mosque. Most mosques have a marriage officer or qazi who can help streamline the process. However, getting married in a mosque is definitely not a requirement. If you and your honey would prefer to sign your marriage contract and hold your reception in the same space, start searching for a reception venue with the right capacity and availability. \n\n- __Consider Conversion and Second Marriages:__ If one member of the couple needs to convert to Islam, make sure to include the timeline for this process in your preliminary planning. If it’s a second marriage, make sure you understand re-marriage requirements (including the three month waiting period).\n\n- __Apply for Your Marriage License:__ Filling out government paperwork isn’t the dreamiest part of your wedding planning, but it’s important to get the ball rolling so that you can be legally wed.\n\n- __Choose an Officiant:__ As a Muslim couple, you may want to be married by an *imam* or *qazi*. However, anyone who understands Islamic tradition and laws is qualified to perform the nikkah. Your chosen officiant can help you draft your wedding contract. If you’re getting married in a mosque, they can also advise you on how to:\n\n - Avoid scheduling your wedding at the same time as mosque activities\n - Wear (and advise guests to wear) appropriate attire\n - Inform guests of appropriate behavior (i.e., segregating sexes or avoiding alcohol, if relevant)\n\nWhile the only necessary part of a Muslim marriage ceremony is the nikkah, or contract, you may choose to have your officiant read a passage from the Quran or give a speech. \n\n## 9 to 6 Months in Advance: Planning the Ceremonies \n\nOnce you have your date and venue, it’s time to imagine the details of the ceremony. This includes big-picture questions like the [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) (should you want one), as well as minute decisions about things like how to fold napkins.\n\n### Pick Your Perfect Wedding Attire\nDepending on your cultural background, personal style, and where you’re getting married, there are a wide array of options for both the bride and groom. \n\n- If you’re getting married in a mosque, make sure to wear respectful clothing that covers the knees (and accord with any other rules around head coverings).\n\n- Visit a tailor to ensure your garments fit perfectly. You don’t want to be uncomfortable on your wedding day. \n\nBeyond your clothing, make a plan for your appearance, including:\n\n- __Jewelry:__ Try on pieces that match your attire. Have them polished before your wedding day. Don’t forget to choose and buy wedding bands. \n\n- __Shoes:__ While you can’t wear shoes in a mosque, you’ll want an attractive, well-fitted pair for your procession to the venue and your celebratory meal.\n\n- __Hair, Hijab, and/or Veil:__ If you wear a head covering, be sure to commission a special bridal hijab to complement your wedding dress. If you’re going bare-headed, find a hairstylist who can make your locks look their best on your big day. You could also consider a veil to complete the look.\n\nThe sooner you decide on your wedding outfits, the more time you’ll have for tailors to tweak and relatives to offer to let you borrow any jewelry or pieces you’ve had your eyes on.\n\n### Book Wedding Vendors\n\nLuckily, your mosque ceremony should be fairly straightforward to plan. You can’t decorate the venue, so all you need to bring is yourself and your guests (in your wedding attire, of course).\n\nBut your wedding banquet is a different matter altogether. To make yours an occasion to remember, work with the following [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors):\n\n- __Photographer or Videographer:__ After working so hard to plan your wedding, you want plenty of photos to remember it by. Find a local photographer or videographer with a portfolio that catches your eye, and work together to create a shot list. Photographers tend to book up fast, so definitely put this on the top of your wedding to-do list. \n\n- __Caterer:__ Decide whether or not your wedding will be halal. Then, look for a caterer who can cook up a delicious meal. Consider including traditional dishes like fish, chicken, and chocolate-covered almonds, or opt for a menu that’s uniquely you.\n\n- __Bakery:__ Find a bakery that can accommodate a halal cake (if necessary)—and don’t forget to schedule a tasting. \n\n- __Florist:__ Gorgeous floral displays are a mainstay of many Muslim cultures and weddings. If you plan to include flowers in your venue decor, find a local florist who can deliver the goods.\n\n- __Decor Rental Company:__ You’ll need dozens of tables, chairs, napkins, forks, spoons… the list goes on. If you’re working with a wedding planner, they’ll likely help you find an appropriate provider for your seating and place settings. Otherwise, you can get the job done on your own with a little research.\n\n- __Entertainment:__ Hire a DJ or live band to get your wedding guests on the dance floor after they’ve finished their feast. You can also consider renting a photo booth and setting up games.\n\nNeed help finding a vendor for your special day? Zola has you covered. Choose from an amazing selection of [Zola’s pre-vetted vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), from photographers to caterers (and yes, there’s a halal filter!). \n\n## 6 to 3 Months in Advance: Inviting Your Guests and Creating a Program \n\nAs you get the ball rolling on all aspects of your wedding, it’s time to start inviting guests and giving them all of the important details. Take the following steps:\n\n- __Start With [Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop):__ If you give your guests a heads up once you have your wedding date, it’s that much easier for them to block off time on their calendars and begin making travel arrangements. You don’t have to know all the details to extend this courtesy through e-vites or postcards. Typically, shoot for about six months before the wedding (but if you’re going for a destination wedding, send save the dates at least eight to 12 months ahead of time). \n\n- __Register:__ Don’t leave your friends and relatives guessing about what to give you for your wedding. Create an online registry outlining your wants and needs.\n\n- __Create a [Wedding Website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website):__ While you’ll likely have older relatives calling you for wedding details no matter what you do, [a free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) (like Zola’s) is a great place to collect details for the technologically savvy. As the date approaches, you can provide updated information on the timetable and transit.\n\n- __Send Out Your [Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop):__ Once you’ve finalized your date, venue, and schedule of events, you’re ready to invite friends and family and request RSVPs.\n\nGuest lists, registries, invites, wedding websites—it can seem like a lot to do at this stage of wedding planning. Zola has you covered as your home for all things wedding. \n\nDesign gorgeous [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) with dozens of customizable options. From there, you can create [a free stunning wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/manage) that will help clue your guests into the events of the day (and can even be in the same design and theme as your invites!). \n\nOur wedding websites also seamlessly integrate with our digital [Wedding Guest List Manager tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), so you can manage RSVPs, guest communications, and questions all in one place.\n\n## 3 to 1 Months in Advance: Create a Program Finalizing the Details \n\nThe last few months of wedding planning can be so exciting. Make sure you check these items off your to-do list as the special day gets closer and closer.\n\n### Create a Program\n\nEventually, you’ll be ready to post a schedule of events on your website and create paper programs to use on the big day. These serve as play-by-play for the events of your wedding, helping guests know what to expect.\n\nInclude any of the following that applies:\n\n- __Pre-Wedding Events:__ If you’re holding a picnic, informal gathering, or formal ritual, make sure it appears on the program.\n\n- __Baraat:__ Some weddings include the groom’s formal procession to the mosque or site of the nikkah.\n\n- __Nikkah:__ Perhaps the most important part of your wedding ceremony, the details for the timing of your nikkah should be clearly defined. If necessary, use your program as an opportunity to explain rules and rituals to guests who are not familiar with Muslim practices. \n\n - Remind guests of the mosque’s etiquette\n - Name your officiant\n - List any other speakers and the passages they’ll be reading\n\n- __Transit Between Venues:__ How can guests get between the site of your nikkah and your Walima? Let them know if you’ve commissioned a bus, rented a parking lot, or arranged other transportation options.\n\n- __Walima:__ Feel free to list additional specifics, like a list of people who will be giving toasts. If there are separate, consecutive celebrations hosted by the bride and groom’s family, provide information for both.\n\n### Troubleshoot Your Look and Prepare for Fashion Emergencies\n\nOnce your tailor has made all necessary alterations, assemble your glam squad to get a preview of your wedding look. Whether you’re working with a professional stylist or rummaging for the right pair of socks with a couple of friends, take a good look in the mirror. \n\n- Does your chosen hairstyle or head covering complement your outfit like you thought it would? This is your last chance to make a change (without causing needless stress on your wedding day).\n\n- If you’re wearing makeup, are you happy with the way it complements your overall look? It’s not too late to experiment with different pigments and styles.\n\nIn addition, prepare a wedding apparel emergency kit with items that could help remove or disguise stains, fix broken straps, and mend tears.\n\nNeed any last-minute jewelry items, skincare items, or accessories? Explore [Zola’s wedding boutique](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop) to add a little more sparkle to your day. \n\n## Week of Wedding: Everything in Place \n\nIn the months leading up to your wedding, you’ve moved mountains (logistically speaking). But that doesn’t mean your hard work is done.\n\nThe week before your wedding is an important time to double-check your work, make last-minute arrangements, and get ready for the next step. To reach the other side of marriage in good spirits, complete the following tasks in the lead-up to your celebrations.\n\n### Check With Vendors and Assign Point People for Guest Inquiries\n\nIf you’re working with a wedding planner, run through the schedule of events and make sure they’ve confirmed the information with vendors. If you’re planning your wedding yourself (or you want to be *extra* sure), do the following:\n\n- Advise vendors of updated headcounts and any other new information (i.e., accessibility issues, dietary preferences for guests, changes to the schedule, information about unloading).\n\n- Make sure you understand when your vendors expect payment. Take one thing off your wedding-day plate by writing checks in advance, placing cash tips in envelopes, and assigning a point person to settle up at the end of the night.\n\n- Ask the wedding planner or a trustworthy friend to serve as the point person for any issues that arise. Make sure they know where to access emergency supplies like lighters, batteries, the first-aid kit, and anything else you or a guest might need during the celebration (within reason).\n\n### Get Ready for Your Honeymoon or Other Post-Wedding Events\n\nSome couples jet off to Hawaii right after their weddings; others move in together.; others prepare for a formal, ritual visit to the bride’s family after her first few days away from home.\n\nWhatever’s next on the horizon, planning ahead can help.\n\n- __Confirm Your Transportation Away From the Wedding Venue:__ Sure, you could always get an Uber, but wouldn’t you rather have a plan in advance?\n\n- __Pack Your Bags or Prep Your New Home:__ You don’t want to spend the night of your wedding rifling through your drawers for clean underwear and socks. If you’re traveling, get packed. If you’re planning on moving in together after your nikkah, make sure your new home has everything you need.\n\n- __If You’re Honeymooning, Confirm Your Itinerary:__ Print or download your tickets, double-check with your hotel, find your passport, and make sure you have everything else you need for a stress-free trip.\n\n- __Check-in With Your Parents or In-Laws.__ Confirm their plans for any other post-wedding events—but let them take the reigns. Once your wedding ceremony is complete, you deserve a few days of relaxation.\n\n### Take a Moment to Rest\nWe know—it’s easier said than done. But a wedding is, at its heart, a joyful occasion and celebration of the new family you’re creating with your spouse. Amidst all the chaos of planning, find moments for levity, joy, and rest.\n\nThis could take the form of:\n\n- A mani-pedi with your wedding party\n- A walk, stretch, or fitness class\n- Calming music\n- Deep breaths\n- Spending time with your future spouse\n\nWhile it’s traditional for Muslim couples to spend the night before their wedding separately, it can be incredibly helpful to make time to connect. You could even try writing them a letter or talking on the phone to process all that you’re feeling in advance of your wedding day.\n\n## Get Wed With a Little Help From Your Friends—and Zola \n\nPlanning a Muslim wedding is a complex affair. If you feel bogged down with tasks, don’t be afraid to ask for help from your friends, family, imam, wedding planner, and anyone else in your contact book. Delegation is just as important as dedication.\n\nAt Zola, we’re here to make life easier as you plan your wedding. From our [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) tools to our wedding websites and beyond, we help streamline the process of finding reliable vendors and communicating with your guests.\n\nGet started with our free customizable wedding planning checklist, so that you know exactly what’s on your personal to-do list. Then, take a deep breath, keep going, and look forward to a beautiful wedding and a happy marriage.\n","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingChecklist"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"For everything you need to know about planning a Chinese wedding, we created this Chinese wedding checklist. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-04T15:05:27.609Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2uQYQkS1axXHfIU0ytYBiV/aa217c09e138c235635ef4b2524d9060/V-yQBjIA.jpeg","altText":"Zola invitation suite and save the date on marble countertop"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"It’s not a party without guests, so the next step on your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)—after [setting your budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget), of course—is to create your [Guest List](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests). Although it may initially seem like a simple task to write out the names of all the people you want to celebrate with, making the guest list proves to be a pretty difficult step for many couples. Who you invite plays a big role in the tone of your day, and how many people attend impacts many other big decisions, such as [choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and setting your catering budget. \n\n__We get it__: having to decide which friends and family members make the guest list isn’t the most fun part of wedding planning. However, it is one of the most important, and a necessary step. To make the process as easy as can be, we’ve outlined the steps on how to make a guest list, and trim it, below. \n\n## How to Make a Wedding Guest List\nThere are four steps to making your wedding guest list:\n\n### 1. Decide Who Has a Say\n\nFirst decide who has a say in which guests go on the list. It may just be you and your partner, but both sets of parents might also wish to contribute, especially if they’re pitching in funds or paying for the wedding in full. We recommend asking your families whether they would like to add some names to the guest list. There’s no promise that you have to ultimately invite their chosen guests, but it’s important to take their suggestions into consideration. \n\n### 2. Build Your Wish List\n\nNext, collect a wish list of names from everyone who is contributing and compile it together. While you may not end up inviting every individual on this list, it will give you a start towards figuring out whom and how many you will invite to the big day. \n\n### 3. Finalize Your Numbers\n\nWhittling down your dream guest list to a manageable number of invitees is undeniably the hardest step in making your guest list, but there are ways to make it easier. To get started, see our suggestions on how to trim your count in the section on __Ways To Cut The Wedding Guest List__ below. \n\nRemember, your budget should serve as a guide. The more people you invite to your wedding, the more expensive it will be thanks to per-head costs like [catering](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), [rentals](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search), and the need for a more spacious [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues). Keep your guest list to a size that your budget can easily accommodate. \n\n### 4. Create a Tracking System\n\nOnce you have finalized your guest list, it’s important to devise a tracking system to manage your RSVPs. Before your wedding day, many of your vendors will request your final guest count—you should have an accurate total on hand to share. Some couples opt to manually track of their guest list and RSVPs in a spreadsheet, but Zola couples turn to our handy [Guest List Manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), which allows you to collect addresses by sending a link to guests via email or text, get real-time RSVP updates, and more. \n\n## Ways to Cut The Wedding Guest List\nHere are our favorite tried-and-true strategies for trimming your guest list. \n\n### Make an A-List and B-List\n If you want to invite as many people as you possibly can, a great tactic is to break your guest list down into two sections: \n 1. An A-List for guests that you absolutely must invite.\n 2. A B-List for guests that you’d like to invite, but don’t fall on the A-List. \n\n Send out invites to everyone on the A-List first, then, as guests from the A-List send in regrets, slowly choose people from the B-List to send an invitation. Just make sure that it isn’t obvious that someone fell on the B-List by sending the wedding their invitation too close to the wedding day (6-8 weeks before the wedding day is standard protocol). \n\n### Have an Adults-Only Wedding\n\nHaving a no-kids policy at your wedding is a simple way to shrink your guest list, since little ones of all ages add to your overall wedding costs. If you opt to go this route, just make sure that you don’t make exceptions for some families and not others. Otherwise, you risk insulting some of your nearest and dearest.\n\n### Limit +1s\n\nAllowing guests to bring a +1 can quickly drive up the count on your guest list, so we recommend limiting them to guests who are married or in long-term relationships. Again, make it fair to avoid hurt feelings.\n\n### Get Married on a Weekday\n\nWeekday weddings aren’t just great for cutting wedding costs—they’re also great for reducing your number of guests because they are harder for guests to attend. However, bear in mind that a non-weekend date may also mean that your closest friends and family members cannot attend. \n\n### Host a Destination Wedding\n\nAnother strategy is to host a destination wedding with a guest list limited to your closest friends and family. 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If you’re planning to get married in this faith, there are a few things to keep in mind. ","author":"Anni Irish","publishedAt":"2021-12-20T05:57:13.170Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6SYvSKrJaOzNWb5wRWAZmr/18d283759263534648da1cd484a833b8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Pentecostal Wedding Guide"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are a few different movements within the Pentecostal faith, so there may be slight variations from church to church in terms of traditions and requirements when it comes to the wedding ceremony. \n- Be sure to meet with your priest, pastor, or wedding officiant so that you’re clear on what you and your partner need to know ahead of time.\n- Nail down details such as the wedding date and guest list, and also meet with your pastor or priest ahead of time.","body":"When it comes to planning a wedding, there are a lot of details to think about, especially when you’re a faith-based couple. For some couples, having their religion at the core of the wedding celebration is very important, while, for others, it may still be a factor, but simply will not play as prominent of a role. For folks who practice in the Pentecostal faith and are planning a wedding, there are several details to consider.