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Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through.

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How Far Out to Book Each Vendor
Wedding planning 101

Exactly How Far Out to Book Each Wedding Vendor

After you get engaged, the wedding planning starts. Before your big day, here’s how far out to book each wedding vendor.

Turning down a wedding invitation
Wedding planning 101

How to Tell a Loved One You Don't Feel Comfortable Attending Their Wedding

Turning down a wedding invite can be hard, but if you’re not comfortable attending due to COVID-19 concerns, here’s how to say ‘no thanks’ nicely and effectively.

What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup
Wedding planning 101

What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup?

We’ll walk you through the best way to approach the topic with your partner—and what to do if you disagree.

January Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know
Wedding planning 101

January Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know

Jump into a new year and new beginnings by throwing a January wedding. Here's your guide to planning your ceremony this month.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Politely Remind Guests to RSVP

Late RSVPs are a part of every wedding. Don't stress. Instead, follow our guide to kindly reminding your guests to please RSVP for your wedding.

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Wedding planning 101

Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do

Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.

couples dance at wedding reception
Wedding planning 101

We Were Invited to a Friend's Wedding—Do We Have to Invite Them to Ours?

It's not always black and white—sometimes you should invite someone who invited you to their wedding, other times you don't have to. Let's break down the etiquette around this tricky guest list question.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Plan a Bilingual Wedding

While you and your spouse likely speak the same language, your guests may not. Here’s how to plan a bilingual wedding

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Wedding planning 101

How to Choose Wedding Readers

Wedding readers have the important job of reading passages or poems during your ceremony, but who is best for the job? Here's how to choose wedding readers—and some potential wedding reader options.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Get Married in Washington DC: A Complete Guide

Dreaming of saying your “I Do’s” in the nation’s capital city? From venue options and wedding costs to the best places for photos, here’s everything you need to know about getting married in Washington, DC.

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Wedding planning 101

How to Stick to a Small Wedding Guest List

Make a small guest list and stick to it with these expert tips for cutting down your wedding guest list so it fits your vision and your wedding budget.

Does the Mother of the Groom Give a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner?
Wedding planning 101

Does the Mother of the Groom Give a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner?

Wondering if the mother of the groom will give a speech at the rehearsal dinner? Continue reading to find out.

