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Are You Supposed to Tip Your Wedding Officiant?
Wedding planning 101

Are You Supposed to Tip Your Wedding Officiant?

Wondering if you should tip your wedding officiant? Whether they're a religious, professional, or civil officiant, here's everything you need to know before deciding on this gesture.

Pop the Question ft. Celeb Nail Artist Zola Ganzorigt
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Pop the Questions ft. Celeb Nail Artist Zola Ganzorigt: “Should My Wedding Nails be Classic or Trendy?"

In this month's Ask Us Anything, Zola sits down with celebrity nail artist Zola Ganzorigt to talk all things wedding nails and spill the hottest wedding nail trends for 2023.

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The Mother of the Bride Duties: A Full Breakdown

There's a lot of wedding planning must-dos for the mother of the bride. Read on to learn the mother of the bride duties you need to know for the big day

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Best Man Duties: A Full Breakdown

So you’ve been chosen to be the best man, but what does that mean? Don’t worry, the experts at Zola have you covered with a guide on all the best man’s duties.

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How to Create a Small Intimate Wedding

Keep your wedding intimate with a smaller guest list of only the most special people in your life. Read our guide to an intimate wedding.

Pop the Question: How Do I Stay Sane While Planning My Wedding?
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Pop the Question: "How Do I Stay Sane While Planning My Wedding?"

In this month's Ask Us Anything, our Team-Z experts break down the realities of wedding planning stress.

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How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?

You want to include everyone in your wedding party, but you know you can't. If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.

Pop the Question: How Do I Get My Wedding Party to Help Out More?
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Pop the Question: "How Do I Get My Wedding Party to Help Out More?"

In this month's Ask Us Anything, our Team-Z experts share tips for asking your wedding party to be more involved and maintaining key relationships while getting the help you need.

Wedding Party Etiquette Guide for a Second Wedding
Wedding planning 101

Most Common Wedding Etiquette Questions, Answered

Don’t know how to plan a wedding shower for a second marriage? The experts at Zola can help! Read on now.

Do You Tip Wedding Delivery Staff?
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Do You Tip Wedding Delivery Staff?

To be brief, yes—here’s all of the whys, whos, whens, and hows of tipping your wedding delivery staff.

How to Get Married in Chicago
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How to Get Married in Chicago: A Complete Guide

To get married in Chicago, you’ll first need a marriage license. Curious what else goes into planning a wedding in Chicago? Our guide covers everything you need to know, from venues to COVID-19 restrictions and more.

Pros and Cons of Having Plus Ones at Your Wedding
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The Pros and Cons of Inviting Plus-Ones To Your Wedding

There’s no right or wrong way to handle plus-ones, but weighing the benefits (and drawbacks) might help you and your partner reach a decision.