\n\n## Different Movements Within the Pentecostal Faith \n\nPentecostalism is a Protestant Christian movement that emphasizes a direct experience with God through baptism with the Holy Spirit. There are several different movements within the faith itself, and, depending on which domination you practice, as well as your place of worship, there may be some slight variations to think about when it comes to your wedding ceremony. However, there are some details that will be consistent regardless of the church that you’re married in. Remember that there are ways to also personalize things while still upholding traditional rituals within your faith. \n\nThere are still details that all couples need to address—even when you’re planning a faith-based wedding—such as the venue for the wedding reception and ceremony, guest list, who will be marrying you, the wedding date, and others. Here are six important things to keep in mind when you're planning a Pentecostal wedding. \n\n### Finalize the Date \n\nWhen it comes to the wedding planning process, having a date in mind is extremely important, but there's more to finalizing this essential detail than most people realize. Having the date in mind is extremely important because it will be dedicated when you book with your wedding venue, it will allow you to get your wedding officiant/priest/pastor/preacher on board, and it will allow you to secure vendors such as caterers, florists, calligraphers, and more. \n\nTo be on the safe side, picking a few dates may also work in your favor, especially if there are a lot of other ceremonies and events planned at your ceremony and/or reception venue(s). If you’re having a hard time deciding when you may want to get married, sometimes picking a date that correlates to your favorite season or one that holds personal significance for you and your partner can be helpful. \n\nPerhaps you want to get married on the same day as you met, or maybe you want a date that is important for you both. Deciding sooner rather than later as to when the big day will happen is important because then you can get ahead of all of the larger details that come with planning a wedding. \n\n### Confirm the Guest List \n\nAnother big detail to check off your to-do list is finalizing your wedding list. Whether you’re going to have a large or small ceremony, this can be a stressful task to complete. When you’re putting the list together, try to keep in mind who you really want to be present on your special day, but also try to be open to suggestions. \n\nWhile you may feel obligated to invite certain people, getting clear on the number of people you wish to invite and whom you’re inviting is really vital, as it will also play a part in deciding where you get married, your budget, and the reception details. \n\n### Meet With Your Pastor/Priest/Preacher/Wedding Officiant\n\nOnce you have decided on the date, the next thing you will want to do ASAP is get in touch with your pastor/wedding officiant and make sure that they are available. Once you have confirmed their availability and can schedule the service, you will also want to make time to meet with them regarding the specifics of what will happen at the wedding. \n\nGenerally speaking, a couple getting married within the Pentecostal faith will hold their ceremony in a church or house of worship. Typically, a couple will get married where they are active members within their congregation and where they attend services regularly. However, if you’re choosing to get married at a different church or location, it’s important to find out ahead of time if you do need to be a member there, or if there are other details that could affect holding your ceremony. \n\nYou also want to be clear, in advance, on any marriage requirements that the church has, so that you know what information or documentation is needed to be married there. If you or your SO isn’t part of the faith, you also will want to discuss any intermarriage options that exist or what the process for conversion is. If you or your partner was previously married and is divorced, this meeting is also a good time to ask your pastor/priest/preacher about what protocol must be followed so that you can get married in their church. \n\nTypically, couples will meet with their priest/pastor/wedding officiant, a few times prior to the wedding to go over details. They will walk you through important points to keep in mind, such as what traditions and rituals may be performed, as well as other rules and regulations. They will also serve as the person who will oversee the wedding, so ask any questions that you may have about your service. \n\nExamples of pertinent questions include: \n\n- Does the church have dress requirements and/or a dress code?\n- What is the structure of the ceremony, and are there requirements for the ceremony? \n\nKnowing this information in advance can help you iron out any kinks that may come up, plus it will save you a lot of time and stress in the long run. Once you have figured out these details, then the fun can begin.\n\n### Plan the Ceremony \n\nPlanning the ceremony is where you and your partner can really start to showcase parts of your personality, and it’s when the wedding of your dreams will come alive. Also, think about the tone that you want. Should it be short and sweet? Or, longer and symbolic? Perhaps something in between? \n\nHaving these details in mind can help guide what you are after for your big day. Picking songs and readings that reflect both you and your partner's relationship can also be a beautiful touch; however, you also want to be mindful of the church and the type of ceremony that you’re aiming for. You want to choose songs and readings that are meaningful to you as a couple, but also are respectful and reflective of your faith. \n\nGenerally speaking, if you’re holding your ceremony in a church or house of worship, there will be great music. Your officiant can help arrange or organize music for you through their choir or band. If you’re a long-time member of that particular church, having their musicians and vocalists perform at your wedding can add another special detail to your ceremony. \n\nYou may want to include a wedding party and/or family members or friends in your wedding ceremony. Having people that you feel close to be a part of the wedding is a great way to make them feel included in the process, as they will be able to contribute to your celebration. \n\n### Secure a Venue for the Reception\n\nWhile a big church wedding is gorgeous, one of the downfalls is that the reception cannot usually be held there, and this is one important thing to keep in mind with the planning. Typically, you have to book a separate venue to hold the reception at; however, depending on your church or house of worship, if they have a separate space, they may be able to accommodate both the ceremony and reception. If it is logistically possible, make sure that they can host you for both the ceremony and reception on the same date, because there may be other events booked. \n\nIf your place of worship isn’t able to host your reception, the other drawback is that your guests will have to travel to a separate location. If that’s the case, keep in mind how they will get there and if you should provide transportation. \n\n### Get Your Wedding License \n\nWith all the planning that goes into a wedding, one thing that some couples wait until the last minute to do is get the license. While the requirements for securing wedding licenses vary from state to state, here are a few things to keep in mind. There is some paperwork that you and your SO have to get together before applying for a marriage license. Be sure that you know where to get the wedding license paperwork. \n\nIn some states, this important document is issued through a municipal clerk’s office, while in other states it's simply a form that you download and fill out online. Keep in mind that the license is only valid for a specific time period between when it is issued and when your ceremony must take place. Following your wedding, the wedding officiant/priest/pastor, along with you and your partner, has to sign the license to make it legal. After signing, the license must be sent by the wedding officiant to be certified, and then you will receive your marriage certificate shortly thereafter. \n\nResearch ahead of time what the requirements are for applying for a marriage license in your state. A general checklist includes the following information:\n\n- Birth certificate\n- Parental consent, if underage (usually under 18); in some cases, you may also need legal consent from the court \n- Photo identification (driver's license, state ID card, passport, or birth certificate)\n- Social security number\n- Proof of citizenship and/or residence\n- Divorce decree, if divorced \n- Death certificate, if widowed\n\nSome states have a mandatory waiting period between obtaining a marriage license and holding a ceremony, so be sure to know what that information is ahead of time. \n\nAs you plan your Pentecostal wedding, it’s important that you and your partner are aware of the details specific to where you plan to hold your wedding. Knowing what the requirements are of your specific church, what the guest count is, as well as the logistics of the reception can help make the wedding planning process go as smoothly as possible. 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With a wedding checklist as long as your arm it’s not always obvious where and how to even begin. Thankfully, this is the digital age, in which we can do almost anything from our smartphones. Gone are the days of wedding planning that require a binder full of wedding inspiration print-outs and a million sit-down meetings for the bride and groom. But what are the best websites and tools out there to facilitate your online wedding planning? Answer: [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning).\n\nIn this guide on how to plan a wedding, we’ll walk you through the steps of online wedding planning—whether you’re planning a [traditional wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/traditional) or a destination wedding. From [organizing a seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) to setting a realistic wedding budget, you’ll be armed with all the knowledge to plan your dream wedding. Grab your phone or laptop and let’s get planning. \n\n## Step 1: Get Organized\n \nAfter getting engaged, you and your partner need to get hooked up with all the right tools and services to make your online wedding planning as easy as possible. Set up a Zola account to:\n- Create a [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)\n- Set up your personal [wedding planning Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n- Build a [free wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)\n- [Order save the dates and invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n- [Browse wedding inspiration](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/weddings)\n- [Book your wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-venues)\n- Download the [Zola Weddings App](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/zola-weddings/id1224719355?ls=1&mt=8) on all your mobile devices (even those [Androids](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zola.android.wedding&hl=en)) for even more wedding inspiration.\n- [Follow Zola](https://www.facebook.com/zola/) on your [favorite social channels](https://www.instagram.com/zola/) for unbeatable inspiration and advice. \n- Download Zola’s [12-month wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/getting-started/your-wedding-planning-to-do-checklist) (if you aren’t using our digital Wedding Checklist tool).\n\nThen set up other online accounts to help with your planning: \n- Set up a wedding-only email account for you and your partner.\n- Set up a file-sharing account like Google Drive or [Dropbox](https://www.dropbox.com).\n\n## Step 2: Set The Date\nIf you haven’t done so already, it’s time to start thinking about a wedding date.\n\nSee our guide for [How To Set A Wedding Date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/getting-started/how-to-set-a-wedding-date)\n\n## Step 3: Create a Wedding Website\nNow that you’re knowledgeable about how to use the internet to plan your wedding, it’s time to make your wedding a part of the internet.\n- Set up your [free Zola wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n- Pick your [website design](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) from our hundreds of gorgeous options (literally). You can even match your website to your save the dates and invitations in Step 10 and 12 below.\n- Begin customizing your design with photography, stories, and any wedding details you already have in mind. \n- Create a custom website domain for a small fee. \n- Complete each section before finally making it public and searchable for your guests. Continue to add to your website as you nail down more specifics.\n\nSee our guide for [How To Create A Wedding Website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)\n\n## Step 4: Set Up Your Registry\n \nIt’s time for what most people think is a fun step in wedding planning: setting up your Zola wedding registry. Not sure what a registry is? Not a problem—read up on [What Is A Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n- Consult our [Registry Checklist](https://www.zola.com/registry/checklist/kitchen-essentials3) to find out which gifts Zola’s experts recommend you include to outfit (or upgrade) your newlywed home.\n- Take advantage of Zola’s Registry Planner tool, a calculator that tells you how many gifts you should add to your registry, and in which price points, based on the number of guests you expect to invite. \n- Add gifts to your registry and personalize with photos, a welcome message, and personal notes to your guests about your registry picks. \n- Publish your Zola registry! \n- Add your Zola registry to your website.\n\nSee our guide for [Essentials To Put On Your Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/registry-basics/essentials-to-put-on-your-registry)\n\n## Step 5: Set Your Budget\nSetting your wedding budget isn’t fun as a bride and groom, but it will make your life easier as you get further into planning your wedding. Plus, a realistic wedding budget helps you avoid overspending money, as well as help you outline ways to save. \n- Sit down with your partner over dinner and chat about the following things:\n - The total amount of money you’d like to spend on your wedding\n - What you can afford to spend\n - If your families are contributing to cover wedding costs\n - What your priorities are for the big day (this is how you figure out ways to save and where)\n- Break down your budget further by determining what dollar amount or percentage of your total budget you can spend on each major category or item you want to include in the day’s festivities.\n- Create a spreadsheet to track your expenses. \n- Put together a folder of receipts, signed contracts, and deposits and payments as you make them.\n\nSee our guide for [How To Set Your Wedding Budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/budgeting/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget)\n\n## Step 6: Gather Wedding Inspiration\nNow for a little fun after the budget talk: it’s time to browse ideas and wedding inspiration.\n- Explore [Zola Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/weddings): a huge collection of real weddings that grows every day with incredible new wedding images. You can even filter and search for weddings based on season, color palette, wedding style, venue type, or location. \n- Save photography and ideas that you love to your Zola account by clicking the heart icon on photos and real weddings to save them to your favorites.\n\n# Step 7: Choose a Venue\nAfter browsing and favoriting Zola’s real weddings, you should begin to get a sense of your ideal wedding style. This will inform everything about your event, from food and beverage to deco and even your wedding stationery. The next step in turning your dream wedding into reality is to find your wedding venue. \n- [Browse wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-venues) from any location, or narrow down your search to a few popular wedding destinations like Napa or Charlottesville, VA. You can also search by type of venue, so if you already know your wedding must take place at the beach, you can skip right to beachfront options. \n- Create a [wedding venue checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) and send inquiries directly through Zola to your top venue picks to ask about availability and schedule site visits. \n- Once you’ve made your decision, lock in your wedding date with a signed venue contract and deposit. \n\nSee our guide for [How To Choose A Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/getting-started/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)\n\n## Step 8: Create Your Wedding Checklist\nOnce you have a venue contracted signed, then your online wedding planning timeline really kicks in. \n- Activate your [Zola Wedding Checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) to put your wedding to-do list on autopilot. \n- Input your key wedding details like date and location, and select whether you want a lot versus a little bit of guidance from the tool.\n- Let Checklist schedule out your wedding planning to-do list month by month for you. \n- Customize your checklist to add, edit, or remove any tasks as you need. It’s also equipped with tons of religious- and culturally-specific traditions that you can add based on the kind of wedding you’re having. You can really be your own wedding planner.\n- Get push notifications from Checklist right to your phone (since you have the Zola app, right?)\n\nDon't have a Zola account? See our [Wedding Planning To-Do Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/getting-started/your-wedding-planning-to-do-checklist)","body2":"## Step 9: Build Your Guest List\nOkay, the wedding is shaping up. Now it’s time to set your guest list. \n- Put together your guest list by working with your families to determine who should be invited. \n- Use Zola’s [Guest List](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) tool to gather and keep track of guests’ names and addresses by one (or several) of the following methods:\n - Upload an existing spreadsheet\n - Add contacts from your phone’s address book\n - Use manual entry\n - Send guests a link via email or text allowing them to input their address directly into the tool themselves\n\nSee our guide on [How To Make A Wedding Guest List](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/planning-101/getting-started/how-to-make-a-wedding-guest-list)\n\n## Step 10: Send Out Save The Dates\nThe guest list is set, so start spreading the news! \n- Design your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) on Zola, which can also coordinate with your wedding website design (and all of your wedding stationery). \n- Mail your save the dates approximately 6-8 months before the wedding to give guests plenty of notice (and to make travel arrangements if they’re journeying from out of town). \n- Include your wedding website (and make it public) on your save the date so guests can learn more. \n\nSee our [Guide To Wedding Save The Dates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invites-paper/save-the-dates/a-guide-to-save-the-dates)\n\n## Step 11: Find Your Vendors\n \nWhile you probably have been researching and selecting important vendors throughout this whole process, here’s the point in your online wedding planning journey where you need to shore up your wedding vendor list. \n- Head to Zola’s [vendor directory](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) to search for all the key professionals who will actually pull off this incredible soirée you’re planning. Search by wedding vendor type, then browse through the vendor listings to find images, package descriptions, pricing info, reviews, and real wedding examples (when available). In general order of importance/urgency, here are the kinds of vendors you should be researching and booking:\n - [Photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-photographers)\n - [Caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-catering)\n - [Planner or Designer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner), if using\n - [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-florists)\n - [Band or DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-bands-djs)\n - [Officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant)\n - [Invitations & Calligraphy](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n - [Tents, Rentals, & Decor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-rent-for-wedding)\n - [Cakes & Desserts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-cakes-desserts)\n - [Hair & Makeup](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-hair-makeup)\n - [Transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101)\n -[ Rings & Jewelry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-rings)\n - [Accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests)\n\n- Inquire with vendors about pricing and availability on your wedding date.\n- Meet in person with your favorite vendors that meet your criteria and seem like a good fit. \n- Secure their services by signing contracts and paying deposits when required. \n\n## Step 12: Send Out Invitations\nAt this point, invitations should be mailed to all the same individuals who received a save the date card. If you opted for [Zola wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), this to-do list item is simple. \n- Select your wedding invitation design (which you can match to your other wedding stationery) and customize your wording, paper type, and colors.\n- Import your Guest List contacts and address your envelopes (for free!). \n- Place your invitation order. \n- Send your invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding day. \n\n*Pro Tip: Once the invites are in your hands, you’re ready to head to the post office. Since wedding invitations can easily rip or tear in the post office’s machinery thanks to being bulkier than most mail, be sure to ask the postal workers to cancel your invitations (USPS lingo for marking postage as used) with a hand stamp.* \n\nNeed help with the etiquette and wording your invitations? We’ve got you. See our links to related articles below:\n\n[How To Address Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invites-paper/invitation-wording/how-to-address-wedding-invitations)