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Note: The standard wedding timeline is one year from the engagement, so we’ve used that here as a frame of reference (but it’s important to note that these are suggestions based on the pace of the industry). \n\nHere’s how far out you should book each wedding vendor, from florists to caterers, and everyone in between. \n\n### Venue\nBefore you can book any vendors, you need to set a wedding date. Once you do that, your wedding venue should be booked first. __Typically, wedding venues are reserved one year in advance. __\n\n### Wedding Planner \nSome people hire their [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner\") before anything else. If you’re someone who knows that they want to hire someone to do the bulk of the wedding planning, reach out to possible candidates right away. While you don’t want to reach out the second that you get engaged, once you know that you’re ready to move forward, start requesting meetings with wedding planners. __This should happen about one year in advance.__ \n\n### Photographer \nWedding photographers are often [booked up early ](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-early-do-you-need-to-book-a-wedding-photographer \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-early-do-you-need-to-book-a-wedding-photographer\")so they're one of the first wedding vendors that you should book as soon as you lock-in a wedding date with your venue. In other words, it’s normal to book a photographer one year in advance of your wedding. Don't worry, though, if you don’t find a photographer that you love right away. __Many people book photographers 10-12 months out.__\n\n### Videographer\nMuch like photographers, good [wedding videographers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-find-a-wedding-videographer-within-your-budget \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-find-a-wedding-videographer-within-your-budget\") are in high demand. __Book your wedding videographer 10-12 months before your wedding, if possible.__\n\n### Caterer \nYou want to get the best food possible for your wedding budget and theme. [Booking a wedding caterer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-caterer \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-your-wedding-caterer\") is one of the important vendors for many couples, as good food can really make an event stellar. __It’s best to start researching your caterers 10 to 12 months before your wedding, and look to book 8 months or so in advance__. \n\n### Officiant \nYou’re ready to say “I do,” but you need someone to legally marry you and your partner. You want to choose the right [wedding officiant](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-wedding-officiant\"), so meet with a few options before settling on the perfect one for you. __It’s safe to book an officiant about 8-10 months out from your big day.__\n\n### Florist \nFlowers are gorgeous—and the florist who's going to make your floral dreams come true will likely book quickly. Start the process early so that you find someone who matches your budget and style. __Book a florist 9-10 months before your wedding day.__\n\n### Band or DJ\nThe kind of music that you want for your big day is up to you. __If you’re going to hire a [live band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-does-a-live-wedding-band-cost \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-does-a-live-wedding-band-cost\") or DJ, book your wedding entertainment about 8-9 months out.__ Live bands need to coordinate with multiple members’ schedules, so it’s best to move fast when you find a group that you like. \n\n### Cake Baker\nTasting cakes is probably the best part of deciding on a wedding cake baker. __Set up tastings around 7 months out from your wedding.__ Do your research on flavors and styles and go into the meeting with ideas in mind. \n\n### Hair Stylist\n[Hair stylists ](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/finding-a-versatile-hairstylist-for-your-wedding \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/finding-a-versatile-hairstylist-for-your-wedding\")need to be available on your big day, but they also need to be available for trial runs, too. It takes time to do research and find a stylist that you really like, so you’ll want to start the process early. __Start research about 7 months in advance, and aim to book about 5-6 months out.__ \n\n### Makeup Artist\n[Makeup artists follow a similar timeline as hairstylists](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-hair-and-makeup-costs \"https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-hair-and-makeup-costs\"). And you'll need to book at least one trial run. __Start looking for artists that you like (social media is a great place to discover local ones) early on and book around 6 months in advance.__\n\n[Start your vendor search](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on the right foot. 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To make sure your path is as smooth as possible and to help you keep an eye out for tiny potholes and giant roadblocks, always follow the advice of your local health guidelines and the recommendations set forth by the [CDC](https://www.cdc.gov/). The state of the pandemic can change quickly, but by staying informed, you can make it to your destination—wedded bliss—without a hitch.*\n\nThe COVID-19 pandemic has changed many couples’ wedding plans. Some have [postponed for a later date](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-postpone-your-wedding), others have opted for [virtual ceremonies](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-host-a-virtual-wedding-ceremony-with-ease), and still, others are forging ahead with a [scaled-down](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) guest list and/or health protocols in place. \n\nIf you’re invited to a wedding but don’t feel safe attending—whether it be because you’re high-risk, prefer to avoid travel, or just don’t want to risk exposure to COVID-19—it can be hard to let the couple know. We get it, and we’re here to help you (kindly!) tell a loved one you don’t feel comfortable attending their wedding.\n\nStill nervous? We got you. Here’s how to tell a loved one you don’t feel comfortable attending their wedding due to the COVID-19 pandemic. \n\n![How to tell a loved one you don't feel comfortable attending their wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/666saT1VyFxEo5O5zg0sc4/32c78b10ab610158183e1368d12467d6/inline_marisa_mcDonald_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Marisa McDonald Photography\n\n### Speak Up Sooner Rather Than Later\n\nWedding planning takes a lot of work. If you’ve been there, you know the months-long process involves many moving parts—including [building a wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding). \n\nIf a couple has invited you to their wedding, it’s likely because they value your relationship and want to celebrate their special day with you. If you’re invited to play a major role in the wedding ceremony, like a member of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-party), for example, being upfront right away is key, so the couple can move ahead with alternative plans. Backing out close to the wedding date is inconsiderate and can cause tension. Even if you're just a guest, you should let a couple know as soon as possible that you won’t be attending their wedding, so they can adjust their [seating chart](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) and menus. \n\nWhen you tell a couple that you don’t feel comfortable attending their wedding, it’s best to deliver the news on the phone or in a manner that’s as personal as possible, like a video call. Sending a text can come across as insensitive, and the tone of your message can get lost in translation. If you’re a close friend, don’t just check “[unable to attend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding)” on a virtual invitation either and leave it at that. Your loved one deserves to understand why. \n\n### Be Kind and Honest\n\nYou want to be kind when telling the couple you won’t be attending their wedding during the pandemic—not come across as judgmental or hurtful. You may not agree with their choice to move ahead with their wedding, but that’s not your decision to make. Don’t make up an excuse or lie about why you can’t make it, either—that will only cause trouble down the road. \n\nLet the couple know that you are honored to be invited to their wedding, but you are unable to attend due to the current circumstances of the COVID-19 pandemic. Be honest about why you’re not attending, be it concerns over a large gathering or the fact that you’re a frontline worker and worry about unknowingly exposing elderly guests to the virus. If you live with an immunocompromised family member or are not comfortable traveling right now, let the couple know. When you explain your reasoning, it makes it easier for them to understand it's not personal. Tell them if COVID-19 wasn’t a thing, you’d be there in a heartbeat. \n\nIt’s important to note, however, that you don’t need to over-explain or justify your decision. It may be hard for a couple to hear that some guests are unable to attend, but your personal decision should be based on what’s best for you and your lifestyle. \n\nIf your loved one is upset that you’re not attending their wedding, listen to their feelings, and acknowledge them, but don’t respond with anger or pettiness. Remember, weddings can be emotional in the best of times, and amid a global pandemic, it’s understandable that people may be having a hard time navigating all the uncertainty. Once things cool off, there’s a good chance emotion will level and your friend or family member will understand where you’re coming from.\n\n### Show Your Support in Other Ways\n\nIf you don’t feel comfortable attending a wedding during the pandemic, you can still show your support for the couple in other ways. Consider sending a gift from the wedding registry, or at the very least, a thoughtful card. If the couple is live-streaming their event, [tune in](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-be-a-great-virtual-wedding-guest) to the virtual wedding instead of attending in person. [Show them you care](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know) about their nuptials by partaking in as many physically distant activities as possible, including sending flowers on their wedding day or offering to help contact guests about any logistical changes. \n\nTell the couple you want to celebrate their wedding in person as soon as it’s safe to do so and that you can’t wait to help keep the festivities going. Again, as long as you make it clear that your discomfort around attending a wedding isn’t personal, people should be reasonable and understand. If they don’t, that’s OK, but it’s not on you. \n\n### Bottom Line\n\n![How to tell a loved one you don't feel comfortable attending their wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5d2BC1sXpRaZSUWQCkUhbm/5fb8458a9827a82fcde95bc111e8559d/inline_cory_lee_photography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cory Lee Photography\n\nTo plan or attend a wedding during the COVID-19 pandemic is a personal choice—one that can only be made by the couple getting married and you. While it may be hard to tell a loved one you don’t feel comfortable attending their social gathering, it’s best, to be honest and upfront with them right away. Let a family member or friend know how much you care about them and wish circumstances were different right now. Remind them that once things return to a level of normalcy, you’ll be ready to celebrate extra hard. ","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Attending a wedding this summer? Here’s everything you need to know about guests, weddings, and vaccines.","title":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know","slug":"guests-weddings-and-vaccines-what-you-need-to-know","topic":"Zola behind the scenes","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ReUuubL41mTVam3Mcwdep/6a81d8e3da664a815c3a1afe920e6487/Hero_Zola__15_.jpg","altText":"Guests, Weddings, and Vaccines: What You Need to Know"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:19.155Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-happens-if-you-dont-get-a-prenup","title":"What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup?","excerpt":"We’ll walk you through the best way to approach the topic with your partner—and what to do if you disagree.","author":"Amanda Mitchell","publishedAt":"2020-12-23T15:45:32.938Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Aq8dzGy1ahtzEPcy8lXcQ/53d229cb6b8b84f82b1bee71a12f9283/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg","altText":"What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup"},"heroCredit":"Shutterstock","tldr":"## The First Look ✨ \n\n- A prenup may be a difficult conversation, but it’s a bulletproof way to ensure your future.\n- You should consider a prenup if you’re looking to protect assets, children, and any future financial matters and decisions.\n- Not getting a prenup leaves your divorce into the state’s jurisdictions. In that case, it’s important to protect your assets and keep them separate without a prenup.\n","body":"You’ve found a romantic partner, you’re absolutely wild about them—now it’s time to plan for your future. \n\nBefore walking down the aisle, it’s important to make sure you’re both on the same page about what’s to come. And though a prenuptial agreement can be rather controversial in some circles, it's a surefire way to protect both you and your partner. \n\nPrenups ensure you’ve established common ground and covered all of your bases to save both you and your partner from future strife, should things go south. \n\nBut if you’re still wondering whether or not a prenuptial agreement is for you, Zola spoke to a marriage attorney, a relationship therapist, and a financial advisor to show you what happens if you don’t get a prenup. \n\n### How Do I Know If I Need a Prenup Agreement?\n\nIdeally, a prenup conversation occurs before ever placing a deposit on a wedding location—if not even sooner. “Timing is everything. As soon as it seems that an engagement could be on the horizon, begin to have this conversation with your partner. It may not be a great time to pursue the conversation during the process of planning a wedding nor when emotions are high,” says Dr. Markesha Miller. \n\nAccording to financial advisor Theresa Morrison, you probably need a prenup if you or your partner answer “yes” to any of these:\n\n- Have divergent net worth\n- Have a wide gap in income potential\n- Have separate assets\n- Have assets you’d like to keep separate \n- Expect to inherit wealth\n- Have debt (including student loans, back taxes, credit/store cards)\n- Have a tendency to get into debt\n- Will step your career back to support the other’s career or take care of children\n- Have children from a previous relationship\n- Expect to take on responsibilities for older relatives (usually parents)\n- Own real estate\n- Own your own business, in whole or part\n\n### What Happens If I Don’t Get a Prenup? \nAccording to marriage attorney Renee Bauer, divorcing without a prenup means you fall under the state’s jurisdiction: “Some states say everything is fair game. Some states say what you brought into the marriage is yours to walk out with and everything acquired during the marriage is divided. A prenup is supposed to reduce the likelihood of a fight during a divorce, but sometimes people want to fight anyway, and they will ask the court to disregard the prenup. Then the fight turns to whether it is enforceable or not.”\n\nIt’s not the end of the world if you choose not to get a prenuptial agreement, really—it’s entirely a personal decision to be made between you and your future partner. However, it’s important to have these hard conversations before jumping into a legal conundrum that can end poorly. “Stack the odds of a successful lifetime marriage in your favor by making the effort before you get married. With or without a prenup, know your partner well,” says Morrison. “If the marriage does end and you don’t have a prenup, you still work through the division of financial assets and income, however, there is more room for acrimony and legal wrangling. Generally, divorce without a prenup costs more, takes longer, and is more emotionally charged.” \n\nHear that? Save money and your heart by doing it all ahead of time. \n\n![What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3VjAtWsehYeSd6LKvREYlG/2eba7d1a734d89d17190fd59ad227a6c/inline_shutterstock.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n### I Don’t Want a Prenup. How Can I Protect Myself Without One? \nThe answer here is pretty simple: Keep your assets separate. Don’t share money, accounts, gifts, or inheritances with your partner, and hold separate titles to assets. You’ll want to set up individual revocable trusts, not joint. It’s always good to get as many things in writing as possible, to affirm your worth and value in this relationship. \n\nIf you change your mind, a postnuptial agreement (or a postnup) is also a possibility. “Educate yourself about the laws of your state and how assets are divided during a divorce. You need to know whether your state says all the property is thrown into the pot if you get divorced or whether what you brought into the marriage is excluded. It might be well worth it to pay a lawyer for an hour of their time to ask all of these questions.” says Bauer. \n\n### How Should I Approach the Topic of a Prenup With My Partner? \nThe prenup conversation can be an uncomfortable one, but a deeply important one. Approach the topic with sensitivity and positivity. The tone of the conversation really matters here. “Make it fun. Be casual. Don’t call it a meeting. Begin by sharing your dreams and values. Recognize that everyone has a different money memory and triggers. Keep it a judgement-free zone,” says Morrison. “Most importantly: Do not lie or conceal.” Talking about a prenup is really taking the time to talk about your lives together, and clarify financial matters and responsibilities during marriage. \n\nThe questions you’re discussing are more than just a piece of paper. You should touch on:\n\n- Who will step back their career if we have children?\n- Will pre-marital debt become the responsibility of both of us?\n- How will we designate beneficiaries on our retirement and investment accounts?\n- Are we willing to support the other spouse while they attend college, or start a business?\n- Whose career will prevail if a major opportunity arises that requires relocating?\n\nMake sure your dreams and values deeply align in every step of your marriage—you don’t want resentments to build up over time, leading to a nasty and painful divorce.\n\n![What Happens if You Don't Get a Prenup](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5Aq8dzGy1ahtzEPcy8lXcQ/53d229cb6b8b84f82b1bee71a12f9283/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Shutterstock\n\n### My Partner Is Against the Entire Concept of Prenups. What Should I Do?\n\nThis is the perfect chance to understand and develop conflict resolution skills before your marriage. Determine if this person is really who you want as a potential future partner. If yes, consider premarital counseling to discuss this, as well as other differences in values and beliefs. The pre-marriage period is a great time to dig a little deeper to make sure you’re on the same page. If they don’t want to sign a legal document, it’s still vastly important to discuss the terms of how you would want your marriage to function.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Wondering, “can you still sign a prenup after marriage?” We’ll tell you the answer today, so keep reading to learn more.","title":"Can You Sign a Prenup After Marriage?","slug":"can-you-sign-a-prenup-after-marriage","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3NRH0oES7RCEjSEft2HG3R/c01216040914320812dc6e47bc55b8cb/inline_shutterstock_1_.jpg","altText":"Prenup After Marriage"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"A prenup is a protection of assets in a marriage. 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Here's your guide to planning your ceremony this month.","author":"Alexis Ferguson","publishedAt":"2021-12-31T17:10:20.017Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5mqzdDsNPswJCqmkDRQoMr/13bc465323b8b9ec4a3f7d2479e1b874/021eb0bd-34d6-4f73-aaac-b276d1f0dc58_ccexpress.jpeg","altText":"January Wedding? Here’s Everything You Need to Know"},"heroCredit":"Jason Collins Photography","body":"Ringing in the new year with the hope of new beginnings? Sound like the perfect time to jump into newlywed life together. \n\nJanuary weddings are filled with excitement, optimism, and overall good vibes. A brand new class of couples are kicking off the year by tying the knot. Not to mention they get all the attention as people look forward to starting the year off right with big celebrations and memorable milestones.\n\nPlanning a January wedding can be a tall order, but we’re here to help make sure the ball doesn’t drop on your wedding day.\n\n## The Basics\n#### History And Culture\n- The name “January” is originally derived from the Roman God Janus, the god of beginnings, doorways, and passages; the perfect lore for a New Years wedding.\n- Garnet, January’s birthstone, is said to bring consistency and stability to those that wear it. So if you’re hoping for things to go off without a hitch on the day of, consider incorporating this stone.\n- Carnations, January’s birth flower, also happen to be a symbol of devotion, love, and loyalty. What more is there to say?\n\n## Ideas And Inspiration\n#### What's In Season?\nThe season’s [foods](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-food-ideas) and [florals](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-seasonal-guide-to-wedding-flowers) are built to withstand the elements and bring the best of what the season has to offer to your tablescapes:\n\n- Hot and hearty foods like roasted meats and vegies are bound to warm your guests up. Use this chance to show off more of your favorite roasts with a coffee bar filled with unique flavors.\n- Already popped plenty of champagne? Fill your drink glasses with mulled wine and cider instead.\n- Primrose, tulips, camellias, and daffodils [add vibrance to any arrangement](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/everything-you-need-to-know-about-winter-wedding-flowers), especially those showcased at snowy ceremonies. Combine these florals with foliage like spruce branches, eucalyptus, and tiny pinecones.\n\n#### Weather\nNew year - same season. Here are a few weather tips that will ensure you pull your winter ceremony off safely.\n\n- Winter conditions vary from region to region every year. More northern U.S. states can look forward to frequent snowfall even lower temperatures as the cold season settles in, while southern states can keep an eye out for rainy days to come.\n- If snow is an essential detail of your wedding plan, be sure you’re up-to-date with the forecast dates for your wedding. But do keep in mind possible travel delays like closed roads and delayed flights if there’s a chance of heavy snow!\n- No matter your region, storms can pop up on the radar at any time, even when you checked the forecast twice! Always [have a plan B](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and [consider investing in wedding insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-is-wedding-insurance) if possible.\n\n#### Holidays\nJanuary has few holidays, but it is good to know these dates to plan your wedding on or around them.\n\n- January 1: New Year’s Day\n- January 16: Martin Luther King Jr. Day\n\n__Tip:__ Martin Luther King Jr. Day always lies on the third Monday in January. If you chose to, you can honor the legacy while taking advantage of the long weekend for your nuptials. \n\n#### Theme Ideas\nJanuary weddings are always ready to bring the *chills*. Expect to impress your guest with these wedding themes. \n\n- A rustic wedding in a backyard or barn can be an excellent setting for your wedding day. Fresh flowers and candles littering the lawn all complete the cozy vibe.\n- Go fully modern with a wedding that highlights your unique personalities. Check your favorite restaurant, park, or museum for their wedding services and availability. \n- Leave your guests with more than beautiful memories. How about a mystical ceremony filled with crystals and fortune-filled favors to guide them through the year? \n\n#### Clothing Ideas\nThe key to pulling off winter wedding attire is the balance of comfort, warmth, and fit. \n\n- Sure, you can toss a bulky jacket on top of your favorite formal wear, or you can elevate the look with velvet, wool, or cashmere to keep you warm while showcasing your fitted ensemble.\n- Don’t forget that the right footwear is crucial (even if you opt for a floor-length piece). There’s always a boot that can suit just about any look and keep your feet protected from the elements. \n\n__Quick color tip:__ Muted pastels are beautiful just about any time of year, but if you want to incorporate a bit of glam, add some metallic shades to your palette. \n\n## Zola Facts\nCurious how other couples are planning their January weddings? Here are some fun facts from Zola about weddings kicking off the new year.\n\n### Couples’ Favorite January Wedding Invites + Paper Designs\nJanuary’s most popular Invites + Paper designs on Zola that couples can’t stop falling in love with.\n\n- [Octavia Suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/22b13c6e-1a13-4a78-96c8-f5d9d5cde78c)- This painterly design features baroque florals and solid background, perfect for highlighting your wedding details.\n- [Blake Suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/a39fc197-4220-4984-b58e-acd018e38642)- This formal design features a solid contrasting border with clean type and script accents.\n- [Livonia Suite](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/5817acf1-bab0-4f6b-9e30-77a03002ed52)- This painterly design features dreamy, watercolor eucalyptus branches and delicate typography. \n\n### Average Guest Count for January Weddings\nThe average number of wedding guests on the guestlist for a January wedding is __150__.\n\n### Popular Registry Adds for January Weddings\nCouples getting married in January have these top three must-adds on their wedding registries:\n\n- [Artisan Stand Mixer, 5 qt](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/kitchenaid_5qtartisan_aquasky)\n- [Peak Double Old-Fashioned Glass](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/orrefors_peak_double_old_fashioned_glass_set4)\n- [Aspen Serving Bowl](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/orrefors_peak_double_old_fashioned_glass_set4)\n\n## Things To Consider\n#### Popularity\nJanuary is a month of opportunity in more ways than one. With few weddings and even fewer holidays, your ceremony is bound to stand out!\n\n- Though January isn’t the most popular wedding month, it is surely a top month for engagements! If you got engaged early this month, consider planning a wedding in a year’s time for a full month of anniversary celebrations.\n- You can expect light schedules this month for your guests and even your vendors depending on your region. Still, be sure to start your outreach early and get your Save the Dates out to your loved ones in time to make it atop the lists of things to look forward to. \n\n#### Cost\nOff the heels of the busy holiday season, January tends to be a quiet month for weddings. So, if you are lucky, your venue might come at a great deal. \n\n- If you find yourself with extra room in your wedding budget, consider splurging on practical wedding favors like towels, coasters, or candles your guests will be able to use throughout the year.\n- Though [vendors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors) may have a few more availabilities this month, don’t miss out on booking yours as soon as possible. \n- With most [venues](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue) swapping in fresh new decorations at the start of the year, you could save a few extra coins on wedding decor if the aesthetic fits your vision. \n\nDetermined that a [January wedding is right for you](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choosing-your-wedding-month)? Planning a mid-winter wedding can have its hardships (namely in the volatility of the weather this time of year), but trust the thrill of the new year to bring much-needed joy and energy to you and all those helping you along your wedding planning journey. [Happy planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)!\n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"If sending wedding announcement cards is in your future, check out our beginner’s guide full of tips, tricks, and etiquette.","title":"A Beginner's Guide to Wedding Announcements","slug":"a-beginners-guide-to-wedding-announcements","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ivsfUGHXO86lH1buVl9j0/a29ff815ecd8b9fa37720115c9412411/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"A Beginner's Guide to Wedding Announcements"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Considering a December wedding? 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Let the wedding experts help with our ultimate wedding checklist for the bride.","title":"Wedding Checklist for the Bride","slug":"wedding-checklist-for-the-bride","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/GTKTIjGXez9A45dVFqXIA/cfd2bf72e4b5e845d4c99f8bcd1d7cf9/Hero_NewEnglandWeddingatLakeviewPavilion_K_OPhoto.jpg","altText":"Wedding Checklist for the Bride"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. 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Learn about when to book a wedding venue.","title":"When Should I Book My Wedding Venue?","slug":"when-should-i-book-my-wedding-venue","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/42xNnIevb3xmNNdG0cgeIe/4359016303bd3d7593ab78c0ee5dde18/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"When Should I Book My Wedding Venue?"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"From how to get a marriage license to picking the perfect venue, find out everything you need to know to plan the perfect New York wedding.","title":"How to Get Married in New York City: A Complete Guide ","slug":"how-to-get-married-in-NYC","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4FVlQPi6o1grcLUsB7jiIa/a48fee0faf9b9325e06d286bfed34cc0/new-york-city-guide-hero-1.png","altText":"How to Get Married in New York City"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:17.613Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-to-politely-remind-guests-to-rsvp","title":"How to Politely Remind Guests to RSVP","excerpt":"Late RSVPs are a part of every wedding. Don't stress. Instead, follow our guide to kindly reminding your guests to please RSVP for your wedding.","author":"Jenn Sinrich","publishedAt":"2019-06-17T09:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/cyEtVw7w3FQ3LQmZyderX/645ab8ea730694fc8ea75c72a3d828f4/How-to-Politely-Remind-Guests-to-RSVP.jpg","altText":"rsvp cards and reminders"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"It’s no secret that wedding planning involves a long list of to-dos for the couple. It also includes a list of to-dos for guests. What’s one of the most important guest tasks? [Remembering to RSVP](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-rsvp-to-a-wedding). If you sent traditional invitations, RSVP cards were likely part of your invitation suite. [RSVP cards](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-invitation-rsvps)—and the postmarked envelopes that they come with–make it easy for guests to say yes they can make it or regretfully decline. However, that doesn’t mean they won’t forget. You need a headcount, though, so here’s how to remind your wedding guests to RSVP.\n\n## Why are RSVPs for weddings so important?\nYour guests may not realize why you need to know if they’re coming or not. But many weddings operate on a “per person” basis. You need at least a close estimate of guest numbers to make a lot of decisions from the venue to the catering to the florist who will have to outfit the tables with centerpieces. You also can’t properly [create your wedding seating chart]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) without a set tally of yeses and noes. \n\n![Zola InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2yUFM4QIlfRXLTEhIg3DHw/e3bf06d49c96aad002be361345db3f11/Zola_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Zola\n\n## How should I collect wedding RSVPs?\nIf you’re receiving physical RSVPs via cards, you will probably want to track responses digitally in a spreadsheet. Simply make a column with all of your guests’ names and then note yes or no, depending on their answer. \n\nAnother (arguably easier) way to track RSVPs is via an [online guest list tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), such as Zola’s. With Zola, you can create a digital guest list that allows you to update RSVP statuses as responses roll in or that allows your guests to record their own RSVPs online via [your wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website).\n\n## When should I realistically expect RSVPs?\nTraditionally, wedding invitations are sent in the mail about six months before the wedding date. This gives enough time for the invitations to get to your guests and for them to return their RSVP card within the requested timeline (usually by two months before the wedding date). \n\nIf you’re a little ahead or behind this timeline, there’s no reason to worry. This may impact when you receive any last minute RSVPs, though.\n\n## How do I remind my wedding guests to RSVP? \nSo your RSVP deadline has come and gone. Before jumping to panic, remember all the times you let invitations or emails slide without a timely response—it happens. Depending on the size and style of your wedding, the day you absolutely need a final headcount will vary. Ideally, you have responses two months ahead of your day so that you can plan your seating chart and other last-minute treats like wedding favors. \n\nWe recommend waiting for one to two weeks after your deadline to start nudging your guests. Then you can take to your guest list and start tracking down those “no responses.”\n\n![ScratchStudios InlineImage 1080x720 2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1QVW1iOZ15xQ2jugW3jI6s/daa93a4b4b1fe9acecf34cb1eb3e75ed/ScratchStudios_InlineImage_1080x720_2.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Scratch Studios\n\n### How should I reach out?\nHow you contact the guests who have yet to RSVP will depend on your relationship to them. For example, for close family relatives and friends whom you see on a regular basis, you might consider simply asking them in person. For distant relatives or friends who you don’t speak to on the regular, a phone call, text, or email might yield the best response rate. \n\nSocial media is another great tool for reaching out to guests. However, be sure to avoid any group messages or posts that might reach friends or followers who did not get your original invite. \n\nGenerally, a phone call or quick email should do it. In the case of any of your parents’ friends, ask mom or dad to nudge as necessary.\n\n### What should I say?\nFirst, be polite. Remember that, while it’s frustrating on your end that they have yet to respond to your RSVP, they have things going on in their life that may be preventing them from being as on point as usual. Then, build your message, including some of these key components:\n\n- Be sure to ask them how they’re doing.\n- Let them know—nicely—that the RSVP deadline passed and you still need a response.\n- Emphasize how much you want them there to share in your special day.\n- Wish them well and say thank you.\n\nIdeally, they can give you a definitive answer right then. If for some reason, they can’t, it’s up to your discretion how much longer you can wait for a yes or no. Don’t forget that you’ll need a solid headcount to deliver to your vendors by a certain date to ensure that you not only have enough room but enough beverages, food, and supplies for each and every guest. For that reason, it’s also a good idea to go into your conversations prepared with a definitive deadline. If your guests don’t get back to you by then, it’s time to move on with planning without them.\n\nTry not to get too stressed out or down about RSVPs. Late responses are a super common wedding conundrum—ask just about any bride. It’s not a reflection of you or your relationship or your big day. Don’t lose sight over the most important aspect of the planning: The celebration is all about you and the love of your life. \n","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:16.821Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"From birdcage to ballet, there is an abundance of options when it comes to your wedding veil. 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Let's break down the etiquette around this tricky guest list question.","author":"Jenn Sinrich","publishedAt":"2019-10-03T16:32:20.005Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2xtfTAHk7tje2xXp7wlrrA/38004e2747b99f39ecf37f52f4f11c97/HERO_GlasserImages_1080x720_Rachel_Jake.jpg","altText":"couples dance at wedding reception"},"heroCredit":"Glasser Images","body":"You’re deep into the wedding planning process—and it’s time to finalize your __[wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests)__. Family: check. Best Friends: check. College roommate: check. That couple you aren’t super close with anymore that invited you to their wedding: ...uh?\n\nThere’s the time-honored etiquette question of whether to invite someone to your wedding because they invited you to theirs. It’s a touchy subject, to say the least, as some people do truly expect an automatic invite if they invited you to their nuptials. You may have been close once before or you never really were—either way, they felt close enough to have invited you, so you may feel pressure to return the favor.\n\nUnfortunately, the answer’s not black or white. There are a myriad of things to consider when deciding whether to invite a friend, or anyone for that matter, to your wedding, especially when it’s someone who invited you to their big day. \n\n## 1. Your Budget\nMost people are familiar with the fact that weddings are expensive. One of the biggest factors that determines just how expensive a wedding will be is the number of people invited. Even at a relatively affordable venue, you’re still paying per person—and the dollar signs add up fast. If [your budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-ways-cut-wedding-costs) is tight—and you’re keeping a similarly tight guest list as a result—don’t feel obligated to invite anyone simply because they invited you. \n\nOn the other hand, if you’re inviting friends and family by the masses and money really isn’t an object, you should probably extend the invite. At the end of the day, you’ll hardly know they’re even there. \n\n![INLINE EicharPhotography 1080x720 Monica&Emir (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7fh0kD9ImX6tPKLLvjlQWd/ee66f81d9674e7034891542a6dbeacef/INLINE_EicharPhotography_1080x720_Monica_Emir__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Eichar Photography\n\n## 2. Your Guest List Size\nEven if you’re not keeping your guest list small because of budget reasons, you may simply prefer a more intimate celebration (no random plus one’s at your shindig!). That’s certainly reason enough to not invite certain people, including a couple that invited you. It’s also possible that you made their guest list because they threw a massive bash and invited, well, just about everyone. Most people will understand that, if you’re having a smaller, more intimate affair, they might not be considered close enough to make the cut. \n\n## 3. Your Relationship With Them\nThe most important detail to factor in is your relationship with this person. Ask yourself a few questions to help gain some clarity.\n\n- How long have you been friends with them, or known them?\n\n- How has your relationship changed through the years—and especially since you attended their wedding? \n\n- How often do you keep in touch—and do you talk on a regular basis? \n\n- Will this person likely be in your life 10-20 years down the line? \n\nIt’s important to look at the big picture here. What you’re really trying to determine is: Will there be __[larger social consequences](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding)__ if you don’t invite them? If you don’t invite them to your wedding, how does that impact the friendship—and do you care? If it won’t (or you really don’t), cut them from your list. If you don’t want to lose the friendship or are nervous about how it may impact other friendships of yours, you may want to reconsider and re-establish their spot on your guest list.\n\n## 4. They Are A Co-Worker\nCo-workers and weddings can get tricky. If you invite one co-worker, you risk offended other co-workers that don’t get [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-invitation-etiquette-top-mistakes-to-avoid-or-zola). So, even if a work acquaintance invited you to their wedding, don’t feel obligated to invite them to yours. And if they ask why? You can simply say that you’re keeping your wedding small (whether that’s true or not)—and because you can’t invite all of your work friends, you’re choosing not to invite any.\n\nNow, keep in mind, if you are inviting other co-workers to your wedding, you may have a harder time justifying why this person isn’t invited—especially since they included you in their big day. If you’re planning on inviting a ton of co-workers, it likely makes sense to include any co-workers who invited you to their weddings to prevent any post-wedding work drama.\n\n## 5. They Are Not Close To You Anymore\nFriends come and go throughout your life—and while you may have been super tight with someone in the past (like your childhood next-door neighbor or your college roommate), if you’re not close with them today, you might not want to invite them to your wedding.\n\nIf you’re not close with someone anymore—and they are, for all intents and purposes, out of your life—chances are, thye won’t be too bummed to miss your wedding day (you’re not close friends anymore, after all!). But if you’re still in touch and you suspect they might comment on not being invited, you might need to have an honest conversation about how you’ve drifted apart.\n\n## 6. Family Members or Relatives That You Don’t Want There\nDo you have a cousin that you just can’t stand? Or do you have two aunts that are a years-long feud—and end up having blow-out arguments every time they’re in the same room? You don’t want tension between family members to cause any issues during your wedding ceremony or reception—so feel free [not to invite any family members to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/not-inviting-family-to-your-wedding-dos-and-donts) that either a) don’t get along with each other or b) you don’t get along with or want at your wedding.\n\nHowever, keep in mind that if you leave certain family members off your wedding guest list (particularly if they're close family), other family members might have something to say about it—so be prepared to stand firm in your boundaries.\n\n## 7. Their Wedding\nAs we’ve mentioned, weddings come in all different shapes and sizes (mainly sizes). So, wedding guest list etiquette doesn’t support a tit-for-tat strategy. If your friend’s wedding was a huge affair with 300+ guests, including childhood friends, camp friends, colleagues, but yours isn’t, then it’s a truly different situation. \n\nConsider how long ago their wedding was, too. If it was within the last calendar year, it makes more sense to invite them to your wedding than if their wedding was 3-5 years ago and you no longer keep in close contact. \n\nAnother interesting component to consider: Was their wedding a __[destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cut-destination-wedding-costs)__? Oftentimes, couples invite more guests to a destination wedding than they normally would if they were having their wedding in their hometown. This is to make up for the fact that more guests will likely decline than usual due to the financial and time implications of travel. \n\nAll of these factors play a role in why they may have invited you and why you may or may not invite them. See what we mean? It’s never so black and white.\n\n![INLINE CinderAndCo 1080x720 Rashida&Phillip](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSSLa9bWr6Cypeii38CLh/b4f472bb42668b11ac8d010567d38a67/INLINE_CinderAndCo_1080x720_Rashida_Phillip.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cinder and Co\n\n## How To Break The News\nWhen it comes to [letting someone know they’re not invited to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-let-people-know-theyre-no-longer-invited-to-your-wedding), the most important thing to do? Keep the conversation simple and straightforward.\n\n At the end of the day, it all comes down to what you want and what works with your special day. Be sure to let them know it’s not personal—and also be sure to cite any reasons you didn’t invite them as back up. Whether it was budget, a venue size issue, or you prefer a smaller ceremony, let them know.\n\nWhat you can’t do, though, is lie. If you’re not having a small wedding, they’ll find out—and that could really sting. If you’re not inviting them because of personal concerns or you just don’t feel close to them, you need to say that. Remind them that you enjoyed attending their wedding and are sorry that you’re facing limitations that prevent you from extending the same invitation their way.\n\nWhen navigating these conversations, it’s also important to consider the other person’s feelings. While you’re not obligated to invite anyone to your wedding that you don’t want to (even if they invited you to theirs), you also don’t want to tell them in a way that’s unnecessarily harsh or phrased in a way that’s likely to hurt their feelings. Instead, put yourself in their shoes. Imagine if the situation was reversed—and break the news to them the way you would want someone to tell you they weren’t inviting you to their wedding.\n\nIf you’re still stuck on what to say, here’s more on __[how to talk to friends who weren’t invited to your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding)__.\n\n## POV From The Uninvited Guest\nAt this point, you know that you don’t have to invite anyone to your wedding—even if they invited you to theirs. But what if you find yourself on the receiving end of that situation? What if you invited someone to your wedding—and come to find out you’re not invited to theirs?