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Once you've settled on one, you’ll have even more to consider—like the topic of tipping. \n- Tipping is always a nice gesture to show your gratitude, however if your officiant is a member of the clergy, for example, they cannot accept tips. Consider donating to the religious organization your officiant is associated with instead. \n- Knowing how much to tip is another thing to consider. The general rule of thumb for people who perform professional services is usually 18 to 25 percent of the total amount.","body":"When you’re [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning), there are a million little details to keep track of. Once you've booked the [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and the vast majority of your vendors, there’s one other thing to do: hire a wedding officiant. \n\n### What is an Officiant’s Job?\nWhether they are religious or secular, the officiant assists the couple in the months leading up to the ceremony. They work with them on various details of the wedding day ceremony, from the vows, to the music selections, to other kinds of readings. They also often help the couple get counseling prior to getting married. \n\nWhen it comes to the officiant, they must be legally ordained in order to oversee the ceremony in the state you wish to get married in. On your big day, your officiant will have the task of signing and filling out your marriage license in front of other witnesses. From there, it will be sent to the county clerk's office to be certified. \n\nAlthough this doesn't sound like a big deal, if you don't have a marriage license, then in the eyes of the law, your marriage won't be recognized. In other words, even if you had the ceremony, unless you have the wedding license, you won’t really be married. \n\n## What Kind of Wedding Officiant Can You Have? \nWhen it comes to your wedding, one of the first things you and your partner have to decide is the kind of officiant you want to oversee it. There are a wide number of options to consider—and a lot of this will depend on your personal and religious background and preferences. And if you’re not religious, there are other non-denominational people who can officiate and help you achieve the wedding of your dreams. Once you decide on the kind of officiant, this will also determine if you should tip or not. \n\nHere are some of the various kinds of wedding officiants you can consider for your big day. \n\n### Civil Wedding Officiant\nThis is the kind of officiant who has a role in the government and is also able to legally perform a wedding ceremony in the state they’re in. Depending on the kind of officiant they are, they can also be referred to by a number of titles, including a justice of the peace, judge, mayor, city clerk, notary, or magistrate. They typically oversee ceremonies in a number of government settings, too––like a courthouse wedding, for example. \n\nThe advantage of hiring a civil officiant is that they can perform a nonreligious ceremony that’s legally binding. For folks who choose to marry abroad where the laws are different, you’ll also need to have a legal secular ceremony when you get back with a civil servant to oversee it, so that your wedding is legally bound in the country where you reside. \n\n### Religious Wedding Officiant\nThe main thing with a religious wedding officiant is that they are leaders within a specific kind of faith/religion and will generally only perform a wedding ceremony at their place of worship. Some common names for these kinds of religious officials include rabbi, priest, imam, pastor, reverend, and minister. All of these individuals can perform the kind of wedding ceremony you want and will sign your marriage certificate—as long as you do so in their house of worship. \n\nDepending on the religious affiliation, sometimes—upon request—these individuals will perform the ceremony elsewhere. Some couples will have their pastor, for example, perform a ceremony at a park, the beach, or in another venue. That said, some religious officials like a Catholic priest, for example, may not be able to perform a wedding ceremony outside of their place of worship. Remember to double-check these details when booking your officiant. \n\n### Professional Wedding Officiants\nAnother option for people who don't want a civil or religious officiant is a professional officiant. These individuals, often called celebrants, are licensed professionals hired to perform your wedding ceremony. They generally have a lot of experience in performing all types of ceremonies—secular, spiritual and interfaith—but often specialize in one particular area. \n\nThey can also assist with your wedding vows in terms of how to approach them, what to write, and even practicing them. And they can also give you flexibility in terms of the range of things you may want to include in your ceremony. \n\nTo ensure it’s as special and personal as you’d like, be sure to meet with your prospective officiant ahead of time—and come ready with your questions. You want the right fit for your wedding, and taking the time to find someone who can help create the kind of ceremony you and your partner want is important. \n\n### Ordained Wedding Officiant\nThere are a lot of advantages to hiring a professional wedding officiant to conduct your ceremony, but some people prefer to have a loved one oversee it. If that’s the case, the person you intend to ask will need to be ordained. \n\nIf they aren't ordained, you can usually apply online with an easy form and pay a fee. Just keep in mind: Some states don’t recognize online ordinations, so be sure to double-check the marriage laws in your state before the person you ask goes through the process. \n\n## Should I Tip My Wedding Officiant? \nWhen it comes to your wedding officiant, there are a few things to keep in mind. One of the major ones is the kind of officiant you’ve chosen to oversee your wedding. If you’ve hired a civil, professional, or religious officiant, tipping is a thoughtful gesture. Officials play a huge role in your wedding and work very closely with you—often for months leading up to your big day. \n\nTipping is a very nice way to show your appreciation for their time and effort. Going the extra mile to show your gratitude for their contribution to your big day is always an extremely nice gesture. While it’s not expected, giving them a tip is always an added bonus. \n\n__Don’t forget:__ Depending on the kind of officiant you hire, they may not be able to accept a tip. For example, a member of the clergy cannot take tips. If you find yourself in that position, the next best thing you can do is to make a donation to the church or religious organization they’re associated with. \n\nAnother instance where tipping might not make sense? If your wedding officiant is a close family friend or even a family member. Instead, you might choose to show your appreciation by sending a card or buying them dinner or a small gift. \n\n### How Much Should I Tip? \nIf you’re thinking about tipping your officiant, $50 to $100 is typically fair. Alternatively, if you and your officiant had a contracted fee, you can apply a 15 to 25 percent tip to that total. \n\nIf your officiant is a clergy member or has another religious association that prevents them from accepting a tip, you can also donate a similar amount to the organization they’re involved with. \n\n### What’s the Best Way to Tip?\nIf you feel comfortable doing so, you can feel free to tip your officiant directly after your ceremony. Planning ahead pays, since you can collect the necessary cash before the big day. For convenience, you can also use electronic payment apps such as Venmo or PayPal if your officiant uses those. \n\nIf you’re making a donation, be sure to write a check to the correct organization. You can also make it on behalf of the officiant's name as well. \n\nTipping is always a gesture that shows the person or [wedding vendor](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) you appreciate their time and efforts. 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We're torn between going for a classic wedding nail design that stands the test of time or opting for something trendier to add a modern twist to our look. How do we strike the perfect balance?\n\n*~ Nail-ing it Together *\n\n---\n\nDear *Nail-ing it Together*, you’ve come to the right crew to answer your nail-biting question. \n\n__Zola, the wedding experts, sat down with nail artist and bride-to-be, Zola Ganzorigt__ (aka Zola G, creator of the viral [“glazed donut”](https://www.glamour.com/story/glazed-donut-nails) nail trend and nail artist to your favorite celebs – Hailey Bieber, Sydney Sweeney, Kendall Jenner, and more) __to talk all things wedding nails, including the hottest wedding nail trends for 2023.__\n\n---\n\n### So Zola, got any advice? How do you think 2023 couples can incorporate modern nail trends into their wedding manicure that they'll see in photos forever?\n\n__Zola G:__ Yes! Glazed donut nails are definitely the way to go for a modern touch. They provide a contemporary twist to traditional neutral nails, making them more modern without adding too much. \n\n---\n\n### What do you think is the next-of-the-moment nail trend that could battle [\"glazed donut\"](https://www.glamour.com/story/glazed-donut-nails) nails for internet fame? Are there any other wedding nail ideas that your clients are all asking for right now?\n\n__Zola G:__ I believe glazed donut nails are the new French nails, and they will stay as a classic bridal nail trend. Vanilla French nails are also perfect for weddings. They bring a touch of elegance and sophistication to every bridal look. Plus they won’t steal the spotlight from your engagement ring.\n\nLately, I've been getting requests for French nail designs. Not the regular white French, but different color combinations or restructured French designs. It’s one of my favorite ways to help my clients showcase their personalities while still keeping things classic. \n\n#### 3 Ways to Elevate Classic Wedding Nails with Zola & Celebrity Artist \"Nails by Zola\"\n\n\n---\n\n*We couldn’t let Zola G go without answering some more of our burning questions. Here’s what she had to say about her top nail looks from her star-studded clientele, and her tips for those looking to pull off star-quality nails on a budget. *\n\n---\n\n### What celeb look have you done that you think would be perfect as wedding nails?\n\n__Zola G:__ Hailey Bieber’s 2022 Met Gala Glazed donut nail look is perfect as wedding nails. Also, the Aura glaze I did on Jenna Dewan would be a great option as well. And the nails I did on Sydney Sweeney for Euphoria’s premiere are such good wedding nail inspo. \n\n---\n\n### Are there any other wedding nail ideas that your clients are all asking for right now?\n\n__Zola G:__ Lately, I've been getting requests for French nail designs. Not the regular white French, but different color combinations or restructured French designs. It’s one of my favorite ways to help my clients showcase their personalities while still keeping things classic. \n\n---\n\n### Our survey shows that couples this year are gravitating towards neutral/classic shades. Are there any particular neutral nail colors that are your favorites?\n\n__Zola G:__ My go-to favorite neutral shades are [OPI Bare My Soul](https://www.opi.com/products/nail-lacquer-bare-my-soul), [Put It in Neutral](https://www.opi.com/products/nail-lacquer-put-it-in-neutral), and [Bubble Bath](https://www.opi.com/products/nail-lacquer-bubble-bath). They’re perfect for every day and transition seamlessly for any events you have. I love a nail that can go from grocery shopping to an engagement party or wedding shower! \n\n---\n\n### We know that some couples want extra embellishment for their wedding nails. What do you recommend for spicing up nails that won't feel too trendy or steal the show from your ring?\n\n__Zola G:__ For those who opt for embellishments, I recommend getting their nails done one or two days before the special day. This way, you won't have to worry about losing rhinestones or any other possible issues. \n\n---\n\n### Rumor has it you’re getting married soon! Will you be adding any embellishments or designs to your wedding nails that hold a special meaning to you? \n\n__Zola G:__ Definitely! I would love my wedding nails to be classic and modern at the same time and also include little symbolic details that represent the Mongolian wedding ring. The ring has two connected circles for the groom and two connected rhombuses for the bride, symbolizing \"together forever.\" I added a modern touch by incorporating two connected hearts on my ring finger, which also happens to be Zola wedding company's logo! What a coincidence. \n\n#### How Celebrity Nail Artist \"Nails by Zola\" Designed Her Wedding Nails with Zola \n\n\n---\n\n### What are your top tips for budget-conscious couples who want extra special wedding nails?\n\n__Zola G:__ My advice for every bride is to try a few different nail designs or color shades during each nail salon visit before your wedding day. Decide on your ultimate favorite design or shade. Then, get your nails done 1-2 days before your wedding so your manicure looks fresh. Also, please avoid rhinestones or decals. This will save a lot of money in your nail budget and allow your engagement ring to shine. \n\n---\n\n### Got any advice for couples concerned about keeping their natural nails healthy if they opt for wearing acrylic or gel for the day?\n\n__Zola G:__ If you wear any type of nail, the removal process is important and mostly the reason for damaging nails. \n\nProper removal can keep your nails healthy, so I’d recommend getting them removed professionally or be very gentle. Also recently I’m loving this OPI nail serum for already damaged nails. \n\n---\n\n### What other nail and hand care would you recommend leading up to the wedding?\n\n__Zola G:__ Such a good question! Nail and hand care are really important for your manicure to look nice. Using cuticle oil every day and using a hand mask when you do your skincare will help your manicure look better & last longer. \n\n---\n\n### Last but not least, why do you think nail design is such a special part of the wedding journey for many couples?\n\n__Zola G:__ When you’re engaged you’re showing off your hands and your wedding ring every chance you get, AND capturing countless photos where your nails will be in the spotlight too. So, having nail designs you love becomes essential. \n\nWhen your nails are perfectly manicured, it not only boosts your confidence in flaunting that bling but also ties your entire look together flawlessly. It's like the cherry on top, ensuring you feel amazing and ready to rock your wedding day!\n\n---\n\nAnd there you have it! Whether it's the timeless glazed donut nails or the popular French nail designs, __Zola and Zola G__ have the expertise to ensure that couples can incorporate any and all modern trends into their wedding day. 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Read on to learn the mother of the bride duties you need to know for the big day","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-12-05T18:50:12.036Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Du4QRNfQqkfbs7goueCb6/dc837f5d47cc3d13033c013677fa2c7d/Mother-of-the-Bride-Duties.jpg","altText":"mother of the bride duties"},"heroCredit":"Gabe McMullen Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/gabe-mcmullen-photography","body":"As the mother of the bride, you have plenty of [to-do’s to check off your list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) in the days, weeks, and months leading up to the wedding—from taking your daughter wedding dress shopping to participating in the ceremony, to generally making yourself available. \n\nWith that in mind, we’ve compiled all the necessary mother of the bride duties you should plan on tackling (or at least offering to be involved in) before and on your daughter’s wedding day, as well as post-wedding.\n\n## 16 Duties Every Mother of a Bride Should Know\n\n## Before the Wedding Day\n\n### 1. Assist in looking into and scouting venues.\nTraditionally, the mother of the bride will often help the engaged couple research, communicate with, and tour potential wedding venues. How hands-on and involved in this aspect of planning you are is entirely up to the bride and yourself. Your assistance may include tasks like asking friends and family for recommendations, looking into venues in the area of interest online, calling or emailing venues to discuss availability and quotes, and accompanying the couple on a tour of the venue.\n\n### 2. Serve as a point of contact for vendors.\nEven intimately sized weddings can involve juggling a lot of communication. Because the couple is likely tackling a lot of their wedding planning to-do list, offer to help by being a point person for all vendors (plus potential vendors). Whether you’re the main point of contact or an extra point person who’s CC’d on email chains, your involvement is sure to be a great help.\n\n### 3. Be a supportive confidant throughout wedding gown shopping.\nIf your daughter is inviting people to go wedding dress (or suite, or otherwise) shopping, chances are you’re at the top of the list. Throughout this process—which can span multiple appointments and involve some research—you’ll want to be as supportive and helpful as possible. This part of the wedding planning process can be a pretty big deal. Offer to help by researching local bridal salons, boutiques, and trunk shows, setting up appointments, and (of course) attending. During appointments, stash your phone away (unless photos are requested), offering your most supportive opinions, and generally aid in creating a great atmosphere.\n\n### 4. Attend and/or plan any pre-wedding events and celebrations.\nLong gone is outdated etiquette that states the bride’s side shouldn’t plan celebratory events. In fact, most bridal showers are now planned out by a loved one, be it a bridesmaid, maid of honor, or the mother of the bride. Once your daughter has announced her engagement, ask if she’d like you to plan any of the events that are to come. This may include an engagement party, bridal party, and rehearsal dinner. Taking on the task of planning one or more of these events isn’t a small help—it can involve research, invitations, RSVPs, setup, and making everyone feel welcome. That being said, it’s one of the more paramount and appreciated mother of the bride duties. At the very least, plan on attending these events.\n\n![INLINE OneLovePhotography 1080x720 Fallon&Jeremy](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2z530XSRp5lAp9OWOtnRgv/d51fe09b9582717b770d6122e16cb39e/INLINE_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Fallon_Jeremy.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // One Love Photography\n\n## Before The Ceremony\n### 5. Make sure the bride eats.\nThis may seem small, but is actually incredibly important. There’s a lot of excitement (and nerves!) on the day of the wedding, from top to bottom. In the midst of all that excitement, it can be easy for the bride to [forget to eat breakfast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-eat-on-your-wedding-day). or lunch. As the mother of the bride, it’s your responsibility to make sure your daughter eats enough to sustain her energy throughout the day. Pro tip: Arrange the food situation beforehand. This can mean going to the store in the days leading up to the wedding and collecting food to bring to the getting ready session. This can also mean offering to have food delivered to the getting ready location. In any case, make sure you have a few snacks in your bag, just in case. \n\n### 6. Help the bride get dressed.\nPerhaps the most classic of the mother of the bride duties is helping the bride [get dressed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-color-should-the-mother-of-the-bride-dress-be). We’ve all seen the classic images of a mother helping zip up her daughter’s wedding dress. Not only is this very helpful for the bride (wedding dresses can be hard to get into), but it’s also a great opportunity for you and your daughter to have a special moment before the ceremony begins—not to mention a great photo op. Take the moment to assist where needed, outfit-wise, but also don’t forget to offer some sweet words.\n\n### 7. Keep the schedule moving along and on track. \nThere are a lot of moving parts throughout a wedding day. In order for the ceremony to start on time, all of those moving parts need to happen right on schedule. If you have a wedding planner or coordinator, it’s their job to keep things on track—but as the mother of the bride, you’ll also want to keep an eye on timing and make sure that everything is happening when/where/how it needs to.\n\nGet ahold of a wedding day schedule before the day of and keep it on-hand throughout the day. Pro tip: There are plenty of digital schedule templates that make having the timeline on-hand super convenient. Look into purchasing or making one, if not copying the schedule down in your phone notes, if that makes keeping track of it easier. We recommend also providing one to the father of the bride, [groom’s parents](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/mother-of-the-grooms-duties), and wedding party.\n\n### 8. Help keep the bride cool, calm, and relaxed. \nAs you’re likely well aware, the bride will probably be feeling a [mixture of excitement and nerves](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-makeup-after-crying) in the hours leading up to the wedding. As her mom, it’s your job to make sure she stays as positive and relaxed as possible. Keep the mood happy and light and try to solve any issues that arise without the bride even realizing it. \n\n## During The Ceremony\n\n### 9. Participate in any planned ceremony events.\nIf there are any parts of the ceremony your daughter has asked you to be a part of (for example, walking her [down the aisle](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-walks-the-mother-of-the-bride-down-the-aisle), doing a ceremony reading, or participating in some sort of unity ceremony), obviously, that will fall under your day-of mother of the bride duties. At this point, you should have gone over these happenings during the wedding rehearsal.\n\n### 10. Sit back and enjoy.\nIf there isn’t anything for you to do during the ceremony, your only responsibility as the mother of the bride is to sit back and enjoy (typically, in the first pew). This is a huge moment in your daughter’s life, so make sure to be present and soak up every second. If you’re in the processional and/or recessional, be prepared to step in when it’s your turn.\n\n## Between Ceremony And Reception\n\n### 11. Help the bride bustle her dress or navigate any outfit changes.\nDepending on the complexity of the design, bustling a dress can take one or multiple people. So, if your bride’s dress needs to be bustled, make sure you’re on hand to help it get done. If you anticipate this being a responsibility of yours, request to join your daughter at her dress fitting or final alterations appointment so that you can be instructed on how to bustle the gown. And if your bride has an outfit change between the ceremony and reception, make sure you’re there to help her get changed quickly and easily (and don’t forget to stash her ceremony attire somewhere safe, preferably in a garment bag!).\n\n### 12. Make yourself available for photos.\nThe wedding photographer might want to snap family photos between the ceremony and reception. Make sure you’re available to track down any necessary family members (a task that may be easier said than done) and pose with the newly married couple.\n\n### 13. Greet the guests at cocktail hour.\nThis is one of your mother of the bride etiquette responsibilities. Traditionally, the bride’s parents are considered the hosts of the wedding. While this may or may not be the case, it’s still important to carve out some time to greet guests and thank them for coming. If the newlyweds aren’t having a receiving line, you’ll be acting as their representative (along with your daughter’s in-laws, the father and [mother of the groom](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/mother-of-the-bride-vs-mother-of-the-groom-dresses-whats-the-difference)). Make the rounds and briefly speak to as many loved ones as possible. If you were busy helping the bride get ready before the ceremony, the cocktail hour is a great opportunity to connect with guests.\n\n![INLINE Kivus&Camera 1080x720 Sarah&Monty](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/13YKLp9nbSnCW9cFRIKg7J/4b773f9f6226a3896a32eedb760eccad/INLINE_Kivus_Camera_1080x720_Sarah_Monty.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Kivus & Camera\n\n## At The Reception\n\n### 14. Give a welcome speech.\nAgain, the parents of the bride are typically viewed as the hosts of the wedding—and part of your mother of the bride duties as the wedding host is to [give a speech or wedding toast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/stop-rambling-wedding-speech) at the wedding reception to welcome guests. Prepare your speech well ahead of time and ask your daughter if she’d like you to run it by her beforehand. And, no matter what, make sure it’s genuine and full of love and support.\n\n### 15. Get out on the dance floor.\nThe newly married couple will have the first dance of the night. Once their dance is wrapped up, though, it’s traditional for the couple’s parents to take a spin on the dance floor and encourage the other guests to get up and start dancing.\n\n## After The Reception\n### 16. Make sure everything is taken care of before you leave.\nBefore you head out, make sure that anything that needs to be wrapped up or taken care of—like packing up any wedding decor or tipping vendors, such as caterers and wedding planners—is all settled. Most vendors call the act of taking things down and putting them away “striking” and might have it in their contract that they take care of their share. That being said, take a final look or two around and assist in collect forgotten items if needed.\n\n## Mother of the Bride FAQ\n### What does a mother of the bride wear? \nFirst and foremost, what anyone (or, at least, anyone in the wedding party) wears should reflect the couple’s wedding vision. Ask your daughter for some assistance on [what to wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/mother-of-the-bride-hairstyle-ideas), here. Briefly ask for the formality level, preferred colors or patterns, and silhouettes. Then seek out an outfit that you’re comfortable in that also fits the desired look.\n\n### What should she gift her daughter on the day of?\nOften times, the mother of the bride will gift their daughter with something the morning of their wedding. Consider presenting her with a beautifully customized hanger for her outfit or a piece of jewelry she might want to wear. You can also gift a family heirloom, which perfectly fits the qualifications of something old (as in new, borrowed, and blue).\n\n### Should she assist with the guest list? \nThis entirely depends on the bride and her significant other. If they’d prefer to compile it themselves, it won’t require your assistance. However, [if your daughter requests some help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning) with remembering family members or family friends, you can aid in creating it.\n\nAs the mother of the bride, you want to make sure your daughter’s wedding is as happy, memorable, and stress-free as possible. Now that you know the mother of the bride duties you’ll need to manage on the big day, you have everything you need to make that happen!","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"If you want to totally rock your maid of honor duties, check out our full checklist of MOH duties. 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Don’t worry, the experts at Zola have you covered with a guide on all the best man’s duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-31T21:02:14.486Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6yUj6IlflBg9sNoDqUzo3A/be91a8e185bce29c9ba599a4207728f6/Best-Man-Duties_CinderandCo.jpg","altText":"best man adjusts collar pin for groom in military attire"},"heroCredit":"Cinder and Co Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Before the wedding, the best man can expect to coordinate with other groomsmen, plan the bachelor party, organize attire rentals, and handle travel plans. \n- During the wedding, the best man should get dressed with the groom, keep everyone on schedule, hold onto the rings, and help with guests. \n- The best man also stands by the groom at the ceremony, signs the marriage certificate as a witness, and escorts the maid of honor for the recessional.\n","body":"If you have been asked to serve as best man, or if you’re a groom thinking about who should be your right-hand man, you’re probably wondering: what are the best man duties? In the most broad sense, the best man serves as a groom’s go-to for help throughout wedding planning and on the big day, but this supporting role involves a variety of different tasks. To ensure success in the best man department, here’s a complete list of the best man duties. \n\n## Pre-Wedding Best Man Duties\nIn the months and weeks leading up to the big day, the best man is tasked with handling a a few different tasks:\n\n### 1. Organize and Lead Fellow Groomsmen\n\nThe best man is the lead groomsman, and, as such, should take responsibility for organizing and leading the other groomsmen. This might include serving as mediator between the groom and the groomsmen, answering questions, and helping the other guys stay on top of their [groomsmen duties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-groomsmen-duties). \n\n### 2. Coordinate Wedding Attire Rentals or Purchases\n\nIn addition to helping the groom choose the wedding attire, the best man is tasked with making sure each groomsmen secures his attire—and accessories—by the deadline set by the groom. This includes:\n- Gathering each groomsman’s measurements and sharing them with the shop or tailor.\n- Communicating the groom’s wishes on attire choices (such as tie color, shoe style, etc.).\n- Making sure everyone is on track to meet the rental or purchase deadline.\n\n*__Pro Tip:__ Make sure each groomsman’s measurements are sent to the shop and/or tailor 2-4 months before the wedding. This will help ensure that everyone receives their attire without last-minute complications.*\n\n### 3. Plan The Bachelor Party\n\nWhile it’s the duty of all the groomsmen to plan an amazing [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties) for the groom, it’s the best man’s job to take the lead in coordinating the travel, accommodations, and activities. He should also divvy up costs so that the groom’s expenses are covered. Additionally, it’s the best man’s responsibility to communicate the itinerary of events with the groom and the groomsmen. \n\n### 4. Take Charge of Buying The Groom’s Gift\n\nIt’s tradition that the groomsmen will collectively give a gift to the groom, usually at the bachelor party. It’s up to the best man to lead the charge on choosing the gift and collecting funds from everyone. \n\n### 5. Serve as Groom’s Confidant\n\nAn especially important best man duty is serving as the groom’s confidant and go-to-person for emotional support. Wedding planning can be stressful, and getting married is a big life step—the best man should be there to listen and work with the groom through all his emotions, good or bad. \n\n### 6. Attend and Help Out at Pre-Wedding Events\n\nUnless otherwise communicated, the best man is expected to attend and help out at any pre-wedding events, such as the engagement party, wedding shower(s), ceremony rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner. \n\n### 7. Handle Travel and Accommodation Plans\n\nIf any groomsmen are traveling from out of town, it’s up to the best man to help arrange local accommodations. And, in some cases, the best man may be asked to help the couple with transportation on the wedding day, such as driving the groomsmen to the ceremony on the wedding day or securing a car to take the couple to their hotel after the reception. For exact details on what’s expected, the best man should consult the groom. ","body2":"## Wedding Day Best Man Duties\nThe best man also plays a big role in helping the wedding run smoothly. The groom and best man should work together to create a game plan in advance to ensure that expectations are clear, and that all tasks can be completed while leaving plenty of time for joining in on the fun. \n\n### 1. Prepare an Emergency Kit\n\nIf the couple is hiring a wedding planner, he or she will likely come prepared with an emergency kit. However, if there’s no planner to turn to, it’s a good idea to put together a set of supplies that could come in handy in the event of a mishap on the wedding day, such as a sewing kit, stain remover, first aid kit, and a couple extra pairs of socks should a groomsman or two forget theirs. \n\n### 2. Get Dressed With The Groom and Other Groomsmen\n\nOn the morning of the wedding, the best man and groomsmen are expected to get ready with the groom and help him stay calm and collected before the ceremony. To keep everyone upbeat and entertained, we recommend putting on some music and breaking out some beer (or the groom’s beverage of choice). \n\n*__Pro Tip:__ Make sure that the groom drinks water and eats something before the ceremony begins—it’s easy for him to forget in the hustle and bustle of the big day.* \n\n### 3. Keep Everyone on Schedule\n\nOn his wedding day, the groom shouldn’t have to worry about wrangling his groomsmen. The best man should take the lead on keeping everyone on schedule and ensuring that everyone has what they need (like pinned-on boutonnieres) before it’s go-time. \n\n### 4. Hold on to The Rings\n\nBefore and during the ceremony, the best man is responsible for keeping up with the wedding rings and presenting them for the ring exchange. \n\n### 5. Help Welcome and Escort Guests\n\nTraditionally, the groomsmen and the best man are assigned the task of escorting guests and passing out programs (if applicable). Either way, the best man should be prepared to welcome friends and family as they arrive. \n\n### 6. Stand by the Groom’s Side at The Ceremony\n\nAs the best of the groom’s buds, the best man stands next to the groom during the ceremony. This makes it easy to pass the rings to the groom when the moment is right, but also serves the symbolic purpose of showing the best man’s place of honor by the groom’s side on his journey into married life. \n\n### 7. Escort Maid of Honor During The Ceremony Recessional\n\nIt depends on the recessional plan outlined at the rehearsal, but the best man traditionally escorts the maid of honor during the ceremony recessional. \n\n### 8. Sign The Marriage License as a Witness\n\nMany marriage licenses require the signatures of two witnesses. The maid of honor and the best man typically fill this role. Whether the signing takes place before of the after the ceremony, the best man should make sure he’s in the right place at the right time for this important task. \n\n### 9. Pose for Photos\n\nAll of the groomsmen may be asked to pose for pictures before and/or after the ceremony. In addition to putting on his best smile, the best man should take an active role in making sure everyone is present and focused during the time allotted for wedding party and groomsmen photos. \n\n### 10. Give The Best Man Toast\n\nThe best man is often asked to give a toast during the wedding reception. Check out our guide on [how to give a great wedding toast](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) for tips and tricks. \n\n### 11. Be a Great Guest\n\nThe groom will look to his groomsmen to make sure that the wedding is not only stress-free, but fun. The guy bestowed the honor of best man should lead the pack in being great wedding guests throughout the evening: chat with other guests, drink responsibly, participate in guest activities (like signing the guestbook and snapping selfies in the photo booth), and getting the crowd pumped up when it’s time to hit the dance floor. \n\n### 12. Keep an Eye Out for The Groom\n\nWhile it’s not required, if the best man wants to go above and beyond for his buddy, he can keep an eye out for the groom throughout the reception. We mean this in two ways: 1) Make sure the groom is well supplied with drinks (both alcoholic and non-alcoholic) and that he takes some time to eat during the reception; 2) Handle situations that might distract the groom from enjoying the celebration, such as a groomsman or guest who overindulged at the bar. \n\n### 13. Ensure a Stress-Free Send-Off\n\nIt’s customary for the groomsmen to make sure that the couple’s send-off is a breeze. Whichever of the below activities are assigned to the groom’s crew, the best man should coordinate with the groomsmen to make sure everything is completed as requested. Some send-off duties the groomsmen might be tasked with include: \n- Rounding up the wedding gifts and cards and transporting them to a secure place.\n- Decorating the car (or other mode of transportation) that the couple will use to leave the reception. Keep in mind: this may not be allowed if the couple hires a transportation company. \n- Driving the couple to their hotel (or the airport) after the wedding reception, if they didn’t book other transportation. \n- Readying the luggage for the couple, if they are planning to leave for the honeymoon directly after the reception. 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The state of the pandemic can change quickly, but by staying informed, you can make it to your destination—wedded bliss—without a hitch.*\n\nAlthough the first thing that may come to mind when planning a wedding is having a huge affair, eventually when the reality sets in and all the details become clear, it can send some couples into a tailspin. If this sounds like you, there’s good news: You can have the exact wedding you want, just on the smaller side. \nScaling your celebration down to a cozy, manageable size will help to make it as intimate as possible for you and your guests. Plus doing it this way will help to show off the details that matter to you and your partner, and can also make your money and budget go further. \n\nIf you’re thinking about planning a small wedding, here are a few things you can do to achieve an intimate ceremony vibe without sacrifice.\n\n#### Pare Down the Guest List\n\n![How to Create a Small, Intimate Wedding | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/702e3mWTrPvn9HrgIHwgRn/ad56aedd6f7aa049c02a28ba291b995f/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nIf you're opting for a smaller wedding, one of the first things to consider is the guest list. To get that intimate feel, you’ll need a small guest list—ideally just your close friends and family. Think about who you want to be there and your relationship with them. Let how close the relationship guides whether or not you invite them. At the end of the day, this is your wedding—you have to feel good about who's coming and what you've planned. You want to feel completely at ease with those who you invite and know that they are an important part of your life. (You can always make a second list of people you’d like to send a wedding announcement to once the happy event has taken place.) \n\n#### Think About the Venue\n\nNow that you've tackled the guest list, the next thing to consider is the wedding venue. When you’re hosting a smaller event, you generally have more options. Everything from your favorite restaurant, a hotel, or even an outdoor park (with the right permits, of course) is fair game. Having a smaller guest list also means you can think out of the box when dreaming up the perfect place to host your intimate wedding. Think about your favorite museum, a local jazz club, or even a winery. \nOf course, you can also make a big wedding venue feel smaller in a lot of ways by playing with the table layout, adding more food and beverage stations, having several lounge areas for your guests, and more. \nAs you tour different potential wedding sites, have your small wedding in mind. And be sure to ask if there are other events that day. Having something else takes place at the same time as your wedding could be distracting when you’re hoping for a more private, intimate vibe. \n\n#### Focus on the Finer Details\n\nAnother thing to keep in mind with a smaller wedding celebration is the service. When you’re planning an intimate event, the service should be out of this world. \nIt’s also important to coordinate ahead of time to give your event an effortless vibe. Aim to have a timeline of events, such as when the ceremony takes place, the time of the reception and dinner, the entertainment, and any other activities you have planned, set way in advance of the big day. \n\n#### Decide What's Most Important for You and Your Partner\n\n![How to Create a Small, Intimate Wedding | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7L0w3gjloRthn1U9nLp2WT/fcb467af91086212776b0f00621ed7d7/inline_unsplash.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\nWhen planning your wedding, you and your partner should sit down and discuss what elements of the wedding are most important to you. From there, you can form your wedding planning around that and highlight these elements in the wedding itself. Perhaps it's the food and or decor, or perhaps you both have your sights set on a specific location or venue that's a little out of your wedding budget. If you can decide on the things that matter most to you, you’ll be better equipped to decide where you want to spend your wedding budget. \nBecause you have fewer guests, your money will go a lot farther, and it's up to you to decide how you want to spend it. Perhaps you want to go all out and have that paired seven-course meal complete with wine and whiskey tastings or a great photographer. Use that extra money on something truly special and important to you as a couple. \n\n#### Emphasize the Personal\n\nBecause you have fewer people to accommodate, you can personalize every detail of the experience for everyone. Think handwritten menus, customized floral arrangements at each table, and as many candles as you can get your hands on. \nInstead of an array of small tables, you may also consider one long table or even a U-shaped table. This can help to create the mood that your guests are family and are there to celebrate you on your big day. \n\nThere are lots of ways to create a small, intimate wedding you’ve always wanted. Remember to be as creative as possible and try to see things differently as you plan. Have fun, emphasize the personal experience you want to have, and make decisions for your big day that reflect you and your partner.