\n[How To Word Wedding Invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invites-paper/invitation-wording/how-to-word-wedding-invitations)\n\n## Step 13: Manage Your RSVPs\n- Collect RSVPs in one place. \n - __If guests RSVP online at your website__, the responses will sync up automatically with your Guest List to track guests’ responses for you. You can even have guests provide info about their meal choices, what hotel they’re staying at, whether they want to take the shuttle, etc. \n - __If you also receive RSVPs through paper response cards__, you can add in those responses to your RSVP tracker within your Guest List.\n- Share the final list with your venue manager, your caterer, your wedding planner, and anyone else who needs it once you have all your responses. \n\nSee our [Guide To Wedding RSVPs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invites-paper/wedding-invitations/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps)\n\n## Step 14: Get Married! \nCongrats—you made it! Wedding day has arrived. You’ve successfully planned your wedding online like a champ without the help of a professional wedding planner and now you can simply enjoy yourself. Here are a few things to make sure you do on the big day to make it relaxing: \n- Eat a good breakfast. \n- Let the little (and maybe even the big) things go. \n- Enjoy being with your friends, family, and new spouse!\n\n## Step 15: Send Thank You Notes\nAfter some chill time, whether that’s by taking a mini-moon, a honeymoon, or just a day after the wedding to unwind, start thanking your friends and family for all those amazing gifts they bought you on your Zola registry. If you opted for [Zola thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) to match your invitation suite, this task will be quick and easy.\n- Send thank you notes no later than 3 months after the wedding. \n- Make sure to hand-write a personal message to each gift giver. \n- Use Zola’s Thank You Note Manager to help you keep track of who gave you what, their addresses, and whether a note has been sent. \n\nNeed help crafting messages to show your gratitude? See links to related articles below:\n\n[How To Write Wedding Thank You Cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invites-paper/thank-you-notes/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards)
\n[How To Word Wedding Thank You Cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/thank-you-notes/how-to-word-wedding-thank-you-cards)\n\nLook at that: You’re basically a professional wedding planner (as long as you have Zola in your back pocket).","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Here's Your To-Do List","excerpt":"Even when you still have six months to go until your wedding, it’s important to have a game plan. 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No matter what emotional state you’re in, having a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) is important for staying organized and will give you the peace of mind that all of your bases are covered.\n\nIf you’ve got half the year to plan, here are our top 12 to-dos:\n\n## 1. Research (and Book) Your Beauty Crew\nIt’s time to narrow down your search and secure your hair and makeup team. Don’t hesitate to book a few trials and play around with some styles if you’re still not sure exactly what you want.\n\n## 2. Say Yes to the Dress (or Suit)\nOr whatever you decide to wear, really. When it comes to attire, it’s time to let your personality shine.\n\n## 3. Schedule Tastings\nFrom macarons to cake varieties, you’ll want to make sure your dessert menu is finalized at least five months before your big day. Now is a great time to attend a few tastings and get a feel for exactly what you like.\n\n## 4. Send Save the Dates\nAs soon as you’ve got a venue secured and a guest list in mind, it’s time to send out your save the dates. Be sure to include essential details like the venue, date, and link to your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Book Your Florist\nIt’s time to graduate from fawning over Pinterest bouquets and finally take the big leap. Whether you’ve got a dream florist in mind or are still on the hunt, you’ll want to check this off your list as soon as you can.\n\n## 6. Start Your Registry\nFrom cooking utensils to a new couch, now is the time to start thinking about what might come in handy after the big day. Luckily, Zola’s registry is super straightforward and home to a wealth of inspiration to get you started.\n\n## 7. Pick Out a Videographer\nIf video is on your radar, now is the time to consider booking a pro. Not only is it a great way to capture some additional footage on your big day, but it’s also something you can reflect on for years to come.\n\n## 8. Research DJs and Musicians\nDepending on how far along you are in the planning process, this is a good time to examine your entertainment options. Whether you’re looking to book a deejay or a musician, now is the time to narrow down your choices and start gathering some quotes.\n\n## 9. Book a Rehearsal Dinner Venue\nAssuming that you only have your wedding venue booked for a single day, you’ll need to secure an additional venue for the rehearsal dinner. Keep in mind that this can be somewhere low key and personal, like a family farm or childhood home.\n\n## 10. Attend Premarital Counseling\nEven if you’ve never done therapy together, don’t be intimidated—premarital counseling can be a great way to strengthen your bond as a couple, while simultaneously preparing you for married life.\n\n## 11. Pick Out Ceremony Rings\nThis is a big one that’s easy to leave until the last minute. 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Here’s how to do it!","publishedAt":"2022-03-15T13:26:39.807Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/306qbzX0KwmyJBpCyYXxx0/8223845df58277b7f29e578bdd8508a6/gay-wedding-ceremony-celebration-party.jpg","altText":"men-getting-married"},"heroCredit":"Getty Images","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.gettyimages.com/","body":"You’ve booked your vendors, nailed down your decorations, and practiced your vows. As the big day draws near, one of the last (and arguably most crucial) items on your to-do list remains: creating your wedding weekend timeline. \n\nWhen it comes to making sure your wedding goes off without a hitch, creating a detailed timeline is key. This ensures that every moment of your wedding weekend comes together seamlessly, from when your vendors arrive to capturing the best lighting for your first look photos. With so much coming together from all angles, planning your wedding weekend hour by hour will keep everything in check and minimize stress in the process. \n\nWhile every couple’s wedding timeline is different, familiarizing yourself with how long each wedding activity generally takes is a great starting point for crafting the perfect itinerary. To help, we’ve outlined a sample wedding day timeline with the standard activities most couples will need to account for. Use this as a starting point, then customize it based on the specifics of your own big day. We’ve also included four sample wedding weekend timelines that you can use to build out your own. \n\nWedding Day Timeblocks\n\nStandard Wedding Weekend Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Wedding, and Brunch\n\nAfternoon Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner and Wedding\n\nMicro Wedding Timeline: Ceremony, and Brief Reception\n\nDestination Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony, and Reception\n\nPrintable Wedding Weekend Timelines\n\n## Wedding Day Time Blocks \nBefore creating your own wedding day timeline from scratch, it helps to get an idea of how long each activity typically takes. Below, we’ve broken down the approximate time needed for each part of the wedding day, from when you’ll start getting ready to when your ceremony music begins. Remember that this can all be altered according to your specific wedding plans—it’s simply a helpful guideline for knowing how long each item should take. \n\n\n__3-5 hours:__ __Wedding party starts getting ready__ \n\nStart the morning of your wedding day with plenty of time to get ready before the ceremony. Throw on your matching robes, have a nourishing breakfast, and enjoy the morning with your crew. If you have a larger bridal party, take this into account when it comes to scheduling hair and makeup for each person. \n\n__15 minutes:__ __Bride gets dressed__ \n\nFactoring in a time block for when you’ll put on your wedding dress ensures you aren’t in a rush. Don’t forget things like your shoes, veil, and accessories. \n\n__1 hour:__ __Solo photos__ \n\nIf you’re taking solo portraits, schedule this directly after you and your wedding party have finished getting ready. This might take 30 minutes for some brides, and an hour and a half for others—it all depends on what you want and how many shots you’d like. \n\n__45 minutes: Wedding party photos__ \n\nRound up your crew to capture all of your wedding party shots. This can also include photos with your parents and your partner’s parents if desired. We recommend scheduling at least 45 minutes for these.\n\n__15-30 minutes: First look photos__ \n\nOnce you’ve finished your wedding party photos and solo shots, carve out some time for your first look (if you’ve chosen to have one!). First look photos actually don’t take too long, and 15-30 minutes is usually enough time. \n\n__30 minutes: Travel from getting-ready location to venue__\n\nUnless your getting-ready location is the same as your venue, be sure to schedule in travel time for you and your wedding party to head to the venue. (Keep in mind you might move this time block to directly after you and your crew finish getting ready if you’re taking photos at the venue vs. your getting-ready location.) Be sure to schedule ample time to account for potential traffic delays. \n\n__30 minutes: Guests begin to arrive__ \n\nAt this point in the day, it’s time to start any pre-ceremony music you’ve planned to play as guests begin to arrive. We recommend blocking out around 30 minutes to ensure all guests have arrived and made it to their seats before the ceremony begins.\n\n__20 minutes-1 hour: Ceremony begins__ \n\nThis time block will vary depending on the type of wedding you’re having. A large ceremony with several rituals, readings, or other cultural elements will take much longer than a standard secular ceremony, so your ceremony schedule could be anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour. Plan accordingly depending on your unique ceremony. \n\n__45 minutes: Family photos__\n\nTypically, couples schedule time directly after the ceremony to capture photos with both partners’ families. While you want to schedule enough time to get all the shots you want, you don’t want to keep your guests waiting too long before the reception officially starts. Be sure to plan with your photographer ahead of time to have a list of every shot you’ll need in order to stay on task and move quickly when the time comes. \n\n__45 minutes: Cocktail hour__\n\nMany couples plan a cocktail hour to entertain guests while family photos are being taken. This is an important transition period between the ceremony and reception, and getting the timing right is crucial to serving your guests while they wait. Touch base with relevant vendors like the band or DJ and the bartender to ensure everything is ready to go as soon as guests enter once the ceremony has ended. \n\n__15 minutes: Reception begins, newlywed entrance, and first dance__\n\nOnce family photos are wrapped up and cocktail hour comes to a close, it’s time to kick off the reception with your grand entrance as newlyweds. Following the entrance of your wedding party, you and your partner will be announced as officially married while you make your way into the reception area. \n\nIn many cases, your first dance will immediately follow your grand entrance. Alternatively, you can wait until after the first course of the meal has been served. \n\n__40 minutes: Dinner or first course is served__\n\nAfter you’ve finished your first dance, everyone will take their seats for dinner. If you’re serving multiple courses, your first course is served at this time. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Welcome toasts__ \nTraditionally, the hosts will offer a welcome speech while the first course is served. Whether you and your partner want to take over the microphone to thank your guests for coming or you have your parents address the group, this is a great time to formally welcome your guests and lean into the rest of the evening. \n\n__40 minutes:__ __Main course is served__\n\nOnce the first course is complete, move on to the second. \n\n__15 minutes:__ __Wedding party speeches__\n\nScheduling your [wedding party speeches](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-maid-of-honor-speech) while your guests are still seated and finishing up their meals is a logical transition, especially since this might be the last time all your guests are seated at once. The order of speeches is up to you, along with who will be making the speeches. Traditionally, the best man (or woman) takes the stage first, followed by the maid (or man) of honor. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Parent dances__\n\nOnce dinner and speeches are complete, it’s time for parent dances. While they might be brief, both are special moments that many parents cherish as their kids transition into marriage. \n\n__1-2 hours:__ __Party time__\n\nAfter parent dances are finished, it’s time to keep the party going and hit the dance floor. It makes sense to segue directly into inviting guests onto the dance floor as soon as parent dances conclude. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Cake cutting__\n\nAfter about an hour of dancing, set aside a few minutes to cut your wedding cake. You can make this a special ceremony for guests to see, or you can do it while guests are still dancing—whatever you prefer. Once the cake has been cut, guests can choose to head back to their seats for dessert or continue dancing. \n\n__15 minutes: Wedding exit__\n\nWhen it’s time to depart, make sure your wedding exit song is cued up for your departure. Make sure any fun favors like sparklers are arranged for guests to grab, and designate someone to show people where to line up before you and your partner make your getaway. \n\n## Standard Wedding Weekend Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Wedding, and Brunch\n\nThe following wedding weekend timeline is one of the most common—a Friday night rehearsal dinner, Saturday night wedding, and a Sunday [brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/brunch-wedding) the morning after. Of course, this standard schedule can be tweaked any way you like, whether you’d prefer a Friday night happy hour over brunch or something else entirely. Work with your wedding planner or day-of coordinator to hammer out the specifics, but this sample wedding day timeline is a helpful starting point. \n\nNote that the schedule below assumes that the ceremony and reception are being held at the same venue, and the couple and their wedding parties will be getting ready at off-site locations (like a hotel or Airbnb) before traveling to the wedding venue. \n\n### Friday: Rehearsal Dinner \n- 5:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins \n- 6:30 p.m. Rehearsal ends\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 10:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends\n\n### Saturday: Wedding Day\n- 9:00 a.m. Beauty professionals arrive on-site\n- 10:00 a.m. Vendors arrive at venue for setup\n- 11:00 a.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Photographer arrives on-site, begins shooting getting-ready photos\n- 2:00 p.m. Bride and wedding party get dressed\n- 2:30 p.m. First look photos \n- 3:00 p.m. All wedding parties travel to wedding venue\n- 3:30 p.m. Wedding party photos \n- 4:30 p.m. Ceremony musicians arrive and begin pre-ceremony music \n- 4:30 p.m. Guests begin to arrive\n- 5:00 p.m. Ceremony starts/DJ or reception band arrives on-site\n- 6:00 p.m. Ceremony ends/cocktail hour begins\n- 6:00 p.m. Family portraits directly after ceremony\n- 7:00 p.m. Cocktail hour ends/guests invited to reception \n- 7:15 p.m. Newlyweds enter reception, leading into first dance\n- 7:30 p.m. First course is served \n- 7:45 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 8:00 p.m. First course is cleared and main course is served\n- 8:30 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 9:00 p.m. Parent dances\n- 9:15 p.m. All guests are invited to dance floor \n- 10:00 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 10:55 p.m. Last song\n- 11:00 p.m. Newlyweds make exit/guests depart \n- 12:00 a.m. Vendor breakdown complete\n### Sunday: Morning-After Brunch\n- 11:00 a.m. Brunch starts\n- 1:00 p.m. Brunch ends\n\n## Afternoon Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner and Wedding \n\nIf you’re holding your wedding in the early afternoon, keep in mind that things will move more quickly on the morning of your wedding. Expect to adjust your morning-of schedule accordingly to ensure you have plenty of time, and consider handling any details you can the day before to avoid feeling rushed. \n\n### Friday: Rehearsal dinner \n- 5:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins\n- 6:30 p.m. Rehearsal ends\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends \n### Saturday: Wedding Day\n- 7:00 a.m. Beauty professionals arrive on-site\n- 8:00 a.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 8:00 a.m. Vendors arrive on-site for setup\n- 9:00 a.m. Photographer arrives, begins shooting getting-ready photos \n- 9:30 a.m. Bride and wedding party get dressed \n- 10:00 a.m. Wedding party photos\n- 11:00 a.m. First look photos\n- 11:30 a.m. All travel to venue\n- 12:00 p.m. Ceremony musicians arrive and begin pre-ceremony music \n- 12:30 p.m. Guests begin to arrive\n- 1:00 p.m. Ceremony starts/DJ or reception band arrives on-site\n- 2:00 p.m. Ceremony ends/cocktail hour begins\n- 2:00 p.m. Family portraits directly after ceremony\n- 2:45 p.m. Cocktail hour ends/reception begins\n- 3:00 p.m. Newlywed entrance and first dance \n- 3:15 p.m. First course is served\n- 3:15 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 3:30 p.m. First course is cleared and second course is served\n- 4:00 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 4:30 p.m. Parent dances\n- 5:00 p.m. All guests are invited to dance floor \n- 5:30 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 7:00 p.m. Dancing continues\n- 9:00 p.m. Last song\n- 9:30 p.m. Newlyweds make exit/guests depart \n- 10:30 p.m. Vendor breakdown complete\n\n## Micro Wedding Timeline: Ceremony and Brief Reception\n\nA [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) is an intimate affair consisting of no more than 50 of your nearest and dearest family and friends. This type of ceremony is like a bite-sized version of a traditional wedding with 100+ people, and tends to be more casual and relaxed. However, that doesn’t mean a timeline isn’t needed! \n\n### Saturday: Wedding Ceremony and Reception\n- 11:00 a.m. Both wedding parties begin getting ready/hair and makeup arrives on-site (if hired)\n- 1:00 p.m. Bride and wedding party finish getting ready/bride gets dressed\n- 1:30 p.m. Wedding party photos (if there is a wedding party)\n- 2:00 p.m. Bride and groom arrive at first look location\n- 2:30 p.m. First look photos\n- 4:00 p.m. All arrive at ceremony site\n- 4:30 p.m. Ceremony begins\n- 5:30 p.m. Ceremony ends/family photos directly after ceremony\n- 6:00 p.m. Sunset portraits \n- 6:30 p.m. Reception begins/newlywed entrance and first dance\n- 7:00 p.m. Dinner and dessert is served \n- 8:00 p.m. Dancing\n- 10:00 p.m. Last song\n- 10:30 p.m. Newlyweds exit\n\n## Destination Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony, and Reception\n\n\nA destination wedding weekend means plenty of time to play, relax, and take in the destination with your loved ones. Many couples choose to throw their guests a welcome party upon arrival, followed by a day of relaxation and enjoying the resort the day before the wedding. However, this all depends on your schedule and how many days you plan to stay, and what you choose to include is ultimately up to you!