\n\n- __Try not to overreact.__ When you find out you’re not invited to someone’s wedding, it’s going to sting a bit. But try not to get too upset! In many situations, your lack of invitation isn’t personal—and even if it is personal, overreacting to the situation isn’t going to help anything.\n\n- __Consider the reasons why you might not be invited.__ Before you make any moves, consider the reasons why you may not be invited. For example, do you know your friend is working with a super tight budget—and may not be able to afford a long guest list? Or were you super close with this friend when you got married—but you drifted apart and haven’t talked in years? If you think about it, you can probably guess why you’re not invited to the wedding—and that understanding can help to soften the blow.\n\n- __Talk to the person.__ If you feel like this is a close person in your life and you genuinely don’t have a clue why you wouldn’t be invited to their wedding—and the lack of an invitation is bothering you—you can ask them for their reasons behind it. How you approach it will depend on your relationship—but go into it with the goal of understanding why you weren’t invited, not in getting them to change their mind.\n\n- __Let it go.__ Regardless of the reasons why you weren’t invited to someone’s wedding, the fact of the matter is, you weren’t invited—and there’s really not much you can do about it. Let yourself feel your feelings around the situation, but work to accept it and let it go.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"It's a common question and the answer isn't always straightforward. 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Here's exactly what to include and what to skip on your wedding website.","title":"11 Dos and Don'ts for Your Wedding Website","slug":"dos-and-donts-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IftHAsGNVhNIVybKGWqoc/c77aacc7e75e08ce7472ee66b2624c47/hero_11_Dos_and_Don_ts_for_Your_Wedding_Website.jpg","altText":"zola wedding website"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Find average wedding invitation costs with our pricing breakdown guide. 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Here’s how to plan a bilingual wedding ","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-27T18:28:49.368Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2VhNAdwm9FmaCbIxgMfDSM/8bba9000dd74b336c047bef7307a0b21/How-to-Plan-a-Bilingual-Wedding.jpg","altText":"bilingual wedding sign"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Marriage is about bringing people together to celebrate—and sometimes, those people speak different languages. If you’re planning a bilingual wedding, there are a few extra steps you’ll want to take to make sure things go off without a hitch.\n\nA bilingual wedding ensures that guests from different backgrounds can understand and take part in your wedding in a meaningful way. A language barrier can make guests feel left out and hinder their ability to participate. While planning a bilingual wedding may seem daunting (weddings can be stressful enough as-is), it’s not as overwhelming as it sounds.\n\nMuch of your [wedding planning journey](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will be the same. But there are a few areas of your planning that you’ll want to focus on specifically for a bilingual wedding. Here are some things to consider. \n\n## Hire a wedding planner that understands bilingual weddings.\nFirst things first: if you’re using a wedding planner, find one that has planned bilingual events before. Bonus points if they speak both of your native languages.\n\nA wedding planner with bilingual experience will understand the importance of representing and honoring both cultures, and help you navigate any pain points. They may also recommend vendors that are bilingual, too. While not a necessity, having a photographer that speaks both languages is a plus, as they will make organizing photo lineups that much easier. \n\n![INLINE PhotobySarahCramerShields CramerPhoto Jocelyn&Jeet](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/nvrquLqJSBjfgPLNDi18G/994cd908a8ab9f597bd14f2aef70a153/INLINE_PhotobySarahCramerShields_CramerPhoto_Jocelyn_Jeet.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sarah Cramer Shields\n\n## Create invitations in both languages. \nAfter you’ve done the fun part of choosing your [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop), it’s time to decide what you’re going to say on them. While we recommend you read our handy how to word wedding invitations guide, if you’re having a bilingual wedding, there are some extra things to consider.\n\nIt’s a good idea to include both languages on your wedding invitation for all guests. If you have the budget to do so, you can order separate paper suites—one in each language. But having a single bilingual invite is most efficient. If your wedding guests speak English and Spanish, for example, have the English information on one side and the Spanish on the other. Not only will it help ensure all guests understand key details, but it’s also fun for everyone to experience another language, too. They may even learn a few new words in time for your wedding! \n\n## Use your wedding website to educate guests.\nEven if you send out physical wedding invites, [every couple needs a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) that provides guests with all the important logistical information, your wedding registry, the story of how you met (if that’s your style) and RSVP links. There’s no word count online. This means you can customize your site with [must-have information](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/make-wedding-website) in multiple languages. \n\nYou can also use your site to educate guests on your respective backgrounds. Tell family and friends a bit about your heritage and what traditions they can expect at your wedding. Is there a certain dress code they should know about? What about etiquette? This is the time to let them know it all.\n\nIf guests are traveling from other countries for your big day, you can use your wedding website to fill them in on things they should know, too. This may include cultural practices, what to pack, and contact info and logistical details for when they arrive. \n\n## Use bilingual signage. \nFrom ceremony programs to dinner menus, make sure you incorporate both languages whenever information is being shared at your ceremony and reception. This even includes venue signage like where bathrooms are located. \n\nBecause of the nature of weddings—people, excitement, chaos—it’s best to have a single paper product that’s bilingual. That way, if someone loses their program, or their menu suddenly vanishes, they can simply read their neighbors. You might also want to use signage to label foods with names in both languages.\n\n![INLINE PhotobyMagnoliaWeddings Elsa&Matt](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/28tKqE3f15hESB6GU24Z2v/cd285737f63887da09088eab79cabd20/INLINE_PhotobyMagnoliaWeddings_Elsa_Matt.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Magnolia Weddings\n\n## An interpreter can come in handy.\nIf you choose to do your ceremony in one language, consider hiring an interpreter. Not only will an interpreter help people feel less left out if they don’t understand the language, but it will also allow everyone to follow along at the same pace. You can also sprinkle in well-known phrases from a second language, too (think ‘You may now kiss the bride’), or incorporate traditional songs. \n\nYou might also consider the mixed-language ceremony route. If you and your partner understand each other’s native languages (or at least a few words in it) you can say your vows in both languages. You might want to share readings in both languages, as well. If time does not permit, provide reading translations in your ceremony program so guests can follow along.\n\n## Fuse your cultures throughout the wedding.\nBetween food, decor, venue, and music, there’s no shortage of ways to bring your backgrounds together. Take your favourite parts of each other’s wedding traditions and bring them to life. This will help each other’s families feel welcomed, and also offer guests a chance to learn about another culture. \n\nWhen it comes to [wedding speeches](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech), try to include both languages if possible. If the maid of honor only speaks your native language, for example, make sure someone from your wedding party who speaks the other language offers up words, too. Again, you can use an interpreter during speeches, but it’s best to keep them short and sweet. You don’t want to bore guests or drag speeches on. If you are including speeches in both languages, try to alternate between them to keep guests engaged. \n\nEven if guests can’t understand every aspect of your wedding at all times, the important thing is that they feel included and welcomed. By making an effort to have a bilingual wedding, you’re showing how much you value you and your spouse’s families—and that message transcends language barriers. ","tag":"How To","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"A lot of details go into a wedding. Don't forget the small wedding details! 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Here's how to choose wedding readers—and some potential wedding reader options.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2019-08-30T09:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/361JRx0RCUbbCjdfi0jGJG/b6b122739cee7a8d40a77ffbd7073c8e/HERO_PhotobyRossKykerPhotography.jpg","altText":"wedding readers read at wedding ceremony"},"heroCredit":"Ross Kyker Photography","body":"You’ve asked your closest friends and family members to be in your [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one), but there’s still probably other people you’d like to include in your big day. The solution? Ask them to be a wedding reader. Wedding readers have the important job of reading selected poems, passages, or religious texts during your [ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/ceremony). Sometimes wedding readers choose their own texts, or they’ll be assigned a [meaningful reading](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-ceremony-readings) by you. \n\nIt’s an important job—and public speaking isn’t for everyone. Here are a few things to consider before you choose your wedding readers.\n\n![INLINE PhotobyJulianaSaboPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2aC2Szb7GBFNvZyPHqyeTv/0b94c7737a77c2d0e5aa2ebfcae68b70/INLINE_PhotobyJulianaSaboPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Juliana Sabo Photography\n\n## How old are they?\nEven though your 8-year-old cousin is adorable, he or she probably isn’t the best pick for a wedding reader. You want someone who is at least a pre-teen or teenager so they can handle the responsibility. If it’s the first time they’ve spoken in front of a crowd, make sure they rehearse beforehand so that they’re comfortable with the reading. \n\nOn the other end of the spectrum, you may not want the eldest member of your extended family to do the honors either. However, in both cases, age is nothing but a number. If you have an exceptionally sharp kid cousin and grandma is still remarkably with it—ask them to read. You know your family best so you’ll know who’s really up for the task.\n\n## Do they enjoy public speaking?\nA reading should mean something to you and your spouse, but it should also suit the person reciting it. More importantly, though, reading at your ceremony means, well, reading at your ceremony. People will be watching. Choose some who’s comfortable with—and good at—public speaking.\n\nYou want your wedding readers to be able to deliver the messages with confidence. If someone is afraid of being in the spotlight or would be anxious delivering any speech, keep that in mind. You don’t want anyone to feel pressured or uncomfortable.\n\n## Are they close to you and your partner?\nThis goes without saying, but your wedding readers should be close to both you and your partner. If there’s any family tension, don’t involve someone who isn’t totally on board with your relationship or your partner. They probably wouldn’t want to be involved anyway and that would make your soon-to-be spouse uncomfortable. Choose someone who’s spent ample time with both of you, knows your backstory, and can articulate your love through their reading.\n\n## Do you have a backup plan?\nNot that you want anyone to bail last-minute—but things happen. So, you need a backup plan for every reading at your wedding. In the event that your plan A wedding readers can’t fulfill your duties, you need people in place to step up and read. We recommend asking someone from the wedding party. They’re already involved in the ceremony process anyway. Plus, this eliminates any hurt feelings. It’s uncomfortable to ask someone to be a plan B so choosing someone who’s already in the mix takes away that pain point.\n\n## Potential Wedding Ceremony Readers\nOK, so who should you choose to read at your wedding? In some cases, this may be obvious already. There may be stand out individuals you couldn’t include in the wedding party—this is their time to shine. If you're still stuck or you have too many options, here are some suggestions for wedding readers.\n\n### Grandparents\nIf your grandparents are able to attend your wedding, we definitely recommend including them in the ceremony. Unlike parents who often walk the groom or bride down the aisle, there’s no official role for grandma and grandpa (even though they are typically considered part of the larger wedding party) beyond just being recognized as your grandparents.\n\nLet them know how much they mean to you by asking if they’ll read at your wedding. If you and your partner are both close with your grandparents, you can invite one from each side of the family to read. \n\n![INLINE PhotobyJulianaSaboPhotography2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7rAqnGjKDXy4zR4hKZUNt6/04f0f2a277da691e60358470f60ce980/INLINE_PhotobyJulianaSaboPhotography2.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Juliana Sabo Photography\n\n### Godparents or Family Friends\nGodparents or close family friends make fantastic wedding readers. Not only have they known you for most of your life, but inviting them to read is also a nice way to acknowledge their significance in your life. These people are basically members of your family anyway so it’s an easy fit. Bonus points if they’re particularly close with your partner, too.\n\n### Siblings \nMaybe a sibling lives out of town and can’t be in the wedding party or maybe you aren’t having [bridesmaids](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties) or [groomsmen](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-groomsmen-duties) at all. If you have a sibling that’s not included in any other formal role—and you’d like to include them—invite them to read at your wedding. Having your sister or brother next to you for a portion of your ceremony can add a touch of familiarity and relax you a little, too. It’s awkward to stand up there in front of everyone after all.\n\n### Longtime Friend \nYour [best man](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/giving-killer-best-man-speech) and [maid of honor](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) will likely give speeches at your reception, so honor other friends during the ceremony by asking them to read. If there are close friends that aren’t in your wedding party (or, again, if you’re forgoing a wedding party altogether), they’re great wedding reader options. Think of your best from growing up, a childhood neighbor, or a college roommate you remained close with. Obviously, this person should be someone you still spend time with or talk to regularly. A good test of closeness: Who is the person that would pick up your phone call in the middle of the night even if you haven’t spoken in a while? \n\n### The Person Who Set You Up \nIf you and your partner were set up by a mutual friend, this is a nice way to thank them. Where would you be without them? It’s the least you can do, really.\n\nWedding readers are an important part of your ceremony, so ask someone who is not only up for the job but close to you. Work with loved ones to ensure they are comfortable with their readings and understand their role. 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From venue options and wedding costs to the best places for photos, here’s everything you need to know about getting married in Washington, DC.","publishedAt":"2021-06-16T01:46:12.656Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/45iIMO1DorDEpHOBc74vWk/30a5752efa71c35d4aef9155d53c82d8/bride-and-groom-smiling-at-each-other-in-the-city.jpg","altText":"couple getting married in DC "},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/","body":"Would you like to have your wedding in the nation’s capital city? Nestled between Virginia and Maryland, Washington, DC is full of history and must-see attractions. You may come for the wedding, but stay for the events! \n\nAs home to the presidential inaugurations (hey there Madam Vice-President!) and renown annual festivals, there’s a reason why Washington DC continues breaking its own record of U.S. visitors [nine consecutive years in a row](https://www.bizjournals.com/washington/news/2019/05/07/d-c-hosts-record-number-of-domestic-visitors-in.html). Not to mention, the city’s beloved cherry blossom trees and famous landmarks make excellent wedding photography backdrops! \n\n[Planning a wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) may be extensive, but it doesn’t have to be stressful! In this guide, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know about getting married in DC. From information on COVID-19 protocol to LGBTQIA wedding support, we’ve got you covered! \n\nContinue reading or navigate using our jump-to links below: \n\n- Where to Get Married in Washington, DC \n- How to Obtain a DC Marriage License \n- DC Wedding Trends \n- Real Weddings and Best Places for Photographs \n- LGBTQIA Marriages in Washington DC\n- How to Find Local Vendors \n- DC Wedding Guest Guide \n\n## Where to Get Married in Washington, DC \n \n\n![Where to get married in Washington DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7s3CCCVaAcTnfKz6BEPTFs/16c797f55fe4a488c5d662ac36d0cd79/where-to-get-married-in-washington-dc.jpg)\n\nFrom the most iconic museums to acclaimed monuments, there are plenty of glorious venue options in DC. In case you have trouble deciding on a location you love, we have a list of prescreened [wedding venues in DC](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-venues) at your service! Search by capacity, availability, type, price, and more! \n\nBelow are a few popular DC wedding venues to consider:\n\n- __Museums and galleries:__ Washington, DC is abundant in eclectic and praiseworthy museums. Stunning and unique, the National Museum of the Marine Corps is one of many museums in the DC metro area that provides an unforgettable experience for wedding ceremonies amidst treasured artifacts.\n- __Hotels:__ From marvelous catering to elegant ballrooms, hotels can be the most convenient venues for out-of-town couples. DC boasts plenty of luxurious hotels, including the Omni Shoreham and Grand Hyatt. \n- __Mansions and estates:__ Like hidden gems throughout the city, these elegant buildings add to the history and charm of DC. The Patterson Mansion, among many others, has been the venue of choice for presidents and pioneers. \n- __Farms and ranches:__ A little beyond the Greater Washington, DC area in northern Virginia and Maryland, you can find dozens of beautiful farms and ranches. With spacious, rustic settings and mountainous backdrops, these farms make the perfect venue for wedding ceremonies. \n\n## How to Obtain a DC Marriage License\n \n\n__COVID-19 Update:__ The DC Marriage Bureau is only processing marriage license applications remotely and performing weddings by videoconference until further notice. \n\nHere are the steps to obtaining your marriage license in Washington, DC:\n\n- __Apply for your marriage license:__ The application is available to complete and submit [online](https://www.dccourts.gov/form/marriage-application). You must show proof of legal age through driver’s licenses, birth certificates, passports, or similar official documents. \n- __Choose an officiant:__ In DC, you may choose a court official, any authorized celebrant, or self-officiate your wedding ceremony. You will indicate who your officiant will be on your marriage application. \n- __Pay the fee:__ The marriage license application fee is $45 and can be paid online via PromptPay, the court’s electronic payment portal. \n- __Physical Presence:__ All parties, including the person performing the wedding, must be physically present in the District of Columbia during the time of your wedding ceremony. With a DC marriage license, your wedding is only legal if it takes place within the city of DC. \n\nOnce you’ve submitted your marriage license application, a representative from the Marriage Bureau will contact you to complete the process. Fortunately, DC marriage licenses do not expire once issued, so there is no expiration date for when you must have your ceremony. \n\n### DC Courthouse Wedding\n![DC Courthouse Wedding](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1Dzu6zrwpwMui44CMv5xtk/e88095ce73e6445c84d6a87e51b4fe87/dc-courthouse-wedding.jpg)\n\nIf you and your partner prefer a quick, civil wedding, you can get married at the Superior Court of the District of Columbia. You must indicate “court/civil wedding” on your online marriage application and wait for a representative from the Marriage Bureau to contact you regarding next steps. Due to COVID-19, the Marriage Bureau is performing civil weddings via videoconference.\n\n### Do I Need a DC Marriage License? \nYes. You will need a DC marriage license to get married within the District of Columbia. \n\n### Where to Get Your Marriage License \nCurrently, you must apply online for your DC marriage license through the official [DC Courts website](https://www.dccourts.gov/services/marriage-matters). A court staff member will contact you receiving your application.\n\n### How Long Does it Take to Get a Marriage License in DC?\nIt may take up to five business days to receive your DC marriage license due to COVID-19 and the court staff working remotely. \n\n### Can I Get Married the Same Day in DC?\nYes! Since there is no wait time from the time you receive your marriage license to when you have your wedding, you can get married the same day in DC. \n\n### Do you need an officiant to get married in DC?\nYes. DC is the only jurisdiction that requires marriage to be performed by an officiant authorized by the DC Court Marriage Bureau office. This means that you cannot have someone officiate the wedding without the court’s permission. You must provide the full name of the desired officiant on your marriage license application. \n\n### Who can officiate a wedding in DC?\nThe DC court authorizes the following candidates to perform marriage in the District of Columbia: judges (active and retired), civil celebrants, temporary officiants, Members of the City Council, the Mayor of DC, authorized persons of any religious denomination or society, and temporary officiants. If you want a loved one to officiate your wedding, such as a friend or family member, they can simply complete the [temporary officiant application](https://www.dccourts.gov/sites/default/files/divisionspdfs/committee%20on%20admissions%20pdf/Temporary-Officiant-Application.pdf) with the $25 fee to receive authorization from the DC Marriage Bureau. \n\nIf you’d like to elope or cannot find an officiant, DC also allows couples to have a self-officiated wedding, meaning with a third party. To do so, you and your partner must appear together in person at the DC Marriage Bureau with valid government-issued IDs and indicate you will officiate the ceremony on your marriage license application.\n\nAn [officiant application](https://www.dccourts.gov/sites/default/files/matters-docs/Officiant-Application.pdf) must be submitted via email at MarriageBureau@dcsc.gov. You can visit the [official website](https://www.dccourts.gov/services/marriage-matters) for more information. \n\n## DC Wedding Trends \n \n\n![DC Wedding Trends](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/L3rp8CadIkTcKeWEETUMt/8b40d03ffdbc9084999d904faaba9bc6/dc-wedding-trends.jpg)\n\nAfter the pandemic left numerous couples unsure of their wedding plans, the year 2021 is making up for lost time! From bold, bright [wedding colors](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-colors) to sustainable [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/donate-wedding-dress) ideas, couples are stepping outside of tradition for ceremonies that fit their personality. With cherry blossoms, famous museums, and the most dynamic festivals, DC definitely speaks to the adventurous soul. \n\n### Average Cost of a Wedding in DC \nSurprisingly, the nation’s capital isn’t the most expensive city to get married. The [average cost](https://www.wedding-spot.com/wedding-venues/District-of-Columbia/) of a wedding in Washington, DC is $37,500, which is less than other popular wedding destinations in the country, including [San Francisco](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-married-in-san-francisco) and [New York City](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-married-in-NYC).\n\n![Average wedding costs in dc](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/CBvXlhqbyCnn0wnC0Xlb0/5d72002eea5e2e562b37f3ac1029ee17/washington-dc-city-guide-.png)\n\nRemember, the number of guests, location, season, and other factors can affect [wedding costs](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding). If you’re on a budget, consider having your wedding during an off-peak season or an intimate civil wedding at the DC courthouse. These options can help cut down the venue and lodging fees.\n\n### Best Times of Year for Weddings in DC\nWashington, DC has a semi-continental climate, where you’ll experience and enjoy all four seasons. Visitors can expect the general hot and humid summers after Memorial Day and crispy, snowy winters after Labor Day. Below is a helpful overview of each season.\n\n![Seasonal Guide to DC Weddings](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5TZa8XE9KE1wDwxdtqdsty/ed1cfeb13bb2649f0a45638fc4956570/washington-dc-city-guide-chart-__1_.png)\n\n### Busiest Weeks in DC \nBe sure to plan ahead! Below is a helpful list of events when one can expect heavy traffic and tourism while visiting DC. \n\n- Presidential Inauguration Day: __January__\n- National Cherry Blossom Festival: __March/April__\n- Memorial Day: __May__\n- DC Jazz Festival: __June__\n- Capital Pride: __June__\n- A Capitol Fourth: __July__\n- H Street Festival: __September__\n- Filmfest DC: __October__\n- Metropolitan Washington Restaurant Week: __December__\n\n### DC Weddings and COVID-19 \nAs of Friday, May 21st, Washington, DC began its reopening plan, in which COVID-19 restrictions on most commercial and public activities were lifted. Residents and visitors must continue following the CDC’s mask guidelines, unless they are fully vaccinated. For more information and details, you can visit the [official website](https://washington.org/dc-information/coronavirus-travel-update-washington-dc).\n\n## Real DC Weddings\n \n\nCheck out some of these photos of [real DC weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/washington-dc), where you can filter to find inspiration by season, trending styles, and location!\n\n![Real DC wedding intercultural couple](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3oewAMjHmk2dYHftq8uT3A/2850ac860d75ab0a4b94b556c15aa185/real-dc-weddings-mt-vernon.jpg)\n[__Intercultural Vibrante Fête__](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/vibrant-fete-in-washington-dc)\n\n![Real DC wedding same sex couple](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4a2YjhgZiR5lh3tgZAzLcH/b8a3b174d7be4442fbea421374eba8ce/real-dc-weddings-dupont-circle-hotel.jpg)\n[__Intimate Fall Nuptials__](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/intimate-fall-nuptials)\n\n![Real Wedding Teal Inspiration in DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1c7EAVqb2ZqcX2SV8oABw4/c98920ccfff8d5cfc0e637259f6709f0/real-dc-weddings-black-tie__1_.jpg)\n[__District Extravaganza in Teal__](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding/district-extravaganza-in-teal)\n\n### Best Spots for Wedding Photos in DC \n![Best Spots for Wedding Photos in DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3lQ4E6pgs332EEi72G2cKo/1eb837b035e9b1cbaffd7ba6bf2fc2db/best-spots-for-wedding-photos-in-dc.jpg)\n\nOnce you’ve booked a Washington [DC wedding photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-photographers), take advantage of some of the “Instagram-worthy” spots in town! Below are a few awesome spots for you and your partner to pose for the camera: \n\n- [Smithsonian Institution Building (The Castle)](https://www.si.edu/museums/smithsonian-institution-building)\n- [Culture House DC](https://www.culturehousedc.org/)\n- [Union Station](https://www.unionstationdc.com/)\n- [Library of Congress](https://www.loc.gov/)\n- [Yards Park](https://www.capitolriverfront.org/yards-park)\n- [US Botanic Garden](https://www.usbg.gov/)\n- [Chinatown Friendship Arch](https://ggwash.org/view/8237/chinatowns-friendship-archway)\n\nIf you know of a wedding guest [planning to propose](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/proposal-ideas), these locations also make great backdrops to pop the question! \n\n![7 Instagram Worthy Photo Spots in DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ps7ivy26oLT7dSneZ2ScJ/49535689f9744b00773ce0a7d7eda036/7-instagram-worthy-photo-spots-in-dc.jpg)\n\n## LGBTQIA Marriages in DC\n \n\n![LGBTQIA Marriage in DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Jjxg2PwtBEiRqqefJwO3f/7fe3d8124847280fb54d883543f01253/lgbtqia-marraiges-in-dc.jpg)\n\nAs one of the most diverse cities in the nation, not to mention the most prominent location of civil rights marches, Washington, DC has a very LGBTQIA-friendly community. Although same-sex marriage has been legal in DC for over a decade, the city is rich in pride history. DC is home to The Washington Blade, America’s oldest LGBTQ+ newspaper that began in 1969 as well as Capital Pride, one of the largest pride celebrations in the country. From popular [LGBTQ+-owned businesses](https://washington.org/dei/lgbtq-businesses-washington-dc) to events all year long, DC is an exciting place for same-sex couples to plan their weddings. \n\n__Fun Fact:__ Washington, DC has the [highest LGBT+ population percentage](https://www.washingtonblade.com/2019/03/06/d-c-has-highest-lgbtq-population-in-the-u-s/?__cf_chl_jschl_tk__=d6d960099841cbaa8adefa953a5eec820b7928c8-1623801733-0-AZPzyznXBbZpFRR-bZCVflIqdMbW3hyl-bU2R4Kevyd-nk6MMiZhtm1irvLcICbS97lxi-2Zju1lbiNHH9NqYEHVMpubbZSzbrMQPrOM_PjXxIMyl2x1ah0L1yHVXornMEJPUkCZcm5hzH9w-SeE_agCnWJSFjFfGZf12so-8gO56o18hFcAhqbTHzA_h_7TXyOomiWwJ6JzthKtU2deBxQbxMGPclnuawm0DPt4F9GgUeRLO15Gcr6mzhSqmioNZzl9z8oq2OIYZI2cypiOCubaLko4BrXjgZSjIIs87RtED3Lbh-nFKIAXiq2NVQHVGJKrexGNJeR0eQ0sczr8NFeu3l780iYOPRNYV_IrdXEm4bwQekdNI8b91Dy31iODpmLLwUDDpLZ0GxNMrfGCpPck4a8b1EKAQkD9L8Col5xIS7rTty3wATOetcL482zn5FS4xB3q12U48X4DjBJwNdXuwl_jc81tPOGnPkp8cAL4G4CqGZfxxoOzWyKXFXAuWhW7OGK9E2G7opNkpG_9ZLM) in the nation! \n\n## How to Find Local DC Vendors \n \n\nNeed some assistance with your wedding planning? Check out our lists of pre-screened vendors where you can filter vendors by price, venue style, wedding theme, and more.\n\n- [Venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-venues)\n- [Florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-florists)\n- [Caterers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-catering)\n- [Beauty professionals](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-hair-makeup)\n- [Cakes and desserts](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-cakes-desserts) \n- [Photographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-photographers) \n- [Videographers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/washington-dc--wedding-videographers) \n\n## DC Wedding Guest Guide\n \n\n![DC Wedding Guest Guide](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/YdcGKCCaVlOBs4xznI0R5/daaf0d219e45d048705f042fc071c1cb/dc-wedding-guest-guide.jpg)\n\nYour guests’ arrival to Washington, DC is only the beginning. Since there’s so much to do and see in the nation’s capital, they won’t know where to start! Jumpstart their itinerary with these help lists of travel tips, best neighborhoods, and notable attractions in the area. \n\n### How to Get to DC \n__Arriving By Plane:__ \n- [Ronald Reagan Washington National Airport (DCA)](https://www.flyreagan.com/dca/parking-transportation): 5 miles to central DC\n- [Washington Dulles International Airport (IAD)](https://www.bwiairport.com/to-from-bwi): 26 miles to central DC\n- [Baltimore/Washington International Thurgood Marshall Airport (BWI)](https://www.flydulles.com/iad/parking-transportation): 32 miles to central DC\n\n__Arriving By Train:__ Many [Amtrak trains](https://amtrakguide.com/stations/union-station-dc/) and routes run through Washington, DC’s Union Station, which is conveniently near the National Mall and the Capitol building. \n\n__Arriving By Bus:__ An affordable way to get around the metro area, DC’s [WMATA metrobus](https://www.wmata.com/service/bus/) stops at popular tourist locations and shares a few stations with the metro rail.\n\n__Arriving By Car:__ For visitors living along the east coast, the fastest route to take is Interstate 95, which runs from north to south from Maine to Miami, Florida. \n\n__Taking the Metro:__ [DC’s metro rail](https://www.wmata.com/) is a convenient and affordable way to get around the city as well as to and from suburban areas of Virginia and Maryland.\n\n### Best DC Neighborhoods for Out-of-Town Guests \n\n![Best DC Neighborhoods](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2Gw5zWAf6MxAAoLYBsbZRP/2c0237a7da3b1244f4c314d6e39e5503/best-dc-neighborhoods-for-out-of-town-guests.jpg)\n\nFrom JFK’s old home to law-making edifices, DC neighborhoods have plenty of hidden gems to discover. Here are a few of our favorite areas to visit while in town. \n\n__H Street:__ Home of DC’s annual [H Street Festival](https://hstreet.org/festival/), this neighborhood is where visitors experience the arts, nightlife, and communal culture of the town. From local food trucks to art exhibits and farmers markets, your guests can enjoy an entire day on H Street!\n\n__Dupont Circle:__ A cosmopolitan neighborhood, Dupont Circle is a social area that offers something for everyone. You’ll see locals walking their dogs or grabbing lunch and a beer with coworkers, while tourists check out the boutiques, bistros, and museums. \n\n__Capitol Hill:__ Having both a vibrant nightlife and the government’s most powerful buildings, this area is great for catching a small group tour. Here, you can visit the Library of Congress, the U.S. Capitol, and grab a bite to eat from local pubs and restaurants.\n\n__Downtown DC:__ As the bustling center of the city, DC’s downtown area is where you can always find something new to do. Popular restaurants, shopping centers, and museums are within walking distance from one another or a quick stop on the metro rail! \n\n__Georgetown:__ The luxurious side of the city, Georgetown is home to DC’s fine art galleries, upscale restaurants, and historic 19th century mansions. The town also has a nice waterfront view where you’ll find bars, cafes, and tranquil bike trails.\n\n### 10 Fun Things to Do in Washington DC\n\n![10 Fun Things to Do in Washington DC](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/669konkErZSw3bRyLBMIvW/c2887dbe12cc1932dc57be5f5f2f5fb6/10-fun-things-to-do-in-washington-dc.jpg) \n\nWhen it comes to DC, learning the city’s [street grid](https://www.triphacksdc.com/dc-street-grid-explained/) is an adventure in and of itself! Nevertheless, with plenty of must-see attractions and local hot spots, your wedding guests’ itineraries will be far from boring. Help them get started with these ten fun things to do in the DC metro area. \n\n1. __Visit the Smithsonian Museums:__ With over 19 of its museums in DC, including the National Museum of African American History and Culture, the Smithsonian Institution is the world’s largest museum, education, and research complex. \n2. __Go on a Georgetown Food Tour:__ Ask in advance for one of DC’s famous food tours as a [wedding registry gift](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/cloud9living_2tixfor_georgetownfoodtour_dc?_branch_match_id=794660566644825812)! Georgetown, among many others, has plenty of top-rated restaurants, cafes, and pubs to experience and taste!\n3. __Stroll through the National Mall:__ Not to be fooled by the name, as it isn’t a mall at all! Known as “America’s Front Yard,” the National Mall is home to the Washington Monument, Lincoln and MLK memorials, picnic spots, and plenty of Cherry Blossom trees. \n4. __Kayak the Georgetown Waterfront:__ Keybridge Boathouse in Georgetown offers kayak, paddleboard, and canoe rentals. Here, visitors can enjoy a tranquil day on the water and amazing views of DC monuments. \n5. __Take a City Cruise:__ From bachelor(ette) parties to bottomless brunches, there are plenty of companies that offer boat tours and cruises through DC’s Potomac River. \n6. __Catch a concert at Echostage:__ This music venue in DC is a hybrid nightclub and concert hall that brings an indoor festival experience year-round. Locals and visitors can catch a performance here almost every weekend! \n7. __Spend an evening at Live Casino:__ About 25 miles outside of DC, in Hanover Maryland, Live! Casino Hotel is where locals and tourists go to hit the casino, wine and dine, and catch live performances all in one night! \n8. __Check out the Library of Congress:__ Here in the largest library in the world, visitors can tour through and see special exhibits, lectures, and shop for souvenirs. \n9. __Tour the National Zoological Park:__ Make it a family day! The Smithsonian National Zoo is one of DC’s most popular tourist destinations, and is absolutely free! \n10. __Enjoy a performance at the Kennedy Center:__ Named after JFK, this performing arts center has over 2,000 shows and events each year. Here you can catch the opera, ballet, theatre, virtual events, and more.\n\nNow that you have an idea of the DC metro area, it’s time to dive into your wedding planning! Whether it’s personalizing your [invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper) or finding inspiration for [wedding hairstyles](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-hairstyles), Zola has everything you need all in one place. \n\nSources: [DC Courts](https://www.dccourts.gov/services/marriage-matters) | [Visit Washington DC](https://washington.org/) | [TripAdvisor](https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attractions-g28970-Activities-Washington_DC_District_of_Columbia.html) | [TripHacks DC](https://www.triphacksdc.com/)\n\n__Up Next:__ [Getting Married in Dallas](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/getting-married-in-dallas)","tag":"How-To ","updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:12.518Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"small-wedding-guest-list","title":"How to Stick to a Small Wedding Guest List","excerpt":"Make a small guest list and stick to it with these expert tips for cutting down your wedding guest list so it fits your vision and your wedding budget.","author":"McCall Minnor","publishedAt":"2020-01-08T21:01:51.975Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6w7CZwuXH4dn1TcMsmHWN5/4c483229a2bfccff6445bc91259ab86e/How-to-Stick-to-a-Small-Wedding-Guest-List.jpg","altText":"couple exits church after wedding"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"For whatever reason (budget, venue size, personal desire), you and your partner have decided to have a smaller wedding. Because of this, you need to create an intimate [wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) that fits your wants and needs. This can be tough, especially if you’re considering inviting both of your families, friend groups, and others. To avoid going overboard, here’s how to create a small guest list and stick to it.\n\n## Make your wedding adults-only.\nUnless [you have children in your family](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/include-your-kids-in-wedding) or life that you’re very close to, make your wedding kid-free. While some venues and caterers offer kids’ food and drinks at a reduced rate to help save money, you still have to factor children into your final headcount. For some large families, keeping the kids at home can make all the difference.\n\nIf you feel bad implementing this rule, offer to invite kids to your engagement party or rehearsal dinner. You can also organize and hire a babysitter to watch the kids at the hotel or a family member’s house during the wedding. \n\nThat said, if you go kid-free, you have to go totally kid-free. You can’t allow one guest to bring their children, but not another. Favoritism can cause unneeded grudges and hurt feelings. If you’re setting this rule, stick with it. \n\n![INLINE CoralBeePhotography 1080x720 Gabrielle&Michael](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/dBCRDnHNiNgMHrpPBSDmE/cf60990ac13fe49e3a9d28f0804190ba/INLINE_CoralBeePhotography_1080x720_Gabrielle_Michael.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Coral Bee Photography\n\n## Limit plus-ones.\nAn easy way to stick to a small guest list is to limit plus-ones right away. If you want to go this route, we recommend [giving plus-ones](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-soon-is-too-soon-to-ask-someone-to-be-your-1) exclusively to those loved ones in long-term relationships. Otherwise, you’re not obligated to give anyone an extra invite. \n\nThis is a super common method to keep weddings small and/or to keep costs low. If an intimate ceremony is what you’re after, this is an easy way to accomplish that. Be prepared for potential pushback—some guests may either request a plus-one or ask why they can’t bring one. Stick to your guns and kindly explain the situation (if you feel comfortable)—it was a space issue, a financial one, or simply your preference. \n\n## Only invite immediate family members.\nMany couples invite their immediate family plus much of their extended family (on both sides) to their wedding. However, consider how many branches there are in your family tree. If you’re dreaming of a smaller celebration but come from a larger-than-average family, you may need to do some reconsidering, especially if you’d also like to include some friends.\n\nWhen it comes to family, it’s not out of the question to cut things off after first aunts, uncles, and cousins. If you’re going really small, then keep it to your parents, siblings, and grandparents. Don’t feel the need to invite your distant third cousin—yes, even [if they invited you their wedding years ago](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invited-to-friends-wedding-invite-them-to-ours). \n\nIn fact, don’t feel the need to invite any family you’re not close with. Sure, talk may spread a bit, but it is what it is. You have to stand your ground and trust that they’ll be understanding.\n\n## Keep it to your close friend circle.\nIn that same vein, co-workers, old acquaintances, and friends-of-friends you sometimes see when you go out don’t need spots on your intimate list. Again, you might feel the need to invite an old friend simply because you attended their wedding at one point. Don’t. The important thing to think about here is your current relationship with them. If you’ve since lost touch or had a falling out, they [don’t require a spot on your wedding guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding).\n\nIf you’re lost on what to do, ask yourself two simple questions: Will not inviting them negatively impact your friendship? Do you care? If yes, put them on a B-list to reconsider once you’ve solidified the rest of your list. If no, don’t add them at all.\n\n![INLINE StudioOpia 1080x720 Ada&Jay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/555u8zrHkR66zmTtdOTeZV/72937856436c462403a3649c4ba0489f/INLINE_StudioOpia_1080x720_Ada_Jay.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Studio Opia\n\n## Keep your final list private.\nOnce you finalize your guest list, keep it between you and your partner. Sharing with family and friends often leads to many what abouts, especially if your list is small. However, if you do end up showing someone (parents, in-laws, etc.), be sure to set boundaries. Let them know that, after thinking long and hard, your list is final. They probably have an idea of who they’d like to see at your wedding, but if you’re clear about wanting a small wedding, they should respect that. \n\nThe only exception is if your parents or future in-laws are contributing to (or footing) the bill. In this case, you may want to limit them to a certain number of people they can invite. Everybody wins—they can invite friends or distant family members and you don’t have to worry about hosting their entire circle.\n\n## Try not to overthink anyone’s reaction.\nIn the end, you’re not obligated to invite anyone. If you’re not absolutely thrilled at the thought of someone being a part of your wedding day, they don’t need to be there. Besides, if you’re not exactly close, chances are they won’t be too offended by it.\n\nAt the same time, it’s [considerate to reach out](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-to-friends-werent-invited-to-wedding) to anyone who ends up feeling snubbed. Reassure them that it’s nothing personal—you just have a budget or venue capacity to keep in mind. Sticking to a small wedding guest list may seem uncomfortable or difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. You can approach the situation and your loved ones with poise and explain your preferences. Simple as that. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Weddings are celebrations and things can get out of hand. 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Continue reading to find out.","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-09-29T09:08:07.021Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5yx6jc1aSNGoZC8KTbjzjL/a21276b5eae978e8e0c4b1a270d07cf6/Hero_OhioFallWeddingatTheBallroomatParkLane_RossKykerPhotography.jpg","altText":"Does the Mother of the Groom Give a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner?"