\n","tag":"How-To ","nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Don’t miss a wedding planning detail with our complete, expert-crafted wedding checklist and timeline. 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[Pop the question](https://www.zola.com/community/topic/ask-team-z) to our Zola advisors on Team-Z!*\n\nYou have questions, Zola’s Team-Z has answers! We get it. Wedding planning is something you don’t do very often, and from proposals, to [registry items](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) for your new home, navigating this new territory can be a mystery. Well, your fabulously knowledgeable wedding team here at Zola — Team-Z — wants to set you up for success by responding to your burning questions.\n\nP.S. If you aren’t a part of [Zola’s vibrant community](https://www.zola.com/community/sign-up?returnTo=%2Fcommunity%2Ftopic%2Fask-team-z) yet, be sure to check it out! Our couples love sharing their very own wedding tips with other planning couples just like you. \n\n---\n\n*Dear Team-Z,* I know that [planning a perfect wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) is supposed to be fun and exciting, and — don’t get me wrong — it is. But I’m also struggling with feeling stressed out. I don’t want to take any of the joy out of planning my big day, so how can I manage the planning process with everything else that I’ve got to do? From working and being a dog parent to just living life, I find the extra wedding day duties stressful, and TBH, I’m feeling a little guilty about that. Any advice? \n\n*~ Messed with Stress*\n\n## So, How Do You Stay Sane While Planning A Wedding?\n\n*Dear Messed with Stress,* know that you aren’t alone! After all, life is busy already, and adding wedding planning stress on top of an already full life can leave your head spinning. Team-Z gets it! Although it’s normal for stress levels to rise, it’s also essential to keep your mental health and wellness top of mind. So, dealing with stressors correctly is vital.\n\nAs the wedding day approaches and your to-do list gets longer, it’s natural to experience wedding-related stress as you try to shorten your checklists. You should prioritize certain tasks, but don’t let yourself get overstressed, which can complicate the process and negatively impact your well-being. Or you could default to avoiding tasks altogether, forcing yourself to scurry last minute leading up to your special day.\n\nThere are many stressors during the wedding planning process, and it may feel like they’re coming at you from all directions. Trying to figure out your wedding budget, playing relationship gymnastics with your guests lists and seating charts, and coordinating your wedding venue and vendors – these are just a few of the reasons you may find yourself reeling as you get further into planning. And if you’re planning a destination wedding on top of it all?? It’s no surprise when couples often ask us about how to manage getting burnt out.\n\n## How to Deal With Wedding Stress\n\nThe question gets popped, an engagement ring gets slipped on your finger, and all of a sudden, you’re expected to plan one of the biggest events of your life. It’s such a big ask! But Team-Z is here with 12 tips to help you breathe a little easier as you look forward to marrying the love of your life.\n\n### 1. Hire a Wedding Planner\nThere’s a great debate over whether or not folks need someone to help them plan their big day. However, Team-Z is a big (massive, huge!) believer in hiring a trusted wedding planner. Not only can they help you stay on track and get organized, but planning weddings is what they do. Yes, they cost a bit extra, but they can help you save time and money (and stress) via their expertise.\n\n### 2. Delegate Tasks to Others\nFrom your bridesmaids to your in-laws, [everyone probably wants to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-help-you-plan-your-wedding) — so let them. Even if it’s small tasks, such as making sure the wedding party gifts get ordered and checking RSVPs to the rehearsal dinner. Your bridal party is capable, and many family members are willing to help.\n\n### 3. Communication Is Key\nTalk to your wedding planner and partner about expectations and your overall timeline. If you expect anyone else to do something — say a groomsman or your mom — be clear about your expectations. The more you can communicate, the better. Also, talk to your vendors every once in a while about how things are moving along without over-contacting them.\n\n### 4. Practice Self Care\nIn addition to taking breaks, pamper yourself in ways that speak to you. Maybe you need to meditate for 30 minutes or reset your intentions during a yoga session. Possibly, the best thing is for you to get a massage or buy a luxe bath bomb and soak your worries away at home. Just make time to do so.\n\n### 5. Schedule Date Nights\nYou and your loved one are experiencing one of the most exciting times in your relationship. Schedule regular date nights, even if you have to create boundaries, such as not talking about wedding ideas for an evening. Also, others may feel neglected, so plan a time to go for coffee with your BFF or take your mom to lunch. You’ll be glad you did!\n\n### 6. Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute\nThings will get busier as the big day gets closer, so try to do things as early as possible. Formulate your wedding budget early so that you can stay on track. Also, do things like securing your wedding venue and vendors and buying your wedding dress (you’ll need alterations!) early in the process while the excitement is still high.\n\n### 7. Create Wedding Planning Checklists\nHave a notebook or section in your planner where you keep a [to-do list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-10-things-to-do-when-planning-a-wedding). You may be in a meeting and think of something you need to do, so create a list. When you have time, you can add those details to your larger checklists. The more organized you are, the more clarity of mind you’ll have.\n\n### 8. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff\nMentally prepare yourself that things can happen. Your invitations may arrive late, your florist may not be able to secure a specific flower, or your college BFF may not be able to attend. When unexpected situations happen, simply take a breath and think through alternate options.\n\n### 9. Prioritize Your Mental Health\nThat stress you’re feeling isn’t something you should be handling alone. Communicate with your partner about your mental health, and take a break if necessary. Simply shutting down and going dark for a bit will worry everyone. Just let your loved ones, partner, and wedding planner know that you need a few days to reset. And there’s no reason to feel guilty about doing so.\n\n### 10. Enjoy the Big Day\nIt may rain, or your favorite aunt may have a flight delay. These things will happen, but your wedding day is yours. It’s not called a big day for no reason! Being a newlywed after you say “I do” is you need to remember. Soak in the fact that others are there to celebrate you, and that alone can help melt the stress away.\n\nWell, *Messed with Stress*, Team-Z wishes you no stress before the wedding and the best of luck on your big day. 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2019-09-12T14:40:03.271Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"heroCredit":"Captured Couture, LLC","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/captured-couture-llc","body":"Weddings are all about celebrating the love between you and your partner. You’re also celebrating the love you have with the people closest to you as a couple—and that includes your wedding party. Building the perfect wedding party can be tricky. You can’t include everyone but you also want a good range of personalities and loved ones. Exactly how many people you should have in your wedding party is entirely up to you, of course. If you’re struggling with the numbers, though, here’s an easy trick to figure out the best size wedding party for you.\n\n![INLINE EileenKPhotography 1080x720 Lynn&John](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4cAtF4ZqLg8TPQyMzXy91J/d43166ae7e68a0b63999ce666b29d032/INLINE_EileenKPhotography_1080x720_Lynn_John.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Eileen K Photography \n\n## How many people should you have in your wedding party?\n\nThe key here: Look at the size of your wedding.\n\nIdeally, the size of your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) will be proportionate to the size of your wedding. So, for example, if you’re having an intimate gathering of 50 people, it might not make sense to have a full wedding party of 20. On the flip side, if you’re having a large wedding—and your current guest list is 200+—having a 20-person wedding party makes a bit more sense.\n\nWhether you’re planning a small wedding, a large wedding, or something in between, here are some guidelines for finding that wedding party sweet spot.\n\n### If you’re having a small wedding...\nIf you’re having a small wedding—75 people or less—it makes sense to keep the wedding party small. Aim for 10 people or less total, not for each partner. \n\n### If you’re having a mid-sized wedding...\nIf you’re having a mid-sized wedding—let’s say between 75 and 150 people—you can reasonably add more people to the wedding party without having it feel disproportionate or unbalanced. \n\nWith a wedding this size, you can have a wedding party of up to 18 people (for example, nine one each side) without it feeling like “too much.”\n\n### If you’re having a large wedding...\nDo you have a guest list that’s a mile long—and a list of potential wedding party members that’s almost as long? Well, we’ve got good news for you.\n\nThe bigger the wedding, the bigger you can make your wedding party without it feeling over-the-top or disproportionate to the number of total guests. Some couples have as many as 15 wedding party members—each.\n\nIf you’re having an extremely large wedding, you can also have an extremely large wedding party—really, anything up to 30 people should work.\n\n__Note: Bear in mind that this is your wedding. If you want a huge wedding party at a small wedding, by all means, proceed! These are just rough guidelines to help you plan.__\n\n![INLINE HaleighNicolePhotography 1080x720 Sasha&Joey](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4tclOO5P15tbLSk1WJiVEF/9cdfba3d113b219e83fa3cc391eadb1f/INLINE_HaleighNicolePhotography_1080x720_Sasha_Joey.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Haleigh Nicole Photography\n\n## Other Factors to Wedding Party Size\nObviously, the size of your wedding should play into how many people you ask to be in your wedding party. However, that’s certainly not the only factor you should use to decide your wedding party size. Here are a few important tips to keep in mind as you’re choosing your wedding party:\n\n### Keep your budget in mind. \nOne of the most important things to think about when deciding on the right wedding party size for you and your partner? [Budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-ways-cut-wedding-costs).\n\nThere are certain costs that you need to cover for your wedding party, like [wedding party gifts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-party-gifts) for everyone and, potentially, [hair and makeup](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-hair-and-makeup-costs) for your bridesmaids. The more people in your wedding party, the more expensive it can be. So, before you decide on the right wedding party size for your wedding, make sure to look at your budget and get a clear idea of how many people you can actually afford.\n\n### Don’t worry about perfect balance.\nBack in the day, most couples thought their wedding party needed to be perfectly balanced—you and your soon-to-be-spouse had to choose the same number of people for your respective sides.\n\nSimply put: Don’t worry about it. If you have three people you want to stand by your side at your wedding and your partner has five, that’s totally fine. There’s no need to have each side of the wedding party be perfectly symmetrical—and there’s no reason to add people to your wedding party to make things look “even” or “balanced.”\n\n### Not having a wedding party is OK, too.\nDon’t want to have a wedding party at all? No problem! There is no right or wrong way to do this. You can choose just to have a [maid of honor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist-maid-of-honor-duties) stand next to you during your wedding ceremony—or you can choose to have no one at all. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding and you should do whatever you want to do! As long as you choose a group of people you want \n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Pick out a thoughtful gift for the squad that shows up for you on your big day. 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[Pop the question](https://www.zola.com/community/topic/ask-team-z) to our Zola advisors on Team-Z!\n\n*Dear Team-Z*, It’s safe to say that my partner and I are thrilled about our upcoming wedding! Planning keeps us busy, yet we could use help from those closest to us — especially our wedding party. Sometimes we feel bad as we know everyone’s schedules are full, so how do we go about asking them to chip in and get involved without seeming so needy? The last thing we want to do is make them feel as though we’re burdening them, but we also want them to share in the excitement leading up to the big day. So, what’s appropriate, and how do we get them pumped up for planning?\n\n*~ Helplessly Helpless!* \n\n---\n\n## So, How Do You Get Your Wedding Party to Help More?\n\n*Dear Helplessly Helpless,* thanks for asking Team-Z to weigh in with advice, and let us first tell you that your concerns are valid. Asking those closest to you to stand by your side on your big day is an easy, relationship-building task. However, you don’t want to hinder friendships or cause trouble by asking them to help. Today folks are excessively busy, and it can seem like even your smallest request is asking too much. Team-Z understands!\n\nEven though you’re steadily crossing things off your to-do list as your big day approaches, the number of tasks can increase. That’s where people participating in the wedding can pick up some of the pieces, and knowing who can help and how to ask properly is essential. Once you pose the question, you may be pleasantly surprised! Some may be anxious to get involved and were simply waiting for you to tell them how.\n\nFrom who to ask and how to know when is too much, here’s Team-Z’s take on maintaining key relationships while getting the help you need.\n\n## How to Get Your Wedding Party Involved \nThe first question you may wonder is, “Who is involved in a wedding ceremony?” Of course, the happy couple comes to mind first, and you may also picture wedding attendants lined up on either side of them. However, don’t forget about other vital participants, such as readers, parents, and ushers, who may or may not serve as [groomsmen](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-does-a-groomsman-do). Although some of these people may be hired, such as musicians and the officiant, feel free to ask friends and family that are involved to help out. From expectations to appreciation, here are six things to remember when asking folks to take some responsibilities off your plate.\n\n### 1. Clearly define wedding roles and expectations.\n\nEveryone wants to be informed, so brief your wedding party on what you expect of them. Not only will they appreciate knowing what they’ll be doing, but it will give them a chance to weigh in or bow out of a particular duty if they aren’t able to help out. Also, don’t limit this to the [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties) and groomsmen. Include those with more minor roles, such as the flower girl, in your plans. Even if an expectation is a tradition or common sense, it’s always kind — and will go over better — if you ask the person instead of demanding they do something. \n\n### 2. Engage the wedding party early in the planning process.\n\n“What are the roles of the entourage in a wedding?” is a widespread question you should answer as soon as possible. It’s always a thrill to ask your BFFs to participate in your big day. You may even have plans to invite friends to be in the brides party in a creative way. However, please don’t feel that you must include a list of duties tucked into their bridesmaid proposal box. It is good etiquette to let wedding attendants know what you expect early on, especially if dates are tied to those activities, such as a groom party or bridal tea.\n\n### 3. Consider time and budget constraints.\n\nMany factors can determine availability, such as work schedules and finances, especially for those who live far away. Your partner’s college roommate may want to help as much as possible, yet distance may prevent them from fully participating in pre-wedding events. Although a bachelorette party in the Caribbean may be on your mind, traveling and paying for such a trip may not be feasible for some wedding attendants. Of course, you can still plan a getaway, but try to make mandatory events affordable and respectful of everyone’s time.\n\n### 4. Host team-building activities.\n\nSpeaking of time and budget, some of the best gatherings are casual and inexpensive. Host a backyard barbecue with games, or schedule everyone for a summer story-telling bonfire. Roles in weddings shouldn’t be overly burdensome, and planning a few fun activities simply for the purpose of getting together will help everyone bond. Plus, your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) will feel appreciated as they unwind and have a great time. \n\n### 5. Utilize technology and group chats.\n\nThere are bound to be questions, and having a group chat or text thread is a simple way to keep everyone on track. If any surprises are involved, your maid of honor or best man may want to have a separate chat that doesn’t include the couple. Someone may be bound to ask, “What parties do you throw for a bride?” in the discussion, which could quickly become awkward if you’re the bride-to-be. One point to note is not to communicate via group messaging too much, so try to resist the urge. While others may share in the excitement of your big day, receiving too many texts can be disruptive. \n\n### 6. Recognize and celebrate their contribution.\n\nEven the best roles in weddings can seem burdensome if a person doesn’t feel appreciated. While giving your wedding party gifts at the rehearsal dinner is traditional, show them you value them before the big day. Something as simple as a $5 coffee gift card or a scented candle can go a long way. However, your appreciation doesn’t have to be monetary. A handwritten note or a well-thought-out text telling them their participation is meaningful will be unexpected and bring a smile to their face. \n\nThank you, *Helplessly Helpless*! Team-Z hopes that you have the day of your dreams — with the help of your friends. Enjoy!\n\n## Pop the Question with our Team-Z\n\nYou’ve got questions. The wedding planning experts of Zola’s Team-Z have answers! You’ve finally found the one and know the next steps, but how do you plan the perfect wedding day? From proposal etiquette and w[edding websites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) to [registry items](https://www.zola.com/search/wedding-registry), your head is probably spinning as your to-do list gets longer. That’s where Zola’s smart, savvy team — Team Z — can help! You ask, we answer. It’s as simple as that! 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Read on now. ","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2020-12-23T16:31:55.848Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1iqtO6RHh45lL5XNok6T0Q/07c83d192e7b8769766987dcffe1de7e/Hero_RomanticWeddingatTheGardensatHeatherFarm_StudioOpia__1_.jpg","altText":"Wedding Party Etiquette Guide for a Second Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Studio Opia","body":"Nowadays, many marriages involve someone who has been married before, and keeping the second wedding quiet is no longer the norm. Having experienced a wedding firsthand, second-timers are often more mature and comfortable with their likes and dislikes. Most of them also don’t consider this their second or third wedding, but rather their first, to each other. Couples who are getting married the second time are often paying for the wedding themselves. They may host an engagement party but pass on bachelorette and bachelor parties. Or plan a small ceremony and follow it with a larger reception. It can be as intimate or as elaborate as they wish.\n\nWith or without the bells and whistles, it all comes down to what this event means to them and their families. All bets are off when it comes to the number of wedding guests, the venue, the bride’s gown, and more. Ultimately, it’s up to the second-time bride and groom to decide how they want to spend their big day.\n\n![Planning a Wedding Shower for a Second Marriage | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5RN4T7n7wH3mdLF8w4lYez/31276bbe3b8d5da7d2de21d81ef3fb45/Inline_Nicki_Metcalf_Photography.png)\n*Photo Credit* // Nicki Metcalf Photography\n\nHaving a bridal party is not completely necessary—as in any wedding, what you primarily need are witnesses, and it can be any two adults that you choose, such as a best man and a maid of honor (or matron of honor). But, even if some second-timers tend to keep the number of attendants small, there is no reason why you shouldn’t have to be surrounded by your closest friends, children, or even your parents at your wedding. \n\n## Ceremony and Reception Etiquette\nThere’s nothing in the wedding handbook that says you must invite everyone to both your wedding ceremony and reception. Many couples choose to have intimate ceremonies, only inviting their close friends and family members. Then, afterward, they host a larger reception with the rest of their guests in attendance. If this is the decision you’ve chosen, when it’s time to narrow down your guest list of who to invite to the ceremony, be mindful of your guests' feelings. \n\nSome people may be offended that they weren’t included in your wedding ceremony, while others will be more understanding. If you’re concerned about how your guest will take the invite (or lack thereof), consider giving them a phone call or speaking with them in person to explain your decision. When sending out the invitations to your [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding), make it clear whether guests are invited to both the ceremony and reception, or just the reception. This will ensure that your close family and loved ones enjoy your big day without any hurt feelings.\n\n## Pre-Reception Break\nA pre-reception break comes after the ceremony and before the reception starts. During this time, you and your partner might sign your wedding certificates or take formal photos with your wedding photographer. It’s also a great opportunity to sit down, rest your feet, and grab a drink. \n\nThis break is also a great opportunity for your guests to mingle, enjoy the open bar, or make their way from the ceremony location to the reception venue. \n\n## Can My Dog Participate in the Wedding?\nIf you have a dog (or any other pet!) you want to include in your wedding, there are a few things to consider before suiting up your pup in full formal wear. The first thing to think about is your pet’s behavior. Will they be able to sit quietly during the ceremony? Or will you spend the reception chasing them under tables and around the gazebo? \n\nBe honest about your pet and how they react to being around a big crowd. If you think your furbaby has a calm and friendly demeanor, then go ahead and include them in your big day—but if you think they’re going to cause a scene, it’s probably best to leave them at home.\n\nYou’ll also want to check with your officiant and venues that dogs are allowed and welcome. Also, be mindful of your guests. Some may be allergic, so if you’re going to include your pet, make sure to include a note on your wedding invitations or on your wedding website so guests can prepare accordingly. \n\n## Inviting My Guy Best Friend to My Bridal Party\nWith the ever-changing landscape of modern weddings, brides and grooms are now including members of the opposite gender in their wedding parties. The result has become mixed-gender wedding parties(in contrast to the more traditional women-only and men-only parties). Today, it’s completely normal for brides to have their closest guy friend―or “bridesman”―participate in the bridal shower and bachelorette party. If you go this route, make sure to use gender-neutral terms, such as “wedding party” as opposed to “bridal party,” so as not to exclude anyone. \n\n## Picking My Wedding Day Outfit\nFeeling comfortable and confident on your wedding day is a must. If that means wearing a full-skirt tulle ballgown, go for it—or if you’d rather walk down the aisle in a custom-design jumpsuit with a detachable train, then you rock that jumpsuit! Don’t worry about what anyone else may think of your wedding day outfit. It’s your day and you can wear whatever you want, as long as you feel good in it.\n\nThere are a few other things to consider when deciding what to wear on your wedding day, including weather (you may love a strapless gown, but if you’re getting married outside in 30-degree weather, it might not be the most practical) and venue location (for example, if you’re getting married on the beach, it doesn’t matter how much you love a high heel—stilettos and sand generally don’t work well together).\n\nNow, keep in mind you don’t have to necessarily sacrifice style for weather or location. You just might have to get creative. For example, you might wear sandals while you say your “I do’s” on the beach—and then swap them out for a higher heel when you’re ready to hit the dance floor. \n\n## Wedding Etiquette for Walking Down the Aisle\nTraditionally, brides were escorted down the aisle by their fathers. Nowadays, you can walk down the aisle with whomever you want, or make the walk on your own if you’d like. When choosing what music you’d like to walk down the aisle to, make sure to pick something that’s appropriate for all ages. And if love a song—but you’re concerned it may have some questionable lyrics? Consider an instrumental version.\n\n## Wedding Etiquette for Second Marriages\n[Planning a second marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-second-wedding-etiquette) can be as elaborate and festive as your first marriage, or as small and intimate as you’d like. If either of you is getting married for the second time, there may be new elements to consider this time around, such as children and extended family members. To prevent any awkward or uncomfortable situations, think through how you’d like to approach your wedding day this second time around. \n\n## Parents\nMost remarrying brides choose to walk down the aisle alone, but, if you prefer, you can still request that your parents walk by your side down the aisle. Similarly, the groom can also choose to have his parents waiting with him or walk with him down the aisle. Parents can even say a few words at the rehearsal dinner if requested by the bride and groom.\n\nIf you have [divorced parents who don’t get along](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/divorced-parents-wedding-planning), talk to them about what role you’d like them to play in your wedding early on in the planning process. Consider their current partners and decide the best course of action for seating, who will make speeches, and other responsibilities. Emphasize that you want everyone to have a good time and come up with a plan to make sure it’s a day of celebration for everyone\n\n## Children\nDo you or your partner have children? If you do, do you want to involve them in the wedding ceremony? There are many roles that can be assigned to your kids, from being a ring bearer or a flower girl to reading at the ceremony and/or assisting you in the lighting of the unity candle. Older children can serve as your maid of honor or best man, or escort the bride down the aisle.\n\nIt’s always best to talk to the children first before even beginning to plan the wedding. One of the considerations you should take in a second wedding is being sensitive to the kids in the previous marriage. Are they comfortable being in a large wedding setting? Ask them how they feel about taking part in your wedding celebration for your second marriage. Giving them a part may make them feel included in your journey and newfound love, but also don’t force them to participate if they’re not willing to take part in your wedding ceremony. Some things may take time, including their acceptance, especially if their parents got divorced. \n\n## Closest Friends\nHaving friends who know you best beside you on your wedding day is one of the most incredible things that your friends can experience. So, yes, if you want to, have some bridesmaids and groomsmen at your second wedding ceremony and wedding reception. As these are people who are closest to you, they can be the same groomsmen or bridesmaid groups you chose from your previous wedding party―and that’s okay, as long as they agree.\n\n![Planning a Wedding Shower for a Second Marriage | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J1lV7tCBACcGwDU5uwggb/a419ac7b69900870d3368403eb05a59b/Inline_zola__10_.png) *Photo Credit* // Zola\n\nThere are no changes in the wedding party’s duties and roles, as they are still your support system, and they can both host a [second marriage wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/21-last-minute-wedding-gifts) and attend pre-wedding activities. They’re also [responsible for their outfits](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/dos-donts-wedding-guest-fashion), unless you are able to cover this for them.\n\nYour second wedding can be anything that you want, and having a wedding party is all about honoring the ones who are close to you, and who are supportive of your relationship as a couple. Continuously look for ways to incorporate family and friends throughout the entire wedding—both in the ceremony and at the wedding reception.\n\nWhen it comes to having a wedding party, whether you decide to have many people, just one important person, or no one at all, these people will still be present to celebrate your love and happiness on your wedding day. To get started with your wedding planning, create a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) at Zola today.","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Find out everything you need to know about second wedding etiquette with this complete guide from Zola. Read on now. ","title":"A Guide to Second Wedding Etiquette","slug":"a-guide-to-second-wedding-etiquette","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/14DaHb9AhdfYK4vrdY7noy/6e33a40e95c0e963bb571b0131bf2edd/Hero_New__21_.jpg","altText":"Second Wedding Etiquette"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Need second wedding ideas on a budget? Our experts can help. Read on for our top tips.","title":"Second Wedding Ideas on a Budget","slug":"second-wedding-ideas-on-a-budget","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/17dnIW012chQLKxJEfiYiC/f62b3bfccc1a4f1307792ed6b5c1b334/Inline_Casey_Durgin_Photography.png","altText":"Second Wedding Ideas on a Budget"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Don’t know what your second marriage ceremony wording should include on the invitation? 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This is especially the case for [tipping](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors). While tipping your [wedding florist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-included-in-a-wedding-flower-package) or baker is quite straightforward, people often ask about their staff. It’s common to wonder whether your vendor tip gets divided among the entire team, if you should tip delivery workers separately, and—if so—how to go about doing so. We’ll break it all down here. \n\n- Part One: Why You Should Tip Delivery Staff\n- Part Two: How Much to Tip Delivery Team\n- Part Three: Who, When, and How to Tip\n\n### The 4-1-1 on Delivery Staff \n\nDelivery staff consists of anyone who assists your [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) in getting wedding items from the vendor to your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues). A delivery worker may transport your cake from your baker, flowers from your florist, tables and chairs from your chosen rental company, and so on and so forth. Typically the delivery person works directly with—or for—a vendor. The delivery service team may arrive during the set-up period on the day of your wedding (such is the case with rental and floral deliveries) or between your ceremony and reception (which can be the case with cake drop-offs). \n\n## Part One: Why You Should Tip Your Delivery Staff \n\nTo make it clear, we believe you should always tip your wedding delivery staff in cash. Although they won’t be working during your actual ceremony or reception, the preparatory work a delivery person puts in is just as significant. It’s important you express your appreciation to those who transport beloved wedding items to your venue—doing so definitely takes special time and care. Here are the primary reasons why [tipping](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors) your wedding delivery staff should be a priority.\n\n### Etiquette\nIt's standard [wedding etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests/general-etiquette) to tip each delivery person. Like every other vendor involved in your big day, these people are working your wedding. Their work not only has a significant impact on your wedding, but also how you experience it (read: less stress). It’s only appropriate to show gratitude for their good service with a standard tip. \n\n### Convenience\nHaving wedding delivery staff is a major convenience. If you choose to have deliverers transport your things, this takes a considerable amount of prep time and pressure off of your—and your loved ones’—hands. For one, you don’t have to worry about assigning people while they pick up certain things and bring them to the venue the morning of (or, worse, mid-celebration). This lowers stress levels all around and helps to keep a nice schedule.\n\nMoreover, having delivery staff drastically minimizes the risk of anything going badly during transport. For example, a bakery’s delivery driver knows exactly how to deliver a cake without damaging it. Your friend… not so much. \n\n## Part Two: How Much to Tip Your Delivery Staff \n\nThe requirements for tipping in good etiquette are usually spelled out. Recommended percentages and concrete numbers are readily available when it comes to your venue, caterers, hair and makeup, and the like. Tipping delivery staff, however, tends to be less clear. These aren’t your servers, so do you stick to non-wedding server tipping etiquette? Or is there another standard to abide by? These are our thoughts.\n\n### Service Charge vs Gratuity\nIn some [contracts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract)—mostly venues’ and caterers’—there will be a charge called a service charge. This can most often be found in fine print towards the bottom of price brochures. What the service charge covers varies from vendor to vendor, but generally it goes towards labor and administrative costs. Think travel time, walk-throughs, and time spent [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning). While this sounds very similar, it differs from gratuity (a tip) and is not always given to wait or delivery staff. That being said, if you see a service charge in your contract, don’t assume that covers tipping delivery workers.\n\n### Calculating the Tip\nCustomary tip amounts will vary depending on the type of vendor and their service. For example, if a team of delivery staff transports a lot of intense gear (tents, tables and chairs, porta-potties), you may feel inclined to give them a larger tip. The same could be said if a floral delivery team creates an incredible setup. For the most part, consider the amount of labor performed and your satisfaction with the results when deciding on how much to tip. For a general idea, however, refer to the following:\n\n- Florist Delivery: $15-20 per drop-off location (e.g. ceremony and reception sites)\n- Bakery Delivery: $5-10 per person\n- Rental and Decor Company Delivery: $5-20 per person\n- DJ Set-Up Staff: $5-20 per person\n\n## Part Three: Who, When, and How to Tip \nUnlike [vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-checklist) you’ll be working and contracting with directly—planners, coordinators, caterers—wedding delivery staff aren’t usually included in the vendor tip. This means that the envelope of gratuity you hand off to your cake baker doesn’t typically get split between them and those who delivered the cake to you. Simply put, it’s expected that the vendor’s tip is for the vendor and not their staff. This can get confusing, so allow us to break it down. Refer to the information below to make sure your wedding delivery staff gets tipped appropriately.\n\n### Who to Tip\nWhen it comes to tipping your wedding delivery staff, it’s best to tip them directly. This includes each person that’s present to deliver and set up their given items. Vendors that typically have delivery or set-up staff available are florists, bakeries, rental companies, decor companies, and DJs—the last of which may initially show up with your DJ to assist in setting up their gear.\n\n### When to Tip\nThe best time to tip for both parties is either at the time of delivery or after equipment, tables and chairs, flowers, etc. have been set up. A tip is an extra amount of money given based on exceeded expectations, after all, so it’s best to be able to evaluate the work (even briefly) before providing one. That being said, have an ideal amount or baseline in mind and set it aside before the big day. That way, when it arrives, you have what’s needed on hand—and then some, just in case you’re especially impressed.\n\n### How to Tip\nPrior to your wedding day, select a trusted individual to be present to receive your deliveries throughout the day or night (usually during set-up or take-down). This could be a family member or member of the wedding party, if not your planner or coordinator. Give this person your tipping money either the day before the wedding or the morning of, so that they’re prepared to hand it out when appropriate. This money should be separated in enclosed envelopes clearly labeled with each vendor. That being said, tips for delivery staff can either be placed in an envelope to be equally divided by the workers or cash can be handed to each staff member directly. If a delivery or set-up goes especially well, feel free to approach your trusted individual and inform them that you’d like to give a bigger tip and what amount that is.\n\nA direct hand-off is the best way to ensure that each wedding delivery staff member gets the appropriate tip for their work.\n\n## Booking Your Vendors With Zola\nIf you’ve read this far, you’re either in the midst of looking for vendors (yay!) or have already booked and are making sure you cover all of your bases. In either case, Zola can be of assistance. With an easy to navigate database full of local vendors, Zola makes it simple to discover your dream team. Just make your way to our [Vendors Page](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors), fill in the appropriate search bar (“Where are you getting married?”) with your wedding location, select a vendor type, and begin your search. The vendors that’ll help make your wedding day are only a few clicks, taps, or types away.\n\nAlready all booked up? Check out our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section to brush up on etiquette and search for answers to any questions you may have leading up to your celebration.