\n\nIf you’re getting married in a tropical destination, crafting your wedding day timeline usually hinges on sunset time—not only to capture those romantic photos, but also because shooting photos any earlier than sunset tends to mean extra hot temperatures. Find out what time the sun will set on your wedding day at your destination and go from there. \n\n### Thursday: Guest Arrival and Welcome Party \n- 1:00-4:00 p.m. Guests arrive at resort and transport from the airport \n- 5:00 p.m. All guests have arrived and settled in\n- 6:00 p.m. Wedding welcome party begins\n- 7:00 p.m. Dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Dinner ends\n### Friday: Relaxation Day and Rehearsal \n- 10:00 a.m. Breakfast \n- 11:30a.m.-2:00 p.m. Spa treatments\n- 2:00-5:00 p.m. Relaxation/free time \n- 6:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal ends \n- 7:15 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends \n### Saturday: Wedding Day \n- 9:00 a.m. Breakfast \n- 12:00 p.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Photographer arrives, begins shooting getting-ready photos\n- 2:00 p.m. Wedding party photos \n- 3:00 p.m. First look photos \n- 4:00 p.m. Freshen up before ceremony begins\n- 5:00 p.m. Ceremony begins (ideally 1.5-2 hours before sunset) \n- 5:30 p.m. Ceremony ends/group photos directly after ceremony\n- 6:00 p.m. Newlywed sunset photos \n- 6:30 p.m. Reception begins/dinner is served \n- 7:00 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 7:30 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 8:00 p.m. Parent dances \n- 8:30 p.m. Dancing\n- 9:00 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 10:00p.m.-12:00 a.m. Party continues \n- 12:00 a.m. Vendor breakdown \n### Sunday: Farewell Brunch and Honeymoon Stay\n- 10:00 a.m. Brunch begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Brunch ends\n- 2:00 p.m. Couple remains for honeymoon stay, guests depart \n\nCreating an hour-by-hour wedding weekend timeline might feel daunting, but trust us—you’ll be so glad you did when the big day finally arrives. It’s a surefire way to ensure things go as smoothly as possible amid the hustle and bustle of a jam-packed wedding weekend, and minimizes the chance of having to deal with any [last-minute emergencies](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-does-wedding-hair-and-makeup-usually-take)—or at least makes them less stressful to handle. Plus, your [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) will thank you for the organization! \n\nFor a seamless wedding weekend, download these editible printable timelines to keep everything in one place. Fill in the wedding party timeline and pass them out to all the members in your wedding party so everyone stays organized, and use the wedding weekend timeline to plan your unqiue day by the hour. \n\n\n[![wedding-party-timeline-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5HbawPSJtxLstgqQpPpGGt/c58add603e464ca0522adacaedcf2800/wedding-party-timeline-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6LcygIpjZkfogLXH65oFna/1ee1787117fb87bd68c12e76a21b64b5/wedding-party-timeline__1_.pdf)\n\n[![wedding-weekend-timeline-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5qOl12xQZgSzY7lqZwMzL1/1dab2eff282b8f9d4a3035e2bcb5b4d7/wedding-weekend-timeline-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/crOEq84DuXrlrfDkaUk8z/d9c118aacc24be135a71aafe49622075/wedding-weekend-schedule.pdf)\n\nExecuting your wedding day definitely requires some fine-tuning and attention to detail, but it’s more than worth it after seeing your [dream wedding come to life](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board). Happy planning! \n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:45.632Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"gender-neutral-terms-to-use-wedding-planning","title":"Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them","excerpt":"Switching out traditionally gendered terms can actually be a fun and validating part of wedding planning! From save the dates to seating charts, here are all the gender-neutral terms and tips you can use at every stage of the planning process.","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2022-06-09T17:26:08.995Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43Ro8DbmZcNLR92K964KOs/a03ac4abfed7b445c5d563ef721554a5/EA_Romantic_Winter_Wedding_at_The_Gardens_at_Viola-s.png","altText":"Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them"},"heroCredit":"Frankely Photography","body":"Gendered language has long been a part of the wedding world. And while words like bride and groom might feel synonymous with “I dos,” that doesn’t mean gendered wedding terms work for every couple or celebration. The truth is there are a lot of reasons someone might want to nix the binary and instead, opt for gender-neutral language on their big day. \n\nBefore you decide whether or not non-gendered language feels good for your day, though, it’s important to unpack what “[gender-neutral](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/androgynous-wedding-attire)” really means. According to social worker and LGBTQIA+ educator, [Zoe Stoller](https://www.instagram.com/ZoeStoller/) (she/they), the definition and ideal usage are pretty situational, but when it comes to weddings (and other [traditionally gendered events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones)), it’s simply about “removing the typical gender roles and creating a wedding space that’s more inherently inclusive to people of all identities, experiences, and needs.”\n\nTo clear up any confusion and inspire couples saying “I do,” we’re outlining everything you need to know about non-binary language and detailing gender-neutral terms you can use throughout your wedding planning journey and the forever that follows. \n\n## Why Would Engaged Couples Use Gender-Neutral Language?\n\nOne of the main reasons some people — especially those who are non-binary — prefer gender-neutral language is because they feel uncomfortable or unseen when using the gendered terms commonly associated with weddings. “It might not feel affirming to their gender, which is opposite to the goal of your wedding day, which is supposed to make you feel uplifted and affirmed and loved,” Stoller explains. \n\nWhile not every couple will want to use gender-neutral language — which Stoller stresses is completely fine — it can be affirming for many people, especially those who don't identify as a man or a woman. Beyond that, though, many ally couples whose genders do fall under the binary umbrella prefer to adopt neutral language to help normalize its usage. This is important not only for inclusion, but for creating a safer space in the wedding industry and beyond. \n\n“Currently, if people use gender-neutral terms such as ‘spouse,’ many people make assumptions that the person is queer,” Stoller says. “Queer people might be hesitant to use certain language or reveal certain information out of fear that it will ‘out’ or ‘expose’ them, which they might not want.”\n\n__If non-gendered language becomes more commonly used by all couples, it makes the neutral terms safer and more inclusive for non-binary couples to use as well.__ “This is one of the key roles of allies — being able to normalize language and experiences and help make LGBTQ+ people feel less excluded or ostracized,” notes Stoller. \n\n![ Romantic Celebration at The Sinclair Baltimore MFields Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6rmXuCfe3ib4jKLrey8BtQ/3cf3625feeeb891934a235d96853616f/23d7da1f-d2c2-4c51-b644-9874238ee23e.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // MFields Photography\n\n## Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms\n\nWhile you might not have really thought of it, language is a pretty major part of a wedding. And for days that are supposed to be affirming, feeling misrepresented or misgendered on your special day can feel rightfully devastating. That’s why Stoller says it’s “vital” to select your preferred language if you’re saying “I do,” or adhering to someone’s chosen terms if you’re celebrating a happy couple. If not, it can “cause them dysphoria or make them feel invalidated,” which is the last thing anyone should have to experience, especially on their wedding day. \n\nThe good news is, there are tons of gender-neutral wedding terms out there to use at all stages of the wedding planning process. And switching out those traditionally gendered terms is not only easy but can actually be a fun and validating part of the wedding planning process. \n\n__Below are a few gender-neutral terms couples or guests can use leading up to the special day and beyond:__ \n\n- __Nearlywed(s):__ term that can be used to describe the engaged couple or a singular person in the couple before they say “I do.”\n- __Newlywed(s):__ You’re technically a newlywed for the first year after marriage, so enjoy using this romantic, non-gendered term to describe your coupleship after saying “I do.” \n- __Marrier(s):__ This joyful word means either the person doing the marrying (like the officiant) or one of the people getting married (or both people, if used in the plural form). We love how it encapsulates the excitement of the milestone without being gendered!\n- __Partner(s):__ A safe, grounding term for any couple, married or not. \n- __Significant Other(s):__ Another all-inclusive term that can be used to describe a person or a couple, whether married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Spouse(s):__ Instead of “husband” or “wife,” this term implies that the person (or people, if you’re using it to describe a couple) is married. \n- __Future Spouse:__ This term describes one half of an engaged couple. \n- __To-Be-Wed(s):__ Similar to nearlyweds, this gender-neutral term describes an engaged couple before their wedding. \n- __Couple:__ A way to describe two people in a relationship regardless of whether or not they’re married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Fiance:__ While this term *can* be gendered (\"fiancee\" refers to a betrothed woman), the general spelling can be a gender-neutral term when written or spoken. It’s similar to saying “partner” but in this case, the partner is someone you’re engaged to. \n- __Broom/Gride__: Modern combinations of “bride” and “groom” that have been recently gaining traction. These terms can be used to describe a member of the engaged couple who is gender-fluid or non-binary. \n- __Other-Half/Better-Half:__ The sweet, non-gendered term can be used to describe your partner whether you’re dating, engaged, newlyweds, or have been together for years. \n- __Soulmate(s):__ Another tender way to describe your partner (or your coupleship, when used in the plural) no matter your marital status. \n- __Bachelorx:__ The non-gender version of “bachelor” or “bachelorette.” Use the term to describe the person or the party!\n- __Best Person/Person of Honor__: There’s no need to have the titles of “best man” or “maid of honor” if that doesn’t adhere to your or your attendants’ gender identities. Best Person or Person of Honor is another way to describe the head person on either side of the wedding party. \n- __Mate of Honor:__ Another way to acknowledge the head member of either side of the wedding party, a “Mate of Honor” is used to acknowledge your friendship without gendering the individual. \n- __Bridesmates/Groomsmates:__ If the to-be-wed couple is binary but they have non-binary members or multiple genders on either side of their wedding party, “bridesmates” instead of “bridesmaids” and “groomsmates” instead of “groomsmen is a nice change from the traditionally less inclusive terms. \n- __Ring Bearer:__ The attendant — traditionally a child — who carries the rings down the aisle. This traditional term is non-gendered, so it can apply to anyone!\n- __Wedding Party:__ Bridal party, bridesmaids, and groomsmen are all gendered, so instead, use the term “wedding party” to describe the people who stand by your side on the special day. \n- __Attendants:__ A non-gender specific way to describe members of the wedding party. \n- __Flower Person/Pal/Child:__ A non-gendered take on the traditional “flower girl” title. The role is typically a child who either carries or tosses flowers down the aisle during the processional. \n- __Mx.:__ If you want to [use honorifics](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations)—formal titles such as Mr. and Mrs—for place cards or your own paper goods, “Mx” is a popular, gender-neutral, formal title. \n- __[Your Names]:__ If none of the terms feel right, or if you’re a guest and unsure, simply using the couples’ names is always an acceptable option!\n\n## How to Use Gender-Neutral Terms when Wedding Planning\n\nNot only are there many gender-neutral wedding terms to choose from, but there are also plenty of opportunities to use your chosen terms as well! “This can be as simple as the labels that are used in reference to the couple getting married (which appear in various settings), to how the marrying couple is introduced to the public day-of,” Stoller explains. \n\n__If you’re a guest trying to determine how to address the new couple, check their wedding website for clues or direction. If it’s unclear, respectfully ask!__ The nearlyweds will appreciate you taking the time to honor their identities and use their preferred language/terms.\n\n### Save the Dates\n\nGendered language isn’t typically used on save-the-dates. Instead, the format usually includes the to-be-weds’ names, city of the wedding, date, and website information. If you’re looking to switch up the typically [save-the-date format](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates) (which we support!) some of the best non-gendered terms to use are:\n\n- Nearlyweds\n- To-be-weds\n- Marriers\n- Soulmates\n- Fiances\n\nJust make sure to still include your names so guests know who’s getting married!\n\n### Invitations\n\nTraditional [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony) don’t typically include gendered language either, and instead, list the names of the couple, the name(s) of the host(s), the location, the time of the event, and the wedding website URL. [Wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower) invitations, however, are a place where gendered language can be heavy. Instead of the typically binary like “bride” or “groom,” here are a few of our favorite non-gendered invite/party terms:\n\n- Nearlywed\n- Marrier\n- To-be-wed\n- Gride/Broom\n- Future Spouse\n- Bachelorx\n\n### Wedding Website\n\nConsider your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) the place to make your language choices crystal clear. For some couples, this means simply using honorifics like “Mx.” or gride and broom instead of bride and groom. \n\nFor other couples, it means making a special note on the [website or having a Q&A section](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-wedding-website) to clear up any confusion. It might seem in-your-face, but your guests will appreciate the transparency—they’re there to celebrate you exactly as you desire, after all, so make your preferred pronouns and/or language clear. Pick and choose whichever terms feel right for your day, your bond, and your event. Some of the most common include:\n\n- To-be-weds\n- Nearlyweds\n- Soon-to-be-newlyweds or Almost Newlyweds\n- Marriers\n- Gride and Broom\n- Future Spouse(s)\n- [Your names]\n- Future Mx. and Mx. [insert future last name if you’re going to share a family name]\n\n### Seating Charts/Placecards\n\nWhen working on your [seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), there’s no need to use pronouns if you’re just trying to figure out where people should go for personal use. Just their names work best here. But when it comes time to make your [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-place-cards-for-your-wedding) or you’re putting your seating chart (or chart information) on a sign to help direct guests, honorifics—which are often gendered—are traditional. That doesn’t mean titles are required, though. Simply using guests’ full names (or first initial with last name) is a fantastic option. \n\nIf you love the idea of honorifics, make sure everyone gets one—don’t just skip over someone because you don’t know how they identify. Be sure to connect with guests regarding their preferred pronouns first since you should never misgender someone. An easy way to do this is to request guests' pronouns with their RSVPs, just like you would food preferences and song requests. \n\nHere are some good seating chart/place card options:\n\n- For all guests: [Full Name]\n- For all guests: First Initial + Last Name]\n- For all guests: Honorifics such as Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx. (a gender-neutral honorific), and Dr. \n\n### Day of Paper \n\nPamphlets, napkins, and notes for your VIPs are a few ways you might want to use a wedding-related gender-neutral term at your wedding. And if you’re a guest, using a sweet, gender-neutral wedding term on your card — whether physical or virtual — is a nice touch to commemorate the special day. Below are a few non-gendered terms we love for paper goods:\n\n- Newlyweds\n- Gride and Broom\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Spouse(s)\n- The Happy Couple\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n\n### Signage\n\nFrom venue directions to signs with your [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag) or signature drinks, there are plenty of opportunities to use some special, gender-neutral wedding terms. While the options are limitless, these are some of the most popular:\n\n- The Newlyweds/Nearlyweds\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n- The Happy Couple\n\nAdditionally, if you’re comfortable, it’s also a good idea to work with your venue to replace gendered signage for restrooms, making them unisex. \n\n![Modern Outdoor Wedding at the Skirball Cultural Center Stephen Tang Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4AIOj8ERvO8C8usyz8cwX/d3272c706707803874d394a2d9966eda/e56db975-acc2-43d8-94a9-42719383b5bb.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Stephen Tang Photo\n\n## Tips for Communicating the Use of Gender-Neutral Language\n\nUnfortunately, since gender-neutral language hasn’t been used in the mainstream wedding industry for as long as binary language, some of your guests and vendors might not be as accustomed to the tweaks. That’s why Stoller says it’s a good idea to open up the lines of communication to outline your preferred terms and explain the importance of using them leading up to and the big day.\n\nHere’s how to ensure everyone’s on the same page, language-wise, before your wedding: \n\n## To Your Guests\n\n__One major perk about wedding planning is that there are ample opportunities to inform your guests of your language preferences.__ First, you can make your gender-neutral term choices clear via invitations and written stationery, Stoller explains. “Including someone’s pronouns, like Mx., or including the specific gender-neutral labels you’re using in your wedding — like “nearlyweds” instead of “bride and groom” — is a fantastic first step. You can even make some signs for your venue that say “here come the broom/gride” or “Mx. and Mx. (last name)” to make your preferences even clearer. When these terms are reinforced via vendors and signage, most guests will catch on. \n\nThat said, it can also be a good idea to make your chosen language explicitly stated on [your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website). This can be done with a simple sentence or paragraph, or if you really want to inform, you could have a whole section about gender-neutral language usage. While it’s not your job to educate, some guests might enjoy the opportunity to learn more. Either way, starting your preferred language clearly takes any guesswork out for guests so they can comfortably use celebratory terms that you feel good about. \n\n__If there are any guests you’re worried either won’t understand or won’t respect your preferred language, consider reaching out to them individually. You can do this personally if you're comfortable, but if not, enlist a wedding party member or more receptive relative to have that conversation.