},"heroCredit":"Ross Kyker Photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- The rehearsal dinner is usually hosted by the groom’s parents, and it gives the engaged couple a chance to spend time with their inner circle before the wedding day. \n- The mother of the groom can give a speech or just a toast at the rehearsal dinner, as she is one of the hosts of the event. \n- There are some details that a speech should include, such as special memories, stories about the couple, and of course, the toast. \n- Anyone, including the maid of honor, best man, wedding party members, and even grandma and grandpa, can give a speech at the wedding rehearsal, as long as it’s what the couple wants.","body":"Before the wedding day, there’s a wedding ceremony rehearsal followed by the rehearsal dinner. It’s the last party before the kick-off of your wedding festivities. Your most [important guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-to-invite-to-a-rehearsal-dinner) are there, including your families and the wedding party.\n\nThe idea of a rehearsal dinner is to celebrate in a more intimate setting with loved ones before the big day. It gives families a chance to mingle and get to know each other better. The rehearsal dinner is also where the groom’s parents can take an active part in the celebration. But, which parent should give the wedding rehearsal dinner toast or wedding speech? Zola is here to help, with everything you need to know.\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\n- Part 1: [Who Gives a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-the-mother-of-the-groom-give-a-speech-at-the-rehearsal-dinner#1)?\n- Part 2: [What Should the Speech Include](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-the-mother-of-the-groom-give-a-speech-at-the-rehearsal-dinner#2)?\n- Part 3: [Rehearsal Dinner Toast Tips](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-the-mother-of-the-groom-give-a-speech-at-the-rehearsal-dinner#3)\n- Part 4: [Who Else Should Give a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/does-the-mother-of-the-groom-give-a-speech-at-the-rehearsal-dinner#4)?\n\n## Does It Really Matter Who Gives the Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner?\n\nAs far as wedding traditions go, rehearsal dinner speeches and toasts are some of the most memorable moments. The people you love take the mic to share heartfelt sentiments to get you started on your new life together. Every marrying couple’s situation and family dynamics are different, so the groom’s mother can absolutely give a speech at the rehearsal dinner, if that’s what you want. The modern mother of the groom is taking a more active role in wedding activities more than ever before. Keep reading to find out the ins and outs of giving the speech at the rehearsal dinner. \n\n## Who Gives a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner? \n\nAccording to tradition, the parents of the groom speak at rehearsal dinner. This is largely due to the tradition that the groom’s parents host the rehearsal dinner, while the bride’s parents host the wedding. It allows for both sets of parents to have an opportunity to speak, since they are splitting some wedding-related costs. However, modern couples may opt to take on the financial aspect of the rehearsal dinner so that they can decide who will give the speeches. \n\n- __Who Speaks First?__ The rehearsal dinner hosts will usually speak first during the rehearsal dinner. That’s the opportunity for the groom’s parents to grab the mic. During the speech, they will welcome everyone and give their speech. \n\nTraditionally, it’s the groom’s father, but it’s perfectly fine to let mom say a few words. Family dynamics are different, and, perhaps, the father of the groom is deceased or estranged, so the mother of the groom can step in to give the first speech of the evening. Members of the wedding party, family, close friends, and other wedding guests that won’t be speaking at the reception can also give their speeches at the rehearsal dinner, if there’s an open mic. \n\n- __Time Limit.__ Rehearsal dinners aren’t as formal, as it’s a smaller, more intimate group, so the wedding rehearsal dinner speech can be prepared ahead of time, or given spontaneously and in the spirit of the moment. The rehearsal dinner is the time for roasts instead of toasts, if there’s more lighthearted fun to be had. If you prefer a more formal rehearsal dinner, speeches can be planned in advance, but be sure to share [time limits](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-long-should-a-rehearsal-dinner-be) and a schedule with those that will be speaking. A good rule of thumb is to allow the hosts to have 10 minutes, while everyone else should have five minutes or less to speak. \n\n## What Should the Speech Include? \n\nA [rehearsal dinner speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-rehearsal-dinner-speech) that will tug at the heartstrings and inspire will include some of the same elements as a wedding reception speech. \n\n- __Get Introduced.__ If there’s a DJ or someone that can handle introduction duties, it’s best to let them introduce the speaker. That way, you can avoid having to use a knife to clink against a wine glass, and clearing your throat to get everyone’s attention. If there’s no master of ceremonies, then have the speakers do a short and sweet introduction before launching into their speech. \n\n- __Use Storytelling to Your Advantage.__ The goal of any wedding rehearsal dinner speech is to talk about how much the happy couple means to the speaker. It’s the opportunity for the speaker to give an inside look at the bride or groom through their eyes, plus tell a narrative that displays their traits and values—or share a funny story or inside joke. \n\n- __Talk Directly to the Couple.__ The mother of the groom can give an emotion-fueled speech, but make sure to address the bride and groom directly since they are the ones being honored.\n\n## Rehearsal Dinner Toast Tips \n\nThere’s no need to wrap up the speech with a long, drawn out anecdote, but rather a simple, “Let’s raise a glass to the couple,” and include well wishes that tie back to what was in the speech. \n\n- __Hire a Wedding Speechwriter.__ Writing a speech ahead of time can be time-consuming, and with time constraints, it may be challenging to put everything you want into a 10-minute speech. Depending upon how soon you want to start on the speech, it’s best to hire a speechwriter months in advance, not wait until a couple of weeks before the wedding festivities kick off. \n\n- __Find a Template Online.__ Speakers can Google a template to help get them started, but it’s best to just use that as a starting point, otherwise your toast and speech could come off emotionless like you’re reading a script. Find the emotional connection and memories to include in your speech. Finding a template online that asks questions for the \n\n- __Read Off Your Phone or Note Cards.__ Coming off relaxed and speaking straight from the heart helps to make the best rehearsal dinner speeches and toasts. If reading off note cards makes you feel like you’re giving a presentation, then use your phone as a guide. Don’t keep your head down and get lost in what you wrote. Rather, continue to make eye contact every few lines. \n\n- __Don’t Hold Your Glass.__ It’s tempting to want to clutch your wine glass while speaking to the bride and groom, but it will be a bit of a distraction. If you’re already holding the mic and your notes, then it may be hard to juggle. Set the glass on the table, or give it to someone to hold.\n\n- __Pick Your Glass Back Up for the Toast.__ Your glass doesn’t have to be filled with wine, rather it can be filled with water. However, when you get ready to wrap the toast, have your glass in your hand, and actually take a sip after you toast—it’s like sealing the deal! \n\n## Part 4: Who Else Should Give a Speech at the Rehearsal Dinner? \n\nThe number of people that give a speech or toast during the rehearsal dinner is totally up to you as the couple. But, traditionally, in addition to the groom’s mother and father, there are a few that are expected to say a few words. \n\n- __The Maid of Honor and Best Man.__ Typically, the maid of honor and the best man would save their speeches for the main event, but if they want to share some sentiments at the rehearsal dinner in good natured fun, they can follow the groom’s parents. Perhaps they can share a few tidbits that didn’t make the cut for the wedding reception speeches. \n\n- __The Bride and Groom.__ This is probably the best time to thank your circle for the amount of time, money, and support they have given to you both during the wedding planning process. Giving out any gifts to the wedding party would also be done at the rehearsal dinner as a way to thank them. \n\n- __The Wedding Party.__ This is the prime opportunity for the wedding party to say a few words. Reach out in advance to see if anyone is interested in public speaking or giving a toast. Encourage them that speaking isn’t mandatory, but they can share a memory, story, or simply express well-wishes. \n\n- __Other Family Members.__ If your grandparents are there, allow them to say a few words if they are up to the task. This would also be the time where maybe a sibling or even a close cousin may want to share some fun stories of the couple. \n\nUltimately, the decision of whom gives a toast during your rehearsal dinner is yours—and whether or not it’ll be an open mic situation. After all, it’s celebrating you and your upcoming wedding.\n\nFor more on the [wedding planning process](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding), [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) is here to help.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:10.452Z"}],"pagination":{"currentPage":8,"total":163},"subtopic":{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"From birdcage to ballet, there is an abundance of options when it comes to your wedding veil. 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","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","tag":"Getting Started","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. 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","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"You want to include everyone in your wedding party, but you know you can't. If you're having a hard time deciding who and how many, here's exactly how to figure out how many people should be in your wedding party.","title":"How Many People Should Be In Our Wedding Party?","slug":"how-many-people-in-wedding-party","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Advice","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7jGh076UPkB6vrSPqXfSJP/10ec5e0e7e761f53fba669a78fa0273b/How-Many-People-Should-Be-Our-In-Wedding-Party_CapturedCoutureLLC.jpg","altText":"indian couple gets married with wedding party"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Explore creative ideas to plan the perfect bachelorette party weekend. 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","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Through the years, they’ve been overloaded with inspiration from the constant stream of their social media feeds, not to mention the 10-plus weddings couples say they’ve attended, on average, over the past two years alone.\n\nWith so much noise, it’d be easy for these couples to feel overwhelmed and stressed, and to some degree they are. But these couples are also enjoying the wedding planning process. Here’s a look at what Gen Z, Millennials, and Zillennials ranked as their favorite parts of wedding planning, according to [Zola’s 2023 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023). \n\n## Couples' Favorite Wedding Planning Moments Ranked\n\n### 1. Getting Engaged \nWhether it was an over-the-top romantic gesture or an intimate moment, 39.57% of couples say getting engaged has been their favorite part of wedding planning. It makes sense, too—it’s the kickoff to the main event.\n\n### 2. Feeling Done With All of the Planning \nWhether they hired a planner or did all the planning themselves, 29.43% of couples were happy when the planning stage was over—they considered the milestone a huge stress reliever. What’s more, it was an exciting time, since all that remained ahead was the fun of walking down the aisle, tying the knot, and celebrating with your loved ones.\n\n### 3. Saying “Yes” to Wedding Attire\nSaying “yes” to the dress—and the entire wedding party attire, for that matter—is a sigh of relief for most couples. It’s stressful looking for the perfect attire to complement the wedding theme and venue, not to mention there are pictures to think about. 31.23% of Zillennials were relieved once they found the perfect wedding attire. Gen Z was right behind them with 30.96% of couples agreeing. \n\n### 4. The Engagement Photoshoot\nEngagement photos are a rite of passage before sailing into the rest of the pre-wedding festivities. While the session isn’t a must do, the resulting photos are something to cherish forever, so for 31.67% of Gen Z couples, it ranks high on their list of the best parts of wedding planning; only 22.14% of Millennial couples agreed.\n\n### 5. Sharing the News With Family & Friends\nIt’s exciting to share your engagement news with your loved ones, whether it’s in person, via text, or even social media. Couples even get creative with how they announce the news.\n\n### 6. Food Tasting\nFor about 15.82% of couples, food tasting is one of the most fun and memorable parts of the whole wedding planning process. A wedding tasting is when couples taste the menu items with the caterer for the reception, and it’s usually done weeks or even months ahead of time to allow for adjustments for the finalized menu.\n\n### 7. Choosing the Venue\nDestination wedding, beach wedding, farm wedding, or even a ballroom wedding, no matter the location, choosing a venue is a fun part of wedding planning. The venue is the backdrop for the entire wedding day, from the budget to the wedding attire.\n\n### 8. Picking Out Wedding Decor (Flowers, Balloons, Etc.)\nWeddings are all about highlighting who you are as a couple and your personal style. 16.37% of Gen Z couples thought this was the best part of wedding planning, while 11.21% of Millennials, and 14.44% of Zillennials agreed that picking out and/or designing the wedding decor is something they enjoyed.\n\n### 9. Practicing the First Dance\nThe first dance is your premiere as a married couple, so practicing ahead of time will help you shine. Some opt for dance lessons, others choose to practice at home, but no matter how you plan to two step, the first dance allows you to kick off the reception and open the dance floor to your guests. For 12.02% of all couples, this is one of the best parts of wedding planning.\n\n### 10. Getting the Marriage License\nThings start to feel really real once you have the official marriage license in hand. It’s a must-have before the wedding. Depending upon the state you live in, couples only have a couple of months to get married after obtaining the license.\n\n### 11. Creating a Playlist\nEvery couple’s wedding soundtrack is different, and that’s where the fun comes in. From up-tempo songs to romantic ballads, you get to be the DJ. 13.91% of Zillennials were ready to get the party started by creating the playlist, while 7.83% of Gen Z couples said this task was the best part of wedding planning. \n\n### 12. Cake/Dessert Tasting\nCake and dessert tasting is a little more involved than just spending a couple hours eating cake and combining frosting and cake to create the perfect accent to your wedding day. You’ll need to be able to provide logistics, budget, and even the appearance of the cake. Will there be a dessert table? What kinds of desserts will you put there? Some couples love this part of the process, but in the survey, only a total of 7.95% of couples enjoyed this part of the planning. \n\n### 13. Designing Save-the-Dates or Invites\nDesigning the stationary is another way to show off your style as a couple. Save-the-dates are less formal than wedding invitations and don’t have to match each other or the wedding theme. They go out early enough that you can change your design when it comes to the wedding invitations. 7.79% of couples surveyed said this was one of the best parts of wedding planning. \n\n### 14. Putting Invites in the Mail\nOnce the envelopes are stuffed, addressed, and posted, your wedding invites are ready to be sent out. Putting them in the mail will give you and your future spouse peace of mind once your invites start their journey to guests' mailboxes.\n\n### 15. Registering\nBrainstorming unique wedding registry gifts as a couple can be one of the most fun parts of the wedding planning process. It’s where you find gifts to start your new life together, and you can create your registry right here on [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry). \n\n### 16. Getting the First RSVP\nYou’ve mailed out the invitations, now it’s a waiting game until the RSVPs start rolling in. Receiving the first RSVP can be exciting, and 6.80% of couples surveyed said this was one of the best parts of the wedding planning process.\n\n### 17. Creating a Wedding Website\nDeciding what should go on your wedding website can be a fun part of the wedding planning process. Consider adding all the wedding details guests may call you about, like accommodations, dress code, directions, registry, and more. A custom wedding website allows you to include everything you couldn’t put on the save-the-date or wedding invitations. You can create a custom wedding website right here on [Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) within minutes. You can even add photos, share your registry, and let guests RSVP online. \n\n### 18. Picking a Date\nAvailability of your venue can determine if you get your dream wedding date, but when you finally nail down the date, the wedding planning ball starts rolling faster. 5.32% of couples say picking the wedding date is the best part of the wedding planning process. Some couples pick dates that are symbolic, others pick a date that a venue has available. \n\n### 19. Practicing the First Kiss\nYou don’t want an awkward moment after you’ve said your vows in front of everyone. Just like you would practice your first dance, practice the first kiss to avoid any fumbling or bumping heads when the moment comes. \n\n### 20. Posting About the News on Social Media\nIt’s exciting to share your engagement news with thousands of your social media friends, but only 3.36% of couples thought that sharing the news on social media was one of the best parts of wedding planning. \n\n### 21. Getting the First Wedding Gift\nReceiving the first wedding gift is an exciting prelude to the wedding day, but only 2.74% of couples found this to be the part of the wedding planning process. \n\n### 22. A Special Cultural Moment\nWhether it’s sticking to the traditional something borrowed or incorporating a cultural moment like jumping the broom, this moment is bound to have a special place in your heart and the memories you’ll cherish forever. \n\n### 23. Creating a Budget \nHow much can you comfortably afford to spend? Money can be a tension trigger, so it’s important to have that honest and open conversation about everything from the wedding size, number of invited guests, catering, and more. This was the least favorite thing for couples—only .99% found it as the best part of the wedding planning process. \n\nCouples love the start of the journey—“getting engaged” is the overwhelmingly favored wedding moment for couples of all ages. Next on the list? Being done with all of the planning. But that doesn’t mean there’s not moments of fun to be had along the way. Couples are learning that planning a wedding is about more than just the wedding day. From picking out a venue to choosing attire, there are many days along the way that couples can enjoy.","tag":"List","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Zola’s annual guide to wedding trends and budgets. Here's what's new in 2023...","title":"The First Look Report 2023","slug":"the-first-look-report-2023","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2zcJgr4dnJctFWU9OddY94/3cbc6c57a171d66cd58708ec901913cd/1116_EA_FLR-Main_FLR_Report.jpg","altText":"The First Look Report 2023 Hero"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"It takes a village to plan a wedding, so there’s no shame in asking for support in whatever form you may need it. 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Find weddings similar to what you're planning and get inspired by these weddings across a varitey of locations and budgets."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Creating a budget","slug":"creating-a-budget"},"slug":"whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding","title":"How much does the average wedding cost in 2025?","excerpt":"Stay within your wedding budget! See average wedding cost breakdowns by state, guest size, and vendor service, plus money-saving tips from the experts.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2025-04-15T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/25FItUWv901zAj6EyEJu4B/fe6ac2437279c146282875bd93e98921/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_header.jpg","altText":"How Much Do Weddings Cost in 2025 Graphic"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"Nothing can dull your excitement at planning your wedding right now. Until you start telling family and friends. And they start dropping those scary figures on you.\n\nPrices for weddings might be on the up, but that doesn’t mean you have to break the bank when walking down the aisle with your other half. So, how much does a wedding cost in 2025? We’ve got you, complete with a full breakdown of state-by-state and expense-by-expense average wedding costs.\n\nWant to keep track of your wedding budget? [Try our free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n## How much do weddings cost in 2025? \n\nThe [average wedding expense](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) for couples getting married in 2025 totals around $36,000, up slightly from $33,000 in 2024 and $29,000 in 2023. The most expensive state to get married in is New Jersey with an average cost of $57,706, closely followed by New York with an average cost of $53,873. Meanwhile the most expensive place in the country to get married is Washington D.C., where the cost skyrockets to on average $70,625. The least expensive state to get married in is Alaska with an average cost of only $12,500, followed by Nebraska with an average cost of $17,727.\n\n## How expensive are weddings really? \n\nEstimating the average cost of a wedding is both art and science. It’s important to keep in mind that average wedding costs are just that — averages. While helpful, a wedding budget doesn’t need to follow any set amount. While some people spend $100,000 on a wedding and the average is $36,000, plenty of couples spend $10,000 or even $5,000 or less. In fact, 20% of 2025 couples still plan to spend $15,000 or less. \n\nAverage wedding costs vary for several reasons: the number of guests, location, day of the week, and even the seasonality of food served and flowers displayed. It helps to picture the day and think about what matters most to the two of you. Think of the wedding budget in pieces and priorities, rather than imagining the whole thing at once.\n\nYou don’t have to spend at the high end of the range.\n\n## Which wedding expenses cost the most? \n\nOn average, the most expensive wedding expenses are the wedding venue ($6,500–$12,000), the catering ($6,500–$10,000), the band or DJ ($2,000–$7,000), and the photographer ($3,500–$6,500). The cheapest wedding expenses tend to be the cake, the ceremony music, and the hair and makeup services.\n\n### Average wedding cost per service in 2025\n\nOnce you nail down the major requirements — where, when, and who — you’re ready to start talking to [vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and decide how much to spend on each service. Your vendors can help you make budget-conscious decisions, such as selecting food and flowers that are in season or recycling ceremony decor for the reception. \n\nWhile you might not be able to splurge on every [checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) item, what’s important is that your wedding still feels like a reflection of your relationship and future together.\n\nTo help you and your soon-to-be spouse plan ahead, here are the national average wedding expenses for services in 2024, based on a total budget of around $33,000 and a guest list of 100 people:\n\n### How much does a wedding cost, expense by expense?\n\n- Wedding venue: $6,500-$12,000\n\n- Catering: $6,500-$10,000 \n\n- Band or DJ: $2,000-$7000\n\n- Wedding planner: $1,500–$4,750\n\n- Photographer: $3,500–$6,500\n\n- Videographer: $3,000–$6,000\n\n- Flowers: $2,500–$6,000\n\n- Transportation: $700–$1,200\n\n- Cake: $600–$900\n\n- Ceremony music: $500–$800\n\n- Hair and makeup: $550–$850\n\n## Average wedding cost by state in 2025\nHere’s a complete breakdown of more than 4,000 couples and their projected average spending on [weddings in 2025 by state](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-budget-diaries).\n\n![Average Cost By State](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2nBt9NQBkVhJl5lYmn9Ca0/b57f881ab814972e96b2a0f70608fb8e/0401_Average_cost_wedding_stats_state.jpg)\n\n## What does the average wedding cost by number of guests?\n\nZeroing in on your [estimated number of guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding) and the size of your wedding party early on in the wedding planning process helps when evaluating everything from venue size to catering.\n\nIf you’re unsure how many people you'll invite, our team found the average wedding guest list in 2025 is 136 people (which is pretty similar to last year’s 145 people), and about 75% of guests usually RSVP yes.\n\nThis is a good starting point for budget conversations if you’re unsure where to begin when it comes to the cost of weddings. Have open and honest discussions with vendors about how your guest count may impact the pricing of their services, such as how the price of fifteen table centerpieces might differ from the price of ten.\n\nSome wedding cost line items, like photography, are less dependent on guest count and more on other factors, such as services provided and time. But other line items, such as catering and decor, are greatly impacted by the size of the wedding.\n\nVendors are there to support you and help you get the information you need to make decisions, after all!\n\nAs with all things, the average cost per person for a wedding has a lot of variables. But we can derive some [data](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2025) based on the size of your guest list.\n\n### Average wedding cost by guest size in 2025\n\n- 500+ guests: $106,250\n\n- 200-300 guests: $43,231\n\n- 150–200 guests: $45,693\n\n- 100–150 guests: $33,957\n\n- 75–100 guests: $27,361\n\n- 50–75 guests: $21,572\n\n- 30-50 guests: $18,054\n\n- 10-30 guests: $14,912\n\n- Fewer than 10 guests: $15,667","body2":"## Average wedding cost in the largest metro areas\n\nYes, big-city weddings often come with higher price tags than weddings in rural areas. Still, for the possible tradeoff of some budget items, you can get the urban sophistication of a New York City, Houston, Phoenix, or other metro area wedding. \n\nMetro areas are also travel hubs, meaning they’re accessible and offer cheaper flights and accommodations than remote locations. It’s all about what matters to you.\n\nYou’ll have to balance out your wants with your needs of sticking to a budget and [reducing the guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/small-wedding-guest-list).\n\n### How much do weddings cost on average in 2025, in the largest American metros?\n\n![Average Cost By Metro Area](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/gQ638m6aNUT0P1G2dwUsN/f62bc4578c86e90ecc122c11a821ce08/0401_Average_cost_wedding_statsmetro.jpg)\n\n## How couples are paying for their weddings \n\nThe most important thing to remember is that an amazing wedding can happen on any budget, and along with your team of vendors, Zola is here to guide you along every part of the journey. And there is more than one way to pay for a wedding. Today, the majority of couples contribute to their wedding expenses in some way, and we’ve found that in 2025:\n\n- 31% will utilize credit cards\n- 49% have saved for years to prepare\n- 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs, which is double the percentage as 2024 \n\nSo remember that, although the average budget for weddings may seem pretty high, there are many ways to finance your big day!\n\n### 6 ways to save money on your wedding\n\nWith so many considerations, it helps to start with a wedding budget breakdown. Here you’ll decide what you want to spend in specific categories or what dollar amount you’d earmark for expenditures. To help get you started, we’ve got six tips to help save money on your big day.\n\n1. Zola’s budget tool\n\nCouples told us they wanted an easy way to track their budget… so we created one! It’s simple to use. In [Zola’s wedding budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget), enter your maximum budget and how much you plan to spend on everything from your venue to your videographer. Our handy tool helps you keep tabs on your spending, get payment reminders, and see expert tips on budgeting.\n\n2. Decide what’s most important\n\nEvery couple's “dream” vision is different. For most, the priority is having all of their loved ones in attendance, and often other details fall into place. Sit down as partners and decide on the top three must-haves and go from there, whether it be a live band, top-shelf open bar, videographer, or an unforgettable meal. There are no wrong answers.\n\n3. Explore Zola’s wedding planning tools and expert advice guides\n\nExplore the rest of our [Expert Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) articles covering even more tips and tricks on everything from wedding dresses to honeymoon planning to gift registry. After prioritizing the essential pieces of your big day, search Zola for [wedding vendors and venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search) based on price and other factors.\n\n4. Send digital save-the-dates\n\nSending digital save-the-dates is an easy way to save. Zola’s [digital save-the-dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop) are completely free! If the cost of the average wedding looks a little scary, remember there are lots of little ways like this to save money.\n\n5. Thrift wedding attire\n\nUpcycling and thrifting have become second nature for many people in their everyday lives, but shopping secondhand is also a great way to save on wedding attire and decor. After all, doesn’t everyone need to find their perfect [something borrowed](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/7-something-borrowed-ideas)?\n\n6. Include cash funds in your registry\n\nThe vast majority of couples today — 87% — add [personalized cash funds](https://www.zola.com/shop/honeymoon-cash-funds) to their registry. And, like we mentioned above, 32% are including cash funds on their registries to cover wedding costs. Not only does this help the happy couple start their life together, but it also helps them afford other major expenses — the dream home, a home renovation, or a future family.\n\n__Let Zola take the stress out of wedding planning__\n\nYour wedding day should be one of the best days of your life, and budget stress shouldn't take away from that. The average wedding cost breakdown figures above are averages, and planning your big day comes down to prioritization and must-haves.\n\nFor budget tools and everything else you need for your big day, Zola is here to help. 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We’ll break down the typical expenses, guide you through the entire process from start to finish, and tell you where you can save money. ","publishedAt":"2024-10-02T08:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XhGxWHyRGrUPWWVgkBzic/91d8435955228875ec57fdf5f974f5bc/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"Green/bluescale image of jar of money tipped over with change spilling out"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"__Inside this Article:__\n\n- What is a good budget for a wedding?\n- What is a realistic wedding budget?\n- Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips\n- Things to consider when setting your wedding budget\n- Wedding budget mistakes to avoid\n- Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting","body":"When you’re enjoying being [newly engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice/newly-engaged-couples), the last thing you want to think about is your wedding budget. In fact, almost half of all [Zola couples report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) that setting and sticking to a budget was the most stressful part of wedding planning. \n\nWe can’t promise you a completely stress-free experience leading up to your wedding day. However, we can help you avoid financial headaches as much as possible by tackling one of the most confusing questions for many couples: how to set your wedding budget. And Zola has answers.\n\n## What is a good budget for a wedding? \n\nThe [average wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-the-average-cost-of-a-wedding#) is $30,000. If that seems high, don’t panic. There are hundreds of ways to whittle that cost down to size. Plus, some people who have micro-weddings spend as little as $500 on their wedding and still enjoy a picture-perfect day. The cost of your wedding day is really up to you. \n\n## What is a realistic wedding budget? \n\nDetermining how much to spend on each part of your wedding costs isn’t exactly simple, as wedding costs vary by location and time of year. That said, there are a few straightforward steps you can take to help you get.\n\nMany couples ask, \"Is $10,000 a good wedding budget?\" The answer is: It depends. If you're having a backyard wedding with simple florals and catering, that amount is feasible. However, if you want to get married at an upscale hotel or winery, some wedding venues charge $10,000 just for rental. \n\nA realistic wedding budget is one that works for you and your partner, the size of your guest list, and the type of big day you envision.\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Easily set and keep track of your wedding budget from anywhere: try Zola’s [free budget tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) with payment reminders and tips on how much to spend.\n\n![Wedding Couple Bride Groom](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ygQJ8Ljpvvun4siEqtyEX/63898622d16e45e9fb6fbf75feaad09c/Wedding_Couple_Bride_Groom.jpg) Photo by [Trulove Studios](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/jerrell-trulove-photography)\n\n## Wedding budget breakdown and cost-saving tips \n\nIt’s important to note that wedding expenses and wedding budgets are extremely individual—it’s part of what makes researching all things ‘wedding budget’ so frustrating. Here’s how most couples divide up their wedding budget breakdown. (Note that this totals over 100%, as not everyone will include every category in their wedding expenses).\n\n### Wedding venue: 24% \n\nWhat is the biggest expense in a wedding? Typically the venue, but you can save money on your venue a few different ways:\n\n- __Choose off-peak days and times.__ Saturday is the most popular day of the week for weddings and therefore almost always the most expensive. Consider a Friday evening or Sunday or, if it won’t wreck plans for your nearest and dearest, another weekday. \n- __Consider less popular seasons.__ This depends on where in the world you’re planning on tying the knot. Generally, winter months are more affordable than summer months. \n- __Look for all-inclusive packages.__ Particularly if you’re having a destination wedding, some wedding venues will offer [all-inclusive packages](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/all-inclusive-wedding-venues-pros-and-cons). Generally, this includes food and drink packages which can help save costs on a big expense. \n\nFind the [perfect wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues) on Zola’s marketplace.\n\n### Catering: 18%\n\nThe easiest avenue to saving money on your catering is to opt for a buffet rather than a sit-down meal. You can also look into a morning or afternoon wedding, as brunch, breakfast, or lunch packages tend to be cheaper (and less alcohol-focused!) than late afternoon or evening weddings. Your guest list size will also be a factor. You’ll need more food for a 100-person wedding versus one with only 20. \n\nSearch for a [caterer that fits your wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering) on Zola.\n\n### Photography: 7%\n\nWe’ll be honest: if there’s one area you shouldn’t skimp on when wedding planning, it’s your photography. After all, there’s nothing more crushing than looking back at photos from your special day that aren’t up to scratch. However, if you’re looking to cut costs, see if anyone in your personal network can offer a reduced photography fee as a wedding present to you and your partner. \n\nFind [professional wedding photographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers).\n\n### Videography: 5%\n\nNot every couple includes videography in their wedding planning budget. If you’re trying to cut costs, leave this one out altogether. Or, see if you can find a student or amateur videographer (as long as you’ve got photography from a pro!)\n\nSeach your area for qualified [videographers on Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers).\n\n### Flowers: 8%\n\nYou’ll need to be strategic if you’re hoping to restrict your wedding budget with your flowers. A few of the best ways include choosing seasonal blooms, bulking out your bouquets with greenery and foliage, choosing single-bloom bouquets, and looking for local or wholesale florists. You can also just opt for artificial flowers if you’re on a tight wedding budget. \n\n[Find florists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) within your budget on our marketplace.\n\n![Floral Ceremony Ring](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6Jjd5WN7eWGMYYa4oWt7q0/141d2678e1f8dcbce518df5dcc76bd1a/Floral_Ceremony_Ring.jpg) Photo via [Belle of the Ball Designs\n](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists/belle-of-the-ball-designs)\n### Entertainment: 9%\n\nChoose a band or DJ rather than both. Or, to cut costs even more, ask someone musically-minded in your network to put together a wedding soundtrack that you can play yourself. If you know you want some kind of live entertainment, limit the hours they’ll play, book far in advance, and consider local artists who won’t have to charge transport fees. \n\n[Choose a band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) from Zola’s list of vendors.\n\n### Hair and makeup: 2%\n\nOne of the best ways to save money on your hair and makeup? Do them yourself or enlist a friend’s help. If you’re looking for pro support, look into beauty schools (students are often super talented and have a great range of tools) or look for mobile stylists. When it comes to the actual work, choose simple styles rather than overly elaborate designs. \n\n[Find hair and makeup stylists](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) within your budget on Zola.\n\n### Cake and/or dessert: 2%\n\nFor starters, opt for something fun like a donut wall or dessert bar rather than a sit-down dessert. Cakes with fewer layers tend to be less expensive than those with multiple tiers. Buttercream is cheaper than fondant, and common flavors are usually cheaper and more accessible than unique ingredients. The “naked cake” trend is another popular way to save money here. \n\nSearch for [cake and dessert bakers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/florida--wedding-cakes-desserts) here. \n\n### Officiant: 1%\n\nIf you have a close friend or family member who's comfortable speaking in public, you could ask them to officiate your wedding. In many places, they can become ordained online for free or at low cost, although you'll want to check local and state laws first. \n\nSome couples choose to have a simple civil ceremony at the courthouse or city hall. The fees for these services are usually a fair bit lower than hiring a separate officiant.\n\n### Stationery: 3%\n\nThe easiest way to save money on your wedding stationery (save the dates, wedding invitations, thank you cards) is to go digital, and Zola has several [digital wedding stationery options](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/digital/save-the-date/shop). If that’s not to your taste, opt for standard-size envelopes, print in bulk, design the stationery yourself (check out our popular [DIY wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/afe11498-7506-4d03-b30f-d7a024c91afa)), and use simple designs that don’t require fancy embellishments. \n\n![Wedding Stationery Flatlay](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/54AYbXAzPqPLxPrm7OmPVw/3a64000eced02331b2affdc2f2ba9115/Wedding_Stationery_Flatlay.jpg) Photo by [Candace Shiflet Photo](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/candace-shiflet-photo)\n\n### Wedding attire: 7%\n\nDon’t feel like you have to spend thousands on a wedding outfit for your special day. David's Bridal, Lulus, ASOS, and Azazie all offer great options at lower prices. You can also consider renting your [wedding dress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/fashion-beauty/wedding-dresses) from brands like Rent the Runway. \n\nWhen it comes to [accessories](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop-accessories), skip the bridal stores and head straight to your favorite fashion brands. Look for white (or your chosen color) accessories without the wedding mark-up. \n\n### Wedding planner: 6%\n\nA wedding planner is totally optional. But if you’re prioritizing one in your wedding budget, consider a “day of” or a \"month of” planner rather than full-service wedding planning. We’ve got you covered with everything you need to know when it comes to [choosing a wedding planner in this article](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-planner). \n\n### Rentals: 5%\n\nYou’ve already ticked the budget-friendly box by renting rather than buying certain elements of your wedding. There are rental options for pretty much anything you might need for your wedding besides edible items. From vintage tableware and lounge seating to attire and silk florals, you can rent just about anything nowadays.\n\n### Transportation: 2%\n\nWhile no one expects you to hop on the bus to your wedding venue, there are still a few easy ways you can cut costs. Instead of renting multiple vehicles, consider using a single, larger vehicle for the bridal party or immediate family. \n\nOr, if you’ve got friends or family members with stylish cars, ask if you can borrow (or rent) their vehicle for your wedding day. If you have a large group to transport from A to B (like the ceremony venue to the reception), it's worth looking into shuttles rather than paying for individual cars. Check out our article on [wedding transportation](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-transportation-101), for more details.\n\n## Things to consider when setting your wedding budget \n\nNow you’re equipped with everything you need to know regarding saving money on your wedding, cost by cost. But don’t forget the admin side of things, too. \n\n### 1. Determine who's contributing\n\nFigure out who pays for the wedding and what each person or couple contributes. Many couples pay for the wedding themselves, while some couples’ families cover all or some of the expenses. See our guide on [who pays for the wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/who-should-pay-for-wedding#:~:text=As%20is%20often%20seen%20with,wedding%20costs%20on%20their%20own.) for a full breakdown of the best ways to broach the subject of asking for wedding budget contributions.\n\n### 2. Finalize your numbers\n\nOnce you know who is chipping in and how much they’ll be adding to the budget, it’s time to finalize your totals. \n\nTo determine your total wedding budget, add together how much each person is contributing. It sounds simple, but there are a few mistakes that some couples make during this wedding budget breakdown stage:\n\n- Assuming that family and/or friends can or will contribute without discussing it with them first.\n- Factoring in lines of credit, such as credit cards or loans, rather than creating a budget based on readily available funds like cash, savings, and income. \n\n__Pro Tip:__ Never acquire more wedding debt than you can repay within a few months.\n\n![Wedding Venue Brick Walls Indoor](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4PaVSKVnBrmjx3UPUP6Mdn/8d37f18415e75cb20e867ee7ab5b1015/Wedding_Venue_Brick_Walls_Indoor.jpg) Photo via [Melrose Knitting Mill](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues/melrose-knitting-mill)\n\n### 3. Do your research\n\nAfter you have finalized your totals, we recommend researching typical wedding costs in your wedding location to figure out how much you can expect to spend on wedding vendors specific to your area.\n\nRemember, beautiful weddings are planned on budgets of all sizes every year, so don’t get discouraged if prices are more than you initially expected. \n\nThere is always [room to negotiate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-negotiate-with-wedding-vendors).\n\n### 4. Prioritize your spending\n\nYour research should give you a sense of what to expect and will help you set your priorities for your wedding. Sit down with your partner to discuss your visions for the day and what vendors and details are most important to you both. \n\nFor example, if a packed dance floor is one of your goals, consider setting aside a larger portion of your budget for a great live band or DJ. Keep your vision in mind as you plan, and use it as a guide when deciding when to splurge and when to save.\n\nTo help set your priorities, here’s a great exercise for you and your partner to do:\n\n*Answer the questions below individually at first, then come together to discuss why you each chose your answers and to reach an agreement on your mutual priorities.*\n\n1. What is my ideal engagement length (1 year, 6 months, etc.)?\n2. What is my ideal number of guests?\n3. What is my ideal wedding location (city, state, country)?\n4. What is my ideal wedding season?\n5. What is my ideal wedding ceremony and/or wedding reception environment (indoor, beach, church, etc.)?\n6. What is my ideal wedding dress code (black tie, casual, cocktail, etc.)