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_VendorMarketplace"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We’ve narrowed down a list of some of the best wedding cocktails to consider for your big day (as well as some fun, flavor options to make them your own).","title":"18 Popular Wedding Cocktails","slug":"18-popular-wedding-cocktails","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/40IXIJglymNErnNdU5DR91/f5be6ccec01a9d5c224d45f212f3c7ae/Hero_Unsplash_AdamJaime.jpg","altText":"8 Popular Wedding Cocktails"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Find out here.","title":"All-Inclusive Wedding Venues: Pros and Cons","slug":"all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5eznmjUVFSy09jRw72LyF0/a741e4fd3b17ed5e3a8adba1d52d2be9/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"All-Inclusive Wedding Venues: Pros and Cons"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Hotel wedding venues have been popular for decades. This expert guide will break down the benefits and downsides of a hotel wedding.","title":"Hotel Wedding Pros and Cons","slug":"hotel-wedding-pros-and-cons","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UgX7r08SGDJJzXU3oaC1p/e005a3debddcaf664117d11b481484a6/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"Hotel Wedding Pros and Cons"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"Here are some etiquette tips and timing guidelines to help you mail your wedding thank you notes in proper style.","title":"How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards","slug":"how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kc6v36CcS7oBTq0S8wzsU/38335853f6ab731e1696d8fef09aac4b/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding thank you notes on a marble counter next to a ring dish and a vase of pink peonies"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wondering what you should check for in your wedding venue contract? We're here to help! So, continue reading to learn more about it.","title":"What to Look for in Your Wedding Venue Contract","slug":"what-to-know-look-for-in-your-wedding-venue-contract","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5t5JEY4HPjCkmgJXL7ZQej/47c15944010d65268ca939fa54e41d7f/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What to Know/Look for in Your Wedding Venue Contract"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"There are so many things to consider when booking wedding venues. So, read on for things that you need to know when working with wedding venues.","title":"Working With Wedding Venues: What You May Not Know ","slug":"working-with-wedding-venues-what-you-may-not-know","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3g1AbPCiNl06WejtbXtnnA/0ab2870d78b8cf61b92e3b9cfe368885/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"Working With Wedding Venues: What You May Not Know"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? 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Curious what else goes into planning a wedding in Chicago? Our guide covers everything you need to know, from venues to COVID-19 restrictions and more.\n\n","publishedAt":"2021-02-08T18:39:01.545Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/53TGE6SgaYpMobRsPvA9zr/426d54c944027dae274470ae1248fe28/Chicago-city-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"How to Get Married in Chicago"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","body":"Are you thinking about getting married in Chicago? Affectionately called “The Second City,” the biggest town in Illinois is a metropolitan hub of life and excitement. With countless things to see and do, Chicago is an unforgettable place to celebrate your big day. To get started with your plans, look no further than this comprehensive Chicago wedding guide.\n\nTying the knot in Chicago will give you and your guests access to the bustling city, historic architecture, impressive museums, breathtaking waterfront views, and restaurants galore. Full of diverse communities, Chicago is a welcoming location for all types of love. Same-sex couples will find a welcoming atmosphere when planning their nuptials, and the city offers venues and styles for everyone.\n\nWe know—there’s so much to do! With everything from [invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) to logistics, [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner) can be a stressful process. That’s why, for couples with Chicago on their minds, we put together this guide to walk you through each step of the way. From COVID-19 considerations and the marriage license process to local vendors and navigating the city, our guide will help inspire you to say “I Do” in The Windy City.\n\nUse our jump-to links below to navigate this guide: \n- Where to Get Married in Chicago\n- How to Obtain a Chicago Wedding License \n- Chicago Wedding Trends\n- Real Weddings and Best Places for Photographs \n- LGBTQIA Chicago Wedding Information\n- How to Find Local Vendors\n- Chicago Wedding Guest Guide\n\n## Where to Get Married in Chicago\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5wUim9q709a7Ju0IQOhGb7/7b365885439162ed2d79b1c48e7af73c/chicago-wedding-city-guide-1.jpg)\n\n As one of the biggest cities in the country, Chicago has tons of gorgeous venues to choose from. Even if you have ideas in mind, venues can be so hard to narrow down! How do you [pick the venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) that’s right for you?\n\nOur list of [wedding venues in Chicago](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-venues) will help you find your perfect wedding location. With hundreds of venues to choose from, our collection lets you filter by availability, price, capacity, venue type, setting, and service level. No matter your preferences, the city has a beautiful wedding environment that you’ll love. Here are some popular venue types in Chicago: \n- __Industrial spaces__: Complete with brick walls and tall, exposed-rafter ceilings, the charm of a repurposed warehouse or loft makes for a splendid open-concept space for any wedding. Serving as a blank slate for your wedding theme, you can transform an industrial space into an elegant backdrop or casual setting for your big day.\n- __Historic estates and mansions:__ Perfect for the couple dreaming of a classic ceremony, a refined mansion will surround your celebration with a little history. Chicago’s famous architecture and rich heritage come to life in its enchanting estates. You’ll say your vows surrounded by the opulence of a vintage home, the romance of an old fireplace, or the glam of a grand ballroom.\n- __Museums and galleries:__ When it comes to museums, Chicago has no shortage to choose from. From the intrigue of a science museum to the sophisticated, sleek minimalism of an art gallery or exhibition space, museums are ideal for any couple looking for a modern touch.\n- __Beaches and waterfront settings__: If you’re a fan of [nautical-style weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/navy-white-nautical-yacht-club-wedding) or just want a waterfront view to feature in your big day, you can’t go wrong with a cruise on the Chicago River. You’ll wow your guests with the open-air deck of a yacht overlooking the city skyline. Alternatively, choosing a venue along Navy Pier will give your ceremony a stunning view of Lake Michigan.\n\n## How to Obtain a Chicago Wedding License \n To get legally married in Chicago, you first need to get a wedding license. Thankfully, this only takes a few simple steps, but it’s important to be familiar with the process. Here’s what you’ll need to do:\n- __Prepare your paperwork__: Both parties will need to present one or more forms of [valid identification](https://www.cookcountyclerk.com/service/what-id-do-i-need) with proof of age, such as a driver’s license, passport, or birth certificate.\n- __Appear together at a county clerk’s office__: When applying for a marriage license, Cook County requires that both parties appear together at one of the six County Clerk’s vital records offices with their valid forms of ID.\n- __Fill out a license application__: You can start the application process [online](https://marriageapplication.cookcountyclerkil.gov/), but you must finish it in-person at one of the County Clerk’s offices. If you’ve had a divorce, you need to provide the date the divorce was finalized. If the divorce was in the last six months, it’s required to present a copy of the divorce decree.\n- __Pay the marriage license fee__: It costs $60 to obtain a marriage license in Chicago. \n- __Get married within the designated time frame__: In Chicago, a marriage license takes effect the day after it was issued. Therefore, you’re required to wait 24 hours from when you obtain your wedding license to when you wed. The license is then valid for 60 days, so plan to get married within that time frame. \n- __Return the signed license to the clerk’s office__: After the ceremony, your officiant has 10 days to sign and complete the bottom portion of the marriage license and mail or deliver it back to a clerk’s office. Once this step is complete, you’re all done—it’s official! If you want, you can then request your own copy of the marriage certificate.\n\n### Do I Need a Chicago Wedding License? \n\nTo get married in Illinois, your marriage license must be issued in the same county where you plan to get married. For Chicago and the closest surrounding suburbs, that’s Cook County. This applies even if you’re an international traveler or out of state. \n\n### Where to Get Your Marriage License \n\nThere are six County Clerk’s records offices in Cook County, so you can get your marriage license issued at any one of them. It’s recommended to start the application process online, but to complete the process and receive your license, you and your partner must appear at one of the clerk’s offices together.\n\n### How Long Does it Take to Get a Marriage License in Chicago?\n\nAfter applying at the county clerk’s office, the marriage license will be issued to you immediately.\n\n### Can I Get Married the Same Day in Chicago?\n\nEven though you receive your license right after applying, it’s not valid until 1 day later. So, plan to save your “I Do’s” for at least 24 hours after you get your license. Once you receive it, the license is valid for up to 60 days. \n\n### Chicago City Hall\n\nIf you’re ready to tie the knot right away, there’s always a City Hall Chicago marriage to consider. For only $10, couples can enjoy a quick and intimate ceremony in the Marriage and Civil Union Court located in City Hall. When planning your City Hall wedding, it’s a good idea to call or check online to confirm the court’s hours. \n\nDue to COVID-19 restrictions, getting married at City Hall currently has a few additional [regulations](http://www.cookcountycourt.org/ABOUT-THE-COURT/Municipal-Department/First-Municipal-District-Chicago/Marriage-and-Civil-Union). Phone appointments are now required, so make sure to call ahead. Currently, only two additional guests are allowed to attend the ceremony, and all attendees must wear masks or face coverings while inside the building.\n\n![covid-19-update](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ch2N4IzSI6jXilKUPuI3e/1c4b19fcdd17c6e011d729d4256791db/covid-19-update.png)\n\n## Chicago Wedding Trends\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nsoKZhtFUX3s4sbg6t6lf/263fb80ce2710da746265cb97bc06ee9/chicago-wedding-city-guide-2.jpg)\n\n Whether you’re planning an elegant traditional ceremony, aiming for a folksy, rustic theme, or hoping to channel some glitz and glam on your big day, you can make it happen in Chicago. Lavish party or an intimate gathering, the Second City is diverse enough to allow you to create just about any trendy or personable wedding theme. \n\nCOVID-19’s impact won’t be lost on this year’s wedding trends. Specifically, we expect to see more flexibility and off-peak weddings, potentially allowing couples to save on vendor costs. There will also be more emphasis on locally-sourced food, [sustainability](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/eco-friendly-wedding), and meaningful, personal touches incorporated into your wedding decor. \n\nFor more about the most recent trends, check out our full list of [2021 wedding predictions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-colors).\n\n### Average Cost of a Wedding in Chicago \n\nOf course, [wedding costs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding) will vary widely depending on factors like venue, the size of the guest list, wedding date, and location. However, as the third-largest city in the U.S, Chicago can undoubtedly be an expensive place to get married. \n\nUsually, the venue is by far the most costly aspect of a Chicago wedding. However, if you’re looking to save money, consider holding your wedding in one of the Chicago suburbs instead of the heart of the city. In the suburbs, venues are likely to be less pricey. \n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-chart-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6N4ylE5YDJhn8V9SvwZaLV/c1534bc6e7bcec8af20c063d78e2c025/chicago-wedding-city-guide-chart-1.png)\n\n### Best Times of Year for Weddings in Chicago\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/vYbOBhyGJeINSZPE6gdqd/da7859cc16b533e769327acc60246db6/chicago-wedding-city-guide-3.jpg)\n\nYour wedding day experience will differ greatly depending on the month and weather in Chicago, so it’s worth putting some thought into the best time to go. Here are a couple of factors to consider for each season.\n\n__Fall__: September, October, November \n\nOne of the most popular times to visit, fall in Chicago certainly has its upsides. More manageable crowds, golden-yellow leaves, and cool (but not freezing) weather will make outdoor events somewhat chilly but still enjoyable. In fall, the temperature can range from a chilly mid-40s to a comfortable 70°F. \n\n__Spring__: March, April, May\n\nThe warming weather of a Chicago spring will bring blooming flowers and outdoor activities in the city’s parks and beaches. While there are slightly fewer crowds than in summer, you’ll see lots of hype from sports fans when baseball season begins. Temperatures range from the 50s in early spring up to 70°F in May. If you’re here for St. Patrick’s Day, you’ll get to catch the annual parade and see the river turn bright emerald green.\n\n__Summer__: June, July, August \n\nSummer is a popular time to visit, with warm weather between the high 70s to low 90s. Even in the heat, areas near Lake Michigan will get cool breezes. A Chicago summer is full of lively crowds and overflowing restaurant patios. You might lounge on a lakefront beach or catch a music festival. Hotel rates can get quite expensive in the summer, so make sure to book several months in advance. \n\n__Winter__: December, January, February \n\nChicago might be known for its freezing winters, with average highs in the 30s and windy days that can dip below the 20s but don’t discredit a winter wedding just yet. Even though this is the least popular time of year to get married, it’s also the least expensive. Plus, if you’re a fan of snow, you’ll get to see the city blanketed in white and decorated with beautiful holiday lights. \n\nIf you don’t mind the freezing temperatures, you can marvel at the ZooLights at Lincoln Park Zoo or enjoy a holiday parade. January and February are the coldest months and tend to get the most snow, so make sure to plan your wardrobe accordingly.\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-chart-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/L0LnZzPBNlIP7D1R8bQQM/14ce7feaad04ddfc8ade1b8bf46a99bc/chicago-wedding-city-guide-chart-2.png)\n\n### Busiest Weeks in Chicago\n\nEven though you’ll find Chicago lively at all times of year, there are some key city-specific dates to keep in mind if you don’t want to run into enormous crowds and astronomical hotel prices. When choosing your wedding date, here are some annual events to keep in mind:\n- St. Patrick’s Day Parade (March)\n- Pride Parade and Celebrations (June)\n- Chicago Blues Festival (June)\n- Taste of Chicago Food Festival (July)\n- Chicago Air and Water Show (August)\n- Lollapalooza Music Festival (August)\n- Jazz Festival (Labor Day, September)\n- Chicago Marathon (October)\n- ZooLights at Lincoln Park Zoo (November-December)\n\n### Chicago Weddings and COVID-19 \n\nBecause COVID-19 is an ever-evolving situation, it’s important to keep up to date with the latest [news and regulations](https://www.choosechicago.com/plan-your-trip/covid-19/) regarding gatherings in Chicago. Currently, gatherings are limited to just 10 people and a travel order requires visitors from certain states to quarantine upon arrival, among other restrictions. \n\nIf a microwedding is up your alley, you may be able to hold your ceremony safely while adhering to current regulations. However, if not, there’s nothing wrong with making your dream Chicago wedding more of a long-term plan. \n\n## Real Chicago Weddings\n\n Need help picturing your dreamy day in Chicago? We have countless photos on our [inspiration page](https://www.zola.com/inspiration) to spark your imagination. For a glimpse of city-specific vendors, wedding ceremonies, and unique themes, we have a collection of [real Chicago weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/chicago-il) to help spur some ideas, too.\n\nIn the meantime, here are just a few of our favorites.\n![real-chicago-weddings-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3guTUKimzaSbK5FQ78KVtM/024cf2d1f4a8957fdf56d4f5a24de6a1/real-chicago-weddings-1.jpg)\n[St. Patrick's Day Wedding at The Crystal Gardens](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/st-patricks-day-wedding-at-the-crystal-gardens)\nExchange I Do’s surrounded by the greenery of nature as well as the green-dyed Chicago River on St. Patrick’s Day. \n\n![real-chicago-weddings-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2UrWskIHrkryZelIbjIHKn/b12eac16b2c596f6f1796bc440eda662/real-chicago-weddings-2.jpg)\n[Glamorous Summer Wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/glamorous-summer-wedding-in-chicago)\nChannel the timeless elegance of a traditional black tie/white tie wedding. Don’t miss out on the gorgeous summer photo ops near the Chicago Riverwalk.\n\n![real-chicago-weddings-3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/x9N9CAZ6AfEkIF205w7cJ/540bb3a487ed5d3a9b405899879d700b/real-chicago-weddings-3.jpg)\n[Elegant Downtown Wedding](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/elegant-downtown-chicago-wedding)\nModern, spring weddings will let you enjoy the perfect outdoor weather and a breathtaking view of the city skyline. \n\n### Best Spots for Wedding Photos in Chicago\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-4](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6t9b0GjjUGxBtRdShl5Fsk/7f82c5921e21a38938eea5a5b4a363d1/chicago-wedding-city-guide-4.jpg)\n\nChicago boasts an array of beautiful statues and stunning skyscrapers that can serve as the dramatic backdrop to your wedding photos. Here are some of the city’s most iconic spots for wedding photography:\n- [Millennium Park](https://www.choosechicago.com/articles/tours-and-attractions/the-bean-chicago/) \n- [Chicago Riverwalk](https://www.chicagoriverwalk.us/)\n- [Adler Planetarium](https://www.adlerplanetarium.org/)\n- [Lincoln Park Zoo](https://www.lpzoo.org/)\n- [Navy Pier](https://navypier.org/)\n- [Olive Park](https://www.choosechicago.com/listing/olive-park/)\n- [North Avenue Beach](https://www.choosechicago.com/listing/north-avenue-beach/)\n- [Michigan Avenue](https://www.themagnificentmile.com/)\n\n![chicago-guide-map](//images.contentful.com/77l22z9el0aa/1tcgmQMaJUZiaHO875eRlU/4d3e94870b23b8933653fb88753ef06b/chicago-guide-map.png)\n\n## LGBTQIA Chicago Wedding Information\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-5 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6rmJcBtXcrswYFsLHIGSmw/692f5293b3407bd6a278cc8dd254e0f1/chicago-wedding-city-guide-5__1_.jpg)\n\n Home to massive Pride Month celebrations and [Boystown](https://www.choosechicago.com/articles/lgbtq-plus/the-ultimate-lgbtq-chicago-guide/#:~:text=Our%20city%20is%20known%20for,places%20you%20shouldn't%20miss.), the oldest LGBTQIA neighborhood in the country, Chicago is known for being an inclusive and welcoming city for LGBTQIA weddings. Andersonville and Rogers Park offer unique slices of LGBTQIA history, while the Pride Festival in June is one of the largest in the country.\n\nIn Illinois, [Marriage Equality](https://www.cookcountyclerk.com/service/marriage-equality) has been the law since it was signed by governor Governor Pat Quinn in November of 2013 and went into effect the following year. \n\n## How to Find Local Chicago Vendors\n\n Finding vendors for so many different aspects of your wedding can be overwhelming, but our list of local Chicago vendors has you covered during your planning process. You can sort each category by price, venue style, wedding theme, and more: \n- [Venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-venues)\n- [Florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-florists) \n- [Photographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-photographers)\n- [Videographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-videographers)\n- [Caterers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-catering) \n- [Cakes & Desserts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-cakes-desserts)\n- [Beauty Professionals ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-hair-makeup)\n- [Bands and DJs](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/chicago-il--wedding-bands-djs)\n\n## Chicago Wedding Guest Guide\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/57Y4zUuacT7jOzWJBFhDH5/0fbba5288c9bef755b8b87407e241d62/chicago-wedding-city-guide-6.jpg)\n\n When it comes to traveling to The Windy City, your guests may need some guidance. Here we’ll talk about how to get to Chicago, the best neighborhoods to stay in, and some notable attractions to visit while in town for a wedding. \n\n### How to Get to Chicago\n\n1. __Getting here by plane__: There are two major Chicago airports you can fly into. Upon arrival, you can call a taxi or ride-sharing service to get to your destination, or make use of the convenient Chicago Transit Authority (CTA) ‘L’ Trains. \n - [O’Hare International Airport (ORD)](https://www.flychicago.com/ohare/home/pages/default.aspx)\n - 16 miles from downtown \n - Connected to Blue Line ‘L’ Train\n - [Midway International Airport (MDW)](https://www.flychicago.com/midway/home/Pages/default.aspx)\n - 11 miles from downtown\n - Connected to Orange Line ‘L’ Train\n2. __Getting here by train__: For those living in surrounding areas and neighboring states, a train ride can be the perfect way to enter the city. \n- [Metra Rail](https://www.metrarail.com/): If you’re staying or living in the suburbs, this commuter train will take you straight to downtown Chicago. \n- [Amtrak](https://www.amtrak.com/home.html): With 300 high-speed trains to hundreds of daily destinations, Amtrak could be your way to go. \n- [South Shore Line](https://www.mysouthshoreline.com/): This train line runs from Millennium Station in Downtown Chicago to South Bend in northern Indiana. If you’re located around that area, the South Shore Line is a great option to get to the city.\n3. __Getting here by bus__: Traveling by bus can be an affordable and convenient option. Greyhound has many express routes to major cities as well as five locations in Chicagoland. \n4. __Getting here by car__: Chicago is accessible via several major interstates. While finding and paying for parking in the city can prove to be a hassle, sites like SpotHero and iParkit will help. \n5. __Traveling around the city__: The [CTA](https://www.transitchicago.com/), the country’s second-largest public transportation system, will make navigating Chicago a breeze. The Blue and Red ‘L’ Lines run 24/7, connecting all areas of the city. The CTA also has several bus routes, some offering late Night Owl services.\n\n### Best Neighborhoods for Out-of-Town Guests\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-7](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l3eKHu0dTiOKfXgfB3HVQ/2b1db7489affcf14f996672f56e080b2/chicago-wedding-city-guide-7.jpg)\n\nChicago has been called the city of neighborhoods for good reason: there are a huge number of different community areas, all with their own unique personalities. So, now that you know how to get to the city, which area is the best place to stay? \n\nWith so many diverse areas to choose from, we couldn’t pin down just one. Here are several of the best Chicago neighborhoods for you and your wedding guests:\n- __The Loop__: Perfect for a classic, heart-of-the-city experience, The Loop is the downtown section of Chicago surrounded by elevated train lines. Home to countless shops, theatres, and museums, you’ll find you’re just a walk away from many of the city’s biggest attractions, like Millennium Park and the Art Institute of Chicago. \n- __Gold Coast__: Just north of The Loop, this upscale area is full of fancy boutiques, luxury hotels, high-rise apartments, and prominent mansions. \n- Lincoln Park: Located in northern Chicago, Lincoln Park is a great place to stay for families as well as those who enjoy a bit of nature. With the free admission of Lincoln Park Zoo as well as the walkable parks and lakefront views, you can’t go wrong with this neighborhood. \n- __Wrigleyville__: A local favorite, Wrigleyville is the center of Chicago baseball as well as a peaceful area to catch live music, go shopping, or check out the bars.\n- __Hyde Park__: Home to the University of Chicago and other cultural institutions, Hyde Park is an excellent area to experience both history and nature, with vintage hotels and luscious gardens.\n\n### 10 Fun Things to Do in Chicago\n\n![chicago-wedding-city-guide-8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6geserlIuf9sNGso5SWbs7/67ca73029044fb2ba657a34c604d2ad1/chicago-wedding-city-guide-8.jpg)\n\nChicago is a melting pot of arts and culture with endless attractions and diverse neighborhoods, so it’s safe to say that there’s something here for everyone. For those in town for a wedding who have an extra day or two, it’s worth it to go out and explore. We couldn’t fit in everything, but here’s a quick list of some of the best bucket-list activities to do in Chicago:\n1. __Take a stroll Through Millennium Park__: No trip to Chicago is complete without a visit to Millennium Park, a beautiful, 25-acre stretch of gardens, pavilions, walking paths, and fountains. Don’t forget to take photos with the famous Cloud Gate sculpture, better known as The Bean.\n2. __Go to a Cubs Game__: If you’re in Chicago during baseball season, you’ll definitely want to catch a game at Wrigley Field. Afterward, check out the sports bars and shops in Wrigleyville. \n3. __Walk Down the Magnificent Mile__: If you’re looking to explore an array of shops, look no further than Chicago’s Magnificent Mile. This upscale, 13-block stretch of Michigan Avenue runs from the Chicago River to Oak Street and is home to hundreds of stores, restaurants, hotels, and more. \n4. __Sit Back and Enjoy a River Cruise__: For an educational experience with a view, consider an architecture boat tour. You’ll glide along the river for a stunning look at the city’s most famous skyscrapers, all while listening to an expert guide’s account of history.\n5. __Wander Along the River Walk__: For a taste of nature, consider taking a leisurely walk along the Chicago River. The 1.25-mile riverwalk offers beautiful views of the surrounding architecture as well as close proximity to greenery and the glittering waterfront. \n6. __Visit Lincoln Park Zoo__: Looking for an activity with free admission? The Lincoln Park Zoo is always free to the public, making it a great stop for groups and those with kids. Located just minutes from downtown, the zoo has everything from an impressive great ape house to hippos and rhinos. \n7. __Climb Up Willis (Sears) Tower__: Make sure to check out this famous Chicago landmark before your stay is over. While there, you won’t want to miss The Ledge at Skydeck Chicago, a glass balcony offering a 360-degree view of the city. By the way: don’t let the locals hear you call it Willis Tower—it will always be Sears Tower to some!\n8. __Marvel at the Art Institute of Chicago__: Displaying famous pieces from all over the world, the Art Institute of Chicago will stun you with the largest Impressionist painting collection outside Paris. \n9. __Take an Excursion to the Field Museum__: Home of SUE the T-Rex, the Field Museum also houses an astonishing 26 million historical artifacts. Check out this famous natural history museum to escape the city and ponder over ancient relics.\n10. __Look Down from 360 Chicago Observation Deck__: Towering above the city, the 94th floor of the John Hancock Center will take your breath away with the best view of Chicago. If that’s not enough of a thrill, check out TILT, the platform that literally tilts you over the edge of the building.\n\nWe hope that with this guide in hand, you’ll have all the confidence and resources you need to start planning your marvelous Chicago wedding. At Zola, we have everything from [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) to [invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) to [registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) resources to help you shape your perfect day. Whatever planning stage you’re in, we’re here to help bring the wedding of your dreams to life. \n\n__Sources__: [Choose Chicago](https://www.choosechicago.com/) | [Trip Advisor](https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attractions-g35805-Activities-Chicago_Illinois.html) | [Cook County Clerk's Office](https://www.cookcountyclerk.com/service/marriage-licenses)\n\nUp Next: [How to Get Married in Los Angeles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-married-in-los-angeles)","tag":"How To","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:50.770Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"inviting-plus-ones-to-your-wedding","title":"The Pros and Cons of Inviting Plus-Ones To Your Wedding","excerpt":"There’s no right or wrong way to handle plus-ones, but weighing the benefits (and drawbacks) might help you and your partner reach a decision.","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2022-01-07T22:36:50.010Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4xoZF041oM6s7RAU2k4CPr/f81a383f9c05b8a8ae40470e34d4ca02/02.jpeg","altText":"Pros and Cons of Having Plus Ones at Your Wedding"},"heroCredit":"Hero_Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- Allowing plus-ones is a great way to make sure that all of your guests are comfortable. It also saves you from the awkwardness of having to explain yourself.\n- For those who are in it for the celebration, allowing plus-ones is a simple way to add numbers to your party.\n- Don’t forget that adding plus-ones means that you’ll need to work with a bigger budget.\n- If you’re considering only allowing plus-ones for a few guests, you run the risk of having the others feel left out.\n","body":"With the many changes that weddings have endured in the last 18 months, plus ones for guests have been a common point of discussion (and contention). Should everyone be given a plus one? Is it fair to only include plus ones for guests who are engaged or married? What do you do if someone asks to bring a plus one?\n\nThese are just a few of the considerations that many couples are having in regards to letting your guests bring someone. According to Zola’s 2022 wedding planning survey, [The First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2022), approximately 26 percent of couples are allowing plus ones for everyone, while around 60 percent are only inviting plus ones for those in serious relationships.\n\nSo, how do you know where to draw the line? And, most importantly, how do you decide what’s best for your big day? Weighing pros and cons is a good place to begin. \n\n## The Pros of Inviting Plus-Ones To Your Wedding \n\n### __It Adds a Layer of Comfort__\nIt’s likely that you have numerous friends and relatives who might not know many people at your wedding. By allowing a plus one, you’re putting those guests at ease, as well as increasing the chances of them having a good time. For those who are extremely dedicated to the comfort of their guests, this might be something to consider when making both planning and financial decisions. If you’re only allowing plus ones for a select few, make sure that you pay special attention to those who might feel removed from the rest of the group.\n\n### __You Won’t Be Stepping on Anyone’s Toes__\nWhile it’s not your job to please everyone, there’s often a generalized assumption (though we’re not quite sure why) that a wedding guest is obligated to bring a plus one. If you don’t feel strongly one way or another, allowing plus ones for everyone is a simple way to appease even the more difficult guests. This courtesy also saves you from the discomfort of having to say no or trying to explain yourself when people come asking questions.\n\n### __It Can Lead to a Bigger Celebration__ \nIf your motto is “the more the merrier,” allowing plus ones is probably the way to go. When it comes to larger weddings, you won’t be spending a lot of dedicated time with each individual guest, so who they bring becomes a little less important. It also helps fill that void, so that fewer guests feel like they didn’t get enough quality time with the couple. It’s rare that people complain when they’re too busy having a good time.\n\nWhile these reasons alone are quite compelling, it’s important to also consider the cons.\n\n## The Cons of Inviting Plus-Ones To Your Wedding \n\n### __It’s Significantly More Expensive__\nWhile not everyone brings a plus one, many of your guests probably will want to. That means you’ll need more food, more table settings, and a bigger dance floor. While these costs might not seem significant on an individual scale, they really add up. The courtesy of allowing plus ones is also a little harder to financially plan for, since people often decide whether or not they’re coming to the wedding long before they consider whether or not they’re going to bring someone.\n\n### __You Run the Risk of Unruly or Unlikeable Guests__\nWhile it’s not likely that your loved ones will invite someone with questionable morals to your gathering, there’s always a bit of a risk when you allow every person on your guest list a plus one. While this might not eliminate the need for plus ones altogether, it’s definitely something to consider as you decide which guests should be allowed a plus one. This point particularly applies to smaller celebrations where the odd person out might draw more unwanted attention.\n\n### __Some People May Feel Left Out__ \nWhen it comes to plus ones, most couples have to draw the line somewhere. By allowing plus ones, you put yourself in the position of making some difficult decisions, such as limiting plus ones to those who are married or in a long-term relationship. On the flip side, some of your guests might feel similarly if they can’t find someone to bring in time for your big day. While eliminating plus ones doesn’t get rid of all of the awkwardness for your guests, it’s definitely something worth thinking about.\n\nIn conclusion, choosing whether or not to invite plus ones is a fine balance. While there are solutions that might seem obvious to you and your partner, that doesn’t mean that they’ll make sense to your friends and family. Whatever you decide, make sure that you follow your gut and don’t allow yourself to be swayed by outside influences. What’s most important on your wedding day, is to have the people in attendance who you love the most, and ultimately those people will support whatever decision you make.\n","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The plus-one debate is a common one—should you ask for one or shouldn't you? 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Find out how to narrow down your choices and figure out if it's too soon to ask someone to be your plus-one here.","title":"How Soon is Too Soon To Ask Someone to Be Your +1?","slug":"how-soon-is-too-soon-to-ask-someone-to-be-your-1","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6ZWmvQbWWCNqoSc4ZpXIss/9be94fd7e839e17fcbcd6304a1e8b0c7/Shifted_Focus_Photography_HeroImage_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding guest dances with plus-one"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"When it comes to wedding etiquette, it's not always clear what plus-ones should or shouldn't be doing. 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How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore creative ideas to plan the perfect bachelorette party weekend. 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make sure your wedding makeup stands up to your celebration. 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Here are nine wedding accessories every bride needs.","title":"9 Wedding Accessories to Complete Your Bridal Look","slug":"wedding-accessories-bridal-look","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5MS0DHdPrcmuPH7sg3fnui/39dc64529a8adef60342b0f3c2b42db3/4106341.jpg","altText":"bride puts on wedding accessories"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Perhaps you’ve decided to style your own hair for your wedding to save time and money, but suddenly realize you have no idea how to do wedding hair. Don’t worry, we’re here to help. Opting for a DIY wedding hairstyle can be intimidating, but all it takes is a little preparation to pull it off flawlessly. Luckily there are some tried and true DIY wedding hair tricks that you can use to make sure you look amazing when you walk down the aisle. 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Here's how to break the cycle and focus less on your wedding diet and more on a healthy body and stress-free wedding planning.","title":"How to Break Out of the #WeddingDiet Mentality","slug":"wedding-diets-lose-weight-for-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6V9XrUDHmz4UvWtnNWGu8W/aa926bf361e969338d3c02ed4b72a2c9/HERO_NicoleChanPhotography_1080x720.jpg","altText":"veiled bride walking to wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Finding the perfect wedding dress can sometimes feel as challenging as finding your soul mate. Luckily we’re here with a quick-and-easy quiz to help you figure out your ideal wedding style.","title":"What’s Your Wedding Dress Style? ","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. 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","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Through the years, they’ve been overloaded with inspiration from the constant stream of their social media feeds, not to mention the 10-plus weddings couples say they’ve attended, on average, over the past two years alone.\n\nWith so much noise, it’d be easy for these couples to feel overwhelmed and stressed, and to some degree they are. But these couples are also enjoying the wedding planning process. Here’s a look at what Gen Z, Millennials, and Zillennials ranked as their favorite parts of wedding planning, according to [Zola’s 2023 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023). \n\n## Couples' Favorite Wedding Planning Moments Ranked\n\n### 1. Getting Engaged \nWhether it was an over-the-top romantic gesture or an intimate moment, 39.57% of couples say getting engaged has been their favorite part of wedding planning. It makes sense, too—it’s the kickoff to the main event.\n\n### 2. Feeling Done With All of the Planning \nWhether they hired a planner or did all the planning themselves, 29.43% of couples were happy when the planning stage was over—they considered the milestone a huge stress reliever. What’s more, it was an exciting time, since all that remained ahead was the fun of walking down the aisle, tying the knot, and celebrating with your loved ones.\n\n### 3. Saying “Yes” to Wedding Attire\nSaying “yes” to the dress—and the entire wedding party attire, for that matter—is a sigh of relief for most couples. It’s stressful looking for the perfect attire to complement the wedding theme and venue, not to mention there are pictures to think about. 31.23% of Zillennials were relieved once they found the perfect wedding attire. Gen Z was right behind them with 30.96% of couples agreeing. \n\n### 4. The Engagement Photoshoot\nEngagement photos are a rite of passage before sailing into the rest of the pre-wedding festivities. While the session isn’t a must do, the resulting photos are something to cherish forever, so for 31.67% of Gen Z couples, it ranks high on their list of the best parts of wedding planning; only 22.14% of Millennial couples agreed.\n\n### 5. Sharing the News With Family & Friends\nIt’s exciting to share your engagement news with your loved ones, whether it’s in person, via text, or even social media. Couples even get creative with how they announce the news.\n\n### 6. Food Tasting\nFor about 15.82% of couples, food tasting is one of the most fun and memorable parts of the whole wedding planning process. A wedding tasting is when couples taste the menu items with the caterer for the reception, and it’s usually done weeks or even months ahead of time to allow for adjustments for the finalized menu.\n\n### 7. Choosing the Venue\nDestination wedding, beach wedding, farm wedding, or even a ballroom wedding, no matter the location, choosing a venue is a fun part of wedding planning. The venue is the backdrop for the entire wedding day, from the budget to the wedding attire.\n\n### 8. Picking Out Wedding Decor (Flowers, Balloons, Etc.)\nWeddings are all about highlighting who you are as a couple and your personal style. 16.37% of Gen Z couples thought this was the best part of wedding planning, while 11.21% of Millennials, and 14.44% of Zillennials agreed that picking out and/or designing the wedding decor is something they enjoyed.\n\n### 9. Practicing the First Dance\nThe first dance is your premiere as a married couple, so practicing ahead of time will help you shine. Some opt for dance lessons, others choose to practice at home, but no matter how you plan to two step, the first dance allows you to kick off the reception and open the dance floor to your guests. For 12.02% of all couples, this is one of the best parts of wedding planning.\n\n### 10. Getting the Marriage License\nThings start to feel really real once you have the official marriage license in hand. It’s a must-have before the wedding. Depending upon the state you live in, couples only have a couple of months to get married after obtaining the license.