__ Ultimately, you’re never under any obligation to do anything that makes you feel unsafe, and you're allowed to disinvite or cut off anyone who doesn’t support your pronouns and/or chosen language.\n\n### To Your Vendors\n\nWhen it comes to your vendors, Stoller advises sharing your preferred language with them ASAP. This helps ensure they use the correct language when referring to you from the get-go at all stages and in all aspects of the wedding planning process. “You can do this by directly emailing or sharing your preferred language in conversation, but I recommend being direct with your needs in order to make sure they are met,” they explain. \n\n__You can also search for [LGBTQIA+ vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist) when you’re in the initial planning stages to ensure your wedding team is well versed in all things neutral language and proud weddings.__ Zola is a great resource for non-binary couples looking for LGBTQIA+ and ally vendors. That’s because every vendor in Zola’s marketplace is required to agree to a [“Vendor Pledge.”](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors/pledge) This states that the vendor “respects every couple’s right to marry” and will treat every couple equally “regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, race, ethnicity, religion, or budget.”\n\nUltimately, choosing to use gender-neutral terms for your wedding celebration is a very personal decision, and it doesn’t work for everyone. But that’s what’s so great about evolving terms — it means there are options that’ll ensure you feel seen at all life stages. “Everyone gets to use whatever language feels most affirming to them on their special day and beyond,” Stoller says. So whether that means the bride or the broom is walking down the aisle, embrace your chosen terms to help usher in the next authentic, validating, and comfort-filled season of your love story.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_SaveTheDates"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know to find values-based wedding vendors.","title":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values","slug":"how-to-find-wedding-vendors-who-align-with-your-values","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ho80jYkfxvlen4cZhEeYI/d0f1fdb7a284321b849e3acc232b699a/01.jpeg","altText":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101","slug":"lgbt-wedding-invitations-101","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23DI7PxNMPASe1xfEZjUjx/f7b1b8bc53e8f7d264283790004e0524/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Save the Dates","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:38.536Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need","title":"The Small Wedding Checklist You Need","excerpt":"There are many benefits to having a small wedding. To get you started, here's our wedding planning checklist and things to consider.","publishedAt":"2021-02-03T17:33:06.699Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AVuIm2AbEIiZ5LPNGXsBQ/aaef55a70fa6b17967732410314700a6/Hero_Zola__24_.jpg","altText":"Small Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Consider your [potential wedding guests list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#list) and who makes the most sense for your intimate wedding.\n- [Wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [catering](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [and activities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue) open up with a smaller guest list. Your expenses may shrink, too, making it so that you stay within your wedding budget still.","body":"There are plenty of benefits for [planning a small wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding). Rather than getting lost in a [myriad of wedding details](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) during the planning process, having fewer guests narrows the focus and helps to create a more intimate environment. In turn, you’re able to direct more energy into celebrating your love and impending partnership. Beyond that, there are other aspects such as saving money with fewer guests to spend on or opening up possibilities such as making a destination wedding and other activities more feasible to stage. Having a simple wedding with fewer guests also makes for a more relaxed wedding planning timeline—and a more stress-free planning process overall. (No need for a wedding planner here!)\n\nIf you’re planning something small and simple for your big day, we’ve created a checklist of important considerations and wedding ideas you’ll want to keep in mind so you can have the ultimate wedding—no matter how many (or few!) guests you ultimately decide to have:\n\n### 1. Guest List Criteria \n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5K2noT8FAnrYdU19Gdh0SZ/3b4f7bb11675a8bfa5a2acb512197a7a/inline_danielle_lentz_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Danielle Lentz Photography\n\nDefining who is significant enough to cut to receive a wedding invitation is key to narrowing down your small wedding guest list. Whether they play an important role specifically to you as the bride and/or groom, narrowing the list isn’t necessarily about exclusivity. It’s about seeking to narrow the focus and magnify those within your life—as an individual or as a couple—who have been key to you in reaching this milestone, whether that be through personal growth and development, support, witness to key events, or whatever else.\n\nSo, before you get too far into wedding planning, narrow down which friends and family members you want to invite and finalize your guest count; that way, you know who to direct towards your wedding website, what RSVPs to expect, and where to put people on your wedding chart.\n\n### 2. Wedding Style\nYour wedding style is the overall look and feel you want to capture at your wedding. And while it will, of course, play a large part in your decor and attire, it will also dictate pretty much every other part of the wedding planning process—from what reception venue to choose to what stylist and makeup artist you want to help you get ready on your big day, what florist you want to do your wedding flowers to wear to host the rehearsal dinner, what playlist you want your DJ to rock on the dance floor to what kind of wedding favors you want to give your guests.\n\nEven though you’re having a small, simple wedding, you still want it to look and feel cohesive—and uniquely you. So, choose your wedding style from the get-go. For example, do you want to go with a classic, romantic wedding theme—or does something more modern feel like a better fit? Do you want to go big and bold—or do you want your style to feel more subtle and understated? \n\nOnce you’ve defined your wedding style, you can use it to dictate all of the rest of your wedding planning choices—from what dresses you want your bridesmaids and flower girls to wear to what kinds of linens you want on your reception tables.\n\n### 3. Venue \nRather than needing a large hall or similar wedding venue that can accommodate a large crowd of 100 or more, a smaller wedding opens up the possibilities of where your ceremony and festivities can take place. Suddenly, a backyard wedding is in play because it can fit your entire guest list without overcrowding. A low-impact outdoor wedding is now possible too and packing out won’t be such a burden with a smaller wedding party. Suddenly, a destination wedding becomes more feasible with fewer guests.\n\nWith a __[wedding venue checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)__, you can choose the location based on what fits your vibe, rather than have it primarily be driven by the numbers game of accommodating a larger crowd. Alternatively, you can still go big in terms of venue size. Perhaps, fill it however you see fit, playing with a small number of guests in an open space to create an atmosphere more akin to a contemporary art installation. \n\n### 4. Picking Out The Outfits\nAt a [small, intimate wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-small-intimate-wedding) (or really, at any wedding!), all eyes are on the happy couple. It’s your own wedding; you deserve to look your best! As such, choosing your wedding attire is a hugely important step in the wedding planning process.\n\nIf you’re a bride, you’ll need to choose a wedding dress, wedding shoes, and any accessories, like a veil and wedding jewelry. Choose a dress that not only makes you feel amazing, but is in line with your overall wedding style (for example, if you’re having a casual backyard wedding, you wouldn’t want to get a dress that’s overly formal.) And keep in mind that you’ll need to leave enough time for your dress to be tailored; ideally, you’ll want to start looking for a dress at least six months before your special day.\n\nIf you’re a groom, you’ll need to look for a tux, a wedding suit, or another look that fits in line with your wedding style (for example, if you’re having a laid-back beach wedding, you might wear a linen shirt and slacks). Generally, grooms have more wiggle room in terms of shopping time—but don’t leave the task of finding your wedding outfit to the last minute. Give yourself at least a few months to lock in the perfect look (and get that look tailored, if needed). \n\nIf you’re having a bridal party, you’ll also want to lock in looks for the bridesmaids and groomsmen well before the wedding—ideally you’ll let them know what they need to wear at least a few months before the big day. That way, they have time to find their clothing, buy or rent the necessary items, and get them fitted and/or tailored as necessary.\n\n### Catering\nSimilar to venue choice, a smaller guest list often opens up dining options. Places that might not have the capacity to cater to a large wedding may now be available. Similarly, approaching favorite restaurants that don’t traditionally offer event catering may now be open to your smaller gathering.\n\nAnother benefit to a smaller wedding plan is that you’ll be paying for fewer people, thus fewer plates. This may enable you to save money in the budget overall or to splurge elsewhere. It also may mean that you can go gourmet since you’ll be spreading your wedding budget among fewer people, and you can opt for spendier catering than if you were feeding 100 people. (Just make sure to book a caterer who does tastings; that way, you can try the food before your wedding—and make sure it’s the right fit for you, your partner, and your guests.)\n\n### 6. Activities\nCurating an experience for your guests to participate in is more feasible with fewer guests. For example, a group rafting outing suddenly becomes more tenable when you’re able to fit the entire guest list on a flotilla of only three rafts. Planning for an on-the-go lunch is suddenly easier and more transportable, too. Perhaps a pre-wedding bonfire? A smaller guest list means you can see all of their faces around the flame of the campfire.\n\nWhereas the bachelorette party and bachelor parties tend to be the only added, experiential component of a wedding other than the wedding ceremony and wedding reception itself, with a smaller guest list, you can create an experience all of your wedding guests can enjoy!\n\n### 7. Accommodation\nWill you have guests coming from out of town? Will your guests all be sequestered together at the destination of your choosing? With fewer guests, wedding tasks such as arranging accommodation becomes less of a headache. Maybe you’re having a getaway wedding, which requires your guests to travel out of town to attend. Whether or not you’re making reservations on behalf of your guests or if they’re handling them individually, trying to find enough availability is less of a hassle if there are fewer people that need bookings for your wedding date. Alternatively, it might make sense to rent out the entirety of a boutique hotel for all guests to stay at if your numbers are low enough. Having everyone in semi-communal housing during the event can help extend the experience to something more all-encompassing than merely a wedding ceremony, creating further opportunities for guests to bond.\n\n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IsJ0ttxh1pf21Ae3xHhIc/2315c286d7c1cad577a662c1f96535b4/inline_little_but_fierce_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Little But Fierce Photography\n\nPlanning a small wedding can open up bigger possibilities that would otherwise be off the table with larger numbers. Lean into the aspect of it being small, and craft a special experience that allows you to highlight the best aspects of your relationship and share them with those closest to you.\n\n*Planning a more elaborate affair—or need more support and structure on your wedding planning journey?* *Make sure to check out [Zola’s ultimate wedding planning checklist and timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)!*\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingChecklist"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"type":"articlePage"}],"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:17.433Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},"topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101","description":"Your complete guide to wedding planning from start to finish. Get practical advice and insider tips for planning your dream wedding from staying within your budget to creating your gift registry to all the little details in between saying \"Yes!\" and \"I do\". Find answers to all your wedding planning questions here.","subtopics":[{"featuredArticles":[],"name":"Real weddings","slug":"real-weddings","description":"Learn from real couples as they break down exactly how they planned and budgeted for their weddings. Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. Start by checking out our full suite of free wedding planning tools.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2025-04-16T19:35:56.053Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"how-to-set-your-wedding-budget","title":"How to Set Your Wedding Budget Step by Step","excerpt":"While it may not be the most exciting item on your to-do list, setting your wedding budget is essential. We’ll break down the typical expenses, guide you through the entire process from start to finish, and tell you where you can save money. ","author":"Monica Mercuri and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thousands of couples have incredible weddings every year without sacrificing on style or going over budget, and you can do it too. 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It gives you a chance to reminisce about your relationship journey and gives you yet another reason to be excited for your wedding ceremony and celebration. While your website will include essential wedding details about your venue, dress code, and information about the spouses-to-be, it also provides the perfect opportunity to add a custom touch. \n\nThat's why including a beautiful story section about how the two of you met is highly recommended. It’s one of the most popular parts of a [wedding site](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-create-a-personalized-wedding-website) and in wedding planning overall. Your guests and member in your wedding party want to read it, so why not try to make it enjoyable and engaging for them?\n\nA common way to approach writing an ‘about us’ story is to write the story of how you met from your point of view. This approach helps relatives and friends from both sides who may not know you as a couple or may have met your significant other only a few times more insight into your relationship.\n\nHowever, some couples opt out of telling the story of how they met. Maybe your friends and family already know the details of your love story. Maybe you’re childhood sweethearts and everyone who is attending your wedding has watched your relationship grow. You can still have an about us story and skip over the __[wedding website bios](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-lovely-wedding-website-bio-examples)__. \n\nFor example, people want to know the story of the proposal. It’s probably the first question people ask when they learn about your engagement. You can share this moment instead of, or in addition to, a how we met story. Other ideas include sharing a memorable date or milestone that you’ve experienced as a couple. Give information about each of your personalities and what you love about each other. It's like a trip down memory lane. \n\nYou could also talk about your love for each other and how you feel about getting married. [The best wedding website builders](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website) will also offer an FAQs section where you can share some of the nitty gritty details, such as logistics and transportation, or arrangements for special dietary or mobility restrictions, etc. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## “Our story” examples for your wedding website \n\nWhen coming up with your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)’s about us, think of a favorite moment from your relationship and share it with your loved ones. Here are five [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) examples inspired by Hollywood love stories to spark your creativity and inspiration for how to write your own story.\n\n### 1. Tell how you met\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66I55zzM7AsNUlU1eTrCP/9b19086ab0fab9f9050c88238457b162/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_1.jpg)\n\n*\"We were introduced through Sally’s college friend. We were both moving to New York (separately) from Chicago after graduation and Harry sat shotgun as Sally drove. We talked a lot on that road trip but parted ways as soon as we arrived in the city.\"* \n\n*\"Throughout the years, though, we’d run into each other randomly and eventually, we started hanging out and became close friends.\"*\n\nThis example follows the classic guideline of answering who, what, where, and when. Fill in the blanks of the questions for yourself and think about who introduced you as a couple, what you were doing when you met, where the first meeting happened, and when you realized that a relationship might be a possibility. Put it all in an easy to read format leading up to your special day.\n\n### 2. Focus on the proposal\n\n![Engagement Session on Wedding Website](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01Suw0MpTVWMCravF9uPix/eeaae557a81bc48f6f7c5dd9000b1f86/Engagement_Session_on_Wedding_Website.jpg)\n\n*\"Michael was leaving on another extended business trip and as his train was pulling away, he rushed to the back and yelled out “Marry me!” to Kimmy who was standing on the platform.\"*\n\n*\"It was exhilarating and spontaneous and we both knew right then that no matter how many miles were between us or however many days we had to be apart. We wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.\"*\n\nWas your proposal a well-planned out affair or a spontaneous moment based on a rush of love and emotions? Let your proposal story be guided by the details of how it happened and the feelings that surrounded it. When writing your proposal story, let it provide a glimpse into your life. This example shows the distance challenges the couple faced and how it worked itself into the actual proposal and setting of a wedding date. Add an engagement photo gallery as pictures do speak louder than words. After all, everyone wants to know how he (or she!) popped the question and see your [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos).\n\n### 3. Share a memorable date or milestone\n\n![Proposal idea recreate first date](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7m6l5Ihxa4tSNWQMnvepSp/26a50652dc21889189b731f01a51372f/proposal-ideas-2.jpg)\n\n*\"We wouldn’t call it a date necessarily. But we started spending a lot of time together when Kevin was assigned to write a story on Jane.\" *\n\n*\"Her always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride tale was intriguing to Kevin’s newspaper and he followed Jane closely as she prepared for the upcoming wedding season, including her sister’s semi-impromptu nuptials.\"* \n\nInject humor when possible or specific details many may not know such as your first date or how you chose your destination wedding. It allows guests to feel like they have personal insight into what makes your love so special and will get everyone geared up for the big day. We know you can't wait to celebrate!\n\n### 4. Show your personalities\n\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1578mqE6kY1YE3xvjVgBNU/35198dd4d8e2945c8680f28e25fdc691/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example.jpg)\n\n*\"Anna has lived in the spotlight her whole life. She likes jet-setting around the world and experiencing the finer things in life. William prefers his own quiet part of the world surrounded by only his closest friends and family. You’ll likely find his nose buried in a book.\" *\n\n*\"At first, our worlds collided serendipitously but not necessarily in a good way. But in the end, a change of pace is exactly what we both needed and we got to a place where we could completely be ourselves together. We found that we balance each other out in all the right ways.