?\n7. What is my ideal wedding budget?\n8. What is my ideal wedding vibe (laid-back, formal, intimate, etc.)?\n9. What is my ideal wedding theme or style (glam, boho, rustic, etc.)?\n10. What are three things I want my wedding to include (lots of dancing, great food, beautiful invitations, etc.)?\n11. What vendors do I not want to go without (videographer, wedding planner, etc.)?\n12. How do I want my guests to feel at the wedding (entertained, loved, excited, etc.)?\n13. What details do I want to prioritize for the biggest portions of the wedding budget (wedding flowers such as bouquets and centerpieces, reception venue, etc.)?\n14. What details, if any, am I interested in DIYing?\n15. Who would be my ideal pick to officiate the wedding?\n16. What do I want to do for wedding favors and gifts for the wedding party?\n17. Would I prefer an open or cash bar (or something else)?\n\n## Wedding budget mistakes to avoid \n\nThe following are a handful of budgeting mistakes you should look for as you navigate budget and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/). Getting ahead of them now means you won’t have to handle them later.\n\n### Setting aside less money than needed\n\nIt’s better to save more money than you believe you’ll need than to set aside too little and think you’ll ultimately be okay. Even if you might be, certain expenses can catch you off guard up until and even through your big day. Prepare not just for what’s needed—but that and then some, just in case.\n\n### Spending money without keeping expense records\n\nIt becomes difficult to stick to a wedding budget when you aren’t vigilant about tracking expenses. When you agree to an expense or purchase something, put the total spent into your wedding records. Keep this current and reflect often on how much you’ve spent and how much wedding money you have left.\n\n![Outdoor Fall Wedding Bride and Groom Lauughing](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1i1AXczOwlbL4WGGbvVcms/3fb34efd89653312feb8a07d3c0f628f/Outdoor_Fall_Wedding_Bride_and_Groom_Lauughing.jpg) Photo by [Rock & Love Weddings](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers/rockandloveweddings)\n\n### Not considering the extras in your budget\n\nThere are a number of things you might not initially consider when creating your budget, from little things like linens, ceremony programs, and your marriage license to larger items, such as wedding attire, gratuities, and your rehearsal dinner. Up front, take the time to create an exhaustive list of everything you might spend money on to avoid overlooking anything. \n\n### Not saving for emergency purchases\n\nAlongside miscellaneous spending, you need to include an emergency purchases budget amount. This allocated money can be put toward just about anything leading up to your wedding, from forgotten and needed expenses to actual emergencies. Not accounting for this from the beginning can eventually put you in a difficult situation.\n\n### Not using any rewards program you may have access to\n\nIf possible, we highly recommend putting expenses on a rewards credit card you’re familiar with and understand. Ideally, you can put charges on this card, immediately pay them off, and then utilize the rewards points towards things like your honeymoon.\n\n## Use Zola’s calculator for budgeting \n\nIf you’re having—or anticipate having—trouble keeping track of your expenses, try using our [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget). In the Zola app, simply tap on “start budgeting.” This will take you to a fully customizable budget sheet you can update throughout your wedding planning. No stress, no mysterious expenses.\n\nNow that you know how to budget for a wedding, you may have other questions. That's where Zola's [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) section can help. From [getting engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/getting-engaged) to planning your [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/honeymoons), we have tons of advice at your fingertips. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Thousands of couples have incredible weddings every year without sacrificing on style or going over budget, and you can do it too. 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Crafting a wedding website that communicates all the important details about your wedding day is no easy task. Now that you hit publish, you’re probably wondering when and how you should share your brand-spanking-new site with your wedding guests.\n\nWhile it can be tempting to post a link to your wedding website on your social media accounts right away, we strongly advise against it. Sharing your wedding details with all of your web-based followers and friends often leads to confusion about who is and isn’t invited to your big day. Instead, modern etiquette suggests that you share your website with your guests via your [wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) (and save the dates, if applicable). For more information on how to include your wedding website on your invitation, keep reading. \n\nJust getting started? Check out our step-by-step guide on [how to make a wedding website](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website). \n\n## Why to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nIncluding a link on your invitation is the easiest and most common way to share your website with your guests. Traditionally, the wedding invitation suite includes a few different enclosure cards to relay critical information to guests. While that’s still an option, many modern couples have opted to forego multiple enclosure cards and instead direct guests to their website to learn need-to-know wedding details, such as hotel recommendations and registry information. In addition to communication wedding details, the wedding website may be included on the invitation for the following reasons: \n\n__1. To Collect RSVPs Online__ — Many couples choose to collect online RSVPs rather than have their guests fill out paper response cards. That’s because sites like Zola make it easy to gather RSVPs through your wedding website and [manage the guest list](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) with real-time updates and easy-to-use tracking tools. \n\n__2. To Share Registry Information__ — In the past, registry etiquette dictated that the registry only be shared by word of mouth. The digital age has rendered that rule outdated, and it’s now considered standard to share where you’re registered on your wedding website. Including your website URL on your invite makes it easy for guests to find your registry without hassle. \n\n## How to Include Your Wedding Website on Your Invitation\nNow that we’ve covered *why* to share your wedding website on your invitations, let’s talk about *how* to include your wedding website on your invitation without sacrificing aesthetic appeal or committing an etiquette faux pas. \n\nIn general, when sending out the [formal wedding invitation](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop/formal), guests appreciate having the wedding website information all in one place. Wedding etiquette insists that you don’t include your website on the invitation directly, but if you do choose to share it on the formal invitation, add the website to the bottom of the invitation. Wedding save the dates and enclosure cards are also a great place to share your wedding website with guests. You can do this by either:\n\n- Adding your wedding website URL\n- Adding a QR code\n\nLet's explore these different options for how you can share your wedding website on your invitation.\n\n[![Zola QR Code Promo](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5hYJyrZbdCbVYf8gL8ZRtq/1abe728cdf14a9b3e0e0ade433128c67/EA_Article__1_.jpg)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) \n\n### Save The Dates\nAlthough your [wedding save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) are sent out in advance of your invitations, they’re still a part of your invitation suite and the most popular choice for sharing the wedding website URL with guests as quickly as possible. \n\n__Where:__ If you make your save the dates using a pre-made design online, then the template will guide you on where exactly you should list your wedding website link. It varies by design, but in most cases, it’s listed on the back of the save the date or at the bottom of the front side. If you’re working with an invitation designer or making your own, where you place the URL is up to your personal preference. If you opt for a QR code, placing it on the back of your save-the-date would be ideal.\n\n__When:__ Send save the dates 4-6 months before your wedding date. \n\n### The Formal Invitation \nAlthough some wedding experts believe it’s bad decorum to include your wedding website on your invitation, we’re of the opinion that it’s okay if you’re collecting RSVPS through your site in lieu of response cards. Just keep in mind that unless the link serves a purpose other than broadcasting where guests can buy you gifts, that it may be considered poor etiquette to share your wedding website on your invitation. \n\n__Where:__ At the bottom of your invitation. Some wording examples:\n- “For more information, please visit [URL]”\n- “Kindly RSVP by [RSVP deadline] at [URL]”\n\nIf you opt to add a QR code instead, adding it to the back of the invite is best.\n\n__When:__ Send invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date. \n\n### The Enclosure Card(s) \nYour other option is to include your wedding website URL on an enclosure card (an additional piece of your invitation suite used to communicate additional details to your guests). While there are many types of enclosure cards, these three are used to point guests to your website: \n\n- __RSVP Card__ — If guests should RSVP online via your wedding website and you don’t want (or have the space) to include these instructions on your invitation, an option is to include an RSVP card with instructions on where, when, and how guests should accept or decline your invitation online. \n- __Details Card__ — To communicate multiple pieces of information with guests on one card, many couples prefer to enclose a details card with their invite. This card may list your website, travel information, requested attire, and other fine points that your guests should know before the wedding day.\n- __Wedding Website Card__ — A final option is to add a wedding website card to your invitation suite. 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","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-01-25T20:26:29.674Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6IcJuHdO9FKSB9935zn2CW/8674613b9fcf7440e5c9d2d87360ac2c/Mackler_Studios.jpg","altText":"bride and groom sitting in the backseat of car posing with marriage license"},"heroCredit":"Mackler Studios","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/mackler-studios--4","body":"When you’re in the midst of planning all the details of your wedding day, it’s easy to forget the one thing that signifies that you are actually married: the marriage license. This bit of paperwork isn’t the most exciting task on your road to married life, but it is a requirement for your union to be deemed legal. So how do you go about getting a marriage license? Our guide covers it all below. \n\n## What Is a Marriage License?\nA marriage license is a document issued by the government that grants you permission to marry. It indicates that you are both legally eligible to enter into the union (i.e., neither of you are already married, underage, or otherwise ineligible for marriage). \n\n## What Is a Marriage Certificate?\nWhile a marriage license is a permit that legally allows you to get married, the marriage certificate is the official document you receive after your wedding has taken place. The certificate is granted after the marriage license has been returned to, and deemed valid by, the office where it was issued. In other words: \n- License = Permission to get married\n- Certificate = Proof that you are married\n \n## Why Do I Need a Marriage License? \nIf you do not obtain a marriage license, your marriage will be deemed illegal according to the law. While you can choose to be married in name only, or through a religious organization exclusively, the state will not permit you the rights typically reserved for legally married couples, such as certain tax breaks, social security benefits, joint healthcare plans, and inheritance rights. \n\n## Where to Get a Marriage License? \nWhere you get your marriage license depends on where you’re getting married—the office or location that handles them varies by state. Depending on your state, the location might be city hall, the clerk’s office, a designated marriage license bureau, or somewhere else unique to that area. \n\nTo learn more about your state’s marriage license requirements, check out [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml). \n\n## When to Get a Marriage License? \nWhen you should get your marriage license also depends on where your wedding will take place. Each state has its own set of rules for how long the license is valid (the license may expire if you do not get married and return the license to the state within a given number of days) and if there’s a waiting period. The waiting period is either the amount of time you have to wait between applying for and receiving the license, or a designated wait period between receiving the license and when you can tie the knot. \n\nAgain, [U.S. Marriage Laws](https://www.usmarriagelaws.com/marriage-license/application/requirements/procedures/documents-needed.shtml) is a great resource on this topic, but your local city hall will have the most up-to-date information. \n\n## How to Get Marriage License?\nThe process for obtaining a marriage license will vary by state (and sometimes city or county), but the process involves an submitting an application and paying a fee. Some states allow you to apply online, but most dictate that you apply in person and that both individuals be present that wish to be married. \n\n## What Do I Need to Apply for a Marriage License? \nThe exact requirements depend on the state’s individual laws, but there are a few things you can expect:\n\n- __Proof of identity (and that you are of legal age to marry)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - Social Security Card\n - Driver’s License\n - State ID\n - Military ID\n - U.S. Passport\n \n- __Proof that you are not currently married__\n - Divorce Decree, if you’re divorced \n - Death Certificate, if you are widowed\n- __Proof of citizenship (or residence)__\n - Birth Certificate\n - U.S. Passport\n - Certificate of Naturalization \n- __Payment for the application fee __\n\nConsult with your state for details on laws governing marriage age, blood test requirements, proxy, common law, and cousin marriages.\n\n*Pro Tip: Some applications may ask if you’re planning a [name change after marriage](https://zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). Make sure that you have come to a decision before you apply.* \n\n## How Much Is a Marriage License? \nFees for marriages licenses change range from $10 - $115 depending on the state, city or county where you apply. For accepted payment methods, check with your local licensing office. \n\n## Who Signs The Marriage License? \nMost states require that the marriage license be signed by both spouses, the officiant, and 1-2 witnesses, but, as we’ve mentioned before, every state is different. Be sure to ask for details when you apply for your marriage license. \n\n## Where Do I File for a Marriage License If I’m Planning a Destination Wedding?\nIf you’re planning to wed abroad, you can file for your marriage license two ways: \n\n__1. 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Here's Your To-Do List","excerpt":"Even when you still have six months to go until your wedding, it’s important to have a game plan. Here's our checklist of the main to-dos to focus on. \n","author":"Maggy Lehmicke","publishedAt":"2021-03-12T23:52:12.687Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7pADAauDANJlA1FRu4ZYXC/4355eee1fdd08e2cf47fbb1b0c677809/Hero_Zola__3_.jpg","altText":"wedding planning with zola"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- In addition to attire, make sure you have your hair and makeup crew accounted for.\n- Send out save-the-dates and start adding gifts to your wedding registry.\n- Now is the time to lock in a florist, videographer, and deejay or musician.\n- Consider attending some premarital counseling sessions to make the transition to married life as smooth as possible.\n- Don’t overlook necessities, like purchasing ceremony rings and booking the honeymoon.\n","body":"When you're six months out from your wedding, it might feel like you’ve got all the time in the world. Others might be feeling the pressure. No matter what emotional state you’re in, having a [wedding checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) is important for staying organized and will give you the peace of mind that all of your bases are covered.\n\nIf you’ve got half the year to plan, here are our top 12 to-dos:\n\n## 1. Research (and Book) Your Beauty Crew\nIt’s time to narrow down your search and secure your hair and makeup team. Don’t hesitate to book a few trials and play around with some styles if you’re still not sure exactly what you want.\n\n## 2. Say Yes to the Dress (or Suit)\nOr whatever you decide to wear, really. When it comes to attire, it’s time to let your personality shine.\n\n## 3. Schedule Tastings\nFrom macarons to cake varieties, you’ll want to make sure your dessert menu is finalized at least five months before your big day. Now is a great time to attend a few tastings and get a feel for exactly what you like.\n\n## 4. Send Save the Dates\nAs soon as you’ve got a venue secured and a guest list in mind, it’s time to send out your save the dates. Be sure to include essential details like the venue, date, and link to your wedding website.\n\n## 5. Book Your Florist\nIt’s time to graduate from fawning over Pinterest bouquets and finally take the big leap. Whether you’ve got a dream florist in mind or are still on the hunt, you’ll want to check this off your list as soon as you can.\n\n## 6. Start Your Registry\nFrom cooking utensils to a new couch, now is the time to start thinking about what might come in handy after the big day. Luckily, Zola’s registry is super straightforward and home to a wealth of inspiration to get you started.\n\n## 7. Pick Out a Videographer\nIf video is on your radar, now is the time to consider booking a pro. Not only is it a great way to capture some additional footage on your big day, but it’s also something you can reflect on for years to come.\n\n## 8. 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Add these often overlooked (but essential) items to your to-do list and check it twice.","author":"Monica Mercuri","publishedAt":"2019-08-22T17:03:19.557Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IALiWRgjTTZ28cqO0LoM0/c3e85dbcc4325ba87b0992e44b6be359/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding couple celebrates small wedding details"},"heroCredit":"Zola","body":"When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of big pieces you figure out quickly. Of course, things get a bit more complicated as you start to nail down the hundreds of details that need your attention. Don’t worry! Everything is going to come together to create your dream wedding. Here are a few often-overlooked small wedding details to remember for before, on, and even after your wedding. \n\n## Top 10 Wedding Details to Remember\n\n### 1. Create a wedding website (before you send out invitations). \nYour [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) will act as a hub where your guests can get important information about your wedding day. This is where you can include all the additional info that doesn’t fit on your wedding invitations—think directions to the venue and links to your registry. Of course, you need to include the URL on your actual physical invitation, so start with the website first and foremost.\n\n### 2. Leave enough time for dress alterations.\nWedding dress alterations are a bit more involved than say tailoring a pair of pants. You may have up to three or four fittings before your day, all spaced out over a few months. Depending on your wedding timeline, plan to leave enough time to get them all done so you can have the perfect fit. \n\nOnce you [find your dress](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop), you’ll know right away how many alterations need to be made. Head to a seamstress soon after that to gain a clear understanding of just how much time your overall alterations will take—and plan from there.\n\n### 3. Arrange transportation.\nDepending on where your ceremony and reception take place, you may require various forms of transportation. Typical wedding transportation situations include:\n\n- Getting your wedding party from the ceremony to the photo locations to the reception\n- Getting your wedding guests to the ceremony and/or to the reception\n- Getting all your wedding guests back to accommodations post-ceremony\n\nYou may not need all these lines of transportation, but you’ll likely need at least some. Don’t forget to set up party buses, limos, or drivers for cars. If nothing else, offer to arrange Ubers and Lyfts so no one has to worry about drinking and driving. Then, be sure to include all of this transportation information on your wedding website so guests know how they’ll get to point A, B, and maybe C.\n\n### 4. Buy gifts for your wedding party.\nIt’s your day, of course, but not without the help of your loyal wedding party. It’s customary (while not required) to give small tokens of appreciation in the form of gifts for everyone in your wedding party, including the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. Gift something practical like jewelry or socks that your wedding party members will actually wear for the ceremony. Many couples choose to gift customized items to their wedding party, too. Whatever you decide, be sure to order all gifts early enough. You want time to wrap each gift and attach a heartfelt note of thanks to go along with it. \n\n### 5. Coordinate vendor meals. \nYour vendors are going to be working away while you’re enjoying your wedding day. Ask your coordinator or venue about vendor meals ahead of time. They can usually provide boxed sandwiches or something similar so everyone will stay fed and happy. \n\n### 6. Hand out vendor tips. \nWe know you’re hyper-focused on your budget—and we’re sure you heard to budget tips for your vendors into your overall cost. Good! Get cash out or prepare checks ahead of time and put everything in clearly marked envelopes for each vendor, like your caterer, bartender, and florist (that you haven’t already tipped). Then, assign a wedding party or family member to distribute day-of.\n\n![inline PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2PCKsaTQLroHQl2zC2sf0c/4ef44793547697e2494b1769b3d1996f/inline_PhotoByBrandyAngelPhotography.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Brandy Angel Photography\n\n### 7. Check if the venue has disability access.\nYou want all your guests to arrive safely and comfortably. As you’re venue hunting, ask if each location has disability access. This will make or break an early-on decision about where you’ll host your ceremony, reception, or both. Your dream venue should be one where all your guests of all ages and abilities can easily access. \n\n### 8. Prepare a plan B for bad weather. \nIf you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, you’re in for a beautiful wedding with nature as your scenic backdrop. That said, you’re also potentially in for some elemental troubles. There are a number of outdoor wedding issues to account for and you need to be prepared with a plan B in the case of rain, or worse. Your venue and vendors should be able to assist you with coming up with a plan of action (or defense).\n\nCheck out our [guide to common outdoor wedding problems](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/10-common-outdoor-wedding-problems-and-how-to-solve-them)—and their solutions, too. \n\n### 9. Add yourself to your catering order guest count.\nYou’re going to be busy, busy, busy on your wedding day, but you still need to eat! If you’re having a seated dinner, don’t forget to include yourself and your partner when you give the caterers a final headcount. Place your orders like any other wedding guest to make sure your food is ready when you need it most.\n\n### 10. Make a “Do Not Play” list for the DJ.\nIf you [chose a wedding DJ over a wedding band](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/choose-wedding-band-or-dj), you have some extra liberty around what gets played at your wedding—and what doesn’t. Ahead of your wedding day, sit with your partner and put together a “do not play” list. Review it with your DJ and feel confident that you’ll skip the line dancing you so loathe.\n\n## More Wedding Details You Can't Miss\nStill need direction on the planning process? Here are some more little details you'll definitely want to add to your [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist)\n\n### 11. Organize transportation for yourselves.\nWhile you’re setting up transportation options for your guests and wedding party, don’t forget yourselves. Decide as a couple how you want to exit your ceremony and your reception. Many couples want total privacy to and from their various locations. Others may choose to leave their ceremony in a fancy car or carriage but hop on the party bus with everyone post-reception. It’s up to you entirely—just be sure to make the arrangements. \n\nAll the small wedding details may feel like a lot, but with careful planning, it will all be worth it when you see your vision come together on your big day.\n\n### 12. Book your officiant.\nIf you want your wedding to be official, you need someone who can legally marry you—or, in other words, your officiant. If you're having a friend or family member act as your officiant, make sure to let them know in advance so they have enough time to get certified—and if you're hiring an officiant, make sure to book them far before your wedding day, as many book up months ahead of time.\n\n### 13. Secure your rentals.\nSome reception venues come with everything you need to pull off your big day. But others require you to secure rentals—and if that's the case, you'll want to check that off your to-do list well before your wedding. Ask your venue what you'll need to rent (for example, linens, napkins, tables, or chairs)—and then ask if they have any rental vendors they can recommend so you can reserve what you need.\n\n### 14. Plan your accessories.\nChances are, you're not going to forget your dress. But it can be easy to forget the smaller details of your wedding style, like your shoes or jewelry. Once you pick your wedding dress, make sure to plan out your accessories and buy them in advance so they're ready to go on your big day.\n\n### 15. Buy family gifts.\nSome couples like to buy their gifts for their families as a \"thank you\" for helping with wedding planning—and if you're one of those couples, you'll want to add gift shopping to your to-do list.\n\n### 16. Pack flats for the wedding reception.\nSome people do well in heels. Others...not so much. If you struggle to walk in heels—but you're set on walking down the aisle in them—make sure to secure another, more comfortable pair of shoes for the reception (like a pair of ballet flats or sandals). That way, you can get out and enjoy the dance floor—without the discomfort of too-high heels.\n\n### 17. Order your guest book.\nMany guest books are custom made to order—so if you're planning to have a guest book at your wedding, make sure to order it well in advance.\n\n### 18. Confirm food allergies or dietary restrictions.\nMost wedding caterers will offer alternative meals for guests with allergies or dietary restrictions (for example, vegan guests)—but only if you let them know ahead of time. Make sure to collect any dietary information from your guests on their RSVP cards—and relay that information to your caterer by their deadline.\n\n![INLINE PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6EFmHosxTPsGYIJYEHxJNJ/00cc7a674ad9c2e60436b4e00d29c286/INLINE_PhotoBySaraRieth-RomanticStorytelling.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Sara Rieth\n\n### 19. Write (and print!) your vows.\nIf you're planning to write your own vows, you actually have to plan for it; otherwise, you may get caught up in other wedding tasks—and find yourself frantically writing your \"I do's\" the night before your big day. Schedule a few blocks of time on your calendar the month before your wedding to write your vows; then, schedule a time the [week of your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) to make any necessary changes or edits. And don't forget to print out a copy!\n\n### 20. Assemble an emergency kit.\nHopefully, nothing will go wrong on your wedding day. But if it does, you want to be prepared! Assemble an emergency kit filled with items to tackle any potential wedding day mishaps, like a sewing kit, a stain remover pen, and extra deodorant.\n\n### 21. Order \"getting ready\" food.\nIf you and your bridal party are planning on getting ready together the day of your wedding, you'll want to have food on hand—and you'll want to order that food in advance. Consider getting brunch delivered—or, if that's not an option, designate a friend or family member to pick up food and bring it to your getting ready location. And don't forget drinks!\n\n### 22. Book your hotel block.\nIf you have guests coming from out of town, they're going to need hotel rooms. Many hotels will block off rooms and offer a discounted rate for weddings—so make sure to do your research, choose your hotel, and book your room block at least a few months before your wedding.\n\n### 23. Assemble welcome bags.\nYou want your out-of-town guests to be comfortable—and welcome bags are a great way to do that. The week before the wedding, carve out time to assemble welcome bags with snacks, drinks, and other wedding favors to make your guests comfortable; then, deliver the bags to the hotel and ask them to put them in your guests' rooms before they arrive.\n\n### 24. Set a point person to help with wedding photos...\nYour wedding photographer likely has a list of shots they'd like to capture on your big day—many of which involve other family members, members of the wedding party, or loved ones. But your photographer doesn't know who those people are—so you'll want to put someone (like a trusted friend) in charge of rounding up who your wedding photographer needs, when they need them.\n\n### 25. ...and to ensure nothing gets left behind.\nAt the end of your wedding, chances are, you're going to be exhausted. But you don't want to leave anything behind at the venue, so make sure to put someone (again, like a trusted friend or a wedding coordinator, if you have one) in charge of doing a sweep at the end of the night. 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Learn which tools to use and how best to use them to create the wedding you envision, stress-free."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"how-many-people-to-invite-to-a-wedding","title":"How Many People Should I Invite to My Wedding?","excerpt":"What's the average wedding size? How do you decide who to invite? Here's everything you need to know about guest lists and who to invite.","author":"Jane Chertoff and Georgie Darling","publishedAt":"2023-12-20T00:00-05:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1ZpIxwqIcetPEILmdpBQj4/940fd517a85d46fd0d37e3b1f3cfcb53/hero_HowManyGuests.jpg","altText":"Graphic of four people standing in a line celebrating"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## Inside this article \n\n- The average wedding size 2024\n- Average ratio of family:friends\n- What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n- Wedding size for different weddings\n- How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n- How to limit guests on wedding invitations","body":"The big question finally was asked and it was accompanied by a resounding “YES!” You posted that beautiful engagement ring picture on social media. You’re both basking in the glow of fiancee-dom, when the comments start coming in. And, we’re not talking about the “OMGs” or the congratulatory emojis. We’re talking about:\n\n“So, are the kids invited?” “Can I bring this guy I met on Tinder? I think he’ll last!” “When’s the date? I want to make sure your third cousin Ali’s knee surgery doesn’t conflict.”\n\nAlmost as soon as you get engaged, friends and loved ones want to know if they’re invited to the wedding. But, before you start making that guest list, you’re going to have to decide how long that list is going to be. So, who gets a wedding invitation? What’s the average number of wedding guests? What’s the general percentage of wedding guests that decline? We'll help you decide how many wedding guests you should invite for your big day.\n\nSo, take a breath, put both of your notifications on mute, and let’s figure out how many people to invite to a wedding together.\n\n## How many people should I invite to my wedding?\n\nThe [number of people you should invite](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola/video/7152141616998894890?is_from_webapp=1&web_id=7218624746436494894) to your wedding depends on a few factors: your budget, venue, and vibe. Generally, it’s best to split the guest list between both you and your partner. So, if you want to invite a total of 100 people to your wedding, plan on doing 50 invitations each.\n\n## The average wedding size 2024\n \nThe average wedding size in 2024 is around 145, according to [Zola's 2024 First Look Report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus-ones. The average cost of a wedding, in case you’re wondering, sits between $20,000 - $40,000.\n\n## Average ratio of family:friends\n \nThere's no hard and fast rule about the correct ratio of family to friends at a wedding. Smaller (or destination) weddings tend to have a higher proportion of family members, while larger weddings may include old friends and new. A lot depends on how big your families are, too!\nDon’t worry too much if you have a lopsided wedding guest list. It’s pretty common and the main thing is that your wedding includes everyone special to you.\n\n## What percentage of invited guests attend a wedding?\n \nExpert wedding planners estimate between 25-40 percent of guests invited to a wedding can’t make it. This means that if you invite 200 people, you can expect around 120-150 guests to attend your wedding. Keep in mind: factors like location, date, time, and budget can also affect attendance rates.\n\n## Wedding size for different weddings\n \nThere’s no one-size-fits-all for wedding guest numbers. The overall decision comes down to what you and your partner would feel most comfortable with according to your family traditions, budget, and relationship vibe. Not sure where your numbers fit in, in the big wide world of wedding sizes? Here’s some guidance. \n\n### The Elopement (4-10 guests). \nThis is you, your partner, a few lucky witnesses (maybe your parents, siblings, or best friends), and the officiant. It’s romantic, memorable, and you’ll save money on stamps for the “Save the Dates.”\n\n### Micro wedding (6-20 guests). \nThink of this option as the “Elopement Premium.” Your guest list will include you and your partner’s immediate families, plus a few extremely close friends. Most likely, you could fit your reception dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even in one of your family member’s large backyards.\n\n### Small wedding (20-80 guests). \nThe “Family Reunion” option means you’re expanding from the “Intimate” list to include your aunts, uncles, cousins, and close friend groups. However, your version of a family reunion might be the close friend groups from all aspects of your life. You might choose to invite your old Girl Scout troop, your high school AV club, and your book discussion group. Once you exceed 20 guests, a venue can offer you support and a bigger space to celebrate.\n\n### Average (100-200 guests). \n[Zola’s 2023 First Look report](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2023) found that wedding guests in the U.S. range from 100 to 150 (31% of couples surveyed), and 150-200 (23%). This includes immediate and extended family, kids, and one or two tables of friends and their plus ones. \n\n### Large (200-500 guests). \nFor a “Block Party Wedding” vibe, pretty much anyone who shares a last name with you or your soon-to-be spouse gets the invite (unless your last name is Jones or Smith. That’s a whole other ball game). \n\nYou can also include friends, co-workers, college roommates, old teachers, neighbors, your parents’ friends, and the people who you see every day who don’t quite make the cut on typical guest lists. You do lose some of the intimacy with a large wedding. You might be so busy saying hello to everyone that you won’t get a chance to have more than a bite of your wedding cake. \n\nWith that aside, this kind of wedding has a strong community atmosphere and gives your guests the freedom to mix and mingle with everyone from all parts of your lives.\n\n### Massive (500-2,000 guests). \nWhile you might not be marrying royalty, you may want your wedding to feel like an entire town is celebrating with you. If you have the wedding budget and the ability to invite that many people, the answer to “How many people should I invite to my wedding” is pretty much infinite. Here’s who’s often left off a guest list.\n\n- Your immediate family and extended family (includes third, fourth, and fifth cousins).\n- Your co-workers from your last two previous jobs.\n- Your college, high school, middle school, and elementary school teachers.\n- Your parents’ best friends and their families.\n- Your entire mosque, synagogue, or church.\n- The doctor and nurses who delivered you into this world.\n- The staff at your favorite coffee shop.\n- Your entire apartment building or neighborhood.\n- Random celebrities who may or may not show up (for the viral social media potential).\n\nYou get the picture.\n\n## How to decide who to invite to your wedding\n \nStart with the people you can’t imagine celebrating your wedding day without, like your closest relatives and family members. Or, you might start with your “found family,” the parents who raised you, and the people you’ve known your entire lives. Whatever “essential” means to both of you, start there.\n\nStill wondering how many people you should invite to a wedding? Asking yourself the following questions may help you decide who gets an invite, and who's kept on the reserve list.\n\n\"Would I go out for dinner with this person, and would I pay for their meal?\" Or, “Will I be excited to see this person at my wedding, or will I try to avoid them?”\n\nIf you're having a destination or [micro wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/micro-weddings) where numbers are tight, it's worth really honing in on who knows you and your other half. For example, if they can't answer three basic questions about your SO, they don't make the cut. If they can't tell you what city they’re from, their last name, or their job, they aren't considered potential guests. While this is a suggestion, it may not work for all wedding lists!\n\n### Budget\t\nIf sticking to a [wedding budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget) is important to you both, then how much you’re willing to spend will determine the number of people you can invite. Consider invitation costs, too. As your guest list grows, so does the average cost of wedding invitations.\n\nThe most important piece of the budget when it comes to your guests is the food. Start by calculating the price of food per guest. According to Zola’s First Look Report 2024, [the average wedding costs over $30,000](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-first-look-report-2024) and the average number of guests is 145. That equals around $200 per guest for the wedding. For catering specifically, it can vary widely from around $27pp for buffet style up to around $60+ for a catered, sit-down meal.\n\nWhen you’re figuring the average number of guests at a wedding, keep in mind that budgets are very different across the U.S.!\n\nIf you’re imagining a wedding with a multi-course catered meal, this number will probably go up. If you’re imagining a fun buffet or food truck, the number will probably go down. Go from there and do the math to figure out if your wedding guests fit into your budget — and not the other way around.\n\nWedding Guest List Tip: The budget-first approach is a great way to get yourselves out of inviting cousins you’ve only met once, and coworkers you don’t really want there. However, if you don’t have a large budget, you both may have to make some tough calls on who gets a wedding invite and who doesn’t. At the end of the day, this is your day, your money, and your moment. Don’t feel guilty about not being able to invite everyone.\n\n### Venue\nYour hearts might be set on your favorite winery, the museum where you first met, or even a lochside castle in Scotland. If this sounds like you and your partner, then we’ve got good news. Thanks to your state’s (or local fief’s) fire marshal, your wedding venue has a set number of people allowed.\n\nThis lets you build your list within the venue’s parameters, and gives you an understandable reason to limit extra guests. “Sorry, Sal from accounting! My destination wedding venue is a historically accurate 18th-century Spanish galleon replica that only fits 30 people. You would not believe how much room the functional cannons take up on the deck!”\n\nExpert Advice: If you need to squeeze in a third cousin or your mom’s new friend from Zumba class, ask the manager about the capacity. Sometimes the maximum number of guests the venue lists on their website is just their estimate for the best possible experience. If that’s the case with your venue, you could probably negotiate your guest count and add a couple of chairs.\n\nFind your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) on Zola.\n\n### How many people to invite to wedding based on location\nKeep in mind that the more difficult and/or expensive it is for guests to get to your wedding destination, the lower your attendance rate will likely be. There'll probably be a big difference in numbers between a wedding in your hometown compared to one in Mexico or the Bahamas, for example. \n\n### Wedding vibe \nThe number of people you invite to your wedding will affect the overall vibe or atmosphere of your special day. Do you want to have a private wedding ceremony with only your nearest and dearest loved ones, or do you want a large wedding that feels like a city-wide carnival? Perhaps you’d like something in-between. \n\nWhatever ambiance you’re going for, we’ve broken down how the numbers will affect the atmosphere of your wedding, and created our own categories.\n\n## How to limit guests on wedding invitations\n \nLimiting guests on wedding invitations can be tricky, especially if you want to avoid hurting any feelings. Be clear and specific about who's invited by addressing the invitation envelope to only the guests invited, or by personalizing the RSVP card by writing the number of seats reserved for them.\n\n[Shop premium quality, perfectly priced wedding invitations.](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop)\n\n### Plus-one etiquette \nDeciding whether or not to allow plus-ones can help you curate your wedding guest list number. However, be wary of the “no ring, no bring” rule. That rule might’ve worked for our parents, but more and more often, serious couples decide to wait a while before putting a ring on it.\n\n### Questions to ask yourself when making the list \n\nOnce you’ve learned a little bit more about the kind of wedding you and your partner want, you’ll have a strong start on creating your guest list and deciding how many guests to invite to your wedding. Here are a few more tips to keep in mind as you decide who you want to attend your wedding. \n\n- Who would you enjoy seeing outside of your wedding day?\n- Will you still be in touch with this person in five years?\n- Do you get their Christmas cards?\n- Are you in consistent contact?\n\nIf the answers to all of these questions are yes, then the rule of thumb for wedding guest lists is that you invite them to your big day. If these potential guests aren’t blood-related, and you haven’t seen them since their wedding, things get a little more flexible. Just talk with your partner, and go with your gut.\n\nTo B-List or Not to B-List?\n\nA B-list is the list of people who didn’t quite make the wedding guest cut, but you wish they could be there. They don’t get “Save the Dates,” and they don’t get the first round of invites. B-Listers are the ones you call when someone on the A-list is unable to attend. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not A-listers in your heart, but venues, budgets, and families put limitations on every wedding.\n\n### What to say if someone questions your guest list\n\nIn an ideal world, everyone will be happy and accepting of your wedding guest list. But, in the real world, there’s a fair to reasonable chance that at least one person might not be totally supportive of your choices. If/when that happens, these useful phrases can help to keep the peace.\n\n- “We appreciate your interest in our wedding, but we've decided to keep our guest list limited to our closest family and friends. We hope you understand and respect our decision.”\n- \"We could only have XX guests, so we invited those we are closest to.\"\n- \"Our venue has a very small capacity limit, which means we've had to be extra careful with our guestlist.”\n- While large weddings tend to be more common than smaller ones, this is a useful script to follow if you’re having a smaller event: “We're happy that you're excited for our wedding, but we have a strict guest list setup that we’ve agreed on with our families. We're following certain traditions and customs that limit the number of guests we can invite. We hope you can respect our culture and our choices.\"\n\nAs one last tidbit of advice, remember this: The more guests you invite, the bigger your registry can be. Wink, wink.