\n\n### 11. Creating a Playlist\nEvery couple’s wedding soundtrack is different, and that’s where the fun comes in. From up-tempo songs to romantic ballads, you get to be the DJ. 13.91% of Zillennials were ready to get the party started by creating the playlist, while 7.83% of Gen Z couples said this task was the best part of wedding planning. \n\n### 12. Cake/Dessert Tasting\nCake and dessert tasting is a little more involved than just spending a couple hours eating cake and combining frosting and cake to create the perfect accent to your wedding day. You’ll need to be able to provide logistics, budget, and even the appearance of the cake. Will there be a dessert table? What kinds of desserts will you put there? Some couples love this part of the process, but in the survey, only a total of 7.95% of couples enjoyed this part of the planning. \n\n### 13. Designing Save-the-Dates or Invites\nDesigning the stationary is another way to show off your style as a couple. Save-the-dates are less formal than wedding invitations and don’t have to match each other or the wedding theme. They go out early enough that you can change your design when it comes to the wedding invitations. 7.79% of couples surveyed said this was one of the best parts of wedding planning. \n\n### 14. Putting Invites in the Mail\nOnce the envelopes are stuffed, addressed, and posted, your wedding invites are ready to be sent out. Putting them in the mail will give you and your future spouse peace of mind once your invites start their journey to guests' mailboxes.\n\n### 15. Registering\nBrainstorming unique wedding registry gifts as a couple can be one of the most fun parts of the wedding planning process. It’s where you find gifts to start your new life together, and you can create your registry right here on [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n\n### 16. Getting the First RSVP\nYou’ve mailed out the invitations, now it’s a waiting game until the RSVPs start rolling in. Receiving the first RSVP can be exciting, and 6.80% of couples surveyed said this was one of the best parts of the wedding planning process.\n\n### 17. Creating a Wedding Website\nDeciding what should go on your wedding website can be a fun part of the wedding planning process. Consider adding all the wedding details guests may call you about, like accommodations, dress code, directions, registry, and more. A custom wedding website allows you to include everything you couldn’t put on the save-the-date or wedding invitations. You can create a custom wedding website right here on [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) within minutes. You can even add photos, share your registry, and let guests RSVP online. \n\n### 18. Picking a Date\nAvailability of your venue can determine if you get your dream wedding date, but when you finally nail down the date, the wedding planning ball starts rolling faster. 5.32% of couples say picking the wedding date is the best part of the wedding planning process. Some couples pick dates that are symbolic, others pick a date that a venue has available. \n\n### 19. Practicing the First Kiss\nYou don’t want an awkward moment after you’ve said your vows in front of everyone. Just like you would practice your first dance, practice the first kiss to avoid any fumbling or bumping heads when the moment comes. \n\n### 20. Posting About the News on Social Media\nIt’s exciting to share your engagement news with thousands of your social media friends, but only 3.36% of couples thought that sharing the news on social media was one of the best parts of wedding planning. \n\n### 21. Getting the First Wedding Gift\nReceiving the first wedding gift is an exciting prelude to the wedding day, but only 2.74% of couples found this to be the part of the wedding planning process. \n\n### 22. A Special Cultural Moment\nWhether it’s sticking to the traditional something borrowed or incorporating a cultural moment like jumping the broom, this moment is bound to have a special place in your heart and the memories you’ll cherish forever. \n\n### 23. Creating a Budget \nHow much can you comfortably afford to spend? Money can be a tension trigger, so it’s important to have that honest and open conversation about everything from the wedding size, number of invited guests, catering, and more. This was the least favorite thing for couples—only .99% found it as the best part of the wedding planning process. \n\nCouples love the start of the journey—“getting engaged” is the overwhelmingly favored wedding moment for couples of all ages. Next on the list? Being done with all of the planning. But that doesn’t mean there’s not moments of fun to be had along the way. Couples are learning that planning a wedding is about more than just the wedding day. From picking out a venue to choosing attire, there are many days along the way that couples can enjoy.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Zola’s annual guide to wedding trends and budgets. Here's what's new in 2023...","title":"The First Look Report 2023","slug":"the-first-look-report-2023","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2zcJgr4dnJctFWU9OddY94/3cbc6c57a171d66cd58708ec901913cd/1116_EA_FLR-Main_FLR_Report.jpg","altText":"The First Look Report 2023 Hero"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It takes a village to plan a wedding, so there’s no shame in asking for support in whatever form you may need it. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2023-05-16T11:30:47.951Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3aqbE0FlQ0BPtpktBzrlbp/6e77f5a48f769f3e74b0329f31abab57/0405_Zola_Budget_Diaries_EA_2.jpg","altText":"We spent $60K on our San Jose, CA wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"*Welcome to Zola’s Wedding Budget Diaries, where we break down one of the industry’s greatest mysteries: [how much weddings actually cost](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding).* \n\nBut no two couples are the same, and neither are their weddings. Each wedding budget, big or small, has its backstory of unexpected surprises and compromises.\n\nThis week, a couple from __Fremont, CA__ share how they pulled off their __$60,000 wedding__.\n\nNeed to figure out your own [wedding budget breakdown](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget)? Discover our free [wedding budget tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) – also [available on the Zola app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zola-wedding-registry-gifts/id852691916) – and start keeping track of your budget today.\n\n## Quick Hits\n\n*A bird’s eye view of this couple and their wedding budget.*\n\n### About the Couple \n__Fields of Work:__ Marketing & Nursing \n__Ages:__ 28 & 32 \n__Location:__ Fremont, CA (San Francisco Bay Area)\n\n### About the Wedding \n__Wedding Date:__ 5/22/2022 \n__Wedding Location:__ San Jose, CA \n__Venue Type:__ Rooftop + Indoor Banquet Room for both ceremony and reception \n__Number of Wedding Guests:__ 110 \n__Wedding Style:__ Romantic, Minimal Rapunzel-esque (Is that even a thing? Us brides will say anything to be non-traditional haha). \n\n### Budget Overview\n__Original Wedding Budget:__ $30,000 \n__Actual Wedding Budget:__ $60,000 \n__Payment Breakdown:__ Bride and Groom: $47,500 | Groom's Family: $5,000 | Bride's Family: $7,500 \n__How did you keep track?:__ Mainly spreadsheets \n\n## Wedding Budget Breakdown\n\n*Time for the budget breakdown - their original budget vs. actual spend on each wedding item or service.*\n\n### 1. [Venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n__Original budget:__ $5,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $10,000 \n__What we got:__ This included the event space, chairs and tables.\n\n### 2. [Catering](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n__Original budget:__ $5,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $10,000 \n__What we got:__ We got passed appetizers, a served buffet, and desserts. This price also accounted for servers and staff, set up and tear down.\n\n### 3. [Alcohol](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n__Original budget:__ $5,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $5,000 \n__What we got:__ We opted for an open bar, including beer, wine, spirits, liquors, shots, and up to 4 signature drinks but we only chose two. Also included in this price is all the barware. \n\n### 4. Couple’s Attire \n__Original budget__: $2,500 \n__Actual spend:__ $4,000 \n__What we got:__ My dress, veil, jewelry, and shoes, as well as the groom's suit, tie and pocket square. \n\n### 5. [Florals](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n__Original budget:__ $2,500 \n__Actual spend:__ $4,700 \n__What we got:__ This included arrangements at the end of a few aisles, a small flower installation on top of the fireplace for the ceremony, bud vase arrangements for guest tables, the bridal bouquet, bridesmaids bouquets, corsages, and bouttoniers for groom + party.\n\n### 6. [Music and Entertainment](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n__Original budget:__ $2,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $3,000 \n__What we got:__ This cost was for the DJ and a photo booth. \n\n### 7. [Photography](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) & [Videography](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n__Original budget:__ $3,500 \n__Actual spend:__ $2,700 \n__What we got:__ This included photography for the entire event. We opted out of having a videographer.\n\n### 8. [Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/universal)\n__Original budget:__ $250 \n__Actual spend:__ $400 \n__What we got:__ This includes the cost of our save the dates and wedding invitations.\n\n### 9. Wedding Bands\n__Original budget:__ $2,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $3,500 \n__What we got:__ This was the cost for both our bands.\n\n### 10. Other Expenses\n__Original budget:__ $500 \n__Actual spend:__ $575 \n__What we got:__ Our officiant.\n\n![0515 Zola Budget Diaries May EA](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/155EtRrTFMEeE2y2y55jUJ/420445d7ef6404a8f4c8837287180923/0515_Zola_Budget_Diaries_May_EA.jpg)\n\n*Note: Individual figures may not total the overall budget due to approximations + omitted items.*\n\n## Wedding Budget Questions\n\n*A deeper look into all the decisions – what’s important, what’s tossed, and more.*\n\n### How did you decide on your [original wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget)?\n\nWe didn't want to accept outside help at first, so we decided on a number we knew we could both realistically afford.\n\n### Once you decided on a set budget, did you actively attempt to stick to it?\n\nWe tried our hardest to stick to it, but it became apparent that in the San Francisco Bay Area, we weren't going to be able to get anything we wanted within our budget.\n\n### Top Three Priorities:\n\n1. Decor/Signage \n2. Food + Bar \n3. Flowers \n\nI had a very specific vision in my head and I knew most of it could be achieved with vibrant florals and the right signage/decor. Food.+ Drinks were another big priority because we wanted our guest to feel well taken care of.\n\n### Bottom Three Priorities: \n\nWe knew we wouldn't want videography. We never even entertained it. All of our friends watch it once when it because available and then again on their anniversaries, but then not much more than that. Our guests gave us tons of iphone footage that we loved so we stand by our decision! \n\nWe didn't really care on spending much more on smaller things too - like favors. We just made them ourselves (freshly spun cotton candy for everyone to take home in a cute package). \n\nThe groom didn't care too much about dropping dollars on a DJ but the bride is a dancer and considered this a huge priority. \n\n### Did you hire a [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)?\n\nI hired a partial planner who acted more as a coordinator at the end of the day, but she was ABSOLUTELY VALUABLE. Money well spent! I consider it as a wedding gift to myself because her taking care of things like scheduling/timelines/tipping at the end of the night saved me so much time and energy.\n\n### What, if any, were the main budgeting challenges you faced? \n\nThe main budgeting challenge we faced was aligning on what number \"felt right\". For example, the Groom is a big foodie but I didn't really care - and I cared a lot about finding the best DJ we could find while the Groom didn't care. Figuring out where to put our spend was always the hardest part for us. \n\n### Did you need to cut anything to stick to your budget?\n\nWe had to plan a much smaller scale wedding (overall) than we had hoped for. We would have loved to have our guest list be closer to about 160 but had to trim it down to 110.\n\n### What did you add that resulted in you [going over your budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/gone-over-budget-what-to-do)?\n\nWe added signage and decor pieces (Candles + Table Runners + Guest Book). Little things that you really don't think would add up, but do. Make-up and hair was wayyy more expensive than I thought it was going to be too. \n\n### What, if any, fun extras did you throw in while planning that you didn’t originally budget for?\n\n1. Teeth Whitening \n2. Bachelorette and Bachelor Parties \n3. Rayban Bridesmaid + Groomsmen Gifts \n4. Massage Gift Cards as a parental gift \n5. Trial Run for Hair + Make-up \n6. Wedding Menu Tastings\n\n### What did you find to be the most effective way to save money for/on your wedding?\n\nWe did cut our initial guest list down, which helped tremendously. We also did a few less date nights/postponed trips, etc. \n\n### Did you think at all about or prepare for your [newlywed financial future](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/life-insurance-for-spouses) while you budgeted for your wedding?\n\nAbsolutely! We only wanted to have this wedding if it meant we could realistically afford it WITHOUT using credit cards or taking a loan. While we didn't take any financial actions like opening up a joint account, we did have multiple conversations about what the next steps look like post-wedding to be able to still achieve financially obligated goals we have in the future (like finding a bigger place and traveling). \n\n### What is something you didn’t buy that you wish you did for the wedding?\n\nLighting! I think additional lighting would have really lifted up the space and change the 'mood' of it all. \n\n### What [wedding expenses surprised you](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) the most?\n\nHair and make-up! Both came out to $850 and that was the cheapest quote I could find in my area!\n\n### What is the weirdest or most out-of-the-box thing you bought for your wedding?\n\nThe venue itself. Everyone really appreciated that the rooftop remain accessible during the reception. We decked it out with games and cocktail tables so guests could get some fresh air while dancing or kiddos could have a space to rest and recharge.\n\n## Zola, The Best Place to [Track Your Wedding Budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget)\nAt Zola, we want your wedding to be everything you’ve dreamed of. We’re here to make it happen from start to finish, from helping couples curate [wedding registry ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-registry-ideas) and create a unique [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/why-your-wedding-website-is-the-ultimate-stress-saver) with [matching invites and paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match), to offering free wedding planning tools like guest lists, seating charts, and our new wedding budget tracker! \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), also [available on our app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zola-wedding-registry-gifts/id852691916). This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\n*Zola’s helping couples share those diverse stories with those eager to learn more about what it really takes to plan a wedding. If you’re interested, in share your [Wedding Budget Diary](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/submit-your-zola-wedding-budget-diary) with us today.*","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Searching for wedding registry ideas? 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Each wedding budget, big or small, has its backstory of unexpected surprises and compromises.\n\nThis week, a couple from __Santa Clara, CA__ shared how they pulled off their __$31,175__ wedding in __Livermore, CA__.\n\nNeed to figure out your own [wedding budget breakdown](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget)? Discover our free [wedding budget tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) – also [available on the Zola app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zola-wedding-registry-gifts/id852691916) – and start keeping track of your budget today.\n\n## Quick Hits\n\n*A bird’s eye view of this couple and their wedding budget.*\n\n### About the Couple \n__Fields of Work:__ Higher Education Comms and Pro Sports PR \n__Ages:__ Both 29 \n__Location:__ Santa Clara, CA\n\n### About the Wedding \n__Wedding Date:__ 9/10/2022 \n__Wedding Location:__ Livermore, CA \n__Venue Type:__ Small resort \n__Wedding Party Members:__ 6 \n__Number of Wedding Guests:__ 80 \n__Wedding Style:__ A semi-formal wedding in California wine country. \n\n### Budget Overview\n__Original Wedding Budget:__ $45,000 \n__Actual Wedding Budget:__ $31,175 \n__Payment Breakdown:__ Groom's family contributed $20,000 | Bride's family contributed $20,000 | We contributed $5000 \n\n## Wedding Budget Breakdown\n\n*Time for the budget breakdown - their original budget vs. actual spend on each wedding item or service.*\n\n### 1. [Venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n__Original budget:__ $9,000 \n__Actual spend:__ $8,519.30 \n__What we got:__ This included space rental, operations and wedding coordinator, tablecloths, napkins, tables, and chairs.\n\n### 2. [Catering + Alcohol](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n__Original budget:__ $13,050 \n__Actual spend:__ $10,699.77 \n__What we got:__ A buffet dinner, including 2 proteins, salad, bread, vegetables, and 2 sides. This also covered wine and beer, flatware and silverware, and the labor of catering staff.\n\n### 3. Couple’s Attire \n__Original budget__: $3,150 \n__Actual spend:__ $1,918.24 \n__What we got:__ This included the cost of renting the groom's tux and the bride's dress alterations which were paid for by her grandmother as a gift.\n\n### 4. [Florals](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n__Original budget:__ $3,600 \n__Actual spend:__ $1,829.07 \n__What we got:__ This included the bride's bouquet, bridesmaids' bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, centerpieces, floral splashes for signage, two ground arrangements, and the olive branch decor for the cake. We used a lot of greenery, roses, thistle, ranunculus, anemone, larkspur, and delphinium in the arrangements and in the bouquets.\n\n### 5. [Music and Entertainment](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n__Original budget:__ $3,600 \n__Actual spend:__ $1,795 \n__What we got:__ We hired a DJ and got one party light for the reception.\n\n### 7. [Photography](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers)\n__Original budget:__ $4,500 \n__Actual spend:__ $3,197 \n__What we got:__ The cost included the photographer and a second shooter, an engagement session, digital photos, and a wedding album. Our photographer had a few different wedding packages to choose from, and the one we chose fit our budget and what we wanted for our wedding day photography coverage. \n\n### 8. [Paper](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/universal)\n__Original budget:__ $900 \n__Actual spend:__ $234 \n__What we got:__ [Eastwick Vines](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f276de10-0fb8-45f1-9902-5fcbe41fd19d) invitations and envelopes from Zola. We also used Zola's [digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/a4bbc7ab-8d0e-4985-b2ad-0b199d420c0b) with the same designs to save money.\n\n### 9. Wedding Bands\n__Original budget:__ N/A \n__Actual spend:__ $2,981.76 \n\n![0809 AugustBudgetDiaries-EA-InLine](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3k8KxX0wPoY1GjqPFiuRn2/912c60d46c61c34cb660b4ca5eb01bfd/0809_AugustBudgetDiaries-EA-InLine.jpg)\n\n*Note: Individual figures may not total the overall budget due to approximations + omitted items.*\n\n## Wedding Budget Questions\n\n*A deeper look into all the decisions – what’s important, what’s tossed, and more.*\n\n### How did you decide on your [original wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget)?\n\nWe did a lot of research on what weddings typically cost in the area we were looking at getting married. Once we picked our venue, we let the cost of the venue and catering inform how much we would budget for the rest of our vendors, while also staying within our set budget. \n\n### Once you decided on a set budget, did you actively attempt to stick to it?\n\nWe set our initial budget with the goal of having some cash saved for an amazing honeymoon and eventually a new home. It turned out we actually set it a bit higher than we needed and were able to save even more than we expected. Plus we were lucky to find vendors within our budget that were willing to work with us. Everything just fell into place nicely. \n\n### Top Three Priorities:\n\nOur venue, photography, and hair/makeup were top for our budget priorities.\n\n### Bottom Three Priorities: \n\nBefore getting married we knew we didn't really want a videographer so we opted not to get one. We also wanted to save a bit on invitations so we used [Zola’s digital save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/a4bbc7ab-8d0e-4985-b2ad-0b199d420c0b) and kept it simple with our [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/f276de10-0fb8-45f1-9902-5fcbe41fd19d) (also from Zola).\n\n### Did you hire a [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)?\n\nWe hired the wedding coordinator that worked at our venue and have no regrets! I tell EVERYONE that they need to at least consider hiring a day-of coordinator. She was absolutely amazing and would work with her and the venue again in a heartbeat.\n\n### What, if any, were the main budgeting challenges you faced? \n\nOur ceremony and reception space were both at the same venue. The venue was a small resort, so part of the agreement with them was that we were required to rent all 10 guest rooms at the venue the night of the wedding. \n\nWe talked at length about this because the total cost, with the inclusion of renting all 10 guest rooms the night of the wedding, was more than we had budgeted for. We didn't at first see eye to eye about whether we would ask our family and wedding party to pay for the rooms, if we would pay for them, or if we would split the cost. But because the venue was exactly what we wanted, we decided to do it anyway and found other ways to save and make up for what we were spending on the venue. It worked out in the end! \n\n### Did you need to cut anything to stick to your budget?\n\nWe didn't really need to cut anything out to stick to our budget but I did make the decision to try and keep the flower budget as low as I could while still getting what I wanted. I liked that our florist had ideas for how we could save money or reuse certain arrangements from the ceremony, for the reception. We also did not elect to make linens or chair/table upgrades. We just picked from what was included in the cost of our venue. \n\n### What, if any, fun extras did you throw in while planning that you didn’t originally budget for?\n\nWe decided to buy very nice bottles of wine to drink on our 1st, 2nd, 5th, 10th, and 15th wedding anniversaries, and have our guests sign those in lieu of a traditional guest book. We also supplemented our bar with some wine from a winery we went to when we got engaged. \n\nWe also initially thought we wouldn't do favors but our venue has olives they press into olive oil and sell, so we purchased 80 small bottles of olive oil and they put a custom label on them. They were a hit!\n\n### What did you find to be the most effective way to save money for/on your wedding?\n\nWe had initially invited many more guests than those who came. This helped a lot with getting some money back that we had planned to spend. It was also a big help that my grandmother paid for my wedding dress and alterations. We also created our own signage and table numbers, rented a cake stand instead of buying one, and borrowed a card box from the venue instead of buying one.\n\nMostly I think I got lucky in that I was able to find a florist who was a prefered vendor with my venue, who was very reasonably priced while doing an amazing job (we got so many compliments). I didn't have a super specific vision in mind, aside from color and how I wanted my florals to compliment the natural beauty of my venue, so I think based on my budget, our florist was probably able to make flower suggestions that would fit within my budget. \n\n### Did you think at all about or prepare for your [newlywed financial future](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/life-insurance-for-spouses) while you budgeted for your wedding?\n\nYes! We both received money from our parents as a wedding gift that helped cover the cost of the wedding while still having money left over. We planned to reserve some of that money for our honeymoon. While we were planning, my husband also set up a high-interest savings account that we put the rest of the money in for a future house. \n\n### What is something you didn’t buy that you wish you did for the wedding?\n\nI think I could have spent more on flowers if I had wanted to, but I have no regrets. We wouldn’t do anything differently.\n\n### What [wedding expenses surprised you](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-details) the most?\n\nVenue and rentals. I was surprised to find out how much venues cost to rent out space once we started inquiring.\n\n### What is the weirdest or most out-of-the-box thing you bought for your wedding?\n\nNot particularly weird or out of the box, but I am so happy we went with our venue. The best part was that when you rent the space, the space is entirely your wedding for the entire weekend. I loved that it was just our party and it meant the staff could focus on us. I also am so happy we chose a venue that handled all setup and take down, and we were able to stay there the night of.\n\n### Any other details you want to share?\n\nI think it's important to outline a budget, come to a consensus on what money is coming from where, and how much of your budget you are spending on which vendor/category. It really helped that we had a shared spreadsheet and were already open about expenses. For a lot of couples, their wedding may be the first time they have conversations around money. It's awkward at first but if you're open to each other's thoughts and ideas, you'll be better for it!\n\n## Zola, The Best Place to [Track Your Wedding Budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget)\nAt Zola, we want your wedding to be everything you’ve dreamed of. We’re here to make it happen from start to finish, from helping couples curate [wedding registry ideas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-registry-ideas) and create a unique [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/why-your-wedding-website-is-the-ultimate-stress-saver) with [matching invites and paper](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-wedding-stationery-have-to-match), to offering free wedding planning tools like guest lists, seating charts, and our new wedding budget tracker! \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), also [available on our app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zola-wedding-registry-gifts/id852691916). This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\n*Zola’s helping couples share those diverse stories with those eager to learn more about what it really takes to plan a wedding. If you’re interested, in share your [Wedding Budget Diary](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/submit-your-zola-wedding-budget-diary) with us today.*","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"A couple from Fremont, CA shares how they nearly doubled their original budget for their $60,000 wedding. ","title":"We spent $60K on our San Jose, CA wedding","slug":"60k-wedding-in-san-jose-ca-zola-budget-diary","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3aqbE0FlQ0BPtpktBzrlbp/6e77f5a48f769f3e74b0329f31abab57/0405_Zola_Budget_Diaries_EA_2.jpg","altText":"We spent $60K on our San Jose, CA wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! 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Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. 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We’ll break down the typical expenses, guide you through the entire process from start to finish, and tell you where you can save money. ","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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It gives you a chance to reminisce about your relationship journey and gives you yet another reason to be excited for your wedding ceremony and celebration. While your website will include essential wedding details about your venue, dress code, and information about the spouses-to-be, it also provides the perfect opportunity to add a custom touch. \n\nThat's why including a beautiful story section about how the two of you met is highly recommended. It’s one of the most popular parts of a [wedding site](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/8-ways-to-create-a-personalized-wedding-website) and in wedding planning overall. Your guests and member in your wedding party want to read it, so why not try to make it enjoyable and engaging for them?\n\nA common way to approach writing an ‘about us’ story is to write the story of how you met from your point of view. This approach helps relatives and friends from both sides who may not know you as a couple or may have met your significant other only a few times more insight into your relationship.\n\nHowever, some couples opt out of telling the story of how they met. Maybe your friends and family already know the details of your love story. Maybe you’re childhood sweethearts and everyone who is attending your wedding has watched your relationship grow. You can still have an about us story and skip over the __[wedding website bios](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-lovely-wedding-website-bio-examples)__. \n\nFor example, people want to know the story of the proposal. It’s probably the first question people ask when they learn about your engagement. You can share this moment instead of, or in addition to, a how we met story. Other ideas include sharing a memorable date or milestone that you’ve experienced as a couple. Give information about each of your personalities and what you love about each other. It's like a trip down memory lane. \n\nYou could also talk about your love for each other and how you feel about getting married. [The best wedding website builders](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website) will also offer an FAQs section where you can share some of the nitty gritty details, such as logistics and transportation, or arrangements for special dietary or mobility restrictions, etc. \n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop)\n\n## “Our story” examples for your wedding website \n\nWhen coming up with your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website)’s about us, think of a favorite moment from your relationship and share it with your loved ones. Here are five [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website) examples inspired by Hollywood love stories to spark your creativity and inspiration for how to write your own story.\n\n### 1. Tell how you met\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66I55zzM7AsNUlU1eTrCP/9b19086ab0fab9f9050c88238457b162/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_1.jpg)\n\n*\"We were introduced through Sally’s college friend. We were both moving to New York (separately) from Chicago after graduation and Harry sat shotgun as Sally drove. We talked a lot on that road trip but parted ways as soon as we arrived in the city.\"* \n\n*\"Throughout the years, though, we’d run into each other randomly and eventually, we started hanging out and became close friends.\"*\n\nThis example follows the classic guideline of answering who, what, where, and when. Fill in the blanks of the questions for yourself and think about who introduced you as a couple, what you were doing when you met, where the first meeting happened, and when you realized that a relationship might be a possibility. Put it all in an easy to read format leading up to your special day.\n\n### 2. Focus on the proposal\n\n![Engagement Session on Wedding Website](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/01Suw0MpTVWMCravF9uPix/eeaae557a81bc48f6f7c5dd9000b1f86/Engagement_Session_on_Wedding_Website.jpg)\n\n*\"Michael was leaving on another extended business trip and as his train was pulling away, he rushed to the back and yelled out “Marry me!” to Kimmy who was standing on the platform.\"*\n\n*\"It was exhilarating and spontaneous and we both knew right then that no matter how many miles were between us or however many days we had to be apart. We wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.\"*\n\nWas your proposal a well-planned out affair or a spontaneous moment based on a rush of love and emotions? Let your proposal story be guided by the details of how it happened and the feelings that surrounded it. When writing your proposal story, let it provide a glimpse into your life. This example shows the distance challenges the couple faced and how it worked itself into the actual proposal and setting of a wedding date. Add an engagement photo gallery as pictures do speak louder than words. After all, everyone wants to know how he (or she!) popped the question and see your [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos).\n\n### 3. Share a memorable date or milestone\n\n![Proposal idea recreate first date](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7m6l5Ihxa4tSNWQMnvepSp/26a50652dc21889189b731f01a51372f/proposal-ideas-2.jpg)\n\n*\"We wouldn’t call it a date necessarily. But we started spending a lot of time together when Kevin was assigned to write a story on Jane.\" *\n\n*\"Her always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride tale was intriguing to Kevin’s newspaper and he followed Jane closely as she prepared for the upcoming wedding season, including her sister’s semi-impromptu nuptials.\"* \n\nInject humor when possible or specific details many may not know such as your first date or how you chose your destination wedding. It allows guests to feel like they have personal insight into what makes your love so special and will get everyone geared up for the big day. We know you can't wait to celebrate!\n\n### 4. Show your personalities\n\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1578mqE6kY1YE3xvjVgBNU/35198dd4d8e2945c8680f28e25fdc691/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example.jpg)\n\n*\"Anna has lived in the spotlight her whole life. She likes jet-setting around the world and experiencing the finer things in life. William prefers his own quiet part of the world surrounded by only his closest friends and family. You’ll likely find his nose buried in a book.\" *\n\n*\"At first, our worlds collided serendipitously but not necessarily in a good way. But in the end, a change of pace is exactly what we both needed and we got to a place where we could completely be ourselves together. We found that we balance each other out in all the right ways.\" *\n\nShowing parts of your personality individually also illustrates how you work together as a couple. It gives your wedding party and guests a chance to know more about both of you since the bride’s side may not know too much about the groom’s and vice-versa. It is also a great way for family members and best friends to learn more about you and your special other in this section of your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Reflect on your love for each other\n![Love Story Wedding Website Example 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6y2CjTulVydA5bYsZEdFUe/d413e457fa2a44e8139e224af926cb6c/Love_Story_Wedding_Website_Example_2.jpg)\n\n*Sara: When I met Alex, he seemed like another smooth talker trying to pick me up in a bar. While I must admit his suave demeanor was attractive, it was his sweet and thoughtful side that really drew me in, and the rest is history.*\n\n*Alex: I was immediately awestruck when I first laid my eyes on her but knew I had to be creative to win her over. She was someone special; I could just tell.*\n\nAn about us story can be short and sweet. Speak from the heart from your individual perspectives to keep it authentic and fill in the space by sharing your excitement about getting married. This will get your guests excited, too.\n\n## Tips for writing your own story \nThe about us section is one of the first parts you'll fill out on [your website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Take your time when you create it. Write a few drafts before settling on the final story. Read your words aloud to each other and have fun laughing and reminiscing about fond memories before your wedding ceremony. Keep it to a few short paragraphs and add levity and authenticity when you write it. A few tips to keep in mind as you’re writing are:\n\n- __Tip 1:__ Write it like a casual conversation, not a professional bio. It should read like you’re telling the tale in person to a guest. You want it to feel warm and inviting. Skip writing inside jokes but freely share the humor of a story. Guests want to feel like they have a bit of insider knowledge about the spouses-to-be.\n\n- __Tip 2:__ Don’t overthink it. While most about us stories are about the length of a paragraph, if you want to sum it up in two or three sentences, do as you please. It’s about sharing your story in the way you want guests to receive it.\n\n- __Tip 3:__ Make sure the story flows. If you are each writing from your own perspective, make sure each part is similar in length. You don’t want one of you to extend the writing to several lines while the other person only contributes one or two.\n\nFollowing the Hollywood formula is useful as it answers the questions of who, what, when, where, and how. It also shows how to focus on the important details and select private moments.\n\n![Zola Wedding Website Photo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7iMxcB3Lsjs2rhBGZsN8Gs/161cd2722cc9508f4576a85c68d593d5/inline_simplyadriphotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Simply Adri Photography\n\n## Let your wedding website design guide your words \n\nChoose from one of hundreds of [wedding website templates](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs). Each will guide you to where and how much you should add to your wedding website’s About Us story. Using templates helps you decide __[what to put on your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-z-list-of-what-to-put-on-your-wedding-website)__. You’re able to preview how it looks on the screen and decide if you want to add or delete words to make it easier to read. The design enhances the story by also reflecting your personalities and style of your upcoming nuptials. \n\nMatch your website to your wedding theme. Whether it’s an elegant evening affair, an afternoon countryside ceremony, or one of the many other aesthetics and locations in between, you’ll find one that sets the tone for your big day. This can also be extended to your RSVP, guest list, wedding registry, and wedding invitations. \n\nPart of creating your wedding website means taking a walk down memory lane while at the same time preparing for the future. It’s a special time so make sure you savor the moment when getting ready for your wedding day!\n\n## Zola, your best wedding website option\n\nWith Zola, you not only get a free [wedding website template](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates) but also a unique and customizable one with many features. Not only is there an exhaustive wedding registry to choose from, but the variety of designs and templates to add your personality to your wedding website design is huge. \n\nYou also receive a completion discount for items pending in your wedding registry past your wedding date so go ahead and set up your own [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) at Zola to see how easy and convenient a platform it is as you plan for your big day.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Need some wedding website URL ideas?","author":"Deanna deBara","publishedAt":"2021-07-09T16:38:05.688Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3BaqUiLjFSgmCC3Xa3e8pj/eb815ed5775790ad2b88e39f360324ec/Hero_Zola__1_.jpg","altText":"Wedding Website URL Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- When choosing a URL for your wedding website, the key detail to remember is to keep it as short and straightforward as possible. Use something that’ll be easy for your guests to remember, such as your names.\n- If you’re having trouble finding a name combo that’s still available, make simple changes such as adding your wedding year or using a different domain.\n- Zola can make it simple and fun to [create your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding/manage/website/designs) from start to finish with our beautiful and customizable designs.","body":"As part of your wedding planning process, consider creating a beautiful wedding website to host all your wedding information. Yes, this means adding another thing to your wedding to-do list, but trust us, it’ll be worth it! If you need some help on [how to write your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), don’t worry—we’re here to guide you through the ins and outs of creating a wedding website. Keep reading to discover Zola’s best tips on building your own wedding website, starting with choosing the right website URL for your wedding website. \n\n- Wedding Website URLs 101\n- 10 Ideas and Templates for Wedding Website URLs\n- How to Set Up a Wedding Website\n- Customizing Your Wedding Website to Match Your Custom URL\n\n## Wedding Websites 101 \n\nWedding websites are fantastic because they provide a __[central place for details on your forthcoming nuptials](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website)__. All the useful info, such as the date, time, and address, can be kept in one place.