\" *\n\nShowing parts of your personality individually also illustrates how you work together as a couple. It gives your wedding party and guests a chance to know more about both of you since the bride’s side may not know too much about the groom’s and vice-versa. It is also a great way for family members and best friends to learn more about you and your special other in this section of your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Reflect on your love for each other\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6y2CjTulVydA5bYsZEdFUe/d413e457fa2a44e8139e224af926cb6c/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_2.jpg)\n\n*Sara: When I met Alex, he seemed like another smooth talker trying to pick me up in a bar. While I must admit his suave demeanor was attractive, it was his sweet and thoughtful side that really drew me in, and the rest is history.*\n\n*Alex: I was immediately awestruck when I first laid my eyes on her but knew I had to be creative to win her over. She was someone special; I could just tell.*\n\nAn about us story can be short and sweet. Speak from the heart from your individual perspectives to keep it authentic and fill in the space by sharing your excitement about getting married. This will get your guests excited, too.\n\n## Tips for writing your own story \nThe about us section is one of the first parts you'll fill out on [your website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Take your time when you create it. Write a few drafts before settling on the final story. Read your words aloud to each other and have fun laughing and reminiscing about fond memories before your wedding ceremony. Keep it to a few short paragraphs and add levity and authenticity when you write it. A few tips to keep in mind as you’re writing are:\n\n- __Tip 1:__ Write it like a casual conversation, not a professional bio. It should read like you’re telling the tale in person to a guest. You want it to feel warm and inviting. Skip writing inside jokes but freely share the humor of a story. Guests want to feel like they have a bit of insider knowledge about the spouses-to-be.\n\n- __Tip 2:__ Don’t overthink it. While most about us stories are about the length of a paragraph, if you want to sum it up in two or three sentences, do as you please. It’s about sharing your story in the way you want guests to receive it.\n\n- __Tip 3:__ Make sure the story flows. If you are each writing from your own perspective, make sure each part is similar in length. You don’t want one of you to extend the writing to several lines while the other person only contributes one or two.\n\nFollowing the Hollywood formula is useful as it answers the questions of who, what, when, where, and how. It also shows how to focus on the important details and select private moments.\n\n![Zola Wedding Website Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7iMxcB3Lsjs2rhBGZsN8Gs/161cd2722cc9508f4576a85c68d593d5/inline_simplyadriphotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Simply Adri Photography\n\n## Let your wedding website design guide your words \n\nChoose from one of hundreds of [wedding website templates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Each will guide you to where and how much you should add to your wedding website’s About Us story. Using templates helps you decide __[what to put on your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-z-list-of-what-to-put-on-your-wedding-website)__. You’re able to preview how it looks on the screen and decide if you want to add or delete words to make it easier to read. The design enhances the story by also reflecting your personalities and style of your upcoming nuptials. \n\nMatch your website to your wedding theme. Whether it’s an elegant evening affair, an afternoon countryside ceremony, or one of the many other aesthetics and locations in between, you’ll find one that sets the tone for your big day. This can also be extended to your RSVP, guest list, wedding registry, and wedding invitations. \n\nPart of creating your wedding website means taking a walk down memory lane while at the same time preparing for the future. It’s a special time so make sure you savor the moment when getting ready for your wedding day!\n\n## Zola, your best wedding website option\n\nWith Zola, you not only get a free [wedding website template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates) but also a unique and customizable one with many features. Not only is there an exhaustive wedding registry to choose from, but the variety of designs and templates to add your personality to your wedding website design is huge. \n\nYou also receive a completion discount for items pending in your wedding registry past your wedding date so go ahead and set up your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) at Zola to see how easy and convenient a platform it is as you plan for your big day.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"}],"cta":{"copy":"Start Your Wedding Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-09-26T01:05:31.856Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding websites","slug":"wedding-websites"},"slug":"how-to-include-your-wedding-website-on-your-invitation","title":"How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation","excerpt":"Wondering how to share your wedding website with guests? Explore etiquette tips for how to share your wedding website on an invitation.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-04T15:29:33.595Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26CncJFSKWLqU3QCUNbXDz/adef7cbc39110ffd3962b155c77cb77a/HERO_Zola_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding website on invitation etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"You [wrote your “how we met” story](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), uploaded your [beautiful engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos), and [created your wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/registry-basics/tips-for-creating-a-wedding-registry). This can only mean one thing: you completed your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Congrats! Crafting a wedding website that communicates all the important details about your wedding day is no easy task. Now that you hit publish, you’re probably wondering when and how you should share your brand-spanking-new site with your wedding guests.\n\nWhile it can be tempting to post a link to your wedding website on your social media accounts right away, we strongly advise against it. Sharing your wedding details with all of your web-based followers and friends often leads to confusion about who is and isn’t invited to your big day. Instead, modern etiquette suggests that you share your website with your guests via your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (and save the dates, if applicable). For more information on how to include your wedding website on your invitation, keep reading. \n\nJust getting started? Check out our step-by-step guide on [how to make a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). \n\n## Why to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nIncluding a link on your invitation is the easiest and most common way to share your website with your guests. Traditionally, the wedding invitation suite includes a few different enclosure cards to relay critical information to guests. While that’s still an option, many modern couples have opted to forego multiple enclosure cards and instead direct guests to their website to learn need-to-know wedding details, such as hotel recommendations and registry information. In addition to communication wedding details, the wedding website may be included on the invitation for the following reasons: \n\n__1. To Collect RSVPs Online__ — Many couples choose to collect online RSVPs rather than have their guests fill out paper response cards. That’s because sites like Zola make it easy to gather RSVPs through your wedding website and [manage the guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) with real-time updates and easy-to-use tracking tools. \n\n__2. To Share Registry Information__ — In the past, registry etiquette dictated that the registry only be shared by word of mouth. The digital age has rendered that rule outdated, and it’s now considered standard to share where you’re registered on your wedding website. Including your website URL on your invite makes it easy for guests to find your registry without hassle. \n\n## How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nNow that we’ve covered *why* to share your wedding website on your invitations, let’s talk about *how* to include your wedding website on your invitation without sacrificing aesthetic appeal or committing an etiquette faux pas. \n\nIn general, when sending out the [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal), guests appreciate having the wedding website information all in one place. Wedding etiquette insists that you don’t include your website on the invitation directly, but if you do choose to share it on the formal invitation, add the website to the bottom of the invitation. Wedding save the dates and enclosure cards are also a great place to share your wedding website with guests. You can do this by either:\n\n- Adding your wedding website URL\n- Adding a QR code\n\nLet's explore these different options for how you can share your wedding website on your invitation.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) \n\n### Save The Dates\nAlthough your [wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are sent out in advance of your invitations, they’re still a part of your invitation suite and the most popular choice for sharing the wedding website URL with guests as quickly as possible. \n\n__Where:__ If you make your save the dates using a pre-made design online, then the template will guide you on where exactly you should list your wedding website link. It varies by design, but in most cases, it’s listed on the back of the save the date or at the bottom of the front side. If you’re working with an invitation designer or making your own, where you place the URL is up to your personal preference. If you opt for a QR code, placing it on the back of your save-the-date would be ideal.\n\n__When:__ Send save the dates 4-6 months before your wedding date. \n\n### The Formal Invitation \nAlthough some wedding experts believe it’s bad decorum to include your wedding website on your invitation, we’re of the opinion that it’s okay if you’re collecting RSVPS through your site in lieu of response cards. Just keep in mind that unless the link serves a purpose other than broadcasting where guests can buy you gifts, that it may be considered poor etiquette to share your wedding website on your invitation. \n\n__Where:__ At the bottom of your invitation. Some wording examples:\n- “For more information, please visit [URL]”\n- “Kindly RSVP by [RSVP deadline] at [URL]”\n\nIf you opt to add a QR code instead, adding it to the back of the invite is best.\n\n__When:__ Send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n### The Enclosure Card(s) \nYour other option is to include your wedding website URL on an enclosure card (an additional piece of your invitation suite used to communicate additional details to your guests). While there are many types of enclosure cards, these three are used to point guests to your website: \n\n- __RSVP Card__ — If guests should RSVP online via your wedding website and you don’t want (or have the space) to include these instructions on your invitation, an option is to include an RSVP card with instructions on where, when, and how guests should accept or decline your invitation online. \n- __Details Card__ — To communicate multiple pieces of information with guests on one card, many couples prefer to enclose a details card with their invite. This card may list your website, travel information, requested attire, and other fine points that your guests should know before the wedding day.\n- __Wedding Website Card__ — A final option is to add a wedding website card to your invitation suite. 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No matter what emotional state you’re in, having a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) is important for staying organized and will give you the peace of mind that all of your bases are covered.\n\nIf you’ve got half the year to plan, here are our top 12 to-dos:\n\n## 1. Research (and Book) Your Beauty Crew\nIt’s time to narrow down your search and secure your hair and makeup team. Don’t hesitate to book a few trials and play around with some styles if you’re still not sure exactly what you want.\n\n## 2. Say Yes to the Dress (or Suit)\nOr whatever you decide to wear, really. When it comes to attire, it’s time to let your personality shine.\n\n## 3. Schedule Tastings\nFrom macarons to cake varieties, you’ll want to make sure your dessert menu is finalized at least five months before your big day. Now is a great time to attend a few tastings and get a feel for exactly what you like.\n\n## 4. Send Save the Dates\nAs soon as you’ve got a venue secured and a guest list in mind, it’s time to send out your save the dates. Be sure to include essential details like the venue, date, and link to your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Book Your Florist\nIt’s time to graduate from fawning over Pinterest bouquets and finally take the big leap. Whether you’ve got a dream florist in mind or are still on the hunt, you’ll want to check this off your list as soon as you can.\n\n## 6. Start Your Registry\nFrom cooking utensils to a new couch, now is the time to start thinking about what might come in handy after the big day. Luckily, Zola’s registry is super straightforward and home to a wealth of inspiration to get you started.\n\n## 7. Pick Out a Videographer\nIf video is on your radar, now is the time to consider booking a pro. Not only is it a great way to capture some additional footage on your big day, but it’s also something you can reflect on for years to come.\n\n## 8. 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With so much coming together from all angles, planning your wedding weekend hour by hour will keep everything in check and minimize stress in the process. \n\nWhile every couple’s wedding timeline is different, familiarizing yourself with how long each wedding activity generally takes is a great starting point for crafting the perfect itinerary. To help, we’ve outlined a sample wedding day timeline with the standard activities most couples will need to account for. Use this as a starting point, then customize it based on the specifics of your own big day. We’ve also included four sample wedding weekend timelines that you can use to build out your own. \n\nWedding Day Timeblocks\n\nStandard Wedding Weekend Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Wedding, and Brunch\n\nAfternoon Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner and Wedding\n\nMicro Wedding Timeline: Ceremony, and Brief Reception\n\nDestination Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony, and Reception\n\nPrintable Wedding Weekend Timelines\n\n## Wedding Day Time Blocks \nBefore creating your own wedding day timeline from scratch, it helps to get an idea of how long each activity typically takes. Below, we’ve broken down the approximate time needed for each part of the wedding day, from when you’ll start getting ready to when your ceremony music begins. Remember that this can all be altered according to your specific wedding plans—it’s simply a helpful guideline for knowing how long each item should take. \n\n\n__3-5 hours:__ __Wedding party starts getting ready__ \n\nStart the morning of your wedding day with plenty of time to get ready before the ceremony. Throw on your matching robes, have a nourishing breakfast, and enjoy the morning with your crew. If you have a larger bridal party, take this into account when it comes to scheduling hair and makeup for each person. \n\n__15 minutes:__ __Bride gets dressed__ \n\nFactoring in a time block for when you’ll put on your wedding dress ensures you aren’t in a rush. Don’t forget things like your shoes, veil, and accessories. \n\n__1 hour:__ __Solo photos__ \n\nIf you’re taking solo portraits, schedule this directly after you and your wedding party have finished getting ready. This might take 30 minutes for some brides, and an hour and a half for others—it all depends on what you want and how many shots you’d like. \n\n__45 minutes: Wedding party photos__ \n\nRound up your crew to capture all of your wedding party shots. This can also include photos with your parents and your partner’s parents if desired. We recommend scheduling at least 45 minutes for these.\n\n__15-30 minutes: First look photos__ \n\nOnce you’ve finished your wedding party photos and solo shots, carve out some time for your first look (if you’ve chosen to have one!). First look photos actually don’t take too long, and 15-30 minutes is usually enough time. \n\n__30 minutes: Travel from getting-ready location to venue__\n\nUnless your getting-ready location is the same as your venue, be sure to schedule in travel time for you and your wedding party to head to the venue. (Keep in mind you might move this time block to directly after you and your crew finish getting ready if you’re taking photos at the venue vs. your getting-ready location.) Be sure to schedule ample time to account for potential traffic delays. \n\n__30 minutes: Guests begin to arrive__ \n\nAt this point in the day, it’s time to start any pre-ceremony music you’ve planned to play as guests begin to arrive. We recommend blocking out around 30 minutes to ensure all guests have arrived and made it to their seats before the ceremony begins.\n\n__20 minutes-1 hour: Ceremony begins__ \n\nThis time block will vary depending on the type of wedding you’re having. A large ceremony with several rituals, readings, or other cultural elements will take much longer than a standard secular ceremony, so your ceremony schedule could be anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour. Plan accordingly depending on your unique ceremony. \n\n__45 minutes: Family photos__\n\nTypically, couples schedule time directly after the ceremony to capture photos with both partners’ families. While you want to schedule enough time to get all the shots you want, you don’t want to keep your guests waiting too long before the reception officially starts. Be sure to plan with your photographer ahead of time to have a list of every shot you’ll need in order to stay on task and move quickly when the time comes. \n\n__45 minutes: Cocktail hour__\n\nMany couples plan a cocktail hour to entertain guests while family photos are being taken. This is an important transition period between the ceremony and reception, and getting the timing right is crucial to serving your guests while they wait. Touch base with relevant vendors like the band or DJ and the bartender to ensure everything is ready to go as soon as guests enter once the ceremony has ended. \n\n__15 minutes: Reception begins, newlywed entrance, and first dance__\n\nOnce family photos are wrapped up and cocktail hour comes to a close, it’s time to kick off the reception with your grand entrance as newlyweds. Following the entrance of your wedding party, you and your partner will be announced as officially married while you make your way into the reception area. \n\nIn many cases, your first dance will immediately follow your grand entrance. Alternatively, you can wait until after the first course of the meal has been served. \n\n__40 minutes: Dinner or first course is served__\n\nAfter you’ve finished your first dance, everyone will take their seats for dinner. If you’re serving multiple courses, your first course is served at this time. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Welcome toasts__ \nTraditionally, the hosts will offer a welcome speech while the first course is served. Whether you and your partner want to take over the microphone to thank your guests for coming or you have your parents address the group, this is a great time to formally welcome your guests and lean into the rest of the evening. \n\n__40 minutes:__ __Main course is served__\n\nOnce the first course is complete, move on to the second. \n\n__15 minutes:__ __Wedding party speeches__\n\nScheduling your [wedding party speeches](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-maid-of-honor-speech) while your guests are still seated and finishing up their meals is a logical transition, especially since this might be the last time all your guests are seated at once. The order of speeches is up to you, along with who will be making the speeches. Traditionally, the best man (or woman) takes the stage first, followed by the maid (or man) of honor. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Parent dances__\n\nOnce dinner and speeches are complete, it’s time for parent dances. While they might be brief, both are special moments that many parents cherish as their kids transition into marriage. \n\n__1-2 hours:__ __Party time__\n\nAfter parent dances are finished, it’s time to keep the party going and hit the dance floor. It makes sense to segue directly into inviting guests onto the dance floor as soon as parent dances conclude. \n\n__10 minutes:__ __Cake cutting__\n\nAfter about an hour of dancing, set aside a few minutes to cut your wedding cake. You can make this a special ceremony for guests to see, or you can do it while guests are still dancing—whatever you prefer. Once the cake has been cut, guests can choose to head back to their seats for dessert or continue dancing. \n\n__15 minutes: Wedding exit__\n\nWhen it’s time to depart, make sure your wedding exit song is cued up for your departure. Make sure any fun favors like sparklers are arranged for guests to grab, and designate someone to show people where to line up before you and your partner make your getaway. \n\n## Standard Wedding Weekend Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Wedding, and Brunch\n\nThe following wedding weekend timeline is one of the most common—a Friday night rehearsal dinner, Saturday night wedding, and a Sunday [brunch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/brunch-wedding) the morning after. Of course, this standard schedule can be tweaked any way you like, whether you’d prefer a Friday night happy hour over brunch or something else entirely. Work with your wedding planner or day-of coordinator to hammer out the specifics, but this sample wedding day timeline is a helpful starting point. \n\nNote that the schedule below assumes that the ceremony and reception are being held at the same venue, and the couple and their wedding parties will be getting ready at off-site locations (like a hotel or Airbnb) before traveling to the wedding venue. \n\n### Friday: Rehearsal Dinner \n- 5:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins \n- 6:30 p.m. Rehearsal ends\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 10:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends\n\n### Saturday: Wedding Day\n- 9:00 a.m. Beauty professionals arrive on-site\n- 10:00 a.m. Vendors arrive at venue for setup\n- 11:00 a.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Photographer arrives on-site, begins shooting getting-ready photos\n- 2:00 p.m. Bride and wedding party get dressed\n- 2:30 p.m. First look photos \n- 3:00 p.m. All wedding parties travel to wedding venue\n- 3:30 p.m. Wedding party photos \n- 4:30 p.m. Ceremony musicians arrive and begin pre-ceremony music \n- 4:30 p.m. Guests begin to arrive\n- 5:00 p.m. Ceremony starts/DJ or reception band arrives on-site\n- 6:00 p.m. Ceremony ends/cocktail hour begins\n- 6:00 p.m. Family portraits directly after ceremony\n- 7:00 p.m. Cocktail hour ends/guests invited to reception \n- 7:15 p.m. Newlyweds enter reception, leading into first dance\n- 7:30 p.m. First course is served \n- 7:45 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 8:00 p.m. First course is cleared and main course is served\n- 8:30 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 9:00 p.m. Parent dances\n- 9:15 p.m. All guests are invited to dance floor \n- 10:00 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 10:55 p.m. Last song\n- 11:00 p.m. Newlyweds make exit/guests depart \n- 12:00 a.m. Vendor breakdown complete\n### Sunday: Morning-After Brunch\n- 11:00 a.m. Brunch starts\n- 1:00 p.m. Brunch ends\n\n## Afternoon Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner and Wedding \n\nIf you’re holding your wedding in the early afternoon, keep in mind that things will move more quickly on the morning of your wedding. Expect to adjust your morning-of schedule accordingly to ensure you have plenty of time, and consider handling any details you can the day before to avoid feeling rushed. \n\n### Friday: Rehearsal dinner \n- 5:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins\n- 6:30 p.m. Rehearsal ends\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends \n### Saturday: Wedding Day\n- 7:00 a.m. Beauty professionals arrive on-site\n- 8:00 a.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 8:00 a.m. Vendors arrive on-site for setup\n- 9:00 a.m. Photographer arrives, begins shooting getting-ready photos \n- 9:30 a.m. Bride and wedding party get dressed \n- 10:00 a.m. Wedding party photos\n- 11:00 a.m. First look photos\n- 11:30 a.m. All travel to venue\n- 12:00 p.m. Ceremony musicians arrive and begin pre-ceremony music \n- 12:30 p.m. Guests begin to arrive\n- 1:00 p.m. Ceremony starts/DJ or reception band arrives on-site\n- 2:00 p.m. Ceremony ends/cocktail hour begins\n- 2:00 p.m. Family portraits directly after ceremony\n- 2:45 p.m. Cocktail hour ends/reception begins\n- 3:00 p.m. Newlywed entrance and first dance \n- 3:15 p.m. First course is served\n- 3:15 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 3:30 p.m. First course is cleared and second course is served\n- 4:00 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 4:30 p.m. Parent dances\n- 5:00 p.m. All guests are invited to dance floor \n- 5:30 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 7:00 p.m. Dancing continues\n- 9:00 p.m. Last song\n- 9:30 p.m. Newlyweds make exit/guests depart \n- 10:30 p.m. Vendor breakdown complete\n\n## Micro Wedding Timeline: Ceremony and Brief Reception\n\nA [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) is an intimate affair consisting of no more than 50 of your nearest and dearest family and friends. This type of ceremony is like a bite-sized version of a traditional wedding with 100+ people, and tends to be more casual and relaxed. However, that doesn’t mean a timeline isn’t needed! \n\n### Saturday: Wedding Ceremony and Reception\n- 11:00 a.m. Both wedding parties begin getting ready/hair and makeup arrives on-site (if hired)\n- 1:00 p.m. Bride and wedding party finish getting ready/bride gets dressed\n- 1:30 p.m. Wedding party photos (if there is a wedding party)\n- 2:00 p.m. Bride and groom arrive at first look location\n- 2:30 p.m. First look photos\n- 4:00 p.m. All arrive at ceremony site\n- 4:30 p.m. Ceremony begins\n- 5:30 p.m. Ceremony ends/family photos directly after ceremony\n- 6:00 p.m. Sunset portraits \n- 6:30 p.m. Reception begins/newlywed entrance and first dance\n- 7:00 p.m. Dinner and dessert is served \n- 8:00 p.m. Dancing\n- 10:00 p.m. Last song\n- 10:30 p.m. Newlyweds exit\n\n## Destination Wedding Timeline: Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony, and Reception\n\n\nA destination wedding weekend means plenty of time to play, relax, and take in the destination with your loved ones. Many couples choose to throw their guests a welcome party upon arrival, followed by a day of relaxation and enjoying the resort the day before the wedding. However, this all depends on your schedule and how many days you plan to stay, and what you choose to include is ultimately up to you!\n\nIf you’re getting married in a tropical destination, crafting your wedding day timeline usually hinges on sunset time—not only to capture those romantic photos, but also because shooting photos any earlier than sunset tends to mean extra hot temperatures. Find out what time the sun will set on your wedding day at your destination and go from there. \n\n### Thursday: Guest Arrival and Welcome Party \n- 1:00-4:00 p.m. Guests arrive at resort and transport from the airport \n- 5:00 p.m. All guests have arrived and settled in\n- 6:00 p.m. Wedding welcome party begins\n- 7:00 p.m. Dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Dinner ends\n### Friday: Relaxation Day and Rehearsal \n- 10:00 a.m. Breakfast \n- 11:30a.m.-2:00 p.m. Spa treatments\n- 2:00-5:00 p.m. Relaxation/free time \n- 6:00 p.m. Rehearsal begins\n- 7:00 p.m. Rehearsal ends \n- 7:15 p.m. Rehearsal dinner begins\n- 9:00 p.m. Rehearsal dinner ends \n### Saturday: Wedding Day \n- 9:00 a.m. Breakfast \n- 12:00 p.m. Hair and makeup begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Photographer arrives, begins shooting getting-ready photos\n- 2:00 p.m. Wedding party photos \n- 3:00 p.m. First look photos \n- 4:00 p.m. Freshen up before ceremony begins\n- 5:00 p.m. Ceremony begins (ideally 1.5-2 hours before sunset) \n- 5:30 p.m. Ceremony ends/group photos directly after ceremony\n- 6:00 p.m. Newlywed sunset photos \n- 6:30 p.m. Reception begins/dinner is served \n- 7:00 p.m. Welcome toast\n- 7:30 p.m. Best man (or woman) and maid (or man) of honor speeches \n- 8:00 p.m. Parent dances \n- 8:30 p.m. Dancing\n- 9:00 p.m. Cake cutting/dessert is served \n- 10:00p.m.-12:00 a.m. Party continues \n- 12:00 a.m. Vendor breakdown \n### Sunday: Farewell Brunch and Honeymoon Stay\n- 10:00 a.m. Brunch begins\n- 1:00 p.m. Brunch ends\n- 2:00 p.m. Couple remains for honeymoon stay, guests depart \n\nCreating an hour-by-hour wedding weekend timeline might feel daunting, but trust us—you’ll be so glad you did when the big day finally arrives. It’s a surefire way to ensure things go as smoothly as possible amid the hustle and bustle of a jam-packed wedding weekend, and minimizes the chance of having to deal with any [last-minute emergencies](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-does-wedding-hair-and-makeup-usually-take)—or at least makes them less stressful to handle. Plus, your [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) will thank you for the organization! \n\nFor a seamless wedding weekend, download these editible printable timelines to keep everything in one place. Fill in the wedding party timeline and pass them out to all the members in your wedding party so everyone stays organized, and use the wedding weekend timeline to plan your unqiue day by the hour. \n\n\n[![wedding-party-timeline-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5HbawPSJtxLstgqQpPpGGt/c58add603e464ca0522adacaedcf2800/wedding-party-timeline-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6LcygIpjZkfogLXH65oFna/1ee1787117fb87bd68c12e76a21b64b5/wedding-party-timeline__1_.pdf)\n\n[![wedding-weekend-timeline-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5qOl12xQZgSzY7lqZwMzL1/1dab2eff282b8f9d4a3035e2bcb5b4d7/wedding-weekend-timeline-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/crOEq84DuXrlrfDkaUk8z/d9c118aacc24be135a71aafe49622075/wedding-weekend-schedule.pdf)\n\nExecuting your wedding day definitely requires some fine-tuning and attention to detail, but it’s more than worth it after seeing your [dream wedding come to life](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board). Happy planning! \n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:45.632Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"gender-neutral-terms-to-use-wedding-planning","title":"Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them","excerpt":"Switching out traditionally gendered terms can actually be a fun and validating part of wedding planning! From save the dates to seating charts, here are all the gender-neutral terms and tips you can use at every stage of the planning process.","author":"Rachel Varina","publishedAt":"2022-06-09T17:26:08.995Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/43Ro8DbmZcNLR92K964KOs/a03ac4abfed7b445c5d563ef721554a5/EA_Romantic_Winter_Wedding_at_The_Gardens_at_Viola-s.png","altText":"Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms—And Where to Use Them"},"heroCredit":"Frankely Photography","body":"Gendered language has long been a part of the wedding world. And while words like bride and groom might feel synonymous with “I dos,” that doesn’t mean gendered wedding terms work for every couple or celebration. The truth is there are a lot of reasons someone might want to nix the binary and instead, opt for gender-neutral language on their big day. \n\nBefore you decide whether or not non-gendered language feels good for your day, though, it’s important to unpack what “[gender-neutral](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/androgynous-wedding-attire)” really means. According to social worker and LGBTQIA+ educator, [Zoe Stoller](https://www.instagram.com/ZoeStoller/) (she/they), the definition and ideal usage are pretty situational, but when it comes to weddings (and other [traditionally gendered events](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lgbt-wedding-traditions-and-how-to-reinvent-old-ones)), it’s simply about “removing the typical gender roles and creating a wedding space that’s more inherently inclusive to people of all identities, experiences, and needs.”\n\nTo clear up any confusion and inspire couples saying “I do,” we’re outlining everything you need to know about non-binary language and detailing gender-neutral terms you can use throughout your wedding planning journey and the forever that follows. \n\n## Why Would Engaged Couples Use Gender-Neutral Language?\n\nOne of the main reasons some people — especially those who are non-binary — prefer gender-neutral language is because they feel uncomfortable or unseen when using the gendered terms commonly associated with weddings. “It might not feel affirming to their gender, which is opposite to the goal of your wedding day, which is supposed to make you feel uplifted and affirmed and loved,” Stoller explains. \n\nWhile not every couple will want to use gender-neutral language — which Stoller stresses is completely fine — it can be affirming for many people, especially those who don't identify as a man or a woman. Beyond that, though, many ally couples whose genders do fall under the binary umbrella prefer to adopt neutral language to help normalize its usage. This is important not only for inclusion, but for creating a safer space in the wedding industry and beyond. \n\n“Currently, if people use gender-neutral terms such as ‘spouse,’ many people make assumptions that the person is queer,” Stoller says. “Queer people might be hesitant to use certain language or reveal certain information out of fear that it will ‘out’ or ‘expose’ them, which they might not want.”\n\n__If non-gendered language becomes more commonly used by all couples, it makes the neutral terms safer and more inclusive for non-binary couples to use as well.__ “This is one of the key roles of allies — being able to normalize language and experiences and help make LGBTQ+ people feel less excluded or ostracized,” notes Stoller. \n\n![ Romantic Celebration at The Sinclair Baltimore MFields Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6rmXuCfe3ib4jKLrey8BtQ/3cf3625feeeb891934a235d96853616f/23d7da1f-d2c2-4c51-b644-9874238ee23e.jpeg) *Photo Credit* // MFields Photography\n\n## Gender-Neutral Wedding Terms\n\nWhile you might not have really thought of it, language is a pretty major part of a wedding. And for days that are supposed to be affirming, feeling misrepresented or misgendered on your special day can feel rightfully devastating. That’s why Stoller says it’s “vital” to select your preferred language if you’re saying “I do,” or adhering to someone’s chosen terms if you’re celebrating a happy couple. If not, it can “cause them dysphoria or make them feel invalidated,” which is the last thing anyone should have to experience, especially on their wedding day. \n\nThe good news is, there are tons of gender-neutral wedding terms out there to use at all stages of the wedding planning process. And switching out those traditionally gendered terms is not only easy but can actually be a fun and validating part of the wedding planning process. \n\n__Below are a few gender-neutral terms couples or guests can use leading up to the special day and beyond:__ \n\n- __Nearlywed(s):__ term that can be used to describe the engaged couple or a singular person in the couple before they say “I do.”\n- __Newlywed(s):__ You’re technically a newlywed for the first year after marriage, so enjoy using this romantic, non-gendered term to describe your coupleship after saying “I do.” \n- __Marrier(s):__ This joyful word means either the person doing the marrying (like the officiant) or one of the people getting married (or both people, if used in the plural form). We love how it encapsulates the excitement of the milestone without being gendered!\n- __Partner(s):__ A safe, grounding term for any couple, married or not. \n- __Significant Other(s):__ Another all-inclusive term that can be used to describe a person or a couple, whether married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Spouse(s):__ Instead of “husband” or “wife,” this term implies that the person (or people, if you’re using it to describe a couple) is married. \n- __Future Spouse:__ This term describes one half of an engaged couple. \n- __To-Be-Wed(s):__ Similar to nearlyweds, this gender-neutral term describes an engaged couple before their wedding. \n- __Couple:__ A way to describe two people in a relationship regardless of whether or not they’re married, engaged, or dating. \n- __Fiance:__ While this term *can* be gendered (\"fiancee\" refers to a betrothed woman), the general spelling can be a gender-neutral term when written or spoken. It’s similar to saying “partner” but in this case, the partner is someone you’re engaged to. \n- __Broom/Gride__: Modern combinations of “bride” and “groom” that have been recently gaining traction. These terms can be used to describe a member of the engaged couple who is gender-fluid or non-binary. \n- __Other-Half/Better-Half:__ The sweet, non-gendered term can be used to describe your partner whether you’re dating, engaged, newlyweds, or have been together for years. \n- __Soulmate(s):__ Another tender way to describe your partner (or your coupleship, when used in the plural) no matter your marital status. \n- __Bachelorx:__ The non-gender version of “bachelor” or “bachelorette.” Use the term to describe the person or the party!\n- __Best Person/Person of Honor__: There’s no need to have the titles of “best man” or “maid of honor” if that doesn’t adhere to your or your attendants’ gender identities. Best Person or Person of Honor is another way to describe the head person on either side of the wedding party. \n- __Mate of Honor:__ Another way to acknowledge the head member of either side of the wedding party, a “Mate of Honor” is used to acknowledge your friendship without gendering the individual. \n- __Bridesmates/Groomsmates:__ If the to-be-wed couple is binary but they have non-binary members or multiple genders on either side of their wedding party, “bridesmates” instead of “bridesmaids” and “groomsmates” instead of “groomsmen is a nice change from the traditionally less inclusive terms. \n- __Ring Bearer:__ The attendant — traditionally a child — who carries the rings down the aisle. This traditional term is non-gendered, so it can apply to anyone!\n- __Wedding Party:__ Bridal party, bridesmaids, and groomsmen are all gendered, so instead, use the term “wedding party” to describe the people who stand by your side on the special day. \n- __Attendants:__ A non-gender specific way to describe members of the wedding party. \n- __Flower Person/Pal/Child:__ A non-gendered take on the traditional “flower girl” title. The role is typically a child who either carries or tosses flowers down the aisle during the processional. \n- __Mx.:__ If you want to [use honorifics](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations)—formal titles such as Mr. and Mrs—for place cards or your own paper goods, “Mx” is a popular, gender-neutral, formal title. \n- __[Your Names]:__ If none of the terms feel right, or if you’re a guest and unsure, simply using the couples’ names is always an acceptable option!\n\n## How to Use Gender-Neutral Terms when Wedding Planning\n\nNot only are there many gender-neutral wedding terms to choose from, but there are also plenty of opportunities to use your chosen terms as well! “This can be as simple as the labels that are used in reference to the couple getting married (which appear in various settings), to how the marrying couple is introduced to the public day-of,” Stoller explains. \n\n__If you’re a guest trying to determine how to address the new couple, check their wedding website for clues or direction. If it’s unclear, respectfully ask!__ The nearlyweds will appreciate you taking the time to honor their identities and use their preferred language/terms.\n\n### Save the Dates\n\nGendered language isn’t typically used on save-the-dates. Instead, the format usually includes the to-be-weds’ names, city of the wedding, date, and website information. If you’re looking to switch up the typically [save-the-date format](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-save-the-dates) (which we support!) some of the best non-gendered terms to use are:\n\n- Nearlyweds\n- To-be-weds\n- Marriers\n- Soulmates\n- Fiances\n\nJust make sure to still include your names so guests know who’s getting married!