\n\nUse Zola’s *free* [Guest List and RSVP Tracking Tool](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to help make the logistics a breeze.","tag":"Advice","widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:10.989Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:46:36.309Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"heroCredit":"Christggan Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/brittany-michelle-photography","body":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. As a part of the the Bride Tribe, a bridesmaid is expected to plan and attend all pre-wedding parties, help out with aspects of the wedding planning as needed, and be totally present and available to the bride on the wedding weekend. We’ve divided the list of bridesmaid duties into tasks that occur before the wedding and then actually on the big day. Every friend, sibling, or relative who’s asked to be a bridesmaid should have no trouble fulfilling her role if she follows these guidelines.\n\nPre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\n1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire \n2. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bridal Shower \n3. Help Plan (and Pay) for the Bachelorette Party \n4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events \n5. Book Travel & Hotel Reservations \n6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner \n7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally \n8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks \n9. Buy a Wedding Present \n\nWedding Day Bridesmaids Duties\n1. Get Ready With the Bride \n2. Assist the MOH \n3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks \n4. Be the “Bride Tribe” \n5. Participate in the Ceremony \n6. Be Photo-Ready \n7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party) \n8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off \n\n## Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Duties\nThese are the main duties that bridesmaids are typically expected to perform in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:\n\n### 1. Shop (and Pay) for Bridesmaid Attire\n\n\nBridesmaids may be asked to visit a bridal shop as a group to try on and select dresses together, or each woman may be asked do her own shopping and simply send her measurements and dress pick to the bride (or to a chosen shop). If the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one) isn’t wearing matching attire, the bride may simply ask that each bridesmaid select her own outfit and share a photo to make sure it coordinates. Here are some additional tips when it comes to shopping for bridesmaid attire: \n- Whether shopping together or individually, follow the bride’s wishes with a smile on your face.\n- Be on time with your presence, your information, and/or decisions. \n- Provide supportive and sensitive feedback on the choice of bridesmaid attire *__only when requested__*. \n- Be prepared to pay for your own bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes. \n\n### 2. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bridal Shower \n\n\nThe bridal shower may be a shared responsibility among the bridesmaids, the maid of honor, or the parent(s) of the bride or groom—however, bridesmaids are expected to at the very least attend the shower, and if there are no other hosts that step forward, to help the MOH with the [shower planning](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) and execution. \n\n### 3. Help Plan (and Pay for) the Bachelorette Party\n\nWhile the bulk of the bachelorette party planning usually falls to the maid of honor, the rest of the bridesmaids should lend her a hand wherever possible. This might include helping to secure travel plans, accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying up the costs between each bridesmaid so the bride’s expenses are covered.\n\n### 4. Attend Any Other Pre-Wedding Events\n\n\nWhether it’s an engagement party, a couples’ shower, or a gathering of helpers to do some wedding DIY over beers and pizza, bridesmaids are expected to attend all pre-wedding activities to the best of their abilities. \n\n### 5. Book Travel and Hotel Reservations \n\n\nBridesmaids should take care of their own transportation and accommodations for the wedding weekend. It’s a good idea to do this early on, so you can be sure your travel logistics are convenient to both the schedule and location of important events. Whenever transportation is not already provided, the bridesmaids should figure out how they’ll get from place to place during the festivities.\n\n### 6. Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner\n\n\nBridesmaids should be present at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. Not only is this a practical concern—everyone involved in the ceremony needs to know where to assemble, enter, exit, and where to sit or stand during the service—but as a member of the bride’s support crew, she’ll need you there during these final moments of preparation before the big day. \n\n### 7. Help Support the Bride Emotionally\n\n\nAs her best friends, siblings, relatives, and just generally the people she wants surrounding her on this huge life decision, bridesmaids carry the role of being the bride’s emotional rock. Wedding planning can come with its fair amount of stress, so bridesmaids should check in with her throughout the process, ask what she needs, and do their best to thoughtfully and sensitively support her feelings. \n\n### 8. Help With Wedding Planning Tasks\n\n\nWhile bridesmaids are not wedding coordinators, florists, caterers, or cake bakers, they might be asked to help with certain smaller wedding planning tasks within reason. Activities such as stuffing envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands-on with some easy DIY projects, or even making trips with the bride to pick out rentals or attend her hair and makeup trial are tasks where the bridesmaids can lend a hand.\n\n### 9. Buy a Wedding Present\n\n\nAs with any other wedding guest, bridesmaids should buy a wedding gift for the couple off of their [Wedding Registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and have it shipped to their address before the wedding. The only time this expectation may be removed is if you’re serving as a bridesmaid at a destination wedding and your presence (i.e. travel expenses) are considered gift enough. Going in on a big-ticket [group gift](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) with all of the bridesmaids can be a fun way to give the couple somthing they really want! \n\n## Wedding Day Bridesmaid Duties\nOn the big day, bridesmaids help ensure everything goes smoothly for the bride, her maid of honor, and the majority of the wedding guests. Here’s how: \n\n### 1. Get Ready With the Bride\n\n\nBridesmaids should plan on showing up at the designated getting-ready location on time, with all of their gear (bridesmaid attire, shoes, jewelry, makeup, undergarments, etc.) in hand. Besides getting themselves aisle-ready, the bridesmaids should do whatever they can to assist the bride during this time, such as: \n- Keeping her smiling, laughing, calm, and collected\n- Answering any incoming texts, calls, or logistical questions for her \n- Making sure she eats something and stays hydrated \n- Pouring celebratory bubbly for everyone to enjoy \n- Keeping hair and/or makeup appointments on track \n- Helping her into her dress\n- Assisting her with her shoes, jewelry, or veil\n\n### 2. Assist the MOH\n\n\nThe maid of honor has a pretty big job on the wedding day. Bridesmaids should serve as her right-hand ladies, helping out with whatever tasks are needed—whether that’s making a last-minute run to the drugstore, coordinating with the photographer or wedding planner, or providing (and keeping track of) a wedding day emergency kit. \n\n### 3. Provide Getting-Ready Snacks\n\n\nIf no other arrangements have been made for getting-ready sips and snacks, the bridesmaids should take it upon themselves to provide these treats. Everyone—from the bride to her mother to even the photographer and beauty stylists—will appreciate the gesture and benefit from some food and drink throughout the busy day.\n\n### 4. Be the “Bride Tribe”\n\n\nBridesmaids should embody the concept of being the support crew for the bride and the maid of honor in all ways during the big day. They can also serve as a point of contact for guests and vendors when it’s helpful. Here are some tasks the bridesmaids can cover to be of service:\n- Double-check that all members of the wedding party and any special family members have their personal flowers (bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages, flower crowns, or toss petals). Assist with pinning on boutonnieres or other floral accessories as needed.\n- Help guests navigate the venue, such as directing them to parking areas, bathrooms, handicap access, exits, and if applicable, the bar or refreshments station.\n- Standing near the gift table, guest book, or wedding favors to help direct and facilitate guests’ participation. \n\n### 5. Participate in the Ceremony\n\n\nBridesmaids should be in place at the ceremony venue on time, (most likely hidden out of sight), and ready for their cues to process down the aisle. Keep chatter to a minimum and be respectful of the planner, officiant, or whomever is running the show. During the actual ceremony, be sure to hit your rehearsed mark, fulfill any other roles you’ve been assigned during the actual service, and then process out of the ceremony according to plan. \n\n### 6. Be Photo-Ready\n\n\nIf the wedding party didn’t pose for photographs with the happy couple before the ceremony, typically these group photos occur right after the ceremony at the beginning of the cocktail hour. Rather than dispersing into the crowd, bridesmaids should stick together and be ready to follow the photographer’s commands—gathering stray folks for these shots can be tiresome, not to mention steal precious minutes away from the couple’s ability to enjoy their cocktail hour. \n\n### 7. Be Model Guests (and the Life of The Party)\n\n\nBridesmaids should mingle and chat with other guests, enjoy the food and drinks offered, sit down at their dinner table when asked, participate in guest-related activities like signing the guestbook or visiting the photo booth, listen to, applaud, and/or give any speeches (that have been pre-arranged), witness the special dances, and boogie down (tastefully) when it’s dance floor time.\n\n### 8. Maintain a Stress-Free Send-off\n\n\nFinally, bridesmaids should help the maid of honor, coordinator, or the couple’s parents assemble any items than need to be transported out of the reception venue at the end of the night. These packables might include: \n- Any getting-ready clothing or gear \n- Extra/unused ceremony programs, favors, or sparklers \n- Leftover alcohol \n- Any decor or signage that was personally provided (not rented) \n- The bride and/or bridesmaids’ bouquets\n- Wedding cards and gifts\n- The guest book\n- Special toasting flutes, cake servers, or cake plate\n- A basket of late-night leftovers (packaged by the caterer)\n- The top tier of the wedding cake\n- A few slices of late-night wedding cake (packaged by the caterer)\n- The bride and/or groom’s wedding attire, if they’ve changed into getaway clothes\n\nIn addition to making sure the above items leave the venue in the right vehicle(s), bridesmaids can lend a hand with these final logistical tasks: \n- Make sure all guests make it onto the right shuttle buses, find their cars, or otherwise make it safely out of the venue.\n- Hand out pre-addressed tip envelopes to the vendors.\n- Make sure the bride and/or groom’s overnight bags make it to their wedding night hotel room. \n- Organize guests to the after-party, if there is one. \n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? 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Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Dress to impress! Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:19.350Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"period-on-your-wedding-day","title":"Period Coming On Your Wedding Day? Here's What to Do","excerpt":"Periods happen—even on your wedding day. Here's expert advice on how to manage your period on your wedding day and how to keep calm about the situation.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2020-02-27T17:55:41.878Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/wBtXNd2eGbPXMpqm4HAHC/760d60e4fe2d50abe49e88d282e7b021/HERO_OneLovePhotography_1080x720_Meghann_Andrew.jpg","altText":"bride with bridesmaids on wedding day"},"heroCredit":"One Love Photography","body":"Periods have a way of sometimes arriving at the least desirable times in life. Whether it’s on vacation or during a stressful week at work, it’s likely your period has been an unwelcome visitor more than once. For those who experience cramps, bloating, and headaches during their period (thanks PMS), menstruation can be an even more inconvenient and uncomfortable experience. \n\nSo what happens when you realize your period may crash your wedding? Before you freak out, know there are many ways to deal with a wedding period. \n\n![INLINE WeddingsByThom 1080x720 Becky&Jacob](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6K4YZIUPpzN8MwQnpkjXjA/655c44882a5c165afca4a230e742e2ad/INLINE_WeddingsByThom_1080x720_Becky_Jacob.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Weddings By Thom\n\n## Alter your cycle… if you can.\nSome people’s periods are consistently regular and on time. If you’re one of those lucky folks, you might want to consult your period tracking app when choosing a wedding date if avoiding your period is important to you. Of course, not everyone has this option (venues have limited availability, after all) and periods can, unfortunately, have a mind of their own. \n\nIf you’re prone to sickness on your period or low mood, however, you might feel best avoiding those undesired symptoms altogether. If this is the case, you can talk to your doctor about manipulating your cycle to skip your period for your wedding.\n\nHormonal birth control pill packs can be used back-to-back without placebos to skip a period. Likewise, certain birth control pills extend your menstrual cycle, meaning you only get your period once every three months. \n\n*__Note: While it’s [generally considered safe to skip or suppress a period](https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/travel-health/how-can-i-delay-my-period/), it’s always best to speak with your healthcare provider first. Everybody is different, and it’s important to figure out what is best for you.__* \n\n### Expect something anyway.\nEven though the pill can help manage the timing of your period, manipulating your cycle isn’t a fool-proof plan; periods can still be irregular, especially if you’re stressed. (Here’s some tips on [how to combat wedding-related stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning).) \n\nWhat’s more, you may still experience [breakthrough bleeding](https://patient.info/news-and-features/how-to-prevent-breakthrough-bleeding-on-the-pill) even if you skip your period. To be safe, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for menses if you expect it to overlap with your wedding. \n\n## Plan ahead and be prepared.\nIf you know your period will arrive around the time of your wedding, be sure to alter some lifestyle practices ahead of time. Sugar and caffeine can [exacerbate PMS symptoms](https://www.womenshealth.gov/menstrual-cycle/premenstrual-syndrome), while exercise, healthy eating, and [sleep are known to help](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/sleep-night-before-wedding). If you’re worried about stomach cramping and bloating, try to drink lots of water and avoid salt-heavy drinks and food.\n\n### Day-Of Prep\nOn your wedding day, take some over-the-counter pain medication in the morning and throughout the day as needed. If you can’t avoid your period you’ll want to minimize its presence. When it comes to your wedding attire, consider how heavy your period will be and decide on the most suitable preparation for where you are in your cycle.\n\n- __Choose the right product.__ Depending on the [style of your dress and undergarments,](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what's-your-wedding-dress-style) tampons or a menstrual cup may be your best bet. While pads are great for overnight use, they may create pad lines and limit your underwear options. Menstrual cups, like the DivaCup, can be worn up to 12 hours, depending on how heavy your flow is. A product that allows for longer use means fewer trips to the bathroom. \n- __Consider special underwear.__ If you want to be extra cautious around leakage, period-absorbing underwear is also a great idea. Brands like Thinx or Knix have different styles depending on your flow, including designs for super, moderate and light days. Some even absorb four regular tampons worth of blood. Period panties also come in different materials and cuts, meaning you can often find a pair right for your dress. \n- __Stock the venue.__ Lastly, make sure there are menstrual products available at your ceremony and reception venues. You can even get venue staff to stock bathroom welcome baskets with tampons and pads for yourself and other guests. Chances are you won’t be the only one dealing with Aunt Flo.\n\n![INLINE CortiellaPhotography 1080x720 Choumate&Berthony (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Mvdo1pBF2gj994HbfJUVB/218f63fc5885863e7b90d5cd9d4a89db/INLINE_CortiellaPhotography_1080x720_Choumate_Berthony__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Cortiella Photography\n\n## Lean on your wedding party. \nUsing the bathroom in an elaborate dress is hard enough, but add a period into the mix and you may need some assistance. \n\nInform your [maid of honor or wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) about your period, and let them know you’ll need their help during the day. You might even want to pass off some ibuprofen to them for safekeeping. Ask them to hold some menstrual products for you, if need be, and get them to keep an eye on your dress. While it’s unlikely you’ll have an accident, it’s always comforting knowing someone has your back just in case. \n\n## Don’t stress too much.\nPeriods can be annoying, there’s no doubting that. But having your time of the month coincide with your big day isn’t the end of the world. It’s important to remember that you’ve lived through your period many times before, and you’ll get through it again, too. \n\nWith a bit of preparation and some help from trusted friends, your period doesn’t need to play a big role in your wedding. Because between dancing, amazing food and marrying the love of your life, you’ll have plenty of other things to think about. ","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"From birdcage to ballet, there is an abundance of options when it comes to your wedding veil. 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Here's how to break the cycle and focus less on your wedding diet and more on a healthy body and stress-free wedding planning.","title":"How to Break Out of the #WeddingDiet Mentality","slug":"wedding-diets-lose-weight-for-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How To","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6V9XrUDHmz4UvWtnNWGu8W/aa926bf361e969338d3c02ed4b72a2c9/HERO_NicoleChanPhotography_1080x720.jpg","altText":"veiled bride walking to wedding"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Finding the perfect wedding dress can sometimes feel as challenging as finding your soul mate. Luckily we’re here with a quick-and-easy quiz to help you figure out your ideal wedding style.","title":"What’s Your Wedding Dress Style? ","slug":"what's-your-wedding-dress-style","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/XT5O9Ow3qVWpESyo1sR7n/0b62327143e978d96e6b02a198e6e22e/Hero_what_s_your_wedding_dress_style__dear_stacey_wedding_photography_.jpg","altText":"bride wearing long-sleeve lace dress sitting on a settee in the middle of a garden with a basket of cut purple lavender beside her"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:15.699Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"choosing-your-wedding-month","title":"How to Choose The Best Wedding Month ","excerpt":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process. Here's how to decide on the best time of the year to get married. ","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2019-06-13T15:54-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71pkqiAypqFZ7CL8KRWGIr/4f34666823e73a80647f762866ec1bd0/Hero_New_Unsplash.jpg","altText":"best month for wedding"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/christine-magee-photography","body":"Choosing your wedding month and date is a crucial first step in the wedding planning process, along with choosing your venue, photographer, and caterer. The time of year in which you decide to get married will dictate a lot of your subsequent planning, and will stick with you for the rest of your life (hello, anniversary). \n\n## What is the Best Month for a Wedding? \nJune, September, and October are considered the best months for a wedding. June, traditionally, is the most popular month to get married, simply because of the mild weather. With that being said, there’s no wrong time to get married to the love of your life (though it does help to have good weather). \n\nIn most parts of the country, the late spring through early fall months are typically thought of as “wedding season,” but there is so much more to it than that. Let’s walk through the year and look at the pros and cons of each potential wedding month.\n\n__Note__: Keep in mind that while season matters greatly, geography is a factor as well. We have broken the seasons down very generally below, but even still, a winter wedding in the Florida Keys is going to differ drastically from a winter wedding in Lake Tahoe, where the cold weather and snow hazards will be much greater. Be sure to factor in your location when picking your perfect wedding month.\n\n## Spring\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### March, April, May\n\nMarch comes in like a lion and out like a lamb. April showers bring May flowers. These are the traditional sayings that correlate with the spring months that we love so dearly. Emerging from the cold of winter, spring is such a welcoming time to host your special day. Without many calendar conflicts (St. Patrick’s Day, Passover, and Easter are the only holidays in the spring), your spring wedding should see good attendance. And after the drab, loneliness of winter, your friends will probably be busting at the seams to get out and celebrate with you.\n\nA spring wedding is a gamble, though, simply because the weather is so unpredictable. Will it be sunny and warm, or is a cold snap going to hit? Even still, the gamble may pay off if you can land one of those quintessential warm, flowery days. In April and May especially, you might begin to encounter increased pricing and competition with other brides for vendors and venues as “the season” set in. We’re talking: wedding season.\n\n![Colin-Lyons-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2I7G4mApUnMjJhsy5Jl3Jb/53209c242d51920fe468dad7d825d8b5/Colin-Lyons-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Colin Lyons Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![3-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6WNr5JisBMZ85xd2TKSIx6/26fa70d21a47bf3e8a8bbeac435e580e/3-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Pauline Conway Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![4-2](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ce7yS6d2k8yuYhLUbjG8E/217f24116aade587a4e43197819ae810/4-2.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sarah and Rachel](https://www.zola.com/wedding/rachel-sarah/passcode)*\n\n![onelove-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5rQO7D0nqBl2thPIDEUwJI/d9002976a70f8e78cac3f7dccbb45608/onelove-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [onelove photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![michelle-jones-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/10IZeVW4q8jsvuaGNrULY5/9685001b60b7696da5b0ac7519f145b6/michelle-jones-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Michelle Jones Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Summer\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### June, July, August\n\nWedding season is in full swing by mid-May, with June being traditionally the most popular wedding month. These hot months offer long days and vacation time. Many of your wedding guests will be able to get away from their lives to attend your ceremony thanks to more relaxed work schedules and school breaks. Far removed from the winter holidays, your guests are more likely to have a little extra room in their budgets for travel and wedding gifts. With an abundance of flowers and fruits in season, a summer wedding allows for countless floral options and your pick of delicious produce.\n\nHowever, these sunny wedding months are not quite that simple. Rising temps is definitely something to take into account, especially if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony. While it may look like a glorious day outside, if it is 100 degrees, you are going to be one sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. You can also just go ahead and count on venues and vendors being harder to book with steeper prices because of peak wedding season competition. Finally, vacation plans or other weddings may conflict with yours when it comes to your guests’ attendance.\n\n![sera-petras-photography-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5DBqt424TW6fxVupMcRREr/5f5b701c3ede984b76c8dd45ac9c3556/sera-petras-photography-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Sera Petras Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![10-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6oleAP7FuSKWiW8aoRT2ET/b09b179296b24f279d3f06e188c36c6f/10-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![loved-memories-photography-videography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/64qkXcXELxt7XXEexvpXQi/b853e7f659bd6df81cfe3a16b8ba1407/loved-memories-photography-videography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Loved Memories Photography & Videography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![11-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4RiU2cVAawt6etn6imcVC5/828072c76d7d37b0a191dc16c3872137/11-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Limelight Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*","body2":"## Fall\n. . . . . . . . . .\n\n### September, October, November\nOh [fall weddings](https://www.zola.com/inspiration/real-weddings/fall), how loved you are! There is something so magical about the changing of the leaves and the cool, crisp air. A fall wedding month will make for cooler temperatures, happier party guests, and less bugs. And with a plethora of pumpkins, there are some very festive and unique [wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) to embrace.\n\nIn these autumn wedding months, possible conflicts include the beginning of a new school year, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. There are also fewer flowers in season, so you may have to be willing to re-imagine your ideal floral arrangements. And if you and your partner are football fanatics, a fall wedding month might prove difficult to schedule around big game days. What if you accidentally plan your wedding for the most important match-up of the season?\n\n![FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Ubu6ZBziGjm2B4BORdyNT/33e2bb528d1b74ef66a630b03c36d93a/FALL-PIC-Nick-Davis-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Nick Davis Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![13-1](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3OtiKcANlOnPkYcCgvJY2a/460d2859aacdf429a5caabcf5687bd84/13-1.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [JoPhoto](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![B.-Dembowski-Images](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/w1pEtfzf7XNQuVPoJOBA2/d6785ab23a16cc84309dc10b2f8b51d7/B.-Dembowski-Images.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [B. Dembowski Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![suzanne-karp-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2IotEvPwRzyD4wYnZWWhO8/21bd6d5c7ac111d854c0c5618f77eb0e/suzanne-karp-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Suzanne Karp Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![megan-rolfe-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6KAeFqKNiAbKOGmoReYPDQ/e34989f661e509b236290e43d8a5b13c/megan-rolfe-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Meghan Rolfe Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n## Winter\n. . . . . . . . . . .\n\n### December, January, February\nA winter wedding month can be a hidden gem. Gleaming fireplaces, evergreen trees, snowy winter landscapes, less wedding competition (and thus the ability to negotiate prices), and more vendor/venue availability make a winter wedding very appealing for couples. There is something so romantic about wrapping up in warm blankets in front of an early sunset and clinging to each other for warmth.\n\nBut for all of the pros, there are still some cons to a winter soirée. Depending on the location of your wedding, getting snowed in (or out) could be a factor for outdoor wedding venues. There is less green outside, making for less picturesque landscapes that might force your wedding photos indoors. And… Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years. While these holidays are considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” they can create many conflicts for your special day. Traveling can be more expensive and difficult around the holidays, not to mention that money will most likely be a bit tighter for people, too.\n\n![17](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/11hvWyN8wxfj6ZSYiyT8SL/e594d0a49432a4f45d859a59669dfde2/17.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Jennings King Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![dana-widman-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/Kfdg6c8V9TlcOYdyDoXsP/62a288f8b3e8717982a365552cc9d4fb/dana-widman-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Dana Widman Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![Beautiful Winter Wedding Color Schemes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2SGRFCSNwbm3TXmugQhtKy/0a47af24d0d7885c9f6253a72841fec5/inline_felicia_marti_photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Felicia Marti Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\n![modern-wedding-photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2DwNzksI7fCOhWBtJSWKoF/3b5ceefc704779234c84cfdf48f2adab/modern-wedding-photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Modern Wedding Photography](https://www.modernweddingphotography.tv/)*\n\n![Heather-Erson-Photography](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6jT8kMSgL2JTQBo0EYrJAb/f13fb701d13b59411bf937be04ceaadb/Heather-Erson-Photography.jpg)\n\n*Photo Credit || [Heather Erson Photography](https://www.zola.com/inspire/search)*\n\nHave you fallen in love with your perfect wedding month yet? Once you make a decision, be sure to put the date into your [Zola Weddings Checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) so you can get a whole bunch (or just a few) customized planning reminders up until the big day. Happy planning!\n","tag":"Getting Started","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Seasons_Quiz"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Showcase your love story and details in style. Start creating today!","title":"How to Create Your Wedding Website: 10 Simple Steps ","slug":"how-to-make-a-wedding-website","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6a4MvmncJr4AKia1nFr6Tn/91e1616adecb7211caf14038546e0f27/DESKTOP_ww.png","altText":"Zola wedding website as seen on a laptop computer"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"We’ll walk you through the steps of online wedding planning, highlighting all of Zola’s incredibly easy and intuitive online wedding planning tools that’ll make planning for the big day more fun and less frustrating.","title":"How to Plan a Wedding: A Step-by-Step Guide","slug":"how-to-plan-a-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dIWp3wUEoOYErrmI2ARMW/7ef19284bfcf930b88487d3c0a562999/How-to-plan-a-Wedding.jpg","altText":"Zola online wedding planning tools as seen on mobile, desktop, and tablet"},"type":"articlePage"}],"featured":[{"excerpt":"You're engaged—congrats! 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Free, printable version inside!","title":"2024/25 Printable Wedding Planning Checklist & Timeline - Zola","slug":"your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist","topic":"Wedding planning 101","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4fA6of0jjP7aJqXJRy0JOx/edd3b48f6fea1e273025d3db462dd4be/Ultimate_Wedding_Planning_Checklist.jpg","altText":"wedding planning checklist"},"type":"checklistPage"},{"excerpt":" ","title":"Who Pays For The Wedding? Everything You Need To Know","slug":"who-should-pay-for-wedding","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5u5bUTU4EmdO2SsWyG5I4B/28f9bed9f90049ee650968096b1dfc6b/pexels-rose-rosen-18386512.jpg","altText":"Asian family with bride and groom looking down at a paper and smiling"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-06-03T02:06:19.435Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"a-guide-to-tipping-wedding-vendors","title":"How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors","excerpt":"Confused on how much to tip wedding vendors, which vendors to tip, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: explore our guide for tipping wedding vendors.","publishedAt":"2019-01-17T20:06:32.436Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/oljNU6JIHuglslJ7ouSRO/c09c8646dad52d410abed69adbc51a28/lovesome-photography.webp","altText":"how much to tip wedding vendors and venue coordinator"},"heroCredit":"Lovesome Photography","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/lovesome-photography","body":"You’ve signed the last check, paid the last deposit, purchased the final items, and settled up all the remaining balances…your wedding has been paid for! Or—has it? In the grand scheme of budgeting for your wedding, don’t forget to factor in funds for tipping wedding vendors. While not all vendors expect to be tipped for their services—instead choosing to make their prices reflect all the payment they feel they need—for some it’s an expectation to follow tipping etiquette in the wedding industry. Confused on which vendors to tip, how much you should tip each type of vendor, and when to distribute tips? Fear not: here’s a guide on tipping vendors.\n\n## Wedding Vendor Tipping Pointers\n\n1. Tips are a great way to show vendors your appreciation for their hard work at your wedding and may even be an unexpected surprise. You can also tip when you feel you’ve received extraordinary service.\n2. Check your contracts to be sure that gratuity has not already been included in the price.\n3. Generally speaking, you do not need to tip the owners of large businesses (just their employees). Small business owners, on the other hand, should be considered for tipping based on the quality of service you feel you’ve received.\n4. Tip or no tip, writing a thank you note to vendors who provided you with great service is always a thoughtful gesture and highly appreciated—as is leaving them positive reviews on wedding planning websites like [Zola for Vendors](https://www.zola.com/inspire/vendors).\n\n### Who's responsible for tipping?\n\nWhen it comes to tipping wedding vendors, the responsibility for providing the tip can sometimes be a point of confusion, especially if someone else is covering the cost of the wedding. In the scenario where the bride's parents or another party are paying for the wedding, it is generally considered thoughtful and appropriate for your as the couple to handle the tipping on their own. \n\nTipping vendors is a gesture of appreciation for their hard work and dedication in making the wedding day special. Even if someone else is funding the event, you've likely been involved in selecting and working with the vendors throughout the planning process, making it fitting that they express their gratitude through tipping. By taking on this responsibility, you can ensure that the vendors who contributed to your big day are properly acknowledged and thanked for their efforts.\n\n## How Much to Tip Wedding Vendors (by Vendor Type)\n\nWhile your tip should depend on your wedding budget and level of satisfaction & a few other factors, here are some quick guidelines on how to tip your wedding vendors, with additional protocol & tips below:\n\n- Photographers & Videographers: 10% of the total package cost if opting for a percentage, or $50-$100 per person\n- Wedding coordinator/planners: 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500)\n- Wedding Venue Coordinator/Catering Captain: $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill\n- Officiant: $50-$100\n- Ceremony Musicians: $15-$20 per musician\n- Florist: $50-100\n- Hairstylist & Makeup Artist: 15-20% of total\n- Transportation: 15-20%\n- Wedding Band: $25-$50 per musician\n- Wedding DJ: 10-20% of total\n- Reception Waitstaff: 15-20% of labor costs on food & drink bill\n- Reception Bartender: 10% of the total bill\n- Delivery Personnel: $5-$10 per person\n\n### Wedding [Photographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers) and [Videographer(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider tipping second shooters or staff beyond the business owner(s).\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping wedding photographers and videographers 10% of the packgae cost or $50-$100 per person. You could also provide a good review as another nice gesture for their photography services. \n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding Planner](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; about 50% of couples tip.\n- __Amount:__ Although wedding planners don’t expect a tip, if you’d like to show your appreciation for examples of exceptional service, consider offering a tip that’s 10-20% of the total bill (up to $500).\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception, or mail it after the honeymoon.\n\n### Wedding Venue Coordinator/[Catering Captain](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, based on contract. If service fee is not included, tip according to below.\n- __Amount:__ Wedding venue coordinators and catering captains should be tipped $250-500, or 15-20% of the food and drink bill.\n- __Timing:__ If included in the contract, the final bill is due before the wedding. If not, at the end of the reception.\n\n### Officiant\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected, depending on officiant. If s/he works for a church or synagogue, you might consider making a donation to that institution additionally.\n- __Amount:__ A wedding officiant should be tipped around $50-100 for the officiant alone, depending on how much time they’ve spent with you pre-ceremony. Consider a $100-500 donation to the religious institution.\n- __Timing:__ Prior to the wedding (when paying the ceremony service fee), or after the rehearsal.\n\n### [Ceremony Musicians](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider the complexity of their setup and/or performance.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping each ceremony musicians $15-20 per musician.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the wedding ceremony.\n\n### [Florist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional or not expected, unless you really loved their work and service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding florist $50-$100 of your total floral bill.\n- __Timing:__ Include a separate check with the final invoice, or mail it after the -honeymoon.\n\n### [Hair & Make-up Artist(s)](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding hair and make-up artists should be tipped 15-20% of your total charge (just like at a salon!). You can discuss with your wedding party whether on not you plan to cover this cost or if they're expected to.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of their service.\n\n### Transportation\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected (but may be already included in the contract).\n- __Amount:__ Wedding transportation staff should be tipped 15-20% of your total bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the night or after the final ride.\n\n### [Wedding Band](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall performance and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding band $25-$50 per musician\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Wedding DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional; consider their overall quality and responsiveness to your requests.\n- __Amount:__ Although not required, consider tipping your wedding DJ 10-20%.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception.\n\n### [Reception Waitstaff](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service.\n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception waitstaff 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill. Reach out to the your lead caterer or catering captain to determine the best way to ensure each person you plan to give a tip recieves theirs.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### [Reception Bartender](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Optional, based on contract (check to see if a service fee is included). Tip on top of service fee only for exceptional service. \n- __Amount:__ Consider tipping your wedding reception bartender 10% of the total liquor bill.\n- __Timing:__ At the end of the reception (or during set-up, to encourage great service).\n\n### Delivery Personnel (Wedding Cake, Rentals, Flowers, Etc.)\n\n- __Protocol:__ Expected\n- __Amount:__ Wedding delivery personnel should be tipped $5-$10 per person\n- __Timing:__ Leave cash envelopes with the coordinator or catering manager (whomever will be on site overseeing delivery and setup) to distribute the tip(s).\n\n## How to Deliver Tips \n\nIt is essential to consider streamlining the process, especially amidst the bustling activities of the big day. One solution to designate a member of the wedding party, such as the best man or maid of honor, to take charge of distributing tips. This delegation allows the couple to fully immerse themselves in the joyous occasion, free from concerns about managing tipping logistics. This arrangement becomes particularly advantageous if the couple plans a grand exit, as they won't be burdened with carrying envelopes while making their departure. By entrusting a trusted individual with the task, the vendors' hard work receives the appropriate appreciation, contributing to a harmonious and memorable celebration for all involved parties.\n","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"The cost of a wedding cake will depend on factors like size, shape, & decor. Read our guide to gain insights on the average cost of a wedding cake this year.","title":"How Much Does the Average Wedding Cake Cost in 2025?","slug":"a-guide-to-wedding-cake-costs","topic":"Venues & vendors","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/ywuArPikb1BsvjvYzDQhn/24f27696b854c3c5a22eed69292c6c4b/Guide-to-Wedding-Cake-Costs-and-Price.jpg","altText":"Graphic of pink wedding cake with heart cake topper and price tag"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Your go-to guide for wedding guest attire, from formal to casual. Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:08.828Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one","title":"Bridal Party vs. Wedding Party: What's the Difference? ","excerpt":"What's the difference between a wedding party & a bridal party? Learn more & get expert planning tips to help you prepare for the big day.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2018-12-18T17:01:19.590Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68X8glzRII6myuoYsI6E0S/f9b9a7d44f481f5628e374b6b0c1e744/Hero_New_GildedGlamWeddingatSkyRoomatCrownePlazaMidtown_LoveInMotionLLC.jpg","altText":"formal portrait of wedding party. Bride and bride maids with bouquet are sitting on stair in the front , Groom and groom men are standing at the back"},"heroCredit":"Zola","heroCreditUrl":"https://www.zola.com/inspiration/wedding-photographers/creative-images-photography","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- A wedding party is the group of people chosen by the couple to support them from engagement to marriage. \n- Siblings, close family members, and best friends are often chosen to be part of the wedding party.\n- The bridal party is the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day.\n- Some members of the wedding party have specific roles, like the best man who might be expected to plan the bachelor party, or the maid of honor who is often expected to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.\n","body":"A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage. The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s). They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the big day. Some of these wedding party duties include: \n\n- Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.\n- Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the big day.\n- Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby after the bride’s grand entrance until after the couple exchanges their vows.\n- Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary. \n\n## What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party? \n- A __wedding party__ is the term for the entire group of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as the flower girl or ring bearer. \n- The __bridal party__, is just the group chosen by the bride to support her on the wedding day. \n\nTraditionally, bridal party members are made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the people chosen by the couple to surround and support them on their special day. \n\n## Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?\nThere are three categories of people who are usually included in the wedding party:\n1. __Siblings:__ Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list. \n2. __Close family:__ Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.\n3. __Best friends:__ The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time. Keep in mind these are the people that will be in your wedding photos forever!\n\n## Traditional Wedding Party Roles\nAt weddings with a \"head table,\" the wedding party sits with the bride and/or groom. With a \"sweetheart table\", the couple is seated separately from their wedding party, but their closest friends and family are still in close proximity.