\n\nThere’s also room on your website to spotlight other fun and helpful tidbits for your wedding. Couples who want a place to share their love story can do so on a separate page. And, if you’re looking for a way to subtly link your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola makes it easy by integrating your online registry directly into your wedding site.\n\nBefore you can set up an online hub for your wedding, the first thing that you need to decide is what the name and URL of your website will be. The name of your website will build the foundation for everything else that comes after. \n\n![[Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)\n\n### The Dos and Don’ts of Wedding URLs \n\nWhile anyone can register a domain name, good website names are hard to come by. That’s why we’ve put together this list of dos and don’ts to help you navigate the pitfalls of wedding URLs.\n\n__Do:__\n\n- __Check ahead of time to see if your URL hasn’t already been taken:__ If you’re registering your own website domain, you’ll need to make sure that the name you want is still available, and then lock it down to get started.\n\n- __Make your URL as brief as possible:__ When it comes to URLs, the best wedding websites are short and sweet. Long URLs will make your __[wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)__ look cluttered and unprofessional.\n\n- __Keep your URL simple:__ Complicated URLs are difficult to remember. If your friend loses your invitation and can’t remember the name of your website, they won’t have access to all the info they need. Plus, for family members who aren’t tech-savvy, a long and complicated address means more room for error when typing.\n\n- __Use nicknames:__ Nicknames are a simple and cute workaround if you have an unusual or uniquely spelled name. They’re also a smart option if your actual birth names aren’t available anymore.\n\n__Don’t: __\n\n- __Misspell words on purpose:__ If the website name you want is unavailable, don’t try to work around it by misspelling words. Chances are that your guests will enter the correct spelling and get sent to the wrong couples’ website. \n\n- __Use special symbols:__ Non-alphabetical or non-numeric characters will be confusing when sending URLs. Hyphens can often be mistaken for underscores on paper. And, if you tell your mom over the phone that your website is Tina&Celine.com, chances are that she’ll try TinaandCeline.com or TinaNCeline.com before the ampersand. \n\n- __Use the full date of your wedding in the URL:__ You may not be the only Darren and Zoe ever to get married, so don’t try to remedy the matter by using your wedding date in the URL. DarrenZoe04102021.com is a mouthful and can be incredibly confusing if your international guests are used to a different calendar format.\n\nWebsites are more accessible now than ever for anyone to make or use, but don’t fall for common mistakes when registering a domain. Stick with these guidelines and you’ll have a website that makes your life easier, instead of sending your guests straight to the 404 error page. \n\n## 10 Ideas and Templates for Wedding Website URLs \n\nComing up with an idea for your wedding website can be a fun and easy activity for you and your partner. There are many __[website themes and designs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-examples-and-inspiration-themes-and-designs)__ to choose from that reflect your relationship and personality. If you’re both blanking on where to start, though, we’re here to help.\n\nUse these wedding website ideas and templates as a starting point as you brainstorm your URL:\n\n \n\n### 1. A“(First Name) and (First Name)” URL\nThis template is a classic and effortlessly chic option. Many couples prefer a template that uses both of their first names, as it’s simple and to the point.\n\nThis template is also easy to remember, and it puts the focus on the two people getting married. You'll be able to quickly rattle off the name of a website when talking to a friend, and they'll have an easier time remembering it. You could always drop the “and” if your names are long or if you prefer the way the URL looks without it.\n\n__Examples:__ \n- *SamandAlexa.com*\n- *SamAlexa.com*\n\n### 2. “(First Name) plus (First Name)” URL\nThis template uses the same logic as the previous one, but provides a slightly more playful structure. The equation format is reminiscent of romantic high school crushes doodling hearts around their names in notebooks. “Jack + Diane = True Love.” \n\n__Examples:__\n- *KillianplusGeorge.com*\n- *SaraplusDan.com*\n\n### 3. “The (Last Name)s” URL\nIf you or your partner are planning on taking the other’s surname, what better time than the pre-wedding period to test out how this sounds and looks? Surnames make short and concise URLs that get straight to the point.\n\n__Examples:__ \n- *TheMcDonnells.org*\n- *The Wilsons.net*\n\n### 4. “The (Hyphenated Surnames)” URL\nFor those modern couples who will be combining last names once you’re married, debut your new hyphenated surnames in your wedding website URL. That way, you can give your guests a hint of how you’d like to be addressed once you’re married, so as to avoid any awkward toasts at the reception.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *ThePolanskiShens.com*\n- *TheSanchezSmiths.com*\n\n### 5. Add Your Wedding Year to Your URL\nAdding the year of your wedding after your name is a popular option for both a wedding website and a wedding hashtag. It’s less cluttered than including the full month and date (a URL faux pas), but still excites anticipation for your upcoming celebration.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *AikoandRachel2021.com*\n- *TheChangs2021.net*\n\n### 6. Put the “Wedding” in Your Wedding Website\nIf the above options are a little too plain and bland for your tastes, adding the word “wedding” to your names will make it crystal clear exactly what this website is about. Combine this with your wedding year for a URL that has all the details.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *FredBeeWedding.org\n- GoldsteinsWedding2021.com*\n\n### 7. Use Suffixes in Your Wedding URL\nCouples who want to try new forms of address can throw in the appropriate suffixes into their wedding URL.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *MrandMrsPark2021.com*\n- *MrsandMrsWilkinson.net*\n- *MrandDrGarciaHaw.com*\n\n### 8. Set the Scene With Destination Wedding URLs\nJetsetting couples hosting their marital celebrations in a destination wedding can make the location a focal point in their URLs. Not only will a __[destination wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-website-help-your-guests-prepare-for-your-wedding)__ URL provide a unique website name, but it’ll immediately signal to your guests that the wedding location might require some travel.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *TheTruongsinVietnam.wedding*\n- *MattandFarahinFrance.com*\n- *JamieAshgotoMilan2021.net*\n\n### 9. Add Wedding or Love-Themed Phrases\nIf one or both of you are wordsmiths, you can play around and add some romantic wedding-related words to your website name. Just remember to keep it concise and straightforward.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *MinawedsNick.com\n- DavelovesJin2021.love\n- TheBrownsHappilyEver.wedding\n- Zoesaidyes.org*\n\n### 10. Use a Different Domain Extension for Your URL\nThe most familiar domain extension for websites is “.com,” but you don’t have to stick with that option when it comes to your wedding URL. Couples looking to change things up or navigating around an unavailable \".com\" website domain can use a different extension.\n\nOther common extensions include:\n- .org\n- .net\n- .me\n- .online\n\nIf you’d like to stick closer to the wedding theme in your website, use an unusual, but on-point extension such as:\n- .love\n- .wedding\n\nWebsite hosting platforms such as Squarespace can help you check domain availability and suggest alternative combos for your website. Registration on website domains for regular use, such as weddings, usually won’t cost more than $20/year, so it’s an affordable option for couples who want to go the extra mile.\n\n__Examples:__\n- *PeggyandSteve2021.love*\n- *AmaniplusAdam.wedding*\n\nIf you don’t want to fuss around registering and paying for your own wedding domain, Zola can help you with our __[free and customizable website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__ tools. Those who decide on this option won’t need a custom domain name, but, if you want, you can add one to your __[Zola site for as low as $14.95](https://help.zola.com/hc/en-us/articles/115001755451-Does-Zola-sell-custom-domain-names-?%24web_only=true&_branch_match_id=711383717283485260)__.\n\nWith hundreds of gorgeous designs, Zola makes it simple to set up a website that still feels like “you.”\n\n## Customizing Your Wedding Website to Match Your Custom URL \n\nSo, you’ve got a lock on a custom website URL and an outline of the kind of website that you want. But how can you take it one step further and make your wedding website something that reflects who you are as a couple?\n\nUsing templates from website builder programs doesn’t mean that you’ll end up with a wedding page that looks like everyone else’s. With minimal effort and work, you can transform your website into a stunning and unique portal for your special day.\n\n### Include an “About Us” Section\nThe best way to personalize a wedding website is to get a little personal—so tell us a little about yourselves with a [wedding website bio](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-website-bio-couple-story-templates). Couples with adorable meet-cutes or first-date stories should feel free to share the details here.\n\nIf you have trouble talking about yourself, ask your partner to write a little bio about you (and vice versa)—this can be a sweet and romantic activity for both of you. Think about little habits or quirks that you love about your SO and small jokes that make both of you laugh. \n\n### Introduce the Wedding Party\nTake advantage of your digital space to dedicate a page to your wedding party. Write short bios for each attendant that include their role in the party and why they’re special to you.\n\nTell the story of how your cousin made you pinky swear that you’d make him your person of honor when you were 10 in this space, or share the time that you met your bridesmaid rock climbing. This section can be a thoughtful way to acknowledge and thank the people who will be standing by you as you enter a new chapter of your lives.\n\n### Decorate Your Website With Pictures\nPictures are a fantastic way to make your website all about you. If you have albums of film from a romantic vacation abroad or beautiful shots from your engagement photos, now’s the time to put them to use. \n\nHere are some creative ways to utilize photos on the website:\n\n- Feature your favorite shots from your engagement on the landing page.\n\n- Use different pictures on the headers for each page of your website.\n\n- Break up chunks of text with images of the two of you.\n\n- Include side-by-side photos of you two as babies.\n\n- Create an interactive page for guests to upload pictures and videos they take at your engagement party, rehearsal dinner, or on the wedding day so that you can look back on your website after the honeymoon.\n\nCustomizing your wedding website with personal details and images will help your website stand out and feel unique to you. You can be as creative as you want, even when you’re using a designed template. \n\n## Use Zola for All Your Wedding Website Needs\nNow that you’ve got everything you need to create the ultimate wedding website, you can start organizing all the details of your big day online. Keep track of your guest list and upcoming booking deadlines by using Zola’s online RSVP and wedding checklist. Add your __[wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry)__ so guests can easily view it. Include a section on your website to provide dress code information, any social media hashtags, and FAQs your guests may be interested in. __[Give our wedding website builder a try](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__― it has everything you need in one place. \n\nFound a website template you love, but are still undecided on which paper options to use for everything else? Zola pairs our free website designs with matching paper products so that your wedding aesthetic is the same both on- and offline.\n\nOrder a free sample invite to see your dream design brought to life on paper. With Zola’s __[premium paper suite collections](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper)__, you’ll never have to worry about mismatched fonts or clashing color palettes.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"We count down our 20 most popular wedding website templates.","title":"20 Free Wedding Website Templates That Will Inspire You","slug":"20-most-popular-zola-wedding-website-templates","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"List","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2C4ipaW0Zc4U1VbuH7Y3zv/8a2a008bc80c3186ceff9b89a12d25c8/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"20 Most Popular Zola Wedding Website Templates"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Your wedding website provides your wedding guests with all the necessary info about your wedding. 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Explore etiquette tips for how to share your wedding website on an invitation.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-02-04T15:29:33.595Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/26CncJFSKWLqU3QCUNbXDz/adef7cbc39110ffd3962b155c77cb77a/HERO_Zola_1080x720.jpg","altText":"wedding website on invitation etiquette"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"You [wrote your “how we met” story](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-your-wedding-website), uploaded your [beautiful engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos), and [created your wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/registry/registry-basics/tips-for-creating-a-wedding-registry). This can only mean one thing: you completed your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). Congrats! Crafting a wedding website that communicates all the important details about your wedding day is no easy task. Now that you hit publish, you’re probably wondering when and how you should share your brand-spanking-new site with your wedding guests.\n\nWhile it can be tempting to post a link to your wedding website on your social media accounts right away, we strongly advise against it. Sharing your wedding details with all of your web-based followers and friends often leads to confusion about who is and isn’t invited to your big day. Instead, modern etiquette suggests that you share your website with your guests via your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (and save the dates, if applicable). For more information on how to include your wedding website on your invitation, keep reading. \n\nJust getting started? Check out our step-by-step guide on [how to make a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). \n\n## Why to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nIncluding a link on your invitation is the easiest and most common way to share your website with your guests. Traditionally, the wedding invitation suite includes a few different enclosure cards to relay critical information to guests. While that’s still an option, many modern couples have opted to forego multiple enclosure cards and instead direct guests to their website to learn need-to-know wedding details, such as hotel recommendations and registry information. In addition to communication wedding details, the wedding website may be included on the invitation for the following reasons: \n\n__1. To Collect RSVPs Online__ — Many couples choose to collect online RSVPs rather than have their guests fill out paper response cards. That’s because sites like Zola make it easy to gather RSVPs through your wedding website and [manage the guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) with real-time updates and easy-to-use tracking tools. \n\n__2. To Share Registry Information__ — In the past, registry etiquette dictated that the registry only be shared by word of mouth. The digital age has rendered that rule outdated, and it’s now considered standard to share where you’re registered on your wedding website. Including your website URL on your invite makes it easy for guests to find your registry without hassle. \n\n## How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nNow that we’ve covered *why* to share your wedding website on your invitations, let’s talk about *how* to include your wedding website on your invitation without sacrificing aesthetic appeal or committing an etiquette faux pas. \n\nIn general, when sending out the [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal), guests appreciate having the wedding website information all in one place. Wedding etiquette insists that you don’t include your website on the invitation directly, but if you do choose to share it on the formal invitation, add the website to the bottom of the invitation. Wedding save the dates and enclosure cards are also a great place to share your wedding website with guests. You can do this by either:\n\n- Adding your wedding website URL\n- Adding a QR code\n\nLet's explore these different options for how you can share your wedding website on your invitation.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) \n\n### Save The Dates\nAlthough your [wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are sent out in advance of your invitations, they’re still a part of your invitation suite and the most popular choice for sharing the wedding website URL with guests as quickly as possible. \n\n__Where:__ If you make your save the dates using a pre-made design online, then the template will guide you on where exactly you should list your wedding website link. It varies by design, but in most cases, it’s listed on the back of the save the date or at the bottom of the front side. If you’re working with an invitation designer or making your own, where you place the URL is up to your personal preference. If you opt for a QR code, placing it on the back of your save-the-date would be ideal.\n\n__When:__ Send save the dates 4-6 months before your wedding date. \n\n### The Formal Invitation \nAlthough some wedding experts believe it’s bad decorum to include your wedding website on your invitation, we’re of the opinion that it’s okay if you’re collecting RSVPS through your site in lieu of response cards. Just keep in mind that unless the link serves a purpose other than broadcasting where guests can buy you gifts, that it may be considered poor etiquette to share your wedding website on your invitation. \n\n__Where:__ At the bottom of your invitation. Some wording examples:\n- “For more information, please visit [URL]”\n- “Kindly RSVP by [RSVP deadline] at [URL]”\n\nIf you opt to add a QR code instead, adding it to the back of the invite is best.\n\n__When:__ Send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n### The Enclosure Card(s) \nYour other option is to include your wedding website URL on an enclosure card (an additional piece of your invitation suite used to communicate additional details to your guests). While there are many types of enclosure cards, these three are used to point guests to your website: \n\n- __RSVP Card__ — If guests should RSVP online via your wedding website and you don’t want (or have the space) to include these instructions on your invitation, an option is to include an RSVP card with instructions on where, when, and how guests should accept or decline your invitation online. \n- __Details Card__ — To communicate multiple pieces of information with guests on one card, many couples prefer to enclose a details card with their invite. This card may list your website, travel information, requested attire, and other fine points that your guests should know before the wedding day.\n- __Wedding Website Card__ — A final option is to add a wedding website card to your invitation suite. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-25T20:26:29.674Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IcJuHdO9FKSB9935zn2CW/8674613b9fcf7440e5c9d2d87360ac2c/Mackler_Studios.jpg","altText":"bride and groom sitting in the backseat of car posing with marriage license"},"heroCredit":"Mackler Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/mackler-studios--4","body":"When you’re in the midst of planning all the details of your wedding day, it’s easy to forget the one thing that signifies that you are actually married: the marriage license. This bit of paperwork isn’t the most exciting task on your road to married life, but it is a requirement for your union to be deemed legal. So how do you go about getting a marriage license? Our guide covers it all below. \n\n## What Is a Marriage License?\nA marriage license is a document issued by the government that grants you permission to marry. It indicates that you are both legally eligible to enter into the union (i.e., neither of you are already married, underage, or otherwise ineligible for marriage). \n\n## What Is a Marriage Certificate?\nWhile a marriage license is a permit that legally allows you to get married, the marriage certificate is the official document you receive after your wedding has taken place. The certificate is granted after the marriage license has been returned to, and deemed valid by, the office where it was issued. In other words: \n- License = Permission to get married\n- Certificate = Proof that you are married\n \n## Why Do I Need a Marriage License? \nIf you do not obtain a marriage license, your marriage will be deemed illegal according to the law. While you can choose to be married in name only, or through a religious organization exclusively, the state will not permit you the rights typically reserved for legally married couples, such as certain tax breaks, social security benefits, joint healthcare plans, and inheritance rights. \n\n## Where to Get a Marriage License? \nWhere you get your marriage license depends on where you’re getting married—the office or location that handles them varies by state. Depending on your state, the location might be city hall, the clerk’s office, a designated marriage license bureau, or somewhere else unique to that area. \n\nTo learn more about your state’s marriage license requirements, check out [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml). \n\n## When to Get a Marriage License? \nWhen you should get your marriage license also depends on where your wedding will take place. Each state has its own set of rules for how long the license is valid (the license may expire if you do not get married and return the license to the state within a given number of days) and if there’s a waiting period. The waiting period is either the amount of time you have to wait between applying for and receiving the license, or a designated wait period between receiving the license and when you can tie the knot. \n\nAgain, [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml) is a great resource on this topic, but your local city hall will have the most up-to-date information. \n\n## How to Get Marriage License?\nThe process for obtaining a marriage license will vary by state (and sometimes city or county), but the process involves an submitting an application and paying a fee. Some states allow you to apply online, but most dictate that you apply in person and that both individuals be present that wish to be married. \n\n## What Do I Need to Apply for a Marriage License? \nThe exact requirements depend on the state’s individual laws, but there are a few things you can expect:\n\n- __Proof of identity (and that you are of legal age to marry)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - Social Security Card\n - Driver’s License\n - State ID\n - Military ID\n - U.S. Passport\n \n- __Proof that you are not currently married__\n - Divorce Decree, if you’re divorced \n - Death Certificate, if you are widowed\n- __Proof of citizenship (or residence)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - U.S. Passport\n - Certificate of Naturalization \n- __Payment for the application fee __\n\nConsult with your state for details on laws governing marriage age, blood test requirements, proxy, common law, and cousin marriages.\n\n*Pro Tip: Some applications may ask if you’re planning a [name change after marriage](https://zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). Make sure that you have come to a decision before you apply.* \n\n## How Much Is a Marriage License? \nFees for marriages licenses change range from $10 - $115 depending on the state, city or county where you apply. For accepted payment methods, check with your local licensing office. \n\n## Who Signs The Marriage License? \nMost states require that the marriage license be signed by both spouses, the officiant, and 1-2 witnesses, but, as we’ve mentioned before, every state is different. Be sure to ask for details when you apply for your marriage license. \n\n## Where Do I File for a Marriage License If I’m Planning a Destination Wedding?\nIf you’re planning to wed abroad, you can file for your marriage license two ways: \n\n__1. 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[Changing your name](https://www.zola.com/shop/brand/nee-name-change) to match your spouse is a common tradition and one that actually dates back to ninth-century English common law. Back then, women were required to ditch their maiden names and take their husband’s surname after marriage. Fast forward to more modern times: There’s no law in the U.S. that demands a name change after marriage, but many married couples still choose to come together under a single family name. \n\n[Zola’s First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2022) surveyed 3,309 couples getting married in 2022 and found out that while a majority are planning to change their names (approximately 78%), there is 16% of today's couples choosing to keep their original names. About 4.6% of couples are going the route of hyphenating their names, and there’s even a small group of couples (a mighty .87%) changing their names to something completely different than either of their surnames. \n\nIf you’re thinking about or decided to legally change your name after your wedding, here’s everything you need to know about how to do it—and why you might want to.\n\n## The Benefits of Changing Your Name After Marriage \nThese days, the reasons to change your name lean more personally and socially acceptable than legally beneficial. Here are a few good reasons to change your name:\n\n- It creates consistency throughout the family. Many people prefer to change their names to keep the same last name running throughout the entire unit. This is especially true when children are involved. One family name can make things easier on things like vacations or school trips.\n- You don’t like your current name. Here’s your excuse to finally shed the surname that makes you cringe.\n- It’s for a religious reason. Many people change their names if they’ve converted religions or simply want to honor their spouse’s traditions. Name changes for religious reasons are quite common.\n- You love a personal touch. This may seem like a shallow reason to legally change your name, but if you’re big on monogramming and personalization ([hand towels](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/matouk_auberge_hand_towel), anyone?), one family name makes customization easy. \n\nNote: Changing your name doesn’t only have to mean taking your partner’s name, or vice versa. There are a few different ways to change your name. You could hyphenate both your names into a joint surname (Lopez-Rodriguez, for example). Or you could try combining your names into an entirely new one (Miller + Winston = Milton). There are a number of alternative approaches so think about what’s best for you as a married couple.\n\n## Name Change Laws\nWhile there’s no law requiring a name change after marriage, there are laws that come into play if you do decide to make the switch. It’s important to note that name change laws vary by jurisdiction so it’s crucial that you check which rules and regulations apply to your specific situation. In some cases, you may have to file a formal name change petition with the court.\n\nGenerally, though, most states simply require that you meet certain residency requirements. All states require the applicant to be a resident of the state—typically for six months, but this varies—before filing for a legal name change.\n\nDepending on your state, you may need a formal name change petition and court date for the following situations:\n- A man taking his wife’s last name\n- Both partners choosing a last name different from either of theirs\n- A same-sex marriage partner changing his or her last name\n\nChanging your name isn’t typically hard to do. Just be sure to review the laws in your state ahead of time so you don’t encounter any surprises and find yourself delayed during the change process.\n\n## How to Change Your Name After Marriage \nYou probably guessed that you need your [marriage license](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-marriage-licenses) to change your name. And you’re right. In fact, you need several certified copies of your marriage license and marriage certificate (request these from the county clerk where your marriage license application was filed). Some states offer both short- and long-form marriage licenses—request the long forms. Once you have those copies from the county clerk’s office, you’re ready to start the name change process.\n\n### Social Security Card\nThe first step on your name change journey should be the Social Security Administration. In many states, you can’t change the name on your license without an updated Social Security card. Here’s how to do it.\n\nBad news: You can’t apply for a new card online. Good news: A new card is free.\n\nBefore heading to your local Social Security office, gather your marriage license, a valid driver’s license or ID, and [this Social Security form](https://www.ssa.gov/forms/ss-5.pdf). In some cases, you may also need to show proof of citizenship by providing a certified copy of your birth certificate or passport. [Check here](https://www.ssa.gov/ssnumber/ss5doc.htm) to make sure you have all the right documents. \n\nTake or mail your legal name change application and copies of your documents to your local Social Security office. \n\n### Driver’s License\nNext, it’s time to update the name on your license. Driver’s license name change requirements vary pretty significantly state-to-state. So, do your research and make sure you know exactly what legal documents you need before you head to the DMV. In most cases, you’ll need your current driver’s license, marriage certificate, new Social Security card, a form of ID, and any forms required by your state. A quick Google search for your state’s requirements should lay out everything you need to bring to your local DMV.\n\n### Bank Accounts\nOnce your Social Security card and driver’s license are updated, you’ll want to head to the bank. Visit your local branch and bring your marriage license and your updated driver’s license. Ask the bank to change your name on all of your accounts—this will make a big difference if you decide to open joint bank accounts with your new spouse. Also, request new checks, credit cards, and debit cards. Note: You might get hit with a fee for the new cards.\n\n## Everything Else \nNow that you’ve covered the major name updates, it’s time to update your name on just about everything else. Here’s a list of places you may need or want to update with your name change.\n\n- Employer/Payroll Department\n- Post Office (especially if your address has changed)\n- Utility Companies\n- Schools/Alumni Organizations\n- Landlord or Mortgage Office\n- Insurance (Home, Auto, Life)\n- Doctor’s Offices\n- Voter Registration\n- Investment Account Providers\n- Attorney (to update legal documents, including your will)\n- Passport Office\n- Airlines (transfer your miles!)\n- Subscriptions (magazines, monthly boxes, etc.)\n\nDon’t let all the steps stress you out. Changing your surname after marriage is an age-old tradition—and it stuck for a reason. If you decide to make the switch, rest assured that you’ll be able to with ease, thanks to a little bit of research.","sponsorLogoImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OiDHetvmksiT1f9MOlzRf/d20beff46b642b93b02a57f9411f3d4a/1.png","altText":"Née Name Change"},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-11-22T19:03:15.674Z"}],"name":"Legal","slug":"legal","description":"Find guidance on legal aspects of getting married and planning a wedding like changing your name, marriage certificates, wedding venue insurance, wedding vendor contracts and more."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"small-wedding-details","title":"25 Small Wedding Details You Don't Want to Forget","excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. If anything gets left behind, ask them to grab it and get it to you in the days following the wedding.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:41:36.984Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools","description":"We breakdown all of the must-know wedding planning tools to help make planning your wedding seemless. Discover articles on tools that help you keep track of your budget, guest list, RSVPs, gifts, and more. Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Make sure your wedding makeup stands up to your celebration. 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Here are our DIY wedding hair tips to follow for gorgeous wedding hairstyles you can pull off yourself.","title":"DIY Wedding Hair Tips","slug":"diy-wedding-hair-tips","topic":"Fashion & beauty","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3B4JXngFOMWYGs2QSeuqKq/cd886b06bd7f132aacf49b6692d86e87/3937960.jpg","altText":"African-American bride side pose with beautiful hair curls"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"The impulse to diet or lose weight for your wedding is strong. Here's how to break the cycle and focus less on your wedding diet and more on a healthy body and stress-free wedding planning.","title":"How to Break Out of the #WeddingDiet Mentality","slug":"wedding-diets-lose-weight-for-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6V9XrUDHmz4UvWtnNWGu8W/aa926bf361e969338d3c02ed4b72a2c9/HERO_NicoleChanPhotography_1080x720.jpg","altText":"veiled bride walking to wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Finding the perfect wedding dress can sometimes feel as challenging as finding your soul mate. Luckily we’re here with a quick-and-easy quiz to help you figure out your ideal wedding style.","title":"What’s Your Wedding Dress Style? ","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Start creating today!","title":"How to Create Your Wedding Website: 10 Simple Steps ","slug":"how-to-make-a-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6a4MvmncJr4AKia1nFr6Tn/91e1616adecb7211caf14038546e0f27/DESKTOP_ww.png","altText":"Zola wedding website as seen on a laptop computer"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"We’ll walk you through the steps of online wedding planning, highlighting all of Zola’s incredibly easy and intuitive online wedding planning tools that’ll make planning for the big day more fun and less frustrating.","title":"How to Plan a Wedding: A Step-by-Step Guide","slug":"how-to-plan-a-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dIWp3wUEoOYErrmI2ARMW/7ef19284bfcf930b88487d3c0a562999/How-to-plan-a-Wedding.jpg","altText":"Zola online wedding planning tools as seen on mobile, desktop, and tablet"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"You're engaged—congrats! 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"To help your groom’s crew achieve wedding party perfection, here’s a total rundown of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.","title":"The Groomsmen Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-groomsmen-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/fWwz6PEGcwUqySiyogssM/896f7054e8a5e377c932d0a30417662c/Groomsmen-Duties_DreamlifePhotosandVideo.jpg","altText":"groom and groomsmen in light grey suits"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. 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If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Wedding toasts are tricky. 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Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:23.818Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"not-inviting-family-to-your-wedding-dos-and-donts","title":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts","excerpt":"When creating your wedding guest list, you have to decide what family members to invite to your special day. ","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Zola has you covered with 75 of the best wedding theme ideas from classic to artsy to seriously unique.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3HoNcgvHL38H89n8156o1/1017eb099f8518bbd5457c495a5e4753/73_Wedding_Themes_to_Inspire.jpg","altText":"Grid of different wedding styles - glitz and glam, tropical, rustic, summer camp."},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"http://www.zola.com","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The 25 most popular wedding themes\n- Do I need a theme for my wedding?\n- How do I choose a wedding theme?\n- 50 more wedding theme ideas","body":"The perfect wedding theme awaits you!\n\nChoosing your wedding theme is one of the most exciting parts of planning your big day. But with so many to choose from, where do you start? \n\nSure, you could keep it simple with a non-themed wedding. \n\nOr you could branch out with wedding aesthetics that perfectly match your personality and style. We’ve put together an extensive list of different wedding themes that can be tailored to all sorts of couples, tastes, and budgets. \n\nRead on for 75 of the most popular wedding themes, complete with visual inspo and decor tips to help you plan your own wedding day.\n\n## 25 most popular themes for weddings\n \nBefore we jump into all the types of wedding themes to choose from — whether you're classic or creative, glam or vintage, alternative or boho-inspired — we’ve rounded up some of the most popular wedding themes for today's soon-to-be-married couples:\n\n1. __Formal Contemporary__\n![venue](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/NCb4QSehqsH1O6ku81ZwQ/f1b36511ffe074d0fa2206620cd54fcd/AdobeStock_124832951.jpeg)\nStick to the basics with this upscale wedding theme that uses modern design elements. Draped fabrics, crystal chandeliers, and tall centerpieces will bring this sophisticated look together.\n\n2. __Classic Glam__\n![gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6nhKyagLnjkBU86Stv0GTa/56cd1704e129754dd9272ec0f50d8de6/gabriella-clare-marino-lcGz6gZsSsk-unsplash.jpg)\nA classic glam affair is dazzling and over the top, with luxurious details from the venue to the decor. Monochromatic color palettes are popular, with metallics mixed in to add glitz and glamor.\n\n3. __Natural__\n![3](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/mQVJUEDKRzSAcxNhkzS5r/06a8f988d6f6c5b27a6305aa089fcb5c/3.jpg)\nConsider an open-air courtyard to celebrate the beauty of nature throughout your wedding day. Eco-friendly wedding details such as edible favors and a sustainable exit help add detail to your natural wedding vibe.\n\n4. __Winter Wonderland__\nYour winter wedding celebration can glisten like snow with a winter wonderland theme. Use sparkles, snowflakes, and holiday decorations to achieve this dreamy aesthetic.\n\n5. __Full Bloom__\n![5](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/123fEytq6FEaqjrbMVosxh/82c2ce732970503702bfc8f50bcb3a41/5.jpg)\nIn spring, all the flowers are in bloom—and you can use those vibrant bouquets as inspiration for your wedding theme. Incorporate fresh spring flowers into every element of your wedding decor — from elaborate table arrangements to a floral arbor.\n\n6. __Modern Minimalist__\n![6](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5XuVKWIWHNJYPAdSsaRZlQ/fda90e4a35159a191260ca339a3332f1/6.jpeg)\nLess is more with this simplistic theme that uses shapes, geometry, and small pops of color to come to life. You could even take it one step further, with a black and white wedding theme.\n\n7. __Mid-century Modern__\nEmbrace this retro (yet still modern) design style in your wedding decor with clean lines, sleek wooden textures, retro tablescapes and burnt orange furniture.\n\n8. __Art Deco__\n![8](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2J5GNIvt5PR4pBEK4VuDhQ/1dc157f53715d502158be278d83abeea/8.jpg)\nCelebrate the timeless elegance of the roaring ’20s with gold decor, sparkling sequins, feathers, and lots of bubbly. Use a wedding style color scheme of white, gold, and black for a sophisticated art deco design.\n\n9. __Classic Romance__\n![9](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZsG4M3PS4Wpg9uvAvHrzX/b8f4b01fba69c5b21d62dd332895fed8/9.jpg)\nThis timeless wedding theme comes with a soft, delicate palette of pinks and golds and traditional table decor such as bouquets made of roses and peonies. To set the romantic mood, provide candlelight and intimate seating for your guests.\n\n10. __Vineyard Chic__\nWine enthusiasts can make bubbly an important part of their wedding day with a vineyard chic celebration. To bring your vision to life, consider hosting your ceremony and reception at an actual vineyard and using wine bottles and corks as creative decor.