\n\n### Invitations\n\nTraditional [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-gender-neutral-readings-for-your-lbgtq-wedding-ceremony) don’t typically include gendered language either, and instead, list the names of the couple, the name(s) of the host(s), the location, the time of the event, and the wedding website URL. [Wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/coed-wedding-shower) invitations, however, are a place where gendered language can be heavy. Instead of the typically binary like “bride” or “groom,” here are a few of our favorite non-gendered invite/party terms:\n\n- Nearlywed\n- Marrier\n- To-be-wed\n- Gride/Broom\n- Future Spouse\n- Bachelorx\n\n### Wedding Website\n\nConsider your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) the place to make your language choices crystal clear. For some couples, this means simply using honorifics like “Mx.” or gride and broom instead of bride and groom. \n\nFor other couples, it means making a special note on the [website or having a Q&A section](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-and-donts-wedding-website) to clear up any confusion. It might seem in-your-face, but your guests will appreciate the transparency—they’re there to celebrate you exactly as you desire, after all, so make your preferred pronouns and/or language clear. Pick and choose whichever terms feel right for your day, your bond, and your event. Some of the most common include:\n\n- To-be-weds\n- Nearlyweds\n- Soon-to-be-newlyweds or Almost Newlyweds\n- Marriers\n- Gride and Broom\n- Future Spouse(s)\n- [Your names]\n- Future Mx. and Mx. [insert future last name if you’re going to share a family name]\n\n### Seating Charts/Placecards\n\nWhen working on your [seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), there’s no need to use pronouns if you’re just trying to figure out where people should go for personal use. Just their names work best here. But when it comes time to make your [wedding place cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-place-cards-for-your-wedding) or you’re putting your seating chart (or chart information) on a sign to help direct guests, honorifics—which are often gendered—are traditional. That doesn’t mean titles are required, though. Simply using guests’ full names (or first initial with last name) is a fantastic option. \n\nIf you love the idea of honorifics, make sure everyone gets one—don’t just skip over someone because you don’t know how they identify. Be sure to connect with guests regarding their preferred pronouns first since you should never misgender someone. An easy way to do this is to request guests' pronouns with their RSVPs, just like you would food preferences and song requests. \n\nHere are some good seating chart/place card options:\n\n- For all guests: [Full Name]\n- For all guests: First Initial + Last Name]\n- For all guests: Honorifics such as Mr., Mrs., Ms., Mx. (a gender-neutral honorific), and Dr. \n\n### Day of Paper \n\nPamphlets, napkins, and notes for your VIPs are a few ways you might want to use a wedding-related gender-neutral term at your wedding. And if you’re a guest, using a sweet, gender-neutral wedding term on your card — whether physical or virtual — is a nice touch to commemorate the special day. Below are a few non-gendered terms we love for paper goods:\n\n- Newlyweds\n- Gride and Broom\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Spouse(s)\n- The Happy Couple\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n\n### Signage\n\nFrom venue directions to signs with your [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag) or signature drinks, there are plenty of opportunities to use some special, gender-neutral wedding terms. While the options are limitless, these are some of the most popular:\n\n- The Newlyweds/Nearlyweds\n- Soulmate(s)\n- Mx. and Mx. [insert last name if it’ll be shared]\n- The Happy Couple\n\nAdditionally, if you’re comfortable, it’s also a good idea to work with your venue to replace gendered signage for restrooms, making them unisex. \n\n![Modern Outdoor Wedding at the Skirball Cultural Center Stephen Tang Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4AIOj8ERvO8C8usyz8cwX/d3272c706707803874d394a2d9966eda/e56db975-acc2-43d8-94a9-42719383b5bb.jpeg)\n*Photo Credit* // Stephen Tang Photo\n\n## Tips for Communicating the Use of Gender-Neutral Language\n\nUnfortunately, since gender-neutral language hasn’t been used in the mainstream wedding industry for as long as binary language, some of your guests and vendors might not be as accustomed to the tweaks. That’s why Stoller says it’s a good idea to open up the lines of communication to outline your preferred terms and explain the importance of using them leading up to and the big day.\n\nHere’s how to ensure everyone’s on the same page, language-wise, before your wedding: \n\n## To Your Guests\n\n__One major perk about wedding planning is that there are ample opportunities to inform your guests of your language preferences.__ First, you can make your gender-neutral term choices clear via invitations and written stationery, Stoller explains. “Including someone’s pronouns, like Mx., or including the specific gender-neutral labels you’re using in your wedding — like “nearlyweds” instead of “bride and groom” — is a fantastic first step. You can even make some signs for your venue that say “here come the broom/gride” or “Mx. and Mx. (last name)” to make your preferences even clearer. When these terms are reinforced via vendors and signage, most guests will catch on. \n\nThat said, it can also be a good idea to make your chosen language explicitly stated on [your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website). This can be done with a simple sentence or paragraph, or if you really want to inform, you could have a whole section about gender-neutral language usage. While it’s not your job to educate, some guests might enjoy the opportunity to learn more. Either way, starting your preferred language clearly takes any guesswork out for guests so they can comfortably use celebratory terms that you feel good about. \n\n__If there are any guests you’re worried either won’t understand or won’t respect your preferred language, consider reaching out to them individually. You can do this personally if you're comfortable, but if not, enlist a wedding party member or more receptive relative to have that conversation.__ Ultimately, you’re never under any obligation to do anything that makes you feel unsafe, and you're allowed to disinvite or cut off anyone who doesn’t support your pronouns and/or chosen language.\n\n### To Your Vendors\n\nWhen it comes to your vendors, Stoller advises sharing your preferred language with them ASAP. This helps ensure they use the correct language when referring to you from the get-go at all stages and in all aspects of the wedding planning process. “You can do this by directly emailing or sharing your preferred language in conversation, but I recommend being direct with your needs in order to make sure they are met,” they explain. \n\n__You can also search for [LGBTQIA+ vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist) when you’re in the initial planning stages to ensure your wedding team is well versed in all things neutral language and proud weddings.__ Zola is a great resource for non-binary couples looking for LGBTQIA+ and ally vendors. That’s because every vendor in Zola’s marketplace is required to agree to a [“Vendor Pledge.”](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors/pledge) This states that the vendor “respects every couple’s right to marry” and will treat every couple equally “regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, race, ethnicity, religion, or budget.”\n\nUltimately, choosing to use gender-neutral terms for your wedding celebration is a very personal decision, and it doesn’t work for everyone. But that’s what’s so great about evolving terms — it means there are options that’ll ensure you feel seen at all life stages. “Everyone gets to use whatever language feels most affirming to them on their special day and beyond,” Stoller says. So whether that means the bride or the broom is walking down the aisle, embrace your chosen terms to help usher in the next authentic, validating, and comfort-filled season of your love story.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_SaveTheDates"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Everything you need to know to find values-based wedding vendors.","title":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values","slug":"how-to-find-wedding-vendors-who-align-with-your-values","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ho80jYkfxvlen4cZhEeYI/d0f1fdb7a284321b849e3acc232b699a/01.jpeg","altText":"How to Find Wedding Vendors Who Align With Your Values"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From inclusive wording to stylish designs, we’ll be covering everything you need to know about creating LGBTQ+ wedding invitations.","title":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101","slug":"lgbt-wedding-invitations-101","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/23DI7PxNMPASe1xfEZjUjx/f7b1b8bc53e8f7d264283790004e0524/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"LGBTQ+ Wedding Invitations 101"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Explore Save the Dates","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:38.536Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need","title":"The Small Wedding Checklist You Need","excerpt":"There are many benefits to having a small wedding. To get you started, here's our wedding planning checklist and things to consider.","publishedAt":"2021-02-03T17:33:06.699Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AVuIm2AbEIiZ5LPNGXsBQ/aaef55a70fa6b17967732410314700a6/Hero_Zola__24_.jpg","altText":"Small Wedding Checklist"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Consider your [potential wedding guests list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#list) and who makes the most sense for your intimate wedding.\n- [Wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [catering](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue), [and activities](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-small-wedding-checklist-you-need#venue) open up with a smaller guest list. Your expenses may shrink, too, making it so that you stay within your wedding budget still.","body":"There are plenty of benefits for [planning a small wedding day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding). Rather than getting lost in a [myriad of wedding details](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) during the planning process, having fewer guests narrows the focus and helps to create a more intimate environment. In turn, you’re able to direct more energy into celebrating your love and impending partnership. Beyond that, there are other aspects such as saving money with fewer guests to spend on or opening up possibilities such as making a destination wedding and other activities more feasible to stage. Having a simple wedding with fewer guests also makes for a more relaxed wedding planning timeline—and a more stress-free planning process overall. (No need for a wedding planner here!)\n\nIf you’re planning something small and simple for your big day, we’ve created a checklist of important considerations and wedding ideas you’ll want to keep in mind so you can have the ultimate wedding—no matter how many (or few!) guests you ultimately decide to have:\n\n### 1. Guest List Criteria \n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5K2noT8FAnrYdU19Gdh0SZ/3b4f7bb11675a8bfa5a2acb512197a7a/inline_danielle_lentz_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Danielle Lentz Photography\n\nDefining who is significant enough to cut to receive a wedding invitation is key to narrowing down your small wedding guest list. Whether they play an important role specifically to you as the bride and/or groom, narrowing the list isn’t necessarily about exclusivity. It’s about seeking to narrow the focus and magnify those within your life—as an individual or as a couple—who have been key to you in reaching this milestone, whether that be through personal growth and development, support, witness to key events, or whatever else.\n\nSo, before you get too far into wedding planning, narrow down which friends and family members you want to invite and finalize your guest count; that way, you know who to direct towards your wedding website, what RSVPs to expect, and where to put people on your wedding chart.\n\n### 2. Wedding Style\nYour wedding style is the overall look and feel you want to capture at your wedding. And while it will, of course, play a large part in your decor and attire, it will also dictate pretty much every other part of the wedding planning process—from what reception venue to choose to what stylist and makeup artist you want to help you get ready on your big day, what florist you want to do your wedding flowers to wear to host the rehearsal dinner, what playlist you want your DJ to rock on the dance floor to what kind of wedding favors you want to give your guests.\n\nEven though you’re having a small, simple wedding, you still want it to look and feel cohesive—and uniquely you. So, choose your wedding style from the get-go. For example, do you want to go with a classic, romantic wedding theme—or does something more modern feel like a better fit? Do you want to go big and bold—or do you want your style to feel more subtle and understated? \n\nOnce you’ve defined your wedding style, you can use it to dictate all of the rest of your wedding planning choices—from what dresses you want your bridesmaids and flower girls to wear to what kinds of linens you want on your reception tables.\n\n### 3. Venue \nRather than needing a large hall or similar wedding venue that can accommodate a large crowd of 100 or more, a smaller wedding opens up the possibilities of where your ceremony and festivities can take place. Suddenly, a backyard wedding is in play because it can fit your entire guest list without overcrowding. A low-impact outdoor wedding is now possible too and packing out won’t be such a burden with a smaller wedding party. Suddenly, a destination wedding becomes more feasible with fewer guests.\n\nWith a __[wedding venue checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue)__, you can choose the location based on what fits your vibe, rather than have it primarily be driven by the numbers game of accommodating a larger crowd. Alternatively, you can still go big in terms of venue size. Perhaps, fill it however you see fit, playing with a small number of guests in an open space to create an atmosphere more akin to a contemporary art installation. \n\n### 4. Picking Out The Outfits\nAt a [small, intimate wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-small-intimate-wedding) (or really, at any wedding!), all eyes are on the happy couple. It’s your own wedding; you deserve to look your best! As such, choosing your wedding attire is a hugely important step in the wedding planning process.\n\nIf you’re a bride, you’ll need to choose a wedding dress, wedding shoes, and any accessories, like a veil and wedding jewelry. Choose a dress that not only makes you feel amazing, but is in line with your overall wedding style (for example, if you’re having a casual backyard wedding, you wouldn’t want to get a dress that’s overly formal.) And keep in mind that you’ll need to leave enough time for your dress to be tailored; ideally, you’ll want to start looking for a dress at least six months before your special day.\n\nIf you’re a groom, you’ll need to look for a tux, a wedding suit, or another look that fits in line with your wedding style (for example, if you’re having a laid-back beach wedding, you might wear a linen shirt and slacks). Generally, grooms have more wiggle room in terms of shopping time—but don’t leave the task of finding your wedding outfit to the last minute. Give yourself at least a few months to lock in the perfect look (and get that look tailored, if needed). \n\nIf you’re having a bridal party, you’ll also want to lock in looks for the bridesmaids and groomsmen well before the wedding—ideally you’ll let them know what they need to wear at least a few months before the big day. That way, they have time to find their clothing, buy or rent the necessary items, and get them fitted and/or tailored as necessary.\n\n### Catering\nSimilar to venue choice, a smaller guest list often opens up dining options. Places that might not have the capacity to cater to a large wedding may now be available. Similarly, approaching favorite restaurants that don’t traditionally offer event catering may now be open to your smaller gathering.\n\nAnother benefit to a smaller wedding plan is that you’ll be paying for fewer people, thus fewer plates. This may enable you to save money in the budget overall or to splurge elsewhere. It also may mean that you can go gourmet since you’ll be spreading your wedding budget among fewer people, and you can opt for spendier catering than if you were feeding 100 people. (Just make sure to book a caterer who does tastings; that way, you can try the food before your wedding—and make sure it’s the right fit for you, your partner, and your guests.)\n\n### 6. Activities\nCurating an experience for your guests to participate in is more feasible with fewer guests. For example, a group rafting outing suddenly becomes more tenable when you’re able to fit the entire guest list on a flotilla of only three rafts. Planning for an on-the-go lunch is suddenly easier and more transportable, too. Perhaps a pre-wedding bonfire? A smaller guest list means you can see all of their faces around the flame of the campfire.\n\nWhereas the bachelorette party and bachelor parties tend to be the only added, experiential component of a wedding other than the wedding ceremony and wedding reception itself, with a smaller guest list, you can create an experience all of your wedding guests can enjoy!\n\n### 7. Accommodation\nWill you have guests coming from out of town? Will your guests all be sequestered together at the destination of your choosing? With fewer guests, wedding tasks such as arranging accommodation becomes less of a headache. Maybe you’re having a getaway wedding, which requires your guests to travel out of town to attend. Whether or not you’re making reservations on behalf of your guests or if they’re handling them individually, trying to find enough availability is less of a hassle if there are fewer people that need bookings for your wedding date. Alternatively, it might make sense to rent out the entirety of a boutique hotel for all guests to stay at if your numbers are low enough. Having everyone in semi-communal housing during the event can help extend the experience to something more all-encompassing than merely a wedding ceremony, creating further opportunities for guests to bond.\n\n![Zola: Small Wedding Checklist You Need](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IsJ0ttxh1pf21Ae3xHhIc/2315c286d7c1cad577a662c1f96535b4/inline_little_but_fierce_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit * // Little But Fierce Photography\n\nPlanning a small wedding can open up bigger possibilities that would otherwise be off the table with larger numbers. Lean into the aspect of it being small, and craft a special experience that allows you to highlight the best aspects of your relationship and share them with those closest to you.\n\n*Planning a more elaborate affair—or need more support and structure on your wedding planning journey?* *Make sure to check out [Zola’s ultimate wedding planning checklist and timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)!*\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingChecklist"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Seeking wedding wishes inspiration? Explore our ideas for messages and find the perfect words to convey your joy and blessings for the newlyweds.","title":"What to Write in a Wedding Card: Funny, Thoughtful & Lovely Wishes Ideas ","slug":"what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3kANG3FP0QuuQxkSb1vXSo/04ac6084f0e2c735c5a63d07f2e11f22/woman-writing-in-wedding-gift-card.jpg","altText":"what to write in a wedding card"},"type":"articlePage"}],"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:17.433Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. 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Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","tag":"Getting Started","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Everything You Need To Know","slug":"who-should-pay-for-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5u5bUTU4EmdO2SsWyG5I4B/28f9bed9f90049ee650968096b1dfc6b/pexels-rose-rosen-18386512.jpg","altText":"Asian family with bride and groom looking down at a paper and smiling"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. 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","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions","description":"Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. 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Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"wedding-planning-guide","title":"Wedding Planning 101: Ultimate Guide to Planning a Wedding","excerpt":"Your guide to planning a wedding from start to finish. Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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