\n\nHere’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do. \n\n- *__Pro Tip:__ While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your wedding planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.*\n\n### Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- Best Man: the groom’s main dude. \n- Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.\n- Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.\n- Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.\n- Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.\n- Junior Bridesmaid or Junior Groomsman: usually tween-age family members or children of the bride and groom’s closest\n- Flower girl or boy: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.\n- Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.","body2":"### Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles\n- __Best Man:__ A close friend of the groom, the best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:\n - Plan the [bachelor party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelor-parties).\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal \n - Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the big day.\n - Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.\n - Assist with things like handing out programs to wedding guests or ushering before the ceremony.\n - Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the wedding ceremony).\n - [Give a speech](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-give-a-great-wedding-toast) during the reception.\n - Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.\n\n- __Maid or Matron of Honor:__ Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties: \n - Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.\n - Attend the wedding rehearsal.\n - Help plan or host the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower). \n - Help plan or host the [bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties).\n - Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready with their bridesmaid dress, hair, with hair and makeup and on time on the wedding day.\n - Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.\n - Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.\n - Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her dress.\n - Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.\n - Give a speech during the reception.\n - Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities. \n\n- __Bridesmaids & Groomsmen:__ These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to: \n - Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as the engagement party, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and wedding rehearsals.\n - Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.\n - Buy the couple a wedding gift.\n - Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.\n - Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.\n - Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.\n - Hit the dance floor when requested.\n - Occasionally give a speech at the wedding reception.\n\n- __Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s):__ Traditionally, the bride’s parents and/or groom’s parents are expected to be involved in both the wedding planning, wedding rehearsals, and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the bride and groom typically: \n - Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town families.\n - Serve as point people for guests who need extra assistance during the wedding ceremony and reception.\n - Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.\n\n - __Mother of the Bride:__ The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the wedding planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress, the bride’s necklace, costumes, and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances. \n\n - __Mother of the Groom:__ The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.\n\n - __Father of the Bride:__ The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.\n\n - __Father of the Groom:__ The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men. \n\n- __Other Family and Friends:__ Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your special day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your loved ones with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):\n - Ceremony reader \n - Ceremony musician or singer\n - Ceremony greeter who hands out programs\n - Ceremony usher\n - Guest book attendant \n - Wedding officiant\n - Wedding Dj\n\n## Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?\nThe short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want any wedding party members: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"widget2":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Being a bridesmaid means agreeing to a fairly long list of responsibilities. We’ve put together a comprehensive list of bridesmaid duties.","title":"The Bridesmaid Duties: A Full Breakdown","slug":"what-are-the-bridesmaid-duties","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6QXWPz3k4MiAsmCmeU0eMA/7e2a00bd16521e40896f972d429c5189/Hero_RomanticWeddingatAbigailKirschatTappanHillMansion_ChristopherDugganPhotography__1_.jpg","altText":"Bridesmaid Duties"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"You want to include everyone in your wedding party, but you know you can't. 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Find the perfect look for every dress code and celebration.","title":"Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code","slug":"what-to-wear-to-a-wedding","topic":"Fashion & beauty","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5bgD1lwZNmIWCwyoiQgUI/abb4b34d02674b500f4edb610fb1eea6/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"wedding guests laughing with bride at wedding receptions"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:23.818Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"not-inviting-family-to-your-wedding-dos-and-donts","title":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts","excerpt":"When creating your wedding guest list, you have to decide what family members to invite to your special day. ","author":"Shameika Rhymes","publishedAt":"2021-11-01T17:39:03.104Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2FasL7jbQMuE8Tog7QvCT9/27638355f72d377c0188c58e80b7f68a/Hero_Zola__12_.jpg","altText":"Not Inviting Family to Your Wedding: Do's and Don'ts"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- There are some things to take into consideration when deciding not to invite family members. Ask yourself: Is your relationship repairable? Are they immediate family? Is there room in the budget to invite everyone?\n- If you decide not to invite family to the wedding, do be compassionate and considerate of their feelings, whatever they may be.\n- Stand your ground, and if you decide to not invite some family members to your wedding, don’t cave to emotional blackmail.","body":"You said “Yes!” Now comes the fun part of planning your dream wedding. But one of your first tasks can be a challenging one: narrowing down the wedding guest list. What if there are some family members that might not make the cut?\n\n__Table of Contents:__\n\nPart 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding \nPart 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family \nPart 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family \n\nIt’s your wedding, and you can invite whoever you want to. You should definitely never feel obligated to invite anyone, including family members, especially if there’s good reason to leave them off the list. \n\nStill, it can be an undeniably awkward situation. If you’re not sure how to handle it, [Zola](https://www.zola.com/)’s here to help. Read on:\n\n## __Part 1: Reasons to Not Invite Family to the Wedding__ \n\nWeddings often bring family drama to the surface. Usually, it’s important to invite family members to the wedding, but there are some exceptions. \n\n#### __The Relationship is Rocky and Can’t Be Repaired Before the Wedding__\n\nYou want your loved ones surrounding you on your big day, but if there’s tension hovering, things can be a bit awkward. The idea of celebrating your wedding with extra guests you don’t get along with, dislike, or haven’t spoken to in years can be a tough decision. But, you have to ask yourself if it’s worth potentially ruining a relationship. If you’ll be seeing the person or people at future family events, perhaps you should think about mending things. If it's not salvageable, be prepared for possible repercussions. \n\n#### __The Budget is Tight__\n\nThe amount of people you should invite to your wedding depends on a few things, including your budget, venue, and the type of vibe or atmosphere you’re trying to create. Usually, it’s best to split the guest list between you and your partner, so you have an even number of family and friends from both sides. \n\nIf you’re sticking to your wedding budget, then you have to think about how much you’re willing to spend, since that will determine how many people you can invite. Remember: [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) cost money. If you’re on a tight budget, perhaps you can only afford to invite immediate family members from both sides. \n\n#### __They Make You and Others Uncomfortable__ \nSometimes, there are family members that tend to go overboard with everything. If having them at the wedding will make you or your guests uncomfortable, cutting them from your invite list is perfectly okay. While you could try to fix things ahead of time, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. \nOften, peace of mind is more valuable than having a relative that loves drama or has caused your family pain at the wedding. You shouldn’t feel forced to invite anyone that makes you uncomfortable, especially because it’s your wedding.\n\n## __Part 2: Dos to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \nThere are many couples who choose not to invite family members for various reasons, but it’s especially hard when it’s because of a strained relationship. Even budget constraints can be delicate, since you still have to be aware of people’s feelings. Here are some things to do when you’re not planning to invite family members to your wedding. \n\n#### __Do Surround Yourself With Loved Ones__\nFor your wedding, you want to feel fulfilled rather than devoid, so it’s important to surround yourself with the people you’ve chosen as family. Family can mean close friends that you consider closer than blood relatives. \n\n#### __Do Be Honest__\nThe worst thing you can do is completely avoid any questions about the uninvited guests. Confront the situation head on by explaining to family members that you had a tough decision, and you wanted everyone there, but the guest list is final. There’s no need to go into why you opted to keep them off the guest list. It’s up to you how much to reveal. \n\n#### __Do Be Mindful and Gentle With People’s Feelings__ \nYou’re already dealing with a lot of stress planning the wedding, and having to hurt someone’s feelings only adds to it. Still, it’s important to be mindful of your family members' feelings and be aware that they actually wanted to share in your big day, not just the free food and drinks. If they ask why they weren’t invited, try not to be offended and understand that they may simply feel left out. \n\n#### __Do Think of Other Ways to Include Non-Invited Family Members__\n\nIf you’re having a smaller, intimate wedding and there are several family members that you weren’t able to invite to your celebration, there are still ways to include them. If you feel bad about not inviting them, have a second reception just for them. That can be in the form of a backyard cookout, a cocktail party, or even a big family dinner. It’s totally up to you and your partner. \n\n#### __Do Invite Them Virtually__ \nYour [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) and budget may not allow for a big wedding. You can still include them virtually. Set up a webcam, or ask your videographer about streaming the wedding online so family members that weren’t invited to the actual in-person ceremony can still take part. \n\n#### __Do Thank Uninvited Family Members for Gifts__\n\nIf the uninvited family member sends a gift, you should definitely thank them. If the non-invite issue comes up, it’s up to you whether or not you want to have that conversation. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and the guest list is up to you. You don’t have to explain yourself. However, if the person is sensitive about the situation, then you can just explain to them that you had tough decisions to make, but you still love them. \n\n## __Part 3: Don’ts to Consider When Not Inviting Family__ \n\nWith not inviting some family members, there’s bound to be drama and backlash. Here are some tips to help you stand your ground: \n\n#### __Don’t Argue About Your Decision__ \nIt’s inevitable that the uninvited family member is going to be hurt and upset. If they start debating your decision, don’t argue about it. Instead, give them a warning that it’s something you don’t want to discuss. If they continue to ignore that, politely end the conversation. It’s not worth getting into an argument that could get nasty and cause an even bigger rift. \n\n#### __Don’t Give in to Invite Fishing__\n\nIf someone starts getting pushy and fishing for an invite, don’t adjust your guest list because you feel guilty. Simply reiterate your decision and decline to discuss it further. Don’t answer any more questions about it after that. \n\n#### __Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Pressured__\n\nOnce invited family members hear that some other family members weren’t invited, they may threaten not to attend your wedding. This is your wedding, your decision and they have to respect that. Tell them you’re sorry they won’t be attending, but don’t give in to them pushing you to change your mind. \n\nUltimately, it’s your wedding day and your budget. If you have a large family and a smaller budget, there will be some tough cuts. Give yourself grace when creating your guest list, and stand by your decision. Don’t invite the family members that were left off the guest list because you feel obligated or pressured. It’s your wedding—you make the rules. \n\nIf you need help creating your guest list, let [Zola](https://www.zola.com/) help. Use our free and easy to use [guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) to make it simpler to collect RSVPs, meal choices, and mailing addresses.","tag":"How-To ","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_WeddingWebsite"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Create Your Free Website","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_WEBSITE"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:46:09.686Z"},{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions"},"slug":"what-percentage-of-guests-should-you-expect-to-come-to-your-wedding","title":"How Many Guests Should I Expect to Come to My Wedding?","excerpt":"There are many factors that determine the average wedding size. One of the biggest ones? The percentage of invited guests that actually attend.","author":"Emily Forrest","publishedAt":"2021-09-28T16:50:57.568Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/hEh5LaI5BV3jrLLeswzmc/debe4f2a845721fb2d6db0017d690203/Hero_Zola.jpg","altText":"What Percentage of Guests Should You Expect to Come to Your Wedding?"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"## The First Look ✨\n\n- As a rule of thumb, you can usually expect around 75-85 percent of those invited to actually attend the wedding. \n- Sending out save the dates six to eight months in advance will give guests time to prepare for the wedding—ultimately increasing the number of people who will attend.\n- The average wedding guest list is around 167 people in 2021. Smaller weddings usually hover around 50 people, while larger celebrations can reach up to 300 or more guests. \n- Putting together your perfect guest list is easy at Zola. From stylish wedding invitations to digital seating charts, couples can plan everything with the click of a button.","body":"There are many joys that come with planning your wedding. From selecting the floral arrangements to trying on wedding bands, putting together your big day is full of fun, creative, and important choices.\n\nThen, there’s the guest list. Crafting your wedding guest list can be a source of stress for many couples. How many people should I invite? Can my wedding venue hold this many guests? Is my second cousin’s childhood best friend going to be angry if she’s not invited?\n\nThese are just a few of the burning questions soon-to-be spouses ask when putting together their wedding guest list. \n\nOn top of making these decisions, there’s also the question of who will even attend the wedding after they receive the invitation. The percentage of guests that actually RSVP can vary depending on the location, date, and time of your wedding. \n\nFortunately, Zola has you covered. In this article, we’ll be discussing all the variables that go into your wedding guest list, including how many people you should invite and which guests are most likely to show up. \n\n## Wedding Guests 101 \nThe simple truth is that not everyone you invite will end up coming to your wedding. Excluding extremely small ceremonies of just the wedding party, usually about 75-85 percent of the people you invite will actually attend your wedding.\n\n### Types of Guests\nOne of the biggest influences on whether or not a guest attends your wedding is their proximity to the location. Generally speaking, there are usually three different types of wedding guests:\n\n- __Local guests –__ Typically, around 85 percent of local guests will attend your wedding. These are people who live in or around the city where the ceremony is taking place.\n\n- __Out-of-town guests –__ For many people, a large portion of their list will be out-of-town guests. These guests may not live too far away, but they’ll usually need to stay a couple of nights in order to attend. Couples can expect about 55 percent of out-of-town guests to be present at their wedding. \n\n- __Destination –__ Finally, we have destination wedding guests. Destination weddings typically require a flight and an extended stay at the wedding location, making it the smallest percentage of the three. Couples should expect about 35 percent of destination wedding guests to attend their big day. That being said, guest lists for destination weddings are often much shorter than a traditional celebration, so this is a factor to keep in mind. \n\nIf you’re planning an out-of-town or destination wedding, finding accommodations for guests doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Zola users can easily create hotel blocks with our online [Hotel Planner](https://zola.hotelplanner.com/Group-Rate/)—making it possible for all your loved ones to join in on the celebration.\n\n### Average Wedding Size\nIt’s also important to note that the size of a wedding guest list can range quite a bit. While some people prefer to invite only family and wedding party members, others may include their friends and co-workers. The size of your guest list is ultimately up to personal preference, budget, and venue. \n\nTypically most weddings do not have guest lists that exceed 200 people. In fact, the average wedding in 2021 consisted of 167 according to Wedding Stats.\n\nBeyond this average, every couple will have a different idea of how big they want their wedding to be. Most weddings can be broken down into three categories:\n\n- __Small weddings –__ Small weddings are great for couples who want an intimate celebration of love. A short guest list can also keep your wedding budget low and leave money for decor, food, and experience. Smaller weddings are typically made up of around 50 people or so.\n\n- __Large weddings –__ If you have the money and the space, a large wedding can be a blast. Large weddings are also extremely inclusive and allow for all your friends and family to celebrate your big day together. Big weddings may have guest lists as long as 300 people or more. \n\n- __Destination weddings –__ Did you know that one in four weddings are actually destination weddings? This may surprise many people, but the truth is that destination weddings happen all the time; however, their guest lists are usually pretty exclusive. This is because many people cannot take the time off work or afford the accommodations required for a destination wedding. For these reasons, couples planning a destination wedding will typically keep their guest list small—with an average of 86 people.\n\n## Invitation Timeline \nEnsuring that a majority of your guests actually show up is all about timing. It’s crucial that couples give their loved ones ample time to prepare for the big day, especially when it comes to guests who are traveling to attend. \n\nThe key to preparing your guests for the wedding date is utilizing save the dates.\n\n### What Are Save the Dates?\nWhat’s the difference between a wedding invitation and a save the date? \n\nFor one, save the dates are more casual. They do not include an RSVP or any detailed information regarding the wedding ceremony and wedding reception. Instead, save the dates are a simple heads up that a wedding is in the works.\n\nSave the dates typically convey three main points:\n\n- The names of the couple\n- The city where the wedding is going to be held\n- The exact date of the wedding ceremony\n\nSave the dates are a vital step in the wedding process, and you’ll want to send them out around six to eight months before the wedding date.\n\n### When Should Invitations Be Sent?\nWedding Invitations are the more formal side of reserving loved one’s weekends. They typically include an RSVP card (or instructions for a digital RSVP process). Your invitations will also go into greater detail about the following information:\n\n- The exact location of the ceremony\n- The time of the ceremony\n- Reception information\n- Dress code\n- Travel information, transportation, and accommodations \n\nUnlike save the dates, invitations are sent out much later—around six to eight weeks before the wedding. \n\nSending your invitations earlier may seem like a good idea if you want all your guests to attend the wedding; however, this is not typically done. The reason is that many people aren’t able to predict their schedules much further than two months ahead. Additionally, when it’s set too far in advance, many people will forget the wedding is approaching. Plus, that’s what the save the date is for.\n\nLooking for a place to purchase all your wedding stationery? Zola has you covered. We offer hundreds of stylish [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) and [save the date](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop) designs, and users can even match the two for a perfectly seamless look. \n\n## Expectations for Your Guest List \nPlanning a wedding is a lot of work, and setting realistic expectations is crucial to keeping the process smooth and organized.\n\nHere’s what you need to know about guest list expectations:\n\n- __Be realistic –__ You’ll want to keep expectations realistic by asking yourself important questions along the way. How many people do you really want there? How many meals can you afford? Which out-of-town guests have the means of traveling to the wedding location?\n\n- __Keep your space in mind –__ The ceremony and reception venue you select will have a major impact on how long your guest list can be. Consider how many people your venue can hold comfortably and work within these confines. Fortunately, Zola users can check out our database of pre-screened [wedding vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) and search for [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues) based on size. We have options that range from intimate gatherings of 50 people to large celebrations of 300 or more.\n\n- __Don’t be offended –__ When crafting your guest list and sifting through RSVPs, it’s important to not let emotions get out of control. Planning a wedding can be stressful, and finding out a loved one can’t come never feels good. That being said, couples should keep in mind that people have busy lives, and some loved ones may not be able to travel at this time. Always remember that your friends and family still love you even if they’re unable to attend the wedding. \n\n## Creating Your Guest List\nSo we’ve covered the main question at hand: what percentage of people will attend your wedding, but where do you go from here? Gauging how many people will RSVP to your wedding is important because it will help you craft the best guest list possible.\n\nMost couples start by creating their own individual lists and then combining them for a final tally. Here’s how to do this, step-by-step:\n\n- __Step 1:__ Your immediate family – You’ll want to begin your guest list with the immediate family members who will be attending the wedding—this includes parents, siblings, and in-laws.\n\n- __Step 2:__ Wedding party members – By this point, you’ve probably already chosen your wedding party members (ie. best man, best maiden, maid of honor, man of honor, etc.)—so including these guests on your list will be pretty easy. Most wedding parties are typically no larger than 10 people, with five members on each side. \n\n- __Step 3:__ Extended family – Next, consider how many extended family members you’ll want to invite. This list includes grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and perhaps any close family friends. This step will often take up a large portion of your guest list, since many people have large extended families.\n\n- __Step 4:__ Close and mutual friends – Next, you have all the friends who are not part of the wedding party. Think about your friends in terms of groups and go through your list thoroughly to make sure that you haven’t forgotten anyone important. You and your fiance can also compare lists when it comes to mutual friends, in order to avoid sending out double invites by accident. \n\n- __Step 5:__ Co-workers – Do you have any colleagues from work that you’d like to invite? If you have the space on your guest list, now is the time to include them. The same goes for colleagues from any previous jobs that you’ve had who you remained friends with. \n\n- __Step 6:__ Spouses and significant others – Traditionally, it’s common courtesy to invite the spouses and partners of any of your guests. As far as new romantic relationships go, there is no cut-and-dry etiquette for invitations, but it’s always polite to give adult guests a plus one. \n\n- __Step 7:__ Children – If you’re inviting the parents of a young child, it’s a nice gesture to invite their children too. That being said, some couples may prefer to have a child-free wedding, and this practice is fairly common. Sometimes, parents are excited for a night to themselves—in this case, we recommend giving people a heads up so that they can find a babysitter. \n\n- __Step 8:__ Guests of parents – If parents are contributing money to the wedding, it's customary for them to add their own guests to the list—this goes for your spouse’s parents, too.\n\n- __Step 9:__ Out-of-town guests – For couples with close friends and family who live far away, it’s traditional to send out an invitation to them regardless of whether or not they can come. Not only is this the polite thing to do, but it also leaves room for a pleasant surprise if they actually can make it.\n\n- __Step 10:__ Plus ones – Although we briefly touched upon this subject in step six, plus ones are crucial to keep in mind when crafting your guest list. If you’re allowing a guest to bring a plus one, this must be stated on the invitation. If not explicitly stated, this usually means a plus one is not expected. Not being specific about plus-ones can lead to problems with seating, so just be sure to make this as clear as possible. Traditionally, single adults are allowed plus ones, while younger guests are not. Plus-ones can be a sensitive subject, since most people do not want to attend a wedding alone. This is why it's important to remain considerate when determining the plus one rule for your wedding day. \n\nYou and your fiance will each make your own list, and then compare at the end. While these lists should be relatively equal, the final number is ultimately up to you. If you tend to keep your circle tight, and your spouse is more of a social butterfly, there’s nothing wrong with them having a few more guests on their list. Just remember to communicate and make sure that you’re on the same page every step of the way. \n\n## Building Your Seating Chart\nAfter you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s time to move on to the seating chart. \n\nGenerally, weddings of over 50 people will need a seating chart to keep things organized. Here are some basic tips you’ll want to keep in mind when crafting this essential part of your wedding day:\n\n- __Choose tables wisely –__ You’ll want to spend a good amount of time figuring out who will sit together at each table. Usually, wedding party members sit together with the happy couple. Families will also typically sit together, often sectioned off by immediate family or sides of the family. The parents of the couple may sit together or with their own family members, depending on their relationship to each other. Friends from the same groups—such as high school friends, college friends, and co-workers—will usually sit together, too.\n\n- __Kids table –__ If you do choose to invite kids, you’ll probably have a designated kids table. Most weddings only have a single kids table, since a majority of guests will be adults.\n\n- __Surprise guests –__ Sometimes, you get a few surprise arrivals on your wedding day. This may be due to a lost RSVP in the mail, or an unexpected plus one brought by a guest. It’s important to have a few extra chairs on hand just in case an additional guest arrives.\n\n### How Many People Should Sit at Each Table? \nThe number of guests at each table will depend on your venue and layout, but large circular tables can usually fit around eight to 12 people comfortably. \n\nSome couples may opt for longer, rectangular tables to create a family-style dining experience. These types of tables are able to fit a larger number of people and may work better for more intimate gatherings by allowing all your guests to sit together. \n\nPutting together a seating chart on paper can be complicated and time-consuming. That’s why many couples are ditching the cork boards and thumbtacks for Zola’s [online guest list manager](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-guest-list?question=NAME). Users can create organized seating charts directly on our website and save them for later.\n\n## Plan Your Perfect Guest List at Zola \nWedding planning can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be when you use Zola.\n\nZola is your one-stop shop for all your nuptial necessities: from helpful planning tools—like our vendor database and online guest manager—to stylish invitation designs, and even [Expert Wedding Advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice). Once you start putting together your big day from the comfort of home, you’ll be able to ditch the stress and jump straight to the celebration.\n\nStart planning your wedding the modern way today, at Zola!","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"How does one go about choosing a wedding venue? 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Find out why and when you should send your save the dates with this complete guide.","title":"A Guide to Save The Dates","slug":"a-guide-to-save-the-dates","topic":"Invites & paper","tag":"Inspiration","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1l4X83Mek3961mcDS1Mxap/63f3401f482b291ea6472fab334c2ef8/A-Guide-to-Save-the-Date.jpg","altText":"wedding save the date by zola"},"type":"articlePage"},{"excerpt":"Weddings are celebrations and things can get out of hand. Here's exactly how to deal with drunk wedding guests (and even prevent too much over-drinking).","title":"How to Handle a Super Drunk Wedding Guest","slug":"drunk-wedding-guest","topic":"Wedding planning 101","tag":"How-To ","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/rYISVmCrOfIIgAmkT3uFy/9765708ee6387e13b1da83eb0163a74f/pexels-cottonbro-3171736.jpg","altText":"drunk wedding guests"},"type":"articlePage"}],"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-02-05T16:45:27.967Z"}],"name":"Wedding planning questions","slug":"wedding-planning-questions","description":"Lots of questions come up when planning a wedding. Find answers to all of your wedding planning questions in these articles. From which vendors to tip to most common wedding etiquette questions to how to write thank-you cards, our experts guide you through."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding decorations","slug":"wedding-decorations"},"slug":"average-cost-of-wedding-decorations","title":"Average Cost of Wedding Decorations","excerpt":"Wedding decoration costs can include everything from flowers, to string lights and tablecloths. Read on to find out the average cost of wedding decorations.","publishedAt":"2020-12-09T17:40:01.539Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/uG1PQToQn3ZIW9nbuVNuC/6c886faeea9a1d9bf3c1acd387c40666/inline_unsplash__9_.jpg","altText":"Average Cost of Wedding Decorations"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","body":"On average, wedding decorations can range from $2,000 to $10,000. This average decor budget can include flowers, centerpieces, ceremony decor, and more. With that in mind, the average cost of wedding decorations can vary greatly, depending on where you’re getting married and how opulent you want to go. For a bare-bones DIY wedding ceremony in a natural setting like the beach, you might spend as little as $500, but if you’re hosting an over-the-top event in a large city venue, you could be looking at a bill of $20,000 or more. \n\n## How Much Do Wedding Decorations Cost? \nFor an outdoor wedding, expect to spend $200 to $3000 for the ceremony and $1,000 to $15,000 for the reception. Indoor weddings are a bit pricer, costing an average of $500 to $5,000 for the ceremony and greatly varying for the reception. To get an idea of how much the decorations will cost you, be sure to tally up everything carefully. This includes everything from the ceremony [floral wedding arch](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-much-do-wedding-arches-with-flowers-cost), to string lights, to floral centerpieces. (Ask your [wedding planner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-planner) or venue coordinator for an itemized list of wedding decor costs, so there are no surprises.) And don’t forget to include any labor costs associated with setup and breakdown.\n\nTo give you a better ballpark, here’s a closer look at the average cost of wedding decorations.\n\n### Average Wedding Decor Costs\n\nThese numbers can vary widely depending on how many guests you’re having, where you’re getting married, and how much you’ve budgeted for decor. With that in mind, average wedding decor costs include:\n\n- Flowers: $500 to $12,000\n- Centerpieces: $50 to $500 per table\n- Tablecloths or runner: $20 to $80 per table\n- Chargers: $8 to $10 each\n- Lighting: $200 to $5,000\n- Candlesticks: $10 each\n- Photo booth backdrop: $100 to $1,500\n- [Welcome sign](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas): $10 to $50\n- Aisle runner: $30 to $200\n- Ceremony arch: $75 to $1,000 (with flowers)\n\nCheck in with your wedding venue about decor, too. See if any of the costs noted above—like tablecloths or chargers—are already included in your wedding package. You can also look online for recycled wedding decor and DIY some of these decorations yourself.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Outdoor Wedding Ceremony\n\nPlanning to tie the knot in a beautiful setting outdoors? One of the top benefits is that a lot of the decor is likely already in place. (Thanks, mother nature!) Whether it’s the swaying palm trees on the beach or the evergreens in the woods, the setting will speak for itself—all you need to do is enhance it.\n\nYou’ll still need to rent chairs, which you can decorate with simple sashes or ribbons. And you may want an aisle runner and an arch to say your vows under. Keep flowers simple and, if you need extra lighting, add candles, twinkle lights, or lanterns. \n\nTo decorate an outdoor wedding ceremony, expect to spend: $200 to $3,000.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Outdoor Wedding Reception\n\n![Average Cost of Wedding Decorations](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/46u5rWHC0OLMqqHP507A0A/010a1000866e995c9b9d0215944e1334/inline_unsplash__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit //* Unsplash\n\nHow much it’s going to cost to decorate your outdoor reception depends on what type of amenities are already in place. It will also depend on how many guests you have and how much decor you want. For example, if you’re renting a large tent or dining outdoors after dark, you may have to pay for bistro and/or string lights so guests can see. These may cost up to $3,000 to install professionally. You may also want paper lanterns, flowers, tablecloths, chandeliers, candles, and other [wedding reception lighting](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/lantern-wedding-centerpieces-to-light-up-your-wedding).\n\nTo decorate an outdoor wedding reception, expect to spend: $1,000 to $15,000.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Indoor Wedding Ceremony\nFor an indoor wedding ceremony, you may want to add an arch, flowers, aisle runner, candles, lanterns, or other decor. These elements can help add some ambiance to an otherwise plain room. But if you are getting married in a beautiful church, mosque, or temple, you may not need much in terms of decorations. (Just let these beautiful venues speak for themselves!)\n\nTo decorate an indoor wedding ceremony, expect to spend: $500 to $5,000, depending if you’re going DIY or all out with the decor.\n\n### The Cost of Decorating an Indoor Wedding Reception\nIndoor receptions may take place in a ballroom, restaurant, historic building, or even a museum. Consider the location and ambiance before you decide on any decorations, and ask to see photos from other weddings at the space, so you can get an idea of what decor you need. For example, some rooftop venues with a view may require less decor than a hotel ballroom that’s a completely blank space.\n\nTo decorate an indoor wedding reception, the cost will [vary, depending on how much decor is required and what your wedding budget allows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-set-your-wedding-budget).\n\n### The Cost of Cultural Wedding Decoration\n\nCultural and religious decorative elements are another cost to factor into your wedding budget. Some examples are listed below.\n\nChuppah for Jewish ceremony: $350 to $1,500\nVarmala (or Jaimala) garlands for an Indian wedding: $60 to $200\nRed paper lanterns for a Chinese wedding: about $25 for 20 lanterns\nPapel Picado flags for a Mexican wedding: about $5 per bunting\n\nLooking for more decor inspo? Visit [Zola’s Expert](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) Advice for all the ideas you’ll need.","tag":"Advice","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_RealWeddings"}},"nextUp":[{"excerpt":"Your wedding centerpieces don't have to feature dramatic florals in order to be beautiful. Save money and get creative with these 29 unique centerpiece ideas for your wedding reception. 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Whether you're searching for beautiful ceremony backdrops, color palette inspo, or unique and trendy ideas, you'll find the inspiration you need to create a picture-perfect celebration."},{"featuredArticles":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day"},"slug":"heres-exactly-what-to-put-in-your-wedding-welcome-bags","title":"12 Tips on What to Put in Your Wedding Welcome Bags","excerpt":"Greet your guests with thoughtfully curated wedding welcome bags. Find perfect favors & essentials to delight your guests as they join your celebration.","author":"Laura Hensley","publishedAt":"2024-12-01T12:00-04:00","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3zZPEPdvLUwpkPiVDeNx3A/5f13e01c5e40872d216606d25e5ca605/Hero_New.jpg","altText":"Zola image of blue wedding bag with tissue paper and a heart on front"},"heroCredit":"Zola","tldr":"__Inside this article:__ \n- Why have wedding welcome bags?\n- Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags\n- How to package wedding welcome bags\n- When to give out wedding welcome bags\n- Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags\n- Who should receive a welcome basket?\n","body":"__TLDR:__\n- Practical things like snacks, water bottles, and a local map all add interest to wedding gift baskets.\n- You can use totes, boxes, or baskets to hold your wedding welcome bag items.\n- For out-of-town guests, have their welcome gifts ready as soon as they arrive—even waiting in their hotel room to surprise them.\n\n## Why have wedding welcome bags? \n\nWedding welcome bags are a great way to warmly greet [wedding guests](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/wedding-guests) as soon as they arrive at your festivities. These gift bags let family and friends know that you’re grateful they’re able to share your special weekend with you. Plus, wedding welcome bags are filled with items that will make guests’ experiences as comfortable—and memorable—as possible. \n\nAccording to McKenna Folmar, wedding planner at [Events by McKenna](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/events-by-mckenna), welcome gifts can make your guests feel appreciated. \"Wedding welcome bags are a delightful way to greet your guests, especially those who have traveled to join in your special day,\" she says. \"They offer a warm, personalized touch that can make your loved ones feel appreciated right from the start.\"\n\nIt's no wonder that welcome bags are particularly popular for [destination weddings](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/destination-wedding-checklist), but they’re also super common for local celebrations. They're a nice surprise for your wedding guests that can be waiting for them in their hotel room upon arrival. \"Wedding welcome bags are more than just a thoughtful gesture; they’re a chance to make your guests feel taken care of and excited for the weekend ahead,\" says Folmar. \n\nRead on for our tips on how to build and how to package your wedding welcome bags—and when you should give them out to guests. \n\n## Ideas on what to put in wedding welcome bags \n\nAccording to Folmar, the essentials are always a great place to start. She says, \"These are items that not only show thoughtfulness but also help make your guests’ experience smooth and enjoyable.\"\n\n### 1. Welcome note\nWhat would a wedding welcome bag be without a welcome note? Your note doesn’t need to be long—a simple, meaningful message is all that’s necessary. [Handwritten notes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-wedding-thank-you-cards) are always appreciated, but if time doesn’t permit, try to at least sign your names in ink. Don’t forget to include your wedding hashtag at the bottom of the note, too, or any other [social callouts](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) you want to make. \n\n[Forever Moments](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners/forever-moments--2) wedding planner, Brittany Poole also added her insight. \"I highly recommend a hand written note for each bag,\" she says. Having the personalized touch of showing appreciation and adding specific anecdotes can make your guests feel extra special.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Bag Notes](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6XGT7i0k49aVKt2BX3OFhL/e9641c188ee4a9dba6ebe4df9a323c39/Wedding_Welcome_Bag_Notes.jpg)\n\n### 2. Itinerary\nEven the simplest wedding needs a plan. \"Including a simple wedding weekend itinerary ensures your guests are informed and know where they need to be and when,\" says Folmar. \"This can be especially helpful for out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the area.\" For getaways or multi-day events, a detailed itinerary is crucial. Letting guests know where they need to be and when saves them from texting or calling you, or continuously logging onto your [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). \n\n### 3. Map\nIf you’re hosting a destination or an out-of-town wedding, include a map of the area and suggestions of things to do. \"Providing a small guide to the area with maps, restaurant recommendations, or must-see attractions can help guests make the most of their time, especially if they have some downtime during the weekend,\" says Folmar. \n\n### 4. Contact list\nWe recommend also including a list of contacts. You can add local emergency numbers and the names and numbers of the best people to reach out to for any questions—you and your fiance will havé enough going on.\n\n### 5. Snacks\nIt’s not a welcome bag if there’s no food. Well, it can be, but your guests will be happy to have their favorite snacks. Folmar says, \"Go-to snacks like granola bars, nuts, pretzels, or candy offer a little something for guests to munch on in between meals.\" \n\nThe welcome bag snack is also a great time to showcase a local treat, like homemade caramel squares or fresh shortbread cookies from a popular bakery. \"If you want to get a bit fancier, local specialties like artisan chocolates or regional treats are a fun way to elevate this standard,\" adds Folmar.\n\n![BluePhotoNYC InlineImage 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2ET2WujqYArzqjKl4KtBV5/2017e7c56f62b9dce66c73f5a8325532/BluePhotoNYC_InlineImage_1080x720.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Blue Photo NYC\n\n### 6. Water bottle—or two\nThis is a necessary staple. If your guests are staying in a hotel, they may not feel comfortable drinking tap water. Offer water bottles that they can bring with them to events or can graciously grab the morning after your reception. It’s a wedding after all—people will be celebrating. Folmars insight? \"Whether guests are just arriving after a long journey or getting ready for a day of wedding festivities, having a bottle of water is always appreciated,\" she reveals.