\n\n11. __Botanical Theme__\n![11](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/xZSL48LapGehOVh9b62H0/df650db710d783d39815eac4513b0003/11.jpg)\nIf you plan to play up florals on your wedding day, consider a botanical wedding theme. This upscale garden party theme is luxe and sophisticated, and typically features metallic palettes and opulent floral displays. Send a floral save the date, wedding invitation, and wedding paper to match your wedding theme decor.\n\n12. __Rustic__\n![pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ip8zWaSayVAc84dIM44wD/0e2d2e9895c1f47a8f49a0bc4149967e/pablo-lancaster-jones-eIm1bSLSBSk-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a rustic theme—which is popular with outdoor weddings—play up natural elements or homey decor (like plenty of greenery and mason jar floral arrangements).\n\n13. __Vintage Travel__\n![23](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xptsVMWQTP85NL0wCTBd9/2da07077f1c124614d9144e7b5b1e127/23.jpg)\nAdventure seekers will love decorating for this theme that uses antique globes, postcards, and other vintage travel pieces as creative decor. Celebrate your wanderlust as you embark on the greatest journey of all.\n\n14. __Art History__\n![sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/66RHqmmSMIBAZ214Hgqjgl/872c028b099a14ba178c85031d61a55f/sara-darcaj-oXJ2SGSvZZs-unsplash.jpg)\nFor a tasteful and refined affair, consider a theme that commemorates art history throughout its decor and design. A museum or small art gallery is the perfect setting for this eventful art lesson.\n\n15. __Country__\n![15](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/BrdpO0Z0fVTagdg4A6sKg/649d3f3d06038eb421bdfcf4193882aa/15.jpg)\nBreak out the cowboy boots and country music at a ranch-style wedding. You can even incorporate ranch activities like hayrides and horseback rides if your venue allows it.\n\n16. __Shabby Chic__\n![16](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5L5g4wJV22i05ZtalQz7xh/5c6cc222fd3d043a7c196a5388e411d8/16.jpg)\nThis rustic-meets-vintage wedding style is all about romantic, soft textures and warm colors. Take something old and make it new again by decorating with antique centerpieces and light fixtures.\n\n17. __Tropical__\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lYIwjJeCeh1Bxa0ATwu43/38fa98159face58ebb0acfbb7146b51e/17.jpg)\nYou don’t have to get married on the beach to embrace the island vibe. Use lush palms, exotic flowers, and conch shells to pull together a tropical wedding, and encourage guests to get into theme with resort wear.\n\n18. __Nautical__\nIf your ideal honeymoon is something water-based, a nautical theme might be the best choice for you. Anchor your love in place with a wedding theme that celebrates the high seas. Dress your celebration up with blue hues, breezy linens, and delicious seafood stations.\n\n19. __Beach__\n![19](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7r5QGMTzRURk2sEl5aLGRT/bbe086ec3848797181e856f3b38c0d89/19.jpg)\nIf you’re dreaming of getting married barefoot, toes in the sand, then a beach wedding is for you! Embrace the shoreline with your decor and bouquet with a wedding arch made of dried poms.\n\n20. __Tea Party__\nHost a vintage tea party for a daytime wedding celebration that’s both casual and cute. Serve snacks on fine China, have bridesmaids carry parasols, and don’t forget delicate touches of lace in your vintage wedding invitations and decor.\n\n21. __Royal Wedding__\n![21](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1UZ1uCYGA6Eo9jgSE3UGVR/3c99b4dc106b2bfd08aca74c23375c46/21.jpg)\nThis is one of those wedding party themes that takes inspo from the experts. Channel the grace of Meghan Markle and the tradition of the British royal family with this romantic wedding theme. Myrtle flowers, London artwork, tiaras, and tea help make this look authentically chic.\n\n22. __French Countryside__\n![22](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/62fKY1mDFNrUQP5Vg4bdzA/cc5fbdf5407e0c966e95aa388eefc1da/22.jpg)\nIf you’re getting married at a chateau-style venue, consider saying “I do” the French way. This wedding theme mixes opulence with rustic chic. Make sure to bring lots of lavender, macarons, and baguettes baked with love.\n\n23. __Fall Foliage__\n![12](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2AGHcR19ih0yOMVuDinigw/153a7a3f19c636642a17285d26db281d/12.jpg)\nUse the colors of fall to inspire your wedding style—think maroon, gold, and forest green.\n\n24. __Masquerade__\nWhether you’re channeling Venice or Mardi Gras, this fun and festive wedding theme is heavy on glitz, glamour, and mystery. You can even ask guests to join in on the fun with thematic masks. \n\n25. __Alice in Wonderland__\nTake your guests down a rabbit hole with this themed garden party idea. Bring the look together with eclectic touches such as clocks, cards, pocket watches, and pastels.\n\n## Do I need a theme for my wedding? \n \n\nThough having one isn't mandatory, having a wedding theme can help you decide on the style of your dress and bridesmaid dresses, the wedding cake/food you serve, the design of your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) and invitations, the color of your flowers and more. Having a wedding theme can also help you create more cohesion with your other pre-wedding events—for example, connecting your wedding theme with your [bachelorette party theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelor-party-ideas).\n\n## How do I choose a wedding theme?\n \n\nIf you’re looking for wedding inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Regardless of whether you are planning a fall wedding or spring wedding, there are plenty of unique wedding reception themes for you and your partner to choose from. We’ve compiled a list of our favorite wedding theme ideas that will provide inspiration for every type of couple, from book lovers to outdoor enthusiasts and more!\n\n## 50 more themes for weddings\n \nLooking for something a little more outside-the-box when it comes to your wedding theme? Read on for 50 more themes for weddings, inspired by art, culture, travel, movies and more.\n\n### Classic wedding themes with a twist\n\nIf you're a traditional, classic person, chances are you're going to gravitate towards traditional, classic wedding themes.\n\nBut \"classic\" and \"traditional\" certainly don't need to translate to \"boring!\" There are plenty of different ways to make these wedding themes unique and exciting, and an expression of your style as a couple:\n\n### Classic modern wedding themes\n\n26. __Preppy:__ Your country club wedding is the perfect stage for a preppy wedding theme. Combine bright accents and modern patterns together for a bold and flirty design in your modern [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), [invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), and [decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/party-supplies-decor).\n\n27. __Feminine Maximalist:__ More is more with this colorful and bold wedding theme that plays up dramatic displays and quirky touches. Make your maximalism pretty in pink with cascading florals and bright embellishments.\n\n![wedding-themes-modern](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5nMSWtCHql6osd2SuhfSkO/34635f336c93404eb8e25349d9190943/wedding-themes-modern.png)\nSources: [Mariah Naella](https://weddings.mariahnaella.com/) | [Kate Merrill Photography](https://www.katemerrillphoto.com/) | [J Wiley Photography](https://jwileyphotography.com/) | [Captured Frames](https://capturedframes.com/) \n\n### Classic glamorous wedding themes\n\n28. __Chic Estate:__ Old world glam takes center stage on the sprawling estate lawn during your ceremony and reception. Dress up your wedding tent with linens, lights, and floating florals for a look that’s elegant and refined.\n\n29. __Renaissance:__ Take your love back in time with this historical wedding theme. Consider replacing the traditional bridal dress with a medieval gown and serving up a menu full of ancient spices.\n\n### Classic rustic wedding themes\n\n30. __Farm-to-Table__: Make food the focal point of your day by creating an outdoor ambiance using organic decor and fresh menu offerings. Try an earthy palette and [centerpieces](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-centerpiece-ideas) that feature fruits and vegetables.\n\n31. __Southern Charm__: Peach cobbler and citrus are just some of the fixings to serve at your Deep South-inspired celebration. Play up feminine details and casual elegance in your ceremony and reception.\n\n![wedding-themes-rustic](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C7BBB22goYR39EyK4V51D/1756be84e55408a255a481a8a5376210/wedding-themes-rustic.png)\nSources: [Stacey Able Photography](http://www.stacyable.com/citrus-lake-atitlan-guatemala-destination-wedding-photography/) | [Mango Studios](https://mangostudios.com/) | [Lara Hotz](http://larahotz.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n\n### Classic destination wedding themes\n\n32. __Grecian:__ Host a wedding worthy of the gods by adorning your venue in drapes, vines, and earthy colors. Gold accents and greenery can help make the white and cream drapery pop.\n\n33. __Midnight in Paris__: You don’t have to go all the way to France to have a dazzling Parisian wedding celebration. Go full 1920s glam or create a more subtle vibe using nostalgic touches such as books written by Hemmingway as centerpiece decor.\n\n## Creative wedding themes\n\nWant to embrace a more bespoke vibe for your wedding? Then creative wedding themes might be just what you've been looking for. Think outside of the box while planning your dream wedding with these unique, creative wedding themes:\n\n### Creative seasonal wedding themes\n\n34. __Summer glamp:__ Go glamping for a laid-back camp-themed wedding with a touch of glamour. Elevate a barn or backyard venue with feminine furniture and festive food stations for a summer camp experience like no other.\n\n35. __Midsummer:__ Celebrate the Swedish Midsummer holiday with a summertime ceremony that is centered around florals. Host a daytime picnic where you and your guests relax in the sun while making flower crowns and wreaths.\n\n### Creative modern wedding themes\n\n36. __Postmodern industrial:__ Revitalize an unexpected venue space such as an old factory or abandoned warehouse with a gritty and contemporary spin by using sharp lines and sleek accents. This theme looks to the future of design so have some fun picturing what your postmodern world looks like.\n\n37. __Geode:__ This glittering gemstone wedding theme really rocks. Incorporate agate place cards, a geode cake design, and other stone accents to achieve this look.\n\n38. __Pop art:__ If you’re looking for a bright wedding theme that always stays relevant, throw a pop art wedding. This style, made famous by artist Andy Warhol, mixes pop culture items with more traditional pieces for a look that’s anything but boring.\n\n### Creative glamorous wedding themes\n\n39. __Desert chic:__ Achieve an earthy glam aesthetic—with a boho touch—by mixing elevated bohemian elements with desert plants. This is perfect for a summer wedding theme in the western heat. Send guests home with a succulent wedding favor to complete the theme.\n\n40. __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Your wedding palette can’t get more luxurious than Tiffany Blue. This classy wedding theme will embody the late great Audrey Hepburn, so play up her timeless style with white and black fashion accessories.\n\n![wedding-themes-vineyard](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5a6sYi76hFOXds4k9tixJs/4de7808084b73d3b6252d3960c97a1ea/wedding-themes-vineyard.jpg)\n\n### Creative rustic wedding themes\n\n41. __Kentucky Derby:__ This upscale country wedding theme is perfect for spring weddings. Bring southern glitz and glamour into your day with derby favorites like chic hats, mint juleps, and of course, horses!\n\n42. __Patriotic:__ If you, your spouse, or someone you love has served, consider paying homage to their sacrifice with red, white, and navy blue wedding details. You can encourage veterans and service members to come dressed in uniform.\n\n### Creative vintage wedding themes\n\n43. __The Beatles:__ All You Need Is Love, and what better way to prove it, than with a Beatles-themed wedding? Get creative with a songwriting guestbook or tables named after your favorite songs. \n\n44. __1950s:__ Take it back to happy days with a retro rock-a-billy wedding. Wear a tea length wedding gown and perfectly coiffed hair to achieve the aesthetic, and set up a photo booth to capture all the fun.\n\n45. __Elvis elopement:__ Elope like you’re in Las Vegas, complete with your own Elvis Presley officiant. You can keep it casual with this vintage style ceremony.\n\n46. __Fantasy of flight:__ If you’re an aviation enthusiast, consider celebrating the fantasy of flight on your wedding day. Pick a former airport hangar as your venue, and have fun with vintage photography of famous journeys in the air.\n\n47. __Theatre:__ If you and your partner are film buffs, consider hosting your wedding at a historical theater. Make movie magic part of your day with popcorn, a film screening, and touches of old Hollywood glamor.\n\n48. __Peacock:__ Channel the glamor of 1920s lounges with a peacock wedding theme. This mod, chic wedding style uses the beautiful shades of peacock feathers to bring together the ceremony and reception details.\n\n![wedding-themes-vintage](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4WYEPXwvnrWa8EmgcIBVlf/1706751532c9b5957dc651f45153a4f9/wedding-themes-vintage.jpg)\n\n### Creative storybook wedding themes\n\n49. __Harry Potter:__ If you’ve ever dreamed of traveling to Hogwarts, a magical ball might be the wedding theme for you. Break out your wand, spell books, and chocolate frogs and throw a party that would make Potter proud.\n\n50. __A Midsummer Night’s Dream:__ Host a magical Shakespearean-inspired wedding in the height of summer — think fairy lights and greenery at a post-sunset celebration that’s heavy on the romance and wine.\n\n51. __Romantic Fairytale:__ Plan an upscale fairytale wedding that’s rich in romantics. Use a pink and white color palette for a dreamy aesthetic and add tasteful touches to your reception decor.\n\n52. __Great Gatsby:__ Celebrate the Jazz Age with a Gatsby-inspired party featuring diamonds, feathers, and glamorous accents — don’t forget the champagne towers and fringe.\n\n53. __Twilight:__ Edward and Bella knew a thing or two about love. Channel the infamous Twilight wedding outdoors with dangling florals and wooden furniture.\n\n54. __Enchanted Forest:__ Earthy couples can embrace the mystique of the forest with this wedding theme that features twinkling lights, hanging moss, and greenery vines.\n\n55. __Secret Garden:__ Take a page from the English novel and host a wedding inspired by the cozy and lush charm of a British garden.\n\n56. __Disney:__ Inspire childlike wonder with a Disney-themed wedding. Whether you focus on one story, such as Cinderella, or mix in elements from multiple fairytales, this theme is sure to evoke nostalgia in your guests. These [Disney-inspired Save the Dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/disney) and invitations come with free, Disney-themed wedding websites, too.\n\n![wedding-themes-storybook](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3IFGw2bYrJRy1ZQ1lZnZ6d/ca5f543d579da46308713572557ccad5/wedding-themes-storybook.png)\nSources: [Stephanie Weber Photography](https://stephanieweberphotography.com/) | [Nirav Patel](https://niravpatelphotography.com/) | [Abigail Malone](https://abigailmalone.com/) | [Arte De Vie](https://artedevie.com/) and [Blue Gardenia Events ](http://www.bluegardeniaevents.com/)\n\n### Creative destination wedding themes\n\n57. __Bali Vibes:__ Even if you’re not saying “I do” with your toes in the sand, a Bali-themed wedding complete with rattan decor, vibrant flowers, and tropical floral decor will have you feeling the sunshine on your back on your special day.\n\n58. __Aloha Brunch:__ Host a Hawaiian-inspired luau during the day so you can take advantage of the sunshine and vibrant colors. The morning reception opens up new menu offerings like banana pancakes and mimosas.\n\n59. __Jungalow:__ What is a Jungalow wedding? Jungalow designer Justina Blakeney describes this design style as wild, cozy, and homey, with boho touches and lots of plants—perfect for a more bohemian wedding.\n\n60. __Yacht:__ This is not your average wedding on the water. Take your nautical up a notch with an upscale, black-tie wedding on (or inspired by) a yacht!\n\n61. __Under the Sea:__ Hold your under-the-sea nuptials at an aquarium so you can say “I do” alongside creatures of the deep. Decorate with turquoise, coral centerpieces, and sand dollars.\n\n62. __Rainforest:__ If you’re interested in hosting a private, tranquil affair, consider a rainforest-themed wedding. Pick a destination with rich, natural landscapes, send a destination wedding save the date, and play up the greenery decor.\n\n63. __Yoga Retreat:__ Enter marriage with a cleansed mind and spirit. You and your guests can reach a Zen state through meditation during the ceremony. Then dress up your reception with yoga-inspired relics and handwoven blankets.\n\n64. __Safari:__ If you and your spouse are animal lovers, consider a safari wedding theme. Embrace natural tones mixed with animal prints for an eclectic, bush-inspired vibe.\n\n### Creative alternative wedding themes\n\n65. __Rock ‘n Roll:__ Get inspired by rock stars from decades past with a wedding theme that celebrates your love for music, fashion, and eclectic decor. You can rock n’ roll all wedding night, and then party every day with your spouse from here on after!\n\n66. __Festival:__ If you and your partner love music festivals, consider a festival wedding where guests camp onsite, rock floral crowns, and dance into the night\n\n67. __Carnival:__ Be kids for the day with this wedding theme that lets you relive your childhood. Incorporate playful touches such as balloons, circus tents, and fair food.\n\n68. __Gothic:__ A castle-like venue is the perfect setting for a gothic affair. Consider ditching the white wedding dress in favor of something more thematic and don’t forget to light up lots of candelabras.\n\n69. __Steampunk:__ This chic and sexy wedding theme is reminiscent of the steam-powered aesthetics of the Victorian era. Have some fun with your wedding day outfit and encourage guests to get into the theme, too!\n\n70. __Celestial:__ If your love burns as bright as the stars in the galaxy, consider a celestial wedding to celebrate the sky. Star-crossed lovers can get decor inspiration and color palettes from astronomy, stars, and outer space with this out-of-this-world wedding theme.\n\n71. __Mountain:__ If you’re a morning person and/or lover of the outdoors, how about a hiking-themed wedding that has your guests up and active at dawn? Play up the hiking theme after your intimate, mountainside ceremony with a celebratory brunch reception.\n\n72. __Halloween:__ If you’re getting married in the fall, take advantage of the spooky season’s deep color palette and popular accessories such as pumpkins, smoke, and crystal balls.\n\n73. __Murder mystery:__ While you have everyone all dressed up, why not throw a murder mystery (and some funky accents) into the mix? Perfect for couples who love games, this wedding theme can be incorporated into the decorations, entertainment, and menu.\n\n74. __Game of Thrones:__ Winter is coming to your wedding with this theme straight from Winterfell. Let your wedding party get into character with faux fur, tiaras, and thick braids.\n\n75. __Superhero:__ Celebrate your favorite comics with a superhero wedding theme. Think a photo booth with props and costumes, a superhero trivia game, or cake toppers with your favorite characters.\n\nAfter you’ve found a wedding theme that will reflect you and your partner’s style, it’s time to start wedding planning. Shop for thematic save-the-dates, invitations, and decor elements on Zola’s [Wedding Boutique](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop).\n\n![wedding-themes-alternative](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KF7Kfp5f2WR1PH2XgqoAt/98fa5d92d309df258f4f4975d8ba1323/wedding-theme-alternative.png)\n\nSources: [Uriel Photography](http://www.uriel-photography.com/) | [Michelle Edgemont](https://michelleedgemont.com/) | [Nichols Photographers](https://www.nicholsphotographers.com/) \n","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"In this wedding style guide, find out why thinking about your wedding style early on will help you in your planning, and how to use Zola Inspiration to discover your own personal wedding vision. 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You’ve come to the right place. \n","author":"Janina Villanueva","publishedAt":"2020-12-23T16:38:59.713Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1f0H4I9L6fIbCSWTHKBysF/f7b32ce4d4d6d04fa8e93866a07bd617/Hero_VintageSteampunkWeddingatCaswellHouse_NikkNguyenPhoto.jpg","altText":"Second Wedding Ideas"},"heroCredit":"Nikk Nguyen Photo","body":"Planning a second wedding can be tricky. There isn't any widely spoken of etiquette as to how you should plan and execute one, let alone any sort of solidified wedding planning guideline. \n\nThat being said, more often that not, when getting married for the second time, many couples can agree that they'd rather forego the traditional aspects of the big day. Doing so can make the wedding feel more unique and/or appropriate for their situation. Especially when this may be an opportunity to host a wedding that aligns with your desires and who you both are now.\n\nIf this sounds like you, but you're not sure where to start, we've got you covered. Below we've gathered some of our favorite uncommon and less traditional wedding ideas. From venues, to outfits, to the finer details of your ceremony and wedding reception. Consider implementing one—or two, or more—into your own special day for a unique and memorable wedding celebration.\n\n## 1. Choose a Non-traditional Wedding Venue \nPerhaps your first wedding took place in a traditional setting—e.g. a place of worship, courthouse, hotel ballroom, garden, or park. Although these are staple options and likely very available to you, don't feel pressured to go with one of them. Feel free to think up a different venue, [theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes), and experience for both you and your guests.\n\nA destination wedding can be a great option if you’d like to keep your guest list small. Plus, it’ll save you money if you’re planning to host your special day in the same area or location of your honeymoon. Locally, depending on how adventurous you feel, you may want to consider going for the following types of venues:\n\n- Baseball park or stadium\n- Art spaces and historical museums\n- Zoo or aquarium\n- Old historic buildings and hotels\n- In the middle of a desert\n- Inside a running train\n- In a park near or under a bridge\n\nYou don't need to look too far to find [unique](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/couples-top-wedding-themes) and available venues. If you're unsure if something's too out of the box or not doable, don't hesitate to call your ideal spot (say, a museum or specific building) and see what's possible. More often than not, places open to the public such as these will be able to work with you on your dream wedding.\n\n![5 Non-traditional Second Wedding Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6lFQYJKDSIZ5lQjaP9Oty2/3b2bb96ae5577f349a0d9caa28492f12/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n *Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## 2. Go for Bolder Outfits\nYou did the classic white wedding dress or black tux before. Or, perhaps you didn't. In either case, a second wedding is a second chance to truly express yourself and celebrate all of the special aspects of your relationship. This extends into what you choose to wear. If the traditional white dress isn't your thing, consider wearing a jumpsuit, tea-length dress, suit or tuxedo, or otherwise. As for accessories, consider wearing a hat or statement headpiece in place of a veil.\n\nNot into the idea of wearing a suit or tux throughout the ceremony and celebration? Opt instead for something a bit more casual that will allow you to move more freely throughout the day (or night). Or, look to more out-of-the-box looks, like old-school vintage suits in tweed fabric or jewel-toned suits made with velvet. This idea can also extend to bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen attire.\n\n## 3. Have Pre-Wedding Ceremony Activities\nWhile finding your seat, chatting, and sitting in giddy anticipation can be fun, why not provide your wedding guests with a fun activity leading up to your nuptials? For example, if you're getting married in a unique location such as a museum, zoo, observatory, and the like, see if the venue can provide guided behind-the-scenes tours beforehand. \n\nIf you're getting married outdoors, you can easily set up or DIY some outdoor games such as corn hole, croquet, a giant word search, and giant Jenga. Including a fun activity prior to your ceremony lends a relaxed feel to your entire wedding day. Plus, it gives guests the opportunity to mingle beforehand.\n\n## 4. Be Creative With Your Ceremony Layout\nTraditionally, wedding ceremonies will have the couple and their wedding party at the alter at the front of the space, with guests seated in rows and columns. However, there's no hard and fast rule that states this need be the case. If you have the space, consider placing the guests' seats in a circle, with yourselves and the alter in the middle. This works especially well for outdoor spaces—such as gardens, beaches, parks, and backyard weddings—and small weddings. However, with a little bit of work, it can be done for most weddings.\n\n## 5. Have an Unorthodox Wedding Ceremony\nThere's a lot of opportunity for one-of-a-kind and special ideas, as far as your ceremony is concerned. If you'd prefer to forego the standard way of things (wedding party procession, exchanging of vows, etc.), consider the following:\n\n- Go non-traditional with your walk down the aisle. Skip the processional and standard order of things and walk down the aisle together for a truly special and unifying moment. Or, decide to both walk around opposite sides of your ceremony site and meet in the middle at the front.\n- Skip ceremony readings from religious prose or traditional wedding vows and instead go for your favorite song lyrics, passages from your favorite books or sonnets, or even excerpts from your favorite films and television shows. Words that are special to you two as a couple are special, no matter where they originate from.\n- Involve your children (or pets!) throughout the ceremony. This may be having them walk down the aisle with you or having them stand by your sides throughout. It could even mean saying vows to each-other's kids or involving them in the exchanging of rings. Each of these ideas creates the feel of a \"family wedding,\" in which you're not just uniting two people, but two families.\n\n## 6. Ask a Loved One to Officiate\nRather than going the traditional route, ask one of your nearest and dearest best friends or family members to officiate your wedding ceremony. Choose someone who knows you and your love story well, since they'll be able to craft a more intimate and personal ceremony with stories, fond memories, and anecdotes. The legal aspect of having someone close to you be your officiant is also quite simple, as it's easy to get ordained online. \n\n## 7. Perform an Untraditional Activity\nYour wedding ceremony can literally consist of whatever you and your significant other like. Look through a few unorthodox options below and see if any of these feel like and appeal to you.\n\n- Plant a tree together in your yard—or, in a transportable pot.\n- Pour different colored sand into a glass bottle or vase; bonus points if the sand comes from places you each consider special, like your hometowns.\n- Participate in handfasting, which is similar to performing God's Knot, but without any religious connotations.\n- Compose and perform a special song together in place of your spoken vows.\n- Release a (biodegradable) lantern or balloon together.\n- Have a gift exchange on top of or in place of a ring exchange.\n\n![5 Non-traditional Second Wedding Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OgafrBTgxDpd8WLlb2Bfh/ff178bafbec653fcf9b0b5157710675d/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n## 8. Serve Food that Guests Won’t Ever Forget\nYou know your guests better than anybody (including vendors and those with unsolicited advice to give). If you know that your loved ones would rather not sit through a four course meal, plan an alternative style dinner with your caterer. \n\nConsider a buffet, family-style meal (in which all of the food is placed on one large table, between everyone), food trucks, and server stations your guests can choose from. Also think about the type of food you and your guests really want to eat. For example, if you're honestly more into the idea of basic sliders, you can work with your catering company to elevate that by using Kobe beer or balsamic chicken. Go with what you really want, then work together to make the meal unforgettable.\n\nSimilarly, wedding cakes don’t always need to be cakes. Opt for a tower of doughnuts, brownies, cookies, or other sweets. If you prefer savory, cheese wheels may be perfect for you and your partner to cut. Likewise, you can go for a champagne tower moment in place of cake-cutting.\n\n## 9. Involve Out-of-the-Box Vendors\nYou know yourselves and your crowd the best. If popular reception vendor options like a photobooth aren't quite your style, opt instead for something that better fits your relationship and venue. Some lovely options include a live artist (such as a painter), live poet, professional dancers, comedians, or a special animal encounter (be it your own pets or—if your reception's at a zoo or similar—guided animals).\n\n## 10. A Different Reception Program\nDo things in reverse—instead of having the best man and maid of honor give a toast to honor you as newlyweds, you and your partner can provide a toast to honor everyone who attended your celebration, as well as those who helped make it successful. \n\nInstead of having an anniversary dance where the deejay calls out those who have been married five years, ten years, 20 years, and so on, to have the longest-married couple alone on the dance floor, do it in reverse. Have your first dance as a newly married couple, and then call those who are married five years, ten years, 20 years, and so on, so you end up having the dance floor filled with married couples in love.\n\nThere are many other ways to deviate from a traditional wedding ceremony, and because you have gone through it before, you’ll be armed with knowledge on what can go wrong, what you’d like to prioritize, and what works best for you and your partner. This will help you create a festive and gracious wedding day that loved ones and guests will enjoy.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Need second wedding ideas on a budget? Our experts can help. Read on for our top tips.","title":"Second Wedding Ideas on a Budget","slug":"second-wedding-ideas-on-a-budget","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/17dnIW012chQLKxJEfiYiC/f62b3bfccc1a4f1307792ed6b5c1b334/Inline_Casey_Durgin_Photography.png","altText":"Second Wedding Ideas on a Budget"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Don’t know what your second marriage ceremony wording should include on the invitation? Read on for our top tips and advice.","title":"Getting Remarried Invitation Wording","slug":"getting-remarried-invitation-wording","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6PQ4uwmD7oxKRff66wW4hT/bbb3c993e4661c03be506190096631b5/Inline_Limelight_Photography.png","altText":"Second Wedding Invitation Wording"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Find out everything you need to know about second wedding etiquette with this complete guide from Zola. Read on now. 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Whether you're searching for beautiful ceremony backdrops, color palette inspo, or unique and trendy ideas, you'll find the inspiration you need to create a picture-perfect celebration."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"wedding-ceremony-script","title":"8 Wedding Ceremony Scripts to Borrow & Printables","excerpt":"Find beautiful wedding ceremony scripts ranging from unique to traditional. Print and borrow them, or get inspiration to write your own!","author":"Allison Cullman","publishedAt":"2024-04-23T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2189XuQqFs1q0sSz2l1T1H/3f8c146df0bc33f66c636d2d6b4a8ea8/wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers.jpg","altText":"wedding-ceremony-happy-women-flowers"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","tldr":"__Inside this article:__\n- Simple wedding ceremony script\n- Modern wedding ceremony script\n- Humorous wedding ceremony script\n- Inclusive wedding ceremony script\n- Christian wedding ceremony script\n- Catholic wedding ceremony script\n- Jewish wedding ceremony script\n- Protestant wedding ceremony script\n- 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script\n- Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline\n- FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts\n- Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts\n","body":"In the midst of the organized chaos of wedding planning, the [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) is often left until the last minute. But the ceremony is quite significant—after all, it’s the part where you and your future spouse actually become joined in marriage.\n\nWe all know about the “I do’s” of a wedding ceremony, but the rest of your ceremony is just as important. While you want to create a [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events) script that’s meaningful and personal to you and your future spouse, figuring out how to do this can leave some couples scratching their heads. If you’re wondering where to begin writing your wedding ceremony script, our tips and examples below are here to help.\n\n![WEDDING GUESTS AT CEREMONY](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/n30m9L0eLt6IMfIFuXh8i/03120fde2eaab83389318bf88d2445ac/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8815265.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nFor a nonreligious wedding ceremony, there’s no standard script you need to adhere to. The script below can be a helpful starting point for a simple wedding ceremony you can build upon and personalize however you like.\n\n[![simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1LmmX8snQHqtavcPfdOMu2/a9ee02a4eae75c8ddfb6975c1e26b0f4/simple-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46KpUkc8FtLwlICThYXJ9I/af9390ec0e2bff2c6da8b2e8e6777943/simple_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### __Opening words/welcome__\n\nThe ceremony will begin with the officiant addressing the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones. We’re gathered here today to celebrate [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in their lifelong commitment of love to each other. Finding your life partner is a true joy, and the commitment to share in life’s ups and downs as one is no small feat. While marriage will bring its own challenges and triumphs, let this day be a reminder of what your love has already accomplished, as well as the possibilities for your partnership as you grow together for years to come.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile a simple wedding ceremony might omit this part altogether, some couples like to personalize their ceremony wedding scripts with a chosen reading or song to celebrate their union. A close friend or family member, the officiant, or the couple themselves might perform readings. For example, the officiant might call upon a chosen friend or family member to perform an original poem or share a story about the couple’s relationship.\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B] has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to recite an original poem in honor of their union.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nCouples may choose to write their own vows or omit reciting vows altogether.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will now exchange rings as a symbol of their love and lifelong commitment.”\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange their vows (if desired) before placing their rings on each other's fingers. Below is an example of vows that might be exchanged:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “With this ring, I promise to support you, care for you, laugh with you, share in your burdens, be honest with you, and be faithful to you in all that we may face in the years ahead. I promise to love you with everything I have, from this day forward and beyond.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “With this ring, I promise to love you and commit myself to you for the rest of my life. I promise to stand by your side, be there for you always, and to find laughter and joy even in tough times. I promise to love and accept you just as you are, and grow with you for every year to come.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner]? Will you honor and cherish them, continue to deepen your understanding of them, and treat them with love and compassion in joy and pain, sickness and health, and whatever life might throw your way?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will” or “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as married. To capture the perfect moment, couples might also request that the officiant steps to the side for the kiss during the wedding nuptials.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, and with the trust of you all here today, I now declare you joined in love. You may now kiss!\"\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this momentous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![local-venues](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6bi7wx5xGOJJCvJcdAguMG/5d7b4e4cbc6b6ff7b686a802dd820b6b/local-venues.jpg)\n\n## Modern wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nAny wedding ceremony can take a modern spin. Any number of personal touches can be added to your ceremony to make it more modern—whether you want to include your pets, switch up how your wedding party is presented, or simply add some modern flair to your [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows) and readings. Personalizing your wedding ceremony script is a great way to infuse who you really are into your big day.\n\n[![modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6vzCnZw6cVNXguGg1dXQB3/8486ec97b3c0573d552923629c75af02/modern-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/OE4YjDCj0vZUH2gcDUaea/74d3eaa2bd2214bdb77d7c85a6589078/modern_wedding_script__1_.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant script will begin by welcoming the reception.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Good afternoon and welcome! We’d like to thank everyone on this beautiful day for coming to support [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in this exciting endeavor and union. Your friendship and support has helped to strengthen them as they’ve made their way to this moment, and they thank you for being here.”\n\n### Reading\n\nCouples may choose to include a reading in their marriage ceremony script. This reading can be anything you wish, whether it’s a special poem, a reading from a book, a quote from a movie, or a story about the couple’s relationship shared by a close friend or family member.\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows Exchange\n\nMany modern couples opt to write their own wedding vows or omit them altogether. It’s up to you! Below is an example of modern wedding vows:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please exchange your vows.”\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “[NAME], you’re my best friend. I’m in awe of your lightness, your kindness, and the purity of what it looks like to be loved by someone like you. It’s a love with no expectations, no strings attached, only a desire to support me and see me fulfilled. To know and be known by you is a gift and a privilege. I know we were made for each other. So here’s what I promise:\n\nI vow always to strive to be the best version of myself so that I can show up for you every single day. I vow to seek joy and hope even in dark times and be there for you when you need me. I vow to trust you and love you unconditionally. I vow to continue to learn from the examples of patience and selflessness that you have always embodied.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “[NAME], I love you with my whole heart. You’ve loved me with a loyalty that I’d never experienced before, and didn’t even know existed. You have seen every part of me, and even at my lowest you have stood by my side. You’ve never given up on me, and I have no doubt that you are the person I’m meant to spend my life with. I vow to keep a soft heart when challenges come, and to be aware of my words and actions and how they affect you. I vow to support you in all things, to love you well, and to create a life we’re proud of. Life is fleeting, and I want to cherish every minute of it with you.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], do you take one another as partners from this day forward?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have chosen these rings as a symbol of their unbreakable love. Please place these rings on each other’s fingers and repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a reminder of our love that unites, inspires, and celebrates what we have.