\n\n### 7. Mints\nWeddings are basically mixers for your guests. It’s a lot of small talk with a lot of people. Add in [passed hors d'oeuvres](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-10-tips-for-successful-cocktail-hour) and things can get, well, stale. Keep everyone fresh with a small pack of mints. Add a tin of your favorite mints and guests can throw them in their clutches or suit jackets for the night. \n\n### 8. Something personal \nYour wedding welcome bag should be an extension of you and your partner. So, add a memento that’s reflective of your relationship. If you’re a huge tea lover, give guests a bag of your favorite kind. If your partner has a notorious sweet tooth, include their favorite [chocolate bar](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wow-your-guests-with-a-delicious-wedding-dessert-bar). If you two are famous for your homemade jam, gift everyone a small jar. Include a little note or label to explain the item’s significance. \n\n\"Personalized items such as monogrammed tote bags, candles, or even custom koozies give your guests a little something to remember the weekend by,\" says Folmar. \"These extras show thoughtfulness and add an element of surprise.\"\n\n![vahdam-teas-set](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3KSTT5UISXMg3vKPFSORFL/40b46d46f366626ffc3ed5f9b4e177bb/vahdam-teas-set.jpg)\n\n### 9. Single-serving alcohol\nHelp guests get the [party started](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-bar-ideas) with a cute mini bottle of champagne, a can of a local craft beer, or a sparkling rosé. You can also gift a mini liquor bottle and a small mixer. For example, a nip of gin and a can of flavored tonic will set the evening off—or end it—right. Throw in a colorful paper straw and bottle openers for a decorative touch.\n\n### 10. Beach towels\nHaving a waterside destination wedding? Your guests will love the idea of having a beach towel to take to the beach or pool. Destination wedding welcome bags are extremely fun for couples to curate. Just choose items that will aid your out of town guests throughout your wedding weekend. Gifts + a [beach wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pros-and-cons-of-a-beach-wedding) always equals a win in our book.\n\n### 11. Hangover kit\nHaving an open bar? Include a hangover kit in your welcome baskets. \"Hangover kits are both practical and fun,\" suggests Folmar. \"A mini hangover kit could include items like Advil, mints, an eye mask, and a hydrating drink or electrolyte powder to help your guests feel their best after a night of celebrating.\"\n\n### 12. Seasonal items\nBordering on the practical, include season-specific items for the comfort of your guests. \"For summer weddings, sunscreen, bug spray, and fans are great additions,\" recommends Folmar. \"In the fall or winter, think about including cozy extras like a small blanket or hand warmers.\"\n\n## How to package wedding welcome bags \nPackage your wedding welcome bags in a way that showcases your [wedding’s theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/5-wedding-color-palettes-to-try-right-now) and your personality. If you’re getting hitched waterfront, for example, you may want a nautical-style tote with a rope handle. If your wedding is in a country garden, think floral-print paper bags with pastel ribbon. \n\n### 1. Gift bags\nVellum or craft paper bags are easy to personalize and decorate—and they’re budget-friendly. They also make packing and bringing them to your guests’ accommodations easy. Use a stamp or customized sticker to label each bag with your and your partner’s name and wedding date.\n\nIf you want something more playful, brand each bag with the [wedding hashtag](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-easy-ways-to-create-your-wedding-hashtag). Add tissue paper on top, and tie a ribbon around the bag’s handles to seal the gift. \n\n![Unsplash InlineImage 1080x720 (1)](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4Ohw1ymX79s12z2bBdhOa0/422197e4daafbe545c496709223486c8/Unsplash_InlineImage_1080x720__1_.jpg)\n*Photo Credit* // Unsplash\n\n### 2. Tote bags\nTote bags are a take-home souvenir in and of themselves. This option may be better for smaller weddings as it’s definitely an expensive choice. You can go classic with a standard plain tote, or personalize the bags with a custom design or message. You can customize the bags with your couple monogram, your names, or just your wedding date and location. \n\n### 3. Baskets\nUnless they're collapsible, baskets may not be practical for a destiation wedding or guests who are flying. However, if you're willing to thrift and wash your baskets, this can be an economical way to provide something beautiful to house your wedding welcome present fo guests who are within driving distance.\n\n### 4. Boxes\nLike craft paper bags, paper or cardboard [wedding welcome](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-welcome-sign-ideas) boxes are easy to assemble and recycle—which is ideal for guests traveling light. Give a box the same treatment you would give a bag. Add a custom sticker, fill it with tissue paper, and add your items. It’s important to get a box that’s sturdy enough to hold your bag contents, too. \n\n![Wedding Welcome Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6qY7XwjAlqIyrOrQkWSkEH/1182e6ae8e53392560e925645f6dfec0/Wedding_Welcome_Box_Ideas.jpg)\n\n### 5. Burlap bags\nLove burlap? Instead of including it in your wedding decor, put your items inside of burlap bags complete with gift tags welcoming your friends and family. What to put in your welcome bag is as important as what you put it in, too. Bags made of burlap are also sturdy and pack well, meaning they're perfect for destination weddings. Your guests can use the bag for packing well beyond the wedding day.\n\n## When to give out wedding welcome bags \n\n### If you’re having a destination wedding…\nIf guests are coming from out of town at various times, it’s best to have their wedding welcome bag ready for them as soon as they arrive. \"Most couples opt to have the welcome bags delivered to the guests’ hotels,\" says Folmar. \"Coordinate with the hotel staff to have the bags placed in the guests' rooms or handed out at check-in. This way, your guests can enjoy them as soon as they arrive.\"\n\nIf possible, arrange for the bags to be ready in their rooms (if everyone is staying at the same accommodation), or have them handed out at check-in. Ask your wedding party to help organize this.\n\nThings to consider: If you’re traveling far for your [destination wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-are-the-best-wedding-destinations), you want to either have your wedding bags shipped to your location ahead of time or packed carefully and transported by your wedding party. Since it’s easy for things to get moved around or damaged in transit, don’t assemble the bags until you’ve arrived. \n\n### If you’re having a local wedding…\nIt’s pretty typical to have welcome bags ready at the various hotels or other guest [accommodations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-book-hotel-rooms-for-your-wedding-guests). However, if your wedding is small or most of your guests are traveling from their homes day-of, you can also have welcome bags on display in a designated area of your venue.\n\n\"If you’re hosting a welcome party or rehearsal dinner, distributing the bags there ensures all your guests receive them at once and sets the tone for the weekend,\" advises Folmar. You can arrange gifts on a front table, stack on a decorative shelf, or have members of the [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-people-in-wedding-party) hand them out to each guest as they arrive.\n\n![Wedding Welcome Gift Box Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aN5de1DVp24ZDxGXhnBjz/a0862c7bb4979c0e51172c4ad0ad48c6/Wedding_Welcome_Gift_Box_Ideas.jpg)\nPhoto by Wijdan Mq on Unsplash\n\n## Zola's expert tips on personalizing your wedding welcome bags \n\nBeyond learning what to put in wedding welcome bags, you may also be wondering how to infuse your personality while designing gifts that really speak to your guests. Here are a few ideas from our expert team on personalizing your welcome gifts.\n- Use your wedding website to query your guests on what they like. If you're putting together snacks or drinks, you can surprise them with their favorites.\n- Also, make note if your guests have any allergies. Special diets, such as lactose-free or gluten-free, should be noted on their responses, and you can use this insight to curate the perfect goodie baskets.\n- Get ultra-personal by providing monogrammed items. An initialed travel beauty bag or personalized dish towel can add a specialty touch.\n- Have favorite products? Include them in your welcome goodie baskets. If you found an amazing natural suncreen, soothing lip balm, or game that's a surefire hit, put it inside. \n\nPoole suggests polling your guests beforehand to further curate your welcome gifts. \"Because I always recommend the couple ask their guests about any food allergies/dietary restrictions in the RSVP, the couple will also have that information to provide any alternatives to the original food/beverage selections for those specific guests,\" she adds. Poole also notes that adding his and hers food and beverages can further hone your selections. \n\nLastly, Poole recommends adding a location-specific gift to your welcome baskets. \"I tell the couple to include some type of location-based gift such as a keychain or cup,\" she adds. \"One of my bride's welcome bags had a Starbucks mug with the city they were getting married in.\" How thoughtful!\n\nFolmar also has ideas for locally-sourced treats. \"Incorporating items that highlight the location of your wedding adds a unique touch,\" she says. \"Hosting your wedding in California? Include local wine or a pack of gourmet almonds. For a wedding in New Orleans? Maybe some beignets or chicory coffee would be perfect.\"\n\n## Who should receive a welcome basket? \nOf course, wedding welcome bags aren’t required for all weddings (budgets are important, we get it!), they are a thoughtful addition that really adds to the guest experience. However, if you choose to have them, there is a bit of protocol to follow.\n\n\"As for etiquette, it’s recommended to provide welcome bags for all your out-of-town guests,\" advises Folmar. \"If budget allows, you may even consider including local guests, especially if they’re staying overnight at the hotel or attending the full weekend of events.\"\n\nAre you looking for more ways for your wedding guests to feel comfortable? Learn how to keep your guests informed about [changes to your big day](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-update-guests-about-changes-to-your-wedding) and briefing them on [what they should wear](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding), Zola has all the answers you need.","tag":"Inspiration","widget1":{"marketingModule":{"tag":"EA_Masterbrand"}},"stickyCta":{"copy":"Start Planning With Zola","url":"https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard?product=WEDDING_PLANNING"},"updatedAt":"2024-12-01T22:47:10.307Z"}],"name":"Wedding day","slug":"wedding-day","description":"Advice to make your wedding day go smoothly from start to finish. From ceremony timelines to wedding favor ideas to writing your vows, our experts help you plan the perfect wedding day."}],"featured":[{"type":"articlePage","topic":{"name":"Wedding planning 101","slug":"wedding-planning-101"},"subtopic":{"name":"Wedding planning tools","slug":"wedding-planning-tools"},"slug":"wedding-planning-guide","title":"Wedding Planning 101: Ultimate Guide to Planning a Wedding","excerpt":"Your guide to planning a wedding from start to finish. Learn about all of our free wedding planning tools and so much more to help you on this journey!","publishedAt":"2023-12-07T16:53:05.833Z","heroImage":{"src":"//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5C3xgAOgu8EhsWuHR6LIPV/df4a2c1fcad988921c26d259ba076b3a/wedding-planning-guide-hero.jpg","altText":"bride and groom under veil"},"heroCredit":"Unsplash","tldr":"## Inside this article\n\n- Wedding Planning Timeline\n- Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n- Creating a Wedding Budget\n- Choosing a Wedding Venue\n- Making a Wedding Website\n- Wedding Planning Tools\n- Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n- Wedding Decor & Themes\n- Legal To-Dos\n- Wedding Planning Questions\n- Real Weddings","body":"You’re in love, you’re engaged, and you’re seeing the world through rosé-tinted glasses of celebratory champagne. Cheers! We are SO here for this. And you know what else we’re here for? You, planning your special day like a total pro. We know what you’re thinking: Can I really plan my own wedding? Between the vendors, the invitations, and the décor, wedding planning seems like a massive undertaking.\n\nTrust us on this one, though: You can [plan your own wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-you-yes-you-can-plan-your-whole-wedding). Whether you want to save money or simply enjoy creative projects, wedding planning can be a fulfilling experience. Couples just like you do it every day. It doesn’t even have to be overwhelming with the right organizational tools and timelines — and don't worry, we've got you covered on both counts. Our handy wedding planning guide will help you handle all the to-dos before “I do!”\n\n## Wedding Planning Timeline\n \n\nBefore you plan your wedding, you need to plan for planning your wedding. And no, that’s not as crazy as it sounds! In fact, creating an outline of important tasks, dates, and deadlines will keep your stress levels low and your productivity high throughout the planning process. Then again, why create one yourself when we’ve already done it for you? Allow us to introduce our definitive [wedding planning timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist).\n\nOur printable checklist breaks down all your important milestones by month and effectively walks you through two years’ worth of wedding planning, from your first kiss as fiancés to your last wedding day dance. We’ve ensured that all major events are included, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment with every checked-off item. Sticking to a schedule truly makes all the difference.\n\nWhile you’re at it, create a timeline for your wedding day (or wedding weekend, if you’re doing the traditional rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch). It can be as detailed as you like, but we recommend planning your wedding by the hour. The more effort you put into outlining events, the easier it will be to relax and enjoy them. For a breakdown of a standard wedding day’s events including tips and time estimates, check out our [wedding weekend timeline](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/ultimate-wedding-weekend-timeline).\n\n## Wedding Planning Checklists & Glossary\n \nWhen you’re planning a wedding, keeping track of tasks is almost as important as completing them. Our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist) will help you stay organized and send you friendly reminders to ensure you never miss a deadline. You can even delete, edit, and add tasks as your wedding plans evolve. Oh, and it’s free — regardless of whether you register through our [online store](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) or use our [stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper). Consider it an engagement gift from Zola to you.\n\nAside from regularly checking in with your checklist, you may want to brush up on some wedding planning language. In the world of weddings, “charger” and “train” may not mean what you think they mean. Our [glossary of wedding planning terms](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/your-wedding-planning-glossary-a-z) covers common words you’re bound to hear during the hustle and bustle of orchestrating your nuptials, so you’re not left scratching your head after a call with that caterer (or that pun we just made).\n\n## Creating a Wedding Budget\n \nIt’s tempting to dive right into visiting venues, hunting for the perfect attire, and curating your reception playlist — but first, budget! While it’s not the most romantic aspect of wedding planning, tackling financial details is one of the first things you should do. Why? Because weddings can be expensive.\n\nThe operative word here is “can.” They don’t have to be expensive. In fact, it’s completely possible to plan a dreamy wedding for way, way less than the average cost of $29,195[1]. If you’re wondering [how to plan a wedding on a budget](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding-on-a-budget), you’ve come to the right place. And once we get budgeting out of the way, we promise we’ll move on to the fun stuff!\n\nTo determine your budget, ask yourself a few important questions:\n\n- __Who’s footing the bill?__ If you’re paying for the wedding yourself, you know how much money you want to spend — but remember to clearly communicate with your partner to make sure there are no surprises. If you’re expecting contributions from family members, you’ll want to determine exactly how much they’re willing to spend before you make any assumptions (or deposits).\n\n- __What’s the best use of my funds?__ Once you’ve figured out how much money you have to spend, it’s time to decide how you’ll spend it. Not only does budgeting help you manage your expectations (and save you the disappointment of realizing you can’t afford that $10,000 ballgown), but it also encourages you to prioritize your purchases. Do you care more about your location or your attire? Your guest list or your dinner menu? The occasional tough choice must be made, but remember, it’s all about what will ultimately make you happiest.\n\n- __How can I save money?__ If your budget is tight, there are countless ways you can save money. Get married on a weekday, snag that wedding dress at a sample sale or trunk show, or skip fancy wedding invitations and provide a simple liner that directs guests to your website. Pro tip: Sometimes it’s as simple as removing the word “bridal” from the equation — for instance, a bridal bouquet will cost more than regular flowers and a bridal hairstyle will be far more expensive than your standard blowout.\n\nIn addition to answering all of the above, determine how much of your budget you’ll allocate to each wedding expense and monitor your spending with a [wedding budget calculator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-budget) like this. The wedding venue will likely be your biggest investment, so determine how much you’re willing to spend on your event space and then divide your remaining funds among other major expenses like catering, wedding rings, photography, flowers, and music. And speaking of your wedding venue…\n\n__Expert Advice:__ We make budgeting fun and stress-free. Find all of our articles about [Wedding Budgets](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/budgeting) here.\n\n## Choosing a Wedding Venue\n \nAside from choosing to get married, choosing where to get married is one of the biggest wedding decisions you’ll make. Your venue quite literally sets the scene for your special day. It should fit your carefully set budget, work with your schedule, and reflect your personal style — suffice to say, there’s a lot to consider. Fortunately, Zola makes it easy to discover, contact, and [book venues online](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-venues). We also have a few [tips for choosing your wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-choose-a-wedding-venue):\n\n- __Decide what you want.__ Easier said than done, we know, but you don’t have to go at it alone. Set a time to sit down with your fiancé and bounce ideas back and forth. First off, decide whether you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location. If not, you'll need to search for two venues. Then, try to picture your dream wedding. Does the ceremony take place in a country club or in a church? Are you after a bohemian or black-tie affair? Think about how you want your wedding to look and feel, and let that be your guide.\n- __Consider your guests.__ It’s a fact: Your wedding venue will impact your guest list. Not just due to its capacity, but due to its location. Weddings are expensive for your guests, too, and selecting a faraway venue will inevitably result in fewer attendees. A destination wedding can be a great way to guarantee a more intimate ceremony. If you’d like a good turnout, keep it local so your guests don’t have to shell out for accommodation.\n- __Start researching.__ Familiarize yourself with the areas you’re considering and the average venue rates in those areas. Once you’ve narrowed down your search to a few venues, gather information about those specific venues like their capacity, amenities, and whether onsite services are provided.\n- __Explore alternatives.__ It’s possible to forgo an official venue altogether. Say your parents have a lovely backyard or your aunt has a lake house you’ve always adored. If they’re willing to let you set up shop for the day, you’ve just scored yourself a free venue! Many public parks and beach spots in the U.S. are also available for events; you’ll pay a fee, but it’ll be much less than the cost of a standard venue.\n- __Schedule tours.__ This is the fun part. When you start visiting venues, it starts feeling real. Make a day of it with your significant other and a couple of close friends or your parents (especially if they’re helping you pay for it). Accept their input, but follow your instincts. If a wedding venue doesn’t feel like the one, it probably isn’t.\n- __Ask questions.__ Before your venue visit, assemble a list of questions to ask your tour guide. During your tour, take notes and photos. They’ll come in handy when you reflect on the experience later. Most venues offer wedding venue floor plans, which can be customized to illustrate your wedding and help you envision your wedding in the space.\n- __Scope out the surrounding area.__ Get to know the areas surrounding your top venues. If guests will be traveling to your wedding, check out nearby hotel and vacation rental options so you’ll have suggestions for them.\n- __Weigh your options.__ Once you've visited a few venues and chosen your favorites, it's time to compare and contrast. A pro/con list can be helpful here! Consider the venue price, space, whether it fits your vision, and how it made you feel.\n- __Book your venue.__ Some popular wedding venue locations are booked out years in advance, so you’ll want to secure your spot sooner rather than later. We’d recommend doing this at least nine months before your wedding or perhaps even further in advance if you’re getting married during a popular wedding month (May through October).\n\nThe decision is a big one — but once you choose your wedding venue, other aspects of your wedding will start falling into place. The time of day you want to get married, whether you’ll have an indoor or outdoor wedding, and where you’ll take your photos will become clearer once you can visualize your location. Your next step? Make a wedding website so your guests can start planning, too!\n\n__Expert Advice:__ See all of our articles on [Choosing a Wedding Venue](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/planning-101/venues) for more insight into the process!\n\n## Making a Wedding Website\n \nOnce you’ve set the date, booked your venue, and prepped your [save the dates](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/save-the-date/shop), it’s time to create a website. Ideally, you’ll do this about six to eight months before your wedding. A wedding website serves as a hub for you and your guests. It’s where your invitees can go to RSVP, check out your wedding details, peruse your registry, and “aww” at your engagement photos. It’s also where you can go to review your RSVPs, update your event and registry information, and “aww” at your own engagement photos (don’t worry, we all do it).\n\nIn this modern world, a website is a pretty essential component of a wedding.\n\nThe good news? You don’t need to be a web designer to make a wedding website. You don’t even need to be creatively inclined. At least, not with us by your side! With tons of templates and a user-friendly interface, our [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-website) makes it easy to create a professional, beautiful website in no time at all. \nHere’s how:\n\n- __Step 1: Pick your platform.__ It doesn’t have to be Zola…but for the sake of this how-to, let’s say it is. Our website builder isn’t just accessible — it’s also free! Your budget can thank us later.\n- __Step 2: Select a template.__ Did we mention we have more than 200 customizable templates? Whether you’re after classic elegance, modern minimalism, or flirty florals, you’re bound to spot a style that makes you smile — and matches your wedding invitations and save the dates, too.\n- __Step 3: Choose your domain name.__ Play it straight or get creative while brainstorming a web address that represents you as a couple. Just make sure it’s available before you get attached! Once you’ve locked down a domain name, you can direct guests to your website on your save the dates.\n\nNext up, personalize the site with information about your wedding. Your website is the perfect place to add all those details that won't quite fit on the official wedding invitation. Here are a few things you’ll want to include:\nThe basics. List the date, time, and place each of your wedding events will occur.\n\n- __The attire.__ State your wedding dress code (or lack thereof). Those considering heels might appreciate a heads-up if they’ll be walking on sand or uneven terrain.\n- __Your registry.__ Tell your guests whether you’re accepting gifts or charitable donations for your wedding; if you are, include a link to your gift registry. For seamless integration, [create your wedding registry with Zola](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry).\n- __Your story.__ This is optional, but it’s also pretty fun. Create an “About Us” page that tells your love story alongside favorite photos or a timeline of your relationship.\n- __RSVP information.__ Most invitees will appreciate the option to quickly RSVP online. Digital RSVPs are eco-friendly, more affordable, and easier for you to manage. However, some older invitees may prefer RSVPing by mail. When in doubt, give your guests the online option while also including a card with the invitation.\n- __Travel information.__ Provide helpful information regarding accommodation (like whether you’ve reserved a block of hotel rooms) and transportation (like whether you’re providing shuttles from the ceremony to the reception).\n- __Little details.__ Include any important notes about your reception and ceremony — for instance, whether children are welcome.\n\nAt this point, all that’s left to do is proofread, check your links, and publish your site! You can decide whether to make your site public or keep it password-protected for guests. Just make sure your site goes live before you send your save the dates. Ready to get started? For a 10-step guide to creating the perfect website, visit our [wedding website planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-wedding-website).\n\n__Expert Advice:__ Check out all of our articles on [Wedding Websites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/invites-paper/website-invites) here.\n\n## Wedding Planning Tools\n \nUnless you’re an event planner by trade, planning a wedding will likely be the most significant endeavor of your (un)professional career. You’ll need more than the standard to-do list and a few scattered notes on your phone. Luckily, organizational [wedding planning tools](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-wedding-planning-tools-or-zola) aren’t hard to come by. We’ve created quite a few wedding planning tools for you, all of which are guaranteed to make planning easier.\n\nWe’ve already covered our [wedding planning checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/checklist/your-ultimate-wedding-planning-checklist) and [wedding website builder](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website) — two of the greatest wedding planning tools in existence, if we may be so dramatic — and we’re not ones to repeat ourselves. So. Moving on to the rest!\n\n__Wedding Registry Creator__\n\nOnce upon a time, building a wedding registry meant wandering through department stores with a little contraption that beeped when you aimed it at barcodes. Today, you can still totally do that, but you can also assemble an online wedding registry from the comfort of your own couch.\n\nOur [wedding registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) allows you to quickly add items from thousands of top brands or select things from other stores of your choosing. You can browse items by category or a curated collection like \"At Home Spa\" or \"Build Your Bar.\" Already have enough stuff? Shift your focus to experiences and register for zero-fee cash gifts or gift cards for Airbnb, hotels, airlines, and more. Your registry will automatically update when a gift has been purchased, so you won’t end up with two toasters (unless you want two toasters). We’re not here to judge.\n\nBonus: After your wedding, we give you a 20% discount off of anything that’s left on your registry — and that offer stands for six months! Talk about a honeymoon phase.\n\n__Guest List Tracker__\n\nCreating a wedding guest list often leads to overthinking. Our [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests) gives you a sense of control, even if you still can't decide whether to invite your college roommate who always wishes you a happy birthday even though you haven’t seen each other in years.\n\nAdd individual guests, couples, or families along with their addresses, contact information, and RSVP status. You can also specify how you’re related to your invitees and whether they’re definitely, maybe, or definitely maybe invited. Once you’ve added all your guests to the tracker, you can collect missing addresses, order free addressing for your save the dates and invitations, and enjoy automatic synchronization with your online RSVP list.\n\n__Seating Chart Organizer__\n\nOnce you’ve got your guest list sorted, it’s time to figure out where everyone will sit. Creating a seating chart isn’t inherently difficult, but you do have to wait until all your guests RSVP to finalize the seating arrangements. There’s not much you can do about that (aside from sending a friendly RSVP reminder via our guest list tracker), but you can remove all other stressful aspects from the equation!\n\nOur [seating chart tool](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart) is super straightforward. Simply navigate to your wedding event on our website and click “Create Seating Chart.” From there, enter the number of tables and chairs. This is where your online list of RSVPs comes in handy — the names of all your attendees are accessible directly from the seating chart tool, so all you have to do is assign a seat to each person. You can also edit your seating chart as much as necessary.\n\n__Expert Advice__\n\nWe’ve got your back. [Expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice) is just another way we're proving it. Here, you’ll find in-depth articles, advice, tips and tricks, and access to Team-Z (aka your own personal wedding advisors, available via [email](https://:advisor@zola.com), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/zola/), [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@zola), and [Coffee Chats](https://www.zola.com/advisor#:~:text=Advisor%20spotlight%3A%20Hi%2C%20I%27m%20Ian%20%F0%9F%91%8B)). Browse topics like décor, honeymoon, and invites, and get the inside scoop on wedding trends from our seasoned pros.\n\nWhile we're on the subject of experts, it's time to select your wedding vendors.\n\n## Selecting Your Wedding Vendors\n \nHello, cake tastings! Vendors are the experts who bring the goods (and goodies) to your wedding. Your vendors will be an integral part of your big day, so approach the selection process with clear expectations — and an appetite, for the aforementioned cake tastings. Before you start, solemnly swear you’ll stick to your budget and make sure you’re aware of any vendor restrictions your venue might have.\n\nAnother important part of selecting wedding vendors is [developing a request for proposal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-write-a-wedding-rfp). No, not that kind of proposal! Also known as an RFP, this is a document that includes your wedding date, budget, expectations, and other important details about what you want from a specific vendor. When the vendor receives your request, they'll send you a proposal detailing what they can (and cannot) do for your big day. And when you use Zola to inquire with vendors, we provide the questions you should ask to get the answers you need.\n\nOn average, couples hire a whopping 15 vendors for their big day. Do you need that many? Absolutely not — but you’ll probably want to consider the following:\n\n- __Catering.__ When [choosing a caterer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-catering), you’ll want to consider the type of meal service that suits your wedding. Sit-down service is the formal option, whereas buffet-style cultivates a more relaxed, “serve yourself” atmosphere. \n- __Desserts.__ The [wedding cake](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-cakes-desserts) is a classic, but there are tasty alternatives. Pies, cupcakes, cookies, pastries, doughnuts, all of the above…anything goes!\n- __Bar and beverage.__ A *full* [bar](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bar-services) is neither expected nor necessary, but your guests will appreciate an open bar if you can afford it. Provide a limited menu featuring a couple of specialty cocktails and a few classic standbys.\n- __Florists.__ [Flowers](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-florists) and weddings go together like you and your fiancé. From bouquets and boutonnières to centerpieces and walkways, a floral flourish is always welcome!\n- __Photographer and/or videographer.__ Hire a [photographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-photographers), a [videographer](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-videographers), or both to capture the magic of your wedding day.\n- __Band or DJ.__ A live [band or a DJ](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-bands-djs) is essential for most couples — especially if a dance party is on the agenda. \n- __Beauty.__ Whether you want an intricate updo and makeup or help with styling and selecting the perfect accessories, a [beauty professional](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-hair-makeup) (or entire glam squad) will make sure you’re photo-ready on your big day.\n- __Officiant.__ As the person who guides you through your vows, an officiant plays a pretty important role at your wedding. Many couples enlist a family member or friend to perform this duty, while others hire a seasoned professional.\n- __Day-of coordinator.__ Don’t worry, you can still say you planned your own wedding even if you hire a [day-of coordinator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/wedding-planners). All the plans are 100% yours! A day-of coordinator is merely there on the day of your wedding to ensure all your carefully laid plans are flawlessly executed. Not to mention, they’ll handle any last-minute issues that arise so you can relax, enjoy, and get hitched without a hitch.\n\nMake sure you meet potential vendors for trial runs, taste tests, and vibe checks. They should provide clear pricing, tell you exactly what’s included in their packages, and answer any questions. Traditionally, you’ll tip the drivers, valets, bartenders, cake bakers, catering staff, musicians, attendants, and delivery people on the day of your wedding. If you don’t see mention of a tip in their contract, it doesn’t hurt to ask what's expected.\n\nIf you’re searching for wedding vendors in a big city, narrowing down the options can feel a lot like resisting your favorite dessert: practically impossible. That’s why we feature favorite vendors on our [Wedding Venues and Vendors](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors) page. Shuffle through vendors in your area or take a quick quiz to find your best match. And remember: Only commit to vendors you genuinely love.\n\n## Wedding Decor & Themes\n \nYour wedding décor is what makes your venue yours. It’s what unites all the little details and transforms your wedding into a cohesive, one-of-a-kind celebration. That said, with so many options and trends, settling on one style can be tricky.\n\n__Find Your Style__\n\nNot sure where to start? Imagine your ideal venue. If you want to say your vows in a restored barn surrounded by sun-kissed meadows, a rustic theme could be your thing. See yourself dancing the night away in a swanky hotel? A formal, chic aesthetic may fit the bill. Other tried-and-true wedding décor styles are modern, vintage, whimsical, romantic, holiday/seasonal, and beachy/tropical.\n\nNote that while all weddings will have a style of décor, not all weddings will have a theme.\n\n__Lean Into a Theme__\n\nA theme can guide your décor in the same way your venue can, and many couples who have their hearts set on a theme will choose their venue to suit it, not vice versa. Movies, books, time periods, and locations are all popular sources of inspiration, and you’re bound to find something you like on our extensive list of [75 wedding themes](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes).\n\n__Start Decorating__\nOnce you find your style or settle on a theme, you’ll find it much easier to start decorating. Every wedding is different, but décor generally includes the following:\n\n- Lighting\n- Table numbers and place cards\n- Guest book\n- Signage\n- Centerpieces\n- Florals\n- Aisle runner and markers\n- Dessert display\n- Altar arrangements\n- Menu\n- Table linens and tableware\n\nOur [wedding décor checklist](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-decor-checklist) will ensure you don’t miss a thing!\n\n__Get Inspired__\n\nTo explore beautiful wedding dresses, unique theme ideas, classy charcuterie spreads, DIY hacks, and more, try Pinterest. It’s an endlessly scrollable source of wedding inspiration that lets you pin your favorite images and create as many aspirational mood boards as your heart desires. To really hone your vision, head to Zola's Real Weddings. (More on that later!)\n\nWhen it comes to wedding décor, we have only one rule: Your chosen wedding décor and theme should speak to you and your partner. No exceptions!\n\nFor now, onto an aspect of wedding planning that doesn’t allow for quite so much creative freedom.\n\n__Expert Advice: __See all of our [Wedding Decor & Inspiration](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/decor-inspiration) articles for the best wedding decor ideas.\n\n## Legal To-Dos\n \nThis is where making it official gets really official. Yes, it often feels like you’re planning one big party, but that doesn’t mean you can leave your t’s uncrossed (or your vendor contracts unsigned). Read on for a few legal to-dos:\n\n1. __Get a marriage license.__ Note that we said license, not certificate! You must obtain your marriage license prior to your wedding in order to receive your marriage certificate after your wedding. The process may differ depending on your location, so visit your state’s government website for specifics.\n2. __Complete vendor contracts.__ Your florist may feel like an old friend, but it’s in your best interest to get a signed [contract](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-look-for-in-a-wedding-vendor-contract) after enlisting their services. This allows you recourse in the event that *gasp* flowers are nowhere to be found on your wedding day.\n3. __Get liability insurance.__ Many wedding venues require you to sign a liability release when booking your wedding. That means that if anything goes wrong, you’re on the hook. In our world, all wedding days would be perfect days…but it’s good sense to protect yourself from unfortunate accidents with [liability insurance](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-vendor-insurance-what-you-need-to-know), just in case.\n4. __Change your name…__ that is, if you’re [changing your name after marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/name-change-after-marriage). And if you are, we’ve got one made-up word for you: HitchSwitch. This service lets you skip the lines and change your name online in three simple steps. Queue-free is the way to be! \n5. __Discuss a prenup.__ Prenups aren’t for everyone, but they aren’t just for celebrities either. A prenup can protect both you and your soon-to-be spouse in the event of a divorce, and it's prudent if either of you has significant assets.\n\nYou should consider doing all of the above tasks, but definitely don’t skip the first three! What’s a bit of paperwork when it’s getting you one step closer to the best day of your life?\n\n## Wedding Planning Questions\n \nThroughout the process of planning your wedding, you’re bound to have many, many questions. We’ve organized a few pertinent ones for you to ask your venue, your vendors, and yourself.\n\n__Ask Your Venue__\n\n- What are the event space options?\n- How much is your deposit and rental rate?\n- How many hours will I have the space?\n- What services are included in my booking?\n- Can I bring in my own vendors?\n- What’s your parking situation?\n- When can I book?\n- What happens if I have to cancel?\n\n__Ask Your Vendors__\n\n- Can I see samples of your previous work?\n- Based on my budget, what services would you suggest for me?\n- How many weddings have you done?\n- What’s your cancellation policy?\n- Is a tip included in your contract?\n\n__Ask Yourself__\n\n- Am I clearly communicating with my partner throughout this process?\n- Am I staying true to my wedding vision when possible and compromising when necessary?\n- Am I making the most of all my resources?\n- Am I making time to connect with my partner and not talk about wedding planning?\n\nLucky for you, you're planning a wedding in the age of the internet. If you have a wedding planning question, it’s likely already been asked and answered on a wedding forum. Wedding-specific discussion threads and blogs can be a great resource for wedding planning because you can learn from the struggles and successes of other couples. You can also join our [Zola Community](https://www.facebook.com/groups/zolacommunity/) on Facebook, where newlyweds often share detailed recaps of their big days and the lessons they learned while planning their own weddings.\n\nAnd it goes without saying, but you can always ask us anything! Team-Z lives to answer your wedding questions. Email us at advisor@zola.com with what’s on your mind or visit the [Advisor page](https://www.zola.com/advisor) for more details!\n\n## Real Weddings\n \n[Real Weddings](https://www.zola.com/faq/360004190072-what-is-zola-s-real-weddings-) is the destination for engaged couples planning a wedding and searching for vendors. We created this platform so you can get inspired by the real weddings of couples like you!\n\nYou’ll find professional wedding photos, decked-out venues, magical fairyland dance floors, on-trend wedding cakes…we could go on and on, and you will too. Of course, that’s not to say there are no organizational features — you know us better than that by now. Our gallery can be searched by keyword and filtered by season, style, venue type, location, and color.\n\nThe best part? All the stunning images you see on Real Weddings feature real vendors. As in, best-in-class vendors that you can hire for your own wedding, tagged for your convenience. Simply glance to the right of your favorite photos and click on a vendor to view their Zola profile, complete with:\n\n- Verified reviews from Zola users\n- Rates\n- A gallery of their work\n- Biography\n- Location\n- Summary of services\n- Contact and social media information\n\nYou can either reach out right away or save them to your favorites list for later.\n\nFun fact: We’re always accepting new submissions from wedding photographers. If you ask yours to send us photos from your wedding, your special day can earn a place in the Real Weddings gallery.\n\n__Summary__\n\nWedding planning is only as complicated as you make it.\n\nYour wedding can be big or small, simple or extravagant. What's important is that you stick to your budget, mind those checklists, and cultivate a wedding day atmosphere that makes you happy.\n\nAfter all, once the planning is complete and you're walking down that beautifully decorated aisle as your loved ones cheer, all that really matters is the person you’re walking toward.\n\nWe may be biased, but Zola is an invaluable one-stop shop for all your wedding planning needs. Once you pop the question or say yes, hop onto our website and [create a free account](https://www.zola.com/wedding/onboard/wedding-planning).\n\nFrom there, you’ll have access to all the tools, checklists, expert advice, and other wedding planning necessities we just explored. The best part? We’ll even help you figure out what to do with all those [wedding leftovers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-leftovers) and send thank-you notes to your guests and gift-givers. Planning your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and we're here for you every step of the way!\n\n__FAQs__\n\n__Where do I start with the wedding planning process?__\n\nStart with the wedding planning basics: your budget, checklist, vision, and \nvenue. \n\n__What wedding planning tools should I use?__\n\nZola! Yes, that’s us. Here’s everything you’ll need: wedding planning [checklist](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/checklist), budget tracker, [registry creator](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry), wedding website creator, venue and vendor marketplace, invitation shop, [guest list tracker](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/guests), [seating chart organizer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-create-a-wedding-seating-chart), and [expert advice](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice).\n\n__What are all the steps in the wedding planning journey?__\n\nThe main steps of wedding planning include budgeting, creating a guest list and seating chart, sending invitations, creating a registry, finding a venue and vendors, making a wedding website, getting your marriage license, and putting together a timeline and checklists to keep track of everything. Check out our [15-step wedding planning guide](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding) for more!\n\n__How can I simplify wedding planning?__\nA simple wedding isn’t as elusive as it seems, and organization is key to streamlining your wedding planning process. If things start feeling too complicated, regroup and scale back. Ultimately, your wedding day is about marrying the one you love. 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