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “By the authority vested in me, it is with joy that I pronounce you married. Now kiss and go celebrate!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this beautiful occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![8 Ways to Keep Family Involved in Wedding Traditions During the Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5iGx6d7StheHPTAAUQ0qNE/2b7133813fdc9117b12c56edbc1bb817/father_inline_nikk_nguyen_photo.jpg)\n\n## Humorous wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Rev. Lisann G. Valentin, an ordained minister at [Universal Life Church](https://www.ulc.org/).*\n\nThere’s no rule that says your wedding ceremony has to be serious from start to finish. Some couples prefer to add a bit of humor to their ceremony for a more lighthearted affair. The following funny wedding ceremony script has all the required legal elements of becoming legally married, with a humorous touch to keep your guests on their toes. \n\n[![humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/JYknezhBEviEYFkJ37X5G/e94499016dbe533af5cfd30d980dbe91/humorous-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VmtUM9YFHVOFvmkEeNKQY/c7a0a172ac2b3e5e98c7612c1a751876/humorous_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the crowd and introducing the ceremony.\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Hello and welcome! We’re here today because [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] have decided they love each other so much that they want to get the government involved! But in all seriousness, a huge thanks to all who have joined us. We promise we’ll get these two hitched quickly so you can make a beeline to the open bar!\n\nI’d like to take this opportunity to ponder the meaning of marriage. Now I know I made a joke about these two loving each other so much they’ve decided to get the government involved, but we know that’s not all marriage is. It’s a tradition, yes, but it’s so much more. It might take a lot of work and compromise, but at the end of the day, this is about choosing your person until the end of this thing we call life. So no matter how many dishes they leave in the sink, no matter how horrible their cooking is, no matter how bad their mood might be on occasion—you’ve got someone who chooses to stick with you through it all. And that’s what marriage is about!”\n\n### Reading\n\nIncluding readings in your ceremony is optional, but some couples opt to personalize their ceremony with a particular reading, quote, or story. Some humorous wedding ceremonies might involve a close friend or family member sharing a lighthearted account of the couple’s relationship, with some light humor to get a laugh out of the crowd. The wedding ceremony officiant script can even include fun elements,\n\n__Officiant:__ “As our reading today, [PARTNER A/B} has asked [his, her] [friend/cousin/other family member] to share a personal story of their relationship in honor of their marriage today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows and ring exchange\n\nAt this point, couples may exchange vows if they’ve chosen to write them. Here’s an example of wedding vows with a little humor:\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Now, it’s time to put a ring on it! [PARTNER A], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll try to keep my mouth shut when it’s your turn to choose the movie we watch.’”\n\n[Partner A repeats.]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], repeat after me: ‘I give you this ring as a symbol that I will love and cherish you, and that I’ll consider making you dinner every once in a while.’”\n\n[Partner B repeats.]\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ “Do you, [PARTNER A], take [PARTNER B] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ “Do you, [PARTNER B], take [PARTNER A] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband, partner], to love and cherish them for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and reap as many tax benefits as you can for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nNow, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “What a romantic exchange. Now, I guess there’s only one thing left to do: By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! Now kiss!”\n\n### Closing\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “That’s a wrap on the formal proceedings of today. [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will greet you in [LOCATION] at [TIME]. We thank you for coming—now get out of here and go celebrate!”\n\n![8 Gender-Neutral Readings for Your LBGTQ+ Wedding Ceremony](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gXI6m0GrwXeBmQWWLlcDS/32e7f7b27bf59542d48a54e57add1320/inline_kathleen_marie-ward_photography.jpg)\n\n## Inclusive wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by Sheena Wheadon, licensed wedding officiant at [Why Knot Weddings](https://www.whyknotweddings.com/).*\n\nWhile traditional gender roles often make up the bulk of how many sample wedding ceremony scripts are written, this doesn’t have to be the case for a more inclusive ceremony. The following example script does away with gendered language and puts the focus on the love shared between the couple and what that means for them. \n\n[![inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4N2pbrFFy0aVFHh4wvr4oT/04bc20b794aa915fbde8585c33a39ba0/inclusive-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3bo3vkx3BhD4WgLC4gdLPq/7decc6efb8f10a40e64bfaf134a6e495/inclusive_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\nThe officiant will begin by welcoming the reception. This is also when the wedding officiant script can include any specific announcements, like requesting guests to silence their phones.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Welcome friends, family, and loved ones! We’re gathered here today in celebration of (Partner A) and (Partner B) and to bear witness as they join their lives in marriage. On behalf of (Partner A) and (Partner B), it’s a true pleasure to have you here to celebrate this incredible moment.\n\nLove is one of the greatest gifts life has to offer. Love offers hope, joy, comfort, and security, in good times and bad. Love is what spurs our personal growth and allows us to face life and all its challenges, with the unending support of the person we’ve chosen to commit our lives to. (Partner A) and (Partner B) stand before you today to share the love and happiness in their hearts as they take their relationship to a deeper level of commitment by making a passage into marriage.”\n\n### Reading\n\nWhile totally optional, couples can choose to include a reading of their choice in their ceremony. This can be anything from a particular poem or section from a book to a special movie quote or personal story about the couple’s relationship. Couples might have the officiant perform the reading or have a loved one come up to share instead.\n\n__Officiant:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B) have selected a reading from [SOURCE] that represents their unique journey and the commitment they’re making today.”\n\n[Reading proceeds.]\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nCouples who have chosen to write their own wedding vows will recite them here. These could be in a question-and-answer format or long-form vows written beforehand (or a combination of both). Couples can also ask their officiant to step to the side during the vow readings—it helps make the moment more intimate!\n\nHere’s an example of wedding vows for you to work from:\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Marriage is a lifelong commitment to love and care for each other to the best of your ability. Are you both ready to take this step together?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes!”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to care for each other, treat each other with respect and compassion, and to always move toward love in your efforts to support one another?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n__Officiant to couple:__ “Do you promise to meet each challenge and triumph with integrity, gratitude, and patience, and to strive to learn and grow together for all of your days?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Affirmation of family and friends\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “Do you, the family and friends of (Partner A) and (Partner B), give your full support today and wish them a lifetime of happiness together?”\n\n__Reception responds:__ “We do.”\n\n### Expression of intent\n\n__Officiant:__ “In the presence and witness of the loved ones you have gathered here today, I now ask you to state your intentions.\n\n(Partner A) and (Partner B), have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in the commitment of marriage?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “Yes.”\n\n__Officiant:__ “Once more, will you love, honor, and cherish one another as partners for the rest of your lives?”\n\n__Couple responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “(Partner A) and (Partner B), please repeat after me:\n\n‘I give you this ring as a symbol of the vows we’ve made today. I pledge to you my love, respect, and commitment. With everything that I am, I honor you.’”\n\n[Couple repeats to each other.]\n\n### Pronouncement\n\nFinally, the officiant will pronounce the couple as legally wed:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now that you, (Partner A) and (Partner B), have promised to give yourselves fully to each other, to love each other through the vows you have made, and through the giving and receiving of these rings, it is my great pleasure by the power vested in me to now pronounce you married! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for (Partner A) and (Partner B)! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![A Guide to the Wedding Ceremony Order of Events](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5gM7CP5ud1ebIEp31xl5JH/85572b49599dbe5a51611c7b4e455b4d/Hero_A-Guide-to-the-Wedding-Ceremony-Order-of-Events-Kimberly-Coccagnia-photography.jpg)\n\n## Christian wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs the name indicates, this script for weddings includes religious aspects, such as Bible readings and prayers. Feel free to personalize this idea to your liking and include more or fewer scriptural elements. \n\n[![christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ROJmdLfXwm4naZ01Ds8wx/d81ca5ee85371b0b19c9a0f0da6dfb53/christian-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3036xpBIv7MWEGUC0Qf4aD/b484d408c837cfeb61c4d05cfb813b00/christian-wedding-script.pdf)\n\n### Processional\n\nThe processional is simply the beginning of the wedding ceremony, when guests are seated, followed by the entrance of the bridal party.\n\n### Invocation\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ \"Welcome, loved ones. We are gathered here today in the sight of God and these witnesses to join together [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] in holy matrimony.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\nThe declaration of intent is a crucial element of any wedding ceremony, and is legally required to show consent among both parties to be married.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], you have come together this day so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of this minister of his word and this community of family and friends and so, in the presence of this gathering, I ask you to state your intentions:\n\nHave you both come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? If so, answer by saying 'I have.'\"\n\n[Couple responds in unison with ‘I have.’]\n\n### Reading\n\nA reading from the Bible is a common component in many Christian wedding ceremonies. While choosing a passage from Corinthians isn’t required, it’s a popular choice for many.\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “A reading from the Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’\n\nLet us pray for this couple as they make their marriage vows.\n\nFather, as [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] pledge themselves to each other, help them and bless them that their love may be pure, and their vows may be true. Through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.\"\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nToday’s wedding vows are often personalized according to whatever feels right to the couple. However, a [traditional statement of vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/traditional-wedding-vows-for-the-timeless-couple) is also common in Christian wedding ceremonies.\n\n__Couple to each other:__ “I, [NAME], take thee, [NAME], to be my wedded (husband, wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER B]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], please take the ring you have selected for [PARTNER A]. As you place it on his/her finger, repeat after me:\n\n*‘With this ring, I thee wed.’\"*\n\n[Partner B repeats the phrase as they place the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nOne distinction of a Christian wedding ceremony script is including a prayer of blessing over the union.\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"May Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, always be at the center of the new lives you are now starting to build together, that you may know the ways of true love and kindness. May the Lord bless you both all the days of your lives and fill you with His joy. Amen.\"\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may kiss the bride!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![What to Wear to a Church Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3xNVLwakY0JwANOaDWQon3/c6f876f294667a740a1540abf1bfea34/inline_kathyizzyphotography.jpg)\n\n## Catholic wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nAs with the Christian script, this version includes religious elements. However, Catholic ceremonies are greatly rooted in tradition and include formal aspects at their core. The [officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-duties-of-a-wedding-officiant) is typically a priest, and these services traditionally take place in the church. \n\n[![catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7LPa188lBQBu3I0ODdv70p/8aab04375b5b46d79f35bf0e5e409324/catholic-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1YvmOyZgo8EKUH4plND2Ys/7940b89cca9d4e75d80f5ec3e4c8d555/catholic_wedding_script.pdf)\n\n### Entrance rite\n\nAs the entrance song is played, the assembly stands while the priest, ministers, and servers take their places, followed by the wedding party. The rest of this part of the processional can take two forms.\n\nIn the first form, the vested priests and servers greet the bridal party at the church door, and then all enter as is customary for Mass. In the second form, the priest and servers wait in the sanctuary area prepared for the couple to greet them when they arrive. In both forms, the priest always leads the procession.\n\n### Greeting\n\nOnce everyone is in place and the music has ended, the priest leads the sign of the cross, or the traditional beginning of Christian prayer, before greeting the assembly.\n\n__Priest:__ “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy spirit.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Priest:__ “Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”\n\n### Collect (opening prayer)\n\nThe priest invites the assembly to pray. After he prays over the couple, the assembly is seated for the Liturgy of the Word.\n\n__Priest:__ “Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord, and in your kindness uphold what you have established for the increase of the human race, so that the union you have created may be kept safe by your assistance. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.”\n\n### Liturgy of the word\n\nThe liturgy of the word outside of mass usually includes three readings proclaimed by the priest, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament aside from the Gospel, and one from the Gospel. At the conclusion of each reading, the lector will say, \"The Word of the Lord,\" and the assembly will respond, \"Thanks be to God.\"\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the book of Genesis 1:26-28:\n\nThen God said: ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and the cattle, and over all the wild animals and all the creatures that crawl on the ground.” God created man in his image; in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them. God blessed them, saying: “Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the living things that move on the earth.” God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good. The word of the Lord.’\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the New Testament, 1 John 4:7-12:\n\nDear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.\n\nThe word of the Lord.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n__Priest:__ “A reading from the Gospel, Matthew 5:13-16:\n\nYou are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”\n\n__All respond:__ “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” \n\nAssembly is seated.\n\n### Homily\n\nThe assembly is seated while the priest (or deacon) offers a homily taken from the Scripture readings. The priest uses this text to discuss the sacredness of Christian marriage, the dignity of conjugal love, the grace of the sacrament, and the responsibilities of married people.\n\n__Priest:__ \"John 3:30 says ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’\n\nThose simple, direct words of St. John the Baptist, whose feast we celebrate today, summarize the life of the Christian disciple. In all things, we want Jesus to increase and our own will, our own desires, our own attachments, to decrease. In my heart, in my prayer, in my family, in my parish, in my work, in my study, in my leisure, in my entertainment - may the Lord Jesus increase!\"\n\n### Celebration of matrimony\n\nAll stand, and the couple comes to the altar, flanked by their witnesses. The priest will address the couple with a celebration of matrimony:\n\n__Priest:__ “Dearly beloved, you have come together into the house of the church so that in the presence of the church’s minister and the community, your intention to enter into marriage may be strengthened by the Lord with a sacred seal.”\n\nIf both parties are Christian: “Christ abundantly blesses the love that binds you. Through a special sacrament, he enriches and strengthens those he has already consecrated by holy baptism, that you may be enriched with his blessing, so that you may have the strength to be faithful to each other forever, and assume all the responsibilities of married life. And so, in the presence of the church, I ask you to state your intentions.”\n\n### Address and statement of intentions\n\nAll stand, including the couple and witnesses, while the priest asks the couple some questions to state their intentions about their freedom of choice, fidelity to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children (if necessary).\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], have you come here to enter into marriage without coercion, freely and wholeheartedly?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I have.”\n\n__Priest to couple:__ “Are you prepared, as you follow the path of marriage, to love and honor each other for as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Couple in unison:__ “I am.”\n\n### Exchange of consent\n\nThe couple will declare their consent to be married by stating their vows. If you’re writing your own vows, they must be prepared with the wedding script beforehand.\n\n__Partner A:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife]. I promise to be faithful to you, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”\n\n### Blessing and giving of rings\n\n__Priest:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings which we bless in your name. so that those who wear them may remain entirely faithful to each other, abide in peace and in your will, and live always in mutual charity. Through Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Amen.”\n\nThe priest now sprinkles the wedding rings with holy water before handing them to each partner.\n\n__Partner A:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner A places the ring on Partner B’s finger]\n\n__Partner B:__ “[NAME], receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the father, and the son, and the holy spirit.”\n\n[Partner B places the ring on Partner A’s finger]\n\n### Prayer\n\nThe priest and the assembly sing or pray the Lord’s Prayer in unison.\n\n### Nuptial blessing\n\nThe couple kneels at the altar, where the priest faces them and prays over them.\n\n__Priest:__ “Now let us humbly invoke God’s blessing upon this bride and groom, that in his kindness he may favor with his help those on whom he has bestowed the Sacrament of Matrimony.”\n\n### Communion\n\nThe priest performs communion and distributes the body and blood of Christ to Catholics in the assembly, starting with the newly married couple. An appropriate song is usually sung as the assembly proceeds to the altar for communion.\n\n### Pronouncement\n\n__Priest to reception:__ “By the power vested in me by the state of [STATE], I now pronounce you [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]! You may now kiss!”\n\n### Dismissal\n\n__Priest to assembly:__ “Go in peace to glorify the Lord with your life.”\n\n__Assembly responds:__ “Thanks be to God.”\n\n### Recessional\n\nAt the closing of the ceremony, the couple, bridal party, ministers, and the priest will proceed out of the church, often accompanied by music.\n\n![Planning a Traditional Queer Jewish Wedding2_Brindamour Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1sya2SvknLGfj4YLODdGUm/a3c739ddbb1b3f76fd8eec94ccbb971d/My_project-1__14_.png)\n\n## Jewish wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nA Jewish wedding also has traditional elements, many of which are centuries old. Talk to your officiant (often a rabbi) about making changes and personalizing this wedding ceremony outline to fit your needs without breaking Jewish tradition.\n\n[![jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6sS2PWSYfQiDUGFlEkkLn7/480513ae35157ca9f3705290c1a49eeb/jewish-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fN0SjRtlIpDkzCnwRiGCf/cff48eee816a7669ec83169c084d1a41/0614_ea_jewish-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Signing of the Ketubah\n\nThe Ketubah is an ancient marriage contract that documents the commitment between the couple. Typically, the groom signs the contract with the rabbi and two male Jewish witnesses present, along with the bride, in private before the main ceremony begins.\n\n__Officiant:__ “Please gather around for this ‘ceremony before the ceremony’, the signing of the Ketubah. Bride and groom, in this quiet moment before your public wedding ceremony begins, those closest to you are here to witness the signing of the important documents that make this day a remarkable moment for you both. As you become legally husband and wife, we delight in your happiness, and we wish you only good things to come as you face life together. This beautiful Ketubah has these words for you today, and I ask the groom’s witness [NAME] to read the words.”\n\n[Groom’s witness reads the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “I ask you both to sign the Ketubah as the first ceremonial act of your wedding day celebration.”\n\n[Couple signs the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “Now I ask your parents to sign the Ketubah.”\n\n[Couple’s parents sign the Ketubah.]\n\n__Officiant:__ “And now I sign it as well.”\n\n[Officiant signs the Ketubah.]\n\n### Processional\n\nThe ceremony begins once guests are seated.\n\n### Opening words/welcome\n\n__Officiant to reception:__ “This is the day that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] marry the person they love the most in the world…the one they will laugh with, live for, and love for the rest of their lives. So it is only fitting that those closest to them are here to witness this special day. Your presence at this wedding celebration is a reminder to [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] of how lucky they are to have you in support of their union.”\n\n### The chuppah\n\nThe chuppah is a canopy structure symbolizing the home the couple will build together following their marriage. Modern couples use the chuppah as an opportunity to customize their wedding and use it as a reflection of their unique taste and style.\n\n__Officiant:__ “The chuppah under which [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] stand is the traditional structure used in a Jewish wedding ceremony. What you see in the setting for this ceremony tells you so much about the path that brings [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to be married. Today, their families are joined together, and the combined richness of their two heritages will be the foundation for their life together.\n\nAs the open sides of a chuppah symbolize hospitality, the chuppah in this ceremony invites you all to feel welcome today, for this is the day of all days that [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] want to share with you.”\n\n### Circling\n\nAfter the couple enters the chuppah, the bride/groom circles the bride/groom seven times, symbolizing building a wall of love around the relationship. It also represents the seven days of creation.\n\n### Declaration of support\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “A marriage is a lifelong adventure. Today’s ceremony, while important, is only the beginning of that journey. Marriage is a challenge that will require [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] to have love and understanding. You must dedicate yourselves to each other, listen to each other, and be honest with each other. You will need laughter and forgiveness, tenderness and empathy.”\n\n### Sand ceremony\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ “We will now begin the sand ceremony. Through it, [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] will symbolize the permanence of the commitment of their marital relationship. They will each pour separate containers of sand into one vessel.\n\nEach of these grains represents a unique aspect of themselves. Their experiences, outlooks, feelings, and the events that shaped them into the person that stands before you. As these grains of sand intermingle in one shared vessel, they symbolize the merging of two individual lives into an inseparable pair.\n\n[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], just as these grains of sand can never again be separated, so too will you be forever joined.”\n\n### Declaration of intent\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER A], take this [woman, man] to be your lawfully wedded [wife, husband], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [her, him] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner A:__ “I do.”\n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"Do you, [PARTNER B], take this [man, woman] to be your lawfully wedded [husband, wife], to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in good times and woe, for richer or poorer, keeping yourself unto [him, her] for as long as you both shall live? If so, answer 'I do.'\"\n\n__Partner B:__ “I do.”\n\n### Ring exchange\n\n__Officiant to Partner A:__ \"[PARTNER A], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER B]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER B], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner A repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner B’s finger.] \n\n__Officiant to Partner B:__ \"[PARTNER B], as a token of your intentions, please place this ring upon [PARTNER A]’s finger and repeat after me:\n\n‘[PARTNER A], I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness.’\"\n\n[Partner B repeats the words while placing the ring on Partner A’s finger.] \n\n### Blessing of the hands\n\n__Officiant to the couple:__ \"[PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B], please join hands. Look at these hands, for they are of your closest friend. They are strong and full of love. As you join hands today, you make the promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.\n\nYour future will be built by these hands. As the years pass, these hands will love you and cherish you. The slightest touch from these hands will give you comfort. These are the hands that will hold your children. These are the hands that will keep your family as one. When you have tears of sorrow or tears of joy, they will be wiped away by these hands.\"\n\n### The Seven Blessings\n\nThe Seven Blessings are now recited.\n\n1. Blessing over the wine as a symbol of joy\n2. Blessing praising God to whom all creation proclaims praise\n3. Blessing praising God as creator of humanity\n4. Blessing praising God who created humanity in the divine image\n5. Prayer of hope\n6. Prayer for the happiness of the couple\n7. Prayer for the individual hope for happiness for the couple combined with prayer for joy in the messianic future\n\nFollowing the Seven Blessings, the couple shares a cup of wine.\n\n### Breaking the glass\n\nThe ceremony is concluded by the tradition of the groom (or bride) stomping on glass and shattering it. This signals the audience to cheer, dance, and shout “Mazal tov!”\n\n### The Yichud\n\nAfter the ceremony concludes, the final ritual takes place in the yichud or “tent of seclusion.” This is considered to be one of the most private and intimate parts of the wedding day, where the newlyweds can savor their first moments alone before the celebration continues.\n\n![couple at wedding altar](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1jdRkYJr3up5XdVAnL9V53/942cbd52a04de9f723369ec963a83f12/HERO_DolcePhotography_1080x720.jpg)\n\n## Protestant wedding ceremony script \n\n*This script has been reviewed by the ordained ministers at [Universal Life Church Monastery](https://www.themonastery.org/).*\n\nThere are many denominations within the Protestant faith, and the standard ceremony for each may vary. Those with a more liberal interpretation of the wedding ceremony might be open to including more nontraditional elements in the wedding script. The script below is adapted from the Book of Common Prayer, and is just one of many possible variations of a Protestant wedding ceremony.\n\n[![protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7n7X1qx20jkIzn2iVGf0P/428295cc4912b0c60ff5af0ef742b5b3/protestant-wedding-ceremony-script-button.png)](//assets.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/51utSohJeM8kgFxmu9TkE9/d36928dd9c81858aa17a9b6b78e8cc5d/0614_ea_protestant-ceremony-script-r__1_.pdf)\n\n### Introductory prayer\n\nThe officiant, known as the celebrant, faces the couple and congregation and offers an introduction:\n\n__Officiant:__ “Dearly beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this couple in holy matrimony. The bond and covenant of marriage was established by God in creation, and our Lord Jesus Christ adorned this manner of life by His presence and first miracle at the wedding at Cana in Galilee. It signifies to us the mystery of the union between Christ and His church, and holy Scripture commends it to be honored among all people.\n\nThe union of marriage is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given each other in prosperity and adversity, and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore, marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.”\n\n### The interrogation\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Into this union [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B] now come to be joined. If any of you can show just cause why they may not be lawfully wed, speak now, or else forever hold your peace.”\n\n__Celebrant to the couple:__ “I charge you both, here in the presence of God and the witness of this company, that if either of you know any reason why you may not be married lawfully and in accordance with God's word, do now confess it.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner A:__ “[PARTNER A], will you have this [woman, man] to be your [wife, husband], to live together with [her, him] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [her, him], comfort [her, him], honor and keep [her, him], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [her, him] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner A:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to Partner B:__ “[PARTNER B], will you have this [man, woman] to be your [husband, wife], to live together with [him/her] in the covenant of marriage? Will you love [him/her], comfort [him/her], honor and keep [him/her], in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful unto [him/her] as long as you both shall live?”\n\n__Partner B:__ “I will.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “We will.”\n\n### The presentation\n\nThe presentation represents the traditional “giving away” of the bride, typically followed by a hymn. Modern Protestants may opt for a poem, romantic reading, or song of their choice in place of a hymn.\n\n__Celebrant:__ “Who gives [PARTNER A] to be married to [PARTNER B]?”\n\n__Partner A or B’s father:__ “[He, she] gives [himself, herself], with the blessing of [his, her] mother and father.”\n\n### Vows exchange\n\nSome modern Protestants might choose to write their own wedding vows, but the traditional vows most often recited are as follows:\n\n__Partner A to Partner B:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [wife, husband], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n__Partner B to Partner A:__ “In the name of God, I, [NAME], take you, [NAME], to be my [husband, wife], to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do we part. This is my solemn vow.”\n\n### The blessing and exchange of rings\n\n__The celebrant offers a blessing on the rings:__ “Bless, O Lord, these rings as a symbol of the vows by which this couple have bound themselves to each other, through Jesus Christ our Lord.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n__Partner A and Partner B place the rings on each other’s fingers and say:__ “I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”\n\n__The celebrant joins the right hands of both partners and says:__ “Now that [NAME] and [NAME] have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce them [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife] in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Those who God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”\n\n__Congregation responds:__ “Amen.”\n\n### Concluding prayers\n\nThe celebrant asks the congregation to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer:\n\n__All:__ “Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.”\n\nIn traditional Protestant weddings, the celebrant will direct the couple to kneel while further blessings and songs are offered. The celebrant then addresses the kneeling couple and recites another blessing:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “May God bless you and keep you; may the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, filling you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.”\n\n__Celebrant to the congregation:__ “The peace of the Lord be with you always.”\n\n__All respond:__ “And also with you.”\n\nFinally, the couple stands to face each other while the celebrant offers a final line to end the ceremony:\n\n__Celebrant:__ “[NAME] and [NAME], having witnessed your vows of love to one another, it is my joy to present you to all gathered here as [husband and wife, husband and husband, wife and wife]. You may now kiss!”\n\n### Closing/invitation to reception\n\n__Officiant to all:__ “Thank you all for joining in this joyous occasion for [PARTNER A] and [PARTNER B]! They now invite you to join them for a reception at [LOCATION]. Thank you all!”\n\n![wedding-ceremony-songs](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7b4hCQGO7uVKySNDbx7cUr/330dd75bbf9250fec414d06a32ba71a4/wedding-ceremony-songs.jpg)\n\n## 4 Tips for writing your own ceremony script \n\nWhile writing your wedding ceremony script might feel daunting, these tips can help take the pressure off and provide some much-needed guidance on how to bring your ceremony vision to life—whatever that means to you.\n\n### 1. Talk with your partner\n\nWriting your script is an opportunity to reflect on the significance of your relationship before you enter into marriage. Talking with your partner about your ideas and desires for your wedding ceremony is an important first step—it helps you get aligned on a [mutual vision](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-vision-board) and ensures the ceremony is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.","body2":"### 2. Work with your officiant\n\nYour officiant can provide practical advice on how to get started crafting your ceremony script, and some might even have an outline for you to work from. Since your officiant has most likely conducted their fair share of wedding ceremonies, they’re an excellent resource for any questions you might have.\n\n### 3. Don’t procrastinate\n\nWhile you certainly don’t need to memorize your wedding ceremony script, don't put it off until the last minute—especially if you plan on [writing your own vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vows). Procrastinating until the week of your wedding can add a ton of pressure to an already hectic time, so do yourself a favor and get started early!\n\n### 4. Consider the length of your script\n\nWhile your wedding ceremony script should be whatever you want it to be, being mindful of time and length is something your guests will appreciate. Anything longer than 30 minutes might leave guests checking their watches! Once you’ve written a draft and have the chance to rehearse it, you’ll find that you can pack plenty of meaning and resonance in less than 15 minutes.\n\n![modern-spin-on-reciting-vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5tAePFi5ZiqNmkelDuBBWP/bfa7f506e46743da3d10ecfc1560cc54/modern-spin-on-reciting-vows.jpg)\n\n## Simple wedding ceremony script starter outline \n\nNow that you’ve read some ceremony script examples, you can confidently start writing your own! No matter what you decide to include, what matters most is that the words shared are from the heart and represent what your marriage means to you. Here’s an ultra-simple outline to help you start formulating your own wedding script for officiants to use. \n\n- Officiant’s welcome\n- Short sermon to the congregation\n- Charge to the couple\n- Declaration of the intent to marry\n- [Vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/history-of-wedding-vows)\n- Ring exchange\n- Pronouncement of marriage\n- Conclusion and invitation to reception\n\n## FAQs about wedding ceremony scripts \n\nFind answers to any lingering wedding ceremony script questions below.\n\n### How do I personalize my wedding ceremony script?\n\nStart by nailing down the overall format of your script, including the order of the ceremony and the role of the officiant. Then weave in personal elements significant to you and your partner, such as customizing your vows, a special unity ceremony, or a reading that holds meaning. Remember, there’s no rule that says you have to follow a traditional wedding ceremony script.\n\n### How do I start a wedding ceremony script?\n\nMost wedding ceremony outlines start with the wedding officiant welcoming guests and thanking them for joining in the wedding day. Religious ceremonies may start with a reading from the Bible or whatever is customary for different faiths. That said, your ceremony script can begin however you like, whether that’s opening with a meaningful quote, poem, or endearing story about you and your partner.\n\n### Where can I find wedding ceremony scripts?\n\nThe best place to find both religious and non religious wedding ceremony scripts is online. You can find downloadable pre-written scripts by searching for a specific religious denomination or the mood you want your ceremony to take. For extra inspiration, search for wedding ceremony videos on YouTube to get a feel for what different scripts sound like during a real ceremony.\n\n### How long should the officiant speak at the wedding?\n\nYour officiant wedding script should get straight to the point while adding personality. Talk to your celebrant about the parts that are most important to you, such as giving a [blessing to the couple](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-blessing). However, if the sermon isn’t essential to you, feel free to shorten it. The last thing you want to do is bore your guests, so concise yet interesting is best.\n\n## Summarizing ceremony and officiant wedding scripts \n\nAlthough there is a bit of protocol surrounding the order of service, there is a lot of freedom within with most scripts. If you’re particularly religious, you may want to chat with your priest, rabbi, or pastor about how to best adapt your ceremony. However, if you’re not planning on a religious ceremony, chat with your partner about expectations and how to go from expected to highly personal.\n\nAs you finish off your wedding planning, Zola is here to help every step of the way. Whether designing [custom wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or putting the final touches on your [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), Zola has all the expert advice you’ll need to make your wedding vision come to life.\n","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-06-10T22:34:43.105Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"wedding-planning-guide","title":"Wedding Planning 101: Ultimate Guide to Planning a Wedding","excerpt":"Your guide to planning a wedding from start to finish. Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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